Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect
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Speaker 1: another episode of Reasonably Shady. I am Gazelle Bryant. What's up?
Speaker 1: What's up? Everyone? This is Robin Dixon. Thank you again
Speaker 1: for being here with us, all of you. Gosh, we
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Speaker 1: hear you in person. Yes we do, Yes we do. Okay,
Speaker 1: So I have a reasonably Shady moment because I'm actually
Speaker 1: boiline piste off. Okay. So about a month ago, I
Speaker 1: have landscapers. I've been using them for maybe ten years, okay,
Speaker 1: and they were at my old house. Now they're at
Speaker 1: my new house. And the guy who owns the company,
Speaker 1: he came and he was like, all right, Jaselle, because
Speaker 1: you know, I told you all about the deer. Remember
Speaker 1: I told you all my folio, um and you guys,
Speaker 1: by the way, sent me all of these tips and
Speaker 1: tricks to get rid of the deer. And I'll go
Speaker 1: over those in a few minutes. But anyway, so he
Speaker 1: was like, all right, I'm gonna replant some other things
Speaker 1: that deer don't eat. So I was like, okay, cool.
Speaker 1: We went over all of that. He was like, we're
Speaker 1: gonna do a spring clean up. Yeah, nothing has happened.
Speaker 1: I have weeds growing that are like you do. Actually
Speaker 1: it's horrible. My house looks crazy. I look like I'm
Speaker 1: broke or something like I can't afford a freaking landscape
Speaker 1: or where are these people now? I understand that they
Speaker 1: are backed up because it has been raining, and I
Speaker 1: think they don't have any workers or something. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't care if ya don't come cut my grass.
Speaker 1: I can't even fire them because if I fire them,
Speaker 1: I can't get another landscaper because I think, I mean
Speaker 1: put back. I don't know. Michael might be available. Listen, listen.
Speaker 1: My people got five more minutes, and then I'm going
Speaker 1: with Robbin's people. Okay. So I put that out there,
Speaker 1: and I even text him and said, okay, when y'all coming,
Speaker 1: no response, Oh my gosh, yes, I don't like. That's
Speaker 1: frustrating because I was at your house the other day.
Speaker 1: It was a little like the wild Wild West. It was.
Speaker 1: It was I can't even admit I'm over here looking
Speaker 1: real crazy jankie in the streets. Um. Okay, So do
Speaker 1: you have a reason? So okay, I mean I was
Speaker 1: gonna say I don't because I can't even think straight.
Speaker 1: I'm my reason with shady moment, is it? I'm so
Speaker 1: freaking busy. I'm so busy and my head is about
Speaker 1: to explode and pop off. So that's it, Okayorry, It's
Speaker 1: all I got for you. Okay. So I want to
Speaker 1: I want to um read something because you know, y'all
Speaker 1: always send us a little like tip bits, and y'all
Speaker 1: send the stuff, um and then sometimes y'll just send
Speaker 1: me something. I laugh. Okay, so this is from Aaron
Speaker 1: Plotty and she said, Um, you helped me smoke twenty
Speaker 1: less cigarettes a week. Oh. I've been listening to your
Speaker 1: podcast and you said something about not having to depend
Speaker 1: on things and it got me to thinking, and I
Speaker 1: want to say thank you. I don't remember saying that,
Speaker 1: but if I can help you with your cigarette habit,
Speaker 1: that is awesome. I did a good thing. So you know,
Speaker 1: we're just gonna continue down this road because obviously we're
Speaker 1: helping people out here and that's awesome also. Okay, so
Speaker 1: now now that I'm gonna roll here, let me let's
Speaker 1: get back to the deer. Okay, So y'all sent in.
Speaker 1: I said a couple about a month ago that my
Speaker 1: dear ate my tulips, was very upset. And then all
Speaker 1: of a sudden, y'all started, Um, deem me me like
Speaker 1: things to get rid of the deer. So one lady
Speaker 1: in Tyson says she owns a salon. She said, girl,
Speaker 1: all you need to do is like get human hair
Speaker 1: and like sprinkle it all over um your your flowers,
Speaker 1: and the deer won't eat it because it's human hair.
Speaker 1: She was like, I have a salon. You can come
Speaker 1: by and you can pick up a whole bunch of
Speaker 1: human hair and sprinkle it. And I was like, this
Speaker 1: sound crazy? Now that do sound crazy to me? I
Speaker 1: mean hair? Okay, I'm well see, I'm I'm curious to
Speaker 1: see if that works. Number one, but like, how long
Speaker 1: is that less? Because I would think if if the
Speaker 1: wind blows, maybe the hair will blow away, like or
Speaker 1: if it rains, it's something something's gonna happen. I don't know.
