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Speaker 1: The Bread Show is on. It's stay or go.

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Speaker 2: Hi.

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Speaker 3: Brandy is here, Hi Brandy, Good morning, Good morning, Brandy.

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Speaker 1: Here.

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Speaker 3: We are a bunch of unlicensed clowns, basically, but we're

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Speaker 3: going to tell you how to proceed with the rest

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Speaker 3: of your life right now, Because why wouldn't you call

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Speaker 3: a bunch of unlicensed clowns that talk on the radio

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Speaker 3: to ask for advice about what to do with your life.

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Speaker 3: It's surely one of us. There's what six or seven

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Speaker 3: of us. One of us will get it right. So

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Speaker 3: what's going on, Brandy? Explain to us your situation.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I would love your take. So I've been dating

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Speaker 4: my boyfriend Mark for about a year and I found

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Speaker 4: something out recently and I'm not really.

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Speaker 5: Sure how I feel about it.

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Speaker 4: All right, So we went back to his family and

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Speaker 4: his hometown for Thanksgiving and you know, ninety four Drinksgiving,

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Speaker 4: we got together with some of his college trends. I

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Speaker 4: never met them before, And while we're hanging out, one

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Speaker 4: of his friends was joking about one of his exes

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Speaker 4: and using some you know, some words to describe as

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Speaker 4: X And I find out that he used to date

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Speaker 4: men and I didn't know what sort of.

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Speaker 3: Words was he using like Harry and buff and Bulgie

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Speaker 3: like great ass? Like what like I mean it was

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Speaker 3: some of those things should be a team killed two

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Speaker 3: nice beard? Like what I mean, like what what sorts

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Speaker 3: of things? It doesn't matter. So he dated men in

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Speaker 3: the past, and you were entirely unaware of.

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Speaker 4: This, Yeah, you know, I just I didn't know, and

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Speaker 4: so you know, I kept my cool and everything like that,

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Speaker 4: and like the way, that's fine to talking about it.

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Speaker 4: He definitely assumed that I knew already that my boyfriend

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Speaker 4: used to the date men and multiple men, it sounds like,

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Speaker 4: and so.

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Speaker 3: To the moment, you just go with this, like did

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Speaker 3: you acknowledge this other person that you didn't know or

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Speaker 3: were you just like okay, haha, And I'm gonna take

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Speaker 3: this step later obviously.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So you know, I didn't want to like caught

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Speaker 4: the scene or anything like.

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Speaker 6: That was the first time I was meeting.

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Speaker 4: Those people, so like I was really shocked, but you know,

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Speaker 4: I held it together until like my boyfriend and I

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Speaker 6: And I confronted him about it.

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Speaker 4: And like it's totally cool and everything, but it was

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Speaker 4: really weird that I didn't know, and like he told

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Speaker 4: me it was just a phase, of course, and that

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Speaker 4: he was like young and drunk and experimenting while he

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Speaker 4: was in college. He was finding himself like everybody else does.

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Speaker 4: But I don't know, I feel like that's like a

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Speaker 4: big part of your identity. And like he told me,

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Speaker 4: it's no big deal and that like there's nothing for

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Speaker 4: me to worry about, and like.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, I mean, we don't have to put a

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Speaker 3: label on this, because I know this can get icy

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Speaker 3: for people when you start having having to this person

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Speaker 3: is bisexual or this person is gay or this person whatever.

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Speaker 1: But okay, so he hooked up.

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Speaker 3: With men in the past, and now he's hooking up

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Speaker 3: with you, Like maybe the guy, what do they call that?

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Speaker 3: Is it omnisexual? What is it like when you just

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Speaker 3: like everything? Yeah, I mean yeah, pansexual. So so the guy,

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Speaker 3: let's just assume that he just is attracted to what

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Speaker 3: he's attracted to, and he's attracted to you, and he

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Speaker 3: that's what he chooses.

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Speaker 1: I mean, so be it.

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Speaker 3: I guess what I'm wondering is is that is a

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Speaker 3: shocking thing to find out about somebody. But why, why

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Speaker 3: does it really affect where you guys are today. Are

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Speaker 3: you thinking he's he's like really actually gay and he's

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Speaker 3: faking it with you or something. I mean, it's possible

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Speaker 3: to be attracted to do all things.

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Speaker 4: I know, and it's just like I feel like it's

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Speaker 4: something I should have known about. I think it's more

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Speaker 4: Like I don't like to be surprised, especially like in

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Speaker 4: And so when I was saying, don't like tell him

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Speaker 1: Like, I don't know. Is that a conversation that you mean?

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Speaker 1: I guess maybe, but I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I mean, Jason, you hooked up with women before you

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Speaker 3: hooked up with men or at the same time or whatever.

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Speaker 3: I mean, Is Mike the least been threatened by the

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Speaker 1: No? No, And I'm definitely not bisexual.

