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<v Speaker 1>I'm so glad I use my last adderall for this.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel on welcome to like a virgin the show.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll give yesterday's pop culture, today's takes. I'm Rosdam, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>Fran Froda, and we do have a secret third guest

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<v Speaker 1>in the studio right now currently, I think waiting for

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<v Speaker 1>an uber and much will be revealed, much will be

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<v Speaker 1>Are we even allowed to say, we're allowed to say

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<v Speaker 1>this is our podcast. I don't know. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what friends in the studio right now. We just record

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<v Speaker 1>an episode of her. She's going to exercise a strain

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<v Speaker 1>as we have us and Oscar's commentary if she can.

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<v Speaker 1>Was told to be quiet, and we'll also be well.

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<v Speaker 1>I think okay. The big thing is that we did

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<v Speaker 1>finally see Sweeney Todd on Broadway. It's currently in previews.

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<v Speaker 1>We saw the previews version for sure. Yes, Fran has

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<v Speaker 1>never seen Sweeney Todd before. I of course it's one

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<v Speaker 1>of my favorites. Um top line, I'm gonna say seven

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<v Speaker 1>point five out of ten. Wow. Honestly, I didn't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't think it was going to be that high.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought, I don't know. How we felt leaving the theater.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'm not sure how I overall experienced this,

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<v Speaker 1>but as you said, like, I've always wanted to see

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<v Speaker 1>a staging and so I was just kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>so happy to be there the whole time. I was

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<v Speaker 1>happy to be there too. And the reason it's so

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<v Speaker 1>high is because it's Sweeney Tide. It is an incredible

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<v Speaker 1>staging of the show. The scenery is amazing, the twenty

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<v Speaker 1>six piece orchestra incredible. A lot of the voices are

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<v Speaker 1>very good. Joanna's sounds really great. That kid from Stranger

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<v Speaker 1>Things is Toby is really good. The conductor of the

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<v Speaker 1>twenty six piece orchestra was suckable. Suckable. Josh Grobin would

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<v Speaker 1>suck but that's kind of the problem. Okay, So now

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<v Speaker 1>we got to the critiques, which are Josh Groban Annie

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<v Speaker 1>Ashford both about ten years too young to play either

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<v Speaker 1>of the roles. An have thought of because I'm not like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not like as in the theater the theater. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know that, Yeah, I didn't. I wasn't thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>that when I watched it. Annalie also doing a horrible

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<v Speaker 1>Cockney accent, which was baffling to me because when I

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<v Speaker 1>watched the Monica Lewinsky like kind of show or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>She does an amazing she's really good accent work, and

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<v Speaker 1>she's such a classically trained Like what I was just

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, isn't Cockney like one of the asier ones,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, And the most unfortunate thing is just she

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<v Speaker 1>just can't sing it. Her voice isn't powerful enough. Her

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<v Speaker 1>voice sounded great, yeah, but with the accent, it like

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<v Speaker 1>kind of muddled it. I think no, I mean she

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<v Speaker 1>she couldn't hit the notes. And I think she acted

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<v Speaker 1>the role really well. Like the comedy of it was great.

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<v Speaker 1>She's such a great physical comedian. She had the only laughs.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a moment where she slides down the stairs that

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<v Speaker 1>were super funny. Her by the sea like brought the

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<v Speaker 1>house down, but it didn't bring the house down. Vocally,

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<v Speaker 1>none of her vocals were quite where they were. And

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<v Speaker 1>then with Josh Grobin it was a little too perfect. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he needed to be a little more gruff. And I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>Sweeney Todd is supposed to be scary and Josh Grobin

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<v Speaker 1>is not scary. Know. Tommy's like, You're like, no, um,

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<v Speaker 1>I I feel like, yeah, the thing with me was

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<v Speaker 1>like I Um, I feel like Josh's vocal quality lent

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<v Speaker 1>itself perfectly to like the you know, the operatic vocals

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<v Speaker 1>of a Todd of like Todd right as a character,

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<v Speaker 1>but like the only I mean again weird. I was

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<v Speaker 1>dming someone else who's like in the Broadway world about this,

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<v Speaker 1>who maybe have some friends in the production, and he

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<v Speaker 1>was defending it a little bit to me, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, Okay, we saw a very very previews, like

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<v Speaker 1>it had only been in previews for like a week

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<v Speaker 1>or two, and so we saw a very raw staging.

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<v Speaker 1>But like the only acting choice Josh Grobin made was

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<v Speaker 1>to like have a limp, and I was like, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, no other choices. I was like, make choices

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<v Speaker 1>be scary, be weird, be funny. And the thing the

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<v Speaker 1>thing that I appreciate about Annalie Ashford's Missus Lovett, even

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<v Speaker 1>though we you know, you said she's a little young,

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<v Speaker 1>she didn't have that coarseness. I agree with that. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>I felt like, you know, she added this modernity to

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<v Speaker 1>miss to Missus Lovett that I appreciate it. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>that makes she put her own little spice on it.

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<v Speaker 1>I see and love like everything that she did and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, this is this is working for me? Tommy,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to chime in before you exit the building.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't seen it yet, but I did think the

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<v Speaker 1>announcement was weird, and I'm going to try and see

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<v Speaker 1>it this month. And it's one of my favorite musicals

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<v Speaker 1>of all time. Favorite song. Who would you play? Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god? I mean I could see as the beggar woman. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>the beggar woman? Is that how? I'm a bottom Carter's

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<v Speaker 1>yeah that is unfortunately, yeah, okay, she's she's going to

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<v Speaker 1>exit the studio hunch. I just really loved Joanna honestly

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<v Speaker 1>as a song, it so incredible and like just the

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<v Speaker 1>movie version of that. I actually haven't seen it on stage.

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<v Speaker 1>Before I'm realizing I only know the movie version. Yeah. Unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 1>Anthony in this production was not great. Anthony Prosky's kidding here, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that shockingly. But we have to say the worst part

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<v Speaker 1>of this production of Sweet Todd was the choreography. What

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<v Speaker 1>was going on. The thing about Sweeney Todd specifically is

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<v Speaker 1>that the music is so powerful and the voices singing,

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<v Speaker 1>especially the first song, the Ballad of Sweeney Todd, is

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<v Speaker 1>that the music and the voices women together are so

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<v Speaker 1>intricate and powerful that literally nothing else needs to happen

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<v Speaker 1>on stage, and yet they undercut that in this production

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<v Speaker 1>by having them do, as Friend pointed out, all this

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<v Speaker 1>Martha Graham ass choreography like they're in a high school

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<v Speaker 1>production of Hair. Yeah, it was Martha Graham is exactly

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<v Speaker 1>the vibe. It was this kind of pseudo contemporary like

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<v Speaker 1>fluid bodies like one of the So honestly, I think

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<v Speaker 1>Rose and I, I don't know if this is your experience,

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<v Speaker 1>my experience from the first song, we immediately felt this

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<v Speaker 1>like awfulness about what about this kind of like how

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<v Speaker 1>the ensemble was stage and something that they try right

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<v Speaker 1>from jump is the classic, the classic Martha Graham like

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<v Speaker 1>kind of a pulsating body blob of like you know

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<v Speaker 1>on someone members, like pulsing whatever, anything like turning into

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<v Speaker 1>each other like one writhing mass of flesh. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think it might have been a previous thing. But I

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<v Speaker 1>also was like, the people in this cast are vocalists.

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<v Speaker 1>I did not see them all as like choreo girls,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think when you do the perfectly synchronized human blob,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like you do have to be perfectly sac They

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<v Speaker 1>were not. It just doesn't need You don't need choreography

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<v Speaker 1>with this music, specifically with Sandheim. You should just stand

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<v Speaker 1>there and sing. It should be good enough that you

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<v Speaker 1>can do that and it will be powerful. And there

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<v Speaker 1>were moments where they did small movements like little jerky

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<v Speaker 1>head things. That is as much as you need to do.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so overwrought and over choreograph and over choreographed,

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<v Speaker 1>and it just didn't need to be. But I still say,

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<v Speaker 1>if you love Sweeney Todd, if you want to see

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<v Speaker 1>a big, splashy Broadway production of it, definitely go see

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<v Speaker 1>it's It's absolutely worth it. I still had a fantastic time,

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<v Speaker 1>and you'll probably see a better version than what we

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<v Speaker 1>saw from the previews I feel. I mean, it probably

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<v Speaker 1>won't change that much from opening, but it might change

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<v Speaker 1>a little, and I would be interested in seeing it again.

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<v Speaker 1>After it opened. You were saying, you were like, what

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<v Speaker 1>did they just cut all the correo or something? I

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<v Speaker 1>like they could, but you're so right. It just they

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<v Speaker 1>just need spotlight lit from underneath so their faces look

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<v Speaker 1>really scary, and they need a park and bark spooky spooky. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>speaking of ooky spooky, last night were the Oscars Hollywood

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<v Speaker 1>spookiest night time of record. Yeah, last night were the Oscars. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I had a little I had a little Oscars gathering.

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<v Speaker 1>It was my first time entertaining that many people in

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<v Speaker 1>my home. How did I do as a hostess? The

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<v Speaker 1>couch was doing a lot of work. The snacks that

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<v Speaker 1>you that you laid out do that, and we didn't

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<v Speaker 1>even eat them all. I have so many dips in

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<v Speaker 1>my fridge. I took cheese home. I also last night

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<v Speaker 1>I was so worried about people eating on the couch.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was because I have a white couch. Well

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<v Speaker 1>it's like an ivory color, and I was so worried

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<v Speaker 1>about it, about someone like spilling on it. Nothing happened

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<v Speaker 1>this morning. I like checked it over. I was cleaning

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<v Speaker 1>it was perfect, and then what did I do? I

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<v Speaker 1>cut my leg and bled all over the couch. This wording, honey,

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<v Speaker 1>But it's a it's a performance fabric. It's I already

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<v Speaker 1>cleaned it off. It is I bought I bought up.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to get a white couch in a

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<v Speaker 1>in a fabric that would not like be cleanable. As

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<v Speaker 1>a seasoned hostess, I mean you're also a seasoned hostess,

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<v Speaker 1>but not with this house. Um, I will say, little tip.

