WEBVTT - Big Moves with Kristina Kuzmic

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<v Speaker 1>Wind Down with Janet Kramer and Michael Cossin and iHeart

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<v Speaker 1>Radio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>DA It's moving day, Moving day?

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<v Speaker 1>How stressed are you right now that you're not at

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<v Speaker 1>the house. It's directing the movers where to go.

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<v Speaker 3>I cannot run out of here fast enough because I'm

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<v Speaker 3>such a I would call myself an amazing delegator.

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<v Speaker 1>It needs to be a more intense word than amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>What does it need to be.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know. I can't come up with the

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<v Speaker 1>vocabulary for it.

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<v Speaker 3>I just I like to delegate and the fact that

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not there right now with the movers because we

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<v Speaker 3>had such a bad experience moving out of our national

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<v Speaker 3>house to hear because you.

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<v Speaker 1>Hired sixteen year old kids that were stealing all of

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<v Speaker 1>our stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>I did not hire six year old kids. They were

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<v Speaker 3>a company, and I don't think I could say the company,

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<v Speaker 3>but they hired sixteen year old kids, and they.

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<v Speaker 1>Stole our booze, tried to steal alcohol.

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<v Speaker 3>They tried to steal alcohol, and then they broke a

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<v Speaker 3>couple pieces of furniture, and then they threw all of

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<v Speaker 3>our stuff into the storage unit.

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<v Speaker 1>And it just it looks like everything's just short.

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<v Speaker 2>It looks like everything.

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<v Speaker 1>I was so angry that I couldn't be there.

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<v Speaker 4>Of all things to not skimp on, they say the

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<v Speaker 4>movers is one of them. It sounds like you guys

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<v Speaker 4>were cutting costs.

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<v Speaker 2>Michael, no stretching here, No, no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 3>So I I somehow got in charge.

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<v Speaker 1>Of this some some somehow, she just somehow she didn't say,

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<v Speaker 1>I got it, I'll hire them, I'll be there. I

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<v Speaker 1>got it. You weren't even there when we moved, and

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<v Speaker 1>then for some reason you wanted to take a flight

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<v Speaker 1>out the same day, thinking oh yeah, the mover said

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<v Speaker 1>they'll be done by.

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<v Speaker 2>Three's what they said.

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<v Speaker 1>No one's ever done on time. How did you find

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<v Speaker 1>these people?

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<v Speaker 3>I used them before. It's you know, all of my brothers,

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<v Speaker 3>but changed the name.

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<v Speaker 1>That was the company.

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<v Speaker 3>They're a very big company, okay. And I called and

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<v Speaker 3>and they weren't the cheapest route, but they they did

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<v Speaker 3>a terrible job. But we did call and we talked

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<v Speaker 3>to the company and they gave us.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a lot of money. But that's good.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's just going to break my heart because I

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<v Speaker 3>showed him when we went back to Nashville a couple

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<v Speaker 3>of weeks ago, I showed him what the storage and

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<v Speaker 3>it looked like and it literally looks like I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>there's broken side glasses and side tables and all our

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<v Speaker 3>faces look broken because they just threw.

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<v Speaker 2>It in there.

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<v Speaker 1>It looks like a dumpster at the dump where they

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<v Speaker 1>put all the furniture, but in his origin.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's my bad because I shouldn't have left that day.

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<v Speaker 3>But we were flying to fourth of July for vacation,

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<v Speaker 3>so I had everything planned, you know, and if people.

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<v Speaker 1>Aren't up to Jam's plan, it ruins everything.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, I did already.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyways, anyways, this is the fact you're here right, So

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<v Speaker 3>here we are again, though we're it's still not there

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<v Speaker 3>for the move. Now we've got these movers, but I

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<v Speaker 3>trust this movie company.

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<v Speaker 4>My friend Chris Guy I used to know in Wisconsin.

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<v Speaker 4>He moved from Wisconsin to Florida recently, and he made

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<v Speaker 4>news on this because he went to the news to

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<v Speaker 4>try to bust these people. They loaded his stuff, They

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<v Speaker 4>made him pain care ash red flag. There were a

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<v Speaker 4>bunch of red flags and he didn't see his stuff

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<v Speaker 4>for like two and a half months. What And then

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<v Speaker 4>I was calm and saying, oh no, we got it.

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<v Speaker 4>It's common notes coming. Yeah, we got it. We will

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<v Speaker 4>be there Tuesday. Then they would show up Tuesday, and

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<v Speaker 4>his weeks and weeks and months went by.

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<v Speaker 1>He had to go in the local news.

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<v Speaker 4>It got picked up in different cities, Like he's really

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<v Speaker 4>because he went on a Facebook group and tons of

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<v Speaker 4>people have the same problem with the same company.

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<v Speaker 1>They just steal your stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>Whose company? What was it?

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<v Speaker 1>I should look up the name of the company.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you should.

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<v Speaker 1>But he ended up getting a stuff back.

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<v Speaker 4>A lot of it was broken and some of it

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<v Speaker 4>was stolen, but he got most of it back, and

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<v Speaker 4>he had already been convinced he was never getting any

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<v Speaker 4>of it back, so he considered that a win and

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<v Speaker 4>he's moving on.

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<v Speaker 1>But wow, you got to research.

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<v Speaker 4>And he'll be the first to admit he should have

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<v Speaker 4>done more research, the Yelp reviews, the better business for

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<v Speaker 4>bureau check, he.

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<v Speaker 1>Should have done all that back. He saw a great

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<v Speaker 1>deal and he took it. Yeah, that kind of stuff, you.

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<v Speaker 3>Got to Well, I we got this mover from Instagram

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<v Speaker 3>because when someone on Instagram, like I said, who's your

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<v Speaker 3>favorite moving companies? Oh yeah, and this girl was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>my brother's friend or whatever works for the company.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, they've been great because a guy that owns the

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<v Speaker 1>company came to the house.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Ryan, he's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>He's been on a you know, direct line basis.

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<v Speaker 3>With North American Moving Company. This is not an ad,

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<v Speaker 3>but they've been great so far.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's why. But today, today is d day. Today

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<v Speaker 1>is when we find out how great they are.

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<v Speaker 2>That's true.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm so stressed out i am. It's all champagne problems,

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<v Speaker 3>but I'm I'm, I am very stressed because we don't

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<v Speaker 3>actually know when we're closing on our house because things

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<v Speaker 3>keep getting.

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<v Speaker 1>This is my wife at her finest.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, no here, let me just break it down for

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<v Speaker 3>you guys. So we were told we were going to

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<v Speaker 3>close on the fourteenth okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Of May and June okay.

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<v Speaker 3>June okay, But something happened with their pool company, and

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<v Speaker 3>so I'm not going to say their name, no, but

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<v Speaker 3>so we again, we took out a loan to get

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<v Speaker 3>a pool because it's expensive a pool, right, So we

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<v Speaker 3>took out a loan over line of credit, and we

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<v Speaker 3>picked out the pool, and we tried to go a

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<v Speaker 3>little cheaper route because this other route was more expensive.

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<v Speaker 3>So but we all, I said, my number one thing

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<v Speaker 3>is I want a splash pad for the kids. I

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<v Speaker 3>wanted to be six to seven inches of water, something

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<v Speaker 3>that's great that we can sit in with a chair

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<v Speaker 3>or even just like a little kiddy splash pad, and

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<v Speaker 3>then the rest of it can be for the adults.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, but because when I think a splash but I

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<v Speaker 1>think shooting, we didn't. We opted not for that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so just you know, just a regular splash pad.

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<v Speaker 3>And they're like, oh great, absolutely, like no problem at all,

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<v Speaker 3>totally totally it's gonna be amazing. So the girl that

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<v Speaker 3>works the company sent me a picture of the pool

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<v Speaker 3>when it was getting put into the ground, and I'm

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<v Speaker 3>looking at it and I was like.

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<v Speaker 1>We just have to do with the doory.

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<v Speaker 2>It's about the pool.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I think just wants to vent about her pool.

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<v Speaker 2>We got it fixed, but it's let me just in

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<v Speaker 2>a second.

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<v Speaker 3>So she sends me a picture of the pool and

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, that doesn't look like a splash pad.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm like, hmm, this is interesting. So they put

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<v Speaker 3>the shell in the ground and then we go there

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<v Speaker 3>like a month or so later, and I was like, Michael,

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<v Speaker 3>where are they filling the water up to?

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<v Speaker 2>And he's like this line. I was like, how deep

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<v Speaker 2>is that? Two and a half feet? So me sitting

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<v Speaker 2>in the splash pad would be water up to my forehead.

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<v Speaker 2>So then I this is perfect? How is that perfect?

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<v Speaker 3>Because my daughter couldn't sit in that, My son will

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<v Speaker 3>like he will not be able to even be in

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<v Speaker 3>the pool at all. Now can't even sit because I'll

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<v Speaker 3>have to hold them above my head. Well I'm sitting

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<v Speaker 3>like like simba okay. So this is where I go bad.

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<v Speaker 3>This is where I need to learn to be a

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<v Speaker 3>better person, because I go straight to I email I sorry,

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<v Speaker 3>I text message the girl up. Where in your right

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<v Speaker 3>mind do you think that this is a splash pad

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<v Speaker 3>two and a half feet?

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<v Speaker 2>This is effing ridiculous. And I sent a picture of

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<v Speaker 2>me with the.

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<v Speaker 3>The the tape measure how is that to where to

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<v Speaker 3>where it was measured?

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<v Speaker 2>How is that?

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<v Speaker 6>Like?

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<v Speaker 5>Where?

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<v Speaker 3>Where in your brain? Is that perfect for kids? And

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<v Speaker 3>Michael's like, what is that going to do?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you want the solution or do you want their

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<v Speaker 1>their I want.

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<v Speaker 3>Their logic and that's the thing I want the logic of. Honestly,

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<v Speaker 3>what you thought like just like you know how you

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<v Speaker 3>say to me, Mike, why would you ask me a

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<v Speaker 3>question when I'm making a peanut butter and joy sandwich.

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<v Speaker 2>I want a little social awareness.

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<v Speaker 3>Situational awareness, Yeah, it's my favorite term, it's his favorite.

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<v Speaker 3>But I want to know like in your like seriously

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<v Speaker 3>right mind. And they've never answered that question, so it

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<v Speaker 3>really bothers me. So long story short, they had to

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<v Speaker 3>take the pool thing out and now we have to

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<v Speaker 3>pay more money because they're like, oh yeah, no, they

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<v Speaker 3>can't do a splash pad like that, so take out more.

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<v Speaker 3>So now they they're like, well, we promised this won't

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<v Speaker 3>delay your closing. We promised this will not delu this

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<v Speaker 3>will not delay I know, but let me just then,

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<v Speaker 3>this will not delay stop it right now, this will

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<v Speaker 3>not delay your your you're closing. Well, I'm about to

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<v Speaker 3>sit down and I'm reading an email and I got

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<v Speaker 3>an email from the builder saying we're now delayed because

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<v Speaker 3>your pool won't be done.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, are you Evan serious? I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I am furious.

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<v Speaker 1>It's funny about this is this was all in the

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<v Speaker 1>last few days. Since then, before this episode, we've gotten

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<v Speaker 1>it taken care of. But I don't think that we

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<v Speaker 1>have We've had the solution.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think we have.

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<v Speaker 1>We're back on track. I don't think Janna still has

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<v Speaker 1>those feelings out.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think we are.

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<v Speaker 3>Why because it's because we still haven't gotten the email.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, we are a week away from potential closing

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<v Speaker 3>and we still have not gotten an email from our

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<v Speaker 3>builders saying we can close. And I have a feeling

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<v Speaker 3>the pool company is going to somehow screw this up,

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<v Speaker 3>and I just like, screw it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm just and again again. What what like getting

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<v Speaker 1>after them and attacking them? What is that going to

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<v Speaker 1>solve when it comes to something as complicated as a

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<v Speaker 1>house finishing and closing.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you why.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want them to rush.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't either.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want them to half ask something. What's the

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<v Speaker 1>difference between a week?

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<v Speaker 3>Let me tell you what the difference is. Because your

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<v Speaker 3>wife has literally planned everything.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, because you had the movers come at the

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<v Speaker 1>first possible time that we could close.

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<v Speaker 2>I had to. There's no other way to be able

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<v Speaker 2>to share the moving truck with our friend Julie. So

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<v Speaker 2>that's the thing.

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<v Speaker 3>So the movers from here to Nashville, their delivery window

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<v Speaker 3>is the thirteenthrough the night.

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<v Speaker 1>There is no give. There's no leeway, there's no like

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<v Speaker 1>given risk are here?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I said the way planned it? No, but that

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<v Speaker 3>was was there that? Or we were going to pay

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<v Speaker 3>five thousand dollars more money? So this way we were

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<v Speaker 3>able to share a moving van with Julie. Would you

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<v Speaker 3>have done differently, Darling?

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<v Speaker 6>No?

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<v Speaker 1>I need you handled it perfectly.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I'm curious would you have handled it differently?

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<v Speaker 1>No, it's just no, it's just for me. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>and we have different I think this is where we actually,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, counterbalance each other well, because there's times where

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<v Speaker 1>you get a bit of news and you just want

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<v Speaker 1>to immediately make that call, send that email, say what

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<v Speaker 1>the you know what the this, that and the other.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, honey, let's just give it a second.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's giving a second, do though.

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<v Speaker 1>Because like even with the pool stuff, they talked to.

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<v Speaker 3>Justin after we sent the mean email, after I sent

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<v Speaker 3>the scathing email saying how dare you?

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<v Speaker 2>You promised that this was not going to hold our delay?

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<v Speaker 1>And you were like call him, call him, call him,

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<v Speaker 1>call him. I'm like, I'm going to call him, get

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<v Speaker 1>up right now and go call him. And when I

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<v Speaker 1>called him and it went to his voicemail. You know

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<v Speaker 1>why I went to his voicemail because he was on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone with our builder trying to figure it out.

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<v Speaker 3>Because I sent a text message to his daughter saying

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<v Speaker 3>I will not promote this company and I will not

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<v Speaker 3>like tell my neighbors because of you. You said that

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<v Speaker 3>this would not delay our closing. So I just said,

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<v Speaker 3>speak on your word or tell us like call us.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to hear this third hand from like

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<v Speaker 3>the builder come to us and say, you know what,

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<v Speaker 3>I messed up on the timing because I have, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>all these all these pieces, and it's just been so

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<v Speaker 3>frustrating because I'm like, if not, then we're gonna have

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<v Speaker 3>to get in our storage unit to store all the stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just more the one that just all right, let's

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<v Speaker 1>let's talk to everybody involved, let's figure this out, and

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<v Speaker 1>then we'll go from there.

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<v Speaker 4>So clearly this is a stressful situation. How is this

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<v Speaker 4>affecting your relationship? Because I think the best couples, which

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<v Speaker 4>I count you among those, you do, of course, right,

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<v Speaker 4>fight more off and bicker more off or not get

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<v Speaker 4>more off in these stressful situations.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you found that to be the case? No? No, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>that's good, and I think it's it's because and I

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<v Speaker 1>give Janner credit for that too, actually now that you

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<v Speaker 1>bring it up, because she's able to understand how my

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<v Speaker 1>personality works. So she understands that I'm a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>more lasi faire, I'm a little bit more political. He

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<v Speaker 1>came know, And I understand that Janna needs to She

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<v Speaker 1>can't not say something immediately, she can't, So I understand

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<v Speaker 1>that she needs to do that. I understand that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to to kind of balance that and be the

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<v Speaker 1>one that actually talks to these people and finds a

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<v Speaker 1>solution respectfully and put in and professionally. Well, Janna threatens

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<v Speaker 1>their firstborn. So we just we we know how each

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<v Speaker 1>other operate and we just need to work good. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think we don't. We're kind of pass the

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<v Speaker 1>days of trying to convince each other that our way

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<v Speaker 1>is the way to do things.

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<v Speaker 3>Look, I'm saying I need I need definite help with

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<v Speaker 3>some those areas and not being so on the on

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<v Speaker 3>the gun and I'm and I'm working on that. I

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<v Speaker 3>just know though that that text message did have the

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<v Speaker 3>builder then call or the the guy then called our

0:12:54.640 --> 0:12:57.640
<v Speaker 3>builder to say, hey, I don't want to be the reason, right.

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<v Speaker 1>And I and I credit you where you know, our

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<v Speaker 1>builder said we're going to be a month behind, and Jenna.

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>There was like we're going to be you can't move

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<v Speaker 3>until the end of July, and I was like, we're

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<v Speaker 3>going to be in an RV then because our airbnb

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<v Speaker 3>is we only have it for a month.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. So Jana basically sent a pretty aggressive email that

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<v Speaker 1>I would have worded a little differently, but it was

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<v Speaker 1>in that moment it was effective because next thing, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>he got all of the other third party contractors to

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<v Speaker 1>work on the same timeline and work together so they're

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<v Speaker 1>able to make up that month. So you know, that's

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<v Speaker 1>the situation where it worked where I where I probably

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't have gotten just because something like this, I understand

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<v Speaker 1>there's going to be delays totally, you know, so I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit more leaning on that. But because Jenna

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<v Speaker 1>scared the death into.

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<v Speaker 3>This port shut off, no, I just said, please, you

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<v Speaker 3>know this is there's a lot of moving I.

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<v Speaker 1>Said, please say, that's exactly what you said.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a lot of sv there's a lot of moving parts.

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<v Speaker 3>So whatever you can do on your end would greatly help.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, we're moving with two kids. You know, it's

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<v Speaker 3>got dogs, we got we got stuff everywhere. So anyways,

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<v Speaker 3>but end of the day, this is all champagne problems.

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<v Speaker 3>We're extremely blessed to be moving into a new house.

