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Speaker 1: all I love it. Well, I mean that ladies, listen up.
Speaker 1: Do we really know what men want? Some boys, not
Speaker 1: men don't know how to communicate very well and think
Speaker 1: that you're just supposed to like automatically know what they're thinking.
Speaker 1: But do we because I surely don't. That's why I'm
Speaker 1: still single, trying to figure it out. So let's break
Speaker 1: it down. Let's break down the stereotypes of how men
Speaker 1: behave Stevie. Let's start with and sex song I want
Speaker 1: and sex creak or stro so because me that movies,
Speaker 1: TV and pop culture paint this picture that all men
Speaker 1: just want sex all the time and their hormones me
Speaker 1: and I wanted to be out of control. I'll say,
Speaker 1: here's what I'm trying to save men. I have been
Speaker 1: trying to communicate to women for the longest time what
Speaker 1: they want out of women and women we continue to
Speaker 1: think that we know what men want, and we do
Speaker 1: what we think that we are expected to do as women.
Speaker 1: But do we really know what men are looking for
Speaker 1: in a woman? For example? Um, you know that there's
Speaker 1: this stereotype that men always want sex. Is it true
Speaker 1: that men really always just want sex? Or do men
Speaker 1: also have the different type of needs divine not like? Well,
Speaker 1: I think sex is very important. I think that as
Speaker 1: a man, sex is a big part of the relationship
Speaker 1: because you know, you keep me happy and just like
Speaker 1: a woman, happy wife, happy life, and you're good. I
Speaker 1: feel like there's a lot of women that are unaware
Speaker 1: of women want and they feel that we also are
Speaker 1: so busy trying to compete with one another, started competing
Speaker 1: between women. Okay, that's maybe not what men really want.
Speaker 1: For the hand blow, I've heard it many times in
Speaker 1: many occasions. Gay, I only don't care if you wear
Speaker 1: tons of makeup and we're over here splashing our whole
Speaker 1: faces for the makeup. They can trying to look good,
Speaker 1: But who are we looking good for? I mean, obviously
Speaker 1: we're trying to look good for ourselves, but are we
Speaker 1: trying to look good for the other women or for ourselves?
Speaker 1: Some men know, whatever you have stretch marks or whatever,
Speaker 1: and that maybe just us being so conscious, but we
Speaker 1: think that this is what men want. While we posted
Speaker 1: on exactly amount of the questions fired to this episode,
Speaker 1: and a lot of the men were saying what they
Speaker 1: want women to do is kind of let them play
Speaker 1: their games when they're playing the games, and just don't
Speaker 1: interrupt them when they're playing their PlayStation and stuff like that,
Speaker 1: and I feel like it does get over a women.
Speaker 1: Men do need their man cave, men do need their
Speaker 1: spaces as well as woman. But a lot of women
Speaker 1: be like I, it's more like he he plays with
Speaker 1: that thing more than he plays with me, you know.
Speaker 1: But sometimes guys don't know how to have that balance,
Speaker 1: like when you come home from work and you've been
Speaker 1: out all day that you love me, that you can
Speaker 1: lie to me, but don't just come home and then
Speaker 1: be stuck playing Lintendo video games whatever it is that
Speaker 1: you guys play. Now. So I get that part, I
Speaker 1: mean I totally get that part. But is that stereo
Speaker 1: type that men just want sex? Is that really like
Speaker 1: a thing? Like do men want more sex and women
Speaker 1: or have the roles changed already? And women are very
Speaker 1: like sexual A man sees a woman and the attraction
Speaker 1: is there is isn't it an attraction first? And you
Speaker 1: see this person? I think it does have a lot
Speaker 1: to do with sex and now, being attracted to someone
Speaker 1: and sex are two different things. Yes, you can be
Speaker 1: attracted to someone, but it doesn't mean that you want
Speaker 1: to be that. The moment you wake up. You could
Speaker 1: be not attracted to someone and put a bag over
Speaker 1: their head and pass that to them. Still, why don't
Speaker 1: I get it? We have sexually? I think the women
Speaker 1: have different drives. Battle I did it. Well, let's happen
Speaker 1: exactly about a moment? Where do you think men want?
