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Speaker 1: So I'm on Lisa Bonet's Internet and shout out to
Speaker 1: Lisa Bonet for letting us know that it's okay black
Speaker 1: girl to be a little bit different. Anyway, I'm on
Speaker 1: Lisa Bonet's Internet and I read this and it's from
Speaker 1: Young Pueblow, which is where I get a lot of
Speaker 1: these little introductions. It says there's an attractive vibe that
Speaker 1: people who are willing to grow emit. Even if you
Speaker 1: are just starting on your journey, being comfortable with the
Speaker 1: fact that you are imperfect and are ready to move
Speaker 1: beyond old limits gives off a special energy that calls
Speaker 1: in emotionally mature people. Think that's the truth. And let
Speaker 1: me tell you something. I'm gonna add to that, Young Pueblow.
Speaker 1: Keep growing and watch what Happenstill are.
Speaker 2: To leave your life.
Speaker 1: And you know, as I say that, I think about
Speaker 1: some of the people who have left my life for
Speaker 1: whatever reason, or people that I'm not as close to anymore.
Speaker 1: And it's okay. First and foremost, it's okay. You know,
Speaker 1: it's not It's not that I don't it's not even
Speaker 1: that I don't miss them because some.
Speaker 2: Of them I really missed some of them. I had
Speaker 2: to grieve.
Speaker 1: The loss of them as if they left this planet.
Speaker 1: But the truth of the matter is that as you grow,
Speaker 1: as you heal, and you continue on your healing journey,
Speaker 1: people are going to fall off and fall away, and
Speaker 1: that is okay, and it's normal. It's perfectly normal. It's
Speaker 1: a part of the rebirth process. As with all animals.
Speaker 1: It's like shedding an exoskeleton. People are going to fall away.
Speaker 1: Habits are going to fall away, and it is perfectly okay.
Speaker 2: I can't see the thing. It okay. What's up, y'all?
Speaker 1: Welcome to hand me my pursa podcast. I am Mimi Walker,
Speaker 1: and I will be your forever host each and every
Speaker 1: single time you tune into this podcast. So go ahead
Speaker 1: and get comfortable. Get yourself a glass of your favorite beverage,
Speaker 1: whether that's orange, Gatorade, prosecco with your favorite prosecco, whatever
Speaker 1: that is, with some guava nectar in it.
Speaker 2: That sounds good to me.
Speaker 1: It's like a spin on a or a different take
Speaker 1: on a mimosa, some prosecco or even champagne with some
Speaker 1: guava nectar or some hot chocolate with some white rum
Speaker 1: ooh ooh, keep the marshmallows, top it with some whipped
Speaker 1: cream and go like yourself a candle, some incense or
Speaker 1: burn some sage and just get yourself ready to chill
Speaker 1: out and have a good time. What's up, friends and
Speaker 1: can It's me and me, Resident Auntie Supreme here at
Speaker 1: hand me my purse and I am sipping on some
Speaker 1: mint majesty tea with peach juice from you guessed It Starby.
Speaker 1: I decided to go back to my summertime regimen of
Speaker 1: going to do any work related to hand me my
Speaker 1: purse as Starbucks, and I got myself a delicious hot
Speaker 1: tea with some peach juice. It's cold in a mug outside,
Speaker 1: and you know, after work, I immediately went home because
Speaker 1: I got some stuff for pre Prime Day. And I
Speaker 1: got home only to realize that somebody stole my fucking
Speaker 1: Amazon package. And when I tell you, she is fuming,
Speaker 1: she is fuming.
Speaker 2: Who is she? I am? She?
Speaker 1: She is me? And let me tell you something. I
Speaker 1: hate a fucking thief. I hate people who steal because
Speaker 1: it's low to think that it's okay for you to
Speaker 1: take something else that somebody worked hard for because you're
Speaker 1: sorry ass, can't get it for yourself.
Speaker 2: Figure it out. It's so low. It's so low. Anyway,
Speaker 2: I said, let me get.
Speaker 1: Out of here and go do some work, and boom.
Speaker 1: I ended up at Starbucks, which is my bomb and
Speaker 1: gilliad and I just want to say thank you to
Speaker 1: Starbucks for bringing some joy to my otherwise wampay wampus
Speaker 1: ass day. I also got a local Starbucks treat, which
Speaker 1: is it was so good. It was a sweet potato
Speaker 1: cupcake and it was effing delish. Again, I want to
Speaker 1: say thank you to stars, Starbucks, my friend. You continue
Speaker 1: to bring me joy and then not so joyous time.
Speaker 1: And you know, I can smell y'all judging me over here.
Speaker 1: I can smell y'all over there judging me, and I
Speaker 1: don't care because I like Starbucks. And no, they're not
Speaker 1: paying me for this. Should they be paying me for this?
Speaker 1: Apps a fucking lutely, but you know what, they aren't,
Speaker 1: and I think it's but you know, hopefully one day
Speaker 1: they'll say, you know, this chick says our name so
Speaker 1: many times, you would think we go together because we
Speaker 1: do Starbucks. We go together, real bad, we go together real, real,
Speaker 1: fucking bad Starbucks. We is together and we is in
Speaker 1: a relationship whether you know it or not, and it's
Speaker 1: you know, I give you too much money. You know,
Speaker 1: now that I'm thinking about this, maybe it's not a
Speaker 1: healthy relationship. Either way, We're not going to do this
Speaker 1: right now.
Speaker 2: The stuff.
Speaker 1: So first again, today's jam is a song that I
Speaker 1: have loved.
Speaker 2: When did this come out? Let me just do a
Speaker 2: little looking real fast.
Speaker 1: The cham is by se Lo Green and once upon
Speaker 1: a time I loved me some se Low Green. Okay,
Speaker 1: loved him and I loved his music and I was
Speaker 1: a big fan.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: The song is actually called love Gun and it is
Speaker 1: from his album The Lady Killer. Well, how interesting that is.
