Speaker 1: I Suck Good Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jerry and
Speaker 1: I Heart Radio Podcast. Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining us on this week's
Speaker 1: episode of help That I Suck It Dating. I don't
Speaker 1: know where I was going with it, and then I
Speaker 1: just decided to keep on firing. Do you know do
Speaker 1: you speak into other languages? Can you say hello on
Speaker 1: another languagela? Ola? Hellap uh? That's tih Wait say that again?
Speaker 1: So what doesn't sound how at? Crop or I can't
Speaker 1: remember over? That's thank you cop crop crop. Anyways, we're
Speaker 1: gonna mix it up a little bit this episode. We
Speaker 1: want to just dive int sae emails right away. We
Speaker 1: got some guests later on. We're gonna have Brittany from
Speaker 1: Tim Taylor Tasian Island. We're gonna have Melissa Brown um
Speaker 1: to discuss relationships, and we're gonna have Erica. I'm going
Speaker 1: to butcher this last name Kaibartes in here as well.
Speaker 1: I think that's how you say it. Who is a matchmaker?
Speaker 1: So um, we're going to dive into all those guests
Speaker 1: a little bit later. Before we do that, I figured,
Speaker 1: you know, why not, we'll stir up a little bit.
Speaker 1: Because if there's anything that time has proven is that
Speaker 1: if you defy convention, good things happen. And that's what
Speaker 1: we're doing right now. We've never opened with emails. No,
Speaker 1: it's probably gonna the number one listened to the episode. Well,
Speaker 1: here's Alice. She wants to know. She says, I chose
Speaker 1: to pursue a career that has been my lifelong passion. However,
Speaker 1: I have never been in a relationship. Dean, from what
Speaker 1: I understand, you feel a similar way. But do you
Speaker 1: think you will ever reach a point where you're completely
Speaker 1: satisfied with who you are and where you're at in life?
Speaker 1: Then she asked the question to Jared, but I'll he's
Speaker 1: not here today, but I'll throw this out to both
Speaker 1: of you as well. The Alice points out that when
Speaker 1: Ashley first one on The Bachelor, she had never been
Speaker 1: in a relationship at twenty six. Would you say that
Speaker 1: before you got to know her? That was a turn
Speaker 1: off for a red flag? So I'd ask you, guys,
Speaker 1: if you met somebody who was in there late twenties
Speaker 1: at least it has never been in a relationship, would
Speaker 1: that be a red flag to you? Probably? Since the
Speaker 1: short and sweet and simple answer. Hold on, what's your
Speaker 1: definition of a relationship? For me has to be at
Speaker 1: least like a year or two year relationship. If it's like,
Speaker 1: I don't think that you can define someone else's relationship.
Speaker 1: I think if someone says, yeah, I used to have
Speaker 1: a girlfriend, nition is yeah. But I mean I can
Speaker 1: say I had a boyfriend for a month, but that's
Speaker 1: just someone that I was casually dating for a month.
Speaker 1: So what I would have to know what is being
Speaker 1: a relationship? In my opinion, it's when you put the
Speaker 1: label on. It is when you start calling someone your
Speaker 1: girlfriend or when you start to consider yourself their boyfriend. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but let's say you're dating someone for three months. You
Speaker 1: think a three month relationship is the same thing as
Speaker 1: a one year relationship, So you don't have you don't
Speaker 1: go through like the waves of the ups and downs
Speaker 1: as opposed to someone who is dating a significant or
Speaker 1: significant other for an extended period of time. So anyways,
Speaker 1: my point is, yeah, it would be a little bit
Speaker 1: of a red flag. Well, it depends on the relationship.
Speaker 1: I think there can be very intense, powerful three month
Speaker 1: relationships and there could be very casual three year relationships. True,
Speaker 1: very true, right. I do want to point out earlier
Speaker 1: in the email, she says that her and I are
Speaker 1: similar because she chose to pursue a career that's been
Speaker 1: her lifelong passion, and so she's never been in a relationship.
Speaker 1: We don't really have that in common. I usually you'm
Speaker 1: pointing that out, and here we go, we started the
Speaker 1: episode again. That's not even self deprecation. That's why I've
Speaker 1: been very vocal about my um my moving through life
Speaker 1: very ambiguously and uncertainly of where I'm going to be next.
Speaker 1: Um So, I think that she's kind of saying she
Speaker 1: make the relationships take a back seat to her career,
Speaker 1: which is fine. I love women who are pursuing their
Speaker 1: careers as opposed to pursuing and looking for their significant
Speaker 1: other or men or whatever. Just you know, I think nowadays,
Speaker 1: in nineteen, we shouldn't only be focusing on love. We
Speaker 1: should be focusing on things that make us happy and
Speaker 1: internally we can give that love back and to circle
Speaker 1: it background. I think what Alice is saying is now
Speaker 1: I am focusing on traveling and doing the things that
Speaker 1: I've always wanted to do, and by that by working
Speaker 1: on myself and finding love with myself is will help
Speaker 1: me find love downline. I think that's what she's saying,
Speaker 1: because that's kind of what she mentioned later on. I've
Speaker 1: only just started do that recently, so I guess when
Speaker 1: I think of a career, I think of it since
Speaker 1: I was eighteen years old. But I do see what
Speaker 1: you saying. I guess I do agree with her. I
Speaker 1: think that's perfectly great. I think that there's there's that
Speaker 1: famous quote, fall in love when you're ready, not when
Speaker 1: you're lonely, And if you're pursuing something that you're very
Speaker 1: passionate about, like your career, you'll always you'll never be
Speaker 1: lonely because you will always have that that you're working on,
Speaker 1: striving for to be better at, and then when love comes,
Speaker 1: you're ready for it. We had a quote yesterday and
Speaker 1: scrubbing In that seemed to strike a chord with a
Speaker 1: lot of the scrubbing in listeners the scrubbers as we
Speaker 1: call them, and it was needing nothing attracts everything. I mean,
Speaker 1: if you are completely happy with where you are and
Speaker 1: what you are and who you are, then that is
Speaker 1: a very attractive quality to have, not somebody who's kinds
Speaker 1: of the look of a relationship who's still working on themselves,
Speaker 1: that sort of thing, focus on you first. That's great.
Speaker 1: I love that. I don't know why I didn't think
Speaker 1: of that. Dang, it all upset myself. Jasmine sends this
Speaker 1: and she says, I really identify with what Dean has
Speaker 1: said about feeling non monogamous. In my ideal partnership, I
Speaker 1: will be open to intimacy with other people, probably friends,
Speaker 1: but not always. I started seeing someone I really love
Speaker 1: spending time with, but during a casual conversation, he expressed
Speaker 1: that he is monogamous. We've only been dating for a month,
Speaker 1: but it feels so good. But is it fair for
Speaker 1: me to keep dating him knowing that I truly think
Speaker 1: I'm non monogamous. I think it's fair. I think I
Speaker 1: wonder if maybe an a monogamous person in a non
Speaker 1: miss person could still date. I don't see it would
Speaker 1: be challenging. I certainly think it'll present its challenges, but
Speaker 1: I don't think it's impossible. I hear scoffing from Canada.
Speaker 1: Uh No, anxiety just kicked in. I wouldn't be able
Speaker 1: to date someone who isn't wired the same way I'm wired.
Speaker 1: In terms of being monogamous. Sure, I'm not I'm not. Again,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying it's ideal. I don't think it's going
Speaker 1: to be easy, but I think it's certainly possible, especially
Speaker 1: if he's open to it. Maybe his monogamy lies in
Speaker 1: the fact that he doesn't want to stray to others,
Speaker 1: but he doesn't mind if his partners strays to others stray.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's a loose term in that sense, but he's
Speaker 1: open to like letting her do her thing, but he's
Speaker 1: gonna stay monogamous himself, you know what I mean, M boy.
Speaker 1: I don't think a monogamus person could handle that. Like
Speaker 1: I said, I think it would be challenging, but I
Speaker 1: don't think it's entirely off the table. Could a non
Speaker 1: monogamous person find the person that makes them a monogamoust? Sure? Probably? Yeah? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Um well, Dean, do you feel that way? Do you
Speaker 1: feel like right now you're in a state of not
Speaker 1: really wanting to be monogamous? Would if someone that you're like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, this person is my ideal person blah
Speaker 1: blah blah blah, whoever it is, and they want to
Speaker 1: have a monogamous relationship, would you months. Okay, No, I'm kidding.
Speaker 1: I'm kidding. Um. It's funny because i've actually ever since
Speaker 1: obviously we talked about initially on this podcast a couple
Speaker 1: of months ago. I bring it up with friends, uh
Speaker 1: female friends, and I always say, hey, would you ever
Speaker 1: consider being in a polyamorous relationship? That's what it's called polyamorous, right,
Speaker 1: I guess is that when you have multiple partners, like
Speaker 1: you're all like a thruples when a woman has more
Speaker 1: than one husband, and polygan miss is what a man
Speaker 1: is more than one wife. So what would be the
Speaker 1: same if like both partners have multiple partners? I guess.
Speaker 1: I guess The question that I always ask is would
Speaker 1: you be interested in a polly or would you be
Speaker 1: open to the idea of a polly relationship? Because that
Speaker 1: on a date, not of you on date. It's just
Speaker 1: like friends with lifelong friends of like you know obviously
Speaker 1: females who are dating all that kind of stuff. Um,
Speaker 1: and you know obviously they know my uh tainted track
Speaker 1: record with dating and how challenging it's been for me
Speaker 1: to be in these monogamous relationships. So I asked them openly,
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, what are your thoughts on a polly relationship,
Speaker 1: and every single one of them is absolutely not. They
Speaker 1: always say absolutely Now I know someone who is right
Speaker 1: now kind of dating someone who is not really monogamous,
Speaker 1: and I I love the amount of honesty that goes
Speaker 1: on in those kinds of relationships, because when you're in
Speaker 1: a monogamous relationship, there's all these like unwritten rules that
Speaker 1: you think apply to every relationship. But then when you're
Speaker 1: in an open one, you you're open, You're you're kind
Speaker 1: of forced to being open about things that you're doing
Speaker 1: with other partners that may potentially That's all it boils
Speaker 1: down to at the end of day's communication. And it's
Speaker 1: a challenge most challenging part because we're conditioned to like
Speaker 1: think that we're supposed to be monogamous, whether it's biological
Speaker 1: or whatever. I'm not here to argue that point. But
Speaker 1: if you if you have thoughts about other people and
Speaker 1: you're in a monogamous relationship or conditioned to think that
Speaker 1: we should keep those thoughts secret, and then we should
Speaker 1: share those shots thoughts with a partner, And if you
Speaker 1: have them and you start sharing them, you gotta be
Speaker 1: a challenging conversation. But it could ultimately lead to I
Speaker 1: don't know, better feelings for each other and and just
Speaker 1: maybe happy yes for everyone involved. But again it's challenging.
