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Speaker 1: The Nikay. Here's Nikki here. I am hello. Welcome to

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Speaker 1: the podcast. It's Tuesday, Nicky Cleanser Podcast. I'm in Los Angeles, California.

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Speaker 1: I'm not starting the show alone today. I mean I'm

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Speaker 1: never alone. Noah is always there. She's in Arizona. Hi, Noah,

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Speaker 1: how are you awesome? Doing good? Yeah? Good day today, good,

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Speaker 1: good day. I just saw you post about ju jitsu

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Speaker 1: that day. I went to the gym for like almost

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Speaker 1: three hours already today. No, no, last night. Oh fun. Wow,

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Speaker 1: that's a lot. But it's not like the whole time.

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Speaker 1: It's not working out three hours. I just want to

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Speaker 1: make that clear. I'm not like a meathead. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: like working together, trying new things, stuff like that. Yeah, okay, team,

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Speaker 1: that makes me feel better. But that's fun. You've got friends,

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Speaker 1: you have friends there? Yeah, Oh that's nice. Andrew Colin

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Speaker 1: is here hotel room across the hall from me. What's up, dude?

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Speaker 1: What's up? What's up over there? In eighteen twelve, I'm

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Speaker 1: in eighteen fifteen. What's up? Right across the halls? Right

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Speaker 1: across the halls? How did you sleep last night? I

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Speaker 1: slept actually really good. Um. I went to bed early,

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Speaker 1: like ten o'clock, woke up at one am. It was okay.

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Speaker 1: Tried to get a psychiatrist this morning in St. Louis. Um,

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Speaker 1: oh yeah, I got a call mine too. He didn't

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Speaker 1: one to phone. They go, we're not going to be

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Speaker 1: available till December two till seven. I am like, I

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Speaker 1: looked at my phone. I go, is it thewond It's

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Speaker 1: not even let you know, Yeah, they're just you know,

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Speaker 1: you know, I listened to the same message I gave you.

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Speaker 1: It's my it's my psychic right. The phone's not even hondo. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: They never answer. You just leave messages. I mean, okay,

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Speaker 1: so I guess that's did you have to listen to

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Speaker 1: the whole thing of Like, if you're requesting a stimulant,

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Speaker 1: please note that you cannot get it refilled on the

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Speaker 1: same day. It's like the longest message ever ever ever

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Speaker 1: to just go, hey can I get these stimulants filled today?

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Speaker 1: And they're like, we just told you that it's smart

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Speaker 1: because it depresses you. So then you want to go more. Um. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the longer the message you have to listen to, they

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Speaker 1: probably lose more people then and get less people leaving messages.

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Speaker 1: Do you know that I have no voicemail, Like, there's

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Speaker 1: no outgoing voicemail. You can't leave me a voice message.

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Speaker 1: It is the best thing that's ever happened in my life.

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Speaker 1: I switched phones. What did my phone go? Caput? A

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Speaker 1: guest September Matt Green. My um brother in law is

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Speaker 1: a tech whiz. You know, his brother works at Apple

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Speaker 1: and develops this ship. He knows everything about phones and stuff.

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Speaker 1: And I go, I brought it over the other day

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Speaker 1: and I go, hey, I haven't had voice voicemail. It

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Speaker 1: just when I call, it goes, you need to like

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Speaker 1: enter your password and I put it and it's just

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Speaker 1: he couldn't hack it. He goes, you just can't have smail.

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Speaker 1: You have to maybe go to you know, a T

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Speaker 1: and T. I'm not going to do that. But the

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Speaker 1: thing is, guess what hasn't caused me hasn't My world

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Speaker 1: is still going. You has been able to leave a

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Speaker 1: fucking message for me, and there is no problem in

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Speaker 1: my life. You know, you think that if there's people

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Speaker 1: can't get in touch with you, there would be some

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Speaker 1: catastrophe if someone can't leave a voice message, But just

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Speaker 1: text me, bro. The only people that tell you your

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Speaker 1: voicemails down? Is your parents? Hey, I'm going to leave

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Speaker 1: And it's like, I see you on the call waiting

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Speaker 1: to call whatever I know to call you back. I

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Speaker 1: see it. Do you say leave a message at the beep?

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Speaker 1: Do you still say the beep? Do I say the

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Speaker 1: do you? What's your word? Is yours? Like? Hey, it's Andrew.

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Speaker 1: I don't even know at this point. Yeah, is your

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Speaker 1: up so that I can't get anymore. But you know

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Speaker 1: what a full voice like when people are like, in

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Speaker 1: a professional sense, when people are calling you and trying

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Speaker 1: to leave a message and you know your mailbox is full,

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Speaker 1: not like it just for me, it goes, Oh, this

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Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know. Maybe all I know is I

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Speaker 1: called this psychiatrist. The one didn't work, one or three

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Speaker 1: I'll get you through, all right. Well I called, like

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Speaker 1: I've left messages for like three others. I'm trying. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but anyhow, you gotta get that. Well, Butron, that's what

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Speaker 1: you're trying to get, right. I just gotta come Nick,

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Speaker 1: I gotta come back. I mean, you know, just because

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Speaker 1: you're on Zoloft. How many mg are you on? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: That's it's amazing what fifty has done for your life.

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Speaker 1: I don't I don't think I have known anyone that

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Speaker 1: of cocktail, and fifty mgs for you. You're just a

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Speaker 1: happy guy like you rarely get you, rarely chew on

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Speaker 1: seem really happy. I do get sad still, I get sad.

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Speaker 1: I don't, but I think I get sad for the

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Speaker 1: like and I'm afraid of life. What do you do

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Speaker 1: when you're sad? Um? I try to just like be

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Speaker 1: and then after a shower it's gone. Will you go

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Speaker 1: I just like you feel depressed. Yeah, it's hard to

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Speaker 1: like we did. Um, I don't know. For the cameras,

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Speaker 1: then we'll have that talk. Then God only knows what

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Speaker 1: you said. Jesus Christ. You know you're worried that it

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Speaker 1: I don't think. I think you are being hard on yourself.

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Speaker 1: You say so much though, that's the problem with those things.

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Speaker 1: So it's like, what did I say? You know, you

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Speaker 1: And I'm just talking about in general. Like I was

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Speaker 1: the does anything really happen? What are the consequences? Am

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Speaker 1: I going to go to prison? I am I'm going

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Speaker 1: know why people are teachers. They fucking care about kids

424
00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:02,760
Speaker 1: and it's rewarding. Um, and get their summers are summers off,

425
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:11,040
Speaker 1: but it's pays so it doesn't pay enough, and it

426
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:15,120
Speaker 1: is uh, you know, I think thankless. And parents are

427
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:17,960
Speaker 1: fucking terrible. Now they all think they're child's just the

428
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:21,440
Speaker 1: most special thing. And now teachers are getting in trouble

429
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:25,199
Speaker 1: for giving out homework. You know, it used to be

430
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 1: like you would get in trouble for not doing your

431
00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:31,000
Speaker 1: homework and the teacher would called a parent about like, hey,

432
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:33,439
Speaker 1: they aren't doing their work. Now the parent calls the

433
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:36,440
Speaker 1: teacher and says, you're giving too much homework? In what world?

434
00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:39,119
Speaker 1: I mean, I would have loved for that scenario to

435
00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:41,680
Speaker 1: be happening back in the day. But it was like

436
00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:46,080
Speaker 1: teachers used to be respected and like they know what's

437
00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:51,640
Speaker 1: better than the parent. It's just yeah, I guess they're like,

438
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 1: you know, I read that quote by the woman and

439
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 1: she participated in it, so it's like, why are we

440
00:23:58,160 --> 00:24:01,240
Speaker 1: listening to anyone except for the people that participated that

441
00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 1: did it, Like yeah, I I always find that interesting.

442
00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:06,439
Speaker 1: It kind of it's like, um, I saw a video

443
00:24:07,080 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 1: of like cultural appropriation, like this guy was dressed and

444
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:13,000
Speaker 1: like as a mariachi band and people are like, how

445
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:14,879
Speaker 1: could you do that? Like how could you dress? And

446
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:21,080
Speaker 1: a marriachi band was like, we love it, thank you

447
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:25,120
Speaker 1: for promoting us. I appreciate it, Like thank you for

448
00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:28,720
Speaker 1: like not thinking we're invisible, you know, And it's just

449
00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:30,960
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's just interesting. It's like people taking

450
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:34,880
Speaker 1: up for other people. And it's like you might think

451
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:37,520
Speaker 1: this is you know when people ever say about girls

452
00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:41,680
Speaker 1: on Instagram, you know, posing slightly slutty or whatever, and

453
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:45,360
Speaker 1: it's like it's so sad. She's so sad. It's so bad,

454
00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 1: Like girl, you don't have to do that. It's like

455
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 1: that's that's what you're putting on it don't get to her.

456
00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 1: Or porn, like I watched porn sometimes and I go, oh,

457
00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:57,400
Speaker 1: this girl, I just want to give her a hug.

458
00:24:57,400 --> 00:25:00,360
Speaker 1: And it's like, you don't know what Nikki sha up.

459
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 1: She might be like liking this and um, and people

460
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:06,560
Speaker 1: could say that about me, you know, Oh you don't

461
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: need to do this NIGGI and talk about these things.

462
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 1: It's like, but you're not me, Just back off you.

463
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:15,520
Speaker 1: When do you stick up for someone? When do you go?

464
00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:18,159
Speaker 1: Are you okay when they asked for it? I guess,

465
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:21,120
Speaker 1: But what if she's a what if someone's being held

466
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 1: against their will? Or what if someone is you know,

467
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:27,000
Speaker 1: not able to actually stand up for themselves, Like you

468
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:28,800
Speaker 1: see a lot of times they're just people that have

469
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 1: been come from abusive families where they didn't learn how

470
00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:36,960
Speaker 1: to you know, have autonomy and boundaries, and you see

471
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 1: them being trampled on or being you know, rude to

472
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:42,920
Speaker 1: a Starbucks employee being yelled at, or or maybe a

473
00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:46,680
Speaker 1: customer being you know, and then you take it upon

474
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 1: yourself to like defend them. When is that okay? And

475
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:51,600
Speaker 1: when is that like? You don't know? Well, I guess,

476
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:54,040
Speaker 1: like you know, earlier you were like teachers, I don't

477
00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:56,440
Speaker 1: know how you do it. But then I guess there

478
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:58,480
Speaker 1: are some teachers that are like, you're right, Nikki, like

479
00:25:58,520 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 1: this job fucking is thankless and sucks, And then I

480
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 1: couldn't do it, and I require constant validation of we

481
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:10,800
Speaker 1: appreciate you and you are great and this is you know,

482
00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:12,480
Speaker 1: and I'm not saying I couldn't do it. I hate

483
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 1: when people go I could never live in New York,

484
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:16,159
Speaker 1: I could never get on stage. I'm like, yes you

485
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:20,520
Speaker 1: could if he if he had my brain and life,

486
00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:23,679
Speaker 1: it would be very easy for you. Um, so I

487
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 1: could be a teacher. UM. And I don't mean to

488
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 1: go like talk down to teachers in any way. I

489
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:32,560
Speaker 1: was just like, I just I'm really grateful for teachers

490
00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 1: like I just I know that it's even the ones

491
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:38,439
Speaker 1: that love it and would never want to do anything

492
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 1: else and are going to stick it through no matter what.

493
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 1: I know that it sucks and that you don't get

494
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 1: the appreciation that you deserve, and maybe you don't want it,

495
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 1: you know, maybe you don't need that. I was talking

496
00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 1: to Kirsten at UM Breakfast today about I'm not good

497
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:57,399
Speaker 1: at like thanking people sincerely in person. It's just very

498
00:26:57,440 --> 00:26:59,879
Speaker 1: uncomfortable for me to be like I appreciate you and

499
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:01,840
Speaker 1: looking someone in the eye and doing it. I'm much

500
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,680
Speaker 1: better at like sharing my sentimental feelings in a letter

501
00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 1: or like an email or a text like so they

502
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 1: can have it and process it on their own, much

503
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 1: like the fan threax. Like I love when people give

504
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,720
Speaker 1: me letters at the show because I just even a

505
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,600
Speaker 1: birthday card, I'm like, can I just open this later?

506
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:20,119
Speaker 1: Or a gift on my birthday? I'm always like, can

507
00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 1: I not open it in front of you? It's too much.

