Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, and we're back and we're black and
Speaker 1: we're brown Brown Ambition.
Speaker 2: As someone on Twitter or no Instagram, she was like,
Speaker 2: excuse me, is it me? Or has there not been
Speaker 2: a new episode of Brown Ambition since May twenty third?
Speaker 1: Uh? You caught us, you got it.
Speaker 2: It's my fault. Last week I lost my voice and
Speaker 2: I was a hot mess and sick and we were
Speaker 2: not able to tape a show. But we have like
Speaker 2: double of the goodies to share with you guys tonight
Speaker 2: because big things have been happening. Tiffany, you were in
Speaker 2: Disney World.
Speaker 1: Now, I was at Universal Studios. Pretty awesome.
Speaker 2: That looked amazing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it was a lot of fun. I took Superman,
Speaker 1: Supergirl and I we went. We surprised her. We told
Speaker 1: her like we had her wake up at four o'clock
Speaker 1: in the morning. Her mom drove me in Superman to
Speaker 1: the airport and we had her come. And she didn't
Speaker 1: know that we were going because she, according to her,
Speaker 1: has been on the Honorall for twenty two times consecutively.
Speaker 1: Well with two honorable mentions, it would have been twenty four,
Speaker 1: but like twice in third grade, you know, she was
Speaker 1: an honorable mention and so we were like, we wanted
Speaker 1: to reward her good grades, and so I said, let's
Speaker 1: go to Universal Studios. And so we went to the
Speaker 1: airport and we were like, oh, you know, we're going
Speaker 1: to Universal Studios. She was like I want to go.
Speaker 1: We're like, oh, I wanshould wed to know we would
Speaker 1: have packed your bag and she was all hot and
Speaker 1: I was like, well, help me with my bag. She's like,
Speaker 1: help me with your bag. You are four o'clock in
Speaker 1: the morning. She's r like, oh, she's helping with you
Speaker 1: with my bag. And then we hand her hers and
Speaker 1: she's like, why are you guys taking my bag with
Speaker 1: you and we're like, it's not my bag, it's yours.
Speaker 1: She started crying and screaming, and it was honestly so awesome.
Speaker 1: She could not believe she was for me. I know
Speaker 1: I wanted to, but that was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: everything's always for camera. I know, right, Oh for me?
Speaker 1: Oh for me, there's no concept. You're not speaking. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, And throughout the whole trip you kept
Speaker 1: saying I keep waiting for you to say, Oh, I
Speaker 1: gotta go speak, I'll be right back. She's like, I
Speaker 1: can't believe we just did this for me, I know.
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, So, yeah, it was a lot
Speaker 1: of fun because Universal, honestly is just a good behind time.
Speaker 1: So because there's like three I guess three kind of
Speaker 1: like theme parks when it comes to Universal Studios, there's
Speaker 1: actually Universal Studios, there's Islands of Adventure, and they have
Speaker 1: this new like Volcano Bay, which we didn't do because
Speaker 1: we were just there for the weekend, but we rode
Speaker 1: basically every ride. And I went in my travel group
Speaker 1: to ask, you know, kind of like what's the best
Speaker 1: way to do Universal, and someone suggested to stay at
Speaker 1: the one of the three main hotels that they own,
Speaker 1: and they give you this free express pass, which normally
Speaker 1: is like almost like up to like one hundred and
Speaker 1: thirty something per person that we could just jump the
Speaker 1: line and so we never waited more than five minutes
Speaker 1: for a ride, which was awesome.
Speaker 2: Oh that's huge. I remember I went there when I
Speaker 2: was a kid, but I remember nothing except for like
Speaker 2: the hot sun and like being three years old and
Speaker 2: just standing in line and hating everything. So that's majing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was awesome, although there was a little I'm
Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna say this for brown Break, but yeah,
Speaker 1: if I would say it was eighty five percent awesome,
Speaker 1: and I'll share the fifteen percent later.
Speaker 2: Oh suspense, Okay, well I thought it was. I thought
Speaker 2: it was pretty meaningful or like what's the right word.
Speaker 2: I don't know. But anyway, the last time we talked,
Speaker 2: the night you guys heard it, that was a night
Speaker 2: that there was that attack in Manchester, and like I
Speaker 2: had just like the news was happening when we were
Speaker 2: recording the podcast, and then now that we're recording another episode,
Speaker 2: it just came. The day after that Manchester. Ariana Grande
Speaker 2: did her Manchester United or Not United Manchester One Love
Speaker 2: benefit concert and she went back, which I thought was
Speaker 2: I thought it was amazing. I mean, I I mean,
Speaker 2: I wasn't. I mean, I like arion as music, like
Speaker 2: all jam too, but I wasn't like an are On
Speaker 2: a fan. But I feel the need to be an
Speaker 2: arion A fan now because I thought, for and she's young,
Speaker 2: like to to be so close to a terrorist attack
Speaker 2: at your own concert and then less than two weeks later,
Speaker 2: turn right back around, come right back to the same city.
Speaker 2: Not only that, but like bring all these other celebrities
Speaker 2: organize this concert raise three million dollars. Visit all your
Speaker 2: fans at the hospital who were injured. Yeah, I just
Speaker 2: thought it was amazing, And I don't know, I kind
Speaker 2: of just like, you know, you can kind of be
Speaker 2: cynical and think, oh, it's just celebrities and it's just
Speaker 2: music or whatever. But I let myself get all in
Speaker 2: my feelings watching it. I watched it because you can
Speaker 2: watch it like if you hadn't if you missed it.
Speaker 2: They they streamed it live and you can watch it online. Now.
Speaker 2: Coldplay performed and that was special.
Speaker 1: Yes, I love Coldplay.
Speaker 2: I love me some Chris Martin, always have, always will.
Speaker 2: Even Katie Perry din't annoy me so much slightly less
Speaker 2: than usual.
Speaker 1: Are you annoyed by Katy Perry?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah you did?
Speaker 2: You not see her SNL performance at least the video
Speaker 2: at least.
Speaker 1: I heard that it was ridiculous, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm saving it for later when I need a little giggle.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just and you know, I'm not I'm not
Speaker 2: even down for this, like you know, team Katie, team
Speaker 2: Tata thing. But the fact that she wrote such a
Speaker 2: terrible song and then said it was like supposed to
Speaker 2: be an answer to Taylor Swift's Bad Blood, Like the
Speaker 2: song is awful anyway, whatever, I didn't mean to get
Speaker 2: all negative, but anyway, she was there, you know, justin
Speaker 2: Bieber wasn't as annoying as usual. I just thought it
Speaker 2: was awesome.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so it's been a crazy because, you know,
Speaker 1: from Manchester to this recent attack on London Bridge. I'm like,
Speaker 1: what's happening?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I read It's not just that too, I mean
Speaker 2: the London the London Bridge attack. That's another thing to
Speaker 2: think about is that that happened like less than twenty
Speaker 2: four hours before this benefit concert was supposed to go on.
Speaker 2: So the fact that everyone still came out and had
Speaker 2: such a beautiful concert. And there's some people who have
Speaker 2: been talking about, you know, there's a huge bombing, huge
Speaker 2: in Kabul, Afghanistan last week, like hundreds of people injured, died,
Speaker 2: and you know, it didn't get as much. Obviously didn't
Speaker 2: get as much. I think it was covered in mainstream media.
Speaker 2: People always accused the media of not covering it, but
Speaker 2: of course those attacks are covered. But it doesn't resonate,
Speaker 2: doesn't strike the same chord because you know, it's not
Speaker 2: a European ally country like the UK is or whatnot.
Speaker 2: But I feel like, yeah, and they're like, well, why
Speaker 2: didn't you do a benefit concert in these other countries,
Speaker 2: in Syria or whatever. But I give her a break
Speaker 2: for one thing, because it was her concert that was
Speaker 2: there was an attack at Yeah, it was an attack
Speaker 2: on her fans. It was an attack on music. You know,
Speaker 2: I can't think of another time a young pop stars
Speaker 2: concert has been targeted in a terrorist attack? Am I
Speaker 2: missing something?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: So the fact that she went back and did it
Speaker 2: for her fans that was so. I don't think you
Speaker 2: can fault her for doing that. I agree in the
Speaker 2: message it felt. I mean, it was very Manchester focused,
Speaker 2: but I don't know, I felt like it was it
Speaker 2: was sort of for everyone. It was like sort of
Speaker 2: just a message to the world that these attacks are
Speaker 2: meant to They're meant to disrupt our lives, They're meant
Speaker 2: to make us stop enjoying things that make us happy,
Speaker 2: that music, love, friends, whatever, And it was just sort
Speaker 2: of a statement to say that you can't stop us,
Speaker 2: and you won't stop us. And honestly, if you're feeling
Speaker 2: like what can I do all these terrible things are happening.
Speaker 2: The only thing you can do sometimes is just keep
Speaker 2: like the only way to like fight back is just
Speaker 2: to keep living your life.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because like what because, like you said, what else
Speaker 1: can you do? I mean living your life and and
Speaker 1: I can't I don't know, trying to be positive and
Speaker 1: trying to do your part to make things better? Because
Speaker 1: like other than that, what can you do?
Speaker 2: Treat people nicely? You know, that's all you can try.
Speaker 2: I mean I can't go I can't go to the UK.
Speaker 2: I mean it's like we also put a lot of
Speaker 2: I mean there's so much pressure on you know, elected
Speaker 2: officials to like prevent terrorism. How are you going to
Speaker 2: prevent someone from just like driving a van into a
Speaker 2: crowd of people. I mean it's such a You can
Speaker 2: prevent a lot of things, but I I mean we
Speaker 2: have to like we have to I guess in living
Speaker 2: in New York too, you have to like understand or
Speaker 2: reconcile the fact that you're living in a certain amount
Speaker 2: of danger. At any time. Things something can happen that
Speaker 2: can't be prevented and accepted. I guess, you know, whatever
Speaker 2: our commander in chief you know, likes to rant about
Speaker 2: on Twitter.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, let's talk about it. Honestly, for the
Speaker 1: longest time, I didn't know what it was like because
Speaker 1: I was away, So I'm like, what's going on with this?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh my gosh, oh gosh, our commander
Speaker 1: in chief, well not mine, y'all commanded somebody's wrote it
Speaker 1: for him, right, I mean it just even recently, like
Speaker 1: I actually just broke down and watched the news, which
Speaker 1: I typically don't because it is nothing short of depressing.
