1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,720 Speaker 1: Hey guys, welcome to another episode of Horrible Decisions. I'm 2 00:00:02,759 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: wheezy and we just want to give a quick shout 3 00:00:04,600 --> 00:00:07,720 Speaker 1: out to our best supporters, Jolie Beauty Bar the Bomb. 4 00:00:07,920 --> 00:00:10,320 Speaker 1: They are so bomb, guys. They actually hooked up our 5 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:12,920 Speaker 1: faces for our cover art that you guys now see, 6 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:15,640 Speaker 1: and they did an amazing job on our hair and makeup. 7 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:19,120 Speaker 1: So chard A did our hair like slate it fucking 8 00:00:19,160 --> 00:00:21,640 Speaker 1: Marcus in there. It made me feel so beautiful. 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It is going to make you laugh. 28 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 1: I'm only using this because lover boy says I have 29 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:18,880 Speaker 1: one of these, and I feel like this is my aunts, 30 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:35,080 Speaker 1: Oh God, good shame, hunting good pretty turk from because 31 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 1: we were young. I'm not gonna lie. My pussy is 32 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: pretty and I've been told that quite often. It is cute. Right, 33 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:44,480 Speaker 1: I think I've sent you videos before. I love well 34 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: I can show you right now. We'll save that a right, guys, 35 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 1: Welcome to yet another episode of Horrible Decisions. The girl 36 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 1: Mandy be and I'm sitting here with Wheezy Deputy and 37 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 1: we are so glad to be here yet again. We 38 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:06,440 Speaker 1: are rolling this motherfucking ship out. I'm really excited because 39 00:02:06,440 --> 00:02:08,640 Speaker 1: I have so many things to tell you and I 40 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 1: need so much advice on it from like everybody. Um, 41 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 1: is that something like on the podcast, like I just 42 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 1: like just talking about my week, Like I just I 43 00:02:16,080 --> 00:02:19,000 Speaker 1: want people's feedback. It's so crazy, Like since we've started it, 44 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:22,399 Speaker 1: I've been getting hit up by tons of people. Actually, 45 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 1: before we start, would you want do you want to 46 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 1: read a fan mail or you have because I kind 47 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: of want um our guests to join it on that one. Okay, Okay, yeah, 48 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 1: we actually and I do want to let you guys 49 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:37,079 Speaker 1: know if you guys need advice, if you guys want 50 00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 1: to share your horrible decisions, any of that, you guys 51 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:42,000 Speaker 1: are more than welcome to hit us up on our Instagram. 52 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 1: We do have an Instagram page for the podcast now, 53 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 1: but you can also send us an email. You can 54 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: be anonymous UM and send us an email at Horrible 55 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 1: Decisions at gmail dot com UM and hit us up. 56 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:56,240 Speaker 1: So today, did you how do you want to roll 57 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:59,079 Speaker 1: with this one? Now? You're taking the fucking whale take 58 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:01,760 Speaker 1: the wheel, baby, Oh my god. Okay, so I just 59 00:03:01,800 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 1: have to think us happen. So you know, lover Boy's gone. Yes, 60 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:08,000 Speaker 1: I just thought it was gonna be totally dead it 61 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:10,119 Speaker 1: and then it was like the second he fucking left, 62 00:03:10,160 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 1: We've been texting like crazy pictures, crazy going on until right, 63 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: you are just like I don't even want to talk. 64 00:03:14,639 --> 00:03:17,480 Speaker 1: So next thing, you know, in four weeks, I'm going 65 00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:21,120 Speaker 1: to Venice to see him. Oh that is nice. And 66 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: I am losing it because I'm excited and I'm nervous 67 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:29,200 Speaker 1: because I just don't understand what is going on. And 68 00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:32,959 Speaker 1: so we've kind of talked about this, who are we 69 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 1: going to funk while each other's away? Thing? Right? Months 70 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:37,000 Speaker 1: and months he's gone, He's not coming back for a 71 00:03:37,040 --> 00:03:40,040 Speaker 1: little other season. The weather is going to be cold 72 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 1: again when he's back, So how is this gonna work? Right? 73 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 1: So well, good bitch, he's coming back right in time 74 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:51,839 Speaker 1: for cuffing season. Because then, motherfucking how thank you? I thought? 75 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 1: So he was saying to me like, okay, so I'm 76 00:03:57,840 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 1: saying him in a month, right, And it's like, you 77 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:02,600 Speaker 1: know me, I'm the type of person I don't believe 78 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:04,200 Speaker 1: that if you stick to dick in a bit, you're 79 00:04:04,240 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 1: in love with her. So we've been talking about sucking 80 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:10,320 Speaker 1: other people. And yesterday he went on a date and 81 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 1: so did I. Now the girl that he went on 82 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:16,520 Speaker 1: a date with, he sent me and she was hot, guys, 83 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:20,200 Speaker 1: she was I'm not gonna lie. I sat there, I 84 00:04:20,240 --> 00:04:22,559 Speaker 1: was like, she was like those those are the fucking 85 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 1: Russian eyebrows. She was, but bro, she was hot and 86 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:29,080 Speaker 1: I was like, bitch, I don't know what a Russian 87 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 1: eyebrows is. But she was cute and I was like, 88 00:04:34,160 --> 00:04:40,000 Speaker 1: it's so um. But that's the thing, right, What do 89 00:04:40,040 --> 00:04:42,159 Speaker 1: I want him to do this girl and pretend that yeah, 90 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:45,360 Speaker 1: like he's going to bed so no. So he we've 91 00:04:45,360 --> 00:04:47,479 Speaker 1: been talking about it and he was like telling me 92 00:04:47,520 --> 00:04:49,920 Speaker 1: these girls and I said, let me approve. And I 93 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:52,120 Speaker 1: don't want to ugly bitches around because I just feel 94 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:54,080 Speaker 1: like that's corny. Like I know, bitches want their man 95 00:04:54,120 --> 00:04:56,800 Speaker 1: to somebody that's not as cute as them. But I 96 00:04:56,839 --> 00:05:00,320 Speaker 1: don't really think it matters. I think that U I 97 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 1: don't know. I want him to be around some bad bitches. 98 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:03,320 Speaker 1: I don't want to ugly. I was talking to say 99 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:06,919 Speaker 1: so anyway, he sends me a picture and I'm like, okay, 100 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:09,120 Speaker 1: she's pretty. Do you like her? And he's like no, 101 00:05:09,279 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: Like I like, you know, I like her enough to 102 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 1: funk her. I'm like okay, then fine, go out with 103 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:15,800 Speaker 1: the bitch. So they're out and he sends me a text, 104 00:05:15,839 --> 00:05:17,160 Speaker 1: and this made me feel good because I thought I 105 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:18,760 Speaker 1: wasn't gonna hear from him all night. And it's like, 106 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:21,640 Speaker 1: I'm talking about you to her, and she told her 107 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:23,240 Speaker 1: I like you, and she's telling me that she likes 108 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:25,040 Speaker 1: girls too, and blah blah blah. I'm like, okay, we'll 109 00:05:25,040 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 1: tell her, I said hi. And then he sends me 110 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:33,720 Speaker 1: this a picture of them together. Yeah. Look, and she's cute, 111 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 1: but I'm not even look. I know she's trying to 112 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:42,159 Speaker 1: cover his face. I was trying to zoom in on 113 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:45,719 Speaker 1: this fucking cunt. The point is, I don't really know 114 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:49,040 Speaker 1: what to when she when they sent the picture, right, 115 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: I'm just like, oh my god, there's money. Of course, 116 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: the whole time he's like, wheezy, I've been talking to 117 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:58,039 Speaker 1: her about you though this whole time. I believe that part. 118 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:02,560 Speaker 1: But he made you sing that that was very that 119 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:03,920 Speaker 1: was nice of it. I don't gonna tell you what. 120 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 1: When the picture came through, right immediately, I'm laughing at 121 00:06:06,200 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 1: my mom. I'm like, ma, it's not like to send 122 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:10,800 Speaker 1: me picture him and his gud damn vision of bar. 123 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 1: So she's laughing, just like send it to me. She's like, 124 00:06:16,400 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 1: fucking Russian horror, so they do apparently have the best prostitutes. 125 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:25,880 Speaker 1: Though the girl is beautiful and I'm not gonna say right, 126 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:27,480 Speaker 1: but this is the thing. My mom was like, how 127 00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:30,599 Speaker 1: are you feeling? I'm like, honestly, like a part of 128 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: me is really jealous, but then this other part of 129 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 1: me is like, what could be better? Like, you're out 130 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:36,840 Speaker 1: with another girl. You just took a picture with her, 131 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:39,120 Speaker 1: she knows you're sending it to me, You're talking about me, Like, 132 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:42,640 Speaker 1: I feel good, you know, unless the whole time he 133 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:47,440 Speaker 1: was saying you're his cousin, so I doubt that they're 134 00:06:47,480 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 1: kind of but no, and it's and I like the 135 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:54,360 Speaker 1: openness and like the involvedment, Like I almost felt like 136 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 1: I was like it felt good, Like yeah, I know 137 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:59,480 Speaker 1: you're gonna go, but that you're super into open relationships 138 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:01,600 Speaker 1: in general. I think this helps to this is how 139 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:04,799 Speaker 1: you're building This is this is this has never happened. 