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<v Speaker 1>I do not serve foods that can stain anything. So

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<v Speaker 1>that blueberry cheval you had, which nobody ate, I ate it,

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<v Speaker 1>you were and you took it home. I love the

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<v Speaker 1>Trader Joe's blueberry chevro. Okay, I love that cheese. I

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<v Speaker 1>bought so much food less yesterday, like I bought it

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<v Speaker 1>as if I was hosting fifteen people because I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>hosted in a while. But we horked it down. I

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<v Speaker 1>thought I did a good job. The punch was delicious.

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<v Speaker 1>Another thing I would not have allowed in my home stainable. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>well but but but it was delicious. It was delicious.

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<v Speaker 1>That is a classic recipe of sorbet and sprite and

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<v Speaker 1>sprite and like grenadine and cherries. Um. So, our experience

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<v Speaker 1>of watching the Oscars last night was basically every time

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<v Speaker 1>a new person was showcased on camera or friend Hilton

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<v Speaker 1>or I would say would suck or talked about how

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<v Speaker 1>much we needed their loads, And that was kind of

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<v Speaker 1>our Oscars experience. There was a kind of low doometer.

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<v Speaker 1>It was just like how many loads? And when Pedro

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<v Speaker 1>Pascal came up to present work off there all screamed, well,

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<v Speaker 1>we screamed, I think before you got there. Pedro did

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<v Speaker 1>some red carpet interview and he did a thing where

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<v Speaker 1>he like looked at the camera and we all daddy,

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<v Speaker 1>We like, we all climaxed instant here. We all became

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<v Speaker 1>his baby girls. Um, I he's the baby girl, is

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<v Speaker 1>the reality, and he his his oscars joke was gay.

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<v Speaker 1>It was gay. Well he's aged. But what we can

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<v Speaker 1>talk about is that he had that post that was

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<v Speaker 1>kind of alluding to the fact that like when he

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<v Speaker 1>was like the answer is like in the wind or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>he's kind of staying like, if you're asking questions about

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<v Speaker 1>my sexuality, I don't give a fuck, Like, yeah, it's there,

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<v Speaker 1>it's there for the taking. I don't need a comment

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<v Speaker 1>on it. Further, if that was your interpretation of the post,

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<v Speaker 1>which some people would not interpret it that way, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like, if you're in your fifties and you're at

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<v Speaker 1>the what is the prime peak of your career? His

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<v Speaker 1>sister is transum Bella is you know, non binary. You

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<v Speaker 1>have so many people in your life where this is

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<v Speaker 1>like a prescient issue, and for him to be like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>why not, Like I thought it was gorgeous king behavior

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<v Speaker 1>um oscars, you know, as expected everything everywhere all at once,

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<v Speaker 1>swept no oscars for Tar. It won literally nothing and

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<v Speaker 1>went home empty hand at Toddfield and his giant hot

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<v Speaker 1>must have been pissed. Yeah, it was, honestly, there was.

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<v Speaker 1>That was something that I thought was interesting about. Like

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<v Speaker 1>the group that we had watching is between you, Me, Hilton, Peyton, Tie,

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<v Speaker 1>Michael QB. Like Twitter people were we were there like tweets.

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<v Speaker 1>It was the kind of situation where it's like laptop,

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<v Speaker 1>you hear the tweets before you see them on Twitter.

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<v Speaker 1>We were like, weren't shopping everything live. That's like someone

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<v Speaker 1>would say a joke and then if I got enough laughter,

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<v Speaker 1>you would see them pull out their phone, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think that, you know the I think our surprise about

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<v Speaker 1>the tar of it all was kind of that, right,

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<v Speaker 1>Like Tar was a Twitter movie. Um, not to reduce

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<v Speaker 1>it because it's obviously an amazing film, but like we

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<v Speaker 1>get into these like little echo chambers where we're just like,

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<v Speaker 1>this is the best thing ever created, right over and

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<v Speaker 1>over and over again, and then it's like and then

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<v Speaker 1>you know, but then also Kate did win a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of a lot of the awards shows leading up to

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<v Speaker 1>the Oscars, she was the front runner. I mean Michelle.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say Michelle was more the populist choice. But

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<v Speaker 1>you know, for both Brendan and Michelle, like these are

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<v Speaker 1>career wins more than I think specifically for the performance

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<v Speaker 1>they deliver. As much as we didn't want that fat

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<v Speaker 1>suit to have an Oscar, the fat suit literally won

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<v Speaker 1>an Oscar. So insane to say out loud. I mean, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it was wild. I mean rose a victory for us,

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<v Speaker 1>a loss for you, for everything everywhere all at wants too.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's not like I hate it kind of, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm just means, I'm glad. I'm glad that it's over.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm glad that award season's over. I'm glad that almost

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<v Speaker 1>a year after I saw it, that we can now

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<v Speaker 1>stop talking about everything everywhere all at one. I have

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<v Speaker 1>to I've nothing nowhere all and never ever, never ever. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I have been thinking about that record about your about

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<v Speaker 1>your everything everywhere diet tribe for lack of my fatigue.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really what it is. I have to say. I

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<v Speaker 1>was thinking about it and I was like, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's exhausting when things were talked about for a year.

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<v Speaker 1>Avatar Way of Water has been talked about for seven years.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you not grow tired? But like as of last year,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't even believe it was really coming out, So

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<v Speaker 1>it's kind of a different thing. Okay, sure, okay, some

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<v Speaker 1>stuff we couldn't get into the Last of Us finale happened. Friend,

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<v Speaker 1>don't watched it yet, so we'll we'll um hit it

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<v Speaker 1>next week. And also we have a very special announcement

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<v Speaker 1>coming next week, So multiple announcements, multiple loads. Uh, hang

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<v Speaker 1>on to your butt. The looter is is that that

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<v Speaker 1>little thing it's gonna break, It's going all the way

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<v Speaker 1>to glast is going to shatter. It's like that the

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<v Speaker 1>side that where it goes all the way over is

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<v Speaker 1>like bright silk and there's gonna become everywhere. Yeah yeah

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<v Speaker 1>yeah yeah. Um so whatever, it is, just like, do

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<v Speaker 1>not miss next week's episode. That's what we're saying. If you,

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<v Speaker 1>if you sometimes skips skip episodes, which if you are,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not a real virgin, um, do not skip next

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<v Speaker 1>week's episode. It is going to be packing. No, make

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<v Speaker 1>sure you are extra submissive, unbreathable next week. It was

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<v Speaker 1>a wise woman once said I was in the two

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<v Speaker 1>one two. Oh yeah, a wise woman. I think she's

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<v Speaker 1>wise beyond her years. Um, you know, for for not

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<v Speaker 1>very wise women. One said that New York was the

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<v Speaker 1>fifth character in a TV show. Shirt are sure? Um,

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<v Speaker 1>Today we are doing a cute little episode on New

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<v Speaker 1>York City, Love of our Lives Concrete Jungle. That will

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<v Speaker 1>never not be funny to me. That should be a hat.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything should be a hat. Everything should concrete jungle. Um. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>in this concrete Jungle, Rose, we're doing this. We're doing

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<v Speaker 1>this episode on our beloved Concrete Jungle to honor you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the my return following your return. Yeah, we are both

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<v Speaker 1>New Yorkers once again. And I okay, I think this

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<v Speaker 1>is like a I'll wait till you open your roy

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<v Speaker 1>my La. Sometimes you forget that sound travel also gets

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<v Speaker 1>picked up by the microphone. I'm not the only one.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not the only one, but I am usually the

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<v Speaker 1>one usually the Um, when do you think, how long

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<v Speaker 1>do you think you have to live here before you

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<v Speaker 1>consider yourself a New Yorker? Um? Um, I'll just say

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<v Speaker 1>six years because that's how long I lived in New

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<v Speaker 1>York until I moved to La. See, I will say ten.

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<v Speaker 1>I think everyone says everyone says ten. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>that's like kind of the standard. But I was trying to,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, put a spin on it too, for you

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<v Speaker 1>to validate your your own experience. Yeah, well, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>if you account no, never mind continue. So you think

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<v Speaker 1>it should be ten, I think it's ten. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>A decade just sounds right to me. But also the

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<v Speaker 1>real ty, honestly is it's not. It's not that you

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<v Speaker 1>have to be in New York for ten years. To me,

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<v Speaker 1>you're a real New Yorker when you want to move

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<v Speaker 1>to LA and when you want to move to LA,

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<v Speaker 1>like the magic of New York has worn and it

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<v Speaker 1>does kind of happen around ten years. Yes, yes, it

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<v Speaker 1>really does. I know so many people that move to

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<v Speaker 1>LA for like one, two or maybe three years and

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<v Speaker 1>then come back. Yeah. Well, well we'll get to that.

