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Speaker 2: questions today, Susan. I can't wait to get started. But

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Speaker 2: first we are gonna welcome our special guests, Jenny and Angie,

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Speaker 2: who you probably remember as Gary Turner's daughters.

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Speaker 3: Welcome, Welcome, girl, Thanks for having us.

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Speaker 1: We are so excited to have you girls. But we

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Speaker 1: did get to know them during our show, remember Kathy

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Speaker 1: when we met them. Oh yes, we have all remained

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Speaker 1: very close friends. As a matter of fact, they are

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Speaker 1: here at my house along with Kathy and Nancy ch

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Speaker 1: Christina and they just arrived. So we're gonna have them

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Speaker 1: all weekend, girls weekend.

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Speaker 2: What better than to do a podcast with these fabulous

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Speaker 2: people and hear all their family secrets.

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Speaker 3: What do you say?

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Speaker 4: Sure?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, sure, Now I'll never tell that. Vert tell Gary's

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Speaker 1: going to be on the phone in about a minute, Susan,

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Speaker 1: He'll call you.

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Speaker 2: You know what, I have Gary on speed dial. He

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Speaker 2: can call me anytime he wants.

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Speaker 1: All right, so we have a topic of the day, girls. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So do you talk about past relationships with your current

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Speaker 1: partner or is that off limits? If you talk do

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Speaker 1: if you do talk about it, are there any topics

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Speaker 1: that are off limits. Who wants to go first.

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Speaker 4: I feel like you should be able to talk about it.

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Speaker 4: You learn from each other that way. I would rather

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Speaker 4: hear something crazy has happened in the last relationship or whatever,

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Speaker 4: so I say, talk about it, no limits, okay.

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Speaker 5: And I think this is interesting too, because I mean,

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Speaker 5: I've been married for twenty four years, so it would have.

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Speaker 2: Been she doesn't count, so if she had past relationships,

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Speaker 2: she doesn't remember that.

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Speaker 6: I don't remember them.

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Speaker 5: No. I mean I think when we early on, when

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Speaker 5: we first started dating, I might have like I would

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Speaker 5: bring something up, and I'm with Angie like nothing is

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Speaker 5: off limits.

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Speaker 6: I had a horrible boyfriend before.

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Speaker 1: My Susan and Kathy.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yes, so I do know that topics came up,

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Speaker 5: but it wasn't like, oh, I you know, I want

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Speaker 5: to talk to you about this because this is what

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Speaker 5: happened in my past relationship.

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Speaker 6: It would have just been, you know, off the cuff.

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Speaker 6: If something came up like this is what happened now

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Speaker 6: for you. If it came up now, that would be weird. Later,

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Speaker 6: let me tell you about my ex boyfriend. So I

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Speaker 6: forgot years ago, right, So.

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Speaker 1: Wait that brings something up because when you do first

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Speaker 4: I agree. First, when you're getting to know somebody, it's like,

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Speaker 2: Because clearly not okay, But I'm going to talk about

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Speaker 2: the elephant in the room. Susan, we are not married

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Speaker 2: like these two beautiful women. Well, I know we were,

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Speaker 3: By the way, is there.

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Speaker 2: Is there's anything that's off limits for you or do

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 2: Don't want to Yeah, when I when I, when I

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Speaker 1: I hate it my ex that is taboo, right.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm with you on that.

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Speaker 4: I think it's more like, you know, my ex used

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Speaker 4: to do a B and C and maybe it bothered them.

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Speaker 4: Maybe it's something and then you can look at yourself like,

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Speaker 4: I'm that a B and C person.

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Speaker 1: Well, it says here if you do talk about it,

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Speaker 1: are there any topics that are off limits? I got

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Speaker 1: name one my sex? Like, wait a minute, we agreed again,

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Speaker 3: That we have spent way too much time together, Susan,

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Speaker 3: We're great.

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Speaker 1: What's that damn game?

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Speaker 2: I hate moral quandary And if you listened earlier this week,

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Speaker 2: I got a hundred.

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Speaker 3: No, she didn't.

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Speaker 2: She had a B plus B plus All right, I

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Speaker 5: I was just saying, if you're going to be talking

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Speaker 5: with your you know, your new person about sex, and

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Speaker 5: you wanted to talk about your ex relationship, do you say, oh,

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Speaker 5: this is what he did that I really liked, and this.

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Speaker 1: Is that's something that could be shared.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, I'm sorry. That sucks.

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Speaker 2: Don't do that right you wait, I just want to

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Speaker 2: paint a picture here. So we're all out to dinner

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Speaker 2: with our special summon. It's not together. We're all there

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Speaker 2: at my table. Do you really think that I am

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Speaker 2: going to say over a glass of champagne and a

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Speaker 2: file a mignon, So let me tell you what I

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Speaker 2: like in the bedroom.

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Speaker 3: Are you for real?

