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Speaker 1: We're back. I'm Drew McCarry and I'm David Roth and

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Speaker 1: coming in September a new site we have built together

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Speaker 1: called Defecto or Defector, and we're gonna have a new

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Speaker 1: podcast to go with it, This very podcast which has

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Speaker 1: the name The Distraction. It's out right now. Avail every

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Speaker 1: rust your podcast at Stitcher, Spotify, Apple, Go listen right

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Speaker 1: now to The Distraction everywhere. It's out right now. Go

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Speaker 1: listen to see by. There's a delusional quality that all

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Speaker 1: successful people have, and when it comes to my dreams,

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Speaker 1: I'm a lunatic and there's nothing like being able to

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Speaker 1: watch your dreams, my dreams, our dreams unfold together after

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Speaker 1: seventeen years. Hey, I'm Cadine and we're the Ellis. You

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Speaker 1: may know us from posting funny videos with our boys

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Speaker 1: and reading each other publicly as a form of therapy. Wait,

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Speaker 1: I'll make you need derby most days. And one more

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Speaker 1: important thing to mention, we're married, Yes, sir, we are.

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Speaker 1: We created this podcast to open dialogue about some of

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Speaker 1: life's most taboo topics most folks don't want to talk

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Speaker 1: about through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead

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Speaker 1: ass is a term that we say every day. Where

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Speaker 1: we say dead ass, we're actually saying facts one hun

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Speaker 1: the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

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Speaker 1: We're about to take Phillow's off to a whole new level.

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Speaker 1: Dead ask starts. Now. This past year has been like

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Speaker 1: the greatest year for the ellis Is when it comes

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Speaker 1: to dreaming and manifestations. And the beginning of October, after

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Speaker 1: I'd already rapped shooting my first season of Sisters of

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Speaker 1: Tyler Perry, we got an invitation in the mail for

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Speaker 1: his grand opening for the studio acres of land he

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Speaker 1: owns former Confederate Army base now owned by one black man.

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Speaker 1: And we looked at the people who are going to

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Speaker 1: be invited, uh Cicily, Tyson, will Smith, Denzel Washington, Oprah Winfrey, Hollyberry,

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Speaker 1: Whoopie Goldberg, the late John Singleton, just a few names

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Speaker 1: that were being dedicated to the twelve sound stages. Everybody

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Speaker 1: in Black Hollywood is there, and we're in the John

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Speaker 1: Singleton sound stage and and the doors opened to the

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Speaker 1: sound stage. Everyone was in tears, but um they opened

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Speaker 1: the doors to the sound stage and there's a three

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Speaker 1: of sound stage one of sound stage twelve, which was

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Speaker 1: John Singleton, to sound stage to our which is over

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Speaker 1: one free and we're walking back and forth dedicating each

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Speaker 1: remember looking to my right and it was Puffy. It

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Speaker 1: was usher and ludicrous, and I remember Puffy looking up

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Speaker 1: and saying, this ship is crazy. Then looking to you,

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Speaker 1: looking to my left and seeing jay Z and Beyonce

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Speaker 1: standing right next to us. And at that point I

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Speaker 1: said to myself, how did we get here to dream

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Speaker 1: the impossible dream? You go, girl to fight the unbeatable

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Speaker 1: fun sang sang too bad with unbearable sorrow. Oh isn't

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Speaker 1: it such a good song. It is such a great song.

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Speaker 1: Oh God, the impossible to dream, the impossible dream. How

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Speaker 1: often do dreams seem so impossible, so IMPOSSI oh man,

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Speaker 1: just some telling that that small snippet of what was

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Speaker 1: an amazing weekend almost brings me to tears now. And

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Speaker 1: I'm just literally saying the same thing and feeling the

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Speaker 1: and talk about being a good company man like devout.

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Speaker 1: Literally I was alongside him the entire time and just

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Speaker 1: we get here? But it was also a moment of

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Speaker 1: confirmation that felt like, man, all this work, all this

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Speaker 1: It was insane, And it's funny because I remember being

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Speaker 1: I exist now is where my life is going. It's

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Speaker 1: I always felt my whole life like I'm not going

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Speaker 1: And being at that dinner the Tyler Perry opening was

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Speaker 1: order for it to work, or did you feel like, oh,

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Speaker 1: a different type of man that afferent, right exactly. So

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Speaker 1: when I speak of manifestation as in like Africa affirmations

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Speaker 1: also having to develop the work ethic to work towards

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Speaker 1: made the mantra. It was my sophomore year of college

430
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Speaker 1: at Houstra. I was taking a speech communications class and

431
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:28,080
Speaker 1: we had to read the Secret and we talked about

432
00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 1: um manifesting in the law of attraction and saying things

433
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Speaker 1: out loud. So they was like, you should have a

434
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Speaker 1: mission statement that you say every day so you can

435
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 1: attract positive energy to yourself. So she wanted us to

436
00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:41,640
Speaker 1: come up with It wasn't trush Shot, it was another professor,

437
00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:44,040
Speaker 1: but Um, she wanted me to create a mission statement.

438
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Speaker 1: So the mission statement was each day I worked to

439
00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:49,320
Speaker 1: build a legacy, not to be defined by my greatness,

440
00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:52,679
Speaker 1: but by the masses. I inspire to be greater than myself.

441
00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:55,639
Speaker 1: And after class she asked, she was like, UM, what

442
00:22:55,840 --> 00:23:00,359
Speaker 1: made you come up with that? You know? And I said, well, really, Stickley,

443
00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:04,080
Speaker 1: I want to live forever, and she was just like,

444
00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:05,480
Speaker 1: what you mean by that, I said, how do you

445
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 1: live forever? You create a legacy, and you can only

446
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 1: create a legacy by making the people around you better,

447
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 1: because if you make the people around you better, those

448
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:16,240
Speaker 1: people will forever say your name. I learned that by

449
00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 1: watching Troy and Achilles was my favorite character. So Achilles

450
00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:22,919
Speaker 1: always talked about wanting to live forever because he always

451
00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 1: wanted his name to be spoken about. And the only

452
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:28,000
Speaker 1: way you can speak of people will speak about you

453
00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:31,639
Speaker 1: if you're a protector and if you influence people. So

454
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:34,520
Speaker 1: I always wanted to influence people to be great, and

455
00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:37,239
Speaker 1: it really has nothing to do with your greatness. At

456
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 1: that point, it doesn't matter what you did, because no

457
00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 1: matter what you do, there's always going to be someone

458
00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 1: greater that comes along and does it better than you.

459
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:45,639
Speaker 1: But if you are the person is known for influencing

460
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:48,879
Speaker 1: greatness amongst people, your name will never die. And that

461
00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:52,920
Speaker 1: to me always meant so much. Think about Michael Jackson.

462
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Speaker 1: Think think about Michael jacks Think about how many people

463
00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:58,640
Speaker 1: after him have been influenced by his music. That Michael

464
00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 1: Jackson's music will never die. We have three boys. They

465
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:04,800
Speaker 1: all sit down at the computer and put in beat

466
00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:08,960
Speaker 1: it and listen to beat it like they literally even

467
00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:11,440
Speaker 1: down to cast on his iPad, will be listening to

468
00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,080
Speaker 1: Michael Jackson and it's just great. It's just no, You're

469
00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 1: absolutely right. But I almost feel like it turned into

470
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 1: I get I was interviewing you today, and I think

471
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:21,720
Speaker 1: it makes sense only because I know your story and

472
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:23,879
Speaker 1: you knew since five years old or since you were

473
00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:25,840
Speaker 1: really young, that this is what she wanted to do.

474
00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:29,440
Speaker 1: And I've watched all of these things kind of come

475
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:32,680
Speaker 1: to fruition, especially with your career, and it's just it's

476
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:35,160
Speaker 1: been it's been amazing to kind of watch and see.