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<v Speaker 1>But I do want to talk about the our you know,

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<v Speaker 1>our personal New York mythology, because New York City um

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<v Speaker 1>does loom large and the cultural consciousness. It is a

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<v Speaker 1>real place, but it is also a like very um fictionalized.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah it is. It is an idea as well as

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<v Speaker 1>a real place. And I think everyone grows up consuming

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<v Speaker 1>media about New York City. Everyone grows up thinking they

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<v Speaker 1>understand what this place is, and um, I know what

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<v Speaker 1>when I am what? How How did New York show

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<v Speaker 1>up for you in your childhood growing up? Like when

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<v Speaker 1>did you become conscious of it? I think my earliest

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<v Speaker 1>consciousness of New York is James and the Giant Peach, which,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, a lot of the arc of that movie

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<v Speaker 1>is about getting to New York City, being on the

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<v Speaker 1>Empire State Building. Um, there's this kind of grand adventure

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<v Speaker 1>and then the Emerald City at the end. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think that there are a lot of media like that

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<v Speaker 1>with New York as this kind of like you know, um,

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<v Speaker 1>Final Domain or whatever, Yes, the Final Doll. I loved

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<v Speaker 1>James the Giant Peach and that movie really is like

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<v Speaker 1>a love letter to York in a very weird way,

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<v Speaker 1>and a love letter to Peaches, yes, and a love

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<v Speaker 1>letter to Peaches, and uh, you know, James the Giant

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<v Speaker 1>Peach walked, so that call Me by your Name could

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<v Speaker 1>run um I but the real answer is Ugly Betty,

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<v Speaker 1>which we'll talk about in an Ugly Betty episode, but

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<v Speaker 1>definitely seeing Betty make it in New York, try to

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<v Speaker 1>make it in New York like constantly fail, constantly watch

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<v Speaker 1>people take advantage of her. I think was you know,

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<v Speaker 1>definitely a fictionalized version of New York, but it was

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<v Speaker 1>also something that was a lot realer than the media

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<v Speaker 1>at the time. Like im, you know, have actually gone

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<v Speaker 1>through so many things that actually happened in the New

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<v Speaker 1>York life of Betty. So was your sex in the city?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that an accurate guess? Um? No? I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>guess it's kind of different from me because I grew

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<v Speaker 1>up coming here so often, right, you know, my mom

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<v Speaker 1>is from New York. My mom is a long Islander,

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<v Speaker 1>and when I was growing up, my mom's whole family

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<v Speaker 1>still lived up here. My grandparents lived here. Um, they

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<v Speaker 1>had a house in Florida. But I grew up visiting

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<v Speaker 1>New York City, and I think Broadway was probably the

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<v Speaker 1>entry point for me, because those are my earliest memories

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<v Speaker 1>of the city are coming in with my grandparents and

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<v Speaker 1>them taking us to see shows. Do you remember anything

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<v Speaker 1>about your very first trip or like what? Not very

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<v Speaker 1>first but definitely only one of the earliest ones I

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<v Speaker 1>remember was coming in with my grandparents to see Annie

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<v Speaker 1>Get Your Gun starring Bernadette Peters. Oh my god, it

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<v Speaker 1>was an iconic moment in my life, and I just, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I have lots of memories of like walking around Times

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<v Speaker 1>Square and seeing the bright lights, big city. But so yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>for me, growing up the I had both the idealized

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<v Speaker 1>version of New York that existed in movies and film

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<v Speaker 1>and books, and then also the actual experience of it

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<v Speaker 1>I had coming here because like I spent a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of time here as a child, and then I came

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<v Speaker 1>to New York on my own on a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>school trips, so I had real life experience of the

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<v Speaker 1>city as I was also watching this fantastical version of it.

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<v Speaker 1>And yes, definitely, I think Sex in the City was

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<v Speaker 1>the first time that I really experienced the fantasy New

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<v Speaker 1>York in media, the sort of the adult New York,

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<v Speaker 1>the non you know, Broadway new York. I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>there comes a time like you and I are kind

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<v Speaker 1>of breaking down the difference between the fantasy New York

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<v Speaker 1>right and the real version. And I feel like, I

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<v Speaker 1>think the first time you go to New York, it

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<v Speaker 1>is kind of immediately demystified, and then when you live

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<v Speaker 1>in New York after like the first like year or two.

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<v Speaker 1>It's completely demystified, like it's all over. Like I remember

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<v Speaker 1>my first trip to New York was I think probably

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<v Speaker 1>to see Wicked for something. My dad took me and

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<v Speaker 1>my cousin. I don't remember much of the trip much

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<v Speaker 1>like you, but I do remember like stepping off of

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<v Speaker 1>a train or something in Times Square and then just

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<v Speaker 1>getting that wave of like hot garbage, cigarettes, piss, and

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<v Speaker 1>halal food smell, you know what I mean? That Like

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<v Speaker 1>Time Square just smells like and it's not this if

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<v Speaker 1>you you know, have grown up with the Emerald City

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<v Speaker 1>version of New York. That's not what you think. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what it smells like, right, And that like wave,

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<v Speaker 1>the immediate immersion into what is like the worst part

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<v Speaker 1>of New York City was something that I was just like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this is New York. Like I was probably an interesting

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<v Speaker 1>fifth grade or something, because because we always came here

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<v Speaker 1>when I was a kid in the winter, because I

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<v Speaker 1>grew up in Florida, so we always wanted to be

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<v Speaker 1>here when it was cold because we didn't have that,

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<v Speaker 1>And so that was I never experienced like hot, piss,

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<v Speaker 1>garbage New York until I was and maybe until I

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<v Speaker 1>lived here because I came here a lot in high

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<v Speaker 1>school for either school trips or my older brother moved

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<v Speaker 1>here after college, and I came and stayed with him

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of times, but again it was always in

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<v Speaker 1>the winter. There was one memorable time when he was

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<v Speaker 1>living in Chelsea in a studio apartment and I came

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<v Speaker 1>and stayed with him, and he worked at He worked

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<v Speaker 1>in the what is now the Viacom building, and he

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<v Speaker 1>got me into TRL, and I went to TRL in

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<v Speaker 1>high school. I know nothing about TRL because I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>grow up with cable, but I do know that that's

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<v Speaker 1>a big deal. It was a big deal. Do you remember,

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like guesting or if there any no

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<v Speaker 1>but I did go to the Billabong store downstairs and

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<v Speaker 1>bought some flip flops. Oh of course she did. Yes. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't remember anything else that I did in my

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<v Speaker 1>first trips. I remember getting lost in like a kind

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<v Speaker 1>of pre not pre gentrification Brooklyn, but like the Williamsburg

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<v Speaker 1>that does not exist now, you know, like it was

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<v Speaker 1>still before you know, Silicon Valley and all these business

0:22:54.680 --> 0:22:57.720
<v Speaker 1>ros moved there. I mean, I remember the first time

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<v Speaker 1>I went to Williamsburg when I was a friend Ashman

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<v Speaker 1>in college. You know. So this is two thousand and six,

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<v Speaker 1>and we went to Union Pool and I just remember

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<v Speaker 1>like feeling like the walk from the L train too.

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<v Speaker 1>Union Pool was like so long and scared. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>where are we? We left the bar and went to

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<v Speaker 1>someone's apartment a couple of blocks away, and I was

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<v Speaker 1>like where Because I at that time I was living

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<v Speaker 1>on the Upper East Side, so it was so foreign

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<v Speaker 1>to me, and it just felt incredibly lawless. And we

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<v Speaker 1>were in someone's like loft department. I was like, what

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<v Speaker 1>the fuck you kind of are giving carry right now?

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<v Speaker 1>Non or like honestly, like any New York housewife, that's

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<v Speaker 1>like they want us to go to Brooklyn. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>but um, you are in high school. I'm in lorn.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean you bring up a good point, which is

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<v Speaker 1>that my early trips here before I lived here, it

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<v Speaker 1>was all about the very touristy parts of New York,

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<v Speaker 1>seeing Broadway shows, going to you know, Chinatown to get food,

0:24:02.920 --> 0:24:05.760
<v Speaker 1>going to places like Fao Schwartz. I used to love

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<v Speaker 1>going to um, going to Jacqueline Hide. Have you ever

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<v Speaker 1>been to Jacqueline Hide? Don't even know what that? Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, it's a theme restaurant that's like spooky. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like a rainforest cafe Planet Hollywood. Yeah, but they have

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<v Speaker 1>like shows and it's like spooky vibes. So it was fun,

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<v Speaker 1>very fun. What about when you like finally moved here,

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<v Speaker 1>like do you like digging into I guess our mythologies

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<v Speaker 1>as you said, like what is there? Like do you

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<v Speaker 1>remember like first impressions of like because when you move

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<v Speaker 1>move here, it's a different it's a different thing. Yeah, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, moving here from you know, I moved here

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<v Speaker 1>at eighteen for college, and it is crazy that the

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<v Speaker 1>that the first place where I had complete freedom to

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<v Speaker 1>do whatever I want with no supervision was New York City.

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<v Speaker 1>You know you kind of did that through your whole childhood.

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<v Speaker 1>But okay, yeah that's no. But I mean no, I

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<v Speaker 1>know what you're saying. My mom like dropped me off

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<v Speaker 1>at my dorm and then went home, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>could walk out of my dorm and go and go

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<v Speaker 1>anywhere in New York City. And I did, and I

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<v Speaker 1>got into a lot of trouble. I did a lot

0:25:22.119 --> 0:25:26.239
<v Speaker 1>of stupid shit. It is really crazy to drop a

0:25:26.280 --> 0:25:31.280
<v Speaker 1>teenager off in you know, the this city where you

0:25:32.000 --> 0:25:35.920
<v Speaker 1>can do anything at any time and be like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>figure it out. Do you look back at this like

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<v Speaker 1>ther first few years fondly or is it so absolutely okay?

0:25:42.560 --> 0:25:44.159
<v Speaker 1>Good good? Because you you were saying, like I did

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of stuff, stupid shit, I got in trouble.

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<v Speaker 1>No that was that was yeah, okay, good, good good,

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<v Speaker 1>because I think that you have to come to the

0:25:51.840 --> 0:25:54.119
<v Speaker 1>city and make a lot of mistakes, like you have

0:25:54.280 --> 0:25:57.080
<v Speaker 1>to be you have to get in trouble. You have

0:25:57.160 --> 0:26:00.399
<v Speaker 1>to um, meet the wrong people, follow love with the

0:26:00.400 --> 0:26:04.200
<v Speaker 1>wrong people, like go to the wrong party, like you know, um,

0:26:04.560 --> 0:26:08.120
<v Speaker 1>I think that some of my more visceral moments like

0:26:08.160 --> 0:26:11.920
<v Speaker 1>that are like, you know, I used to host I've

0:26:11.960 --> 0:26:13.359
<v Speaker 1>said this in the pub before. I used to host

0:26:13.359 --> 0:26:16.240
<v Speaker 1>like a terrible party at Union Essex that was cocktail

0:26:16.280 --> 0:26:19.119
<v Speaker 1>tire And I remember like sitting on the last step

0:26:19.119 --> 0:26:22.240
<v Speaker 1>at the jay Z metro stop like in a suit,

0:26:22.440 --> 0:26:25.919
<v Speaker 1>like barfing and like someone getting me into a cab

0:26:26.040 --> 0:26:29.159
<v Speaker 1>and like I lost my shoes or like something like that.

