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Speaker 1: for this ratchetas song? It is going to make you laugh.
Speaker 1: I'm only using this because lover boy says I have
Speaker 1: one of these, and I feel like this is my aunts,
Speaker 1: Oh God, good shame, hunting good pretty turk from because
Speaker 1: we were young. I'm not gonna lie. My pussy is
Speaker 1: pretty and I've been told that quite often. It is cute. Right,
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Speaker 1: Welcome to yet another episode of Horrible Decisions. The girl
Speaker 1: Mandy be and I'm sitting here with Wheezy Deputy and
Speaker 1: we are so glad to be here yet again. We
Speaker 1: are rolling this motherfucking ship out. I'm really excited because
Speaker 1: I have so many things to tell you and I
Speaker 1: need so much advice on it from like everybody. Um,
Speaker 1: is that something like on the podcast, like I just
Speaker 1: like just talking about my week, Like I just I
Speaker 1: want people's feedback. It's so crazy, Like since we've started it,
Speaker 1: I've been getting hit up by tons of people. Actually,
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Speaker 1: So today, did you how do you want to roll
Speaker 1: with this one? Now? You're taking the fucking whale take
Speaker 1: the wheel, baby, Oh my god. Okay, so I just
Speaker 1: have to think us happen. So you know, lover Boy's gone. Yes,
Speaker 1: I just thought it was gonna be totally dead it
Speaker 1: and then it was like the second he fucking left,
Speaker 1: We've been texting like crazy pictures, crazy going on until right,
Speaker 1: you are just like I don't even want to talk.
Speaker 1: So next thing, you know, in four weeks, I'm going
Speaker 1: to Venice to see him. Oh that is nice. And
Speaker 1: I am losing it because I'm excited and I'm nervous
Speaker 1: because I just don't understand what is going on. And
Speaker 1: so we've kind of talked about this, who are we
Speaker 1: going to funk while each other's away? Thing? Right? Months
Speaker 1: and months he's gone, He's not coming back for a
Speaker 1: little other season. The weather is going to be cold
Speaker 1: again when he's back, So how is this gonna work? Right?
Speaker 1: So well, good bitch, he's coming back right in time
Speaker 1: for cuffing season. Because then, motherfucking how thank you? I thought?
Speaker 1: So he was saying to me like, okay, so I'm
Speaker 1: saying him in a month, right, And it's like, you
Speaker 1: know me, I'm the type of person I don't believe
Speaker 1: that if you stick to dick in a bit, you're
Speaker 1: in love with her. So we've been talking about sucking
Speaker 1: other people. And yesterday he went on a date and
Speaker 1: so did I. Now the girl that he went on
Speaker 1: a date with, he sent me and she was hot, guys,
Speaker 1: she was I'm not gonna lie. I sat there, I
Speaker 1: was like, she was like those those are the fucking
Speaker 1: Russian eyebrows. She was, but bro, she was hot and
Speaker 1: I was like, bitch, I don't know what a Russian
Speaker 1: eyebrows is. But she was cute and I was like,
Speaker 1: it's so um. But that's the thing, right, What do
Speaker 1: I want him to do this girl and pretend that yeah,
Speaker 1: like he's going to bed so no. So he we've
Speaker 1: been talking about it and he was like telling me
Speaker 1: these girls and I said, let me approve. And I
Speaker 1: don't want to ugly bitches around because I just feel
Speaker 1: like that's corny. Like I know, bitches want their man
Speaker 1: to somebody that's not as cute as them. But I
Speaker 1: don't really think it matters. I think that U I
Speaker 1: don't know. I want him to be around some bad bitches.
Speaker 1: I don't want to ugly. I was talking to say
Speaker 1: so anyway, he sends me a picture and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: she's pretty. Do you like her? And he's like no,
Speaker 1: Like I like, you know, I like her enough to
Speaker 1: funk her. I'm like okay, then fine, go out with
Speaker 1: the bitch. So they're out and he sends me a text,
Speaker 1: and this made me feel good because I thought I
Speaker 1: wasn't gonna hear from him all night. And it's like,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about you to her, and she told her
Speaker 1: I like you, and she's telling me that she likes
Speaker 1: girls too, and blah blah blah. I'm like, okay, we'll
Speaker 1: tell her, I said hi. And then he sends me
Speaker 1: this a picture of them together. Yeah. Look, and she's cute,
Speaker 1: but I'm not even look. I know she's trying to
Speaker 1: cover his face. I was trying to zoom in on
Speaker 1: this fucking cunt. The point is, I don't really know
Speaker 1: what to when she when they sent the picture, right,
Speaker 1: I'm just like, oh my god, there's money. Of course,
Speaker 1: the whole time he's like, wheezy, I've been talking to
Speaker 1: her about you though this whole time. I believe that part.
Speaker 1: But he made you sing that that was very that
Speaker 1: was nice of it. I don't gonna tell you what.
Speaker 1: When the picture came through, right immediately, I'm laughing at
Speaker 1: my mom. I'm like, ma, it's not like to send
Speaker 1: me picture him and his gud damn vision of bar.
Speaker 1: So she's laughing, just like send it to me. She's like,
Speaker 1: fucking Russian horror, so they do apparently have the best prostitutes.
Speaker 1: Though the girl is beautiful and I'm not gonna say right,
Speaker 1: but this is the thing. My mom was like, how
Speaker 1: are you feeling? I'm like, honestly, like a part of
Speaker 1: me is really jealous, but then this other part of
Speaker 1: me is like, what could be better? Like, you're out
Speaker 1: with another girl. You just took a picture with her,
Speaker 1: she knows you're sending it to me, You're talking about me, Like,
Speaker 1: I feel good, you know, unless the whole time he
Speaker 1: was saying you're his cousin, so I doubt that they're
Speaker 1: kind of but no, and it's and I like the
Speaker 1: openness and like the involvedment, Like I almost felt like
Speaker 1: I was like it felt good, Like yeah, I know
Speaker 1: you're gonna go, but that you're super into open relationships
Speaker 1: in general. I think this helps to this is how
Speaker 1: you're building This is this is this has never happened.
Speaker 1: I've always been more like I want to have threesomes
Speaker 1: together and relationships together. This like you're going out with
Speaker 1: another girl, I get to see her. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: lie though, like am I not going to expect him
Speaker 1: to get fucked while he's going. However, let me ask
Speaker 1: you this, because I think we've talked about it and
Speaker 1: you're into this relationship thing. However, you didn't caught feelings
Speaker 1: for this nigga so much. You don't really want to
Speaker 1: bring a bit in bed with y'all. Okay, wait, are
Speaker 1: you lying? Hold on? Yes, I do, but I'm dying
Speaker 1: to see him somebody and me being there. But is
Speaker 1: it but I want to bring your girlfriend though? Right? Yeah,
Speaker 1: she doesn't want to bring her girlfriend to this guy.
Speaker 1: She wants a random stranger and a girlfriend who because
Speaker 1: I don't like there's predominant feelings in here with the
Speaker 1: two of them. And I felt like before her I
Speaker 1: was a level playing field with her, and then with
Speaker 1: her and the other guys, all these fucking names. She
Speaker 1: just loves for you guys to hear the boo. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: it's just easier. Don't have to we are not okay,
Speaker 1: And so like with them, I felt the same way. Now.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know, and like I just
Speaker 1: don't know, but I get it. Well, I don't know.
