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Speaker 1: Hey, Hey, be a fam I am so excited to

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Speaker 1: welcome you back to Brown Ambition. I am thrilled to

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Speaker 1: bring you this story. It's all about shaking up the

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Speaker 1: status quo of family, friendship, and home. So if you've

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Speaker 1: ever wondered what it takes to build your own damn village,

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Speaker 1: you're going to want to hear this. We've got MPR

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Speaker 1: host Ayisha Roscoe. I know you're going to recognize her voice.

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Speaker 1: It'll bring you such cozy comfort because you've probably heard

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Speaker 1: her along with her longtime best friend, journalist Jasmine Melvin Hudson. Now,

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Speaker 1: these two ladies recently made the bold decision to buy

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Speaker 1: a house together, combining their families, their finances, their whole

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Speaker 1: entire lives to embark on a journey of platonic co parenting.

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Speaker 1: For nearly two decades, Aisha and Jasmine have been best

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Speaker 1: friend goals, bestie goals. Y'all been by each other's side

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Speaker 1: from their Howard University days working at the campus newspaper

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Speaker 1: Shout Out to the Hilltop, to building careers journalism, and

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Speaker 1: eventually supporting one another through their divorces, their motherhood journeys,

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Speaker 1: and career pivots. This year they joined forces for real,

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Speaker 1: moving in together with their five kids, and together they're

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Speaker 1: proving just how powerful friendship sisterhood can be as the

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Speaker 1: foundation for family and stability. So in today's interview, I

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Speaker 1: get to dive in with Jasmine and Ayisha and ask

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Speaker 1: them how they made this big home buying leap together.

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Speaker 1: What's it like. What's the reality of day to day

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Speaker 1: living with your best friend and her children. How are

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Speaker 1: you managing things financially? How has it been for you

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Speaker 1: as friends, as women who are still you know, maybe

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Speaker 1: having romantic relationships, but then also raising your family and

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Speaker 1: kids together. And honestly, what I can say is you're

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Speaker 1: going to hear this conversation. And I told them at

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Speaker 1: the end of it, like y'all were everything I wanted

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Speaker 1: you to be. You are the dream, You're living the dream.

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Speaker 1: And I left it truly as inspired as I was

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Speaker 1: as the first time I saw the picture of them

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Speaker 1: that Aysha posted on her ig announcing this new platonic

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Speaker 1: and so happy for them, And I hope that it

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Speaker 1: inspires you to be a fam to create the community

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Speaker 1: and the village and be intentional about building the support

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Speaker 1: that you need and being intentional about saying what it

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Speaker 1: is that you need. You never know your friends, the

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Speaker 1: people that are, you know, off in their own world

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Speaker 1: making their lives work the same way you're making them work.

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Speaker 1: We're all having the same struggles, and if one of

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Speaker 1: us is just brave enough, like i Ushua was, to

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Speaker 1: say like, hey, maybe we could do this a little

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Speaker 1: bit differently, maybe we could support each other and new

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Speaker 1: and even better ways, especially at a crazy time like this.

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Speaker 1: So I hope this show, whether you're curious about non

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Speaker 1: traditional family relationships, family arrangements, or just looking for like

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Speaker 1: I was a little inspo in a world that's often

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Speaker 1: asking us to choose between ambition and seeking support, You're

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Speaker 1: going to find plenty of wisdom and even some laughs

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Speaker 1: in this story. So grab your headphones, get comfy, and

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Speaker 1: let's welcome Aisha Roscoe and Jasmine Melvin Hudson to Brown Ambition.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the show, ladies.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Tell us a little bit about y'all your friendship. First

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Speaker 1: and foremost, y'all met when.

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Speaker 2: Well, so we met back in college.

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Speaker 3: We both went to Howard, but we weren't besties back

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Speaker 3: in college. I was a year ahead of Jasmine and I,

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Speaker 3: but we both worked for The Hilltop. I was editor

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Speaker 4: She was I wouldn't say mean. She was very like

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Speaker 3: And we tried to be really tough in our interviews.

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Speaker 3: I'm serious, but yeah. But but Jasmine was a copy editor.

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Speaker 2: Were you copy chief? Did you call copy chief?

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Speaker 3: So we so we were cool then, but we knew

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Speaker 2: Were you an intern?

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Speaker 4: How did this happen? Basically? I followed behind you. I

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Speaker 4: because I'm like, I'm gonna make sure I'm gonna get

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Speaker 1: Yes, I did you Were you instrumental in getting her there?

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Speaker 3: Well, you know, they did ask me. I was not instrumental.

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Speaker 3: They did ask me like do you know Jasmine?

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Speaker 2: Do you know this?

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Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, I know her, I don't know

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't have. But but she knew.

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Speaker 3: The right person because she knew the former the bureau chief.

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Speaker 3: Knew of like the work that Jasmine had done, so

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Speaker 3: she knew the right person. And then she got in

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Speaker 3: and then I don't Jasmine, I don't even know if

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Speaker 3: you know this story, but what happened was I had

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Speaker 3: I have my man who was my ex husband. I

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Speaker 3: all my friends had moved away because I was still

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Speaker 3: therapist was like, well you should try to add you know,

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Speaker 3: I asked Jazmine to do like an exercise class, and

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Speaker 3: Jazz is like yeah, and we've been best these ever since.

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Speaker 3: Now we did the exercise class, and then what would

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Speaker 4: You got to eat injury to eat in drink, so

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Speaker 3: Always like, yeah, let's exercise and then we would go

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Speaker 2: We just and we've been in some for whoever since.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I did not know that story, but I didn't know.

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Speaker 4: I was like, yes, like I need someone to hang

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah from the south North Carolina. We're actually both

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Speaker 4: I'm from Duram, I'm from Nightdale. It's really close to Raleigh.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, so like we're very similar, but we you know,

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Speaker 4: Everything, and even now living together and hearing more of

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Speaker 4: we are very similar. We kind of even get the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, where is there ever a point? So at this point,

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Speaker 3: Yet we weren't married, so we were a child. We

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Speaker 3: of my bride's presents. Yeah, I got married in April

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Speaker 4: In September of twenty twelve, and she was one of

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Speaker 3: Yes, And then and then we started having babies, and

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Speaker 1: This is reminded me so much of when Harry met Sally,

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Speaker 1: Were there any times when like y'all grew further apart

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Speaker 4: I think it helped that we were both kind of

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Speaker 4: you know, hey, are you shure, Let's just hang out

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Speaker 3: Yeah, That's basically what we did. Like we just would

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Speaker 1: But it's like, okay, like during the pandemic, is that

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Speaker 1: what you mean by we just like.

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Speaker 3: Because we had with children.

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Speaker 4: If we'd go somewhere, like we'd go out to eat,

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Speaker 4: but it's easier to go out to eat with her

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Speaker 4: We literally just passed babies across the table, like hate

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Speaker 4: a second. And you can't really do that with everyone,

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Speaker 4: Like not everyone wants your baby.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and not everyone wants to deal with like a

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Speaker 4: I had always said, okay, next time we moved, we

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Speaker 2: But then I thought about it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And then the other part of that I knew,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Hey, ba fam, we gotta take a quick break,

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Speaker 1: I mean it's hard enough to like get a vacation

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Speaker 4: I think we saw all those things and we're like, girl,

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Speaker 2: That was too much.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and we neither one of us are type A.

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Speaker 3: Like we both are one hundred percent owners. So you

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Speaker 3: then we would you know, we would do a trust

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00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:53,960
Speaker 3: for who you know, for the other person, or the

440
00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:55,840
Speaker 3: person would have a trust and it would go to

441
00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:58,480
Speaker 3: that like or we'd sell the house and do the

442
00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:02,200
Speaker 3: proceeds that way. And we are have we have our

443
00:21:02,240 --> 00:21:05,320
Speaker 3: own like we've already talked out our own side agreements

444
00:21:05,320 --> 00:21:07,920
Speaker 3: for how we would handle that, and we know where

445
00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:10,320
Speaker 3: we want the money to go, and we know how.

446
00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:11,000
Speaker 2: We want it to go.

447
00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:15,720
Speaker 1: We need in writing somewhere or do we and.

448
00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:16,400
Speaker 2: We've been meeting.

449
00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:17,560
Speaker 4: We're gonna get to it.

450
00:21:18,280 --> 00:21:20,399
Speaker 3: We're gonna get to it. But we trusted in the

451
00:21:20,400 --> 00:21:22,960
Speaker 3: Lord right now. But you should you should absolutely do

452
00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 3: it in writing. And it's not that we're like, oh,

453
00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:26,840
Speaker 3: we don't want to do it in writing, but it's

454
00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:29,120
Speaker 3: just we got five kids and.

