Speaker 1: It's Friday. We got a brand new podcast for you.
Speaker 2: Welcome to the Brick and Jeff for a Second Date
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Speaker 2: All right, here we go, let's get this Second Date
Speaker 2: Update podcast started.
Speaker 6: My dog loves it when I bring people home on
Speaker 6: the first date. Does he gets all excited. His tail
Speaker 6: sticks straight up and he runs into the other room
Speaker 6: so he can watch us through the one way mirror
Speaker 6: that we put in mirror just for your dog. So
Speaker 6: Bagel has seen things that he will never forget. Wow,
Speaker 6: he's just trained to go to the room and watch
Speaker 6: have so many questions. He doesn't need it, but I'll
Speaker 6: tell you he's never seen what happened in today's second
Speaker 6: date update where a guy was invited back to hang
Speaker 6: out at his dates place. They spent hours there and
Speaker 6: what happened the entire room is still trying to process. Yeah,
Speaker 6: in total disbelief. You have to hear it in your
Speaker 6: brand new second date update.
Speaker 1: He's so much like Bagel right now.
Speaker 6: Honestly, Oh, you enjoy right after this second date update.
Speaker 6: First impressions are everything.
Speaker 1: They're pretty important.
Speaker 6: Like, Brook, what did you think when you first met
Speaker 6: me that very first day. I mean, I remember you
Speaker 6: trying to put your hands all over me, But what
Speaker 6: thoughts you were dancing around in your mind?
Speaker 1: I think you were a promotion kid. I don't know
Speaker 1: that you left a huge mark on me, Jeff, I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 6: She was leading the claw marks onto me. That was
Speaker 6: the main thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think so.
Speaker 6: She's been cruel for self preservation.
Speaker 5: I guess. Well.
Speaker 6: What I do know is first impressions can make or
Speaker 6: break a romantic connection.
Speaker 1: You were scared, That's what I remember.
Speaker 6: That's just the look in Brook's eyes when she was
Speaker 6: eyeing my entire body.
Speaker 3: It was I was.
Speaker 6: But with first impressions, sometimes it could be the smile
Speaker 6: that stands out. It could be the outfit. It could
Speaker 6: be something you didn't even expect, Like what's happening below the.
Speaker 3: Ankles, below the ankles, some action, You got some planner
Speaker 3: fascy items going on down there.
Speaker 5: Girl.
Speaker 6: It's working for me. And I'll just say our listener,
Speaker 6: Derek had a very interesting first impression with his date.
Speaker 6: So let's find out about it. Derek, welcome to the show.
Speaker 5: Okay, thanks for having me on.
Speaker 1: Please tell me it's above the ankles.
Speaker 6: We'll find out. What's this girl's name that you met recently?
Speaker 5: Yeah? I recently met Julia on a dating app.
Speaker 2: Okay, is that where you're talking about the first impression
Speaker 2: or the first impression when you met in person.
Speaker 5: No, it was when we met in person. And I
Speaker 5: know this is going to sound kind of weird, but
Speaker 5: she was not quite as cute as her pictures. Okay, well,
Speaker 5: but here's the weird part. Not until later on in.
Speaker 1: The date, were you drinking?
Speaker 5: No, not exactly. The impression I got is that she
Speaker 5: kind of forgot about the date and she came in
Speaker 5: right from a workout.
Speaker 1: Oh that makes sense, so she wasn't all done up?
Speaker 1: I see right, right?
Speaker 6: Right?
Speaker 1: Did she get cuter?
Speaker 2: Like the more you got to know her, because I
Speaker 2: know some people that, Yeah, Like after you know him,
Speaker 2: you're like, oh my god, I could see why they're
Speaker 2: so attractive.
Speaker 6: Just talking about me again here we're talking to Derek
Speaker 6: about him and Julia.
Speaker 5: That was definitely part of it. But there were also
Speaker 5: like some circumstances like as the date progressed, oh.
Speaker 6: It started raining and and so then she was twirling
Speaker 6: in the rain.
Speaker 5: That would be interesting. Basically, the best part was is
Speaker 5: that even though she looked a little like frazzled, I
Speaker 5: could tell that she had like a cool vibe. I
Speaker 5: could tell she was really stylish. I could tell she
Speaker 5: was confident, and like the conversation was really flowing. We
Speaker 5: were talking about like travel. I had just gone to
Speaker 5: London last year, and she went to Paris two years ago.
Speaker 5: We were sharing stories about that.
Speaker 1: Can I ask, do we know where you are? Like
Speaker 1: what did you guys do?
