Speaker 1: The Nikay. Here's Nikki here. I am hello. Welcome to
Speaker 1: the podcast. It's Tuesday, Nicky Cleanser Podcast. I'm in Los Angeles, California.
Speaker 1: I'm not starting the show alone today. I mean I'm
Speaker 1: never alone. Noah is always there. She's in Arizona. Hi, Noah,
Speaker 1: how are you awesome? Doing good? Yeah? Good day today, good,
Speaker 1: good day. I just saw you post about ju jitsu
Speaker 1: that day. I went to the gym for like almost
Speaker 1: three hours already today. No, no, last night. Oh fun. Wow,
Speaker 1: that's a lot. But it's not like the whole time.
Speaker 1: It's not working out three hours. I just want to
Speaker 1: make that clear. I'm not like a meathead. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: like working together, trying new things, stuff like that. Yeah, okay, team,
Speaker 1: that makes me feel better. But that's fun. You've got friends,
Speaker 1: you have friends there? Yeah, Oh that's nice. Andrew Colin
Speaker 1: is here hotel room across the hall from me. What's up, dude?
Speaker 1: What's up? What's up over there? In eighteen twelve, I'm
Speaker 1: in eighteen fifteen. What's up? Right across the halls? Right
Speaker 1: across the halls? How did you sleep last night? I
Speaker 1: slept actually really good. Um. I went to bed early,
Speaker 1: like ten o'clock, woke up at one am. It was okay.
Speaker 1: Tried to get a psychiatrist this morning in St. Louis. Um,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, I got a call mine too. He didn't
Speaker 1: one to phone. They go, we're not going to be
Speaker 1: available till December two till seven. I am like, I
Speaker 1: looked at my phone. I go, is it thewond It's
Speaker 1: not even let you know, Yeah, they're just you know,
Speaker 1: you know, I listened to the same message I gave you.
Speaker 1: It's my it's my psychic right. The phone's not even hondo. Yeah.
Speaker 1: They never answer. You just leave messages. I mean, okay,
Speaker 1: so I guess that's did you have to listen to
Speaker 1: the whole thing of Like, if you're requesting a stimulant,
Speaker 1: please note that you cannot get it refilled on the
Speaker 1: same day. It's like the longest message ever ever ever
Speaker 1: to just go, hey can I get these stimulants filled today?
Speaker 1: And they're like, we just told you that it's smart
Speaker 1: because it depresses you. So then you want to go more. Um. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the longer the message you have to listen to, they
Speaker 1: probably lose more people then and get less people leaving messages.
Speaker 1: Do you know that I have no voicemail, Like, there's
Speaker 1: no outgoing voicemail. You can't leave me a voice message.
Speaker 1: It is the best thing that's ever happened in my life.
Speaker 1: I switched phones. What did my phone go? Caput? A
Speaker 1: guest September Matt Green. My um brother in law is
Speaker 1: a tech whiz. You know, his brother works at Apple
Speaker 1: and develops this ship. He knows everything about phones and stuff.
Speaker 1: And I go, I brought it over the other day
Speaker 1: and I go, hey, I haven't had voice voicemail. It
Speaker 1: just when I call, it goes, you need to like
Speaker 1: enter your password and I put it and it's just
Speaker 1: he couldn't hack it. He goes, you just can't have smail.
Speaker 1: You have to maybe go to you know, a T
Speaker 1: and T. I'm not going to do that. But the
Speaker 1: thing is, guess what hasn't caused me hasn't My world
Speaker 1: is still going. You has been able to leave a
Speaker 1: fucking message for me, and there is no problem in
Speaker 1: my life. You know, you think that if there's people
Speaker 1: can't get in touch with you, there would be some
Speaker 1: catastrophe if someone can't leave a voice message, But just
Speaker 1: text me, bro. The only people that tell you your
Speaker 1: voicemails down? Is your parents? Hey, I'm going to leave
Speaker 1: a message. I wanted to tell you to call me back.
Speaker 1: And it's like, I see you on the call waiting
Speaker 1: to call whatever I know to call you back. I
Speaker 1: see it. Do you say leave a message at the beep?
Speaker 1: Do you still say the beep? Do I say the
Speaker 1: do you? What's your word? Is yours? Like? Hey, it's Andrew.
Speaker 1: I don't even know at this point. Yeah, is your
Speaker 1: voice message full? Is your mailbox fall? A lot of
Speaker 1: times it is? Yeah, because you have to delete it
Speaker 1: out twice. Yeah, I try to get mine to fill
Speaker 1: up so that I can't get anymore. But you know
Speaker 1: what a full voice like when people are like, in
Speaker 1: a professional sense, when people are calling you and trying
Speaker 1: to leave a message and you know your mailbox is full,
Speaker 1: you're not a reliable person to work with because you're
Speaker 1: not like it just for me, it goes, Oh, this
Speaker 1: person is very disorganized and not getting to things in
Speaker 1: their life. Even though that's not true. You know who
Speaker 1: cares about voice mails? It's just it's almost like a
Speaker 1: messy room. I agree, but I think it could also
Speaker 1: be looked at it is like they're highly in demand
Speaker 1: and they can't even keep up, so we gotta get them.
Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know. Maybe all I know is I
Speaker 1: called this psychiatrist. The one didn't work, one or three
Speaker 1: didn't except new patients. And then the last one was
Speaker 1: a fax machine. And that was what did mind say?
Speaker 1: It just never answered and just I couldn't even leave
Speaker 1: a message on yours. Dude, you can, I'll get you in,
Speaker 1: I'll get you through, all right. Well I called, like
Speaker 1: I've left messages for like three others. I'm trying. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but anyhow, you gotta get that. Well, Butron, that's what
Speaker 1: you're trying to get, right. I just gotta come Nick,
Speaker 1: I gotta come back. I mean, you know, just because
Speaker 1: you're on Zoloft. How many mg are you on? Yeah?
Speaker 1: That's it's amazing what fifty has done for your life.
Speaker 1: I don't I don't think I have known anyone that
Speaker 1: has benefited more. And I would say that with so
Speaker 1: much love, like you, really you you lucked out. You know,
Speaker 1: it takes people so long to find the right kind
Speaker 1: of cocktail, and fifty mgs for you. You're just a
Speaker 1: happy guy like you rarely get you, rarely chew on
Speaker 1: your fingers not much anymore. You I just don't see
Speaker 1: you have that much anxiety anymore, and you just always
Speaker 1: seem really happy. I do get sad still, I get sad.
Speaker 1: I don't, but I think I get sad for the
Speaker 1: right reasons, not sad because I have horrible panic attacks,
Speaker 1: like and I'm afraid of life. What do you do
Speaker 1: when you're sad? Um? I try to just like be
Speaker 1: in it and not try to like like a panic attack.
Speaker 1: I I not to like stop being sad. I just
Speaker 1: let it go through. And usually a lot of times
Speaker 1: it's in the morning and I'll just sit in bed
Speaker 1: for next year, like ten minutes and it usually goes away,
Speaker 1: and then after a shower it's gone. Will you go
Speaker 1: on your phone to kind of or do you just
Speaker 1: lay there sad? Usually? What's the sadness? I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just like you feel depressed. Yeah, it's hard to
Speaker 1: explain it. I guess, like you said, thoughts of like
Speaker 1: what am I doing with my life? What's the point
Speaker 1: of everything? Like those kind of thought kind of a
Speaker 1: little bit. Yeah, like I was a little depressed about
Speaker 1: like we did. Um, I don't know. For the cameras,
Speaker 1: the stuff yesterday, and it's like, yeah, you did a
Speaker 1: thing yesterday, you know, when we traveled so much that
Speaker 1: first day, like I don't feel creative or as witty
Speaker 1: as I want or whatever. And I was like, was
Speaker 1: I too mean? Like, you know, was I led to
Speaker 1: like certain answers I didn't want to get, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? And like it felt like a deposition
Speaker 1: that I was like, wait, what did I say? And
Speaker 1: it's just I don't know, it'll it'll air eventually and
Speaker 1: then we'll have that talk. Then God only knows what
Speaker 1: you said. Jesus Christ. You know you're worried that it
Speaker 1: wasn't that bad. It really wasn't. And I just like, no,
Speaker 1: I don't think. I think you are being hard on yourself.
Speaker 1: You say so much though, that's the problem with those things.
Speaker 1: So it's like, what did I say? You know, you
Speaker 1: just you and and you're tired at the end, and
Speaker 1: you're just like, I don't know, I'm well, but you know,
Speaker 1: but no, I think I think I was good. I
Speaker 1: think it was good. You're having a little bit of anxiety,
Speaker 1: like kind of sadness about that, yeah, just because like
Speaker 1: I just I don't know if like I was in
Speaker 1: good enough mood yesterday. You know, the line between funny
Speaker 1: and mean can be just a smile away. Sometimes you
Speaker 1: don't put that little smile on it. It can be
Speaker 1: taken the wrong way totally. And it's like writing an
Speaker 1: l O L after a text. Yeah yeah, it's like
Speaker 1: go fund yourself, bitch, l O L. Yes, yeah, I
Speaker 1: have that too. I always have of that kind of
Speaker 1: hangover after where I go, I could have been better,
Speaker 1: you know, like that that regret of I could have
Speaker 1: been better, And then you start going, it's not you know,
Speaker 1: why didn't they work in my schedule? So I had
Speaker 1: a day to collect myself, like I would have been
Speaker 1: better if it was a day later, and like and
Speaker 1: you start pointing fingers of like but I I want
Speaker 1: to like, it's it's not my fault that I was bad.
Speaker 1: I get it's and it's like it's not even it's
Speaker 1: not your fault, like you're just you know, that's the
Speaker 1: way the schedule works. And honestly, um, you couldn't have
Speaker 1: done any differently yesterday. It was like that was the
Speaker 1: way it was supposed to be. And uh and in
Speaker 1: the end, like whatever you did on that thing, even
Speaker 1: if it was the most important thing of your life.
Speaker 1: And I'm just talking about in general. Like I was
Speaker 1: editing my special last night and I'm just like in
Speaker 1: the middle of it, and I go, most people aren't
Speaker 1: even going to get this fucking far, you know, like
Speaker 1: like you know, like most people, I mean they should.