140 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:08,360 Speaker 1: I've always been more like I want to have threesomes 141 00:07:08,400 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 1: together and relationships together. This like you're going out with 142 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:13,480 Speaker 1: another girl, I get to see her. I'm not gonna 143 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:16,160 Speaker 1: lie though, like am I not going to expect him 144 00:07:16,160 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 1: to get fucked while he's going. However, let me ask 145 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 1: you this, because I think we've talked about it and 146 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 1: you're into this relationship thing. However, you didn't caught feelings 147 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:26,960 Speaker 1: for this nigga so much. You don't really want to 148 00:07:26,960 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 1: bring a bit in bed with y'all. Okay, wait, are 149 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:32,960 Speaker 1: you lying? Hold on? Yes, I do, but I'm dying 150 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 1: to see him somebody and me being there. But is 151 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 1: it but I want to bring your girlfriend though? Right? Yeah, 152 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 1: she doesn't want to bring her girlfriend to this guy. 153 00:07:41,640 --> 00:07:44,800 Speaker 1: She wants a random stranger and a girlfriend who because 154 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:48,720 Speaker 1: I don't like there's predominant feelings in here with the 155 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 1: two of them. And I felt like before her I 156 00:07:51,040 --> 00:07:53,920 Speaker 1: was a level playing field with her, and then with 157 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:56,360 Speaker 1: her and the other guys, all these fucking names. She 158 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:59,360 Speaker 1: just loves for you guys to hear the boo. I'm sorry, 159 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 1: it's just easier. Don't have to we are not okay, 160 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:06,760 Speaker 1: And so like with them, I felt the same way. Now. 161 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:08,800 Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know, and like I just 162 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 1: don't know, but I get it. Well, I don't know. 163 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 1: But when I was on my day and I was 164 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:14,880 Speaker 1: kind of like, did he want me to go? And 165 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:17,640 Speaker 1: somebody post so that he could get the leverage to 166 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:19,840 Speaker 1: be like, Okay, well, he definitely told you he doesn't 167 00:08:19,880 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 1: want you fucking any other dick. So and there's that 168 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 1: double standard. There is a double standard. You're supposed to 169 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 1: be okay with him going on a date and potentially 170 00:08:28,160 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 1: possibly sucking this girl, and you can't be cool. And 171 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 1: I'm sure he did. He's I'm already know, Mitch, he 172 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 1: ain't got a damny. So we talked this morning and 173 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: but yeah, at the same time, he's telling you, I 174 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:41,800 Speaker 1: like you and I don't want you to know other dick. 175 00:08:41,960 --> 00:08:43,840 Speaker 1: So if you do, I don't like, you know, but 176 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:46,040 Speaker 1: don't want the other day, I don't like, I know 177 00:08:46,200 --> 00:08:48,160 Speaker 1: he's joking with me or it's gonna be a conversation 178 00:08:48,280 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 1: or what. But so this morning I wake up, right 179 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:53,400 Speaker 1: it's like four am. I'm like, I feel like you're 180 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:56,200 Speaker 1: cuddling and I'm jealous, and I'm gonna go to bed, 181 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:59,200 Speaker 1: That's all I said. So in the morning he calls 182 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 1: me and he's laughed, thinking I'm like, it's it funny that, 183 00:09:01,360 --> 00:09:03,720 Speaker 1: like your dick is deep down in some pussy, And 184 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:06,520 Speaker 1: I'm like, don't cuddle that bitch. I don't give a 185 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:10,200 Speaker 1: fun what you do. Don't cuddle that home. And I 186 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 1: say that all the time. I would be super into 187 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:14,600 Speaker 1: this type of relationship. And I literally tell my guys 188 00:09:14,600 --> 00:09:17,000 Speaker 1: when we have this conversation, I'm like, listen, if you 189 00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:18,920 Speaker 1: want to go another bitch, fucker, but I don't need 190 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:20,439 Speaker 1: you taking her on dates. I don't want you to 191 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 1: be a nice to her. Don't show her any type 192 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:24,440 Speaker 1: of love to wear. She might potentially start liking you. 193 00:09:24,559 --> 00:09:28,600 Speaker 1: But I didn't think, no, bitch, it's not niggas don't 194 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:31,040 Speaker 1: take bitches on dates anymore. Maybe white guys do, but 195 00:09:31,040 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 1: it's niggas don't. There's Netflix and Chill all motherfucking day long. 196 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:35,559 Speaker 1: So if they're taking you out of public and spend 197 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:36,840 Speaker 1: the time with you and spending some money on you, 198 00:09:37,320 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 1: bitch is gonna fall in love with that. Because bitches 199 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 1: all in love for face times and she eats funny 200 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 1: to where you cried, the bitch is in love already. 201 00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:48,320 Speaker 1: Um yeah. So well, I'm interested to see how this 202 00:09:48,320 --> 00:09:50,560 Speaker 1: plays out. And I'm glad that it was weird because 203 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:52,000 Speaker 1: we were on the phone, like, and he was talking 204 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:54,000 Speaker 1: about it. He was trying to downplay it so much 205 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:56,240 Speaker 1: because I could tell he was scared I was gonna 206 00:09:56,240 --> 00:09:59,320 Speaker 1: be uncomfortable, but I wasn't because I know that you know, 207 00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:01,360 Speaker 1: I'm waking up for work at this time. You're calling me. 208 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:03,280 Speaker 1: You're telling me about this bit. You ain't there now, 209 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 1: Like I was really cool about it. And not only that, 210 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:07,760 Speaker 1: he's fucking let me tell you how his mom line though. 211 00:10:08,040 --> 00:10:10,080 Speaker 1: Talking about I'm like, oh was it good? Like did 212 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 1: she do this? Did she do that? Like? So when 213 00:10:13,400 --> 00:10:17,480 Speaker 1: you came, where'd you come? He's like, oh I didn't come. Well, 214 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:21,360 Speaker 1: that so nice for you. That was really just gave 215 00:10:21,480 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 1: the most safe we all just like, so you ain't 216 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:26,080 Speaker 1: come over real? So you just sucked this hot at 217 00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:33,160 Speaker 1: here on your income. He's like it was did she 218 00:10:33,200 --> 00:10:34,880 Speaker 1: suck your dick? Yeah, babe, but it didn't feel like 219 00:10:34,960 --> 00:10:39,600 Speaker 1: your mouth that's lying off. So then I'm like, no, 220 00:10:39,720 --> 00:10:43,120 Speaker 1: we goddamn well got Like so did you make her come? 221 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:44,560 Speaker 1: He's like yeah, of course, I'm like I know you did. 222 00:10:44,600 --> 00:10:46,199 Speaker 1: I'm like, because you really good pussy. He's like, oh no, 223 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:49,120 Speaker 1: I didn't need your pussy. I still hold on broch y'all. 224 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:51,720 Speaker 1: That's all. He is the man that I literally really 225 00:10:51,760 --> 00:10:54,079 Speaker 1: in my heart believe the host Town Halls on How 226 00:10:54,120 --> 00:10:56,920 Speaker 1: to Eat Pussy because it's that good. Okay, So I 227 00:10:57,000 --> 00:10:59,480 Speaker 1: just want to know why you lying anyways, you want 228 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:01,600 Speaker 1: to go ahead. I super excited for this show again 229 00:11:01,640 --> 00:11:03,800 Speaker 1: because normally, I know you guys are sick of hearing 230 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:06,599 Speaker 1: our whole stories, and we decided, bitch, we're going to 231 00:11:06,679 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 1: run out of story soon, we should probably get sm 232 00:11:08,360 --> 00:11:11,280 Speaker 1: other people out. I will suck for this is my job, 233 00:11:11,400 --> 00:11:13,880 Speaker 1: she literally says every week when I'm on Tinder and 234 00:11:13,880 --> 00:11:17,080 Speaker 1: I'm like broad on, bro, research it's for research. Think 235 00:11:17,080 --> 00:11:20,480 Speaker 1: of the podcast, and I'll never forget it. That was 236 00:11:20,520 --> 00:11:22,600 Speaker 1: my favorite show growing up, with sex and you know, 237 00:11:22,640 --> 00:11:27,520 Speaker 1: I never day she would it's research, it's research, bro. 238 00:11:27,600 --> 00:11:30,640 Speaker 1: We would literally sit in her house eating fucking raised nets. 239 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 1: That is our ship, raised nets and popcorn. If you 240 00:11:32,440 --> 00:11:34,319 Speaker 1: sauce I a g live, you know that's what we do. 241 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:37,040 Speaker 1: And she was like fucking rich. So she had a 242 00:11:37,040 --> 00:11:39,600 Speaker 1: whole movie theater growing up, and we would literally watch 243 00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:42,160 Speaker 1: fucking we would watch Sex in the City and then 244 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:44,000 Speaker 1: be like, hey, let's run the movie. We'd runt a 245 00:11:44,040 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 1: movie and she literally we first seen her future. This 246 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:50,480 Speaker 1: is crazy, but she's literally is that how weird? York. 247 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:53,360 Speaker 1: We would literally watch Sex in the City and we 248 00:11:53,360 --> 00:11:56,720 Speaker 1: were like fifteen sixteen, um, and then yeah, after watching 249 00:11:56,720 --> 00:11:58,720 Speaker 1: Sex in the City, we would run movies and she'd 250 00:11:58,760 --> 00:12:02,080 Speaker 1: be like, it's okay, bro, I'm gonna call the the 251 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:04,320 Speaker 1: cable company right after and say didn't show or something. 252 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:06,640 Speaker 1: We're get our money right back. My mom's not gonna 253 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:10,880 Speaker 1: be mad about the ten dollars. Damn. I was dude, 254 00:12:10,920 --> 00:12:16,479 Speaker 1: you see hustling. If you want to go ahead and introduce, 255 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:21,840 Speaker 1: I'm trying to get my mind together. I was like this, 256 00:12:22,800 --> 00:12:26,800 Speaker 1: um yeah, I uh yeah. So we have a guest 257 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 1: that um contacted us about being or not really contacted us, 258 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 1: but like listen to our show. So this is kind 259 00:12:32,920 --> 00:12:35,320 Speaker 1: of the first guest we've had listened to everything. So 260 00:12:35,360 --> 00:12:38,440 Speaker 1: I'm really excited because I need some feedback about this leveraboy. Shit. 261 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:40,760 Speaker 1: Am I stupid for letting him fun? This model girl? 262 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:43,040 Speaker 1: Help me? God? Yeah, We're totally gonna keep giving her 263 00:12:43,040 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 1: advice to two main points. First of all, he definitely came. 264 00:12:47,960 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 1: That's like like everybody was just like please, it was cute. 265 00:12:53,160 --> 00:12:54,679 Speaker 1: It was cute. I love the idea of his whole 266 00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:56,800 Speaker 1: family listened to the podcast because then it's like his 267 00:12:56,880 --> 00:13:02,280 Speaker 1: mom sitting somewhere in other country, like that's my baby. 268 00:13:04,600 --> 00:13:09,559 Speaker 1: I don't know it's the mom yet, but oh god, 269 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:13,200 Speaker 1: so I guess go ahead, and if you want to 270 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 1: introduce kind of maybe what you do um and why 271 00:13:16,600 --> 00:13:18,640 Speaker 1: you're not even maybe not even that, I don't know 272 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:23,080 Speaker 1: what you could be very vague with. My name today 273 00:13:23,120 --> 00:13:27,760 Speaker 1: is David, and I own a small business. I have 274 00:13:27,880 --> 00:13:31,800 Speaker 1: masters in business and and I'm must relatively successful guy. 275 00:13:31,800 --> 00:13:33,079 Speaker 1: I think I do all right to have a cool 276 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:36,800 Speaker 1: life that Insteah, it's a lot of planes, like I 277 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:38,920 Speaker 1: don't know where you live, just because they're always on vacation. 278 00:13:40,720 --> 00:13:42,640 Speaker 1: Where was the last place you? I just got back 279 00:13:42,640 --> 00:13:46,320 Speaker 1: from Hong Kong and Sydney. I did like five days 280 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:48,400 Speaker 1: in Hong Kong five days in Sydney, which was not planning. 