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Speaker 1: we're going to read this one right here. It could

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Speaker 1: be yours. You never know. Muggle up, hold on tight,

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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is the Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter subject he can't stop looking at butts. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I'm dating an awesome guy and he treats me very well.

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Speaker 1: Anything I want or need he supplies for me. He's

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Speaker 1: a gentleman, and our sex life is great. There's just

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Speaker 1: one problem. He has a bad habit of looking at

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Speaker 1: other women's butts. We could be on a date and

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Speaker 1: he will still stare at another woman's butt as she's

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Speaker 1: standing there. If she's walking away, he follows her with

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Speaker 1: his eyes. We may be hugged up, having dinner, grocery shopping,

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Speaker 1: or driving down a street. He does not care. We've

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Speaker 1: been at church before and he has stared at women's butts.

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Speaker 1: I'll ask him if he's lost his mind, and I

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Speaker 1: tell him how disrespectful he is, but he doesn't see

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Speaker 1: it that way, and he tells me I'm insecure when

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Speaker 1: I get mad about his behavior, I feel so awkward

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Speaker 1: when he's giving another woman all of his attention. I've

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Speaker 1: imagined how he acts when he's not with me, and

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Speaker 1: it's scary. He's even disrespected my brother and sister in

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Speaker 1: law in their own home, and now I have to

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Speaker 1: reevaluate my relationship. A few weeks ago, I took him

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Speaker 1: to my brother's house and we were all sitting around

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Speaker 1: in law, so when she came out, he started staring

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Speaker 1: and asked my sister in law if she played sports

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Speaker 1: when she was younger, because she was in great shape

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Speaker 1: for her age. My brother in law's jaw was clenched

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Speaker 1: his forehead. My brother said I needed to get my

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Speaker 1: so embarrassed. My brother called my man a loser and

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Speaker 1: said he's going to end up cheating on me? Is

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Speaker 1: the staring harmless? Or do you think he'll end up

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Speaker 1: cheating on me one day? I gotta ask you what

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Speaker 1: do you think? I mean? Come on, this behavior is ridiculous. Yes,

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Speaker 1: you need to reevaluate your relationship. Come on this. You

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Speaker 1: know this man is dead wrong for this, And stop

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Speaker 1: fooling yourself and lying to yourself that he's awesome and

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Speaker 1: None of that is true. He's not awesome, He's not

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Speaker 1: even a gentleman. He does the stuff right in front

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Speaker 1: of your faith. He's disrespectful, you know that, to all

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Speaker 1: women that he comes in contact contact with. He's disrespectful

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Speaker 1: to your brother, your sister in law, and especially to you.

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Speaker 1: I mean real, he'd better be glad that your brother

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Speaker 1: didn't hurt him. He could have punched him in his face.

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Speaker 1: He was at his home staring at his wife. And

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Speaker 1: this is I mean. The other thing is, look, don't

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Speaker 1: let any man treat you this way and say that

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Speaker 1: you're insecure and all that. When you get mad and

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Speaker 1: tell him about himself. You know the fact that he

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Speaker 1: gives you things, it buys you things, supplies you with things,

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Speaker 1: as you say, and the sex is great. That that

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Speaker 1: doesn't give him a pass to cheat on you with

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Speaker 1: his eyes and everything else. I say, listen to your

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Speaker 1: brother on this one. He told you right. This guy

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Speaker 1: is such a loser, such Steve. Uh, you know, I

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Speaker 1: thought it was gonna be simpler than this, but it's not.

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Speaker 1: It's just all this dude is just like dirt and

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Speaker 1: like Shirley's absolutely right. You're calling him a gentleman and

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Speaker 1: all it is. But gentlemen, this is not how gentlemen behaved. Sorry,

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Speaker 1: you know, not sounding corny and nothing, but we got

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Speaker 1: a problem here. He's an awesome guy who treats me

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Speaker 1: a gentleman in our sex is great. Well, the sex

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Speaker 1: is great because he's good at him a lot of practice.

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Speaker 1: Lit of butts before you and that's cool. Everybody got passed.

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Speaker 1: He's got a bad habit looking too other women's butts.

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Speaker 1: He looks at him everywhere standing. We may be hugged up,

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Speaker 1: having dinner, grocery, shopping, driving down the street. He don't care.

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Speaker 1: We've been at church, you're at the lard's house. And

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Speaker 1: before he has stared at women's but and I asked him,

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Speaker 1: has he lost his mind? Now obviously he don't think

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Speaker 1: but he don't see it that way. He tells you

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Speaker 1: So now he's put the label of insecure on you.

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Speaker 1: So what's the label that he gets to wear for

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Speaker 1: this behavior? So you're insecure? What is he secure? What

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Speaker 1: he acts when he's not with me. Well, let's talk

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Speaker 1: about this line right here. If he's given all this

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Speaker 1: attention to women while you're there, it's got to be

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Speaker 1: so much more when you're not around. I can't imagine

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Speaker 1: it not being I just can't, and you can't either.

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Speaker 1: He's even disrespecting my brother and sister law in their home.