455
00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:31,800
Speaker 1: We had I have a husband. Have we done an

456
00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,119
Speaker 1: advanced directive and a will and all that that we

457
00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:35,240
Speaker 1: were just talking the other day.

458
00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:38,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, so we have to so yeah, so we have

459
00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:40,520
Speaker 3: to do so all of that we have to do,

460
00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:42,960
Speaker 3: but we are going to do it. But I have

461
00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:48,119
Speaker 3: to say the home buying process was the easiest process

462
00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:52,359
Speaker 3: with Jasmine. I mean, I and I've seen my friends

463
00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:56,520
Speaker 3: buying houses with their partners, and I think me and

464
00:21:56,560 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 3: I kept going, well, I thank god I don't have

465
00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:00,280
Speaker 3: to buy a house with a man. Because me and

466
00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:04,120
Speaker 3: Jasmin had none of them problems. We didn't have no

467
00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:04,879
Speaker 3: heart of it.

468
00:22:05,520 --> 00:22:05,760
Speaker 2: No.

469
00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:13,879
Speaker 3: Well, look, I ain't saying that there wasn't no credit issues,

470
00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:16,919
Speaker 3: but we held each other down where she had the credit,

471
00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:24,920
Speaker 3: I had the money, so we complimented each other and

472
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:28,000
Speaker 3: then when it came to looking, it wasn't like we

473
00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:31,399
Speaker 3: both have such similar tastes that when we found the house.

474
00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:33,639
Speaker 2: It wasn't It was like, this is it. Let's go

475
00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:34,840
Speaker 2: Like it wasn't.

476
00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:37,120
Speaker 3: No. I was like I went to the house, the home,

477
00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:39,720
Speaker 3: the open house, and I was like, Jasmine, I think

478
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:42,840
Speaker 3: this is the house. This works for us. She saw

479
00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 3: it and we were all in Like it wasn't like

480
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 3: a whole bunch of disagreements and you know, what type

481
00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:51,040
Speaker 3: of house we want and what is gonna look like

482
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:54,160
Speaker 3: how much is gonna cost? Like, you know, we were

483
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 3: just in sync and that's the great And like furnishing

484
00:22:57,560 --> 00:23:01,040
Speaker 3: the house, like we just we pick the stuff. It's

485
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:03,439
Speaker 3: not a whole bunch of arguing and back and forth.

486
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:07,679
Speaker 4: We just get colors around, like nothing has to be

487
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:12,879
Speaker 4: like monotone or like black and brown. Everything's colorful. We decided,

488
00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,080
Speaker 4: like we went to the furniture store. We sat in

489
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 4: different you know couches, and they were like, what colors

490
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:21,560
Speaker 4: do we like? You know, it was very very simple,

491
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 4: and it's like if it's I didn't like that, okay,

492
00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:25,600
Speaker 4: let's go find if I I'm like, I think this

493
00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:28,640
Speaker 4: one's a little like too stiff. She's like, cool, let's

494
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 4: go sit in another one. There's no need, you know,

495
00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:34,119
Speaker 4: for anyone to you know, have to like compromise and

496
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:37,520
Speaker 4: being comfortable. It's like we can find something we both like.

497
00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:40,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, and there's less of the power struggles because you

498
00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:44,120
Speaker 3: know with sometimes especially with like gender roles, it can

499
00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:47,160
Speaker 3: be like this thing where it's like I'm a man

500
00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:49,120
Speaker 3: and you can't be telling me what to do.

501
00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:51,800
Speaker 1: I have no idea, no.

502
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:53,760
Speaker 2: Idea about that. You wouldn't know about that.

503
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:56,679
Speaker 3: But some people somewhere may have dealt with that, you know,

504
00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,199
Speaker 3: like where it's like I'm a man and I have

505
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 3: to assert my thing, and you know the and I

506
00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:04,920
Speaker 3: like there's all this other stuff that means just when

507
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:06,760
Speaker 3: we don't have to deal with all that, we don't

508
00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 3: have to deal with all the power struggles and stuff.

509
00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:15,240
Speaker 1: Because you're just making it sound so easy. Even the

510
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:17,920
Speaker 1: I mean we got we could agree that we needed

511
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 1: a new couch, which we got rid of. You have

512
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:21,240
Speaker 1: to like pick up. You have to like schedule the

513
00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:23,640
Speaker 1: dumps the trash pick up to come and they come

514
00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 1: and crush your couch up. Tell me why it's been

515
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 1: three weeks we have no new couch. We can't agree.

516
00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 2: Well, that's the.

517
00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:34,639
Speaker 3: Way I think it was with ours exst Like we

518
00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:38,200
Speaker 3: have to figure out who love agree, can and even

519
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:40,679
Speaker 3: just decided when to get the new couch. How I

520
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:42,240
Speaker 3: think we need a new couch. I don't think we

521
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:44,560
Speaker 3: need no new couch. This one we can wait?

522
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 4: And what price point? We did not? I don't want

523
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:48,760
Speaker 4: to spend that much and like, oh but I think

524
00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 4: we should spend a lot over here instead, and you

525
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:55,000
Speaker 4: know we yeah, no friends.

526
00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:57,040
Speaker 1: That are just you don't have as much conflict? Is it?

527
00:24:57,880 --> 00:24:58,160
Speaker 2: Yeah?

528
00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 1: I don't know what can y'all? Can you describe it?

529
00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:02,800
Speaker 2: Like what do you think? What do you think? Jessin?

530
00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 2: Why we ain't got.

531
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:06,960
Speaker 4: We're just like very in sync and we can communicate

532
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 4: so like if there is an issue, we communicate very well.

533
00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:14,240
Speaker 4: And there's not and there's you know, not like as

534
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:17,199
Speaker 4: you said, not the power struggles. Like we both know

535
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 4: we are both on the same level. Both of our

536
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:25,040
Speaker 4: ideas matter equally, so it's just easier to get things done.

537
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 1: There's a high level of respect, yes, yeah, and I

538
00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 1: think we have and trust and yeah, we've.

539
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:34,480
Speaker 2: Known each other long enough that we know we both

540
00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:36,760
Speaker 2: love we love each other. We're not out to hurt

541
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:39,360
Speaker 2: each other. We're not. We would never do that, right,

542
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:42,320
Speaker 2: Like so we're just trying to work with each other.

543
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 3: And I think also because you don't have the romance part,

544
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:49,159
Speaker 3: you don't have all the like do you love me?

545
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:53,879
Speaker 2: You know? You know, I guess do you love me?

546
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 2: Are you still here for me?

547
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:57,920
Speaker 3: Like you have all that extra stuff and I feel

548
00:25:57,920 --> 00:25:59,840
Speaker 3: like I'm me and Jestin ain't got that.

549
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,159
Speaker 2: So it's just like you my friend, I'm your friend.

550
00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,320
Speaker 2: That's it. We don't have to do all the you know,

551
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 2: are you still in love with me? Do you see what?

552
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 2: To be with me?

553
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:14,880
Speaker 1: That complicates it, right, it has to. Yeah, So y'all,

554
00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:17,160
Speaker 1: what are the ages of your kids? What's what are

555
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:18,840
Speaker 1: the age range you have going on?

556
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:25,280
Speaker 4: So eleven, ten, nine, and two seven year olds? So

557
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:27,680
Speaker 4: we were really going just back and forth.

558
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,120
Speaker 3: And one of the seven year olds, mine is about

559
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:33,680
Speaker 3: to be eight, okay, so it would be seven, eight, nine.

560
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:38,080
Speaker 5: Ten, and eleven like literally yeah, okay, So just real talk.

561
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 1: I mean, first you have the transition of your the

562
00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:43,639
Speaker 1: their their father, you know, their mommy and daddy are

563
00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 1: no longer together. You have that big talk. How did

564
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 1: y'all navigate that? And then how did it go when

565
00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:53,679
Speaker 1: you were telling them and mommy and Auntie a Yusha

566
00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:56,160
Speaker 1: and Auntie Jasmine, like we're gonna all live together. How

567
00:26:56,160 --> 00:26:58,879
Speaker 1: did those conversations go? How different were they How did

568
00:26:58,880 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 1: the kids take it?

569
00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:04,000
Speaker 3: I think I think the kids were excited, but also

570
00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 3: it's like this is different because like my kids had

571
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 3: lived in the same house their whole life, and so

572
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:12,200
Speaker 3: they were kind of like, ah, I don't.

573
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:14,679
Speaker 1: Know, you know, and you owned the house that you

574
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 1: had to sell.

575
00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:17,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, I owned a house that I had to sell.

576
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, and yeah, so I had been in the house

577
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:24,320
Speaker 3: for fifteen years and so my kids were used to that.