Speaker 1: But anyway, the album came out in twenty ten, and
Speaker 1: it was so good.
Speaker 2: It was so good. The album was amazing.
Speaker 1: And actually I loved Selo's first three albums, and I
Speaker 1: mean I love them a lot. It's a lot of gems.
Speaker 1: That second album was a It is a classic. Shout
Speaker 1: out to my friend Kiya. Me and Kiy used to
Speaker 1: run that album in the ground back when I was
Speaker 1: a hot girl and we used to go out four
Speaker 1: to five times a night. That's probably why my knees
Speaker 1: are bad now. But anyway, the song is called love
Speaker 1: Gun and it is by see Low featuring someone named
Speaker 1: Lauren Bennett. Don't really know who Lauren Bennett is. I
Speaker 1: don't really care who she is, but sis came. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't know who she is, but either way, she
Speaker 1: came to set the song on fire. And the song
Speaker 1: opens with the sound of a gunshot, and she just
Speaker 1: goes right into it. And when I tell you it's hot,
Speaker 1: y'all gonna listen to it, y'all gonna hear it in
Speaker 1: a second. I don't really feel with se Low like
Speaker 1: I used to, because he has made some bad choices
Speaker 1: and said some wild shit out his mouth and done
Speaker 1: some willd shit, particularly to his partner or his wife.
Speaker 1: I don't know if they're still marry, because when I disconnect,
Speaker 1: I disconnect. I'm a Libra shout out to Libra's because
Speaker 1: it's Libra season and my birthday is in less than
Speaker 1: seven days. Happy birthday to me. This is my birthday episode. Actually,
Speaker 1: what the song should have been Happy motherfucking Birthday, but
Speaker 1: it's not. It's Love Gun by sel shut out to
Speaker 1: my birthday. But the song just comes out the gate,
Speaker 1: just on fire, So I'm not gonna do a whole
Speaker 1: lot of talking. Also, you know, se Lo, I'm sad
Speaker 1: that I had to break up with you because I
Speaker 1: love Goodie Mob. I love ce Lo. I just don't
Speaker 1: understand why, you know whatever, it doesn't matter. Get into
Speaker 1: this song. Check it out. It's hot, right, it's not.
Speaker 1: Go ahead and listen to the rest of it. You
Speaker 1: know the song is gonna be in the show notes,
Speaker 1: It's no question about it. But I know you was
Speaker 1: bobbing your head and if you weren't, go listen to
Speaker 1: the rest of it so you can get into it.
Speaker 1: I just love I love the way the song comes on,
Speaker 1: like it comes on like get into this. You are
Speaker 1: gonna love it. There's no way that you can't, and
Speaker 1: maybe you can. But if you can't and you don't
Speaker 1: like it, you know, I just question who you are
Speaker 1: as a person. If you know about anything that is good, righteous,
Speaker 1: and wonderful.
Speaker 2: How about that?
Speaker 1: Anyway, let's go ahead and get this what Poorty stored it? Yeah,
Speaker 1: so friends in can today I want to talk about
Speaker 1: something that I am personally working on.
Speaker 2: Did that sound right? Didn't feel right?
Speaker 1: Coming out of my mouth personally working on and some
Speaker 1: would say that this isn't really the smartest idea or
Speaker 1: the smartest concept. But when you have lived most of
Speaker 1: your life as I have, holding on to people, holding
Speaker 1: on to memories, ideologies, energy, vibes, concepts, thoughts, and so
Speaker 1: many unnecessary things that you don't need to, I think
Speaker 1: that this is quite the genius philosophy and a genius
Speaker 1: move for me to move into trying to practice this philosophy.
Speaker 1: And this concept is the concept of detachment. Okay, I
Speaker 1: am but a babe in this. I'm working on it,
Speaker 1: which is why I'm sharing it with you because as
Speaker 1: I am doing things, I want to share with you
Speaker 1: because I don't know who it could benefit or who
Speaker 1: it could help, and you know it makes sense. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell y'all because I'm learning about it. So detachment
Speaker 1: is a noun, and it says that it is a
Speaker 1: feeling of emotional freedom resulting from a lack of involvement
Speaker 1: in a problem or situation or with a person. The
Speaker 1: next definition says objectivity, that is the ability to consider
Speaker 1: a problem on its merits alone, also called intellectual detachment.
Speaker 1: I've also found that it says it is freedom from
Speaker 1: self interest or bias or disinterest, the act of disengaging
Speaker 1: or separating something, and the condition of being disengaged or
Speaker 1: separated disconnection. So there are a lot of different paths
Speaker 1: when it comes to discussing detachment. A Buddhism, which is
Speaker 1: where the concept was originally born, basically teaches that nothing
Speaker 1: in this life is permanent. So basically the philosophy is
Speaker 1: leading us to understand or no understand that there's no
Speaker 1: reason to become heavily attached to people, places, things, or
Speaker 1: even memories because all of them are fleeting and nothing
Speaker 1: is permanent. And if you think about it, it's not
Speaker 1: okay not to be dark, not to get dark, but
Speaker 1: nothing is permanent, including us. And people can say, well,
Speaker 1: your memories are permanent, yeah, kind of, but we're not.
Speaker 1: So when we go, our memories go. They may remain
Speaker 1: on the earth, but all the people here that would
Speaker 1: have experienced the memory are not here permanently, so they're
Speaker 1: going to go. And when everybody who experienced the memory goes,
Speaker 1: it's not here anymore unless you have a photo, which
Speaker 1: can also not be permanent because someone could lose it.
Speaker 1: It could burn in a fire, someone could tear it up,
Speaker 1: or someone could be addicted to drugs and take it
Speaker 1: to their new house, and then someone ransacked the house
Speaker 1: where they living they are living in. All of your
Speaker 1: family's photos can be destroyed, and you don't have any
Speaker 1: visual recollection of your family on this side. And I
Speaker 1: am speaking from experience that happened to me, so you
Speaker 1: know nothing is permanent, and that is that's some real
Speaker 1: life shit.