Speaker 1: I don't know, Like like the non monogamous thing is, uh,
Speaker 1: it has to be done right. There's a lot of
Speaker 1: rules that need to be late and I believe it
Speaker 1: has to be done right. Um. So for Jasmine in
Speaker 1: her case, like she said, she's seeing someone that's monogamous
Speaker 1: and she really likes him, but she thinks she's polly.
Speaker 1: Um tell him absolutely, There's there's no getting around that.
Speaker 1: And unless you don't want to tell him, because here's
Speaker 1: the thing, you're not gonna want to talent, because he's
Speaker 1: gonna leave. He's not gonna be But I doubt he
Speaker 1: leaves is my thing. I don't think leave. I really don't. Okay,
Speaker 1: but if you're, if you're happy now, I wonder if
Speaker 1: you drop that grenade on him right now, because maybe
Speaker 1: you keep that to yourself and see where this goes,
Speaker 1: because maybe this is the guy. But what happened, But
Speaker 1: what happened in the Mark that always used to say,
Speaker 1: be yourself, be open and honest, even with your shortcomings,
Speaker 1: and then let the people that are gonna love you
Speaker 1: for those shortcomings, love you for their shortcoming, because I
Speaker 1: don't think that being a nonmonogamist, And maybe this is
Speaker 1: me being insensitive, and I'm sorry if that's the case.
Speaker 1: I don't see it as a shortcoming. I also don't
Speaker 1: see it as a trait as a I'm gay, I'm straight,
Speaker 1: I'm Christian. You know, there are certain things about you
Speaker 1: that are kind of set in some degree of stone.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure nonmonogamy is set in stone. I really
Speaker 1: don't like anything you just said. I'll be honest. Do
Speaker 1: you feel like if you didn't have any of those experiences,
Speaker 1: would you you be open to just being monogamous? Because
Speaker 1: I feel like you've been jaded, and you've been jaded
Speaker 1: because of you know, some things that you've gone through
Speaker 1: in the bashelor world and personal things like that. Do
Speaker 1: you feel like if those experiences haven't hadn't happened to you,
Speaker 1: you would want to be open to monogamy. At the
Speaker 1: end of the day, it's not something I'm not open
Speaker 1: to monogamy. It's just that we all go through phases
Speaker 1: in life, right and right now, I'm in a phase
Speaker 1: where being in a relationship doesn't interest me, not for
Speaker 1: the fact of monogamy, but for the fact that it
Speaker 1: can kind of put restrictions on the lifestyle that I
Speaker 1: want to live. I eat, traveling and going skydiving and
Speaker 1: what it do. I understand what you're saying, but I'm
Speaker 1: just saying that the main driving factor for me to
Speaker 1: not want to be in a relationship right now isn't monogamy. Well,
Speaker 1: monogamy is a fear on the list. It's not number one.
Speaker 1: It's not the one reason preventing me from wanting to
Speaker 1: be in a relationship with someone. And then when I
Speaker 1: when I have conversations with people at seeing that they're
Speaker 1: open to Paulli, it's it's more so for me to
Speaker 1: just kind of probe and understand people's reactions to that
Speaker 1: a little bit better because it's such a new thought
Speaker 1: to me at least to be vocal about, you know,
Speaker 1: Explain to me, Um, you just referred to it as
Speaker 1: a phase, which is all I was kind of saying,
Speaker 1: is this could be a phase you're going through. Explain
Speaker 1: to me, just like being gay or being Christian. No,
Speaker 1: I don't see those as phases. Maybe I misinterpreted so
Speaker 1: you'd misinterpreted. He's saying that it's not like I guess,
Speaker 1: like a label, right, is that what you're saying? More,
Speaker 1: I'm saying that whether you're gay, or you're straight, or
Speaker 1: your Christian or your Jewish, those things are fairly set
Speaker 1: in stone. I don't think non monogamy is necessarily Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I kind of see what you're saying, but I still
Speaker 1: don't necessary more of a phase where I don't see
Speaker 1: those other things as phases. I feel like those are
Speaker 1: lifelong commitment. Okay, okay, okay, yep, now that makes sense
Speaker 1: to me. Okay, all right, I can't for the day
Speaker 1: Dean comes in. He's like, oh my god, I'm in
Speaker 1: love with so and so, and you're never gonna want
Speaker 1: to go on another day with anyone. I mean. The
Speaker 1: thing with me, though, is I fall in love very
Speaker 1: easily and quickly, but then I fall out of it
Speaker 1: just as quick. I don't know. I have addiction to
Speaker 1: My therapist told me I have an addiction to novelty,
Speaker 1: and I still think that's true. I love experiencing new
Speaker 1: things and then when they're no longer a novelty to me, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's interested in like a sister wife situation. You're interested
Speaker 1: in seeing a person for a while and then another
Speaker 1: person for a while. The novelty of new people. Right,
Speaker 1: it's not even people, but yeah people places things. Yeah, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: And I know that's not fair, like it's it's unfair
Speaker 1: to bring someone into that situation. Um, but yeah. My
Speaker 1: therapist told me that she's, yeah, you have an addiction,
Speaker 1: addiction and novelty. And I was like, I try to
Speaker 1: like she was like racking my brain to try to
Speaker 1: argue with her, and I couldn't come up with an argument.
Speaker 1: I was like, all right, let's take a quick break
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Speaker 1: who's from As Mark said, it's just welts are you there? Hi? An? Hello,
Speaker 1: how are you? Thank you so much for calling in today?
Speaker 1: Hi Melissa? Hi, thanks for having me. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: Of course some Melissa tell us what what exactly is?
Speaker 1: It's just lunch. So it's just lunch. We are a
Speaker 1: personalized match making service. So we're not an app, we're
Speaker 1: not online. Um, we're an alternative to do an app aroundline. Um.
Speaker 1: But basically our clients work with matchmakers. So we set
Speaker 1: up dates for our clients. Um, and we'll set up
Speaker 1: lunch dates or we'll do drinks after work. Okay, And
Speaker 1: how do people I guess find you guys? Then? Is
Speaker 1: it just all word of mouth? Yeah? Yeah, Actually a
Speaker 1: lot of our clients do come from word of mouth
Speaker 1: and referrals. Um, that's actually the number one way. But
Speaker 1: you know, we're out there. We're in a bunch of
Speaker 1: cities across the United States. UM, but we have a
Speaker 1: website and UM we obviously UM reach our clients either
Speaker 1: through our online efforts for they'll call in. They'll hear
Speaker 1: about us and call in UM and so typically they'll
Speaker 1: just check us out see what we're all about first
Speaker 1: before they actually speak to a live mass taker. And
Speaker 1: so do you do you notice a trend in singles?
Speaker 1: I guess I don't know the age range that you
Speaker 1: guys typically work with, but are they moving away from
Speaker 1: those dating apps? Do you tend to see that they are?
Speaker 1: It's it's actually a real thing. And I don't know
Speaker 1: if you've heard about UM I r L, but dating
Speaker 1: in real life is it's actually like a new phenomena
Speaker 1: where people are really ditching the apps right now. UM.
Speaker 1: They want that alternative. They want to actually date in
Speaker 1: real life. UM. You know, we believe personally it's just
Speaker 1: lunch that you really can't predict chemistry unless you meet
Speaker 1: that person phase to phase. I mean you have to
Speaker 1: be sitting across for that person. You have to have
Speaker 1: that interaction UM and wiping and winking and not even
Speaker 1: actually going on a real date, you know, is it?
Speaker 1: Is it really challenging way to actually, you know, meet
Speaker 1: the love of your life. You have to get in
Speaker 1: front of us and meet face to face. Well, one
Speaker 1: of the benefits that I could think of that comes
Speaker 1: right to mind off of a dating app. Of course,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have a lot of conversations, but you can
Speaker 1: kind of gauge the chemistry before you meet with them
Speaker 1: face to face. So that was my question. Is it
Speaker 1: a blind date? So we're so it depends no. Typically no,
Speaker 1: a lot of our memberships, you know, they do see photos,
Speaker 1: so they do have that pixel in front of them.
Speaker 1: They you those pictures which pretty much what you see online.
Speaker 1: But even then, I mean, yes, you may say, okay,
Speaker 1: I can tell that you know, they're pretty, I could
Speaker 1: tell their handsome, I could tell them attracted to them,
Speaker 1: but you really can't tell until you see their smile,
Speaker 1: until you see the way they communicate, you know, until
Speaker 1: you hear that laugh. I mean, there's so much more
Speaker 1: to chemistry than just a picture and looks and and so.
Speaker 1: But it is a good way. I mean, I think
Speaker 1: starting off having a sense of of who that person
Speaker 1: is is important. Um, but with that dark clients, you know,
Speaker 1: like to utilize the personalized matchmaker because they kind of
Speaker 1: stepped through all the nose for them, they could just
Speaker 1: focus on the ones that they wanted me and not
Speaker 1: have to get through all the nose, you know, to
Speaker 1: find that. Yes, so what would you see is the
Speaker 1: most top trending qualities that a man is looking for
Speaker 1: and a woman or a man is looking for a
Speaker 1: man or in their potential partner. Yeah, well, I think
Speaker 1: for I mean, for men, it is a lot of
Speaker 1: it is looked, I mean, and for men and women
Speaker 1: will know within the first twenty minutes they want to
Speaker 1: see that person again. Really, yeah, it is pretty quick. No,
Speaker 1: I'm surprised. I'm surprised that it takes a date period.