578
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 2: But I mean they were excited.

579
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 3: They were excited to live with, you know, Zola and mckinna,

580
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:32,640
Speaker 3: and they loved the Once we found the new house.

581
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,399
Speaker 2: They loved the new house. They wanted to move to

582
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 2: it immediately.

583
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:39,800
Speaker 4: Yes with them. So my kids initially very excited. I

584
00:27:39,840 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 4: get to like, you know, stay with my best friend.

585
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:47,240
Speaker 4: It's a sleepover every night. They uh, first thing, their

586
00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 4: first request was, Hey, can I like stay with like

587
00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:53,399
Speaker 4: my best friend, not my sister. I don't want to

588
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:55,919
Speaker 4: have a room with my sister. I went with my friend.

589
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:56,879
Speaker 4: That's cool.

590
00:27:57,440 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 1: When they were like picking rooms and stuff.

591
00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:02,240
Speaker 4: Well, we firstnounced it like that. Even then it's like Okay,

592
00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:05,600
Speaker 4: I don't want a room with my sister, like you know,

593
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 4: but then too, like you know, after the excitement and

594
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:11,520
Speaker 4: you know, they were all like, oh, like yeah, it's

595
00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:13,639
Speaker 4: gonna be great. Then they did have their kind of

596
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 4: one on one conversations with us, like hey, like expressing

597
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 4: their concerns like what's going to happen? What does this mean,

598
00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:22,880
Speaker 4: and that we had to deal with.

599
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:27,199
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, And I think it's still you know, for

600
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:31,199
Speaker 3: the kids, it is a transition because now you're in

601
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,159
Speaker 3: a new home, you're in a new space, and then

602
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,199
Speaker 3: you have to share with a whole bunch of kids.

603
00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 3: And you know, kids are they're not like me and Jezzine,

604
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:41,560
Speaker 3: where we're just easy going whatever happened.

605
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 2: They're like this is mine and and why's in my space?

606
00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 4: So I think that's always yeah, or she's looking at

607
00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:53,520
Speaker 4: me wrong, like oh she's being too loud, like yeah.

608
00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 3: But the crazy But the thing is they'll complain about

609
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 3: each other, but they can't stay away from each other,

610
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,280
Speaker 3: Like we have any room in the house, they can

611
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:04,160
Speaker 3: separate out, but they will all be on top of

612
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 3: each other.

613
00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, but constantly like oh, she's getting on my

614
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:14,479
Speaker 4: nerves or like he's bothering me. But all sitting on

615
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 4: the same couch.

616
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 2: Could just move, you.

617
00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:23,160
Speaker 3: Could just leave each other. No, I'm gonna sit in

618
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 3: the living area. I'm gonna go touch him and then

619
00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 3: and then I'm gonna run over here to him and

620
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,440
Speaker 3: I'm gonna laugh and be smiling. Then we're gonna be

621
00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:34,040
Speaker 3: kicking on the catch together. So it's like I'm kind

622
00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 3: of like, Okay, y'all, y'all love And I keep telling them,

623
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 3: I'm like, y'all love being together because y'all all upon

624
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 3: each other.

625
00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:45,160
Speaker 1: Yea's five kids, two adults. So how many rooms is

626
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 1: this house? Like, what's the layout? Like? Do you each

627
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:50,400
Speaker 1: have your own living quarters or do you share living spaces?

628
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:54,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, so we share living spaces definitely, but we have

629
00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:58,960
Speaker 3: our own space. And I know I have my space upstairs,

630
00:29:58,960 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 3: which I.

631
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 1: Love done right now, I'm in the queens.

632
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:05,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm in the Queen's den, and so I have

633
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 3: my own Like, so upstairs is only me. So it's

634
00:30:09,160 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 3: my bedroom and I got my beautiful bathroom and all

635
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 3: that stuff. Now Jazz was downstairs in the basement, but

636
00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 3: she does have a big room a large room. Yes,

637
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:19,720
Speaker 3: she has a very large rooms. She has a very

638
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:22,440
Speaker 3: large rooms. And the great thing about this house, so it's, uh,

639
00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:24,160
Speaker 3: it's basically how many bedrooms.

640
00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:25,320
Speaker 4: It's five bedrooms.

641
00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 3: It's five bedrooms and four bathrooms and all the bathrooms

642
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:34,600
Speaker 3: are full bathrooms, which is also huge. That's great, like,

643
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 3: so that's the wonderful thing about it. So we have

644
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:43,280
Speaker 3: a bunch of bathrooms. Basically, I'm on the I'm up,

645
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 3: I have my own space. Then on the main level

646
00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 3: we have the older kids, so my son and the

647
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 3: older girls, and then and there are two bathrooms on

648
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:54,960
Speaker 3: the main level, including one in the older girls room.

649
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:56,800
Speaker 3: So they get and they need that because they have

650
00:30:56,840 --> 00:30:58,640
Speaker 3: skin care and all that stuff, so.

651
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 2: Ca routine preteene.

652
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 3: They're preteen, so that's do the skincare. And then downstairs

653
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 3: on the bottom we have Jasmine and we have the

654
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 3: little girls.

655
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 4: And there's another living space you.

656
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:14,960
Speaker 3: Know, yeah, it's another living room, and so so we

657
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 3: have two living rooms basically, and then.

658
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, that would have been my first fight.

659
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 1: Why does she get stuck with the kids downstairs.

660
00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 4: And you get to be on top of the castle,

661
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 4: but you know, like down here, I can also sneak

662
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:29,400
Speaker 4: out when I need to. You know, I don't have

663
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:31,440
Speaker 4: to go past, you know, because the little girls will

664
00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:34,360
Speaker 4: just be sleep or I mean, you know, I can

665
00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:36,120
Speaker 4: you know, I can sneak out the garage when I

666
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 4: need to. I don't have to go out the garage.

667
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:40,640
Speaker 3: You have somebody in there. I gotta go through the

668
00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 3: whole thing. Everybody got, you know.

669
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 1: Okay, I feel like it's like paparazzi waiting to get

670
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 1: your picture, but it's just the kids with the problem.

671
00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:52,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, So, so.

672
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:54,680
Speaker 1: Are you all so comfortable? Like is it you know,

673
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 1: you know, you have those mom friends where like you

674
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 1: can meet their kids, their kid comes over and everyone's

675
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:02,240
Speaker 1: getting everyone's getting time out together. If someone's acting up,

676
00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:05,240
Speaker 1: like you're you're good. Was there any like awkwardness of

677
00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 1: co parenting or is it like when something happens, y'all

678
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 1: send each other's kids to each other like, or are

679
00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 1: y'all conflict resolutioning as co parents? How does that all work?

680
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:16,000
Speaker 1: Does that make sense?

681
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:19,640
Speaker 4: Yeah? I think when like, you know, if someone you

682
00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 4: know is hurt or upset, like we can both deal

683
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:25,400
Speaker 4: with that. If it's a bigger issue or something requiring

684
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 4: like actual discipline, we will send that to the other

685
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 4: parents to deal with. But you know, the day to

686
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 4: day things like oh, she took my toy. You know,

687
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 4: he's got the iPad and I want it. Either one

688
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 4: of us you know, can deal with that. Ye yeah, yeah, And.

689
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 3: You know, I mean I think that we both try

690
00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 3: to be caring for the other's kids, so like if

691
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:50,960
Speaker 3: they're having a rough day or having a rough time,

692
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 3: you know, I think we're both there to comfort the

693
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 3: kids and like to be there for them and to

694
00:32:58,120 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 3: just try to you know, just try to do what

695
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 3: can do, but then also give the other parent, oh

696
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:05,440
Speaker 3: heads up, so we give like I'm giving Jasmine heads

697
00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 3: up or she's given she you know what, such and

698
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:11,360
Speaker 3: such was upset about this, okay, such as us seem

699
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:13,960
Speaker 3: like they're not happy, so you have to deal when

700
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 3: they go, they gonna be they upset. Yeah, so you know,

701
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 3: so we can kind of do that too, or be like,

702
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 3: oh I saw they seem happy. They seem fine. Yeah, no,

703
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 3: they're not upset no more.

704
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:26,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, they cool.

705
00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:29,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, And it helps Thatt Like we're not new to

706
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:32,520
Speaker 4: each other's kids, like we have been around them, you know,

707
00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:35,600
Speaker 4: we I mean, we are their first babysitters. You know,

708
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 4: when we needed something. You know, they've been around us

709
00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:41,360
Speaker 4: all the time. We've watched them, you know, solo before

710
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:44,040
Speaker 4: when you know, when I had a work event or

711
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 4: she had to go out somewhere. So they're used to

712
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 4: the both of us, and they're used to like listening

713
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:51,520
Speaker 4: to the both of us.