Speaker 5: Oh? Yeah, yeah, yeah. We met at this like rooftop bar.
Speaker 5: It was great. We met for drinks and we were
Speaker 5: like we got a little food and we were like
Speaker 5: eating off each other's plate. Whoa yeah, And honestly, you
Speaker 5: kind of got like messy would be the way I
Speaker 5: would describe it.
Speaker 6: Like, yes, let's talk about this, Let's get into the
Speaker 6: messy stuff. Messy on a rooftop or how messy did
Speaker 6: we get?
Speaker 5: I would say it was like a date brought to
Speaker 5: you by ty Togo.
Speaker 6: Spilled.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I did. I did a couple things. She
Speaker 5: made a mess on the cloth napkins and she like
Speaker 5: spilled salsa, but it made it look like they were
Speaker 5: like bloody napkins. And we were laughing about it. It
Speaker 5: was like part of the fun of the day. And
Speaker 5: I like, that's something that ran through my mind, is
Speaker 5: like I hope she doesn't just think I'm this like
Speaker 5: swab of a guy. But she was just as messy
Speaker 5: as me, So I don't think that was it.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, who cares if you inconvenienced everybody in
Speaker 6: the bar and all the employees there. As long as
Speaker 6: the two of you were vibing, really, that's all that
Speaker 6: matters in this scenario.
Speaker 5: And the fair, fair, fair.
Speaker 6: That's good. So how did that night end?
Speaker 5: Well, so this is where I'm like pretty sure that
Speaker 5: I didn't read the vibes wrong. Right. So at the end,
Speaker 5: she was like, I'm sorry, you know what, I feel
Speaker 5: really gross, like I didn't get a chance to like
Speaker 5: clean up, And she was like, do you want to
Speaker 5: come over and I'll like clean up? And I don't
Speaker 5: think she would have like asked me over if she
Speaker 5: wasn't into the date and wasn't feeling it.
Speaker 6: No, I had this guy texting her friends, I'm just
Speaker 6: gonna invite him over for a couple hours.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 6: Yeah, Well maybe she wanted him to clean her up,
Speaker 6: like she needed an assistant to help them do it, like.
Speaker 1: A pair of monkeys picking bugs out of each.
Speaker 6: Other's hairs done it before.
Speaker 2: No, that is definitely a green flag. I don't know
Speaker 2: if it's a green flag that she wants a relationship
Speaker 2: with you, but it definitely means that she likes you.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, did you say yes to that invite?
Speaker 5: Oh? Yeah, we hung out for like several hours and
Speaker 5: it was getting late. We were in bed. We didn't
Speaker 5: like go all the way. I'm not gonna really to
Speaker 5: get into the details of that, but I didn't say
Speaker 5: the whole night because I was like, I actually do
Speaker 5: have to work the next day, so I needed to
Speaker 5: be in my space, you know. And I left really
Speaker 5: late and we had like been in bed together, and
Speaker 5: I just hope, I don't know, I hope I didn't
Speaker 5: make her feel bad about leaving.
Speaker 6: It's possible.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe do you believe a guy who says I
Speaker 2: have work in the morning and I have to go day.
Speaker 6: Yeah, people work on the weekends too.
Speaker 1: I mean, I could just see where she may be like,
Speaker 1: oh man, he didn't like me.
Speaker 5: I think.
Speaker 7: I like the question though, did you tell her that, like,
Speaker 7: did you explain anything the next day?
Speaker 5: Or oh? Yeah? The first text that I sent to
Speaker 5: her was on my way to work, that was like,
Speaker 5: hope you slept well and last night was great and
Speaker 5: we'll talk soon.
Speaker 1: Did she respond to that text?
Speaker 5: So that's just it. It's been seven or eight days.
Speaker 5: I have texted her a few times to like check in.
Speaker 5: I haven't been completely ghosted, but I just am not
Speaker 5: getting back a lot. Like in the big I got
Speaker 5: like one word answers and now it's kind of like
Speaker 5: trailed off.
Speaker 6: She's like, yeah, well, hopefully we get more than one
Speaker 6: word answers. We have to leave a good first impression
Speaker 6: with her. Old things about first impression.
Speaker 1: Her first impression was she wasn't that cute, So we're
Speaker 1: good at that.