Speaker 1: I thought it would take at least three because the
Speaker 1: first day you're just trying to gauge and see, like,
Speaker 1: you know, how should I act her on this person
Speaker 1: just to get a second get a second date? And
Speaker 1: then after the second day that's when you really start
Speaker 1: to know, or the third day, you really start to
Speaker 1: know with the person's true colors, or at least I
Speaker 1: mean true colors. I hopefully think it's funny hearing both
Speaker 1: of your responses to that because so typical you're thinking
Speaker 1: it takes oh my gosh, twenty minutes so long, and
Speaker 1: then you're saying it's it's not long enough. Um, And
Speaker 1: so you know it is it is. You know a
Speaker 1: lot of times with men it is looks. But for
Speaker 1: for both men and women, I mean, they're pretty quick
Speaker 1: to tell right away if they want to meet that
Speaker 1: person again. And what do you see yourself? What is
Speaker 1: your the success rate of it's just launch versus like
Speaker 1: a typical or traditional dating. What's a traditional So so
Speaker 1: for us, um, you know we are we focused on
Speaker 1: first date. UM. So we do get to uh develop
Speaker 1: relationships obviously with our clients because we do get to
Speaker 1: know them really well over the course they're memberships. Um.
Speaker 1: Sometimes we don't always hear about all the success stories unfortunately,
Speaker 1: but you know, for us, you know, a successful date
Speaker 1: was a successful first date and that they want to
Speaker 1: you know, that they want to see each other again,
Speaker 1: and that they exchange phone numbers and that they ultimately
Speaker 1: had a great time meeting that person. Um. We do
Speaker 1: hear success stories all this all the time. In fact,
Speaker 1: we probably hear every day, if not twice a day
Speaker 1: on different stories of clients that got married or got engaged,
Speaker 1: so we of course love hearing those. Yeah, of course.
Speaker 1: Well so so if you're almost strictly a first date service,
Speaker 1: how many I have a question, And I don't know
Speaker 1: how many times are you willing to work with someone
Speaker 1: before you're no longer willing to work with them? Like,
Speaker 1: how many first dates are you willing to set someone
Speaker 1: up on? Oh my gosh, we never throw in the
Speaker 1: towel over here, I mean we always we we always
Speaker 1: look at datings. You've got to be proactive, and that's
Speaker 1: actually one of my pieces of advice that I always
Speaker 1: give clients is have an open mind and don't throw
Speaker 1: in the dating towel. Just because you haven't met your
Speaker 1: special someone doesn't mean it's not going to happen. You
Speaker 1: just have. But you never see anyone like abusing this
Speaker 1: as them Now. They're not getting second dates because they're
Speaker 1: not interesting, but they're not getting second dates just because
Speaker 1: they're like, I want to see as many first dates
Speaker 1: I can go on. So you're like thinking about like
Speaker 1: serial data. Yeah, okay, So well, we were a fee
Speaker 1: based service and so our clients are typically a little
Speaker 1: bit more serious and that the app and maybe some
Speaker 1: of them more of the freest type because there is
Speaker 1: an investment that's made, and so when they're investing, they're
Speaker 1: obviously taking dating a little bit more serious. A lot
Speaker 1: of our clients, you know, are looking for relationships, They
Speaker 1: are looking to get married. Um, they are looking to
Speaker 1: be with the one, even if it's not marriage again,
Speaker 1: or they're just taking dating very serious. You know, they
Speaker 1: want to they want to go on meaningful dates. Well,
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna be honest, when when you said that
Speaker 1: you were a fee based service, I thought you were
Speaker 1: going to follow it up by saying we'll send them
Speaker 1: as on as many first dates as they want, because
Speaker 1: that means we're they're paying us more money. Well, we
Speaker 1: actually would love our I'll meet someone, um, but of
Speaker 1: course if a client hasn't met someone, it's just it
Speaker 1: just it happens. I mean, it's still dating. We don't
Speaker 1: have a crystal fall. We can predict a marriage, and
Speaker 1: we can't predict chemnistry, but you know, we can get
Speaker 1: pretty close to it and we can work with the
Speaker 1: client directly. And that's part of working with the matchmaker
Speaker 1: is is that feedback, the interaction, all those discussions about
Speaker 1: what you are looking for, so we can get as
Speaker 1: close as possible. But there are clients you know that
Speaker 1: they have kids, a lot of frogs to find their prints,
Speaker 1: and that's okay. You know, we want to keep working
Speaker 1: with them and help them, you know, find their one
Speaker 1: and eventually it will happen. I guess I want to know. So, Unlissa,
Speaker 1: you're married, right, I am, Yet, what advice? I have
Speaker 1: two questions. What advice would you give to our listeners
Speaker 1: who are in a relationship, are looking to have a
Speaker 1: healthy relations relationship. What advice would you give to UM
Speaker 1: to those listeners and to how many matchmaker as you have?
Speaker 1: And how many of those matchmakers are married? Oh my gosh, Well,
Speaker 1: we have a ton of match stickers throughout our offices,
Speaker 1: and depending on the size of the location, you know,
Speaker 1: we may have two to four in one particular location.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think maybe there's some offices that even
Speaker 1: have sex matchmakers for a particular city. UM. I actually
Speaker 1: I don't know that death of how many are married.
Speaker 1: I mean, our clients are all different ages, our matchmakers
Speaker 1: are all different age ranges. We have, UM, but I
Speaker 1: don't know how many are actually married. I know, for me,
Speaker 1: when I wasn't married, I personally would have loved to
Speaker 1: to date through its just lunch. Obviously we can't. We
Speaker 1: can't do that. Um So I had a fine alternative
Speaker 1: ways to meet my husband, right, And how did you
Speaker 1: meet your husband? We went at the dog park. You're
Speaker 1: not gonna be a perfect first state to a one,
Speaker 1: I know, well, it definitely. You know, even our clients
Speaker 1: that are dating through us, we always tell them be proactive,
Speaker 1: like still put yourself out there, you know, go to
Speaker 1: the dog part, go to a party that you maybe
Speaker 1: wouldn't normally go to, try a new coffee spot, you know,
Speaker 1: get out there and put yourself in situations that you
Speaker 1: normally would to be in because you may come across
Speaker 1: or be introduced to someone that you normally would not meet.
Speaker 1: I mean, I I see what you're doing, and I
Speaker 1: think it's a great idea because, like you said, it's
Speaker 1: a lot more challenging to meet someone. Especially one of
Speaker 1: my big gripes with dating apps, as great as they
Speaker 1: can be, you know, you can get connected to a
Speaker 1: lot of people through them, um but the mindset changes
Speaker 1: a little bit when you decided to drop the dating
Speaker 1: app and take it more seriously. Again, it's not a
Speaker 1: spot that I'm in right now, but there is just
Speaker 1: a different mindset when it comes to dating offline versus online.
Speaker 1: Right And so are you guys dating right now? Are you?
Speaker 1: What are you guys doing? Vanessa and I are boyfriend
Speaker 1: and girlfriends. Know, I'm happily in really a very very
Speaker 1: new relationships. So or at the beginning stages of still
Speaker 1: getting to know each other. I'm single, is traveling and
Speaker 1: he's single, non monogamous. Oh my god, that's for him
Speaker 1: to say, we need to we need to put a
Speaker 1: definition on what actually through it this one we should
Speaker 1: get you on from its state. I mean, I really
Speaker 1: appreciate the offer, but I don't think I'm ready for
Speaker 1: that right now to be ready. And you know what,
Speaker 1: I can totally appreciate that response because you know, you
Speaker 1: want to be ready for this type of experience, you know,
Speaker 1: because you know that you're going to be meeting people
Speaker 1: who are serious, and so we want our clients to
Speaker 1: have the same in return. So I can appreciate that, honestly.
Speaker 1: So what cities are is based out of you You're
Speaker 1: mentioning multiple locations earlier. We are, so our website actually
Speaker 1: has a list of all of our cities. I mean,
Speaker 1: we're pretty much across the United States, so any major
Speaker 1: city we're definitely in. And then we're also in Canada
Speaker 1: and we service Yeah I know, I don't. Aren't you
Speaker 1: from Canada? I am? And every time I like hear
Speaker 1: these services or some like products that we're talking about,
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, is it featured in Canada? They're like,
Speaker 1: not yet, So that makes me really really happy. Do
Speaker 1: you know which cities in Canada are Montreal or I am? Okay?
Speaker 1: So unfortunately we don't have an office there though yet, Pessa.
Speaker 1: But we are in Toronto and we service clients in
Speaker 1: Calgary and Edmonton, Vancouver, Victoria. So Montreal is next. We
Speaker 1: gotta we gotta start setting singles up there. Oh and
Speaker 1: there's a lot of singles out here, so I'm sure
Speaker 1: I'm sure they're going to be making use of your services. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that would be a good, that'd be good. Are there
Speaker 1: a lot of singles in Montreal? Single girls? Are guys?
Speaker 1: Single people girls? One of your biggest Montreal had single
Speaker 1: guys in Montreal. That's single girls. Right. We'll get into
Speaker 1: that conversation later, deem, but I'll explain why it was
Speaker 1: so hard for me to date in Montreal. Okay, it's
Speaker 1: it's a very different city as its supposed to you know,
Speaker 1: Toronto or l A. They're more close minded when it
Speaker 1: comes to anyway. That's a whole other conversation. Could you
Speaker 1: meet your significant other but not that you're your new
Speaker 1: guy in Montreal or is he from somewhere else? No,
Speaker 1: so he's from Montreal and I haven't dated anyone in
Speaker 1: Montreal in the last seven years, so it was a
Speaker 1: very big deal for me. Um. Yeah, and it's it's been.
