WEBVTT - Bump & Grind Feat Heidi Murkoff 0:00:13.920 --> 0:00:17.040 Welcome back to Good Mom's Five Choices. I'm Erica and 0:00:17.079 --> 0:00:22.520 I'm Nila, and it's Wednesday, Bitchy, Happy mother fucking hump Day. 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:26.720 Yeah, and pump Day and pump and pump Day. Yeah. 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:27.720 I like how you say that. 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:32.680 I guess, like technically, if we're going to be technical. 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:33.960 It depends where you're at in your journey. 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:34.440 Yeah. 0:00:34.840 --> 0:00:37.360 That No, I don't think it matters. I think always 0:00:37.400 --> 0:00:38.800 pumping comes before the bumping. 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:42.000 I mean, let's be pumped. Lets you're pumping because you've pumped. 0:00:42.159 --> 0:00:45.839 Way, pump Day is a different day. No, We're like, 0:00:46.680 --> 0:00:48.320 we're confusing and confusing. 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:51.920 Well, we have a very special guest today. If you 0:00:52.000 --> 0:00:55.279 hear a foreign voice, that's not Erica or I. It 0:00:55.480 --> 0:01:02.640 is the all time most high off at the pregnancy 0:01:02.720 --> 0:01:06.120 Bible that everyone has seen, read and heard of the 0:01:06.240 --> 0:01:09.160 series of What to Expect When Expecting, Heidi Murka. 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:16.440 That's me, Like, I mean, why Hi, everybody? Hi? I 0:01:16.520 --> 0:01:17.000 love there. 0:01:17.560 --> 0:01:19.759 Heidi is a very very special guest today. 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:24.080 She is probably like one of the most recognized women 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:25.199 in pregnancy world. 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:28.600 She was recognized by Times. 0:01:28.520 --> 0:01:32.080 For most one hundred most influential people in twenty eleven. 0:01:32.120 --> 0:01:34.160 I feel so special to be honored to be able 0:01:34.160 --> 0:01:34.920 to like interview you. 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:37.200 I feel, Oh, but that's so twenty eleven. 0:01:37.400 --> 0:01:39.039 So what it never goes away. 0:01:39.200 --> 0:01:42.559 You're a Smithsonian. I mean you've sold millions and millions 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:44.280 and millions and millions and millions. I mean I can 0:01:44.360 --> 0:01:46.319 keep saying millions because it's going to keep going, like 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:49.480 twenty millions of millions of books. I mean, I know 0:01:49.520 --> 0:01:51.240 when I you know, I got pregnant, that's like the 0:01:51.240 --> 0:01:54.800 book everyone recommends that you must have, you know, So, 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:57.080 I mean you are a legend for sure. 0:01:57.600 --> 0:02:01.760 WHOA I feel, I don't know what to say besides 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:02.720 I love you. 0:02:02.800 --> 0:02:03.680 Oh, I love you too. 0:02:03.960 --> 0:02:05.000 You had me at Hello. 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:08.360 Thank you so much for like allowing us in your space. 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:10.920 You know Eric, and if you guys have been listening, 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:13.560 you know that Eric and I are very pushy. And 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:16.960 when Heidi's agent told us she didn't have a lot 0:02:17.000 --> 0:02:18.840 of time to come to us, we said, we'll come 0:02:18.840 --> 0:02:19.320 to her house. 0:02:19.320 --> 0:02:22.600 Don't worry, We said, ask her if I could come over. 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:27.320 But it's not my house, just so you know, we're remodeling, 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:28.600 so this is not my space. 0:02:29.280 --> 0:02:32.919 But enough, when you go back home, we'll come over 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:33.240 there too. 0:02:33.320 --> 0:02:35.560 Yeah, yeah, date, it's a date. 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:37.000 We'll bring red wine. 0:02:37.280 --> 0:02:40.360 Excellent your open invitation. 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:42.160 It's not a joke once you come on the show, 0:02:42.320 --> 0:02:43.200 or your friend for life. 0:02:43.440 --> 0:02:46.760 Oh I like the way that sounds. I need me 0:02:46.919 --> 0:02:47.560 some friends. 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:49.720 Well here you are too, mom friends. You never knew 0:02:49.760 --> 0:02:50.440 you needed. 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:52.320 I kind of did. 0:02:52.639 --> 0:02:56.720 Oh perfect, I'm happy. So let's roll right into it. 0:02:56.760 --> 0:02:58.760 Should we do our Tarot card. 0:02:58.560 --> 0:03:00.560 Of the day. Sure, we always open the show with 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:03.440 little Taro. So what do the Tarot gods have for 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:03.919 us to day? 0:03:04.000 --> 0:03:06.360 Mela today? The Tarot guards Taro guards. 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:13.120 The Tarot gods today have given us the card of judgment. 0:03:14.520 --> 0:03:16.000 No upside down. 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:17.040 Oh no. 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:19.720 So it says, in a financial context, don't be overly 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:20.840 cautious with money. 0:03:21.080 --> 0:03:21.600 That's not to. 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:24.880 Suggest you should go wild. You may find yourself deliberating 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:27.880 endlessly about every purchase. If it's something you need and 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:30.160 you can afford it, just buy it. It's good to 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:33.080 be financially responsible, but you don't have to fret about 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:34.760 every penny you spend. 