Speaker 2: Anyway.
Speaker 1: This does not, under any circumstance, mean that you don't care,
Speaker 1: or that you are apathetic, or that you aren't connected
Speaker 1: to the people, places, and things and memories that you've
Speaker 1: experienced or in your life. Nor does it mean to
Speaker 1: develop some inhumane form of apathy, because some people can
Speaker 1: be ridiculously apathetic. It just means that we don't need
Speaker 1: to have an attachment to the outcomes or results that
Speaker 1: these things may be connected to in our brains. Right,
Speaker 1: there's a freedom in not being connected to outcomes. And
Speaker 1: this does not mean that we don't have goals or
Speaker 1: that we don't have ambitions or even desires in our heart.
Speaker 1: It just means that we don't have to be attached
Speaker 1: to the outcomes or the results. I read somewhere on
Speaker 1: Keisha Knight Pulliam's Internet that detachment does not mean that
Speaker 1: you don't have intentions. It just means we don't have
Speaker 1: obsessive interests in the results. And this is not an
Speaker 1: easy concept to really grasp, especially when as a society
Speaker 1: we are all taught to be intentional about the result.
Speaker 1: This is at the root of competition. And you know,
Speaker 1: I've been thinking about competition a lot lately, and just
Speaker 1: like why people are inclined to feel that they need
Speaker 1: to compete with other people? Like, what is that about?
Speaker 1: And I realized that we are all raised, bred, and
Speaker 1: fed the belief that the only way to be successful
Speaker 1: is to beat other people. Right, But if we sit
Speaker 1: in this and look at it closely, it's going to
Speaker 1: start to unravel. And so this idea around detachment calls
Speaker 1: for us to unlearn what they say is innate in
Speaker 1: humans and even in some animals as well, Right, and
Speaker 1: maybe it is. Maybe it is innate in us, And
Speaker 1: maybe it's innate in us because we have continued the
Speaker 1: behaviors of you know, our ancestors. Ancestors, you know, the
Speaker 1: cavemen and hunter gatherers or you know whatever, or dinosaurs
Speaker 1: or whatever, like whatever mice, amiba's skeletal things that crawled.
Speaker 2: Around the earth. Maybe so, and maybe we're just carrying
Speaker 2: that on.
Speaker 1: But we have to unlearn this, right and we what
Speaker 1: that is is that we have to unlearn the desire
Speaker 1: to compete and to win while someone else is gonna
Speaker 1: lose or while someone else loses. And truthfully, if we
Speaker 1: really think about it, we can win and guess what
Speaker 1: other people can win to And I personally believe that
Speaker 1: strong attachment to competing with others it's connected to some
Speaker 1: form of insecurity. It has to think about it. Why
Speaker 1: are you concerned about what someone else is doing if
Speaker 1: you aren't focused on you?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: You know, they say things like somebody's gotta win and
Speaker 1: somebody gotta lose, somebody's gotta lose. Why why can't somebody
Speaker 1: win and then somebody else win too?
Speaker 2: Why?
Speaker 1: Because life isn't set up that way? And why isn't
Speaker 1: life set up that way? Because it's not. Because that
Speaker 1: is human conditioning. That's how they keep us in a
Speaker 1: space where we are insecure and where we are feeling
Speaker 1: like we need to compete with other people to be
Speaker 1: our best self. And I just think that that's bullshit.
Speaker 1: As I get older, and this is coming from somebody
Speaker 1: who is who was, I'm not really anymore extremely competitive.
Speaker 1: And I come from an extremely competitive family because we're
Speaker 1: taught that we have to be competitive and we have
Speaker 1: to be the best. But why, though, that's the question. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I don't know, because I'm not you know, I haven't
Speaker 1: unlocked that level of evolution yet. But anyway, like I said,
Speaker 1: why are you concerned about someone else winning or losing
Speaker 1: when you should really just be focused on your win?
Speaker 1: And the complete truth is that there's room for other
Speaker 1: people to win in addition to you winning.
Speaker 2: It's enough room. This is a big, wide earth with
Speaker 2: a whole.
Speaker 1: Lot of money and a whole lot of jobs, and
Speaker 1: a whole lot of everything, especial in twenty twenty three,
Speaker 1: It's enough room. In the words of Anti Simpak, baby,
Speaker 1: there's room.
Speaker 2: In here, okay.
Speaker 1: And as I started to think more about this, it
Speaker 1: just baffled me how there are so many structures in
Speaker 1: place and set up to continually just push that agenda
Speaker 1: onto us and into our brains. And it's really how
Speaker 1: the world functions in a space where our mindset is
Speaker 1: constantly focused on beating someone else or being better than
Speaker 1: someone else. Right, what about just being better than you,
Speaker 1: being better than you were yesterday or last week, or
Speaker 1: last month or even last year. Just focus on you
Speaker 1: and your shit. This is actually a way to practice detachment,
Speaker 1: and we'll get into that later. But you are detaching
Speaker 1: from other people's outcomes because some of us are so
Speaker 1: focused and laser focused on competition and competing with people
Speaker 1: and being better than other people, that we are focused
Speaker 1: on other people's outcomes, not just ours, so focused on
Speaker 1: what other people do instead of what we do. And
Speaker 1: it kind of makes no sense when you really sit
Speaker 1: and think long and hard about it, actually, or doesn't
Speaker 1: make sense to me, you know. And they're, like I said,
Speaker 1: there's so many structures in place, because think about it,
Speaker 1: like sports, singing competitions, dancing competitions, spelling bees, like what
Speaker 1: the hell? Like everything is a competition? Everything anyway. Like
Speaker 1: the question that I have is like, how do we
Speaker 1: get out of this? Not how do we get into it,
Speaker 1: but how do we.
Speaker 2: Get out of it?