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<v Speaker 3>We are we are excited. We have started to begin

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<v Speaker 3>the the process of grieving the old Nashville and welcoming

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<v Speaker 3>the new Nashville, which has been you know, we just

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<v Speaker 3>had a kind of a rough session the other day.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's it's good. It's we're we're excited.

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna attack it together.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm really excited because we have two fantastic guests.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm gonna take a quick little break and then

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<v Speaker 3>I'll fill you in.

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<v Speaker 4>We should tell them who it is, and then because

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<v Speaker 4>the first one's ready to go. Next, what Christina's on?

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<v Speaker 1>Next?

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<v Speaker 3>So we should all right, Oh she's here, Yeah, fabulous, Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>all right, So we have Christina Kouzmick who's in studio,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm super pumped to have her because she's she's

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<v Speaker 3>really rocking the whole how the truth be authentic and

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's definitely something that.

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<v Speaker 2>We at wine down.

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<v Speaker 1>She's got a great story.

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<v Speaker 3>To embrace, so we are have her and then Mark,

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<v Speaker 3>am I allowed to say the other one?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, but I can kind of tease it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay. And then, honey, what.

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<v Speaker 2>We have a special guest for you?

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<v Speaker 1>Who would be a special guest for me? Like, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>who I really care about that much? You are Michael Scott?

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<v Speaker 2>Who's that?

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's a fictional character.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>Is that the guy from the office? No, but gosh,

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<v Speaker 3>that would be that had been a good one.

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<v Speaker 1>But no, don't say anymore. Yes and no.

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<v Speaker 3>So we're going to play a game that I want

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<v Speaker 3>you to play a game? Will I be able to

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<v Speaker 3>guest from from his voice? We can't tell you that

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<v Speaker 3>I already said his.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's his. It's gonna be so much.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm so excited.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't wait.

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<v Speaker 5>Let's take a break.

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<v Speaker 1>When we were brushing our teeth the other morning, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>did you notice? You know we've been trying to We

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<v Speaker 1>always brushed her always teeth that night, and we've been

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get her to her own in the morning, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And the other day was the first time we were

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<v Speaker 1>both brush our teeth and she was in the living room.

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<v Speaker 1>She saw what we were doing and went and grabbed

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<v Speaker 1>her new Quip toothbrush. She did because it looks just

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<v Speaker 1>like mom and Dad's. Yeah, and got She even brought

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<v Speaker 1>her stool in from her bathroom. I know, I stood

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<v Speaker 1>in the middle of our sinks.

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<v Speaker 3>No, it was cute because again at night, like we

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<v Speaker 3>brush our teeth. But I think in the morning it's

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<v Speaker 3>been something fun for her to be like, all right,

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<v Speaker 3>like it's time to brush your teeth, like before school.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's nice that she's like, oh, like mom, mom

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<v Speaker 3>and dad have a QUIP, I have a QUIP.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>If you guys don't know what equip is, by the way,

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<v Speaker 3>they're amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>Is a toothbrush.

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<v Speaker 3>And it's great because it has a built in two

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<v Speaker 3>minute timer, pulses every thirty seconds to remind you when

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<v Speaker 3>to switch sides, and helped you to clean your mouth evenly.

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<v Speaker 3>And what's great too, is a lot of times I

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<v Speaker 3>forget to throw away my toothbrush, but since I've been

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<v Speaker 3>using Quip, it's great because the brush heads are actually

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<v Speaker 3>automatically delivered on a dentist recommended schedule every three months

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<v Speaker 3>for just five dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>And Quip is one of the first first electric toothbrushes

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<v Speaker 1>accepted by the American Dental Association. They're backed by over

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<v Speaker 3>kids to develop great habits with brushing their teeth for

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<v Speaker 1>Now in studio, we're very excited. We have pretty much

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<v Speaker 1>missed everything. Christina uz.

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<v Speaker 3>Uh and I just love this, so I have It's

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<v Speaker 3>an evening with Christina Kuzmik Hope and Humor Tour.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, this is the twenty city to where I'm on

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<v Speaker 5>and I'm so excited and having so much fun.

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<v Speaker 3>So we just did a mini tour for this, and

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<v Speaker 3>it was like, it's the great Like to have that interaction, Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>is so incredible.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, because I hear from you know, moms or just

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<v Speaker 5>anybody in general that follows me online. But it's so

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<v Speaker 5>different reading a comment or meeting them face to face

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<v Speaker 5>and he has their story and I love it. Right now,

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<v Speaker 5>I've done eight, You've done eight?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Wow, everything's been going great.

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<v Speaker 5>It's been amazing. I basically wrote this one woman show.

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<v Speaker 5>It's almost two hours including intermission, and we call it

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<v Speaker 5>the Hope and Humor Tour because it's a lot of

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<v Speaker 5>comedy that everybody can relate to. I tell funny stories about,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, being a mom, and then also I shared

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<v Speaker 5>the message of like how I went from being almost

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<v Speaker 5>homeless and depressed to like loving my life now. So

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<v Speaker 5>my whole goal was I want to leave everybody. Everybody

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<v Speaker 5>that leaves, I want them to feel not only like

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<v Speaker 5>less alone. Oh my gosh, I can relate to that.

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<v Speaker 5>I've been through that, I can laugh at that. Wait,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm normal, like which we all wonder am normal, but

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<v Speaker 5>also just feeling stronger and braver, and you know, I

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<v Speaker 5>feel like a cheerleader for parents. I'm like, I want

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<v Speaker 5>to make you feel like a badass.

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<v Speaker 3>No, totally, that's kind of what we were talking about.

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<v Speaker 3>We're like, wow, it was like that was like we

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<v Speaker 3>were comedians, but then we're also like therapists, a motivators.

0:19:12.320 --> 0:19:14.720
<v Speaker 3>Like they left with they laughed, but they also left

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<v Speaker 3>with a takeaway. I left with something they could be like, wow,

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<v Speaker 3>like I want to change my relationship this way. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know, it's just it's such a cool thing, and.

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<v Speaker 5>It's the best combination because I think humor is like medicine,

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<v Speaker 5>and then we need that little bit of therapy, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>and support.

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<v Speaker 2>So what I mean, what can is it?

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<v Speaker 3>Is it primarily just for the moms or was it

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<v Speaker 3>like a mom's night out kind of thing.

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<v Speaker 5>That's what I sort of thought of it because most

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<v Speaker 5>of my following are parents, But then a lot of

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<v Speaker 5>men have been showing up single dads, which has been amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's great.

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<v Speaker 5>And then through the meet and greet, I've met so

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<v Speaker 5>many people who are like, I've never had kids, I

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<v Speaker 5>don't even want kids. But your message of how you

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<v Speaker 5>went from hating yourself to loving yourself like he resonates

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<v Speaker 5>with me or the things you talk about insecurity wise,

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<v Speaker 5>because we all have insecurities. So it's been really wonderful

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<v Speaker 5>to see that the message is resonating with people who

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<v Speaker 5>have no interest in.

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<v Speaker 3>Being parents, right, and then you can just kind of

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<v Speaker 3>tap into both of those things in the message.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, by the way, I love your necklace.

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<v Speaker 5>Thank you. It is so old.

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<v Speaker 3>I've noticed I love it older than my children. No,

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<v Speaker 3>it's so I'm going to take a picture of that

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<v Speaker 3>when you leave because it's so pretty. I love them,

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<v Speaker 3>but I used to wear one like every day. Like that,

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<v Speaker 3>I just went super off topic. So when you say

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<v Speaker 3>basically homeless, what does that mean?

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<v Speaker 5>So after my divorce, I just wanted to sort of

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<v Speaker 5>tiptoe out of the marriage and not cause any more drama.

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<v Speaker 5>I felt bad because I was the one initiating the divorce,

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<v Speaker 5>even though you know, I felt like I needed to leave,

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<v Speaker 5>and so I asked for no child support. I just

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<v Speaker 5>left and started working like two three part time jobs.

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<v Speaker 5>Could only afford to share a bedroom with my little kids,

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<v Speaker 5>so we had a roommate in another room, and I

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<v Speaker 5>couldn'tven afford a bed, I slept on the floor. I

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<v Speaker 5>ended up on food stamps and was laid for rent

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<v Speaker 5>almost every month, begging my landlord please please please, like

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<v Speaker 5>don't kick us out. Had every homeless shelter in our

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<v Speaker 5>area like written down a piece of paper because I

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<v Speaker 5>was like, I can't. My kids were one and a

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<v Speaker 5>half and three when I left. So you where was.

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<v Speaker 2>Your husband or ex husband at the time.

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<v Speaker 5>He lived like an hour away, okay, and so, and

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<v Speaker 5>he would have them most weekends. So on the weekends,

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<v Speaker 5>I would just work, work, work, work, work, Yeah, And

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<v Speaker 5>I just sunk into this like depression and just felt like,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, my kids, says, are so much better, Why

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<v Speaker 5>did they get such a loser mom who can't even

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<v Speaker 5>like put food on the table. I had a friend

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<v Speaker 5>who worked at Starbucks, and he convinced his manager, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>when the food goes stale, they're not bad, like you're

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<v Speaker 5>not gonna get sick, but they're just stale. He convinced

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<v Speaker 5>him to give them to me. So like he would

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<v Speaker 5>bring me a bag of Starbucks and I'm like, I'm

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<v Speaker 5>feeding my kids like stale food, you know, I just

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<v Speaker 5>and so then I started contemplating suicide because I thought

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<v Speaker 5>maybe maybe my kids would be better off if I

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<v Speaker 5>was just non I know, I know it's now when

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<v Speaker 5>I think about it, and it breaks my heart that

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<v Speaker 5>even went there and then slowly started sort of what

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<v Speaker 5>I realized is I have to change my perception of

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<v Speaker 5>meat before my life can change. You know, a lot

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<v Speaker 5>of times away for life to change in order to

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<v Speaker 5>change your attitude towards life. When you got to change

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<v Speaker 5>your attitude for and then life will change. And so

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<v Speaker 5>I just got really proactive about my life and I

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<v Speaker 5>got really feisty, and I just slowly I always tell

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<v Speaker 5>people nothing happens overnight, don't expect to happen overnight. But

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<v Speaker 5>I just slowly built my life into you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 5>in a place where I can't even imagine, Like I

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<v Speaker 5>can't even imagine being in that place again. You know,

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<v Speaker 5>how did.

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<v Speaker 2>You get yourself out of that?

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<v Speaker 3>Because I think that's the hardest thing for you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I've been there too, where you just so depressed and

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<v Speaker 3>it's it's so it's like you just got to do it,

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<v Speaker 3>like tomorrow's a it. It's like it's that's so much

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<v Speaker 3>easier said than done. Oh but everything is easier said then, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>brushing your teeth is easier, said the Yeah, I just

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<v Speaker 3>don't do it.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I'm with you. So for me, the turning point,

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<v Speaker 5>as I call it, was deciding to instead of focusing

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<v Speaker 5>on everything I don't have and everything i'm not and

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<v Speaker 5>everything I can't do, I'm going to look for the

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<v Speaker 5>tiny things, even if they seem insignificant, of what I

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<v Speaker 5>can do and who I am. And it started with

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<v Speaker 5>something really simple. The only thing I can think of

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<v Speaker 5>is I am really confident in cooking. I know how

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<v Speaker 5>to cook a great meal on a very tiny budget.

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<v Speaker 5>And so I was like, well, okay, what was it.

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<v Speaker 5>Who cares well any meal? Like I just love cooking,

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<v Speaker 5>And you know, my first thought was like, so what,

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<v Speaker 5>That's not going to change your life. And then my

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<v Speaker 5>second thought was I'm going to do something crazy. So

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<v Speaker 5>I sent an email to all my friends in the

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<v Speaker 5>area and I said, again, I'm broke at this point,

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<v Speaker 5>and I'm like, Everyondnesday night, I'm going to feed people.

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<v Speaker 5>So if you know someone who's struggling financially, or maybe

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<v Speaker 5>an elderly personal lost their spout and they're lonely, I'm

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<v Speaker 5>going to feed people. And I went to the nine

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<v Speaker 5>nine cent store and literally spent like four bucks. I'm

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<v Speaker 5>like just pasta or whatever, and made this big meal.

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<v Speaker 5>And I get choked up every time I say this,

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<v Speaker 5>But that first Wednesday, I've fed over thirty people.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

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<v Speaker 5>And I just that was my turning point because I went, oh,

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<v Speaker 5>my gosh, I am feeling worthless. I feel like I

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<v Speaker 5>have nothing to offer. I shouldn't be here. And hear

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<v Speaker 5>these people the next day are emailing me and saying

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<v Speaker 5>I needed that night. I need a company. I need it.

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<v Speaker 5>Do you know what I mean? And then I went, well,

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<v Speaker 5>what else can I do? So just focusing on that

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<v Speaker 5>little thing. A lot of times we think my talents

0:23:52.320 --> 0:23:55.440
<v Speaker 5>aren't significant, my gifts don't matter, but like, take them

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<v Speaker 5>and do something with them, and all of a sudden

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<v Speaker 5>you're going to feel so empowered. So that's probably my

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<v Speaker 5>biggest piece of ice. Stop focusing on what you aren't

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<v Speaker 5>and what you can't do, and just find that little

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<v Speaker 5>bit of that you're confident in and do something great

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<v Speaker 5>with that. It'll give you, you know, it'll show you

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<v Speaker 5>how much you're worth and how much you matter.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow. That's so that's so hard, so inspiring, but so

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<v Speaker 1>hard because like you said, but even now, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like at times you wait for life to put something

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<v Speaker 1>in front of you, right, you're like, well, when I

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<v Speaker 1>get my big break, I'll then i'll know what to do.

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<v Speaker 1>So the fact that you're able to do that and

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<v Speaker 1>change your mindset while being in that place is truly inspiring.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope people really hang on to that. How did

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<v Speaker 1>no go ahead?

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<v Speaker 5>I was just gonna say, I feel like we waste

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<v Speaker 5>a lot of our life waiting for this or that

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<v Speaker 5>to happen. We start fully living our life, no question,

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<v Speaker 5>and no one's going to show up at your door

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<v Speaker 5>with like, here's a box of happy.

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<v Speaker 1>Life.

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<v Speaker 5>Doesn't know you exactly, It doesn't know you actly. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's because I mean, I'll even get frustrated,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, with you, because you'll be like, well, I

0:24:51.720 --> 0:24:53.399
<v Speaker 3>don't know why people want to come and listen to,

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<v Speaker 3>like to me, And I'm like, because people are learning

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<v Speaker 3>and they're they're getting great advice from you. So it's

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<v Speaker 3>like and then so I'm trying to tell them, like, hey,

0:25:00.359 --> 0:25:02.040
<v Speaker 3>you need to talk to this person to do more

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<v Speaker 3>speaking engagements, and I'm just like you, like, but I

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<v Speaker 3>can't force the person to do it.

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<v Speaker 5>No, we have to realize on our own how much

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<v Speaker 5>we actually have to offer.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And I think until you can realize that, that's

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<v Speaker 3>when you can actually tap into all those things, because

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<v Speaker 3>I can only Chris jenerate you so.

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<v Speaker 1>Far right, that's true. No, But I think that comes

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<v Speaker 1>that is a testament because that's how it is. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's about insecurity and about feeling good enough,

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<v Speaker 1>especially in something that you're not used to doing. Where

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<v Speaker 1>my former career of football and athletics, it's you start

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<v Speaker 1>from a young age. And it's again it's I say

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<v Speaker 1>this all the time. It's a it's a linear thing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's it's a tangible, it's on paper, what you

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<v Speaker 1>can do. What you're worth is there's a number right

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<v Speaker 1>there for it, you know. So so my whole life

0:25:44.760 --> 0:25:47.399
<v Speaker 1>I'm used to having that behind me of like what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm worth, and now into a brand new field life

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<v Speaker 1>without sports, I don't I don't have anything to show.

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<v Speaker 1>I have nothing behind me. It's like, hey, this is

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm good at. It's like, well, I played sports

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<v Speaker 1>my whole life. What do I have a show give?

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<v Speaker 2>But now you have.

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<v Speaker 1>No That's what I'm saying. Now it's just for me

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<v Speaker 1>to feel more confident. It's to build my resume up

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<v Speaker 1>on things instead of going straight to the top.

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<v Speaker 2>How do you build it when you don't start it?

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<v Speaker 1>Because of the things that were doing, people moving forward trying

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<v Speaker 1>to So how did you how did you get connected

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<v Speaker 1>with with Oprah? And and and you know, hirs was

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<v Speaker 1>it Oprah search for the Next TV Star and all that.

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<v Speaker 5>So that's an insane story. So I get remarried eventually,

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<v Speaker 5>and my husband's in grad school and I'm still broke,

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<v Speaker 5>so we don't even go on a honeymoon. I did

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<v Speaker 5>not marry for money the second time. And and so

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<v Speaker 5>like the day after our wedding, he's like, what do

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<v Speaker 5>you want to do? Like you have so much energy,

0:26:38.720 --> 0:26:40.760
<v Speaker 5>and you have so much passion, and you've just been

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<v Speaker 5>in survival mode, like just trying to keep these kids alive.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm here now. I want to support you. What do

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<v Speaker 5>you want to do? And so he handed me as

0:26:46.840 --> 0:26:48.800
<v Speaker 5>car keys and I drove around five hours and I

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<v Speaker 5>came back and I said, those Wednesday night dinners I

0:26:50.520 --> 0:26:52.480
<v Speaker 5>did for people saved my life. I literally feel like

0:26:52.480 --> 0:26:55.200
<v Speaker 5>they saved my life. And I'm even more passionate cooking now.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm going to make some cooking videos and put them

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<v Speaker 5>on YouTube, thinking nothing of it, and then somebody sees

0:27:00.720 --> 0:27:02.480
<v Speaker 5>one of the videos. This is like weeks after I

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<v Speaker 5>posted my first video, somebody sees it and sends me

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<v Speaker 5>an email and says, oh my gosh, I love your personality.

