WEBVTT - Confessions of a Rented Bridesmaid 0:00:01.360 --> 0:00:07.440 Really Now, Really, really. 0:00:09.080 --> 0:00:12.000 Now, Really Hello and welcome to Really No Really with Jason, 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:15.120 Alexander and Peter Tilden, who suggests that our listeners have 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:17.919 engaged with us for quite a while, so maybe it's done. 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:20.239 We tie the knot and make you a subscriber. But 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:23.040 if we do tie the knot, unfortunately we may not 0:00:23.239 --> 0:00:26.280 have the bridesmaids we need for the wedding. So enter 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:30.680 Jen Glance, the world's first professional bridesmaid and founder of 0:00:30.720 --> 0:00:34.760 the company Bridesmaid for Hire. She has worked hundreds of weddings, 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:37.720 acting not only as a bridesmaid but also as a 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:40.520 friend of the bride. In this episode of Really No Really, 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:44.040 Jen discusses the reasons that someone would want to or 0:00:44.159 --> 0:00:48.120 need to rent a bridesmaid and how she transforms into 0:00:48.159 --> 0:00:50.720 that best friend no one has ever heard of or 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:54.520 met before. You'll also discover the surprising origins of many 0:00:54.600 --> 0:00:56.800 wedding traditions, and Jason will. 0:00:56.640 --> 0:01:00.360 Reveal how the hokey pokey almost tanked a wedding Till 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:02.560 death do they part. Here's Jason and Peter. 0:01:06.240 --> 0:01:07.560 I should I go public domain? 0:01:07.920 --> 0:01:09.920 God? Yes, what's a good? What's a good? 0:01:09.920 --> 0:01:13.400 Wedding? Public domain song? What's is there is there one? 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:16.560 I don't know, but I'm gonna get you. 0:01:16.520 --> 0:01:21.200 In things that the question that was from that's an 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:22.800 old light of rose. 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:25.520 It's the left footed, isn't that? Isn't that? But the 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:26.000 right foot? 0:01:26.040 --> 0:01:27.000 That's the hockey pokey? 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:28.160 I know. Isn't that public domain? 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:30.480 It's public domain because nobody. 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:33.360 Wants people love that song doing the. 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:36.520 You know what happened at my wedding. I brought it 0:01:36.600 --> 0:01:37.280 up for that reason? 0:01:38.200 --> 0:01:39.000 Story? Can you tell us? 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:40.959 I can tell the story. Sure, we're going to be 0:01:40.959 --> 0:01:44.280 talking about weddings today, ladies and gentlemen. Yeah. 0:01:44.760 --> 0:01:48.400 My dear friend of mine from high school was U 0:01:49.160 --> 0:01:49.720 was the band. 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:52.200 He had a band. He was a wedding band guy. 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:54.880 And I asked him if he would play for my 0:01:55.120 --> 0:01:58.320 wedding and he was very excited to do so. I 0:01:58.360 --> 0:02:00.600 was very excited to have him. And I said, uh, 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:04.760 there's one proviso, just one proviso. My mother in law 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:09.960 does not want and she's serious about this. She does 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:14.280 not want anyone to play the hokey pokey and that's 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:14.840 the only. 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:17.720 Thing she's asked. I'm gonna call him Dave right by 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:17.960 the way. 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:19.760 I love that she had the request that it bothers 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:23.560 us so much that she thought ahead of time request. 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:25.880 So I said to Dave, please, the only thing I 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:28.080 ask you. You're the You're you're it, You're the band. 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:30.880 You know this better than anybody. Just no hokey pokey. 