714
00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:55,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, absolutely, that's a good point, right, I mean,

715
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 1: and they have that y'all have that love for each other.

716
00:33:57,360 --> 00:34:01,560
Speaker 1: Y'all been you know they it feels it's really special

717
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 1: when you love your best friend's kids. It just feels

718
00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:07,960
Speaker 1: it feels a little I love it. Okay. So financially,

719
00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:12,319
Speaker 1: like our household, like financial responsibilities are you're splitting them

720
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:14,680
Speaker 1: mortgage fifty to fifty? Is it like y'all share a

721
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:17,160
Speaker 1: bank account for the household? Like how do you manage

722
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:17,560
Speaker 1: all that.

723
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 3: We have like joint utilities? And so we don't split

724
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:24,359
Speaker 3: everything fifty to fifty because I, you know, because of

725
00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:26,880
Speaker 3: you know, I make more money. So it's like one

726
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:29,480
Speaker 3: of those things where I make more money. So I

727
00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:32,319
Speaker 3: but we split them, you know, and I but we

728
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 3: split them like in a way that we feel is equitable. Right,

729
00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 3: And then when it comes to utilities, we just split

730
00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 3: them you know, like I think I do electric.

731
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 2: And water, and I do gas, and then you.

732
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 3: Do some of the Like we got some joint stuff

733
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:49,280
Speaker 3: like from home depot and the blast.

734
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:51,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, paying off the wash your dryer and you know,

735
00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:54,400
Speaker 4: yeah it got touched the blinds. Yeah, So we kind

736
00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 4: of split it equitably so everyone is comfortable.

737
00:34:58,120 --> 00:34:59,440
Speaker 2: So everybody's comfortable.

738
00:34:59,520 --> 00:34:59,759
Speaker 4: Yeah.

739
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 2: So that's how we did it.

740
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:04,359
Speaker 3: And you know, really it's this is new for me

741
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:06,920
Speaker 3: because I never split nothing in my old house.

742
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,960
Speaker 1: Heyba fam, we're gonna take a quick break, pay some

743
00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:13,680
Speaker 1: bills and we'll be right back.

744
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:17,880
Speaker 3: I had nothing, so this is new for me to

745
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:19,960
Speaker 3: ask somebody help with anything when.

746
00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 1: You're the couple too, Like I'll go to dinner. It

747
00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:24,360
Speaker 1: doesn't I'm like, damn, it's expensive being married. Like at

748
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:26,080
Speaker 1: least when I was dating, it felt like I was

749
00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:28,360
Speaker 1: getting half off, Like yeah, it was my vote.

750
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:30,720
Speaker 2: Yeah.

751
00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 1: So with the mortgage, did y'all so did y'all put

752
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:34,839
Speaker 1: kick in the same amount or did y'all work out

753
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:36,799
Speaker 1: some kind of agreement for how much you were kicking

754
00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 1: in for the house itself, like the downhayment in the

755
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 1: cost of the house.

756
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 4: We made an agreement based only kind of where we

757
00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 4: both were.

758
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:45,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, because we were.

759
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:48,239
Speaker 3: I think that's the thing about us is like for me,

760
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:50,440
Speaker 3: I'm like, I just want a house, So did I

761
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:51,520
Speaker 3: could come up with this much?

762
00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:54,080
Speaker 2: How much can you come up with? And that was that,

763
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:56,000
Speaker 2: Like it was like and we.

764
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:59,800
Speaker 4: Had both sold houses as well. I had previously sold

765
00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 4: my house when when I got divorced, so you know,

766
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 4: there were there were funds there. We just had to

767
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:07,919
Speaker 4: you know, figure out how to make it all work.

768
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it was really like, let's make this work,

769
00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:14,040
Speaker 3: Like I just need to I want to get this house.

770
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 2: What can you come up with?

771
00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:16,759
Speaker 3: You can come up with that, I can come up

772
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:19,960
Speaker 3: with this, and like for me, like with stuff like that,

773
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 3: it's just like, I mean, I'm not a I'm like

774
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:27,000
Speaker 3: we get in the house, we all paying the bills,

775
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:29,719
Speaker 3: it all comes out and washed like that's I've never

776
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 3: been like a super like dollar for a dollar person

777
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 3: because obviously, even as I said, in my last situation,

778
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 3: I was paying for everything. So I'm not a like,

779
00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 3: I'm not I'm I'm more about the outcomes than like

780
00:36:44,400 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 3: dividing up you gotta you owe me this da da

781
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 3: da da. Although we have talked about how we would

782
00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:52,000
Speaker 3: deal with that since I put in more but or whatever.

783
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:55,240
Speaker 4: But yeah, and then also with the DC housing market

784
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:57,759
Speaker 4: and us needing such a large house, like a five

785
00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 4: bedroom house is not the norm in DC, and we

786
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:03,880
Speaker 4: have a full it's a single family home, full backyard

787
00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 4: and everything that we wanted for our kids. Kind of

788
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 4: we had to move quickly. So it's like we had

789
00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 4: what do you have now? What can you get now?

790
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:16,439
Speaker 4: And we just like figured it out together in order

791
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:18,319
Speaker 4: to get that down payment so we could get the

792
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:19,360
Speaker 4: house we wanted to do.

793
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:20,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

794
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:23,160
Speaker 3: And also I always say, you know, if I have,

795
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 3: you have you know what I'm saying, And Jasmin has

796
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:27,360
Speaker 3: always been the same way with me, you know.

797
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:30,480
Speaker 2: So it's like if you if I'm riding, you ride.

798
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 3: You know.

799
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 2: If I'm good, you good.

800
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:35,520
Speaker 3: So that's how we That's how I think we both

801
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,280
Speaker 3: look at it. Neither one of us are the type

802
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 3: that sending Venmo requests. I spent twenty dollars on drinks

803
00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:43,239
Speaker 3: last night.

804
00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 1: You droke and you never said wise, not the split

805
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 1: wise text at the end of the day.

806
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:50,880
Speaker 4: No, we've never done that because it all comes out

807
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:52,520
Speaker 4: like we go out all the time or hanging out

808
00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:55,560
Speaker 4: all the time. Kids will need stuff at different times.

809
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:58,640
Speaker 4: You know, we're getting each other's kids things. It all

810
00:37:58,680 --> 00:37:59,719
Speaker 4: just kind of evens out.

811
00:38:00,200 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 2: We don't do that, we don't go.

812
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:04,600
Speaker 3: You owe me twenty dollars from when I spent doing

813
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 3: blah blah blah. That's not how we do So so

814
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 3: how is it? I think maybe because are you sure?

815
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:13,920
Speaker 3: I knew you a little bit before this, and I

816
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:16,200
Speaker 3: think we might have talked about this over some cocktails

817
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:18,319
Speaker 3: and Miami at the conference we were both at.

818
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:21,760
Speaker 1: But we all are y'all dating? Do you have relationships

819
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:23,719
Speaker 1: or you have you figured out what it's like? I mean,

820
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 1: you got built in babysitting. That's nice, but how has

821
00:38:27,600 --> 00:38:28,000
Speaker 1: that been it?

822
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:31,680
Speaker 3: Now? That's huge, Like having a built in babysitter is huge.

823
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:34,319
Speaker 3: And that was a big reason why I also was like,

824
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 3: let's get this house because I was spending thousands of

825
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:40,800
Speaker 3: dollars on nannies and not on a more than my mortgage.

826
00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:44,000
Speaker 3: And so by being in this house, you know, with Jasmine,

827
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:47,359
Speaker 3: she's already saved me thousands and thousands of dollars each month.

828
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:51,120
Speaker 3: But when it comes to dating, you know, yes, I'm dating,

829
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:54,960
Speaker 3: I'm doing doing some dating, and you know some nice,

830
00:38:55,160 --> 00:39:00,800
Speaker 3: nice nice man and jazz I let you.

831
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:03,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, and the same thing. Yeah, having the built in

832
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:06,360
Speaker 4: babysitter because you know, I wasn't paying for babysitters. I

833
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 4: was just staying home, so I was at the house

834
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:11,919
Speaker 4: all the time. Now I can go out. So, yes,

835
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 4: dating is happening. There is someone.

836
00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 2: But we're working on but you know we can't. We

837
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:21,080
Speaker 2: gotta be careful because you know how it is. You

838
00:39:21,120 --> 00:39:23,839
Speaker 2: know how these we we know how it is.

839
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 1: Am I supposed to know how it is?

840
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:31,200
Speaker 3: I haven't dated in a Oh yeah either we had No,

841
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:32,880
Speaker 3: we haven't either many years.

842
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,720
Speaker 2: But yeah, we we back out there, We back out there.