Speaker 1: And the Mayor of London issued a statement to say,
Speaker 1: you know that to their you know, to London residents,
Speaker 1: don't be alarmed, but you're going to see more police presence.
Speaker 1: That was his statement. Of course, mister Koffe or whatever
Speaker 1: the hell, however you say that word. He only heard
Speaker 1: the mayor say don't be alarmed, so he pounced on
Speaker 1: that on Twitter. It was like, how is he gonna
Speaker 1: say don't be alarmed? That was a poor choice of word.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, you didn't listen to the literally the
Speaker 1: next not even a full sentence, you didn't listen to
Speaker 1: and you're tweeting about it. He's just every kind of idiot.
Speaker 2: How does he have this much free time? I am
Speaker 2: so concerned.
Speaker 1: Because I literally know people who are like I wish
Speaker 1: I had the free time to the President of the
Speaker 1: United States is not busy. There are moms who are
Speaker 1: like what, I can't even watch my behind. I went
Speaker 1: to go pick up my mail from my sister and
Speaker 1: she had the baby and the one and a half
Speaker 1: year old, and I was playing with him, and she
Speaker 1: slipped off and took a shower. I said, what next,
Speaker 1: I know, I hat the water runner. She was like,
Speaker 1: I'll be on a minute. She never have time, But
Speaker 1: how do you have time, sir?
Speaker 2: He's it's like he's a He's literally just sitting on
Speaker 2: a couch in his underpants, just tweeting and watching CNN,
Speaker 2: and that's where he's getting his news. Like, don't doesn't
Speaker 2: he like, why shouldn't he be waiting for all the
Speaker 2: facts to come to get the full picture? He didn't.
Speaker 1: At that point.
Speaker 2: He didn't even know who the We didn't even know
Speaker 2: who the attackers were, what their motives were, was it terrorism?
Speaker 2: Were they even Muslim? And if they were, what the
Speaker 2: hell does that even matter? And he's going on and
Speaker 2: on on about a Muslim band, and I mean, it's
Speaker 2: how freaking rageous, and I can't. I know, people are like, man,
Speaker 2: they talk about Trump, it's like, come on, we get it,
Speaker 2: but like, we can't let it become normal. We can't
Speaker 2: let it become the kind of thing that we're like, oh,
Speaker 2: it's just Trump being Trump. Like that's how we got
Speaker 2: him in the White House exactly. People gave him a pass,
Speaker 2: and like I refuse, refuse to let him get a
Speaker 2: pass because you know, in the fact we did. He
Speaker 2: said a lot happened last week. We pulled out, he announced,
Speaker 2: he dangled, He dragged the media along, you know, teasing
Speaker 2: that he was gonna make his announcement about the parents
Speaker 2: the Paris Climate Deal, and finally did when we all
Speaker 2: knew what he was going to do, which is, you know,
Speaker 2: just undue decades and decades of work for an agreement
Speaker 2: that was largely symbolic in and of itself, and and
Speaker 2: and his reasoning for it was so bizarre and ridiculous.
Speaker 2: The fact that he said that it was gonna hurt
Speaker 2: the US economy, it was going to take away American jobs.
Speaker 2: The actual agreement was like kumbaya. I mean, there were
Speaker 2: a climate there were climate scientists who were annoyed that
Speaker 2: the agreement didn't do more. But it basically said, hey, guys,
Speaker 2: are you gonna like promise to do your best to
Speaker 2: reduce your carbon footprint? You know, over the next couple
Speaker 2: of decades, are you going to try promise? Okay, cool handshake.
Speaker 2: That was literally that's what the Paris Climate Agreement is about.
Speaker 2: But you know, the art of the deal. The master
Speaker 2: negotiator and his big fat ego could not stand that
Speaker 2: it was a deal that Obama put together, not put together,
Speaker 2: but that Obama was a part of. And because I
Speaker 2: think at the end of the day, he's he with
Speaker 2: like tunnel vision, is still pandering to his base, and
Speaker 2: he knows that they think, you know, just the fact
Speaker 2: that he went and said, you know, I represent Pittsburgh,
Speaker 2: not Paris. He's making Paris who the Paris Climate Agreement
Speaker 2: just happened to be signed in Paris. It wasn't like Paris.
Speaker 2: There's one hundred and you know, over one hundred something countries,
Speaker 2: you know, basically every country except for United States, Syria,
Speaker 2: and Nicaragua, who are a part of it. But he
Speaker 2: makes he's so good at pandering to people who are
Speaker 2: afraid of the other. The elite, you know, and what
Speaker 2: sounds more other than elite than France, you know.
Speaker 1: And meanwhile, I'm sure he has a home in France.
Speaker 2: I'm sure he is. I mean, he is their enemy,
Speaker 2: but they don't see it. I don't understand.
Speaker 1: I don't understand either, Honestly, it's crazy. I don't understand.
Speaker 1: And then but like, first of all, I've been living
Speaker 1: for Milania's open shade. She's like, I can't even pretend anymore.
Speaker 2: She does not even try.
Speaker 1: Yo. When she swatted his hand, like, let's be clear,
Speaker 1: that's not part of the contract. You will not touch
Speaker 1: my hand. I was rolling. I was like, wait, did
Speaker 1: she did? She just wat his hand where everyone can see.
Speaker 1: He reached his little, small baby hand back, and she
Speaker 1: was like, not today, not tomorrow, and not any other day.
Speaker 2: Really, I can't wait for her. I can't wait for her.
Speaker 1: Tell all, what, yeah, I mean, you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't know, you know how true this is whatever?
Speaker 1: But I saw it on Lovey's blogs. How you know,
Speaker 1: supposedly she's having an affair with like the head security
Speaker 1: of Tiffany's in the Trump Tower. That was I mean,
Speaker 1: it was just a hilarious funny shady article. But I
Speaker 1: was like, I mean, whether that's true or not, me,
Speaker 1: I doubt it because I feel like that just would
Speaker 1: be so easy to prove and see. But I just
Speaker 1: it's just so clear she's not here for the Donalds.
Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like there was like rumors that
Speaker 2: she had wanted to leave him before the election and
Speaker 2: kind of got swept up in it. I mean, what,
Speaker 2: she's a grown ass woman like she you know, I
Speaker 2: don't think she's like being held hostage, but I do
Speaker 2: appreciate that she's not gonna play the blushing bride like
Speaker 2: doting first lady. If she's you know, she's.
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, I'm over it. She's like And then there
Speaker 1: was one she gave him that, you know, like someone
Speaker 1: tried to hold your hand and she put her hand
Speaker 1: up to her hair like not today, like the fonns.
Speaker 1: She gave him the fonds, the fawns fake out.
Speaker 2: That's what protesting for all of us.
Speaker 1: Yes, remember people are like Blania, blink twice if you
Speaker 1: need help. Ah co.
Speaker 2: That's a good co word for him. Now we don't
Speaker 2: have just say bold order.
Speaker 1: Yes, I feel like I'm saying wrong, but that's what
Speaker 1: I'm gonna call it.
Speaker 2: Did you really post a clip on man bun video
Speaker 2: on our Sacred Brown Ambition Facebook page? Is that what
Speaker 2: I'm seeing right now?
Speaker 1: If you guys are not following us on Facebook, you
Speaker 1: are missing out because we have everything from political, silly, foolish,
Speaker 1: black girl magic, brown girl magic. It's just a mix
Speaker 1: of awesomeness. And I saw this, Yeah, I saw this
Speaker 1: awesome ad for man Buns, and I said, I have
Speaker 1: to share some Brown Ambition because it reminded me of
Speaker 1: like the little buns that like, you know, like I
Speaker 1: used to put on like or me and my friends
Speaker 1: used to do to extend like our hair, you know,
Speaker 1: and just to look like you had a little bit
Speaker 1: more hair. And now they're giving it from me, and
Speaker 1: it looks so fake, like the coloring is off. It's
Speaker 1: just hilarious. So I said, let me put this up
Speaker 1: here just for a little giggle.
Speaker 2: I feel like one strong breeze and nothing that's flying
Speaker 2: off that does not look secure.
Speaker 1: It's just but why, sir, why this is like the
Speaker 1: this is.
Speaker 2: Like the male roy.
Speaker 1: I'm so glad the whole romper talk has died down.
Speaker 1: Speaking of which, of like random talk. Uh so this
Speaker 1: what do you think about this twenty five thousands doll
Speaker 1: a prom. I know you've seen it, the story.
Speaker 2: What why?
Speaker 1: Okay, so let me bring it down.
Speaker 2: Reading too much Trump news, not enough real news.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So okay, there's this woman, she from North Philly.
Speaker 1: She threw like a prom send offs. So you know,
Speaker 1: remember back in the day when we said prom send
Speaker 1: offs and it was just like you and your friends
Speaker 1: at the park taking pictures, right, or maybe sometimes there
Speaker 1: would be a place like there might be like the
Speaker 1: school parking lot whereverybody would meet before they go to
Speaker 1: the prom, right, and you know, and then like you know,
Speaker 1: at most who had the nicest limousine and that was
Speaker 1: the big thing. And then it got a little bit
Speaker 1: more big, and you know, like more and more proms
Speaker 1: becoming a bigger.
Speaker 2: And big social media is like, I don't I'm glad,
Speaker 2: I'm not going to prom this this dand age.