0:26:29.200 --> 0:26:31.960
<v Speaker 1>It's just like I think messie knights like that are

0:26:32.240 --> 0:26:34.560
<v Speaker 1>you know, they stick in your mind because it's like

0:26:34.840 --> 0:26:38.520
<v Speaker 1>when you're experiencing it in real time, it's not like, um,

0:26:38.560 --> 0:26:41.320
<v Speaker 1>oh I'm in trouble. It's oh, I'm in trouble in

0:26:41.400 --> 0:26:44.840
<v Speaker 1>New York City, Yes, right, And that I think feels

0:26:45.040 --> 0:26:49.239
<v Speaker 1>bigger and scarier, but it makes your freedom. The New

0:26:49.320 --> 0:26:51.159
<v Speaker 1>York is what I've always thought is New York is

0:26:51.200 --> 0:26:55.960
<v Speaker 1>a place of limitless possibilities. Yeah, anything can happen at

0:26:56.000 --> 0:26:59.120
<v Speaker 1>any time, and it will and it does. And that

0:26:59.160 --> 0:27:02.959
<v Speaker 1>has true been my experience of it. Um, what are

0:27:02.960 --> 0:27:05.720
<v Speaker 1>all the different neighborhoods you've lived in here? I've lived

0:27:05.920 --> 0:27:09.639
<v Speaker 1>in uh So, I went to I moved to New

0:27:09.720 --> 0:27:13.880
<v Speaker 1>York for a graduate certificate program at NYU and briefly

0:27:14.000 --> 0:27:20.320
<v Speaker 1>lived in Grammercy in a dorm. Moved to Williamsburg and

0:27:20.359 --> 0:27:25.800
<v Speaker 1>then South Williamsburg um like the hasidic part of Williamsburg,

0:27:25.840 --> 0:27:29.639
<v Speaker 1>and was there for three years. And now I live

0:27:29.440 --> 0:27:32.440
<v Speaker 1>I moved to like redacted. Right, we're not going to

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<v Speaker 1>say where we live, right, right. I moved to Crown

0:27:34.680 --> 0:27:37.399
<v Speaker 1>Heights and now I'm in another another neighborhood. I mean,

0:27:37.440 --> 0:27:40.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm in beds, an undisclosed location. Everyone knows I'm in beds.

0:27:40.280 --> 0:27:44.160
<v Speaker 1>Diet It's fine. It's a big neighborhood. When I moved

0:27:44.160 --> 0:27:46.840
<v Speaker 1>to New York for college in two thousand and six,

0:27:47.440 --> 0:27:50.560
<v Speaker 1>which is the year after the Devilors product came out,

0:27:50.640 --> 0:27:55.880
<v Speaker 1>so you know, I was really feeling myself. Um. I

0:27:55.920 --> 0:27:59.159
<v Speaker 1>lived my dorm was in Midtown, Okay, and then after

0:27:59.240 --> 0:28:02.760
<v Speaker 1>that I moved to the Upper east side of the

0:28:02.880 --> 0:28:06.800
<v Speaker 1>edge of Spanish Harlem. My first New York apartment was

0:28:08.080 --> 0:28:11.200
<v Speaker 1>on Fifth Avenue. So when we walked out the front

0:28:11.200 --> 0:28:14.280
<v Speaker 1>door of our building, Central Park was right there and

0:28:14.359 --> 0:28:17.320
<v Speaker 1>it ended a block up, so that was really nice.

0:28:17.320 --> 0:28:20.040
<v Speaker 1>I lived there for through the rest of college. Was

0:28:20.080 --> 0:28:22.639
<v Speaker 1>it chic being on the upper upper It was not

0:28:23.440 --> 0:28:25.960
<v Speaker 1>the way we lived in that apartment was not cheek.

0:28:26.240 --> 0:28:28.639
<v Speaker 1>Nothing chic about it. Um. And then I lived on

0:28:28.640 --> 0:28:30.840
<v Speaker 1>the Lower east Side in a two bedroom apartment with

0:28:30.880 --> 0:28:35.359
<v Speaker 1>four other people. O god, are those are my crackhead days?

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<v Speaker 1>And then I was one of the early Bushwick gentrifiers.

0:28:40.440 --> 0:28:44.760
<v Speaker 1>I moved truly. I moved to Bushwick in two thousand. Oh. Well, no,

0:28:45.120 --> 0:28:48.840
<v Speaker 1>I briefly lived in Chinatown, which I actually loved. That

0:28:49.000 --> 0:28:52.360
<v Speaker 1>also sounds cheek. Um, it was chic. And then I

0:28:52.400 --> 0:28:55.280
<v Speaker 1>moved to Bushwick. And then I lived in Bushwick for

0:28:58.000 --> 0:29:02.120
<v Speaker 1>eight years until I moved until I moved to LA

0:29:02.280 --> 0:29:04.320
<v Speaker 1>and then moved back here and now I live and

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<v Speaker 1>beepy Okay, I for a while you you kind of

0:29:09.720 --> 0:29:12.120
<v Speaker 1>really wanted to be a Manhattan girly. You were like,

0:29:12.160 --> 0:29:14.920
<v Speaker 1>I think I want to live in Manhattan. Yeah, I

0:29:14.960 --> 0:29:18.440
<v Speaker 1>do think that at some point in my life perhaps

0:29:18.560 --> 0:29:21.240
<v Speaker 1>I will want to live in Manhattan again. I always

0:29:21.840 --> 0:29:26.680
<v Speaker 1>my fantasy, for sure was West Village, always growing up.

0:29:26.720 --> 0:29:30.280
<v Speaker 1>Once I found out that that's where Carrie's actual apartment was,

0:29:31.200 --> 0:29:34.080
<v Speaker 1>it's well, it's on Perry Street if you've never been,

0:29:34.200 --> 0:29:36.680
<v Speaker 1>and like every a list of celebrity whatever, Julianne Moore,

0:29:36.840 --> 0:29:40.200
<v Speaker 1>Meryl Street. But I always wanted to live in a

0:29:40.320 --> 0:29:46.600
<v Speaker 1>brownstone in the West Village. But then when I was

0:29:46.680 --> 0:29:52.960
<v Speaker 1>in my early freelancing days, I went to interview lev Grossman,

0:29:53.200 --> 0:29:56.040
<v Speaker 1>who is the author of The Magicians, which I think

0:29:56.040 --> 0:29:59.080
<v Speaker 1>I've talked about on the show before, and I went

0:29:59.160 --> 0:30:02.600
<v Speaker 1>to interview him at his house in this beautiful brownstone

0:30:02.600 --> 0:30:05.520
<v Speaker 1>that he lived in in the neighborhood that I currently

0:30:05.560 --> 0:30:08.080
<v Speaker 1>live in. And I remember thinking when I went to

0:30:08.120 --> 0:30:10.920
<v Speaker 1>interview him and we hung out his house, we like

0:30:11.000 --> 0:30:14.000
<v Speaker 1>drank a bunch of whiskey, and I remember thinking this

0:30:14.040 --> 0:30:15.760
<v Speaker 1>is the life I want. I want to live in

0:30:15.800 --> 0:30:18.960
<v Speaker 1>this neighborhood one day, and now I live a couple

0:30:19.000 --> 0:30:21.920
<v Speaker 1>blocks away from there, and so it is like very

0:30:22.040 --> 0:30:27.680
<v Speaker 1>much like I have finally the aversion of the New

0:30:27.720 --> 0:30:31.160
<v Speaker 1>York life that I really imagined myself having a long

0:30:31.200 --> 0:30:35.760
<v Speaker 1>time ago. Honestly, same with my apartment. I truly I'm

0:30:35.760 --> 0:30:37.800
<v Speaker 1>like living in the apartment of my dreams, a very

0:30:37.920 --> 0:30:40.880
<v Speaker 1>expensive apartment of my dreams that like I want to

0:30:40.920 --> 0:30:43.680
<v Speaker 1>live in forever. Your apartment as well, again not telling

0:30:43.680 --> 0:30:46.880
<v Speaker 1>where it is. Your apartment is a forever apartment. It is.

0:30:46.960 --> 0:30:52.040
<v Speaker 1>So it's definitely I think this is the last apartment

0:30:52.080 --> 0:30:55.960
<v Speaker 1>that I want to rent. I think I will move

0:30:56.080 --> 0:30:58.680
<v Speaker 1>when I'm ready. I mean, who knows when this will happen,

0:30:58.840 --> 0:31:03.160
<v Speaker 1>when I'm ready to buy something, hopefully in a couple

0:31:03.200 --> 0:31:07.920
<v Speaker 1>of years. That's even something we're able to do by

0:31:08.000 --> 0:31:12.200
<v Speaker 1>property in New York. But it is, it's not it's

0:31:12.240 --> 0:31:15.400
<v Speaker 1>not the apartment of my dreams, but it's definitely something

0:31:15.440 --> 0:31:18.600
<v Speaker 1>that I always fantasized about, which is aloft in New

0:31:18.680 --> 0:31:21.640
<v Speaker 1>York City, And that is what I have now, and

0:31:21.720 --> 0:31:24.840
<v Speaker 1>it is it is a certain kind of fantasy. We

0:31:24.880 --> 0:31:28.000
<v Speaker 1>are honestly being so unrelatable talking about like a renting

0:31:28.000 --> 0:31:30.320
<v Speaker 1>our one bedrooms in cute little neighborhoods. But like we

0:31:30.400 --> 0:31:32.880
<v Speaker 1>have the virgins have to know, like we came from

0:31:33.080 --> 0:31:37.240
<v Speaker 1>the bottom, we've lived scum like well, I mean I

0:31:37.280 --> 0:31:39.600
<v Speaker 1>just said I lived in a two bedroom partment with

0:31:39.680 --> 0:31:42.320
<v Speaker 1>four other people. And this is how it worked. So

0:31:42.360 --> 0:31:45.520
<v Speaker 1>in each of the bedrooms there was a loft in

0:31:45.560 --> 0:31:48.080
<v Speaker 1>each of them. So one person's bed was in the loft,

0:31:48.120 --> 0:31:50.640
<v Speaker 1>and one person's bed was on the floor, and then

0:31:51.960 --> 0:31:55.600
<v Speaker 1>our fifth, the fifth person in the apartment, her bedroom,

0:31:55.640 --> 0:31:58.960
<v Speaker 1>her her bed, her loft was in the living room

0:31:59.000 --> 0:32:03.680
<v Speaker 1>above the refrigeration. And we lived on Rivington and Clinton,

0:32:03.960 --> 0:32:07.800
<v Speaker 1>which you know is like a very gaggy intersection. And

0:32:07.880 --> 0:32:11.760
<v Speaker 1>we all paid five hundred dollars a month that is

0:32:12.160 --> 0:32:16.040
<v Speaker 1>parais like, and like it didn't matter that we were

0:32:16.040 --> 0:32:18.600
<v Speaker 1>all sleeping on top of each other because this was

0:32:18.640 --> 0:32:20.600
<v Speaker 1>the time in my life when I was like out

0:32:20.720 --> 0:32:24.200
<v Speaker 1>every night every day. I was like partying all the time.