477
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 1: It's been amazing to be a part of what you

478
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:41,359
Speaker 1: though to be honest, because this is dead ass. And

479
00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:43,680
Speaker 1: one thing I've also learned throughout life is that you

480
00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 1: understand the value in people, and I understand it. I

481
00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:49,080
Speaker 1: wouldn't be able to do anything in my life if

482
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Speaker 1: I didn't have you here, because there were times where

483
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:56,520
Speaker 1: I didn't exactly know how I was going to get

484
00:24:57,240 --> 00:25:00,840
Speaker 1: to the next step, but I knew that could be creative,

485
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:04,400
Speaker 1: and you always found a way to turn that creativity

486
00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:09,080
Speaker 1: into an actual plan that worked. You know, It's funny too,

487
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:11,879
Speaker 1: because I I always. I struggled a lot with UM

488
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 1: figuring out what my purpose is, and I think I

489
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:19,520
Speaker 1: still have moments where I wonder why what am I

490
00:25:19,600 --> 00:25:21,680
Speaker 1: here for? I'm not sure what it is. What my

491
00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 1: purpose isn't just my children, because naturally, like you said

492
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:26,399
Speaker 1: in past episodes, when you become a mom, that's like

493
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:28,800
Speaker 1: your soul for focus before everything else. So it's like,

494
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:30,760
Speaker 1: it's not purpose to just be a mom? Is my

495
00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:34,320
Speaker 1: purpose to be here to assist you on your journey

496
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:37,200
Speaker 1: to greatness and this legacy that we're creating for our boys.

497
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 1: And I've struggled with figuring out what exactly it is,

498
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:45,959
Speaker 1: and I wonder sometimes can my purpose be multifaceted? Can

499
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:49,920
Speaker 1: I be here to assist you in being great? And

500
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:53,680
Speaker 1: then now that I've done having kids and I'm back

501
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:56,160
Speaker 1: in front of the camera again, now I can maybe

502
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:59,879
Speaker 1: find my purpose through acting um, you know, raising our children.

503
00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:04,399
Speaker 1: But also I think about the component of other people

504
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:07,119
Speaker 1: and giving back and being able to help. And I

505
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:10,200
Speaker 1: think that's an amazing thing that we both have in common,

506
00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:13,600
Speaker 1: is that we always and everything we do try to

507
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 1: be good people to other people around us, and we

508
00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:19,920
Speaker 1: think about how we will be able to help those

509
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 1: around us, those who may not have as much even

510
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:25,400
Speaker 1: being able to help our family, Like, that's always something

511
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:27,879
Speaker 1: that we've spoken about over the years. It's never just

512
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:30,920
Speaker 1: about you, it's never just about me even never just

513
00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 1: about our children, but it's about the masses around us. Well,

514
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 1: it's funny because I watched the movie that pretty much

515
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:39,280
Speaker 1: changed my life. Um, you haven't heard the movie called

516
00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 1: pay It Forward. It was a movie, it was. It

517
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 1: was the movie with the dude from the sixth Sense

518
00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:47,680
Speaker 1: that forgot his name, the kid from the Kid from Success.

519
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:51,399
Speaker 1: But um, he had this I forgot I wonder if

520
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 1: that's even the name of it. But the concept was

521
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:55,720
Speaker 1: paying it forward, and he had this whole idea that

522
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 1: if something does, if somebody does something for you and

523
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 1: you pay him back, it stops there. I did something

524
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 1: for you, you pay me back. That frees you of

525
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 1: somebody doing something for you first. But if you pay

526
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: it forward, and you do something for someone and that

527
00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 1: person has to pay it forward to three people, it

528
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 1: continues to grow into the world. Think about how dope

529
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:23,120
Speaker 1: that is. Rather than saying to people, y'all, i'll give

530
00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 1: you this, but you got to pay me back, you said,

531
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 1: you know what I'll give you this, but you gotta

532
00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 1: pay it forward. That changed I remember watching that. I

533
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:34,160
Speaker 1: think that movie changed my life. I have to find

534
00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: a name of the movie. But it changed my life

535
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:39,399
Speaker 1: because it made me realize how important it is to

536
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 1: not give people back. You know, if someone gave me something,

537
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 1: that means they probably don't need my help, but someone

538
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:47,760
Speaker 1: else may need my help. And if I can do

539
00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 1: it to someone else and then they keep moving and forward,

540
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,440
Speaker 1: the world will be a much better place. You know

541
00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. And I just that recently to one's

542
00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 1: maybe one of the kids you've mentored or something. I mean,

543
00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 1: we could pay it forward on the wall at the

544
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 1: gym them you put paid phone on the wall because

545
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,679
Speaker 1: I tell you I to all the kids, they will say,

546
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:06,080
Speaker 1: your coach to value. You know, I'm gonna pay you back.

547
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:07,879
Speaker 1: And I tell them on Somebody's like, I don't need

548
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:10,200
Speaker 1: your help, bro, but there's gonna be someone after you

549
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 1: that's going to need your help. And the only way

550
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:14,479
Speaker 1: I'll help you is if you promise me that you're

551
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 1: going to help someone else when they ask you for

552
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:18,639
Speaker 1: the help the same way, the same way I asked it.

553
00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 1: So whether it's money, whether it's advice, don't worry about

554
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:23,840
Speaker 1: paying me back. But coach Vallece, you're fifty dollars. I

555
00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:25,680
Speaker 1: don't need the fifty dollars. I gave it to you.

556
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 1: But now if someone else asked you for fifty dollars

557
00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:30,000
Speaker 1: and you got it, you better not keep your hand closed.

558
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:32,639
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. And I think, and I

559
00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 1: think it's important for people to know too, when you're

560
00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:38,680
Speaker 1: manifesting your destiny, right, especially when you talk about the

561
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 1: kids we mentor people can't be what they can't see, right,

562
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 1: you have to see it first. Once you see it

563
00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:48,040
Speaker 1: and you know, like, this is what I want to do,

564
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:52,480
Speaker 1: that becomes the goal. You take that thing, you visualize it,

565
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 1: and you put that somewhere where you can see it

566
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:57,720
Speaker 1: every single day. And if you wake up every day

567
00:28:57,760 --> 00:29:00,080
Speaker 1: because it's easy to get distracted in this world and

568
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: you lose sight of what the goal is. So when

569
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 1: you wake up every day and you looking and you

570
00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 1: see that goal, it's like, that's why I'm doing this.

571
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 1: That's the power behind vision that's that is the huge

572
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:13,520
Speaker 1: power behind vision boards. And you know, people, some people

573
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:16,600
Speaker 1: think a vision board has to be on your wall, right,

574
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:18,960
Speaker 1: here by your bed, and some people do that. I've

575
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 1: never had a physical vision board, but I've had visical

576
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 1: vision boards in my phone. There are certain things that

577
00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:25,280
Speaker 1: when I opened up my phone, I see it and

578
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 1: I say, this is what I want. Remember when I

579
00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 1: created the vision board, it was will Smith, Diddy, jay Z,

580
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:34,520
Speaker 1: and Wesley Snipes, and I said, I wanted to be

581
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 1: a combination of these four men. And I put that

582
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 1: in my phone and I had the picture of all

583
00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 1: four of them. And whenever I feel like I'm losing

584
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:42,720
Speaker 1: track of why I'm doing something, I go back to

585
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 1: that picture and I say, this right here is why

586
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:47,640
Speaker 1: it's funny. I I started doing like I said. I

587
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 1: never was the one that always like said the verbal

588
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 1: confirmation to affirmations and stuff like that. Um, but one

589
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:57,160
Speaker 1: thing for me is I've used I've used my social

590
00:29:57,200 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 1: media now to follow certain people. Oh yes, I feel

591
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:06,120
Speaker 1: inspire me or motivate me to be greater, who are

592
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 1: doing things that I aspire to do and they're doing it.