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Speaker 7: I think I had to do that to really like

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Speaker 7: be like okay, like this is what I want and

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Speaker 7: like and whatever. So I feel like it shouldn't even matter,

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Speaker 7: like I hooked up with women in the past, so

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Speaker 7: did Mike, Like, it doesn't It doesn't matter because at

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Speaker 7: least you know where you are now and you guys

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Speaker 7: are together and you're happy and it's thriving, so it

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Speaker 3: I guess it would be nice to maybe have figured

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Speaker 3: it out or been told about it, not in a

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Speaker 3: setting where everyone else knew.

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Speaker 1: But at the same time, I guess I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm curious.

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Speaker 3: So eight five five five three five, Uh, you know,

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Speaker 3: group therapy is what we're doing here. I'd love to

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Speaker 3: know what people have to say and somebody like immediately

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Speaker 3: somebody goes get tested. We'll get That's what somebody. That's

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Speaker 3: what somebody texted me. Hey, I got an idea. How

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Speaker 3: about just get tested anyway? Yeah, Like, I don't know.

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Speaker 7: That everybody dirty out here, Yes, straight people, we are

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Speaker 7: not immune to nastiness and nobody nobody is.

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Speaker 1: No one's safe but Brandy, what is your what is

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Speaker 1: your gut tell you to do?

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Speaker 6: Like?

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Speaker 1: I mean, are.

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Speaker 3: You, prior to knowing this, you were happy with this

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Speaker 3: relationship and fine with it. I guess this is why

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Speaker 3: sometimes I think things like I'm terrible about things in

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Speaker 3: the past that have to do with sex or or

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Speaker 3: love or connection.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to know.

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Speaker 3: I just don't it really bothers me, and a lot

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Speaker 3: of people can just deal with it and be like, well,

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Speaker 3: that happened, then this happened now. I guess I'm just numb.

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Speaker 3: I just don't want to know because I don't want

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Speaker 3: to reflect on what happened before me, because then I

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Speaker 3: just go down this rabbit hole of like, well, what

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Speaker 3: about this and what about that? And then if it

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Speaker 3: matters because you guys didn't know each other back then,

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Speaker 3: so are you? Are you that bugged about it like

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Speaker 1: I don't think so.

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Speaker 4: I think it's it's bothering me in the way that

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Speaker 4: I'm not sure how I feel that he feels almost

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Speaker 4: it under the rug with me, Well.

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Speaker 3: Why don't you tell him that you're he shouldn't be ashamed?

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Speaker 3: Like why don't you if you if it doesn't bother

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Speaker 3: you that much? I mean, you say you're talking about

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Speaker 3: stare Go, you're potentially leaving, but like if it doesn't,

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Speaker 3: if it truly doesn't bother you, then whyn't you just

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's hard of the fact that I didn't know,

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Speaker 4: and I don't know how to feel that I'm having

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Speaker 4: this that I didn't know and having this reaction to it. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: like maybe I wasn't supposed to know, and maybe that

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Speaker 3: Obviously not well, yeah, but it sounds like it wasn't

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Speaker 3: a secret. Let's still it was a secret, So I

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Speaker 3: guess I wonder why he would feel that he would

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Speaker 3: need But I also don't know how that it's.

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Speaker 1: Also her prerogative if she can't get over it.

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Speaker 8: I mean, while that's not the popular opinion, and I

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Speaker 8: make it hate for that, Like you're allowed to have

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Speaker 8: types and preferences and whatever. May not be what I do,

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Speaker 8: but that's her right. So she's got to work through that.

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Speaker 3: But everybody has a passed and you're right, you don't

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Speaker 3: have to accept it. But and I guess, like I'm saying,

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Speaker 3: you know, previously, I would prefer not to know a

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Speaker 1: Those sorts of things.

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Speaker 8: But like guys that are taller than me love my

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Speaker 8: short kings, but I just need someone to be taller

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Speaker 1: It's my preference.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, you know, yes, you've got to be able to

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Speaker 8: lift me up.

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Speaker 1: And throw me over your shoulder.

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Speaker 8: You know, wow, says Judge Mathis.

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Speaker 3: It's the Super Mario stash that's really as you talk

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Speaker 3: about being thrown around. Take off everything with the mustache.

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Speaker 3: We'll take some phone calls. Have a good day, Okay.

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Speaker 3: I had the radio one and let's see what people

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Speaker 3: have to be eight five five five three five. I

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Speaker 3: forgetting that you have that on and like like you're

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Speaker 3: forget you got the fake mustache, the Super Mario mustache on.

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Speaker 8: Oh yeah, yeah, I love a fake mustache honestly.

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Speaker 3: But has it become part of your face yet? Because I, like,

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Speaker 3: I can see not feeling it after a while.

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Speaker 8: The sticky stuff. I'm probably getting cancer from between the

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Speaker 1: You know, but you know it's not part of my

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Speaker 1: chace yet? Does it look natural?

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Speaker 2: Stop?

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Speaker 7: Don't don't ever look at me like this, just like

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Speaker 7: I don't know if you're like wearing your sunglasses, or

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Speaker 7: if they're on your head, after a period of time,

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Speaker 7: you kind of forget and you don't feel them anymore,

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Speaker 7: and then you're like where in my sunglasses?

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Speaker 1: Like where is junk? Yeah? Absolutely? Hey Jay, Hey, how's

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Speaker 3: Hey?