Speaker 1: But No, I don't know. I'm still trying to figure
Speaker 1: it out. That's what I'm still single. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel that men want. This is gonna sound terrible,
Speaker 1: but I almost feel like men want a mom. They
Speaker 1: want another version of their mom that's attractive and someone
Speaker 1: they can smash. You want it to be nurturing, caring
Speaker 1: and get go seeing it to a cook, to do this,
Speaker 1: to be your nerves, to fix your clothes, to fixture
Speaker 1: it all. You want them to do anything, and those
Speaker 1: that to be freaking with you too. That's what it
Speaker 1: sounds like to me, I think that men want they
Speaker 1: have very high expectations of what they wanted a woman,
Speaker 1: not a woman that they want a girlfriend like as
Speaker 1: a girlfriend, or a woman that they want to smash,
Speaker 1: a woman that they want as their wife, or someone
Speaker 1: that they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
Speaker 1: I think that they just have different expectations for those women.
Speaker 1: But Mecca just wants to spend time together, like, just
Speaker 1: have that time with each other because a lot of
Speaker 1: and I don't know, I think that woman want to
Speaker 1: spent a lot of time with men. I think that
Speaker 1: men are Okay, we're not spending that much time with
Speaker 1: a woman. I don't understand. What do you mean? Okay,
Speaker 1: So making time for your significant other, you know, making
Speaker 1: time for your significant other. A lot of times, it's
Speaker 1: the small things that count. A lot of times we
Speaker 1: think it's spectacular, like the diamonds and the rubies, But
Speaker 1: how about just spending simple time with each other, getting
Speaker 1: to know each other, getting to know one another First
Speaker 1: of all, I believe that you don't fall in love
Speaker 1: so easily. You gotta find It takes a while to
Speaker 1: find that love, Like I really love you, So you
Speaker 1: gotta take that you have to building to build it
Speaker 1: and to really get to know one another. So maybe
Speaker 1: that's what a woman wants it, that's what a man wants.
Speaker 1: They want that time together. Like a lot of guys
Speaker 1: are not. They're greedy, they don't want to share their
Speaker 1: well do you believe it? It's also true that men
Speaker 1: just want to Netflix and chill, Like is that is
Speaker 1: that something to sit back, watch TV, be lazy and
Speaker 1: just you know, and then whatever happens during the Netflix
Speaker 1: and share it happens. So what is it the men
Speaker 1: are looking for? You're looking for a homeboy, like a girl,
Speaker 1: there's a homeboy you can smash, Like, how does this work? Like,
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to figure out. Is it a combination
Speaker 1: of a homeboy with your mama put together with a
Speaker 1: woman that's attractive and it's gonna give it to you?
Speaker 1: Because you want someone that's gonna let you be, let
Speaker 1: you be yourself. You want someone that's gonna let your
Speaker 1: Netflix and chill. You want to have your loane time
Speaker 1: because you don't want to be bothered with you know,
Speaker 1: whatever your girlfriend or boyfriend maybe going through. You want
Speaker 1: your own space and I get that part. Supposedly, you can.
Speaker 1: You always want sex. So it's like, are the requirements
Speaker 1: to hide these days to have a you know, an
Speaker 1: established relationship or two? Men want too much out of women? Wow,
Speaker 1: you know, let's let's for you brought up a good point.
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of men that you know,
Speaker 1: didn't have a mother figure, or a lot of women
Speaker 1: that didn't really have a father figure, is like, that's
Speaker 1: what they're looking Have you ever been a relationship that
Speaker 1: the parties of your father are in the man you're dating,
Speaker 1: And you'd be like, but it really depends. And that's
Speaker 1: a really good point. It really depends because what about
Speaker 1: the girls that didn't have a father figure? So what
Speaker 1: are we? What do we look up to? We just
Speaker 1: get whatever's left. Wow, that sounds terrible, but it's true.
Speaker 1: I don't know if we're looking for daddy because you
Speaker 1: can never you can't miss something you've never had. And
Speaker 1: I'm only speaking from a girl that comes from a
Speaker 1: single mother, Like I never had that father figure. I
Speaker 1: never had someone who showed me you know, this is
Speaker 1: how a man is supposed to treat you. This is
Speaker 1: what a man is supposed to do. I never had that.