593
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 1: And that's the power of using social media for the positive.

594
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 1: So if you look at some of my top stories,

595
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 1: they're going to be people who motivate me. In the

596
00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 1: acting world, they motivate me to be a better mother.

597
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 1: They voted motivate me to be a better wife, a

598
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:28,040
Speaker 1: better human being. Like, that's what I use my social

599
00:30:28,120 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 1: media for. That That is such a dope concept because

600
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 1: if you think about it right, social media now they

601
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 1: have algorithms that when you click on somebody's profile or

602
00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 1: you click on certain things, they send blasts to your

603
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:47,400
Speaker 1: phone of those things. So when you're following certain things

604
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 1: subconsciously and physically, it's always on your mind. So when

605
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:56,640
Speaker 1: you follow bullshit, when you click on bullshit, bullshits on

606
00:30:56,720 --> 00:30:59,000
Speaker 1: your mind. So if you look at social media and

607
00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 1: you're following trash, your life is going to be trash. Absolutely,

608
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 1: you need constant reminders of why you do things in life.

609
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 1: If you look at the greatest people in the world,

610
00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 1: they're not following bullshit, they fault. They may be following

611
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:13,160
Speaker 1: five or ten people, and all of those people are

612
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:15,920
Speaker 1: doing greater things than them. Absolutely, and it's a reminder

613
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 1: of this is where I want to be. That's so

614
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 1: dope that you said, I didn't even think about that.

615
00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:21,720
Speaker 1: That's probably the biggest for me, just because I know

616
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:23,720
Speaker 1: so much of my work is on social media, just

617
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 1: with us creating, being content creators and all that. So

618
00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 1: we do spend a lot of time on our phone.

619
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:29,680
Speaker 1: So I think about the time that, you know, you

620
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 1: have those moments where you're kind of just bored and

621
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 1: aimlessly scrolling through. You think about what you're actually consuming.

622
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:37,600
Speaker 1: And I know that for a fact, there's certain people

623
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 1: that I followed for a reason or whose whose stories

624
00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 1: I'll go to for that day because I know there's

625
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 1: something in there that's going to motivate me or uplift me,

626
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 1: or it's going to help me get to that next goal,

627
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 1: whatever that is. So it's like, you know, I think

628
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:55,520
Speaker 1: about setting out maybe like a little um, a little

629
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:58,000
Speaker 1: path for people or a little something to follow, because

630
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:00,160
Speaker 1: we like to have takeaways for our listeners about what

631
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 1: is it, what it is that you can kind of

632
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 1: take from this and maybe apply to your life. Right,

633
00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 1: So once you decide what you want, you said that goal, Yeah,

634
00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 1: decide what you want, you set the goal. UM trible,

635
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 1: you know you're annoying trouble, but we know. But she

636
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 1: she gave she gave us a really cool UM acronym,

637
00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 1: which is smart. Right. Smart stands for a specific measurable,

638
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:28,600
Speaker 1: achievable relevant time bound, so all of these things. Yeah,

639
00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 1: and it tells you pretty much she's smart and she

640
00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:34,560
Speaker 1: sees the magic in the moment, So you know, we

641
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 1: want to I just want to break that down really

642
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 1: quickly to kind of give people an idea of how

643
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Speaker 1: you can apply this to whatever whatever it is you're manifesting. Right,

644
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:46,240
Speaker 1: So specific goal should be clear and specific, otherwise you

645
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 1: won't be able to focus your efforts are really, really

646
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:51,480
Speaker 1: true motivated to achieve it. So when you're drafting up

647
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:53,920
Speaker 1: your goal, you know you should answer the first five

648
00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:58,080
Speaker 1: questions right, the w questions, what do I want to accomplish?

649
00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:02,080
Speaker 1: Why is the goal important? Who is involved? Where is

650
00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 1: it located? And which resources are limits are involved? It's funny,

651
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 1: that's literally literally, this is literally what we did when

652
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 1: I retired from the NFL. When I was trying to

653
00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 1: figure out how to get acting, it was like, Okay,

654
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 1: what is it I want to do? Okay, why do

655
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 1: I want to do this? How do we get into it?

656
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 1: That's when I called on Adrian because she was involved

657
00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 1: in it. It was like, who get involved with? Where

658
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 1: is it located? Me to the city, who do I

659
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:29,640
Speaker 1: talk to this is? And which resources are involved? Like

660
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 1: this is exactly what we do. What will limit me

661
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 1: from that? And how can I navigate around that? Is?

662
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:37,840
Speaker 1: So that's great. Then measurable m make your goals measurable

663
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 1: so that you can track your progress and stay motivated.

664
00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:44,959
Speaker 1: Right for example, this one right here, right. If your

665
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:46,880
Speaker 1: goal is to be a stand up comedian, for example,

666
00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:49,200
Speaker 1: you can say I want to understand up three times

667
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 1: a week, So it's exercising that practicing that it's attainable

668
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:55,200
Speaker 1: and it's trackable so you know when you're making progress.

669
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:58,680
Speaker 1: That makes so much sense. I think I need. I

670
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 1: feeled myself at that point. Absolutely I need to do

671
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:03,080
Speaker 1: that as well. And that's where my procrastination came in

672
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 1: because I'm just like me just sitting around expecting things

673
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 1: to happen and it's not happening. I was. I was

674
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:11,320
Speaker 1: directly impacting that proportion of my life where things just

675
00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 1: weren't happening, and I'm wondering why, Well, it's because but

676
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:16,520
Speaker 1: she wasn't working at it. You just weren't doing it.

677
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 1: It's true, though, I mean, that's that's the hard truth,

678
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:22,200
Speaker 1: Like why isn't it happening because you aren't work Because

679
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:24,080
Speaker 1: you're not working at it? Exactly. So all these you

680
00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:25,520
Speaker 1: can pray as much as you want, you can do

681
00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 1: all these verbal affirmations as much as you want, but

682
00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:29,760
Speaker 1: it's not going to happen that way. Hold on faith

683
00:34:29,920 --> 00:34:33,680
Speaker 1: without works. It's the truth. It doesn't matter whether you're

684
00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 1: religious or your spiritual. It is the truth. It is.

685
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:41,200
Speaker 1: I remember a quick story. My grandmother was like, um, guys,

686
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:44,000
Speaker 1: before you go to sleep, this yard needs to be cut.

687
00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 1: I said, Grandma, ma's your questions. She was like what.

688
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:49,560
Speaker 1: I was like, you believe in the Bible, right, this

689
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 1: is me at twelve. She's like, yes, I feel smart,

690
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:58,359
Speaker 1: smart smart. I said, yes, I do believe. She said, yes,

691
00:34:58,400 --> 00:34:59,759
Speaker 1: I do believe in the Bible. Where I said, well,

692
00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:02,440
Speaker 1: you made us read a scripture and it said if

693
00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 1: three or more people come together and we pray, the

694
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 1: Lord will give you what you need. So I was

695
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:13,080
Speaker 1: she was like yes. I said, so rather than us

696
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 1: going out and cutting the yard, how about the three

697
00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:17,879
Speaker 1: of us get together we prayed at the yard will

698
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:21,400
Speaker 1: be cut, and then we're gonna go play basketball. And

699
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:23,440
Speaker 1: she said about you can get your brother, y'all go pray.

700
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:26,320
Speaker 1: I don't whoop your ass, right, So I'm gonna just

701
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:29,880
Speaker 1: go outside and cut the grass. But then she was like,

702
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:33,000
Speaker 1: because the moral of the story is faith without works,

703
00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:35,640
Speaker 1: is that you can pray for it, but if you

704
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 1: don't put the work in, God will not give you

705
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:40,200
Speaker 1: the blessings you asked for without you're putting in the work.