Speaker 1: First of all, I looked at hot Mess and I think,
Speaker 1: like we drove my dad to like ten year old Mercedes. Okay,
Speaker 1: I thought we was doing it. And I remember I
Speaker 1: got my dress from Lord and Taylor. I was like, yes,
Speaker 1: get into this Lord and Tailor drag. But so this
Speaker 1: mom decided to go all out for her son's prom
Speaker 1: and had been planning it for I think it was
Speaker 1: either four years or two years. I mean Mandy. So
Speaker 1: it was called like you have to look up the
Speaker 1: hashtag Philly Philly to Dubai.
Speaker 2: I am researching this immediately.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Philly to Dubai, hashtag twenty five thousand. A prom
Speaker 1: she's been saving for years. She had a camel, she
Speaker 1: had three tons of sand shipped in. She she had
Speaker 1: he had three different three different types of cars, three.
Speaker 2: Dates like yeah, three dates like girls.
Speaker 1: Two of them were models, and then he had to
Speaker 1: see it because he had two outfit changes.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: And then the last date was actual.
Speaker 2: Wait, so this was the problem. She held the prom
Speaker 2: for the school.
Speaker 1: No, so that's just the sendoff, Like that's wait, this
Speaker 1: is like what yes, the party like this is basically
Speaker 1: like the party, like you know how normally the sendoff
Speaker 1: is where kids take pictures with their friends and this.
Speaker 2: Camel.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well it was supposed to be a Philly to Dubai.
Speaker 1: She was like she was going to for graduating because
Speaker 1: he's like he's a straight A student and he got
Speaker 1: a full scholarship. I think he plays like basketball or
Speaker 1: something like that, got a full scholarship to whatever school
Speaker 1: he's going to go to. So to celebrate him, she
Speaker 1: was going to send him to Dubai, but decided instead
Speaker 1: to bring Dubai to Philly. So I think she's a caterer.
Speaker 1: I think that's what she does for like a living.
Speaker 1: And at first, I'm not gonna lie. I was judging
Speaker 1: and I was like, what, this is crazy, this is
Speaker 1: so wasteful. But then when you read her story, you
Speaker 1: kind of understand, and you're like, I understand because so
Speaker 1: apparently this is a mother who I think three or
Speaker 1: four years ago she was that with cancer and was
Speaker 1: basically dying. They were like, you're not gonna make it,
Speaker 1: and she was just thinking of all the things that
Speaker 1: she was going to miss, and she was like, well,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna miss my baby's prom. I'm gonna just miss everything,
Speaker 1: and so they she was diagnosed with cancer, and then
Speaker 1: she was diagnosed with something else again where she couldn't walk,
Speaker 1: and he took care of her, and she told herself
Speaker 1: that if I lived to see him, she really didn't
Speaker 1: think she was going to live past graduation for him,
Speaker 1: if I lived to see him like graduating high school
Speaker 1: and go to prom. I don't care what it takes.
Speaker 1: I'm going to go all out because I don't know
Speaker 1: if I'm going to make it much further past that.
Speaker 1: You know. So she started saving back then when she
Speaker 1: was sick, and she has an affairly I guess a
Speaker 1: successful like catering business, and that's why. And so I
Speaker 1: kind of understood, you know. One I tried because I
Speaker 1: you know, like I had to check myself because so
Speaker 1: many people were like, you know, it's so quick to
Speaker 1: easily judge and be like, well with a waste what
Speaker 1: a this? People were saying stuff like I hope she's
Speaker 1: saved for I'm like, well, he has full scholarship. And
Speaker 1: and two somebody made no. And this is true because
Speaker 1: I went to I lived in Westfield, which is a
Speaker 1: largely Jewish population. I remember like one of my friends
Speaker 1: had her bomb Mitzvah like rented like a cruise ship
Speaker 1: and like it was huge, and we all got like
Speaker 1: these gift baskets that were like hundreds. I mean it
Speaker 1: was crazy.
Speaker 2: Let's in New Jersey.
Speaker 1: I would say that, yes, And so I I estimate
Speaker 1: her parents her parents probably spent just as much and
Speaker 1: someone said that. They were like, you know, no one
Speaker 1: says anything when people spend that amount of money for
Speaker 1: Bob mitzvahs, then why can't Why can't we celebrate because anytime,
Speaker 1: it seems like anytime people of color, you know, put
Speaker 1: on get a Gucci bell, get a nice car or whatever,
Speaker 1: everyone's like, oh, this is what's wrong with black people?
Speaker 1: They probably yes, And so I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I had to check myself. I said, you know what,
Speaker 1: you're right, because I if like, if someone told me today, oh,
Speaker 1: someone spent fifteen thousand dollars on their child's MIXVA, I wouldn't.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, yeah, that's about like you know what
Speaker 1: I've heard before. So then why not this coming of
Speaker 1: age for her son? So would I spend the money
Speaker 1: in that way? No? But I could also understand it's
Speaker 1: basically to me, the prom this whole thing was a
Speaker 1: celebration of life for her, and I feel like she's
Speaker 1: you know, probably rolling in all his celebrations in one
Speaker 1: because she said even in like one of the articles,
Speaker 1: I felt so bad. She has lumps. She said in
Speaker 1: the article, she hasn't even told her son that they
Speaker 1: recently found some lumps in her mouth and she doesn't
Speaker 1: know it's looking like the cancer might have come back.
Speaker 2: I do have some advice for her to stop talking
Speaker 2: to the media. Yeah, so I'm like, your son read
Speaker 2: about your lumps in the media. Yeah, and anybody. I
Speaker 2: don't see why people even tell the media how much
Speaker 2: they spend on things. You know it's going to happen,
Speaker 2: don't give it. Don't give us a number. We're just
Speaker 2: going to take that number and put it in all
Speaker 2: the headlines and that's all anybody's gonna read about, because
Speaker 2: we all know no one reads past the first paragraph.
Speaker 2: But I'm glad you did because that, Yeah, it gives
Speaker 2: me a little bit additional perspective. I actually just read
Speaker 2: another quick story about it, and it sounded like they
Speaker 2: had like a family reunion, Like it was like a
Speaker 2: block party and like family came over and.
Speaker 1: Yep, she fed the whole and she kind of wanted
Speaker 1: to share that experience with not just her son, but everyone.
Speaker 1: It kind of was it was a party for like
Speaker 1: North Philly, and but honestly, if you get a cheat
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna try to share it on our page.
Speaker 1: There is this video of a woman from North Philly hilarious.
Speaker 1: So she's doing a video reaction. She was like, oh,
Speaker 1: so this lady thinks she won the prom. Oh, she
Speaker 1: didn't win the prom. See, I got eighteen years until
Speaker 1: I guess her daughter turns ready for the problem. When
Speaker 1: she's ready for the prom, So I'm getting her a
Speaker 1: unicorn and a dolphin. My daughter showing up in a
Speaker 1: in a wet suit like it was like, honestly, it
Speaker 1: was huh hilarious. I'm gonna share it on the page,
Speaker 1: but yeah, I just it won It helped to check me,
Speaker 1: because you know, my you need your reaction is to
Speaker 1: be like, oh, how wasteful. But then I thought, you know,
Speaker 1: well is it wasteful because because she's black, Like, why
Speaker 1: can't she spend that amount of money when I know
Speaker 1: that there are so many other cultures that spend similar
Speaker 1: amounts of money for coming up age parties, for their
Speaker 1: for their children. And I don't even blink an eye
Speaker 1: when I hear about it. And so I had to
Speaker 1: really like, you know, it's a nice little self check
Speaker 1: to say, Okay, and even if she wasn't, you know,
Speaker 1: cancer and all these other things, why should that still
Speaker 1: be something that she doesn't do you know, for her
Speaker 1: son and that's what she wants to do, and you know,
Speaker 1: like yeah, so I just thought like okay, like less
Speaker 1: judgment and just like but honestly, the son told his
Speaker 1: mother I think it's too much, and she was like,
Speaker 1: you'd be quiet. This is for me.
Speaker 2: I mean as a as a person who just spent
Speaker 2: tens of thousands of dollars on a wedding I can
Speaker 2: and feeling like it was worth every penny. I never
Speaker 2: thought I would get to that place. But to see
Speaker 2: your family together and to celebrate it when you're doing
Speaker 2: it for the right reasons and you're doing it exactly
Speaker 2: how you want it, it's a beautiful thing and should
Speaker 2: if you have the money, girls, spend your money. I
Speaker 2: saw Jessica Simpson on Ellen talking about her daughter's eight
Speaker 2: year birthday with like mermaids and crap. I'm sure like
Speaker 2: one of those mermaids costs twenty five g's real. So anyway,
Speaker 2: I will choose to take that with a positive spin,
Speaker 2: although I still feel like prom is like the worst.
Speaker 1: Now, yeah it is.
Speaker 2: Everyone's got to break the internet with her prom dress
Speaker 2: and stuff. Yes, everyone prom proposals.
Speaker 1: What it's like, She's sending your daughter off as a
Speaker 1: girl come back as a woman, and then baby proms?
Speaker 1: Have you seen this? Like my godson Gabe, you know
Speaker 1: Drina my publicist, she's also my best friend. Her son
Speaker 1: is my godson and he's like two and he had
Speaker 1: a baby problem. It was so cute. So he had
Speaker 1: his little church you know, church suit on and like cute.
Speaker 2: Who hosted this baby prom?
Speaker 1: So he goes to daycare and so they had it
Speaker 1: a daycare. So everybody just dressed up in their little
Speaker 1: church outfits and eight cookies like they normally do, and
Speaker 1: played music and so parents can take pictures. So it
Speaker 1: was cute. But then I saw I posted on the
Speaker 1: facebook page on Brown Ambition there's some baby proms. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: some of the girls her dress like at two and three,
Speaker 1: really provocative.