508
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:24,920
Speaker 1: I just don't want. I don't know what that says

509
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:28,159
Speaker 1: about me. But maybe you don't want to see the

510
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:32,040
Speaker 1: reaction because it won't live up to what you want.

511
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:38,080
Speaker 1: Maybe no, it's not that, like I, I just it's

512
00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:41,280
Speaker 1: too many feelings for me. It's too emotional, and I'm

513
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 1: just very uncomfortable with that much sincerity. I'm not good

514
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:53,440
Speaker 1: at making sincere speeches eulogically. I just I buckle Um

515
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:57,119
Speaker 1: and Kirs and I were talking about how you know

516
00:27:57,359 --> 00:28:00,439
Speaker 1: I was. I was kind of getting defensive, so I

517
00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:03,119
Speaker 1: was there was someone in my life who was like,

518
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 1: you know, we don't really hear thank you from you

519
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:06,919
Speaker 1: a lot for this thing, and I'm like, but I

520
00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:09,080
Speaker 1: thank you with like my I show it in other

521
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 1: ways and they're like, yeah, like you know, money and

522
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:16,919
Speaker 1: buying you things and things like that, and uh, the

523
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 1: guy I'm dating was like, you know, sometimes people, even

524
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:26,320
Speaker 1: if you're paying them well or well enough. You know

525
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 1: they're not doing it for the money. If they wanted money,

526
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,200
Speaker 1: they would go do something else. They're doing it because

527
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:34,119
Speaker 1: they have pride and what they're doing and they like

528
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:37,960
Speaker 1: that they're helping your life and that they're bringing their

529
00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 1: like a part of a thing. And there. They do

530
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:43,480
Speaker 1: it because they want the accolades, they want the they

531
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:47,000
Speaker 1: have so it that that does matter. That is currency

532
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 1: to them. And you need to stop stop avoiding your

533
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 1: feelings and how grateful you are for these people by

534
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 1: throwing money at them, which is obviously nice to do

535
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 1: and people would probably prefer that over thank you, but

536
00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:00,320
Speaker 1: why not do both? So I'm trying to force myself

537
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 1: to be more grateful, which I can't. I mean, now

538
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 1: I should go into like you guys at the end

539
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:08,720
Speaker 1: of the year, I just want to say to you

540
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 1: and Noah, like you're gonna get a card for being said.

541
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 1: I can't do it right here, but like I'm just

542
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 1: not good with that. Are you guys doing relate to that?

543
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 1: I guess it depends if there's gonna be a bonus

544
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 1: in there. Great but gratefully saying right am I? Yeah? No,

545
00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 1: I have a lot of trouble with that obviously, Like

546
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 1: I it's so hard for me to be sincere, Like

547
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:37,400
Speaker 1: I remember when I would try to, like I wrote

548
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 1: that one horrendous movie, and I remember someone that read

549
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 1: it there, like can you like make the like the

550
00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 1: scene where he's saying he loves this woman or he's

551
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: happy for them, like for her. I don't know what

552
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 1: that was. We just heard a deep um can you

553
00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:57,800
Speaker 1: make it like more sincere and whatever? And I I couldn't.

554
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 1: I I don't know what those words are, like I

555
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 1: can't do it. I don't know the vocabulary for it

556
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 1: because I didn't hear it as a kid, like I

557
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:08,760
Speaker 1: just didn't. My parents weren't that way. That wasn't how

558
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 1: we communicated. We communicated through money, like or like things like.

559
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 1: That's how I knew my dad liked me because you know,

560
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:18,840
Speaker 1: I got a car when I was sixteen, not because

561
00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 1: he sat me down and he explained, you know why

562
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 1: I'm great or something like that. You know. Yeah, I

563
00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 1: got a lot of that as a kid from my dad,

564
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 1: and I think it made me deeply and comfortable to

565
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 1: hear how great it was because I didn't believe it

566
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 1: and I just thought they were just saying it. He

567
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 1: ended it with, Babe, you know yeah, I mean I

568
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:40,880
Speaker 1: always loved a weird taste in my mouth, especially after

569
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 1: we made out. But why did these cigars that day?

570
00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:51,360
Speaker 1: It was let's get off this. What then are we talking?

571
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 1: Let's get it all right? Yeah, it's it's it's hard

572
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 1: for me to be sincere, but when I do it,

573
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:00,560
Speaker 1: it feels really good, and I'm really good at it

574
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 1: when I write letters, and I can write, but I'm

575
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 1: I'm very uncomfortable in person doing it. And um. But

576
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:11,360
Speaker 1: what I was wondering with Brenna, does she um? Because

577
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:15,280
Speaker 1: I know you cut everything with jokes, like the most sincere,

578
00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:19,800
Speaker 1: saddest moments, you will still sometimes I have to be

579
00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 1: like if I'm like if it maybe it's not a sentimental,

580
00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:25,240
Speaker 1: like emotional moment, but it's something I'm like frustrated about

581
00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 1: or like want to stay in the I need to

582
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,920
Speaker 1: express my anger about something to you, not at you.

583
00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:32,280
Speaker 1: Let's say it's a thing in my life. And sometimes

584
00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 1: we'll just go I'll go like and I don't know,

585
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:37,840
Speaker 1: I'm just feeling like so full of and I go,

586
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:39,520
Speaker 1: don't make a come joke right now? Like, you know,

587
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 1: like I have to even say that to you, like

588
00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 1: don't I go, don't make the joke about that. I'll

589
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:45,560
Speaker 1: say a turn a turn of phrase that I'm like, oh,

590
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 1: he's gonna make that joke, and I'll predict it and go,

591
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 1: don't just please don't make that joke. I can't handle

592
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 1: a joke right now. I just want to stay in

593
00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 1: this does Brenna ever, I want you to be more

594
00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:58,000
Speaker 1: like because we go, baby baby, I'll miss you. I

595
00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:01,200
Speaker 1: miss you And that's almost like which it's saying what

596
00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 1: you really feel, but it's making it and I do

597
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 1: I do miss you baby? Um, and uh, you know,

598
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:10,239
Speaker 1: I think I know you well enough where like I

599
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 1: know when not to make that kind of joke. I

600
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 1: think like even before you tell me not to make

601
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 1: the joke, I know our relationship well enough where like

602
00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 1: and then with Brenna, yeah, there's times where like I

603
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 1: don't know if like we've gotten in like arguments over it,

604
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 1: but it's like, can you just like I'm not that

605
00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:32,760
Speaker 1: open with her. I don't you know, I know, I

606
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:35,080
Speaker 1: like it would seem like I'd be that way, but

607
00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 1: like I I tend to avoid serious conversation at all

608
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 1: costs because because I'm afraid of what I'll be asked

609
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:47,360
Speaker 1: and and that or not like like asked to do

610
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 1: or whatever. And then I'll feel like, well, I'm my

611
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:53,240
Speaker 1: actions are showing all this. Why do I need to

612
00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 1: verbalize it? Or like, am I going to be asked

613
00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:58,520
Speaker 1: to do something that I don't think is reasonable? So

614
00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:02,080
Speaker 1: I avoid it because I'm a raid in you're afraid

615
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 1: of the answer you don't want. We talked about this,

616
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:06,160
Speaker 1: like a lot of times You're like, I don't ask

617
00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:08,120
Speaker 1: you the thing because I'm scared you're gonna say no.

618
00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:10,760
Speaker 1: And I'm like, but no is an answer that is acceptable,

619
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,800
Speaker 1: So you need to be okay with that. And that's

620
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 1: that's the thing, and and and that's what I do.

621
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:18,800
Speaker 1: You know, we're talking about it yesterday, like things you're

622
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:21,400
Speaker 1: scared of. You have to consider the worst case scenario

623
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 1: and be like, Okay, can I handle that? Like that

624
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 1: is an appropriate thing to happen in this circumstance It

625
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:30,960
Speaker 1: could happen? Is that is that? Because? Is do I

626
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:33,840
Speaker 1: have to take that personally? It's so funny. I was

627
00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 1: just talking to um Chris about this the other day

628
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 1: about how there is no way like there are maybe

629
00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 1: zero people I can think of where if you told

630
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:50,840
Speaker 1: them a criticism like let's just say, uh, you know

631
00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 1: someone's always late or something, or um, you know, someone

632
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 1: sitting too close to you or like a friend. I

633
00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:59,120
Speaker 1: don't think there's anyone that you can confront about something

634
00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 1: a criticism and they won't have a knee jerk defensive reaction. First.

635
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 1: Is there any way to present something of like so

636
00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:10,160
Speaker 1: that they don't go but but oh, but but it's

637
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:13,799
Speaker 1: because of this, Like every no one likes to be criticized,

638
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 1: even if it's something that is not a you know,

639
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 1: moral judgment on that you're just like, hey, this is

640
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:22,200
Speaker 1: my thing. It's nothing to do with you. I just appreciate,

641
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:24,479
Speaker 1: you know, a heads up if you're going to be late.

642
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:27,440
Speaker 1: According to therapists, the way to do that is by

643
00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:32,120
Speaker 1: seeing that I feel statement mm hmm. When you do this,

644
00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:35,479
Speaker 1: it makes me feel X Y and Z, I think,

645
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:38,759
Speaker 1: I think when But isn't it like people can't make

646
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 1: you feel something? Isn't that a therapything? Like then you're

647
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:45,560
Speaker 1: blaming them for your feelings. I think the best um,

648
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 1: as long as you say you you it's like you're

649
00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 1: when you do this action i've it makes me feel uncomfortable.

650
00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:59,640
Speaker 1: Is there a way that it's Sometimes people's actions do

651
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:01,680
Speaker 1: make you feel a way, like this whole thing of

652
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:04,280
Speaker 1: like they can't make you feel that way. Sometimes people

653
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:07,840
Speaker 1: unintentionally do make you feel a way, and that's okay,

654
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:09,880
Speaker 1: But you can't get their bad person. I mean, I

655
00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:12,439
Speaker 1: guess you could get mad, but it's harder to get

656
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 1: mad at someone for a way that they feel. Not

657
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 1: in my family don't feel that way. Why do you

658
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 1: feel that way? I think that? Uh, or I feel

659
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:25,759
Speaker 1: I feel that, I think um that I feel no.

660
00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:29,440
Speaker 1: I think when it's like I get I have trouble

661
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:34,839
Speaker 1: with critiques when I feel like the person you can

662
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:37,200
Speaker 1: say no, but it's not just you. It's like anyone

663
00:35:37,239 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 1: in my life, but it's mostly you. I feel no.

664
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:44,879
Speaker 1: But like if if they're doing something similar, maybe it's

665
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:47,880
Speaker 1: not that thing to be critiqued. And I find it

666
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: hypocritical and and I think a way though to do

667
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 1: that be like, look, I suck at leaving my bag

668
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:57,440
Speaker 1: out per se on the outside in the living room.

669
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:00,880
Speaker 1: That being said, you know, I get forgetful sometimes too.

670
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 1: In regards to the dryer sheet thing. Whatever can you

671
00:36:04,280 --> 00:36:06,759
Speaker 1: clear that out. I know. I'm forgetful too. I do

672
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:09,400
Speaker 1: it too, and then I'd be like yeah, dude, fucking

673
00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:12,359
Speaker 1: yeah of course, as opposed to like you gotta take

674
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 1: this out. Then I'm like, fuck you, you leave your

675
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 1: bag out, like you know what I mean? And I

676
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 1: think that I like how you change the thing in

677
00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:23,520
Speaker 1: the beginning so that it's you didn't accuse me of

678
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:26,279
Speaker 1: the thing that you're that was very that was very

679
00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:28,279
Speaker 1: shifty of what you just did. But then it all

680
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:31,960
Speaker 1: came to truth at the end. Um, No, that's what.

681
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:34,879
Speaker 1: But that's where I get annoyed. It's like, just it's

682
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:39,080
Speaker 1: not a two way street just because I don't like this.

683
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 1: These are different things, like it's not always an eye

684
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:43,959
Speaker 1: for an eye, and yes, there's different ways of saying

685
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:46,279
Speaker 1: like you need to do this, Like there could be like, hey,

686
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:47,879
Speaker 1: next time you do this, do you mind doing this?

687
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 1: I don't need to. I don't think anyone, let alone myself,

688
00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:54,799
Speaker 1: needs to always give a caveat of like I do

689
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,000
Speaker 1: this too, and here's a way that I do it.

