Speaker 1: All right, it's time for your brand new awkward Tuesday
Speaker 1: phone call. Welcome to the Second Day and Update podcast
Speaker 1: with Brooke and Jeffrey, of course, the home of the
Speaker 1: Second Date Update. And I'm just saying you're in for
Speaker 1: a treat because a bride is trying to stop a
Speaker 1: best man speech.
Speaker 2: Before it outs her ten year she's been keeping.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're gonna get to that in just a second,
Speaker 1: but first, BB wrote us Greetings from the UK. I'm
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Speaker 5: We should shut it down America.
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Speaker 1: Okay, listen, let's get into this brand new awkward Tuesday
Speaker 1: phone call.
Speaker 2: It starts right now.
Speaker 6: When you think of best man's speeches, they're always so
Speaker 6: well thought out, so sincere concise, never weird or inappropriate.
Speaker 2: Are you kidding me? They don't even scribble down anything
Speaker 2: on a napkin.
Speaker 7: They're like, oh.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'll just I'll crack the whole place of maybe
Speaker 5: so funny.
Speaker 4: Yeah Shakespeare in bro Am.
Speaker 6: I right, Yeah, that's why when one of our listeners
Speaker 6: emailed us saying she has to stop her husband's best
Speaker 6: man from giving a speech at all costs, I was like, what.
Speaker 4: We talking about?
Speaker 5: I am shocked.
Speaker 6: Because apparently his speech could ruin not only her wedding,
Speaker 6: but maybe out a big secret that she's been hiding
Speaker 6: for the last ten years.
Speaker 2: Wait what now, I'm like, what.
Speaker 4: He is willing to.
Speaker 6: Share in exchange for some help in your brand new
Speaker 6: awkward Tuesday phone call coming up right after this?
Speaker 4: It's awkward.
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 6: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. Brooke, you got married once,
Speaker 6: Yeah he did, And I'm curious how much of a
Speaker 6: say did you have in picking Michael's Grimsman. Was that
Speaker 6: one hundred percent your choice? Or did you give him
Speaker 6: like five percent?
Speaker 2: Say zero percent?
Speaker 4: Zero?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Zero?
Speaker 2: No, No, I had zero percent.
Speaker 6: Why are you putting up air quotes when you say
Speaker 6: that it was all his choice?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: You let him pick out his own grimsman.
Speaker 2: Who doesn't do that giving.
Speaker 4: Away all the power to the man? How nineteen forty?
Speaker 6: But I only ask because one of our listeners is
Speaker 6: recently engaged and she is having an issue with someone
Speaker 6: selected for their wedding party.
Speaker 4: Oh so let's talk to her about it. Maria, Welcome
Speaker 4: to the show.
Speaker 1: I think, oh you already sound a little annoying Maria.
Speaker 8: Yeah, well okay, so yeah, you teated up. My fiance
Speaker 8: just told me who the best man is going to be,
Speaker 8: and I instantly hated it.
Speaker 7: I instantly hated it.
Speaker 2: He's not even a him.
Speaker 1: It's okay, isn't it obviously like his best friend or
Speaker 1: his brothers?
Speaker 2: Didn't you?
Speaker 1: I mean you kind of just know who that person's
Speaker 1: person is, right it might be yeah, I.
Speaker 8: Mean we have a really large friend group, so honestly,
Speaker 8: it could have been two or three different people.
Speaker 4: So was it at this point where.
Speaker 5: You were like hoping it wasn't this one person like
Speaker 5: anyone but them kind of thing.
Speaker 8: I just really wish I would have been asked before
Speaker 8: picking this guy to help guide the selection.
Speaker 2: Why does it matter to you?
Speaker 7: Well, here's the deal.
Speaker 8: So my fiance doesn't notice. But I used to date
Speaker 8: the best man whoa.
Speaker 5: You never told what?
Speaker 8: No, and it's not his brother though, No, it's not
Speaker 8: a family member.
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, because that would be more of a red
Speaker 4: flag to me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the red flag talking about.