Speaker 1: It was really weird. Somebody else told me to sprinkle
Speaker 1: p around human p sound supposed to pee in a
Speaker 1: bucket and just get to sprinkle it. Is that what happens? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can't do that. Okay, don't do that out? How
Speaker 1: about do do that? Like for what? But Carly shaking
Speaker 1: like it works? Carly says it works. But how long
Speaker 1: does that work for? It works until it rains? I
Speaker 1: guess okay, okay, I'm not doing that one either. So
Speaker 1: that's I'm still having deer issues. Bb gun. That's that's
Speaker 1: also want to say, dear, it's a product called deer off.
Speaker 1: There is so because so there's deer. It's kind of
Speaker 1: like you put it in the dirt. So you put
Speaker 1: it in the soil, and then the plant grows and
Speaker 1: it grows, and deers don't like it. Right done, that
Speaker 1: doesn't work, and then the deer off is just like
Speaker 1: the p the sprinkling the p like once it rains,
Speaker 1: you gotta do it again. No one has time for that,
Speaker 1: No they don't. So anyway, I just want to thank
Speaker 1: you all for sending me your tidbits. Not gonna use them.
Speaker 1: I think you trying to hair the hair, but it's
Speaker 1: supposed to go to the salon and type. Maybe. Okay,
Speaker 1: next time I see Cal, I'll tell you just pull
Speaker 1: one of your wigs apart. Okay, anyway, my wigs are expensive. Okay, anyway,
Speaker 1: moving on, okay, robin um. Oh another thing. So I
Speaker 1: post it about a month so ago that Grace Brian's
Speaker 1: that would be my daughter, she got a driver's license
Speaker 1: and she zoom zooming all around town. I want to
Speaker 1: tell you all you that was so many people responded
Speaker 1: with the congratulations to Grace, maybe five people, and so
Speaker 1: I just want to say thank you, and I just
Speaker 1: want to thank you obviously because you you guys are
Speaker 1: on the lookout for her. So if you see her
Speaker 1: on the road driving fast, tell her slow down. You
Speaker 1: had my permission, Okay. Um, alright, so we rob we
Speaker 1: gotta get into some hot topics. Alright, what are we talking?
Speaker 1: So I kind of don't want to talk about this,
Speaker 1: but I know it's near and dear to your heart?
Speaker 1: Is it Jennifer and Benner engage? You know what I
Speaker 1: had to say? I had the same response. Actually, I
Speaker 1: think I'm like over it there because you because I
Speaker 1: was excited that they were back together. But now I'm
Speaker 1: just like, we know how this story is going to end, right,
Speaker 1: how is it gonna end? Are they getting married? They're
Speaker 1: going to break up, They're gonna break up. They're going
Speaker 1: to break up, and then she's going to be in
Speaker 1: a relationship two weeks later, No, I'm sorry, two days
Speaker 1: later with Bradley Cooper, like it's just this not Bradley
Speaker 1: Cooper child. Like Bradley Cooper said, leave him out of it.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just saying, had Jennifer Lopez literally I
Speaker 1: don't know what. I had an epiphany and I was
Speaker 1: just like I don't care that they're engaged. I really don't, okay,
Speaker 1: because I'm just like, this is a cycle. It's like
Speaker 1: a story that happens like over and over and over
Speaker 1: again with her. It's so weird, and it's so weird
Speaker 1: that like she'll literally break up with someone and then
Speaker 1: like it feels like five minutes later she's in a
Speaker 1: full fledged relationship with someone else. Yes, seen from what
Speaker 1: was it? From Mark Anthony to back up up, I
Speaker 1: mean I know, I mean, yeah, we gotta go way back.
Speaker 1: We gotta go Puffy, we gotta go before Puffy. That
Speaker 1: the marriage the dancer guy right, Christian Christian? Okay, so
Speaker 1: before Chris. It was the the marriage that from the waiter,
Speaker 1: the waiter. Okay, so it's waiter, dancer, Puffy, the rapper,
Speaker 1: m Ben, Ben, Mark Anthony, Mark Anthony, the now back
Speaker 1: to Ben and there and there probably with somebody in
Speaker 1: between that we missed. Oh yeah, like that she doesn't
Speaker 1: talk about. Listen, listen, Jennifer, get yours? Do you Boo?
Speaker 1: I should collect them Rang. She's been doing Boo, she's
Speaker 1: been doing her but now we're over it. It was
Speaker 1: like a green diamond or something. Oh it is, So
Speaker 1: it's a green green diamond is a that's not that
Speaker 1: I don't know. That was the thing I don't think
Speaker 1: that's a thing. So it's just like really an emerald.
Speaker 1: It's an emerald. No, it's really light, it's pale. It's
Speaker 1: a pale green. Oh it's tim ben do want you
Speaker 1: do that and save your money? But you know, it's
Speaker 1: like weird to me that, like Jennifer Lopez even cares
Speaker 1: about having a ten million dollar ring. You've had fifty,
Speaker 1: You've had so many of them. Like, girl, what happened
Speaker 1: to the ring he gave her before? Did she give
Speaker 1: it back? I don't know, because that one was a
Speaker 1: pink diamond, right or yellow? That one was something different too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Okay, listen, I want him to have
Speaker 1: taken the first ring and gone to the jeweler and said, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm giving you this, put this down on it, and
Speaker 1: so it's really not ten, it's really like five. There.