706
00:35:40,840 --> 00:35:43,800
Speaker 1: Shout out to my Nanadela Ellis. I got the I

707
00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:46,759
Speaker 1: got the message. I ain't want my ass whooped. I

708
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:48,919
Speaker 1: ain't wanted dead ass. I didn't want a dead ass.

709
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:51,239
Speaker 1: I wanted to be alive. That's how we have fake

710
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:55,279
Speaker 1: grass because I'm trying to cut it so fake it's

711
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:59,480
Speaker 1: fake achievable. Your goals also needs to be realistic and attainable.

712
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:02,479
Speaker 1: The easiest way to lose motivation is by setting goals

713
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:05,399
Speaker 1: that are out of reach. To avoid that, breakdown big

714
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 1: goals into smaller goals that will help you get there.

715
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 1: You know, maybe your goal is to make a career change,

716
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:13,480
Speaker 1: and if you don't have those skills to make that

717
00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 1: make your viable candidate for that job, then maybe you're

718
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 1: gonna have to kind of backtrack and see what you

719
00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:20,440
Speaker 1: can do to teach yourself, get a new set of skills,

720
00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:24,040
Speaker 1: get a certification, whatever your next goal is, to switch careers.

721
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:27,359
Speaker 1: Now I'm gonna have to remix this a little bit

722
00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:30,960
Speaker 1: because I feel like being realistic doesn't get you anywhere

723
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 1: in life. Like another Will Smith, the goal thing I've

724
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 1: heard was him saying being realistic doesn't make great people.

725
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:42,840
Speaker 1: For example, the Right brothers right when they decided to

726
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 1: talk about flying flying planes. Right, it's not realistic to

727
00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:49,439
Speaker 1: think that you could take a piece of metal, bend

728
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,759
Speaker 1: it into a cylinder, get in it, and then fly

729
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:54,279
Speaker 1: over the ocean the ship is just not realistic. So

730
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:56,719
Speaker 1: in a way, you have to think beyond being realistic.

731
00:36:57,320 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 1: And then that's why I'm siming a remixing. So now

732
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 1: you know what the end goal is. Once you know

733
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:04,279
Speaker 1: what the end goal is, let's create some smaller goals,

734
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 1: which I agree with, to get us to the final point,

735
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:09,280
Speaker 1: because you're not going to ultimately get to that unrealistic

736
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:12,319
Speaker 1: goal tomorrow. There are steps. In the case of the plane,

737
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, we're gonna make the metal cylinder, okay,

738
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 1: right now, we need an engine. Okay, now we have

739
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:18,080
Speaker 1: to find gravity. Okay, that's how are we gonna do all?

740
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:20,279
Speaker 1: How we Let's let's this goal for this year is

741
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 1: to figure out aeronautics. That's the word, right, aeronautics. Yes,

742
00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 1: that's why you're marryat and you're cute plus are relevant.

743
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 1: Your goal should be important to you. Social media makes

744
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 1: it easy for us to compare our lives and success

745
00:37:38,520 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 1: to other people. That is a recipe for disaster, and

746
00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 1: sometimes that can make you think you want something that

747
00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 1: isn't for you. So comparing yourself to other people and

748
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:48,520
Speaker 1: listening to the opinions of others in your life can

749
00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 1: have you creating goals that aren't relevant to your life,

750
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 1: your skills, or your particular interests. So set goals that

751
00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:56,800
Speaker 1: align with what you want for your life. Not to

752
00:37:56,840 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 1: say about that that's just straightforwards, just true because if

753
00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:02,839
Speaker 1: you listen to if we had listened to what people

754
00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:04,480
Speaker 1: told us about what we did with our social media,

755
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 1: we wouldn't be here right now. Yes, that's it. Also,

756
00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 1: if you can put yourself to other people's life, like

757
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 1: your homeboy could be a wrapper. He's killing getting wrap.

758
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:15,520
Speaker 1: You don't even want to wrap. Why are you even

759
00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:17,440
Speaker 1: upset that he wrapping and you're not You're not even

760
00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:19,399
Speaker 1: trying to wrap? There you go, you know what I'm saying,

761
00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:21,560
Speaker 1: So I get it. You got to be relevant ant,

762
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:25,280
Speaker 1: time bound, set a date, and giving yourself a dadne

763
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:28,640
Speaker 1: actually applies to creating a sense of urgency with your

764
00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:31,359
Speaker 1: goals that will keep you motivated and able to prioritize

765
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:33,640
Speaker 1: how you do spend your time. And this will also

766
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:37,240
Speaker 1: help you break down your long term goals into daily

767
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:41,880
Speaker 1: actions so that ties into um measurable right and asking

768
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:44,120
Speaker 1: yourself every day what can I do to get closer

769
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 1: to my goal? This is like super helpful. This is

770
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 1: helpful because there's something I need people to understand. The

771
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:53,759
Speaker 1: most valuable asset you have in your life. It's time. Time.

772
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:57,840
Speaker 1: It's not money. You can always make more money, but

773
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 1: when you're losing time, like you can't lose that. That

774
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:03,480
Speaker 1: is the most valuable asset you have in your life.

775
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:06,040
Speaker 1: So if you don't set time and Codeine and I

776
00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:07,919
Speaker 1: going back and forth on this all the time because

777
00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:11,319
Speaker 1: Case she's a procrastinator and I'm the opposite of a procrastinator.

778
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:13,200
Speaker 1: The minute I know something has to get done, I

779
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 1: want to rewind and do that ship yesterday. And it

780
00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:18,480
Speaker 1: can be like devout like we just found out about it.

781
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:20,160
Speaker 1: The fact that it's not done. You can't be stressed

782
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 1: and worried about it. So there's a balance in between, right,

783
00:39:23,280 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 1: you can't be a procrastinator at the same time, you

784
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 1: can't be a stressful person thinking that stuff's never got

785
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:31,120
Speaker 1: done on time. You have to find that medium to

786
00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:33,160
Speaker 1: where you can you know, you can get things done

787
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:36,040
Speaker 1: and still live a comfortable life and enjoy it, enjoy

788
00:39:36,160 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 1: the moment. Like you said, I don't do enough enjoy

789
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 1: the moment. Yes, I think that a lot. You definitely

790
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:45,319
Speaker 1: need to stop and enjoy certain moments and not let

791
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 1: them pass you by. And these are things that you've

792
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:50,959
Speaker 1: worked for for a long time. So as we wrap

793
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 1: things up, which I think this is amazing because this

794
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 1: is um the last episode of season two, So we're

795
00:39:56,239 --> 00:39:58,320
Speaker 1: super happy that you guys have been on this journey

796
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:01,560
Speaker 1: with us, So happy for you, happy and just being

797
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:03,920
Speaker 1: as we're getting towards the end of the year and

798
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:07,240
Speaker 1: everyone's probably now going to be making those vision boards

799
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:10,080
Speaker 1: and having those discussions. You know, we're ending the fourth

800
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 1: quarter of the year and already looking towards two thousand

801
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 1: twenty and everything that's out there that you are trying

802
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:19,319
Speaker 1: to achieve and the goals that are being said. Um,

803
00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 1: you mentioned the secret devot and having to read that book.

804
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 1: I had no. I read that book as well a

805
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 1: couple of years ago. It might it might be worth

806
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:28,320
Speaker 1: doing a little stift through again just to get a

807
00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 1: little refresher. But UM, we did pull some stuff from

808
00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:34,840
Speaker 1: that UM. One being visualizing what you have now, visualizing

809
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 1: what you want and in detail UM. And also being

810
00:40:37,680 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 1: able to see yourself in that place UM where you

811
00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:42,960
Speaker 1: want to be UM, and how making those goals are

812
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:44,960
Speaker 1: going to be real and achievable for you. And the

813
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 1: only person that you have to conceive, the only person

814
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:50,640
Speaker 1: that you have to convince that you're capable of this

815
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:53,439
Speaker 1: is yourself. And that's the truth. And it was funny.