Speaker 1: It's really good, but oh no, yeah, I didn't mean
Speaker 1: like in your career, like in the in the special,
Speaker 1: I was halfway through it, and I go, I could
Speaker 1: really just you know, have a video of Andrew on
Speaker 1: a version table putting peanut butter Oliver himself singing this
Speaker 1: Girl's on Fire, and just it could cut to that,
Speaker 1: and I would wonder how many people would even notice,
Speaker 1: because you know, comedy specials are hard to maintain your
Speaker 1: focus the entire time. UM. But I was thinking, you
Speaker 1: know what, I was having kind of existential thoughts of
Speaker 1: like I'm gonna be dead someday, this me staying up,
Speaker 1: and I was just like wired at two a um,
Speaker 1: like still you know, I keep making these notes. You
Speaker 1: should see my notes. It's just I've never it looks like,
Speaker 1: I've never felt like I was studying for a final
Speaker 1: for like, it was just so much work that it
Speaker 1: reminds me of college, of just like staying up late
Speaker 1: and doing all this writing and like just getting it done.
Speaker 1: And I was feeling very productive. But at some point
Speaker 1: there were diminishing returns and I was supposed to get
Speaker 1: it the whole thing done tonight or last night, and
Speaker 1: I did not. I only got halfway through it. There's
Speaker 1: so much work to be done on it. Um. And
Speaker 1: I was like, if this isn't submitted in time, does
Speaker 1: the does anything really happen? What are the consequences? Am
Speaker 1: I going to go to prison? I am I'm going
Speaker 1: to Is my family going to be murdered? Like? The
Speaker 1: stakes are not as high as I make them out
Speaker 1: to be all the time? You know, yeah, yeah, I know,
Speaker 1: But I guess, like I don't know. It's weird because
Speaker 1: I think it's a double edged sword in the sense
Speaker 1: like you making the stakes high will make you work
Speaker 1: harder or make it better somehow because you have more
Speaker 1: to lose kind of thing. I don't know. It's just
Speaker 1: like I pulled a real Louis c k on this one,
Speaker 1: Like I yesterday, I went into the edit. I feel
Speaker 1: so bad. I um and I you know, jerk off
Speaker 1: joke here, but uh um, But I went in. So
Speaker 1: there's a couple of things I've learned in my life
Speaker 1: that it's good to ask for help, to know when
Speaker 1: you can't do things. You can't do everything, especially as
Speaker 1: a stand up you just try to do you try
Speaker 1: to do everything yourself. I'm someone who if I got
Speaker 1: in you know, were you like this got you? Guys,
Speaker 1: if you got into a group project in high school,
Speaker 1: middle school where it's like three people are all working
Speaker 1: on this thing and you've got to like work for
Speaker 1: a week, a week or weeks on it and then
Speaker 1: present it did what role did you take in that?
Speaker 1: In that? I mean, I already know you were the
Speaker 1: Joe kissy of the group. That was the guy that
Speaker 1: I just go, you sit back, let me do this job.
Speaker 1: I tried to be the glue. Wow, that's why we
Speaker 1: work together. We're all I mean, honestly, this is a
Speaker 1: group project and we need you keep it fun. Andrew
Speaker 1: Noah is the person that's like keeping like putting the
Speaker 1: caps back on the markers, putting them back in the like,
Speaker 1: keeping them organized, like keeping us on schedule, making sure
Speaker 1: things get turned into the right time. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: can I just like do it all? Can I just
Speaker 1: write it all. Can I be the one that colors
Speaker 1: it in? And that's that's That's always what I wanted
Speaker 1: to do. And I think that, you know, uh, misbusive.
Speaker 1: My therapist she used to tell me, like, you need
Speaker 1: to ask for help for things, because I remember being like,
Speaker 1: I gotta get the set together for this thing, and
Speaker 1: I have to go shopping for this dress. That was
Speaker 1: the same time she goes, you're not a beauty. It
Speaker 1: doesn't matter what you wear. People aren't looking at you.
Speaker 1: You're not a beauty. Accept it. And I was just like,
Speaker 1: you can't say that to me. It matters. And then
Speaker 1: I was free after that a little bit. But um,
Speaker 1: she also was like, you need to ask for help
Speaker 1: because I remember one time call I went into her.
Speaker 1: It was the first session I ever went into with her,
Speaker 1: and I just go, you know, today, my issue is
Speaker 1: that I need to get a mattress. I need a
Speaker 1: mattress and I cannot decide on one. I am just stuck.
Speaker 1: I go to the store, I lay on them, I
Speaker 1: tossed around. I cannot There's just too many choices and
Speaker 1: so I'm just sticking with my shitty one. And she
Speaker 1: was and I was like, and I called my mom.
Speaker 1: She goes, why did you call your Why did you
Speaker 1: call your mom? I don't know. She's like a good consumer,
Speaker 1: like she knows what's good where to go. And she goes,
Speaker 1: is she sleeping on the mattress? And I go no.
Speaker 1: She's like, then why do why do you need her input?
Speaker 1: And I was like, it's a good fucking I'll never
Speaker 1: forget that. She goes, stop calling your mom for things
Speaker 1: that you do that you that she's not a part
Speaker 1: of um, because I used to always call my mom
Speaker 1: about everything, every little thing, and and I just if
Speaker 1: you relate to this at all, where you just keep
Speaker 1: calling someone waiting to get the thing that you're looking for,
Speaker 1: which is validation that you're doing it right, um, sympathy, uh, empathy,
Speaker 1: whatever it is. My mom gives me the things that
Speaker 1: I when I call her. Now I know what to
Speaker 1: call her for because I know what my mom is
Speaker 1: capable of giving me. But I used to call her
Speaker 1: for things that I used to be like, Mom, I
Speaker 1: ruined my computer and she'd be like, nicky, why would
Speaker 1: you be drinking a cup of water? Next year brand
Speaker 1: new computer? Oh? And it would just be like someone
Speaker 1: else to dig the knife in a little bit harder.
Speaker 1: It was like someone else to to punish me the
Speaker 1: way that I wanted to be punished, And it was
Speaker 1: like that was the best thing I ever got from
Speaker 1: misbusive was when I spilled water on my brand new
Speaker 1: computer and I want I was so you know, I
Speaker 1: didn't have a lot of money at the time, and
Speaker 1: even if I did, it was a two thou dollar
Speaker 1: computer and I poured water all over it. It It shorted out,
Speaker 1: and I'm just like, I can't have nice things. It
Speaker 1: was just so validating that I, you know, it's been
Speaker 1: a while that I've stained you know, the band. And
Speaker 1: I remember walking to the stand that night across you know,
Speaker 1: I lived in Chelsea on the west side. I walked
Speaker 1: over the east side across town. I want by a
Speaker 1: dog and I was just like, I want that dog
Speaker 1: to fucking bite me, like I just wanted. It's it's
Speaker 1: the same thing that when people cut themselves, like you
Speaker 1: just want to be punished for the thing you know
Speaker 1: about yourself you want to feel, you want to see
Speaker 1: an injury that as bad as how you feel. I
Speaker 1: can't explain it, but I really do. I have that
Speaker 1: kind of self harmy thing and self harmy hammer. And
Speaker 1: I remember telling my therapist that and she said and
Speaker 1: that this helped me so much and it helps me
Speaker 1: all the time in life. She goes, isn't the punishment
Speaker 1: that you lost your computer? Isn't that? Isn't that the crime?
Speaker 1: Like that's it? And that's how I kind of feel
Speaker 1: about when people like you know, kill someone in a
Speaker 1: car accident and they're like, you need to go to jail.
Speaker 1: It's like, don't you think the punishment of murdering someone
Speaker 1: and is good enough? Is a punishment enough to need
Speaker 1: to do more? And it's like that's where I kind
Speaker 1: of and you can relate to that to anything in
Speaker 1: your life that you want to punish yourself for, especially
Speaker 1: if it's something that you're already suffering. It's like, that's
Speaker 1: the punishment. Stop it, little, be nice to yourself now
Speaker 1: because you poor thing, you just lost your computer. Be nice.
Speaker 1: Does any of this reson It does? But the murder
Speaker 1: thing lost me a little bit, just in the sense
Speaker 1: because I know we always get back to this. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just think smpathically like you might go so from
Speaker 1: computer being broken to the most extreme thing possible, And
Speaker 1: I think you skip a bunch of steps in between.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about a texting and driving situation, even impaired
Speaker 1: driving situation, one in which, by the way, everyone listening,
Speaker 1: that's going no, my brother was killed or might The
Speaker 1: fucking is tragic as fun, But we've all been distracted driving,
Speaker 1: no one has can mistakes happen, and I don't think
Speaker 1: that person should have to go to jail forever. My
Speaker 1: point is, My point is it would be different if
Speaker 1: you crash your car and the punishment is you wrecked
Speaker 1: your car, and it's just your car. But once you
Speaker 1: kill another, say like if I killed someone accidentally because
Speaker 1: I was being careless. But do you see the difference
Speaker 1: the analogy with the car. But I'm taking it all
Speaker 1: the way. I'm taking it all the way and saying
Speaker 1: that I actually believe this, and I could be wrong,
Speaker 1: and this could lose us listeners because people go, I
Speaker 1: give up, but Nikki, But I I'm not being I'm
Speaker 1: not diminishing life or saying that that person has a
Speaker 1: right to be careless when drive. Just keep driving texting, Like,
Speaker 1: how many times, on a smaller scale have you learned
Speaker 1: a lesson from making a grave mistake? And how many
Speaker 1: times have you been lucky enough to not when you've
Speaker 1: been distracted driving to not have plowed into any that
Speaker 1: was crossing a street, Like, this is the thing. It
Speaker 1: could happen to any of us. And I know there's
Speaker 1: some circumstances where it's like someone blasted drunk drive, you know,
Speaker 1: totally radically, but like there are times where people are
Speaker 1: texting and driving or whatever and people just go walk
Speaker 1: her away forever. And it's like, I I understand being angry,
Speaker 1: But if I was texting and driving, which I do
Speaker 1: not do well, Um, if I was looking at my
Speaker 1: phone looking at a ways you know, we all look
Speaker 1: at our phone for directions. Don't act like you're better
Speaker 1: than me, Like, yeah, we're all have three computers on
Speaker 1: our laps in the the car has a computer that
Speaker 1: you look at Like what are we talking about? Like
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, like the car sometimes it
Speaker 1: doesn't connect. Well, maybe you're looking at that, That's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Yes, So, if if that happened, I think
Speaker 1: having to live with the fact that I did that
Speaker 1: is so is is punishment enough? Like I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: just go oh oh I got off. Let me just
Speaker 1: go to fucking coals and go on a shoppings right,
Speaker 1: Like I don't I don't know why. That was my
Speaker 1: day after I get let off from you know, involuntary manslaughter.