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm spreading that room. He probably used that other
Speaker 1: ring for Jennifer Garner's ring. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, oh
Speaker 1: no one. And Jennifer Garner has not We have not
Speaker 1: gotten a comment from her at all. Jennifer Garners her old,
Speaker 1: happy jolly self. She fine. We love Jennifer Garner, so
Speaker 1: I would like to talk about this Cam Newton situation. Yes,
Speaker 1: from Yeah, so I you know, Cam is an interesting guy.
Speaker 1: He seemed like, I mean, he's not in the league anymore. Right,
Speaker 1: he's a free agent. He's a free agent, and after this,
Speaker 1: he's probably never gone back. Probably, I don't know, I mean,
Speaker 1: unless somebody signs him, you know who knows. But I
Speaker 1: think he still wants to play. But he's not he's unsigned.
Speaker 1: He's unsigned. Okay, So so tell me what happen around
Speaker 1: because I'm I don't I'm not him, Okay, So um,
Speaker 1: this this is what happened. He went on a podcast
Speaker 1: and he was speaking freely. These podcasts get people in trouble,
Speaker 1: Yes they do, because they're speaking freely about their opinions
Speaker 1: or about their life and their experience. And then you know,
Speaker 1: all the social media gets all, you know, up in
Speaker 1: arms over what they said. So he says he made
Speaker 1: some comments about women. He was saying something like, you know,
Speaker 1: you got all these women out here who are like
Speaker 1: bad you know, they call himself a boss bitch, a
Speaker 1: bad bit he said. But he said, now, a woman
Speaker 1: for me is handling your own but knowing how to
Speaker 1: cater to a man's needs, he said, And I think
Speaker 1: of times when you get that aesthetic of like, I'm
Speaker 1: a boss, bitch, I'm this, I'm that He's like, no, baby,
Speaker 1: but you can't cook. You don't you can't cook. You
Speaker 1: don't know when to be quiet, You don't know how
Speaker 1: to allow a man to lead. So these are his comments.
Speaker 1: So of course people don't like this comment, right, do
Speaker 1: you see? You gotta understand his perspective, what perspective. He
Speaker 1: is a highly paid athlete who is used to having
Speaker 1: to being catered to his entire life. So if what
Speaker 1: he needs and he's like, he don't need a bad
Speaker 1: bitch that is has a career of business that's contributing
Speaker 1: financially to the home. He wants and needs a woman
Speaker 1: that's going to cater to him. He wants a woman
Speaker 1: that's going to cook, that's going to you know, just
Speaker 1: provide what he needs from her. Now he's going to
Speaker 1: realize one day, uh, that that ship is temporary, right,
Speaker 1: but but he's still this the whole I'm him being
Speaker 1: the athlete and him being with a woman that is
Speaker 1: catering to his needs. Okay, he's going to realize his
Speaker 1: career is over and he's gonna have to He's going
Speaker 1: to have to bring something to the table to other
Speaker 1: than money, right And okay, And if you're in a
Speaker 1: long term relationship with a woman like that and you
Speaker 1: start off that way, women evolved, So she might have
Speaker 1: started off that way, but he should expect that woman
Speaker 1: to evolve eventually and want to do something for herself.
Speaker 1: So I just think he's still in that spoiled cater
Speaker 1: to athlete mode because he probably still wants to play
Speaker 1: in the NFL. He's very highly paid. But right now,
Speaker 1: could he rest on his money? Like, can he retire
Speaker 1: on his money? Yeah? Absolutely, okay, absolutely, So he might
Speaker 1: actually never change that perspective. He might always want a
Speaker 1: woman that's going to cater to him. And what's wrong
Speaker 1: with that? What is wrong with that? If? No, no, no,
Speaker 1: what is wrong with that? If Cam Newton wants his
Speaker 1: woman to cater to him, that's nothing wrong. So that's
Speaker 1: the problem when people get so upset with people's comments.
Speaker 1: He's speaking from his perspective. He's speaking what works for him.
Speaker 1: He's not, but he put it out there broadly, like
Speaker 1: y'all women don't know when to stop talking. Yeah, But
Speaker 1: he's only speaking from his own experience, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So it's like, what is wrong with him saying? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you might be this, that and the other, but but
Speaker 1: can you cook? About it? They just want you to
Speaker 1: cook the skyle, Yes, open your legs. It cater to
Speaker 1: them like And if that's what he wants, then that's
Speaker 1: what he has because I have some wants to write exactly. Okay,
Speaker 1: So so I just I just have a daughter. He
Speaker 1: got like seven kids, right, So so is this what
Speaker 1: he is? This what he wants for his daughter to um,
Speaker 1: just cook for a man and have sex with them
Speaker 1: and shut the up like that's horrible it I mean
Speaker 1: it is, but I'm I'm just saying that's his perspective.