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:33.040 So in the middle of the wedding, everybody's on the 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:35.240 dance floor. We're doing this dance and that dance and 0:02:35.280 --> 0:02:37.720 this dance. Everybody's having the best time. My mother in 0:02:37.800 --> 0:02:39.840 law is as close to me as you are right now. 0:02:40.160 --> 0:02:43.640 And we hear segway, da dad, you but your left 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:46.399 butt in you But and my mother in law gives 0:02:46.480 --> 0:02:49.520 me a look like if she could shoot lasers through 0:02:49.560 --> 0:02:51.880 my head and explode my head, she would have done it, 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:55.480 and turns and walks off the dance floor. And I'm 0:02:55.480 --> 0:02:58.000 in trouble. And I go to my friend after the 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:01.839 set and I go Dave, Dave the hell man. One 0:03:01.919 --> 0:03:05.160 thing I said was, no hokey pokey, Why would you 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:05.720 do that? 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:06.920 Why would you do it? 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:11.280 And with absolute sincerity, he said to me, Jay, the 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:12.160 crowd wanted it. 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:18.960 Did you ever explore it? Was there a traumatic event 0:03:19.000 --> 0:03:20.640 in your mother in law's life? 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:22.880 I don't know, I don't know. I think my mother, 0:03:23.000 --> 0:03:25.440 you know, my mother in law. I know she's very strong, 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:26.160 but I thought to. 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:28.840 Myself, maybe at one point in her life, while she 0:03:28.919 --> 0:03:29.800 was doing the hockey. 0:03:29.600 --> 0:03:31.760 Somebody put their left foot and the wint the left. 0:03:31.639 --> 0:03:34.320 Foot went in. It was just something horrible, something went 0:03:34.400 --> 0:03:39.440 terribly around because to just think to say, no, yeah, wow. 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:44.240 So we're having on a woman who's a professional bridesmaid, 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:47.240 and and the really no really obviously is you can 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:53.000 rent we rent professional bridesmaids. And the big really, why 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:55.360 would And then we'll get to the point of why 0:03:55.400 --> 0:03:56.800 that would even be necessary. 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:59.400 The only reason I can think of is the bride 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:03.480 doesn't know another woman of any never met another woman. 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:05.800 Well, we're going to find out. This is the woman 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:08.480 who originated the rental thing, and she had thousands of 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:11.280 people applying for the job of when she started expanding 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:14.320 her business. But I mean, there's so many questions. One 0:04:14.320 --> 0:04:16.120 of them is you got to make up a story 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:18.600 for the other brides maids. It's believable about who you are. 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:21.320 So we'll talk about it. And she said stuff happened 0:04:21.320 --> 0:04:23.640 to her. But I thought I'd give you the origin 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:27.320 of some wedding tradition, which is kind of interesting, is 0:04:27.360 --> 0:04:30.200 the hookeey poky and they started, isn't If I had 0:04:30.240 --> 0:04:31.920 thought about it, man, I would have loved to look 0:04:31.960 --> 0:04:34.440 up David Krugerheim will be looking at the army. 0:04:34.400 --> 0:04:36.760 Find out the author of the hookey poke. 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:39.239 And if there are any other weddings where it was banned. Okay, 0:04:39.279 --> 0:04:43.080 anybody ever said, don't hooky poky me. Yeah. Centuries ago 0:04:43.200 --> 0:04:45.520 a groom had to kidnapped the bride of her family 0:04:45.560 --> 0:04:48.000 disapproved of their union. Best man was actually the best 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:50.760 swordsman because he would standing guard. There's a whole lot. 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:55.520 Of stuff that's it was also the best man was 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:59.359 the best swordsman, and we've truncated it down to the 0:04:59.400 --> 0:04:59.920 best man. 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:02.159 In fact, in ancient groups like the Huns of the 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:05.240 Goths and the visit Goths with store weapons in the 0:05:05.240 --> 0:05:07.839 floor of the church, a lot of a lot of wedding. 0:05:08.000 --> 0:05:15.960 Again, that's well known about Visigoth churches. By the way, the. 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:20.080 Bouquet was originally used for to mask the 's body. 