WEBVTT - #202 Is she a Jealous Psychopath? 0:00:00.360 --> 0:00:04.320 What are you doing on my phone? Why are you 0:00:04.440 --> 0:00:07.240 looking like a psychopath through my phone? 0:00:18.400 --> 0:00:20.680 Well? What's up? Everybody? Welcome to the podcast. 0:00:20.720 --> 0:00:23.440 Thank you for being here and joining wherever you're watching 0:00:23.680 --> 0:00:25.680 or coming from or listening from. 0:00:25.960 --> 0:00:26.720 I appreciate you. 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:32.400 I love this platform talking, taking my time, going long form, 0:00:32.479 --> 0:00:33.760 answering your questions. 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:35.040 That's what I do here. 0:00:35.400 --> 0:00:40.560 Email me Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com and I'll 0:00:40.560 --> 0:00:42.440 pull it up in cute just like I have here, 0:00:42.960 --> 0:00:47.279 and we'll randomly go through your questions. Now, there are 0:00:47.280 --> 0:00:48.720 a lot, I'll be honest with you, there's a lot 0:00:48.720 --> 0:00:51.839 that come in and I'm just not going to get 0:00:51.880 --> 0:00:54.680 to them all, but I'm going to try. And I 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:58.760 believe this is episode two and two, is that right? 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:04.360 That is amazing. How the time has flown by with 0:01:04.400 --> 0:01:10.000 these I can remember just yesterday. Yeah, this is too too. 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:13.560 I can remember just yesterday doing episode one hundred, it 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:17.319 seemed like. So that's a testament to you guys listening 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:21.560 and wanting more content and asking more questions and watching 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:24.559 the little clips at Paul makes it on social media, 0:01:24.600 --> 0:01:26.720 which is why some of y'all even came here in 0:01:26.720 --> 0:01:30.680 the first place. Email me your questions Granger Smith Podcast 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:33.399 at gmail dot com and it could be about anything. 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:35.440 We will dive into them here. 0:01:36.400 --> 0:01:36.680 First. 0:01:36.680 --> 0:01:40.360 One subject client says, love the content. I love your podcast. 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:41.080 Thanks so much for. 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:43.920 All you do, man, and all the advice you give. 0:01:44.200 --> 0:01:47.640 I just bought an old GMC truck and it's a looker, 0:01:47.960 --> 0:01:50.000 I'll admit it. What do you think I. 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:52.520 Should do to deal with pride? 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:57.760 I've worked many summers for it and I have a 0:01:57.800 --> 0:02:02.080 little pride about it. Please, if you don't mind, keep 0:02:02.120 --> 0:02:07.040 me anonymous. It says from a seventeen year old country boy, 0:02:07.200 --> 0:02:09.440 and then it has his name. I'll keep him anonymous. 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:16.520 That's funny. And first let me just say. First, let 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:24.240 me say, man, good on you for working. What did 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:27.960 you say many summers? You worked many summers for it, 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:31.440 and you have earned it, okay, And so that's a 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:34.480 great thing and no one should take that away from you. 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:37.560 You wanted a truck, and you worked many summers and 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:40.640 you bought it. You don't hear that story too often. 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:42.600 We live more in a world where you buy it 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:45.320 on credit right now and you hope to pay it 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:47.720 off down the road. So that's a great thing. Man 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:52.280 seventeen years old doing a great thing. And then you're 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:54.480 asking a good question. I'll be honest with you, that's 0:02:54.480 --> 0:02:57.880 a good question. How do I deal with pride? Because 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:01.440 we understand that pride is a pretty devastating sin in 0:03:01.480 --> 0:03:05.280 the Bible. In fact, I don't even I don't like you. 