Speaker 1: And so if he's if he if his daughter is like, daddy,
Speaker 1: I want to marry an NFL quarterback, well he might be, well, daughter,
Speaker 1: you better learn how to you better learn how to
Speaker 1: cook and cater to that man's niece because that's what
Speaker 1: this highly paid NFL quarterback is going to want his
Speaker 1: woman to do. With that perspective, Robin, Um, fine, right,
Speaker 1: that's what he wants. But but but he has you
Speaker 1: got to realize he's out of touch he's so out
Speaker 1: of touch. So like him him commenting on anything about
Speaker 1: you know, relationships or what he wants in a woman.
Speaker 1: It's out of touch. And so people are getting all
Speaker 1: upset with him about his perspective. But we got to
Speaker 1: realize he's so out of touch. He does not live
Speaker 1: in reality, has not lived in reality probably since he
Speaker 1: was like a twelve year old kid, and you know,
Speaker 1: watching his mother, he married or got a significant other. No,
Speaker 1: he's not, he's not married. I know he had a
Speaker 1: long time, a long time girlfriend that he had a
Speaker 1: bunch of kids with and then yeah, and then I
Speaker 1: don't know, I don't because she talked No, you know why.
Speaker 1: They probably didn't work out because she had all these
Speaker 1: kids and she had to cater to the kids and
Speaker 1: wasn't catering at him no more, right, and then all
Speaker 1: of a sudden she had an opinion, So I had
Speaker 1: out opinion. So so this is thing, Okay, like cam Newton,
Speaker 1: if that's what you want, then just just be prepared
Speaker 1: for what you're going to receive. You're probably not going
Speaker 1: to have a woman that's well rounded, no, or that
Speaker 1: is ambitious or motivated, or that's going to bring anything
Speaker 1: to the table, but cooking for you and having sex
Speaker 1: and making sure you're okay. Like that's so if that's
Speaker 1: what he wants, that's what he wants. I think. I
Speaker 1: think that's what I want. I don't think I've decided
Speaker 1: I don't need all your back talk, right, I don't
Speaker 1: need all this. Oh we gotta talk about how we feel? No,
Speaker 1: we don't, but you know, I mean it's like I
Speaker 1: just hate when you know, it's just like people just
Speaker 1: get so up in arms and oh they want to
Speaker 1: drag people through the mudd on Twitter and do all this,
Speaker 1: and it's like, no, just step back and realize, like
Speaker 1: his perspective where he's coming from. I get it where
Speaker 1: he's coming from, and it's different. So it's like, ladies,
Speaker 1: if if you want to marry or date an NFL quarterback,
Speaker 1: then that's what you got in Cam Newton's talent. That's
Speaker 1: what you got to bring to the table. He don't
Speaker 1: care if you own a business, he don't want that.
Speaker 1: And everybody to to get out here what you want now. Now,
Speaker 1: if it was Joe Joe Schmo collecting you know on
Speaker 1: the trash truck, he tripping, Okay, you're tripping tripping dude.
Speaker 1: All right, you know what I say, Joe Schmoe, I
Speaker 1: got something. I got some back talk for you. Or
Speaker 1: even if rightly it's twelve o two, you're not home
Speaker 1: right out of here, right, but imagine like, okay, if
Speaker 1: Barack Obama said that, yeah, we got a problem saying
Speaker 1: because he's speaking for he's representing the masses, he's you know, influential.
Speaker 1: But Cam Newton a quarter ba. But let's look at
Speaker 1: Tom Brady. You know he has Giselle and she was
Speaker 1: obviously well, first of all, we know Jase got a mouth,
Speaker 1: okay because she didn't share that um. And we know
Speaker 1: that she's like no wall flowers. She's not like I mean,
Speaker 1: she she wasn't home making having babies, but I could.
Speaker 1: I don't I see her being more of a partner
Speaker 1: for him, right, probably so, But that's what works for
Speaker 1: Tom Brady. True, you know what I'm saying, Like I
Speaker 1: think you know and and and I think it's different
Speaker 1: Tom Brady he got with supermodel Jell And what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: so his perspective, he's going to come into that relationship little,
Speaker 1: He's going to be the the one catering too her, right,
Speaker 1: and him like just called Uber eats Cam. I mean
Speaker 1: that serious? Is that serious? I know? But you gotta
Speaker 1: understand they're used to not just their women cater to them,
Speaker 1: it's their coaches and the trainers and the parents and
Speaker 1: the fans and the like. They're they're used to everybody
Speaker 1: around them catering to them and making stuff happen. They
Speaker 1: don't even know how it happens. They don't even they
Speaker 1: don't know what goes into it. So it's just like, yeah,
Speaker 1: so like like why like y'all leave him alone? Okay,
Speaker 1: we're moving on from camp. Okay, now I do want
Speaker 1: to talk about there was a Russian influencer, right that
Speaker 1: cut up a bunch of Chanell bags. It's a bunch
Speaker 1: of It was like a little movement apparently on Instagram, right.
