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Speaker 1: Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fredshell.

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Speaker 1: Ya Evin, good morning, welcome to the program.

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Speaker 2: All right, good morning, thanks for having me.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's our pleasure I say that. But we'll

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Speaker 1: just wait and see what you did. Maybe you didn't

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Speaker 1: do anything, you know, maybe you're one of those few

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Speaker 1: examples that didn't do anything. Maybe we're going to pay

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Speaker 1: for like our fifth date. Ever. Maybe we've been doing

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Speaker 1: this for ten years or something and we've only paid

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Speaker 1: for maybe four or five. That's a trivia question, by

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Speaker 1: the way. People ask all the time, how many have

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Speaker 1: you paid for? And it's literally is that we've done

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Speaker 1: thousands of these and we've paid for like four. Anyways, Kevin,

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Speaker 1: what happened with this woman? Tell us how you met,

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Speaker 1: About any dates that you've been on, and any information

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Speaker 1: that we should have.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, sure thing, I prom Well, it's been about a

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Speaker 2: month or so, and I just recently got over a

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Speaker 2: five year relationship that I had going on and it

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Speaker 2: kind of ended pretty bad. So I was just kind

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Speaker 2: of waiting for the right time to start dating again.

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Speaker 2: And this last weekend I just decided to say the

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Speaker 2: hell with it, let me just go out there and

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Speaker 2: meet new people again because I got to go and

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Speaker 2: live my life and do what I gotta do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, everybody's different, but I would say a

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Speaker 1: month is a that's a good that's a good cooling

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Speaker 1: off period, you know. I mean some people shorter, some

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Speaker 1: people longer or whatever, but yeah, a month is good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So I got on, you know, one of these

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Speaker 2: dating apps, started browsing around, met a couple of women.

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Speaker 2: They weren't really my type, and then I came across

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Speaker 2: you knowing Cara. She was actually pretty cool. We spoke

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Speaker 2: a lot through the text messaging system that they had,

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Speaker 2: and I'd say, no, what you seem pretty cool? So

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Speaker 2: how about we go out get a couple of drinks

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Speaker 2: and that way we could actually see one another and

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Speaker 2: actually continue from there.

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Speaker 3: A right, good strategy, And so you did, right.

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Speaker 2: So this past weekend we went to one of the

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Speaker 2: nearby bars that are by our area and we just

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Speaker 2: shoot and we were just knocking it off right from

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Speaker 2: the start. She's actually pretty funny, and surprisingly enough, we

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Speaker 2: have a lot of things in common that it's kind

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Speaker 2: of hard to find nowadays, because it's just it's impossible

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Speaker 2: to find people that could just relate to on a

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Speaker 1: Okay, so you fell to connection. Except you're calling us

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Speaker 1: because I take it after this date, as confident as

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Speaker 1: you were and as excited as you were about you know,

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Speaker 1: is the potential here, you're not hearing from her at all.

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Speaker 2: Right, So what really happened was I'm a drinker and

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Speaker 2: I like to go what I like to say, shot

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Speaker 2: open about the idea, I said, all right, let's go

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Speaker 2: a couple of rounds and let's see who could really hang.

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Speaker 2: And as the night went by, we started talking some

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Speaker 2: a personal level. Then after about maybe like the seventh

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Speaker 2: or eighth shot, I can't really remember. Things kind of

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Speaker 2: got a little hazy, and I just remember waking up

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Speaker 2: ever asking her out for a second date.

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Speaker 1: So I got to let me tell you something there, buddy,

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you something, Evan. It's that haze that

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Speaker 1: we'd like to hear about, because I have a feeling

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Speaker 1: it's that hazy period that is preventing her from calling

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Speaker 1: you again. But nonetheless, maybe we can maybe not, maybe

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Speaker 1: this is something we can figure out, you know, maybe

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Speaker 1: guys are going shot for shot. I mean, so we'll see.

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Speaker 1: Let's call uh, let's call this woman Kara, and we'll

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Speaker 1: ask some questions on your behalf. You'll be on the

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Speaker 1: phone at some point. You're welcome to jump in and

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Speaker 1: hopefully we can figure this out and set you guys

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Speaker 1: Let's see what happens next. Part two of Waiting by

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Speaker 1: the Phone. After this song on The Fred Show. Good morning,

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Speaker 1: It's the Fred's Show. Part two of Waiting by the Phone. Evan, I,

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Speaker 1: let's call Kara. You guys met on a dating app,

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Speaker 1: had a great date, had a lot of fun. You

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Speaker 1: felt like the date went well. You said there was

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Speaker 1: went well enough that she shouldn't be ghosting me because

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Speaker 1: I assume you've reached out trying to see her again,

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Speaker 1: and she's not responding to you at all.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I found a couple of messages, and you know,

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Speaker 2: nowadays you can see when you've been left on right,

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Speaker 2: and quite frankly, that happened.