690
00:36:57,360 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 1: Like I know I'm not perfect. We're allowed to have

691
00:37:01,080 --> 00:37:05,240
Speaker 1: criticisms of others to to, you know, compliment the boundaries

692
00:37:05,280 --> 00:37:09,319
Speaker 1: we want for ourselves without having to there's always gonna

693
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:12,360
Speaker 1: be hypocrisy. Like, for example, I don't mind if the

694
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:15,279
Speaker 1: guy am dating Fox other women. I just don't care.

695
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 1: It's not a thing. It doesn't make me jealous. It's

696
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:22,240
Speaker 1: my weird thing. I know though, that they don't feel

697
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 1: just because they get to do it does not mean

698
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:26,759
Speaker 1: I get to do it. I'm not allowing them to

699
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:29,319
Speaker 1: do that because I'm like, oh, that means I can

700
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:32,680
Speaker 1: do it. It's it's it's not a two way street.

701
00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:35,200
Speaker 1: It's it's I like it. I have my own preferences

702
00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 1: and they have their own purpoces. So when it comes

703
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:39,520
Speaker 1: to dryer sheets and leaving bags out, I leave bags out.

704
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:41,960
Speaker 1: You don't put the dryers, you don't empty the dryers. Right,

705
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:47,080
Speaker 1: those can independently. I'm not saying the dryer thing in

706
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:49,879
Speaker 1: a world where I am perfect. It's just one thing

707
00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:53,000
Speaker 1: that I specifically, in that moment, think about, and it

708
00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:56,080
Speaker 1: doesn't need the caveat of like, but you do this,

709
00:37:56,840 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 1: It can still just be does does that? Yeah? I

710
00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:02,600
Speaker 1: just but the whole thing of like, it's not a

711
00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 1: two way street that comes up the eye for an

712
00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 1: eye two way street thing when you go. It's not

713
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:09,439
Speaker 1: a two way street. I could do it. That doesn't

714
00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 1: mean you, but you can do it. You can yell

715
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:13,759
Speaker 1: at me about the bag and I don't have to go,

716
00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 1: but you leave the dryer sheet. It can just be like,

717
00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:19,080
Speaker 1: I like a tidy spot and you've never brought up

718
00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:22,839
Speaker 1: the bag before. It's so obnoxious when you inadvertently do

719
00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:26,399
Speaker 1: things you've never won because I don't do it. I don't.

720
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 1: I don't because I don't have anything. You could just say, hey, Nikki,

721
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:30,839
Speaker 1: I like a tidy space. Do you mind putting your

722
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 1: stuff away? And I would be able to handle that

723
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:35,399
Speaker 1: instead of you passive aggressively bringing it up on here.

724
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:40,680
Speaker 1: It's not so annoying passive aggressive putting it into a

725
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:46,920
Speaker 1: scenario scenario that is a hypothetical. That's the definition. Is

726
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:49,439
Speaker 1: the difference. I don't care that you leave the bag out.

727
00:38:49,480 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 1: I'm using as an example. I never care. I really don't.

728
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,719
Speaker 1: Oh well, okay, then that's different. That's the difference. Like,

729
00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:58,399
Speaker 1: but that's what I'm saying. It's not if you don't care.

730
00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:00,319
Speaker 1: I do care about the dryer sheet. It's the thing

731
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:02,520
Speaker 1: I care about. I'm different than you. You don't care

732
00:39:02,520 --> 00:39:05,839
Speaker 1: about the bag. That doesn't mean that they're not they're

733
00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 1: not the same then, And I'm not saying that if

734
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:09,960
Speaker 1: you even if you did care about the bag, it's

735
00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 1: not the you're allowed to have that, uh, independent of

736
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: the dryer sheep conversation. You know, we're every time that

737
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:22,440
Speaker 1: you can get criticized. This is what you know, the

738
00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:25,319
Speaker 1: left and right do well you did this, No, well

739
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:27,360
Speaker 1: you did this, and it's like no one's ever fucking

740
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:31,680
Speaker 1: accountable then, because you could always go, well, you're not perfect,

741
00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:33,880
Speaker 1: and it's like, okay, well then let's all just fucking

742
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:38,120
Speaker 1: ruin the world and never have to face, you know,

743
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 1: take accountability for the things that we're doing. And it's

744
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:43,919
Speaker 1: like that I'm I'm saying this as someone who makes

745
00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:46,279
Speaker 1: mistakes all the time and is does have those knee

746
00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 1: jerk reactions of being like will you do this? And

747
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:51,839
Speaker 1: I'm even saying to myself, you don't have a right

748
00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:56,279
Speaker 1: to throw it back in their face of like but you,

749
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 1: but you're saying you don't believe you have the right

750
00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 1: to tell the person that they're fucking up. Well, that

751
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:03,680
Speaker 1: person that you told me, But I don't think it

752
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: should come from a place of like I'm defending myself.

753
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:09,160
Speaker 1: It should come independently of that. In a different scenario

754
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:12,960
Speaker 1: like that, you can't make the rule and then it

755
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 1: just abides for you. Do you understand that like you can't.

756
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 1: I'm not saying it abides for me. I'm saying that

757
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 1: you can bring up the bag. Let's say the bag

758
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 1: thing ticks you off, you could bring that up. But

759
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 1: it doesn't need to be like, well, the dryer sheet.

760
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:27,880
Speaker 1: I don't know why you're complaining about the driver a

761
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 1: ste you leave your bag out all the time. That

762
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 1: is not the way to handle an argument. The way

763
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:34,160
Speaker 1: to handle it is go, oh, you know what, I

764
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 1: do need to be better about this. And while we're

765
00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:38,360
Speaker 1: at it, like I guess, since we're in this like

766
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:40,960
Speaker 1: kind of conversation, a thing that's been annoying me is

767
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 1: that you leave your bag out. It's not the same

768
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:46,400
Speaker 1: as but you do this. It's not a defensiveness. It's

769
00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:49,920
Speaker 1: a separate thing that oh, this reminds me of this,

770
00:40:50,160 --> 00:40:53,880
Speaker 1: but it's it's not defending. Do you understand the initial

771
00:40:55,080 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 1: of the dryer sheet of how you come at the person,

772
00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 1: That's how they're going to react to you. So when

773
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 1: you say I don't need to give the caveat. I

774
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 1: don't need to go well, I do this. I don't

775
00:41:04,080 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 1: need to be you'll tell me I said that it's

776
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:09,839
Speaker 1: not nice to go do this dryer sheet. I said, hey,

777
00:41:09,880 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 1: next time you're doing the dryer sheet, that would be

778
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 1: the way I presented is not good. Sometimes it's like

779
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:16,879
Speaker 1: a response, So then you're gonna get a knee jerk

780
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:20,920
Speaker 1: response back. That's the whole point. So it's like like

781
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 1: the initial knee jerk response. If it's if it's comes

782
00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:26,839
Speaker 1: from kindness and a way of out of love, then

783
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:28,719
Speaker 1: you're gonna get love back. But if it comes out

784
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 1: a way of like spiteful and like I'm I don't

785
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 1: you shouldn't do this, and you talk down to the person,

786
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:39,520
Speaker 1: then you're gonna get a shitty reaction. That's all. It's

787
00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:41,799
Speaker 1: not a big deal. I just you know, it is

788
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:44,839
Speaker 1: what it is. But I think we got somewhere on that.

789
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:50,360
Speaker 1: Do you guys want to go to the next news story?

790
00:41:56,440 --> 00:42:01,399
Speaker 1: What is the next go ahead? And do you want

791
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:04,360
Speaker 1: to do it? A study shows that most people have

792
00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 1: napped on the job. Nappers seem the better quality of

793
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 1: life actually, but non nappers were likely to make more

794
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:14,759
Speaker 1: money all right, well this this is interesting. The ideal

795
00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:17,920
Speaker 1: nap time is twenty to thirty minutes to feel more creative.

796
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 1: Respondents felt that at ten to twenty nap, twenty minute

797
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 1: nap was Plenty of nappers had also received promotions in

798
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:29,800
Speaker 1: the last year, compared to thirty of non nappers. Americans

799
00:42:29,800 --> 00:42:33,360
Speaker 1: say they regularly they're regularly sleep deprived, possibly explaining the

800
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:36,479
Speaker 1: need for an afternoon nap to get through the day. Um, yeah,

801
00:42:36,520 --> 00:42:39,920
Speaker 1: this makes sense, you know, but I don't think the

802
00:42:39,960 --> 00:42:43,479
Speaker 1: amount of money you make for not you're gonna die

803
00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 1: before you get to spend it. Because if you don't know,

804
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:50,759
Speaker 1: I'm trying to prioritize sleep so much more because it

805
00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:53,640
Speaker 1: really it is the number one thing to look your best.

806
00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:55,440
Speaker 1: I mean I'm doing it out of vanity more than

807
00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 1: like I would extend my life doesn't matter. I just

808
00:42:57,960 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 1: look like shit if I haven't slept. Wait, when do

809
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:03,120
Speaker 1: you think they're like, let's say someone has a nine

810
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:06,120
Speaker 1: to five job. Do we make a little nap room,

811
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 1: Like what do we do we haven't sleep? At the devil?

812
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:11,640
Speaker 1: I absolutely I did that in my office. Um, when

813
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 1: I had not safe, I would say, Um, if anyone

814
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:17,360
Speaker 1: wants to nap at some point. Please take that. I

815
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:20,239
Speaker 1: think that's great. I just I think that's great. Naps are,

816
00:43:20,400 --> 00:43:22,520
Speaker 1: but some people just can't nap. And I and I

817
00:43:22,560 --> 00:43:24,960
Speaker 1: don't like that whole I can't nap. It's like I

818
00:43:25,640 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 1: just think that people don't try. They just go no,

819
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:30,160
Speaker 1: I'm different. And it's like, you need to do a

820
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:32,360
Speaker 1: white noise machine, you need to do a sleep mask,

821
00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 1: you need to do earplugs whatever you what version of that.

822
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:38,680
Speaker 1: You need dark you need a cold dark room, and

823
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:42,279
Speaker 1: you need to just try. And it's it's maybe not

824
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 1: going to work the first time. That's you know, through,

825
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:47,920
Speaker 1: but eventually you should figure out. If you're someone that

826
00:43:48,680 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 1: does not get enough sleep, you gotta get that. Yeah,

827
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:56,480
Speaker 1: there's something like, um, the hustle aspect, the toughness of

828
00:43:56,600 --> 00:43:59,480
Speaker 1: like I sleep four hours and night and then I

829
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 1: worked eight hours. It still is in the like the

830
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 1: dialogue of so many people. It's so funny. Last night

831
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:09,240
Speaker 1: I had that little kind of last night, I almost

832
00:44:09,239 --> 00:44:10,799
Speaker 1: pulled an. I was I could have pulled an all

833
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 1: night or to get that thing done, and I was like, no, no,

834
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:17,759
Speaker 1: I'm not doing that anymore. Like I have a due

835
00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 1: date for this and I am late on the due date,

836
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:22,720
Speaker 1: and people are going to be annoyed. But my health

837
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:25,839
Speaker 1: for the rest of the month is dependent on me

838
00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:30,279
Speaker 1: sleeping tonight and getting at least five hours instead of two.

839
00:44:30,560 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 1: I mean, I would be in It's just it's not

840
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 1: cool to not get sleep anymore. Stop being that is

841
00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 1: the kissed thing. Well, and it's killed to be like

842
00:44:39,120 --> 00:44:44,920
Speaker 1: I didn't sleep in Spain. Spain so hard. In Spain

843
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:48,520
Speaker 1: they literally have a siesta, like that's like part of

844
00:44:48,520 --> 00:44:50,560
Speaker 1: their life. Now. Granted they stay up very late, they

845
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:53,720
Speaker 1: eat dinner very late, like that's just they're like culture.

846
00:44:54,120 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 1: But they have a siesta, Like did they do it?

847
00:44:57,400 --> 00:45:00,560
Speaker 1: And they they're fine there. You know all the countries

848
00:45:00,600 --> 00:45:03,600
Speaker 1: that have like four day work weeks, they're fine there.

849
00:45:04,040 --> 00:45:06,240
Speaker 1: And I know that people out there, like I can't

850
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:08,520
Speaker 1: fit eight hours of sleep, Nick, just not not in

851
00:45:08,560 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 1: my schedule. You deserve you are You deserve eight hours

852
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:16,439
Speaker 1: of sleep. It is God given right you you figure out,

853
00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:18,040
Speaker 1: you got to figure out a way to get it.