Speaker 8: No, I didn't want it to get messy or weird.
Speaker 4: Hi, it's messy now.
Speaker 2: I know how long ago are we talking.
Speaker 7: We're talking like ten years. This is like back in
Speaker 7: high school.
Speaker 2: Back in high school.
Speaker 7: Feel better.
Speaker 2: It feels a little more innocent, right.
Speaker 8: Yeah, well, I didn't know that the guy that I'm
Speaker 8: dating now now is my fiance is gonna be my
Speaker 8: fiance either.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So were you all high school friends?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 8: Some of us were friends since high school. Others came
Speaker 8: around in college. I didn't think that this friend from
Speaker 8: high school was necessarily going to stick around.
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, okay, So but he's made his choice, Like,
Speaker 6: what are you want to do?
Speaker 5: Now?
Speaker 8: Here's the deal. Like this guy that's going to be
Speaker 8: the best man, he really liked me, like he was
Speaker 8: super into me, and I broke.
Speaker 2: It off in high school his heart.
Speaker 8: Yeah, and now so the same person's going to be
Speaker 8: making a best man speech at my wedding with a
Speaker 8: microphone and a.
Speaker 7: Couple of breaks.
Speaker 8: But it flipped that we dated and I could just
Speaker 8: I could just see him doing that.
Speaker 2: That's interesting.
Speaker 1: So you're actually worried about him outing you for being
Speaker 1: a liar?
Speaker 2: About you look bad too, right?
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, yeah, but sometimes drunk guys don't think
Speaker 1: they'll Yeah.
Speaker 5: But it makes her I don't know, You're right, it
Speaker 5: made them both look bad?
Speaker 2: Does it make me look worse?
Speaker 8: Just so you know, Like I never lied to my
Speaker 8: fiance age it never came up, Like I kept thinking
Speaker 8: every year, every maybe six months, like I'll tell him
Speaker 8: now and then just now here we.
Speaker 4: Are, or like it'll naturally come up. Yeah, like on
Speaker 4: his deathbed, I was in love with Evan.
Speaker 2: You think it's too late to tell your fiance now?
Speaker 8: God, yes, I think it's gonna be too much.
Speaker 6: Okay, you don't think he would laugh if it came
Speaker 6: up in the speech at the.
Speaker 2: Wedding No, that's not the timing. No exactly, it might
Speaker 2: be funny and a difference.
Speaker 6: No, this is good because I clearly need to adjust
Speaker 6: my wedding speech that.
Speaker 4: I'm learning your exit.
Speaker 6: Yeah, so wait, you don't want us to call your
Speaker 6: fiance about this?
Speaker 8: No, we're gonna call a guy I used to date.
Speaker 4: We're calling the best man.
Speaker 8: Yeah, you know, I know it's awkward Tuesday.
Speaker 7: I've heard you guys help other people.
Speaker 5: This is perfectly.
Speaker 1: I have a question, how close are you friendship wise
Speaker 1: with this guy? Like when was the last time you
Speaker 1: saw him?
Speaker 8: I mean I see him all the time. We're out
Speaker 8: in a group, but it's not like we're spending one
Speaker 8: on one time together.
Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, like Texas friends or you're familiar with each
Speaker 6: other obviously, so well in the group chat.
Speaker 4: What advice do you want? Like, what do you want
Speaker 4: to say to this guy?
Speaker 8: I don't know, maybe what exactly to say tell him
Speaker 8: in a nice way.
Speaker 7: To what.
Speaker 8: I don't know? I just maybe don't be the best man?
Speaker 4: What quit his best man job?
Speaker 2: You can't do that to your fiance.
Speaker 5: Crushed.
Speaker 1: This is going to be coming out of the blue
Speaker 1: to this guy, Like, don't you think this guy is
Speaker 1: going to be like, what.
Speaker 2: Are you talking about? We did it in high school?
Speaker 2: Who cares?
Speaker 8: I don't know. I think he might still have feelings.
Speaker 8: That's why I want to get ahead of it.