Speaker 2: Why are we putting our babies and they had so
Speaker 2: much time before they have to be uncomfortable and worry
Speaker 2: about their bodies and make it. Why are you putting
Speaker 2: it on them? That's so young?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I posted it's a little girl on a yellow.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, the Beauty and the Beast thing. Oh I
Speaker 2: didn't know that was like a prom. I thought that
Speaker 2: was like Halloween.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, that wasn't. That wasn't. I don't think I
Speaker 1: was beauty in the beast. It's she's next to this
Speaker 1: little boy who's wearing this little white tuxiedough with yellow
Speaker 1: I guess, like trim, and she herself was wearing like
Speaker 1: this really skin tight yellow like velvet draw It was
Speaker 1: a lot. I was like, oh, okay.
Speaker 2: A deep cleavage with nothing. Yeah, that kind of disturbed
Speaker 2: by it reminds me of the bell dress because it's
Speaker 2: so yellow. But yeah, yeah, he's not dressed. I was like, oh, okay, yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm not down for baby proms. I mean, do don't
Speaker 2: parents hate that shit? Like if you're a working mom
Speaker 2: and your daycare is like, oh yeah, you need to
Speaker 2: put your son in a three piece suit for the
Speaker 2: baby prom, Like if you have stuff to do, like
Speaker 2: my mom when she when she had four kids, single mom,
Speaker 2: like she couldn't do all that stuff and like I
Speaker 2: can only imagine like moms now or dads even like
Speaker 2: when you have one more and like they have like
Speaker 2: they have days where I think I read an article
Speaker 2: there was like a New York Times column where a
Speaker 2: mom said that she had to like her she had
Speaker 2: a note from the teacher saying that it was unfortunate
Speaker 2: that she didn't participate in Teacher's Favorite Color day where
Speaker 2: the kids had to wear the teacher's favorite color, and
Speaker 2: you know, her son was left out. And I'm like that,
Speaker 2: I don't know. I mean, I kind of get why
Speaker 2: schools need to to make things fun, but like, I
Speaker 2: don't know, man, daycare spending like thousands of dollars to
Speaker 2: pay car your kid not cause more trouble for you exactly.
Speaker 1: I will say this that like Drina's daycare, like she
Speaker 1: just they just were like, if you want them to
Speaker 1: wear you know, you know, wear a prom outfit, to
Speaker 1: just send it to them to school, the teachers would
Speaker 1: change them. I was like, what, because there's no way
Speaker 1: when I talk preschool, I'm not changing nobody one.
Speaker 2: For the teachers.
Speaker 1: No, the teachers, why change them? I said, Drina, I
Speaker 1: don't know what school. You said just so too, but
Speaker 1: it must be awesome because there's no way that me
Speaker 1: and one teacher's eight are changing fifteen kids into their Sunday's.
Speaker 2: Best and for what reason.
Speaker 1: Just to take pictures on a cray paper red carpet. Meanwhile,
Speaker 1: all the pictures of her son. He's crying reaching for
Speaker 1: her like oh my God, like oh me, because now
Speaker 1: that he's seen her, he was like, I don't care
Speaker 1: about this prom business. I want to go home. Yeah. No,
Speaker 1: it's just I just think that.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be a lama's parent. I'm like, well, my
Speaker 2: mom didn't bring me cupcakes at school on my birthday,
Speaker 2: so here's your money for some snacks.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of her, like how what kind
Speaker 1: of mom would I be? I feel like I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be a tied mom, like I'm sad.
Speaker 2: The kind of mom who takes her stepdaughter to freaking
Speaker 2: Universal Studios on a whim. That stepmom ever will be
Speaker 2: my stepmom.
Speaker 1: You know supermoms, I mean super Supergirl's mom. I call
Speaker 1: her supermom. She was like, because she's in school to
Speaker 1: get her masters, and she was like, I got allays
Speaker 1: a semester.
Speaker 2: I know. I love how you guys made her drive
Speaker 2: you to the airport. She's a shady she real you
Speaker 2: guys have us a real have a real strong relationship.
Speaker 1: Did she offered? She's like, you want me to take
Speaker 1: you guys to the airport? Honestly, her mom supermom is
Speaker 1: like the best mom. You know, she's just great. We
Speaker 1: have like the three of us have like I mean,
Speaker 1: she's got a significant other.
Speaker 2: Two.
Speaker 1: I don't see him really, I don't think I've ever
Speaker 1: met him, but the three of us have like a
Speaker 1: really good solid relationship.
Speaker 2: I can't even tell you how lucky Supergirl is because
Speaker 2: that is everything and it's so hard to do. You know,
Speaker 2: my parents had a messy divorce. I don't know. I'm
Speaker 2: still like that. It affects you so much as a kid,
Speaker 2: Like I can't even tell you in ways that you kids,
Speaker 2: you never let you see either. So such a good
Speaker 2: example for like co parenting is just warms my little
Speaker 2: divorced baby heart.
Speaker 1: Brown break Brown boost. What you're gonna do? Are you
Speaker 1: gonna break or boost? Choose to I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna I'm gonna boost. Okay, I'm gonna boost, and
Speaker 2: it's gonna I'm just gonna toot my own horn. Okay, two,
Speaker 2: it away too too, sorry in advance, I want to
Speaker 2: boost being a boss because it feels so good. Well,
Speaker 2: it's hard. It's very hard work because I manage people
Speaker 2: now and all that kind of stuff, and I've I'm
Speaker 2: not perfect. I've had to learn, you know, I made
Speaker 2: some hires, like brought on people that weren't so great,
Speaker 2: and you know, and I've had to like learn from
Speaker 2: those lessons and how to like find the right person
Speaker 2: for the right role or whatever. But I have become
Speaker 2: way more decisive when it comes to like like, uh,
Speaker 2: managing a team and knowing when someone isn't working and
Speaker 2: saying this is not working and here comes the acts
Speaker 2: and it has to go, and not feeling bad about it.
Speaker 2: And this happened recently where I had to let someone
Speaker 2: go and not a full time person. You know. Not
Speaker 2: a fan of the podcast hopefully, but I just and
Speaker 2: I but I feel like when I first started, and
Speaker 2: especially for like a boss who's coming in when a
Speaker 2: team is already in place, it's really hard. I don't
Speaker 2: know if you've ever been a manager anyone listening for
Speaker 2: been a manager and you've sort of like taken over
Speaker 2: someone's team and you come on and you may have
Speaker 2: to you know, get rid of some people or bring
Speaker 2: some new ones on. It's always you can feel kind
Speaker 2: of like like an outsider coming in and changing things up.
Speaker 2: But you know, I'm lucky to work where I am
Speaker 2: because they've sort of given me the space to grow
Speaker 2: the team from scratch that I'm growing, and to also
Speaker 2: get rid of sort of things that aren't working and
Speaker 2: bring into things that are working. And once I started
Speaker 2: to own that and own the fact that, Okay, I
Speaker 2: can make decisions. I can decide when something's not working.
Speaker 2: I can't wait for someone else to decide that for me,
Speaker 2: or do the dirty work, send the mean emails, send
Speaker 2: the you know, be the tough editor, all that kind
Speaker 2: of stuff. And I feel like the last year, it's
Speaker 2: been a year since I left Yahoo and enjoying Magnify,
Speaker 2: and so I've been reflecting on just the past year
Speaker 2: and how I've grown and what I can do better,
Speaker 2: And I have to say, like, I feel like it
Speaker 2: has been the development and the growth of coming into
Speaker 2: that sense of like leadership and that sense of yeah,
Speaker 2: I do kind of I do know what I'm doing,
Speaker 2: and I do have a sense of what I want,
Speaker 2: and I do know when it's not working, and I can,
Speaker 2: you know, and much more quickly make those decisions to
Speaker 2: stop than when it's not working than before.
Speaker 1: When you're kind of like that's being a boss is
Speaker 1: not easy, but you're right though, learning as you go
Speaker 1: and accepting the fact that you're not gonna be perfect,
Speaker 1: but you're definitely gonna get better. That's awesome.
Speaker 2: I try.
Speaker 1: Ah, well, mine is a little shady. I'm taking a
Speaker 1: brown break, and it's gonna seem odd since I told
Speaker 1: you I had a good time, which I did on vacation,
Speaker 1: but I'm taking a brown break from fan vacations. Shah.
Speaker 1: I was like, wait a minute. This made me think
Speaker 1: to my parents and like, maybe want to call my
Speaker 1: parents and say I'm so sorry, because I'm sure I
Speaker 1: was terrible, especially with five kids. Well at LISTA it
Speaker 1: was a baby, so four kids on family vacation, so
Speaker 1: eighty five percent of the time it was awesome. But
Speaker 1: the fifteen percent that I was I said, what's happening?
Speaker 1: Is this how children act? Well, I mean like, it's
Speaker 1: not like I haven't been around kids. I'll give you
Speaker 1: an example.
Speaker 2: So other people's children are supergirl.
Speaker 1: Supergirl, I mean other people. I like, once the last day,
Speaker 1: I kind of took a step outside of our little
Speaker 1: group and I realized that every parent was losing their mind.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, okay, they had one what And
Speaker 1: I saw it like Manuel, I've never heard more annunciation
Speaker 1: like tom nevva lissa, but every parent was trying so
Speaker 1: hard not to snatch their little kid up in front
Speaker 1: of company. Let me tell you, like, I'll give you
Speaker 1: an example. So it was like, I guess it's just
Speaker 1: that time of season where in Florida it rains, like
Speaker 1: after like five o'clock it starts to like rain. So
Speaker 1: we'd gone and we had an awesome day at Universal
Speaker 1: in the morning and the afternoon, and then afterwards, I
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, we can go to the pool, but
Speaker 1: the pool is outside, so we go, even though it's
Speaker 1: it was drizzling a little, and honestly I kind of
Speaker 1: didn't want to go, but I was like, I know
Speaker 1: she really wants to go, so fine, we'll go. Nobody
Speaker 1: was in the pool, and then the the lifeguard came
Speaker 1: up to us and said, oh, there's lightning in the area,
Speaker 1: so that's why the pool is closed. So I tell her, Supergirl,
Speaker 1: you know, we have to go because the pool is closed,
Speaker 1: and she was like why. I was like, there's lightning
Speaker 1: and she was like okay, and I'm like, well, you know,
Speaker 1: if lightning hits the water, you know, then you could
Speaker 1: get electrocuted. She was like okay. I said, super Girl,
Speaker 1: you have to get out of the pool, but I
Speaker 1: want to swim.