Speaker 1: I don't I don't really know much of this. So
Speaker 1: so Chanel, you know, with this whole and can you
Speaker 1: believe that this Russian Russia and Ukraine war is still
Speaker 1: going on? Which is better? No? I mean it's it's horrible.
Speaker 1: Like I mean, we could go, we could, we could
Speaker 1: talk for hours about the atrocities of this war. But
Speaker 1: so apparently the Chanel stores in other parts of Europe
Speaker 1: were denying Russian people um the ability or privileged to
Speaker 1: buy their Mergerise listen Chanelle's gang stuff. Chanel has taken
Speaker 1: a stand. I'm not mad at it, and I'm not
Speaker 1: sure if it was like one country or a bunch
Speaker 1: of countries, but somewhere a Chanel store said you Russian,
Speaker 1: you ain't buy. No, you're not buying ourself. So the
Speaker 1: Russian influencers got mad and we're literally on Instagram cutting
Speaker 1: their channel bags. What how were they cutting them? Not
Speaker 1: just like regular senses that you buy a CVS. What
Speaker 1: were they using these bags? Because I got plenty and
Speaker 1: then you can't cut them? How you could? You could
Speaker 1: get it? They probably had knives and they were getting
Speaker 1: in there and cutting those bags, And I'm like, damn it, y'all,
Speaker 1: why didn't y'all just like you could have just sent them,
Speaker 1: sent them the ribbing. You know, you don't have to
Speaker 1: cut them. I mean, because let's couldn't they could have
Speaker 1: taken video of them packaging their channel bags, putting it
Speaker 1: in a box and putting a shipping label on it
Speaker 1: and dropping it off at ups. That would have made
Speaker 1: a stake, That would have made a statement because we
Speaker 1: all know channel bags are like, um, they don't depreciate,
Speaker 1: they appreciate, so you can sell your bag and get
Speaker 1: more money. But I guess those girls were like, you
Speaker 1: know what, we don't need your damn bags, and we're
Speaker 1: gonna cut this ship up because money ain't a thing,
Speaker 1: but it is. You're just a Russian influencer. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean you need Yeah, that's what you do for a living.
Speaker 1: Like I mean, did they get plenty of hits? Did
Speaker 1: they what did they get to an Oligard? Okay, the
Speaker 1: yacht with their oldergarden. I've been looking for a Oligard.
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding, Okay, And you're going to be catering
Speaker 1: to that man and show I know, I know, shutting
Speaker 1: the hell up and me and all of his eight
Speaker 1: hundred girlfriends like hell no, Um, listen, that's why you know,
Speaker 1: not being in a relationship is a good thing because
Speaker 1: then you can tell other people shut the funk up. Okay, yeah, yeah, exactly. Um, Okay,
Speaker 1: so that is insane. But I'm not mad at you
Speaker 1: now for that. But but I ben't gonna stop the war.
Speaker 1: But but what it does do is it reminds me
Speaker 1: a little bit because it's like where do you draw
Speaker 1: the line right? In all series? Because remember when Oprah
Speaker 1: couldn't go into Herman's like she got she they wouldn't
Speaker 1: let her in. She I think she was in London.
Speaker 1: She tells a story like she tried to get in
Speaker 1: and they kind of like it was like late, like
Speaker 1: it was the store was getting ready to close, and
Speaker 1: they're happening to me and Louis Vuitton and Florida that
Speaker 1: last week. They're like, do you have an appointment? I
Speaker 1: was like no, We're like, well, you can't come in.
Speaker 1: Robert Dixon was Black Hall from Louis Vadon. What happened? Robert?
Speaker 1: Why you this is your shady moment of the week.
Speaker 1: But that was like a few weeks. That was when
Speaker 1: that was. That was when we were on break. Okay,
Speaker 1: so they didn't let you in. No, they're literally at
Speaker 1: the door. It was the mall um in Florida. So no,
Speaker 1: what's it called? Not sorry, what's the Evan torm all
Speaker 1: in Florida? Okay? And I went my kids and we
Speaker 1: about to walk in there and the ladies standing there
Speaker 1: with a tablet and she's like, do you have an appointment?
Speaker 1: I said, no. She said, well, you're gonna have to
Speaker 1: make an appointment. You can come back tomorrow. I said,
Speaker 1: I never mind, I am not coming back that. But
Speaker 1: I said no, thank you and walked away. Did she
Speaker 1: explain to you why you needed an appointment? I guess
Speaker 1: you need one. I don't need an explanation. I guess
Speaker 1: you need an appointment to go into the store. Probably
Speaker 1: because people run up in there and steal their ship
Speaker 1: and run out. I don't know. Oh, well there's there
Speaker 1: is that. So so I was like, okay, whatever. My
Speaker 1: kids were like, don't they know who you are? Apparently
Speaker 1: she does not have Bravo on her cable package. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn, I'm not about to steal a dozen ship, right,
Speaker 1: and you might even buy something right listen. But they
Speaker 1: didn't do that to me at the Gucci store. I
Speaker 1: just walked right down to the because Gucci knew who
Speaker 1: you were, and they said, move over, here comes Robin
Speaker 1: and the boys. No. I mean, I ain't buying nothing,
Speaker 1: but okay, okay, alright, really quick, y'all, and this is
Speaker 1: this is going to be our first and reasonably shady history.