0:27:07.200 --> 0:27:08.880
<v Speaker 5>You should enter the Opra competition. I'm like, I don't

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<v Speaker 5>have a work in television. I have no idea where

0:27:10.160 --> 0:27:11.720
<v Speaker 5>you're talking about. So he sent me a link.

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<v Speaker 2>I knew who Oprah was.

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<v Speaker 5>I knew. I mean I grew up in Croatia.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh I'm Croatian.

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<v Speaker 5>No, you're not.

0:27:20.320 --> 0:27:23.800
<v Speaker 3>Barbarica Sokovich was my great grandma. My grandma was born

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<v Speaker 3>in Zagreb.

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<v Speaker 5>That's where I was born.

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<v Speaker 2>Really, Oh my god. Oh we had lost cousins. Got

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<v Speaker 2>to talk.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm actually going June fifteenth for three weeks. I take

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<v Speaker 5>my kids every.

0:27:34.280 --> 0:27:37.919
<v Speaker 2>Summer family did I still have cousins like my lost cousins.

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<v Speaker 5>With me June fifteenth. We'll grow We were.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually moving to a new house like that week. But okay,

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<v Speaker 2>any other time next year we'll go.

0:27:45.160 --> 0:27:48.720
<v Speaker 5>Okay, but anyway, and so, so yeah, obviously I knew Opros. Anyway,

0:27:48.760 --> 0:27:51.000
<v Speaker 5>I send in this sole audition tape thinking nothing of it,

0:27:51.400 --> 0:27:53.640
<v Speaker 5>and within a few days it was Mark Burnett's people

0:27:53.640 --> 0:27:56.240
<v Speaker 5>were producing the show. They call me, I go in,

0:27:56.320 --> 0:27:58.520
<v Speaker 5>I meet with him, blah blah blah. Eventually end up

0:27:58.600 --> 0:28:00.720
<v Speaker 5>on the reality show for Search for the Next to

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<v Speaker 5>the start. Ten people made it and still just like

0:28:03.359 --> 0:28:05.399
<v Speaker 5>in AWE can't even believe it's sure every week I'm

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<v Speaker 5>the one going home and end up winning the whole thing.

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<v Speaker 1>It was wow.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, but when you think this is this is

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<v Speaker 5>what I keep telling people, life can surprise you in

0:28:12.000 --> 0:28:14.320
<v Speaker 5>the worst of ways. I didn't expect to end up

0:28:14.480 --> 0:28:17.440
<v Speaker 5>divorced and broke and stressed and suicidal, right, but life

0:28:17.440 --> 0:28:19.280
<v Speaker 5>can surprise you in the best of ways. Because like

0:28:19.560 --> 0:28:22.840
<v Speaker 5>two years before, I'm hanging out with Oprah and she's

0:28:22.840 --> 0:28:24.600
<v Speaker 5>handing me a free car and a TV show. I'm

0:28:24.640 --> 0:28:26.679
<v Speaker 5>sleeping on the floor, do you know what I mean? Like,

0:28:26.800 --> 0:28:28.680
<v Speaker 5>life is so crazy.

0:28:28.359 --> 0:28:30.879
<v Speaker 3>And to that point too, it's there's so many times

0:28:30.960 --> 0:28:34.520
<v Speaker 3>when even in our situation, it's like I wouldn't go

0:28:34.600 --> 0:28:36.600
<v Speaker 3>back and change any of it because now look what

0:28:36.640 --> 0:28:38.480
<v Speaker 3>we're doing with it, Like you're able to have this

0:28:38.600 --> 0:28:42.360
<v Speaker 3>message and help people through it like we were. We

0:28:42.400 --> 0:28:44.920
<v Speaker 3>went through that because we are. I had this now

0:28:44.960 --> 0:28:48.200
<v Speaker 3>platform to be able to go out there and be

0:28:48.280 --> 0:28:51.360
<v Speaker 3>there for other people, like it's it's awesome and to you, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And to your point, Christina, you know, if you'd just

0:28:53.400 --> 0:28:56.040
<v Speaker 1>stayed in your misery and all that stuff, life wouldn't

0:28:56.280 --> 0:28:57.960
<v Speaker 1>have surprised you in the way that I did. It

0:28:58.040 --> 0:29:00.720
<v Speaker 1>was because you're doing those things. It's like karma in

0:29:00.760 --> 0:29:03.960
<v Speaker 1>a positive way, you know, like you were rewarded.

0:29:04.160 --> 0:29:08.280
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we were rewarded for sticking it out to help people,

0:29:08.520 --> 0:29:10.680
<v Speaker 3>you know, when you were rewarded for sticking that out

0:29:10.760 --> 0:29:12.720
<v Speaker 3>to now like how it's like it's okay because instead

0:29:12.760 --> 0:29:14.680
<v Speaker 3>of taking the easy run out.

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<v Speaker 5>I think one of the most dangerous things humans do

0:29:16.880 --> 0:29:18.960
<v Speaker 5>is they get passive and empathetic about their life, and

0:29:19.000 --> 0:29:20.360
<v Speaker 5>you just can't. You have to refuse. I'm going to

0:29:20.400 --> 0:29:23.000
<v Speaker 5>be proactive to stay feisty every single day.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh I love it. That's like you're just like my

0:29:26.800 --> 0:29:27.360
<v Speaker 2>love language.

0:29:27.440 --> 0:29:29.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's how Janet is. She doesn't know how to

0:29:29.880 --> 0:29:33.320
<v Speaker 1>not be productive. So I try to level her out, like, hey,

0:29:33.320 --> 0:29:35.280
<v Speaker 1>it's okay for us to like chill out for a minute.

0:29:35.400 --> 0:29:37.959
<v Speaker 1>No can't. She can't just ten things at once all

0:29:38.000 --> 0:29:38.280
<v Speaker 1>the time.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I just you know, I want to keep growing. Yeah,

0:29:40.240 --> 0:29:42.920
<v Speaker 3>you have to keep thinking things and creating. And you know,

0:29:43.040 --> 0:29:45.640
<v Speaker 3>it's like if I didn't create, you know, think like

0:29:45.680 --> 0:29:46.320
<v Speaker 3>the live stuff.

0:29:46.360 --> 0:29:46.520
<v Speaker 6>You know.

0:29:46.520 --> 0:29:48.080
<v Speaker 3>It's so we're doing too, Like there's so much you

0:29:48.120 --> 0:29:50.560
<v Speaker 3>can do from that. Are you writing a book too?

0:29:50.600 --> 0:29:51.280
<v Speaker 3>Or do you have a book out?

0:29:51.360 --> 0:29:52.040
<v Speaker 1>I wrote it.

0:29:52.040 --> 0:29:54.920
<v Speaker 5>It's coming out the beginning of twenty twenty. I just

0:29:55.000 --> 0:29:56.440
<v Speaker 5>I was just in New York yesterday meeting with my

0:29:56.480 --> 0:29:59.560
<v Speaker 5>publisher at Penguin. And it's called hold On, but Don't

0:29:59.600 --> 0:30:02.640
<v Speaker 5>Hold Still. Oh, and it's which is sort of my thing,

0:30:02.760 --> 0:30:04.680
<v Speaker 5>like hold on, you got this hang in there, but

0:30:04.720 --> 0:30:07.040
<v Speaker 5>do not hold still. Be proactive, keep moving forward.

0:30:07.080 --> 0:30:08.600
<v Speaker 1>How was that process for you writing book?

0:30:09.200 --> 0:30:11.360
<v Speaker 5>It was like labor and delivery, except they didn't hand

0:30:11.360 --> 0:30:14.320
<v Speaker 5>me a baby at dance. I was a kissed like

0:30:14.400 --> 0:30:18.960
<v Speaker 5>labor and deliver with thout an abidural because this is

0:30:19.000 --> 0:30:20.680
<v Speaker 5>my again. I grew up in Croatia and moved here

0:30:20.680 --> 0:30:25.920
<v Speaker 5>in high school, learned the English, learned the English. Yeah,

0:30:26.000 --> 0:30:28.160
<v Speaker 5>learned English as a teenager. Since I'm writing in a

0:30:28.200 --> 0:30:30.400
<v Speaker 5>second language, even though I've lived here now longer than

0:30:30.400 --> 0:30:33.280
<v Speaker 5>in Croatia, it's still like, so I was like feeling

0:30:33.320 --> 0:30:36.400
<v Speaker 5>a little inadequate and then freaking wrote it and I'm

0:30:36.440 --> 0:30:39.640
<v Speaker 5>proud of myself. Is your Yeah yep?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well you're gonna have to come Visitess in Nashville.

0:30:41.920 --> 0:30:44.600
<v Speaker 2>I will No, that's all, We're moving. I am coming

0:30:44.600 --> 0:30:47.280
<v Speaker 2>over to your house and I'm making you Croatian dinner.

0:30:47.320 --> 0:30:48.680
<v Speaker 5>Oh please tell me right now.

0:30:48.800 --> 0:30:50.520
<v Speaker 3>My grandma makes the best dumplings and then she does

0:30:50.560 --> 0:30:54.120
<v Speaker 3>this strtle too, like so good, and then you can

0:30:54.160 --> 0:30:55.920
<v Speaker 3>we can call them because her and her boyfriend Vlada,

0:30:56.040 --> 0:30:57.480
<v Speaker 3>they just speak croations to each other.

0:30:58.120 --> 0:30:58.239
<v Speaker 6>Know.

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<v Speaker 5>My older kids are Luke and Mateia and those are

0:31:01.040 --> 0:31:02.160
<v Speaker 5>really yeah.

0:31:02.240 --> 0:31:04.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think actually have a cousin named Luca, like

0:31:04.120 --> 0:31:06.160
<v Speaker 2>one of the like a second or Luca.

0:31:06.520 --> 0:31:08.360
<v Speaker 1>We need to get hurt can be a guest on

0:31:08.360 --> 0:31:09.240
<v Speaker 1>one of our live shows.

0:31:09.320 --> 0:31:11.720
<v Speaker 2>Yes, so we need to link up.

0:31:11.800 --> 0:31:13.240
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, doing it in Croatian.

0:31:14.600 --> 0:31:18.080
<v Speaker 3>All I know is so because I'm also German. So,

0:31:18.120 --> 0:31:21.080
<v Speaker 3>but because my grandma when they my grandma met my

0:31:21.120 --> 0:31:25.280
<v Speaker 3>grandpa in the speaking school like to speak English, so

0:31:25.520 --> 0:31:28.640
<v Speaker 3>he was learning English from Germany and then she was learning.

0:31:28.320 --> 0:31:29.480
<v Speaker 5>Way, have you been to Croatia?

0:31:30.000 --> 0:31:32.200
<v Speaker 3>I've never been, but I've wanted to go with my

0:31:32.280 --> 0:31:34.800
<v Speaker 3>grandma because it's it's beautiful, and I want to see

0:31:34.960 --> 0:31:38.280
<v Speaker 3>because she, you know, she she wants to show me

0:31:38.360 --> 0:31:41.160
<v Speaker 3>where you know, the bombings and her shelters, and you know,

0:31:41.240 --> 0:31:43.560
<v Speaker 3>she said she used to eat hay and like about

0:31:43.600 --> 0:31:46.480
<v Speaker 3>her whole story in Croatia. So I'm like, I really

0:31:46.560 --> 0:31:47.960
<v Speaker 3>want to go there and see it because I heard

0:31:47.960 --> 0:31:49.760
<v Speaker 3>it hurts beautiful, It's beautiful.

0:31:51.240 --> 0:31:52.760
<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, I'm going.

0:31:52.720 --> 0:31:55.200
<v Speaker 5>To be just posting pictures is to make you jealous,

0:31:55.240 --> 0:31:55.600
<v Speaker 5>just to make you.

0:31:55.600 --> 0:31:58.200
<v Speaker 1>Fe and join me, she wrote, and then she book

0:31:58.280 --> 0:32:00.080
<v Speaker 1>us a flight like the next day of it.

0:32:00.360 --> 0:32:01.400
<v Speaker 2>We just became best friends.

0:32:02.400 --> 0:32:03.200
<v Speaker 1>I'll easy there.

0:32:03.640 --> 0:32:05.840
<v Speaker 2>So what is okay? Obviously you know your divorce, that

0:32:05.880 --> 0:32:06.960
<v Speaker 2>you've been married now for how long?

0:32:07.840 --> 0:32:08.280
<v Speaker 5>Nine years?

0:32:08.360 --> 0:32:08.840
<v Speaker 2>Nine years?

0:32:08.960 --> 0:32:11.240
<v Speaker 3>What is what is one thing you learned from the

0:32:11.280 --> 0:32:12.880
<v Speaker 3>first now with your second?

0:32:13.200 --> 0:32:15.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, what did you learn from the first marriage that

0:32:15.880 --> 0:32:18.800
<v Speaker 1>you brought into your second one? I guess a learning tool.

0:32:21.440 --> 0:32:24.400
<v Speaker 5>This might be a weird answer, but to not allow

0:32:24.440 --> 0:32:27.160
<v Speaker 5>my insecurities to have as much power because they're not

0:32:27.240 --> 0:32:32.680
<v Speaker 5>qualified for the job. And I think a lot of

0:32:32.720 --> 0:32:34.880
<v Speaker 5>times we think about what we want more than what

0:32:34.920 --> 0:32:40.320
<v Speaker 5>we need. And also I think we get so caught

0:32:40.400 --> 0:32:43.680
<v Speaker 5>up in the romance and the love and like the feelings.

0:32:44.280 --> 0:32:46.640
<v Speaker 5>And I was so cynical after my first divorce. I

0:32:46.640 --> 0:32:48.920
<v Speaker 5>mean I literally was like, I wish I was a lesbian.

0:32:49.320 --> 0:32:52.200
<v Speaker 5>I am never going to lip girl. Yeah, I was

0:32:52.240 --> 0:32:55.640
<v Speaker 5>like men suck. And I was a waitress when you know,

0:32:55.640 --> 0:32:58.200
<v Speaker 5>when I was struggling, and these couples would come in

0:32:58.320 --> 0:33:00.840
<v Speaker 5>for like their tenth thirty ornithan of our and I'd

0:33:00.840 --> 0:33:02.720
<v Speaker 5>be like, they're just pretending they hate each other like

0:33:04.320 --> 0:33:07.160
<v Speaker 5>human being. And then when I met my current husband

0:33:07.280 --> 0:33:10.160
<v Speaker 5>and we you know, I started liking and everything. I

0:33:10.240 --> 0:33:12.840
<v Speaker 5>had those romantic feelings, but I kept asking myself, would

0:33:12.840 --> 0:33:15.680
<v Speaker 5>you go into business with this person? Because let's be honest,

0:33:15.680 --> 0:33:18.040
<v Speaker 5>I think sex is important. I think romance is important,

0:33:18.040 --> 0:33:20.840
<v Speaker 5>all of it, but so much of marriage, especially raising

0:33:20.920 --> 0:33:23.120
<v Speaker 5>kids and all that. It is a business. You're literally

0:33:23.200 --> 0:33:25.880
<v Speaker 5>running a business. And if you wouldn't trust to run

0:33:25.920 --> 0:33:28.800
<v Speaker 5>a business, or if if you don't you know, have

0:33:28.960 --> 0:33:32.400
<v Speaker 5>strengths that complement each other, whatever, then don't do it.

0:33:32.440 --> 0:33:33.720
<v Speaker 5>So I threw out it.

0:33:33.760 --> 0:33:34.800
<v Speaker 2>I know that's a weird, man.

0:33:35.400 --> 0:33:37.920
<v Speaker 5>I think it's very I'm romantic, but let's be honest,

0:33:38.000 --> 0:33:39.040
<v Speaker 5>like the day to day life.

0:33:39.160 --> 0:33:43.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's negotiating, it's compromising, it's setting boundary, it's figuring

0:33:43.560 --> 0:33:43.959
<v Speaker 1>all that out.

0:33:44.040 --> 0:33:46.120
<v Speaker 5>Absolutely, do you have the strengths that I don't do you?

0:33:46.240 --> 0:33:48.440
<v Speaker 5>And are you a good listener? And do you respect me?

0:33:48.960 --> 0:33:51.320
<v Speaker 5>And does my opinion matter? I mean all of it? Right?

0:33:51.400 --> 0:33:53.320
<v Speaker 3>Oh it's funny. Yeah, you just have my husband if

0:33:53.320 --> 0:33:55.080
<v Speaker 3>he was a good listener. Because the other day I

0:33:55.120 --> 0:33:56.840
<v Speaker 3>was telling him something. I go, I know, I said,

0:33:56.880 --> 0:33:58.640
<v Speaker 3>do you agree? And he goes, yeah, totally. He goes,

0:33:58.680 --> 0:33:59.960
<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry, Wait what did you say? I was like,

0:34:00.040 --> 0:34:03.440
<v Speaker 3>oh my god, you just agreed. It was just so

0:34:03.560 --> 0:34:10.600
<v Speaker 3>enamored with how beautiful you are. I just think that's funny.

0:34:10.760 --> 0:34:12.760
<v Speaker 3>What's one thing like in your marriage? Because I always

0:34:12.760 --> 0:34:15.600
<v Speaker 3>think it's you know, it's so easy to blame, Like

0:34:15.640 --> 0:34:18.440
<v Speaker 3>it's easy to blame my spouse for him doing something,

0:34:18.480 --> 0:34:20.319
<v Speaker 3>but it's so much harder to look at your look

0:34:20.320 --> 0:34:23.680
<v Speaker 3>at yourself in the mirror and evaluate yourself. So what's

0:34:23.719 --> 0:34:26.720
<v Speaker 3>one thing that you could do better as a spouse

0:34:26.760 --> 0:34:27.440
<v Speaker 3>and as a person.