281 00:13:48,400 --> 00:13:49,960 Speaker 1: It was all planning, like like a couple of days 282 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:52,360 Speaker 1: before and while we were in Hong Kong we decided 283 00:13:52,360 --> 00:13:54,400 Speaker 1: to go to Sydney. And then she was working in 284 00:13:54,480 --> 00:13:56,680 Speaker 1: d C. Who's next to me, the next to me, 285 00:13:56,720 --> 00:13:59,960 Speaker 1: and the young lady next to you is my girlfriend. Yeah, 286 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:06,599 Speaker 1: so we had here. She's super cute. It's like me 287 00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:16,760 Speaker 1: right over you get a mask. He looks safe to 288 00:14:16,920 --> 00:14:19,680 Speaker 1: You're like, you look just saying though, I'm so excited 289 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: to have this conversation because if I ran into in 290 00:14:21,880 --> 00:14:24,440 Speaker 1: the supermarket, you would look like a virgin to me, 291 00:14:25,440 --> 00:14:29,560 Speaker 1: like resting, nice face, yeahs face. Like people think that 292 00:14:29,600 --> 00:14:31,240 Speaker 1: they can walk up to me, especially white people, like 293 00:14:31,240 --> 00:14:32,560 Speaker 1: they just walk up to me and start saying things 294 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:34,880 Speaker 1: they probably shouldn't say because they don't know that I'm militant, 295 00:14:34,920 --> 00:14:37,280 Speaker 1: and then it's not gonna go well, it's gonna go 296 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:40,320 Speaker 1: south really quickly. What what about this face made you 297 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:43,320 Speaker 1: think you could just start speaking right? You just look 298 00:14:43,440 --> 00:14:46,240 Speaker 1: very friendly. It's your team. I'm a happy person. I'm 299 00:14:46,280 --> 00:14:49,720 Speaker 1: happy and I'm not gonna lie the energy because then 300 00:14:49,760 --> 00:14:51,960 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. You was walking next to your girlfriends, 301 00:14:52,080 --> 00:14:53,560 Speaker 1: I know they would be like, we're not gonna walk 302 00:14:53,640 --> 00:14:55,280 Speaker 1: up to this couple right now because she looks like 303 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:59,960 Speaker 1: she just looks down, which actually is really sweet. But 304 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:02,240 Speaker 1: before we got you know, started recording, my hair was 305 00:15:02,240 --> 00:15:04,200 Speaker 1: sucked up. It's been raining all day New York, and 306 00:15:04,280 --> 00:15:06,640 Speaker 1: she was just like, I'm I'm gonna help you with 307 00:15:06,640 --> 00:15:09,560 Speaker 1: your hair. See what a nice fucking way to say 308 00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:12,800 Speaker 1: your hair look like shit. I just like to play 309 00:15:12,840 --> 00:15:16,560 Speaker 1: with hair, like, Okay, well I can see yours is 310 00:15:16,640 --> 00:15:20,520 Speaker 1: beautifully flowing like you just wanted it and you really 311 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:24,240 Speaker 1: like to believe it looks beautiful. I don't know why 312 00:15:24,280 --> 00:15:26,320 Speaker 1: you would do that with New York rain, but you 313 00:15:26,360 --> 00:15:32,600 Speaker 1: know me, I was like, but why it's raining? I 314 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 1: know that's so you get dressed up in nice and 315 00:15:35,640 --> 00:15:37,480 Speaker 1: to be his arm candy. I know that's right. I 316 00:15:37,520 --> 00:15:39,400 Speaker 1: feel like I've just seen the same hairstyle for a 317 00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:42,960 Speaker 1: while now. For a while. For a while, I was 318 00:15:43,000 --> 00:15:44,800 Speaker 1: just like, wow. I was like, can we just maybe 319 00:15:44,960 --> 00:15:48,480 Speaker 1: like you know, we're here, it's a special occasion like it. Now? 320 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:51,400 Speaker 1: Do you two live in the same city? We do 321 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:55,520 Speaker 1: together immensely. Okay, No, we don't live together. You guys 322 00:15:55,520 --> 00:15:58,240 Speaker 1: don't live to together. How long have you guys been together? Um? 323 00:15:58,280 --> 00:16:03,400 Speaker 1: This madness started about a year ago? Ok yeah, yeah, 324 00:16:04,360 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 1: things and there was definitely a smooth couple of months 325 00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:10,360 Speaker 1: where we didn't speak at all and then but it's 326 00:16:10,400 --> 00:16:17,920 Speaker 1: been do you can't like hear to me? Oh my god, listen, listen, 327 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:21,400 Speaker 1: no heard sense of time. Wheezy and lover boy, we're 328 00:16:21,400 --> 00:16:23,360 Speaker 1: talking for all of two weeks and out of nowhere, 329 00:16:23,400 --> 00:16:25,280 Speaker 1: She's like, bitchy, All I've been working for the last 330 00:16:25,320 --> 00:16:27,520 Speaker 1: two months. Girl, you just met him ten days ago. 331 00:16:29,240 --> 00:16:32,680 Speaker 1: We felt connected, hard connection with time and so off. 332 00:16:33,120 --> 00:16:39,560 Speaker 1: I don't even remember any other you. You would swear 333 00:16:41,520 --> 00:16:45,880 Speaker 1: you had a wipe in New York. We got three kids, 334 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:49,000 Speaker 1: So if you want to bring up kind of UM, 335 00:16:49,040 --> 00:16:50,640 Speaker 1: so I want to go ahead and share with the 336 00:16:50,680 --> 00:16:52,880 Speaker 1: listeners before we get into this what we kind of 337 00:16:52,880 --> 00:16:55,680 Speaker 1: would love to start doing. And um, because weezy and 338 00:16:55,760 --> 00:16:57,680 Speaker 1: I figured we would probably run out of our fucking 339 00:16:57,720 --> 00:17:00,920 Speaker 1: horror stories soon. Um. We've been getting so many emails 340 00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:04,080 Speaker 1: and so many um even just advice and topics and 341 00:17:04,200 --> 00:17:07,120 Speaker 1: combo starters from our listeners, UM, wanting to bring up 342 00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:10,680 Speaker 1: these taboo situations or or things that they're not comfortable 343 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 1: with sharing with their friends. And of course they can 344 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:15,240 Speaker 1: clearly tell that we don't give a funk about life, 345 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:18,159 Speaker 1: so they openly share with us. And so what we 346 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:20,119 Speaker 1: wanted to start doing was bringing on more people to 347 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:22,440 Speaker 1: share their stories, because at the end of the day, 348 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:24,199 Speaker 1: I can put a strap on all I want. I 349 00:17:24,200 --> 00:17:26,120 Speaker 1: don't have a dick. I don't know how men feel. 350 00:17:26,160 --> 00:17:28,280 Speaker 1: I don't know about relationships because I'm single as funk 351 00:17:28,280 --> 00:17:30,560 Speaker 1: out here. So we wanted to start kind of bringing 352 00:17:30,560 --> 00:17:33,719 Speaker 1: in more more people who are in tune with their 353 00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:37,119 Speaker 1: sexuality and kind of just enjoy talking about it because 354 00:17:37,119 --> 00:17:39,840 Speaker 1: this is definitely something that not a lot of people do, 355 00:17:40,200 --> 00:17:42,080 Speaker 1: not a lot of people are comfortable with, And we 356 00:17:42,160 --> 00:17:44,679 Speaker 1: want you guys to listen in and know that this 357 00:17:44,720 --> 00:17:49,160 Speaker 1: ship is okay and and normal. Well is it normal? 358 00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:53,320 Speaker 1: I don't know for normal yet, And we ask that normal, 359 00:17:55,359 --> 00:17:58,200 Speaker 1: like normal relative girl we had, you know, it was 360 00:17:58,520 --> 00:18:02,919 Speaker 1: to her, I don't know, and she seemed very normal. 361 00:18:03,160 --> 00:18:08,800 Speaker 1: She definitely had a job, So the definition of normal 362 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:12,679 Speaker 1: is having a job. Do you do you get off 363 00:18:12,680 --> 00:18:17,240 Speaker 1: the club? Oh yeah, okay, um yeah. So we asked 364 00:18:17,280 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 1: him to be on because he is bisexual and his 365 00:18:21,119 --> 00:18:25,719 Speaker 1: girlfriend is here and the hot gorgeous not weird hot. 366 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:27,440 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. She was over in the corner, 367 00:18:27,440 --> 00:18:28,920 Speaker 1: wasn't paying no titch and now that the light is 368 00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:32,720 Speaker 1: shine and I'm like, and she like, yeah, this is 369 00:18:32,720 --> 00:18:36,200 Speaker 1: not a thing for weirdos. Like she seem pretty normal too, 370 00:18:36,280 --> 00:18:39,000 Speaker 1: And so I definitely wanted to bring this topic up 371 00:18:39,400 --> 00:18:42,199 Speaker 1: because we have had a conversation I don't know if 372 00:18:42,240 --> 00:18:44,320 Speaker 1: you guys listened. I believe this was maybe episode one 373 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:46,879 Speaker 1: or two UM where I brought up Moonlight and we 374 00:18:46,960 --> 00:18:50,000 Speaker 1: had the conversation of bisexual men. So I do want 375 00:18:50,000 --> 00:18:52,400 Speaker 1: to ask this on air, what is your ethnicity, because 376 00:18:52,400 --> 00:18:55,000 Speaker 1: I think that that kind of plays into this just 377 00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:59,800 Speaker 1: a bit. I'm biracial, father's Caribbean um of Curban immigrant. 378 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:06,040 Speaker 1: My mother there's like regular white and so he bled okay. 379 00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:08,800 Speaker 1: So it's an interesting dynamic because I was I was 380 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:12,920 Speaker 1: raised by both my parents until eighteen or so when 381 00:19:12,960 --> 00:19:15,359 Speaker 1: my parents went up. But my father is an immigrant 382 00:19:15,359 --> 00:19:19,400 Speaker 1: from Jamaica and my mother Jamaica, and I'm Jamaican and white, 383 00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:23,280 Speaker 1: so we're actually the same. But my grandfather, my mother's father, 384 00:19:23,359 --> 00:19:25,720 Speaker 1: was in the KKK. So the first time I heard 385 00:19:25,800 --> 00:19:27,639 Speaker 1: the N word, I was three years old and it 386 00:19:27,680 --> 00:19:30,680 Speaker 1: was directed from my grandfather to my father, and so 387 00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:33,440 Speaker 1: I my original memories of like race, It's like, oh, 388 00:19:33,440 --> 00:19:35,280 Speaker 1: the skin color is going to be a thing that 389 00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:38,239 Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to deal with my entire life. Right 390 00:19:38,560 --> 00:19:40,800 Speaker 1: of people who are supposed to be in a position 391 00:19:40,800 --> 00:19:43,320 Speaker 1: to love me because you're my grandfather, but you don't 392 00:19:43,760 --> 00:19:45,679 Speaker 1: because of the color of myself, which is so funny. 393 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:49,359 Speaker 1: My entire my mom's side of my family. I know 394 00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:54,240 Speaker 1: my grandmother made my great grandparents passed, but her whole 395 00:19:54,280 --> 00:19:57,080 Speaker 1: side of the family did not talk to us because 396 00:19:57,119 --> 00:20:00,560 Speaker 1: we're black. Um. So yeah, which is why all of 397 00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:03,200 Speaker 1: my family in California, San Diego all of that, I'm 398 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:05,119 Speaker 1: not familiar with much of my mom's side of the 399 00:20:05,119 --> 00:20:12,040 Speaker 1: family because we're black. Listen, me and my sisters, Me 400 00:20:12,119 --> 00:20:14,840 Speaker 1: and my the middle sister where I'm Jamaican and white, 401 00:20:15,080 --> 00:20:16,960 Speaker 1: and then my youngest sister is Haitian and why she 402 00:20:17,040 --> 00:20:19,159 Speaker 1: loved the island men on top of that. So I 403 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:21,879 Speaker 1: definitely I know where you're coming from. The reason I 404 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:24,720 Speaker 1: think it plays into this is because either you internalize 405 00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:27,960 Speaker 1: that or you externalize it. Either there's something wrong with 406 00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:31,040 Speaker 1: me why my grandfather and members of my family don't 407 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:33,639 Speaker 1: love me, or there's something wrong with them. And my 408 00:20:33,680 --> 00:20:36,000 Speaker 1: mom did a really good job of navigating that with 409 00:20:36,040 --> 00:20:38,600 Speaker 1: me emotionally, and so at that point you started to 410 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:41,800 Speaker 1: realize that one blood doesn't mean anything like this supposed 411 00:20:41,880 --> 00:20:44,399 Speaker 1: genetic DNA connection that we have. It doesn't mean you 412 00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:46,199 Speaker 1: love me, It doesn't mean you have my back. You know, 413 00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:48,239 Speaker 1: in any way, shape or form, and your family are 414 00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:50,640 Speaker 1: the people that choose you and you choose them back, 415 00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:54,280 Speaker 1: and so how someone feels about you doesn't have to 416 00:20:54,359 --> 00:20:56,879 Speaker 1: affect your self esteem. And so when I was dealing 417 00:20:56,880 --> 00:20:59,680 Speaker 1: with my sexuality much later in life, because I never 418 00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:01,880 Speaker 1: even I'm thirty five now, I never kissed the guys 419 00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:05,199 Speaker 1: I was twenty eight, um, right, It wasn't something that 420 00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:06,879 Speaker 1: I was dealing with as a young child, as a 421 00:21:06,880 --> 00:21:10,000 Speaker 1: teenager and whatnot you as as a young child because 422 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:11,400 Speaker 1: the first time you dealt with a man was twenty 423 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:14,399 Speaker 1: which ironically I've been meeting much older adults who are 424 00:21:14,400 --> 00:21:18,760 Speaker 1: now getting curious, was this never in your mind? So 425 00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:21,280 Speaker 1: I definitely remember, like I had the biggest crash on 426 00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:24,119 Speaker 1: Winnie Cooper um on the Wonder Years, Like I always 427 00:21:24,160 --> 00:21:28,840 Speaker 1: remember my first she was bad. It's a little older 428 00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:31,879 Speaker 1: than your reference, right, so the ten years, um. But 429 