816
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:56,439
Speaker 1: I learned this uh mountain biking. When we were in St.

817
00:40:56,520 --> 00:41:01,960
Speaker 1: Lucia mountain biking and people going down the mountains so fast,

818
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:05,080
Speaker 1: and there's a woman there, she's a professional mountain biker,

819
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 1: and she said, UM, don't look at the rock. And

820
00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 1: I was like, what the hell does that mean? She

821
00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:14,040
Speaker 1: was just like, every time I'm going down mountains with

822
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:17,040
Speaker 1: people and he hits fast, they look at the rock.

823
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 1: Because once you look at the rock, you go towards

824
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:22,239
Speaker 1: the rock and it don't matter how many times you say,

825
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 1: don't hit the rock, don't hit the rock, don't hit

826
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:25,719
Speaker 1: the rock. If you're focused on the rock, you're gonna

827
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 1: hit the rock. So she said, don't even look at

828
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:29,480
Speaker 1: the rock. The rock is not there. Look at the

829
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 1: path that you want to go. And that's what you

830
00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:35,360
Speaker 1: call visualizing. You visualize where you want to go away.

831
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 1: You see yourself because the universe is always conspiring in

832
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 1: your favor. So since the universe is always conspiring in

833
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:44,000
Speaker 1: your favor, if you're constantly thinking about the things you

834
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:45,759
Speaker 1: don't want to happen, you don't want to happen, it

835
00:41:45,800 --> 00:41:48,760
Speaker 1: doesn't that right. So all it is is just sending

836
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:50,319
Speaker 1: you all the stuff you don't want to happen. It's

837
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:52,880
Speaker 1: sending it to you, as opposed to saying I got this,

838
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 1: I got this, I got this, And I've exercised that

839
00:41:57,040 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 1: every time I thought about I don't know if I'm

840
00:41:58,440 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 1: gonna get this. I don't know if I'm gonna get this,

841
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 1: I don't know. I've been doing that recently. I've been

842
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 1: doing that recently with these new auditions and new stuff,

843
00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:07,719
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I got this, Like I absolutely got this.

844
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 1: Putting that out there, don't even think about it and

845
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: then in turn protect your energy because sometimes too, when

846
00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:15,880
Speaker 1: you know that, you're convincing yourself that you're capable and

847
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 1: that's the only thing that matters. We're kind of tuning

848
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:21,719
Speaker 1: out everybody else who may think otherwise and being concerned

849
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 1: with what other people think about you, your dreams and

850
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:27,280
Speaker 1: things that you're trying to achieve. So protecting your energy

851
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:31,680
Speaker 1: you UM. You know, what you resist will persist. I

852
00:42:31,840 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 1: like that what you resist will persist. The law of

853
00:42:34,960 --> 00:42:39,200
Speaker 1: attraction says that the universe does not process negatives, only energy,

854
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:41,719
Speaker 1: meaning that if you focus on what you don't want,

855
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 1: you will only continue to attract more of that thing

856
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:45,279
Speaker 1: that goes hand in hand with what we just said,

857
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 1: positivity goes a long way. Don't watch the rock. Don't

858
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:54,400
Speaker 1: watch the rock, keep your eyes on the pad, and

859
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 1: don't worry about how it's going to happen. Just no

860
00:42:56,520 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 1: one believed that it will. UM. So people take that

861
00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:02,400
Speaker 1: approach for here yourself, for the opportunities that you don't

862
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:06,960
Speaker 1: even know exist. Many of the best opportunities I've seen

863
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:10,880
Speaker 1: come from places and people in situations that you least expected.

864
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:14,080
Speaker 1: So don't let what you might see as a setback

865
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 1: discourage you from working towards your goals. This is very

866
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:20,320
Speaker 1: great stuff. I mean, it's it's I mean, we we

867
00:43:20,400 --> 00:43:22,840
Speaker 1: gave some great examples. And it's funny to hear somebody

868
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:25,640
Speaker 1: I put it down on paper, because as you go

869
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 1: through life, you don't put things down on paper. You

870
00:43:28,719 --> 00:43:31,319
Speaker 1: just do it. And I can see how doing these

871
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:34,359
Speaker 1: things for me, it's almost like the step by step. Yes,

872
00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:38,920
Speaker 1: it shows the measurables there for you. Give thanks, exude

873
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:42,759
Speaker 1: a positive attitude and attitude of gratitude, because when you're

874
00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 1: genuinely grateful for what you have today, you will start

875
00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 1: to see more clearly that you already have everything you

876
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 1: need to succeed. As though that's so dope, and it's

877
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:54,480
Speaker 1: so true. That is so true people. I feel like

878
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:59,400
Speaker 1: people who are genuinely humble, gracious people always get more stuff.

879
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:02,200
Speaker 1: Absolutely and and you know, I always talk about being

880
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 1: a spiritual person out of religious person. I feel like

881
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:08,000
Speaker 1: God has always given me more than I needed because

882
00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:10,000
Speaker 1: he knows that I'm always going to pay it for forward.

883
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 1: So and and it may sound crazy, but I feel

884
00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 1: like God will never let everyone go without, so he

885
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 1: knows that if he doesn't give me so many people

886
00:44:17,200 --> 00:44:18,879
Speaker 1: will go without because he knows what I can give.

887
00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:23,880
Speaker 1: I'm giving and that have come and gone through our household.

888
00:44:24,239 --> 00:44:26,880
Speaker 1: We think about the children that came through your mentorship

889
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:29,000
Speaker 1: program who used to come home with us some nights.

890
00:44:29,520 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 1: We used to feed them, give them lunch money, whatever

891
00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:34,960
Speaker 1: it was like, and never expecting anything in return or

892
00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:37,360
Speaker 1: wanting anything in return. We just knew that it was

893
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:38,840
Speaker 1: the right thing to do in that moment, and we

894
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:40,960
Speaker 1: genuinely wanted to do it because it was going to

895
00:44:41,080 --> 00:44:44,040
Speaker 1: better their situations somehow, even if it was just for

896
00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:46,279
Speaker 1: the day, yes, you know, if it was for the week,

897
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:48,279
Speaker 1: for the month. We need some single moms who needed

898
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:49,840
Speaker 1: some help with their kids pick up and it was

899
00:44:49,960 --> 00:44:52,319
Speaker 1: just like, that's just what we did it with us.

900
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:54,080
Speaker 1: We had Jackson in the back seat with us, and

901
00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:56,319
Speaker 1: we'd be trucking kids around like there were hours. As

902
00:44:56,320 --> 00:44:58,760
Speaker 1: I said, I've definitely had more than just three children.

903
00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:03,719
Speaker 1: You definitely about through our household. But it's funny to

904
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:07,360
Speaker 1: financially because sometimes people equate all this to finances. The

905
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 1: moment that we stopped worrying about our bank account is

906
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:13,400
Speaker 1: when our bank account always remained full, because I remember

907
00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:15,560
Speaker 1: it was times when I used to watch every nickel

908
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:17,799
Speaker 1: and diamond. This is going out, this is going out,

909
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 1: this is going out, and I only saw stuff going

910
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:22,360
Speaker 1: out that I wasn't allowing things to come in. And

911
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:25,959
Speaker 1: my my aunt Debbie gave me a parable about keeping

912
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 1: your hand closed. So he's like, when you have money

913
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:31,400
Speaker 1: in your hand, you feel so tight that you're not

914
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:33,480
Speaker 1: letting no money come out that you don't realize that

915
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:36,239
Speaker 1: you're not letting no money going either. So you gotta

916
00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 1: open up, you know, let the blessings flow and then flowing.