Speaker 1: But like I'm going to suffer the rest of my life,
Speaker 1: like it's having the weight of having taken someone's life
Speaker 1: by your negligence is brutal and in ways, I guess
Speaker 1: I would want to go to jail because just like
Speaker 1: the dog biting, I would want to be punished in
Speaker 1: a way that made me feel like I was paying
Speaker 1: for what I've done. But I don't think it's right.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think you should go for life,
Speaker 1: but I think, you know, several years could work, okay,
Speaker 1: but several is not a lot. Seven that was I
Speaker 1: didn't even get that call back. It's good, dude, Let's
Speaker 1: go to break. We'll come back with the news. Hey, Andrew,
Speaker 1: let's get to the news. Your first, your first, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's Tuesday, folks, you know what that means. It is Tuesday.
Speaker 1: I hope you're having all the swells out there except
Speaker 1: for you. Larry, Oh my first kiss. Yeah, that's who
Speaker 1: I'm coming after, Larry Nasser. Oh my god, that was
Speaker 1: a lot of girls. First, kiss, let's be on eight
Speaker 1: million they got, which is fucking awesome. Wait what yeah
Speaker 1: they got? I think the lawsuits over they got three
Speaker 1: the settlement three eighty million dollars, which that's a lot
Speaker 1: of divided between how many divided between how many lawyers? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Many girls? I don't know. I don't know. That's a
Speaker 1: good question though. I mean three eighty when you divide
Speaker 1: it and then taxes and then lawyers, yea each girl
Speaker 1: in that way? Um, And I'm sure someone's like, well,
Speaker 1: maybe he accidentally did it, Nickie, Why don't you forgive him?
Speaker 1: That's difference when he didn't and fingering Nikki, Sorry, that
Speaker 1: was the time. No, I was. I was responding my
Speaker 1: own thing. I wasn't doing your Let's let's get to it.
Speaker 1: People on social media can see people on social media
Speaker 1: are outraged over a video of teacher scrambling to scoop
Speaker 1: dollar bills at at a hockey rank for the Dash
Speaker 1: for Cash event aimed to raise money for school supplies.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, did you see this video? No, they have
Speaker 1: teachers on their knees throwing dollar bills in front of
Speaker 1: people cheering them on, like they're like like rats, trying
Speaker 1: to get cheese just so they could pay for supplies
Speaker 1: for their school. It looked the money was donated in
Speaker 1: South Dakota business see you mortgage direct was meant to
Speaker 1: that was donated. It was meant to go towards to
Speaker 1: the teachers classrooms or schools. Each of the teachers got
Speaker 1: hundreds of dollars, ranging between sundred sixteen. Critics on social
Speaker 1: media called the contest cruel and dystopian. Yeah, it almost
Speaker 1: squid gaming. They pointed out lack of funding and pitting
Speaker 1: teachers against each other. Yeah. A fifth grade teacher who
Speaker 1: participated said, I think it's really cool when the community
Speaker 1: offers an opportunity like this for things. A lot of
Speaker 1: times uh that educators a lot of times pay out
Speaker 1: a pocket for you know, it's there's a there's a
Speaker 1: fun game element though, just scrambling for cash. And I
Speaker 1: know that it looks sad because it's like this is
Speaker 1: just stuff that should be provided. Um, they used to
Speaker 1: do it on game shows all the time, Yes, but
Speaker 1: I guess those people were spending it on a jet
Speaker 1: ski though for their career. You know, little mats to
Speaker 1: put on the floor for the reading nook. I mean
Speaker 1: it is wild that teachers have to come out of
Speaker 1: pocket for school supplies. I mean, I don't know why
Speaker 1: anyone's a teacher. Thank fucking God for teachers, but man,
Speaker 1: it's that is a really rough I mean, I do
Speaker 1: know why people are teachers. They fucking care about kids
Speaker 1: and it's rewarding. Um, and get their summers are summers off,
Speaker 1: but it's pays so it doesn't pay enough, and it
Speaker 1: is uh, you know, I think thankless. And parents are
Speaker 1: fucking terrible. Now they all think they're child's just the
Speaker 1: most special thing. And now teachers are getting in trouble
Speaker 1: for giving out homework. You know, it used to be
Speaker 1: like you would get in trouble for not doing your
Speaker 1: homework and the teacher would called a parent about like, hey,
Speaker 1: they aren't doing their work. Now the parent calls the
Speaker 1: teacher and says, you're giving too much homework? In what world?
Speaker 1: I mean, I would have loved for that scenario to
Speaker 1: be happening back in the day. But it was like
Speaker 1: teachers used to be respected and like they know what's
Speaker 1: better than the parent. It's just yeah, I guess they're like,
Speaker 1: you know, I read that quote by the woman and
Speaker 1: she participated in it, so it's like, why are we
Speaker 1: listening to anyone except for the people that participated that
Speaker 1: did it, Like yeah, I I always find that interesting.
Speaker 1: It kind of it's like, um, I saw a video
Speaker 1: of like cultural appropriation, like this guy was dressed and
Speaker 1: like as a mariachi band and people are like, how
Speaker 1: could you do that? Like how could you dress? And
Speaker 1: a marriachi band was like, we love it, thank you
Speaker 1: for promoting us. I appreciate it, Like thank you for
Speaker 1: like not thinking we're invisible, you know, And it's just
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's just interesting. It's like people taking
Speaker 1: up for other people. And it's like you might think
Speaker 1: this is you know when people ever say about girls
Speaker 1: on Instagram, you know, posing slightly slutty or whatever, and
Speaker 1: it's like it's so sad. She's so sad. It's so bad,
Speaker 1: Like girl, you don't have to do that. It's like
Speaker 1: that's that's what you're putting on it don't get to her.
Speaker 1: Or porn, like I watched porn sometimes and I go, oh,
Speaker 1: this girl, I just want to give her a hug.
Speaker 1: And it's like, you don't know what Nikki sha up.
Speaker 1: She might be like liking this and um, and people
Speaker 1: could say that about me, you know, Oh you don't
Speaker 1: need to do this NIGGI and talk about these things.
Speaker 1: It's like, but you're not me, Just back off you.
Speaker 1: When do you stick up for someone? When do you go?
Speaker 1: Are you okay when they asked for it? I guess,
Speaker 1: But what if she's a what if someone's being held
Speaker 1: against their will? Or what if someone is you know,
Speaker 1: not able to actually stand up for themselves, Like you
Speaker 1: see a lot of times they're just people that have
Speaker 1: been come from abusive families where they didn't learn how
Speaker 1: to you know, have autonomy and boundaries, and you see
Speaker 1: them being trampled on or being you know, rude to
Speaker 1: a Starbucks employee being yelled at, or or maybe a
Speaker 1: customer being you know, and then you take it upon
Speaker 1: yourself to like defend them. When is that okay? And
Speaker 1: when is that like? You don't know? Well, I guess,
Speaker 1: like you know, earlier you were like teachers, I don't
Speaker 1: know how you do it. But then I guess there
Speaker 1: are some teachers that are like, you're right, Nikki, like
Speaker 1: this job fucking is thankless and sucks, And then I
Speaker 1: couldn't do it, and I require constant validation of we
Speaker 1: appreciate you and you are great and this is you know,
Speaker 1: and I'm not saying I couldn't do it. I hate
Speaker 1: when people go I could never live in New York,
Speaker 1: I could never get on stage. I'm like, yes you
Speaker 1: could if he if he had my brain and life,
Speaker 1: it would be very easy for you. Um, so I
Speaker 1: could be a teacher. UM. And I don't mean to
Speaker 1: go like talk down to teachers in any way. I
Speaker 1: was just like, I just I'm really grateful for teachers
Speaker 1: like I just I know that it's even the ones
Speaker 1: that love it and would never want to do anything
Speaker 1: else and are going to stick it through no matter what.
Speaker 1: I know that it sucks and that you don't get
Speaker 1: the appreciation that you deserve, and maybe you don't want it,
Speaker 1: you know, maybe you don't need that. I was talking
Speaker 1: to Kirsten at UM Breakfast today about I'm not good
Speaker 1: at like thanking people sincerely in person. It's just very
Speaker 1: uncomfortable for me to be like I appreciate you and
Speaker 1: looking someone in the eye and doing it. I'm much
Speaker 1: better at like sharing my sentimental feelings in a letter
Speaker 1: or like an email or a text like so they
Speaker 1: can have it and process it on their own, much
Speaker 1: like the fan threax. Like I love when people give
Speaker 1: me letters at the show because I just even a
Speaker 1: birthday card, I'm like, can I just open this later?
Speaker 1: Or a gift on my birthday? I'm always like, can
Speaker 1: I not open it in front of you? It's too much.
Speaker 1: I just don't want. I don't know what that says
Speaker 1: about me. But maybe you don't want to see the
Speaker 1: reaction because it won't live up to what you want.
Speaker 1: Maybe no, it's not that, like I, I just it's
Speaker 1: too many feelings for me. It's too emotional, and I'm
Speaker 1: just very uncomfortable with that much sincerity. I'm not good
Speaker 1: at making sincere speeches eulogically. I just I buckle Um
Speaker 1: and Kirs and I were talking about how you know
Speaker 1: I was. I was kind of getting defensive, so I
Speaker 1: was there was someone in my life who was like,
Speaker 1: you know, we don't really hear thank you from you
Speaker 1: a lot for this thing, and I'm like, but I
Speaker 1: thank you with like my I show it in other
Speaker 1: ways and they're like, yeah, like you know, money and
Speaker 1: buying you things and things like that, and uh, the
Speaker 1: guy I'm dating was like, you know, sometimes people, even
Speaker 1: if you're paying them well or well enough. You know
Speaker 1: they're not doing it for the money. If they wanted money,
Speaker 1: they would go do something else. They're doing it because
Speaker 1: they have pride and what they're doing and they like
Speaker 1: that they're helping your life and that they're bringing their
Speaker 1: like a part of a thing. And there. They do
Speaker 1: it because they want the accolades, they want the they
Speaker 1: have so it that that does matter. That is currency
Speaker 1: to them. And you need to stop stop avoiding your
Speaker 1: feelings and how grateful you are for these people by
Speaker 1: throwing money at them, which is obviously nice to do
Speaker 1: and people would probably prefer that over thank you, but
Speaker 1: why not do both? So I'm trying to force myself
Speaker 1: to be more grateful, which I can't. I mean, now
Speaker 1: I should go into like you guys at the end
Speaker 1: of the year, I just want to say to you
Speaker 1: and Noah, like you're gonna get a card for being said.
Speaker 1: I can't do it right here, but like I'm just
Speaker 1: not good with that. Are you guys doing relate to that?