Speaker 1: But when I was on my day and I was
Speaker 1: kind of like, did he want me to go? And
Speaker 1: somebody post so that he could get the leverage to
Speaker 1: be like, Okay, well, he definitely told you he doesn't
Speaker 1: want you fucking any other dick. So and there's that
Speaker 1: double standard. There is a double standard. You're supposed to
Speaker 1: be okay with him going on a date and potentially
Speaker 1: possibly sucking this girl, and you can't be cool. And
Speaker 1: I'm sure he did. He's I'm already know, Mitch, he
Speaker 1: ain't got a damny. So we talked this morning and
Speaker 1: but yeah, at the same time, he's telling you, I
Speaker 1: like you and I don't want you to know other dick.
Speaker 1: So if you do, I don't like, you know, but
Speaker 1: don't want the other day, I don't like, I know
Speaker 1: he's joking with me or it's gonna be a conversation
Speaker 1: or what. But so this morning I wake up, right
Speaker 1: it's like four am. I'm like, I feel like you're
Speaker 1: cuddling and I'm jealous, and I'm gonna go to bed,
Speaker 1: That's all I said. So in the morning he calls
Speaker 1: me and he's laughed, thinking I'm like, it's it funny that,
Speaker 1: like your dick is deep down in some pussy, And
Speaker 1: I'm like, don't cuddle that bitch. I don't give a
Speaker 1: fun what you do. Don't cuddle that home. And I
Speaker 1: say that all the time. I would be super into
Speaker 1: this type of relationship. And I literally tell my guys
Speaker 1: when we have this conversation, I'm like, listen, if you
Speaker 1: want to go another bitch, fucker, but I don't need
Speaker 1: you taking her on dates. I don't want you to
Speaker 1: be a nice to her. Don't show her any type
Speaker 1: of love to wear. She might potentially start liking you.
Speaker 1: But I didn't think, no, bitch, it's not niggas don't
Speaker 1: take bitches on dates anymore. Maybe white guys do, but
Speaker 1: it's niggas don't. There's Netflix and Chill all motherfucking day long.
Speaker 1: So if they're taking you out of public and spend
Speaker 1: the time with you and spending some money on you,
Speaker 1: bitch is gonna fall in love with that. Because bitches
Speaker 1: all in love for face times and she eats funny
Speaker 1: to where you cried, the bitch is in love already.
Speaker 1: Um yeah. So well, I'm interested to see how this
Speaker 1: plays out. And I'm glad that it was weird because
Speaker 1: we were on the phone, like, and he was talking
Speaker 1: about it. He was trying to downplay it so much
Speaker 1: because I could tell he was scared I was gonna
Speaker 1: be uncomfortable, but I wasn't because I know that you know,
Speaker 1: I'm waking up for work at this time. You're calling me.
Speaker 1: You're telling me about this bit. You ain't there now,
Speaker 1: Like I was really cool about it. And not only that,
Speaker 1: he's fucking let me tell you how his mom line though.
Speaker 1: Talking about I'm like, oh was it good? Like did
Speaker 1: she do this? Did she do that? Like? So when
Speaker 1: you came, where'd you come? He's like, oh I didn't come. Well,
Speaker 1: that so nice for you. That was really just gave
Speaker 1: the most safe we all just like, so you ain't
Speaker 1: come over real? So you just sucked this hot at
Speaker 1: here on your income. He's like it was did she
Speaker 1: suck your dick? Yeah, babe, but it didn't feel like
Speaker 1: your mouth that's lying off. So then I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: we goddamn well got Like so did you make her come?
Speaker 1: He's like yeah, of course, I'm like I know you did.
Speaker 1: I'm like, because you really good pussy. He's like, oh no,
Speaker 1: I didn't need your pussy. I still hold on broch y'all.
Speaker 1: That's all. He is the man that I literally really
Speaker 1: in my heart believe the host Town Halls on How
Speaker 1: to Eat Pussy because it's that good. Okay, So I
Speaker 1: just want to know why you lying anyways, you want
Speaker 1: to go ahead. I super excited for this show again
Speaker 1: because normally, I know you guys are sick of hearing
Speaker 1: our whole stories, and we decided, bitch, we're going to
Speaker 1: run out of story soon, we should probably get sm
Speaker 1: other people out. I will suck for this is my job,
Speaker 1: she literally says every week when I'm on Tinder and
Speaker 1: I'm like broad on, bro, research it's for research. Think
Speaker 1: of the podcast, and I'll never forget it. That was
Speaker 1: my favorite show growing up, with sex and you know,
Speaker 1: I never day she would it's research, it's research, bro.
Speaker 1: We would literally sit in her house eating fucking raised nets.
Speaker 1: That is our ship, raised nets and popcorn. If you
Speaker 1: sauce I a g live, you know that's what we do.
Speaker 1: And she was like fucking rich. So she had a
Speaker 1: whole movie theater growing up, and we would literally watch
Speaker 1: fucking we would watch Sex in the City and then
Speaker 1: be like, hey, let's run the movie. We'd runt a
Speaker 1: movie and she literally we first seen her future. This
Speaker 1: is crazy, but she's literally is that how weird? York.
Speaker 1: We would literally watch Sex in the City and we
Speaker 1: were like fifteen sixteen, um, and then yeah, after watching
Speaker 1: Sex in the City, we would run movies and she'd
Speaker 1: be like, it's okay, bro, I'm gonna call the the
Speaker 1: cable company right after and say didn't show or something.
Speaker 1: We're get our money right back. My mom's not gonna
Speaker 1: be mad about the ten dollars. Damn. I was dude,
Speaker 1: you see hustling. If you want to go ahead and introduce,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to get my mind together. I was like this,
Speaker 1: um yeah, I uh yeah. So we have a guest
Speaker 1: that um contacted us about being or not really contacted us,
Speaker 1: but like listen to our show. So this is kind
Speaker 1: of the first guest we've had listened to everything. So
Speaker 1: I'm really excited because I need some feedback about this leveraboy. Shit.
Speaker 1: Am I stupid for letting him fun? This model girl?
Speaker 1: Help me? God? Yeah, We're totally gonna keep giving her
Speaker 1: advice to two main points. First of all, he definitely came.
Speaker 1: That's like like everybody was just like please, it was cute.
Speaker 1: It was cute. I love the idea of his whole
Speaker 1: family listened to the podcast because then it's like his
Speaker 1: mom sitting somewhere in other country, like that's my baby.
Speaker 1: I don't know it's the mom yet, but oh god,
Speaker 1: so I guess go ahead, and if you want to
Speaker 1: introduce kind of maybe what you do um and why
Speaker 1: you're not even maybe not even that, I don't know
Speaker 1: what you could be very vague with. My name today
Speaker 1: is David, and I own a small business. I have
Speaker 1: masters in business and and I'm must relatively successful guy.
Speaker 1: I think I do all right to have a cool
Speaker 1: life that Insteah, it's a lot of planes, like I
Speaker 1: don't know where you live, just because they're always on vacation.
Speaker 1: Where was the last place you? I just got back
Speaker 1: from Hong Kong and Sydney. I did like five days
Speaker 1: in Hong Kong five days in Sydney, which was not planning.