Speaker 1: It's been fun and exciting, but it's still a very
Speaker 1: beginning stages of the relationships, so we're still getting to
Speaker 1: know each other. It's the fun stages. It is. It's fun,
Speaker 1: but it's also scary because like when am I going
Speaker 1: to find out and Julia will last? Because it's not
Speaker 1: gonna be fun forever. I'm kidding. I'm kidding. When you
Speaker 1: say when you say it's the fun stages, you make
Speaker 1: it sound like there's only a short amount of fun
Speaker 1: to be had, it's finite, and then it doesn't exist anymore.
Speaker 1: Oh boy, alright, you have the butterfly sage. Yeah, the butterfly.
Speaker 1: Um okay, Melissa. So for the listeners out there that
Speaker 1: want to consider giving It's just Lunch to try, where
Speaker 1: can they find you guys? You know what, I have
Speaker 1: a good to our website because that way you can
Speaker 1: get some more information about who we are, our process. Um,
Speaker 1: there's a great page that just kind of a answer
Speaker 1: is all commonly asked questions. You can see some of
Speaker 1: our matchmakers. UM. So I would go to It's just
Speaker 1: lunch dot com and there, you know, you can read
Speaker 1: up on us and then you can contact us. Your
Speaker 1: phone numbers listed there, or you can actually just you know,
Speaker 1: request to speak to a matchmakers for our website as well. Amazing.
Speaker 1: So there you go. If you're listening to this and
Speaker 1: you want to get rid of the dating apps, you
Speaker 1: want to meet someone in real life. As Melissa puts it,
Speaker 1: go to It's just lunch dot com. Check it out. Um, Melissa, Well,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for calling in today. We really
Speaker 1: appreciate it. We love what you're doing. I think any
Speaker 1: chance people in two nineteen can get to disconnect, it's
Speaker 1: always beneficial. I love it and get it get it in,
Speaker 1: Get it in Coebec. Girl, We've got to get these
Speaker 1: Montreal single people and starting to match at all. Right,
Speaker 1: we're on it. We got it. Thank you so much, Melissa.
Speaker 1: We'll talk too soon. Thank you, take care bye. Can
Speaker 1: before we jump into something else? Can we can we
Speaker 1: define what monogamy? Let's do it. I think it's time.
Speaker 1: Should you want me to like google it and reading?
Speaker 1: Let me ask you what's the difference between a non
Speaker 1: monogamous and a guy who gets a player? No, well,
Speaker 1: there's a huge difference. So when I the honesty behind it,
Speaker 1: is that what it is? Yeah, if I'm dating someone
Speaker 1: who's saying, hey, I want to date you, but I
Speaker 1: also want to see if there's other people I can date,
Speaker 1: I'll I'll respect him a lot more as opposed to
Speaker 1: someone who's doing it behind my back. Because when I
Speaker 1: when I keep saying non monogamous, I keep I feel
Speaker 1: like I feel like people keep thinking that, like I'm
Speaker 1: sleeping with someone every weekend or something like that, which
Speaker 1: isn't the case that that was a replayer would be
Speaker 1: I guess someone that's sleeping. Oh, don't you fart your
Speaker 1: lips at me. Um, it's just that I'm just not
Speaker 1: I just said like I'm I'm basically a sexual At
Speaker 1: this point, I feel like do like a to a degree,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Um, And so when I
Speaker 1: say now I'm monogamous, what I mean is I guess
Speaker 1: that's why I want to hear. What you guys have
Speaker 1: to say about it, is it you're dating people, but
Speaker 1: then while you're dating them, you're also telling those people
Speaker 1: that you're dating other people. If they ask you, are
Speaker 1: you just coming out right and saying it right away.
Speaker 1: I think there's different rules that apply to different relationships.
Speaker 1: If I weren't with someone just knowing how I am,
Speaker 1: and I think I have a little bit of chest issues,
Speaker 1: I would want to know everything, so I wouldn't want
Speaker 1: to know just There's this one movie on Netflix. It's
Speaker 1: called Newness. Have you heard of it? It's good in
Speaker 1: the sense that it explains like relationships nowadays and how
Speaker 1: people start dating each other and then they're open into
Speaker 1: their They're opening themselves up to the possibility of dating
Speaker 1: other people and the fact that they have to be
Speaker 1: honest with each other. But then one secret becomes another
Speaker 1: bigger secret and another bigger secret, and then it starts
Speaker 1: like the snowball effect, and then just ruin the relationship.
Speaker 1: So I think there there has to be rule rules.
Speaker 1: I mean, this is coming from someone who is monogamous,
Speaker 1: so maybe this is complete like BS, but I would
Speaker 1: assume there has to be a ton of rules in
Speaker 1: order to still have that level of respect for each other,
Speaker 1: especially especially if you're sleeping with other people. That that's
Speaker 1: a whole other risk factor for your health. So let
Speaker 1: me ask you this, and don't use your current relationship
Speaker 1: as an example. Maybe just speak generally about your life
Speaker 1: when you at what point in a relationship with talking
Speaker 1: to a guide you become non monogamous. I'm sorry the
Speaker 1: second you start a conversation with that, you're not talking
Speaker 1: to a single other guy. I'm not physically seeing anyone else.
Speaker 1: I'm not, Um, I'm not. And I think this is
Speaker 1: one of my uh the fool on how to stay
Speaker 1: in English, Like, I don't know how to keep my
Speaker 1: options open and I do tend to put all my
Speaker 1: eggs in one basket. And I guess that's why I
Speaker 1: get my heartbroken in the end, because I didn't take
Speaker 1: things slow and my expectations are very high from early on.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I think that's but that's but that's something
Speaker 1: I know that I've realized about myself. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: that's what people should do, and they should do the opposite.
Speaker 1: I think being open to dating more than one person.
Speaker 1: I don't know, because at what point do you say
Speaker 1: in the relationship, Hey, the beginning stages of relationship just
Speaker 1: give me anxiety because I'm like, are you sleeping with
Speaker 1: anyone else? Do I need to? You know? Is that
Speaker 1: what you're saying to them when you say I'm a
Speaker 1: non monogamoust Are you saying I could sleep with somebody
Speaker 1: else tomorrow if I wanted to? Because I think that's
Speaker 1: a fear. Is the safety element? You don't want to
Speaker 1: be with a guy who's sleeping with other people when
Speaker 1: you're not around, whether it's behind your back or you're
Speaker 1: upping up about it right right? But if someone like
Speaker 1: you said the difference between the players that they're going
Speaker 1: to be doing it behind your back and you have
Speaker 1: no idea. But if someone like Dean is honest about it,
Speaker 1: then I want to say, Okay, what are the rules rules?
Speaker 1: What are our boundaries? What are we willing to compromise?
Speaker 1: And what are we willing what are we willing to
Speaker 1: be comfortable with? Sure? Maybe This is just one of
Speaker 1: the other one of the unteen reasons why I just
Speaker 1: avoid relationships altogether. Oh my god, alright, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: another break, but think about this. Wouldn't it be a
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Speaker 1: at a ski resort. Sure for that three minutes, eight minutes,
Speaker 1: whatever it is you're going up there, sitting next to somebody,
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Speaker 1: Make sure not to miss this. Okay, so now we're
Speaker 1: going to jump into um Megan, who is also from
Speaker 1: It's Just Lunch. But who So Megan, let us get
Speaker 1: this straight. So you guys hosted an event in Wisconsin,
Speaker 1: and you guys have a very specific method that you
Speaker 1: use in order for potential perspective couples um to get
Speaker 1: to know each other. Is that right? So tell us
Speaker 1: about that because obviously we have in front of us here,
Speaker 1: but tell the listeners what that method is and what
Speaker 1: what you kind of where it kind of came from,
Speaker 1: what gave you the idea, and what you saw when
Speaker 1: you were in Wisconsin. Sure, so, UM Wilmot, we went
Speaker 1: to a awesome surlisting events. We partnered with UM these
Speaker 1: key resorts there and they were hosting a speed dating
Speaker 1: event and I was there to help UM, you know,
Speaker 1: the single UM events partakers up and so really it
Speaker 1: was just an awesome vibe there was. It was knowing UM,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of participants. Everyone was really excited to
Speaker 1: be there, and we had people of all ages that
Speaker 1: were there. UM I'd say about fifty people part book
Speaker 1: in the event. A lot of people. UM, we're just
Speaker 1: at the sea resort and they wanted to send up
Speaker 1: last minute, so they did. That was awesome, and so
Speaker 1: myself and another inch maps maker UM started coordinating and
Speaker 1: setting everyone up and then once we had successful matches,
Speaker 1: we sent them up on the lift. And that's kind
Speaker 1: of how it went. Doan I feel like you'd be
Speaker 1: into this? Yeah, I mean it's more up my alley
Speaker 1: than uh sitting down for a drink for sure. Yeah.
Speaker 1: About three minutes, Well, there's that, and there's the aspect
Speaker 1: of shared interest, which I think is pretty important. Um. Okay,
Speaker 1: so Megan, so you, like you said, you had people
Speaker 1: sign up beforehand, but you also had just basically people
Speaker 1: walk in that saw you kind of advertising it and
Speaker 1: they're like, hey, we're interested. That's what it sounds like.
Speaker 1: What was the division of male female? Was it? So
Speaker 1: it wasn't exactly fifty fifty, but it was closer than
Speaker 1: what I thought it was going to be. UM. And
Speaker 1: so there was everyone successfully met a match, Everyone went
Speaker 1: up on the c lift with someone from the event. UM.
Speaker 1: And actually there was an interesting situation that had happened.
Speaker 1: Everyone had went up and there was one woman behind.