Speaker 1: I guess it depends if there's gonna be a bonus
Speaker 1: in there. Great but gratefully saying right am I? Yeah? No,
Speaker 1: I have a lot of trouble with that obviously, Like
Speaker 1: I it's so hard for me to be sincere, Like
Speaker 1: I remember when I would try to, like I wrote
Speaker 1: that one horrendous movie, and I remember someone that read
Speaker 1: it there, like can you like make the like the
Speaker 1: scene where he's saying he loves this woman or he's
Speaker 1: happy for them, like for her. I don't know what
Speaker 1: that was. We just heard a deep um can you
Speaker 1: make it like more sincere and whatever? And I I couldn't.
Speaker 1: I I don't know what those words are, like I
Speaker 1: can't do it. I don't know the vocabulary for it
Speaker 1: because I didn't hear it as a kid, like I
Speaker 1: just didn't. My parents weren't that way. That wasn't how
Speaker 1: we communicated. We communicated through money, like or like things like.
Speaker 1: That's how I knew my dad liked me because you know,
Speaker 1: I got a car when I was sixteen, not because
Speaker 1: he sat me down and he explained, you know why
Speaker 1: I'm great or something like that. You know. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: got a lot of that as a kid from my dad,
Speaker 1: and I think it made me deeply and comfortable to
Speaker 1: hear how great it was because I didn't believe it
Speaker 1: and I just thought they were just saying it. He
Speaker 1: ended it with, Babe, you know yeah, I mean I
Speaker 1: always loved a weird taste in my mouth, especially after
Speaker 1: we made out. But why did these cigars that day?
Speaker 1: It was let's get off this. What then are we talking?
Speaker 1: Let's get it all right? Yeah, it's it's it's hard
Speaker 1: for me to be sincere, but when I do it,
Speaker 1: it feels really good, and I'm really good at it
Speaker 1: when I write letters, and I can write, but I'm
Speaker 1: I'm very uncomfortable in person doing it. And um. But
Speaker 1: what I was wondering with Brenna, does she um? Because
Speaker 1: I know you cut everything with jokes, like the most sincere,
Speaker 1: saddest moments, you will still sometimes I have to be
Speaker 1: like if I'm like if it maybe it's not a sentimental,
Speaker 1: like emotional moment, but it's something I'm like frustrated about
Speaker 1: or like want to stay in the I need to
Speaker 1: express my anger about something to you, not at you.
Speaker 1: Let's say it's a thing in my life. And sometimes
Speaker 1: we'll just go I'll go like and I don't know,
Speaker 1: I'm just feeling like so full of and I go,
Speaker 1: don't make a come joke right now? Like, you know,
Speaker 1: like I have to even say that to you, like
Speaker 1: don't I go, don't make the joke about that. I'll
Speaker 1: say a turn a turn of phrase that I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: he's gonna make that joke, and I'll predict it and go,
Speaker 1: don't just please don't make that joke. I can't handle
Speaker 1: a joke right now. I just want to stay in
Speaker 1: this does Brenna ever, I want you to be more
Speaker 1: like because we go, baby baby, I'll miss you. I
Speaker 1: miss you And that's almost like which it's saying what
Speaker 1: you really feel, but it's making it and I do
Speaker 1: I do miss you baby? Um, and uh, you know,
Speaker 1: I think I know you well enough where like I
Speaker 1: know when not to make that kind of joke. I
Speaker 1: think like even before you tell me not to make
Speaker 1: the joke, I know our relationship well enough where like
Speaker 1: and then with Brenna, yeah, there's times where like I
Speaker 1: don't know if like we've gotten in like arguments over it,
Speaker 1: but it's like, can you just like I'm not that
Speaker 1: open with her. I don't you know, I know, I
Speaker 1: like it would seem like I'd be that way, but
Speaker 1: like I I tend to avoid serious conversation at all
Speaker 1: costs because because I'm afraid of what I'll be asked
Speaker 1: and and that or not like like asked to do
Speaker 1: or whatever. And then I'll feel like, well, I'm my
Speaker 1: actions are showing all this. Why do I need to
Speaker 1: verbalize it? Or like, am I going to be asked
Speaker 1: to do something that I don't think is reasonable? So
Speaker 1: I avoid it because I'm a raid in you're afraid
Speaker 1: of the answer you don't want. We talked about this,
Speaker 1: like a lot of times You're like, I don't ask
Speaker 1: you the thing because I'm scared you're gonna say no.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, but no is an answer that is acceptable,
Speaker 1: So you need to be okay with that. And that's
Speaker 1: that's the thing, and and and that's what I do.
Speaker 1: You know, we're talking about it yesterday, like things you're
Speaker 1: scared of. You have to consider the worst case scenario
Speaker 1: and be like, Okay, can I handle that? Like that
Speaker 1: is an appropriate thing to happen in this circumstance It
Speaker 1: could happen? Is that is that? Because? Is do I
Speaker 1: have to take that personally? It's so funny. I was
Speaker 1: just talking to um Chris about this the other day
Speaker 1: about how there is no way like there are maybe
Speaker 1: zero people I can think of where if you told
Speaker 1: them a criticism like let's just say, uh, you know
Speaker 1: someone's always late or something, or um, you know, someone
Speaker 1: sitting too close to you or like a friend. I
Speaker 1: don't think there's anyone that you can confront about something
Speaker 1: a criticism and they won't have a knee jerk defensive reaction. First.
Speaker 1: Is there any way to present something of like so
Speaker 1: that they don't go but but oh, but but it's
Speaker 1: because of this, Like every no one likes to be criticized,
Speaker 1: even if it's something that is not a you know,
Speaker 1: moral judgment on that you're just like, hey, this is
Speaker 1: my thing. It's nothing to do with you. I just appreciate,
Speaker 1: you know, a heads up if you're going to be late.
Speaker 1: According to therapists, the way to do that is by
Speaker 1: seeing that I feel statement mm hmm. When you do this,
Speaker 1: it makes me feel X Y and Z, I think,
Speaker 1: I think when But isn't it like people can't make
Speaker 1: you feel something? Isn't that a therapything? Like then you're
Speaker 1: blaming them for your feelings. I think the best um,
Speaker 1: as long as you say you you it's like you're
Speaker 1: when you do this action i've it makes me feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: Is there a way that it's Sometimes people's actions do
Speaker 1: make you feel a way, like this whole thing of
Speaker 1: like they can't make you feel that way. Sometimes people
Speaker 1: unintentionally do make you feel a way, and that's okay,
Speaker 1: But you can't get their bad person. I mean, I
Speaker 1: guess you could get mad, but it's harder to get
Speaker 1: mad at someone for a way that they feel. Not
Speaker 1: in my family don't feel that way. Why do you
Speaker 1: feel that way? I think that? Uh, or I feel
Speaker 1: I feel that, I think um that I feel no.
Speaker 1: I think when it's like I get I have trouble
Speaker 1: with critiques when I feel like the person you can
Speaker 1: say no, but it's not just you. It's like anyone
Speaker 1: in my life, but it's mostly you. I feel no.
Speaker 1: But like if if they're doing something similar, maybe it's
Speaker 1: not that thing to be critiqued. And I find it
Speaker 1: hypocritical and and I think a way though to do
Speaker 1: that be like, look, I suck at leaving my bag
Speaker 1: out per se on the outside in the living room.
Speaker 1: That being said, you know, I get forgetful sometimes too.
Speaker 1: In regards to the dryer sheet thing. Whatever can you
Speaker 1: clear that out. I know. I'm forgetful too. I do
Speaker 1: it too, and then I'd be like yeah, dude, fucking
Speaker 1: yeah of course, as opposed to like you gotta take
Speaker 1: this out. Then I'm like, fuck you, you leave your
Speaker 1: bag out, like you know what I mean? And I
Speaker 1: think that I like how you change the thing in
Speaker 1: the beginning so that it's you didn't accuse me of
Speaker 1: the thing that you're that was very that was very
Speaker 1: shifty of what you just did. But then it all
Speaker 1: came to truth at the end. Um, No, that's what.
Speaker 1: But that's where I get annoyed. It's like, just it's
Speaker 1: not a two way street just because I don't like this.
Speaker 1: These are different things, like it's not always an eye
Speaker 1: for an eye, and yes, there's different ways of saying
Speaker 1: like you need to do this, Like there could be like, hey,
Speaker 1: next time you do this, do you mind doing this?
Speaker 1: I don't need to. I don't think anyone, let alone myself,
Speaker 1: needs to always give a caveat of like I do
Speaker 1: this too, and here's a way that I do it.
Speaker 1: Like I know I'm not perfect. We're allowed to have
Speaker 1: criticisms of others to to, you know, compliment the boundaries
Speaker 1: we want for ourselves without having to there's always gonna
Speaker 1: be hypocrisy. Like, for example, I don't mind if the
Speaker 1: guy am dating Fox other women. I just don't care.
Speaker 1: It's not a thing. It doesn't make me jealous. It's
Speaker 1: my weird thing. I know though, that they don't feel
Speaker 1: just because they get to do it does not mean
Speaker 1: I get to do it. I'm not allowing them to
Speaker 1: do that because I'm like, oh, that means I can
Speaker 1: do it. It's it's it's not a two way street.
Speaker 1: It's it's I like it. I have my own preferences
Speaker 1: and they have their own purpoces. So when it comes
Speaker 1: to dryer sheets and leaving bags out, I leave bags out.
Speaker 1: You don't put the dryers, you don't empty the dryers. Right,
Speaker 1: those can independently. I'm not saying the dryer thing in
Speaker 1: a world where I am perfect. It's just one thing
Speaker 1: that I specifically, in that moment, think about, and it
Speaker 1: doesn't need the caveat of like, but you do this,
Speaker 1: It can still just be does does that? Yeah? I
Speaker 1: just but the whole thing of like, it's not a
Speaker 1: two way street that comes up the eye for an
Speaker 1: eye two way street thing when you go. It's not
Speaker 1: a two way street. I could do it. That doesn't
Speaker 1: mean you, but you can do it. You can yell
Speaker 1: at me about the bag and I don't have to go,
Speaker 1: but you leave the dryer sheet. It can just be like,
Speaker 1: I like a tidy spot and you've never brought up
Speaker 1: the bag before. It's so obnoxious when you inadvertently do
Speaker 1: things you've never won because I don't do it. I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't because I don't have anything. You could just say, hey, Nikki,
Speaker 1: I like a tidy space. Do you mind putting your
Speaker 1: stuff away? And I would be able to handle that
Speaker 1: instead of you passive aggressively bringing it up on here.
Speaker 1: It's not so annoying passive aggressive putting it into a
Speaker 1: scenario scenario that is a hypothetical. That's the definition. Is
Speaker 1: the difference. I don't care that you leave the bag out.