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Speaker 1: Good morning Jay?

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Speaker 3: So Sarah, this woman found out over Thanksgiving, just in

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Speaker 3: like a social setting with some of her boyfriend of

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Speaker 3: a year's friends that he used to hook up with men.

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Speaker 1: She was unaware of this. What do you think?

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Speaker 2: I say, say, I get not wanting the surprise, especially

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Speaker 2: in a group of people, but really you can't avoid it.

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Speaker 2: The way I'm thinking about it is it's like finding

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Speaker 2: out about any other ex in his past. Like he's

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Speaker 2: already committed to you. He's saying he loves you. You've

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Speaker 2: dated over a year, So it's like finding out his

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Speaker 2: ex is a gorgeous supermodel. It's not a pleasant surprise,

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Speaker 2: but it's still unavoidable, and and everybody's got a pass.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I guess, I guess she If she had

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Speaker 3: no idea and never felt threatened in any way, then

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Speaker 3: I don't know why it's important now what happened, I

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Speaker 3: don't know ten years ago or whatever, Because again, people

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Speaker 3: have a right to be attracted to whatever they're attracted to.

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Speaker 3: But thank you, Jay, have a good day.

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Speaker 6: I have a go on.

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Speaker 3: It's so different than the example I gave of Jason, Like,

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Speaker 3: you know, Mike's not up every night wondering if you

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Speaker 3: still like women because you once got with a woman, right,

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Speaker 1: Or I mean, they did just get a job at steamworks,

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Speaker 1: What do you think you heard the day or goo?

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Speaker 1: What comes to mind?

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Speaker 5: I think she's more concerned about his sexuality than she's

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Speaker 3: You're saying now, she's saying like now that she knows that, now,

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Speaker 5: I mean, I know we like to think that people

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Speaker 3: I'm glad you called. Hey Brie, good morning, how are

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Speaker 5: I honestly, I think she needs to go and I

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Speaker 6: She would have just said, oh cool, I moved on

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Speaker 2: Didn't I know?

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Speaker 6: Why is it.

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Speaker 2: A problem that you didn't know?

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Speaker 6: Like what is his past and his sexuality have to

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Speaker 3: I think she's really got to sit down and think about,

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Speaker 5: A guy that found out his girlfriend of a year

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Speaker 6: So what's why the double standard?

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Speaker 3: And you know, is I'm the weirdo who like I've

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Speaker 1: But in my mind, I'm like, well.

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Speaker 3: You got that part, she's got that part, so like

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Speaker 1: And so I get into so you're right. Men go yay,

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Speaker 3: I'm the weirdo who goes, maybe she fulfilled you better

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Speaker 1: And I don't know if I like that. You're a

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Speaker 1: good day. They broke them old with you. They did.

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Speaker 3: Nothing works right, nothing's right, heyen, nothing's right with me?

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Speaker 3: People just tuning in right now that a woman found

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Speaker 9: They were happy the whole year that they were together,

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Speaker 9: she should continue that relationship. Yeah, she's upset that she

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Speaker 9: you don't know everybody's past. You can't change everybody's past,

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Speaker 9: and you can't judge them for it. And these people

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Speaker 3: I don't know about that, and I don't know about

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Speaker 1: I don't know that to be.

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Speaker 9: Why would the friends bring it up. I don't know.

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Speaker 6: Some friends do this as a spiteful it.

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Speaker 9: He must have been looked very happy to them for

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Speaker 9: the boat. If she's happy with him and it doesn't

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Speaker 9: things about people's past.

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Speaker 10: What if what if she's the experiment in his situation.

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Speaker 10: You know what I'm saying, Like what if he does

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Speaker 1: Whole thing for a year long experiment and like bringing

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Speaker 8: I mean when I get with my college friends, like

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Speaker 8: Shark and you know, I don't know, but.

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Speaker 9: Some bring that up exactly for that purpose to dig

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Speaker 1: That's right. Maybe you have a good days you all,

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Speaker 1: Thanks for listening. Are the Lauren? Hi, Lauren, Hi, good morning.

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Speaker 1: So you've been through something like this?

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Speaker 6: I have. So I got set up with a guy,

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Speaker 6: you know, And I am very very open minded, but like,

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Speaker 3: You've indicated that I'm trying to interrupt you, but you've

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Speaker 3: I kind of had a feeling about it, like something

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Speaker 6: True true, And so that's even I don't know, that's

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Speaker 6: I want to, you know, talk about this and figure

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Speaker 6: it out. She found out by surprise, and he didn't

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 6: So it feels like there's a little bit of dishonesty,

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Speaker 6: I don't know that.

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Speaker 3: You know, well, Lauren, I'm sorry you went through that,

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Speaker 1: Have a good day. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I'm I'm careful because I know how sensitive people are,

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Speaker 3: any one of others, any number of other things that

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Speaker 3: about that don't have any real impact.

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Speaker 1: I don't, and so I'm not even gonna do it.

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Speaker 3: But think of all the different things that truly have

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Speaker 3: Now It's like, is it fair to say, well, when

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Speaker 1: I mean, Rufy has been to jail twice. Yeah, that's

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