Speaker 1: That's a difference situation that truth is coming out slowly.
Speaker 4: About asking him to completely bow out.
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, has he like hit on you or
Speaker 1: has there been a moment or something?
Speaker 2: Why do you think he has feelings?
Speaker 8: I mean, I have felt like there's been some tension.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean it is kind of like you're both
Speaker 1: in on a little lie because you're not telling you.
Speaker 6: I mean, Brooke, think of the vibe when you hang
Speaker 6: out with me. It's kind of like that same thing.
Speaker 4: You guy's got the secret, you know, I see the look.
Speaker 2: We never dated love.
Speaker 4: I know you want to, but I'm not going to
Speaker 4: let it happen.
Speaker 1: I think you miss you're misremembering that segment.
Speaker 2: Feel that I feel like Jeff is her in the situation.
Speaker 4: It's all coming from over on that side of the room.
Speaker 6: And I need to cut this off because we have
Speaker 6: an important thing to do here.
Speaker 2: Bro I don't have to call my husband awkward.
Speaker 4: I know you never want to call him. Look, let's
Speaker 4: just you take some time to think some of quality.
Speaker 6: Advice to give to Maria here, so we can come
Speaker 6: back dial this best man and politely let him know
Speaker 6: that he needs to either bow out of the wedding
Speaker 6: or at least not bring up their past relationship during
Speaker 6: the speech.
Speaker 4: Yeah, all right, easy for you. So let's do it
Speaker 4: with your opportunity state phone call right after this hold on,
Speaker 4: it's awkward.
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 4: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 6: Weddings are supposed to be one of the most joyous,
Speaker 6: fun times of your life. Yes, we have a bride
Speaker 6: to be who is stressed out, and not for the
Speaker 6: normal wedding reasons. It's because her fiance picked out his
Speaker 6: best man and he doesn't know this, but she used
Speaker 6: to date that guy back in high school.
Speaker 5: Dude, how awkward.
Speaker 4: She'll always know this and.
Speaker 2: They've been keeping the secret, her and the guy for
Speaker 2: like ten years.
Speaker 6: The worst part, though, is she feels like the guy
Speaker 6: still might even like her.
Speaker 4: So it all comes it comes down to this. She's
Speaker 4: asked us to.
Speaker 6: Give her advice about do you ask him to not
Speaker 6: come to the wedding at all and relieve himself of
Speaker 6: his best man duties, Oh my god? Or can we
Speaker 6: ask him to go through with it and just keep
Speaker 6: his mouth shut and don't say a word, especially with
Speaker 6: a microphone in his hand.
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Is that right, Maria?
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 2: Okay, So like I'm even more stressful.
Speaker 4: I know I can sense that you're nervous. So let's
Speaker 4: get you some advice.
Speaker 8: Brook.
Speaker 4: What you got first?
Speaker 1: Okay, First, do not tell him to not be the
Speaker 1: best man. I'm going to tell you that is just
Speaker 1: going to create so much drama your husband. No, no,
Speaker 1: I would say, ask him nicely to not bring it
Speaker 1: up in the speech.
Speaker 2: And if you have.
Speaker 1: To play a little dirty okay, it's just like you've
Speaker 1: known this guy for over ten years. You've got to
Speaker 1: have some like something you can blackmail him with.
Speaker 2: How information? Okay, just a little threatening?
Speaker 4: How do you feel about threatening the best man before
Speaker 4: the wedding?
Speaker 2: You made your bed? I agree with the high school relationships.
Speaker 2: There's got to be something cringey you have of thank you.
Speaker 7: That's fair, that's fair.
Speaker 8: I mean it'd be like a last resort.
Speaker 2: I'd want to say, absolutely, I agree.
Speaker 4: So idle threats are on the table. What do you
Speaker 4: think you should just say?
Speaker 5: Look, because of our history. My request to you is
Speaker 5: you show up, but you shut up. Okay, don't say
Speaker 5: anything about us dating, and that I will consider your
Speaker 5: official wedding gift to us.