Speaker 1: I'm using as an example. I never care. I really don't.
Speaker 1: Oh well, okay, then that's different. That's the difference. Like,
Speaker 1: but that's what I'm saying. It's not if you don't care.
Speaker 1: I do care about the dryer sheet. It's the thing
Speaker 1: I care about. I'm different than you. You don't care
Speaker 1: about the bag. That doesn't mean that they're not they're
Speaker 1: not the same then, And I'm not saying that if
Speaker 1: you even if you did care about the bag, it's
Speaker 1: not the you're allowed to have that, uh, independent of
Speaker 1: the dryer sheep conversation. You know, we're every time that
Speaker 1: you can get criticized. This is what you know, the
Speaker 1: left and right do well you did this, No, well
Speaker 1: you did this, and it's like no one's ever fucking
Speaker 1: accountable then, because you could always go, well, you're not perfect,
Speaker 1: and it's like, okay, well then let's all just fucking
Speaker 1: ruin the world and never have to face, you know,
Speaker 1: take accountability for the things that we're doing. And it's
Speaker 1: like that I'm I'm saying this as someone who makes
Speaker 1: mistakes all the time and is does have those knee
Speaker 1: jerk reactions of being like will you do this? And
Speaker 1: I'm even saying to myself, you don't have a right
Speaker 1: to throw it back in their face of like but you,
Speaker 1: but you're saying you don't believe you have the right
Speaker 1: to tell the person that they're fucking up. Well, that
Speaker 1: person that you told me, But I don't think it
Speaker 1: should come from a place of like I'm defending myself.
Speaker 1: It should come independently of that. In a different scenario
Speaker 1: like that, you can't make the rule and then it
Speaker 1: just abides for you. Do you understand that like you can't.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying it abides for me. I'm saying that
Speaker 1: you can bring up the bag. Let's say the bag
Speaker 1: thing ticks you off, you could bring that up. But
Speaker 1: it doesn't need to be like, well, the dryer sheet.
Speaker 1: I don't know why you're complaining about the driver a
Speaker 1: ste you leave your bag out all the time. That
Speaker 1: is not the way to handle an argument. The way
Speaker 1: to handle it is go, oh, you know what, I
Speaker 1: do need to be better about this. And while we're
Speaker 1: at it, like I guess, since we're in this like
Speaker 1: kind of conversation, a thing that's been annoying me is
Speaker 1: that you leave your bag out. It's not the same
Speaker 1: as but you do this. It's not a defensiveness. It's
Speaker 1: a separate thing that oh, this reminds me of this,
Speaker 1: but it's it's not defending. Do you understand the initial
Speaker 1: of the dryer sheet of how you come at the person,
Speaker 1: That's how they're going to react to you. So when
Speaker 1: you say I don't need to give the caveat. I
Speaker 1: don't need to go well, I do this. I don't
Speaker 1: need to be you'll tell me I said that it's
Speaker 1: not nice to go do this dryer sheet. I said, hey,
Speaker 1: next time you're doing the dryer sheet, that would be
Speaker 1: the way I presented is not good. Sometimes it's like
Speaker 1: a response, So then you're gonna get a knee jerk
Speaker 1: response back. That's the whole point. So it's like like
Speaker 1: the initial knee jerk response. If it's if it's comes
Speaker 1: from kindness and a way of out of love, then
Speaker 1: you're gonna get love back. But if it comes out
Speaker 1: a way of like spiteful and like I'm I don't
Speaker 1: you shouldn't do this, and you talk down to the person,
Speaker 1: then you're gonna get a shitty reaction. That's all. It's
Speaker 1: not a big deal. I just you know, it is
Speaker 1: what it is. But I think we got somewhere on that.
Speaker 1: Do you guys want to go to the next news story?
Speaker 1: What is the next go ahead? And do you want
Speaker 1: to do it? A study shows that most people have
Speaker 1: napped on the job. Nappers seem the better quality of
Speaker 1: life actually, but non nappers were likely to make more
Speaker 1: money all right, well this this is interesting. The ideal
Speaker 1: nap time is twenty to thirty minutes to feel more creative.
Speaker 1: Respondents felt that at ten to twenty nap, twenty minute
Speaker 1: nap was Plenty of nappers had also received promotions in
Speaker 1: the last year, compared to thirty of non nappers. Americans
Speaker 1: say they regularly they're regularly sleep deprived, possibly explaining the
Speaker 1: need for an afternoon nap to get through the day. Um, yeah,
Speaker 1: this makes sense, you know, but I don't think the
Speaker 1: amount of money you make for not you're gonna die
Speaker 1: before you get to spend it. Because if you don't know,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to prioritize sleep so much more because it
Speaker 1: really it is the number one thing to look your best.
Speaker 1: I mean I'm doing it out of vanity more than
Speaker 1: like I would extend my life doesn't matter. I just
Speaker 1: look like shit if I haven't slept. Wait, when do
Speaker 1: you think they're like, let's say someone has a nine
Speaker 1: to five job. Do we make a little nap room,
Speaker 1: Like what do we do we haven't sleep? At the devil?
Speaker 1: I absolutely I did that in my office. Um, when
Speaker 1: I had not safe, I would say, Um, if anyone
Speaker 1: wants to nap at some point. Please take that. I
Speaker 1: think that's great. I just I think that's great. Naps are,
Speaker 1: but some people just can't nap. And I and I
Speaker 1: don't like that whole I can't nap. It's like I
Speaker 1: just think that people don't try. They just go no,
Speaker 1: I'm different. And it's like, you need to do a
Speaker 1: white noise machine, you need to do a sleep mask,
Speaker 1: you need to do earplugs whatever you what version of that.
Speaker 1: You need dark you need a cold dark room, and
Speaker 1: you need to just try. And it's it's maybe not
Speaker 1: going to work the first time. That's you know, through,
Speaker 1: but eventually you should figure out. If you're someone that
Speaker 1: does not get enough sleep, you gotta get that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's something like, um, the hustle aspect, the toughness of
Speaker 1: like I sleep four hours and night and then I
Speaker 1: worked eight hours. It still is in the like the
Speaker 1: dialogue of so many people. It's so funny. Last night
Speaker 1: I had that little kind of last night, I almost
Speaker 1: pulled an. I was I could have pulled an all
Speaker 1: night or to get that thing done, and I was like, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not doing that anymore. Like I have a due
Speaker 1: date for this and I am late on the due date,
Speaker 1: and people are going to be annoyed. But my health
Speaker 1: for the rest of the month is dependent on me
Speaker 1: sleeping tonight and getting at least five hours instead of two.
Speaker 1: I mean, I would be in It's just it's not
Speaker 1: cool to not get sleep anymore. Stop being that is
Speaker 1: the kissed thing. Well, and it's killed to be like
Speaker 1: I didn't sleep in Spain. Spain so hard. In Spain
Speaker 1: they literally have a siesta, like that's like part of
Speaker 1: their life. Now. Granted they stay up very late, they
Speaker 1: eat dinner very late, like that's just they're like culture.
Speaker 1: But they have a siesta, Like did they do it?
Speaker 1: And they they're fine there. You know all the countries
Speaker 1: that have like four day work weeks, they're fine there.
Speaker 1: And I know that people out there, like I can't
Speaker 1: fit eight hours of sleep, Nick, just not not in
Speaker 1: my schedule. You deserve you are You deserve eight hours
Speaker 1: of sleep. It is God given right you you figure out,
Speaker 1: you got to figure out a way to get it.
Speaker 1: You're gonna die soon, You're gonna get cancer soon. You're
Speaker 1: sooner than the rest of people that that sleep better.
Speaker 1: Like when you don't get good sleep, it just you know,
Speaker 1: listening to that Sam Harris podcast that he did with
Speaker 1: that sleep guy. They were talking about, you know, all
Speaker 1: these people who are famous for like only needing five
Speaker 1: hours of sleep or less a night, Winston Churchill Um.
Speaker 1: I think it was Margaret Thatcher. They're going through the
Speaker 1: list of these like famous people that don't need a
Speaker 1: lot of sleep. They all died from early on set Alzheimer's,
Speaker 1: Ronald Reagan, They're all, it's it destroys you on the
Speaker 1: back end. You and you're not It's just it's it's
Speaker 1: almost like not eating should be that kids. It's like,
Speaker 1: that's why I don't want to know. I know. I
Speaker 1: think like that's like the number one thing is like
Speaker 1: your kid wakes up at six, not to mention crying
Speaker 1: throughout the night like so those I think if you're
Speaker 1: a new parent, for the first two years, your your
Speaker 1: company should give you an hour of naptime in between. Well,
Speaker 1: I think people should consider that before they have kids.
Speaker 1: Who doesn't Who doesn't know that you're going to lose
Speaker 1: sleep with kids. If sleep is something you prioritize in
Speaker 1: your life, don't have kids until you can get the
Speaker 1: help that you need so that that kid that you
Speaker 1: can get the right sleep. I would never have a
Speaker 1: child unless I could fit in snaps. I would never
Speaker 1: do it because that's how important. But I really really
Speaker 1: the first thing if I I would rather go, Like
Speaker 1: if I see a week of work for myself and
Speaker 1: there's no sleep involved, I start panicking a lot, uh
Speaker 1: much more than if it's like, oh I have to
Speaker 1: you know, go bungee jumping or like something that would
Speaker 1: be uncomfortable for me. The thing I dread more than
Speaker 1: anything is lack of sleep. So I just when parents
Speaker 1: complain about, oh, I'm not sleeping, I'm just like, this
Speaker 1: isn't the twenties where or the fifties even where you
Speaker 1: just had to have kids and there's no options for you.
Speaker 1: You chose this, don't do it until until you can
Speaker 1: afford to. Yeah, but then that's like people couldn't do
Speaker 1: it then or more well then then you just I mean,
Speaker 1: well then maybe it's more important to you to have
Speaker 1: kids than to sleep, and you can still complain about it.
Speaker 1: I don't mind that. But the people that act like no,
Speaker 1: but I feel like companies like confused, I think, but
Speaker 1: I think of companies like you know, like companies like
Speaker 1: I feel like Facebook and Google. You talk to people
Speaker 1: who like go through their things, I guarantee they have
Speaker 1: rests like nap rooms for the end, like where you
Speaker 1: get to play ping pong and then sleep for an
Speaker 1: hour and then you got to like work. We're too caffeinated, though,
Speaker 1: that's the others. Yeah, that's true, because your body wants
Speaker 1: sleep and then we take you know, all these stimulants, caffeine.