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Speaker 3: Yeah I left.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, let's call Kara and see what's up.

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Speaker 3: Good luck, man?

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Speaker 2: Thanks? Hello?

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Speaker 3: Hi is this Kara?

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Speaker 4: Hi?

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Speaker 1: Yes, it is Jarah, Good morning. It's Fred from the

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Speaker 1: Fred's Show. The whole crew is here. I'm sorry to bother,

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Speaker 1: but I do have to tell you that we are

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Speaker 1: on the radio and I need your consent to continue

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Speaker 1: with the calls. That okay, if we chat for a

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Speaker 1: minute on the show, Yeah sure, I know it's a

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Speaker 1: little weird.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if we woke you up or something,

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Speaker 1: but before your coffee or whatever. But I'm sorry, but

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Speaker 1: I am calling on behalf of a guy named Evan.

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Speaker 1: You guys met on Hinge and went on a date.

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Speaker 1: Do you remember this guy?

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Speaker 4: Oh? Yeah, yeah, I remember Evan.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, long story short.

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Speaker 1: He said he had a great time with you, really

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Speaker 1: He says that you've left him on red though, that

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Speaker 1: you're not responding to him at all, and he really

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Speaker 1: can't figure out why, and so we're calling to see

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Speaker 3: So what happened.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so we went out on a date, and we

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Speaker 4: you know, like we actually had chemistry and everything, so

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Speaker 1: Chemistry and he said, awkward, Yeah, he said, there was

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Speaker 1: all trying to figure out what what's the second part here,

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Speaker 1: because if that's true, then why you responded to him?

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Speaker 4: So yeah, it was it was fun at first, but

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Speaker 4: then you know, things got weird because towards the end

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Speaker 1: On the date at all to us. So he was

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Speaker 1: crying on the date and you ask him why, Yeah.

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Speaker 4: And then that just made him even more upset, like

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Speaker 4: he started, you know, crying even more basically and okay,

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Speaker 4: And you know, he's not over his ex.

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Speaker 1: You know, I don't think pretty that it's clear. Let

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Speaker 1: me bring Evan, and I forgot to mention that Evans,

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Speaker 1: you're awfully quiet. Maybe that's the hazy part, Evan, because

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Hi, there, nice to finally hear from you.

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Speaker 1: Well you really don't, you kind of didn't she heard

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Speaker 1: or you do remember crying. You just didn't want to

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Speaker 2: We listen, listen, Okay, I understand because I hadn't mentioned

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Speaker 2: it to her that I just got out of this

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Speaker 2: relationship of five years and I was just trying to,

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Speaker 2: tear too because of some past memories. But to say

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Speaker 2: first date, that's like a horrible impression that that's not me.

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Speaker 3: But can you see whatsoever if you went on a

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Speaker 1: If you're out with Kara and she starts crying because

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Speaker 1: aren't you automatically going to assume you don't know this

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Speaker 3: I mean true, But.

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Speaker 2: At the same time, you know, people people want to heal.

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Speaker 2: They just they want to keep it going, keep the

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Speaker 1: So you want her to overlook the fact that you

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Speaker 1: I guess because you were crying, So you want her

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Speaker 1: just to overlook that, no, biggie and give you another shot. Okay, look, Cara,

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Speaker 1: So the guy's healing, but he says he's in a

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Speaker 3: So are you down?

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Speaker 4: So he may not remember that he cried about this

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Speaker 4: about the waitress reminding him of his ex. But I'm

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Speaker 4: telling you that this for sure, one hundred percent happens.

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Speaker 4: And so to me, it's clear that he's just not

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Speaker 4: over his ex. So it's going to be no for me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so no for you, Doug. Okay, all right, Evan, Look,

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Speaker 1: it's too bad because it sounds like this is a

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Speaker 1: the date was going great until you started crying about

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Speaker 1: your ex. Uh, you know, it's a classic foil.

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Speaker 2: You know, Well, this is unheard of, but if you

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Speaker 2: ever change your minds, you know where to contact me.

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Speaker 1: I'm appy sure this is not unheard of, but nonetheless, guys,

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Speaker 1: thank you for your time. Best eluct to both of you.

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Speaker 1: Thank you