854
00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:20,800
Speaker 1: You're gonna die soon, You're gonna get cancer soon. You're

855
00:45:20,840 --> 00:45:23,120
Speaker 1: sooner than the rest of people that that sleep better.

856
00:45:23,200 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 1: Like when you don't get good sleep, it just you know,

857
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:29,880
Speaker 1: listening to that Sam Harris podcast that he did with

858
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:33,160
Speaker 1: that sleep guy. They were talking about, you know, all

859
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:35,640
Speaker 1: these people who are famous for like only needing five

860
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: hours of sleep or less a night, Winston Churchill Um.

861
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:44,840
Speaker 1: I think it was Margaret Thatcher. They're going through the

862
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:46,880
Speaker 1: list of these like famous people that don't need a

863
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 1: lot of sleep. They all died from early on set Alzheimer's,

864
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:55,400
Speaker 1: Ronald Reagan, They're all, it's it destroys you on the

865
00:45:55,440 --> 00:46:00,680
Speaker 1: back end. You and you're not It's just it's it's

866
00:46:00,680 --> 00:46:04,879
Speaker 1: almost like not eating should be that kids. It's like,

867
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:07,880
Speaker 1: that's why I don't want to know. I know. I

868
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:10,319
Speaker 1: think like that's like the number one thing is like

869
00:46:10,360 --> 00:46:12,760
Speaker 1: your kid wakes up at six, not to mention crying

870
00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 1: throughout the night like so those I think if you're

871
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:18,359
Speaker 1: a new parent, for the first two years, your your

872
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:21,640
Speaker 1: company should give you an hour of naptime in between. Well,

873
00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:25,439
Speaker 1: I think people should consider that before they have kids.

874
00:46:25,440 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 1: Who doesn't Who doesn't know that you're going to lose

875
00:46:28,680 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 1: sleep with kids. If sleep is something you prioritize in

876
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:34,319
Speaker 1: your life, don't have kids until you can get the

877
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:36,680
Speaker 1: help that you need so that that kid that you

878
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:39,000
Speaker 1: can get the right sleep. I would never have a

879
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:42,239
Speaker 1: child unless I could fit in snaps. I would never

880
00:46:42,280 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 1: do it because that's how important. But I really really

881
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 1: the first thing if I I would rather go, Like

882
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 1: if I see a week of work for myself and

883
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:56,280
Speaker 1: there's no sleep involved, I start panicking a lot, uh

884
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:58,840
Speaker 1: much more than if it's like, oh I have to

885
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:02,239
Speaker 1: you know, go bungee jumping or like something that would

886
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:04,279
Speaker 1: be uncomfortable for me. The thing I dread more than

887
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:07,320
Speaker 1: anything is lack of sleep. So I just when parents

888
00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 1: complain about, oh, I'm not sleeping, I'm just like, this

889
00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 1: isn't the twenties where or the fifties even where you

890
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:17,760
Speaker 1: just had to have kids and there's no options for you.

891
00:47:17,760 --> 00:47:21,560
Speaker 1: You chose this, don't do it until until you can

892
00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:24,759
Speaker 1: afford to. Yeah, but then that's like people couldn't do

893
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:29,239
Speaker 1: it then or more well then then you just I mean,

894
00:47:29,680 --> 00:47:32,000
Speaker 1: well then maybe it's more important to you to have

895
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:34,719
Speaker 1: kids than to sleep, and you can still complain about it.

896
00:47:34,719 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 1: I don't mind that. But the people that act like no,

897
00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: but I feel like companies like confused, I think, but

898
00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:42,920
Speaker 1: I think of companies like you know, like companies like

899
00:47:42,960 --> 00:47:45,479
Speaker 1: I feel like Facebook and Google. You talk to people

900
00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 1: who like go through their things, I guarantee they have

901
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:51,160
Speaker 1: rests like nap rooms for the end, like where you

902
00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:52,920
Speaker 1: get to play ping pong and then sleep for an

903
00:47:52,920 --> 00:47:55,960
Speaker 1: hour and then you got to like work. We're too caffeinated, though,

904
00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 1: that's the others. Yeah, that's true, because your body wants

905
00:47:59,040 --> 00:48:03,160
Speaker 1: sleep and then we take you know, all these stimulants, caffeine.

906
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:06,520
Speaker 1: It it makes it so you can't nap even though

907
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:08,839
Speaker 1: your body is crying out for it. Your brain won't

908
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:11,480
Speaker 1: shut down because we're just constantly pumping ourselves with caffeine.

909
00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:14,440
Speaker 1: I mean, we're so fucked. And I know I'm going

910
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:17,200
Speaker 1: to get hate for the kid thing, but I just, uh,

911
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:20,360
Speaker 1: I I feel the same way about parents that I

912
00:48:20,400 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 1: feel about teachers. Like I I couldn't do it because

913
00:48:23,640 --> 00:48:26,560
Speaker 1: it's it's too much work and I just don't think

914
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:29,000
Speaker 1: i'd get enough sleep. And maybe people don't prioritize that

915
00:48:29,000 --> 00:48:30,960
Speaker 1: as much as me, or they prioritize having kids is

916
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:34,279
Speaker 1: more important than that. So I don't mean to make

917
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 1: you mad. I'm just saying I don't really and I

918
00:48:37,040 --> 00:48:39,560
Speaker 1: do have sympathy for you when you're when parents are sleepless.

919
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 1: I it's I've tried to buy my sister a fucking

920
00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:45,399
Speaker 1: night nurse. I there's everyone in my All I want

921
00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 1: for the people I love and care about, including you guys,

922
00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 1: the busties listening is that you get good sleep. If

923
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:51,680
Speaker 1: I could give you any gift, it would be the

924
00:48:51,719 --> 00:48:56,239
Speaker 1: gift of rest. But when someone goes, when someone has

925
00:48:56,320 --> 00:49:02,200
Speaker 1: kids and keeps having kids and they are tired and

926
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:05,080
Speaker 1: they look like shit, I'm like, this is not a

927
00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:08,920
Speaker 1: new concept. Mothers have been around forever complaining about the sleeplessness.

928
00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 1: It has been portrayed in media for generations like this

929
00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:17,279
Speaker 1: is this is not a new Don't be surprised when

930
00:49:17,480 --> 00:49:20,200
Speaker 1: being a mother is fucking hard as fuck and no

931
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 1: one forced you to do it, except if you live

932
00:49:22,680 --> 00:49:30,680
Speaker 1: in Texas. But I feel, you know, even though let

933
00:49:30,760 --> 00:49:34,160
Speaker 1: me just say, I'll play devil's advocate for myself. I

934
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:36,640
Speaker 1: remember Andrew being like, you know, on my day off,

935
00:49:36,680 --> 00:49:38,879
Speaker 1: I don't want to go get your groceries. And I said, well,

936
00:49:38,920 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 1: I didn't know this day of work. He goes, you

937
00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:42,560
Speaker 1: choose to work, and I go. I didn't know that

938
00:49:42,640 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 1: day was going to be me with all my jobs

939
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:47,920
Speaker 1: lining up on one day, like if you're mother out

940
00:49:47,920 --> 00:49:49,799
Speaker 1: there and you're like, well, I can't. I couldn't have

941
00:49:49,880 --> 00:49:51,520
Speaker 1: predicted that my son was going to need to go

942
00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:53,320
Speaker 1: to hockey practice in the morning, that my sister, my

943
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:55,320
Speaker 1: daughter was gonna go to dance, and that I was

944
00:49:55,360 --> 00:49:59,240
Speaker 1: gonna have no space. You can't predict that far ahead. Sure,

945
00:49:59,440 --> 00:50:01,840
Speaker 1: I believe that, but and you still have a right

946
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:04,240
Speaker 1: to complain that you're tired, and as did I, because

947
00:50:04,239 --> 00:50:08,439
Speaker 1: there are sometimes that life, even though you can see

948
00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 1: it coming and you think you know what's gonna happen,

949
00:50:10,200 --> 00:50:11,759
Speaker 1: it can throw you a curveball. Or I didn't know

950
00:50:11,800 --> 00:50:13,799
Speaker 1: my child was going to be special needs, and that's

951
00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:19,000
Speaker 1: a whole another thing. But um, I I still you know,

952
00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:23,200
Speaker 1: with my career, when my career special needs, sometimes I

953
00:50:23,200 --> 00:50:25,960
Speaker 1: I do want like I'm just poor me, but I go,

954
00:50:26,480 --> 00:50:29,080
Speaker 1: I chose this, No one asked me to do this.

955
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:31,480
Speaker 1: It is true, But that doesn't mean I can't ask

956
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:34,000
Speaker 1: for help. And that's that's you should still ask for

957
00:50:34,040 --> 00:50:36,160
Speaker 1: help if your mother is out there, you deserve it

958
00:50:36,600 --> 00:50:38,359
Speaker 1: and I just can't. And I don't notice I didn't

959
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:43,080
Speaker 1: say fathers, because let's be honest, being a father would

960
00:50:43,120 --> 00:50:47,279
Speaker 1: be pretty fucking cush. I told Curston this morning, I

961
00:50:47,320 --> 00:50:50,480
Speaker 1: was like, if anything ever happens to your husband, um,

962
00:50:50,680 --> 00:50:53,759
Speaker 1: I'll I'll like have a baby with you and I'll

963
00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:57,719
Speaker 1: just be the father. And she was like really, And

964
00:50:57,719 --> 00:50:59,200
Speaker 1: I was like, do you wanna? Do you wanna? We're

965
00:50:59,200 --> 00:51:02,800
Speaker 1: gonna have something to take care of him. But I

966
00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:06,080
Speaker 1: would love to be a dad. Just go make money

967
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:09,440
Speaker 1: and then you know, hang out with that, like be

968
00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 1: a fun dad, but like not have to do all

969
00:51:11,680 --> 00:51:15,120
Speaker 1: the child rearing. And that's the way. That's the only

970
00:51:15,160 --> 00:51:16,640
Speaker 1: way I'm going to be able to have kids, because

971
00:51:16,719 --> 00:51:18,840
Speaker 1: that's I know, that's that's the only way I'll be

972
00:51:18,880 --> 00:51:26,000
Speaker 1: the best parents possible. Right. Well, in some relationships that

973
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:29,040
Speaker 1: role is reversed, where the woman goes out and works

974
00:51:29,080 --> 00:51:32,400
Speaker 1: and the father stays mostly at home to and and

975
00:51:32,480 --> 00:51:38,600
Speaker 1: becomes bitter and hates the wife, not vice versa. The

976
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:40,680
Speaker 1: other day I was telling the person I'm dating. They

977
00:51:40,680 --> 00:51:42,799
Speaker 1: were talking about finances and stuff, and I go, you know,

978
00:51:42,840 --> 00:51:44,880
Speaker 1: if we ever got married, Like I go, not even me,

979
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:46,960
Speaker 1: but like if you married a woman that made a

980
00:51:47,040 --> 00:51:50,440
Speaker 1: lot of money, you wouldn't have to necessarily work, you know.

981
00:51:50,640 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 1: And I've heard what if I wanted to buy a

982
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 1: ten dollar bike for like just for fun with your money,

983
00:51:58,120 --> 00:52:00,440
Speaker 1: and I go, but if we were married, it wouldn't

984
00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:02,839
Speaker 1: be my money, it would be ours, and you could

985
00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:04,840
Speaker 1: buy that ten thousand dollar bike. I would have to

986
00:52:04,880 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 1: be okay with that. Like, and then I said, you know,

987
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:10,160
Speaker 1: your sister is married to a guy. If she wanted

988
00:52:10,160 --> 00:52:13,400
Speaker 1: to spend you know, ten tho dollars, which is, you know,

989
00:52:13,560 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 1: for their income, a big gift, but like a thing

990
00:52:17,200 --> 00:52:20,400
Speaker 1: they can afford on something frivolous, a car that she

991
00:52:20,440 --> 00:52:23,480
Speaker 1: doesn't need, or a you know, a procedure she just

992
00:52:23,600 --> 00:52:26,520
Speaker 1: really cared about. No one would go. But that's his money.

993
00:52:26,719 --> 00:52:29,960
Speaker 1: Everyone go. But she she raises the kids and everything.