Speaker 1: It it makes it so you can't nap even though
Speaker 1: your body is crying out for it. Your brain won't
Speaker 1: shut down because we're just constantly pumping ourselves with caffeine.
Speaker 1: I mean, we're so fucked. And I know I'm going
Speaker 1: to get hate for the kid thing, but I just, uh,
Speaker 1: I I feel the same way about parents that I
Speaker 1: feel about teachers. Like I I couldn't do it because
Speaker 1: it's it's too much work and I just don't think
Speaker 1: i'd get enough sleep. And maybe people don't prioritize that
Speaker 1: as much as me, or they prioritize having kids is
Speaker 1: more important than that. So I don't mean to make
Speaker 1: you mad. I'm just saying I don't really and I
Speaker 1: do have sympathy for you when you're when parents are sleepless.
Speaker 1: I it's I've tried to buy my sister a fucking
Speaker 1: night nurse. I there's everyone in my All I want
Speaker 1: for the people I love and care about, including you guys,
Speaker 1: the busties listening is that you get good sleep. If
Speaker 1: I could give you any gift, it would be the
Speaker 1: gift of rest. But when someone goes, when someone has
Speaker 1: kids and keeps having kids and they are tired and
Speaker 1: they look like shit, I'm like, this is not a
Speaker 1: new concept. Mothers have been around forever complaining about the sleeplessness.
Speaker 1: It has been portrayed in media for generations like this
Speaker 1: is this is not a new Don't be surprised when
Speaker 1: being a mother is fucking hard as fuck and no
Speaker 1: one forced you to do it, except if you live
Speaker 1: in Texas. But I feel, you know, even though let
Speaker 1: me just say, I'll play devil's advocate for myself. I
Speaker 1: remember Andrew being like, you know, on my day off,
Speaker 1: I don't want to go get your groceries. And I said, well,
Speaker 1: I didn't know this day of work. He goes, you
Speaker 1: choose to work, and I go. I didn't know that
Speaker 1: day was going to be me with all my jobs
Speaker 1: lining up on one day, like if you're mother out
Speaker 1: there and you're like, well, I can't. I couldn't have
Speaker 1: predicted that my son was going to need to go
Speaker 1: to hockey practice in the morning, that my sister, my
Speaker 1: daughter was gonna go to dance, and that I was
Speaker 1: gonna have no space. You can't predict that far ahead. Sure,
Speaker 1: I believe that, but and you still have a right
Speaker 1: to complain that you're tired, and as did I, because
Speaker 1: there are sometimes that life, even though you can see
Speaker 1: it coming and you think you know what's gonna happen,
Speaker 1: it can throw you a curveball. Or I didn't know
Speaker 1: my child was going to be special needs, and that's
Speaker 1: a whole another thing. But um, I I still you know,
Speaker 1: with my career, when my career special needs, sometimes I
Speaker 1: I do want like I'm just poor me, but I go,
Speaker 1: I chose this, No one asked me to do this.
Speaker 1: It is true, But that doesn't mean I can't ask
Speaker 1: for help. And that's that's you should still ask for
Speaker 1: help if your mother is out there, you deserve it
Speaker 1: and I just can't. And I don't notice I didn't
Speaker 1: say fathers, because let's be honest, being a father would
Speaker 1: be pretty fucking cush. I told Curston this morning, I
Speaker 1: was like, if anything ever happens to your husband, um,
Speaker 1: I'll I'll like have a baby with you and I'll
Speaker 1: just be the father. And she was like really, And
Speaker 1: I was like, do you wanna? Do you wanna? We're
Speaker 1: gonna have something to take care of him. But I
Speaker 1: would love to be a dad. Just go make money
Speaker 1: and then you know, hang out with that, like be
Speaker 1: a fun dad, but like not have to do all
Speaker 1: the child rearing. And that's the way. That's the only
Speaker 1: way I'm going to be able to have kids, because
Speaker 1: that's I know, that's that's the only way I'll be
Speaker 1: the best parents possible. Right. Well, in some relationships that
Speaker 1: role is reversed, where the woman goes out and works
Speaker 1: and the father stays mostly at home to and and
Speaker 1: becomes bitter and hates the wife, not vice versa. The
Speaker 1: other day I was telling the person I'm dating. They
Speaker 1: were talking about finances and stuff, and I go, you know,
Speaker 1: if we ever got married, Like I go, not even me,
Speaker 1: but like if you married a woman that made a
Speaker 1: lot of money, you wouldn't have to necessarily work, you know.
Speaker 1: And I've heard what if I wanted to buy a
Speaker 1: ten dollar bike for like just for fun with your money,
Speaker 1: and I go, but if we were married, it wouldn't
Speaker 1: be my money, it would be ours, and you could
Speaker 1: buy that ten thousand dollar bike. I would have to
Speaker 1: be okay with that. Like, and then I said, you know,
Speaker 1: your sister is married to a guy. If she wanted
Speaker 1: to spend you know, ten tho dollars, which is, you know,
Speaker 1: for their income, a big gift, but like a thing
Speaker 1: they can afford on something frivolous, a car that she
Speaker 1: doesn't need, or a you know, a procedure she just
Speaker 1: really cared about. No one would go. But that's his money.
Speaker 1: Everyone go. But she she raises the kids and everything.
Speaker 1: She deserves it. But men, for some reason just go, no,
Speaker 1: I've got to earn it myself. And I'm like, no, Well,
Speaker 1: I've heard support heard countless women say that if the
Speaker 1: guy doesn't make as much money as her or isn't
Speaker 1: a hard worker, like isn't a certain like type of
Speaker 1: way of earning money, that they lose attraction to them.
Speaker 1: Like that's been something that's been said many times. And
Speaker 1: you can like that man is not well that that
Speaker 1: woman requires that and okay, but I I'm a long
Speaker 1: time like, I really do think and I've heard it before,
Speaker 1: so it's not like I'm just like making it up,
Speaker 1: like yeah, no, no, no, It's it's true. Women do
Speaker 1: like me. They want to be financially taken care of.
Speaker 1: That matters to them. But not all of them. Though
Speaker 1: not all of them. Yeah, I want a man who's
Speaker 1: going to make make sure the fridges stocked and make
Speaker 1: sure the apartment is clean. Not doing it himself, but
Speaker 1: like hiring the right people, making their time, folding up boxes,
Speaker 1: entering the dryer sheet, putting my bags away. Like that's
Speaker 1: that's how I will feel horny for a guy. I
Speaker 1: really would acts of service. Let's take a quick break
Speaker 1: and come back with why do I care? Andrew? What
Speaker 1: do I care? Why do I care? In her latest
Speaker 1: interview with Howard Stern, Billie Eilish reveals she started watching
Speaker 1: porn at eleven, watched a lot of it, and that
Speaker 1: it negatively impact acted her for for first sexual experience.
Speaker 1: She caused porn a disgrace and is angry that porn
Speaker 1: is loved. I can't wait to hear this interview. Have
Speaker 1: you listened yet? I have? I tried to listen to it.
Speaker 1: I've only heard bits and pieces. I think it's really
Speaker 1: distroyed my brain. And I feel incredibly devastated that I
Speaker 1: was exposed to so much porn. The first few times I,
Speaker 1: you know, had sex, I was not saying no to
Speaker 1: things that were not good. It was because I thought
Speaker 1: that what I was supposed to be attracted to was that.
Speaker 1: So I'm so angry though, so she said, I'm angry
Speaker 1: that porn is so loved, and I'm so angry at
Speaker 1: myself for thinking that it was okay. The way that
Speaker 1: vagina is looking for porn is fucking crazy. No vaginas
Speaker 1: looked like that. Women's bodies don't look like that. We
Speaker 1: don't come like that. UM, I love it. You know,
Speaker 1: She's right. I think that porn is really bad for
Speaker 1: for for young people and and and older people too.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm absolutely addicted to porn, and um, it
Speaker 1: has changed the way I perceived my own body, the
Speaker 1: way I enjoy sex. I love porn. I don't want
Speaker 1: to give it up. It's not something that I feel
Speaker 1: like is ruining my life or my sexual life. UM.
Speaker 1: I feel like, actually porn is my sexual life. Sometimes
Speaker 1: for a lot of my life when I don't have
Speaker 1: a partner. Um, I'm really grateful for it, but I
Speaker 1: do acknowledge that it ruins lives all the time, and
Speaker 1: um a lot more than they wants talking about. Some
Speaker 1: I'm glad Billy brought this up. Yeah, it's uh. I
Speaker 1: guess when you're younger and you watch porn and then
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I guess my first time, I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna be bent over doggy and like spit on and
Speaker 1: it's like, well, that's what it is, as opposed to
Speaker 1: like a loving like connection where you're like really like,
Speaker 1: you know, connecting with the person. You know. Porn is
Speaker 1: all about disconnection. A lot of times guys think they
Speaker 1: don't even I think. I think they're eyes that think
Speaker 1: that they don't mimic things they see in porn. They
Speaker 1: think they're different than the guys that spitting girls mouth
Speaker 1: and yank their hair, like slap them and stuff. You
Speaker 1: hear about like guys mimicking porn, and they go, I'm
Speaker 1: not like that. You all are? You all do stuff
Speaker 1: that you see in porn. It's just you can't help it,
Speaker 1: but it happens, and it class you know, Like I
Speaker 1: live my life based on rom coms, you know, like
Speaker 1: I I view everything through lens of like a fucking
Speaker 1: romantic comedy written by Nora Ephron, and that's fucked up
Speaker 1: my perception of romance. And you know, fairy Tales and
Speaker 1: Disney movies also have Really I was watching with Special
Speaker 1: last night, I have so many references to rom coms
Speaker 1: and Disney movies, and I realized it's made so much
Speaker 1: of it's it's it's made me. I just love the Yeah,
Speaker 1: I love like the crush and the drama around and
Speaker 1: then the most when the crushes revealed. And then like
Speaker 1: I used to role play with my ex boyfriend, like
Speaker 1: we have a crush on each other and we've never
Speaker 1: told each other, and we're sharing a bed because there's
Speaker 1: a storm at this conference that we're at and they
Speaker 1: didn't have enough hotel rooms and we have to share
Speaker 1: a bed and we both always liked each other. He goes,
Speaker 1: do you have a crush on someone in your life
Speaker 1: right now that you want to do this? And I
Speaker 1: was like, um no, I just want to do this,
Speaker 1: and it was like he was so dead on it
Speaker 1: was I was so busted. And then you asked him
Speaker 1: to be a house over time, over ten years, and
Speaker 1: then you come back to the small town and the
Speaker 1: house you dreamed of this build for you, and then
Speaker 1: you here's the problem though. You get together and then
Speaker 1: the credits roll. There's no you never see I don't
Speaker 1: know what happens next after that. For me, I have
Speaker 1: to start the movie over again. There's no when you
Speaker 1: get the guy, there's no I don't know what happens next.