Speaker 1: She was in her later twenties, and I was just like, hey,
Speaker 1: you know what, let's just go find you someone, right,
Speaker 1: So her and I just went up the hill. We
Speaker 1: started walking towards the list, and coincidentally, this gentleman who
Speaker 1: looked like he was probably in his twenties too, he
Speaker 1: came down, um the hill, you be down the hill
Speaker 1: and I just kind of started, you know, conversing with him,
Speaker 1: and I said, Hey, you know, you wouldn't happen to
Speaker 1: be single, would you, he's like, no, I am a
Speaker 1: single and he's like, I didn't pay for this event though,
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, that's fine. And I introduced them and
Speaker 1: UM I saw them go. I stood at the bottom
Speaker 1: of the left because I was watching, you know, how
Speaker 1: successful things were going and how things were going. And UM,
Speaker 1: I saw them go up and down um the hills
Speaker 1: together multiple times and they totally hit it all. You like,
Speaker 1: you're like the best friend every girl wants to have,
Speaker 1: just randomly going up to guys and saying like, hey,
Speaker 1: are you single? Um? So, what was some of the interests?
Speaker 1: And I had asked um. I had asked Melissa this earlier.
Speaker 1: What are some of the interests that people have, like
Speaker 1: qualities that they were looking for. Obviously they have like
Speaker 1: the interest of wanting to be physically in shape or
Speaker 1: not even but just like having the interests of skiing
Speaker 1: or snowboarding. What are some other things that people were
Speaker 1: looking for? Sure, So, you know, obviously a lot of people,
Speaker 1: it just depends on what everyone has different pieces and
Speaker 1: different styles. UM. I see a lot of people looking
Speaker 1: for people who are active, UM advent for its you know,
Speaker 1: they someone who just kind of you know, goes to
Speaker 1: work Monday through Friday and then just kind of watch
Speaker 1: the movies on the weekend. They want someone who is
Speaker 1: willing to be spontaneous and excited. Um, And I love
Speaker 1: I love seeing that everyone you know to to really
Speaker 1: want something exciting and um. You know, most people are
Speaker 1: just looking for someone genuine, someone who they can communicate
Speaker 1: well with, and you know, someone who's not too uptight. Um.
Speaker 1: Everyone you know, Like I said, everyone's different, piece are
Speaker 1: a little different. Everyone's kind of looking for something different.
Speaker 1: But I see more often than not people looking for
Speaker 1: someone who they can, you know, be spontaneous and go
Speaker 1: on fun trips with and just have fun with. Vanessa,
Speaker 1: would you ever do something like that? Yeah, I think
Speaker 1: I don't know if I would have signed up for it,
Speaker 1: because I am some who's extremely spontaneous. Well maybe not
Speaker 1: as much as Dean, but I am someone who is spontaneous.
Speaker 1: And I think if I was at the hill and
Speaker 1: I would have seen a sign to say sign up,
Speaker 1: and I was single at the time, I totally would
Speaker 1: have done it because it's what you're It's three minutes
Speaker 1: of your time or however long it takes to go
Speaker 1: up a ski lift, and if you like the person.
Speaker 1: Then it's like, Okay, well if you don't like them romantically,
Speaker 1: you can still become friends with them and go skiing
Speaker 1: down the hill with them. So I think it's it's
Speaker 1: a really cool concept. But I assume if people do
Speaker 1: sign up, um to be a part of this, they're
Speaker 1: not necessarily getting a background check at the mountain. But
Speaker 1: if you are a member, then you are getting a
Speaker 1: background check or people are getting background checks. So we obviously,
Speaker 1: you know, take a lot into consideration, um when it
Speaker 1: goes into that type of you know, pre represents and
Speaker 1: and looking and um, you know, providing the security. UM,
Speaker 1: I just do. I'm certainly a matchmaker here, so I, um,
Speaker 1: you know, work on what everyone's looking for. I um
Speaker 1: make sure that I'm setting my clients up with people
Speaker 1: who are exactly what they're looking for and they have
Speaker 1: a lot of common interests and UM. So that's what
Speaker 1: my job is here is just thinking sure that my
Speaker 1: clients are meeting people who they're compatible with and who
Speaker 1: they have similar interests um with And that's kind of
Speaker 1: my definitely my main goal is to make sure that
Speaker 1: I'm setting people up with people who you know, they're
Speaker 1: going to have an incredible first date with and Megan
Speaker 1: beyond interview, what other Uh, what's something similar? Like, what's
Speaker 1: what else? Could you guys do you know? Like what's next? Sure? Absolutely,
Speaker 1: well this. We really liked this event because it was
Speaker 1: so different. Um, it's a great idea that I'm definitely
Speaker 1: so I think that this is going to not only
Speaker 1: encourage myself, but encourage you know, the other mapmakers. Um.
Speaker 1: And it's just fun to really think differently and to
Speaker 1: go out of the box when it comes to event.
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, we're working with people who are
Speaker 1: I was surprised at how many people have showed up.
Speaker 1: I was so excited to see that that many people
Speaker 1: have signed up because, to be honest, that's kind of
Speaker 1: scary to I mean, definitely go out of going out
Speaker 1: of your comfort zone and doing something that, um, you know,
Speaker 1: not everyone's the most comfortable with. They didn't know if
Speaker 1: you know, who they were going to need or what
Speaker 1: it was gonna be like. So they definitely put, you know,
Speaker 1: their trust in us, and I'm really happy to see
Speaker 1: how successful it was. It was incredible. So I'm definitely
Speaker 1: starting to brainform with my team and we are thinking
Speaker 1: of you know, the most unique ways to set singles
Speaker 1: up use them. So um yeah, I can't have anything
Speaker 1: exactly lined up right now, but I am definitely using
Speaker 1: that unique activity to make sure that you know, um
Speaker 1: we we just continue going up from here and get
Speaker 1: you know, incredible singles everywhere. Um to interact based to face.
Speaker 1: I I love you know, something that I had noticed
Speaker 1: was and I said this to someone who asked me,
Speaker 1: They're like, you know how successful these things this event was?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, look around. You know, We've been just
Speaker 1: for three and a half hours and I haven't seen
Speaker 1: one person on their cell phone. And you know, it's amazing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean the volumes and everyone was just engaging, and
Speaker 1: I mean we had people in their early twenties to
Speaker 1: their sixties and everyone was talking even year olds. We're
Speaker 1: talking that the twenty year old you know. Yeah, just
Speaker 1: like being able to connect even if you don't connect
Speaker 1: with someone romantically, everyone is looking for a form of
Speaker 1: connection out there, and I think that's a beautiful thing
Speaker 1: that what you guys are doing. Yeah, it's incredible. I'm
Speaker 1: so happy to be a part of it. I'm happy
Speaker 1: to part of it too, not through you. Yeah, thank yeah,
Speaker 1: thank you for calling and so for listeners that might
Speaker 1: be interested and uh, interested in seeing an event or
Speaker 1: tending an event. I'm sorry later on, are they able
Speaker 1: to find out the website? It's just lunch. Yeah, absolutely, um,
Speaker 1: just you know, researcher local. It's just FUNS Office. You
Speaker 1: can always call us to um and we'd be more
Speaker 1: than happy to you know, providing me all the information
Speaker 1: about the events that we host. We are busy, we
Speaker 1: love to connect people's face to face UM, so we're
Speaker 1: always posting events and yeah, absolutely, just get your local.
Speaker 1: It's just FUNS Office. A call and they'd be more
Speaker 1: than happy to providing you that information. Yeah. Well, thank
Speaker 1: you so much for sharing, and thank you for doing
Speaker 1: what you guys are doing, connecting people, uh in interesting
Speaker 1: locations like that. Like that's awesome. Absolutely, thank you guys
Speaker 1: so much for having me. Thank you bye bye. But
Speaker 1: it's really interesting a snowboard, really interesting concept. Yeah, you're
Speaker 1: on the lift, you're meeting people. Yeah, it depends how
Speaker 1: many how many fireball shooters I've had that day. If
Speaker 1: I'd be willing to do something like that, you know,
Speaker 1: like I said, I don't think I would have signed
Speaker 1: myself up. I think if it was there. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Yeah, I was talking to Dean. He wants
Speaker 1: a much bigger chair your way up. He's gonna want
Speaker 1: to fit a lot of people in there. He's not
Speaker 1: he's not comfortable with the one on one show. This
Speaker 1: is what I'm talking about. I hate where this is skewing.
Speaker 1: It's skewing in the direction I don't want it. Dan,
Speaker 1: tell me about Brittany Rose and why you wanted her
Speaker 1: on the show today. Brittany Rose. So we had the
Speaker 1: host of Temptation island Mark Wallbury. That's right, Marky mark Um.
Speaker 1: And I mentioned Brittany a little bit because so when
Speaker 1: I moved to Venice like two years ago, I moved
Speaker 1: into this wonderful little bungalow with a couple of my
Speaker 1: friends moved out of there. And you know, obviously when
Speaker 1: you move out of a house, you get a lot
Speaker 1: of mail sent to that old address before you are
Speaker 1: able to relocate everything to your new one. And uh,
Speaker 1: this girl moved in and I was getting just like
Speaker 1: a stupid amount of mail, and I kept I was
Speaker 1: gone for like months on end, and so it would
Speaker 1: just like pile up um and so I would have
Speaker 1: to check in like at least once or two twice
Speaker 1: a month and be like, hey, I'm waiting for this
Speaker 1: piece of mail. Will you please let me know if
Speaker 1: it comes in or not. And it turns out it
Speaker 1: was Brittany who's on this show Temptation Island. And then
Speaker 1: later on she was like they were considering casting for
Speaker 1: her and vice versas she was considering going on the
Speaker 1: TV show. And obviously she knew that she know that,
Speaker 1: she knew that I made a fool out of myself
Speaker 1: on Bachelor. So she's like, let me pick your brain
Speaker 1: a little bit and and kind of understand a little
Speaker 1: bit more about the reality t V around before I
Speaker 1: fully commit to this um. And so yeah, so now
Speaker 1: we're neighbors and Brittany is uh reality TV icon. She's
Speaker 1: she's making waves on Temptation Island and she's coming up next.