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:33,920 Speaker 1: but my first love was my high school street Sear, 430 00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:35,920 Speaker 1: you know, like she's a doctor now and it's been 431 00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:38,520 Speaker 1: like so I've known that, but there was always you know, 432 00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:41,159 Speaker 1: those moments where you might think something's a little different 433 00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:43,600 Speaker 1: about you, you have an interest in in something that 434 00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:45,680 Speaker 1: maybe you shouldn't. But I grew up in a very 435 00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:48,960 Speaker 1: conservative religion, going to Christian schools, and so that was 436 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:51,640 Speaker 1: bad and I was good. So therefore I am not that, 437 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:53,639 Speaker 1: and so I kind of just closed myself off From 438 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:55,919 Speaker 1: a very mentally strong person, I can control how I 439 00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:58,280 Speaker 1: think about things, and so I thought of it as 440 00:21:58,359 --> 00:22:00,639 Speaker 1: that that's not me, and so I ever explored it. 441 00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:02,480 Speaker 1: And then you know, as you get into teenager years 442 00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:06,280 Speaker 1: in your early twenties, stuff really and so the things 443 00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:11,399 Speaker 1: on the internet are disgusting, like horrible. Don't say horrible 444 00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:18,240 Speaker 1: right here on this podcast, But I think I started 445 00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:21,120 Speaker 1: watching like gay porn and it was something that I 446 00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:23,480 Speaker 1: was right, it was something that I was into. But 447 00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:25,439 Speaker 1: to me, I was just telling myself, Oh, that's just 448 00:22:25,480 --> 00:22:28,840 Speaker 1: the freaky ship you're into. You like pissing on somebody, 449 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:34,280 Speaker 1: and that's that's crazy. Someone someone's getting Piste think you're 450 00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:38,280 Speaker 1: nuts somebody show and that dude is nuts. But the 451 00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:40,680 Speaker 1: girl that Piste on, oh yeah whatever. Okay, So here's 452 00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:43,639 Speaker 1: my question too with you. I have a few, and 453 00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:44,879 Speaker 1: she has a few. I'm going to go ahead and 454 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:46,520 Speaker 1: throw this out and then you're more than welcome to 455 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:48,919 Speaker 1: ring them all in. So this is my question, especially 456 00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:52,919 Speaker 1: with you you black, so um and I brought this 457 00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:55,840 Speaker 1: up and we briefly talked about this before going on air. 458 00:22:56,119 --> 00:22:59,159 Speaker 1: So in the black community, they don't see a man 459 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:05,040 Speaker 1: being sexual. If you deal with me, you're gay, you're gay. 460 00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:07,919 Speaker 1: You're gay, you're gay. So how was it that you 461 00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:10,200 Speaker 1: were able to I'm a bisexual man, I like men 462 00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:14,000 Speaker 1: and women. How are you able to you know, maybe 463 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:15,600 Speaker 1: deal with that and is it something that you are 464 00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:18,480 Speaker 1: open with? So I think the need to categorize people 465 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:24,560 Speaker 1: is universal. That like, So that's that's that's something that's 466 00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:26,639 Speaker 1: your scientifically proven. You need someone to be this or 467 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:28,080 Speaker 1: that for you to be able to understand it and and 468 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:31,200 Speaker 1: not be afraid of it. Right, But within the black community, 469 00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:34,439 Speaker 1: if you touch one of those boxes, then there's a 470 00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:37,480 Speaker 1: fear that comes into it. Then there's a taboonist, there's 471 00:23:37,480 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 1: a we run from it. And so that's more so 472 00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:41,679 Speaker 1: in the black community than in the white community. But 473 00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:43,880 Speaker 1: of course there's putting a homophobia in the white community. 474 00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:45,720 Speaker 1: There's puty the white kids whose parents turned their back 475 00:23:45,760 --> 00:23:47,639 Speaker 1: on them in the sent a third, you know, So 476 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,840 Speaker 1: it's not like it's not something that happens. But the 477 00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:54,000 Speaker 1: point is, ultimately, I think that I'm in a special 478 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:56,120 Speaker 1: situation that I wouldn't say that. I see a lot 479 00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 1: in our community because I'm an active member of the 480 00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:01,240 Speaker 1: LGBT community. Um, I we have a letter in the 481 00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:03,520 Speaker 1: in the LGBT thing, you know, like it's be It's 482 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:09,400 Speaker 1: like it's there be. Um. You know, I'm not ashamed 483 00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:11,560 Speaker 1: of who I am, and that comes from who I 484 00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:14,680 Speaker 1: was as a little kid. Right, So I from from 485 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:16,679 Speaker 1: twenty eight. It was late in the first time I 486 00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:19,920 Speaker 1: did anything at all. Um, the first time I mess 487 00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:21,679 Speaker 1: I mess with somebody that I met on the Internet, 488 00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:22,919 Speaker 1: and I was freaked out and I was like, that 489 00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:27,040 Speaker 1: was horrible, that I will never do that now. Then 490 00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:30,479 Speaker 1: back in the day, bro, it was like Craigslist right 491 00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:41,919 Speaker 1: right right. It was just a super awkward experience. And 492 00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:43,920 Speaker 1: I was like, well, I'm glad I'll never do that again. 493 00:24:43,960 --> 00:24:46,200 Speaker 1: That was horrible. And but of course that's not how 494 00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:49,200 Speaker 1: the mind works. I actually got promoted to a different city, 495 00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:51,480 Speaker 1: so I was outside of my comfort zone. And um, 496 00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:53,680 Speaker 1: so my social networks and the women that would normally 497 00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:55,560 Speaker 1: be around we're not there. And so you have all 498 00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:57,520 Speaker 1: this downtime to just let your mind go where it goes. 499 00:24:57,720 --> 00:24:59,800 Speaker 1: But somebody introduced me to Grinders, so that made it 500 00:24:59,880 --> 00:25:02,680 Speaker 1: my easier. And I'm really funny and I have a 501 00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:05,800 Speaker 1: good personality, so even though you know, however, someone just 502 00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:08,160 Speaker 1: perceived how you look, how level of attractiveness you are, 503 00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:10,240 Speaker 1: Like if you got games, you've got mouth, games, you 504 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:18,040 Speaker 1: can talk and up right now and well, for you 505 00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:19,840 Speaker 1: guys listening, I want to go ahead because we talked 506 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:22,000 Speaker 1: about all of these apps. All they're not ads, they're 507 00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:25,440 Speaker 1: not sponsors. So you met loverboy on bumble. I am 508 00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,439 Speaker 1: often on Tinder for guys. For the listeners who don't know, 509 00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:32,760 Speaker 1: Grinder is actually the I guess gay version of Tinder. 510 00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:36,560 Speaker 1: It's literally all men, and it actually shows men much 511 00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:39,200 Speaker 1: closer in your proximity, so if you're in the same 512 00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:41,679 Speaker 1: building as someone, it can literally go to the amount 513 00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:46,399 Speaker 1: of feet away. That yeah, but it's literally like a 514 00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:48,320 Speaker 1: tender app but for men. By the way, can I 515 00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:51,120 Speaker 1: just say in Cuba, one of my friends was so 516 00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:53,159 Speaker 1: curious as to who was gays, Like, I need Grinder 517 00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:54,600 Speaker 1: right now because I need to know what the fun 518 00:25:54,760 --> 00:26:02,840 Speaker 1: is going on because you're not. So that's a joke. 519 00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:08,959 Speaker 1: I'm just joking, but I did. I did have one 520 00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:11,479 Speaker 1: of my first gay friends. Um, he said, I've never 521 00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,359 Speaker 1: met a Latin guy. Couldn't get there all bisexual and 522 00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:18,800 Speaker 1: that was that was his mythic. It's so crazy because 523 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 1: I say that all the time, like his, like, Latin 524 00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:24,879 Speaker 1: men fucking have better eyebrows than me. They shave their legs, 525 00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:27,080 Speaker 1: they shave everything. And I used to be so away 526 00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:28,439 Speaker 1: from the I don't think all of them do that. 527 00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:32,560 Speaker 1: I don't think that's a universal Harry Latin men. Well, yeah, 528 00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:38,720 Speaker 1: I think the words the eyebrows is definitely sometimes like 529 00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:40,040 Speaker 1: you see the guy and you see the girl like 530 00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:50,080 Speaker 1: his eyebrows better than she's cool with brows Again, she's 531 00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,920 Speaker 1: in her feelings. Guys, Um, how did you meet your 532 00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:56,120 Speaker 1: girlfriend first? All about a college almost eleven years ago? 533 00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:59,720 Speaker 1: Okay wait wait wait wait eleven years ago and you 534 00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:02,239 Speaker 1: guys he was dating for a year, so wait did 535 00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:04,399 Speaker 1: she leave the friend zone? Is this? Was it a 536 00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:11,159 Speaker 1: friend zone thing? And oh you friend So maybe that's 537 00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:16,479 Speaker 1: where I'm backing. I'm still so what had happened was 538 00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:18,720 Speaker 1: I was coming out of college, I was in a 539 00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:21,679 Speaker 1: good space, I had options, right, Um, I was, I 540 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,520 Speaker 1: was still um and it was my first job out 541 00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:27,400 Speaker 1: of college. I take my job and career seriously. Um. 542 00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:30,920 Speaker 1: And so the beautiful Latin woman a couple of cubicles 543 00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:34,240 Speaker 1: away that once took up although I'm super attracted her, 544 00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:36,080 Speaker 1: like and the first time I saw her, I remember 545 00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:37,480 Speaker 1: the day I walked in the office. I was like, well, 546 00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:40,040 Speaker 1: there's one stupid hot girl in this office, you know, 547 00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:43,960 Speaker 1: and somewhere. So we're hanging out at her apartment one time, 548 00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:46,160 Speaker 1: and it's late at night and she puts the moves 549 00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:49,400 Speaker 1: on and I'm just you know what it happened, right, 550 00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:52,919 Speaker 1: she I'm not gonna put her her busines other she 551 00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,880 Speaker 1: said something in that day that was crazy to me. 552 00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:58,119 