Speaker 1: There's no. There's no examples of that, you know, even
Speaker 1: Ross and Rachel. Okay, well you he cheats on you,
Speaker 1: and then you get mad at him, and then you
Speaker 1: take him back, and then you get mad at him again.
Speaker 1: It's just this constant. My life needs to look like
Speaker 1: an episode, you know, a season of Friends. Yeah you don't.
Speaker 1: You don't. Can't have happiness. No, it cannot sustain because
Speaker 1: what who would want to watch them? A lot of
Speaker 1: those shows, like all the rawness and the sadness gets
Speaker 1: taken out with like he cheated on me, and then
Speaker 1: you think like that's how life is. And then you
Speaker 1: watch like the show, uh, that marriage show that was
Speaker 1: just on, and then you're like, Okay, that's that seems
Speaker 1: a little at least a little bit more and all
Speaker 1: those two real. Then people are like it's too real,
Speaker 1: it's too much like like you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like shows are either like in your face, like crushing,
Speaker 1: or they're like I have to say though the friends
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know if you're familiar with When
Speaker 1: um Ross cheated on Rachel. They were on a break, okay,
Speaker 1: and he he went out and he slept with this
Speaker 1: woman and she found out about it because Gunther told her,
Speaker 1: because Gunther was in love with her, and the whole
Speaker 1: thing was like, we were on a break and she's like,
Speaker 1: we weren't on a like we were, but that didn't
Speaker 1: mean you should god fuck another girl. And he he
Speaker 1: thought that she was done with him, and so he
Speaker 1: got drunk and slept with this girl. And you know,
Speaker 1: I remember being in like seventh grade watching that, being
Speaker 1: like that fucking whore who took Ross from Rachel, Like
Speaker 1: I was the girl instead of Ross, so stupid. I
Speaker 1: was like her dumb, spiky blonde hair, she's not even cute,
Speaker 1: and she like I just had so much And I
Speaker 1: hated Emily. I hated anyone that was between Ross and Rachel.
Speaker 1: And the thing is like they did explore how hurtful
Speaker 1: that was. There was some really good scenes where he's
Speaker 1: just like, Rache, please, and she's just like, I can't,
Speaker 1: why would you do this to me? And it's really
Speaker 1: was sad and gripping, and um man, those scenes are good.
Speaker 1: My favorite scene ever though for two people getting together.
Speaker 1: I've watched it a million times, I've legit weren't to me,
Speaker 1: is when Jim tells Pam that he likes that he's
Speaker 1: in love with her. She's like, there, it's after the
Speaker 1: casino night and that Michael company. It's a it's a
Speaker 1: casino night. And then you know, you know Jennet or
Speaker 1: Pam is dating that Roy guy at this they're engaged,
Speaker 1: so Roy. They're they're going outside and uh, she's gonna
Speaker 1: get a right home from Jim because she's gonna stay later,
Speaker 1: and she's saying good by to Roy. Roy like drives
Speaker 1: off and he's like, hey watch my lady tonight, Jim,
Speaker 1: and Jim's like take care. And then they're walking and
Speaker 1: you can just tell the Gym's just like he's just
Speaker 1: needs to say it, and she's like, He's like, I
Speaker 1: need to talk to you about something, and she's like
Speaker 1: about me taking more of your money because I can
Speaker 1: do that. Like she's like keeping it light, like the
Speaker 1: casino night, she's like about me like and he just goes,
Speaker 1: I'm in love with you and she's just like what.
Speaker 1: And it's just such a good scene and he's like,
Speaker 1: I just I just needed you to know. And she's like, Jim, no,
Speaker 1: like I value your friendship, and he goes, don't do that.
Speaker 1: Don't do that, don't say that, and she's like so
Speaker 1: much and he's like, don't do that. I don't want that.
Speaker 1: I don't want that, and she's like I can't and
Speaker 1: he's like, okay, well, I just needed you to know.
Speaker 1: And he's like so mad. He's like mad but sad.
Speaker 1: Then he walks away and then it cuts to the
Speaker 1: scene back of the casino party, and then it goes
Speaker 1: to the scene in the office and you just see
Speaker 1: her silhouette in the office and it's dark and she's
Speaker 1: calling your mom and she's like, I don't know, mom,
Speaker 1: he just said it, and you can hear her mom,
Speaker 1: Like you don't hear her mom. But she's like, do
Speaker 1: you love him too? And she's like I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think I do. And then you just see Jim
Speaker 1: walk in and he like, here's a conversation and he
Speaker 1: just goes up to her and kisses her. It's so
Speaker 1: fucking good. Does anyone else out there and the other
Speaker 1: best he's watched these scenes and if you I think
Speaker 1: I've asked for these before, but you send me more
Speaker 1: of them. Someone send me the pride and Prejudice ones
Speaker 1: that you've got mail ending. I wanted it to be you.
Speaker 1: I want to did you so badly? Okay, let's get
Speaker 1: to the red. Also, what mattress do you think best?
Speaker 1: I love that you called her mom. Yeah, that's such
Speaker 1: a I would totally do that, but I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to hear my mom would have no
Speaker 1: interesting This is your reddit dom Uh. This is uh
Speaker 1: something I saved from the subreddit anti natalism, which is
Speaker 1: people who don't want to have kids anti natalism. And
Speaker 1: this is a tweet that someone shared from a guy
Speaker 1: named they love kJ They with two wise little kids
Speaker 1: talking about when I grow up, little kids talking about quote,
Speaker 1: when I grow up, man, it's seventy in December. You
Speaker 1: ain't growing up. L m a O. I'm gonna share
Speaker 1: that on my story later. It's like it's so true.
Speaker 1: China is gonna take over the world is literally crumbling.
Speaker 1: Russia has finally knowledge that climate change is a crisis.
Speaker 1: Like Russia is even like, yeah, this is bad. Um
Speaker 1: it's not looking good. Um uh. This is an adorable
Speaker 1: thing from made Me smile that I'm gonna play. It's
Speaker 1: just a guy on TikTok interviewing kids and his account
Speaker 1: is called like Recess Underscore Therapy. And there's this little kid.
Speaker 1: I wanted to show him to you, okay, And that's
Speaker 1: the guy interviewing him. And he's just like a little kid.
Speaker 1: He's so cute. He's probably like a six years old,
Speaker 1: six or seven, and he's talking about his favorite animal.
Speaker 1: And I just want to play this. If you could
Speaker 1: talk to clari dragons, what do you think you'd say
Speaker 1: to them? I love you? What do you think they'd
Speaker 1: say to you? I think Do you think they'd say
Speaker 1: I love you back? Oh? Yeah, baby? What would you
Speaker 1: do if you went to Pannizia? I'll just ride in
Speaker 1: all the commoter dragons? But I know that commoter dragets
Speaker 1: eat people. What they eat what a special animal eats people?
Speaker 1: Are you afraid of him? Yeah, not at all. Definitely not.
Speaker 1: They could eat people, which is so special. Do you
Speaker 1: want to see an animal in people? Actually? Definitely? Why
Speaker 1: because it's like I've never seen an animal eat Yeah,
Speaker 1: though they might eat me, I still love them. They're
Speaker 1: the best basically, right right basically? Isn't that so cute?
Speaker 1: He's kind of leading him to be like a kid
Speaker 1: because you do hear did you hear them? Go? You
Speaker 1: don't even you still like them if they eat a people,
Speaker 1: That's what the interviewer said. He goes, yeah, it's still
Speaker 1: like them if they ate a person. He's like stopped
Speaker 1: talking to me, like, yeah, I know exactly. I'm talking
Speaker 1: about someone getting destroyed by a dragon. I know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Yeah, the kid is like they're trying to
Speaker 1: make okay. And then this is maybe the keyest they
Speaker 1: I've ever seen. I say this the their night. This
Speaker 1: is from made me smile as well, the subreddit this
Speaker 1: is It says she likes to balance farm birds on
Speaker 1: her head and it is a probably two or it's
Speaker 1: probably three and a half year old girl that just
Speaker 1: likes to put chickens on her head. And it sounds
Speaker 1: not cute, but I swear to you you've gotta go
Speaker 1: watch this. It's on made me smile, and you can
Speaker 1: find it with She likes to balance farm, animals on
Speaker 1: her farm, birds on her head. They'll show you a
Speaker 1: little bit of this. Ah h, that is really cute.
Speaker 1: I know this is bad for audio, but we can
Speaker 1: cut it. Okay, it's just her balancing. Look at this
Speaker 1: outfit that she's wearing. Look how cool she looks. I
Speaker 1: just love a little girl who don't give a fucking
Speaker 1: has parents that dressed them like super cool m and
Speaker 1: I don't even know how that turned into like a
Speaker 1: talent that she likes. It's so cute. Um. Okay, this
Speaker 1: is from the subreddit science. As many as half of
Speaker 1: all drinkers underestimate how drunk they were, judging themselves still
Speaker 1: safe to drive despite having exceeded the legal driving limit,
Speaker 1: in new research published today. Okay, so what does that
Speaker 1: tell you? When you get drunk, the part of your
Speaker 1: brain that goes, I'm too drunk to drive gets drunk.
Speaker 1: So you people always go, I'm just gonna have a couple. Well,
Speaker 1: the person that only is going to have a couple
Speaker 1: gets drunk, and that person is no longer steering the ship.
Speaker 1: So as many as half of all drinkers underestimate how
Speaker 1: drunk they were. How is their research from to tell
Speaker 1: you our research? How's that research from today? Didn't we
Speaker 1: all know that? I mean I would have guessed probably
Speaker 1: that would have just as a good remind I've already
Speaker 1: had like nine drinks over like seven hours, Like I'm fine,
Speaker 1: Like what is wrong with you? Like, don't my car
Speaker 1: it's not a car. I'm on top of it. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, I just suck the exhaust. You know. It's
Speaker 1: like I love that was the best thing about um,
Speaker 1: not drinking was never being drunk. When I'm like never
Speaker 1: being if I get pulled over, the calmness is so
Speaker 1: much more because you know you would have you would
Speaker 1: feel like you're fine, maybe drunk the night before and
Speaker 1: in the morning, even like it could be in your
Speaker 1: system still you would just still have like guilt constantly,
Speaker 1: like maybe I smell like it or something like when
Speaker 1: you have that freedom of not having that or even
Speaker 1: with pot too, when I quit pot, like just not
Speaker 1: worrying at the airport, not worrying about literally never having
Speaker 1: to work when you go and I used to party
Speaker 1: and like maybe I would like do two bumps of
Speaker 1: cocaine Mexico, and then you get on the plane and
Speaker 1: you see a drug dog and you're like, I, I
Speaker 1: have a lot of coke in my even though like
Speaker 1: I didn't buy it. I didn't even like barely even
Speaker 1: snorted it. And I'm like, I have seven kilos in
Speaker 1: my bag, and it's yeah, just that peace of mind.