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Speaker 1: It's not bringing it up like that. They're saying, if

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Speaker 1: you have that discussion.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to if I'm at on a date having.

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Speaker 1: What if you're between this sheet.

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Speaker 2: That's where you have that conversation there, I would like

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Speaker 2: champagne and a nice steak.

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Speaker 4: Get straight to the sex talk. I think that comes out.

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Speaker 1: Everybody's different.

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Speaker 2: We're moving on here, So okay, ladies, Angie and Jenny,

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Speaker 2: we do advice. We answer some fan questions, and then

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Speaker 2: we give out some advice. So we're gonna be very

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Speaker 2: anxious to hear what y'all think. Y'all that's a Texas

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Speaker 2: term for everyone here.

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Speaker 1: Even though she's an East Coast girl.

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Speaker 3: I am an East Coast girl, but I live in Texas,

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Speaker 3: all right.

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Speaker 2: So let's go with the first one from anonymous, age

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Speaker 2: forty four from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. She's an Oakie, all right.

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Speaker 2: High Golden ladies, I am writing to you and need

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Speaker 2: some advice. I'm not sure if either of you have

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Speaker 2: experienced with this, but maybe you know someone who does.

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Speaker 2: I need some thoughts on staying with someone, making a

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Speaker 2: relation work, a relationship work.

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Speaker 3: After in fidelity.

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Speaker 2: My husband and I have been together for fifteen years,

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Speaker 2: and I recently found out that he'd been having an

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Speaker 2: emotional affair for nearly two years. It ended over three

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Speaker 2: months ago, but the lengths he went to to keep

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Speaker 2: it going and hidden have been hard to move past.

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Speaker 2: I have chosen to forgive him. However, I'm finding that

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Speaker 2: I am thinking about it all the time. We'll be

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Speaker 2: talking about something we did as a family and I

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Speaker 2: can't help but think about if he was talking to her.

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Speaker 2: Then I'll sometimes just lay awake in the middle of

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Speaker 2: the night just recounting everything.

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 2: We've been going to therapy and we both want to

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Speaker 2: heal our relationship for the sake of our son. I'm

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Speaker 2: hesitant to talk to friends or family because I already

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Speaker 2: judge myself every day for choosing to stay and forgive him,

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Speaker 2: and don't want further judgment from them. Let me know

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Speaker 2: if you have any advice for getting past something like this.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate you both greatly.

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Speaker 1: Who wants to go first.

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Speaker 5: Well, I think the the first thing was that I

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Speaker 5: was like, is trying to make the relationship work? I

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Speaker 5: guess you do have to put the effort in to

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Speaker 5: try and do that, but I feel like an emotional

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Speaker 5: relationship is almost worse than just a sexual relationship. Like

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Speaker 5: there's you're having a lot of conversations, you're having a

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Speaker 5: lot of talks, you're getting kind of deep, and I

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Speaker 5: think that that's just a little bit.

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Speaker 6: More than you know, kind of having yes, yes exactly.

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Speaker 5: Now, I'm not in the position to go, oh, you

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Speaker 5: should leave this guy or you should stay with him.

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Speaker 1: But I mean, I mean, she's she's asking you for

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Speaker 6: I would have a very hard time with it.

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Speaker 5: And I yeah, I don't know that I could say, yes,

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Speaker 5: I would leave my husband.

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Speaker 6: But that's a bad one. I think that's almost like

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Speaker 6: I said, it's it's worse than just.

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Speaker 4: I think the key to this one, and she said

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Speaker 4: it herself, was I have chosen to forgive him and

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Speaker 4: move on. So people are going to react to cheating differently.

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Speaker 4: I'm a person if you cheat, you're out that. I'm

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Speaker 4: very black and white. If she's choosing to say I'm

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Speaker 4: going to forgive him and I'm gonna move on, then

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Speaker 4: she needs to take that and she needs to move on.

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Speaker 6: She can't say that she's.

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Speaker 4: Gonna choose to move on and then lay at night

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Speaker 2: So that's what I think Angel as well. But there's

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Speaker 2: something here that Anonymous. You wrote that, So I was

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Speaker 2: married for almost forty six years, but I came from

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Speaker 2: one and it was infidelity.

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Speaker 3: And I'm here to tell you, Anonymous, if you, in

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Speaker 3: your words, want to heal your relationship for the sake

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Speaker 3: of your son, you're barking up the wrong tree. If

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Speaker 3: you're not saving the relationship because you love your husband

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Speaker 3: and you want to make it work.

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Speaker 2: If you're doing it for you only for your child,

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Speaker 2: give it up. Now that's my advice to you. I

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Speaker 2: would re examine why you want.

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Speaker 3: To stay in the relationship. What do you think, Susan.