994
00:52:30,040 --> 00:52:32,480
Speaker 1: She deserves it. But men, for some reason just go, no,

995
00:52:32,600 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 1: I've got to earn it myself. And I'm like, no, Well,

996
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:38,880
Speaker 1: I've heard support heard countless women say that if the

997
00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:42,720
Speaker 1: guy doesn't make as much money as her or isn't

998
00:52:43,040 --> 00:52:45,960
Speaker 1: a hard worker, like isn't a certain like type of

999
00:52:46,040 --> 00:52:50,560
Speaker 1: way of earning money, that they lose attraction to them.

1000
00:52:50,680 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 1: Like that's been something that's been said many times. And

1001
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:56,600
Speaker 1: you can like that man is not well that that

1002
00:52:56,760 --> 00:53:02,879
Speaker 1: woman requires that and okay, but I I'm a long

1003
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:05,239
Speaker 1: time like, I really do think and I've heard it before,

1004
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:07,040
Speaker 1: so it's not like I'm just like making it up,

1005
00:53:07,200 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 1: like yeah, no, no, no, It's it's true. Women do

1006
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:12,400
Speaker 1: like me. They want to be financially taken care of.

1007
00:53:12,520 --> 00:53:14,680
Speaker 1: That matters to them. But not all of them. Though

1008
00:53:15,200 --> 00:53:17,280
Speaker 1: not all of them. Yeah, I want a man who's

1009
00:53:17,320 --> 00:53:21,920
Speaker 1: going to make make sure the fridges stocked and make

1010
00:53:21,920 --> 00:53:23,960
Speaker 1: sure the apartment is clean. Not doing it himself, but

1011
00:53:24,040 --> 00:53:31,360
Speaker 1: like hiring the right people, making their time, folding up boxes,

1012
00:53:32,200 --> 00:53:37,080
Speaker 1: entering the dryer sheet, putting my bags away. Like that's

1013
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:39,920
Speaker 1: that's how I will feel horny for a guy. I

1014
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:43,359
Speaker 1: really would acts of service. Let's take a quick break

1015
00:53:43,360 --> 00:53:49,200
Speaker 1: and come back with why do I care? Andrew? What

1016
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:52,120
Speaker 1: do I care? Why do I care? In her latest

1017
00:53:52,160 --> 00:53:55,600
Speaker 1: interview with Howard Stern, Billie Eilish reveals she started watching

1018
00:53:55,719 --> 00:53:58,960
Speaker 1: porn at eleven, watched a lot of it, and that

1019
00:53:59,080 --> 00:54:02,520
Speaker 1: it negatively impact acted her for for first sexual experience.

1020
00:54:02,920 --> 00:54:06,120
Speaker 1: She caused porn a disgrace and is angry that porn

1021
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:09,000
Speaker 1: is loved. I can't wait to hear this interview. Have

1022
00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:11,320
Speaker 1: you listened yet? I have? I tried to listen to it.

1023
00:54:11,400 --> 00:54:15,400
Speaker 1: I've only heard bits and pieces. I think it's really

1024
00:54:15,640 --> 00:54:20,520
Speaker 1: distroyed my brain. And I feel incredibly devastated that I

1025
00:54:20,680 --> 00:54:26,080
Speaker 1: was exposed to so much porn. The first few times I,

1026
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:30,840
Speaker 1: you know, had sex, I was not saying no to

1027
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:35,520
Speaker 1: things that were not good. It was because I thought

1028
00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:38,320
Speaker 1: that what I was supposed to be attracted to was that.

1029
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:41,400
Speaker 1: So I'm so angry though, so she said, I'm angry

1030
00:54:41,400 --> 00:54:42,960
Speaker 1: that porn is so loved, and I'm so angry at

1031
00:54:43,000 --> 00:54:44,920
Speaker 1: myself for thinking that it was okay. The way that

1032
00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:47,320
Speaker 1: vagina is looking for porn is fucking crazy. No vaginas

1033
00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:49,080
Speaker 1: looked like that. Women's bodies don't look like that. We

1034
00:54:49,160 --> 00:54:52,360
Speaker 1: don't come like that. UM, I love it. You know,

1035
00:54:52,480 --> 00:54:55,800
Speaker 1: She's right. I think that porn is really bad for

1036
00:54:56,080 --> 00:54:59,960
Speaker 1: for for young people and and and older people too.

1037
00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:03,840
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm absolutely addicted to porn, and um, it

1038
00:55:04,040 --> 00:55:06,960
Speaker 1: has changed the way I perceived my own body, the

1039
00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:10,880
Speaker 1: way I enjoy sex. I love porn. I don't want

1040
00:55:10,920 --> 00:55:13,600
Speaker 1: to give it up. It's not something that I feel

1041
00:55:13,640 --> 00:55:17,120
Speaker 1: like is ruining my life or my sexual life. UM.

1042
00:55:17,360 --> 00:55:20,240
Speaker 1: I feel like, actually porn is my sexual life. Sometimes

1043
00:55:20,560 --> 00:55:21,960
Speaker 1: for a lot of my life when I don't have

1044
00:55:22,000 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 1: a partner. Um, I'm really grateful for it, but I

1045
00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:29,279
Speaker 1: do acknowledge that it ruins lives all the time, and

1046
00:55:29,719 --> 00:55:31,680
Speaker 1: um a lot more than they wants talking about. Some

1047
00:55:31,680 --> 00:55:35,080
Speaker 1: I'm glad Billy brought this up. Yeah, it's uh. I

1048
00:55:35,120 --> 00:55:37,799
Speaker 1: guess when you're younger and you watch porn and then

1049
00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:40,480
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I guess my first time, I'm just

1050
00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:43,520
Speaker 1: gonna be bent over doggy and like spit on and

1051
00:55:43,560 --> 00:55:45,800
Speaker 1: it's like, well, that's what it is, as opposed to

1052
00:55:45,920 --> 00:55:49,680
Speaker 1: like a loving like connection where you're like really like,

1053
00:55:50,360 --> 00:55:54,200
Speaker 1: you know, connecting with the person. You know. Porn is

1054
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:57,840
Speaker 1: all about disconnection. A lot of times guys think they

1055
00:55:57,920 --> 00:56:00,600
Speaker 1: don't even I think. I think they're eyes that think

1056
00:56:00,680 --> 00:56:03,400
Speaker 1: that they don't mimic things they see in porn. They

1057
00:56:03,440 --> 00:56:06,399
Speaker 1: think they're different than the guys that spitting girls mouth

1058
00:56:06,520 --> 00:56:09,680
Speaker 1: and yank their hair, like slap them and stuff. You

1059
00:56:09,800 --> 00:56:11,920
Speaker 1: hear about like guys mimicking porn, and they go, I'm

1060
00:56:11,960 --> 00:56:15,240
Speaker 1: not like that. You all are? You all do stuff

1061
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:18,000
Speaker 1: that you see in porn. It's just you can't help it,

1062
00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:25,000
Speaker 1: but it happens, and it class you know, Like I

1063
00:56:25,080 --> 00:56:27,440
Speaker 1: live my life based on rom coms, you know, like

1064
00:56:27,560 --> 00:56:30,160
Speaker 1: I I view everything through lens of like a fucking

1065
00:56:30,280 --> 00:56:35,360
Speaker 1: romantic comedy written by Nora Ephron, and that's fucked up

1066
00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:38,279
Speaker 1: my perception of romance. And you know, fairy Tales and

1067
00:56:38,640 --> 00:56:41,280
Speaker 1: Disney movies also have Really I was watching with Special

1068
00:56:41,360 --> 00:56:44,200
Speaker 1: last night, I have so many references to rom coms

1069
00:56:44,640 --> 00:56:47,680
Speaker 1: and Disney movies, and I realized it's made so much

1070
00:56:47,880 --> 00:56:54,680
Speaker 1: of it's it's it's made me. I just love the Yeah,

1071
00:56:55,000 --> 00:56:59,160
Speaker 1: I love like the crush and the drama around and

1072
00:56:59,239 --> 00:57:02,719
Speaker 1: then the most when the crushes revealed. And then like

1073
00:57:02,880 --> 00:57:06,560
Speaker 1: I used to role play with my ex boyfriend, like

1074
00:57:06,880 --> 00:57:08,680
Speaker 1: we have a crush on each other and we've never

1075
00:57:08,840 --> 00:57:11,160
Speaker 1: told each other, and we're sharing a bed because there's

1076
00:57:11,200 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 1: a storm at this conference that we're at and they

1077
00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:16,240
Speaker 1: didn't have enough hotel rooms and we have to share

1078
00:57:16,280 --> 00:57:18,360
Speaker 1: a bed and we both always liked each other. He goes,

1079
00:57:18,800 --> 00:57:20,680
Speaker 1: do you have a crush on someone in your life

1080
00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:21,960
Speaker 1: right now that you want to do this? And I

1081
00:57:22,040 --> 00:57:24,800
Speaker 1: was like, um no, I just want to do this,

1082
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:27,120
Speaker 1: and it was like he was so dead on it

1083
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 1: was I was so busted. And then you asked him

1084
00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:34,240
Speaker 1: to be a house over time, over ten years, and

1085
00:57:34,280 --> 00:57:36,240
Speaker 1: then you come back to the small town and the

1086
00:57:36,320 --> 00:57:38,480
Speaker 1: house you dreamed of this build for you, and then

1087
00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:42,280
Speaker 1: you here's the problem though. You get together and then

1088
00:57:42,320 --> 00:57:46,200
Speaker 1: the credits roll. There's no you never see I don't

1089
00:57:46,240 --> 00:57:48,520
Speaker 1: know what happens next after that. For me, I have

1090
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 1: to start the movie over again. There's no when you

1091
00:57:51,480 --> 00:57:54,479
Speaker 1: get the guy, there's no I don't know what happens next.

1092
00:57:54,920 --> 00:57:57,480
Speaker 1: There's no. There's no examples of that, you know, even

1093
00:57:57,600 --> 00:58:01,280
Speaker 1: Ross and Rachel. Okay, well you he cheats on you,

1094
00:58:01,800 --> 00:58:03,520
Speaker 1: and then you get mad at him, and then you

1095
00:58:03,640 --> 00:58:05,800
Speaker 1: take him back, and then you get mad at him again.

1096
00:58:06,040 --> 00:58:08,800
Speaker 1: It's just this constant. My life needs to look like

1097
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:12,000
Speaker 1: an episode, you know, a season of Friends. Yeah you don't.

1098
00:58:12,040 --> 00:58:16,640
Speaker 1: You don't. Can't have happiness. No, it cannot sustain because

1099
00:58:16,760 --> 00:58:18,360
Speaker 1: what who would want to watch them? A lot of

1100
00:58:18,400 --> 00:58:22,120
Speaker 1: those shows, like all the rawness and the sadness gets

1101
00:58:22,200 --> 00:58:25,480
Speaker 1: taken out with like he cheated on me, and then

1102
00:58:25,520 --> 00:58:28,040
Speaker 1: you think like that's how life is. And then you

1103
00:58:28,160 --> 00:58:31,480
Speaker 1: watch like the show, uh, that marriage show that was

1104
00:58:31,600 --> 00:58:35,400
Speaker 1: just on, and then you're like, Okay, that's that seems

1105
00:58:35,400 --> 00:58:37,360
Speaker 1: a little at least a little bit more and all

1106
00:58:37,400 --> 00:58:39,320
Speaker 1: those two real. Then people are like it's too real,

1107
00:58:39,640 --> 00:58:42,000
Speaker 1: it's too much like like you know what I mean,

1108
00:58:42,120 --> 00:58:46,160
Speaker 1: Like shows are either like in your face, like crushing,

1109
00:58:46,400 --> 00:58:49,640
Speaker 1: or they're like I have to say though the friends

1110
00:58:49,720 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know if you're familiar with When

1111
00:58:51,720 --> 00:58:55,000
Speaker 1: um Ross cheated on Rachel. They were on a break, okay,

1112
00:58:55,720 --> 00:59:00,080
Speaker 1: and he he went out and he slept with this

1113
00:59:00,360 --> 00:59:03,640
Speaker 1: woman and she found out about it because Gunther told her,

1114
00:59:03,880 --> 00:59:07,840
Speaker 1: because Gunther was in love with her, and the whole

1115
00:59:07,960 --> 00:59:10,160
Speaker 1: thing was like, we were on a break and she's like,

1116
00:59:10,360 --> 00:59:12,600
Speaker 1: we weren't on a like we were, but that didn't

1117
00:59:12,600 --> 00:59:15,080
Speaker 1: mean you should god fuck another girl. And he he

1118
00:59:15,240 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 1: thought that she was done with him, and so he

1119
00:59:17,640 --> 00:59:20,120
Speaker 1: got drunk and slept with this girl. And you know,

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Speaker 1: I remember being in like seventh grade watching that, being

1121
00:59:22,280 --> 00:59:26,360
Speaker 1: like that fucking whore who took Ross from Rachel, Like

1122
00:59:26,400 --> 00:59:29,560
Speaker 1: I was the girl instead of Ross, so stupid. I

1123
00:59:29,640 --> 00:59:31,920
Speaker 1: was like her dumb, spiky blonde hair, she's not even cute,

1124
00:59:32,360 --> 00:59:34,160
Speaker 1: and she like I just had so much And I

1125
00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:37,200
Speaker 1: hated Emily. I hated anyone that was between Ross and Rachel.