Speaker 1: And truth be told, I don't know if we can
Speaker 1: get out of it, because it's just the way of
Speaker 1: the world, you know what I mean, It's the way
Speaker 1: of the world. We have a whole big event, the
Speaker 1: Olympics every four years that is all focus on competitions
Speaker 1: and focus on how all these countries compete against one
Speaker 1: another to see what country is the best.
Speaker 2: When you really think about it, it's kind of silly.
Speaker 2: What was that I was gonna say? Did y'all hear
Speaker 2: that sound? Y'all ain't here with me?
Speaker 1: Weird? It's weird, you know, because just because we win
Speaker 1: in the Olympics, that doesn't mean that, you know, we're
Speaker 1: the best. Just because Yugoslavia wins in the Olympics doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that they're the best nation. It just means that
Speaker 1: maybe they're the best. In Bob's letting shut out to
Speaker 1: cool runnings. Anyway, It's just a heavy thing to think about,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like, the more I sat
Speaker 1: in it, the more I just thought like, this is crazy.
Speaker 1: And the truth of the matter is that it's going to
Speaker 1: be a serious transformation to shift our mindsets to attachment.
Speaker 2: But it seems like it.
Speaker 1: Would lead to bliss, It would lead us right to
Speaker 1: unfiltered joy because it requires The reason there would be
Speaker 1: such a serious transformation is because it requires unlearning everything
Speaker 1: that we have been taught and everything that the world
Speaker 1: wants us to continue to believe is necessary for living
Speaker 1: a fulfilled life, and that ain't nothing but a whole
Speaker 1: bunch of how bullshit. Detaching also can help us to
Speaker 1: focus on what we truly desire instead of worrying about
Speaker 1: what other people got going on and trying to beat
Speaker 1: them at their damn race, because we may realize.
Speaker 2: I don't even want that shit.
Speaker 1: Like when you really sit in some stuff and you
Speaker 1: really like, if you remove yourself, like step back and think,
Speaker 1: you might look and say, I don't even want this.
Speaker 1: A really really good friend of mine shut out to
Speaker 1: My friend, Lisa told me over a decade ago, well
Speaker 1: over a decade ago, when I was doing makeup full
Speaker 1: time and I was trying to hustle and bustle in
Speaker 1: New York, grind at hard, trying to live out my dream.
Speaker 1: At that time, she told me, write this shit down,
Speaker 1: run the race that you want to win. When she
Speaker 1: said that to me, something happened in my spirit. And
Speaker 1: it happened and I didn't even I wasn't even aware
Speaker 1: of it. It did something to me, and I started
Speaker 1: to really sit in trying to figure out what exactly.
Speaker 2: I really wanted what is my race? Right?
Speaker 1: And I didn't really figure it out immediately. It definitely
Speaker 1: took me a while. And that's normal. It's all about
Speaker 1: evolution and being okay with where that evolution takes us
Speaker 1: and how and when we get there.
Speaker 2: You did.
Speaker 1: So Ever, since she said that to me a long
Speaker 1: long time ago, I've kept it with me and I've
Speaker 1: kept it close to my heart. And I mean when
Speaker 1: I get derailed and when I get to a place
Speaker 1: where I start to compare myself to others or feeling
Speaker 1: like I should be competing with somebody, because remember, these
Speaker 1: are normal, these are normal behaviors for human beings on
Speaker 1: this planet. It's normal to feel like you should compare
Speaker 1: yourself and compete with other people because that is what
Speaker 1: the world tells us that we need to do to
Speaker 1: be great. Right, Whenever I get to that space, I
Speaker 1: have to remind myself nobody could ever be me, and
Speaker 1: I mean ever, nobody could do this. And when I
Speaker 1: say do this, I don't mean have a podcast, because
Speaker 1: clearly they're millions and bazillions of podcasts. I mean nobody
Speaker 1: could ever be me me Walker, nobody and I could
Speaker 1: never be anybody else, nor do I have the desire
Speaker 1: to God did a thing when he made me, and
Speaker 1: God did a thing when he made you. And like
Speaker 1: I said, these feelings are normal because of the world
Speaker 1: that we live in. The world we live in perpetuates
Speaker 1: competition as a means of self worth and value. But again,
Speaker 1: that is all pure, unadulterated bullshit. The truth is that
Speaker 1: the world is real fucked up, and it seems like
Speaker 1: things are kind of set up for us to not
Speaker 1: have true self worth and really believe in ourselves, to
Speaker 1: not believe that we are enough and that we are
Speaker 1: completely whole and fucking wonderfully made just as we are.
Speaker 1: So you got to find a way to reprogram our
Speaker 1: mindset and fight against everything surrounding us every single day,
Speaker 1: and just thinking about that alone is extremely difficult. Like
Speaker 1: life is hard enough just living, but I got to
Speaker 1: reprogram my mind to not fall into societal concepts of
Speaker 1: not being good enough that the world pumps into my
Speaker 1: brain every day. Come on, man, that's aggressive, and I
Speaker 1: don't think I need to give any examples. But for
Speaker 1: those who ain't picking up what I'm putting down, let's
Speaker 1: just look at the media, especially for women now for everybody,
Speaker 1: but especially for women and especially super especially for Black women.
Speaker 1: Our hair is too short, Our hair is too nappy.
Speaker 1: Our hair isn't polished enough. Our look isn't polished enough.
Speaker 1: We don't look professional because of our hair. We don't
Speaker 1: look professional because of our bodies. Our butts are too big,
Speaker 1: our lips are too big, our thighs are too big.
Speaker 2: Our skin is too dark. Our skin isn't dark enough.
Speaker 2: Like what what in the.
Speaker 1: World is that there are complete conglomerates, complete Like.
Speaker 2: The world is.
Speaker 1: Sustained by the inadequacies that society pumps into our heads
Speaker 1: and have done so for centuries.
Speaker 2: Like the world is set up for this.