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:22.760 To mask it was also made in a hundred herbs, 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:26.160 because remember in the fifteenth century medieval times, people didn't 0:05:26.240 --> 0:05:29.560 quite smell people. Forget that when you're watching these historical dramas, 0:05:30.160 --> 0:05:30.880 they weren't bathroom. 0:05:31.279 --> 0:05:35.400 You know, I've been to medieval timesheim and they smell. 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:36.640 They got a smell. 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:40.200 Veils, the wedding veil, wedding veil. Sure tell me you 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:43.599 wanted to make sure that this wasn't called off prior 0:05:43.640 --> 0:05:45.800 to the wedding, so you get to see her after 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:48.800 you say I do really comes up? Really not really, Yeah, 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:52.560 bride's features only lifted after the ceremony. And then we 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:54.720 have the brides. Maybe we should ask, oh, why they 0:05:54.720 --> 0:05:57.719 were white? By the way, Queen Victoria married Prince Albert 0:05:57.760 --> 0:06:00.640 in eighteen forty, all of the twelve bridesmaid were dressing 0:06:00.680 --> 0:06:04.400 identical white dresses to compliment her beautiful white seting. It 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:07.240 was Victoria in her bridesmaids that started the creation of 0:06:07.320 --> 0:06:10.279 royal brides wearing white instead of silk in the way. 0:06:10.200 --> 0:06:12.800 Really and first of all, let me do the bell, 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:14.800 and second of all, let me say so, while Queen 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:18.280 Victoria was setting that trend, you're telling me people in 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:20.599 Mesopotamia and. 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:24.479 They all went ooh, you know what they're doing in England. 0:06:24.640 --> 0:06:25.360 We should do that. 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:29.480 Apparently because it spread, didn't I white wedding rested spread 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:30.719 obviously got the memo. 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:35.240 Okay, I would like to know the sources of your information. 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:37.960 I think you need to provide a bibliograph. 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:39.520 If you look at if you look at the Victoria 0:06:39.520 --> 0:06:42.560 stre it's everywhere, it's every ask We'll ask our guests. 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:44.640 If he knows the white wedding, he's not dare Why 0:06:44.640 --> 0:06:45.359 does she have to know? 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:47.600 She's making a living, She doesn't need to. 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:50.440 She's trying to remember the name of the woman she's 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:51.240 being a bridesmaid. 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:52.840 Did they know where white? Did they know where white? 0:06:54.080 --> 0:06:55.039 Of course she wore white. 0:06:56.040 --> 0:06:56.640 She got the memo. 0:06:57.080 --> 0:06:59.159 She didn't get the memo. She saw gone with the wind. 0:07:01.800 --> 0:07:03.880 But a lot of some someways, Laurie, can you come 0:07:03.880 --> 0:07:07.000 on for something some nights? Did you dress in white 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:08.840 or did you do non traditional? 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:12.160 I was in white for the first marriage, and the 0:07:12.200 --> 0:07:14.880 second one was more of a civil ceremony, so I 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:15.560 was casual. 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:22.400 Hancuffs, heuff, what a casual and white is not a 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:23.239 casual color. 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:25.560 No, I'm just saying casually dressed. 0:07:26.400 --> 0:07:26.960 What color? 0:07:28.080 --> 0:07:31.640 Probably jeans and a that's what I mean. 0:07:31.760 --> 0:07:35.760 Very Oh, this is not I mean wow cut offs 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:36.720 and the shirt. 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:40.160 Did you work under the car with Okay, yeah, casual. 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:41.840 And that's been a problem. I have to say I 0:07:41.840 --> 0:07:43.680 should have done a better second. 0:07:44.000 --> 0:07:46.080 Wow, Now did you put the jeans in the top 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:47.080 in a forever box? 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:50.640 It's still at the dry cleaners? 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:53.440 That I love that stuff when you go into somebody's 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:55.440 fees and the cake is still there and they got 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:57.920 this stuff in the forever box. I did I do? 0:07:58.080 --> 0:08:01.520 I did carry my original wedding dress in the trunk 0:08:01.560 --> 0:08:03.920 of my car for about two years. 