0:32:24.240 --> 0:32:26.960
<v Speaker 1>If I was home, we were having a party there

0:32:27.200 --> 0:32:30.840
<v Speaker 1>or just like sleeping or whatever. You know. That was

0:32:30.920 --> 0:32:35.840
<v Speaker 1>my my young wild days. Although like pre my wild

0:32:37.040 --> 0:32:41.680
<v Speaker 1>party girl days, this was my wild straight partying days

0:32:43.160 --> 0:32:45.920
<v Speaker 1>when I would just like party with my straight friends

0:32:45.960 --> 0:32:48.760
<v Speaker 1>and then like go out and hook up with randas

0:32:48.800 --> 0:32:51.520
<v Speaker 1>all the time. Oh my god, that was that fun

0:32:51.640 --> 0:32:54.240
<v Speaker 1>or not? Yeah, it was fun, you know, it was living.

0:32:54.520 --> 0:32:56.920
<v Speaker 1>I was like sewing my wild oats, Like that's the

0:32:56.960 --> 0:33:00.480
<v Speaker 1>apartment where I did. I turned twenty one. It was

0:33:00.520 --> 0:33:03.600
<v Speaker 1>like right after I turned twenty one, So it was

0:33:03.600 --> 0:33:05.920
<v Speaker 1>like New York was my oyster. I feel like it

0:33:05.960 --> 0:33:08.400
<v Speaker 1>has to. You have to hit the ground running in

0:33:08.440 --> 0:33:11.400
<v Speaker 1>New York. You have to live paycheck to paycheck. New

0:33:11.480 --> 0:33:13.560
<v Speaker 1>York has to be your oyster to some extent. I

0:33:14.600 --> 0:33:16.400
<v Speaker 1>one of my I think my first year in New York,

0:33:16.440 --> 0:33:20.080
<v Speaker 1>I had like eleven addresses in like one year. Like

0:33:20.120 --> 0:33:22.000
<v Speaker 1>I was just moving and moving and moving and moving.

0:33:22.040 --> 0:33:25.360
<v Speaker 1>I remember subletting a place in Williamsburg for six hundred

0:33:25.360 --> 0:33:29.600
<v Speaker 1>dollars a month that had no windows, none. It was

0:33:29.680 --> 0:33:32.720
<v Speaker 1>like so awful, but like you know, you're just happy

0:33:32.720 --> 0:33:34.600
<v Speaker 1>to be there and you it's a make it work.

0:33:34.600 --> 0:33:37.440
<v Speaker 1>It's always a make it work moment. When I first

0:33:37.520 --> 0:33:40.520
<v Speaker 1>moved to New York, I actually slept on the couch

0:33:40.560 --> 0:33:43.720
<v Speaker 1>of someone that I met on Tumblr. Isn't that amazing? Yeah,

0:33:43.880 --> 0:33:48.280
<v Speaker 1>Like Umbler really brings people together, and honestly, it was

0:33:48.360 --> 0:33:51.160
<v Speaker 1>I will be so grateful for this as like my

0:33:51.280 --> 0:33:55.720
<v Speaker 1>induction to New York, or rather the inductor like indoctrinating

0:33:55.760 --> 0:33:58.240
<v Speaker 1>me into New York in my first few weeks, because

0:33:58.760 --> 0:34:02.920
<v Speaker 1>he was a more crunchy like artist Williamsburg type, and

0:34:02.960 --> 0:34:05.200
<v Speaker 1>so he showed me those parts of New York, like

0:34:05.240 --> 0:34:10.200
<v Speaker 1>he took me to Reespeech, he took me to again. Yeah,

0:34:10.280 --> 0:34:13.560
<v Speaker 1>I love Reespeach. We have opposite of I. Um, you know,

0:34:14.120 --> 0:34:16.799
<v Speaker 1>he took me to Metropolitan. I saw. I had never

0:34:16.800 --> 0:34:19.479
<v Speaker 1>seen a drag show before he showed me. My first

0:34:19.560 --> 0:34:22.479
<v Speaker 1>drag show was I'm pretty sure my first drag show

0:34:22.600 --> 0:34:27.720
<v Speaker 1>was severely mame. Oh, that's I think a really good

0:34:27.760 --> 0:34:29.840
<v Speaker 1>I think that's a really good first show. And I

0:34:29.880 --> 0:34:32.439
<v Speaker 1>just didn't really know what drag was. But I think

0:34:32.480 --> 0:34:35.040
<v Speaker 1>that when you can because a lot and I think

0:34:35.040 --> 0:34:36.360
<v Speaker 1>a lot of the reasons that I didn't know what

0:34:36.360 --> 0:34:39.640
<v Speaker 1>it was because of my background, but also like drag

0:34:39.760 --> 0:34:43.080
<v Speaker 1>is something that isn't really good on a video. You

0:34:43.200 --> 0:34:46.440
<v Speaker 1>have to be in person to see what it feels like.

0:34:46.719 --> 0:34:48.919
<v Speaker 1>And I think that that you know, said a lot

0:34:48.960 --> 0:34:51.880
<v Speaker 1>about the kind of New York that I was attracted

0:34:51.880 --> 0:34:55.160
<v Speaker 1>to and immediately found myself inside of. You know, it's

0:34:55.200 --> 0:35:15.399
<v Speaker 1>like the space is being in a drag performance. So

0:35:15.440 --> 0:35:19.800
<v Speaker 1>we talked about how we kind of now have achieved

0:35:19.840 --> 0:35:22.000
<v Speaker 1>a sort of real life version of the New York

0:35:22.040 --> 0:35:26.040
<v Speaker 1>that we fantasized about. But was there a moment for

0:35:26.200 --> 0:35:33.760
<v Speaker 1>you when your real life experience of being here really

0:35:33.880 --> 0:35:37.200
<v Speaker 1>clashed with the fantasy New York, Like, do you remember

0:35:37.200 --> 0:35:39.960
<v Speaker 1>a moment of that, like fantasy New York kind of

0:35:40.120 --> 0:35:44.360
<v Speaker 1>shattering for you? My Jone didion goodbye to all that momentum.

0:35:47.400 --> 0:35:49.879
<v Speaker 1>I'm the first one that comes to mind is when

0:35:50.120 --> 0:35:52.920
<v Speaker 1>my first boyfriend in New York broke up with me.

0:35:52.960 --> 0:35:54.839
<v Speaker 1>It's the only time I've ever been broken up with

0:35:55.360 --> 0:36:00.200
<v Speaker 1>And I just remember like crying on a bus, like

0:36:00.400 --> 0:36:04.239
<v Speaker 1>leaving Park Slope. Crying on a bus is so humiliating.

0:36:04.520 --> 0:36:07.200
<v Speaker 1>And then as I was getting off the bus, still crying,

0:36:07.440 --> 0:36:11.960
<v Speaker 1>I fell eight shitt like got like scuffed my knees

0:36:12.040 --> 0:36:15.319
<v Speaker 1>was like covered in blood and like crying, and it

0:36:15.360 --> 0:36:17.160
<v Speaker 1>was just it was a low moment for a lot

0:36:17.200 --> 0:36:22.280
<v Speaker 1>of different reasons, because you know, career stuff was always stressful,

0:36:22.320 --> 0:36:26.640
<v Speaker 1>boy stuff was stressful, trying to pay rent, was stressful,

0:36:27.200 --> 0:36:30.360
<v Speaker 1>and I think it. Yeah, everyone has a kind of

0:36:30.400 --> 0:36:33.440
<v Speaker 1>boiling point or a moment where it's just like, oh fuck,

0:36:33.520 --> 0:36:35.959
<v Speaker 1>like what am I doing? But you know it didn't

0:36:36.000 --> 0:36:37.960
<v Speaker 1>last that long. What about you? I think for me

0:36:38.000 --> 0:36:40.120
<v Speaker 1>it actually was that first time I went to Brooklyn,

0:36:40.239 --> 0:36:44.200
<v Speaker 1>because I think it wasn't necessarily a negative experience. It

0:36:44.280 --> 0:36:48.200
<v Speaker 1>was just a realization that the city was so much

0:36:48.239 --> 0:36:51.600
<v Speaker 1>bigger than what I had imagined it as or what

0:36:52.040 --> 0:36:56.399
<v Speaker 1>or what the version that had been sold to me was, Like,

0:36:56.520 --> 0:37:01.200
<v Speaker 1>New York City was not just Time Square, Chinatown and

0:37:01.520 --> 0:37:06.160
<v Speaker 1>Bloomingdale's and Central Park. Um, there was There were all

0:37:06.200 --> 0:37:08.640
<v Speaker 1>these other boroughs and they were full of real people

0:37:08.840 --> 0:37:12.520
<v Speaker 1>living their lives. You just reminded me that my very

0:37:12.600 --> 0:37:14.600
<v Speaker 1>first New York tip, when I was in fifth grade,

0:37:14.719 --> 0:37:19.360
<v Speaker 1>I did make pilgrimage to the Balto statue in Central Park. Wow,

0:37:19.560 --> 0:37:24.080
<v Speaker 1>did you? I was not. I have always wanted to

0:37:24.120 --> 0:37:32.080
<v Speaker 1>piss on um. The imagine hippies would be so mad

0:37:32.120 --> 0:37:34.959
<v Speaker 1>at you. I love making hippies mad. No, I would

0:37:35.000 --> 0:37:38.720
<v Speaker 1>love to piss on the Balto statue. Um Balto was hot?