Speaker 1: I have to figure that out on my own. So
Speaker 1: therefore I can understand how women like myself may still
Speaker 1: have some type of traumas in which we end up
Speaker 1: picking men that are in need of other things where
Speaker 1: that may not be the best catch, right, So I
Speaker 1: get it, you know. But I'll say this much. And
Speaker 1: I only realized this not too long ago when I
Speaker 1: was like self healing and trying to figure out what
Speaker 1: the hell is going on in my mind. But I
Speaker 1: can't say that I've been with men that are exactly
Speaker 1: like my father or have similarities. But I will say
Speaker 1: that I usually look for men that don't want me.
Speaker 1: Is that weird? Like I can have all the men
Speaker 1: in the world again, and I want that one man
Speaker 1: that don't want me. And maybe that can also come
Speaker 1: from not having my father around the fact that my
Speaker 1: father wasn't in the picture and I was always seeking
Speaker 1: for that. Maybe I seek that same validation from a man,
Speaker 1: and that took me a really long time to really
Speaker 1: get into that deep thought. I don't I'm out of
Speaker 1: like I beg to the Sometimes we just need a
Speaker 1: little bit of Trinthian they counseling therapy in or mine.
Speaker 1: I think that's a beautiful that I think that's the problem.
Speaker 1: Like a lot of people have approached me as a
Speaker 1: public figure, like you know, and said, oh, I'm not
Speaker 1: into the Stevie Noonaz, I'm into the Stephen Noonaz, Like
Speaker 1: I don't want that person, or I don't want I
Speaker 1: want to know who a Mada is. And I feel
Speaker 1: like that's just game. You're spending game. I've heard that
Speaker 1: for so long it gets old. It sounds like a
Speaker 1: broken record, Like, no, have you had that before because
Speaker 1: I said always said tims to think like that. And
Speaker 1: then because you're saying, oh, I want a man that
Speaker 1: doesn't want me, I think that that's the I think
Speaker 1: you shouldn't say that. No no, no, no no, But
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think that you're you're understanding the
Speaker 1: points it's about you understand now. I think I think
Speaker 1: you missed it. What I meant is is about the chase,
Speaker 1: but having to conquer the having to conquer and chase
Speaker 1: and have to figure those things out. But that's another
Speaker 1: that's another topic. I'm not in that place right now,
Speaker 1: but I can speak as a mature woman and say
Speaker 1: you're telling us, okay, familiaries. I also feel that men
Speaker 1: throw a lot of common. Indeed, act does, and they
Speaker 1: talk about their feelings in a way that is indirect.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you know what I'm saying. Um,
Speaker 1: they'll say and express how they feel. And that's another
Speaker 1: thing that women we have to learn how to understand
Speaker 1: and how to process that information. A lot of men
Speaker 1: are not good at communicating their feelings and how they feel,
Speaker 1: so you have to kind of understand the codes when
Speaker 1: they're trying to express something. And it's hard because there's
Speaker 1: no guide book into love. There's no guide book into
Speaker 1: out to have a you know, a good relationship. But
Speaker 1: men a lot of times express and say how they
Speaker 1: feel about you through their actions, through certain things that
Speaker 1: they do. Even if they don't communicate it, we will
Speaker 1: be right back with more exactly amount of and we're bad.
Speaker 1: We're talking about do women really know what men want?
Speaker 1: I think how most we worked so hard trying to
Speaker 1: figure out how to become and be the perfect woman
Speaker 1: for a man and we still can't figure it out.
Speaker 1: And I was talking about you know how men sometimes
Speaker 1: give indeed at does. Yes, it is true a lot
Speaker 1: i men are not good at communicating. And here's another thing, Latina,
Speaker 1: it happens in many occasions in the Latin culture that
Speaker 1: we feel or we teach our men are little boys
Speaker 1: not to cry, don't cry, suck it up. If you
Speaker 1: have any emotions, suck it up. We don't want to hear,
Speaker 1: we don't want to talk about it, and keep it pushing.