1126
00:59:37,800 --> 00:59:41,680
Speaker 1: And the thing is like they did explore how hurtful

1127
00:59:41,760 --> 00:59:44,320
Speaker 1: that was. There was some really good scenes where he's

1128
00:59:44,360 --> 00:59:46,959
Speaker 1: just like, Rache, please, and she's just like, I can't,

1129
00:59:47,040 --> 00:59:48,960
Speaker 1: why would you do this to me? And it's really

1130
00:59:49,160 --> 00:59:52,080
Speaker 1: was sad and gripping, and um man, those scenes are good.

1131
00:59:52,120 --> 00:59:55,600
Speaker 1: My favorite scene ever though for two people getting together.

1132
00:59:56,280 --> 01:00:00,440
Speaker 1: I've watched it a million times, I've legit weren't to me,

1133
01:00:01,080 --> 01:00:04,040
Speaker 1: is when Jim tells Pam that he likes that he's

1134
01:00:04,040 --> 01:00:06,760
Speaker 1: in love with her. She's like, there, it's after the

1135
01:00:06,800 --> 01:00:13,360
Speaker 1: casino night and that Michael company. It's a it's a

1136
01:00:13,360 --> 01:00:16,520
Speaker 1: casino night. And then you know, you know Jennet or

1137
01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:20,440
Speaker 1: Pam is dating that Roy guy at this they're engaged,

1138
01:00:20,800 --> 01:00:25,439
Speaker 1: so Roy. They're they're going outside and uh, she's gonna

1139
01:00:25,480 --> 01:00:27,240
Speaker 1: get a right home from Jim because she's gonna stay later,

1140
01:00:27,280 --> 01:00:29,880
Speaker 1: and she's saying good by to Roy. Roy like drives

1141
01:00:29,960 --> 01:00:32,600
Speaker 1: off and he's like, hey watch my lady tonight, Jim,

1142
01:00:32,640 --> 01:00:34,880
Speaker 1: and Jim's like take care. And then they're walking and

1143
01:00:34,960 --> 01:00:37,680
Speaker 1: you can just tell the Gym's just like he's just

1144
01:00:37,920 --> 01:00:40,800
Speaker 1: needs to say it, and she's like, He's like, I

1145
01:00:40,880 --> 01:00:42,280
Speaker 1: need to talk to you about something, and she's like

1146
01:00:42,480 --> 01:00:45,000
Speaker 1: about me taking more of your money because I can

1147
01:00:45,080 --> 01:00:47,400
Speaker 1: do that. Like she's like keeping it light, like the

1148
01:00:47,520 --> 01:00:50,880
Speaker 1: casino night, she's like about me like and he just goes,

1149
01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:53,640
Speaker 1: I'm in love with you and she's just like what.

1150
01:00:54,080 --> 01:00:56,400
Speaker 1: And it's just such a good scene and he's like,

1151
01:00:56,520 --> 01:01:00,520
Speaker 1: I just I just needed you to know. And she's like, Jim, no,

1152
01:01:00,880 --> 01:01:04,200
Speaker 1: like I value your friendship, and he goes, don't do that.

1153
01:01:04,400 --> 01:01:06,120
Speaker 1: Don't do that, don't say that, and she's like so

1154
01:01:06,360 --> 01:01:08,600
Speaker 1: much and he's like, don't do that. I don't want that.

1155
01:01:08,800 --> 01:01:11,000
Speaker 1: I don't want that, and she's like I can't and

1156
01:01:11,080 --> 01:01:14,880
Speaker 1: he's like, okay, well, I just needed you to know.

1157
01:01:15,000 --> 01:01:17,320
Speaker 1: And he's like so mad. He's like mad but sad.

1158
01:01:17,520 --> 01:01:19,720
Speaker 1: Then he walks away and then it cuts to the

1159
01:01:19,800 --> 01:01:22,520
Speaker 1: scene back of the casino party, and then it goes

1160
01:01:22,600 --> 01:01:24,800
Speaker 1: to the scene in the office and you just see

1161
01:01:24,800 --> 01:01:26,920
Speaker 1: her silhouette in the office and it's dark and she's

1162
01:01:26,960 --> 01:01:29,040
Speaker 1: calling your mom and she's like, I don't know, mom,

1163
01:01:30,440 --> 01:01:32,640
Speaker 1: he just said it, and you can hear her mom,

1164
01:01:32,720 --> 01:01:34,240
Speaker 1: Like you don't hear her mom. But she's like, do

1165
01:01:34,280 --> 01:01:36,040
Speaker 1: you love him too? And she's like I don't know.

1166
01:01:36,200 --> 01:01:38,320
Speaker 1: I think I do. And then you just see Jim

1167
01:01:38,440 --> 01:01:41,320
Speaker 1: walk in and he like, here's a conversation and he

1168
01:01:41,400 --> 01:01:42,920
Speaker 1: just goes up to her and kisses her. It's so

1169
01:01:43,160 --> 01:01:45,840
Speaker 1: fucking good. Does anyone else out there and the other

1170
01:01:45,880 --> 01:01:48,040
Speaker 1: best he's watched these scenes and if you I think

1171
01:01:48,040 --> 01:01:49,760
Speaker 1: I've asked for these before, but you send me more

1172
01:01:49,760 --> 01:01:51,680
Speaker 1: of them. Someone send me the pride and Prejudice ones

1173
01:01:53,000 --> 01:01:59,160
Speaker 1: that you've got mail ending. I wanted it to be you.

1174
01:01:59,600 --> 01:02:02,520
Speaker 1: I want to did you so badly? Okay, let's get

1175
01:02:02,520 --> 01:02:08,520
Speaker 1: to the red. Also, what mattress do you think best?

1176
01:02:09,600 --> 01:02:11,520
Speaker 1: I love that you called her mom. Yeah, that's such

1177
01:02:11,520 --> 01:02:13,120
Speaker 1: a I would totally do that, but I was like,

1178
01:02:13,160 --> 01:02:16,760
Speaker 1: I don't want to hear my mom would have no

1179
01:02:16,920 --> 01:02:26,080
Speaker 1: interesting This is your reddit dom Uh. This is uh

1180
01:02:26,480 --> 01:02:29,520
Speaker 1: something I saved from the subreddit anti natalism, which is

1181
01:02:29,640 --> 01:02:33,320
Speaker 1: people who don't want to have kids anti natalism. And

1182
01:02:33,440 --> 01:02:35,360
Speaker 1: this is a tweet that someone shared from a guy

1183
01:02:35,480 --> 01:02:40,640
Speaker 1: named they love kJ They with two wise little kids

1184
01:02:40,720 --> 01:02:43,840
Speaker 1: talking about when I grow up, little kids talking about quote,

1185
01:02:43,920 --> 01:02:46,960
Speaker 1: when I grow up, man, it's seventy in December. You

1186
01:02:47,040 --> 01:02:52,120
Speaker 1: ain't growing up. L m a O. I'm gonna share

1187
01:02:52,120 --> 01:02:53,959
Speaker 1: that on my story later. It's like it's so true.

1188
01:02:54,720 --> 01:02:58,840
Speaker 1: China is gonna take over the world is literally crumbling.

1189
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:02,800
Speaker 1: Russia has finally knowledge that climate change is a crisis.

1190
01:03:03,000 --> 01:03:05,560
Speaker 1: Like Russia is even like, yeah, this is bad. Um

1191
01:03:05,680 --> 01:03:10,800
Speaker 1: it's not looking good. Um uh. This is an adorable

1192
01:03:10,920 --> 01:03:13,320
Speaker 1: thing from made Me smile that I'm gonna play. It's

1193
01:03:13,400 --> 01:03:16,680
Speaker 1: just a guy on TikTok interviewing kids and his account

1194
01:03:16,840 --> 01:03:20,440
Speaker 1: is called like Recess Underscore Therapy. And there's this little kid.

1195
01:03:20,480 --> 01:03:23,480
Speaker 1: I wanted to show him to you, okay, And that's

1196
01:03:23,520 --> 01:03:25,760
Speaker 1: the guy interviewing him. And he's just like a little kid.

1197
01:03:25,840 --> 01:03:29,800
Speaker 1: He's so cute. He's probably like a six years old,

1198
01:03:29,840 --> 01:03:32,800
Speaker 1: six or seven, and he's talking about his favorite animal.

1199
01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:38,160
Speaker 1: And I just want to play this. If you could

1200
01:03:38,160 --> 01:03:39,840
Speaker 1: talk to clari dragons, what do you think you'd say

1201
01:03:39,880 --> 01:03:43,000
Speaker 1: to them? I love you? What do you think they'd

1202
01:03:43,000 --> 01:03:46,680
Speaker 1: say to you? I think Do you think they'd say

1203
01:03:46,720 --> 01:03:49,960
Speaker 1: I love you back? Oh? Yeah, baby? What would you

1204
01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:52,360
Speaker 1: do if you went to Pannizia? I'll just ride in

1205
01:03:52,440 --> 01:03:55,880
Speaker 1: all the commoter dragons? But I know that commoter dragets

1206
01:03:56,000 --> 01:04:04,000
Speaker 1: eat people. What they eat what a special animal eats people?

1207
01:04:04,760 --> 01:04:08,480
Speaker 1: Are you afraid of him? Yeah, not at all. Definitely not.

1208
01:04:09,480 --> 01:04:12,880
Speaker 1: They could eat people, which is so special. Do you

1209
01:04:13,000 --> 01:04:17,320
Speaker 1: want to see an animal in people? Actually? Definitely? Why

1210
01:04:18,160 --> 01:04:25,560
Speaker 1: because it's like I've never seen an animal eat Yeah,

1211
01:04:26,240 --> 01:04:29,000
Speaker 1: though they might eat me, I still love them. They're

1212
01:04:29,040 --> 01:04:34,200
Speaker 1: the best basically, right right basically? Isn't that so cute?

1213
01:04:34,920 --> 01:04:37,040
Speaker 1: He's kind of leading him to be like a kid

1214
01:04:37,080 --> 01:04:39,320
Speaker 1: because you do hear did you hear them? Go? You

1215
01:04:39,400 --> 01:04:41,360
Speaker 1: don't even you still like them if they eat a people,

1216
01:04:41,880 --> 01:04:43,760
Speaker 1: That's what the interviewer said. He goes, yeah, it's still

1217
01:04:43,800 --> 01:04:45,840
Speaker 1: like them if they ate a person. He's like stopped

1218
01:04:45,880 --> 01:04:48,320
Speaker 1: talking to me, like, yeah, I know exactly. I'm talking

1219
01:04:48,400 --> 01:04:52,560
Speaker 1: about someone getting destroyed by a dragon. I know what

1220
01:04:52,640 --> 01:04:55,640
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Yeah, the kid is like they're trying to

1221
01:04:55,680 --> 01:04:58,120
Speaker 1: make okay. And then this is maybe the keyest they

1222
01:04:58,120 --> 01:05:01,000
Speaker 1: I've ever seen. I say this the their night. This

1223
01:05:01,200 --> 01:05:04,000
Speaker 1: is from made me smile as well, the subreddit this

1224
01:05:04,240 --> 01:05:06,720
Speaker 1: is It says she likes to balance farm birds on

1225
01:05:06,800 --> 01:05:09,920
Speaker 1: her head and it is a probably two or it's

1226
01:05:09,920 --> 01:05:12,640
Speaker 1: probably three and a half year old girl that just

1227
01:05:13,080 --> 01:05:16,000
Speaker 1: likes to put chickens on her head. And it sounds

1228
01:05:16,080 --> 01:05:18,600
Speaker 1: not cute, but I swear to you you've gotta go

1229
01:05:18,720 --> 01:05:20,600
Speaker 1: watch this. It's on made me smile, and you can

1230
01:05:20,680 --> 01:05:23,160
Speaker 1: find it with She likes to balance farm, animals on

1231
01:05:23,360 --> 01:05:28,920
Speaker 1: her farm, birds on her head. They'll show you a

1232
01:05:29,000 --> 01:05:43,920
Speaker 1: little bit of this. Ah h, that is really cute.