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:08.760 Won't hear me say I'm proud of you. It might 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:10.480 be going a little too far, but I don't even 0:03:10.520 --> 0:03:16.120 say I'm proud of you to my kids, and I 0:03:15.320 --> 0:03:19.120 I don't mind when other people say I'm proud of you, Granger, 0:03:19.320 --> 0:03:21.320 but I think about it every time I hear it. 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:23.679 And now I'm gonna get in some of y'all's head. 0:03:24.280 --> 0:03:26.399 But when you say I'm so proud of you, man, 0:03:26.720 --> 0:03:31.600 I'm thinking, isn't pride of sin? No, Granger, it's not 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:33.960 not in that way. But no one can really fully 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:37.640 explain what that means. I tell my kids instead, I 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:40.320 say I'm amber and I both do this. I'm well 0:03:40.360 --> 0:03:44.240 pleased with you. You know that that's what God says, 0:03:44.480 --> 0:03:47.320 This is my son whom I'm well pleased. God the 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:49.560 Father says that to the son, this is my son 0:03:49.840 --> 0:03:52.400 with whom I'm well pleased. So I kind of take 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:56.000 that and use that for Lincoln, Like, buddy, I'm so 0:03:56.200 --> 0:04:00.800 pleased with you. I'm so encouraged by your behavior or 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:04.120 what you've done, what you've earned, how hard you're working, 0:04:04.640 --> 0:04:07.120 what you have overcome. I'm so pleased with what you've done. 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:10.360 I try to avoid that word pride. I'm so proud 0:04:10.400 --> 0:04:14.320 of you, man. I try to avoid that. And hey, 0:04:14.640 --> 0:04:17.840 that's not like it's not like I'm telling you you're 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:20.359 wrong if you say that, this is just me in 0:04:20.400 --> 0:04:22.599 my life. I try to avoid that word. And it's 0:04:22.600 --> 0:04:24.200 interesting that that comes up in this question. 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:27.560 To be. 0:04:29.760 --> 0:04:32.880 To be proud in this sense of your hard work 0:04:33.720 --> 0:04:36.800 is not a problem. It can become a problem, one 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:40.279 hundred percent. That's why it's dangerous. It can become a 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:44.760 problem when you become prideful. If, for instance, your neighbor 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:48.920 pulls in the driveway with the same truck right and 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:52.160 his daddy bought it for him straight up, and it's 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:55.400 the same truck. In fact, it looks a little nicer 0:04:55.440 --> 0:04:58.960 than yours, And he goes, man, don't you love my truck? 0:04:59.000 --> 0:05:01.280 I love your truck. Don't you love my truck? And 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:05.880 you look at him pridefully, and you say, I earned 0:05:05.920 --> 0:05:09.240 my truck. How did you get yours? Did Daddy buy 0:05:09.240 --> 0:05:13.440 it for you? Because I earned this truck many years 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:16.800 and I deserve to have it in a way more 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:19.839 than you, is what you're thinking. And then pride starts 0:05:19.880 --> 0:05:23.400 taking over, and it starts corrupting a friendship that was 0:05:23.520 --> 0:05:28.240 fine before this conversation started. Right, That's why pride can 0:05:28.360 --> 0:05:31.479 become a huge issue. 0:05:31.600 --> 0:05:32.520 It could be it. 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:36.599 Could be something that just divides people, divides friends and 0:05:36.680 --> 0:05:41.279 families and yourself. So as funny as it did, I 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:43.400 even laughed at it when I read it. It's a 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:47.200 legit question. If you give this to God, though, I 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:50.440 would be careful because when you ask God for something, 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:54.200 when you ask God for patience, what does he give 0:05:54.240 --> 0:05:56.440 you to teach you patience? What does he give you? 0:05:57.040 --> 0:05:59.400 If God is going to teach you patience, He's going 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:03.080 to give you more and more and more that you 0:06:03.960 --> 0:06:08.080 that becomes harder and harder to withstand. Life keeps coming 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:11.960 at you herd and you're waiting and waiting and waiting, 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:14.520 and guess what you're doing in the process learning patience. 