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Speaker 1: My transphobic mom is baiting me from driving just because

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Speaker 2: I won't stand for it. Am I the a hole? No?

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Speaker 3: I mean, based on what I've heard so far, now

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Speaker 3: zero percent the ail transphobia has no place in this podcast.

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Speaker 2: That's right, talk about it. That's just true. Let me

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Speaker 2: provide some context.

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Speaker 1: I nineteen female, have been talking about moving in with

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Speaker 1: two of my friends from the last job I worked

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Speaker 1: at for quite a long time. At the time we

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Speaker 1: and it was going great up until I got let

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Speaker 1: go for my many times of being away from my

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Speaker 2: Oh sounds like retail. Yeah that's tough.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I only worked at Nike for a little

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Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah, but it was pretty fun. So yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's almost as tough as this job. I mean, like

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Speaker 1: look at yeah, I mean it's like they basically let

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's tough. It's tough feel bad for us.

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Speaker 1: I never had an issue with that until they started

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Speaker 2: Out very quickly.

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Speaker 1: So to fill the gap, I've been doing door dash

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Speaker 1: just so I'm at least not a complete loser. Oh okay,

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Speaker 1: you mean you're not a loser, I think because he

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Speaker 1: ended up getting fired.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Anyway, onto the meat and potatoes of the story.

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Speaker 1: Sometime after telling my mom fifty five female, what the

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Speaker 1: possible plans were for the move in, I went and

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Speaker 1: telling my mom the whole scoop, because they'd eventually meet

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Speaker 1: move get our stuff in all of that, Jazz, I

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Speaker 1: would never tell another person who's never met my friends

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Speaker 1: So basically, it seems like she's asking permission to be like, Hey,

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Speaker 3: I like tell Op's mom Mom like his friend'ss yeah, like, hey,

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Speaker 2: Is that relevant information? I don't know if that's relevant.

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Speaker 3: Like if I was saying I was moving in with

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Speaker 2: I think it's more important. Like do they have a job.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it seems what kind of completely. I don't

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Speaker 1: They gave me permission, and so I broke the news

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Speaker 1: At first, she seemed kind of indifferent about it, so

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Speaker 2: Wow. Since then, our relationship has.

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Speaker 1: Become extremely rocky, and we've both been getting into arguments

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Speaker 2: Of months now.

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Speaker 1: The hostility and bigotry have all been thinly veiled under

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Speaker 1: my friend's salvation. Now, as much as it makes me

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Speaker 2: What God really is about.

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Speaker 1: I'm very much against pushing my beliefs on those who

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Speaker 2: Try to make sure I'm understanding what OPS saying. Opas saying.

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Speaker 3: I'm sad that they feel that they have to be

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Speaker 3: But I don't want to press my beliefs on.

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Speaker 2: Somebody, right right right.

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Speaker 1: I wholeheartedly understand and sympathize with those who have experienced

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Speaker 1: this willingness to love everyone, no matter what walk of

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Speaker 1: put yourself in their shoes approach. I've tried explaining that

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Speaker 1: Jesus literally ate dinner in the presence of wayers people.

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Speaker 1: done nothing, absolutely nothing. So now, because I'm still choosing

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Speaker 1: with having my car taken.

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Speaker 2: Away from it.

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Speaker 3: Really, dude, I don't know why you would tell your

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Speaker 1: I do get one thing of like, oh, I want

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Speaker 1: But telling her like that this person is trands. I

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Speaker 1: just don't know where it's necessary.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it doesn't seem necessary, which.

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Speaker 1: Of course would prevent me from doing my door dash

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Speaker 1: and making money while I try to land us more

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Speaker 2: Totally forgot about that. Oh shit, So that's like Op's

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Speaker 1: Here's the thing. I pay for my car every single

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Speaker 1: month and on time. Wait, so how could they take

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Speaker 1: it away? She can do Your mom can do nothing.

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Speaker 1: I think, like, legally you're eight nineteen. I think OP

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Speaker 1: said you're good unless it's under their name. Not once

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Speaker 1: my bills, get more money rolling in, YadA, YadA, YadA.

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Speaker 1: And if you missed it, I'm legally in adults. I'm

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Speaker 1: a hurry to grow up. I'm not being spontaneous. I

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Speaker 1: quite literally plan this months in advance. And on top

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Speaker 1: of that, I've been talking about moving out in general

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Speaker 2: So it sounds like Opie straight up.

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Speaker 1: Isn't just like, oh, like her parents bought it, it's

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Speaker 3: They didn't say that outright, but maybe I mean a

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but interesting.

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Speaker 1: But I knew I didn't have anything close to the

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Speaker 2: I don't think you should be like, I need a

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, that feels like a weird filter. But maybe

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Speaker 2: And I guess I'll be saying that they're not doing.

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Speaker 3: That, so yeah, interesting phrasing.

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Speaker 1: That's just who my friends happen to be, and don't

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Speaker 2: I have exactly zero qualms.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm caught in the crossroads between feeling like a

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Speaker 2: I know I deserve for good things to happen to me.