Speaker 6: We'll just try and do it the normal way when
Speaker 6: we come back, call Julia and get you your second
Speaker 6: date update. Right after this hold on second date update,
Speaker 6: I'm going to do a quick recap here on the
Speaker 6: second date update if you're just joining us listener. Derek
Speaker 6: met Julia at a rooftop bar for drinks and super
Speaker 6: messy food. She had apparently comes straight from a workout,
Speaker 6: so at the end of the date, she invited Derek
Speaker 6: to come back to her place because she wanted to freshen.
Speaker 1: Up and put on something more comfortable. I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: is there a better question?
Speaker 6: Yeah, to ask, we know what that usually means.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that felt good, and it did lead to them
Speaker 1: in bed.
Speaker 6: They did lie in the same bed at some point
Speaker 6: because Derek stayed He said half the night or a
Speaker 6: quarter of the night. Yeah, I'm not really sure how
Speaker 6: to explain it, but yeah, didn't stay the whole night.
Speaker 6: But now he is not getting a callback and isn't
Speaker 6: sure why, and that brings us to this moment right here.
Speaker 6: And remember he said he's not fully being ghosted. But
Speaker 6: it's like little short answers.
Speaker 4: Something's off.
Speaker 2: It's weird that there's such a turn, such a turn
Speaker 2: in that energy from her.
Speaker 6: Derek, did we miss anything that you did wrong or
Speaker 6: that you could have done?
Speaker 5: Yeah? I don't think so. Like I said, I just
Speaker 5: I don't know what's going on. I really like this girl.
Speaker 5: I've heard you guys help people before. I've heard people
Speaker 5: like try to help people. Yeah, but like you get
Speaker 5: to the bottom of a misunderstanding, and like I've heard
Speaker 5: people have a second date and get past the problem.
Speaker 5: So I'd like to just know what the problem is
Speaker 5: so I can fix it.
Speaker 1: That's emotional maturity, will you.
Speaker 6: Yeah, we don't know what I like that here, but
Speaker 6: that's fine, we'll work with it. Let's call Julia. We'll
Speaker 6: see if she picks up and get those answers you want.
Speaker 6: Here we go.
Speaker 5: I appreciate that.
Speaker 6: Thank you, really stop being so nice. It's irritating where
Speaker 6: we go.
Speaker 7: She's obviously the problem. Hello, Hi, we're gonna speak with Julia.
Speaker 5: It's a ship.
Speaker 6: Hey Julia, thanks for picking up Julia, I said, we
Speaker 6: because you're on a radio show right now called Brooke
Speaker 6: and Jeffrey in the Morning. Good morning.
Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah.
Speaker 2: It doesn't happen very often, I'm sure, mostly because there's
Speaker 2: not very many radio shows left.
Speaker 6: That's part of it. And this is a segment that
Speaker 6: we do on our show called a second date update.
Speaker 5: Oh gosh, Okay, okay.
Speaker 2: I think I think this one's gonna be good. Honestly,
Speaker 2: I think you're going to be excited about that.
Speaker 6: I got a good guy, and I hope this doesn't
Speaker 6: sound weird. But we heard you went out with a
Speaker 6: guy named Derek recently.
Speaker 4: Oh no, what.
Speaker 1: It sounded like you were into Derek.
Speaker 6: Maybe it could just be that she's like nervous on
Speaker 6: the radio. Tell her again and you can react again. Yeah,
Speaker 6: here we go.
Speaker 4: No, I've definitely not been on the radio. But I
Speaker 4: don't really want to talk about Derek either.
Speaker 6: Well, Derek told us about the hangout you two had
Speaker 6: the other night, and it sounded really fun. The way
Speaker 6: he described it.
Speaker 4: It was fun.
Speaker 2: I mean you got to understand how he's confused. You
Speaker 2: invited him to like hang out at your place and
Speaker 2: now nothing.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Well so I did invite him over and we
Speaker 4: were having a great time. But he was over for
Speaker 4: quite a while and he never took his shoes off
Speaker 4: in your.
Speaker 1: House or in your apartment?
Speaker 6: Is that a rule that you have, like you take
Speaker 6: your shoes off when you come in.
Speaker 2: I mean there's always two types of places, right, the
Speaker 2: shoes on or shoes offu.
Speaker 6: Plaes are encouraged get.
Speaker 1: Everything out of with Then I have friends who even
Speaker 1: for parties shoes off.
Speaker 6: Did you tell him that?
Speaker 4: Well, so, yes, I definitely I am a shoe kind
Speaker 4: of off person. But it was our first date. But
Speaker 4: we're just sitting on the couch, It's okay. Was it
Speaker 4: completely walking around my apartment?