1233
01:05:45,320 --> 01:05:48,400
Speaker 1: I know this is bad for audio, but we can

1234
01:05:48,440 --> 01:05:52,240
Speaker 1: cut it. Okay, it's just her balancing. Look at this

1235
01:05:52,360 --> 01:05:55,760
Speaker 1: outfit that she's wearing. Look how cool she looks. I

1236
01:05:55,880 --> 01:05:57,880
Speaker 1: just love a little girl who don't give a fucking

1237
01:05:57,920 --> 01:06:01,080
Speaker 1: has parents that dressed them like super cool m and

1238
01:06:01,160 --> 01:06:02,680
Speaker 1: I don't even know how that turned into like a

1239
01:06:02,760 --> 01:06:05,440
Speaker 1: talent that she likes. It's so cute. Um. Okay, this

1240
01:06:05,600 --> 01:06:09,080
Speaker 1: is from the subreddit science. As many as half of

1241
01:06:09,160 --> 01:06:13,000
Speaker 1: all drinkers underestimate how drunk they were, judging themselves still

1242
01:06:13,080 --> 01:06:16,360
Speaker 1: safe to drive despite having exceeded the legal driving limit,

1243
01:06:16,680 --> 01:06:20,960
Speaker 1: in new research published today. Okay, so what does that

1244
01:06:21,040 --> 01:06:24,680
Speaker 1: tell you? When you get drunk, the part of your

1245
01:06:24,720 --> 01:06:27,480
Speaker 1: brain that goes, I'm too drunk to drive gets drunk.

1246
01:06:28,440 --> 01:06:31,680
Speaker 1: So you people always go, I'm just gonna have a couple. Well,

1247
01:06:31,720 --> 01:06:33,840
Speaker 1: the person that only is going to have a couple

1248
01:06:34,000 --> 01:06:38,479
Speaker 1: gets drunk, and that person is no longer steering the ship.

1249
01:06:39,680 --> 01:06:42,440
Speaker 1: So as many as half of all drinkers underestimate how

1250
01:06:42,520 --> 01:06:45,280
Speaker 1: drunk they were. How is their research from to tell

1251
01:06:45,400 --> 01:06:49,280
Speaker 1: you our research? How's that research from today? Didn't we

1252
01:06:49,320 --> 01:06:52,640
Speaker 1: all know that? I mean I would have guessed probably

1253
01:06:52,760 --> 01:06:56,520
Speaker 1: that would have just as a good remind I've already

1254
01:06:56,560 --> 01:06:59,840
Speaker 1: had like nine drinks over like seven hours, Like I'm fine,

1255
01:07:00,200 --> 01:07:03,840
Speaker 1: Like what is wrong with you? Like, don't my car

1256
01:07:04,960 --> 01:07:07,480
Speaker 1: it's not a car. I'm on top of it. Oh

1257
01:07:07,520 --> 01:07:10,360
Speaker 1: my god, I just suck the exhaust. You know. It's

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01:07:10,400 --> 01:07:13,880
Speaker 1: like I love that was the best thing about um,

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01:07:14,280 --> 01:07:20,880
Speaker 1: not drinking was never being drunk. When I'm like never

1260
01:07:21,200 --> 01:07:25,200
Speaker 1: being if I get pulled over, the calmness is so

1261
01:07:25,440 --> 01:07:28,479
Speaker 1: much more because you know you would have you would

1262
01:07:28,480 --> 01:07:30,440
Speaker 1: feel like you're fine, maybe drunk the night before and

1263
01:07:30,480 --> 01:07:32,760
Speaker 1: in the morning, even like it could be in your

1264
01:07:32,800 --> 01:07:35,240
Speaker 1: system still you would just still have like guilt constantly,

1265
01:07:35,360 --> 01:07:38,120
Speaker 1: like maybe I smell like it or something like when

1266
01:07:38,160 --> 01:07:40,320
Speaker 1: you have that freedom of not having that or even

1267
01:07:40,400 --> 01:07:42,720
Speaker 1: with pot too, when I quit pot, like just not

1268
01:07:42,880 --> 01:07:46,400
Speaker 1: worrying at the airport, not worrying about literally never having

1269
01:07:46,520 --> 01:07:50,320
Speaker 1: to work when you go and I used to party

1270
01:07:50,600 --> 01:07:52,440
Speaker 1: and like maybe I would like do two bumps of

1271
01:07:52,520 --> 01:07:55,680
Speaker 1: cocaine Mexico, and then you get on the plane and

1272
01:07:55,760 --> 01:07:58,560
Speaker 1: you see a drug dog and you're like, I, I

1273
01:07:58,960 --> 01:08:00,560
Speaker 1: have a lot of coke in my even though like

1274
01:08:00,600 --> 01:08:03,920
Speaker 1: I didn't buy it. I didn't even like barely even

1275
01:08:04,000 --> 01:08:07,000
Speaker 1: snorted it. And I'm like, I have seven kilos in

1276
01:08:07,080 --> 01:08:10,000
Speaker 1: my bag, and it's yeah, just that peace of mind.

1277
01:08:11,160 --> 01:08:13,360
Speaker 1: I was just to say when I quit drinking, like

1278
01:08:14,280 --> 01:08:16,840
Speaker 1: I used to always be scared that I would repeat myself.

1279
01:08:16,880 --> 01:08:18,320
Speaker 1: I would tell stories when I was drunk, and then

1280
01:08:18,360 --> 01:08:20,200
Speaker 1: people the next day would go, you said that to

1281
01:08:20,320 --> 01:08:22,680
Speaker 1: us last night, what were you black out? And be

1282
01:08:22,760 --> 01:08:25,160
Speaker 1: so embarrassing. So I started just not telling stories ever

1283
01:08:25,400 --> 01:08:27,560
Speaker 1: when I was sober, because I just didn't want to

1284
01:08:27,640 --> 01:08:32,120
Speaker 1: that reaction. And and I remember what a relief it

1285
01:08:32,360 --> 01:08:35,200
Speaker 1: was when I had some sobriety and under my belt

1286
01:08:35,560 --> 01:08:39,680
Speaker 1: from drinking and people would go, you know, oh, we

1287
01:08:39,800 --> 01:08:42,040
Speaker 1: met before, and I go, oh, I don't remember, and

1288
01:08:42,120 --> 01:08:44,720
Speaker 1: they go when did we meet and they're like, oh,

1289
01:08:44,800 --> 01:08:48,559
Speaker 1: it was December of twenty twelve, and I go, oh,

1290
01:08:48,680 --> 01:08:50,920
Speaker 1: well I was sober. Then you that's your fault. You're

1291
01:08:50,960 --> 01:08:53,439
Speaker 1: not interesting, And it's like it's not my fault anymore

1292
01:08:53,479 --> 01:08:55,000
Speaker 1: that I don't remember you. I used to always just

1293
01:08:55,080 --> 01:08:57,439
Speaker 1: have or I didn't remember a story or a fact, like,

1294
01:08:57,840 --> 01:08:59,600
Speaker 1: and it's never your fault, like even if you are

1295
01:09:00,040 --> 01:09:02,400
Speaker 1: using your memory. I'm just like, my dad gets so

1296
01:09:02,479 --> 01:09:04,600
Speaker 1: mad at my mom because her memories kind of you know,

1297
01:09:05,080 --> 01:09:07,960
Speaker 1: going a little bit more because she's an aging woman.

1298
01:09:08,040 --> 01:09:10,400
Speaker 1: It just happens to everyone, and he gets mad at her,

1299
01:09:10,400 --> 01:09:12,839
Speaker 1: and I go, do you think she wants to forget?

1300
01:09:13,320 --> 01:09:15,840
Speaker 1: This sucks? Don't make fun of her, don't get mad,

1301
01:09:16,560 --> 01:09:19,880
Speaker 1: just you know, be gentle with people who can't remember.

1302
01:09:19,880 --> 01:09:23,160
Speaker 1: But I always used to have so much regret. Let's

1303
01:09:23,200 --> 01:09:27,599
Speaker 1: get to the final thought. Okay, this is from the subreddit. Damn,

1304
01:09:27,680 --> 01:09:31,439
Speaker 1: that's interesting and it says, uh crazy to think that

1305
01:09:31,560 --> 01:09:34,439
Speaker 1: George Jetson will be conceived this weekend and this was

1306
01:09:34,479 --> 01:09:37,160
Speaker 1: two weeks ago. But it says George Jetson on his

1307
01:09:37,200 --> 01:09:43,560
Speaker 1: Wikipedia his birthday is August and so that means that

1308
01:09:43,760 --> 01:09:48,360
Speaker 1: he was his parents had sex two weeks ago. Is

1309
01:09:48,520 --> 01:09:53,120
Speaker 1: that funny? Like that wait, he was like, it's been

1310
01:09:53,200 --> 01:09:56,479
Speaker 1: like in the world of the Jetsons, George Jetson was

1311
01:09:56,560 --> 01:09:59,400
Speaker 1: conceived and and you know they have flying little ships

1312
01:09:59,479 --> 01:10:02,000
Speaker 1: and they have right now I'm just trying to think, Like,

1313
01:10:03,000 --> 01:10:04,840
Speaker 1: you know, there was a flying car I saw on

1314
01:10:04,960 --> 01:10:07,960
Speaker 1: TikTok where it's a car and then the wings come

1315
01:10:08,000 --> 01:10:12,519
Speaker 1: out from it. Mm hmmm. Are people gonna fly like

1316
01:10:12,720 --> 01:10:14,280
Speaker 1: these cars? Like? Is that going to be a thing?

1317
01:10:14,400 --> 01:10:17,240
Speaker 1: You think? Like, do you really think that there's gonna

1318
01:10:17,280 --> 01:10:20,560
Speaker 1: be flying like like a person? There could be. I

1319
01:10:20,640 --> 01:10:23,439
Speaker 1: think we would have that. I think that's what we'll

1320
01:10:23,479 --> 01:10:26,640
Speaker 1: head to if there's all these restrictions for drones, for

1321
01:10:26,720 --> 01:10:28,760
Speaker 1: flying drones, so there's no way they're going to put

1322
01:10:29,880 --> 01:10:35,160
Speaker 1: super highways that we can manage it. I think it

1323
01:10:35,200 --> 01:10:37,599
Speaker 1: would be a thing. Okay, this is from TikTok Cringe

1324
01:10:38,880 --> 01:10:41,639
Speaker 1: and this says, um, this is a girl who's walking around.

1325
01:10:41,680 --> 01:10:43,719
Speaker 1: This is just like things on TikTok that makes you cringe.

1326
01:10:44,160 --> 01:10:46,919
Speaker 1: And this is a girl that doesn't wear shoes ever anywhere.

1327
01:10:47,080 --> 01:10:51,840
Speaker 1: It's so gross, even to public restrooms. Dude, she's just

1328
01:10:51,960 --> 01:10:53,840
Speaker 1: going everywhere with no shoes. I don't even know how

1329
01:10:53,880 --> 01:10:56,960
Speaker 1: she gets in half these places, because I would I

1330
01:10:56,960 --> 01:10:59,080
Speaker 1: would feel so weird walking around bareft if I had

1331
01:10:59,080 --> 01:11:00,800
Speaker 1: to go, you know, on the hallway to get some

1332
01:11:01,000 --> 01:11:04,720
Speaker 1: to the ice machine at a hotel with that I get,

1333
01:11:05,520 --> 01:11:07,439
Speaker 1: I get I feel weird crunchy mom, but I have

1334
01:11:07,640 --> 01:11:09,680
Speaker 1: yet to step in anything sharp. I know that one

1335
01:11:09,760 --> 01:11:12,960
Speaker 1: day I inevitably will step in glass and it will hurt, yes,

1336
01:11:13,040 --> 01:11:15,160
Speaker 1: but not as bad as the severe foot pain wearing

1337
01:11:15,240 --> 01:11:18,840
Speaker 1: feet prisons has caused me to life that I have

1338
01:11:18,920 --> 01:11:21,559
Speaker 1: been given to the fullest. Are we not wearing feet prisons?