0:06:14.560 --> 0:06:18.880 It's not like he just zaps patience. You say, God, 0:06:19.120 --> 0:06:23.719 show me love. He doesn't pour in all these people 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:27.640 in your life, that love you, He might take something away, 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:32.159 because by taking something away, you truly see what love, how. 0:06:32.000 --> 0:06:33.880 Strong your love was or is. 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:39.760 So if you ask God to take away pride, God 0:06:39.800 --> 0:06:44.920 teach me not to be prideful, be careful, because through 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:50.000 that he humbles us. And humbling that word is another 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:55.120 word that's completely misused. In fact, my book Like a River, 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:57.359 this is an example. My book Like a River selling 0:06:57.440 --> 0:07:04.160 really well, and somebody said, man, I bet, I bet 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:07.360 you are so proud and humbled by how well your 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:08.159 book is doing. 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:09.560 It must be so humbling. 0:07:10.440 --> 0:07:14.440 Like No, that's a misuse of that word humbling my book. 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:16.960 Being humbled by my book would be that no one 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:20.320 bought it. I would be humbled that no one bought it. 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:22.640 I was prideful, I thought it was a good book. 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:26.760 No one bought it. Thus I am now humbled by this. 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:32.520 So if you ask God to protect you from pride, 0:07:32.800 --> 0:07:34.480 he humbles you by. 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:37.400 Something happens to it. 0:07:37.600 --> 0:07:42.000 Maybe you literally out in your truck, is sitting at 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:44.400 your school parking lot and a tree branch falls right 0:07:44.440 --> 0:07:45.600 and just destroys it. 0:07:45.960 --> 0:07:46.280 Boom. 0:07:46.320 --> 0:07:49.840 You walk out there, all those years of hard work destroyed. 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:53.120 You were humbled completely. 0:07:53.560 --> 0:07:55.720 Everything you thought you worked for and had and was 0:07:56.000 --> 0:08:02.240 so pretty and shiny is now gone, and so's your pride. 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:03.760 You see what I mean. 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:06.480 It's like, Hey, God, make sure that I don't have 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:07.280 any pride. 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:08.840 Be careful with that prayer. 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:12.560 I'm being facetious when I say be careful, because of 0:08:12.560 --> 0:08:15.720 course it's a good prayer. But don't be surprised when 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:18.560 God answers in a way that you didn't expect. He 0:08:18.680 --> 0:08:22.880 teaches us how to not be prideful by making us humble, 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:27.000 not in the way that we use that word in America. 0:08:27.240 --> 0:08:29.440 You know what I'm talking about. It's a good question. 0:08:29.840 --> 0:08:34.559 Thank you, country boy. Let's see next question, says dear Granger. 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:36.880 My name is Lisa. I'm not sure how to write this, 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:42.640 but I'll try. I'm exhausted, I'm lonely, I'm unhappy, I 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:46.120 have been for some years now. I want to change 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:49.360 my life, but I've always been scared of big changes. 0:08:49.800 --> 0:08:52.640 A big change is what I need. I knew that, 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:56.520 but it's not the same and I don't do it. 0:08:56.920 --> 0:08:59.600 Maybe you have some advice for me, maybe not to 0:08:59.640 --> 0:09:04.120 be hon it. I would try nearly anything. I've always 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:07.319 liked your way that you see life in your family 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:12.120 and just being yourself. Thank you for always being there somewhere. 