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:38.640 I don't think I think this card is fucking with me. 0:03:38.960 --> 0:03:40.720 No, I think it's no. 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:43.560 I think it's telling us something. It's telling us we're 0:03:43.600 --> 0:03:47.440 going to be rich very soon. Nice, Heidi's richness is 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:51.400 bleeding off onto, and just not to worry, like it's fine. 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:53.200 Her success is just gonna bleed. 0:03:53.840 --> 0:03:55.560 So those Gucci shoes that I was looking at on 0:03:55.560 --> 0:03:57.400 the internet last night, I should just get them. 0:03:57.320 --> 0:04:00.840 Right, okay, but don't put them on my credit Fine, 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:04.680 Like we just met, I know we're going to be 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:06.320 best friends and everything. 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:10.280 I don't think I have access to those yet, Heidi, 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:13.520 we're your new daughters now, like, just one Paragucci shoes, eat, 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:15.920 we're gonna get wait? 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:19.560 Wait, wait, wait have you run this by Emma? 0:04:19.680 --> 0:04:22.279 Though we're all going to be matching, it won't be 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:24.440 official if we're all that matching to the event. 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:28.200 Oh no, okay, Well, just so you know, Emma buys 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:32.040 her own shoes. Now mama wants a new pair of shoes, 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:36.000 she has to buy it. I'm just saying that's true. 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:37.400 We're mom's now with my own ship. 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:37.760 Yeah. 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:41.479 Fuck, the one thing I miss about childhood? 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:44.920 Well? Wait, what size shoe do you wear? We can share? 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:48.880 You know what, I'm really sad to say that I'm 0:04:48.920 --> 0:04:52.920 like very small, but I have an average size woman's foot. 0:04:53.320 --> 0:04:56.120 I'm like below average and size, but my foot is 0:04:56.200 --> 0:04:56.839 average size. 0:04:56.920 --> 0:05:01.200 So you know what they say about that? Yeah, actually don't. 0:05:01.279 --> 0:05:03.480 I just was going with a huge vagina. 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:09.400 Yeah, well they do say that about petite women, Heidi. 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:10.279 I know you've heard it. 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:12.599 I've never heard an inappropriate joke about you know what 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:13.880 they saw about small women. 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:16.719 No, that's why I was telling the joke. But I 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:19.919 didn't know. I didn't know what the Well. 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:22.159 It's not necessarily pertaining to your shoe sides, but they 0:05:22.400 --> 0:05:24.240 there's there is a running joke. I don't believe that 0:05:24.279 --> 0:05:26.279 you've never heard it about petite women. 0:05:29.279 --> 0:05:31.680 What you could drive a truck through it or what. 0:05:31.800 --> 0:05:33.760 Like, Yeah, you could take big penises. 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:38.200 Well, so now relative to us, they are all big. 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:41.720 True, that's actually that's not a fact. 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:46.920 I do not agree with that. I in fact, I know. 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:50.960 Okay, well you probably someone probably told you that joke, Hidi, 0:05:51.200 --> 0:05:51.920 right over your head. 0:05:51.960 --> 0:05:53.560 I'm happy. I'm tired. You don't think. 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:57.000 Anything goes over my head. But no, nobody has actually 0:05:57.000 --> 0:05:58.880 said that before. But good to know. 0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:00.320 Well, now you can use it your next dinner. 0:06:00.640 --> 0:06:01.040 I can. 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:05.000 I'm pissed that everybody feels comfortable enough with me to 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:06.080 just throw that joke around. 0:06:07.520 --> 0:06:09.640 I must say fuck with me. It's fine. 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:12.040 Yeah, no, I'm I'm down with that. 0:06:13.040 --> 0:06:15.760 I always talking as a compliment, but you know, take 0:06:15.800 --> 0:06:16.560 it out where you want. 0:06:18.279 --> 0:06:19.040 I'm taking it. 0:06:20.600 --> 0:06:21.719 That's pun intended. 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:24.880 Yeah, okay, we're so inappropriate. 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:26.880 Well yeah, welcome to good mom's bad choices. 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:30.560 Hey, listen. I gotta say, for the record, I was 0:06:30.600 --> 0:06:34.160 the first person to say penis on national television, right 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:35.719 a legend. 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:41.240 I told you, I told you guys, well, it was beautifulson. 