0:34:27.600 --> 0:34:30.120
<v Speaker 5>I need to be way more patient. I tend to be.

0:34:30.640 --> 0:34:33.400
<v Speaker 5>It's it's interesting. I feel like sometimes our greatest weaknesses

0:34:33.400 --> 0:34:35.319
<v Speaker 5>are our greatest strengths. In others, it is like, I'm

0:34:35.360 --> 0:34:37.759
<v Speaker 5>impulsive and it's good because I put myself out there,

0:34:38.080 --> 0:34:40.560
<v Speaker 5>but I need to be way more patient and I

0:34:40.600 --> 0:34:43.960
<v Speaker 5>am a much bigger personality, and I think the bigger

0:34:43.960 --> 0:34:46.600
<v Speaker 5>personality in the relationship sometimes needs to like make sure

0:34:46.600 --> 0:34:48.919
<v Speaker 5>that the other person is being heard and seen because

0:34:48.920 --> 0:34:50.759
<v Speaker 5>it's so easy for us not to even realize, like,

0:34:50.880 --> 0:34:52.719
<v Speaker 5>wait a second, I'm kind of running the whole show

0:34:52.760 --> 0:34:55.600
<v Speaker 5>here and I didn't even consider like where are you?

0:34:55.640 --> 0:34:56.239
<v Speaker 5>Are you good?

0:34:56.840 --> 0:34:59.319
<v Speaker 1>You know? See? I think that's interesting because I feel like,

0:35:00.040 --> 0:35:04.360
<v Speaker 1>from a spectator of that personality, got you. I'm going

0:35:04.440 --> 0:35:07.120
<v Speaker 1>to speak for both of y'all. You guys are probably like, well,

0:35:07.120 --> 0:35:09.919
<v Speaker 1>they're not up to speed with me, that's their issue, Yes,

0:35:09.960 --> 0:35:11.839
<v Speaker 1>that they're not as fast as I am. When really

0:35:12.120 --> 0:35:14.520
<v Speaker 1>from a more understanding, empathetic place, it may be that

0:35:14.560 --> 0:35:16.640
<v Speaker 1>it's like maybe thank us, though for me, maybe yeah,

0:35:16.680 --> 0:35:18.439
<v Speaker 1>maybe I do need to take a step back and

0:35:18.680 --> 0:35:22.120
<v Speaker 1>you know, be on the same level as them, and

0:35:22.160 --> 0:35:22.640
<v Speaker 1>I start.

0:35:22.480 --> 0:35:25.520
<v Speaker 5>Making a conscious, conscious decision to like every day ask

0:35:25.640 --> 0:35:28.279
<v Speaker 5>my husband, hey, how are you doing? What do you need?

0:35:28.360 --> 0:35:30.399
<v Speaker 5>What can I do to like make your day better

0:35:30.960 --> 0:35:32.520
<v Speaker 5>because it's so easy for me to get caught up

0:35:32.560 --> 0:35:34.759
<v Speaker 5>and all my stuff and I'm so hyper and blah blah,

0:35:34.800 --> 0:35:37.520
<v Speaker 5>and I got kids. Just taking that moment to go,

0:35:37.960 --> 0:35:39.319
<v Speaker 5>is there anything I can do for you today? Like?

0:35:39.400 --> 0:35:40.400
<v Speaker 5>Is there anything you need?

0:35:40.640 --> 0:35:41.720
<v Speaker 2>That's a really good takeaway?

0:35:41.800 --> 0:35:45.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we actually do that for each other pretty often.

0:35:45.640 --> 0:35:48.319
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we need to check in more often. I think

0:35:48.400 --> 0:35:49.160
<v Speaker 2>that's kind of going.

0:35:49.520 --> 0:35:51.000
<v Speaker 5>Okay, Can I can I tell you something that my

0:35:51.080 --> 0:35:52.440
<v Speaker 5>husband I do every once in a while, that's like

0:35:52.800 --> 0:35:55.600
<v Speaker 5>the best thing ever. Please, So if he texts me

0:35:55.840 --> 0:35:58.040
<v Speaker 5>we started doing this before we were even married. If

0:35:58.040 --> 0:36:00.480
<v Speaker 5>he texts me and says, hey, this is Philip. Obviously

0:36:00.480 --> 0:36:01.880
<v Speaker 5>I know his number, right, But if he text me

0:36:01.880 --> 0:36:04.359
<v Speaker 5>and says that, then I know what's happening, and I'll

0:36:04.400 --> 0:36:06.719
<v Speaker 5>say oh hi, and he'll go So it was great

0:36:06.719 --> 0:36:07.879
<v Speaker 5>meeting you. Can I take on a date?

0:36:08.040 --> 0:36:10.200
<v Speaker 2>Oh super for us? No great idea?

0:36:10.360 --> 0:36:13.160
<v Speaker 5>No, we are. We we go to a place we've

0:36:13.239 --> 0:36:16.399
<v Speaker 5>never been and we completely play it up and then

0:36:16.400 --> 0:36:19.400
<v Speaker 5>at the end when you get all it feels like

0:36:19.440 --> 0:36:21.520
<v Speaker 5>the first time because you've played it up for like

0:36:21.680 --> 0:36:22.960
<v Speaker 5>two hours. Sorry, too cheesy.

0:36:23.280 --> 0:36:26.200
<v Speaker 3>No, super sweet would be really triggering. For us because

0:36:26.200 --> 0:36:28.520
<v Speaker 3>of our Oh oh oh, okay's super sweet.

0:36:28.680 --> 0:36:32.320
<v Speaker 2>But that's not trigger no, no, no, but it's super cute.

0:36:32.520 --> 0:36:35.920
<v Speaker 2>Would be super cute, Yeah, just not for us.

0:36:35.960 --> 0:36:38.200
<v Speaker 1>It wouldn't work for us. But no, it's a door

0:36:38.520 --> 0:36:38.840
<v Speaker 1>love that.

0:36:39.000 --> 0:36:39.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:36:39.520 --> 0:36:42.279
<v Speaker 1>Maybe one day, maybe one day we can make that work.

0:36:42.920 --> 0:36:46.160
<v Speaker 5>No, I don't think, maybe you think so scratch, let's

0:36:46.200 --> 0:36:47.600
<v Speaker 5>delete the whole part of the podcast.

0:36:48.280 --> 0:36:49.080
<v Speaker 2>It's good, it's good.

0:36:49.080 --> 0:36:49.480
<v Speaker 6>It's good.

0:36:50.440 --> 0:36:51.280
<v Speaker 1>That's our reality.

0:36:51.719 --> 0:36:53.440
<v Speaker 5>That's the things that we have to find out what

0:36:53.480 --> 0:36:56.560
<v Speaker 5>works for And that's really important too. Like every couple

0:36:56.600 --> 0:36:58.760
<v Speaker 5>is different, just like I always tell parents, like, parenting

0:36:58.800 --> 0:37:00.400
<v Speaker 5>is not a science. Will works for one kid, oh

0:37:00.440 --> 0:37:02.359
<v Speaker 5>one family won't work for you. You got to It's

0:37:02.360 --> 0:37:03.960
<v Speaker 5>not a science. It's an art. You gotta do it.

0:37:04.000 --> 0:37:06.160
<v Speaker 2>Paint your way, right, so you know what works for

0:37:06.200 --> 0:37:07.640
<v Speaker 2>your relationship A million percents.

0:37:07.640 --> 0:37:08.960
<v Speaker 1>Speaking the kids, there's one thing that's on.

0:37:09.440 --> 0:37:12.279
<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, wait, can I can I tell her about

0:37:12.280 --> 0:37:14.239
<v Speaker 3>the story about that one kid that I talked about

0:37:14.239 --> 0:37:18.200
<v Speaker 3>in a in a previous episode, So because this will

0:37:18.239 --> 0:37:23.000
<v Speaker 3>lead into your question. Okay, So my daughter was at

0:37:23.000 --> 0:37:25.440
<v Speaker 3>a playdate and this kid was kind of being obnoxious

0:37:25.480 --> 0:37:27.840
<v Speaker 3>and I walked in. He goes, no, parent's allowed, and

0:37:27.880 --> 0:37:30.359
<v Speaker 3>I was like, well, actually I am allowed because i'm

0:37:30.400 --> 0:37:32.160
<v Speaker 3>her parent, but I'm also her friend. And he goes,

0:37:32.360 --> 0:37:34.719
<v Speaker 3>you're not a friend. He's like and I said, yes

0:37:34.800 --> 0:37:36.400
<v Speaker 3>I am. And he goes, no, you're not a parent,

0:37:36.480 --> 0:37:39.160
<v Speaker 3>can't be a friend. And I said, well, I am

0:37:39.480 --> 0:37:42.040
<v Speaker 3>Jolie's friend and I'm also her parent, so I want to.

0:37:42.040 --> 0:37:44.680
<v Speaker 2>Be like sitting up for my Now I'm like, you brat, but.

0:37:45.280 --> 0:37:48.799
<v Speaker 3>And Jolie goes, yeah, my mom my friend, and I

0:37:48.840 --> 0:37:51.600
<v Speaker 3>said that's right, Jolie. It was like the cutest thing ever.

0:37:51.680 --> 0:37:53.799
<v Speaker 3>But then we read on your notes it said that

0:37:53.840 --> 0:37:55.279
<v Speaker 3>you don't think go ahead, Mike.

0:37:55.920 --> 0:37:58.399
<v Speaker 1>Uh yeah, you said. She says, she's totally cool having

0:37:58.440 --> 0:37:59.960
<v Speaker 1>your kids be mad at her because she's the parent

0:38:00.160 --> 0:38:00.520
<v Speaker 1>the friend.

0:38:00.880 --> 0:38:04.799
<v Speaker 5>So here's how I see it. It depends on how

0:38:04.800 --> 0:38:07.839
<v Speaker 5>you define friendship. Right. So for example, when I'm at

0:38:07.880 --> 0:38:10.120
<v Speaker 5>at my ex, I will not talk about it with

0:38:10.120 --> 0:38:11.880
<v Speaker 5>my kids. I will talk about with my girlfriends, but

0:38:12.000 --> 0:38:13.840
<v Speaker 5>not with my kids. I will not put you up boundaries.

0:38:13.920 --> 0:38:16.520
<v Speaker 5>Let's say we have financial difficult difculties. I don't think

0:38:16.560 --> 0:38:18.000
<v Speaker 5>a kid should carry that weight, you know, I mean,

0:38:18.040 --> 0:38:21.160
<v Speaker 5>so There's also I do not wipe my friend's butts.

0:38:21.200 --> 0:38:23.239
<v Speaker 5>If it was an emergency, I might take one for

0:38:23.320 --> 0:38:25.399
<v Speaker 5>the team, but usually I don't. So I do feel

0:38:25.400 --> 0:38:25.520
<v Speaker 5>like it.

0:38:25.560 --> 0:38:26.680
<v Speaker 2>Do you hold her hair back?

0:38:26.719 --> 0:38:29.640
<v Speaker 5>Though? Yes? Ok, But here's the main part of that.

0:38:29.800 --> 0:38:33.160
<v Speaker 5>I think a lot of parents it becomes very important

0:38:33.160 --> 0:38:35.279
<v Speaker 5>that their kid likes them at all times because our

0:38:35.320 --> 0:38:37.600
<v Speaker 5>friends we usually like each other. Right, It's a different

0:38:37.640 --> 0:38:40.480
<v Speaker 5>kind of relationship, and especially as your kids get older

0:38:40.480 --> 0:38:43.560
<v Speaker 5>and become preteens and teens, you have to become okay

0:38:43.600 --> 0:38:45.400
<v Speaker 5>with my kid doesn't like me one hundred percent of

0:38:45.400 --> 0:38:47.440
<v Speaker 5>the time, and that's okay. My job isn't to be

0:38:47.640 --> 0:38:49.919
<v Speaker 5>liked by them. My job is to raise decent, kind,

0:38:50.000 --> 0:38:52.080
<v Speaker 5>amazing human beings, do you know what I mean? And

0:38:52.120 --> 0:38:54.080
<v Speaker 5>so I think that's where it gets tricky. Are like, oh,

0:38:54.120 --> 0:38:55.759
<v Speaker 5>but she's my best friend and I want her to

0:38:55.880 --> 0:38:57.759
<v Speaker 5>like me, and so, okay, maybe I'll let her have this,

0:38:58.280 --> 0:39:00.239
<v Speaker 5>and then you end up raising an entitled kid. Doesn't

0:39:00.239 --> 0:39:01.200
<v Speaker 5>make sense, No, it does.

0:39:01.280 --> 0:39:03.640
<v Speaker 3>I think it's just about having healthy boundaries around yeah,

0:39:03.680 --> 0:39:04.080
<v Speaker 3>because the.

0:39:04.000 --> 0:39:05.840
<v Speaker 5>Way I say it is like, I'm not my kid's

0:39:05.840 --> 0:39:08.640
<v Speaker 5>best friend, but I am their ally. I'm the greatest cheerleader.

0:39:09.000 --> 0:39:11.040
<v Speaker 5>I believe they can talk to me about anything without

0:39:11.040 --> 0:39:13.319
<v Speaker 5>talking down at me. I believe they can come to

0:39:13.360 --> 0:39:14.759
<v Speaker 5>me with anything, you know what I mean.

0:39:15.280 --> 0:39:18.120
<v Speaker 3>I just still like personally saying that I am her.

0:39:18.320 --> 0:39:19.920
<v Speaker 3>I can be her friend, but I can also be

0:39:20.000 --> 0:39:22.959
<v Speaker 3>her mom and also discipline her and say that's okay.

0:39:23.000 --> 0:39:25.720
<v Speaker 3>Like sometimes I don't like my friend, yeah, because she's

0:39:25.840 --> 0:39:28.360
<v Speaker 3>telling me, she's calling me out, yeah, and that's okay.

0:39:28.520 --> 0:39:30.200
<v Speaker 3>She can still be my friend and I can still

0:39:30.239 --> 0:39:31.879
<v Speaker 3>be the mom. That's cause kind of how I looked

0:39:31.880 --> 0:39:33.600
<v Speaker 3>at it too, because it makes sense. Times when I

0:39:33.680 --> 0:39:34.440
<v Speaker 3>don't like my.

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<v Speaker 5>Friend, that makes sense. I see a lot of people,

0:39:37.719 --> 0:39:40.080
<v Speaker 5>though moms would just want to really be cool and

0:39:40.280 --> 0:39:42.680
<v Speaker 5>liked yeah, and then it just you end up with

0:39:42.760 --> 0:39:44.960
<v Speaker 5>kids you don't even want to hang out with when

0:39:44.960 --> 0:39:46.319
<v Speaker 5>they're adults, Like I want to raise the kind of

0:39:46.360 --> 0:39:48.239
<v Speaker 5>kids that actually enjoy hanging out with me.

0:39:49.400 --> 0:39:51.320
<v Speaker 2>Why we can enjoy it exactly.

0:39:51.600 --> 0:39:53.919
<v Speaker 1>I think that's a whole stigma around, that whole kind

0:39:53.920 --> 0:39:56.319
<v Speaker 1>of when people say one way or the other because

0:39:56.360 --> 0:39:58.160
<v Speaker 1>of that reason, there's so many parents out there that

0:39:58.600 --> 0:40:01.600
<v Speaker 1>it's the whole concept now, right when a kid gets

0:40:01.640 --> 0:40:03.879
<v Speaker 1>in trouble at school. They don't go to their kids

0:40:03.880 --> 0:40:05.040
<v Speaker 1>and say what'd you do wrong? They go to the

0:40:05.080 --> 0:40:06.799
<v Speaker 1>teacher and say, what'd you do wrong?

0:40:06.840 --> 0:40:09.040
<v Speaker 5>I have a problem with that. I mean seriously, Like,

0:40:09.200 --> 0:40:11.920
<v Speaker 5>I think too many parents are bailing their kids out.

0:40:12.080 --> 0:40:14.080
<v Speaker 5>Here's the thing. We're worried about what makes our kid

0:40:14.160 --> 0:40:16.560
<v Speaker 5>happy now instead of the long term? Right, And like

0:40:16.760 --> 0:40:19.040
<v Speaker 5>you have to think long term what life lesson are

0:40:19.040 --> 0:40:21.680
<v Speaker 5>there learning? Because our job is to raise them so

0:40:21.719 --> 0:40:24.280
<v Speaker 5>we can let them fly, right, And if we're constantly

0:40:24.360 --> 0:40:27.759
<v Speaker 5>rescuing them, they are not getting a realistic view of

0:40:27.760 --> 0:40:30.200
<v Speaker 5>what life is like. So you know, I make my

0:40:30.560 --> 0:40:33.239
<v Speaker 5>older two kids start doing their laundry at ten, and

0:40:33.680 --> 0:40:35.000
<v Speaker 5>some of my friends are like, they're only ten.

0:40:35.040 --> 0:40:36.839
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, really, only does our laundry now?

0:40:36.920 --> 0:40:37.440
<v Speaker 1>See this?

0:40:37.640 --> 0:40:39.920
<v Speaker 5>So you know how to press buttons on iPad? They

0:40:39.920 --> 0:40:41.200
<v Speaker 5>know how to press buttons on a wash.

0:40:41.320 --> 0:40:43.319
<v Speaker 3>But she she puts her clothes in the washer like

0:40:43.320 --> 0:40:44.160
<v Speaker 3>that is part of her thing.

0:40:44.239 --> 0:40:45.680
<v Speaker 2>Like, all right, Joel, it's time to do laundry.

0:40:45.760 --> 0:40:45.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:40:45.960 --> 0:40:48.560
<v Speaker 5>But I always think like happy now versus happy long term,

0:40:48.600 --> 0:40:51.279
<v Speaker 5>Like getting a PAP smear doesn't make me happy in

0:40:51.280 --> 0:40:53.560
<v Speaker 5>this moment, but in the long term, it's a good idea.