0:37:39.080 --> 0:37:43.680
<v Speaker 1>Can we say that? We can say that? Um? So

0:37:44.000 --> 0:37:47.359
<v Speaker 1>we both have left New York I've left New York

0:37:47.360 --> 0:37:51.279
<v Speaker 1>a couple of times, but I think them we both did, like,

0:37:51.480 --> 0:37:54.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, the real leaving New York when we moved

0:37:54.160 --> 0:37:59.560
<v Speaker 1>to Los Angeles. Um the weekend before I moved, which

0:37:59.640 --> 0:38:03.319
<v Speaker 1>was in Covid Um, so obviously like New York wasn't

0:38:03.360 --> 0:38:06.640
<v Speaker 1>exactly what it was. But it was June twenty twenty,

0:38:06.719 --> 0:38:10.840
<v Speaker 1>so things were kind of starting to to come back. Um.

0:38:12.160 --> 0:38:14.879
<v Speaker 1>My best friend did rent a cart so we could

0:38:14.920 --> 0:38:18.680
<v Speaker 1>do a goodbye tour of New York. And remember you

0:38:18.840 --> 0:38:22.040
<v Speaker 1>talking about Yeah, so the stops for my goodbye tour

0:38:22.800 --> 0:38:27.799
<v Speaker 1>were I believe we we maybe got bagels in the

0:38:27.840 --> 0:38:32.279
<v Speaker 1>morning and then went to Central Park. I went to

0:38:32.320 --> 0:38:35.919
<v Speaker 1>the Alice in Wonderland statue, which I love. Um. Then

0:38:35.960 --> 0:38:40.000
<v Speaker 1>we drove we drove over to the gershwin Um, which

0:38:40.040 --> 0:38:42.080
<v Speaker 1>is the theater where Wick it is, just to like

0:38:42.239 --> 0:38:47.640
<v Speaker 1>wave and say hi, um so Gorney. Then we virgins

0:38:47.640 --> 0:38:49.440
<v Speaker 1>don't know, I mean not all the reasons know. You

0:38:49.440 --> 0:38:52.880
<v Speaker 1>are a corny girl. I am a very I'm Carrie Broadshaw.

0:38:52.960 --> 0:38:56.040
<v Speaker 1>You are carry um. Then we drove downtown and went

0:38:56.080 --> 0:39:00.480
<v Speaker 1>to CATS's and got Cornbee sandwiches. Was having I had

0:39:00.520 --> 0:39:05.040
<v Speaker 1>what she was having, um and then we went to

0:39:05.080 --> 0:39:08.200
<v Speaker 1>the West Village, went to Carry's apartment and all the

0:39:08.280 --> 0:39:11.680
<v Speaker 1>picture it took a video, and also there is a

0:39:11.760 --> 0:39:14.000
<v Speaker 1>video of us singing of us singing the Sex and

0:39:14.000 --> 0:39:16.200
<v Speaker 1>the City theme song outside Carry's apartment. Then I think

0:39:16.239 --> 0:39:18.759
<v Speaker 1>we went we went to Magnolia Bakery and got cupcakes,

0:39:18.800 --> 0:39:21.600
<v Speaker 1>even though Magnolia is not the best cupcakes in the city,

0:39:21.760 --> 0:39:24.600
<v Speaker 1>real ones, no Billy's Bakery, which I don't even know

0:39:24.640 --> 0:39:28.080
<v Speaker 1>if it still exists. Nobody thinks Magnolia is good. Magnolia

0:39:28.200 --> 0:39:33.120
<v Speaker 1>is not good. Cupcakes are bad, cupcakes are delicious. This

0:39:33.160 --> 0:39:35.719
<v Speaker 1>is the first wrong. This was my first wrong take

0:39:35.760 --> 0:39:37.520
<v Speaker 1>on like a virgin. I remember when I told you that,

0:39:37.560 --> 0:39:39.560
<v Speaker 1>you were like, what the fuck are you talking about?

0:39:39.600 --> 0:39:42.800
<v Speaker 1>But cupcakes are just not good. They don't make sense

0:39:43.320 --> 0:39:46.680
<v Speaker 1>to me. Did you do any sort of Goodbye New

0:39:46.760 --> 0:39:50.320
<v Speaker 1>York tour when you left? No, you're you're not sentimental

0:39:50.320 --> 0:39:53.080
<v Speaker 1>about stuff like that. I you know, it depends the

0:39:53.120 --> 0:39:56.000
<v Speaker 1>context of my leaving New York was like very fraught

0:39:56.040 --> 0:40:00.239
<v Speaker 1>and you know, very different from yours. I left York

0:40:00.239 --> 0:40:02.520
<v Speaker 1>when I wasn't really ready to. I was in love

0:40:02.560 --> 0:40:04.880
<v Speaker 1>with my Brooklyn fam. I was in love with drag

0:40:05.000 --> 0:40:07.320
<v Speaker 1>here I was. I felt like I had just gotten

0:40:07.400 --> 0:40:10.920
<v Speaker 1>a kind of new momentum in New York, and all

0:40:10.960 --> 0:40:13.239
<v Speaker 1>of a sudden, I had this job in La lined

0:40:13.320 --> 0:40:14.879
<v Speaker 1>up for me, and it was something that I felt

0:40:14.920 --> 0:40:16.799
<v Speaker 1>like I couldn't pass up. And so I was like,

0:40:16.840 --> 0:40:18.520
<v Speaker 1>you know, I can do this and come back to

0:40:18.560 --> 0:40:21.120
<v Speaker 1>Brooklyn every month. And I kind of, I mean, when

0:40:21.120 --> 0:40:23.920
<v Speaker 1>it wasn't a pandemic, like I kind of did. So

0:40:23.960 --> 0:40:27.759
<v Speaker 1>it never felt as much like a goodbye, but no, yeah,

0:40:27.800 --> 0:40:30.040
<v Speaker 1>my goodbye was pretty much like I sent an email

0:40:30.080 --> 0:40:32.319
<v Speaker 1>to like all my loved ones and that and like

0:40:32.600 --> 0:40:34.399
<v Speaker 1>and I was just like I'm so sorry, like this

0:40:34.520 --> 0:40:36.520
<v Speaker 1>job is happening an immediate immediately and I have to

0:40:36.520 --> 0:40:38.600
<v Speaker 1>go now, and it was. It was actually really sad.

0:40:38.640 --> 0:40:42.120
<v Speaker 1>But I think that there's a lot of like drama

0:40:42.160 --> 0:40:44.000
<v Speaker 1>and a lot of Joe Diddy and goodbye to all

0:40:44.000 --> 0:40:47.640
<v Speaker 1>that energy when it comes to like leaving New York,

0:40:47.680 --> 0:40:50.759
<v Speaker 1>that like I didn't want to participate in because I

0:40:50.800 --> 0:40:52.719
<v Speaker 1>was just like, I'm not leaving, like I know, New

0:40:52.760 --> 0:40:55.800
<v Speaker 1>York is my final destination. This is like a goodbye

0:40:55.800 --> 0:40:58.680
<v Speaker 1>for now, you know. And I was sad to leave it.

0:40:58.719 --> 0:41:01.799
<v Speaker 1>I really was, even though I appreciate the break, and

0:41:02.200 --> 0:41:05.319
<v Speaker 1>everyone I think needs breaks from New York. I felt

0:41:05.320 --> 0:41:07.400
<v Speaker 1>the same way. I knew that it was a goodbye

0:41:07.400 --> 0:41:12.200
<v Speaker 1>for now. I said to everyone that I was leaving

0:41:12.320 --> 0:41:16.680
<v Speaker 1>with the intention of coming back. But it did feel

0:41:17.280 --> 0:41:19.560
<v Speaker 1>to me like the end of an era, a very

0:41:19.600 --> 0:41:22.719
<v Speaker 1>long era, because I lived. But when I left, I

0:41:22.760 --> 0:41:25.399
<v Speaker 1>had lived in New York for fourteen years, just a

0:41:25.480 --> 0:41:30.480
<v Speaker 1>really long fucking time. You know. It was like my

0:41:30.520 --> 0:41:34.879
<v Speaker 1>whole adulthood took place here, and I just felt like

0:41:35.640 --> 0:41:39.120
<v Speaker 1>that time of my life was over. I was ready to,

0:41:40.440 --> 0:41:42.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, move into the next part of my life

0:41:42.200 --> 0:41:44.160
<v Speaker 1>and my career. I thought that was in LA, and

0:41:44.239 --> 0:41:48.799
<v Speaker 1>like in certain ways it was. But then deciding to

0:41:48.840 --> 0:41:51.400
<v Speaker 1>come back, you know, I always knew I was going

0:41:51.480 --> 0:41:54.440
<v Speaker 1>to come back New York. I get the same as you.

0:41:54.960 --> 0:41:57.600
<v Speaker 1>New York does feel like home. I do consider myself

0:41:57.640 --> 0:42:00.279
<v Speaker 1>a New Yorker. I always knew I would be back here.

0:42:00.600 --> 0:42:03.080
<v Speaker 1>I just thought I would be in LA for longer.

0:42:04.400 --> 0:42:06.319
<v Speaker 1>But I felt like I was in LA for too long,

0:42:06.560 --> 0:42:09.400
<v Speaker 1>like maybe like six months too long. But it also,

0:42:09.520 --> 0:42:11.960
<v Speaker 1>I mean, the pandemic skewed so much of it, like

0:42:12.040 --> 0:42:14.480
<v Speaker 1>I was basically one year, like I was in Los

0:42:14.520 --> 0:42:18.080
<v Speaker 1>Angeles for just under two and a half years. It

0:42:18.120 --> 0:42:22.160
<v Speaker 1>went by so quickly, and it feels like but it

0:42:22.640 --> 0:42:24.319
<v Speaker 1>feels like I was there for no time at all.