917
00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:40,800
Speaker 1: You gotta let the blessings out to let the blessings

918
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:44,440
Speaker 1: come in. So absolutely all right, there we go. So

919
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:46,719
Speaker 1: we're gonna take a quick break. We're gonna move into

920
00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 1: some listening letters when we get back after we deal

921
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:58,880
Speaker 1: with these ads. Baby, for sure they too this for

922
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:03,880
Speaker 1: the record, there it is a win for the ages.

923
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:09,720
Speaker 1: Tiger Woods is one of our most inspiring sports icons.

924
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:13,799
Speaker 1: In his story, it comes with many chapters. I am

925
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 1: deeply sorry from my irresponsible and selfish behavior, but here

926
00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 1: it is. They'll return to glory. This is All American,

927
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 1: a new series from Stitcher hosted by me Jordan Bell.

928
00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:33,760
Speaker 1: You realized Tiger Woos doesn't know who he is best

929
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:37,080
Speaker 1: in the history of Gaul, no question in my mind.

930
00:46:38,840 --> 00:46:41,440
Speaker 1: And this season, with the help of journalist Albert Chen,

931
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 1: we're asking what if the story of Tiger Woods that

932
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:51,360
Speaker 1: the media has been telling, what if it's been completely wrong?

933
00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:55,360
Speaker 1: All American Tiger is out now listen in Stitcher, Apple

934
00:46:55,440 --> 00:47:04,560
Speaker 1: Podcasts or your favorite podcast app. All right, and it's

935
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:06,920
Speaker 1: our last bit of listener letters for this season. Thank

936
00:47:06,960 --> 00:47:09,759
Speaker 1: you to everybody who's reading, who's wrote in um to

937
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:12,360
Speaker 1: our email and told us a little bit about you know,

938
00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 1: your situation. So to close out for the season, UM,

939
00:47:16,440 --> 00:47:19,120
Speaker 1: we have this one here. I'm a twenty six year

940
00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:22,360
Speaker 1: old single millennial woman who is literally just trying to

941
00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:25,799
Speaker 1: figure out life. I know, still trying to figure it out. Girl.

942
00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:30,320
Speaker 1: I did everything quote unquote right, went to college, graduated

943
00:47:30,360 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 1: with honors on time. My mom wasn't playing with me,

944
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:36,439
Speaker 1: got a job in advertising and marketing, and went back

945
00:47:36,480 --> 00:47:39,479
Speaker 1: to grad school and graduated while still working full time.

946
00:47:40,040 --> 00:47:42,239
Speaker 1: I know, I'm very blessed, but as my birthday is

947
00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:44,560
Speaker 1: coming up, I've been thinking more and more lately about

948
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 1: what I want my life to look like and what

949
00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:50,719
Speaker 1: I really want. I just don't want to live in

950
00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:53,719
Speaker 1: ordinary life when I feel like I'm destined for more.

951
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:57,880
Speaker 1: Number One, one of my goals has always been to

952
00:47:57,960 --> 00:48:00,880
Speaker 1: become a TV media personality. Know, you both created your

953
00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:05,600
Speaker 1: careers and dreams from the ground with nothing. I podcast

954
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:07,920
Speaker 1: with a friend and I've started to put myself out

955
00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:10,120
Speaker 1: there more. I know it's going to take time, and

956
00:48:10,200 --> 00:48:12,440
Speaker 1: I'm more than happy to do the work. What tips

957
00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:15,120
Speaker 1: or suggestions, what would give to someone who is building

958
00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:17,239
Speaker 1: their dream career from the ground up and want to

959
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:22,000
Speaker 1: be in the media industry. Okay, that's our first So

960
00:48:22,080 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 1: it sounds like you're starting to do the right things. Yeah,

961
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:27,800
Speaker 1: I mean this is the first part. You work. Obviously,

962
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:30,600
Speaker 1: you have a great job, you have your degrees. Okay,

963
00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:32,800
Speaker 1: so I would say start. The number one thing is

964
00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:36,839
Speaker 1: put some money aside. Put some money aside, and put

965
00:48:36,920 --> 00:48:39,719
Speaker 1: this as your savings for when you decide to take

966
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:41,360
Speaker 1: the leap, because at some point you're gonna have to

967
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:43,840
Speaker 1: take the leap and put yourself out there to not

968
00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 1: do both. So as long as you have the money

969
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:49,880
Speaker 1: and you have the opportunity and resources to do that,

970
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:52,160
Speaker 1: you know you'll feel more comfortable doing it. First thing,

971
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:55,120
Speaker 1: you start putting some money aside. That's number one. Number two,

972
00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:57,840
Speaker 1: find out exactly what it is you want to do

973
00:48:57,960 --> 00:49:03,320
Speaker 1: in TV media before you to make that transition. You

974
00:49:03,360 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 1: can't just say TV media right to decide what you

975
00:49:06,200 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 1: want to do. Find out if there's a craft involved

976
00:49:09,239 --> 00:49:12,360
Speaker 1: or learning with that, because you have to respect the

977
00:49:12,400 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 1: craft of that work. You can't just say I want

978
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 1: to do this and go and go start doing it.

979
00:49:16,040 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to learn about it for people to

980
00:49:17,760 --> 00:49:20,239
Speaker 1: respect you and give you opportunities. Absolutely, and they may

981
00:49:20,280 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 1: not require like a ton of schooling or anything, but

982
00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:25,120
Speaker 1: it may be you know, a class or two that

983
00:49:25,239 --> 00:49:27,120
Speaker 1: you would have to take just to kind of, you know,

984
00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:29,680
Speaker 1: have that under your belt your resume. Say, for example,

985
00:49:29,760 --> 00:49:33,279
Speaker 1: like when I did entertainment hosting UM with the Hot Zone.

986
00:49:33,840 --> 00:49:36,520
Speaker 1: You know that's something that I reached out to someone about.

987
00:49:36,640 --> 00:49:38,440
Speaker 1: That could be Number three. Start to reach out to

988
00:49:38,560 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 1: people who are already in the industry who um may

989
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 1: know the right avenue for you. Once you figured out

990
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:45,879
Speaker 1: where exactly you want to be, So you don't want

991
00:49:45,880 --> 00:49:47,239
Speaker 1: to just be broad in that, Oh I just want

992
00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:49,200
Speaker 1: to do television, Oh I just want to do media work.

993
00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:52,240
Speaker 1: Where exactly do you want to fall into that category

994
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:54,680
Speaker 1: and then find out the right people that you can

995
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:56,520
Speaker 1: align yourself with and know that sometimes you have to

996
00:49:56,600 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 1: do that work without pay in the very ahead, because

997
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:03,040
Speaker 1: I've been there, I've been working with say just to

998
00:50:03,120 --> 00:50:05,840
Speaker 1: be able to get that real you know, um, be

999
00:50:05,960 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 1: able to get that footage of yourself doing it so

1000
00:50:08,239 --> 00:50:10,479
Speaker 1: you can have that as your proof, like a proof

1001
00:50:10,480 --> 00:50:12,399
Speaker 1: of concept. With anything you need, people need to see

1002
00:50:12,440 --> 00:50:15,160
Speaker 1: it to believe it. Um, So go ahead. That's three

1003
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:17,360
Speaker 1: and four find the right people, and then four be

1004
00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:20,799
Speaker 1: willing to work towards it without pay. That's why number

1005
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:23,279
Speaker 1: one makes sense. Save some money, um, and just do it.

1006
00:50:23,360 --> 00:50:25,680
Speaker 1: Put yourself out there. You have so many different avenues

1007
00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:29,280
Speaker 1: that you can use at this point, you have no excuses.