0:40:54.120 --> 0:40:57.359
<v Speaker 5>So like Kid's like so uncomfortable making this rule right now.

0:40:57.440 --> 0:40:58.840
<v Speaker 5>I know it won't make you happy, but in the

0:40:58.880 --> 0:41:01.000
<v Speaker 5>long term, you're gonna endup being a better human being

0:41:01.040 --> 0:41:01.640
<v Speaker 5>because of it.

0:41:01.640 --> 0:41:03.239
<v Speaker 1>No question. I think it just comes back to what

0:41:03.239 --> 0:41:04.840
<v Speaker 1>you said at the beginning. It's like, what's your definition

0:41:04.880 --> 0:41:06.839
<v Speaker 1>of friendship? Right? So for Jane and I, it's someone

0:41:06.880 --> 0:41:08.520
<v Speaker 1>who's going to call you on your someone who's got

0:41:08.520 --> 0:41:10.480
<v Speaker 1>your back no matter what. Someone who's gonna love you

0:41:10.520 --> 0:41:12.640
<v Speaker 1>but also be there to you know, steer you in

0:41:12.680 --> 0:41:15.319
<v Speaker 1>the right way. So you know, for us, we it

0:41:15.360 --> 0:41:17.440
<v Speaker 1>all depends on what exactly, and it depends on how

0:41:17.440 --> 0:41:19.400
<v Speaker 1>you to find it depends on what that means for

0:41:19.480 --> 0:41:22.160
<v Speaker 1>you personally. So but I always think it's interesting because

0:41:22.200 --> 0:41:24.960
<v Speaker 1>we have come across people that are very don't go

0:41:25.040 --> 0:41:27.160
<v Speaker 1>into the definition of friendship or very just like nope,

0:41:27.320 --> 0:41:29.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm the parent. If they want to talk about this,

0:41:29.400 --> 0:41:30.600
<v Speaker 1>then go to their friends and that.

0:41:30.680 --> 0:41:32.839
<v Speaker 5>And that that's actually really bad.

0:41:33.000 --> 0:41:34.560
<v Speaker 3>I think I think one of the most important I mean,

0:41:34.600 --> 0:41:35.799
<v Speaker 3>I got into a fight it was with like Boris

0:41:35.840 --> 0:41:38.080
<v Speaker 3>Kojo at our show. He was and I we end

0:41:38.200 --> 0:41:40.239
<v Speaker 3>up just I just kind of stopped talking because he

0:41:40.360 --> 0:41:42.200
<v Speaker 3>just was so strong in his opinion. And that's that's fine,

0:41:42.200 --> 0:41:43.920
<v Speaker 3>that's his opinion. But I have a different opinion. That's

0:41:43.960 --> 0:41:44.439
<v Speaker 3>okay too.

0:41:44.640 --> 0:41:47.960
<v Speaker 5>See the whole creating an and again I'm speaking of

0:41:48.040 --> 0:41:49.600
<v Speaker 5>someone who has an almost sixteen year old and a

0:41:49.600 --> 0:41:52.400
<v Speaker 5>fourteen year old. Creating an environment where your kids will

0:41:52.440 --> 0:41:53.920
<v Speaker 5>come and talk to you about anything and you will

0:41:53.920 --> 0:41:56.200
<v Speaker 5>never shut them down. So important, because here's a huge

0:41:56.239 --> 0:41:58.799
<v Speaker 5>Even young kids will come to us with uncomfortable questions

0:41:58.840 --> 0:42:00.279
<v Speaker 5>and we're like, oh my gosh, where did you hear that?

0:42:00.480 --> 0:42:02.319
<v Speaker 5>And if we say to them, we can't talk about that,

0:42:02.440 --> 0:42:04.480
<v Speaker 5>or we'll talk about it when you're older. If you

0:42:04.480 --> 0:42:07.759
<v Speaker 5>think that's going to stop them from asking to a friend,

0:42:07.800 --> 0:42:09.799
<v Speaker 5>they're gonna start asking somebody else. Yeah, and you don't

0:42:09.840 --> 0:42:11.960
<v Speaker 5>want them finding out from an eight year old who

0:42:11.960 --> 0:42:15.440
<v Speaker 5>has a teenage sister about sex, right right, So my

0:42:15.800 --> 0:42:18.440
<v Speaker 5>sixteen year old, I mean, he's a boy. He literally

0:42:18.480 --> 0:42:20.480
<v Speaker 5>tells me stuff that I'm like, I'm sitting there and

0:42:20.520 --> 0:42:22.719
<v Speaker 5>I act very You always got to act very like,

0:42:22.760 --> 0:42:24.520
<v Speaker 5>oh sure, yeah, let's talk about that. That's great.

0:42:24.719 --> 0:42:26.320
<v Speaker 1>In your head, you're like, what the Then.

0:42:26.160 --> 0:42:28.080
<v Speaker 5>You hide in the closet with a big cake and

0:42:28.120 --> 0:42:30.400
<v Speaker 5>a bottle of wine and you stress, eat and go

0:42:30.520 --> 0:42:32.000
<v Speaker 5>what the hell?

0:42:32.360 --> 0:42:32.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:42:33.000 --> 0:42:35.319
<v Speaker 5>In front of them, you're like, oh yeah, sure, let's

0:42:35.320 --> 0:42:35.880
<v Speaker 5>talk about that.

0:42:38.360 --> 0:42:41.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm scared of those days. I'm scared of those days.

0:42:41.080 --> 0:42:43.640
<v Speaker 1>But I can't wait to watch Janna squirm. She just

0:42:43.719 --> 0:42:45.799
<v Speaker 1>hates that uncomfortable confrontation.

0:42:46.400 --> 0:42:49.719
<v Speaker 5>Good teenagers are like, it's the hardest thing ever, But

0:42:49.800 --> 0:42:51.920
<v Speaker 5>I just keep reminding myself it's so much harder being

0:42:51.960 --> 0:42:54.160
<v Speaker 5>a teenager than parenting a teenager, and then all of

0:42:54.160 --> 0:42:56.000
<v Speaker 5>a sudden, you feel so much more grace. And also

0:42:56.000 --> 0:42:58.360
<v Speaker 5>there's something really cool about watching them turn into adults,

0:42:58.520 --> 0:43:01.040
<v Speaker 5>Like slowly they're not to you, but just going wow,

0:43:01.400 --> 0:43:03.400
<v Speaker 5>I understand her passions now. I mean, it's just it

0:43:03.440 --> 0:43:05.080
<v Speaker 5>makes me emotional. It's really cool.

0:43:05.239 --> 0:43:07.120
<v Speaker 1>Get a glimpse of who they're gonna end up being,

0:43:07.880 --> 0:43:09.360
<v Speaker 1>little personality traits or whatever.

0:43:09.440 --> 0:43:11.839
<v Speaker 3>Can we drink wine together? But yes, because I just

0:43:11.880 --> 0:43:13.839
<v Speaker 3>really like you. I love.

0:43:16.440 --> 0:43:16.800
<v Speaker 1>Everything.

0:43:17.760 --> 0:43:19.799
<v Speaker 3>Well, it's like the baby steps that start in Nashville first,

0:43:19.800 --> 0:43:22.160
<v Speaker 3>and then we'll go there. Okay, so where can our

0:43:22.160 --> 0:43:23.120
<v Speaker 3>listeners find you?

0:43:23.160 --> 0:43:25.919
<v Speaker 5>So I'm on Facebook and Instagram and Twitter, on YouTube.

0:43:25.960 --> 0:43:28.160
<v Speaker 5>It's all add Christina with a k k u z

0:43:28.480 --> 0:43:31.280
<v Speaker 5>m ic and then if you go to Christina acousmic

0:43:31.440 --> 0:43:33.640
<v Speaker 5>live dot com, all the cities for my tour are

0:43:33.680 --> 0:43:38.120
<v Speaker 5>listed there. You guys should come. It's a really fun parents.

0:43:38.360 --> 0:43:40.800
<v Speaker 2>Please is there? I'll look online after.

0:43:40.640 --> 0:43:43.120
<v Speaker 3>You know what I'm gonna call over be like Nashville. Oh,

0:43:43.200 --> 0:43:51.480
<v Speaker 3>please add the city? Yes, Risina Kuzmic. All right, I

0:43:51.520 --> 0:43:52.440
<v Speaker 3>really like her.

0:43:53.200 --> 0:43:54.200
<v Speaker 1>She was awesome.

0:43:54.880 --> 0:43:57.520
<v Speaker 3>She's just very chill and she has a you can

0:43:57.560 --> 0:43:58.680
<v Speaker 3>just tell she has a really good heart.

0:43:59.120 --> 0:44:02.200
<v Speaker 1>She has great energy and it's one of those things

0:44:02.200 --> 0:44:04.120
<v Speaker 1>where just being able to have the guests in studio

0:44:04.160 --> 0:44:06.359
<v Speaker 1>and being able to read off their energy is really

0:44:06.360 --> 0:44:08.400
<v Speaker 1>a benefit for us and getting to know them as

0:44:08.400 --> 0:44:11.600
<v Speaker 1>a person. And her story is truly inspirational to from

0:44:11.640 --> 0:44:15.560
<v Speaker 1>what she's been through and turn it into a successful brand. Yes,

0:44:15.719 --> 0:44:17.240
<v Speaker 1>she is is amazing.

0:44:17.560 --> 0:44:20.239
<v Speaker 3>I agree with you on that. Hey, Mark is a

0:44:20.360 --> 0:44:22.680
<v Speaker 3>special guest. When when when is he calling in?

0:44:23.600 --> 0:44:24.520
<v Speaker 1>How about ten minutes?

0:44:24.880 --> 0:44:25.399
<v Speaker 2>In ten minutes?

0:44:25.480 --> 0:44:29.120
<v Speaker 1>Got about ten minutes to play with here. I wasn't nervous,

0:44:29.120 --> 0:44:31.239
<v Speaker 1>but now I am. It's like a ticking clock. Who

0:44:31.280 --> 0:44:32.400
<v Speaker 1>could this possibly be?

0:44:32.760 --> 0:44:34.400
<v Speaker 2>Can I just ask? Can I do a couple of

0:44:34.480 --> 0:44:36.960
<v Speaker 2>yes or nose before he calls, and he can try

0:44:37.000 --> 0:44:37.360
<v Speaker 2>and get.

0:44:37.320 --> 0:44:38.759
<v Speaker 1>Ask you yes or no. Yeah, that'd be fun.

0:44:38.840 --> 0:44:41.480
<v Speaker 3>Okay, fine, thank you allow allow it? Okay, so you

0:44:41.520 --> 0:44:43.799
<v Speaker 3>get five, you get five some of them.

0:44:44.080 --> 0:44:45.880
<v Speaker 4>But what if he figures it out for before the

0:44:45.920 --> 0:44:48.320
<v Speaker 4>person calls. Then it kind of takes away the whole surprise,

0:44:48.360 --> 0:44:50.560
<v Speaker 4>doesn't Why.

0:44:51.280 --> 0:44:53.120
<v Speaker 1>You guys? I think obviously they haven't played games with

0:44:53.160 --> 0:44:57.719
<v Speaker 1>Jana yet. This is actually rolled one one or two,

0:44:57.840 --> 0:44:58.680
<v Speaker 1>not five three?

0:44:58.800 --> 0:44:59.960
<v Speaker 2>Okay, I'm crossing off two hands.

0:45:00.040 --> 0:45:01.560
<v Speaker 1>There you go, all right, but I don't now I

0:45:01.560 --> 0:45:02.160
<v Speaker 1>don't want to know.

0:45:02.640 --> 0:45:03.120
<v Speaker 2>Just guess.

0:45:03.160 --> 0:45:04.520
<v Speaker 1>Can I veto? Yes?

0:45:04.560 --> 0:45:06.440
<v Speaker 4>You can bet you like if I feel like the

0:45:06.480 --> 0:45:12.960
<v Speaker 4>answer will give it away too much? You answer no question, Yes,

0:45:13.680 --> 0:45:17.319
<v Speaker 4>that's one I'm down to too.

0:45:17.400 --> 0:45:19.759
<v Speaker 2>No, yes you are. I'm definitely crossing that off because

0:45:19.760 --> 0:45:21.279
<v Speaker 2>that was a question. Good you have Mark?

0:45:23.040 --> 0:45:26.080
<v Speaker 1>Is he an athlete? I'll allow it.

0:45:28.760 --> 0:45:30.479
<v Speaker 2>No, you got one more question?

0:45:31.360 --> 0:45:40.760
<v Speaker 1>I don't care. Thanks for coming to oneidde Is he tall?

0:45:44.920 --> 0:45:49.359
<v Speaker 1>Mark's gonna have to look up this person's actual height.

0:45:50.440 --> 0:45:51.680
<v Speaker 2>That's an I don't know.

0:45:53.800 --> 0:45:57.480
<v Speaker 1>And tall tall is is six two or taller?

0:45:57.520 --> 0:45:59.320
<v Speaker 2>Okay, then we're gonna have Mark answer this one.

0:46:00.080 --> 0:46:00.839
<v Speaker 1>He's not tall?

0:46:01.600 --> 0:46:07.560
<v Speaker 5>Oh deceiving. Oh this is so much fun.

0:46:07.600 --> 0:46:10.320
<v Speaker 1>I love he's a non athlete and he's not tall.

0:46:10.440 --> 0:46:14.160
<v Speaker 1>Nick Witard, Yeah sounds like Nick. I love you, Nick.

0:46:15.760 --> 0:46:18.919
<v Speaker 1>All right, Well, how about an email. We'll we wait

0:46:18.960 --> 0:46:20.120
<v Speaker 1>for the surprise.

0:46:20.880 --> 0:46:21.439
<v Speaker 5>That was fun.

0:46:21.520 --> 0:46:23.759
<v Speaker 2>I love games. Games are like my love language.

0:46:24.440 --> 0:46:26.440
<v Speaker 1>Actually, I have back to back Nicole's how do you

0:46:26.480 --> 0:46:27.080
<v Speaker 1>feel about that?

0:46:28.200 --> 0:46:28.480
<v Speaker 5>Great?

0:46:28.920 --> 0:46:31.000
<v Speaker 4>Aula is asking. She says, my fiance and I just

0:46:31.000 --> 0:46:33.239
<v Speaker 4>got engaged. We already lived together, so that won't be

0:46:33.320 --> 0:46:35.080
<v Speaker 4>a surprise, but I want to make sure we're stepping

0:46:35.080 --> 0:46:37.200
<v Speaker 4>into this on the right foot. What things do you

0:46:37.280 --> 0:46:39.239
<v Speaker 4>think are important for us to discuss and keep in

0:46:39.280 --> 0:46:41.319
<v Speaker 4>mind before marriage? Do you have any tips that could

0:46:41.360 --> 0:46:42.480
<v Speaker 4>help us start off things?

0:46:42.520 --> 0:46:46.160
<v Speaker 1>Well, hmmm, yeah.

0:46:46.280 --> 0:46:47.160
<v Speaker 2>Do you believe in therapy?

0:46:47.239 --> 0:46:49.600
<v Speaker 3>That's a huge one because I think if the guy

0:46:49.760 --> 0:46:52.040
<v Speaker 3>doesn't believe in therapy, if you guys run into issues,

0:46:52.120 --> 0:46:53.719
<v Speaker 3>that's going to be a real hard.

0:46:55.000 --> 0:46:55.879
<v Speaker 2>Thing to get over.

0:46:56.400 --> 0:46:59.160
<v Speaker 3>And that would be really frustrating because if you're because

0:46:59.160 --> 0:47:02.040
<v Speaker 3>there's a lot of guys I know, they would be like,

0:47:02.160 --> 0:47:05.480
<v Speaker 3>I don't believe in therapy, and that always makes me

0:47:05.560 --> 0:47:08.600
<v Speaker 3>kind of scratch my head. Like, I get why it

0:47:08.680 --> 0:47:11.040
<v Speaker 3>might be uncomfortable. All Marks over there do not believe

0:47:11.040 --> 0:47:11.480
<v Speaker 3>in therapy.

0:47:11.560 --> 0:47:12.520
<v Speaker 1>No, I'm not saying that at all.

0:47:12.560 --> 0:47:16.000
<v Speaker 4>I think that the average age that men get married at,

0:47:16.040 --> 0:47:18.480
<v Speaker 4>whether it's the maybe late twenties, those guys aren't ready

0:47:18.480 --> 0:47:20.480
<v Speaker 4>for therapy. I mean they are, like they don't know

0:47:20.520 --> 0:47:22.399
<v Speaker 4>they are, and they won't admit they are. They still

0:47:22.400 --> 0:47:24.200
<v Speaker 4>think they got the whole world figured out.

0:47:24.440 --> 0:47:27.800
<v Speaker 3>Right, but they should be open though, to having that conversation.

0:47:27.840 --> 0:47:29.879
<v Speaker 1>I don't yeh, I would have been at that age really, yeah,

0:47:29.880 --> 0:47:31.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't think so.

0:47:31.920 --> 0:47:32.640
<v Speaker 5>What about you, Bob?

0:47:33.160 --> 0:47:33.719
<v Speaker 1>What about me?

0:47:34.000 --> 0:47:38.640
<v Speaker 3>Like, would you have gone to therapy if things didn't

0:47:38.640 --> 0:47:39.359
<v Speaker 3>go hey wire?

0:47:40.880 --> 0:47:43.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? I think so you would have had that yeah,

0:47:43.560 --> 0:47:47.399
<v Speaker 1>because I enjoy talking stuff out. I mean I still

0:47:47.680 --> 0:47:49.680
<v Speaker 1>was felt like I had the world figured out, like

0:47:49.719 --> 0:47:53.239
<v Speaker 1>Mark said, But I've never been like opposed to it.