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Speaker 1: Well, I would like to know what they talk about

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Speaker 1: in therapy. Where is he coming from and what were

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Speaker 1: his reasons? Did he feel like he wasn't close to

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Speaker 1: his wife and he was reaching out for some emotional

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Speaker 1: support from somebody else, And if so, why so long?

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Speaker 1: And why did you come back to this relationship because

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Speaker 1: you got caught or for the sake of the sun

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Speaker 1: or right, that's the wrong reason because it doesn't save effectively,

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Speaker 1: it makes it worse. But if you can't get over

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Speaker 1: This one's from Carrie, age sixty from Norfolk, Virginia. She says, Hi, girls,

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Speaker 1: your podcast makes me smile every week. Something that doesn't

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Speaker 5: Her fair enough, So I would say, you know, just

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Speaker 3: So I don't know. But here's the thing.

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Speaker 3: Remind me to come to your Christmas party next year

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you ladies know this, but Susan

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Speaker 1: But she says, I've had enough, Like she's going to

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Speaker 3: Come on, no, I will Angie. We're coming here for Christmas, uir.

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Speaker 4: I'm coming to watch Susan Yellow Christmas.

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Speaker 1: So Carrie, just to carry right, Carrie, I asked you this,

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Speaker 3: Inquiring minds want to know.

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Speaker 2: And Susan has a baseball bat Chance used in the

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Speaker 1: Will you look at these two eyes. I remember meeting

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Speaker 1: Well, Gary, all right, I don't understand that.

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Speaker 2: This is from Sebastian, age fifty one, from the Big

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Speaker 1: Sebastian gross on, will you please still get that stuff?

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Speaker 3: Let me go do it. They're waiting until he makes

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Speaker 2: I had three children, and you're really given this to me.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what you're reading online. Half what you

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Speaker 2: But I am telling you you need to go and

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Speaker 2: And you know what your wife is gonna say, Oh,

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Speaker 1: Sebastia the same thing. It was scared than death. It's

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Speaker 1: like having a little blue balls your sore for a

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Speaker 1: couple of hours. You put some ice on it, your

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Speaker 1: fine four children. Excuse me, excuse me.

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Speaker 4: I mean, let's discuss he's going through what a couple

449
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Speaker 4: of days of pain and then die? Okay, let's give

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Speaker 4: Sebastian a couple of days.

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Speaker 6: You want your thirty.

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Speaker 4: Seven year old wife to go on birth control, which

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Speaker 4: causes oh, he doesn't wants.

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Speaker 3: To take you want to take?

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Speaker 2: Then?

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Speaker 3: What if you want to take ownership? Guess what?

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Speaker 1: Get busy.

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Speaker 3: The big V is coming your way right right, going

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Speaker 3: to it. The first of.

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Speaker 1: All, you are blessed, buddy, you're fifty one she's thirty seven.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if that doesn't tell you enough, you need

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Speaker 1: to do this and yesterday.

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Speaker 3: Wait, wait, did I want y'all? Did you hear what?

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Speaker 3: I don't think y'all heard what? Maz No, no, no,

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Speaker 3: did you hear what this beautiful woman said.

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Speaker 1: I'm sitting.

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Speaker 3: She said that he wants the big V. He better

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Speaker 3: get the other V.

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Speaker 1: One be for the other sect.

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Speaker 3: You got four women here, Sebastian, who love you. We

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Speaker 3: love your wife. More, get it done? Okay, moving run along.

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Speaker 1: Wait, wait, what's his wife's name? He didn't sayever. Sebastian's

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Speaker 1: wife is call us.

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Speaker 2: We'll come, We'll come and drag him for you.

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Speaker 1: No one will ever date me. They think of killer.

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Speaker 3: I all you on things. Why do I think that suits?

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Speaker 3: All tell them at the dinner table. Let me tell

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Speaker 3: you what I think.

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Speaker 1: Nobody disrespects at my table.

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Speaker 3: And you wonder why you can't get a date.

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Speaker 1: Okay, guess I'm really nice. You were very nice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're very nice. If you want to date Angie,

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Speaker 2: that's a whole nother story. All right, we're moving on.

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Speaker 3: I's married.

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Speaker 1: I do like your husband.

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Speaker 3: All right, we're moving on to the parenting. Editions.

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Speaker 2: Would you rather see? You have to answer would you

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Speaker 2: rather this? Or would you rather that? Since we wait,

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Speaker 2: since we all have kids, You don't, Angie, but you

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Speaker 2: have dogs and you're an aunt and whatever, and some

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Speaker 2: of us have grandkids. So I thought it would be

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Speaker 2: fun to play around of parenting.

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Speaker 3: Would you rather so, Angie? You could say whatever the

494
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Speaker 3: hell you want because nobody can call you a liar.

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Speaker 3: All right, here we go.

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Speaker 2: Would you rather hear I love you from your kid

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Speaker 2: for the first time again?