Speaker 2: Oh anything. I kind of like it, Jose, Yeah, I would.
Speaker 1: Say what any bride wanted me to gift.
Speaker 8: What do you think about that, Sad, I didn't even
Speaker 8: think about the trade off of the wedding gift.
Speaker 5: I think that's actually really I'm smart everything tell me.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know who this guy was, but was he
Speaker 1: plunning on buying a gift? Anyway, I'm gonna let you
Speaker 1: know at least half of my husband's groomsmans did not
Speaker 1: get us anything you tell him, He's.
Speaker 6: Like, wow, yeah, Brooks almost threatening her husband's groomsman's now
Speaker 6: so taking her own advice threatener. Yes, so we will
Speaker 6: have Brooke on deck to pass out all the threats.
Speaker 7: That you want.
Speaker 6: But I don't think you're gonna need that. But I'm
Speaker 6: gonna dial this best man and let you talk to him.
Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, what is his name, by the way, Oh yeah.
Speaker 6: Brad Brad. Okay, so Brad Brad is not going to
Speaker 6: see this coming. But I'm DA's number right now here
Speaker 6: we go.
Speaker 3: Hello, hoy Brad, it's me.
Speaker 7: Who Maria?
Speaker 8: You know?
Speaker 7: Oh okay, Hey, yeah, I didn't have your number saved
Speaker 7: or something. I didn't recognize that. What's up?
Speaker 8: Yeah no, I was just looking to see if you
Speaker 8: had like some time to talk.
Speaker 7: Yeah. Sure, is everything okay? What's going on? Yeah?
Speaker 8: No, everything's fine. You know.
Speaker 7: You sure you're getting married?
Speaker 2: Excited?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's just uh yeah, well you know,
Speaker 3: it's just a little awkward of everything.
Speaker 7: You know, what do you mean, something wrong with like
Speaker 7: the venue or something.
Speaker 8: No, No, you're fine. It's it's just like with us,
Speaker 8: with our history, right, like our relationships.
Speaker 7: I mean, if you even want to call it that,
Speaker 7: I didn't even think about it, like what about it?
Speaker 8: I mean, like we we went out, what are you
Speaker 8: talking about? Like it was like seven or eight months.
Speaker 7: I mean I wouldn't even call that a relationship, like
Speaker 7: almost a joke. And it was a long time ago.
Speaker 8: So I mean when we went out, were it's like
Speaker 8: the longest relationship that I had had in all of
Speaker 8: high school.
Speaker 7: If it was good for you, that's awesome and stuff,
Speaker 7: But like I never thought we were like I don't
Speaker 7: know official or anything. I thought we just hung out
Speaker 7: a few times.
Speaker 8: You're joking, right, it was a real thing, I guess.
Speaker 7: To you, maybe, but I know I thought we were
Speaker 7: like official, like I.
Speaker 8: Said, Okay, well it was real, but listen, we just
Speaker 8: easy to not bring it up at the wedding.
Speaker 7: Okay, I didn't plan on it because nothing even happened.
Speaker 8: Oh did you get hit in the head? Like, are
Speaker 8: you forgetting you.
Speaker 7: Were in love with me? I don't remember it like that.
Speaker 7: I'm pretty sure you were obsessed with me.
Speaker 8: Okay, listen, I had to break up with you.
Speaker 7: Why are we even talking about this. That was a
Speaker 7: long time ago. It was high school? Like who cares?
Speaker 8: Yeah, it was a long time ago, but it was
Speaker 8: a real relationship. You were really into me, and I'm
Speaker 8: now worried you're going to ruin my wedding, you know,
Speaker 8: just say something stupid again. My fiance doesn't know.
Speaker 7: Yeah, and I planned on keeping it that way because
Speaker 7: I didn't think anything happened. Like, if you want to
Speaker 7: say you broke up with me, I kind of just
Speaker 7: led you to do that because I was just not
Speaker 7: showing any interest because I didn't even know if I
Speaker 7: was into you. So I just kind of made you
Speaker 7: break up with me.