1339
01:11:21,600 --> 01:11:24,080
Speaker 1: We would experience the world mostly through our feet. Wearing

1340
01:11:24,200 --> 01:11:27,200
Speaker 1: shoes is like wearing a blindfold or noise canceling headphones.

1341
01:11:27,280 --> 01:11:29,599
Speaker 1: Think about everything you're missing out on when you wear shoes,

1342
01:11:29,840 --> 01:11:32,479
Speaker 1: especially right after it rains. I choose not to wear

1343
01:11:32,560 --> 01:11:34,360
Speaker 1: shoes for the same reason I choose not to have

1344
01:11:34,439 --> 01:11:37,120
Speaker 1: epidurals or take taile at all. They one is disconnected

1345
01:11:37,200 --> 01:11:39,840
Speaker 1: from our mind, body, soul, and the earth so that

1346
01:11:39,920 --> 01:11:42,280
Speaker 1: they can sell us products. If you think this video

1347
01:11:42,360 --> 01:11:44,280
Speaker 1: is weird, I would like to ask you a question,

1348
01:11:44,479 --> 01:11:47,680
Speaker 1: who are you living for yourself or to appease advertisers

1349
01:11:47,720 --> 01:11:53,240
Speaker 1: and make other people more comfortable? Thoughts? Whoa thoughts? She

1350
01:11:53,320 --> 01:11:56,400
Speaker 1: didn't have me until that last part. I know, I

1351
01:11:56,520 --> 01:11:58,920
Speaker 1: know that it sounded like Noah to me that last part.

1352
01:11:59,240 --> 01:12:01,280
Speaker 1: When I watched it initially, I was like Okay. I

1353
01:12:01,400 --> 01:12:03,320
Speaker 1: was like, she was calling shoes feet prisons, and I

1354
01:12:03,400 --> 01:12:06,160
Speaker 1: was just like, bitch, you need him to check yourself

1355
01:12:06,200 --> 01:12:10,240
Speaker 1: from glass instead. Honestly, we have callouses that do that.

1356
01:12:10,439 --> 01:12:13,479
Speaker 1: That's why we grow callouses is to have like soles

1357
01:12:14,120 --> 01:12:17,519
Speaker 1: of our feet. Yeah, I mean I agree with her

1358
01:12:17,560 --> 01:12:21,599
Speaker 1: because my feet are mangled from shoes. Shoes cause bunyan. Yeah,

1359
01:12:21,600 --> 01:12:23,880
Speaker 1: but if you live you live in St. Louis in

1360
01:12:23,960 --> 01:12:27,080
Speaker 1: the winter, you need you need shoot, Like shoes came

1361
01:12:27,240 --> 01:12:31,800
Speaker 1: out of necessity. They didn't come because like, okay, what's

1362
01:12:31,840 --> 01:12:34,439
Speaker 1: that you live in a beach, don't wear That's fine.

1363
01:12:34,680 --> 01:12:37,920
Speaker 1: People wear flip flops, which is essentially almost barefoot. I mean,

1364
01:12:38,120 --> 01:12:41,080
Speaker 1: people don't wear shoes. Like not wearing deodorant. People are like,

1365
01:12:41,320 --> 01:12:42,600
Speaker 1: but your feet are gonna sink, and it's like, but

1366
01:12:42,680 --> 01:12:45,280
Speaker 1: I don't wear deodorant, so I don't stink because deodorant

1367
01:12:45,320 --> 01:12:49,200
Speaker 1: causes the stink. She was caused the stink, you know, yes,

1368
01:12:49,640 --> 01:12:52,240
Speaker 1: but feet don't stink if you're not putting them in

1369
01:12:52,320 --> 01:12:57,160
Speaker 1: socks with moisture and mold. Noah, Well, I was going

1370
01:12:57,200 --> 01:13:00,800
Speaker 1: to say that last part about connecting to the earth

1371
01:13:00,880 --> 01:13:03,559
Speaker 1: and stuff. That's the part I really like, and it's

1372
01:13:03,600 --> 01:13:08,840
Speaker 1: the reason why I enjoy camping. Yeah, the noise canceling headphones,

1373
01:13:09,000 --> 01:13:15,519
Speaker 1: the other things she's talking like, yeah, you know that's

1374
01:13:16,200 --> 01:13:17,599
Speaker 1: because you want to wear one so you don't get

1375
01:13:17,600 --> 01:13:20,479
Speaker 1: that girl bright. Yeah. Yeah, So because you don't want

1376
01:13:20,520 --> 01:13:22,120
Speaker 1: to have to keep that kind of person in your life.

1377
01:13:22,120 --> 01:13:23,479
Speaker 1: I don't want to be around there. What you don't

1378
01:13:23,479 --> 01:13:31,760
Speaker 1: have an epidermal or whatever several? All right, well, yeah,

1379
01:13:31,800 --> 01:13:33,600
Speaker 1: it's something to think about. I think that it's it

1380
01:13:33,760 --> 01:13:35,559
Speaker 1: is good to go barefoot into connect with the earth.

1381
01:13:35,640 --> 01:13:37,560
Speaker 1: And maybe you're right, that is why, like nature is

1382
01:13:37,640 --> 01:13:41,759
Speaker 1: so important. But if you're in a farming and stuff,

1383
01:13:41,800 --> 01:13:44,679
Speaker 1: if you're at an out out back and your shoe list,

1384
01:13:44,920 --> 01:13:48,160
Speaker 1: it's it seems like a selfish decision. But if we

1385
01:13:48,320 --> 01:13:51,040
Speaker 1: all didn't wear shoes, it wouldn't seem that weird. No,

1386
01:13:51,520 --> 01:13:53,040
Speaker 1: But I mean, if you're on a flight and you're

1387
01:13:53,040 --> 01:13:55,479
Speaker 1: sitting next to a guy and his feet are out,

1388
01:13:55,680 --> 01:13:58,880
Speaker 1: it's just it's a lot. It's gross because we are

1389
01:13:59,040 --> 01:14:01,400
Speaker 1: used to seeing shoes and we're not used to seeing feet.

1390
01:14:01,400 --> 01:14:04,280
Speaker 1: But that's the only reason it's gross. And I get

1391
01:14:04,520 --> 01:14:06,799
Speaker 1: the same with pubic hair or hair on a woman's

1392
01:14:06,880 --> 01:14:09,640
Speaker 1: legs like it's all based on marketing. So she kind

1393
01:14:09,680 --> 01:14:12,000
Speaker 1: of has a point. Fuck, I wanted to make fun

1394
01:14:12,080 --> 01:14:15,200
Speaker 1: of her, but with until I think I'm in an

1395
01:14:15,320 --> 01:14:18,960
Speaker 1: enclosed space with you and I'm inside a shoe next

1396
01:14:19,000 --> 01:14:22,000
Speaker 1: to you, you know what I mean? Like, oh my god,

1397
01:14:22,439 --> 01:14:24,800
Speaker 1: can I play one more? Noah? Okay, yes, and then

1398
01:14:24,840 --> 01:14:27,679
Speaker 1: wrap it up. This girl is so this is so amazing.

1399
01:14:29,360 --> 01:14:32,040
Speaker 1: She's like hot till like there's something about her that

1400
01:14:32,200 --> 01:14:35,200
Speaker 1: her confidence is just so sexy. She's not wearing bra

1401
01:14:35,520 --> 01:14:38,080
Speaker 1: Is this from TikTok Crene? So sometimes TikTok Crine just

1402
01:14:38,240 --> 01:14:41,120
Speaker 1: has good things and I don't understand why, but this

1403
01:14:41,280 --> 01:14:48,920
Speaker 1: one is fucking great. It makes great points. No. Wait,

1404
01:14:48,960 --> 01:14:54,200
Speaker 1: so she's she's eating chick. That's cool. So against warm No,

1405
01:14:54,640 --> 01:15:00,840
Speaker 1: you're pro life, pro life? No, obviously support gun control. No,

1406
01:15:01,720 --> 01:15:07,439
Speaker 1: speak out against police brutality no, m okay okay. So

1407
01:15:07,520 --> 01:15:11,640
Speaker 1: you foster and adopt children? No? You know those over

1408
01:15:11,680 --> 01:15:16,360
Speaker 1: four kids in the foster cure system in America? Right now? Right? Good,

1409
01:15:16,640 --> 01:15:21,360
Speaker 1: let's see you support mandatory print to leave for new parents. No,

1410
01:15:22,360 --> 01:15:24,760
Speaker 1: how about government programs to help fund those kids you

1411
01:15:24,800 --> 01:15:29,599
Speaker 1: wanted to be born? No, she's not really pro life,

1412
01:15:29,600 --> 01:15:32,160
Speaker 1: then are you? I mean, at best your pro fetus.

1413
01:15:32,400 --> 01:15:36,160
Speaker 1: That is, if you don't support IBF Oh you do, great,

1414
01:15:36,520 --> 01:15:38,880
Speaker 1: So then you're just pro controlling women's bodies and people

1415
01:15:38,920 --> 01:15:42,320
Speaker 1: with uterus. Is you're not pro life because you see

1416
01:15:42,920 --> 01:15:45,080
Speaker 1: a young girl gets pregnant and you shame her, and

1417
01:15:45,160 --> 01:15:46,720
Speaker 1: then she has that kid that you wanted her to

1418
01:15:46,800 --> 01:15:49,559
Speaker 1: have and use government assistance like food stamps and wick

1419
01:15:49,640 --> 01:15:51,680
Speaker 1: and what do you do. You shame her and then

1420
01:15:51,720 --> 01:15:54,240
Speaker 1: those kids, unfortunately, usually grow up in poverty and or

1421
01:15:54,280 --> 01:15:56,280
Speaker 1: abuse of homes and have their own set of issues,

1422
01:15:56,320 --> 01:15:59,080
Speaker 1: mental health issues, drug abuse issues in and out of

1423
01:15:59,080 --> 01:16:01,280
Speaker 1: the prison system. You also don't want to reform, and

1424
01:16:01,320 --> 01:16:04,160
Speaker 1: what do you do? You shame them? How about if

1425
01:16:04,200 --> 01:16:06,639
Speaker 1: they're born gay or trans do you support their rights?

1426
01:16:06,680 --> 01:16:11,920
Speaker 1: Then no, you shame them. You're not really pro life,

1427
01:16:12,000 --> 01:16:15,280
Speaker 1: then what's up? You don't do any of those things.

1428
01:16:15,439 --> 01:16:19,560
Speaker 1: You're just against abortion. Okay, I get that. So obviously

1429
01:16:19,640 --> 01:16:23,519
Speaker 1: you support things like better sex education in schools. I mean,

1430
01:16:23,800 --> 01:16:27,200
Speaker 1: this girl just dismand anything you could say that goes like,

1431
01:16:27,360 --> 01:16:31,120
Speaker 1: but no, I she just tears it apart. She's amazing.

1432
01:16:31,600 --> 01:16:33,240
Speaker 1: Her name is I'm gonna go to the end so

1433
01:16:33,320 --> 01:16:34,560
Speaker 1: you can find it and watch the rest of it.

1434
01:16:34,760 --> 01:16:38,360
Speaker 1: It's Nicole Caitlin k A T E L y n

1435
01:16:38,600 --> 01:16:42,320
Speaker 1: N one. Nicole Caitlin makes me want I don't know why.

1436
01:16:42,920 --> 01:16:44,800
Speaker 1: It's so crunchy and she's so cool. She's just like,

1437
01:16:45,160 --> 01:16:48,760
Speaker 1: do you no like she? It's like it's hot to go.

1438
01:16:48,840 --> 01:16:51,040
Speaker 1: There's something very erotic about it at the a SMR.

1439
01:16:51,200 --> 01:16:55,080
Speaker 1: Al Right, guys, probably gay, have the great Wednesday. We

1440
01:16:55,120 --> 01:16:57,920
Speaker 1: won't be here tomorrow, Um Thursday, we will be back.

1441
01:16:58,520 --> 01:17:01,080
Speaker 1: I can't wait for that one. And don't be cut

1442
01:17:01,320 --> 01:17:03,200
Speaker 1: and Jacks