Speaker 1: It was all planning, like like a couple of days
Speaker 1: before and while we were in Hong Kong we decided
Speaker 1: to go to Sydney. And then she was working in
Speaker 1: d C. Who's next to me, the next to me,
Speaker 1: and the young lady next to you is my girlfriend. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so we had here. She's super cute. It's like me
Speaker 1: right over you get a mask. He looks safe to
Speaker 1: You're like, you look just saying though, I'm so excited
Speaker 1: to have this conversation because if I ran into in
Speaker 1: the supermarket, you would look like a virgin to me,
Speaker 1: like resting, nice face, yeahs face. Like people think that
Speaker 1: they can walk up to me, especially white people, like
Speaker 1: they just walk up to me and start saying things
Speaker 1: they probably shouldn't say because they don't know that I'm militant,
Speaker 1: and then it's not gonna go well, it's gonna go
Speaker 1: south really quickly. What what about this face made you
Speaker 1: think you could just start speaking right? You just look
Speaker 1: very friendly. It's your team. I'm a happy person. I'm
Speaker 1: happy and I'm not gonna lie the energy because then
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. You was walking next to your girlfriends,
Speaker 1: I know they would be like, we're not gonna walk
Speaker 1: up to this couple right now because she looks like
Speaker 1: she just looks down, which actually is really sweet. But
Speaker 1: before we got you know, started recording, my hair was
Speaker 1: sucked up. It's been raining all day New York, and
Speaker 1: she was just like, I'm I'm gonna help you with
Speaker 1: your hair. See what a nice fucking way to say
Speaker 1: your hair look like shit. I just like to play
Speaker 1: with hair, like, Okay, well I can see yours is
Speaker 1: beautifully flowing like you just wanted it and you really
Speaker 1: like to believe it looks beautiful. I don't know why
Speaker 1: you would do that with New York rain, but you
Speaker 1: know me, I was like, but why it's raining? I
Speaker 1: know that's so you get dressed up in nice and
Speaker 1: to be his arm candy. I know that's right. I
Speaker 1: feel like I've just seen the same hairstyle for a
Speaker 1: while now. For a while. For a while, I was
Speaker 1: just like, wow. I was like, can we just maybe
Speaker 1: like you know, we're here, it's a special occasion like it. Now?
Speaker 1: Do you two live in the same city? We do
Speaker 1: together immensely. Okay, No, we don't live together. You guys
Speaker 1: don't live to together. How long have you guys been together? Um?
Speaker 1: This madness started about a year ago? Ok yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: things and there was definitely a smooth couple of months
Speaker 1: where we didn't speak at all and then but it's
Speaker 1: been do you can't like hear to me? Oh my god, listen, listen,
Speaker 1: no heard sense of time. Wheezy and lover boy, we're
Speaker 1: talking for all of two weeks and out of nowhere,
Speaker 1: She's like, bitchy, All I've been working for the last
Speaker 1: two months. Girl, you just met him ten days ago.
Speaker 1: We felt connected, hard connection with time and so off.
Speaker 1: I don't even remember any other you. You would swear
Speaker 1: you had a wipe in New York. We got three kids,
Speaker 1: So if you want to bring up kind of UM,
Speaker 1: so I want to go ahead and share with the
Speaker 1: listeners before we get into this what we kind of
Speaker 1: would love to start doing. And um, because weezy and
Speaker 1: I figured we would probably run out of our fucking
Speaker 1: horror stories soon. Um. We've been getting so many emails
Speaker 1: and so many um even just advice and topics and
Speaker 1: combo starters from our listeners, UM, wanting to bring up
Speaker 1: these taboo situations or or things that they're not comfortable
Speaker 1: with sharing with their friends. And of course they can
Speaker 1: clearly tell that we don't give a funk about life,
Speaker 1: so they openly share with us. And so what we
Speaker 1: wanted to start doing was bringing on more people to
Speaker 1: share their stories, because at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: I can put a strap on all I want. I
Speaker 1: don't have a dick. I don't know how men feel.
Speaker 1: I don't know about relationships because I'm single as funk
Speaker 1: out here. So we wanted to start kind of bringing
Speaker 1: in more more people who are in tune with their
Speaker 1: sexuality and kind of just enjoy talking about it because
Speaker 1: this is definitely something that not a lot of people do,
Speaker 1: not a lot of people are comfortable with, And we
Speaker 1: want you guys to listen in and know that this
Speaker 1: ship is okay and and normal. Well is it normal?
Speaker 1: I don't know for normal yet, And we ask that normal,
Speaker 1: like normal relative girl we had, you know, it was
Speaker 1: to her, I don't know, and she seemed very normal.
Speaker 1: She definitely had a job, So the definition of normal
Speaker 1: is having a job. Do you do you get off
Speaker 1: the club? Oh yeah, okay, um yeah. So we asked
Speaker 1: him to be on because he is bisexual and his
Speaker 1: girlfriend is here and the hot gorgeous not weird hot.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. She was over in the corner,
Speaker 1: wasn't paying no titch and now that the light is
Speaker 1: shine and I'm like, and she like, yeah, this is
Speaker 1: not a thing for weirdos. Like she seem pretty normal too,
Speaker 1: And so I definitely wanted to bring this topic up
Speaker 1: because we have had a conversation I don't know if
Speaker 1: you guys listened. I believe this was maybe episode one
Speaker 1: or two UM where I brought up Moonlight and we
Speaker 1: had the conversation of bisexual men. So I do want
Speaker 1: to ask this on air, what is your ethnicity, because
Speaker 1: I think that that kind of plays into this just
Speaker 1: a bit. I'm biracial, father's Caribbean um of Curban immigrant.
Speaker 1: My mother there's like regular white and so he bled okay.
Speaker 1: So it's an interesting dynamic because I was I was
Speaker 1: raised by both my parents until eighteen or so when
Speaker 1: my parents went up. But my father is an immigrant
Speaker 1: from Jamaica and my mother Jamaica, and I'm Jamaican and white,
Speaker 1: so we're actually the same. But my grandfather, my mother's father,
Speaker 1: was in the KKK. So the first time I heard
Speaker 1: the N word, I was three years old and it
Speaker 1: was directed from my grandfather to my father, and so
Speaker 1: I my original memories of like race, It's like, oh,
Speaker 1: the skin color is going to be a thing that
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to deal with my entire life. Right
Speaker 1: of people who are supposed to be in a position
Speaker 1: to love me because you're my grandfather, but you don't
Speaker 1: because of the color of myself, which is so funny.
Speaker 1: My entire my mom's side of my family. I know
Speaker 1: my grandmother made my great grandparents passed, but her whole
Speaker 1: side of the family did not talk to us because
Speaker 1: we're black. Um. So yeah, which is why all of
Speaker 1: my family in California, San Diego all of that, I'm
Speaker 1: not familiar with much of my mom's side of the
Speaker 1: family because we're black. Listen, me and my sisters, Me
Speaker 1: and my the middle sister where I'm Jamaican and white,
Speaker 1: and then my youngest sister is Haitian and why she
Speaker 1: loved the island men on top of that. So I
Speaker 1: definitely I know where you're coming from. The reason I
Speaker 1: think it plays into this is because either you internalize
Speaker 1: that or you externalize it. Either there's something wrong with
Speaker 1: me why my grandfather and members of my family don't
Speaker 1: love me, or there's something wrong with them. And my
Speaker 1: mom did a really good job of navigating that with
Speaker 1: me emotionally, and so at that point you started to
Speaker 1: realize that one blood doesn't mean anything like this supposed
Speaker 1: genetic DNA connection that we have. It doesn't mean you
Speaker 1: love me, It doesn't mean you have my back. You know,
Speaker 1: in any way, shape or form, and your family are
Speaker 1: the people that choose you and you choose them back,
Speaker 1: and so how someone feels about you doesn't have to
Speaker 1: affect your self esteem. And so when I was dealing
Speaker 1: with my sexuality much later in life, because I never
Speaker 1: even I'm thirty five now, I never kissed the guys
Speaker 1: I was twenty eight, um, right, It wasn't something that
Speaker 1: I was dealing with as a young child, as a
Speaker 1: teenager and whatnot you as as a young child because
Speaker 1: the first time you dealt with a man was twenty
Speaker 1: which ironically I've been meeting much older adults who are
Speaker 1: now getting curious, was this never in your mind? So
Speaker 1: I definitely remember, like I had the biggest crash on
Speaker 1: Winnie Cooper um on the Wonder Years, Like I always
Speaker 1: remember my first she was bad. It's a little older
Speaker 1: than your reference, right, so the ten years, um. But
Speaker 1: but my first love was my high school street Sear,
Speaker 1: you know, like she's a doctor now and it's been
Speaker 1: like so I've known that, but there was always you know,
Speaker 1: those moments where you might think something's a little different
Speaker 1: about you, you have an interest in in something that
Speaker 1: maybe you shouldn't. But I grew up in a very
Speaker 1: conservative religion, going to Christian schools, and so that was
Speaker 1: bad and I was good. So therefore I am not that,
Speaker 1: and so I kind of just closed myself off From
Speaker 1: a very mentally strong person, I can control how I
Speaker 1: think about things, and so I thought of it as
Speaker 1: that that's not me, and so I ever explored it.