Speaker 1: Has that also affected the way that men communicate in
Speaker 1: a relay reationship because they're taught not to cry, not
Speaker 1: to express themselves. Does that does? Does a man crying
Speaker 1: makes them less of a man? I don't think it does.
Speaker 1: I think that a lot of women do get upset
Speaker 1: at men because they don't express themselves, like you're not cleo,
Speaker 1: You're not gonna just assume what is wrong with the
Speaker 1: person or that something is wrong unless you are expressing
Speaker 1: your feelings now. But doesn't make but doesn't make them no? No?
Speaker 1: But does it make them no? But? But does it
Speaker 1: make them less of a man if they cry? Like
Speaker 1: if they express how they feel and they cry because
Speaker 1: I know much will be like, stop crying or you're
Speaker 1: acting like a little bit or whatever, instead of understanding
Speaker 1: and knowing them. Men also have emotions and have feelings,
Speaker 1: and especially black men and a Latin, especially black men
Speaker 1: in this In this world, they're taught to be strong,
Speaker 1: you know, keep it together. You're not supposed to express
Speaker 1: your feelings, So how do we expect them to communicate
Speaker 1: and express their is when they're in a relationship. A
Speaker 1: real man does cry. But to a lot of women
Speaker 1: is a turn off to see. Why is it a
Speaker 1: turn off? Why? Because it's like you're whining and as
Speaker 1: a man, you're not supposed to be whining? Who said that?
Speaker 1: But why are you living? Okay? I? Why no? I
Speaker 1: forget that? Like that? Just that's a turn off. You
Speaker 1: want a man that's a macho and I think, but
Speaker 1: I think that having a man that expresses his feelings
Speaker 1: and that cries makes him a real man because he
Speaker 1: wasn't scared to express. Okay, so here's another question, but
Speaker 1: you can intend. Why is it so hard for guys
Speaker 1: to express how they feel about too? Why don't you talk?
Speaker 1: Tell me, tell me that you like me, tell me
Speaker 1: that you me, tell me that you miss me. Why
Speaker 1: is this so hard if you don't like something that
Speaker 1: I did? Why do you get frustrated instead of communicating?
Speaker 1: Do men really not know how to communicate? Why don't
Speaker 1: they express their feelings? Because they're scared of rejection, you know,
Speaker 1: But a minute, No, men are a customed men have
Speaker 1: a vulnerable moment. But a lot of women in society
Speaker 1: have taught us that men that are vulnerable or just
Speaker 1: don't know men are no, no, no, no no. Men
Speaker 1: are accustomed to getting rejected, rejected by women. They go
Speaker 1: through it their whole life. Nobody wants to be rejected,
Speaker 1: but more men are accustomed to getting rejected than women are.
Speaker 1: Because women, we got the power between the legs. We're
Speaker 1: gonna find someone who's gonna be approaching us. Is not
Speaker 1: exactly the same with men. Men are the chasers. They're
Speaker 1: the ones that look so to me, it's like, I
Speaker 1: get it. Battle. If you don't communicate, if you don't
Speaker 1: express your feelings, how are we supposed to establish as
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Um it depends if I'm into the person,
Speaker 1: and depends I think it best. And that's their way
Speaker 1: of expressing how they can feel about me, and I
Speaker 1: like you, yes, do whatever it is better let me know,
Speaker 1: and they think about don't last because like I'm being
Speaker 1: a prideful personally, I'm a very prideful person. And it's
Speaker 1: been one of the most damaging things for me um
Speaker 1: in relationship or whatever, because I'm like I could be
Speaker 1: dying inside. I'm gonna keep it together, like I don't
Speaker 1: give a funk, I don't care this and that, and
Speaker 1: that's not the way to be about it. And that's
Speaker 1: how you can, you know, break a real loving relationship.
Speaker 1: And by having no communication but not expressing that. So
Speaker 1: I know you're a sensitive man. It's not you being
Speaker 1: sensitive expressing your feelings. It's equivalent to being sensitive candy whole.
Speaker 1: It's so I disagree, And that's the problem. That's the
Speaker 1: problem with society right now. And that's the problem with relationships.
Speaker 1: But relationships the lasting a couple of months, one or
Speaker 1: two or three years. If you've lasted five years with
Speaker 1: someone these days, that's a life accomplishment that doesn't happen
Speaker 1: because people the moment there's a problem, you're ready to
Speaker 1: just move to the next relationship, next, next, next, next.