0:47:53.239 --> 0:47:56.520
<v Speaker 1>Even when we first met and got together, I was

0:47:56.719 --> 0:47:58.919
<v Speaker 1>on board. I'd never been to therapy.

0:47:58.560 --> 0:48:01.919
<v Speaker 3>Before because I threatened you with therapy, you either better

0:48:02.440 --> 0:48:03.440
<v Speaker 3>you better set here.

0:48:04.200 --> 0:48:06.160
<v Speaker 1>No. But and I think you know, people have the

0:48:06.160 --> 0:48:10.160
<v Speaker 1>misconception that they only need therapy when there's already problems agreed,

0:48:10.280 --> 0:48:11.280
<v Speaker 1>But that's not the case.

0:48:12.000 --> 0:48:12.600
<v Speaker 2>Totally agree.

0:48:12.840 --> 0:48:16.960
<v Speaker 1>You can avoid a lot of problems by being proactive

0:48:17.080 --> 0:48:19.440
<v Speaker 1>and going to therapy and having someone to talk to you,

0:48:19.520 --> 0:48:21.600
<v Speaker 1>and doesn't even have to be couple therapy. You can

0:48:21.600 --> 0:48:24.720
<v Speaker 1>avoid conflict in your relationship by going to individual therapy

0:48:25.120 --> 0:48:28.040
<v Speaker 1>and just learning more about yourself and then sharing that

0:48:28.080 --> 0:48:28.760
<v Speaker 1>with your partner.

0:48:30.000 --> 0:48:33.760
<v Speaker 3>Sidebar though, I kind of feel like sometimes though therapy

0:48:33.840 --> 0:48:37.440
<v Speaker 3>has then made their relationship like more arguments, Like there

0:48:37.480 --> 0:48:38.120
<v Speaker 3>there was this one.

0:48:38.000 --> 0:48:39.960
<v Speaker 1>Theory it depends on your therapy where I'm.

0:48:39.760 --> 0:48:41.919
<v Speaker 3>Just like, are you trying to make us fight right now?

0:48:42.880 --> 0:48:46.040
<v Speaker 3>You know, like we we left, now we're leaving worse

0:48:46.080 --> 0:48:47.400
<v Speaker 3>off in her mind, she's.

0:48:47.280 --> 0:48:49.360
<v Speaker 1>Like she's bringing issues at the surface that need to

0:48:49.360 --> 0:48:50.120
<v Speaker 1>come out at some point.

0:48:50.200 --> 0:48:51.360
<v Speaker 2>But then she's like, I don't know if this is

0:48:51.360 --> 0:48:51.799
<v Speaker 2>going to work.

0:48:52.680 --> 0:48:53.160
<v Speaker 5>I don't know.

0:48:53.320 --> 0:48:55.200
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, that's the thing. You got to find

0:48:55.200 --> 0:48:56.000
<v Speaker 1>a good therapist.

0:48:56.640 --> 0:49:02.200
<v Speaker 3>I would if you're fiance is open and is intact

0:49:02.280 --> 0:49:04.160
<v Speaker 3>with his feelings, I would like to know how he

0:49:04.239 --> 0:49:08.320
<v Speaker 3>deals with issues. So I think that could really cause

0:49:08.480 --> 0:49:09.800
<v Speaker 3>an interesting ripple.

0:49:09.840 --> 0:49:11.799
<v Speaker 1>And how does she deal with issues? Well?

0:49:11.840 --> 0:49:14.640
<v Speaker 3>Same like to talk about that, right, yeah, so like

0:49:15.280 --> 0:49:17.440
<v Speaker 3>and to approach the closes off. It's like, how to

0:49:17.480 --> 0:49:19.919
<v Speaker 3>help me when I'm in that situation or what would

0:49:19.960 --> 0:49:23.000
<v Speaker 3>be good Like if she's the kind of person that

0:49:23.000 --> 0:49:25.839
<v Speaker 3>doesn't want to have confrontation and needs a minute him

0:49:26.200 --> 0:49:27.600
<v Speaker 3>going after her, I mean like, well talk to me,

0:49:27.640 --> 0:49:29.000
<v Speaker 3>talk to me, talk to me, Like that's just going

0:49:29.080 --> 0:49:30.759
<v Speaker 3>to cause an argument, right, So maybe they need a

0:49:30.760 --> 0:49:32.960
<v Speaker 3>cool like how do they deal with confrontation and how

0:49:32.960 --> 0:49:34.239
<v Speaker 3>do they deal with which is just a.

0:49:34.239 --> 0:49:37.399
<v Speaker 1>Part of learning each other as you grow in your relationship, but.

0:49:37.400 --> 0:49:40.000
<v Speaker 3>That might be important for us to discuss to keep

0:49:40.000 --> 0:49:45.480
<v Speaker 3>in mind before marriage. That's a question, right, Yeah, how

0:49:45.520 --> 0:49:46.240
<v Speaker 3>they deal with kids?

0:49:47.360 --> 0:49:47.720
<v Speaker 2>Parenting?

0:49:47.840 --> 0:49:52.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, religion, parenting style and kids all that.

0:49:52.800 --> 0:49:53.200
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:49:53.320 --> 0:49:55.279
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I'm baffled by people have been married for years

0:49:55.280 --> 0:49:57.879
<v Speaker 4>and realize the other person doesn't want kids the same

0:49:57.920 --> 0:49:59.719
<v Speaker 4>way they do, or more or less or not at all.

0:49:59.719 --> 0:50:02.040
<v Speaker 1>That you do need to discuss that ahead of time.

0:50:02.080 --> 0:50:02.880
<v Speaker 2>Well here's the problem.

0:50:02.880 --> 0:50:07.000
<v Speaker 3>So I can't say her name, but someone has been

0:50:07.120 --> 0:50:10.040
<v Speaker 3>dating someone for a really long time, and she knew

0:50:10.040 --> 0:50:12.640
<v Speaker 3>in the beginning that he didn't want kids. But now

0:50:12.680 --> 0:50:15.560
<v Speaker 3>it's been eight years and she's and he still doesn't.

0:50:15.600 --> 0:50:17.520
<v Speaker 3>But she's like, I just thought that maybe i'd get

0:50:17.600 --> 0:50:20.239
<v Speaker 3>him there. But it's like, but you knew, I.

0:50:20.239 --> 0:50:22.680
<v Speaker 1>Mean, woman out there doesn't think they can change a man.

0:50:24.000 --> 0:50:26.319
<v Speaker 2>There, I mean, yes, most of them can.

0:50:26.880 --> 0:50:31.879
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, absolutely, there's no question. I don't blame you guys

0:50:31.880 --> 0:50:34.560
<v Speaker 1>for having those thoughts. Yeah, it's true, because but I

0:50:34.560 --> 0:50:36.000
<v Speaker 1>think it's a similar thing young guys.

0:50:36.160 --> 0:50:37.879
<v Speaker 4>Oh, I don't care. I'm just gonna you know, I'm

0:50:37.880 --> 0:50:39.480
<v Speaker 4>living the party, laughing and having fun. But then as

0:50:39.480 --> 0:50:41.120
<v Speaker 4>you get older, you know, we have our own version

0:50:41.160 --> 0:50:43.160
<v Speaker 4>of a biological clock, you do start to think about

0:50:43.160 --> 0:50:43.680
<v Speaker 4>that stuff.

0:50:43.719 --> 0:50:45.080
<v Speaker 1>So I could see that changing.

0:50:45.760 --> 0:50:47.680
<v Speaker 4>But of course, I mean, I think Michael and I

0:50:47.680 --> 0:50:49.760
<v Speaker 4>would agree we're both better people because of our wives.

0:50:49.800 --> 0:50:53.799
<v Speaker 1>There's no question I would be a train wreck.

0:50:55.160 --> 0:50:56.160
<v Speaker 2>You know you wouldn't.

0:50:56.320 --> 0:50:57.920
<v Speaker 3>It would have just like if we would have ended

0:50:58.000 --> 0:51:00.080
<v Speaker 3>up getting divorced, I think you would have just it

0:51:00.120 --> 0:51:02.680
<v Speaker 3>would have taken you another five to six years to

0:51:02.840 --> 0:51:04.680
<v Speaker 3>clean up shop.

0:51:06.360 --> 0:51:10.840
<v Speaker 1>Maybe post our relationship, like post divorce. Yeah, here's the

0:51:10.840 --> 0:51:12.840
<v Speaker 1>fun game, guys. Let's talk about what would happen if

0:51:12.920 --> 0:51:14.960
<v Speaker 1>Jane and I did get divorced.

0:51:17.000 --> 0:51:19.160
<v Speaker 3>Like I just or or even if like we never met,

0:51:19.239 --> 0:51:22.319
<v Speaker 3>like I think like you needed you, you might have

0:51:22.440 --> 0:51:24.120
<v Speaker 3>married someone like maybe one of.

0:51:24.040 --> 0:51:26.680
<v Speaker 1>Your if we never if we never met, it definitely

0:51:26.680 --> 0:51:28.960
<v Speaker 1>would have been train wreck. Yeah, I don't know. It

0:51:29.000 --> 0:51:30.640
<v Speaker 1>would have been a long time since I was able

0:51:30.640 --> 0:51:31.400
<v Speaker 1>to settle down.

0:51:31.400 --> 0:51:32.880
<v Speaker 3>Or I would have Maybe the type of girl you

0:51:32.960 --> 0:51:34.960
<v Speaker 3>might have ended up picking might not have been.

0:51:35.239 --> 0:51:37.000
<v Speaker 1>The one I should the kind of girl I should

0:51:37.000 --> 0:51:37.480
<v Speaker 1>be with, or.

0:51:37.440 --> 0:51:39.799
<v Speaker 2>That would like stay to help you through it.

0:51:39.840 --> 0:51:41.359
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Maybe who knows?

0:51:41.400 --> 0:51:45.200
<v Speaker 2>Who knows? I would be in? Where would I be?

0:51:46.360 --> 0:51:47.240
<v Speaker 2>I'd be in Georgia?

0:51:47.840 --> 0:51:48.360
<v Speaker 1>Who knows?

0:51:49.000 --> 0:51:50.640
<v Speaker 5>Who knows? Well?

0:51:50.640 --> 0:51:52.840
<v Speaker 4>This transitions right well into the next Nicole's email, and

0:51:52.880 --> 0:51:54.680
<v Speaker 4>I'm sorry you don't have this one, but it's just

0:51:54.719 --> 0:51:55.560
<v Speaker 4>real quickly.

0:51:55.360 --> 0:51:55.640
<v Speaker 5>I have it.

0:51:56.320 --> 0:51:57.359
<v Speaker 1>No, that's anonymous.

0:51:57.560 --> 0:51:58.799
<v Speaker 2>Oh, anonymous, I don't have it.

0:51:59.080 --> 0:52:00.319
<v Speaker 1>I don't have it. I have it for here.

0:52:00.440 --> 0:52:05.160
<v Speaker 4>Okay, but basically a nutshell married six years, two beautiful girls.

0:52:05.400 --> 0:52:07.319
<v Speaker 4>How do you deal with wanting another child but your

0:52:07.320 --> 0:52:09.600
<v Speaker 4>spouse says they're done. My husband says he does, he's

0:52:09.640 --> 0:52:12.279
<v Speaker 4>Donnie doesn't want anymore. I absolutely want one more child.

0:52:12.320 --> 0:52:13.759
<v Speaker 4>He will not even entertain the thought. How do you

0:52:13.800 --> 0:52:15.960
<v Speaker 4>get over that feeling? Or how do you talk him

0:52:16.000 --> 0:52:16.319
<v Speaker 4>into it?

0:52:16.680 --> 0:52:19.480
<v Speaker 3>I think she needs to have a very deep conversation

0:52:19.560 --> 0:52:23.919
<v Speaker 3>with him and say, hey, like, I truly want another kid.

0:52:24.160 --> 0:52:28.279
<v Speaker 3>I feel like I might hold resentment if we don't

0:52:28.280 --> 0:52:31.239
<v Speaker 3>have another one, okay, And I think because if she

0:52:31.280 --> 0:52:33.919
<v Speaker 3>doesn't have that conversation, she is going to resent him

0:52:34.000 --> 0:52:36.680
<v Speaker 3>for the fact that she wanted another one, okay, and

0:52:36.840 --> 0:52:38.520
<v Speaker 3>he can then say, I will resent you.

0:52:38.719 --> 0:52:41.880
<v Speaker 1>I was a devil's advocate. I'm him in this situation.

0:52:42.320 --> 0:52:44.240
<v Speaker 1>I want to have a deep conversation with you, Honey.

0:52:44.719 --> 0:52:46.680
<v Speaker 1>It's really important to me that we don't have another

0:52:46.800 --> 0:52:50.120
<v Speaker 1>kid because I don't want to be raising any more

0:52:50.200 --> 0:52:53.920
<v Speaker 1>kids until we're, however old, and I still want us

0:52:53.960 --> 0:52:56.120
<v Speaker 1>to have our time in our life. And I will

0:52:56.120 --> 0:52:59.080
<v Speaker 1>resent you, surreal, Well, you and I already done.

0:52:59.320 --> 0:53:01.799
<v Speaker 2>But I don't know though he got a sect.

0:53:04.840 --> 0:53:06.319
<v Speaker 1>Kind of matters very much.

0:53:06.360 --> 0:53:08.960
<v Speaker 3>Matters, doesn't like Jason's sitting up now like I want

0:53:08.960 --> 0:53:09.680
<v Speaker 3>another baby.

0:53:10.760 --> 0:53:15.440
<v Speaker 1>It's not happening. Is this from you?

0:53:15.440 --> 0:53:18.000
<v Speaker 4>You said maybe the time to say that would have

0:53:18.000 --> 0:53:19.040
<v Speaker 4>been pre vasectomy.

0:53:19.880 --> 0:53:22.200
<v Speaker 2>Well right now I'm saying this.

0:53:22.239 --> 0:53:25.680
<v Speaker 1>Okay, get it temporary vasectomy. We'll figure it out later.

0:53:26.520 --> 0:53:30.799
<v Speaker 3>She's I don't know, Nicole, that's tough maybe.

0:53:29.840 --> 0:53:32.120
<v Speaker 1>But no, I think it's a good question though, because

0:53:32.600 --> 0:53:36.279
<v Speaker 1>how how do you determine if both people are that way,

0:53:36.360 --> 0:53:40.239
<v Speaker 1>both people are like, look, I will resent you or

0:53:40.280 --> 0:53:42.960
<v Speaker 1>I'll feel a lot of resentment if you forced me

0:53:43.120 --> 0:53:46.000
<v Speaker 1>your way or I force you my way. I mean,

0:53:46.040 --> 0:53:47.000
<v Speaker 1>how do you know what's right?

0:53:47.880 --> 0:53:50.359
<v Speaker 3>Well, if it depends how strong you feel about it,

0:53:50.400 --> 0:53:52.600
<v Speaker 3>because I mean, look at our one friend, for example,

0:53:52.760 --> 0:53:55.280
<v Speaker 3>she wanted a baby. She was married for ten years.

0:53:55.520 --> 0:53:57.640
<v Speaker 3>He said, I do not want to have kids. She

0:53:57.719 --> 0:53:58.359
<v Speaker 3>divorced them.

0:53:58.640 --> 0:54:01.759
<v Speaker 1>Right, that's that's a baby. They have two, right, So

0:54:01.800 --> 0:54:04.359
<v Speaker 1>you can make arguments for each where for her it's

0:54:04.400 --> 0:54:07.399
<v Speaker 1>like he can say, honey, we have two beautiful kids. Yeah,

0:54:07.440 --> 0:54:10.480
<v Speaker 1>why do you what inside of you makes you want

0:54:10.520 --> 0:54:11.080
<v Speaker 1>to have a third?

0:54:12.000 --> 0:54:12.239
<v Speaker 6>You know?

0:54:12.320 --> 0:54:14.080
<v Speaker 1>And then she can kind of say the same thing

0:54:14.080 --> 0:54:15.279
<v Speaker 1>back to then, like we already have two.

0:54:15.880 --> 0:54:18.320
<v Speaker 3>It's so hard though, like for the one like Jason's

0:54:18.360 --> 0:54:21.240
<v Speaker 3>sitting up, babe, he's not a baby anymore.

0:54:21.400 --> 0:54:25.879
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Jana said a while back, she was like one day,

0:54:26.320 --> 0:54:27.719
<v Speaker 1>or I said in the car. I was like, yeah,

0:54:27.719 --> 0:54:29.080
<v Speaker 1>one day, We're not even gonna have a crib in

0:54:29.120 --> 0:54:33.040
<v Speaker 1>the house. She's like what, she was like, what do

0:54:33.080 --> 0:54:33.279
<v Speaker 1>you mean?

0:54:33.560 --> 0:54:33.759
<v Speaker 2>Jason?

0:54:33.840 --> 0:54:36.040
<v Speaker 1>And girl, she's like, I don't know if I can

0:54:36.040 --> 0:54:37.560
<v Speaker 1>handle that. I'm like, well, that's kind of the whole point.

0:54:37.640 --> 0:54:38.719
<v Speaker 1>It's for kids to grow up.

0:54:39.560 --> 0:54:42.080
<v Speaker 3>But then we can adopt or have another one. We

0:54:42.080 --> 0:54:44.120
<v Speaker 3>can just like you need a lot of your reseectomy,

0:54:44.600 --> 0:54:45.040
<v Speaker 3>you know, for.

0:54:45.120 --> 0:54:48.279
<v Speaker 1>Me, And you may call it selfish. We have one

0:54:48.320 --> 0:54:51.520
<v Speaker 1>of each and a third. When I just think about

0:54:51.560 --> 0:54:54.799
<v Speaker 1>when they're all in school and they all have extracurricular activities,

0:54:54.920 --> 0:54:57.560
<v Speaker 1>they have sports, they have recitals and all that, we

0:54:57.640 --> 0:55:01.560
<v Speaker 1>will never have time for ourselves with three kids. This

0:55:01.640 --> 0:55:02.240
<v Speaker 1>is my world.