0:09:13.080 --> 0:09:14.120 Best regards to Lisa. 0:09:15.760 --> 0:09:20.800 Thank you Lisa the the bottom the bottom email part 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:23.520 portion of it is in German, so I'm wondering, Lisa, 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:25.880 if you were if you were German, or if you're 0:09:25.880 --> 0:09:29.960 in Germany. Regardless, thank you for the question, and thanks 0:09:29.960 --> 0:09:32.480 for thanks for listening to the podcast and trusting me 0:09:32.559 --> 0:09:37.240 with something, for being vulnerable with this. This, this is 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:40.240 something that's like I wish that you were closer to me. 0:09:40.320 --> 0:09:44.240 So I wish we were actually having a conversation because 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:46.440 I would dig in a little bit to what you 0:09:46.520 --> 0:09:52.160 mean by exhausted and lonely and unhappy for some years now. 0:09:53.080 --> 0:09:55.439 I would want to know what's going on, you know. 0:09:55.440 --> 0:09:59.400 Like, let's get to the next level of this, you say, so, 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:03.640 I say that in a way to let you know. 0:10:04.080 --> 0:10:06.160 I'm going to have to shoot in the dark completely 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:09.760 on this right, I'm just shooting arrows in the dark here. 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:12.319 But you say, I want I want to. 0:10:12.360 --> 0:10:15.680 Change my life, but have always been scared of big changes, 0:10:16.440 --> 0:10:19.400 and a big change is what I need. Okay, shooting 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:24.199 in the dark here, a big change, top of my mind, 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:28.480 is moving. That's a big change, moving houses, moving jobs, 0:10:28.920 --> 0:10:33.079 And it sounds like maybe that's what you're getting at. 0:10:33.160 --> 0:10:36.760 Maybe maybe this is there was a relationship that didn't 0:10:36.760 --> 0:10:42.079 work or lack of one, or a strange relationship that's 0:10:42.080 --> 0:10:46.559 still kind of hanging on. Maybe there's some problems with family. 0:10:47.200 --> 0:10:51.600 Maybe you need a new setting with this big change 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:54.080 that you're talking about. And so if just me, you're 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:57.560 asking me on the podcast, I'd say, what do you 0:10:57.600 --> 0:11:01.240 do for work? Let's take that skill and let's take 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:06.600 a similar pay job, something that requires a similar skill, 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:12.720 and make a parallel jump in another town, maybe another state. 0:11:13.480 --> 0:11:16.400 Probably most people do this in Florida. 0:11:16.800 --> 0:11:20.560 Go to another state, find a parallel job, get an apartment. 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:23.120 Now you're not doing this to be happier. I promise 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:26.400 you you will not find happiness there. But sometimes that 0:11:26.600 --> 0:11:31.120 change could stir up something either a love for your 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:35.079 hometown maybe maybe a better understanding of the estranged relationship 0:11:35.120 --> 0:11:40.280 you were in by having distance from it. Or you 0:11:40.360 --> 0:11:44.640 could legitimately get to a new town, find a little church, 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:49.760 plug in, start meeting people, start diving into your hobbies, 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:52.360 create this community around you. 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:54.679 And it is the. 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:59.640 Change that you needed to get you unstuck. Surely that's 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:02.480 definitely possibility. If you don't want to go that far, 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:05.199 if you don't want to just move to another town 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:12.240 or job. I say this sometimes I would, I would 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:15.560 go all in on a hobby of some sort. And 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:18.720 I say the same thing to kids as they're going 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:22.840 into school, high school, college, and they don't know anybody 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:26.920 and they're lonely and they're not connected in any way. 