Speaker 1: And realistically, it's not solely about black women. It's not
Speaker 1: because everybody can catch the wrath of the media. Everybody.
Speaker 1: There's viagra, steroids, workout medications, relaxer's, tanning oils, creams, tanning creams,
Speaker 1: tanning salons, footbinding, wate trainers, bleaching cream, religious fundamentalists belief systems,
Speaker 1: spiritual fundamentalist belief systems. Because there is a difference. Friends,
Speaker 1: the world is just a trip. Like And as I
Speaker 1: was preparing and as I was getting this episode ready,
Speaker 1: I was like man, I don't think I've ever really
Speaker 1: thought about it, like from the aspect of like competition
Speaker 1: and comparison and insecurity and how it I mean, clearly
Speaker 1: I knew, you know, you know, because you know you know,
Speaker 1: like you know, and it's obvious. But when I started
Speaker 1: to unpack it and peel the layers away, it was
Speaker 1: like god, damn, Like we can't win for losing, Like
Speaker 1: ironically I said that, but like you can't, like you can't. Nobody,
Speaker 1: Nobody is good enough. I mean they you know, you
Speaker 1: think that, you know, they're the idea of who is
Speaker 1: good enough and what is good enough as far as
Speaker 1: society is concerned.
Speaker 2: But they ain't good enough either.
Speaker 1: They ain't good enough either, our girls saying good enough
Speaker 1: like Sylvester the Cat. But the question is how do
Speaker 1: we sever our connection to these concepts. That's the important question.
Speaker 1: I'm not an expert, but for me, I'm going to
Speaker 1: start with focusing on self love, acceptance, and detachment, because
Speaker 1: when you truly have love of self and for self,
Speaker 1: you accept yourself as you are and realize that you
Speaker 1: are good enough just as you are, like just as
Speaker 1: I am. However, I come, I'm going to come as
Speaker 1: I am, and that this is what you're gonna get,
Speaker 1: and this is all I have, so all that I have,
Speaker 1: and I'm.
Speaker 2: Okay with me just like this.
Speaker 1: Does that mean you are just a loaf or who
Speaker 1: doesn't do anything, has no ambition, has no goals, and
Speaker 1: has no positive and intentions. No, you just understand that
Speaker 1: who you are, what you are, and how you are
Speaker 1: is good enough for this moment. You do know and
Speaker 1: recognize that there's always room for improvement and evolution and
Speaker 1: growth is essential for being your best self. And you
Speaker 1: focus on improvement and evolution and growth. But in the meantime,
Speaker 1: I love me and I accept me as I am,
Speaker 1: even if I'm not where I want to be yet. Right,
Speaker 1: and as you navigate the space, you know your intention
Speaker 1: and your motivation going forward, or you know whether it's
Speaker 1: about how you choose to look, where you decide or
Speaker 1: you want to work, how you fall, how far excuse me,
Speaker 1: you choose to go with your education, the type of
Speaker 1: home you choose to create for yourself and or your family,
Speaker 1: and anything and everything that you are choosing. Right how
Speaker 1: you navigate these things, your intention for how you navigate
Speaker 1: it should solely be related to you wanting to be
Speaker 1: your best self for you, not so that you can
Speaker 1: compete with somebody else, because you can't compete with somebody
Speaker 1: else at being somebody else. When you think about it, it's
Speaker 1: kind of silly, you know, compete with your yesterday, not
Speaker 1: with somebody today.
Speaker 2: Period. Stick to the game plan anyway, when it comes
Speaker 2: to detachment.
Speaker 1: There are different ways to work on this and learning
Speaker 1: how to do it. And I have a few people
Speaker 1: in my life that are what I like to call
Speaker 1: masters of this, okay, And I tease them and say, oh,
Speaker 1: you don't give a fuck about nothing, But the truth.
Speaker 2: Of the matter is that they just know how to.
Speaker 1: Not be concerned with things that don't that are none
Speaker 1: of their business or you know, I don't want to
Speaker 1: say none of their business, but if it's not important,
Speaker 1: it's not important. I don't even know if I want
Speaker 1: to say that. How can I explain what they do?
Speaker 1: Because it's not that they don't give a fuck. And
Speaker 1: I tease one of my friends, so good about it,
Speaker 1: and she'd be like that, don't say that I do
Speaker 1: give a fuck. But I think that they are not
Speaker 1: concerned with things that they don't need to be concerned
Speaker 1: with because we also live in a society. It's particularly
Speaker 1: in our community where we are always involved in everything.
Speaker 1: My uncle he is ninety one, and he says, and
Speaker 1: everything but a pot of cabbage, And that's what it is.
Speaker 1: We in everything. How can you be in everything and
Speaker 1: be worried about you and take care of you and
Speaker 1: be your best self when you worry about what everybody
Speaker 1: else is doing?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: So, I'm trying to study this concept and I watch people,
Speaker 1: the people around me that are really good at it,
Speaker 1: and so I struggle with it because of human conditioning
Speaker 1: and because I live in this world and on this planet,
Speaker 1: and I am really trying to work on it and
Speaker 1: get better at it. Because as I have gotten better
Speaker 1: with it, I'm telling you, it's like a It's like
Speaker 1: a burden is lifted off of you like that, you
Speaker 1: know how they say, like water rolling off a duck's back.
Speaker 1: It's literally like that. I do it at work all
Speaker 1: the time now, right, because one of the masters of
Speaker 1: it is one of my friends that I work with.
Speaker 1: So at work, I find myself doing it and I'm like, Oh,
Speaker 1: that ain't got nothing to do with me. I'm not
Speaker 1: concerned about that, because what am I concerned about it,
Speaker 1: for if I can't do nothing about it, if I
Speaker 1: can't control it, it's nothing I can control. Oh no,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna worry about that. Mmmm no, ma'am, get
Speaker 1: somebody else to do it better? Yet, let me let
Speaker 1: me go ahead, and yes, indeed, no, I'm not going
Speaker 1: to be concerned about things that have nothing to do
Speaker 1: with me.