Speaker 1: I was just to say when I quit drinking, like
Speaker 1: I used to always be scared that I would repeat myself.
Speaker 1: I would tell stories when I was drunk, and then
Speaker 1: people the next day would go, you said that to
Speaker 1: us last night, what were you black out? And be
Speaker 1: so embarrassing. So I started just not telling stories ever
Speaker 1: when I was sober, because I just didn't want to
Speaker 1: that reaction. And and I remember what a relief it
Speaker 1: was when I had some sobriety and under my belt
Speaker 1: from drinking and people would go, you know, oh, we
Speaker 1: met before, and I go, oh, I don't remember, and
Speaker 1: they go when did we meet and they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: it was December of twenty twelve, and I go, oh,
Speaker 1: well I was sober. Then you that's your fault. You're
Speaker 1: not interesting, And it's like it's not my fault anymore
Speaker 1: that I don't remember you. I used to always just
Speaker 1: have or I didn't remember a story or a fact, like,
Speaker 1: and it's never your fault, like even if you are
Speaker 1: using your memory. I'm just like, my dad gets so
Speaker 1: mad at my mom because her memories kind of you know,
Speaker 1: going a little bit more because she's an aging woman.
Speaker 1: It just happens to everyone, and he gets mad at her,
Speaker 1: and I go, do you think she wants to forget?
Speaker 1: This sucks? Don't make fun of her, don't get mad,
Speaker 1: just you know, be gentle with people who can't remember.
Speaker 1: But I always used to have so much regret. Let's
Speaker 1: get to the final thought. Okay, this is from the subreddit. Damn,
Speaker 1: that's interesting and it says, uh crazy to think that
Speaker 1: George Jetson will be conceived this weekend and this was
Speaker 1: two weeks ago. But it says George Jetson on his
Speaker 1: Wikipedia his birthday is August and so that means that
Speaker 1: he was his parents had sex two weeks ago. Is
Speaker 1: that funny? Like that wait, he was like, it's been
Speaker 1: like in the world of the Jetsons, George Jetson was
Speaker 1: conceived and and you know they have flying little ships
Speaker 1: and they have right now I'm just trying to think, Like,
Speaker 1: you know, there was a flying car I saw on
Speaker 1: TikTok where it's a car and then the wings come
Speaker 1: out from it. Mm hmmm. Are people gonna fly like
Speaker 1: these cars? Like? Is that going to be a thing?
Speaker 1: You think? Like, do you really think that there's gonna
Speaker 1: be flying like like a person? There could be. I
Speaker 1: think we would have that. I think that's what we'll
Speaker 1: head to if there's all these restrictions for drones, for
Speaker 1: flying drones, so there's no way they're going to put
Speaker 1: super highways that we can manage it. I think it
Speaker 1: would be a thing. Okay, this is from TikTok Cringe
Speaker 1: and this says, um, this is a girl who's walking around.
Speaker 1: This is just like things on TikTok that makes you cringe.
Speaker 1: And this is a girl that doesn't wear shoes ever anywhere.
Speaker 1: It's so gross, even to public restrooms. Dude, she's just
Speaker 1: going everywhere with no shoes. I don't even know how
Speaker 1: she gets in half these places, because I would I
Speaker 1: would feel so weird walking around bareft if I had
Speaker 1: to go, you know, on the hallway to get some
Speaker 1: to the ice machine at a hotel with that I get,
Speaker 1: I get I feel weird crunchy mom, but I have
Speaker 1: yet to step in anything sharp. I know that one
Speaker 1: day I inevitably will step in glass and it will hurt, yes,
Speaker 1: but not as bad as the severe foot pain wearing
Speaker 1: feet prisons has caused me to life that I have
Speaker 1: been given to the fullest. Are we not wearing feet prisons?
Speaker 1: We would experience the world mostly through our feet. Wearing
Speaker 1: shoes is like wearing a blindfold or noise canceling headphones.
Speaker 1: Think about everything you're missing out on when you wear shoes,
Speaker 1: especially right after it rains. I choose not to wear
Speaker 1: shoes for the same reason I choose not to have
Speaker 1: epidurals or take taile at all. They one is disconnected
Speaker 1: from our mind, body, soul, and the earth so that
Speaker 1: they can sell us products. If you think this video
Speaker 1: is weird, I would like to ask you a question,
Speaker 1: who are you living for yourself or to appease advertisers
Speaker 1: and make other people more comfortable? Thoughts? Whoa thoughts? She
Speaker 1: didn't have me until that last part. I know, I
Speaker 1: know that it sounded like Noah to me that last part.
Speaker 1: When I watched it initially, I was like Okay. I
Speaker 1: was like, she was calling shoes feet prisons, and I
Speaker 1: was just like, bitch, you need him to check yourself
Speaker 1: from glass instead. Honestly, we have callouses that do that.
Speaker 1: That's why we grow callouses is to have like soles
Speaker 1: of our feet. Yeah, I mean I agree with her
Speaker 1: because my feet are mangled from shoes. Shoes cause bunyan. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but if you live you live in St. Louis in
Speaker 1: the winter, you need you need shoot, Like shoes came
Speaker 1: out of necessity. They didn't come because like, okay, what's
Speaker 1: that you live in a beach, don't wear That's fine.
Speaker 1: People wear flip flops, which is essentially almost barefoot. I mean,
Speaker 1: people don't wear shoes. Like not wearing deodorant. People are like,
Speaker 1: but your feet are gonna sink, and it's like, but
Speaker 1: I don't wear deodorant, so I don't stink because deodorant
Speaker 1: causes the stink. She was caused the stink, you know, yes,
Speaker 1: but feet don't stink if you're not putting them in
Speaker 1: socks with moisture and mold. Noah, Well, I was going
Speaker 1: to say that last part about connecting to the earth
Speaker 1: and stuff. That's the part I really like, and it's
Speaker 1: the reason why I enjoy camping. Yeah, the noise canceling headphones,
Speaker 1: the other things she's talking like, yeah, you know that's
Speaker 1: because you want to wear one so you don't get
Speaker 1: that girl bright. Yeah. Yeah, So because you don't want
Speaker 1: to have to keep that kind of person in your life.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be around there. What you don't
Speaker 1: have an epidermal or whatever several? All right, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's something to think about. I think that it's it
Speaker 1: is good to go barefoot into connect with the earth.
Speaker 1: And maybe you're right, that is why, like nature is
Speaker 1: so important. But if you're in a farming and stuff,
Speaker 1: if you're at an out out back and your shoe list,
Speaker 1: it's it seems like a selfish decision. But if we
Speaker 1: all didn't wear shoes, it wouldn't seem that weird. No,
Speaker 1: But I mean, if you're on a flight and you're
Speaker 1: sitting next to a guy and his feet are out,
Speaker 1: it's just it's a lot. It's gross because we are
Speaker 1: used to seeing shoes and we're not used to seeing feet.
Speaker 1: But that's the only reason it's gross. And I get
Speaker 1: the same with pubic hair or hair on a woman's
Speaker 1: legs like it's all based on marketing. So she kind
Speaker 1: of has a point. Fuck, I wanted to make fun
Speaker 1: of her, but with until I think I'm in an
Speaker 1: enclosed space with you and I'm inside a shoe next
Speaker 1: to you, you know what I mean? Like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: can I play one more? Noah? Okay, yes, and then
Speaker 1: wrap it up. This girl is so this is so amazing.
Speaker 1: She's like hot till like there's something about her that
Speaker 1: her confidence is just so sexy. She's not wearing bra
Speaker 1: Is this from TikTok Crene? So sometimes TikTok Crine just
Speaker 1: has good things and I don't understand why, but this
Speaker 1: one is fucking great. It makes great points. No. Wait,
Speaker 1: so she's she's eating chick. That's cool. So against warm No,
Speaker 1: you're pro life, pro life? No, obviously support gun control. No,
Speaker 1: speak out against police brutality no, m okay okay. So
Speaker 1: you foster and adopt children? No? You know those over
Speaker 1: four kids in the foster cure system in America? Right now? Right? Good,
Speaker 1: let's see you support mandatory print to leave for new parents. No,
Speaker 1: how about government programs to help fund those kids you
Speaker 1: wanted to be born? No, she's not really pro life,
Speaker 1: then are you? I mean, at best your pro fetus.
Speaker 1: That is, if you don't support IBF Oh you do, great,
Speaker 1: So then you're just pro controlling women's bodies and people
Speaker 1: with uterus. Is you're not pro life because you see
Speaker 1: a young girl gets pregnant and you shame her, and
Speaker 1: then she has that kid that you wanted her to
Speaker 1: have and use government assistance like food stamps and wick
Speaker 1: and what do you do. You shame her and then
Speaker 1: those kids, unfortunately, usually grow up in poverty and or
Speaker 1: abuse of homes and have their own set of issues,
Speaker 1: mental health issues, drug abuse issues in and out of
Speaker 1: the prison system. You also don't want to reform, and
Speaker 1: what do you do? You shame them? How about if
Speaker 1: they're born gay or trans do you support their rights?
Speaker 1: Then no, you shame them. You're not really pro life,
Speaker 1: then what's up? You don't do any of those things.
Speaker 1: You're just against abortion. Okay, I get that. So obviously
Speaker 1: you support things like better sex education in schools. I mean,
Speaker 1: this girl just dismand anything you could say that goes like,
Speaker 1: but no, I she just tears it apart. She's amazing.
Speaker 1: Her name is I'm gonna go to the end so
Speaker 1: you can find it and watch the rest of it.
Speaker 1: It's Nicole Caitlin k A T E L y n
Speaker 1: N one. Nicole Caitlin makes me want I don't know why.
Speaker 1: It's so crunchy and she's so cool. She's just like,
Speaker 1: do you no like she? It's like it's hot to go.
Speaker 1: There's something very erotic about it at the a SMR.
Speaker 1: Al Right, guys, probably gay, have the great Wednesday. We
Speaker 1: won't be here tomorrow, Um Thursday, we will be back.
Speaker 1: I can't wait for that one. And don't be cut
Speaker 1: and Jacks