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:07.320 Wow. Yeah, but because you're going to put it in 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:08.080 a keepsake prox and. 0:08:08.080 --> 0:08:10.160 You said screwed it something marriage isn't work. 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:12.760 So maybe, oh, that's so funny. You kept it out 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:14.520 just in case because I don't want. I don't want. 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:17.920 This is as romantic as I think the profession of 0:08:17.960 --> 0:08:19.000 our guest today. 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:21.800 Hiring a bridesmaid. Why why? We will find out who 0:08:21.840 --> 0:08:24.440 does and why and who thought of it and how? 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:27.320 Because you are in chaos at that moment when you're 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:30.840 doing the weddings are so high emotion. 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:32.960 It is a little stress. Yeah, little stress, little stress. 0:08:33.000 --> 0:08:35.439 So the fact that she has to enter that every 0:08:35.480 --> 0:08:38.640 time and that's her business, yeah, chose chosen business. We 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:39.840 will find out all about her. 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:43.240 So, Hi, Jen Glands, how are you hello? 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:45.160 I'm good. Thank you for having me today. 0:08:45.679 --> 0:08:48.920 So for people that don't know, I'm gonna I'm going 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:52.480 to read your biou. You are the world's first, as 0:08:52.559 --> 0:08:56.079 far as we know, professional bridesmaid, founder of Bridesmaid for Hire, 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:59.960 a best selling author, a blogger. You write several newsletters, 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:03.240 and you host a podcast. Oh you're in our business. 0:09:03.400 --> 0:09:06.880 And you've done lots of morning shows about this thing 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:09.840 that you do, which is it was fascinating. Basically you 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:15.839 are a bridesmaid for hire, which made us go really, no, really. 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:20.160 What brainstorm led you or desperation or inspiration led you 0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:22.560 to go, I'm going to do this. There's and there's 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:24.040 an opportunity to do it. There's a need. 0:09:25.000 --> 0:09:25.200 Yeah. 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:26.800 I mean, I feel like so many people out there 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:28.559 go to so many weddings, and I was one of 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:31.400 those people. I was always the bridesmaid in my early twenties. 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:33.520 And then people I was hardly friends with, like the 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:35.200 kind of people who you talked to once a. 0:09:35.240 --> 0:09:37.080 Year, they asked me to be a bridesmaid. 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:39.080 And that's when I thought, Okay, if I could do 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:41.480 this for people I'm hardly friends with, why not do 0:09:41.559 --> 0:09:44.200 it for strangers. So I didn't know how to start 0:09:44.200 --> 0:09:46.720 a business. I posted an ad on Craigslist offering my 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:49.920 services as a hired bridesmaid, and the ad got three 0:09:50.200 --> 0:09:52.920 hundred responses, and that's when I decided to kick off 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:53.360 the business. 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:55.160 That was the first How far back? How far back 0:09:55.240 --> 0:09:55.360 was that? 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:58.480 Now this was a decade ago, so twenty fourteen, I 0:09:58.559 --> 0:10:01.160 launched the ad, launched the business, and officially started. 0:10:01.360 --> 0:10:03.120 What do you remember about that first wedding? 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:05.360 Oh, it was terrifying. I got on a plane to 0:10:05.400 --> 0:10:08.120 Maple Grove, Minnesota. I got off the plane and I thought, 0:10:08.120 --> 0:10:09.760 what the heck am I about to do? I'm about 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:12.319 to go to some stranger's wedding. And I went because 0:10:12.320 --> 0:10:14.400 she had fired her maid of honor the month before. 