Speaker 1: I perceived it this crazy. What was it? Wait? Are 553 00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:01,240 Speaker 1: you not going to share? Wait? Look, permisted, I'm not 554 00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:05,119 Speaker 1: gonna says it really wasn't that crazy? I was, okay, 555 00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:08,560 Speaker 1: So that's that's yes, all right. So I asked you 556 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:10,920 Speaker 1: just a date question, right, So, what's your greatest fear? 557 00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:13,320 Speaker 1: And I'm I was a psychology major originally, so I 558 00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:15,560 Speaker 1: know that your answer is most likely going to be 559 00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:18,480 Speaker 1: to lose the thing you value most, right, Um? So 560 00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:20,679 Speaker 1: I asked, what is your greatest fear? She's like to 561 00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:24,719 Speaker 1: be ugly and I was. I just laughed. I just 562 00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:31,600 Speaker 1: like that's not right, Like that's not a serious answer 563 00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:34,000 Speaker 1: to me. I'm not. She's like, no, seriously to be 564 00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:37,640 Speaker 1: ugly on this. So I'm looking at her like, wait, 565 00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:40,080 Speaker 1: are you serious? Like that's what you think? Like if 566 00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:42,560 Speaker 1: you weren't pretty, like that would be the worst thing ever. 567 00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:45,320 Speaker 1: She's like, well you do you just think ugly people 568 00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:47,440 Speaker 1: are just walking around unhappy? She's like do you think 569 00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:53,280 Speaker 1: they're And I was like, no, no, there's issues here. 570 00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:55,840 Speaker 1: That's a red flag to me, and your two cubicles 571 00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:57,680 Speaker 1: away and I don't need the latina cutting up my 572 00:28:57,720 --> 00:29:00,400 Speaker 1: car tires, right, And so I'm like this what kept 573 00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:04,880 Speaker 1: you way? It is? She's crazy. It couldn't be that 574 00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:11,080 Speaker 1: I was actually very successful, educated, had almost been shot, 575 00:29:11,320 --> 00:29:13,120 Speaker 1: like I've already dealt with all the stuff that other 576 00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:15,360 Speaker 1: people are afraid of and gotten past it and like 577 00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:18,280 Speaker 1: and she like she like, so I got it just 578 00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:20,080 Speaker 1: a very quick, great way of thinking of it, like 579 00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:22,840 Speaker 1: I have lived my life like bro, I almost died. 580 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:24,080 Speaker 1: I just don't want to be ugly at this point, 581 00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:28,760 Speaker 1: Like I'm good. So that gave me enough pause to 582 00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:30,720 Speaker 1: be like, you know what, I'm not gonna I'm not 583 00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:33,920 Speaker 1: into this right and then but then then and the 584 00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:35,320 Speaker 1: other part was I didn't think it. I didn't think 585 00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:36,760 Speaker 1: it would be private, right. I thought it would get 586 00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:38,520 Speaker 1: out in the workplace, it would be drawing, right, that 587 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:41,080 Speaker 1: she was just gonna talk about that dick in off, 588 00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:42,880 Speaker 1: you ain't want them know? And you got that things 589 00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:49,960 Speaker 1: are you happy? Okay? Come to find out I have 590 00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,000 Speaker 1: a mortal enemy in this company, like a guy in 591 00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:54,360 Speaker 1: management that me and him don't get along, Like I 592 00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:57,760 Speaker 1: hate this dude, right, and and so at some point, 593 00:29:58,080 --> 00:29:59,640 Speaker 1: months and months on the line, maybe a couple of 594 00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:03,160 Speaker 1: years on why she's just like, I'm I'm engaged. I'm engaged. 595 00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:05,720 Speaker 1: So she had been dating this dude for months and months, 596 00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:08,000 Speaker 1: got engaged. No one even knew. If I knew she 597 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:10,600 Speaker 1: could keep a secret, would have been doing this ship. 598 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:17,280 Speaker 1: I didn't know that. It was like locked damn. And 599 00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:19,800 Speaker 1: so I had this giant regret. And she married this 600 00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:21,400 Speaker 1: guy that I hated that I'm like the hottest girl 601 00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:23,280 Speaker 1: that I ever had the chance to get with, I passed. 602 00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:27,200 Speaker 1: And it's just I screwed up right right and divorced 603 00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:30,960 Speaker 1: and um, and we've been friends, Yeah, we've been friends 604 00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:36,840 Speaker 1: all along, It's totally awesome. Was a why are divorce 605 00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:40,520 Speaker 1: is so expensive? Because they're worth it. They're wonderful. Um. 606 00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:43,320 Speaker 1: But we reconnected a year or so ago, just out 607 00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:45,200 Speaker 1: at best Buy, you know, and we end up talking 608 00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:47,040 Speaker 1: for like an hour or two standing there and best Buy, 609 00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:48,720 Speaker 1: and I was like, she come to my birthday party 610 00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:52,400 Speaker 1: and housewarming or whatever, and um, she getting on birthday dinner. 611 00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:53,920 Speaker 1: We had a house swarming and then that night it 612 00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:56,720 Speaker 1: just kind of went down. It was just when you, 613 00:30:57,000 --> 00:31:00,480 Speaker 1: like you guys reconnected and then okay, so now I'm 614 00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:02,680 Speaker 1: like super interested in that, Like, okay, so they're in 615 00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:06,360 Speaker 1: the conversation your sexuality and your sexuality like did you 616 00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:14,200 Speaker 1: know already from rumors in the streets? Okay? And and 617 00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:15,960 Speaker 1: why is it that you didn't give a ship? Why 618 00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:18,320 Speaker 1: is it yeah for you to be I'm just super 619 00:31:18,360 --> 00:31:20,760 Speaker 1: cures in this. Yeah, we are the only people I 620 00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:22,880 Speaker 1: think that we know right that we're the only people 621 00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:25,240 Speaker 1: that out of all of my friends, they're all like, bitch, 622 00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:27,560 Speaker 1: he'll let you do what, he may do what what? 623 00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:31,520 Speaker 1: And so they're super against any guy even doing the 624 00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:34,560 Speaker 1: strap on dealing with men. What made you okay with 625 00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:36,480 Speaker 1: the fact that you knew he had dealt with men before. 626 00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:39,160 Speaker 1: So if I'm being honest, I don't know that I 627 00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:47,040 Speaker 1: necessarily was. Okay, Okay, that is honest. Yeah. So the 628 00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:49,720 Speaker 1: year prior to that, I got divorced, and it was 629 00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,080 Speaker 1: because I found out that my husband was sleeping with 630 00:31:52,080 --> 00:32:04,800 Speaker 1: a guy. Oh oh, I've ever said that actually publicly, 631 00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:13,520 Speaker 1: so just in context. I think that over the course 632 00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:16,760 Speaker 1: of a year and some serious therapy, Um, I figured 633 00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:18,360 Speaker 1: out that it was not an issue of I was 634 00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:21,720 Speaker 1: worried about secret. Yeah, it was the secret. It was 635 00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:25,560 Speaker 1: the secret. Absolutely. I'm openly bisexual. I had girlfriends when 636 00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:26,920 Speaker 1: I was in the military. Like, that's not a big 637 00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:29,120 Speaker 1: issue for me. So I understood the fluidity of it. 638 00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:31,800 Speaker 1: It was the fact that it was a secret. Be 639 00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:35,760 Speaker 1: it be when I asked you about it, Like what 640 00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:38,520 Speaker 1: you need to answer is I like dudes, And if 641 00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:40,160 Speaker 1: you can't say that, like if you say it was 642 00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:41,640 Speaker 1: a mistake, it wasn't. When I feel and then I 643 00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:43,680 Speaker 1: find out that there's actually more to That's the issue 644 00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:47,560 Speaker 1: is are you comfortable with who you are? And if 645 00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:52,240 Speaker 1: you're that sex confidence is sexy is let me just say, 646 00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:53,800 Speaker 1: women say to me all the time that they don't 647 00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:55,600 Speaker 1: want to see their man is weak and you're sitting 648 00:32:55,600 --> 00:33:00,959 Speaker 1: here with this huge guy like like got the masculine, 649 00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:05,720 Speaker 1: he's super masculine. That confidence has so much more weight 650 00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:08,840 Speaker 1: than anything. So just to say, like just knowing a 651 00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:10,640 Speaker 1: man was hiding himself, that's what makes it so sexy, 652 00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:14,400 Speaker 1: Like I'm I'm super against And I say this often 653 00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:17,320 Speaker 1: because anytime I'm on the phone with anyone or work, 654 00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:19,600 Speaker 1: I'm trying to get to know someone and the first 655 00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:21,680 Speaker 1: time they sit here and we had this conversation before. 656 00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:24,520 Speaker 1: There's times that I'll talk to guys and they'll admit 657 00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:26,760 Speaker 1: to me the things they've done with men. And my 658 00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:29,600 Speaker 1: very first question is do the women you do, the 659 00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:31,640 Speaker 1: other women you talk to know know this about you? 660 00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:33,800 Speaker 1: And they're like, nah, man, I ain't telling nobody this. 661 00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:36,320 Speaker 1: I'm not comfortable. And it's just like that to me, 662 00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:39,880 Speaker 1: that download lifestyle and not being comfortable with your sexuality, 663 00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:43,040 Speaker 1: not only that enough to respect who you're having sex with. 664 00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:45,840 Speaker 1: Let them make the decision if they want to sleep 665 00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:48,640 Speaker 1: with someone who's dealing with men and women. But if 666 00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:52,520 Speaker 1: someone is not secure in themselves, are not relationship material period. 667 00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:56,400 Speaker 1: That's heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, if you're not secure in who 668 00:33:56,480 --> 00:33:58,560 Speaker 1: you are as a man or as a woman, the 669 00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:01,480 Speaker 1: relationship is going to be thing. But probably this wasn't 670 00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:03,400 Speaker 1: something where he had to come out to you. You 671 00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:06,080 Speaker 1: knew before you got into a relationship with him that 672 00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:10,640 Speaker 1: heaps possibly you know woth I'm I don't live a 673 00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:12,719 Speaker 1: secret life, you know, Like like I said, I don't, 674 00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:14,880 Speaker 1: I don't My mom My mom was the first person 675 00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:17,319 Speaker 1: I told you know, Like so when you when your 676 00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:19,560 Speaker 1: mom knows and your friends know, I made a spreadsheet. 