0:55:02.320 --> 0:55:05.000
<v Speaker 3>So here's my fear. And this might be an irrational fear.

0:55:05.160 --> 0:55:07.600
<v Speaker 3>I'm afraid that when all the kids move out that

0:55:07.800 --> 0:55:10.120
<v Speaker 3>maybe you won't like me anymore, so there wouldn't be

0:55:10.160 --> 0:55:11.600
<v Speaker 3>like there's going to be all this that's.

0:55:11.480 --> 0:55:12.720
<v Speaker 1>Right, I'm using you for our kids.

0:55:12.960 --> 0:55:15.600
<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, I mean, like, you know, because we're going

0:55:15.680 --> 0:55:17.640
<v Speaker 3>to be so busy the next how many years their

0:55:17.680 --> 0:55:20.080
<v Speaker 3>kids and the activities and everything going on, that when

0:55:20.080 --> 0:55:22.000
<v Speaker 3>it's quiet and there isn't a kid in the house,

0:55:22.760 --> 0:55:24.200
<v Speaker 3>are you going to like the person next to you?

0:55:24.640 --> 0:55:27.440
<v Speaker 1>For sure? And to speak on that, but.

0:55:27.400 --> 0:55:28.800
<v Speaker 2>I think a lot of people have that weird.

0:55:28.960 --> 0:55:31.560
<v Speaker 1>Oh, it's all the emptys emptyness syndrome.

0:55:32.960 --> 0:55:35.319
<v Speaker 3>I mean it's because maybe they don't really like because

0:55:35.480 --> 0:55:37.040
<v Speaker 3>a lot of people just stay together because their kids,

0:55:37.080 --> 0:55:38.280
<v Speaker 3>and it's like do I even like my husband?

0:55:38.320 --> 0:55:38.960
<v Speaker 5>That's possible.

0:55:38.960 --> 0:55:41.479
<v Speaker 1>Well, and that's that's what we do all the work

0:55:41.600 --> 0:55:43.360
<v Speaker 1>the way, thanks Anny, we do all the work that

0:55:43.400 --> 0:55:45.920
<v Speaker 1>we do kind of also in preparation that where we

0:55:45.960 --> 0:55:48.200
<v Speaker 1>don't just pass each other, which a lot of people

0:55:48.560 --> 0:55:51.439
<v Speaker 1>get sucked into, understandably, so we even get we even

0:55:51.480 --> 0:55:52.840
<v Speaker 1>see where we go a couple of days, right, like

0:55:52.880 --> 0:55:55.600
<v Speaker 1>holy crap, like we haven't really talked or connected. Let's

0:55:56.080 --> 0:55:59.240
<v Speaker 1>make that intentional time. So we're doing our work now

0:55:59.640 --> 0:56:02.520
<v Speaker 1>and mention of that. And then also for me, from

0:56:02.560 --> 0:56:05.920
<v Speaker 1>a selfish mindset, I'm looking forward to those days because

0:56:06.000 --> 0:56:07.919
<v Speaker 1>that's kind of another reason I don't want a third.

0:56:08.000 --> 0:56:10.160
<v Speaker 1>So you and I are still at a decent age

0:56:10.200 --> 0:56:13.520
<v Speaker 1>to go do stuff together, to go travel, to hang out,

0:56:13.600 --> 0:56:16.359
<v Speaker 1>to do stuff for us again, like that's gonna be

0:56:16.400 --> 0:56:17.160
<v Speaker 1>so much fun.

0:56:17.560 --> 0:56:19.640
<v Speaker 2>The kids are in school, they still want me, Like

0:56:19.680 --> 0:56:21.680
<v Speaker 2>I feel like there might I feel like you would

0:56:21.680 --> 0:56:24.120
<v Speaker 2>want to like trade up like younger or something or

0:56:24.320 --> 0:56:28.160
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, like I feel like you wouldn't a

0:56:28.200 --> 0:56:31.880
<v Speaker 2>younger version, suir. No, I guess it's just like a

0:56:31.920 --> 0:56:34.000
<v Speaker 2>weird Maybe I don't know, Maybe I'm alone in that,

0:56:34.040 --> 0:56:35.600
<v Speaker 2>maybe other women feel the same thing, but.

0:56:35.680 --> 0:56:39.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm sure I'm sure male and female people might feel

0:56:39.080 --> 0:56:41.680
<v Speaker 1>that way. But like and for me, like think about

0:56:41.680 --> 0:56:43.440
<v Speaker 1>when we went for our anniversary, right, we went to

0:56:43.480 --> 0:56:44.920
<v Speaker 1>Nobu and then we just sat in the back of

0:56:44.960 --> 0:56:47.960
<v Speaker 1>my truck at the beach in Malibu, and that didn't

0:56:47.960 --> 0:56:49.640
<v Speaker 1>go according to plan, but it was just cool. We

0:56:49.680 --> 0:56:52.960
<v Speaker 1>just hung out. Yeah, we laid there. We got there

0:56:53.000 --> 0:56:55.799
<v Speaker 1>too early. We had like two hours till sunset. It

0:56:55.880 --> 0:56:59.920
<v Speaker 1>was like a hurricane wind ten out and it was

0:57:00.200 --> 0:57:02.040
<v Speaker 1>so we had to lay like bunker it in the

0:57:02.040 --> 0:57:04.200
<v Speaker 1>back of my truck, like to get out of the wind.

0:57:04.239 --> 0:57:06.120
<v Speaker 1>But we just laid there and hung out. And how

0:57:06.200 --> 0:57:08.120
<v Speaker 1>much fun did we have? We laughed, we'd played get

0:57:08.200 --> 0:57:12.000
<v Speaker 1>like it was fun. And we focus on twenty thirty nine, right,

0:57:12.120 --> 0:57:14.839
<v Speaker 1>that's true. Focus on today. We have a long even

0:57:14.840 --> 0:57:17.680
<v Speaker 1>though today even though it goes fast, it goes fast.

0:57:17.720 --> 0:57:19.720
<v Speaker 1>Anyone with older kids, like you know more can say

0:57:19.720 --> 0:57:22.720
<v Speaker 1>it goes so fast. Enjoy every member. Right, we still

0:57:22.720 --> 0:57:25.280
<v Speaker 1>have a long time. We have eighteen years.

0:57:25.880 --> 0:57:27.720
<v Speaker 2>So that's what I'm saying. You've eighteen years to like

0:57:27.840 --> 0:57:29.680
<v Speaker 2>not like me, foor, I.

0:57:29.600 --> 0:57:31.760
<v Speaker 1>Have eighteen years to fall even more in love with

0:57:31.840 --> 0:57:33.120
<v Speaker 1>you and like you that much more.

0:57:33.360 --> 0:57:35.960
<v Speaker 3>Thanks babe, class half full kind of guy for here.

0:57:36.320 --> 0:57:37.919
<v Speaker 3>And I'm like, watch the world burn.

0:57:38.040 --> 0:57:40.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, pessimism.

0:57:41.160 --> 0:57:43.040
<v Speaker 3>I'm are you guys ready for the special guest? Because

0:57:43.040 --> 0:57:46.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm so excited I don't know if I'm special guest?

0:57:48.240 --> 0:57:48.479
<v Speaker 1>Hello?

0:57:48.960 --> 0:57:54.880
<v Speaker 3>Hello, Hey, So you have Jana and Mike and thank

0:57:54.880 --> 0:57:56.280
<v Speaker 3>you so much for calling in. So can I just

0:57:56.320 --> 0:57:58.840
<v Speaker 3>play quick little game with you? Because my husband doesn't

0:57:58.840 --> 0:58:02.160
<v Speaker 3>know who who you you are right in this moment?

0:58:02.160 --> 0:58:02.640
<v Speaker 2>He will know?

0:58:03.240 --> 0:58:06.280
<v Speaker 3>But can we play the yes or no game? Because

0:58:06.280 --> 0:58:09.000
<v Speaker 3>he's he's actually obsessed with you, and so the fact

0:58:09.000 --> 0:58:12.280
<v Speaker 3>that he doesn't know right now isn't Michael? You get

0:58:12.280 --> 0:58:16.520
<v Speaker 3>You get three guesses okay, yes, yes or no?

0:58:16.600 --> 0:58:17.880
<v Speaker 2>And he has to he has to answer.

0:58:19.360 --> 0:58:25.920
<v Speaker 1>Are you an entertainment yeah? Are you? Do you have

0:58:25.960 --> 0:58:26.400
<v Speaker 1>brown hair?

0:58:28.080 --> 0:58:28.120
<v Speaker 6>No?

0:58:32.520 --> 0:58:37.840
<v Speaker 1>Are you handsome? Yes?

0:58:39.720 --> 0:58:39.840
<v Speaker 3>Ah?

0:58:40.000 --> 0:58:40.680
<v Speaker 1>I have no idea.

0:58:40.800 --> 0:58:41.640
<v Speaker 2>You can ask one more?

0:58:43.920 --> 0:58:46.160
<v Speaker 1>Why you narrow down the entertainment worlds? Yeah?

0:58:46.280 --> 0:58:47.120
<v Speaker 2>Narrow down a little bit?

0:58:47.120 --> 0:58:48.160
<v Speaker 1>Then? Are you an actor?

0:58:49.400 --> 0:58:53.240
<v Speaker 3>No, No, he's literally doing a graph right now on

0:58:53.320 --> 0:58:54.040
<v Speaker 3>a piewspaper.

0:58:55.600 --> 0:58:59.040
<v Speaker 1>Blonde handsome? Why do you think blonde not brunette?

0:59:00.080 --> 0:59:06.600
<v Speaker 6>That my hair is kind of blackish brown, blackish brown.

0:59:09.280 --> 0:59:10.240
<v Speaker 5>This is so good.

0:59:11.560 --> 0:59:12.120
<v Speaker 2>Keep going with.

0:59:12.920 --> 0:59:15.720
<v Speaker 3>Not an athlete, not an actor? What would be another entertainment?

0:59:17.480 --> 0:59:18.520
<v Speaker 1>What's another entertainment?

0:59:20.320 --> 0:59:20.920
<v Speaker 2>What do I do?

0:59:22.000 --> 0:59:22.280
<v Speaker 1>Sing?

0:59:22.360 --> 0:59:22.480
<v Speaker 5>Oh?

0:59:22.560 --> 0:59:33.680
<v Speaker 1>Singer? Are you a singer? Yeah? Okay, singer? And are you.

0:59:35.400 --> 0:59:35.640
<v Speaker 6>Tall?

0:59:36.600 --> 0:59:37.960
<v Speaker 2>We already said, remember you already guess that?

0:59:42.400 --> 0:59:44.200
<v Speaker 1>Do you sing country music?

0:59:45.800 --> 0:59:46.520
<v Speaker 6>Sometimes?

0:59:46.880 --> 0:59:51.560
<v Speaker 1>M sometimes this is killing me?

0:59:51.960 --> 0:59:54.760
<v Speaker 2>Why don't you just sing a little something that he

0:59:54.800 --> 0:59:55.240
<v Speaker 2>would know?

0:59:56.360 --> 1:00:01.160
<v Speaker 1>Okay, be really embarrassing. Don't know this you will.

1:00:04.480 --> 1:00:19.000
<v Speaker 6>Okay? Expla driving me? Just need one March.

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<v Speaker 1>I just saw you guys.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my goodness, thank you so much for coming on

1:00:32.800 --> 1:00:33.320
<v Speaker 3>our show.

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<v Speaker 1>So sure, what's what's wow?

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<v Speaker 6>You know?

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<v Speaker 1>Janna told me like I'll be starstruck and all that stuff,

1:00:43.520 --> 1:00:44.800
<v Speaker 1>and I told her, I was like, who, Like, I

1:00:44.840 --> 1:00:47.480
<v Speaker 1>don't get starstruck. And we just saw you guys in Vegas.

1:00:47.560 --> 1:00:49.640
<v Speaker 1>I was like, she wouldn't know because that's like the

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<v Speaker 1>only people.

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<v Speaker 3>So Sean so so so we we stood in the

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<v Speaker 3>meet and greet line.

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<v Speaker 2>So my husband we.

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<v Speaker 3>He's I said, you know, bucket list person, like who

1:01:01.040 --> 1:01:04.160
<v Speaker 3>would be your bucket list starstruck, you know, person that

1:01:04.200 --> 1:01:06.000
<v Speaker 3>you would you would want to meet, And he said,

1:01:06.120 --> 1:01:07.680
<v Speaker 3>you know, boys to men, And so I knew you

1:01:07.680 --> 1:01:11.000
<v Speaker 3>guys were doing a residency in in Vegas and so

1:01:11.520 --> 1:01:14.440
<v Speaker 3>you know, we our producer Amy Sugarman got us the

1:01:14.440 --> 1:01:16.919
<v Speaker 3>tickets and we got the meet and greets, and he

1:01:17.040 --> 1:01:21.920
<v Speaker 3>was so nervous, like so nervous to meet you guys.

1:01:22.440 --> 1:01:24.880
<v Speaker 3>And he was like, you know, tall, he's six foot six,

1:01:25.040 --> 1:01:28.040
<v Speaker 3>like bald, tall dude, and he's going I was like, honey,

1:01:28.160 --> 1:01:30.080
<v Speaker 3>just like breathe just breathe, like you're gonna be okay.

1:01:30.160 --> 1:01:31.960
<v Speaker 3>Like you know, he played in the NFL and so

1:01:32.040 --> 1:01:33.680
<v Speaker 3>he's you know, he's met like a bunch of people.

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<v Speaker 3>But he was like so nervous to meet you. And

1:01:36.760 --> 1:01:39.760
<v Speaker 3>then he didn't even and I was going to say something,

1:01:39.800 --> 1:01:41.440
<v Speaker 3>but then I didn't want to embarrass him. But like

1:01:41.480 --> 1:01:43.680
<v Speaker 3>he really wanted to have a conversation with you know,

1:01:43.760 --> 1:01:45.840
<v Speaker 3>with you and you guys, and so I think, like,

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I know you still enjoyed meeting them, but

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<v Speaker 3>it's still like, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>You probably know the business works, so we know how

1:01:51.240 --> 1:01:53.480
<v Speaker 1>these meet and greets are, but it's one of those things, right,

1:01:53.560 --> 1:01:55.760
<v Speaker 1>and a meet and greet is different than since sitting

1:01:55.800 --> 1:01:58.960
<v Speaker 1>down and having the conversation with these people or or

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<v Speaker 1>whatever it may be.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, yeah, that's very true. And well now you have

1:02:03.000 --> 1:02:05.520
<v Speaker 6>to combo down, bro, man, So what up?

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<v Speaker 2>Now you got to ask a bunch of questions.

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<v Speaker 1>No pressure. Man. First of all, thank you so much

1:02:11.720 --> 1:02:13.640
<v Speaker 1>for coming on and taking the time. Man, I really

1:02:13.680 --> 1:02:17.440
<v Speaker 1>appreciate it. And Honey, thank you as well. My pleasure.

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<v Speaker 6>I hope you enjoyed the show in Vegas.

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<v Speaker 1>I did, man, you guys are still doing it, and

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<v Speaker 1>that it.

1:02:22.960 --> 1:02:24.640
<v Speaker 3>Was a little sour because I didn't get a rose,

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<v Speaker 3>But that's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>Jan is too literal to get up there and push

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<v Speaker 1>every one out of the way to get one of those.

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<v Speaker 6>It really is natural selection these girls fight.

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<v Speaker 1>They were fighting.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they were out, man, the lines were out.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, that's gotta be a good feeling that after

1:02:40.760 --> 1:02:43.400
<v Speaker 1>all these years, you guys still get that kind of

1:02:43.480 --> 1:02:46.000
<v Speaker 1>reaction and that kind of love, Like, did you ever

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<v Speaker 1>think it was it was gonna last this long?

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<v Speaker 6>Uh? Well it might sound pretentious, but I so hoped it.

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<v Speaker 5>Did you know.

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<v Speaker 6>We all love new music, and we got into this

1:03:03.240 --> 1:03:05.760
<v Speaker 6>to do this for a long time. I mean, rather

1:03:06.520 --> 1:03:10.120
<v Speaker 6>once we got signed and things started to get sering,

1:03:11.280 --> 1:03:13.520
<v Speaker 6>we wanted to find ways to figure out how long

1:03:13.560 --> 1:03:16.680
<v Speaker 6>we could make these things last. And it's not a

1:03:16.720 --> 1:03:21.400
<v Speaker 6>perfect blueprint. There's no guidebook for any of this. You

1:03:21.520 --> 1:03:26.920
<v Speaker 6>kind of just follow your instincts. You're making mistakes, you stumble,

1:03:27.280 --> 1:03:32.600
<v Speaker 6>but you hope that your talent and your gifts to

1:03:32.720 --> 1:03:35.840
<v Speaker 6>sing or perform, and you love to perform and sing

1:03:37.240 --> 1:03:40.479
<v Speaker 6>out ways at all, somehow you you know, you fight

1:03:40.560 --> 1:03:42.640
<v Speaker 6>through it, and you you still continue to do it

1:03:42.720 --> 1:03:45.720
<v Speaker 6>throughout all the METS. And we've been through a lot

1:03:45.760 --> 1:03:49.640
<v Speaker 6>of mets, and we're so honored still to be here

1:03:50.200 --> 1:03:53.560
<v Speaker 6>doing things and people still love our music. No, Lie,

1:03:54.200 --> 1:03:57.560
<v Speaker 6>I'll be on stage sometimes and I'll look over the

1:03:57.600 --> 1:04:00.320
<v Speaker 6>crowd and I'm staying to myself, what are they doing here?

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<v Speaker 1>Right?

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<v Speaker 3>We're crying and we're singing along to every single word?