Speaker 2: Anyway.
Speaker 1: On Felicia Rashad's Internet, I read this about detachment. Detachment
Speaker 1: can best be described as a process of letting go.
Speaker 1: It allows you to release difficult situations and sometimes difficult people. Amen,
Speaker 1: Come on now, come.
Speaker 2: On, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus.
Speaker 1: Ooh child, I'm gonna read that again, because you know
Speaker 1: I didn't read that when I was working on this, but.
Speaker 2: Or maybe I did. I mean, I read it, but
Speaker 2: it ain't hit me like that.
Speaker 1: Detachment can best be described as a process of letting go.
Speaker 1: It allows you to release difficult situations and sometimes difficult people.
Speaker 1: By detaching from past experiences and future expectations, you can
Speaker 1: look at your relationships, both personal and professional, more objectively,
Speaker 1: which gives you greater clarity. Holding onto an idea just
Speaker 1: because you have become attached to it creates anxiety. Once
Speaker 1: you detach from the desired outcome, you can stop worrying
Speaker 1: about it. The truth is that most attachment is about control.
Speaker 1: Come on now, now, it's about to getting people business right.
Speaker 2: Get ready.
Speaker 1: The truth is that most attachment is about control, and
Speaker 1: control is an illusion. So it's better to get on
Speaker 1: with your life even when you don't get exactly what
Speaker 1: you want. Listen, this is telling me, This is talking
Speaker 1: to me. When you release your desire for control over
Speaker 1: the lives of others, it sets everyone free. Those endless
Speaker 1: hours of frustration could be turned into fruitful days of creativity.
Speaker 1: Detaching is not always easy. You must learn that even
Speaker 1: when things go differently from how you think they should,
Speaker 1: it's okay. If you are in pain over a difference
Speaker 1: of opinion. It helps to understand why you would want
Speaker 1: what you want in the first place. If your motivation
Speaker 1: is one of selfishness rather than one of balance, you
Speaker 1: may need to take another look at the situation. I
Speaker 1: also read this, which is a way to help us
Speaker 1: understand how you can tell if you are attached.
Speaker 2: It says.
Speaker 1: When you are attached to an object, a goal, a dream,
Speaker 1: or another person, there are feelings that tell you if
Speaker 1: I don't have this, I won't be whole. These feelings
Speaker 1: can manifest themselves in anxiety, fear, anger, jealousy, hopelessness, sadness, disconnection, pride,
Speaker 1: or vanity. I found for us, not just for you,
Speaker 1: because remember I started this whole conversation off with this
Speaker 1: is something that I am working on. So I've found
Speaker 1: for us, as I always do, some ways on how
Speaker 1: to focus on using detachment or finding ways to detach
Speaker 1: in our daily life. So let's get ready to check
Speaker 1: them out. I'm going to share them with you and
Speaker 1: listen to what we need to do to start our
Speaker 1: journey into understanding and implementing ways of detachment in our
Speaker 1: daily lives. First, observe your mind. That means you gotta
Speaker 1: you gotta get quiet because observation requires a lot of focus.
Speaker 1: Observe your mind, pay attention to what is going on
Speaker 1: with you emotionally, spiritually and mentally. What emotions are you
Speaker 1: noticing and if there are any negative emotional patterns that
Speaker 1: you observe, they there may be an attachment there. So look, listen, smell, feel,
Speaker 1: and take it all in. If you can, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna say, write it down. Get a journal.
Speaker 1: Journal it, write down how you're feeling. Pay attention to
Speaker 1: see if there are some patterns there. Number two, distinguish
Speaker 1: between the voice of ego and the actual situation.
Speaker 2: I love that. I found that.
Speaker 1: I love that because there's a difference between your ego
Speaker 1: self and what's actually going on in the real world. Okay,
Speaker 1: because your ego as a motherfucker. And here are some
Speaker 1: examples that I found of what the ego might think
Speaker 1: versus some thoughts you can use instead to substitute those thoughts,
Speaker 1: those ego thoughts. With the ego may say I am
Speaker 1: a victim of circumstance. Instead try to change that thought too.
Speaker 1: I create my own reality. The ego might say I
Speaker 1: am alive temporarily and that is scary, or I'm scared
Speaker 1: to die. Think instead, I am alive temporarily and that
Speaker 1: is awesome. Or my favorite thing, I have earned the
Speaker 1: right to die. Your ego may say I am in
Speaker 1: competition with the world. Instead think I am in harmony
Speaker 1: with the world. I love these examples. They make my
Speaker 1: heart smile. Number three, embrace uncertainty. You know I talk
Speaker 1: about this all the time. My therapist pumps this shit
Speaker 1: into my head like the same way that the world
Speaker 1: pumps into our heads that we need to compete and compare.
Speaker 2: Ourselves with everybody else.
Speaker 1: The idea is that accepting uncertainty is the only security
Speaker 1: that we need. Also, it's the only security that there is.
Speaker 1: The truth is, we don't really control much. And I
Speaker 1: say that all the time on this show. When you
Speaker 1: think about it, we don't really have a lot of
Speaker 1: control period. Our good friend de pac Troper said, those
Speaker 1: who seek security in the exterior world chase it for
Speaker 1: a lifetime. Come on now, preach preacher. By letting go
Speaker 1: of your attachment to the illusion of security, which is
Speaker 1: really an attachment to the known, you step into the
Speaker 1: field of all possibilities. This is where you will find
Speaker 1: true happiness, abundance, and fulfillment. I don't know about you all,
Speaker 1: but I want true happiness, abundance and fulfillment in my life.
Speaker 1: That's what I want. Number four Meditate. I'm always support this.
Speaker 1: You already know I'm going to own No, I'm stay home, listen.
Speaker 1: I was in the gym this morning. Is still going
Speaker 1: to the gym, SI get it around, Still going to
Speaker 1: the gym, and I got.