677 00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:23,120 Speaker 1: I made a spreadsheet probamary secondary people just have the 678 00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:26,640 Speaker 1: conversation with because I only and it was I kissed 679 00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:29,680 Speaker 1: somebody at thirty. I came out because I'd rather deal 680 00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:34,920 Speaker 1: with being really because I know people there's so I 681 00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:39,200 Speaker 1: would rather deal with being perceived as gay, right, then 682 00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:41,319 Speaker 1: deal with lying to the people that I care about 683 00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:43,719 Speaker 1: and sing to love and so what's important and my 684 00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:48,520 Speaker 1: only real advice to women, um is don't connect someone's 685 00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:53,319 Speaker 1: sexuality to their character and integrity. Because Carmelo Anthony straight right, 686 00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,279 Speaker 1: and that strip is pregnant, you know what I mean? 687 00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:58,040 Speaker 1: So like you can have you can have your super 688 00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:01,120 Speaker 1: educated doctor who's banging his secretary so it's like, being 689 00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:03,920 Speaker 1: heterosexual doesn't mean that you have a man who's honest, 690 00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:07,319 Speaker 1: a man that'll be true to you. You know. That's 691 00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:10,359 Speaker 1: but that's real. And so just because a guy has 692 00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:13,640 Speaker 1: is bisexual and has an attraction to men doesn't mean 693 00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:15,520 Speaker 1: that I'm a liar. Doesn't mean that I'm a cheater. 694 00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:17,960 Speaker 1: I'm as honest a person as you will ever meet. 695 00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:20,600 Speaker 1: And I would rather deal with any consequences of being 696 00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,839 Speaker 1: honest than to say I love you. But I'm lying 697 00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:25,520 Speaker 1: to you, right, And this is my question. I actually 698 00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:28,479 Speaker 1: have a question to you about this because you being 699 00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:30,480 Speaker 1: so open with it, and I'm not sure what your 700 00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:33,239 Speaker 1: dealings are now, but I've had friends asked me, do 701 00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:37,719 Speaker 1: you ever so women get jealous of other women with him? 702 00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:40,319 Speaker 1: Is it jealousy with men and women? Is it something 703 00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:42,400 Speaker 1: to where you feel like, damn, not only might this 704 00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:44,879 Speaker 1: nigga cheat on me with a girl but also a guy. 705 00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,839 Speaker 1: Is Is it something that you that crosses your mind 706 00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:51,400 Speaker 1: that it could be anybody? Essentially? So, essentially, I'm in 707 00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:54,120 Speaker 1: a very unique position because I'm dating him. Like I 708 00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:56,319 Speaker 1: legitimately can tell you from the bottom my heart, I 709 00:35:56,360 --> 00:35:58,239 Speaker 1: have no doubt at any point in time that he 710 00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:02,680 Speaker 1: would ever do anything to her. I do not like 711 00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:08,000 Speaker 1: do I get jealous sometimes, absolutely, but it's not from 712 00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:10,160 Speaker 1: place of fear, and it's because you trust him. You 713 00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:14,520 Speaker 1: have that I don't have, like like I have told 714 00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:16,520 Speaker 1: him on several occasions when I'm out of town and 715 00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:18,239 Speaker 1: we can't see each other that it's okay for him 716 00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:19,920 Speaker 1: to do things. It's fine. I'm cool with that, and 717 00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:25,880 Speaker 1: he's just like, See, this is the thing that I 718 00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:27,960 Speaker 1: totally feel you because I'm there right now, she's there right. 719 00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:30,319 Speaker 1: I feel like I don't know where I stand with 720 00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:33,279 Speaker 1: this guy, but I feel like he three months. You 721 00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:35,960 Speaker 1: don't have three months apart. I can fly for free, right. 722 00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:40,400 Speaker 1: I don't think. I think when you are when you 723 00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:43,719 Speaker 1: know someone is emotionally connected to you, like well, and 724 00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:45,640 Speaker 1: this is the thing to the fact that both of you, 725 00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:49,680 Speaker 1: even you seeming a lot less open than he is 726 00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:52,279 Speaker 1: as far as just your personality. I feel like the 727 00:36:52,320 --> 00:36:55,319 Speaker 1: fact that your communication seems completely open and you know 728 00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:57,359 Speaker 1: that at the end of the day, what you didn't 729 00:36:57,400 --> 00:36:59,120 Speaker 1: have with your last husband was when you asked him 730 00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:00,880 Speaker 1: a question, you didn't know if he was telling you 731 00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:04,520 Speaker 1: the truth is, and it's with him, you know that Listen, 732 00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:05,919 Speaker 1: if I ask you, I'm going to know the truth. 733 00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:09,280 Speaker 1: And I feel like that's the biggest issue with having 734 00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:12,719 Speaker 1: relationships is that you always want to feel like you're 735 00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:14,680 Speaker 1: finding dirt because you feel like who you're with you 736 00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:17,799 Speaker 1: can't trust. And when that trust is there, regardless of 737 00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:21,399 Speaker 1: their sexuality, what it is, it's literally just focused on that, Yeah, 738 00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:25,120 Speaker 1: she's over here trying to get sound bites and if 739 00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:28,799 Speaker 1: you're it's yeah, I know, and I know you guys 740 00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:31,319 Speaker 1: hear us talk about funny ship and all the time, 741 00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:33,879 Speaker 1: and this is still I'm still with the ship. I mean, 742 00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:37,160 Speaker 1: I hope you guys are not, you know, still laughing 743 00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:41,680 Speaker 1: kind of sort no, but I definitely want I just 744 00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:44,680 Speaker 1: just to dig into this conversation to mind, like I 745 00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:47,120 Speaker 1: have so many couples that they put on that front 746 00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:56,200 Speaker 1: for you, you know, on's Instagram, and but you know, 747 00:37:56,480 --> 00:38:02,640 Speaker 1: because I address every issue that I have you and 748 00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:06,080 Speaker 1: you seem like, I mean, it just seems comfortable and 749 00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,279 Speaker 1: this is working. I'm being a better person, and I 750 00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:10,959 Speaker 1: have a question to this um and this again goes 751 00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:15,839 Speaker 1: from personal, but real quick, because it's funny. I told 752 00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:17,520 Speaker 1: people all the time when I meet them, I am 753 00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:20,839 Speaker 1: not a nice person. I am not am I am mean. 754 00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:23,799 Speaker 1: I will hurt your feelings, but but I am a 755 00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:26,560 Speaker 1: good person. Like I am someone you can kill if 756 00:38:26,560 --> 00:38:27,960 Speaker 1: you if you were my friend. My friend was in 757 00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:30,799 Speaker 1: her back home. She missed the fight to Jamaica to 758 00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:33,279 Speaker 1: start her vacation, and she's in my city. I was 759 00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:35,879 Speaker 1: like her mom. She calls her mom crying and she's 760 00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:38,440 Speaker 1: and her mom goes, so, David's gonna come get you. 761 00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:40,800 Speaker 1: Because she knows I'm gonna come get her. I'm gonna 762 00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:42,440 Speaker 1: make sure that she's gonna have a great day. Her 763 00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:44,600 Speaker 1: and her friend who I just met that day at 764 00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:47,080 Speaker 1: my place, we're swimming. I took him to dinner, to lunch, 765 00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:49,920 Speaker 1: We cooked them dinner. We started their vacation. Because I'm 766 00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:53,959 Speaker 1: a good person. She's nice, like she's genuinely cares about 767 00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:59,920 Speaker 1: other human beings. And I don't even think about at 768 00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:02,520 Speaker 1: she thought that. I was like, it's gonna get caught. 769 00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:04,480 Speaker 1: I go. We go out of him, Like I guess 770 00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:07,600 Speaker 1: she's going for the ethnic look today. So I'm not 771 00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:09,360 Speaker 1: gonna tell her this. To put a fly iron, I 772 00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:10,879 Speaker 1: just wanted to keet some of the birds that were 773 00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:15,760 Speaker 1: nesting in the hair like maybe she wants mix today. 774 00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:18,759 Speaker 1: I don't. But but you know what I also like 775 00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:20,840 Speaker 1: about that, though, is that I feel like we know 776 00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:25,719 Speaker 1: she's attractive, she knows the confidence right, she doesn't feel 777 00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:27,839 Speaker 1: like she has to look perfect all the time. Someone 778 00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:29,839 Speaker 1: the prettiest or not. But I feel like someone don't 779 00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:32,600 Speaker 1: just get anybody wants it, somebody like I feel like 780 00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:36,120 Speaker 1: I have makeup on or not. Maybe less cat calls, 781 00:39:36,160 --> 00:39:37,640 Speaker 1: maybe right if I have something to can't be wrong. 782 00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:39,600 Speaker 1: But whoever was going to really talk to me in 783 00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:45,080 Speaker 1: that balling? Absolutely, you know, I feel like, well, well, 784 00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:47,520 Speaker 1: and we go all the time and I'm much bigger, 785 00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:49,840 Speaker 1: like I'm a thick bitch, and I tell her all 786 00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:53,399 Speaker 1: the time, I still pull mad niggers. I will funk 787 00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:56,600 Speaker 1: about these little flyin bitches because here's the question. Man, 788 00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:59,239 Speaker 1: there's guys lost twenty pounds. Are you the same? Dude? 789 00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:03,840 Speaker 1: Something to saying dude, So I'm not gonna lie, do 790 00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:08,080 Speaker 1: you want to lose twenty pounds? But no, I mean 791 00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:10,080 Speaker 1: I say this all the time because I'll have other 792 00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:12,680 Speaker 1: girls come at me, like other Instagram models like and 793 00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:14,959 Speaker 1: they'd be like, bitch, if y'all only knew I bag 794 00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:17,920 Speaker 1: the same niggas that y'all do, the same blue check 795 00:40:17,960 --> 00:40:19,960 Speaker 1: mark ass niggas y'all be trying to get be all 796 00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:24,680 Speaker 1: of my motherfucker damn Sue. And I know what's the 797 00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:26,520 Speaker 1: body count on the blue checkmarks? Oh listen, I ain't 798 00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:32,319 Speaker 1: even gonna they get a blue checkmark interview. What wait? 799 00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:34,560 Speaker 1: Twitter started in oh nine, We're not going to do 800 00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:39,759 Speaker 1: that math No. But and and that's the thing like 801 00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:42,000 Speaker 1: that we say all the time, and when I'm going 802 00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:44,319 Speaker 1: for you, for you, who's for you? Who's for you? 803 00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:46,000 Speaker 1: Who's for me? Who's for me? And when we go out, 804 00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:48,520 Speaker 1: when I go out with any of my friends, even 805 00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:50,080 Speaker 1: if we all see the same guy, we'd be like, bitch, 806 00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:52,320 Speaker 1: well let's see who he talked to. And it's literally 807 00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:55,200 Speaker 1: like there's no competition because we all pull different types 808 00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:58,240 Speaker 1: of men, we all are open to different types of things. 