Speaker 1: And then you know, as you get into teenager years
Speaker 1: in your early twenties, stuff really and so the things
Speaker 1: on the internet are disgusting, like horrible. Don't say horrible
Speaker 1: right here on this podcast, But I think I started
Speaker 1: watching like gay porn and it was something that I
Speaker 1: was right, it was something that I was into. But
Speaker 1: to me, I was just telling myself, Oh, that's just
Speaker 1: the freaky ship you're into. You like pissing on somebody,
Speaker 1: and that's that's crazy. Someone someone's getting Piste think you're
Speaker 1: nuts somebody show and that dude is nuts. But the
Speaker 1: girl that Piste on, oh yeah whatever. Okay, So here's
Speaker 1: my question too with you. I have a few, and
Speaker 1: she has a few. I'm going to go ahead and
Speaker 1: throw this out and then you're more than welcome to
Speaker 1: ring them all in. So this is my question, especially
Speaker 1: with you you black, so um and I brought this
Speaker 1: up and we briefly talked about this before going on air.
Speaker 1: So in the black community, they don't see a man
Speaker 1: being sexual. If you deal with me, you're gay, you're gay.
Speaker 1: You're gay, you're gay. So how was it that you
Speaker 1: were able to I'm a bisexual man, I like men
Speaker 1: and women. How are you able to you know, maybe
Speaker 1: deal with that and is it something that you are
Speaker 1: open with? So I think the need to categorize people
Speaker 1: is universal. That like, So that's that's that's something that's
Speaker 1: your scientifically proven. You need someone to be this or
Speaker 1: that for you to be able to understand it and and
Speaker 1: not be afraid of it. Right, But within the black community,
Speaker 1: if you touch one of those boxes, then there's a
Speaker 1: fear that comes into it. Then there's a taboonist, there's
Speaker 1: a we run from it. And so that's more so
Speaker 1: in the black community than in the white community. But
Speaker 1: of course there's putting a homophobia in the white community.
Speaker 1: There's puty the white kids whose parents turned their back
Speaker 1: on them in the sent a third, you know, So
Speaker 1: it's not like it's not something that happens. But the
Speaker 1: point is, ultimately, I think that I'm in a special
Speaker 1: situation that I wouldn't say that. I see a lot
Speaker 1: in our community because I'm an active member of the
Speaker 1: LGBT community. Um, I we have a letter in the
Speaker 1: in the LGBT thing, you know, like it's be It's
Speaker 1: like it's there be. Um. You know, I'm not ashamed
Speaker 1: of who I am, and that comes from who I
Speaker 1: was as a little kid. Right, So I from from
Speaker 1: twenty eight. It was late in the first time I
Speaker 1: did anything at all. Um, the first time I mess
Speaker 1: I mess with somebody that I met on the Internet,
Speaker 1: and I was freaked out and I was like, that
Speaker 1: was horrible, that I will never do that now. Then
Speaker 1: back in the day, bro, it was like Craigslist right
Speaker 1: right right. It was just a super awkward experience. And
Speaker 1: I was like, well, I'm glad I'll never do that again.
Speaker 1: That was horrible. And but of course that's not how
Speaker 1: the mind works. I actually got promoted to a different city,
Speaker 1: so I was outside of my comfort zone. And um,
Speaker 1: so my social networks and the women that would normally
Speaker 1: be around we're not there. And so you have all
Speaker 1: this downtime to just let your mind go where it goes.
Speaker 1: But somebody introduced me to Grinders, so that made it
Speaker 1: my easier. And I'm really funny and I have a
Speaker 1: good personality, so even though you know, however, someone just
Speaker 1: perceived how you look, how level of attractiveness you are,
Speaker 1: Like if you got games, you've got mouth, games, you
Speaker 1: can talk and up right now and well, for you
Speaker 1: guys listening, I want to go ahead because we talked
Speaker 1: about all of these apps. All they're not ads, they're
Speaker 1: not sponsors. So you met loverboy on bumble. I am
Speaker 1: often on Tinder for guys. For the listeners who don't know,
Speaker 1: Grinder is actually the I guess gay version of Tinder.
Speaker 1: It's literally all men, and it actually shows men much
Speaker 1: closer in your proximity, so if you're in the same
Speaker 1: building as someone, it can literally go to the amount
Speaker 1: of feet away. That yeah, but it's literally like a
Speaker 1: tender app but for men. By the way, can I
Speaker 1: just say in Cuba, one of my friends was so
Speaker 1: curious as to who was gays, Like, I need Grinder
Speaker 1: right now because I need to know what the fun
Speaker 1: is going on because you're not. So that's a joke.
Speaker 1: I'm just joking, but I did. I did have one
Speaker 1: of my first gay friends. Um, he said, I've never
Speaker 1: met a Latin guy. Couldn't get there all bisexual and
Speaker 1: that was that was his mythic. It's so crazy because
Speaker 1: I say that all the time, like his, like, Latin
Speaker 1: men fucking have better eyebrows than me. They shave their legs,
Speaker 1: they shave everything. And I used to be so away
Speaker 1: from the I don't think all of them do that.
Speaker 1: I don't think that's a universal Harry Latin men. Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think the words the eyebrows is definitely sometimes like
Speaker 1: you see the guy and you see the girl like
Speaker 1: his eyebrows better than she's cool with brows Again, she's
Speaker 1: in her feelings. Guys, Um, how did you meet your
Speaker 1: girlfriend first? All about a college almost eleven years ago?
Speaker 1: Okay wait wait wait wait eleven years ago and you
Speaker 1: guys he was dating for a year, so wait did
Speaker 1: she leave the friend zone? Is this? Was it a
Speaker 1: friend zone thing? And oh you friend So maybe that's
Speaker 1: where I'm backing. I'm still so what had happened was
Speaker 1: I was coming out of college, I was in a
Speaker 1: good space, I had options, right, Um, I was, I
Speaker 1: was still um and it was my first job out
Speaker 1: of college. I take my job and career seriously. Um.