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Speaker 1: My mom keeps reeling me in and making me feel ridiculous,

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Speaker 1: telling me that I'm acting out of desperation and jumping

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Speaker 1: have many friends growing up, so much screaming, crying, and

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Speaker 1: Deep down inside, it hurts. It hurts a no that

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Speaker 1: I could be hurting my own mother. I'm having a

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Speaker 1: and I honestly did not know how much more I

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Speaker 1: can take. Please, someone tell me I'm not crazy, anyone. Wow,

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Speaker 1: I mean, You're not crazy for living with this person.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely not. It sounds like your intention is to be

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I think OPI's intention is all there, but

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Speaker 3: the way op went about it like just was just

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Speaker 3: not setting them up for success.

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Speaker 2: Again, like why share it? Why share it in the

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Speaker 3: Also, if you know your mom is going to be

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Speaker 3: to share every bit of information.

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Speaker 2: With your parents. Yeah, one hundred percent, you know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean like you can and like in some

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Speaker 2: And obviously the mom's an a hole a trillion percent.

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Speaker 2: What should OP do here?

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Speaker 3: See if you can get the car under your name,

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Speaker 3: and I think just move in? Who cares?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, move in?

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Speaker 1: I wonder how the trans friend is doing in all this,

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Speaker 2: I would be.

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Speaker 1: Curious for everyone down below. I would love to hear

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Speaker 1: how did you handle that?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? It's a tricky situation. It's very tricky situation. Let

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Speaker 3: Ooo, my mother demands I get her money from my

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Speaker 3: book release, but I refuse.

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Speaker 2: Am I the asshole?

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Speaker 1: What's about all these moms and dad is trying trying

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Speaker 3: And especially on his big book release day? Big I'm

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Speaker 3: a big boy, big book will be.

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Speaker 2: I wote a lot of woe.

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Speaker 1: Well, like, give your parents your money. I've flipped completely.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, yeah, fuck you, fuck your book money. Give

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Speaker 1: it all to your parents. Damn, I'm angry. Why are

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Speaker 2: John? Because they were more words than I can How

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Speaker 2: many words can you write? Three? Three? We can only

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Speaker 2: read them. That's true. I can't write any books. What

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Speaker 2: are the three words you can write? Fuck you boy?

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Speaker 3: I should practice words of non violent communication?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like die in a hole. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: We write a book about you being murdered. Yeah, murder mystery,

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Speaker 3: except there's no mystery. I killed you.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry for y'all, aren't you guys?

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Speaker 3: You know, sometimes we let the emotions get the best

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Speaker 3: It's so lame. I love my mom, don't get me wrong.

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Speaker 2: Misguided. I know.

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Speaker 3: It's like you don't know the reality distortion field of

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he probably thinks it's just normal, like, oh yeah,

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Speaker 3: but it's not normal. Actually, maybe it was normal. You

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Speaker 3: But after my parents split up, she completely went on

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Speaker 2: You do not like this.

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Speaker 1: About things and families that seemed normal to you and

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Speaker 3: Anyway. I try not to judge her, guys, don't judge me.

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Speaker 2: That's what they call getting a tattoo, and they make

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Speaker 3: Now, she has no stable income or home and claims

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 3: So, I've almost done writing a book. It's nothing spectacular,

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Speaker 3: you can help me make sure I have a great

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Speaker 3: I wanted to say so much more. She's still in

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Speaker 3: I'm an amateur author doing their first book. This won't

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Speaker 3: My kids deserve a good education, and I have friends

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Speaker 3: I just wanted to get this off my chest and thank.

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Speaker 2: You, Op coming in hot.

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Speaker 3: Op is a wordsmith. What can I say that is true?

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Speaker 3: You know, write this book? Yeah, publish it right now.

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Speaker 3: We'll read it and you'll probably get more hits on

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Speaker 3: this than your book.

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Speaker 2: There we go.

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Speaker 1: I do have to say, if the mom is optimizing

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Speaker 1: OP as possible a first time self published book release,

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Speaker 3: Roots low key like op probably got a ton of

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Speaker 3: traction on this Reddit post. What if it's a marketing

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Speaker 3: strategy thinking the exact same thing, that's kind of genius, Riley,

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Speaker 3: pull up the link. What if someone asks, hey, what's

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Speaker 3: what I would do if I had a self published book,

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Speaker 3: what's the book?

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Speaker 2: That is genius? Wow?

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Speaker 3: We're cooking, yo, let it come out. Let's let's give

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Speaker 3: ope your shout out. Yeah, let's do it. Arch Blade

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Speaker 3: the legend of the Defiler defiling What I think, dude,

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Speaker 3: I think we've been hoodwinked.

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Speaker 2: Hey, you know what game recognized game recognized game? You

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Speaker 2: got us? You got us?

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Speaker 3: Fucking all right, we're plugging arch arch Blade Spiler. Fuck you,

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Speaker 3: fuck you, she fucking got us. Multiple people are asking

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Speaker 3: about the book. I think it's a great way to

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Speaker 3: out of it. It's genius. It's a genius desolutely all right. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Get into the game of this next story, Let's do it.