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:17.000 And I go to this wedding. I have the best time. 0:10:17.080 --> 0:10:19.560 I'm pretending to be her best friend. And I got 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:21.480 back on the airplane and I'm like, Okay, there is 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:23.600 a business here, like there are people out there that 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:26.000 genuinely need this, and I'm going to be that person 0:10:26.040 --> 0:10:26.400 to do it. 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:29.360 So okay pretending to be I was there a moment 0:10:29.400 --> 0:10:31.640 when you're on the plane going I'm about to be 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:32.839 kidnapped into a cult? 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:34.520 Have I given people my address? 0:10:34.679 --> 0:10:36.920 And yeah, you got to be a little bit crazy 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:38.880 to do this job, because you're sometimes like, I don't 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:40.319 know who these people are. I don't ask them for 0:10:40.360 --> 0:10:42.760 their passport or social Security number, like they could be 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:44.880 catfishing me, they could be kidnapping me. 0:10:45.040 --> 0:10:46.560 So yeah, you got to be a little restricted. 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:49.040 So you went there, you said, best friend? Yeah, were 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:50.640 there any other people in a bridal party? 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:51.959 There wasn't. 0:10:52.040 --> 0:10:52.079 No. 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:54.120 She had one made of honor that she had fired 0:10:54.320 --> 0:10:56.560 like a month before, and she had nobody else to turn. 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:58.840 So how do you come up with the alibi story? 0:10:58.960 --> 0:11:00.560 So the people around there go, so, how do you 0:11:00.600 --> 0:11:03.240 know her? And you can actually pull that off? And 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:05.400 are you always jen or do you have like some 0:11:07.360 --> 0:11:09.000 Oh my god god, yes. 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:11.200 So the first so if you hired me, the first 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:13.320 thing I'd say is, Okay, what part of your life 0:11:13.360 --> 0:11:15.080 won't be at the wedding? It's can I be a 0:11:15.080 --> 0:11:17.319 friend from high school, a friend from study abroad? Can 0:11:17.360 --> 0:11:18.760 I be a friend from the month you lived in 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:20.880 New York City. I'll try to find out what is 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:22.440 not going to be at your wedding, and then I 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:24.960 will be that person. Sometimes I have a fake name, 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:26.800 I'll change up the hair, I'll do whatever I have 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:28.800 to do to blend into your life and never be 0:11:28.920 --> 0:11:30.920 gen Glands if that's what you want, and a lot 0:11:30.960 --> 0:11:31.640 of people want that. 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:33.880 They don't want me, they want somebody else in their life. 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:38.120 So you have to then animatedly talk to people and go, oh, 0:11:38.160 --> 0:11:39.840 I love her so many you know. The funniest thing 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:41.839 about her, yeah, is when she does this. Joanne and 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:44.000 I went to summer camp. We had a thing. We 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:46.880 both love Bobby and so you have to come up 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:49.600 with intricate stories because people want intricate stories. 0:11:50.280 --> 0:11:52.240 Yeah, but the thing is too at weddings, like, nobody's 0:11:52.280 --> 0:11:54.760 like questioning me as if I'm lying. They're like, how 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:57.240 do you know the pride? I'm like yoga class. They're like, okay, great, 0:11:57.240 --> 0:11:59.479 where's the open bar? I mean they don't really. 0:11:59.280 --> 0:12:02.680 Care about you know, well that's me just about everyone. 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:04.920 Although you did get bush I read it you had 0:12:04.960 --> 0:12:07.080 a mother in law who got picked off. You have 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:08.240 been busted a couple of times. 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:11.240 Yes, I've been closed where people found out but they 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:13.160 didn't say anything. But yeah, a big part of the 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:15.760 job is getting paid to be undercover, So a big 0:12:15.800 --> 0:12:17.480 part of the job is just trying to make sure 0:12:17.520 --> 0:12:20.600 no one's questioning me changing the subject, and that's really hard. 