Speaker 1: And so the beautiful Latin woman a couple of cubicles
Speaker 1: away that once took up although I'm super attracted her,
Speaker 1: like and the first time I saw her, I remember
Speaker 1: the day I walked in the office. I was like, well,
Speaker 1: there's one stupid hot girl in this office, you know,
Speaker 1: and somewhere. So we're hanging out at her apartment one time,
Speaker 1: and it's late at night and she puts the moves
Speaker 1: on and I'm just you know what it happened, right,
Speaker 1: she I'm not gonna put her her busines other she
Speaker 1: said something in that day that was crazy to me.
Speaker 1: I perceived it this crazy. What was it? Wait? Are
Speaker 1: you not going to share? Wait? Look, permisted, I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna says it really wasn't that crazy? I was, okay,
Speaker 1: So that's that's yes, all right. So I asked you
Speaker 1: just a date question, right, So, what's your greatest fear?
Speaker 1: And I'm I was a psychology major originally, so I
Speaker 1: know that your answer is most likely going to be
Speaker 1: to lose the thing you value most, right, Um? So
Speaker 1: I asked, what is your greatest fear? She's like to
Speaker 1: be ugly and I was. I just laughed. I just
Speaker 1: like that's not right, Like that's not a serious answer
Speaker 1: to me. I'm not. She's like, no, seriously to be
Speaker 1: ugly on this. So I'm looking at her like, wait,
Speaker 1: are you serious? Like that's what you think? Like if
Speaker 1: you weren't pretty, like that would be the worst thing ever.
Speaker 1: She's like, well you do you just think ugly people
Speaker 1: are just walking around unhappy? She's like do you think
Speaker 1: they're And I was like, no, no, there's issues here.
Speaker 1: That's a red flag to me, and your two cubicles
Speaker 1: away and I don't need the latina cutting up my
Speaker 1: car tires, right, And so I'm like this what kept
Speaker 1: you way? It is? She's crazy. It couldn't be that
Speaker 1: I was actually very successful, educated, had almost been shot,
Speaker 1: like I've already dealt with all the stuff that other
Speaker 1: people are afraid of and gotten past it and like
Speaker 1: and she like she like, so I got it just
Speaker 1: a very quick, great way of thinking of it, like
Speaker 1: I have lived my life like bro, I almost died.
Speaker 1: I just don't want to be ugly at this point,
Speaker 1: Like I'm good. So that gave me enough pause to
Speaker 1: be like, you know what, I'm not gonna I'm not
Speaker 1: into this right and then but then then and the
Speaker 1: other part was I didn't think it. I didn't think
Speaker 1: it would be private, right. I thought it would get
Speaker 1: out in the workplace, it would be drawing, right, that
Speaker 1: she was just gonna talk about that dick in off,
Speaker 1: you ain't want them know? And you got that things
Speaker 1: are you happy? Okay? Come to find out I have
Speaker 1: a mortal enemy in this company, like a guy in
Speaker 1: management that me and him don't get along, Like I
Speaker 1: hate this dude, right, and and so at some point,
Speaker 1: months and months on the line, maybe a couple of
Speaker 1: years on why she's just like, I'm I'm engaged. I'm engaged.
Speaker 1: So she had been dating this dude for months and months,
Speaker 1: got engaged. No one even knew. If I knew she
Speaker 1: could keep a secret, would have been doing this ship.
Speaker 1: I didn't know that. It was like locked damn. And
Speaker 1: so I had this giant regret. And she married this
Speaker 1: guy that I hated that I'm like the hottest girl
Speaker 1: that I ever had the chance to get with, I passed.
Speaker 1: And it's just I screwed up right right and divorced
Speaker 1: and um, and we've been friends, Yeah, we've been friends
Speaker 1: all along, It's totally awesome. Was a why are divorce
Speaker 1: is so expensive? Because they're worth it. They're wonderful. Um.
Speaker 1: But we reconnected a year or so ago, just out
Speaker 1: at best Buy, you know, and we end up talking
Speaker 1: for like an hour or two standing there and best Buy,
Speaker 1: and I was like, she come to my birthday party
Speaker 1: and housewarming or whatever, and um, she getting on birthday dinner.
Speaker 1: We had a house swarming and then that night it
Speaker 1: just kind of went down. It was just when you,
Speaker 1: like you guys reconnected and then okay, so now I'm
Speaker 1: like super interested in that, Like, okay, so they're in
Speaker 1: the conversation your sexuality and your sexuality like did you
Speaker 1: know already from rumors in the streets? Okay? And and
Speaker 1: why is it that you didn't give a ship? Why
Speaker 1: is it yeah for you to be I'm just super
Speaker 1: cures in this. Yeah, we are the only people I
Speaker 1: think that we know right that we're the only people
Speaker 1: that out of all of my friends, they're all like, bitch,
Speaker 1: he'll let you do what, he may do what what?
Speaker 1: And so they're super against any guy even doing the
Speaker 1: strap on dealing with men. What made you okay with
Speaker 1: the fact that you knew he had dealt with men before.
Speaker 1: So if I'm being honest, I don't know that I
Speaker 1: necessarily was. Okay, Okay, that is honest. Yeah. So the
Speaker 1: year prior to that, I got divorced, and it was
Speaker 1: because I found out that my husband was sleeping with
Speaker 1: a guy. Oh oh, I've ever said that actually publicly,
Speaker 1: so just in context. I think that over the course
Speaker 1: of a year and some serious therapy, Um, I figured
Speaker 1: out that it was not an issue of I was
Speaker 1: worried about secret. Yeah, it was the secret. It was
Speaker 1: the secret. Absolutely. I'm openly bisexual. I had girlfriends when
Speaker 1: I was in the military. Like, that's not a big
Speaker 1: issue for me. So I understood the fluidity of it.
Speaker 1: It was the fact that it was a secret. Be
Speaker 1: it be when I asked you about it, Like what
Speaker 1: you need to answer is I like dudes, And if
Speaker 1: you can't say that, like if you say it was
Speaker 1: a mistake, it wasn't. When I feel and then I
Speaker 1: find out that there's actually more to That's the issue
Speaker 1: is are you comfortable with who you are? And if
Speaker 1: you're that sex confidence is sexy is let me just say,
Speaker 1: women say to me all the time that they don't
Speaker 1: want to see their man is weak and you're sitting
Speaker 1: here with this huge guy like like got the masculine,
Speaker 1: he's super masculine. That confidence has so much more weight
Speaker 1: than anything. So just to say, like just knowing a
Speaker 1: man was hiding himself, that's what makes it so sexy,
Speaker 1: Like I'm I'm super against And I say this often
Speaker 1: because anytime I'm on the phone with anyone or work,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to get to know someone and the first
Speaker 1: time they sit here and we had this conversation before.
Speaker 1: There's times that I'll talk to guys and they'll admit
Speaker 1: to me the things they've done with men. And my
Speaker 1: very first question is do the women you do, the
Speaker 1: other women you talk to know know this about you?
Speaker 1: And they're like, nah, man, I ain't telling nobody this.
Speaker 1: I'm not comfortable. And it's just like that to me,
Speaker 1: that download lifestyle and not being comfortable with your sexuality,
Speaker 1: not only that enough to respect who you're having sex with.
Speaker 1: Let them make the decision if they want to sleep
Speaker 1: with someone who's dealing with men and women. But if
Speaker 1: someone is not secure in themselves, are not relationship material period.
Speaker 1: That's heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, if you're not secure in who
Speaker 1: you are as a man or as a woman, the
Speaker 1: relationship is going to be thing. But probably this wasn't
Speaker 1: something where he had to come out to you. You
Speaker 1: knew before you got into a relationship with him that
Speaker 1: heaps possibly you know woth I'm I don't live a
Speaker 1: secret life, you know, Like like I said, I don't,
Speaker 1: I don't My mom My mom was the first person
Speaker 1: I told you know, Like so when you when your
Speaker 1: mom knows and your friends know, I made a spreadsheet.