843
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 1: What's been pleasantly surprising about dating? Tell me something good?

844
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:42,959
Speaker 4: Something good?

845
00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:46,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, good.

846
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:50,959
Speaker 3: No. My thing is is that sometimes you can meet

847
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:54,279
Speaker 3: someone who's like I think, to me, I feel like

848
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 3: it's getting better, Like I feel like I'm meeting better

849
00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 3: not like better people like everybody has worth, but you

850
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 3: get what I'm saying, better for me, that's what I

851
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:06,319
Speaker 3: should say. I feel like, what's amazing is like, oh

852
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:09,640
Speaker 3: I could meet someone like I like this person. I

853
00:40:09,680 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 3: thought that was something, But then you meet someone else

854
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:15,680
Speaker 3: and you're like, oh, my goodness, I'm also a hopeless romantic.

855
00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:17,920
Speaker 3: But like you meet someone else and you're like, oh,

856
00:40:17,960 --> 00:40:21,279
Speaker 3: my goodness, this is like I've never I haven't experienced

857
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 3: this before, and this is I didn't know it could

858
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:26,800
Speaker 3: be like this because both of both me and Jasmine

859
00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 3: we were our exence were people we met in college,

860
00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:33,520
Speaker 3: and so we didn't have like dating in our twenties.

861
00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:36,480
Speaker 3: We didn't have a bunch of relationships. Yeah, one of

862
00:40:36,520 --> 00:40:38,799
Speaker 3: us really had any relationships. I think that was your

863
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 3: first boyfriend.

864
00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 4: Not first, but like the first serious one. Yeah, I'm

865
00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 4: a serious boyfriend.

866
00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 2: He was like my only boyfriend.

867
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:48,759
Speaker 3: So like we it's not like we had a bunch

868
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:52,640
Speaker 3: of relationships to like, So I think that's what like

869
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:53,960
Speaker 3: that it can get better.

870
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:56,839
Speaker 4: Yes, i'd say that, yeah, to be like, oh, this

871
00:40:56,880 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 4: is how things could be. It could be like nice

872
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 4: and sweet in.

873
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:02,439
Speaker 1: A very low bar.

874
00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 4: Wow, you know you said, yes, you said it.

875
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 1: It makes sense because they're in the picture anymore. So

876
00:41:11,239 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 1: y'all have y'all are getting to see each other like

877
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:15,200
Speaker 1: get all cute, dolled up, go out, you know, and

878
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 1: then you get to like debrief together when you get back.

879
00:41:19,360 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 1: If you give me, I don't know. Sometimes we'll see

880
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 1: how it goes. But you know, but has there been

881
00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 1: a conversation over like are the men coming over the

882
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:29,720
Speaker 1: gentlemen or whoever are they coming over? Are we having

883
00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:31,960
Speaker 1: like do are y'all in agreement on like what those

884
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:32,640
Speaker 1: boundaries are?

885
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 4: I think we have? You know, you know, neither of

886
00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:41,279
Speaker 4: us are like involving the children at all. So it's like,

887
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:44,839
Speaker 4: how can we help each other to make things work?

888
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 4: So kind of what you know, what needs to happen?

889
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:49,799
Speaker 4: Do I need to you know, oh, I'll take all

890
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:53,279
Speaker 4: the kids and we'll go you know, we'll go to

891
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 4: the malls or you know what needs to happen, and

892
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 4: we just kind of communicate because yes, because the kids

893
00:41:58,520 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 4: are completely separate.

894
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's like, you know, okay, I need to

895
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:05,920
Speaker 3: keep the kids, and she'll tell me, like, look, if

896
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 3: you need, I'll keep the kids distracted while you, you know,

897
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:11,200
Speaker 3: get them up the stand. You know.

898
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:19,120
Speaker 1: Oh, so your YouTube show coming out.

899
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:23,920
Speaker 2: Everyone needs to see look.

900
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:25,880
Speaker 3: See so that but that's how we work with but

901
00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:28,399
Speaker 3: neither one of us. Both of us are very much

902
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 3: like you can't just bring people around the kids, And

903
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:34,440
Speaker 3: we talk with each other about like okay, how are

904
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:36,440
Speaker 3: we even going to start those? The good thing is

905
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:38,840
Speaker 3: we can bounce off each other, like how should we

906
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:41,840
Speaker 3: even start those conversations with the kids, and what do

907
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 3: you think we should do? What do you think you know?

908
00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:46,920
Speaker 3: And we're like we just well, we're working with each other.

909
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:48,800
Speaker 3: I'm like, what do you think our kids can handle?

910
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 2: What do you think? What if I start saying it?

911
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:52,840
Speaker 3: And then maybe that'll get your kids used to the

912
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:55,440
Speaker 3: idea and then that, you know, like we can just

913
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 3: like talking about.

914
00:42:56,239 --> 00:42:58,879
Speaker 4: It, bounce ideas off each other like kind of what

915
00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:02,439
Speaker 4: you know, like you said, which which children's temperament will

916
00:43:02,480 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 4: be good? Like with this, like what can we like

917
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:07,840
Speaker 4: what you know can they handle? And like who should

918
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:10,080
Speaker 4: we bring this to first? And maybe they'll get all

919
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 4: the other children on board strategy.

920
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, so yes, but we are we do want

921
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:19,279
Speaker 3: to make some content. We are gonna try to do

922
00:43:19,440 --> 00:43:21,759
Speaker 3: our and we have we do have an Instagram. We

923
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 3: ain't started the whole thing. Yeah, but it's it's under

924
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 3: one roof, Yes, under one roof the number one and

925
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 3: three f's and.

926
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:33,919
Speaker 1: Roof because three not three.

927
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:38,560
Speaker 4: Well, it's under one roof forging family, Forging.

928
00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:41,880
Speaker 5: Family, Okay, under one roof Forging Family.

929
00:43:42,040 --> 00:43:44,240
Speaker 1: It's like me when I couldn't get Mandy money on TikTok,

930
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:47,279
Speaker 1: I just added a couple extra a's we try to give.

931
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:49,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, we tried.

932
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:52,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, so under one roof forging family.

933
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:55,160
Speaker 5: So put the link in our show notes.

934
00:43:55,800 --> 00:44:00,240
Speaker 1: Could be the first I g followers. Yeah, hot hot news. Yeah.

935
00:44:00,280 --> 00:44:02,279
Speaker 1: And do you have a YouTube yet or you said

936
00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:04,399
Speaker 1: you're working on that. That takes a little bit more time.

937
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:06,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, working on that. Well we'll wait. I mean there

938
00:44:06,960 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 4: are five kids to contend with, so we we may

939
00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:10,719
Speaker 4: get there.

940
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 2: Well, we've started some.

941
00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 3: My my middle child is trying to be a Tiktoka

942
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:21,440
Speaker 3: stream of everything. So she and Jasmine the great. The

943
00:44:21,440 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 3: other great thing is Jasmine is really great with like

944
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:28,920
Speaker 3: the kids and like you know, like she'll play Fortnite

945
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:29,399
Speaker 3: with them.

946
00:44:29,719 --> 00:44:31,440
Speaker 2: She will, and I don't like to play Fortnite. I

947
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:32,160
Speaker 2: don't like to do it.

948
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:35,400
Speaker 3: It's like she's she's worked on like a TikTok streaming

949
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:40,080
Speaker 3: plan with Gabrielle, Like we we really do co parent,

950
00:44:40,239 --> 00:44:42,760
Speaker 3: Like she when they had dance, I was like busy

951
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 3: working and like Jasmine is doing the dances for.

952
00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 4: You know, practice in the living room, like he's learning it.

953
00:44:52,760 --> 00:44:56,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, So I cook, She helps with homework. Like so

954
00:44:57,120 --> 00:44:59,160
Speaker 3: we we we really divided us.

955
00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:01,920
Speaker 4: It's like of not just finances, but of labor and

956
00:45:01,960 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 4: of everything of labor.

957
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:03,720
Speaker 2: Yeah.

958
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 3: So and she washes the clothes. I do a lot

959
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 3: of the grocery shopping. I do cooking, and like we

960
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 3: just try to do, you know. And then she'll she

961
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 3: has a lot more patience with the kids for their homework.

962
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:18,759
Speaker 3: So she does that, which I appreciate because I would

963
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:22,360
Speaker 3: much rather frob some port shops than help with some homework.

964
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:25,239
Speaker 3: I don't want to do that.

965
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 1: I'm make suing that that one video from Beyonce's Lemonade,

966
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:32,560
Speaker 1: where like all the women are just in the like

967
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:35,280
Speaker 1: they're in the beautiful countryside and they're bringing someone's bringing

968
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:38,000
Speaker 1: in the collars and like, you know, washing the baby,

969
00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:40,239
Speaker 1: and it's just I'm sure it's not always like that

970
00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:43,680
Speaker 1: because there are our children and it's technology. Yeah everywhere.