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:24.040 Well, you've got to go back a step for me. 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:28.720 Were what was your aspirations or training or education prior 0:12:28.760 --> 0:12:30.600 to this? Were you trying to be an actress? Were 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:33.640 you trying because this is like an actress's gig. But 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:37.400 where did you think you were aheaded before this left 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:38.120 turn came up? 0:12:38.640 --> 0:12:40.600 No, I'm like, it's so funny because I'm so I'm 0:12:40.600 --> 0:12:42.800 like a little bit shy, and I'm a writer and 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:45.680 I hate weddings. I still hate weddings, so I never 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:48.439 thought that this would become my career path. But I've 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:51.040 always had a passion for helping people, and weddings are 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:54.120 a complete disaster. They're complicated, they're messy, and I feel 0:12:54.160 --> 0:12:56.480 like this is the perfect environment for me to help people. 0:12:56.800 --> 0:12:59.120 But no, I had no Like, I'm not even a 0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:01.920 good friend half the time to my real friends, so 0:13:02.080 --> 0:13:04.480 I have no background in doing this. 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:05.760 I just stumbled into it. 0:13:05.800 --> 0:13:07.720 And then for the last ten years it's been my 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:11.040 life and I've worked hundreds of weddings for the most fascinating. 0:13:10.480 --> 0:13:11.920 People and it's lucrative. 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:13.400 Yeah, I mean you. 0:13:13.400 --> 0:13:15.480 Definitely get paid, Like I get paid anywhere from twenty 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:18.480 five hundred up per wedding and sometimes close to ten 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:21.440 thousand a wedding. They fly you out, they get you 0:13:21.520 --> 0:13:24.319 the ugly bridesmaid dress, they do it all, and it's 0:13:24.400 --> 0:13:26.640 enough money to really become a full time job. 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:28.559 And how many do you how many are you doing 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:29.800 a year at this point? 0:13:30.000 --> 0:13:32.240 When I first started, I was doing like fifty a year, 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:36.640 but then whoa, I've popped out, Like I have some 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:39.200 people who I've hired and fired to work for me 0:13:39.320 --> 0:13:41.160 and they'll do weddings with me or for me at 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:43.520 this point, but I still do like a dozen or 0:13:43.520 --> 0:13:45.240 more a year for people myself. 0:13:45.559 --> 0:13:48.320 So the most memorable stuff, Yeah, what are some of 0:13:48.320 --> 0:13:51.520 the things you had to deal with that you didn't 0:13:51.559 --> 0:13:54.800 ever anticipate when you've got into the business. 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:57.920 Weddings are not a fairy tale, They're not a rom com. 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:01.080 They are like a nightmare. I've had people who have 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:04.040 started fights. I've seen fires. I had a bride get 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:05.720 blackout drunk and start screaming. 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:07.240 I hate the groom. I hate this. 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:11.880 I've had grooms go missing. I've had like everything you 0:14:11.920 --> 0:14:14.520 can think of, a cold feet. Just all of these things, 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:16.280 they really do happen. It's just that when you're a 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:18.240 guest at a wedding, you don't really see all. 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:19.000 These things unfold. 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:25.239 I'm guessing that a wedding couple that requires the services 0:14:25.280 --> 0:14:29.440 of a for higher bridesmaid, these things would have more 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:35.760 of a preponderance of happening issues. You know, my wedding, 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:38.360 I would you know a lot of things went wrong, 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:39.360 but not this. 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:42.240 You're right, you're fired. Firing the bridesmaid before you're firing 0:14:42.240 --> 0:14:44.120 a really good friend indicates trouble. 