0:42:24.440 --> 0:42:26.920
<v Speaker 1>And I know that that's not actually that long of

0:42:26.920 --> 0:42:33.600
<v Speaker 1>a time, but I I just felt this place calling

0:42:33.600 --> 0:42:36.160
<v Speaker 1>me back. And I do think that most of the

0:42:36.200 --> 0:42:39.600
<v Speaker 1>people I know who are New Yorkers, like it's not

0:42:39.719 --> 0:42:45.000
<v Speaker 1>about the time that they've spent here. I do think

0:42:45.080 --> 0:42:49.080
<v Speaker 1>like there is a call that you hear that tells

0:42:49.160 --> 0:42:53.840
<v Speaker 1>you you need to be here, and when you find

0:42:53.960 --> 0:42:57.800
<v Speaker 1>your place, I think that's when you're a New Yorker.

0:42:58.000 --> 0:43:00.719
<v Speaker 1>I agree, it's when you find your people, like you

0:43:00.760 --> 0:43:05.879
<v Speaker 1>find your subculture. And yeah, that's so true. I think

0:43:05.880 --> 0:43:09.080
<v Speaker 1>it's something that honestly separates like New Yorkers from people

0:43:09.120 --> 0:43:11.879
<v Speaker 1>that move to Los Angeles or any other cities. Like

0:43:11.920 --> 0:43:15.600
<v Speaker 1>if you move to New York, it's like because you

0:43:15.600 --> 0:43:18.160
<v Speaker 1>you know who you are and you're waiting for like

0:43:18.239 --> 0:43:22.319
<v Speaker 1>everyone to like discover you right like you you're you're

0:43:22.480 --> 0:43:25.400
<v Speaker 1>you have bought into like who you are as a

0:43:25.440 --> 0:43:27.200
<v Speaker 1>person and everything that makes you great, and you're like,

0:43:27.239 --> 0:43:29.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm just waiting for everyone to like catch up with me.

0:43:29.239 --> 0:43:32.440
<v Speaker 1>You know what, I mean, and I think that there's

0:43:32.480 --> 0:43:36.200
<v Speaker 1>so much power in that like New York ambition that

0:43:36.400 --> 0:43:39.840
<v Speaker 1>like lets you, as we've been talking about, like manifest,

0:43:40.000 --> 0:43:44.520
<v Speaker 1>tryanifest your dreams and really create the job that you want,

0:43:44.600 --> 0:43:47.719
<v Speaker 1>create the world that you want, like anything you want.

0:43:48.080 --> 0:43:50.319
<v Speaker 1>There's also you have to be a masochist if you

0:43:50.360 --> 0:43:53.520
<v Speaker 1>want to live here. Yeah, you do, because it's so

0:43:53.840 --> 0:43:59.399
<v Speaker 1>hard to survive here, and the feeling of accomplishment you

0:43:59.520 --> 0:44:02.040
<v Speaker 1>get from you know, if you can make it here,

0:44:02.120 --> 0:44:04.640
<v Speaker 1>you can make it anywhere. It's so corny. But the

0:44:04.800 --> 0:44:08.719
<v Speaker 1>reason why all of these sayings, why like all of

0:44:08.760 --> 0:44:13.640
<v Speaker 1>those like corny, these ideas about New York are so enduring,

0:44:14.320 --> 0:44:19.240
<v Speaker 1>is because ultimately they're true. You have to hustle so

0:44:19.360 --> 0:44:22.920
<v Speaker 1>hard to survive here. It's like an extra job on

0:44:22.960 --> 0:44:25.920
<v Speaker 1>top of whatever it is you do is just you know,

0:44:26.239 --> 0:44:30.680
<v Speaker 1>making it, and once you have accomplished that, it does

0:44:30.800 --> 0:44:34.520
<v Speaker 1>really feel like doing that anywhere else is so easy

0:44:34.600 --> 0:44:37.280
<v Speaker 1>and like you feel like a big fish anywhere else. Yeah,

0:44:37.320 --> 0:44:39.399
<v Speaker 1>I mean that sounds so kind of sending, but it's

0:44:39.440 --> 0:44:41.560
<v Speaker 1>like it is kind of true. It's it's I think

0:44:41.560 --> 0:44:43.160
<v Speaker 1>that it can be a bad and a good thing,

0:44:44.080 --> 0:44:50.520
<v Speaker 1>and you know, being being back here, it just feels

0:44:50.640 --> 0:44:54.440
<v Speaker 1>so much different. I feel like a grown up in

0:44:54.480 --> 0:44:56.640
<v Speaker 1>a way that I didn't the last time I was here.

0:44:57.000 --> 0:45:00.760
<v Speaker 1>And I just like, um, you know, like in season

0:45:00.760 --> 0:45:02.600
<v Speaker 1>five of Sex in the City, when Carrie said that

0:45:02.640 --> 0:45:05.480
<v Speaker 1>she was dating New York. M that's how I feel.

0:45:05.560 --> 0:45:09.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm like falling in love with with um New York again.

0:45:09.400 --> 0:45:14.919
<v Speaker 1>And and uh and ain't nobody talking shit about my boyfriend? Yeah,

0:45:15.120 --> 0:45:17.040
<v Speaker 1>Carrie says in that episode, New York is like a

0:45:17.040 --> 0:45:19.600
<v Speaker 1>little bit of like an abusive boyfriend. Though, like New

0:45:19.640 --> 0:45:22.719
<v Speaker 1>York will like, don't cancel us, We're saying, New York

0:45:22.760 --> 0:45:26.080
<v Speaker 1>will absolutely like just like you know, fuck your brains

0:45:26.080 --> 0:45:28.160
<v Speaker 1>out and like make you feel amazing and then wake

0:45:28.280 --> 0:45:30.200
<v Speaker 1>up the next morning and like you know, kick you

0:45:30.280 --> 0:45:32.600
<v Speaker 1>in the nerds or like you know, make fun of

0:45:32.640 --> 0:45:34.640
<v Speaker 1>you in front of your friends or whatever. You know,

0:45:34.640 --> 0:45:36.600
<v Speaker 1>it's the chicest thing you can do in New York

0:45:36.640 --> 0:45:38.920
<v Speaker 1>that you don't really do anymore. And I miss it

0:45:39.080 --> 0:45:44.840
<v Speaker 1>so much. Hailing a cab a taxi just she's stepping

0:45:44.880 --> 0:45:48.640
<v Speaker 1>out onto a curb, like pointing your toe, lifting your

0:45:48.760 --> 0:45:53.080
<v Speaker 1>arm up in the air. I miss that era of

0:45:53.200 --> 0:45:56.320
<v Speaker 1>New because now it's all Ubers and like you can't

0:45:56.040 --> 0:46:00.480
<v Speaker 1>you you know, I moved here in the way of

0:46:00.960 --> 0:46:04.520
<v Speaker 1>sex in the city, like the Devil Worst Product, Ugly

0:46:04.560 --> 0:46:08.200
<v Speaker 1>Betty was on the air, like I was living that fantasy.

0:46:08.280 --> 0:46:09.759
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I mean, I was not living that

0:46:09.800 --> 0:46:12.840
<v Speaker 1>fantasy because I was like broke, I was not a

0:46:12.880 --> 0:46:18.640
<v Speaker 1>woman yet whatever. But I still have many moments of

0:46:18.719 --> 0:46:22.919
<v Speaker 1>stepping onto the curb and hilling my little taxi. How

0:46:22.960 --> 0:46:26.920
<v Speaker 1>do you feel about like in this Emerald City kind

0:46:26.960 --> 0:46:30.120
<v Speaker 1>of version of New York. This is a city that

0:46:30.160 --> 0:46:32.040
<v Speaker 1>a lot of people come to to be surrounded by

0:46:32.080 --> 0:46:35.200
<v Speaker 1>more queer people, right to experience nightlife, to experience drag,

0:46:35.560 --> 0:46:38.040
<v Speaker 1>to experience whatever it is queer and trance people do here,

0:46:38.040 --> 0:46:40.680
<v Speaker 1>which is a lot of different shit. Do you feel like,

0:46:40.840 --> 0:46:43.400
<v Speaker 1>you know, people in small towns or people that aren't

0:46:43.400 --> 0:46:45.640
<v Speaker 1>in New York like should move here? Do you think

0:46:45.680 --> 0:46:49.640
<v Speaker 1>that like being here, making it here is something that's

0:46:49.640 --> 0:46:52.160
<v Speaker 1>like unlike any other Like what would you say to

0:46:52.200 --> 0:46:55.000
<v Speaker 1>someone that's thinking about moving to New York? I mean,

0:46:55.560 --> 0:47:01.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't think it's for everyone agree, and usually you

0:47:01.040 --> 0:47:04.359
<v Speaker 1>will find that out within the first year. I used

0:47:04.360 --> 0:47:09.320
<v Speaker 1>to have a rule that I didn't date or become

0:47:09.360 --> 0:47:12.040
<v Speaker 1>friends with anyone who hadn't lived here for at least

0:47:12.080 --> 0:47:17.160
<v Speaker 1>a year yet, because they I saw so many people

0:47:17.400 --> 0:47:19.279
<v Speaker 1>who just didn't make it that first year, and I

0:47:19.280 --> 0:47:22.239
<v Speaker 1>didn't want to get attached. And also that first year

0:47:22.600 --> 0:47:26.080
<v Speaker 1>is so crazy fresh New York. It is a vibe

0:47:26.120 --> 0:47:28.759
<v Speaker 1>the very specific type of person yea, And I just

0:47:28.800 --> 0:47:32.120
<v Speaker 1>like was very hardline about that, especially with dating. I'm

0:47:32.160 --> 0:47:34.440
<v Speaker 1>going on I'm going on dates with someone who's a

0:47:34.480 --> 0:47:38.279
<v Speaker 1>fresh New Yorker right now. Well, good luck with that. Um.

0:47:38.360 --> 0:47:42.120
<v Speaker 1>But it really again like if you hear, if you

0:47:42.200 --> 0:47:47.000
<v Speaker 1>hear the call, if you feel like you're meant to

0:47:47.040 --> 0:47:53.439
<v Speaker 1>be here, um, definitely try it out. But only if

0:47:53.520 --> 0:47:57.360
<v Speaker 1>you have like three thousand dollars. Yeah, Like at the

0:47:57.480 --> 0:48:00.280
<v Speaker 1>very least, Unfortunately a lot of it is about money.