Speaker 2: And and it can really ruin your outfit, like you're
Speaker 2: on a first date.
Speaker 1: You play on the look like who knows what kind
Speaker 1: of socks he had on? Maybe that was the issue.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, if you think about that, take them off,
Speaker 2: skirt and you're in socks.
Speaker 6: You guys know exactly how men think? So true, they.
Speaker 2: Meant there's a lot of shoeheads out there that love
Speaker 2: their shoes.
Speaker 1: How you go together?
Speaker 6: Okay, did you consider that? Julia?
Speaker 4: Sure? And I didn't want to be rude either, and
Speaker 4: so that's why later when we were watching TV and
Speaker 4: getting kind of comfortable with each other and everything, I
Speaker 4: was like, do you want to get comfortable and take
Speaker 4: your shoes off? And he was like no, oh, and
Speaker 4: that was.
Speaker 5: Part of weird.
Speaker 1: That's really funny because it's hard to snuggle with shoes on.
Speaker 1: You means it right, It means that your feet are
Speaker 1: always on the ground.
Speaker 4: But it gets worse, you guys, it gets worse.
Speaker 6: How does it get worse?
Speaker 2: Well?
Speaker 4: I don't. I mean maybe he didn't tell you, but
Speaker 4: we did end up in my bed. Yeah, weird with
Speaker 4: his shoes still on.
Speaker 6: What okay, he got me?
Speaker 1: He got into your bed with his shoes on. Ew,
Speaker 1: that would be uncomfortable and disgusting.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: How did you react when he did that?
Speaker 4: I was appalled and I'm like, what are you doing?
Speaker 4: Get your shoes off of my bed? And He's like,
Speaker 4: this is my thing. I don't take my shoes off,
Speaker 4: And I'm like, wow, am I in the Twilight Zone?
Speaker 4: Are you insane? You know, I didn't say anything. I
Speaker 4: think I just kind of freaked out and faithfully he
Speaker 4: left like twenty thirty minutes later.
Speaker 2: I think that like the clothes that you wore for
Speaker 2: the day, or gross in your bed, like the things
Speaker 2: you sit on and touch and move around, like the
Speaker 2: bottom of your shoes are all over everything.
Speaker 6: Because I'm not I did not.
Speaker 5: I'm sorry. I did not expect it to be an
Speaker 5: issue that I keep my shoes on.
Speaker 6: That's really shoe boys on the phone, Yeah, Julia, that's Derek.
Speaker 6: He's been listening this entire time on the other line.
Speaker 4: Really, it's not really Derek, is it.
Speaker 5: Yes, it's me.
Speaker 6: How's it going?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I can't really believe that that's the reason you're
Speaker 5: not like returning my decks.
Speaker 1: Well, what, you've never heard that complaint before?
Speaker 4: You don't know anything. No, do you know anyone else
Speaker 4: who wears their shoes as much as you do?
Speaker 5: I've been doing this, like a really long time. This
Speaker 5: has been kind of my thing for like fifteen years.
Speaker 5: I wear shoes twenty three and a half hours a day.
Speaker 1: Maybe what's break for it?
Speaker 6: Like a shower hopefully?
Speaker 5: Yeah, Basically when I shower.
Speaker 2: I take the shoes like a comfort, like a security
Speaker 2: blanket type of thing.
Speaker 6: Do you have feet or is it the fashion thing
Speaker 6: that the girls were saying.
Speaker 5: I don't know. I mean the best thing I can
Speaker 5: describe it. Like, I am definitely as a person an extrovert,
Speaker 5: but my feet are introverted.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 5: And plus, if you think about it, it is a
Speaker 5: lot more efficient. It saves me like two to three
Speaker 5: minutes in the morning. That really adds up. That's a
Speaker 5: couple extra hours a month.
Speaker 4: I don't right your shoes off to put your pants
Speaker 4: on and then put.
Speaker 5: Them back on. Who's taking their pants off? I'm not
Speaker 5: taking my pants off with her.
Speaker 1: Both women to take your pants off kind of skill.
Speaker 6: Wait, wait, if you take tear away pants, then you
Speaker 6: don't have to take them off over your shoes. They're
Speaker 6: very useful.
Speaker 1: I actually think there could be a solution to all
Speaker 1: of this.
Speaker 2: Like I hear you you got your shoe saying whatever
Speaker 2: that's you man? Is there a way you could get
Speaker 2: like house slippers where you could like at least switch.
Speaker 5: From definitely not Look, I live a no barefoot decisions lifestyle.