Speaker 1: I have another appointment. I need to get to so
Speaker 1: I'm going to hand my mic over to Carly. Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: so Carly is gonna take my place. But but I
Speaker 1: really wanted to be here for this topic. So we
Speaker 1: have a really cool topic to talk about. Um, it
Speaker 1: came from a busfeed article and I think this is
Speaker 1: a good discussion for people to have. So the topic
Speaker 1: is married people are sharing the brutally real things unmarried
Speaker 1: couples need to know before taking that step. This is
Speaker 1: gonna be good. And I just think, you know, we
Speaker 1: just talked about Cam Newton and what he wants in
Speaker 1: a woman, so we know you know the truth about
Speaker 1: Cam Newton. So if you don't like that, don't marry him. Right,
Speaker 1: But anyway, so this is a really good topic. So
Speaker 1: they have a whole bunch of topics you can go over.
Speaker 1: So Carly. Everyone give a warm welcome round of applause
Speaker 1: with Carly because Robin gotta hop off and go do
Speaker 1: something else. Yes, okay, so here comes Carlie. All right, So, um,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read this whope this one thing. Okay, So
Speaker 1: marriage is rarely marriage is rarely too strong people, Right,
Speaker 1: in a marriage, you have like maybe one strong person
Speaker 1: the other one is not so strong, like somebody always
Speaker 1: has to take the lead. And a relationship, Um, it's
Speaker 1: about taking turns, about being strong for each other, all right.
Speaker 1: So that's kind of like the premise. Okay. So the
Speaker 1: most valuable piece of advice that was received from a
Speaker 1: married couple in advance was you're vowing to stay together.
Speaker 1: You are not vowing to stay the same people. Oh,
Speaker 1: that's very important. That is extremely important. By the way,
Speaker 1: this is Carly, dump dump dumb. It's not Robin's voice anymore.
Speaker 1: It's Carla. Okay. So somebody told me that when I
Speaker 1: first got married, they were like the person the people
Speaker 1: that you are now. As a matter of fact, Jamal
Speaker 1: and I went to marriage counseling, right, A lot of
Speaker 1: people don't do that. People don't do that. I think
Speaker 1: it's very important. Um. So the counselor was like, um,
Speaker 1: you know, the person that you're married now will not
Speaker 1: be that person you know down the road because you
Speaker 1: want the person. And it's a it's a strange concept
Speaker 1: because it's like you're marrying the person in the moment, yes,
Speaker 1: and then you realize that person is not even that
Speaker 1: same person a year later, Yes, a year later, six
Speaker 1: months later, ship thirty days, damn it not so so
Speaker 1: the person says, yes, I really hit home and they
Speaker 1: found out that information. And honestly, the more I thought
Speaker 1: about it, the more comfortable I have been through all
Speaker 1: the changes. My husband and I are not the same
Speaker 1: people we were thirteen years ago, but it's been wonderful
Speaker 1: growing with him. Now that's a good news story. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's talk about the bad because you know, let me
Speaker 1: just say this, Gezelle is not the same person that
Speaker 1: she was m M five years ago, five years ago. Like,
Speaker 1: I really like when I'm home and I'm alone. I
Speaker 1: really like when I don't have anything to do, um,
Speaker 1: because you're always so busy, right, so I think. But
Speaker 1: I think if I was married to that same person, right,
Speaker 1: because Jamal likes to be out and about, he's all
Speaker 1: over the place, right, I would not be together because
Speaker 1: I truly like to be home and doing nothing. Like
Speaker 1: when I get up in the morning, I'm trying to
Speaker 1: figure out how many more days I have to do
Speaker 1: this before I can do nothing. So yeah, that's that's like,
Speaker 1: you need to know how the other person is growing, right,
Speaker 1: and whether you're going to like that person. I also
Speaker 1: think that as women, we do a better job at
Speaker 1: being accommodating and understanding how they're changing where I think
Speaker 1: men got to get stuck in their ways because they
Speaker 1: married us for who we were at the time that
Speaker 1: they married us. They want us to look the same,
Speaker 1: They want us to act the same. They don't want
Speaker 1: us to be any different talk than who we were
Speaker 1: day one. Listen and I'm gonna change. Okay, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: do something called change. Now. Treat your spouse better than
Speaker 1: you treat strangers. We are friends who were polite to
Speaker 1: service people and distant acquaintances, but skip the manners with
Speaker 1: their spouse. Please and thank you. You guys show some appreciation. Now,
Speaker 1: that is very true. But that's even true with family, right, So, like,
Speaker 1: you know, you might treat your mom or dad, or
Speaker 1: your sisters or brothers kind of like you take them
Speaker 1: for grant it, and you can't do that. Like the
Speaker 1: pleasing thank you. It's a small thing, but it makes
Speaker 1: such a difference to make you feel appreciated and wanted
Speaker 1: and desired. All of those things are super important, and
Speaker 1: we totally lose that. They'd be like do this, do that,
Speaker 1: and they'll be like please, you'd be like no now, okay,
Speaker 1: no anybody talking to me like that. But um, I
Speaker 1: get it, Like people just get comfortable. Don't be getting
Speaker 1: comfortable with your spouse that you can't say thank you.