Speaker 2: But she's in the water.
Speaker 1: While this happened, I'm like, so now I'm like at
Speaker 1: a loss. I'm like, so what I'm like? But I said,
Speaker 1: water is a conductor and I went to explain. She said,
Speaker 1: I know what it can risks the sad. He proceeded
Speaker 1: to give me a science lesson breaking down the conductivity
Speaker 1: of water and electricity, and I was like, where's your
Speaker 1: father because I was like, I don't know what to do.
Speaker 1: If I was supposed to haul you out of the pool.
Speaker 1: I was like, you have to get at the pool.
Speaker 1: So then finally he came and she got out and
Speaker 1: just give me the side, like I'm willing to take
Speaker 1: the risk basically, And I was like, what is happening?
Speaker 1: And at one point, Superman we went on the ride
Speaker 1: and it made him like he wasn't feeling well. I
Speaker 1: guess it just made him really dizzy, and you know,
Speaker 1: like maybe like two years ago he had aneurysm surgery
Speaker 1: and so I was worried because he didn't look good
Speaker 1: and I was like, okay, So I told her we
Speaker 1: had one more ride to go on that we didn't
Speaker 1: go on yet, the Shrek ride. And I was like,
Speaker 1: you know, Supergirl, just give your father a minute. I
Speaker 1: don't I don't think he's feeling well. And she said, oh,
Speaker 1: he's okay, he just needs to go to the bathroom.
Speaker 1: And I just looked at her, like, just give us
Speaker 1: a minute, like and I said, well, I told her,
Speaker 1: I said, you know, Supergirl, you know we have to
Speaker 1: be kind because you know, if you're I was not
Speaker 1: feeling well, then that's more important than riding the ride.
Speaker 1: She looked at me like two and it had the
Speaker 1: attitude of our lifetime. And I was like, what's happening?
Speaker 1: And I was like, she was like, I want to
Speaker 1: ride this ride. Damn if he's dying. I was like,
Speaker 1: And the thing that like the straw that broke the
Speaker 1: camel's back. We went to eat eat that shake shack
Speaker 1: and I look over it. Yeah, they did it and
Speaker 1: it was so good. It was my first time ever
Speaker 1: having shakeshack.
Speaker 2: I never would Okay.
Speaker 1: And so we're like we're like eating, We're having a
Speaker 1: good time. And she was like, Tippy, look at look
Speaker 1: at my carving. This girl took She was wearing a
Speaker 1: sweatshirt and it was like I had little metal tips
Speaker 1: on the on the little draw stowing part of the
Speaker 1: sweatshirt used the metal tip to carve her name into
Speaker 1: the shake shack of table. Mandy.
Speaker 2: I was like, what is that?
Speaker 1: She was like my carving. Meanwhile, she's not fine, she's dead.
Speaker 2: I was like, so that's graffiti.
Speaker 1: Yes. I was like she had the nerve to be mad.
Speaker 1: I was like, you can't do that. She was like,
Speaker 1: it's not a big deal. It wipes away. I said,
Speaker 1: carvings don't wipe away. I thought Superman was gonna fly
Speaker 1: over that table. He was like, you're not supposed to
Speaker 1: do that. And she was literally angry at us for
Speaker 1: like how dare you check me? I mean like attitude
Speaker 1: going to the car, attitude in the in the in
Speaker 1: the elevator, like it's not a big deal. It was
Speaker 1: just my name and they can wipe away. And I
Speaker 1: was like what I know. So I had to text
Speaker 1: her mother because that is the one person that could
Speaker 1: get her all the way together. So I secretly text
Speaker 1: her mother, was like, super Supermom, I need you to
Speaker 1: call your daughter and get her together. And I told
Speaker 1: her some of her Shenanigans, and before I knew it
Speaker 1: that that phone was ringing on video call Ah, she
Speaker 1: took it off to the side, like I need to
Speaker 1: take this privately. Came back with a new attitude, happy girl, lucky,
Speaker 1: Hi dies. I said, sometimes that's what you need, supermom,
Speaker 1: to just get yourself together. And it was just like
Speaker 1: so who it was just a lot like other than
Speaker 1: like I said, it was fun. The park and everything
Speaker 1: was fun. I use groupon as your friend because in
Speaker 1: the evening, since we couldn't do anything because it was
Speaker 1: raining so bad, I just used groupon to find like
Speaker 1: fun activities, Like we did like this trampoline place where
Speaker 1: you could like jump all around, So we did that
Speaker 1: one night for like ten bucks apiece. And then we
Speaker 1: did like these video game thing where you like immersed
Speaker 1: yourself and like sat in a special chair and wore
Speaker 1: these special glasses to play this video games so you
Speaker 1: felt like you were actually in the game. We did
Speaker 1: that for like fifteen bucks one night. So you know,
Speaker 1: I made sure that we had fun. And like I said,
Speaker 1: eighty five percent of it was great, but that fifteen percent,
Speaker 1: I said, Lord, I know, I said, I want kids,
Speaker 1: but lord, I was just.
Speaker 2: A preview of teenage years. I know only go didn't
Speaker 2: get work.
Speaker 1: I would do that, I said, my god, So where
Speaker 1: do we.
Speaker 2: Traw the line between letting them feel themselves but feel
Speaker 2: themselves too much? Get it hard?
Speaker 1: Because it's not like like for me, I'm I'm always
Speaker 1: really mindful that this is not my child, you know,
Speaker 1: because I don't want to, you know, because it's not
Speaker 1: like she has an absentee parent. She's got two really
Speaker 1: great parents. So I'm always very hesitant about how, you know,
Speaker 1: how much to say because I feel like it's not
Speaker 1: my place. I don't know, honestly, it's hard. Like her
Speaker 1: mother always tells me, no, Tiffany, like you know, you're
Speaker 1: marrying superman, like she's yours now too, and I'm like yeah,
Speaker 1: and yeah, I'm not a yeller honestly, I'm not a
Speaker 1: like you know, so that doesn't happen. Like she doesn't
Speaker 1: really get spankings. I mean maybe on occasion her mother might,
Speaker 1: but that's not really she doesn't really need it, and
Speaker 1: so you know, and that's like my nature is not
Speaker 1: yelling and screaming anything anyway. But I always feel weird
Speaker 1: because you know, I just don't want to push her
Speaker 1: away because it's not like like I'm not mommy, I'm
Speaker 1: not daddy, you know what I mean. So it's always
Speaker 1: just this weird space where I'm like, let me just
Speaker 1: call your mom real quick. So that's been like my backup,
Speaker 1: like let me text your mama real quick.
Speaker 2: She can handles like a perfect way. I think you
Speaker 2: guys found your way to handle it. So you know,
Speaker 2: when it's like level ten, you know, behavior issues, you
Speaker 2: contact mom and then you handle like levels one through three.
Speaker 2: You know, like levels three through seven are Superman seven
Speaker 2: through ten, that's mom my territory like and like it
Speaker 2: was different for everybody.
Speaker 1: Like graffiti level ten, I was like, oh, they.
Speaker 2: Don't want my name on this table, but one day
Speaker 2: I'll probably be famous. So oh my.
Speaker 1: God, I was like what I was like, I can't
Speaker 1: wait to go back home.
Speaker 2: As one reformed brat to one budding bat. I acknowledge you.
Speaker 2: I see you, Supercurl. It's gonna be a rocky year
Speaker 2: for you, to rocky next eight years for you.
Speaker 1: Guys, Oh my god, huh yeah, just pray for me.
Speaker 1: Be a family.
Speaker 2: You're you're in our thoughts and prayers.
Speaker 1: Well, let's take care of their issues now, any any
Speaker 1: good questions in our in our inbox.
Speaker 2: Yes, we have a good question from l she'd like
Speaker 2: to remain anonymous. Insult and it's no miss lu. Miss
Speaker 2: Elle says, I'm a realtor, but wasn't working my business
Speaker 2: for a while, and now I'm in debt. I'm sixty
Speaker 2: three thousand dollars behind on my mortgage. I'm being sued
Speaker 2: for two accidents and in another twenty thousand dollars in debt,
Speaker 2: and right now I'm also about to send two of
Speaker 2: my kids off to college. One's going in, one's going
Speaker 2: in a year, and the other's going to go next year.
Speaker 2: I revamped my business, but I have no savings and
Speaker 2: no money in the bank. Is bankruptcy Chapter seven right
Speaker 2: for me? Mis Elda? What do you think she means
Speaker 2: I'm sixty to sixty thousand dollars behind in my mortgage.
Speaker 1: Meaning that she probably has not paid her mortgage and
Speaker 1: she owes it's probably over a year. Yeah, probably, I mean,
Speaker 1: depending what kind of how she has. YEP.
Speaker 2: I know bankruptcy sounds dra drastic and people are afraid
Speaker 2: of it, and it is something too. It is something
Speaker 2: to approach with caution. Obviously. I mean that takes what
Speaker 2: a decade for you to recover from a bankruptcy. I
Speaker 2: mean your credit is going to be crap for a while.