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Speaker 3: Or see them smile for the first time again?

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Speaker 6: I would say, smile.

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Speaker 3: What do you think, Aie?

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Speaker 4: I mean, I don't have kids, but I if I did,

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Speaker 4: I would think it would be the I love.

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Speaker 1: You You've met me?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 1: I want both? Smile makes you crautiful? Yes, beautiful?

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Speaker 2: I just say, yeah, it's my granddaughter.

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Speaker 1: It's gass. We think the smile.

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Speaker 3: Look do smile? Look she smiled at me.

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Speaker 1: It's a gas bubble.

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Speaker 2: When my granddaughter smiled for the first time, it was

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Speaker 2: me and my daughter was so angry, and it wasn't

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Speaker 2: a gast smile. It was like she was like six

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Speaker 2: weeks old and I walked in and she looked at

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Speaker 2: me this bit, and Kate, my daughter, looked at me,

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Speaker 2: and when.

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Speaker 3: I said, get ready tailing, all right, go ahead, all right,

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Speaker 3: how about this one?

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Speaker 1: Clean up? Spilled juice on the carpet or a marker

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Speaker 1: drawn on the walls.

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Speaker 2: Remember that your kids drew on the walls, you know

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Speaker 2: the tories.

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Speaker 1: I came, Oh my god, my whole bedroom, the twins.

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Speaker 3: A minute.

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Speaker 1: My twins got into my vanity and they drew on

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Speaker 1: each other, on my comforter, on the walls with eyeliner lipsticks.

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Speaker 1: This was just so I could take a shower, Okay.

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Speaker 6: But that was a lot of fun that they had.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm just you know, I'm which would you rather

529
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Speaker 1: spill on the carpet?

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Speaker 3: My kids? Water and apple juice? It doesn't stay. Get

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Speaker 3: the hell off my board to die. If my kids

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Speaker 3: and marked up my walls, I would rather have.

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Speaker 4: The wall because I can paint, So I'd rather just

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Speaker 4: paint up the wall. A carpet, you got to bring

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Speaker 4: somebody in. You got shampoo the carpet. If it doesn't

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Speaker 4: come out sounds like a Do.

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Speaker 1: You know how many times kids spill formula juice while

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Speaker 1: they're toddlers until it's always it happens.

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Speaker 5: So my answer is going to be because all of

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Speaker 5: my friends know how great my husband is with getting

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Speaker 5: stains out of the carpet.

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Speaker 6: So I'm gonna go with the stains in the carpet

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Speaker 6: because I know he can get it out.

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Speaker 2: So that's a practical answer, all right. This one is

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Speaker 2: a favorite of mine.

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Speaker 3: Okay. I can't wait to tear your answers.

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Speaker 2: Watch your kids score the winning point or goal or

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Speaker 2: have them get a perfect report card.

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Speaker 5: I am a very sporty person and so are my kids.

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Speaker 5: So I'm gonna go with the winning goal.

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Speaker 1: Because it's just it's fantastic and all my life is baseball,

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Speaker 1: and I'm going for that.

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Speaker 4: Also. I also because it's exciting, you know, like you

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Speaker 4: see him do it, you don't see him learn and

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Speaker 4: then get the report card.

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Speaker 6: I mean, you don't want a dumb kid.

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Speaker 1: But definitely.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I can't believe we're all agree. But you know why, God,

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Speaker 3: you hear that, ladies, and then I'm gonna gamera on

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Speaker 3: the stairs. You know why? For me though, it's not

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Speaker 3: it's not the excitement of the game.

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Speaker 2: It's my daughter played soccer all the way through school

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Speaker 2: and played college soccer. Now it works for the professional,

564
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Speaker 2: even Austin. The confidence that it gives a kid, I

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Speaker 2: we'll score.

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Speaker 3: The winning goal is amazing.

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Speaker 1: All right, how about this one? Get up at five

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Speaker 1: am with a crying baby or stay up until two

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Speaker 1: am with a crying baby? Easy? Five am, am.

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Speaker 4: I'm going to stay up till two am, and I'm

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Speaker 4: gonna do the five am thing because you your question

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Speaker 4: didn't say it specifically, but I might have been in

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Speaker 4: bed since eight and get up at five.

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Speaker 1: I'm good, Amen. All right, we got two and two.

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Speaker 3: No so great grandchildren, Susan. You can get up at

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Speaker 3: five and I'll get up at two, all right, perfect?

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Speaker 1: Or stay up till two the crying baby you're wits

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Speaker 1: in baby, Let me start fresh. I got more patience. Okay,

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Speaker 1: handle a tantrum from a three ager or an actual teenager?

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Speaker 1: Three major? A three year old or a teenager.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I'm gonna answer for my sister's Definitely you'd

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Speaker 4: rather have a teenagerer.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, so I will say I my youngest, so, Charlie,

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Speaker 5: she was terrible, absolutely terrible, and you're talking about a

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Speaker 5: temper tantrum.