Speaker 1: I mean, even in the bad room. If he does
Speaker 1: a trick or two that's new, say thank you baby.
Speaker 1: That was good job, good job that you you flipped
Speaker 1: me over and you did the special trick. Yes, good job.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something that's very important, all right,
Speaker 1: So you gotta pick and choose your battles. You gotta
Speaker 1: learn to let no some This was advice I did get.
Speaker 1: You have to pick a matter of fact, my mother
Speaker 1: gave me this advice. Did you implement it? Okay? So
Speaker 1: the advice is to to learn to let some stuff go. There.
Speaker 1: There will be points you are going to want to
Speaker 1: kill each other, but you will figure out, figure it out,
Speaker 1: and move on. So don't stay mad forever about something
Speaker 1: that probably isn't that big of a deal in the
Speaker 1: grand scheme of things. So, in other words, you gotta
Speaker 1: pick and choose your battles. Um did I implement it
Speaker 1: in the beginning years. Absolutely, not like I was mad
Speaker 1: about everything. But but where do you draw the line?
Speaker 1: I don't know where do you draw the line where
Speaker 1: you're not now sacrificing yourself right in your happiness and
Speaker 1: your peace. So you have to figure out what battles are.
Speaker 1: Like when I said it was mad about everything, I'm
Speaker 1: going to put this in perspective. Please, Why are your
Speaker 1: socks over there in the corner when they should be
Speaker 1: in like the hamper? But it's not really about the socks, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I don't want to sock there, No, But I
Speaker 1: really think there was a bigger issue. Socks is just
Speaker 1: like the straw. Okay, So why is there toothpaste in
Speaker 1: the sink? Like you couldn't have like washed that down?
Speaker 1: So was he doing that day one though? Probably was
Speaker 1: he doing that when y'all were dating? Okay? So why
Speaker 1: is there like hair everywhere? Like it's just ridiculous, Like
Speaker 1: it's just so much. So you get mad at all
Speaker 1: these things, right, and then all of a sudden one
Speaker 1: day you just go to hell off right because you've
Speaker 1: kept it in all this time you should not have.
Speaker 1: So you gotta pick it to your battles. You gotta
Speaker 1: figure out what's important and what's not, and you have
Speaker 1: to figure out what is going to progress the relationship. Yes,
Speaker 1: but what's important to you may not be important to him, clearly, like,
Speaker 1: and that's most most maps. I think that's most men.
Speaker 1: Like they're like, what's the big deal? Like, is it
Speaker 1: really bothering you? Yes, it's bothering me. Pick up your
Speaker 1: damn stinky socks. But I'm sure there are things that
Speaker 1: bothered him about you. Did he bring it to your attention?
Speaker 1: And how often? Um, that's that's true. I won't say
Speaker 1: what those things are, but that is very true. Because
Speaker 1: what tell you have flaws? I mean occasionally every now
Speaker 1: and again on Thursdays. I have flaws, yes, but I'm
Speaker 1: down with, like you telling me what was the issue
Speaker 1: or like what you would like to see change. I
Speaker 1: might not change it, but you could just tell me
Speaker 1: in a nice way, but you have no intentions of
Speaker 1: changing it. Let me And how did that work out?
Speaker 1: So clearly everybody knows I'm divorced. But he had a problem.
Speaker 1: I can say this he had a problem with because
Speaker 1: my kids were very young. I was having babies, and
Speaker 1: you know, I decided I was no longer getting my
Speaker 1: nails done. I just decided I'm done with that. Was
Speaker 1: that something he really wanted? You to do. Yeah, he
Speaker 1: hated the fact that I didn't get my nails done.
Speaker 1: That's because you had small children, has small Children'm gonna
Speaker 1: have babies. And I just was like always washing dishes,
Speaker 1: washing their bottles, you know, handling them. And I just
Speaker 1: didn't want these long nails. I just there was just
Speaker 1: something I had to let go. But where your nails
Speaker 1: looking raggedy. My nails was looking raggedy, like you were
Speaker 1: scraping them against concrete, scraping them against concrete on this one. Sorry,
Speaker 1: but I just was like I've I've had, you know,
Speaker 1: when when it comes to female maintenance, right, we've got
Speaker 1: our eyelashes. We've got I mean, everybody's different, everybody's different,
Speaker 1: but for me, so there's hay most of us hair eyelashes.
Speaker 1: You know, you have to you know, every now and again,
Speaker 1: not as regularly. You know, you got to get your
Speaker 1: maybe go to your institution, get your face hooked up.