0:48:00.680 --> 0:48:04.200
<v Speaker 1>It's it's about honestly, it's about having a portal. If

0:48:04.200 --> 0:48:07.680
<v Speaker 1>that's money, if that's a friend who you can crash with,

0:48:08.120 --> 0:48:10.720
<v Speaker 1>or who will you know, like show you around the city,

0:48:11.040 --> 0:48:15.799
<v Speaker 1>if that's having family here, chosen, biological, whatever. I think

0:48:15.960 --> 0:48:19.120
<v Speaker 1>a portal is very important. And for some people that

0:48:19.239 --> 0:48:22.400
<v Speaker 1>portal really just is believing this is the place they

0:48:22.400 --> 0:48:24.799
<v Speaker 1>were always meant to be and they figured out I

0:48:24.840 --> 0:48:28.080
<v Speaker 1>know so many people like that, who like Madonna who

0:48:28.120 --> 0:48:32.240
<v Speaker 1>moved here with thirty seven dollars in her pocket whatever,

0:48:32.760 --> 0:48:37.359
<v Speaker 1>and just make it work. And if you if you

0:48:37.440 --> 0:48:41.359
<v Speaker 1>feel the call to that extent, like, absolutely do it.

0:48:41.760 --> 0:48:44.759
<v Speaker 1>But do you think you need a job to move

0:48:44.760 --> 0:48:48.279
<v Speaker 1>here before you come here? It definitely helps, Yeah, it

0:48:48.280 --> 0:48:50.600
<v Speaker 1>definitely helps. I don't think you do. I think job

0:48:50.600 --> 0:48:54.120
<v Speaker 1>opportunities create themselves when you, you know, show up at

0:48:54.120 --> 0:48:56.520
<v Speaker 1>parties and meet people and stuff like that. But um,

0:48:57.360 --> 0:49:02.839
<v Speaker 1>if you're moving here, I definitely would say, like, do

0:49:03.000 --> 0:49:05.600
<v Speaker 1>like a stint here first, like have a summer here,

0:49:05.719 --> 0:49:08.120
<v Speaker 1>or have a month here, or like crash with a friend,

0:49:08.160 --> 0:49:11.760
<v Speaker 1>find like a cheap living situation where you can sublet

0:49:11.920 --> 0:49:15.680
<v Speaker 1>and just experience New York for a quick moment. You'll

0:49:15.680 --> 0:49:17.960
<v Speaker 1>experience all the magical parts of New York, but you

0:49:18.040 --> 0:49:20.719
<v Speaker 1>have to pay attention to the things that are like

0:49:20.800 --> 0:49:24.200
<v Speaker 1>wearing you down and see how much longevity that has because,

0:49:24.239 --> 0:49:28.680
<v Speaker 1>just as you said, I, when you move here, if

0:49:28.719 --> 0:49:31.359
<v Speaker 1>you've been living here for a few years, New York

0:49:31.480 --> 0:49:34.160
<v Speaker 1>is at some point going to break your spirit and

0:49:34.320 --> 0:49:37.120
<v Speaker 1>absolutely and after it does the first time, which it

0:49:37.200 --> 0:49:39.320
<v Speaker 1>might multiple times, but after it does the first time.

0:49:39.640 --> 0:49:41.880
<v Speaker 1>It's up to you to decide whether it's worth it

0:49:41.960 --> 0:49:45.680
<v Speaker 1>to continue. And I think that sometimes it's just too much,

0:49:45.719 --> 0:49:48.799
<v Speaker 1>and you're like, this is actually not my vibe, But

0:49:48.840 --> 0:49:51.080
<v Speaker 1>I do you used to be. I feel like now

0:49:51.080 --> 0:49:53.040
<v Speaker 1>that you don't have to front three months rent in

0:49:53.080 --> 0:49:55.520
<v Speaker 1>New York anymore, you can really move here with like

0:49:55.560 --> 0:49:58.360
<v Speaker 1>three or four grand, you know, if you're finding roommates

0:49:58.360 --> 0:50:00.840
<v Speaker 1>and stuff. But like I think you should have like five.

0:50:01.080 --> 0:50:03.319
<v Speaker 1>You should save up like five thousand dollars. Like I

0:50:03.360 --> 0:50:06.040
<v Speaker 1>think when I moved here, I had saved up four

0:50:06.280 --> 0:50:13.000
<v Speaker 1>thousand dollars. I don't remember, but that's like very specific. Yeah,

0:50:13.040 --> 0:50:16.960
<v Speaker 1>I you know, if I'm going off of I'm going

0:50:17.000 --> 0:50:37.960
<v Speaker 1>off of more vibes than than capital vibes. You know,

0:50:37.960 --> 0:50:40.600
<v Speaker 1>what is the most New York moment ever? And I

0:50:40.680 --> 0:50:44.799
<v Speaker 1>might have talked about this before, So Charlotte, friend of

0:50:44.800 --> 0:50:49.239
<v Speaker 1>the podcast, Charlene, She and I have been friends for

0:50:49.920 --> 0:50:54.120
<v Speaker 1>a long time, and I so Charlene. I think it's

0:50:54.120 --> 0:50:56.839
<v Speaker 1>like ten years ago now is when she started doing

0:50:56.960 --> 0:51:00.239
<v Speaker 1>drag and she and I became friends. We like saw

0:51:00.239 --> 0:51:04.279
<v Speaker 1>each other out at TNT a lot and became the

0:51:04.320 --> 0:51:07.560
<v Speaker 1>first gay bar I ever went to in New York. Um, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and became friendly. And then one night at the Spectrum,

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<v Speaker 1>the original Spectrum, we were like standing around chatting and

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<v Speaker 1>she said, you know that I'm and she said her

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<v Speaker 1>dead name, and oh, and it was because she and

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<v Speaker 1>I had lived in that apartment on the Lower Side

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<v Speaker 1>where I lived in a two bedroom with four other people.

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<v Speaker 1>She had lived above me pre transition, both when both

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<v Speaker 1>of us were pre transition, And that was one of

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<v Speaker 1>those like circular New York moments where I realized this

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<v Speaker 1>person who was becoming very important with my life, she

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<v Speaker 1>and I had known each other on this whole other

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<v Speaker 1>point on our timelines, like like at least like two

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<v Speaker 1>lives ago from the point where we were now, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, this is a person who is still one

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<v Speaker 1>of my closest friends. And that is like such a

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<v Speaker 1>New York moment to me. It's like realizing that the

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<v Speaker 1>people around you are having these experiences that are running

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<v Speaker 1>parallel to yours, that intersect with yours, and you can

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<v Speaker 1>be like a point on each other's timelines, and like

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes you change in the same ways, and like it's

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<v Speaker 1>crazy that like a person who, who, like you used

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<v Speaker 1>to think was just like the annoying. You know, neighbor

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<v Speaker 1>who lives upstairs, like a couple years later is your

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<v Speaker 1>like best trans girlfriend. So I'm like, oh no, that's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of beautiful. It is beautiful. I have like a

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<v Speaker 1>similar but very different story where one of the first

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<v Speaker 1>gay bars I ever went to. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>this was T T and T or not, but my

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<v Speaker 1>first week in New York, I was taken to a

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<v Speaker 1>gay bar where I saw my like high school arch nemesis,

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<v Speaker 1>like someone who had bullied me like in this like

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<v Speaker 1>dangerous like gay love triangle through my whole high school career.

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<v Speaker 1>And I remember seeing him out at a bar and

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<v Speaker 1>being like, oh my god. You know, when you moved

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<v Speaker 1>to New York, you come to like reinvent yourself a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit, if that's not too cliche to say, you

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<v Speaker 1>leave behind whatever you were before New York so you

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<v Speaker 1>can just be your New York self. And so when

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<v Speaker 1>I saw him at this bar, remember being like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, like you're just thrown back into the person

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<v Speaker 1>you used to be for the lack of a better

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<v Speaker 1>way of putting it, And I remember he pulled me

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<v Speaker 1>aside and was like, Oh, it's so good to see you. Know,

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<v Speaker 1>I have to tell you, I'm like so sorry for

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<v Speaker 1>like how I acted all those years ago. It was

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<v Speaker 1>like not it was like this like perfect apology, like

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<v Speaker 1>just apologizing for all this like trauma that he had

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<v Speaker 1>put me through or whatever. And I just remember thinking

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't care, like I don't care about you,

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<v Speaker 1>like you have nothing to do with my life anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>And that is so much. That is so far away

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<v Speaker 1>now and we are like our ships asking in the

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<v Speaker 1>wind in this gay bar and then never I never

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<v Speaker 1>saw him again. Is like we're in our new lives

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<v Speaker 1>and like it felt so great for someone who used

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<v Speaker 1>to torment me to actually like mean nothing in that space.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. I think that there are a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>quote unquote the most New York moments ever are moments

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<v Speaker 1>where I'm in a bar, or in a club or

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<v Speaker 1>at dinner and I'm sitting there and I think, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, I'm at dinner with blah blah blah blah

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah blah blah, and like one of them

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<v Speaker 1>is like a celebrity and the other one is like

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<v Speaker 1>someone who have I've idolized online forever, or like I

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<v Speaker 1>remember I used to reblog images that that person took

0:54:35.880 --> 0:54:38.680
<v Speaker 1>or like I like you're you're my idol and you didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't even know how much I stand you, and

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<v Speaker 1>like we're friends now or whatever. Like you get to

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<v Speaker 1>be friends with your heroes here, And I don't really

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<v Speaker 1>mean celebrity heroes. I just mean like the artists that

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you admire and the people that you want

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<v Speaker 1>to be in community with. Yes, but let's be real.

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<v Speaker 1>The realist New York moments are when you cry on

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<v Speaker 1>the subway or see someone's dick on the subway, or

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<v Speaker 1>see someone's shit on the subway. Oh not shit? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>oh no, or when you have sex on the subway.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah you haven't. No, I've always wanted to. No. Yeah, Wow, Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>that is that's the real New York Baby New Yeah Que.

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<v Speaker 1>Wendy Williams cover of New York Que Lady Gaga's cover

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<v Speaker 1>of New York, New York. Have you ever seen that?

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<v Speaker 1>It's from there's this um Frank Sinatra special that she

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<v Speaker 1>covered New York, New York and it is an incredibly

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<v Speaker 1>iconic performance. I want to see that slide into our

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