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:30.839 I say, I say, if we had a conversation, to 0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:32.640 be a lot easier, But I would say, search your mind, 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:36.960 what do you enjoy doing? It could be anything like 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:40.680 It could be knitting, It could be chess, It could 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:45.560 be horses, It could be collecting toy trains. I was 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:48.560 in this town in Pennsylvania the other day and I 0:12:48.559 --> 0:12:51.360 saw a hobby shop with those little toy trains, and 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:53.199 there was all these people in there looking at these 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:56.000 little model trains, and they sold, they sold the little 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:59.520 miniature trees and the little miniature roads, and the grass, 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:02.320 the turf, and the little people and the figurines and 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:06.120 all the little cars in the street lights, and then 0:13:06.200 --> 0:13:08.679 the trains and the mountains and the snow on the mountains, 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:12.360 and people are in there digging it like that's their hobby. 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:17.000 They love it. We as people need a community around 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:20.480 us that is like minded in those kind of things. 0:13:21.360 --> 0:13:23.840 So what I mean, the point I'm making with the 0:13:23.880 --> 0:13:28.880 miniature trains is that there is nothing that is that 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:32.000 is off limits that you could You could say, man, 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:34.640 I like something, but I don't know if anyone else does. 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:38.200 I promise you they do. There's a community for everything 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:38.680 that you like. 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:41.480 Maybe it's a band. I've seen a. 0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:44.720 Lot of people with Ye Nation that have told me Granger, 0:13:45.200 --> 0:13:47.199 I didn't have anybody in my life. I didn't have 0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:50.840 any friends, I didn't have a relationship. I didn't fit 0:13:50.920 --> 0:13:54.120 in in my school or my college or after that. 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:56.800 But I came to one of your concerts because I 0:13:56.920 --> 0:13:59.040 liked your music. And I was standing there on the 0:13:59.040 --> 0:14:01.520 front row, and I looked around and I saw other 0:14:01.600 --> 0:14:07.120 people dressed like me, looking like me, liking the things 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:10.480 I like. And I thought for myself, right then, here's 0:14:10.520 --> 0:14:13.760 my home, here's my family. Right this could be you 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:18.600 with a train collection or something of the sort. 0:14:18.960 --> 0:14:20.040 But you got to go all in. 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:24.600 The thing not to do is stay home. Flip through Instagram, 0:14:24.960 --> 0:14:27.600 see how much everyone else has an amazing life. See 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:30.760 how much your life sucks. Eat the same food, watch 0:14:30.800 --> 0:14:33.760 the same thing, stay up late looking at Facebook, go 0:14:33.840 --> 0:14:36.600 to sleep, wake up, go to work, see all the 0:14:36.600 --> 0:14:39.880 people that you don't like at work. You're stuck that way. 0:14:40.520 --> 0:14:42.560 You gotta get out, you gotta go. Okay, what do 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:42.920 I like? 0:14:43.160 --> 0:14:44.360 Where? Where is? 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:48.320 I'm gonna stop using the train collection. Okay, say let's 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:51.680 go to horses. I'm gonna go find me a horse 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:55.880 farm and ask if I could volunteer, or if there's 0:14:55.920 --> 0:14:58.560 an equestrian group that I could join to get with 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:02.560 some other like minded people. You have to get out 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:06.840 and do it. Make the step, Make the step. I 0:15:06.880 --> 0:15:10.120 gave you a lot of really good examples there. I always 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:12.040 do another question. We've got a time for another question here. 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:16.320 And I realized I forgot that you are probably in Germany. 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.960 And I don't know if model trains is the thing 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:24.440 in Germany, but I know nutcrackers are. I see, you 0:15:24.440 --> 0:15:27.480 know that's where they That's where they come from. Half kidding, 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:32.200 next question, just going just flipping through an order here. 