Speaker 1: There's just way too many opts and no one is
Speaker 1: trying to fight for the relationship. No one is trying
Speaker 1: to communicate, like baby meet up. I don't want to
Speaker 1: to I don't want to have to guess. I don't
Speaker 1: want the indirect jobs. Tell me what you want, tell
Speaker 1: me what you need, tell me how you feel out
Speaker 1: lack To me, it's not about the way that you
Speaker 1: express what don't if you're violent. If you're violent, that's
Speaker 1: gonna turn me off, you know, because some people don't
Speaker 1: know how to express themselves and they just get frustrated
Speaker 1: and save all of it, and then they just react
Speaker 1: in a way that later on they end up regretting it.
Speaker 1: For sure. It's not bat Let's sit down, let's talk,
Speaker 1: Let's have wine, let's talk at nighttime, Let's have a
Speaker 1: walk in the park. Um, send me a text message
Speaker 1: meeting for for example me, I'm not good at talking
Speaker 1: face to face or expressing it. I'd rather text it.
Speaker 1: It's the best way that I can, like vent, even
Speaker 1: if it takes me all day to write a message,
Speaker 1: but write it down, write a letter, write a song.
Speaker 1: Guess say, Joe, I don't freaking know. Should it be
Speaker 1: something that needs to be tryed as a child, Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: I definitely think that that immediately latin That happens a
Speaker 1: lot in our culture. And as much as I love
Speaker 1: being Dominican and proud, as much as I love being Latina,
Speaker 1: I do know and understand that men are taught and
Speaker 1: little boys that they're supposed to be real tough. They're
Speaker 1: not supposed to have any feelings. If you feel some
Speaker 1: type of way, stop crying or I'm gonna beat you
Speaker 1: if you cry, suck it up, all these things, and
Speaker 1: it's like, yes, I understand that you're trying to teach
Speaker 1: them that life is tough. Collado. Teach them that, but
Speaker 1: also teach them that it's okay to have feelings. It's
Speaker 1: okay to be human. It's okay to express how you feel.
Speaker 1: It's okay to feel pain, to feel sorrow, to feel
Speaker 1: heartbroken and the girl breaks up with you. It's okay
Speaker 1: to have all these emotions. So yes, it's important that
Speaker 1: as parents we teach our little boys and girls it's
Speaker 1: okay for you to express how you feel. Afterwards, you
Speaker 1: have to suck it up. Yeah, you have to let
Speaker 1: let go of that, let it out, lato express it.
Speaker 1: Then you have to pick yourself back up and keep
Speaker 1: it moving. Fiddles, do you teach that to your children? Yes?
Speaker 1: I think we should normalize fathers teaching their son how
Speaker 1: to express their feelings. And how do you do that?
Speaker 1: How do you teach your child not you know to
Speaker 1: be free. Well, he's one years old right now. But
Speaker 1: if I when the time comes, okay, when the time comes,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be like. You do need to express if
Speaker 1: you don't like something. They teach you at very early age,
Speaker 1: you know, child development. You have to use your words
Speaker 1: if you don't like something that someone is doing or
Speaker 1: what a woman is doing to you, before you become
Speaker 1: a battered husband, you need to express that you don't
Speaker 1: like that. That no, you're not taking all my money. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm doing all of this what I'll be knowing it.
Speaker 1: That's right, I'll be good like you gotta be a
Speaker 1: man at that point, you're right if you don't express,
Speaker 1: you know, the more we go along in the episode,
Speaker 1: you start bringing like she starts knocking some sentence to Stevin,
Speaker 1: nonaz is that I do come from that? You know,
Speaker 1: those generational what I would call curses of men and
Speaker 1: how it should be, you know, or how we should
Speaker 1: do things. I didn't have a father to tell me
Speaker 1: how to express my feelings. But I didn't have a vocal,
Speaker 1: bronx woman that was like always expressing her feelings. Right,
Speaker 1: So if we don't have to always because you know,
Speaker 1: let's keep it real. Statistic shows that that in our
Speaker 1: culture there's not a fathers are not present all the time.
