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Speaker 1: It is Strawberry Letter. All right, nephew, thank you. Subject.

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Speaker 1: My husband won't let me out of his sight. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, my husband and I have been married for

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Speaker 1: eight years, and during the pandemic we did the opposite

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Speaker 1: of gaining weight. We got serious about our health and

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Speaker 1: lost a lot of weight. We spent our evenings walking

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Speaker 1: me from stuff he found online. So we are back

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Speaker 1: to our pre marriage weight. I am addicted to going

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Speaker 1: I have men staring at my behind no matter what

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Speaker 1: or not. He gets so jealous and has yelled at

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Speaker 1: me more than a few times. Once we got in

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Speaker 1: doesn't want me to go anywhere without him. I honored

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Speaker 1: his request for a few weeks because it was cute

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Speaker 1: that he was being so jealous. Now it's craziness, and

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Speaker 1: he thinks he can tag along with me everywhere. I

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Speaker 1: so we could work out together. He's stifling me and

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Speaker 1: it's a problem. He ran after me with his shoes

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Speaker 1: grocery store with me a few days ago. So later

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Speaker 1: that day I had a talk with him. He told

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Speaker 1: me he reads my comments from men when I post pictures,

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Speaker 1: and all that they want to do. All that they

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Speaker 1: want to do is sleep with me. He said he's

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Speaker 1: going everywhere with me for my protection. But I assured

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Speaker 1: him I'm safe and secure in this small town we

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Speaker 1: live in. What has gotten into him? How can I

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Speaker 1: sweetly tell him he's smothering me and pushing me away?

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Speaker 1: This is ridiculous. Well, I mean, this is not really

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Speaker 1: a problem that has turned into a major marital situation

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Speaker 1: for you guys. I mean, why is this even an issue?

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Speaker 1: After eight years your husband still doesn't trust you, he

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Speaker 1: still doesn't know who you are. I just think that

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Speaker 1: and his feelings when he's the one who encouraged you

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Speaker 1: to get into shape, he was online finding workouts for you.

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Speaker 1: He should celebrate the fact that he's got a sexy,

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Speaker 1: which is what he's doing. Other men find you attractive

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Speaker 1: as long as it doesn't go any further than that.

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Speaker 1: You would think that would be okay, right, But no,

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Speaker 1: he wants someone no one else wants. He should be

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Speaker 1: proud of his beautiful wife. Instead, he's making life miserable

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Speaker 1: for you. If he wants to be with you, just

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Speaker 1: every five minutes. Just say that, tell him sweetly exactly

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Speaker 1: very unattractive. It's a turn off. Also, reassure him that

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Speaker 1: because you only have eyes for him. Otherwise his jealousy

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Speaker 1: insecurity is just a mess right now. It's making you

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Speaker 1: feel some kind of way, Steve Well, great response, Shirley.

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Speaker 1: My response is all about him. Is nothing she can do.

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Speaker 1: Your husband won't let you out of his sight. At

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Speaker 1: the end of the letter, you said, how can I

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Speaker 1: sweetly tell him he's smothering me and pushing me away? Now,

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Speaker 1: let's just go and start with that line. You're being smothered. Okay,

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Speaker 1: smothering means you're losing air, you can't breathe, you feel suppressed.

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Speaker 1: There's a pillar over your face. Now, with all that

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Speaker 1: iced t you pull it m This is some what

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Speaker 1: the hell wrong with you? This is some stop shall

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Speaker 1: think I'm gonna do a reenactment with the Nile. But

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Speaker 1: found online. So now y'all back to your pre marriage weight,

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Speaker 1: your husband or not. Now he jealous and has yelled

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Speaker 1: become insecure. It is obvious that the workout program didn't

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Speaker 1: that what this is about? It workout program he created

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Speaker 1: a quite do the same thing for him. He didn't

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Speaker 1: get the same results you did. Nah, he's scared, Yeah, insecure.

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Speaker 1: He can't take the new youth. So when we come back,

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Speaker 1: we're going to do a reenact man of things. You

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Speaker 1: All right, all right, we'll have part two of Steve's

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Speaker 1: Sounds like a reenactment to me, subject my husband won't

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening to show. Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is my husband

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Speaker 1: won't let me out of his sight. Well, here's a

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Speaker 1: So now the ladies are going to talk about things

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Speaker 1: the problem she got dealing with the dude that didn't

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Speaker 1: quite the workout program didn't quite take for him. Go ahead,

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Speaker 1: and ladies, well, honey, um listen. You know it's seven o'clock.

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Speaker 1: It's about time for me to get out of here.

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Speaker 1: I gotta go to Bible study tonight. You know, it's

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Speaker 1: the church. You're going to Bible stuff, yeah, the study

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Speaker 1: about the Lord. Yeah. Well, see the problem with your churches.

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Speaker 1: They down there studying mode in the Bible. What do

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Speaker 1: you mean, honey? I see him study in your button,

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Speaker 1: That's what I see. We're in the New Testament. We're

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Speaker 1: I'm getting ready to go pick up the kids from school.

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Speaker 1: Then after that I'm gonna take them to practice and

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Speaker 1: Now what are you talking about? Always about your body?

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Speaker 1: I know what you're doing. Always got to mention your

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Speaker 1: I'm tired of this hill. You're tripping, all right. I

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Speaker 1: There you go again, always talking about your damn groceries.

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Speaker 1: going down to the bank, honey? I was thinking about, Um,

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Speaker 1: And where do we've gonna go? All the way down

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Speaker 1: Now we got to follow your hair all the way

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Speaker 1: I ain't never asked you for more, hal I told

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Speaker 1: See you you the one, see you the problem? See

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