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:37.080 Subsequent says podcast question, Hey Granger, I have something that's 0:15:37.120 --> 0:15:40.600 really been causing me distress recently, and was hoping you'd 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:43.120 be able to discuss it on an episode. I have 0:15:43.160 --> 0:15:47.520 a sin that have been constantly dealing with and it's 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:53.480 seriously hurting me spiritually and with my assurance, it's been 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:56.720 making me worry that I'm not saved and it's causing 0:15:56.760 --> 0:15:59.560 me a lot of heartache and worry. Is there any 0:15:59.560 --> 0:16:03.200 guidance or help you could give me on this and 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:06.320 how I could know that I am saved when I'm 0:16:06.360 --> 0:16:13.120 consistently struggling with the same sin. Thanks Josh, Josh, I 0:16:13.200 --> 0:16:16.560 appreciate you, brother. Thank you so much for emailing and 0:16:17.240 --> 0:16:19.520 it's not a very long email, but I could go 0:16:19.560 --> 0:16:21.680 into some depth with this because I get it. 0:16:21.720 --> 0:16:25.840 I get what you're saying, and there's a couple. This 0:16:25.880 --> 0:16:26.640 is multi layered. 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:32.200 I have a feeling you're probably talking about pornography because 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:37.640 that's very common, and I could be wrong, but I 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:39.840 would say, if I was going to bet, this would 0:16:39.880 --> 0:16:43.840 be the sin that you're talking about, because it's hurting 0:16:43.840 --> 0:16:47.240 you spiritually and you keep going back to it, and 0:16:47.480 --> 0:16:51.440 pornography is a massive addiction worldwide. I was going to 0:16:51.480 --> 0:16:57.920 say in this country, but worldwide. So that's one layer 0:16:57.960 --> 0:17:00.880 and we could deal with that. But the other layer 0:17:01.000 --> 0:17:07.760 is your assurance. Hang on a second, let me look 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:11.720 up I want to look up lyrics. This might be helpful. 0:17:12.880 --> 0:17:15.720 Never Mind, I'm on my airplane mode, so I can't 0:17:15.760 --> 0:17:17.560 do that. But I was gonna look up that song, 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:21.560 Blessed Assurance. Look it up for yourself, the song Doubled 0:17:21.640 --> 0:17:27.360 Him Blessed assurance. Assurance is an interesting thing because if 0:17:27.359 --> 0:17:29.919 you understand Christianity correctly, and if you are a believer, 0:17:30.680 --> 0:17:35.080 then you have to understand that we are saved by 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:40.600 grace through faith. This is not your own doing. So 0:17:41.960 --> 0:17:45.960 what that means is you're saved because you believe you're 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:51.080 saved because you're one of God's children, because He saved 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:57.960 you by his grace, not by the amount or lack 0:17:58.000 --> 0:18:02.800 of sin in your life. Sin and the destruction of 0:18:02.840 --> 0:18:09.879 sin and you battling against sin comes after your blessed 0:18:09.920 --> 0:18:14.679 assurance of salvation. So after you're saved, you begin to 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:17.960 hate your sin. After you're saved, you begin to want 0:18:17.960 --> 0:18:21.600 to destroy it. It begins to really bother you. You begin 0:18:21.720 --> 0:18:25.239 to want to fight it off and do anything you 0:18:25.320 --> 0:18:28.960 can to eradicate it from your life, because it now 0:18:29.119 --> 0:18:34.160 feels like a disease that is corrupting you. That's what's 0:18:34.200 --> 0:18:39.280 happened to you right now. It's called sanctification. Is this 0:18:40.080 --> 0:18:42.919 flea that is on your body and is itching you 0:18:43.320 --> 0:18:45.639 and biting you, and you flick it off and it 0:18:45.680 --> 0:18:48.200 comes back and you flick it off again, and you're 0:18:48.200 --> 0:18:50.320 wanting to get rid of the fleas. 