809 00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:01,600 Speaker 1: She's more into dom ship. I'm no, I'm in the 810 00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:05,360 Speaker 1: dumb ship. She's like sub My other homegirl is super prude. 811 00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:09,279 Speaker 1: She's fucking I think she's head on an episode, the 812 00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:13,360 Speaker 1: one that we just head on. Oh yeah, well even Crystal. 813 00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:17,319 Speaker 1: Crystal just got her first good dick nine. So I'm 814 00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:24,600 Speaker 1: like sad, so sad, so like we say this all 815 00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:27,359 Speaker 1: the time, but yeah, so um I was Lena, ask 816 00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:29,360 Speaker 1: the questions to happen like you have, everybody will have. 817 00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:30,919 Speaker 1: These people are gonna be like, why the fun didn't 818 00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:32,920 Speaker 1: you ask him this? Okay, so yeah you said just 819 00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:35,520 Speaker 1: now that you said he could do things. What are 820 00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:38,600 Speaker 1: you thinking in your mind you can do things when 821 00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:41,000 Speaker 1: when you guys are not together and you let him 822 00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:43,480 Speaker 1: know that, hey, you can do your own thing. What 823 00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:44,879 Speaker 1: is going on in your mind? What do you think 824 00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:48,000 Speaker 1: he's doing. I don't think he's doing anything. I at 825 00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:50,280 Speaker 1: one point was encouraging it. Apparently it's a bad idea 826 00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:53,080 Speaker 1: to do that. So because like I said, I travel 827 00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:54,840 Speaker 1: a lot, and as a woman, I think that sometimes 828 00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:56,600 Speaker 1: our needs sometimes can be different, or at least I 829 00:41:56,600 --> 00:41:58,319 Speaker 1: know for us, sometimes my needs a different and I'm 830 00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:00,839 Speaker 1: just like what I want to go to bed? I'm 831 00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:04,239 Speaker 1: knowing the sex drive, right, feel like you need to 832 00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:10,520 Speaker 1: accommodate his part of his sexuality is bi sexual side like, 833 00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:17,040 Speaker 1: oh so you're not so Another advice to women, right, 834 00:42:17,320 --> 00:42:19,160 Speaker 1: if you're going to date a bisexual man and you 835 00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:21,279 Speaker 1: want it to be monogamous, don't date a bottom don't 836 00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:23,319 Speaker 1: date a guy who intrinsically needs dick in his life 837 00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:26,520 Speaker 1: if that if that's something, but if that's something, he 838 00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:31,200 Speaker 1: needs that something, and it forces the only top and bottom. 839 00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:32,360 Speaker 1: By the way, for you guys that don't know, I 840 00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:34,879 Speaker 1: feel like we all should. But picture and Catcher, it's 841 00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:42,279 Speaker 1: it's simple. But the guys that I've dated have all 842 00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:45,000 Speaker 1: been rock bottoms, like people who have no interest in 843 00:42:45,040 --> 00:42:47,759 Speaker 1: poking anybody with anything. And um And it's not to 844 00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:50,279 Speaker 1: say I've never experimented, because of course you experiment, and 845 00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:53,840 Speaker 1: sometimes if you if you're not right, but it's the 846 00:42:53,840 --> 00:42:55,640 Speaker 1: bottom line is I don't have a need for it. 847 00:42:55,920 --> 00:42:59,759 Speaker 1: So if what our issue sexually is that we're not 848 00:42:59,800 --> 00:43:01,759 Speaker 1: in the same city all the time, and so if 849 00:43:01,800 --> 00:43:04,000 Speaker 1: I could sleep with her every single night, there would 850 00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:06,719 Speaker 1: be no need for anything. Ever, the frustration that I 851 00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:08,879 Speaker 1: have is not that I missed being with a guy 852 00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:11,040 Speaker 1: because I'm in love with her. Um. And when you 853 00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:20,480 Speaker 1: started making love with somebody, what is like but but 854 00:43:20,520 --> 00:43:22,839 Speaker 1: like yeah, like going to like hooking up with someone. 855 00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:25,040 Speaker 1: When you're making love to someone, it's like it's it's 856 00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:28,160 Speaker 1: pales in comparison, and it's just stupid. And that those 857 00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:30,759 Speaker 1: let's say those months we weren't talking, like I was 858 00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:34,759 Speaker 1: around the world acting the god dang fool you know. Um, 859 00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:38,400 Speaker 1: But as soon as we reconnected, and I swear, so 860 00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:40,880 Speaker 1: this is funny, I stole a kiss just because she 861 00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:43,160 Speaker 1: had started dating someone else, and she's like, I'm being 862 00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:45,160 Speaker 1: super honest with him. So I wanted her to have 863 00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:47,440 Speaker 1: to tell him that we made out right, and that 864 00:43:47,560 --> 00:43:50,960 Speaker 1: was it was just me being petty. I was being petty, right, 865 00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:53,719 Speaker 1: and then I kissed her and the world stopped. Like 866 00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:55,680 Speaker 1: it was like everything I've done the last couple of months, 867 00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:59,000 Speaker 1: I didn't want it anymore. To get back online. I 868 00:43:59,040 --> 00:44:02,040 Speaker 1: don't know if I met my match right, he wasn't 869 00:44:02,040 --> 00:44:03,640 Speaker 1: talk to me about me like this is that Russian? 870 00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:07,399 Speaker 1: I know that your fucking world stop. I don't think 871 00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:11,399 Speaker 1: that came out. I message might have stop, but it 872 00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:21,799 Speaker 1: was not this right? Um? What was yeah? Okay, So 873 00:44:21,880 --> 00:44:23,960 Speaker 1: it seems because as sexuality is open, I think just 874 00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:27,080 Speaker 1: like she asked a question of pegging, because we just assume, right, 875 00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:30,680 Speaker 1: So I assumed that your relationship is more open. Do 876 00:44:30,719 --> 00:44:32,800 Speaker 1: you ever want to bring other people into it? Do 877 00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:35,799 Speaker 1: you talk about it? Question? And if you do, not 878 00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:38,439 Speaker 1: to what capacity, Like, first of all, have you guys 879 00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:41,080 Speaker 1: had okay? And if you guys do have a three 880 00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:43,080 Speaker 1: both like him as the girl, you both like women, 881 00:44:43,120 --> 00:44:45,200 Speaker 1: you both like men, would it be open as far 882 00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:49,319 Speaker 1: as the gender. I feel like that's something we just 883 00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:56,200 Speaker 1: haven't discussed. You guys have okay as a guy? Right? 884 00:44:56,400 --> 00:45:02,080 Speaker 1: Every time she looks at a girl, I get hopeful, right, right. So, 885 00:45:02,080 --> 00:45:06,560 Speaker 1: so we had this conversation because he was crashing, we're 886 00:45:06,560 --> 00:45:08,680 Speaker 1: crashing at your place, right, we're crashing at weez these 887 00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:11,520 Speaker 1: place while while we're here in New York City. And 888 00:45:11,640 --> 00:45:14,200 Speaker 1: I and at some point I was just like the 889 00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:18,160 Speaker 1: excited I'm so excited about meeting her because I've always 890 00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:20,160 Speaker 1: like we have mutual friends, and I just felt like 891 00:45:20,200 --> 00:45:24,160 Speaker 1: we were clicking friends right side of mine and so um, 892 00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:25,440 Speaker 1: and I wanted to go to Cuba really bad, but 893 00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:29,120 Speaker 1: I couldn't go because they don't know you free so um. 894 00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:32,360 Speaker 1: So I was just expressing her how excited I was 895 00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:34,799 Speaker 1: glad to cancel a non cancelable hotel, like I got 896 00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:36,719 Speaker 1: a doctor smell from the friends and the doctor to 897 00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:40,120 Speaker 1: say my MoMA was sick. And so she at one 898 00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:41,879 Speaker 1: point goes, it seems like you're more excited to meet 899 00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:46,160 Speaker 1: her than me. And I'm just like, wait, what Anyway, 900 00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:48,959 Speaker 1: I have another bedroom in my apartment, which is why 901 00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:50,560 Speaker 1: they when they came to New York, they stayed with 902 00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:53,760 Speaker 1: me because I know they're like what all in the 903 00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:55,879 Speaker 1: She's like, She's like, I just feel like you really 904 00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:58,200 Speaker 1: wanted three something to happen this weekend. And I was like, wait, 905 00:45:58,239 --> 00:46:03,040 Speaker 1: I didn't say any of that, but I just like, 906 00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:04,799 Speaker 1: like a day later, he's like, so this is like 907 00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:06,640 Speaker 1: I'm like, I just don't remember who this is because 908 00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:10,520 Speaker 1: you mentioned like I mean, I wish if you if 909 00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:15,200 Speaker 1: you didn't showed me that the one when you said 910 00:46:15,200 --> 00:46:17,200 Speaker 1: when you told lover boy, this is your pussy and 911 00:46:17,239 --> 00:46:19,320 Speaker 1: then you were like why did I do that? Your 912 00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:25,719 Speaker 1: girlfriend her talking about loving OK. Here's the thing. When 913 00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:28,080 Speaker 1: he reminded me who this was, I was like, well, 914 00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:30,040 Speaker 1: I wish you just said it was her, just Hollywood 915 00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:31,800 Speaker 1: thought about the fact that you wanted to see it 916 00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:36,440 Speaker 1: because and so as a guy, and I feel like 917 00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:39,160 Speaker 1: you could relate to this, like if the opportunity, if 918 00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:42,040 Speaker 1: the opper opportunity ever existed for you to sleep in 919 00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:44,319 Speaker 1: the apartment that both of these women were saying it right, 920 00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:48,720 Speaker 1: you would have some hopes and dreams about the future 921 00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:51,040 Speaker 1: of what could happen, right, and then the reality is 922 00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:52,440 Speaker 1: she was making it like you want to have, like 923 00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:55,000 Speaker 1: you be happy even if I wasn't there, and I'm like, no, 924 00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:57,400 Speaker 1: that's not it. I want y'all hold on, let me finish. 