Speaker 2: But I feel like, yes, I feel yeah, sixty thousand dollars,
Speaker 2: you can't make your mortgage payments, you weren't bringing any
Speaker 2: money from your business, You have twenty thousand dollars in debt,
Speaker 2: two kids going off to college soon. I mean, obviously,
Speaker 2: I feel like you should, you know, reach out to
Speaker 2: someone you know who can maybe give you some more
Speaker 2: specific advice because maybe you have something else, you have
Speaker 2: other things going on, But I mean, I don't know
Speaker 2: what that amount of debt. Yeah, my my my instinct
Speaker 2: is to say, I think you should at least consider it. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you're right to be considering it.
Speaker 1: And also too, I mean when you're are your kids,
Speaker 1: like how is college going to be paid for? Like
Speaker 1: are they taking out student loans?
Speaker 2: Doesn't sound like she can afford to help them?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean honestly, I would highly consider like like
Speaker 1: having your child really think about maybe spending the first
Speaker 1: two years at a community college. And this is what
Speaker 1: so a friend of mine did this. She went to
Speaker 1: community college, got straight a's and there's a college a
Speaker 1: community I don't know if it's Essex County, but oftentimes
Speaker 1: community colleges will partner with for your schools. So for example,
Speaker 1: Essex County partners with Rutgers where and I don't know
Speaker 1: if they still do this, but at the time, if
Speaker 1: you got straight days at Essex County College, you got
Speaker 1: a full scholarship to Rutgers, so, you know, so just
Speaker 1: looking at it differently, so at the end, you know,
Speaker 1: and then too, because it partnered, those were partner schools,
Speaker 1: they accepted those credits, so it wasn't like you were
Speaker 1: starting all over. Oftentimes, if you go from school to school,
Speaker 1: they don't take all your credits because they want their money,
Speaker 1: you know. But with you know, with Essex County, it's
Speaker 1: like Rutgers Newark is in Essex County and so they
Speaker 1: took those credits till you started off as a junior
Speaker 1: and now you have, you know, the next two years
Speaker 1: are free. And so really considering alternative ways of having
Speaker 1: your child go to school, it's gonna help tremendously. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I probably honestly would think about bankruptcy. But you want
Speaker 1: to get clear on what the ramifications of bankruptcy are.
Speaker 2: Let's talk about that. So I feel like people think
Speaker 2: about bankruptcy and they're just like, oh, that sounds terrifying.
Speaker 2: Well I've been in it. I haven't been at bankruptcy,
Speaker 2: but I've had family members who followed bankruptcy, so I
Speaker 2: don't mind talking about it. So there are two types
Speaker 2: of bankruptcy, and I am referring to Magnify money. We
Speaker 2: have this awesome free Get out of Debt Forever guide online,
Speaker 2: so I am just cheating my way by reading our
Speaker 2: bankruptcy section to refresh my own memory. But there's two
Speaker 2: types of bankruptcy. Of chapter seven, which Miss l is
Speaker 2: talking about in chapter thirteen. The only the difference between
Speaker 2: the two is how how they treat your debt. So
Speaker 2: with chapter seven, you completely discharge your debt except for
Speaker 2: some things like student loans obviously and maybe child support.
Speaker 2: Chapter thirteen is completely different. It's when you actually repay
Speaker 2: your debt, but you come up with like a repayment
Speaker 2: plan for all your different debts and you have three
Speaker 2: to five years to basically pay them off, so you're
Speaker 2: not discharging your debt, You're going to pay them off
Speaker 2: over a certain amount of time.
Speaker 1: Is it doesn't like I think at chapter seven, don't
Speaker 1: you you might have to even liquidate some of your assets.
Speaker 2: Yes, Chapter seven. Yeah, so you may have to liquidate
Speaker 2: like your home or any property that you have, or
Speaker 2: a car. Even I know someone in Knew who filed
Speaker 2: Chapter seven bankruptcy had to get rid of their car.
Speaker 2: They didn't have to leave their home. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know what. It depends on how much debt
Speaker 2: you have and how much you're in the in the red,
Speaker 2: whether or not you have to sell off your assets
Speaker 2: to be able to settle, because sometimes when they say,
Speaker 2: you know, Chapter seven allows you to discharge your debts,
Speaker 2: your creditors will probably petition the court and say, well,
Speaker 2: we don't want nothing, we want at least get something,
Speaker 2: and the court is going to decide who gets what.
Speaker 2: And the court may say, well, you know, you have
Speaker 2: a home with like fifty thousand dollars worth of equity,
Speaker 2: so you go ahead and sell that off and then
Speaker 2: give that fifty grand to I don't know, these credit
Speaker 2: card companies or this lender here or there. So every
Speaker 2: case is different and it can be nasty, like I
Speaker 2: and especially after the recession, of course, a lot more
Speaker 2: people than usual or filing bankruptcy, and the people a
Speaker 2: couple of people I know who file bankruptcy here on
Speaker 2: that time had had a really rough time in court
Speaker 2: because the judges were being super tough on them about
Speaker 2: what they owed and not being you knows as lax
Speaker 2: about letting certain debts be discharged.
Speaker 1: So you just want to be mindful that filing for
Speaker 1: bankruptcy is not like it's like, you know, years ago,
Speaker 1: it was an easy like kind of like clean slate.
Speaker 1: But that's not necessarily what it's going to be now,
Speaker 1: and and it might not be a bankruptcy thing, right
Speaker 1: because well because like for example, like I owed, I
Speaker 1: don't even know how much I owed a ton of
Speaker 1: money on my home, and so I didn't file bankruptcy.
Speaker 1: I you know, I don't I guess you don't file
Speaker 1: for foreclosure. I just you know, went through foreclosure. So
Speaker 1: although it's equally it's damaging to your credit report, I
Speaker 1: didn't file for bankruptcy. They just ended up taking the house,
Speaker 1: which obviously you have kids, so you don't want that
Speaker 1: to necessarily happen, but you might lose the house anyway.
Speaker 2: Get me a lot When people are like don't follow
Speaker 2: a bankruptcy. It's going to ruin your credit. I'm like,
Speaker 2: but if you're considering bankruptcy, chances are your credit you're.
Speaker 1: Here now exactly because if you're owing that much money
Speaker 1: on your mortgage, so you probably already your credit is
Speaker 1: already there. So just thinking about alternative ways if that
Speaker 1: not for the like the credit issue, but just making
Speaker 1: sure you're what's going to be least disruptive. Is it foreclosure,
Speaker 1: is it bankruptcy? Something is going to have to happen,
Speaker 1: but what's going to be least disruptive to your life?
Speaker 1: And meeting with someone A lot of times, like I think,
Speaker 1: like the United Way Here in New where I live,
Speaker 1: they have financial classes, but looking for nonprofit agencies that
Speaker 1: can kind of help you walk through your different options
Speaker 1: so you can make the best option, choose the best
Speaker 1: option for you, you and your family, and you're not
Speaker 1: choosing it just based upon the rest you know, and
Speaker 1: you're not choosing it based upon some company trying to
Speaker 1: sell you something you don't.
Speaker 2: Don't be sitting and watching TV at two am and
Speaker 2: call the infomercial hotline one eight hundred bankruptcy or whatever,
Speaker 2: because those places are going to ask you for like
Speaker 2: money upfront and all kinds of crazy stuff. We always
Speaker 2: referred people to the National Foundation for Credit Counseling, which
Speaker 2: can get you in touch with actual credit counselors, your
Speaker 2: nonprofit and won't charge you.
Speaker 1: I was just an FCC dot org, n SCC dot org,
Speaker 1: and that's f as in Frank, Frank, thanks for that.
Speaker 2: I was like, let's start with F and I wanted
Speaker 2: to go back because I know I jumped right in
Speaker 2: and I was like, yeah, consider a bankruptcy. But she
Speaker 2: mentioned her mortgage and being sixty thousand dollars in debt,
Speaker 2: so I don't she doesn't mention who her lender is.
Speaker 2: But lenders have gotten a little bit better. They should
Speaker 2: be a lot better, but have gotten better about working
Speaker 2: with homeowners who are in tour, who are having trouble
Speaker 2: paying off or paying their mortgage on time. And when
Speaker 2: you're that far delinquent, I think it's been at least
Speaker 2: I don't know, assuming your mortgage is like I don't know,
Speaker 2: a little less than two thousands, maybe a year or two.
Speaker 2: You've been missing your payments. This is the time when
Speaker 2: you have some I think a little bit of leverage,
Speaker 2: and you can contact your lender if you haven't already
Speaker 2: and asked them did they have can they help you
Speaker 2: with to negotiate a lower payment or or work something
Speaker 2: out like a loan, get you in a loan modification
Speaker 2: program so that maybe you can save your house and
Speaker 2: maybe even get you affordable payments or reduce your your
Speaker 2: interest rate or something.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say that, like, I mean, it depends
Speaker 1: what your bank is, because my bank, who was terrible.
Speaker 1: I applied for modification like three times and was denied
Speaker 1: just because they're the devil. But you know, modification can
Speaker 1: definitely be something that's helpful because usually they set up
Speaker 1: some sort of payment plan for you, and if your
Speaker 1: mortgage is a place where you have like the most
Speaker 1: amount of debt, you might not need bankruptcy. Like if
Speaker 1: your debt is not so bad in other places and
Speaker 1: it's really just your mortgage, then you can be like, Okay,
Speaker 1: let's let me work directly with my mortgage lender to
Speaker 1: try to work something out, because you already had the
Speaker 1: first part of modification is not paying, So you got
Speaker 1: that down.
Speaker 2: That's what I was thinking. Yeah, I mean, you're kind
Speaker 2: of about that. They say, like, don't pay for a year, right,
Speaker 2: and then mm hmm, or.
Speaker 1: Like sometimes it's like three months, six months. Basically you
Speaker 1: have to prove that you need it. And so a
Speaker 1: lot of people are struggling but they still have managed
Speaker 1: to make payments, so they basically tell them to stop.
Speaker 1: But if you've not made payments and you stopped and
Speaker 1: you're that far in the hole, then working on a modification.