Speaker 1: So it's okay, I get that I didn't have my garments,
Speaker 1: but I didn't get that from my father. I got
Speaker 1: that from my mother from the bronx that if she
Speaker 1: didn't like something, ship but like, no, I don't like that,
Speaker 1: and that's why I am the way I am. But
Speaker 1: does everybody like that? No, because when you're too real
Speaker 1: and too aggressive, everyone doesn't like that. That's what it
Speaker 1: is with men, is that men don't know how to
Speaker 1: express their feelings. The question is do women really know
Speaker 1: what men want? Do they really know? Well, I want
Speaker 1: to know what you guys think. Go to Exactly a
Speaker 1: Matta on Twitter, Instagram and go check us out on
Speaker 1: our YouTube channel. We're gonna take a quick pause, but
Speaker 1: we will be right back, all right, and we're back
Speaker 1: with more Exactly a Mada. We're trying to find out
Speaker 1: do women really know what men want? This has been
Speaker 1: met out. We've been trying to break the code for
Speaker 1: years now. We've been trying to figure out how to
Speaker 1: be the best woman for a man. How to do
Speaker 1: this our bodies, our minds, how to behave, how to cook,
Speaker 1: how to do We've been trying to figure out how
Speaker 1: to be this perfect woman for a man. But I
Speaker 1: don't even think that we know ourselves. What do men
Speaker 1: really want? And that's why I really want to know.
Speaker 1: This commitment come in like at what AIGs do men
Speaker 1: really want to commit? Like? Is there a specific time
Speaker 1: that men men really want to commit? Do they really want? Well,
Speaker 1: first is do they even want to commit? But then
Speaker 1: I also want to know is there like a specific age,
Speaker 1: like after a certain period of time they have been
Speaker 1: fucking and dancing and flippering around in life that they're like, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I want to settle down and I want to commit
Speaker 1: to you. I don't know that. I think it has
Speaker 1: to do with something that happens in your life, ye
Speaker 1: to your commitment, Like when you're committed not to catch
Speaker 1: STD and then you catch you STD. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: you say I am committed to lever. Has that STD again?
Speaker 1: Then maybe that's ther comming. I feel like it's something
Speaker 1: in a man's life, like an experience, some sperience, right,
Speaker 1: I think it has to do with the experience of
Speaker 1: a man. I don't think it has a specific age
Speaker 1: because mal I I mean, I you know, but you
Speaker 1: know what I think about too. I think that it's
Speaker 1: also about your stages in life. Like it's not just
Speaker 1: about the experiences, but it's just stages you have to
Speaker 1: burn out stages in life. There's levels to it. A
Speaker 1: lot of people, let's say, for example, which I've seen,
Speaker 1: had children, let's say, at a very early age, so
Speaker 1: now that they're older, that they didn't have the opportunity
Speaker 1: of experiencing and traveling and partying, and now they want
Speaker 1: to live that stage or whatever. Maybe when you were younger,
Speaker 1: you focus so much on work and going to school
Speaker 1: and doing all these things that you want to accomplish,
Speaker 1: and now you're fifty sixty years old trying to party
Speaker 1: it up and live your best life. I just think
Speaker 1: that there's stages in life that you have to burn out.
Speaker 1: And is there a specific age. Well, maybe a man
Speaker 1: doesn't want to commit, maybe a man doesn't want to
Speaker 1: be faith for and maybe that's what you need to know,
Speaker 1: do you like you need I see that happening more
Speaker 1: often now these days. There's a lot of people that
Speaker 1: just don't want to commit to say, they don't even
Speaker 1: want to commit it to having kids, and the population
Speaker 1: is dying out, and how garages, How many marriages do
Speaker 1: we see nowadays? How many of those fifty plus years
Speaker 1: relationships we see? No, maybe our great grandmother and grandfather.
Speaker 1: But nowadays people are like, oh, a wedding. It's just
Speaker 1: that he said pain, and then and then when everyone
Speaker 1: normalized that, then everyone justified, and now there's no commitment,
Speaker 1: because all really that is is when you get married.
Speaker 1: It's just saying that this is a commitment. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell you what's happening. Oh my god, what's exactly? Let
Speaker 1: me tell you exactly how or what's happening? In my eyes?