Speaker 1: I thought you were going somewhere else with that waxing
Speaker 1: you got. Yes, okay, so there's look like shirt was forest,
Speaker 1: no forests over here, and then toes. Yeah, so that's
Speaker 1: and then and then nails on top of that, nails
Speaker 1: and feet. Okay, so I just decided to let one
Speaker 1: thing go. I couldn't do it anymore while the babies
Speaker 1: were small. But that that was for you know that
Speaker 1: that makes sense. Yes, And he didn't get that. No,
Speaker 1: he didn't get they didn't really care. Was he helping
Speaker 1: you with the baby? No? I mean okay, not like that. Okay,
Speaker 1: he was traveling and you know he was doing his
Speaker 1: man thing, going his past the thing. Yeah. So and
Speaker 1: that was totally fine. Like you know, I was definitely
Speaker 1: let's get let's we're gonna circle this back to cam Newton, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: because when I first got married, I was all about
Speaker 1: like catering to him and making sure he was good
Speaker 1: and definitely not like not saying any not she just
Speaker 1: shut up. No, that was never me. You know. I
Speaker 1: was always giving my opinion as I should, but very
Speaker 1: much into making sure he was catered to. Right. Is
Speaker 1: that because you felt taken care of? Like? Is that
Speaker 1: all you had to do? Did you have any other
Speaker 1: responsibilities before you had children? But to cater to him?
Speaker 1: Well no, I was like helping him with the growing
Speaker 1: of his church and all that. So that but in essence,
Speaker 1: that was still catering to him, okay, but that was fine,
Speaker 1: It was fine with that. But I'm there's no way
Speaker 1: I could be that person today. Oh no, no, no,
Speaker 1: So them people do evolve and grow and they become
Speaker 1: better versions of themselves as they should be. But like
Speaker 1: Robin said, that's why you find that person that they
Speaker 1: are perfectly happy with doing that. Like, if all I
Speaker 1: have to do is that, I'm okay with that. If
Speaker 1: that's all I have to do, just I don't have
Speaker 1: to worry about nothing else all this and not talk.
Speaker 1: Well he did? He really? When I think he said
Speaker 1: when he meant be quiet, I don't think he meant like,
Speaker 1: we can't have a conversation. We can't you can't have
Speaker 1: an opinion. I think he meant that all of that exactly.
Speaker 1: He don't want to hear all that. And I'm paying
Speaker 1: for everything, and you don't have anything else to do.
Speaker 1: What are you nagging me about? What are you complaining about? So, Carl,
Speaker 1: you could do that? I think I could what okay?
Speaker 1: But so so what about your aspirations, your businesses, whatever
Speaker 1: is you want to do again? I don't think he
Speaker 1: said that you can't do that. I just think he
Speaker 1: meant to say that that's not what he necessarily needs.
Speaker 1: I don't think he thinks that his woman should not
Speaker 1: have any aspirations. I mean he could. I can't beat that. Well,
Speaker 1: he was like, y'all talking about y'all bitches. That's having
Speaker 1: aspirations and getting out there. And I think it's how
Speaker 1: it's presented. I could still have my business, I could
Speaker 1: still have aspirations, but I'm not bringing it to you
Speaker 1: like I'm better than you, or that I'm competing with you.
Speaker 1: Compete exactly. You can't compete with Cam. And I think
Speaker 1: that's what he was saying. I think Cam' is whack whatever.
Speaker 1: All right, this is last, but not least. Do not
Speaker 1: get married during the honeymoon phase. Okay, wait until it's
Speaker 1: been at least two or three years and you've seen
Speaker 1: them happy, sad, glad, angry. You gotta see all all
Speaker 1: of those emotions. Yes, happy, glad, sad, angry. Listen, angry
Speaker 1: will make you break up, but you need to see that.
Speaker 1: You need to see how that person is going to
Speaker 1: handle anger and how does it affect you. How are
Speaker 1: you handling anger with that person. It's very necessary, like
Speaker 1: you can't just oh, he's always happy, there's nothing wrong.
Speaker 1: You know, you have to know how these people are
Speaker 1: going to deal with serious situations, you know, um downfalls,
Speaker 1: Like what if he lost all his money? How is
Speaker 1: he gonna rebound from that? I hate it for him
Speaker 1: because my money is my money, and whatever is that
Speaker 1: you've got going on, you're not gonna help him yourself? Child, Please,
Speaker 1: but you know what I'm saying. I'm saying old you.
Speaker 1: I don't know you might be like if you don't
Speaker 1: come correct and already have your ducks in order, I
Speaker 1: can't fool with you. I can't fool with you. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: That's that's most of us at this age. Yeah, Like
Speaker 1: I need you to have your ship together. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: got people I need to have to take care of
Speaker 1: their called children. And that's the only people you should
Speaker 1: have to take care of besides yourself and right, so,
Speaker 1: and I'm going to be rocking out doing me for
Speaker 1: a very long time. I love that. Yes anyway, all right,
Speaker 1: we've got to get out of here. So I just
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