Speaker 1: I would try that first, you know, like call your
Speaker 1: bank and say, hey, I want to be considered for
Speaker 1: a modification. What are the next steps? But then also
Speaker 1: reach out to the NFCC dot org to get help
Speaker 1: on the credit end as well. Yeah, like bankruptcy is
Speaker 1: don't you don't have to throw it out the window,
Speaker 1: but it should not be the first thing you grab
Speaker 1: at because you still have options.
Speaker 2: And absolutely no matter what you do, something is going
Speaker 2: horribly wrong here with I mean, she mentions, you know,
Speaker 2: another twenty thousand dollars in debt, which could have been
Speaker 2: just you know, from when her business she started struggling,
Speaker 2: you know, being a realtor or whatnot, but she mentioned
Speaker 2: those two she's being sued for two separate incidences. Doesn't
Speaker 2: go into detail, but it sounds like the point when
Speaker 2: bankruptcy would be an option. You just sort of have
Speaker 2: all these different sort of debts and financial obligations sort
Speaker 2: of coming at you all at once, and you can't
Speaker 2: manage it all. And I don't know, it sounds like
Speaker 2: I understand why she's she's coming to this, but really
Speaker 2: encourage you to try. Try reaching out to the NFCC,
Speaker 2: try calling your bank, try calling your mortgage company, and
Speaker 2: just so that when you make this decision, you'd absolutely
Speaker 2: know that there was no other way.
Speaker 1: This was.
Speaker 2: This was you know, what had to be done. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and good luck to you and for anybody who's followed bankruptcy.
Speaker 2: I hope that we I mean, like, you don't have
Speaker 2: to feel bad about it. There is a path after bankruptcy. Yeah,
Speaker 2: your life does not have to be over. In fact,
Speaker 2: do you know the banks actually they market to people
Speaker 2: who have bankruptcies on their records.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they do. They market to them, Like what as look,
Speaker 1: as you follow bankruptcy and you're gonna start to get
Speaker 1: so many credit card solicitations.
Speaker 2: They're like, so you're irresponsible debt and you pay.
Speaker 1: They're like, what you don't already wear credit card debt?
Speaker 1: That means you have plenty of space.
Speaker 2: It's pretty disgusting. Yeah, So that's why you know, when
Speaker 2: you after you follow bankruptcy, you've got to like get
Speaker 2: to the core issue of what's really going on? How
Speaker 2: did you get there and fix it or try to
Speaker 2: fix it so you don't end up. It's not a
Speaker 2: band aid. You know, you can't treat it like that.
Speaker 2: It's a big deal. And if you don't fix the
Speaker 2: underlying issues, whatever they may be, you may just find
Speaker 2: yourself winding up filing again down the road.
Speaker 1: Exactly, exactly suctly.
Speaker 2: Well, thanks for your question, Elle. If you guys have questions,
Speaker 2: hit us up at Brand Ambition podcast dot com. Thank you,
Speaker 2: ma'am to ask us anything tab or you can shoot
Speaker 2: us a note directly at Brown Ambition Podcast all dot com.
Speaker 1: No, I don't know you're ready. I was taking a
Speaker 1: sweet of my lemon water bom all right, So it's
Speaker 1: time for all we do is when when win? No
Speaker 1: matter what you know, Brown Ambition is the best I need. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna write a rap one day, even though I
Speaker 1: say that every time.
Speaker 2: But stick with the heads.
Speaker 1: Keep I know, but I always feel like the last
Speaker 1: line I don't I need to figure out what that
Speaker 1: closing line is for, just like you know, it's just
Speaker 1: it's a little pie hands go right and that. You know,
Speaker 1: we should have a we should have a you know how,
Speaker 1: like we have the segment like where I was singing
Speaker 1: uh s w V but it was supposed to be.
Speaker 2: Like, yes, we should have listeners the tickles. I'm funny,
Speaker 2: people know.
Speaker 1: So many people tweet they were like Tiffany, please return
Speaker 1: your black card. I'm like, no, I want it, but
Speaker 1: like we should, you know how, like you never like
Speaker 1: usually it's me that knows, like all the like the
Speaker 1: pop references. I feel like we should have a segment
Speaker 1: like let's see what Manny knows the pop persons when
Speaker 1: I'm like, what about you know whatever? Like I don't
Speaker 1: know hip hop?
Speaker 2: Or just want to embarrass me that now.
Speaker 1: I love to see it, Like does Manny know about
Speaker 1: what happened on Love and Hip Hop this week?
Speaker 2: He doesn't know.
Speaker 1: I know, I know what we're gonna, Larry, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: think of something.
Speaker 2: Mandy rewatched season three of America's I Mean Great British
Speaker 2: Bake Off, so rewatched it, watched it once, and watched
Speaker 2: it again and cried like I did the first time.
Speaker 2: It's a beautiful ending, Nadia one. Sorry spoiler alert.
Speaker 1: I guess all right, so it's time for wins. I'm
Speaker 1: going to hmm, I think I'm gonna do my win
Speaker 1: is that I This is week five for me at
Speaker 1: the gym consistently, like you know, like back to back.
Speaker 1: I've been going five days a week, which I can't
Speaker 1: even believe. I'm like, who who am I I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie though. I stuck up the scale today and
Speaker 1: it raised by two pounds. I was like, what the hell?
Speaker 1: But whatever I say, I know, but also too, I
Speaker 1: think I'm like loaded. Sorry Jamal, so yes, but you know,
Speaker 1: I told myself that that working out I really wanted
Speaker 1: to be a lifestyle and so like you know, I
Speaker 1: really took to heart, like when we had our last
Speaker 1: talk about working out, and I've been adding little goals
Speaker 1: every week. Like week one, it was like just go,
Speaker 1: you know, get your twenty minutes of cardio, don't worry
Speaker 1: about anything else. Week two, I added a little something
Speaker 1: extra week three, So now I'm up to like a
Speaker 1: full workout now that it's week five, and I'm up
Speaker 1: to a change in my diet, like I'm but like
Speaker 1: real change, not like a diet. You know, like I
Speaker 1: always liked smoothies, but I was lazy about making them.
Speaker 1: So now I make my green smoothie in the morning
Speaker 1: for breakfast. I tell myself, like, I eat way more
Speaker 1: fruits and vegetables, especially vegetables, which I like anyway, but
Speaker 1: being more conscious of that, I switched out. I wasn't
Speaker 1: really big on like bread anyway, so I was just like,
Speaker 1: I just took that out because bread is not that's
Speaker 1: not huge for me, but rice certainly was. I'm African,
Speaker 1: so you know me, we love some rice. So I
Speaker 1: switched out quiwa for rice, and so just like really
Speaker 1: making changes to my diet that are sustainable. So I'm like,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna take that as a win because I'm
Speaker 1: like five weeks, five times a week, even though like
Speaker 1: I will say, like I definitely feel like I've lost
Speaker 1: inches and well except for today because I was like,
Speaker 1: what is the stomach? But whatever? This is like I
Speaker 1: said the blotation, but I feel good though. That's real.
Speaker 1: I know what I'm like. Literally, I woke up and
Speaker 1: I'm like, is there is there a person in here?
Speaker 1: Like alien? Like the movie or like the alien comes down.
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, I was like, oh my gosh, come back, Tom,
Speaker 1: come back. Maybe Mandy Wind won't be as crazy. No,
Speaker 1: but honestly, yeah, just for I really have to commend
Speaker 1: you guys that work out regularly and stick to it,
Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna lie like like I hate it
Speaker 1: every morning, you know, so people like, oh, you get
Speaker 1: used to it. Yeah, I'm still waiting every morning. I cuss,
Speaker 1: I fuss, I say, I'm not going as I'm putting
Speaker 1: on my socks on my sneakers. I lay out my clothes,
Speaker 1: thank goodness the night before.
Speaker 2: That's the key, Yeah, making it, removing all the barriers.
Speaker 2: Clean socks can't go right. That's me every all the
Speaker 2: time because.
Speaker 1: I put by literally my sneakers, like even now I'm looking,
Speaker 1: my socks are inside my sneakers. My headphones are charged,
Speaker 1: my phone is charged, my keys are downstairs. I mean
Speaker 1: like literally I put everything because I know me, I
Speaker 1: I can't find my key. I'm just gonna lay on
Speaker 1: the couch. And so it's just been it's not been easy.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, you know what, I'm really determined to
Speaker 1: transition into a healthier lifestyle, and I don't know that
Speaker 1: I'll keep up five days a week. I probably will
Speaker 1: peter off till three days, but for now because I'm
Speaker 1: really trying to like, you know, jumpstart my metabolism and
Speaker 1: blah blah blah that you know, probably for the next
Speaker 1: couple of months, I'll still do five days as much
Speaker 1: as possible, but eventually I want to get to a
Speaker 1: space where, you know, I'm doing just three days a
Speaker 1: week and that's just life. Like my sister Tracy is
Speaker 1: like that. She's never not worked out, you know, She's
Speaker 1: always maintained just like her Her basic weight has been
Speaker 1: the same since college. She doesn't like eat like you know,
Speaker 1: she's not a vegan or whatever. It's just that she's
Speaker 1: never swayed too left or too right. She's always worked out,
Speaker 1: like you know, three days a week. Same thing with
Speaker 1: my dad. And so I'm like, I want to get
Speaker 1: to that space where I'm not trying so hard. It's
Speaker 1: just part of life. So that's my win, you know,
Speaker 1: keeping up with this damn exercise good.
Speaker 2: Yeah, five weeks is amazing, so I have respect. I
Speaker 2: know how hard it is, so good for you. Thank Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm not on that level yet, but my win is
Speaker 2: also fitness related because I don't know if you guys
Speaker 2: know this, but I have a past. Before I was
Speaker 2: half of Brown Ambition, I used to have a bike blog,
Speaker 2: Yes I used to. It was called The Bike Rider
Speaker 2: wri I T. And I was sort of a semi
Speaker 2: biking celebrity in New York City because when I first
Speaker 2: moved here in twenty ten, New York City wasn't as
Speaker 2: bike friendly as it is now, Like there weren't bike
Speaker 2: lanes everywhere.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: I used to be out in those mean streets, you know,
Speaker 2: in all the honking cars, like fighting for my territory.