Speaker 2: A personal trainer.
Speaker 1: But Anyway, I was in the sauna today and everybody
Speaker 1: left out, like you know, I was in there by myself. Oh,
Speaker 1: I was in there med dictating. I was owning home.
Speaker 1: I was like, if somebody walks in here, they gonna
Speaker 1: think that I'm some kind of psycho.
Speaker 2: I didn't care. I was meditating, and I'm.
Speaker 1: Not about to sit here and run down the whole
Speaker 1: bunch of meditation practices because I talk about this shit
Speaker 1: on like every other goddamn episode I talk about meditation.
Speaker 1: Go listen to some other episodes. If you don't want
Speaker 1: to do that, google different meditation practices. There are so many.
Speaker 1: I talk about them all the time. Do the work.
Speaker 1: You gotta do some work, start a healthy practice for yourself.
Speaker 1: It's important moving forward. Number five, try to live more
Speaker 1: in the present moment. You know, a lot of these
Speaker 1: things that I'm reading are things that we talk about
Speaker 1: a lot here on him in my purse. Living in
Speaker 1: the present definitely stops you from sitting in the what
Speaker 1: ifs of life, and realistically, that ain't nothing but attachment.
Speaker 2: What ifs ain't nothing but you gotta.
Speaker 1: Let go of that which isn't of or part of
Speaker 1: the right now worries, regrets, they're not relevant to what's
Speaker 1: going on today and in this moment. We can't change
Speaker 1: it at this point. So just slow down, slow down,
Speaker 1: and focus on what's right in front of you. Focusing
Speaker 1: on what if and what could be and maybe and
Speaker 1: should it, would have, could have, we end up missing
Speaker 1: out on the beauty of this very moment. And there
Speaker 1: are so many beautiful moments sitting right under our nose,
Speaker 1: and we miss so many of them because we're looking
Speaker 1: behind us or we're focused on what's way ahead of us.
Speaker 1: Just be right here, right now. And lastly, don't beat
Speaker 1: yourself up. You deserve kindness. You deserve it from the world.
Speaker 1: But most importantly, and I mean this, this is the
Speaker 1: absolute most important thing for you to remember. You deserve
Speaker 1: kindness and grace and mercy and gentleness from you because
Speaker 1: how you treat you, and how you talk to you,
Speaker 1: and how you talk about you, and what you say
Speaker 1: to you, and what you say to other people about you,
Speaker 1: and what you think about you, those are the most
Speaker 1: important things in this world. And realistically, why would anyone
Speaker 1: else think highly of you or think of treating you
Speaker 1: with loving kindness and gentleness and grace and mercy if
Speaker 1: you don't even have it for your damn self, Like, seriously,
Speaker 1: be nice, particularly to yourself. Okay, friends, again, I know
Speaker 1: sometimes the stuff that I say sounds foreign. Sometimes it
Speaker 1: sounds foreign to me as well, you know, and sometimes
Speaker 1: I'll be saying and I'd be thinking what the fuck.
Speaker 1: But realistically, I am really focused final familiarity. I'm trying
Speaker 1: to restore my community, just like Marshawn Lynch. And it's
Speaker 1: all about awareness, you know, because when we're weird, then
Speaker 1: we can evolve because then we know, and knowing is
Speaker 1: half the battle that was for all my gen X
Speaker 1: friends out there.
Speaker 2: Y'all be good. I love y'all.
Speaker 1: Okay, friends and ken for today's straight fact's question. It
Speaker 1: is coming from Charlotte, North Carolina, and I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: ahead and get into it for you. Hey, Mimi, my
Speaker 1: name is Kayla, and I need to know if I'm
Speaker 1: being petty. I show everybody love on social media, family,
Speaker 1: friends and strangers.
Speaker 2: I really am a.
Speaker 1: Cheerleader for the people I follow on social media. Sounds
Speaker 1: like you have a lot of time on your hands, Kayla. Anyway, However,
Speaker 1: I noticed I don't get the same love back she's
Speaker 1: probably a millennial. Every time my best friend posts a status,
Speaker 1: a meme, or anything, I'm always showing her love by
Speaker 1: either liking the post or commenting. After my daily scrolls
Speaker 1: on social media, I have noticed that my best friend
Speaker 1: never likes her comments on anything I post, but she
Speaker 1: is always under the post of other people. I've even
Speaker 1: seen her wishing Rihanna a happy birthday, but when my
Speaker 1: birthday comes around, she is quiet.
Speaker 2: Am I wrong for feeling some type of way?
Speaker 1: Kayla from Charlotte, Kayla, maybe your friend is busy, maybe
Speaker 1: she feels like she doesn't have to do that because
Speaker 1: you guys are friends in real life and this is
Speaker 1: not to gate to negate. Excuse me your feelings, because
Speaker 1: your feelings are valid and your feelings are important. But
Speaker 1: sometimes we have to differentiate social media life with real life.
Speaker 1: And if she's a good friend to you in real
Speaker 1: life and on your birthday, you guys do things, or
Speaker 1: she calls you on your birthday or text you on
Speaker 1: your birthday, or you guys go to dinner for your birthday,
Speaker 1: not necessarily on it, but you guys spend time together.
Speaker 1: So to fuck what if she doesn't text, I mean,
Speaker 1: doesn't comment on your posts, like sometimes when your friends
Speaker 1: in real life, like, you don't have to do that,
Speaker 1: it shouldn't matter. And if it does matter, you got
Speaker 1: to look at that. What's that about? And another thing?
Speaker 2: Boom boom boom boom boom boom.
Speaker 1: Here we go tell her communication. Every question that I
Speaker 1: get on straight facts, it all leads back to the
Speaker 1: same road communicating.
Speaker 2: Did you tell her that it bothers you?