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Speaker 1: I was just telling them. I was just telling them
Speaker 1: we had Mark in about a month ago. Just listen
Speaker 1: to that this morning. Actually, great guy, hilarious. I was
Speaker 1: telling them our origin story about how we came to
Speaker 1: know each other's. Yeah, I live in Dean's old house
Speaker 1: and he needed his mail and I still get mail
Speaker 1: for you, So I actually have a pile of did
Speaker 1: you bring it with you? We live like two blocks
Speaker 1: away from each other, so it's not so bad. Um, Okay,
Speaker 1: So fill us in a little bit about tempted well,
Speaker 1: actually fill us in about you first, because the listeners
Speaker 1: want to know about you, and then we can feel
Speaker 1: we can dive into the show a little bit. Um wow,
Speaker 1: I have a lot of stories. I guess. I grew
Speaker 1: up in the music business. Actually, my mom was an
Speaker 1: indie for Clear Channel when My Heart and Clear Channel
Speaker 1: were doing their things, so that's pretty cool. I grew
Speaker 1: up in the music industry. I was homeschooled off the time.
Speaker 1: I had some health stuff I dealt with in my
Speaker 1: early twenties, which led me to Tuloo, Mexico, where I
Speaker 1: worked with a doctor and started a retreat company with
Speaker 1: my mom. And I'm all good and healthy and happy
Speaker 1: and um yeah, I teach yoga, I rescue dogs. I
Speaker 1: love people. I like to throw events with other people
Speaker 1: that I love and are kind of like minded, conscious creators.
Speaker 1: And that's my gist. I'm still young, so figuring it out. Really,
Speaker 1: it sounds like you got it all together. But when
Speaker 1: it comes to nothing to find him getting the zen
Speaker 1: attitude to a whole new level. Aren't you the zen attitude?
Speaker 1: I love that I need that on like my license
Speaker 1: plate or something. So what made you want to go
Speaker 1: on temptation? Island. My old roommate was actually asked to
Speaker 1: be on it. She's an influencer, and without telling me,
Speaker 1: she gave them my information instead. Classic Yeah, and I
Speaker 1: got the old d M on Instagram and I talked
Speaker 1: to them. I didn't interview. I did a second, a third,
Speaker 1: and then at some point I was doing like psych evaluations,
Speaker 1: working with the doctor who actually was Dean too. Just
Speaker 1: a wonderful group of pat Oh having a brain fart Hilda,
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, Helga, Oh, I love Hilda, sweetest
Speaker 1: can be Huh. The whole team has just been super welcoming.
Speaker 1: And the main thing that really tipped me towards yes
Speaker 1: was casting is incredibly adamant that the singles they're casting
Speaker 1: for Temptation Island are looking for love. They're truly looking
Speaker 1: for a partner in their life. They're not like temptresses
Speaker 1: and temptees or whatever you'd call them. They're really really
Speaker 1: at that that stage in their life where they're looking
Speaker 1: for a partner and someone to settle down with. And
Speaker 1: you're just sick of saying nama single men, right it
Speaker 1: just what did it say about downward dog? I'm looking
Speaker 1: to down her a dog with it. They must have
Speaker 1: cut that out anyway, nothing so I happened. And then honestly,
Speaker 1: Dean was the last person I spoke to. Was like,
Speaker 1: I sat on the contracts for a few weeks. I've
Speaker 1: never done anything like it. I hadn't watched a single
Speaker 1: reality TV show for more than like five minutes. I'm like, Dean,
Speaker 1: I need to talk to you. You're the only one
Speaker 1: other person. And then I really know that can help
Speaker 1: me get like a gauged on this, and he's like, Britt,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be great, you know. And worst case scenario,
Speaker 1: I go a month with digital detox and kind of
Speaker 1: going on some lavish experiences and doing things I'd never
Speaker 1: experienced before, and it was very different than I could
Speaker 1: have anticipated. Though, Well, I have a question. So you
Speaker 1: seem like someone who's very much into well it says
Speaker 1: here that you want to connect with someone on a
Speaker 1: more spiritual level, and I find I was actually just
Speaker 1: having this conversation with my friend the other day and
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know if I'm able to everdate
Speaker 1: someone who isn't open to the idea of going to
Speaker 1: therapy and just like healing from within in order to
Speaker 1: be able to be in a healthy relationship, and now
Speaker 1: you're in a position where you're single, you have your together,
Speaker 1: and now you're entering this world where there are single
Speaker 1: men who are coming with stories from their past and
Speaker 1: their relationship as well, and you're learning about them and
Speaker 1: you're discovering a things. I mean, I don't know if
Speaker 1: I can get into details, because I have a feeling
Speaker 1: you may kind of connect with Carl. I haven't watched
Speaker 1: any of the episode that I I haven't watched any
Speaker 1: of the episodes, but I'm looking at um, some of
Speaker 1: the couples and their bios and well, Carl is a
Speaker 1: fitness freak and he's a little bit older older, he's
Speaker 1: thirty one, he's all that old. This has got a
Speaker 1: good eye for this kind of stuff. Well, I have
Speaker 1: a feeling that I mean, you need Look, he's very
Speaker 1: good looking. He's very handsome, that's for sure. He's very
Speaker 1: good looking, and he looks charming. Um but side exactly.
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying, like, how are you so
Speaker 1: how are you able to get that level of connection
Speaker 1: that you want to get to a kind of person
Speaker 1: like you wants to get to if you literally don't
Speaker 1: know anything about these people and they're dating other people
Speaker 1: at the same time, so it's like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: it's it's a whole mind game. Well, you know it's awesome.
Speaker 1: Is since we didn't have phones or laptops or music
Speaker 1: or books or anything like that type of connection. Is
Speaker 1: that actually much more possible in an environment like that
Speaker 1: where you're just living with these people twenty four hours
Speaker 1: a day. There's zero distractions, nothing like you're just with them.
Speaker 1: So I think that the circumstances of it really support
Speaker 1: an authentic connection happening, um, which is a beautiful thing.
Speaker 1: And I'm kind of thinking about my thoughts, so I
Speaker 1: don't give anything away here but um, and you know what,
Speaker 1: not to toot my own horn, but I will a
Speaker 1: little bit like I definitely wasn't chasing anyone down. So
Speaker 1: allowing that that authentic connection to happen naturally, if it's
Speaker 1: there is is I think always the way to go.
Speaker 1: Would Mark say earlier in the episode, when you want nothing,
Speaker 1: you attract everything everything? Yeah, boom, like dropped John Lennon
Speaker 1: or something that's eastern on the sound effects lad Um No,
Speaker 1: that makes a lot of sense. And uh, I mean,
Speaker 1: obviously I've talked to you a little bit before, before
Speaker 1: and after the show, and so how so as the
Speaker 1: show's airing afterward, while the show is airing, what is
Speaker 1: it like for you while it's airing obviously, like without
Speaker 1: giving anything away, but just like experiencing it, Like because
Speaker 1: you know, you're getting attention from random people on the
Speaker 1: internet and coming in and doing podcast interviews with people
Speaker 1: that suck at dating. Um, Just like, what what's kind
Speaker 1: of your experience been with it all? It's a trip,
Speaker 1: Like it is an actual trip. I find myself at
Speaker 1: a loss of words. Every week it changes. You know,
Speaker 1: it's still relatively a new show, so I know the
Speaker 1: network is spending a good amount of time and effort
Speaker 1: building it up and reintroducing people to the idea of it.
Speaker 1: So every week it's so different, everything like doubles the
Speaker 1: responses and whatnot, and um, seeing myself on camera UM
Speaker 1: has actually relieved a lot of my anxiety I had
Speaker 1: leading up to that. I thought it was going to
Speaker 1: be ten times where than it than it actually is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I'm cracking up because getting a little bit of
Speaker 1: heat from some of the other single chicks, Like because
Speaker 1: I'm coming across as I was, which is like not
Speaker 1: wanting to deal with any of the drama and just
Speaker 1: kind of walking away from it. And as the producers
Speaker 1: would say, I'd walk away into yoga as that was
Speaker 1: going on. Um. And then tonight, actually the show's on
Speaker 1: at ten o'clock Eastern and it's actually my first date
Speaker 1: with Carl's so oh yeah, you've called it, so it's
Speaker 1: gonna get Why do you go on a date with Carl?
Speaker 1: What was it about Carl? Um? Well, because he picked me,
Speaker 1: of course, I'm just kidding. Um. We we just like
Speaker 1: the first time we did talk, we connected hardcore. We
Speaker 1: actually were avoiding each other mutually for the first week
Speaker 1: in the house because we were both attracted to one
Speaker 1: another different reasons. He was like, you know, I don't
Speaker 1: want to go down old Carl kind of route. And
Speaker 1: you're the most beautiful woman here in my opinion, and
Speaker 1: I've been avoiding you, and I'm all like blushing back
Speaker 1: in kindergarten again, and I'm just like, wow, you're I
Speaker 1: definitely have a little crush on you, which is why
Speaker 1: I've been avoiding you too. So we talked and we
Speaker 1: both couldn't believe that one another thought that way, and Uh.
Speaker 1: He picked me for the date the next day, so
Speaker 1: I was really excited for that. I can't wait to watch.
Speaker 1: Thank you. What do you guys doing that smile? Look
Speaker 1: at that smile? You can spoil the activity? What do I? Okay?
Speaker 1: So I forget. I think it's called speed boating. Can
Speaker 1: spoil the activity? Dan, just give us like a synopsis?
Speaker 1: It's okay, it was in the preview. I think it's
Speaker 1: called speed speedboating. It's like a giant jet ski and
Speaker 1: takes you on the verge of vomiting and nausea, but
Speaker 1: having so much fun. So we did that and nothing
Speaker 1: like vomiting on a date, right, Vanessa? I was I
Speaker 1: did I vomited on my first date? Really? On Naell television? Yeah,
Speaker 1: it happens to the best. Was it your first day?
Speaker 1: I thought you did it on the airplane? It was
Speaker 1: my first, my first one on one. Oh, I thought
Speaker 1: that that was like one of the last ones. Because that,
Speaker 1: you want to know what I was really upset about.