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:48.880 I have been at funerals where the religious leader has 0:14:49.200 --> 0:14:51.960 never met the deceased, and they've been given a couple 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:54.800 of little tidbits from the family, and they make up 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:58.000 a eulogy like they were best friends. You now get 0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:01.040 up to give a speech a about your deep and 0:15:01.240 --> 0:15:07.640 long and satisfying relationship with Brenda. Where are you forgive 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:09.600 me for being crass? How are you pulling this out 0:15:09.600 --> 0:15:24.760 of your ass? You forgive me for being crash? How 0:15:24.800 --> 0:15:26.920 are you pulling this out of your ass? 0:15:28.440 --> 0:15:31.280 You know I was a poetry major in college. You know, 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:33.520 spend so much money with that major? And never put 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:35.400 it to you. So I feel like Number one, that 0:15:35.520 --> 0:15:37.960 helps me a lot. Number Two, you've been to weddings, 0:15:38.000 --> 0:15:39.800 most of the speeches are the same. You share a 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:42.000 couple of funny stories, you give them well wishes, you 0:15:42.080 --> 0:15:42.840 go off the stage. 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:44.160 I mean, it's pretty. 0:15:43.960 --> 0:15:46.320 Basic things that you're saying, and then you just put 0:15:46.320 --> 0:15:50.200 in some flowery words. So yeah, these speeches are from 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:52.240 the heart though in a way because I do get 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:54.640 to know these people, I do build a friendship with 0:15:54.680 --> 0:15:55.200 these people. 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:57.760 But then a lot of it's just standard stuff. 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:01.800 Also, there's this thing of undermining the wedding where somebody's 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:06.000 there who who has been harboring hostility and they get 0:16:06.080 --> 0:16:08.200 up and they're going to say something that's going to tank. 0:16:09.440 --> 0:16:10.640 How often does that happen? 0:16:11.360 --> 0:16:13.280 I Mean, the worst situation I've ever seen is that 0:16:13.320 --> 0:16:15.400 the person that the groom is having an affair with 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:19.200 entered the wedding, came to the wedding, and the bribes 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:22.080 saw this woman and that started a whole thing right there. 0:16:22.200 --> 0:16:24.360 So that was one of the weirdest things. 0:16:24.160 --> 0:16:27.600 That I've ever had, is that frowned upon is that? 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:29.240 So that's real. 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:31.680 But in speeches, the biggest mistake I see is you're right? 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:34.520 People bring up oh you know this person was hooking 0:16:34.600 --> 0:16:35.880 up with everybody in college? 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:38.160 Are they? They're saying things that are just so, and 0:16:38.200 --> 0:16:38.520 it's just. 0:16:38.440 --> 0:16:41.560 Stuff that that the group, the group didn't know. 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:43.880 Yes, yes, and it's just like how did you think 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:44.880 that was mentioned? 0:16:44.920 --> 0:16:49.000 Like the hot sea seed in Vegas, Like it's just somes. 0:16:49.040 --> 0:16:50.360 No vaccine canentuck. 0:16:50.760 --> 0:16:53.160 And you must be really good because after the sixty 0:16:53.200 --> 0:16:57.360 two guys she's been with. Wow, you did I read it? 0:16:57.400 --> 0:17:03.400 You said you've been bitten, You've been bidden, bribed? Were 0:17:03.440 --> 0:17:03.880 you bitten? 0:17:04.520 --> 0:17:05.479 I had, well, I had. 0:17:06.000 --> 0:17:07.879 I was bitten by a dog once and I had 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:10.800 to walk a dog down the aisle before and like 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:13.400 shepherd around a dog for a wedding. But I've dealt 0:17:13.400 --> 0:17:17.240 with everything from bodily fluids to fires. I've had to 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:19.879 put out to fights to you know, every type of 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:21.240 physical thing like that. 0:17:22.040 --> 0:17:24.360 Fights, you're breaking up a fight and then making sure 0:17:24.359 --> 0:17:25.000 they get married. 0:17:25.760 --> 0:17:28.560 Well, sometimes it's fights between guests or mothers of the 0:17:28.600 --> 0:17:31.040 bride and the groom or fighting. I mean, you see 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:32.960 it all and again, these are things that happen at 0:17:32.960 --> 0:17:35.680 everyday weddings. It's just that sometimes you don't notice them. 0:17:36.760 --> 0:17:39.960 Wow, you do you? 0:17:40.320 --> 0:17:44.080