Speaker 1: I also feel that these days women were giving wife
Speaker 1: benefits as girls friends, So why are men trying? Like,
Speaker 1: why would men even want to commit? Women are giving
Speaker 1: white benefits as girlfriends, So why would they even want
Speaker 1: to commit when you are already giving it to them
Speaker 1: back in the days, I, you know, just looking at it, obviously,
Speaker 1: I don't know, but just looking at history, men had
Speaker 1: to work so hard just to even get a pop
Speaker 1: kiss from a woman, just even be able to see
Speaker 1: a little boom, just to be able to see her
Speaker 1: in panties. It was like, oh my god, I remember,
Speaker 1: you know, off seeing it. Men will go crazy for
Speaker 1: that one Playboy magazine. You know, they would share it
Speaker 1: and passing on and oh my god. Now as women,
Speaker 1: men don't have to work that hard anymore. Like they
Speaker 1: literally can go out to a club. And I'm not
Speaker 1: saying for women, yes, you're we're liberated, we're free, we're independent,
Speaker 1: we do as we please. I get that part. But
Speaker 1: as far as men wanting to commit, white commit when
Speaker 1: you're already giving, you cook, you clean, you suck me down,
Speaker 1: you do everything. You're my nurse, your mother, you know everything.
Speaker 1: Why I gotta put a ring on it? Why I
Speaker 1: gotta do this for what we might as well just
Speaker 1: say how we are now and just keep it pushing
Speaker 1: until whenever I feel that. You know, that's why you
Speaker 1: see these six seven, ten year, ten year engagements that
Speaker 1: never happened, or you might not even get to get engaged.
Speaker 1: You know what's so annoying when people be like, oh,
Speaker 1: in the state of whatever, after twenty years, you're already
Speaker 1: married and then you're cheap as did it gives that
Speaker 1: woman a freaking wedding or nothing like. That's so freaking
Speaker 1: whack attack. Are women just likely to like commit to
Speaker 1: a man who doesn't want to be committed. Do women
Speaker 1: force men into committing into relationships that they don't want
Speaker 1: to I definitely want to know what you think, because
Speaker 1: I know it's true. I have been in situations personally
Speaker 1: where I have I don't want to say get forced myself,
Speaker 1: but I felt like I was forcing the situation, Like, dude,
Speaker 1: we've been doing this for the past six months. Are
Speaker 1: we gonna be committed or not? Because I don't want
Speaker 1: to be here? Like hello, girlfriend, playboy thing with no?
Speaker 1: Like no, let's just go with the flow. Let's just
Speaker 1: give it out their own agenda and their next check
Speaker 1: that they have, and then that's it. You have a
Speaker 1: commitment to every single commitment that you have. So here's
Speaker 1: a question. If a man doesn't commit to you, does
Speaker 1: that mean that he doesn't love you, that he doesn't
Speaker 1: want to be with you, or he's just not ready
Speaker 1: to commit? And if so, when will he be ready
Speaker 1: to commit? Will you ever be ready to commit? If
Speaker 1: he's not ready to commit, are you still willing to
Speaker 1: stay in that relationship? I want to know everything because
Speaker 1: I know a lot of women that have been with
Speaker 1: a man for the past ten years, he still doesn't
Speaker 1: want to commit. Would you still stay? Like? For how
Speaker 1: long are you willing to stay in a relationship where
Speaker 1: a man is not willing to make you officially his girl,
Speaker 1: his wife, his whatever to the family. I know those
Speaker 1: I know those two? Does come on now? Is that
Speaker 1: too much pressure? Should we be pressuring men? Let left
Speaker 1: the scenario. What do women really want in a relationship?
Speaker 1: Out of man like? What do women really want? Mohead
Speaker 1: asked for example, But I want you to be respectful.
Speaker 1: I want you to love my mom. I know that tough.
Speaker 1: I want you to be nasty and freaky. I want
Speaker 1: you to be educated. I want you to inspire and
Speaker 1: motivate me. I want you to understand my career. I
Speaker 1: want you to be financially stable. I want you to
Speaker 1: be ambitious. Don't just be pleased with what you currently have.