Speaker 1: I mean, you are amazing for making it through that.
Speaker 1: I love I love you for that. I don't know
Speaker 1: how I did. I told the producer it was so
Speaker 1: weird because remember that day to I told it, or
Speaker 1: the day before I told a Lan. I said, A Lan,
Speaker 1: just make sure like if ever we do anything where
Speaker 1: I can get sick. I get really nauseous, Like even
Speaker 1: if I'm in a car reading, I'll just like vomit everywhere.
Speaker 1: And he's like, okay, So he called Hilda, and Hilda
Speaker 1: gave me gravel or whatever the drawing and you guys
Speaker 1: have in this state. And I was exhausted after that
Speaker 1: because it was just like a rush of emotions and
Speaker 1: They're like, I was sick and I was on like
Speaker 1: three drama being pills that day. So I was having
Speaker 1: a cannon conversation with the producer once about how I
Speaker 1: was like, I've always wanted to experience your gravity, right,
Speaker 1: And I was like they were like, oh, yeah, but
Speaker 1: the only way you can experience your gravity is if
Speaker 1: you go into space, right, And I was like, well, no,
Speaker 1: there's this airplane that you can take that just drops
Speaker 1: you so fast, so you can experience waitlessness for it's
Speaker 1: like two minutes or something like that. Right, Yeah, Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's different levels of it. And then Bennett walks in,
Speaker 1: who's like one of the executive prisoners of the show,
Speaker 1: and he like laughs, at me in the face. He's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: Nick and Vanessa did that. Uh. And he was like
Speaker 1: telling me about how like how difficult it was to
Speaker 1: set up and how like me as an individual to
Speaker 1: be so challenging for me to do because it's like
Speaker 1: it's very expensive, right, And I was just like, I
Speaker 1: was so envious of both you and Nick and in
Speaker 1: that moment, because that sounds that's like a major bucket
Speaker 1: list thing to do, you know, And I know, I
Speaker 1: think there what the franchise was trying to do it
Speaker 1: for years and then they finally got it on my
Speaker 1: season and you got the date. We're actually watching it
Speaker 1: on YouTube right now. Oh yeah, and he French kisses
Speaker 1: me right after. I'm like, dude, you know, there's residue
Speaker 1: of comit in my mouth and there's the vomit. Now
Speaker 1: we haven't seen it yet, but you look happy so far.
Speaker 1: It was so much fun. It was a lot of fun. Um,
Speaker 1: there's the kiss. Oh that's not awkward at all. I
Speaker 1: can't see what you guys are watching, but I could
Speaker 1: just remember it in my head. It weirdly looks romantic.
Speaker 1: It really was, and he really did. He took a
Speaker 1: really good care of me. It's funny because I've never
Speaker 1: watched next season. You look beautiful. Wow. Um, I've never
Speaker 1: seen nixt season. And now that I obviously him and
Speaker 1: I are good friends, it's which is weird to watch
Speaker 1: him in zero gravity make out with you, my co
Speaker 1: host of this podcast, right, let's go it out the world? Um? Okay, so, Brittany,
Speaker 1: do you do you spew it all in this episode
Speaker 1: or now? You'll have to tune in to find out
Speaker 1: the brass tacks here and it's airing on um Tuesday nights,
Speaker 1: ten o'clock Eastern on USA Network Network. Some silly reason. Um,
Speaker 1: but everything, but it's been all all been going really well. Yeah, Uh,
Speaker 1: there's some there's some drama still within some of the
Speaker 1: cast afterwards, which I wasn't expecting, you know. I was
Speaker 1: really hoping going into this and and then completing it
Speaker 1: all together that everyone could celebrate together and just have
Speaker 1: each other's back, at least on a professional level. But
Speaker 1: there's some personalities that aren't fully lined up with that.
Speaker 1: Do you ever meet on the show? Do you ever
Speaker 1: meet any of the girlfriends? No? Really? Yeah, so you
Speaker 1: have no idea what they look like. I have no
Speaker 1: idea what their personality is like, so we didn't know
Speaker 1: who they are, we didn't meet them, but there is
Speaker 1: at the beginning of this season there's like two ceremonies
Speaker 1: where the couples are there, the girlfriends are in there
Speaker 1: four chairs and like the first date selection they had
Speaker 1: to pick their day. It's in front of their significant others. Awkward,
Speaker 1: so awkward. I still feel uncomfortable. Um, So there was that,
Speaker 1: you know, we got to see them, and like there
Speaker 1: was definitely some cattinists coming from the group of single
Speaker 1: ladies to the couple girls and some comments here and there.
Speaker 1: It was just a very um high strung like kind
Speaker 1: of intense scenario for everyone to be in. So you
Speaker 1: could like cut the tension with a knife, I think.
Speaker 1: And that was my only experience with them really and
Speaker 1: then hearing what the guys would talk about in the house.
Speaker 1: So you wouldn't communicate with the girls, and I'm assuming
Speaker 1: after the show there is a form of communication with
Speaker 1: some of the excess or if they are excess or
Speaker 1: at least the members. Yeah, like you mean between like
Speaker 1: the cast across Like, yeah, I'm talking about no, I'm
Speaker 1: talking about this. So let's just say hypothetically, speaking, Brittany
Speaker 1: ends up with Karl hypothetically. Hypothetically Hypothetically, my intuition says,
Speaker 1: Brittany ends up with Carl, or at least she likes him,
Speaker 1: and then Nicole's like, what does Nicole end up calling? You? Like?
Speaker 1: Do you guys? Like? I just feel like it's a
Speaker 1: it's a whole other thing of especially when you see
Speaker 1: someone say say something about you privately that you didn't
Speaker 1: see you in the moment, but then you watch your
Speaker 1: back on TV and you're like, yeah, Shade, yeah that's
Speaker 1: your Did you do therapy? I asked the executive producer.
Speaker 1: I'm like, so you're gonna pay for my therapy now?
Speaker 1: I said, I don't even need therapy. If you want
Speaker 1: to figure out who you are, just go do Temptation Island.
Speaker 1: I can do anything after that experience. Um, but yeah, no,
Speaker 1: no communication really with girlfriends. But what I will say
Speaker 1: is like, so Evan Smith and his girlfriend Casey, I
Speaker 1: went to middle school with them, and in high school
Speaker 1: I think with Casey, I think she went to a
Speaker 1: girl high school, but we grew up in the same area.
Speaker 1: And I got on set and I realized, I'm like, wait,
Speaker 1: I've known you guys for like, because that was weird,
Speaker 1: easy story. He does, he really does, and he's getting
Speaker 1: a lot of heat for it right now, which is
Speaker 1: kind of to be expected. But I do feel for him,
Speaker 1: and I think he's handling himself really well. A lot
Speaker 1: of heat because of how he's acting on TV. Um well,
Speaker 1: because you know his backstory with his dad being murdered
Speaker 1: and it was his mistress's husband, I believe, And so
Speaker 1: then Evan being on Temptation Island like just opens up
Speaker 1: the door for that conversation and for comments to be made.
Speaker 1: And um, he's getting a lot of for it, and
Speaker 1: it's it's hard, but he's handling himself with a lot
Speaker 1: of grace and there's a lot of us that have
Speaker 1: his back, so he's got a support system. Mhm. So
Speaker 1: looking back on your time on the show, maybe what's
Speaker 1: aired or just generally speaking without again, you know obviously
Speaker 1: that she's he's gonna still airing. Is there anything that
Speaker 1: you regret m having gone on before Britney left. She's like,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to drink any alcohol. I don't drink,
Speaker 1: so I'm not going to do it. And I was like, Jan,
Speaker 1: did you drink on your season. Are are you kidding me?
Speaker 1: I didn't have I only one drink and that wasn't bin.
Speaker 1: That's impressive. Impressive. Yeah, even going into Winter Games, I
Speaker 1: was my third cho was like, I'm not gonna have
Speaker 1: a single drink after the After the first night, I
Speaker 1: didn't have a single drink and look at the next morning,
Speaker 1: I was like, good for you, this is going to
Speaker 1: be a great season. And then later that night I
Speaker 1: was like drinking with everyone having fun. It's just like
Speaker 1: there's something wrong with it. It's just like there is
Speaker 1: can there are things that you can do that you
Speaker 1: don't think of because there are cameras around, And then
Speaker 1: we watch it played back and I'm just such a lightweight.
Speaker 1: I would be so embarrassing. I I definitely there's some moments,
Speaker 1: for sure. I I take solace in knowing that maybe
Speaker 1: about three percent of the whole experience is actually being
Speaker 1: shown because I definitely ate a platter of McDonald's one
Speaker 1: night and just you guys McDonald's. I'm so jealous. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was. It was a prize for a game we
Speaker 1: did in the house one night. That was our that
Speaker 1: was there what we won. So there was that and
Speaker 1: I had my first martini ever, which led to like
Speaker 1: black outnight. Here's my counterpoint to what you're saying earlier
Speaker 1: about how relieving it is to meet someone without any
Speaker 1: distractions around you, like your cell phones, your books, your TVs,
Speaker 1: whatever it is, because you can focus slely on the
Speaker 1: other person. But you're acting obviously outside of your typical
Speaker 1: character because you're drinking, you're eating McDonald's. So do you
Speaker 1: think that meeting someone under these circumstances, because that's not
Speaker 1: a true reflection of you outside of the show, is
Speaker 1: still an accurate way to like an interesting way to
Speaker 1: meet someone interesting? Yeah, accurate also kind of yes? But
Speaker 1: is that sustainable outside of that environment? I don't know,
Speaker 1: because if I'm if I'm in this environment and I'm
Speaker 1: all of a sudden drinking every other day like I
Speaker 1: don't in my usual life, and I connect with someone
Speaker 1: that does do that, then maybe it's setting you up
Speaker 1: for something that's not really true outside of that situation,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Um, But also, like to
Speaker 1: be honest, because it was such an unusual and kind
Speaker 1: of anxious scenario, the booze helped a little bit. Like
Speaker 1: I usually smoke weed, you know, to to clear myself
Speaker 1: down in my everyday life, and that wasn't happening in Hawaii.