971
00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:46,839
Speaker 1: Has there been anything that y'all have found out about

972
00:45:46,840 --> 00:45:48,920
Speaker 1: each other that you didn't know before six months into

973
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:51,640
Speaker 1: living together? Now, it's been any surprises?

974
00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:57,520
Speaker 4: Like I said, I think I've learned things about her

975
00:45:57,560 --> 00:46:00,239
Speaker 4: from before anywhere, Like we were very similar, like in

976
00:46:00,320 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 4: high school, like we were both very you know, quiet

977
00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:08,719
Speaker 4: in the books, you know, doing school newspaper that kind

978
00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:11,759
Speaker 4: of thing. Kind of very very similar. And I was like, oh,

979
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:14,000
Speaker 4: I didn't know that, And both of us like how

980
00:46:14,040 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 4: did we end up in journalism where we have to

981
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 4: talk to people all the time when we were just

982
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:20,800
Speaker 4: like I'm just stay in my room by myself. Yes,

983
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:23,080
Speaker 4: I'm not out there, you know in high school doing

984
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:25,800
Speaker 4: all these things. I'm like, yeah, but we're both like, yeah,

985
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:28,440
Speaker 4: I can just do that. I can go you know,

986
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:30,840
Speaker 4: just go up and you know, we both cover you know,

987
00:46:31,040 --> 00:46:33,840
Speaker 4: you know, politics and business journalism. Like I can just

988
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:36,040
Speaker 4: go up to a CEO or senator and you know,

989
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:38,600
Speaker 4: put a microphone in his face and that'll work.

990
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 2: Well.

991
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:43,280
Speaker 3: I think I knew before, but I didn't like Jasmine

992
00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:46,520
Speaker 3: worked hard. I knew she worked hard, but Jasmine work hard.

993
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:49,799
Speaker 3: This is a hard working lady. And so I'm like,

994
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:53,120
Speaker 3: you know, that's why we need the support, cause it's

995
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 3: like we're both working our butts off, like and raising

996
00:46:57,000 --> 00:47:00,200
Speaker 3: these kids and then doing everything for our kids, like

997
00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:05,200
Speaker 3: really like making sure that they're emotionally healthy, which is

998
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:08,480
Speaker 3: a lot, especially with preteens because they got so many emotions.

999
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 2: Low have mercy girls.

1000
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:15,759
Speaker 3: No, so my oldest there's one boy and four girls.

1001
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:18,960
Speaker 4: So my oldest, which is another whole dynamic.

1002
00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:23,880
Speaker 3: That's another dynamic. So Reggie is the only boy and

1003
00:47:23,920 --> 00:47:27,840
Speaker 3: he's eleven, and then Zola her.

1004
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:31,279
Speaker 2: Oldest, and then going yeah, going down.

1005
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:34,799
Speaker 3: So yeah, so we got some preteens and they got

1006
00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:35,960
Speaker 3: a lot of emotions.

1007
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:38,480
Speaker 2: So we just we're trying to deal with all that.

1008
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 3: And I'm hosting shows and she hosts, She's doing everything,

1009
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:45,560
Speaker 3: she's managing a team, and so I think it's like,

1010
00:47:46,120 --> 00:47:49,919
Speaker 3: I see how hard she works, and it's like, how

1011
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:51,839
Speaker 3: in the world were we doing all of this.

1012
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:57,920
Speaker 4: And with all the lot the same being at MPR

1013
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:00,759
Speaker 4: and then doing all her other you know, speak engagements,

1014
00:48:00,760 --> 00:48:03,799
Speaker 4: and of course she has her book out and promoting that,

1015
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 4: and you know, we are doing a lot, and the

1016
00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:09,040
Speaker 4: kids are also doing a lot. They like to have

1017
00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:11,880
Speaker 4: their you know, extracurriculars, you know, whether it's you know,

1018
00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:15,440
Speaker 4: dance and my kids like art and kind of figuring

1019
00:48:15,560 --> 00:48:18,200
Speaker 4: that out and having time to do all those things.

1020
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 1: Do y'all broke, Well, are you sure you go into

1021
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:24,359
Speaker 1: the office some days and then you're working from home, right,

1022
00:48:24,440 --> 00:48:25,839
Speaker 1: Is that right? Are you both hybrid or.

1023
00:48:26,160 --> 00:48:27,280
Speaker 4: We're both both hybrid?

1024
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:28,960
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, both hybrid.

1025
00:48:29,160 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 3: And so the way it works now pretty much Jazzman

1026
00:48:33,040 --> 00:48:35,000
Speaker 3: usually is taking the kids to school and then I'm

1027
00:48:35,040 --> 00:48:38,759
Speaker 3: like picking them up from schools.

1028
00:48:37,400 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 1: That I pick up drop off. That's great. Yeah, to

1029
00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:41,280
Speaker 1: talk about that, that's.

1030
00:48:41,120 --> 00:48:41,760
Speaker 2: The whole dance.

1031
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:44,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, so we had to get well because well, my

1032
00:48:44,239 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 3: oldest is in middle school, so but luckily he's very

1033
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:48,920
Speaker 3: close to the school so he doesn't have to do.

1034
00:48:48,920 --> 00:48:50,960
Speaker 2: That, but our youngest.

1035
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:53,719
Speaker 3: That's why it was also important that we all all

1036
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:56,400
Speaker 3: the kids, the girls go to the same school, because

1037
00:48:57,000 --> 00:48:58,719
Speaker 3: we could have had the option, they would have been

1038
00:48:58,760 --> 00:49:02,440
Speaker 3: to different schools because the way DC works. But once

1039
00:49:02,800 --> 00:49:05,680
Speaker 3: my kids got into her kids' school, I was like,

1040
00:49:05,760 --> 00:49:09,799
Speaker 3: oh no, the logistics, no, no, no, we to really

1041
00:49:09,840 --> 00:49:12,400
Speaker 3: make this work. Everybody gonna be in the same school

1042
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:14,960
Speaker 3: so we can do the pickups to drop offs. Our

1043
00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:18,239
Speaker 3: youngest are in the same class. So but you would

1044
00:49:18,239 --> 00:49:20,040
Speaker 3: think that would make it easy, but every time they

1045
00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:22,360
Speaker 3: come home and we say, what did happened with the homework?

1046
00:49:23,680 --> 00:49:24,040
Speaker 2: Stories?

1047
00:49:24,160 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I'm like, don't ask seven year olds because

1048
00:49:29,239 --> 00:49:30,919
Speaker 3: it's like, what's the whole No, this.

1049
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 2: Is the homework.

1050
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:34,399
Speaker 4: No, that's the homework work. We don't have any or no,

1051
00:49:34,600 --> 00:49:36,879
Speaker 4: like that was just class work. That was just after

1052
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:38,239
Speaker 4: she and stuff class work.

1053
00:49:39,440 --> 00:49:40,839
Speaker 2: So it's we like, hi.

1054
00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:43,560
Speaker 1: Yu up to the fact that they're in the same house.

1055
00:49:43,680 --> 00:49:45,120
Speaker 1: They can't different stories.

1056
00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:49,240
Speaker 3: Now, yeah, it's like, how are y'all in the same class,

1057
00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:51,239
Speaker 3: But y'all know, but they're both doing really well. They

1058
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:55,080
Speaker 3: both got in the ninety percent times for their first quiz,

1059
00:49:55,239 --> 00:49:58,279
Speaker 3: So okay house.

1060
00:49:58,360 --> 00:50:01,680
Speaker 1: Yes, Now, has it created any funny moments with them

1061
00:50:01,719 --> 00:50:04,840
Speaker 1: telling their teacher, like, you know, like trying to explain

1062
00:50:04,880 --> 00:50:07,400
Speaker 1: the living arrangement? Has that come up at all? Not

1063
00:50:07,440 --> 00:50:09,879
Speaker 1: that it matters, it.

1064
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 3: Has, but it has had funny moments when they're telling

1065
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:15,600
Speaker 3: us stories about what happened at school, because it's when

1066
00:50:15,600 --> 00:50:16,840
Speaker 3: there's drama at school.

1067
00:50:16,920 --> 00:50:19,759
Speaker 2: Now all the kids have seen it, and so it'll

1068
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:22,759
Speaker 2: be like, yeah, it was a fight. Oh I saw it.

1069
00:50:22,880 --> 00:50:24,800
Speaker 2: I saw this part. Oh no, I didn't see that

1070
00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 2: Parker and.