1008
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:32,239
Speaker 1: You have the podcast, there's so many social media outlets, um,

1009
00:50:32,520 --> 00:50:36,279
Speaker 1: different websites, I mean really to get into television and

1010
00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:39,600
Speaker 1: media and film. At this point you have so many

1011
00:50:39,680 --> 00:50:41,440
Speaker 1: routes to do that. So just keep at it, and

1012
00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:43,080
Speaker 1: you've got to be persistent and get used to hearing. No.

1013
00:50:43,320 --> 00:50:46,720
Speaker 1: Number five rejection is how much percent of the business.

1014
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:49,799
Speaker 1: They say fifty, but I feel like it's more like ninety. Yeah,

1015
00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:52,560
Speaker 1: it's like you're gonna hear no a ton of no more,

1016
00:50:52,640 --> 00:50:54,719
Speaker 1: and it takes one years for the floodgates open up.

1017
00:50:54,760 --> 00:50:57,759
Speaker 1: So that's it, the right I like that baby you

1018
00:50:57,840 --> 00:50:59,840
Speaker 1: gave for five things, And when when that feel like

1019
00:51:00,120 --> 00:51:02,600
Speaker 1: opens and you get the opportunity, capital capitalize on it

1020
00:51:02,880 --> 00:51:04,800
Speaker 1: for sure and be ready, all right and moving on

1021
00:51:04,960 --> 00:51:08,080
Speaker 1: to our second listen to a better question. I've been

1022
00:51:08,120 --> 00:51:10,120
Speaker 1: with my boyfriend for four years. We have a one

1023
00:51:10,160 --> 00:51:12,359
Speaker 1: and a half year old daughter. He's a great man

1024
00:51:12,560 --> 00:51:15,080
Speaker 1: and a wonderful father. However, I feel like we're stuck

1025
00:51:15,120 --> 00:51:17,640
Speaker 1: in the standstill. I work, I go to college and

1026
00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:20,080
Speaker 1: take care at home, and he works, helps out with

1027
00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:22,720
Speaker 1: our daughter. But I feel like he's lost his drive.

1028
00:51:23,320 --> 00:51:25,839
Speaker 1: He doesn't like to do family activities. He hasn't made

1029
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:29,879
Speaker 1: any moves for our future, no career moves. He used

1030
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 1: to dream of being a writer and director. Him being

1031
00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:37,160
Speaker 1: stuck with this in the slump makes me frustrated, and

1032
00:51:37,280 --> 00:51:39,840
Speaker 1: it's sort of pushing us apart. Any advice on this,

1033
00:51:40,360 --> 00:51:43,920
Speaker 1: many blessings to you guys, Thank you man. This just

1034
00:51:44,000 --> 00:51:46,879
Speaker 1: sounds so familiar with people who um like we talked

1035
00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:50,080
Speaker 1: about early in the episode purpose, finding your purpose. He

1036
00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:53,399
Speaker 1: may not know how to get into being a writer

1037
00:51:53,600 --> 00:51:55,759
Speaker 1: or a director, and that can be frustrating and also

1038
00:51:55,840 --> 00:51:58,160
Speaker 1: put you in a little state of depression when even

1039
00:51:58,200 --> 00:52:00,359
Speaker 1: if you're working and you're making good money, but you're

1040
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:02,560
Speaker 1: not doing what makes you happy. It makes you feel

1041
00:52:02,560 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 1: like you're not living out your your life's purpose. And

1042
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:09,480
Speaker 1: then ultimately us his family start to feel the effects

1043
00:52:09,520 --> 00:52:13,080
Speaker 1: of that because he's not happy within himself, absolutely, and

1044
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:16,200
Speaker 1: he's in a field, like we said before, acting, writing, directing,

1045
00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:19,000
Speaker 1: all of that, that industry is just so difficult to

1046
00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:22,440
Speaker 1: break into. And um, there's, like you said, there's a

1047
00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:25,120
Speaker 1: lot of nose before you get that, Yes, and there's

1048
00:52:25,120 --> 00:52:28,000
Speaker 1: a lot of you know, putting things into works and

1049
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:29,960
Speaker 1: into motion and waiting for it to happen, and preparing

1050
00:52:30,000 --> 00:52:32,000
Speaker 1: for it to happen to only hear the know or

1051
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:34,920
Speaker 1: things not being green lit, or just any little thing

1052
00:52:35,040 --> 00:52:38,200
Speaker 1: that could potentially be a roadblock. So it's understandable. I

1053
00:52:38,360 --> 00:52:40,400
Speaker 1: get it. Um. I also too have been on the

1054
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:43,200
Speaker 1: side where I've seen the frustration and devout for example,

1055
00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:45,799
Speaker 1: you know, working the jobs that he didn't necessarily want

1056
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:48,960
Speaker 1: to work, but he had to work just to be

1057
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 1: able to make a way for him to do what

1058
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:53,920
Speaker 1: he really loved. It's frustrating, So it can be frustrating.

1059
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:55,880
Speaker 1: We both went through that. I remember in two thousand

1060
00:52:55,920 --> 00:52:59,400
Speaker 1: and seven. Um, this was my second year in the NFL.

1061
00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:01,319
Speaker 1: I was making a lot of money. Code was at home.

1062
00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:03,279
Speaker 1: She wasn't working. She was like a stay at home,

1063
00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:06,680
Speaker 1: kept a girlfriend, and she was in a state of depression.

1064
00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:09,040
Speaker 1: She was like, I want to do TV and she

1065
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Speaker 1: talked about going back to New York while I was

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Speaker 1: in Michigan because she just was not happy not doing

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Speaker 1: what she wanted to do. UM. The first thing I'll

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Speaker 1: tell you is that it has nothing to do with you.

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Speaker 1: If you know that that's what the issue is, don't

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00:53:20,120 --> 00:53:24,160
Speaker 1: don't say, oh, I'm not doing something right, don't internalize that.

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Speaker 1: But what you can do is speak to him about it.

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Speaker 1: Tell him you recognize it, and say how can I

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Speaker 1: help you get to where you want to be? You know,

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Speaker 1: as far as doing the things you want to do,

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Speaker 1: that still may not guarantee his happiness, but if you

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Speaker 1: take an active step into helping him get there, maybe

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Speaker 1: you find some writing classes or some directed classes, or

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Speaker 1: or you find out ways for for him to you know,

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Speaker 1: start taking that step to chase that dream, maybe to

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Speaker 1: help him get out of that phone. Yeah, and it

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Speaker 1: seems like you're doing a lot at home to you know,

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Speaker 1: you work, he said, you go to school, you take

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Speaker 1: care of home. He helps with the daughter. Um, so

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Speaker 1: maybe too, like you said, since it seems like you're

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Speaker 1: willing to help, and you are helping, you know, being

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Speaker 1: able to say, baby, is there anything you want me

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00:54:04,800 --> 00:54:06,319
Speaker 1: to help your research or look up like you think

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00:54:06,360 --> 00:54:07,840
Speaker 1: about when Devo was like, yeah, I'm going to be

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Speaker 1: a stunt doublefore Mari and I was like, well, you

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Speaker 1: don't do stunts, but all right, let's google this's and

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00:54:11,719 --> 00:54:14,560
Speaker 1: figure it out together. You know. Um, sometimes that little

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00:54:14,560 --> 00:54:16,600
Speaker 1: bit of support or maybe the excitement and you or

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00:54:16,680 --> 00:54:18,719
Speaker 1: you just saying, you know, I recognize that you seem

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00:54:18,760 --> 00:54:20,200
Speaker 1: to be in a little slump. Is there anything that

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00:54:20,280 --> 00:54:22,279
Speaker 1: I can do to help you? Or you know, maybe

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00:54:22,360 --> 00:54:23,960
Speaker 1: we can do this together, or I can help you

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00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 1: jump started that might help. The lastly, the most important

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Speaker 1: thing I need to tell you guys is that this

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Speaker 1: is normal. A lot of people walking around in the

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Speaker 1: world today don't know what their life's purposes and they

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00:54:35,040 --> 00:54:38,000
Speaker 1: are feeling a state of frustration on in depression, especially

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Speaker 1: amongst millennials, because millennials, unlike our parents or the generation

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00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:45,440
Speaker 1: before us, we were taught differently. The generation before us

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00:54:45,520 --> 00:54:48,920
Speaker 1: was taught that you get a job, you work, weeks vacation,

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Speaker 1: and that's life. And when you die, you go to

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00:54:51,160 --> 00:54:53,799
Speaker 1: heaven because you pay your taxes. That's what they were taught.