Speaker 1: I made a spreadsheet probamary secondary people just have the
Speaker 1: conversation with because I only and it was I kissed
Speaker 1: somebody at thirty. I came out because I'd rather deal
Speaker 1: with being really because I know people there's so I
Speaker 1: would rather deal with being perceived as gay, right, then
Speaker 1: deal with lying to the people that I care about
Speaker 1: and sing to love and so what's important and my
Speaker 1: only real advice to women, um is don't connect someone's
Speaker 1: sexuality to their character and integrity. Because Carmelo Anthony straight right,
Speaker 1: and that strip is pregnant, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: So like you can have you can have your super
Speaker 1: educated doctor who's banging his secretary so it's like, being
Speaker 1: heterosexual doesn't mean that you have a man who's honest,
Speaker 1: a man that'll be true to you. You know. That's
Speaker 1: but that's real. And so just because a guy has
Speaker 1: is bisexual and has an attraction to men doesn't mean
Speaker 1: that I'm a liar. Doesn't mean that I'm a cheater.
Speaker 1: I'm as honest a person as you will ever meet.
Speaker 1: And I would rather deal with any consequences of being
Speaker 1: honest than to say I love you. But I'm lying
Speaker 1: to you, right, And this is my question. I actually
Speaker 1: have a question to you about this because you being
Speaker 1: so open with it, and I'm not sure what your
Speaker 1: dealings are now, but I've had friends asked me, do
Speaker 1: you ever so women get jealous of other women with him?
Speaker 1: Is it jealousy with men and women? Is it something
Speaker 1: to where you feel like, damn, not only might this
Speaker 1: nigga cheat on me with a girl but also a guy.
Speaker 1: Is Is it something that you that crosses your mind
Speaker 1: that it could be anybody? Essentially? So, essentially, I'm in
Speaker 1: a very unique position because I'm dating him. Like I
Speaker 1: legitimately can tell you from the bottom my heart, I
Speaker 1: have no doubt at any point in time that he
Speaker 1: would ever do anything to her. I do not like
Speaker 1: do I get jealous sometimes, absolutely, but it's not from
Speaker 1: place of fear, and it's because you trust him. You
Speaker 1: have that I don't have, like like I have told
Speaker 1: him on several occasions when I'm out of town and
Speaker 1: we can't see each other that it's okay for him
Speaker 1: to do things. It's fine. I'm cool with that, and
Speaker 1: he's just like, See, this is the thing that I
Speaker 1: totally feel you because I'm there right now, she's there right.
Speaker 1: I feel like I don't know where I stand with
Speaker 1: this guy, but I feel like he three months. You
Speaker 1: don't have three months apart. I can fly for free, right.
Speaker 1: I don't think. I think when you are when you
Speaker 1: know someone is emotionally connected to you, like well, and
Speaker 1: this is the thing to the fact that both of you,
Speaker 1: even you seeming a lot less open than he is
Speaker 1: as far as just your personality. I feel like the
Speaker 1: fact that your communication seems completely open and you know
Speaker 1: that at the end of the day, what you didn't
Speaker 1: have with your last husband was when you asked him
Speaker 1: a question, you didn't know if he was telling you
Speaker 1: the truth is, and it's with him, you know that Listen,
Speaker 1: if I ask you, I'm going to know the truth.
Speaker 1: And I feel like that's the biggest issue with having
Speaker 1: relationships is that you always want to feel like you're
Speaker 1: finding dirt because you feel like who you're with you
Speaker 1: can't trust. And when that trust is there, regardless of
Speaker 1: their sexuality, what it is, it's literally just focused on that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: she's over here trying to get sound bites and if
Speaker 1: you're it's yeah, I know, and I know you guys
Speaker 1: hear us talk about funny ship and all the time,
Speaker 1: and this is still I'm still with the ship. I mean,
Speaker 1: I hope you guys are not, you know, still laughing
Speaker 1: kind of sort no, but I definitely want I just
Speaker 1: just to dig into this conversation to mind, like I
Speaker 1: have so many couples that they put on that front
Speaker 1: for you, you know, on's Instagram, and but you know,
Speaker 1: because I address every issue that I have you and
Speaker 1: you seem like, I mean, it just seems comfortable and
Speaker 1: this is working. I'm being a better person, and I
Speaker 1: have a question to this um and this again goes
Speaker 1: from personal, but real quick, because it's funny. I told
Speaker 1: people all the time when I meet them, I am
Speaker 1: not a nice person. I am not am I am mean.
Speaker 1: I will hurt your feelings, but but I am a
Speaker 1: good person. Like I am someone you can kill if
Speaker 1: you if you were my friend. My friend was in
Speaker 1: her back home. She missed the fight to Jamaica to
Speaker 1: start her vacation, and she's in my city. I was
Speaker 1: like her mom. She calls her mom crying and she's
Speaker 1: and her mom goes, so, David's gonna come get you.
Speaker 1: Because she knows I'm gonna come get her. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: make sure that she's gonna have a great day. Her
Speaker 1: and her friend who I just met that day at
Speaker 1: my place, we're swimming. I took him to dinner, to lunch,
Speaker 1: We cooked them dinner. We started their vacation. Because I'm
Speaker 1: a good person. She's nice, like she's genuinely cares about
Speaker 1: other human beings. And I don't even think about at
Speaker 1: she thought that. I was like, it's gonna get caught.
Speaker 1: I go. We go out of him, Like I guess
Speaker 1: she's going for the ethnic look today. So I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna tell her this. To put a fly iron, I
Speaker 1: just wanted to keet some of the birds that were
Speaker 1: nesting in the hair like maybe she wants mix today.
Speaker 1: I don't. But but you know what I also like
Speaker 1: about that, though, is that I feel like we know
Speaker 1: she's attractive, she knows the confidence right, she doesn't feel
Speaker 1: like she has to look perfect all the time. Someone
Speaker 1: the prettiest or not. But I feel like someone don't
Speaker 1: just get anybody wants it, somebody like I feel like
Speaker 1: I have makeup on or not. Maybe less cat calls,
Speaker 1: maybe right if I have something to can't be wrong.
Speaker 1: But whoever was going to really talk to me in
Speaker 1: that balling? Absolutely, you know, I feel like, well, well,
Speaker 1: and we go all the time and I'm much bigger,
Speaker 1: like I'm a thick bitch, and I tell her all
Speaker 1: the time, I still pull mad niggers. I will funk
Speaker 1: about these little flyin bitches because here's the question. Man,
Speaker 1: there's guys lost twenty pounds. Are you the same? Dude?
Speaker 1: Something to saying dude, So I'm not gonna lie, do
Speaker 1: you want to lose twenty pounds? But no, I mean
Speaker 1: I say this all the time because I'll have other
Speaker 1: girls come at me, like other Instagram models like and
Speaker 1: they'd be like, bitch, if y'all only knew I bag
Speaker 1: the same niggas that y'all do, the same blue check
Speaker 1: mark ass niggas y'all be trying to get be all
Speaker 1: of my motherfucker damn Sue. And I know what's the
Speaker 1: body count on the blue checkmarks? Oh listen, I ain't
Speaker 1: even gonna they get a blue checkmark interview. What wait?