1071
00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:28,279
Speaker 4: The teacher say this or didn't say this, and then

1072
00:50:28,360 --> 00:50:30,960
Speaker 4: afterwards they got taken to the hall. I saw that

1073
00:50:31,280 --> 00:50:31,759
Speaker 4: like this.

1074
00:50:33,520 --> 00:50:37,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, So it's yeah, so we get into that whole thing.

1075
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:39,040
Speaker 2: So that's funny.

1076
00:50:40,040 --> 00:50:43,080
Speaker 1: It's funny. I mean I wonder if, like the if

1077
00:50:43,160 --> 00:50:45,719
Speaker 1: other teachers or their parents will just assume that y'all are,

1078
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 1: you know, just the same sex couple and like any

1079
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:48,720
Speaker 1: other family.

1080
00:50:49,200 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 3: I think that people may assume that when we out

1081
00:50:51,480 --> 00:50:54,120
Speaker 3: and about, because they do say, are those y'all kids?

1082
00:50:54,120 --> 00:50:56,000
Speaker 3: And we'd be like yeah when we're walking, because it's

1083
00:50:56,000 --> 00:50:57,839
Speaker 3: like with five kids, it stands out.

1084
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:00,239
Speaker 2: So there are people who are like, you know.

1085
00:51:00,400 --> 00:51:02,719
Speaker 3: And I was telling a neighbor who lived behind us

1086
00:51:02,719 --> 00:51:05,319
Speaker 3: when we first moved in. I was telling her, you

1087
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:07,960
Speaker 3: know I live, you know. I was telling her, yes,

1088
00:51:08,160 --> 00:51:10,440
Speaker 3: my my friend and her kids. She was like, is

1089
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:14,000
Speaker 3: that now? Is that sure your girlfriend?

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Speaker 2: She was trying to be respectful, like.

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00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:19,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah. Then you know, the neighbors trying to figure

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00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 1: it out. And I'm like, you know, we just yes,

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00:51:23,160 --> 00:51:24,040
Speaker 1: my partner.

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00:51:24,400 --> 00:51:27,879
Speaker 3: He's my partner, she's my life partner, my co pair,

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Speaker 3: but romantically we don't do that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, I'm sure a lot of the neighbors

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00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:36,160
Speaker 4: think that we haven't actually had a conversation with y.

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00:51:38,120 --> 00:51:38,319
Speaker 3: Yeah.

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00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:42,160
Speaker 1: Let him wonder. Yes, I wonder y'all watched The Gilded Age?

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00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 1: Do you know that show.

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00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:44,399
Speaker 2: Do you watch that Jazz?

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00:51:44,719 --> 00:51:48,600
Speaker 3: You know, I only watched Horrors, and that is where

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00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:51,760
Speaker 3: this is where we're just yes, we are very different

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00:51:51,760 --> 00:51:52,080
Speaker 3: on this.

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00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:55,040
Speaker 2: I like Horror and all this stuff.

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00:51:55,400 --> 00:51:58,120
Speaker 4: Like the drama and the morom comes ye.

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00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:03,000
Speaker 1: Girl about to say, because you might watch that, I.

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00:52:04,000 --> 00:52:05,560
Speaker 4: Might have to look it up. If I can watch

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00:52:05,600 --> 00:52:08,719
Speaker 4: anything without the children around. That's the other thing.

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Speaker 1: Like I've had my five year old. I've had my

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00:52:11,880 --> 00:52:14,040
Speaker 1: five year old about and I'm like, I'm like, Mommy's

1112
00:52:14,080 --> 00:52:16,359
Speaker 1: story is on and he's kind of playing and it's

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00:52:16,360 --> 00:52:18,799
Speaker 1: so boring to him because it is a drama. It's

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00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:22,279
Speaker 1: very like, you know, conversation have you. But anyway, there's

1115
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:25,759
Speaker 1: there's two sisters, an older sister and a younger sister.

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00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:27,920
Speaker 1: They're in like their sixties or seventies. They live together

1117
00:52:29,239 --> 00:52:32,800
Speaker 1: in New York together during the post Civil War era. Anyway,

1118
00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:36,800
Speaker 1: just it's very now y'all. There is a power struggle there,

1119
00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:39,719
Speaker 1: but I just feel like it's really, i mean, just

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00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:42,239
Speaker 1: two women living together and making life together. It's just

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00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:44,880
Speaker 1: like so hell yeah, I'm kind of like, damn, I

1122
00:52:44,920 --> 00:52:46,759
Speaker 1: wish I had taken this side quest. But you know,

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00:52:46,840 --> 00:52:49,280
Speaker 1: everything happens. Everything happens for a reason.

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00:52:49,640 --> 00:52:50,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, thing does.

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00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:53,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, you said you're hopeless romantic, So what happens if

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00:52:53,480 --> 00:52:57,120
Speaker 1: y'all fall in love and need a boo and both?

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00:52:57,880 --> 00:52:59,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think we're both open to that because I

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00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:02,440
Speaker 3: think we were also both like we don't know that

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00:53:02,520 --> 00:53:06,040
Speaker 3: this is gonna we're not expecting this to be forever necessarily,

1130
00:53:06,560 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 3: And even when we were talking about buying together, I

1131
00:53:09,600 --> 00:53:13,000
Speaker 3: was like, well, you know, I'm thinking negative, So I'm like, well, what.

1132
00:53:12,960 --> 00:53:15,160
Speaker 2: If I lost my job? Like Steph's like, we're not

1133
00:53:15,200 --> 00:53:15,799
Speaker 2: thinking about that.

1134
00:53:15,960 --> 00:53:17,840
Speaker 3: You could get a promotion to some great job or

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00:53:17,840 --> 00:53:19,480
Speaker 3: something like that, and then we'll have to sell the

1136
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:21,680
Speaker 3: house and that would be fine. And then like we're

1137
00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:25,200
Speaker 3: both like, you know, we know that if we fell

1138
00:53:25,239 --> 00:53:29,400
Speaker 3: in love and you know, decided that we needed to,

1139
00:53:29,840 --> 00:53:32,560
Speaker 3: you know, go to another sort of living arrangement, we

1140
00:53:33,000 --> 00:53:35,160
Speaker 3: could do that because I think we both I mean,

1141
00:53:35,200 --> 00:53:37,400
Speaker 3: my goodness, if we fell in love with somebody and

1142
00:53:37,440 --> 00:53:41,160
Speaker 3: we got to that point, I'm I'm once again, I'm.

1143
00:53:41,000 --> 00:53:43,520
Speaker 2: Like, girl, what you need because.

1144
00:53:43,520 --> 00:53:47,080
Speaker 3: Once you get to that point, all I want is

1145
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:47,799
Speaker 3: the best for you.

1146
00:53:47,960 --> 00:53:50,239
Speaker 4: Right, we would both be supportive it, and it's just

1147
00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:54,200
Speaker 4: a conversation and we're both we would work it out

1148
00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:57,040
Speaker 4: like it doesn't obviously like no one can move out

1149
00:53:57,080 --> 00:53:59,600
Speaker 4: like immediately. Like we would work it out, we would

1150
00:53:59,600 --> 00:54:02,000
Speaker 4: discuss it, we would figure out for the kids, what's

1151
00:54:02,040 --> 00:54:04,160
Speaker 4: the best thing to do, what's the best time frame.

1152
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:07,120
Speaker 1: I'm on team move them in. Why are that?

1153
00:54:07,200 --> 00:54:16,120
Speaker 2: Why are you you're the first? Yes, exactly, That's the thing.

1154
00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:20,279
Speaker 2: That's why I say it here, don't lose ye, Well,

1155
00:54:20,320 --> 00:54:21,160
Speaker 2: that's what I'm like.

1156
00:54:21,280 --> 00:54:24,279
Speaker 3: I'm like, look, we just you know, because min that's

1157
00:54:24,520 --> 00:54:27,279
Speaker 3: men come and go. So it's kind of like if

1158
00:54:27,320 --> 00:54:29,840
Speaker 3: we get to that point, I don't think any either

1159
00:54:29,880 --> 00:54:32,320
Speaker 3: one of us are like we jumping off the cliff anytime.

1160
00:54:32,440 --> 00:54:36,160
Speaker 3: So I think we're both like and like you said,

1161
00:54:36,239 --> 00:54:38,720
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to mess this up like you're gonna

1162
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:41,120
Speaker 3: have to, you know, you have to figure it out, sir.

1163
00:54:41,920 --> 00:54:44,640
Speaker 1: Yes, because even if you do get booed up, like

1164
00:54:44,680 --> 00:54:47,120
Speaker 1: it's the same thing, you'll still need that support, you know.