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Speaker 1: Now our generation has been taught that you're not happy

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Speaker 1: unless you're living your life's purpose. So there are a

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Speaker 1: lot of people walking around, working, doing well who aren't happy.

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Speaker 1: So don't feel like what you're going through is not

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00:55:06,640 --> 00:55:09,920
Speaker 1: normal or that you guys aren't making so normal. Some

1112
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Speaker 1: of the people you look at, look up to the most,

1113
00:55:12,360 --> 00:55:14,919
Speaker 1: have gone through that are going through that, So don't

1114
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:17,560
Speaker 1: be so hard on yourself. Continue to talk, be transparent,

1115
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Speaker 1: and figure it out together. For sure. Definitely, Oh my goodness,

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Speaker 1: Season two is a rap that went so fast. Are

1117
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:27,840
Speaker 1: you gonna cry like you did at the end of

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00:55:27,920 --> 00:55:32,160
Speaker 1: season one? Yeah, we love you guys so much and

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Speaker 1: we thank you all for listening. Um, you know, and

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Speaker 1: continue to follow us and continue to write in listener

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00:55:37,760 --> 00:55:39,400
Speaker 1: letters just because the season is over and on me,

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00:55:39,520 --> 00:55:43,520
Speaker 1: we still the email box is still open, and go

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Speaker 1: ahead and email so keep emailing us because we will

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Speaker 1: be back with season three and will be digging up

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Speaker 1: you know, some receipts and some emails. So continue to

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00:55:52,200 --> 00:55:53,640
Speaker 1: um to write in, and if you want to be

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Speaker 1: featured for one of our listener letters, email us at

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Speaker 1: dead ass Advice at gmail dot com. Yes, all right,

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Speaker 1: moment of truth. Do you have a moment truth for

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Speaker 1: this season or this episode, or just anything in your

1131
00:56:06,360 --> 00:56:09,720
Speaker 1: heart that you want to say, or any good things

1132
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Speaker 1: moment of truth good people out there, here's the moment

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Speaker 1: of truth for me. I'll let you do a moment

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00:56:15,560 --> 00:56:21,480
Speaker 1: of truth for just yourself. I have accomplished everything this

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Speaker 1: year that I wanted to accomplish, as far as TV, podcast,

1136
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Speaker 1: social media. I didn't get you pregnant. But I'll say

1137
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Speaker 1: this man's mind, I have accomplished everything that I put

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Speaker 1: my mind to this year, in part because my mindset

1139
00:56:43,400 --> 00:56:46,080
Speaker 1: from last year. From the beginning, from the middle of

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Speaker 1: summer last year, I started saying to myself, I'm going to.

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00:56:50,680 --> 00:56:54,400
Speaker 1: I stopped saying I wonder if or I hope. I

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00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:58,759
Speaker 1: started seeing last year in our house next year, I'm

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00:56:58,840 --> 00:57:00,719
Speaker 1: going to, And I started to put the work in

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Speaker 1: to say every day I'm putting the energy into getting that,

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Speaker 1: and I got it. And I want everybody who listens

1146
00:57:07,080 --> 00:57:09,640
Speaker 1: to that as podcast to apply that to your life

1147
00:57:09,680 --> 00:57:11,640
Speaker 1: and get everything on the life that you want because

1148
00:57:11,640 --> 00:57:14,480
Speaker 1: you deserve it, because you're all fucking dope. There you go.

1149
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Speaker 1: I love that. Look at you. I love that, and

1150
00:57:17,040 --> 00:57:20,960
Speaker 1: I love you, and UM, let's see my moment of truth. UM.

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00:57:21,240 --> 00:57:26,720
Speaker 1: I'm going to speak as Cadeine UM who has had

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Speaker 1: her children, and I am loving and living in the

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00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 1: moment with my children. I have an amazing husband, we

1154
00:57:34,160 --> 00:57:39,320
Speaker 1: are doing things together. Here is to me closing out

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Speaker 1: this year accomplishing so much that I've set out to do,

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00:57:43,400 --> 00:57:47,720
Speaker 1: but also knowing that if I continue to work aggressively

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Speaker 1: towards my goals, if I continue to speak these things

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00:57:51,440 --> 00:57:55,720
Speaker 1: into existence literally UM, just channeling them, to have an

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Speaker 1: amazing two thousand, twenty UM, and I'm prepared to do

1160
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Speaker 1: that with you by my side, and our boys following

1161
00:58:03,040 --> 00:58:05,560
Speaker 1: closely behind, and all of our family and friends around.

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Speaker 1: I'm just super super grateful, um, for the year that

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00:58:08,720 --> 00:58:14,280
Speaker 1: we've had. We've relocated so many major big moments and

1164
00:58:14,440 --> 00:58:17,680
Speaker 1: moves and and hills and valleys, but I'm just thankful

1165
00:58:17,760 --> 00:58:20,720
Speaker 1: for the ride, and I'm thankful for everyone who listens

1166
00:58:20,960 --> 00:58:23,840
Speaker 1: and who continues to share and comment, And like, I mean,

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00:58:24,440 --> 00:58:28,800
Speaker 1: every victory that we have had, collectively or individually, um,

1168
00:58:28,960 --> 00:58:31,360
Speaker 1: is that much more impactful for us because we've had

1169
00:58:31,480 --> 00:58:34,920
Speaker 1: a host of online I feel like family and friends

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00:58:35,000 --> 00:58:37,720
Speaker 1: who are continuously rooting for us, and I feel like

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00:58:37,720 --> 00:58:39,920
Speaker 1: we get sometimes more support from them than people that

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00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:43,840
Speaker 1: we know. And yeah, and it's insane and it's been great,

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Speaker 1: And in my moment of truth, I'm thanking you and

1174
00:58:46,880 --> 00:58:48,720
Speaker 1: I'm reflecting on that, and i want you to know

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00:58:48,800 --> 00:58:51,840
Speaker 1: that it's never taken for granted and it's always appreciated.

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00:58:52,320 --> 00:58:54,440
Speaker 1: And we love you guys, and we look forward to

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Speaker 1: more seasons with you. So make sure you follow us

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Speaker 1: on our social media. That's I Am Devout and Cadine

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Speaker 1: I Am. And if you're listening on Apple Podcasts, be

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Speaker 1: sure to rate, review and subscribe. Continue to listen. Man,

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Speaker 1: it's a wrap on season two. We'll be on a

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Speaker 1: little bit of a hiatus, but we'll be back very

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Speaker 1: soon with more to talk about more amazing guests and

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Speaker 1: marketing and dest dead Ass is a production of Stitcher.

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Speaker 1: content officer is Chris Bannon. Our associate produces are Kristin

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Speaker 1: Torres and Trouble. Our studio engineer and original music is

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Speaker 1: by Brendan Burns and mixed by Andy, Christine's daughter. We're back.

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Speaker 1: podcast going on right now as part as the Stitching Net.

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