Speaker 5: If I want to be ready, I want to stay
Speaker 5: ready right now.
Speaker 6: That's a point.
Speaker 1: It's not a good point, Jeff.
Speaker 6: It is if there's a fire, he is going to
Speaker 6: be the first one out, run out barefoot, but not
Speaker 6: as quickly.
Speaker 1: I think you would run equally as fast as.
Speaker 6: It's like you with your glasses. If you take your
Speaker 6: glasses off, you're lost in this year handicap. You can't
Speaker 6: get out the door.
Speaker 1: That's because I can't see it, Jeff.
Speaker 6: It's because your glasses are introverts. Yeah, they're shy. They
Speaker 6: need to be on your face if feel comfortable.
Speaker 1: It would make my eyes introverts, not my glasses.
Speaker 6: Your whole body's weird, weird. We have no confidence. I
Speaker 6: feel like we're come into common ground here.
Speaker 1: So really he said, notice slippers.
Speaker 6: Well, yeah, ground that the shoes stand on. So let's
Speaker 6: offer to send you guys out on another date. We
Speaker 6: would pay for it. Julia, what do you think give
Speaker 6: him one more chance?
Speaker 2: Care?
Speaker 4: I honestly can't. It's so strengh No, I don't think
Speaker 4: I can adapt. Oh, he's not willing to adapt. Why
Speaker 4: should I.
Speaker 3: I think that this is I know you said that
Speaker 3: you've never heard this as a problem before, but this
Speaker 3: has got to be part of an issue with every
Speaker 3: woman you've ever been with. Yeah, there's like even socks
Speaker 3: on in bed are an issue for most women.
Speaker 4: That's true.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's never really come up. But also I haven't
Speaker 5: been like actively dating. Like seriously, I.
Speaker 6: Think, Julie, you've.
Speaker 4: Heard of a farmer's can I can't imagine his shoe tan.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just say you need to work through it.
Speaker 5: I mean to me, it's not a problem, it's a strength.
Speaker 4: Okay, I'll be mature. I don't so you deserve to
Speaker 4: be with someone who agrees with you, maybe all kind
Speaker 4: of a twenty three hour wearing girl, and you'll there is.
Speaker 6: A woman out there who has her shoes on all
Speaker 6: the time, and she's going to be appreciative when she
Speaker 6: finally walks into the room and sees you.
Speaker 1: How much you want to bet his soul may works
Speaker 1: at a shoe store, Matren.
Speaker 6: I'm sorry, man, you tried.
Speaker 5: What can I say?
Speaker 6: We're sorry, Yeah, but we'll be here for you if
Speaker 6: you ever need our support in the future. Okay, some
Speaker 6: arch support, of course, is what I mean. Working Jeffrey
Speaker 6: in the morning. You know, it's funny. We've had a
Speaker 6: lot of guys come through the show in the last
Speaker 6: year not a lot of shoe guys.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was so weird. Yeah, I was trying to
Speaker 1: be open.
Speaker 2: He's got his shoe anxiety or something like feed anxiety.
Speaker 1: I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 6: I was trying to think it would be worse if
Speaker 6: he never took shoes off, or if he never put
Speaker 6: shoes on.
Speaker 1: I would take no shoes ye, more normal, like when you.
Speaker 6: Go to a wedding, he's gonna be shoeless.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, but I would take that over the shoes.
Speaker 6: I mean, I am kind of surprised that nobody in
Speaker 6: his life has brought this up to him in the
Speaker 6: last like fifteen years. That's he's pretty unlikely. It's weird,
Speaker 6: but I guess some people get confidence from like a
Speaker 6: nice haircut, some people get it from a nice dress.
Speaker 1: Some people just get it from being single for a
Speaker 1: long time.
Speaker 6: Because they keep their shoes on for twenty three and
Speaker 6: a half hours every day. I notice you have a
Speaker 6: lot of shoes, are just one pair always?
Speaker 2: I mean there were so many more questions that I
Speaker 2: had as Yeah, I try not to make it about me.
Speaker 6: Yeah that's true. Well, we'll definitely have him back on
Speaker 6: for like a full interview. Yea, yeah, we'll just we'll
Speaker 6: get the exclusive. But if you want help with your
Speaker 6: dating life, we can help you with that. Email the show,
Speaker 6: we'll call that person who's not calling you back and
Speaker 6: go check out all of our second date updates. They're
Speaker 6: available online wherever you get your podcasts at Brooke and Jeffrey,
Speaker 6: Brooke
Speaker 1: And Jeffrey in the Morning,