1165
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:49,680
Speaker 4: It's like they would have to fit into this situation,

1166
00:54:50,040 --> 00:54:51,640
Speaker 4: not the other way around. Yeah.

1167
00:54:51,880 --> 00:54:54,719
Speaker 1: Yes, and a good man would see the value and

1168
00:54:54,760 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 1: what that is.

1169
00:54:55,840 --> 00:54:58,239
Speaker 3: Yes, Yeah, And that's the only thing we're dealing with

1170
00:54:58,280 --> 00:55:03,480
Speaker 3: because we ain't dealing with no problems.

1171
00:55:01,560 --> 00:55:04,400
Speaker 1: No drama. Who has time for that? Yeah, we'll know

1172
00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:04,960
Speaker 1: one does.

1173
00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:05,839
Speaker 3: Well.

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited for y'all to tell your story. I'm

1175
00:55:10,200 --> 00:55:12,400
Speaker 1: very honored that I get to tell part of your

1176
00:55:12,440 --> 00:55:15,400
Speaker 1: story and be, you know, be a part of the

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00:55:15,640 --> 00:55:16,960
Speaker 1: first press tour as.

1178
00:55:16,800 --> 00:55:19,000
Speaker 2: You Yes, exactly, this is our first.

1179
00:55:19,080 --> 00:55:23,840
Speaker 3: This is our first interview, first joint interview about Yes.

1180
00:55:25,640 --> 00:55:28,279
Speaker 1: Well. Thank y'all for sharing it. Okay, ba fam, you're

1181
00:55:28,320 --> 00:55:30,160
Speaker 1: gonna go to the show notes and we can follow

1182
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:32,959
Speaker 1: them on ANGI follow the YouTube. Y'all get that YouTube page,

1183
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:34,560
Speaker 1: even if there's nothing there, just get it set up

1184
00:55:34,600 --> 00:55:39,000
Speaker 1: so we can get some early subscribers. And otherwise a

1185
00:55:39,120 --> 00:55:41,319
Speaker 1: U Shu Roscoe we can find y'all find her at

1186
00:55:41,400 --> 00:55:44,760
Speaker 1: NPR on the Sunday Sunday edition and also up first

1187
00:55:46,160 --> 00:55:48,239
Speaker 1: weeken edition. Wee Can edition, Thank you.

1188
00:55:48,239 --> 00:55:52,480
Speaker 3: We can edition up first on Saturdays and Sundays, so

1189
00:55:52,600 --> 00:55:55,319
Speaker 3: and on Sundays it's called the Sunday Story, but it's

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00:55:55,320 --> 00:55:58,240
Speaker 3: the up first feed, So up first on Saturdays and Sundays.

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00:55:58,280 --> 00:55:58,759
Speaker 2: You'll hear me.

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00:55:59,480 --> 00:56:02,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, and Jazzmine, are you also on I G as

1193
00:56:02,239 --> 00:56:04,520
Speaker 1: you want everyone to just follow y'all at under the

1194
00:56:04,560 --> 00:56:05,360
Speaker 1: same roof.

1195
00:56:06,040 --> 00:56:09,040
Speaker 4: Under under one roof, under one roof, under one room.

1196
00:56:09,680 --> 00:56:11,480
Speaker 1: Okay, well y'all let me know. Put whatever you want

1197
00:56:11,520 --> 00:56:14,480
Speaker 1: in the show notes. Yes, good luck to you both.

1198
00:56:14,480 --> 00:56:16,600
Speaker 1: Good luck weire back to school season. I'm so happy

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Speaker 1: that it's going well. I hope peace continues. Any any

1200
00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:22,279
Speaker 1: what do y'all doing for the holidays? Are we doing

1201
00:56:22,280 --> 00:56:25,239
Speaker 1: a big family thing? Y'all just went to Disneyland Disney World.

1202
00:56:25,480 --> 00:56:29,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, so we're going to decorate like crazy, multiple Christmas trees.

1203
00:56:29,600 --> 00:56:34,319
Speaker 3: Were both very into holiday decore. We already did this

1204
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:36,840
Speaker 3: with We already did it for Halloween.

1205
00:56:36,960 --> 00:56:38,839
Speaker 4: Yes, our Halloween stuff is already up.

1206
00:56:39,440 --> 00:56:44,839
Speaker 3: That's really it's really amazing. And so for Christmas, were

1207
00:56:44,840 --> 00:56:47,720
Speaker 3: getting all our stuff out. We're gonna get some more stuff.

1208
00:56:47,719 --> 00:56:50,479
Speaker 3: We're gonna try to do some lights outside the big

1209
00:56:50,480 --> 00:56:54,439
Speaker 3: inflatable stuff. We're going all out. So and like I said,

1210
00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:57,520
Speaker 3: multiple Christmas trees at least two, at least two, Yeah,

1211
00:56:58,160 --> 00:57:02,200
Speaker 3: at least two, maybe three, going all the way out

1212
00:57:02,640 --> 00:57:03,360
Speaker 3: are always good.

1213
00:57:03,719 --> 00:57:05,440
Speaker 1: You're gonna do family photos together.

1214
00:57:05,880 --> 00:57:07,960
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, we definitely we have to pick out we

1215
00:57:08,040 --> 00:57:10,960
Speaker 3: probably we need to do matching pajamas. But not all

1216
00:57:11,080 --> 00:57:14,480
Speaker 3: matching because I think the kids have too much personality

1217
00:57:14,560 --> 00:57:14,879
Speaker 3: for that.

1218
00:57:15,040 --> 00:57:17,320
Speaker 2: So I think we will, but definitely together.

1219
00:57:18,320 --> 00:57:21,520
Speaker 4: We definitely want to saying this. I'm I'm thinking about

1220
00:57:21,520 --> 00:57:22,880
Speaker 4: Reggie and Zola.

1221
00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:27,040
Speaker 2: Reggie, I make Reggie. We have to don't want to

1222
00:57:27,040 --> 00:57:27,640
Speaker 2: be left out.

1223
00:57:27,720 --> 00:57:29,840
Speaker 4: Okay, we'll see.

1224
00:57:30,200 --> 00:57:32,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, we have to bribe or let them pick.

1225
00:57:32,320 --> 00:57:35,960
Speaker 3: We have to let the older kids pick and then yeah,

1226
00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:38,080
Speaker 3: so we will. We might have to make some adjustments,

1227
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:40,960
Speaker 3: but definitely all. We definitely got to do some some

1228
00:57:41,040 --> 00:57:41,560
Speaker 3: family fun.

1229
00:57:41,600 --> 00:57:43,800
Speaker 1: Will they ever do another full house reboot? I want

1230
00:57:43,800 --> 00:57:46,480
Speaker 1: this model to be the model. That's what we need.

1231
00:57:47,880 --> 00:57:50,240
Speaker 1: All right, y'all take care of bea fam. Don't forget

1232
00:57:50,280 --> 00:57:53,960
Speaker 1: to like and subscribe to Brown Ambition, leave us a review,

1233
00:57:54,440 --> 00:57:58,040
Speaker 1: and while you're at it, go follow Ayisha and Jasmin's accounts.

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Speaker 1: We're going goes in the show notes again, ladies things,

1235
00:58:00,000 --> 00:58:01,680
Speaker 1: thank you so much for joining me at Brown Ambition.

1236
00:58:02,200 --> 00:58:06,840
Speaker 1: We'll see y'all next time. Thank you, okay Va fam,

1237
00:58:06,880 --> 00:58:09,240
Speaker 1: thank you so much for listening to this week's show.

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00:58:09,320 --> 00:58:12,600
Speaker 1: I want to shout out to our production team, Courtney,

1239
00:58:12,760 --> 00:58:17,600
Speaker 1: our editor, Carla, our fearless leader for idea to launch Productions.

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00:58:18,040 --> 00:58:21,480
Speaker 1: I want to shout out my assistant Lauda Escalante and

1241
00:58:21,640 --> 00:58:24,920
Speaker 1: Cameron McNair for helping me put the show together. It

1242
00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:28,560
Speaker 1: is not a one person project, as much as I

1243
00:58:28,600 --> 00:58:31,120
Speaker 1: have tried to make it so these past ten years.

1244
00:58:31,280 --> 00:58:34,520
Speaker 1: I need help, y'all, and thank goodness I've been able

1245
00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:36,880
Speaker 1: to put this team around me to support me on

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00:58:36,920 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 1: this journey and to y'all bea fam I love you

1247
00:58:39,880 --> 00:58:43,720
Speaker 1: so so so so much. Please rate, review, subscribe, make

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Speaker 1: the latest updates on upcoming episodes, our ten year anniversary

1250
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Speaker 1: celebrations to come, and until next time, talk to you

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Speaker 1: soon via buye