925 00:46:57,480 --> 00:46:59,640 Speaker 1: I was a little bit good because I thought she 926 00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:01,320 Speaker 1: was a bridge and then you showed me your picture. 927 00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:05,600 Speaker 1: So I'm sitting there going no, I want you to 928 00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:08,440 Speaker 1: to be attracted to each other. Whatever I would need 929 00:47:08,480 --> 00:47:12,000 Speaker 1: to do, right, if I needed out a hand or 930 00:47:12,040 --> 00:47:14,719 Speaker 1: an apage, or if I need to just sit in 931 00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:18,439 Speaker 1: the white and just masturbating. This is the greatest moment 932 00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:23,000 Speaker 1: of that. I'm so happy to be watching this live 933 00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:25,560 Speaker 1: like I'm fine with anything. This is not about me 934 00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:28,640 Speaker 1: going behind your back to meet her, Like I just 935 00:47:29,040 --> 00:47:31,960 Speaker 1: if the first time I ever saw her touch another woman, 936 00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:41,799 Speaker 1: it would be awesome. Your girlfriends, I'm told, I'm cool. 937 00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:46,200 Speaker 1: It ain't gonna be all right, like just giving them 938 00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:52,879 Speaker 1: shots and just in here, like what's go ahead? It's 939 00:47:53,040 --> 00:47:56,200 Speaker 1: very interesting right as women like so same would be 940 00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:58,520 Speaker 1: a lover boy, right, He's like, oh, I love when 941 00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:00,920 Speaker 1: you girls like take him home. He only gets jealous 942 00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:02,839 Speaker 1: if I come too quick. It's a weird thing. So 943 00:48:03,120 --> 00:48:07,000 Speaker 1: I would lose my ever loving mind if she was 944 00:48:07,880 --> 00:48:10,560 Speaker 1: to lose it again again. Yeah, what is it about 945 00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:13,879 Speaker 1: not needing to be involved? Is it because men don't 946 00:48:13,960 --> 00:48:16,640 Speaker 1: feel threatened when another woman's with their woman? Is right? 947 00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:20,200 Speaker 1: That's exactly. It's like, there's I have no So how 948 00:48:20,200 --> 00:48:23,719 Speaker 1: do you know that I don't eat pussy better? I say, 949 00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:25,319 Speaker 1: I eat pussy way better than a lot of guys. 950 00:48:25,360 --> 00:48:30,239 Speaker 1: Maybe I can learn something like, but you're like, man, 951 00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:34,759 Speaker 1: you're not leaving me for you. That's not now when 952 00:48:34,760 --> 00:48:37,480 Speaker 1: a man is how do you know she wouldn't leave you? Like? 953 00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:39,680 Speaker 1: I couldn't be the same for a man. Man, What 954 00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:41,520 Speaker 1: is the complex? Why would you not leave me for 955 00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:46,000 Speaker 1: a woman? I know that's right, and and bitches are 956 00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:48,480 Speaker 1: just fun and I'm the same way. I'm super like 957 00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:52,160 Speaker 1: and I'm yeah, they're beautiful and I love that dealing 958 00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:55,320 Speaker 1: with them. But no, bro, I'm not I'm not leaving. 959 00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:57,880 Speaker 1: I'm gonna marry a man as much as I like women, 960 00:48:57,880 --> 00:48:59,759 Speaker 1: as much as I like being with women. It's the 961 00:48:59,800 --> 00:49:02,239 Speaker 1: same way. And even when I was dealing with I 962 00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:06,560 Speaker 1: guess we could bleep it out. Um he hated that 963 00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:09,040 Speaker 1: I liked women, And I think it was more so 964 00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:11,960 Speaker 1: him thinking like, well, damn, not only that every time 965 00:49:11,960 --> 00:49:14,160 Speaker 1: you're out with your friends, you're gonna beating pussy every 966 00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:15,480 Speaker 1: time you're that. And I think it was more so 967 00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:20,000 Speaker 1: maybe an insecurity thing he thought that, which is what 968 00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:26,640 Speaker 1: we talkt Yeah, and it's literally about like no ship, nowhere, nowhere, 969 00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:29,959 Speaker 1: and it's literally it's literally that confidence. But he was like, damn, 970 00:49:30,040 --> 00:49:32,319 Speaker 1: is there something a girl is doing that you think? 971 00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:39,120 Speaker 1: Like your Instagram? So many of them are Instagram no, 972 00:49:39,120 --> 00:49:41,400 Speaker 1: no ship No. Not only my well, it's my followers 973 00:49:41,400 --> 00:49:43,399 Speaker 1: that has a that's a huge issue with a lot 974 00:49:43,400 --> 00:49:46,120 Speaker 1: of the regular man. But not only that, And I 975 00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:49,600 Speaker 1: know a lot of blue check mark niggas. I'm friends 976 00:49:49,600 --> 00:49:51,560 Speaker 1: with a lot of them, like literally friends, and she 977 00:49:51,680 --> 00:49:53,680 Speaker 1: knows I'm friends. There's quite a bit of guys that 978 00:49:53,719 --> 00:49:55,520 Speaker 1: I haven't sucked at all, and the fact that they're 979 00:49:55,520 --> 00:49:58,480 Speaker 1: just in my phone. I've had guys, well why would 980 00:49:58,480 --> 00:50:00,440 Speaker 1: you be with my regular ass? When you got x 981 00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:03,600 Speaker 1: Joe blow making thirty million dollars in your phone? Why 982 00:50:03,600 --> 00:50:05,839 Speaker 1: would you not be with him? And so it's come 983 00:50:05,920 --> 00:50:09,799 Speaker 1: up tons of times that most men that I'm are 984 00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:15,840 Speaker 1: insecure as fun. However, I will say, but which is 985 00:50:15,840 --> 00:50:17,800 Speaker 1: why I bring up the sexuality thing, because I'm not 986 00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:22,360 Speaker 1: gonna lie. I have met another bisexual man literally the 987 00:50:22,560 --> 00:50:27,640 Speaker 1: most confidence in the model model boy. Yeah, literally the 988 00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:31,360 Speaker 1: most confidence. But he's also a model. He's a model. No, 989 00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:37,879 Speaker 1: he's accepted himself and he's super open and he's find 990 00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:41,160 Speaker 1: a ship, perfect body. Um, but deals with men and women. 991 00:50:41,440 --> 00:50:44,800 Speaker 1: But literally probably the most confident guy I've ever met 992 00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:46,200 Speaker 1: in my you do, I feel like to get to 993 00:50:46,239 --> 00:50:48,640 Speaker 1: that space, you need a competitive advantage, Like he's a model. 994 00:50:48,840 --> 00:50:54,399 Speaker 1: I'm brilliant, Like I'm smarter than ever. So if you're 995 00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:58,600 Speaker 1: into smart guys like James, ain't gonna take you from me. 996 00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:02,680 Speaker 1: The how ain't gonna take you from taking you from me? 997 00:51:02,960 --> 00:51:09,160 Speaker 1: Like not if that's what you're into. And I just 998 00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:12,600 Speaker 1: realized we're going over time. Yeah, we're gonna go ahead 999 00:51:12,640 --> 00:51:14,160 Speaker 1: and um and the show. Do you want to go 1000 00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:17,200 Speaker 1: ahead and say something nice? Yeah? I just want to 1001 00:51:17,200 --> 00:51:21,880 Speaker 1: thank you guys for coming and like reaffirming that I 1002 00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:25,000 Speaker 1: just love for me, not only not only love, but 1003 00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:31,800 Speaker 1: just the confidence and being honest there, confidence, honesty and communication. 1004 00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:34,360 Speaker 1: The fact that those do exist in the fact that 1005 00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:36,480 Speaker 1: both of you could genuinely accept each other for who 1006 00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:38,920 Speaker 1: each other are. I think it's so important to know 1007 00:51:39,200 --> 00:51:41,480 Speaker 1: for all of our listeners, anyone who's maybe not comfortable 1008 00:51:41,480 --> 00:51:44,759 Speaker 1: with your sexuality, to know that if someone doesn't accept you, 1009 00:51:44,880 --> 00:51:49,799 Speaker 1: there is someone out there that will, and you shouldn't 1010 00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:54,160 Speaker 1: as here with her shoulders down and looking awkward like 1011 00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:56,560 Speaker 1: this is when you were saying, guys, I've dated like, 1012 00:51:56,600 --> 00:51:58,600 Speaker 1: I looked at you a lot. I just wanted to 1013 00:51:58,640 --> 00:52:02,040 Speaker 1: see you get uncomfortable and it just didn't didn't. I 1014 00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:04,200 Speaker 1: didn't want to see it when like guys are like, 1015 00:52:04,320 --> 00:52:07,839 Speaker 1: so when did you transition? So I literally introduced her 1016 00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:09,879 Speaker 1: to a friend and said this is my girlfriend and 1017 00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:12,040 Speaker 1: they and they turned. I turned away. I wasn't paying attention, 1018 00:52:12,080 --> 00:52:13,719 Speaker 1: and he goes, so when did you begin your transition? 1019 00:52:16,200 --> 00:52:23,920 Speaker 1: She looking at her, Come on, I flipped it. Like 1020 00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:26,160 Speaker 1: two days later, we were at we were at a 1021 00:52:26,160 --> 00:52:30,719 Speaker 1: Broadway play here in New York and the curtains about 1022 00:52:30,719 --> 00:52:32,040 Speaker 1: to go up, and she's like, I gotta pee, and 1023 00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:33,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, are you serious right right now? So we go. 1024 00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:35,960 Speaker 1: The girl's line it's like two blocks. The guy's line 1025 00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:37,839 Speaker 1: is just moving and she goes, what do you think 1026 00:52:37,840 --> 00:52:41,000 Speaker 1: the bathroom laws are here? I said, no, I heard nothing, 1027 00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:44,000 Speaker 1: but he called me a transder person. He asked me 1028 00:52:44,040 --> 00:52:46,040 Speaker 1: about transition and blah blah blah blah. I said, if 1029 00:52:46,040 --> 00:52:49,680 Speaker 1: you walk in that bathroom, I don't ever want to 1030 00:52:49,680 --> 00:52:53,120 Speaker 1: hear about what happened at that bar again. And she's like, 1031 00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:56,840 Speaker 1: she's like, deal, clear the way and an offensive lineman 1032 00:52:56,920 --> 00:53:00,279 Speaker 1: and said this is your come on, And then the 1033 00:53:00,320 --> 00:53:03,600 Speaker 1: black girl behind her said can I go next? Come on, bob, 1034 00:53:04,760 --> 00:53:06,520 Speaker 1: And she's washing her hand in between two dudes and 1035 00:53:06,560 --> 00:53:09,640 Speaker 1: they're just looking at like the fun isn't that was 1036 00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:11,640 Speaker 1: between my leg. We made it back to our seat 1037 00:53:11,719 --> 00:53:16,680 Speaker 1: and the play open a bisexual guy. I've taught her 1038 00:53:16,719 --> 00:53:19,400 Speaker 1: positions in football so that she understands all of the 1039 00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:21,960 Speaker 1: offensive linemen's positions, the white receivers, and we can go 1040 00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:24,480 Speaker 1: to Broadway place to do so there's that together. But 1041 00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:26,239 Speaker 1: I try to put her up on sports terms too, 1042 00:53:26,280 --> 00:53:34,279 Speaker 1: because you know we're the sports fan. I just let 1043 00:53:34,280 --> 00:53:37,160 Speaker 1: me just look at their butt. I always wanted to 1044 00:53:37,200 --> 00:53:38,840 Speaker 1: do this. I never I could do this with my 1045 00:53:39,040 --> 00:53:40,840 Speaker 1: close I never know a thousand years thought that she 1046 00:53:40,840 --> 00:53:42,839 Speaker 1: would be comfortable enough to even allow me to walk 1047 00:53:42,880 --> 00:53:45,080 Speaker 1: in here and talk openly on the Internet. And I'm 1048 00:53:45,160 --> 00:53:50,440 Speaker 1: so proud of her. Right now, my girl is not 1049 00:53:50,600 --> 00:53:53,120 Speaker 1: like open let's talk about our personal sex lives in 1050 00:53:53,160 --> 00:53:54,920 Speaker 1: front of the world kind of thing. And even though 1051 00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:57,200 Speaker 1: if it's anonymous, it's still the Internet and people can 1052 00:53:57,280 --> 00:53:59,640 Speaker 1: connect the stocks, you know. So I'm super proud of 1053 00:53:59,640 --> 00:54:08,759 Speaker 1: you and I love you more today yesterday. Well, guys, 1054 00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:11,880 Speaker 1: thank you so much for tuning into another episode of 1055 00:54:11,920 --> 00:54:16,040 Speaker 1: Horrible Decisions. Um. Again, continue to tune in, and if 1056 00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:17,880 Speaker 1: you want to be a guest or if you have 1057 00:54:18,040 --> 00:54:24,520 Speaker 1: any you know, sexual horrible Decisions stories that you guys, 1058 00:54:22,840 --> 00:54:28,120 Speaker 1: this is super I'm gonna cross it out like horror 1059 00:54:28,280 --> 00:54:33,520 Speaker 1: cross out. Yeah, I don't know, fantastic decisions decisions. I 1060 00:54:33,560 --> 00:54:36,239 Speaker 1: don't know. 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