1:04:04.320 --> 1:04:07.080
<v Speaker 3>Like that's I mean the amount of times that I

1:04:07.800 --> 1:04:09.440
<v Speaker 3>sing your guys of songs and I cooked to you

1:04:09.480 --> 1:04:11.920
<v Speaker 3>guys in the kitchen and my husband and I are driving,

1:04:12.000 --> 1:04:15.560
<v Speaker 3>you know, around town, like listening to your songs it's

1:04:15.600 --> 1:04:20.120
<v Speaker 3>you're so the nostalgi nostalgia nostalgic. I can never say

1:04:20.120 --> 1:04:23.440
<v Speaker 3>word nostalgia in this is. I mean, it's, you know,

1:04:23.760 --> 1:04:27.960
<v Speaker 3>we grew up listening to your guys' music, and.

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<v Speaker 6>You know what, And that's the biggest compliment ever, the

1:04:30.080 --> 1:04:34.080
<v Speaker 6>fact that people still get it. People still get and

1:04:34.120 --> 1:04:37.760
<v Speaker 6>they understand what it is that we were trying to do.

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<v Speaker 6>As far as I'm concerned, mission accomplished like we did.

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<v Speaker 6>We did exactly what we wanted to do, which was

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<v Speaker 6>make music that people could listen to and use for

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<v Speaker 6>the rest of their lives.

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<v Speaker 3>And it stands a test of time too. I mean

1:04:50.720 --> 1:04:53.400
<v Speaker 3>it's it's still like the songs aren't just as freaking

1:04:53.480 --> 1:04:55.480
<v Speaker 3>good as they were twenty years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's that's a testament to y'all's talent, right, because

1:04:58.800 --> 1:05:02.040
<v Speaker 1>that's the thing with music or any kind of entertainment.

1:05:02.200 --> 1:05:04.920
<v Speaker 1>It's people feel like they have to conform to society

1:05:04.960 --> 1:05:07.080
<v Speaker 1>and what the what the supplying demand is and all

1:05:07.080 --> 1:05:09.560
<v Speaker 1>that stuff. But you guys have just done you since

1:05:09.600 --> 1:05:13.480
<v Speaker 1>they won. I mean, y'all are legends, man like legends,

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<v Speaker 1>and that I mean does that I mean, like you

1:05:15.760 --> 1:05:18.360
<v Speaker 1>said at the beginning, you hoped it would last this long.

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<v Speaker 1>But I mean to get to us, you guys are legends.

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<v Speaker 6>It's underlable, it's pretty, it's a it's an honorable thing. Sure,

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<v Speaker 6>it's an honor too be even called that title, you

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<v Speaker 6>know what I mean, Like it's I blow that off

1:05:38.600 --> 1:05:41.320
<v Speaker 6>because it's like that's such a heavy crown to wear.

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<v Speaker 6>But it's like it's still so nice that people look

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<v Speaker 6>as look at us in that regard. And all we

1:05:49.960 --> 1:05:53.400
<v Speaker 6>can do with that is to not you know, be

1:05:53.520 --> 1:05:57.800
<v Speaker 6>buttholes about it, right, you know, just just take it in,

1:05:58.320 --> 1:06:02.400
<v Speaker 6>enjoy it and still do I bet without with throughout

1:06:02.440 --> 1:06:04.720
<v Speaker 6>all the years. If anything, it doesn't make us arrogant.

1:06:04.800 --> 1:06:09.320
<v Speaker 6>It just makes us feel more determined and responsible to

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<v Speaker 6>do greater things, and and that that's what we're always

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<v Speaker 6>trying to.

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<v Speaker 1>Do, no question. And I think you know, just from

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<v Speaker 1>Senior Show in Vegas, just the humility you guys have

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<v Speaker 1>with your presence, the way you guys were at meet

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<v Speaker 1>and greet, the way you guys even are on stage,

1:06:23.800 --> 1:06:26.000
<v Speaker 1>and the way you interact. It's just a testament to

1:06:26.040 --> 1:06:28.919
<v Speaker 1>y'all as as people and as human beings. Because there's

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<v Speaker 1>so many stories out there where somebody meets, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the their their bucketless person or someone they've always looked

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<v Speaker 1>up to, and then they get that negative response from

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<v Speaker 1>them because they let things get to them. And it's

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<v Speaker 1>so that's again a testament to you guys as men

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<v Speaker 1>and human beings. And for me, you I mean the

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<v Speaker 1>Boys Men Boysmen album was the first album I ever bought.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow, the very.

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<v Speaker 1>First one that I ever bought as a kid. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it's funny to say that because I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm thirty two. I don't you know, I'm a grown

1:07:00.160 --> 1:07:04.280
<v Speaker 1>man now and being a kid on paper, I am

1:07:04.360 --> 1:07:07.000
<v Speaker 1>on paper, I'm a grown man at home. It's a

1:07:07.040 --> 1:07:11.000
<v Speaker 1>little different. So is that is that something that you

1:07:11.080 --> 1:07:13.920
<v Speaker 1>guys take care like, damn we feel old? Or is

1:07:13.920 --> 1:07:16.480
<v Speaker 1>it one of those things where it is a compliment that, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been listening to you since I was a kid.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, at this day and age, being old is

1:07:24.840 --> 1:07:31.080
<v Speaker 6>damn cool. Absolutely, I like being old because it's only

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<v Speaker 6>one alternative, and you know, I'd rather be called old

1:07:36.600 --> 1:07:41.120
<v Speaker 6>yet still prove to people that being old does it

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<v Speaker 6>mean you're your your wash stuff or your you can't

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<v Speaker 6>do the things that you used to do when you

1:07:46.240 --> 1:07:51.040
<v Speaker 6>were younger. I like, I like just selling myths like

1:07:51.120 --> 1:07:53.240
<v Speaker 6>that and things of that nature. Like that's been most

1:07:53.240 --> 1:07:57.680
<v Speaker 6>of my career with my guys. There's been a lot

1:07:57.720 --> 1:08:01.320
<v Speaker 6>of well you can't and still is but or not so.

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<v Speaker 6>But that's the cool thing about being alive. You get

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<v Speaker 6>to prove people wrong. So I'll be I'll be old,

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<v Speaker 6>I'll be considered old.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that. So you're doing you have a solo

1:08:17.800 --> 1:08:18.439
<v Speaker 2>song out now?

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<v Speaker 6>Yes, I have a solo song out, and I also

1:08:22.080 --> 1:08:25.600
<v Speaker 6>have a solo EP. Again, just trying to stretch the boundaries,

1:08:25.640 --> 1:08:31.160
<v Speaker 6>not necessarily trying to do the whole typical cliche thing

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<v Speaker 6>where you do guys it right now? Well, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>don't I don't get that. I don't understand why a

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<v Speaker 6>guy who's in the group goes solo and just has

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<v Speaker 6>to leave the group completely, Like why why.

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<v Speaker 1>Do not do both?

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<v Speaker 6>Like, you know, take some time off to do you

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<v Speaker 6>and then do the group and go back and.

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<v Speaker 3>Perfectly do it because it works for everybody that way too,

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<v Speaker 3>you know.

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<v Speaker 6>It works for everybody. Yeah, And this is just more

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<v Speaker 6>or less a creative effort for me to go out

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<v Speaker 6>and stretch out as an EP entitled Sean and it's

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<v Speaker 6>out now download on iTunes. It's five songs. It's just

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<v Speaker 6>strictly R and B music that you hang with it with,

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<v Speaker 6>with your loved one with, cruise down the street with,

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<v Speaker 6>you can cook your food with, you can make a

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<v Speaker 6>little love with, like you know, it's it's it's basically

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<v Speaker 6>the things that people would expect from somebody like me.

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<v Speaker 6>But it's just without the two other guys in the group.

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<v Speaker 1>And how are the guys with that? Are they super

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<v Speaker 1>supportive of you and and doing that thing.

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<v Speaker 6>They're extremely supportive and they you know, they give their

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<v Speaker 6>critiques and you know, things of that nature, and which

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<v Speaker 6>is what I appreciate. And you know, by just keep

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<v Speaker 6>it moving.

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<v Speaker 3>From that point, what part of the business has have

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<v Speaker 3>you seen it change that you don't like?

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<v Speaker 6>How long does the show?

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<v Speaker 1>Uh uh?

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<v Speaker 6>Well, I think it's the the generational gap that at once,

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<v Speaker 6>at one point there was never a gap, like from

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<v Speaker 6>my generation respected the artists that came before years before,

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<v Speaker 6>Like we had conversations and talks and actual shows with

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<v Speaker 6>the Temptations and Stevie Wonder and the Four Tops and

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<v Speaker 6>you know, Michael Jackson and guys that you know came

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<v Speaker 6>before us and we would have powers with them and

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<v Speaker 6>learn and they would tell us stuff and teach us

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<v Speaker 6>things and and all this other stuff. Just like what

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<v Speaker 6>I've noticed in this generation is that, yeah, they acknowledged that.

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<v Speaker 6>We were just talking about this yesterday, me and my guys.

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<v Speaker 6>But the respect is gone. It's like they don't. They

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<v Speaker 6>don't they last the ability to show respect, not necessarily

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<v Speaker 6>you know, be a kiss at, but you know, understand

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<v Speaker 6>who's in front.

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<v Speaker 2>Of you, who who was before you, who paved the

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<v Speaker 2>way for you.

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<v Speaker 6>Right, and not only that, understand that their ability still remains.

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<v Speaker 6>There's still very much impact, right. And you know, I

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<v Speaker 6>hate to make it a black white thing, but it's

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<v Speaker 6>it's normally with with you know, black artists, right, I

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<v Speaker 6>said in AWE, when I see eighty thousand people show

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<v Speaker 6>up to a Rolling Stone concert and they're each about

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<v Speaker 6>one hundred and forty five years old there and they

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<v Speaker 6>still rock out. And you see of course fans that

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<v Speaker 6>probably are the same age, and then you see their kids. Right,

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<v Speaker 6>Like the respect and the legacy of the of the

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<v Speaker 6>respect that the legacy is there, and I just wish

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<v Speaker 6>the same thing you know for artists like myself and

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<v Speaker 6>you know other artists too, that the younger generation embraces, uh,

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<v Speaker 6>the stuff that we did and still continue to do.

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<v Speaker 6>And we're willing participant in wanting to show them things

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<v Speaker 6>and wanting to teach them and have them learn because

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<v Speaker 6>that's what was bestowed upon us. So we just want

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<v Speaker 6>to carry on this tradition and teach these kids. But

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<v Speaker 6>they seem like a lot of them just don't want

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<v Speaker 6>to be taught.

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<v Speaker 1>Out.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, you know, Michael Jordan said something about sports when

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<v Speaker 6>he said, you know, money destroyed the game, and to

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<v Speaker 6>some degree, it's the same thing with the music industry.

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<v Speaker 6>These kids, thanks to streaming and downloads and Instagram and

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<v Speaker 6>and you get instant gratification if you're you know, have

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<v Speaker 6>something out there that people can see. People come popular

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<v Speaker 6>so quickly without any type of proper guidance, so instantly

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<v Speaker 6>they feel like, oh, well, you can't tell me enough

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<v Speaker 6>right now, you get right, you know, I'm look at this,

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<v Speaker 6>Look at all these streams I got, you know, look

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<v Speaker 6>at this this gold watch eye bought. Look at this car.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, you know that's specify. Like, what are you

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<v Speaker 6>going to tell me, old man that I don't already know?

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<v Speaker 6>And I'm like, well, how to stay around maybe longer

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<v Speaker 6>than two summers.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they probably wouldn't be able to sell a record

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<v Speaker 2>back then.

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<v Speaker 6>So yeah, but that's that's the thing I think. I

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<v Speaker 6>I I tend to It tends to make me because

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<v Speaker 6>you see, it's almost like watching the kids drive a

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<v Speaker 6>car off the cliff anyway, You're getting told them like, yo,

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<v Speaker 6>don't do that, right, And I've seen so many do it,

1:13:51.400 --> 1:13:54.840
<v Speaker 6>and so many do it constantly. Every you hear artists

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<v Speaker 6>here today, gone today, and that that's that dad to me,

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<v Speaker 6>and they don't want to you know, a lot of

1:14:02.400 --> 1:14:04.400
<v Speaker 6>them don't want to listen. So but that's one of

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<v Speaker 6>the main things. I think. There's a few of us,

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<v Speaker 6>but I think that's the one that kind of sticks out,

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<v Speaker 6>mainly because we were just the guys and I were

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<v Speaker 6>just disgusting that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, oh yeah, that totally makes sense. And now, Sean,

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<v Speaker 1>outside of music, do you have any other kind of

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<v Speaker 1>things that you're getting into business wise or for yourself.

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<v Speaker 6>I do have. My wife and I have an indoor

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<v Speaker 6>playground and woodland hills. Yeah. Yeah, we love kids. And

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<v Speaker 6>it's funny because when our kids were younger. My sons

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<v Speaker 6>just turned sixteen May thirtieth, so, you know. But when

1:14:37.360 --> 1:14:40.920
<v Speaker 6>they were bathy, we would throw parties for them and

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<v Speaker 6>their friends to come over, and all their parents would

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<v Speaker 6>just coming. Oh my god, you guys throw the best parties,

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<v Speaker 6>you know what I mean. And my wife is like,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, we should make this a business one day

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<v Speaker 6>and well on and behold. We have an indoor playground

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<v Speaker 6>in Woodland Hills called Shooty Goots, which is uh, it

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<v Speaker 6>is a big thing that I gave my twin boys.

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<v Speaker 6>We just we just kind of named it the company

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<v Speaker 6>that and oh my gosh, I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Looking right now online and it looks adorable and we're

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<v Speaker 3>taking our Is it open on weekends or is it

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<v Speaker 3>closed on weekends because a lot of these.

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<v Speaker 6>Places normally it's clods on weekends for party, but it is,

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<v Speaker 6>but it is open on the weekdays. Cut it's fun,

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<v Speaker 6>it's clean, it's comfortable for the kids and the parents.

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<v Speaker 6>The parents can sit, they can get their work done,

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<v Speaker 6>they could make their business calls and not worry about

1:15:36.000 --> 1:15:39.080
<v Speaker 6>the kids wander off or anything like that. It's it's

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<v Speaker 6>it's safe, you know. We we we tried to think

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<v Speaker 6>of everything because my wife and I, between our three

1:15:45.560 --> 1:15:50.800
<v Speaker 6>children have gone through gone to every playground indoor, outdoor

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<v Speaker 6>in the Valley of Los Angeles. So we just took

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<v Speaker 6>the things that we liked and the things that we

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<v Speaker 6>didn't and we incorporated uh that into our own space.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, Sean, I cannot thank you enough for calling in.

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<v Speaker 3>I know you have a million things to do, because

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<v Speaker 3>we know how important you are and everything you've paved

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<v Speaker 3>the way for for you know, and for music, and

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<v Speaker 3>you know, we just we really truly do you know,

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<v Speaker 3>idolize you guys and Boys to Men and so we're excited.

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<v Speaker 3>We're going to download your EP and not you know what, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>we're going to download streaming a lot. We're gonna buy it.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, thank you very very much. And yeah, I appreciate

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<v Speaker 6>the call you guys. You actually woke me up because

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<v Speaker 6>I have to go to a sound check.

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<v Speaker 2>Well good morning, babe.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, and I have a great day.

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<v Speaker 3>We so appreciate it. And everyone needs to go see

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<v Speaker 3>Boys to Men at their residency. It continues June seventh,

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<v Speaker 3>Tickets at ticketmaster dot com. Sean, Thank you so much, Sean.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you brother. I really appreciate your time.

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<v Speaker 6>Man, No, thank you, thank you. Got a good woman.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I do. I got a great one. Thanks, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't buy Thank god, thank you.

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<v Speaker 5>What do you think?

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<v Speaker 1>Wow? That took me by surprise, Like.

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<v Speaker 2>You didn't when he was like to sing, It's like,

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<v Speaker 2>did you not know?

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<v Speaker 1>No? I knew, but I'm like if someone singing boy like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, why is this person not singing their song?

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<v Speaker 1>Because we just saw them kind of wrote it off.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh that's funny because I was like, Babe, it's boys some.

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<v Speaker 1>Nuts, I know, because you already did that for me, right,

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<v Speaker 1>But you.

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<v Speaker 2>Didn't get to talk to him, so I felt bad.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, Yeah, you totally blew that weekend. I'm just kidding. No,

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<v Speaker 1>So that's what confused me. I'm like, why why is

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<v Speaker 1>someone else singing singing boys and men right now?

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<v Speaker 5>That is so funny.

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<v Speaker 2>That's such a nice guy.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, it was awesome.

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<v Speaker 2>That's so cool.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you ever think you're the boy that bought his

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<v Speaker 3>first record? Not always men would ever talk to him

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<v Speaker 3>on the phone in person too?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>I forgot to tell him that you bought that twenty

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<v Speaker 3>dollars freaking binder.

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<v Speaker 1>Over friend photo.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, you've never wanted it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was more like, okay, do you want like the

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<v Speaker 1>twenty dollars just a file, or do you want to

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<v Speaker 1>buy this for like five hundred dollars, Like, yep, five hundred,

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<v Speaker 1>let's do it.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, oh, okay, yeah, I didn't give

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<v Speaker 3>you a chance. Fine, it was so cute, but now

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<v Speaker 3>that was.

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<v Speaker 1>Cool, Honey. I appreciate that. You just go above and beyond.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, thank Amy, she got the contact.

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<v Speaker 1>Amy, you're the best.

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<v Speaker 2>Give it up to the sug.

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<v Speaker 1>The sug all right.

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<v Speaker 3>That's we can't make that any but that's we're ending

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<v Speaker 3>the show right now.

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<v Speaker 1>There's nothing else, so the legend, all right,