Speaker 1: I want you to tell me that I'm beautiful every day,
Speaker 1: Cuddle me, tell me pretty things. Don't even allow me
Speaker 1: to be bothered or pay attention to any other man
Speaker 1: besides you. If you're doing the right job, your girls
Speaker 1: not never gonna feel the need to look at another man.
Speaker 1: When a woman looks at another man or even caters
Speaker 1: to another man. It means that you missed out on something.
Speaker 1: There was something you didn't do it, and I'm sure
Speaker 1: she gave you hints. She she told you, she gave
Speaker 1: you hands of what it was, and you maybe didn't
Speaker 1: get it. So there's a lot of things that I want. Now.
Speaker 1: Do I believe that the Prince Charming exists out there
Speaker 1: in the world. No, because that is false reality that
Speaker 1: was sold to us as children watching Disney and all
Speaker 1: these are the things of how I love is supposed
Speaker 1: to be. No, love is hard. It's a lot of
Speaker 1: work and hope it is, but it's the only way
Speaker 1: to have that significant other if not jumping around. So
Speaker 1: you know, love is hard. And on the rotated side,
Speaker 1: I feel like men know or other men were. I
Speaker 1: think that that's why there's a lot of same sex.
Speaker 1: Talk about it less rotated to another side. Maybe I
Speaker 1: think that women know what women want and that is
Speaker 1: why there is a lot of same sex. Let's be
Speaker 1: a couple. Women don't even want men anymore because now
Speaker 1: talk about it. But let me just say, let me
Speaker 1: just say this, this is why it happens, Like men
Speaker 1: know what a man was like. I think that you
Speaker 1: know as far as a gay man, right, we'll talk
Speaker 1: about a gig like man know, like, I know what
Speaker 1: turns me on, I know how I like my to be,
Speaker 1: you know how worally so now a man knows that,
Speaker 1: and that's why a lot of men come in or
Speaker 1: transgenders they come in and they're doing the job that
Speaker 1: you should have been doing. Oh my god, But you
Speaker 1: can't learn that. You just have to go to the
Speaker 1: opposite steps right away. You can't teach me a little
Speaker 1: bit what you want. I'm just saying, like if I'm saying,
Speaker 1: if if you're not into women, or if you're not
Speaker 1: into men, or whatever your your sexual preference, maybe if
Speaker 1: you feel that your significant other is not handling you
Speaker 1: the way that you want to sexually, well, and that's
Speaker 1: something that we need to communicate about and talk about
Speaker 1: it openly and freely and not feel like, oh, since
Speaker 1: you're not giving it to me, I'm gonna go get
Speaker 1: it somewhere else. No teach me and saying at me,
Speaker 1: what do you want me to do? How? How can
Speaker 1: it be a better woman for you? You? How can
Speaker 1: it be a better partner for you? What do I have?
Speaker 1: And it doesn't mean that you're being. And yes, you
Speaker 1: do have to be a little submissive, just a little
Speaker 1: bit when you love someone and when you want to
Speaker 1: have a relationship, because you can't always be right, you
Speaker 1: can always have the upper hand. Sometimes you have to
Speaker 1: find that balance me. Sometimes he's gonna be right, sometimes
Speaker 1: you're gonna be right. And if now you have to
Speaker 1: figure it out. And that's what a relationship is about.
Speaker 1: And that's why I like Chustian based relationships. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: you know, because they teach that it's not gonna be
Speaker 1: a perfect relationship, but if we could get through this,
Speaker 1: we'll get to the next. And preachers always say that
Speaker 1: if we if someone found, there's temptations and someone falls,
Speaker 1: you don't kick them while they're down. Let's get them help,
Speaker 1: let's get let's go see a therapy shrink. Let's do
Speaker 1: what it takes for our relationship. That's right. And you
Speaker 1: know what, today we learned a lot. Okay, man, what
Speaker 1: we learned Okay, I hadn't even thought about. We learned
Speaker 1: the ins and out of what men's needs are, what
Speaker 1: they really want. The same thing goes for us women.
Speaker 1: You learned a little bit. We are lacking and we
Speaker 1: feel that we need um, but honestly, I want to
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