Speaker 1: Twitter started in oh nine, We're not going to do
Speaker 1: that math No. But and and that's the thing like
Speaker 1: that we say all the time, and when I'm going
Speaker 1: for you, for you, who's for you? Who's for you?
Speaker 1: Who's for me? Who's for me? And when we go out,
Speaker 1: when I go out with any of my friends, even
Speaker 1: if we all see the same guy, we'd be like, bitch,
Speaker 1: well let's see who he talked to. And it's literally
Speaker 1: like there's no competition because we all pull different types
Speaker 1: of men, we all are open to different types of things.
Speaker 1: She's more into dom ship. I'm no, I'm in the
Speaker 1: dumb ship. She's like sub My other homegirl is super prude.
Speaker 1: She's fucking I think she's head on an episode, the
Speaker 1: one that we just head on. Oh yeah, well even Crystal.
Speaker 1: Crystal just got her first good dick nine. So I'm
Speaker 1: like sad, so sad, so like we say this all
Speaker 1: the time, but yeah, so um I was Lena, ask
Speaker 1: the questions to happen like you have, everybody will have.
Speaker 1: These people are gonna be like, why the fun didn't
Speaker 1: you ask him this? Okay, so yeah you said just
Speaker 1: now that you said he could do things. What are
Speaker 1: you thinking in your mind you can do things when
Speaker 1: when you guys are not together and you let him
Speaker 1: know that, hey, you can do your own thing. What
Speaker 1: is going on in your mind? What do you think
Speaker 1: he's doing. I don't think he's doing anything. I at
Speaker 1: one point was encouraging it. Apparently it's a bad idea
Speaker 1: to do that. So because like I said, I travel
Speaker 1: a lot, and as a woman, I think that sometimes
Speaker 1: our needs sometimes can be different, or at least I
Speaker 1: know for us, sometimes my needs a different and I'm
Speaker 1: just like what I want to go to bed? I'm
Speaker 1: knowing the sex drive, right, feel like you need to
Speaker 1: accommodate his part of his sexuality is bi sexual side like,
Speaker 1: oh so you're not so Another advice to women, right,
Speaker 1: if you're going to date a bisexual man and you
Speaker 1: want it to be monogamous, don't date a bottom don't
Speaker 1: date a guy who intrinsically needs dick in his life
Speaker 1: if that if that's something, but if that's something, he
Speaker 1: needs that something, and it forces the only top and bottom.
Speaker 1: By the way, for you guys that don't know, I
Speaker 1: feel like we all should. But picture and Catcher, it's
Speaker 1: it's simple. But the guys that I've dated have all
Speaker 1: been rock bottoms, like people who have no interest in
Speaker 1: poking anybody with anything. And um And it's not to
Speaker 1: say I've never experimented, because of course you experiment, and
Speaker 1: sometimes if you if you're not right, but it's the
Speaker 1: bottom line is I don't have a need for it.
Speaker 1: So if what our issue sexually is that we're not
Speaker 1: in the same city all the time, and so if
Speaker 1: I could sleep with her every single night, there would
Speaker 1: be no need for anything. Ever, the frustration that I
Speaker 1: have is not that I missed being with a guy
Speaker 1: because I'm in love with her. Um. And when you
Speaker 1: started making love with somebody, what is like but but
Speaker 1: like yeah, like going to like hooking up with someone.
Speaker 1: When you're making love to someone, it's like it's it's
Speaker 1: pales in comparison, and it's just stupid. And that those
Speaker 1: let's say those months we weren't talking, like I was
Speaker 1: around the world acting the god dang fool you know. Um,
Speaker 1: But as soon as we reconnected, and I swear, so
Speaker 1: this is funny, I stole a kiss just because she
Speaker 1: had started dating someone else, and she's like, I'm being
Speaker 1: super honest with him. So I wanted her to have
Speaker 1: to tell him that we made out right, and that
Speaker 1: was it was just me being petty. I was being petty, right,
Speaker 1: and then I kissed her and the world stopped. Like
Speaker 1: it was like everything I've done the last couple of months,
Speaker 1: I didn't want it anymore. To get back online. I
Speaker 1: don't know if I met my match right, he wasn't
Speaker 1: talk to me about me like this is that Russian?
Speaker 1: I know that your fucking world stop. I don't think
Speaker 1: that came out. I message might have stop, but it
Speaker 1: was not this right? Um? What was yeah? Okay, So
Speaker 1: it seems because as sexuality is open, I think just
Speaker 1: like she asked a question of pegging, because we just assume, right,
Speaker 1: So I assumed that your relationship is more open. Do
Speaker 1: you ever want to bring other people into it? Do
Speaker 1: you talk about it? Question? And if you do, not
Speaker 1: to what capacity, Like, first of all, have you guys
Speaker 1: had okay? And if you guys do have a three
Speaker 1: both like him as the girl, you both like women,
Speaker 1: you both like men, would it be open as far
Speaker 1: as the gender. I feel like that's something we just
Speaker 1: haven't discussed. You guys have okay as a guy? Right?
Speaker 1: Every time she looks at a girl, I get hopeful, right, right. So,
Speaker 1: so we had this conversation because he was crashing, we're
Speaker 1: crashing at your place, right, we're crashing at weez these
Speaker 1: place while while we're here in New York City. And
Speaker 1: I and at some point I was just like the
Speaker 1: excited I'm so excited about meeting her because I've always
Speaker 1: like we have mutual friends, and I just felt like
Speaker 1: we were clicking friends right side of mine and so um,
Speaker 1: and I wanted to go to Cuba really bad, but
Speaker 1: I couldn't go because they don't know you free so um.
Speaker 1: So I was just expressing her how excited I was
Speaker 1: glad to cancel a non cancelable hotel, like I got
Speaker 1: a doctor smell from the friends and the doctor to
Speaker 1: say my MoMA was sick. And so she at one
Speaker 1: point goes, it seems like you're more excited to meet
Speaker 1: her than me. And I'm just like, wait, what Anyway,
Speaker 1: I have another bedroom in my apartment, which is why
Speaker 1: they when they came to New York, they stayed with
Speaker 1: me because I know they're like what all in the
Speaker 1: She's like, She's like, I just feel like you really
Speaker 1: wanted three something to happen this weekend. And I was like, wait,
Speaker 1: I didn't say any of that, but I just like,
Speaker 1: like a day later, he's like, so this is like
Speaker 1: I'm like, I just don't remember who this is because
Speaker 1: you mentioned like I mean, I wish if you if
Speaker 1: you didn't showed me that the one when you said
Speaker 1: when you told lover boy, this is your pussy and
Speaker 1: then you were like why did I do that? Your
Speaker 1: girlfriend her talking about loving OK. Here's the thing. When
Speaker 1: he reminded me who this was, I was like, well,
Speaker 1: I wish you just said it was her, just Hollywood
Speaker 1: thought about the fact that you wanted to see it
Speaker 1: because and so as a guy, and I feel like
Speaker 1: you could relate to this, like if the opportunity, if
Speaker 1: the opper opportunity ever existed for you to sleep in
Speaker 1: the apartment that both of these women were saying it right,
Speaker 1: you would have some hopes and dreams about the future
Speaker 1: of what could happen, right, and then the reality is
Speaker 1: she was making it like you want to have, like
Speaker 1: you be happy even if I wasn't there, and I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: that's not it. I want y'all hold on, let me finish.
Speaker 1: I was a little bit good because I thought she
Speaker 1: was a bridge and then you showed me your picture.