0:18:51.560 --> 0:18:52.760 That's what sin is to you. 0:18:53.240 --> 0:18:57.760 After you have assurance, But your assurance doesn't come from 0:18:57.840 --> 0:19:02.359 whether or not you're sinning or not. See, that's what 0:19:02.480 --> 0:19:06.920 Romans five eight means. God demonstrates his love for us 0:19:08.000 --> 0:19:12.080 that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:15.439 That's his love for us. He died for us to 0:19:15.600 --> 0:19:20.800 save you from yourself from your sin while you were 0:19:20.840 --> 0:19:25.200 a sinner. That doesn't say Christ came to die for you. 0:19:26.359 --> 0:19:30.080 So long as you stop sinning. And if you don't 0:19:30.119 --> 0:19:35.160 stop this sin, then you don't have salvation anymore. Your 0:19:35.200 --> 0:19:36.120 assurance is gone. 0:19:37.200 --> 0:19:37.480 Okay. 0:19:37.920 --> 0:19:41.520 Now, the caveat with that is if you are sinning, 0:19:41.680 --> 0:19:44.000 you're living in sin and you don't care about it, 0:19:45.119 --> 0:19:48.000 and you continue to live with it knowing it's there, 0:19:49.080 --> 0:19:50.840 then you're probably not saved. 0:19:52.080 --> 0:19:54.720 That's the problem. So it is. 0:19:54.640 --> 0:19:58.359 Also that's why James says that faith without works is dead, 0:19:58.600 --> 0:20:02.800 meaning if you go on without good works, without caring 0:20:02.800 --> 0:20:04.919 about your sin, it still lives with you and you 0:20:04.960 --> 0:20:10.159 still commit this bad stuff, then you probably don't have 0:20:10.200 --> 0:20:14.280 a saving faith, not because what you're doing affects it, 0:20:14.800 --> 0:20:18.760 but because the salvation is not there yet. Right, So, 0:20:19.160 --> 0:20:24.679 the works, the good works, the eradicating of sin is 0:20:24.720 --> 0:20:28.679 a result of a saving faith that you did not do. 0:20:29.359 --> 0:20:34.280 You were saved by grace. That is an unmerited gift. 0:20:34.640 --> 0:20:37.560 Now we could walk through assurance of faith, We could 0:20:37.600 --> 0:20:39.879 walk through we can go through truths of the Bible 0:20:40.440 --> 0:20:42.800 and go if this is happening in your life, you're saved. 0:20:43.000 --> 0:20:45.160 If this is happening in your life, you're saved. If 0:20:45.160 --> 0:20:47.520 this is happening in your life, you are saved. You 0:20:47.560 --> 0:20:51.119 have assurance, You have that blessed assurance. Like the song says, 0:20:53.920 --> 0:20:56.520 it is not your own works, it is not your doing. 0:20:57.200 --> 0:20:59.879 God is not grading you on a curve. God doesn't 0:20:59.880 --> 0:21:02.600 have a checklist of a naughty list like Santa claus 0:21:02.920 --> 0:21:05.800 good list and naughty list, and the more naughties you have, 0:21:06.320 --> 0:21:09.120 you might not be saved. That is not the God 0:21:09.160 --> 0:21:11.840 of the Bible. Can you imagine how ridiculous. 0:21:11.880 --> 0:21:12.280 That would be. 0:21:12.560 --> 0:21:16.320 In fact, every other religion says that they're all grading 0:21:16.320 --> 0:21:20.840 on a curve. They're as they don't know other God exists. 0:21:20.840 --> 0:21:25.240 But in theory, all other gods and all our other 0:21:25.320 --> 0:21:31.680 religions are grading on a curve. That's including the Catholic God. 0:21:32.359 --> 0:21:37.800 That's including Catholicism, which is grading you on your works, 0:21:38.280 --> 0:21:42.359 making sure you're doing all the right things, making sure 0:21:42.680 --> 0:21:46.800 you're confessing to the priest enough times, making sure you're 0:21:46.840 --> 0:21:52.040 going to Mass, you're doing you're paying your sacraments right, 0:21:52.440 --> 0:21:54.680 and then you could do enough to go to purgatory. 0:21:55.680 --> 0:21:59.720 It's not the God of the Bible, not just offended 0:21:59.760 --> 0:22:03.200 but of people. But it's just the truth. And Josh, 0:22:03.520 --> 0:22:07.439 when it comes to the sin itself, that is a 0:22:07.480 --> 0:22:11.439 completely different conversation. But I've i have talked about this 0:22:11.480 --> 0:22:13.399 a bunch on this podcast, and I'm assuming if it 0:22:13.440 --> 0:22:18.280 is pornography, I would go to covenantiys dot com check 0:22:18.320 --> 0:22:22.159 that out. It's good that you're wanting to eradicate this. 0:22:22.600 --> 0:22:25.479 It would be bad if you were doing this and 0:22:25.560 --> 0:22:27.600 covering it up and saying it's not that bad. It's 0:22:27.600 --> 0:22:29.440 not that bad. I don't think it's that bad. It's 0:22:29.480 --> 0:22:32.200 probably not a sin. I don't think it's bad. That 0:22:32.480 --> 0:22:35.760 would be a sign to me that you don't have 0:22:35.840 --> 0:22:36.480 that assurance. 0:22:36.880 --> 0:22:37.680 Does that make sense? 0:22:38.359 --> 0:22:39.040 I hope it does. 0:22:40.920 --> 0:22:42.440 All right, let's take a break. Be right back. 0:22:47.400 --> 0:22:50.720 Podcast is brought to you, guys by DCX Conference. 0:22:51.200 --> 0:22:52.119 Let me tell you about it. 0:22:52.119 --> 0:22:55.680 It's an intimate, in person, two day leadership conference held 0:22:55.720 --> 0:23:01.120 in Austin, Texas, on October eleventh and Twelfth's well, it's 0:23:01.160 --> 0:23:04.640 about developing yourself and your team as you learn from 0:23:04.800 --> 0:23:08.120 ten plus diverse speakers at the top of their fields, 0:23:08.280 --> 0:23:11.240 craft and connect a clear path to the leader and 0:23:11.359 --> 0:23:15.080 company you strive to be. 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