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Speaker 6: As a young child.

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Speaker 5: She was horrible until she oh my gosh. Until she

588
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Speaker 5: was ten, it was a long road. It was lots

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Speaker 5: of throwing things and this and that and everything. But

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Speaker 5: once she hit ten, she changed and I've had perfect

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Speaker 5: teenage years with her.

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Speaker 6: So the youngest, yeah, she was kind.

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Speaker 3: Of a butle. We love.

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Speaker 6: Charlie, but yeah, so I can't.

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Speaker 5: I would rather take the teenage at this point because

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Speaker 5: way better.

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Speaker 6: Than what I had until she was time.

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Speaker 2: But oh, for me, it's so easy a teenager because

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Speaker 2: you know what, you can say it.

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Speaker 3: Well, I'll tell you. Why go to your room.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to talk to you. Come out when

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Speaker 2: you can be civil. You can't do that with a

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Speaker 2: three year old. You have to deal with it. I

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Speaker 2: don't want to deal with that. Go to your room,

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Speaker 2: come out when you can be civil.

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Speaker 1: Pick a three year old? Absolutely, Why are you going

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Speaker 1: to do because they're not long and you don't have

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Speaker 1: to go through the punishment for a week, because when

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Speaker 1: you punish your teenager, you're punished as well. You remove

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Speaker 1: them and go give them a bottle, do something they

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Speaker 1: quiet them?

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Speaker 3: Really, you know what?

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Speaker 2: That's just me, Susan, Yes, I actually I don't know.

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Speaker 2: My children were perfect.

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Speaker 3: We never had an we go and if you believe that,

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Speaker 3: not even a little bit.

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Speaker 2: All right, buy your kid a car for their sixteenth birthday,

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Speaker 2: or have a kid who refuses to at their license

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Speaker 2: so you're stuck driving them.

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Speaker 3: Oh that's so easy.

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Speaker 6: Okay, this is way new to me.

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Speaker 5: I don't know what the deal is with this generation

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Speaker 5: that's getting their driver's license where they don't want to

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Speaker 5: go and get their driver's license.

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Speaker 6: They'd rather have their parents drive them around. I didn't

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Speaker 6: know it was the thing, and no Charlie. So again,

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Speaker 6: back to Charlie, I love.

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Speaker 5: She was in a boot and on crutches on her

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Speaker 5: sixteenth birthday and I was like, I don't think you

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Speaker 5: can go to the d m V and get a

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Speaker 5: driver's license.

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Speaker 6: She's like, the hell, I'm not. And so she went.

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Speaker 6: She had to do her driving test and everything. The

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Speaker 6: boot was on the left foot.

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Speaker 1: But she didn't add that you don't drive.

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Speaker 6: I know that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 5: So she didn't so she could drive, but nope, she

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Speaker 5: was out of there. She's like, Nope, I'm going to

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Speaker 5: go and do it.

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Speaker 6: I don't understand.

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Speaker 2: I was going to say, what state would allow you

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Speaker 2: to take a driving test with your right foot in

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Speaker 2: the boat, just saying.

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Speaker 4: I say, yeah, they got to get out there and

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Speaker 4: drive their own car.

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Speaker 3: Okay, wait, so what about you.

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Speaker 1: I did buy my kid's cars when they were.

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Speaker 2: Six, so I will be honest. I bought my kids cars.

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Speaker 2: My husband and I did, not all of them. They

650
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Speaker 2: shared one. But if they refuse to get their license,

651
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Speaker 2: I'm not stuck driving them. Honey, you don't want to

652
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Speaker 2: get a license on offer to buy you a car,

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Speaker 2: I guess you're gonna figure out how you're gonna get

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Speaker 2: to that baseball practice.

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Speaker 3: It's true.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of people kids out there that are

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Speaker 1: twenty someone didn't get their license yet. It's like amazing,

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Speaker 1: I couldn't wait. All right, how about potty training again?

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Speaker 1: Or changing diapers again? Pick one?

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Speaker 4: I would probably change diapers again because I feel like

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Speaker 4: everybody that they talked to has a really hard time

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Speaker 4: potty training.

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Speaker 5: And this one's a hard one for me to answer

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Speaker 5: because my husband stayed at home.

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Speaker 6: He's been a stay at home dad for twenty years, so.

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Speaker 5: He potty trained both of my girls.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, let's do you know what you hear what

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Speaker 2: she's saying? Oh no, we'll take the potty trading again

670
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Speaker 2: because my husband will be doing it.

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Speaker 6: My husband will do it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm good.

673
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Speaker 1: Pain in the butt?

674
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Speaker 3: Did you wait?

675
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Speaker 1: My kids every grocery store it was like a thing.

676
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Speaker 1: Why no, you don't.