Speaker 1: So I'm sitting there going no, I want you to
Speaker 1: to be attracted to each other. Whatever I would need
Speaker 1: to do, right, if I needed out a hand or
Speaker 1: an apage, or if I need to just sit in
Speaker 1: the white and just masturbating. This is the greatest moment
Speaker 1: of that. I'm so happy to be watching this live
Speaker 1: like I'm fine with anything. This is not about me
Speaker 1: going behind your back to meet her, Like I just
Speaker 1: if the first time I ever saw her touch another woman,
Speaker 1: it would be awesome. Your girlfriends, I'm told, I'm cool.
Speaker 1: It ain't gonna be all right, like just giving them
Speaker 1: shots and just in here, like what's go ahead? It's
Speaker 1: very interesting right as women like so same would be
Speaker 1: a lover boy, right, He's like, oh, I love when
Speaker 1: you girls like take him home. He only gets jealous
Speaker 1: if I come too quick. It's a weird thing. So
Speaker 1: I would lose my ever loving mind if she was
Speaker 1: to lose it again again. Yeah, what is it about
Speaker 1: not needing to be involved? Is it because men don't
Speaker 1: feel threatened when another woman's with their woman? Is right?
Speaker 1: That's exactly. It's like, there's I have no So how
Speaker 1: do you know that I don't eat pussy better? I say,
Speaker 1: I eat pussy way better than a lot of guys.
Speaker 1: Maybe I can learn something like, but you're like, man,
Speaker 1: you're not leaving me for you. That's not now when
Speaker 1: a man is how do you know she wouldn't leave you? Like?
Speaker 1: I couldn't be the same for a man. Man, What
Speaker 1: is the complex? Why would you not leave me for
Speaker 1: a woman? I know that's right, and and bitches are
Speaker 1: just fun and I'm the same way. I'm super like
Speaker 1: and I'm yeah, they're beautiful and I love that dealing
Speaker 1: with them. But no, bro, I'm not I'm not leaving.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna marry a man as much as I like women,
Speaker 1: as much as I like being with women. It's the
Speaker 1: same way. And even when I was dealing with I
Speaker 1: guess we could bleep it out. Um he hated that
Speaker 1: I liked women, And I think it was more so
Speaker 1: him thinking like, well, damn, not only that every time
Speaker 1: you're out with your friends, you're gonna beating pussy every
Speaker 1: time you're that. And I think it was more so
Speaker 1: maybe an insecurity thing he thought that, which is what
Speaker 1: we talkt Yeah, and it's literally about like no ship, nowhere, nowhere,
Speaker 1: and it's literally it's literally that confidence. But he was like, damn,
Speaker 1: is there something a girl is doing that you think?
Speaker 1: Like your Instagram? So many of them are Instagram no,
Speaker 1: no ship No. Not only my well, it's my followers
Speaker 1: that has a that's a huge issue with a lot
Speaker 1: of the regular man. But not only that, And I
Speaker 1: know a lot of blue check mark niggas. I'm friends
Speaker 1: with a lot of them, like literally friends, and she
Speaker 1: knows I'm friends. There's quite a bit of guys that
Speaker 1: I haven't sucked at all, and the fact that they're
Speaker 1: just in my phone. I've had guys, well why would
Speaker 1: you be with my regular ass? When you got x
Speaker 1: Joe blow making thirty million dollars in your phone? Why
Speaker 1: would you not be with him? And so it's come
Speaker 1: up tons of times that most men that I'm are
Speaker 1: insecure as fun. However, I will say, but which is
Speaker 1: why I bring up the sexuality thing, because I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I have met another bisexual man literally the
Speaker 1: most confidence in the model model boy. Yeah, literally the
Speaker 1: most confidence. But he's also a model. He's a model. No,
Speaker 1: he's accepted himself and he's super open and he's find
Speaker 1: a ship, perfect body. Um, but deals with men and women.
Speaker 1: But literally probably the most confident guy I've ever met
Speaker 1: in my you do, I feel like to get to
Speaker 1: that space, you need a competitive advantage, Like he's a model.
Speaker 1: I'm brilliant, Like I'm smarter than ever. So if you're
Speaker 1: into smart guys like James, ain't gonna take you from me.
Speaker 1: The how ain't gonna take you from taking you from me?
Speaker 1: Like not if that's what you're into. And I just
Speaker 1: realized we're going over time. Yeah, we're gonna go ahead
Speaker 1: and um and the show. Do you want to go
Speaker 1: ahead and say something nice? Yeah? I just want to
Speaker 1: thank you guys for coming and like reaffirming that I
Speaker 1: just love for me, not only not only love, but
Speaker 1: just the confidence and being honest there, confidence, honesty and communication.
Speaker 1: The fact that those do exist in the fact that
Speaker 1: both of you could genuinely accept each other for who
Speaker 1: each other are. I think it's so important to know
Speaker 1: for all of our listeners, anyone who's maybe not comfortable
Speaker 1: with your sexuality, to know that if someone doesn't accept you,
Speaker 1: there is someone out there that will, and you shouldn't
Speaker 1: as here with her shoulders down and looking awkward like
Speaker 1: this is when you were saying, guys, I've dated like,
Speaker 1: I looked at you a lot. I just wanted to
Speaker 1: see you get uncomfortable and it just didn't didn't. I
Speaker 1: didn't want to see it when like guys are like,
Speaker 1: so when did you transition? So I literally introduced her
Speaker 1: to a friend and said this is my girlfriend and
Speaker 1: they and they turned. I turned away. I wasn't paying attention,
Speaker 1: and he goes, so when did you begin your transition?
Speaker 1: She looking at her, Come on, I flipped it. Like
Speaker 1: two days later, we were at we were at a
Speaker 1: Broadway play here in New York and the curtains about
Speaker 1: to go up, and she's like, I gotta pee, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, are you serious right right now? So we go.
Speaker 1: The girl's line it's like two blocks. The guy's line
Speaker 1: is just moving and she goes, what do you think
Speaker 1: the bathroom laws are here? I said, no, I heard nothing,
Speaker 1: but he called me a transder person. He asked me
Speaker 1: about transition and blah blah blah blah. I said, if
Speaker 1: you walk in that bathroom, I don't ever want to
Speaker 1: hear about what happened at that bar again. And she's like,
Speaker 1: she's like, deal, clear the way and an offensive lineman
Speaker 1: and said this is your come on, And then the
Speaker 1: black girl behind her said can I go next? Come on, bob,
Speaker 1: And she's washing her hand in between two dudes and
Speaker 1: they're just looking at like the fun isn't that was
Speaker 1: between my leg. We made it back to our seat
Speaker 1: and the play open a bisexual guy. I've taught her
Speaker 1: positions in football so that she understands all of the
Speaker 1: offensive linemen's positions, the white receivers, and we can go
Speaker 1: to Broadway place to do so there's that together. But
Speaker 1: I try to put her up on sports terms too,
Speaker 1: because you know we're the sports fan. I just let
Speaker 1: me just look at their butt. I always wanted to
Speaker 1: do this. I never I could do this with my
Speaker 1: close I never know a thousand years thought that she
Speaker 1: would be comfortable enough to even allow me to walk
Speaker 1: in here and talk openly on the Internet. And I'm
Speaker 1: so proud of her. Right now, my girl is not
Speaker 1: like open let's talk about our personal sex lives in
Speaker 1: front of the world kind of thing. And even though
Speaker 1: if it's anonymous, it's still the Internet and people can
Speaker 1: connect the stocks, you know. So I'm super proud of
Speaker 1: you and I love you more today yesterday. Well, guys,
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