Speaker 2: And I used to do like one hundred mile bike tours,
Speaker 2: and you know, I did a ride to Montak where
Speaker 2: you ride all the way across Long Island to the
Speaker 2: end and all this stuff, and I was like really
Speaker 2: really into it and it was awesome because well, the
Speaker 2: reason I got into biking one I moved here and
Speaker 2: I had like no money, and I remember I had
Speaker 2: to pay for a monthly subway pass and a monthly
Speaker 2: Metro North pass, which was like three hundred dollars plus
Speaker 2: the hundred bucks for the Metro the subway pass, and
Speaker 2: I couldn't afford both because at the time I was
Speaker 2: working upstate in Westchester. So I was like, well, how
Speaker 2: can I save money, I'm going to buy Like I
Speaker 2: bought like an eighty dollars steel cruiser on Craigslist. And
Speaker 2: then instead of taking the subway, I biked everywhere. So
Speaker 2: I biked a Grand Central station, parked my bike there,
Speaker 2: and then took the train to work in the morning.
Speaker 2: And biking was like my cheap way of getting around
Speaker 2: New York is how I like didn't take the subway
Speaker 2: ever when I first moved here now anyway, So but
Speaker 2: in the past couple of years, I just in the
Speaker 2: past year, especially when we moved to Inwood, you know,
Speaker 2: my bike was like all dusty and like I'd never
Speaker 2: really used it because I had to like go five
Speaker 2: flights of stairs to work every day and I was
Speaker 2: like twelve miles from the office now. But anyway, I went,
Speaker 2: we went. I live in Jersey City now, and we went.
Speaker 2: I picked up my bike from my in laws apartment,
Speaker 2: brought it home, and I participated in a fifteen mile
Speaker 2: like bike tour and in Jersey City that there's like
Speaker 2: a biking community here and they put it on once
Speaker 2: a year and I just like luckily happened to see
Speaker 2: a flyer and it was the best stay ever and
Speaker 2: I felt so good. I felt like my self again.
Speaker 2: I was like, I saw.
Speaker 1: You with the bike. I was like, look at the Indy.
Speaker 1: That's me.
Speaker 2: That's like old Mandy, that's the MANDI you never knew.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like I thought, I'm like, who are you?
Speaker 1: I don't even anymore. No, that's awesome the bike rider.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know. And it was such a fun tour
Speaker 2: I didn't. I just love Jersey City because like it's
Speaker 2: so diverse. Man, I've never I don't know, it's just
Speaker 2: and you take it for granted living in Jersey and
Speaker 2: living in New York. But just it was beautiful to
Speaker 2: see like so many different people, some ages, races, ethnicities,
Speaker 2: just out there just biking and just having a damn
Speaker 2: good day. And like all we were just all around
Speaker 2: Jersey City and everyone came out of their houses and
Speaker 2: was waving and it was like it was just such
Speaker 2: a positive, fun way to spend afternoon. And I'm into it.
Speaker 2: So no, of course I have to take zero to
Speaker 2: like one hundred. So I went and signed up for
Speaker 2: one hundred mile bike tour for September. Oh, so excited
Speaker 2: the New York City. This is a New York City
Speaker 2: Century tour, which I'd done twice, but I haven't done
Speaker 2: it in like three, three or four years. Say, it's
Speaker 2: one hundred miles and it's epic, and it's like a
Speaker 2: ten twelve hour day biking NonStop, and you will literally
Speaker 2: have to sit on a pillow for like a week after.
Speaker 1: I was gonna ask that, how is your bottom?
Speaker 2: Well, I mean, my my bottom hurts bad today because
Speaker 2: i haven't biked in so long, so I'm not conditioned.
Speaker 2: But like if you actually bike every day, So I
Speaker 2: decided I've been using it. I've been saying, oh, I
Speaker 2: can't bike to work because I live in Jersey City.
Speaker 2: Now there's an entire river between me and there's no bridge.
Speaker 2: There's no bridge down where I am in southern New
Speaker 2: Jersey to get to Is this a southern New Jersey,
Speaker 2: southern Southerner than up by Bergen like where the George
Speaker 2: Washington bridges.
Speaker 1: I guess, no, you this is North Jersey.
Speaker 2: Well, I'm southern. I'm south of the GW Bridge. It
Speaker 2: would make no sense for me to bike all the
Speaker 2: way to that bridge to go eleven miles down Manhattan anyway,
Speaker 2: but there's a ferry. So I'm gonna start biking and
Speaker 2: taking the ferry across town, across the river to Lower
Speaker 2: Manhattan and just biking to work from there because I
Speaker 2: want to get back on the bike. I don't want
Speaker 2: to because right now my commute is almost too easy.
Speaker 2: I have like four stops and I'm on the train
Speaker 2: and I'm like off, and I don't really walk as
Speaker 2: much anymore, and I feel like I don't know, but
Speaker 2: I'm now at summertime and I'm just gonna I'm gonna
Speaker 2: try it out and then that'll be my built in
Speaker 2: That'll be my built in workout in the morning.
Speaker 1: Now. I know, like there used to be like a
Speaker 1: Newark bike club where they just used to like bike around.
Speaker 1: And I told myself I was good because I honestly
Speaker 1: I was never like a biker biker, but I mean
Speaker 1: I like to ride my bike. And I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't know how it is.
Speaker 2: I don't have any fancy equipment. You know, there's a
Speaker 2: scary bikers. We're not. You don't have to be a
Speaker 2: scary biker. Yeah, But like I did it in address
Speaker 2: one year, Like, that's what that was the That was
Speaker 2: the reason I started my blog because I wanted to
Speaker 2: show that you don't have to be like in the
Speaker 2: tight shorts and get the fancy shoes and get like
Speaker 2: the helmet with the rear view mirror attached to it.
Speaker 2: Like you don't need all that crap. You just seed
Speaker 2: a bike and your legs and that's it.
Speaker 1: There used to be a bike shop at Newark that
Speaker 1: you used to actually like take old bike tree fird,
Speaker 1: but she gives them to kids. I wonder if it's
Speaker 1: still around.
Speaker 2: Cute bikes.
Speaker 1: Oh you know what, you're gonna have any one to
Speaker 1: get on because I used to roll a blade.
Speaker 2: And we should do a We should do a bike ride.
Speaker 2: Oh it'd be so much fun. Get Supergirl, get Superman,
Speaker 2: come on.
Speaker 1: Yeah she's no, she's not. I'm just saying, like in
Speaker 1: my mom I'm like, yeah, Supergirl a break, yo. We
Speaker 1: got out the car, like I was like Superman told Supergirl, yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't have to actually get out of the car.
Speaker 1: She's like, Daddy, don't give you a kids. She was like,
Speaker 1: just throw it through the window. So she threw she
Speaker 1: blew a kiss and he caught it. In the air.
Speaker 1: It was like seeing a borrow. I was so fluid,
Speaker 1: and he ran into the house and threw himself into
Speaker 1: the bed and try to sweep. I know, no, but honestly,
Speaker 1: I think that biking sounds like fun. I I yeah,
Speaker 1: I would actually like the bike. I think it's a
Speaker 1: great form of exercise. And actually it's a lot of fun.
Speaker 2: And you get to see the city. I saw parts
Speaker 2: of Jersey I never knew existed. So that's a last
Speaker 2: way to explort. And if you're new to a town
Speaker 2: like I wasn't moving to New York, It's like, I
Speaker 2: can't think of a better way to get to know
Speaker 2: your way around, and and and and get in shape
Speaker 2: in the process. Okay, biker's beauty, as a biker's booty
Speaker 2: is a real thing.
Speaker 1: Well, I have enough booty for everybody, so.
Speaker 2: That just means to be good at it.
Speaker 1: All right, all this Patty Jamala is like, all right,
Speaker 1: I can't all right, y'all brown ambition. It's been awesome
Speaker 1: as per usual.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll see you guys next week. And we have
Speaker 2: a turning guest. Our Fairy Money Godmother is back on
Speaker 2: the show next week. Miss Lenette Califani Cox. So you
Speaker 2: do not that. I'm really excited.
Speaker 1: About the guests coming up too after that? Right?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, are we confirmed? Is it happening?
Speaker 1: Yes? If you're a No Madness fan. If you don't
Speaker 1: know what No Madness is, you'll find out soon enough.
Speaker 2: You with these caesers tonight thought I think right, people
Speaker 2: are like girl, I could just google it.
Speaker 1: You could, but I'm just saying that's happening too. I know,
Speaker 1: write two guests back to back. That's like so unlike us,
Speaker 1: look at us being social.
Speaker 2: So hopefully forgive us or forgive me for having to
Speaker 2: poll last last week's show. But we are not slowing
Speaker 2: down for the summer. We'll be here every week. Yes,
Speaker 2: we will tell a friend.
Speaker 1: And then tell a friend and also leave a review.
Speaker 2: Oh yes, please leave reviews. You guys have We have
Speaker 2: over two hundred reviews. Keep them coming. Yeah, and never enough.
Speaker 2: The more reviews we have, the more people can find
Speaker 2: our show, the more cool guests we can have, and
Speaker 2: it's just great to spread the brown ambition love.
Speaker 1: And don't forget we have a Facebook page, so you
Speaker 1: know you can fend all of our random, random shenanigans
Speaker 1: things that we find interesting brand ambition stuff on our
Speaker 1: Facebook page, like we always are, picking like really fun,
Speaker 1: serious and in between posts and articles and stuff that's
Speaker 1: mine
Speaker 2: Until next week.