677
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Speaker 3: Did you not read the book how to potty train?

678
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Speaker 3: I'm serious, I'm not instruction. There was a book how

679
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Speaker 3: that's right.

680
00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 2: How to potty train your children in a day? And

681
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Speaker 2: I'm not kidding you. I did it you. This is

682
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Speaker 2: I'm not joking. Turn off your phone, which I did,

683
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:34,080
Speaker 2: believe it, or not. Flood your child with any popsicles,

684
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Speaker 2: fruit juice, anything they want.

685
00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:38,120
Speaker 3: But before you do that, you buy.

686
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Speaker 2: Something that they really want, like it's a lego with

687
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Speaker 2: doll whatever it is. Stick it up on the shelf

688
00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 2: so they're watching it. Why can't I have that? Oh,

689
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 2: you're gonna have it. We're gonna potty train. You get

690
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:49,320
Speaker 2: the excitement going, and then you know what you do?

691
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Speaker 2: You flood them.

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Speaker 1: Okay, the surprise every time you no, no.

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Speaker 2: No, once he's once they pee at the end of

694
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Speaker 2: the day and they're dry and they've kept dry for

695
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Speaker 2: the day.

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Speaker 1: One day they get.

697
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Speaker 3: Because once they're trained, they're trained.

698
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Speaker 1: That's what you don't do. It in one day.

699
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Speaker 3: I did all three of mine in one day.

700
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Speaker 1: She's a mirror.

701
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Speaker 3: No, it's just the book.

702
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Speaker 2: A miracle it was, and I'm just I'm putting myself

703
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Speaker 2: out there.

704
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:17,200
Speaker 3: I charge a lot, but if anything, you need help.

705
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Speaker 1: Made out in the back seat of a car, and

706
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Speaker 1: her kids were trained in us a book.

707
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Speaker 2: I have made out in the backseat of a car

708
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Speaker 2: and had sex in the backseat of a car.

709
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Speaker 1: That was well, her kids are perfect, and you're looking

710
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Speaker 1: green with them this season. Oh no, I've changed. Okay,

711
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Speaker 1: let your kids choose what's for dinner every night, or

712
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Speaker 1: you choose what's for dinner but can only eat their leftovers.

713
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Speaker 1: You're kind of a question. Is that skip that one?

714
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Speaker 3: Oh wait? What how would I How would I so

715
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Speaker 3: that moral quandary?

716
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Speaker 1: I hate that?

717
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:03,560
Speaker 3: How would I answer it?

718
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:06,720
Speaker 1: You would choose I don't cook. That's right, that kids

719
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 1: would starve.

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Speaker 4: I would choose because a lot of things.

721
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Speaker 6: I'm a foodie, A lot of things.

722
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Speaker 3: We're going to get along so good.

723
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Speaker 4: Like I like to eat, and I would what I want.

724
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Speaker 4: It's not normally what a little kid wants to eat.

725
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Speaker 4: So I'm cool eating their leftovers because they'll pick it.

726
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Speaker 4: Something and then I get what I actually order.

727
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Speaker 3: You do you cook? What's your husband?

728
00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:26,840
Speaker 6: John cooks?

729
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Speaker 3: So do your kids get to pick?

730
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Speaker 6: They picked when they were younger.

731
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Speaker 5: I think the the tagline in our houses is this

732
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Speaker 5: is not a restaurant.

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Speaker 1: But it was a restaurant.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, so they picked so quite a bit. So they

735
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Speaker 6: got what they wanted.

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Speaker 5: But I think I'm I'm with Angie, like reading the

737
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Speaker 5: question and seeing what it is.

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Speaker 1: I'm with her, like start thinking.

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Speaker 6: I think we both like to have our food and

740
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Speaker 6: have what we want. So if we would get to

741
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:56,800
Speaker 6: have what we want, we just get to eat our leftovers.

742
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Speaker 3: Question for.

743
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Speaker 6: Question something like a three year old.

744
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 1: She's speaking questions for both of them. Do you like

745
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 1: read me? Do you like shrimp?

746
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:08,600
Speaker 4: Love shrimp?

747
00:35:08,680 --> 00:35:12,640
Speaker 1: Do you like scallops? You like wine? I don't think

748
00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:17,280
Speaker 1: they're leaving. That's for dinner this weekend.

749
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Speaker 6: Turns out I now live.

750
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Speaker 2: Yes, Yes, I've been very busy being her sou chef.

751
00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:29,239
Speaker 2: I slice some potatoes, salt and peppered them. She flipped them,

752
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 2: and I'm exhausted.

753
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:31,320
Speaker 3: I'm just saying.

754
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:37,640
Speaker 2: Right along, all right, have your kid write you a

755
00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 2: thoughtful handwritten card, or get or make you a thoughtful gift.

756
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Speaker 1: Remember I like the cards.

757
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Speaker 6: The cards are.