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Speaker 1: See no weird ass whip and tearritor it. Now your

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Speaker 1: have to reevaluate my relationship. Uh, this is a pretty

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Speaker 1: big sign. I don't know what else you need, but

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Speaker 1: we'll come back with the rest of it. I'll give

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Speaker 1: you some more of the same, with what I'm already

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Speaker 1: saying and what Shirley's I already see, and then we'll

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Speaker 1: see how you feel about that. Now I don't know

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Speaker 1: what to tell you. Damn. All right, hang on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: be quiet, Tommy. We'll have part two of Steve's response

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Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after subject today he

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Speaker 1: You're listening to show, all right, Come on, Steve, Let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry letter. Subject he can't stop looking at butts.

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Speaker 1: A woman says she's dating an awesome guy. Gives everything

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Speaker 1: she wants, very attentive, supplies for me. He's a gentleman.

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Speaker 1: Sex is great, but it's a problem. He's got a

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Speaker 1: bad having look at other woman's but and you can't

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Speaker 1: stop him church driving, grocery stove, hugged up, having done him.

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Speaker 1: It don't matter, he just do it. Then you ask

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Speaker 1: him as he lost his mind, and he don't think so.

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Speaker 1: So then when you tell him it's disrespectful, he calls

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Speaker 1: you insecure about his behavior. Now he gets to give

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Speaker 1: give him? I would give him the title of X

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Speaker 1: because this is only gonna get worse. So while he's

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Speaker 1: giving another woman all this intention, I feel so bad.

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Speaker 1: I've imagine how he acts when he's not with me,

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Speaker 1: and it's scary, and it should be because if he's

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Speaker 1: doing this with you around, I can't imagine and you

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Speaker 1: can't either, what he's doing when you're not around. He's

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Speaker 1: even disrespected your brother and sister law in their own home.

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Speaker 1: Like I said earlier and asked, with a territory now

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Speaker 1: and now I have to revalue my relationship what you

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Speaker 1: waiting on? So then she tells us what happened a

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Speaker 1: few weeks ago. Took him to your brother's house. We

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Speaker 1: were all sitting around the pool talking. Boyfriend never met

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Speaker 1: your sister in law. She came out. He started staring

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Speaker 1: at her button instead of her face. He chuckled and asked,

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Speaker 1: younger because she was in great shape for her age. Wow,

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Speaker 1: that's what you said. My brother's jaw was clinched so

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Speaker 1: tightly I could see the veins pop out of his forehead.

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Speaker 1: Then your brother said, I needed to get my man

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Speaker 1: offended and snapped off at my brother right Hill. The

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Speaker 1: rest of this letter is all in the police report.

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Speaker 1: I don't even I don't, I don't even see what

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Speaker 1: we're talking about. Up, It's no way a man's gonna

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Speaker 1: come to my house make this statement by my wife.

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Speaker 1: Then I say something, he get offended and snap at me. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I got you looking at my wife. I understand that

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Speaker 1: I look at her too, but you're gonna stare and

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Speaker 1: make a comment. Hold a partner. You that stupid, and

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Speaker 1: you're in my house and then when I say something,

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Speaker 1: was so embarrassed. My brother called my man a loser

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Speaker 1: cheating on me one day? Excuse me, lady. Staring is

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Speaker 1: a form of lust. Lust is one of the deadly sins.

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Speaker 1: it's a hard one to deal with. That's it's a

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Speaker 1: hard one. Everybody in this lifetime that is normal has

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Speaker 1: to deal with lust at some point. In time. It

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Speaker 1: has gotten me in the most trouble I've ever been in.

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Speaker 1: Lust one of the seven Deadly Scenes. Ye, lust make

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Speaker 1: you stay out all night. Lust. Lust will make you

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Speaker 1: say things you ain't got no business saying, and take

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Speaker 1: chances you would not normally take. I love Lust is

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Speaker 1: a monster man. Do you think he'll end up cheating

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Speaker 1: understand how he ain't gonna cheat because he's too adamant.

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Speaker 1: an argument with your brother at his house about his

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Speaker 1: woman's button. He's adamant about it. He's committed to you,

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Speaker 1: and he don't care where it is or who it is.

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Speaker 1: What else do you need to see that's wrong with

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Speaker 1: this man? I like big but Steve. He's giving her

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Speaker 1: that's great, whatever she means, or once when he slaps

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Speaker 1: an ass. What you're gonna do then? Because oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: what you gonna do? Then? What about your friends? Can't

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Speaker 1: stupid he can't keep it to itself. Did you play

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Speaker 1: You know, says he treats me very well. He is

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Speaker 1: this part of the well treatment is this part of

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Speaker 1: the how you treat a person? Will well? Let me

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Speaker 1: that he's not giving you is respect. The other thing

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Speaker 1: he's not giving you is peace of mind. The other

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Speaker 1: thing he's not providing for you is security. So if

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Speaker 1: you just like things and sex, you got a great guy.

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Speaker 1: But if you like respect, security and want to feel

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Speaker 1: something else because right now the things and the sex

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Speaker 1: he can do what he want to do? What kind

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Speaker 1: of man you got here? You can't get nobody that's

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Speaker 1: smarter than that. If you're gonna look at least be smart,

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Speaker 1: everybody look but damn well, yeah you have it. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: When you see a woman walking past, you see a

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Speaker 1: her walk into the picture frame. That's how you look.

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