Speaker 2: Wow, okay, growth, Oh this is embarrassing.
Speaker 4: Oh my okay, oh what was that?
Speaker 7: What's going on?
Speaker 6: You know what's going on, Brad is you're on the
Speaker 6: radio right now with a really fun show called Brook
Speaker 6: and Jeffrey in the Morning. Yeah, Brad, seriously, this is
Speaker 6: a segment that we do.
Speaker 4: It's called awkward Tuesday phone Call.
Speaker 1: Oh, it should be embarrassing Tuesday folks all today, Yeah.
Speaker 8: Right now, yeaharrassing for him?
Speaker 2: Yes, to go with that because you are our listener.
Speaker 6: The whole thing, Brad is that Maria was really worried
Speaker 6: that because of the past, it might come up like
Speaker 6: at the wedding and make things awkward for her fiance
Speaker 6: and the family.
Speaker 2: So she didn't know how to bring it up. She
Speaker 2: asked for help.
Speaker 5: She just wants no drama.
Speaker 7: That is literally the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Like
Speaker 7: I haven't even thought about her in like ten years.
Speaker 3: WHOA, Okay, you don't have to be.
Speaker 4: Rid, don't you guys hang out?
Speaker 7: Yeah? But like she's like the little sister. I don't
Speaker 7: even like.
Speaker 4: You dated this woman. She can't be your sister.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I meant sister's hot. It's clueless.
Speaker 7: I mean I don't hate her or anything. She's just there.
Speaker 7: She's my buddy's fiance. Like, I don't think about her
Speaker 7: like that.
Speaker 4: That's good.
Speaker 6: That's what you want to hear, am I right, yeah,
Speaker 6: this should be refreshing, right Maria?
Speaker 7: Yeah, Cash, I.
Speaker 1: Know that was probably a lot to hear because yeah,
Speaker 1: you expected.
Speaker 2: I mean, is there like.
Speaker 1: A small chance that maybe it was you that had
Speaker 1: the feelings?
Speaker 2: Still?
Speaker 8: No way. I don't know why he's down playing.
Speaker 7: It, but like, Brod, you were in love with me? Like,
Speaker 7: I still have the poem that you wrote?
Speaker 4: Really you can't you still have it?
Speaker 7: You still have that dumb poem that I wrote?
Speaker 8: I mean it seemed really hard.
Speaker 2: So okay, I feel like Brad gave that to more
Speaker 2: than one girl.
Speaker 6: Copy paste action, So okay, this is like, this is hard.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I know it's probably a little bit of an ego
Speaker 6: blow to be hearing all this from Brad.
Speaker 2: But you're getting married.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, that's what you need to concentrate.
Speaker 4: That's right.
Speaker 6: And maybe a good exercise is to take that poem
Speaker 6: and throw it away or set it on fire or something.
Speaker 4: I don't take the first step.
Speaker 1: Okay, I think it would be fine if you told
Speaker 1: your fiance that you guys dated a long time ago obviously.
Speaker 2: Happened.
Speaker 1: Yeah, why why.
Speaker 7: Would you do that? Like we literally just messed around
Speaker 7: in that cabin that one time.
Speaker 3: That okay, all right, maybe don't bring it up.
Speaker 6: It should be refreshing to know that your past relationship,
Speaker 6: or I guess Brad would say, your your non relationship
Speaker 6: is going to stay in the past.
Speaker 2: Past hookup.
Speaker 7: Yes, yes, well thanks.
Speaker 8: Hermina didn't play out like I thought I would.
Speaker 5: But at least you know when he's looking at you now,
Speaker 5: he's not flirting with you.
Speaker 4: That's right.
Speaker 7: Oh my god, she said. The retention.
Speaker 2: Help me.
Speaker 4: That's actually cheered me up today. So Brad, thanks for
Speaker 4: your time one of the wedding guys.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I can bring up this phone call, that's for sure.
Speaker 4: This is the one time we're asking people not to
Speaker 4: share this on
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