758
00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:48,400
Speaker 5: Cute and you know the scribbly handwriting and whatnot.

759
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Speaker 1: Do they still do when your kids went to school

760
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 1: and you had to give them like a dollar at

761
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Speaker 1: Christmas time and they buy you the ring or they

762
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Speaker 1: get the gifts?

763
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Speaker 4: Shout out again to neither of my nieces.

764
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Speaker 6: I never got one.

765
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:03,360
Speaker 3: They ran out of You might want to run away

766
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Speaker 3: before Auntie.

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Speaker 4: I'll give this one A shout out to Charlie because

768
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Speaker 4: the last year that she did it, both of those

769
00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 4: girls never once they ran out of money. So I

770
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 4: didn't get my present. The last year that Charlie could

771
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Speaker 4: do it. I was moving into a new house. Rob

772
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Speaker 4: and I were renting a house and she bought me

773
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Speaker 4: a little rock that said welcome, and she said you

774
00:36:20,719 --> 00:36:21,960
Speaker 4: can put it on your pool.

775
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Speaker 1: That means the word I love that my kids. I

776
00:36:26,800 --> 00:36:31,560
Speaker 1: still have the handwritten upstairs in the door. Or no,

777
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Speaker 1: I get rid of everything that you still want to

778
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Speaker 1: kill me that I still have, Mom, I owe you to.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I have a question. All y'all know I'm a

780
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 3: writer by training.

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Speaker 2: What do y'all think about getting a gift from grandma

782
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 2: and grandpa or auntie, angie or whatever it is a

783
00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:57,120
Speaker 2: thank you, handwritten thank you or a phone call okay,

784
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Speaker 2: or a text message?

785
00:36:58,280 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 3: What do you acquire for thank you?

786
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Speaker 4: I don't requite. I don't require anything for a thank you.

787
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Speaker 3: Usually No.

788
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Speaker 2: If you I'm saying, if you had children, would you

789
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 2: would you require them to write a thank you?

790
00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 3: No? No, no.

791
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Speaker 6: I think a verbal thank you is good.

792
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:23,320
Speaker 5: I'm happy that they remember, you know, like that's I

793
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,719
Speaker 5: think that's important. But like be I think it's just

794
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:28,160
Speaker 5: like if we're standing there together and they like look

795
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Speaker 5: at me and say, hey, thank you.

796
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Speaker 6: You just wand to you.

797
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 2: But like if I sent them a gift, Oh I

798
00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:36,280
Speaker 2: got a teacher, Okay, that's.

799
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Speaker 6: The case, then I would say you could pick up

800
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Speaker 6: the phone.

801
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Speaker 1: And call Kathy.

802
00:37:39,880 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 3: Okay, what about you, Susan?

803
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:43,480
Speaker 1: Definitely I taught my children you must send.

804
00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:45,720
Speaker 3: Them Kandre everybody. What would I do, Susan?

805
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:47,279
Speaker 1: Make them say to thank you?

806
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:47,960
Speaker 3: Damn right?

807
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:52,480
Speaker 2: We all agree if someone if someone took the time

808
00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:54,839
Speaker 2: to give, spend money, give them a gift, they're writing

809
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:55,800
Speaker 2: a handwritten bank.

810
00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:57,960
Speaker 1: Wait, I can't wait to hear her face, see her face.

811
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:02,960
Speaker 1: Just pay attention. Okay, have to spend your retirement money

812
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:07,920
Speaker 1: on your kid's wedding or have them elope and marry

813
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:09,719
Speaker 1: someone you never met?

814
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:11,320
Speaker 3: Now what do you think?

815
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:17,479
Speaker 1: Go ahead? Do you not know what your retirement money?

816
00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:19,359
Speaker 3: Right? Damn? Right now?

817
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:23,520
Speaker 2: Somebody we love to listen this true story. And Susan

818
00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:25,080
Speaker 2: knows us that's why I thought you were going with this.

819
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:30,520
Speaker 2: My husband died before my last child got married, and

820
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 2: but we had talked about a budget for my daughter's wedding.

821
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:37,040
Speaker 2: And when I tell you, we blew through that budget,

822
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 2: like and I but I honestly said to myself, what

823
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:43,719
Speaker 2: would Darryl have done? And I could just see him

824
00:38:43,760 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 2: saying to me, are you kidding me? The wedding of

825
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 2: her life?

826
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Speaker 3: And believe me you and I tell you, I mean

827
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Speaker 3: she had the wedding of her life.

828
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Speaker 1: I may rephrase that question, and the question was spend

829
00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 1: your retirement money or have them elope, not with a

830
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 1: lope with someone never met. I mean I gave Britney

831
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Speaker 1: a choice. You take the money, that's what they're still

832
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 1: going to give you this money buy a house or

833
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:09,879
Speaker 1: you know what do you guys, what are.