Speaker 1: Did you tell her that you noticed that she doesn't
Speaker 1: comment on your posts, but she commented on Rihanna's and
Speaker 1: said have your birthday? Also, Kayla, I got to ask
Speaker 1: you this, why are you so particularly focused on where
Speaker 1: she is commenting and posting? It's a little obsessive. What's
Speaker 1: that about. Let's look at that, let's unpack that, Like
Speaker 1: why are you checking for everything she posts and comments on?
Speaker 1: I just don't know. I just think that if she's
Speaker 1: a good friend in real life but she doesn't comment
Speaker 1: on your stuff on social media, it's okay, it's all right,
Speaker 1: and it's okay, but it's also okay if you feel
Speaker 1: a way about it. But I think the mature thing
Speaker 1: to do would be the way the reality of the situation.
Speaker 1: If she shows up for you in real life. If
Speaker 1: she's a good friend to you in real life, all right,
Speaker 1: nobody's perfect. All right, she not commenting on the post.
Speaker 1: It's cool. Find a friend, find a social media friend
Speaker 1: who will make friends with somebody on social media that
Speaker 1: will if that fills you up in some kind of way,
Speaker 1: or just let her know. But I can promise you
Speaker 1: if one of my friends told me that, I would
Speaker 1: look at them like, is you crazy? I would literally
Speaker 1: look at them like, girl, by.
Speaker 2: Ain't nobody got time for that.
Speaker 1: We're going to go to brunch and you worried about
Speaker 1: a post, were about to go go get Mimosa drunk,
Speaker 1: and you talk talking to me about a post?
Speaker 2: Kayla? If I could be honest, I just feel like,
Speaker 2: you know, you's got some souls searching to do. That's all.
Speaker 2: That's all. I got.
Speaker 1: Soul friends in con for today's We Got to Do
Speaker 1: Better quote. Let me tell you something I learned so
Speaker 1: much doing this podcast. I found the quote, and the
Speaker 1: quote is from a gentleman named Kelly Miller. Kelly Miller,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read this from Wikipedia. Kelly Miller was an
Speaker 1: American mathematician sociologist. Essays newspaper columnist.
Speaker 2: Author.
Speaker 1: Excuse me, I always want to say Arthur author and
Speaker 1: an important figure in the intellectual life of black America
Speaker 1: for close to half a century. He was known as
Speaker 1: the barred the Potomac. When I saw this quote, I
Speaker 1: have a book that I get a lot of these
Speaker 1: quotes from, and it's just a book about of black quotes,
Speaker 1: you know, inspirational black quotes or whatever. And when I
Speaker 1: saw this quote, I was like, oh, I love it
Speaker 1: so much.
Speaker 2: I picked it. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I thought Kelly Miller was a woman because it said
Speaker 1: Kelly Miller and it said educator. Those are my own biases, right.
Speaker 1: Come to find out it was this man who's a
Speaker 1: freaking genius. He went to Johns Hopkins. He went to
Speaker 1: Howard first. Then he went to Johns Hopkins University, and
Speaker 1: he went to Howard University School of Law.
Speaker 2: Check this out.
Speaker 1: First of all, we out here in the DMV we winning.
Speaker 1: So then I clicked on him and then I, you
Speaker 1: know how they have it on Google where it says
Speaker 1: about I clicked on his spouse. His spouse was a
Speaker 1: woman named Annie May Butler. That was her.
Speaker 2: Maiden name.
Speaker 1: She was from Baltimore City. Look at this, Look at this.
Speaker 1: I done found somebody. It doesn't led me to Baltimore.
Speaker 1: Come on, Baltimore greatness, Come on now. Annie May Butler
Speaker 1: Miller and she was the daughter of William and Annie E.
Speaker 1: Carr Butler. She was an educator in Baltimore County, Maryland,
Speaker 1: and Washington, d C. And she was the vice president
Speaker 1: of Washington d C's YWCA. Also, like I said, the
Speaker 1: widow of noted Howard University professor doctor Kelly Miller. Look
Speaker 1: at that, I don't learn stuff.
Speaker 2: I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1: Here at handy my purse. Anyway, further, we got to
Speaker 1: do better.
Speaker 2: Segment.
Speaker 1: The quote is from doctor Kelly Miller, and it says,
Speaker 1: when reform becomes impossible, revolution becomes imperative.
Speaker 2: Get into it for a seconds.
Speaker 1: When reform becomes impossible, because sometimes there may be times
Speaker 1: when you know it's not gonna happen. Revolution becomes imperative.
Speaker 1: And you can take that when it comes to talking
Speaker 1: about the world, or you can also look at it
Speaker 1: from your own perspective. When you can't change, you know,
Speaker 1: when you feel like you can't change, that means there
Speaker 1: needs to be a revolution. When it ain't no bending,
Speaker 1: when it ain't no changing, when the shit ain't gonna change,
Speaker 1: you need a revolution in your life or a transformation.
Speaker 1: It's a revolution of evolution of transformation. Something got to give.
Speaker 1: And when there can't be small changes right or small
Speaker 1: bends or small shifts, you need some big boom, you
Speaker 1: need a big boom. Thank you, doctor Kelly Miller. I
Speaker 1: personally needed that for myself. I appreciate you. Shut out
Speaker 1: to doctor Kelly Miller. The first thing that I want
Speaker 1: to say is thank you to God, because God is
Speaker 1: supreme and I recognize and appreciate the grace that God
Speaker 1: extends me every single day.
Speaker 2: Of my black ass life.
Speaker 1: I want to say thank you to my people, to
Speaker 1: each and every one of you that have been rocking
Speaker 1: with me since day one, ever since March the first
Speaker 1: of twenty twenty twenty twenty twenty twenty, like Tony Tony
Speaker 1: Tony shout out to Raphael Sadig, his brother Dwayne, their
Speaker 1: cousin Timothy.
Speaker 2: Shout out to Tony Tony Tony.
Speaker 1: Okay, sorry about that anyway, thank you and I appreciate you.
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