Speaker 1: So they didn't let you smoke on the show. They
Speaker 1: didn't let us know, let you poison yourselves with alcohol,
Speaker 1: but they won't let you smoke a plant. It's legal
Speaker 1: in Canada. That's right countrywide right now I'm talking about
Speaker 1: I'm talking about up north. Canada hasn't invaded Hawaii yet,
Speaker 1: but I think probably pretty soon. That Canadian military, it's
Speaker 1: pretty it's making moves. What you haven't heard about this? Oh,
Speaker 1: the Canadian Navy sent out ships to go conquer Hawaii.
Speaker 1: What yeah, Oh, come on, guys, we're going to get
Speaker 1: the refugees and that's what we're bringing them into our country.
Speaker 1: That's what we're doing. We're helping out. Um. Okay, So
Speaker 1: the show airs Mondays and Tuesdays, No, just Tuesdays. We're
Speaker 1: post Bachelor, oh right right, because yeah, because it's just
Speaker 1: for people that are craving more. Which, by the way,
Speaker 1: this is the first season of the Bachelor that I've
Speaker 1: started to watching. What do you think so far? I'm
Speaker 1: just jaw dropped, like maybe I should have watched some
Speaker 1: reality TV before I did it. Oh, that's how I felt.
Speaker 1: I didn't watch any I watched maybe two episodes to
Speaker 1: kind of understand what the concept of the show was,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, let's just go and see what happen. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're telling you watched Unreal. Yeah I did. Also, job
Speaker 1: everyone always gets like the hev gs from watching that show,
Speaker 1: but I watched it. I was like, well, yeah, like
Speaker 1: obviously that's how it is. Well, I mean, it's an
Speaker 1: exaggerated version of it. But I think from being on
Speaker 1: the franchise, it's so fun to see like, oh, that
Speaker 1: person is that producer, that person is that crew? I
Speaker 1: don't know, but I mean, hey, who knows? So are
Speaker 1: you happy to the one on the show though? Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: yeah I am. It's taught me so much about people.
Speaker 1: It continues to and same with myself. It's teaching me
Speaker 1: more and more every single day about myself, the positive
Speaker 1: and the negative sides of it. It's just a huge
Speaker 1: learning experience and it's a trip. Like That's all I
Speaker 1: can say is it's a trip. But you know what,
Speaker 1: I've been going back and forth on a daily basis
Speaker 1: us with fans and talking to them truly about their
Speaker 1: lives and what's going on with them, and I want
Speaker 1: to help people. So it means a lot to me
Speaker 1: that I've got people hitting me up, like valuing what
Speaker 1: I have to say and my advice to them on
Speaker 1: how to deal with what they're struggling with in their life.
Speaker 1: Like that is the greatest honor to me. So if
Speaker 1: it helps me to do more of that, thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. So what's next for britt Rose Yoga? Um?
Speaker 1: I am creating some online content soon with my little
Speaker 1: brother who has a production company, Super Talented. So I'm
Speaker 1: going to do some like online yoga classes and fitness
Speaker 1: stuff and then just like probably recipes and things like that.
Speaker 1: And I actually have a This is great the first
Speaker 1: time I'm telling anyone I'm working on Meditation Island retreats.
Speaker 1: Meditation Meditation Island. Yeah, smart, Are you allowed? Legally allowed?
Speaker 1: I believe I am. Yeah. I mean productions invited, gratis right,
Speaker 1: I'll take care of them. So, um, I mean I've
Speaker 1: already done retreats for so many years with it's my
Speaker 1: family business, and I'm rebranding the company at the moment
Speaker 1: to make it more of a platform because I'm friends
Speaker 1: with so many leaders and teachers that I wanted to
Speaker 1: be more of a community thing and not just retreats.
Speaker 1: But we'll keep doing that too. That's so smart. I'll
Speaker 1: definitely come to one of those. I'll maybe come to
Speaker 1: one of those. It's going to be so much fun,
Speaker 1: I promised. I've tried the whole meditation thing, and I
Speaker 1: still practice it occasionally, but it's just it's hard for
Speaker 1: me to do. It's so hard for everyone. Yeah, we'll
Speaker 1: make up any excuse to not sit with ourselves and
Speaker 1: silently half. I get there too. I'm trying to get
Speaker 1: a rise out of you. I love myself. No that
Speaker 1: I mean both sides of that exist in all of us.
Speaker 1: You know, it's wild, But I was doing a lot
Speaker 1: of that in Maui. I had no choice. Like, the
Speaker 1: only thing that I had to keep me calm was nature,
Speaker 1: you know, whether it was like the toads or the
Speaker 1: ocean or the birds or the gecks and meditating and
Speaker 1: affirmations and just recentering myself in that environment. And have
Speaker 1: another questions for britt No, I just love your positive
Speaker 1: outlook and it doesn't seem you have that much anxiety
Speaker 1: coming off of reality TV show, and especially an intense
Speaker 1: one like Temptation Island. Um, and I'm really excited to
Speaker 1: see what happens on your Day with Carl. Thank you
Speaker 1: so much for the support for watching Day with Carl.
Speaker 1: Who I mean, I'm looking forward to it. So I'm
Speaker 1: over for the watch party later. Sure you having a
Speaker 1: watch party tonight? All right, I'll just walk on Tuesday
Speaker 1: at your old house. Okay. Well, so over the listeners
Speaker 1: out there, where can they find you on? Like your
Speaker 1: social platforms? Instagram it's britt Rose Yoga b R I
Speaker 1: T Rose like the flower yoga. And then I also
Speaker 1: have a Facebook page Brittany Rose. I'm on Twitter now,
Speaker 1: which I'm new to the game. Please come make a
Speaker 1: full out of all of us together. It's britt two
Speaker 1: underscores Rose. I will say I didn't have a Twitter
Speaker 1: until Bachelorette started premiering. I never used it, but my friends,
Speaker 1: you have to make a Twitter, like make it right now,
Speaker 1: kind of fairly use it. It's a whole other I
Speaker 1: don't understand it. It's basically like a face book status
Speaker 1: on steroids, yeah, like I'm peeing right now or just
Speaker 1: hit but it's it's like, yeah, it's just like a
Speaker 1: Facebook status, except anyone can follow you instead of just
Speaker 1: your friends. And I have never updated my Facebook status,
Speaker 1: and whenever I did update my Facebook status, I looked
Speaker 1: back on it like six months later, embarrassed for making
Speaker 1: that my Facebook stay. And so that's all that Twitter
Speaker 1: is for me, is just a chronological display of everything
Speaker 1: I've ever said that and I'm embarrassed by That's exactly
Speaker 1: what Twitter is for. No, And especially like if I'm
Speaker 1: like drinking or something with my friends, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is gonna be so funny, want to tweet this,
Speaker 1: And then I tweeted it, and I like, up the
Speaker 1: next morning, I'm like, why did I tweet that? That's
Speaker 1: the silliest thing, Like I don't know, Just make your
Speaker 1: Twitter just for that and have no shame in it. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I can only access my Twitter after a couple of beers. Um, okay.
Speaker 1: And then Temptation Island is how many episodes in our
Speaker 1: week right now? Like six? Number five premiering this week?
Speaker 1: Yeah okay, and that's five out of like fifteen, isn't it.
Speaker 1: I think there's eleven almost halfway through that, yeah, which
Speaker 1: is crazy. I don't know how, And we're going to
Speaker 1: see you all othern episodes am I allowed to share that?
Speaker 1: Of course you are? Why not? How would answer is yes,
Speaker 1: I'll blink once if the answer is yes, Oh did
Speaker 1: you guys see that? Holy cow, I can't believe she
Speaker 1: just did that. She blinked that many times? No, I'm
Speaker 1: just here. Um, what was your question? Vanessa? Uh? Well,
Speaker 1: there are eliminations because I didn't know how many times
Speaker 1: I was going to be Um, I don't know how
Speaker 1: many times my dates or whatever parts of my conversation
Speaker 1: with Nick we're going to air. So do you know
Speaker 1: have you seen all the episodes before they air? No?
Speaker 1: I don't even think they're done cutting the full season,
Speaker 1: And so the cast is is experiencing this alongside with
Speaker 1: the fans, like we have no idea what they're going
Speaker 1: to show. Um, but there were eliminations, That's what I
Speaker 1: will tell you. All Right, that's good because there are
Speaker 1: a couple of contestants I don't really like very much,
Speaker 1: so I want to see them getting next to Yeah,
Speaker 1: well exactly. I want Brittany to get cut her right, surely, surely. Anyways,
Speaker 1: we'll we'll see your date with Carl tonight. It's gonna
Speaker 1: be great. We all suck at dating, except for Vanessa
Speaker 1: and Easton. I don't know, suck, but oh sorry, I
Speaker 1: have you yelling in the mic, Brittany. We will see
Speaker 1: you on Temptation Line tonight. Uh you said ten nine Central. Yeah,
Speaker 1: ten o'clock eastern here in l A. It's on at
Speaker 1: seven pm on USA. Okay, I think it's right after wrestling. Good,
Speaker 1: get my wrestling fixed and then just jump on over
Speaker 1: the Temptation and it's perfect. I'm pumped. We're gonna watch
Speaker 1: that date with carl Um. It sounds like we're gonna
Speaker 1: get to see you a little bit more of you
Speaker 1: this season as well, sounds like, and so we can
Speaker 1: circle back with you later on in the season then, right, Yeah, Dean,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. This is so cool to like
Speaker 1: actually see your podcast and be here with you in
Speaker 1: your environment and anytime you want, but you can always
Speaker 1: come back. Thanks. This is not my environment, by the way,
Speaker 1: this is just though. Yeah, it's great. Really, you rock,
Speaker 1: Thanks for coming, nice to meet you. Nice big thank
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