834
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 3: You gonna do with?

835
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Speaker 5: Okay, so ever since my girls were little, basically the

836
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Speaker 5: what I have told them is that I will pay

837
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Speaker 5: for their college, and I will give them.

838
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 6: Twenty dollars for their wedding. Twenty Where are they going

839
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:26,759
Speaker 6: to McDonald's.

840
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Speaker 3: Here's my point to have you know what, to hope

841
00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 3: you enjoy it.

842
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 6: Here's the thing.

843
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:37,560
Speaker 5: My whole point has been, I will pay for your college,

844
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Speaker 5: which in my opinion, is the best wedding gift that

845
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:41,839
Speaker 5: I can give them.

846
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:42,640
Speaker 6: They're gonna get.

847
00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:45,239
Speaker 5: She's gonna go into a marriage, and she's not going

848
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Speaker 5: to have debt for college unless she chooses to go.

849
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Speaker 3: Beyond her Okay, wait, I got a follow up question.

850
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Speaker 2: If your daughter gets married before she finishes school, would you.

851
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Speaker 6: My first one's done, my second would never do it.

852
00:40:01,239 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 2: Well, that's not the question. The question is hypothek you, angie. Hypothetically,

853
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Speaker 2: would you pay for your child's education after they got

854
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 2: married paying for education?

855
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Speaker 6: Yes, because that's already the promise that I made her

856
00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:16,319
Speaker 6: that I would pay for.

857
00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 1: The first four years of college.

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Speaker 3: Even if she gets married.

859
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Speaker 2: You wouldn't say, at your husband's responsibility to pay for

860
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Speaker 2: your education or your own now you're married, they're both.

861
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Speaker 3: I would finish it.

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Speaker 6: I would, I would. I've already paid for the first one.

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Speaker 5: I think it's my due diligence to pay for the

864
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Speaker 5: second one.

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Speaker 3: To do it.

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Speaker 5: However, I have said, if they want, you know, Subway

867
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Speaker 5: sandwiches and beer, I will.

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Speaker 6: Pay for that for their wedding.

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Speaker 1: What about you, Susan, I would spend my retirement money

870
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Speaker 1: I have twice. She got married twice.

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Speaker 6: I don't know.

872
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Speaker 3: I like my son got married twice. I paid for

873
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Speaker 3: It's expensive. Okay, wait, wait a minute, who's paid for

874
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Speaker 3: your wedding?

875
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Speaker 4: And if you have said yeah, I'm gonna have to say,

876
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Speaker 4: have them a lobe. If that's what they really want

877
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Speaker 4: to do. I mean, we're gonna learn. They're gonna learn

878
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:03,799
Speaker 4: a lesson and I.

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Speaker 1: Because you'll need the money to help pay for the divorce.

880
00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:09,319
Speaker 1: That's what my money is gonna come.

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Speaker 6: At some point.

882
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to support them.

883
00:41:12,120 --> 00:41:14,960
Speaker 4: Dumpster is gonna have to move into my house. And

884
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Speaker 4: the money that I would have paid for the wedding

885
00:41:16,480 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 4: is paying for everything.

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Speaker 2: And so when we come back into a podcast five

887
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Speaker 2: years from now, if Andie had a kid, we're gonna

888
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:22,799
Speaker 2: be given retirement money.

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Speaker 1: You guys, this has been a lot of fun.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: I hope you come back and you love having you

892
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Speaker 2: to but unfortunately that does it for this episode of

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Speaker 2: Batchelor Happy Hours Golden Hour.

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Speaker 1: Jenny and and you are welcome here anytime. I actually

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Speaker 1: because I can really see if they're telling the truth.

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Speaker 3: The energy. It's the eyes, it's the eyes.

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Speaker 1: Wait, I can't wait for that. We're gonna go cold.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna we're gonna call Gary as we eat our

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Speaker 1: steak and scallops and shrimp. Ladies and gentlemen, be sure

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Speaker 1: new episodes coming out all the time, every week, twice

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Speaker 2: And if you have any questions or advice that you'd

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Speaker 2: more about our weddings. You might want to know more

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Speaker 1: Wait, excuse me, Kat, Just yesterday she said to me,

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Speaker 1: you know how you say sometimes, Oh, yeah, she was

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Speaker 1: born with a silver spoon. This one said my daughter

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Speaker 1: was born gold like I said, probably platinum.

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Speaker 2: I said, my daughter was born with a goldspoon. Her mouth,

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Speaker 2: she goes yeah, make that platinum.

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Speaker 3: All right.

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Speaker 2: Make sure you submit your questions to us. It's really easy, folks.

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Speaker 2: slash Golden Hour or hit us up on social at

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Speaker 1: And listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on your

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Speaker 2: Thanks again, ladies, Thanks coming on, Thank you Now, how

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Speaker 2: the party began here weekend

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