0:06:41.920 --> 0:06:44.480 It wasn't out of context or anything. I was invited 0:06:44.640 --> 0:06:47.640 to talk about sexert and pregnancy on Good Morning America 0:06:48.279 --> 0:06:53.600 with Joan London. We're going back a few years, and 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:56.680 so it came up in the conversation, like what was 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:58.440 I supposed to call it? And then get off the 0:06:58.640 --> 0:07:03.400 secon Yeah, yeah, exactly, mister Johnson. I don't know, but 0:07:03.880 --> 0:07:07.039 I said penis, you know, and as I said, in context, 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:10.160 it wasn't out of context. And I get off the 0:07:10.240 --> 0:07:15.040 set and they were all like, you said penis, and 0:07:15.080 --> 0:07:18.120 I was like, yes, I did. We were talking about 0:07:18.120 --> 0:07:22.520 sex during pregnancy. You saw like everybody shifting uncomfortably. And 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:25.520 but anyway, so then it was Seinfeld and everything was penis. 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:26.640 Penis penis after that. 0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:30.040 So basically you broke the like nothing, I broke the cherry. 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:33.640 You broke the cherry of penis on TV. Yeah, I 0:07:33.720 --> 0:07:35.680 thank you, I really do, thank you so much for 0:07:35.720 --> 0:07:36.080 your work. 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:41.760 You're welcome. Yeah, I've used it liberally ever since. 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:44.240 You know, I think that that's really important. I think, 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:46.720 I mean even now, like with our space and talking 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:48.600 about I mean, our spaces were very transparent. 0:07:48.640 --> 0:07:52.800 If you can't note I had not thank you for 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:53.840 pointing that out. 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:55.960 But even talking about like to our children and kids 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:58.880 about their body parts and like things that I'm just like, 0:07:58.920 --> 0:08:01.720 why are we making all these code names for things? 0:08:01.760 --> 0:08:07.000 I mean, call it, call it what it is exactly. Yeah, 0:08:08.280 --> 0:08:11.000 we've said vagina and peenis so far. So can we 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:12.240 move on or is that? 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:12.600 Yeah? 0:08:12.640 --> 0:08:13.920 I think I think we want to move on to 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:17.280 the affirmation of the day. How do we normally ask 0:08:17.320 --> 0:08:19.760 our guests to, you know, help our listeners kind of 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:22.080 you know, set their week up and something that's going 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:24.760 to motivate them for the week. I'd love to know 0:08:24.840 --> 0:08:27.080 kind of like how you stay motivated or what maybe 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:28.440 mantra you live by. 0:08:28.680 --> 0:08:31.760 My mommy mantra? Sure, go ahead, Yeah, No, My mommy 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:35.600 mantra is stop and smell the babies, because I learned 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:38.720 this a hard way. They don't smell so sweet after 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:42.880 a while, and I think it's like a you know, 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:45.240 it's a metaphor for everything. You got to slow down 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:49.520 and enjoy those moments that are going to be over 0:08:49.559 --> 0:08:51.360 in a flash. 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:53.880 So stop and smell the babies. 0:08:54.400 --> 0:08:57.120 Yeah, it's funny you say that because I was smelling 0:08:57.160 --> 0:09:00.880 my daughter yesterday because she still has like round cheeks, 0:09:01.360 --> 0:09:03.720 but they're like starting to get thinner, and I'm getting 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:06.280 really sad. In fact, like I was looking at her 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:08.959 the other day and I like started crying and she 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:11.520 was like, why are you crying so dramatic? And I 0:09:11.559 --> 0:09:13.560 was like, because, like you're growing up and I just 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:16.800 need you to stop. And I was smelling her and 0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:20.480 I was like, she still has a smell to her. Yeah, 0:09:20.520 --> 0:09:22.240 although like there have been a few times where I've 0:09:22.240 --> 0:09:24.800 smelled her armpits and they've kind of smelled and I 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:25.920 was like, what is happening? 0:09:26.160 --> 0:09:29.040 Yeah, for six you know that. Yeah, I remember the 0:09:29.080 --> 0:09:31.960 first time. And you know, it's funny. With boys, it's 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:33.640 more of a sudden thing. Because I have a girl 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:36.920 and a boy, a woman, and a man. They didn't 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:40.440 start out that way. And with my son, it was 0:09:40.640 --> 0:09:43.760 literally overnight. I tucked him into bed one night and 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:45.839 he was a little boy, you know, a little blonde 0:09:45.920 --> 0:09:49.400 chair up with these rown teeth. And next morning I 0:09:49.559 --> 0:09:52.920 woke up and I took him to school, picked him up, 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:55.640 and I was like, what is that smell? There was 0:09:55.679 --> 0:09:57.920 a smell in the car and I never ever had 0:09:57.960 --> 0:10:00.520 been a smell in the car before. And so, but 0:10:00.640 --> 0:10:03.080 I think with girls it's a more gradual process, like 0:10:03.120 --> 0:10:07.120 they have pppppms, you know, for like years and then 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:12.360 they become women. But it's much more abrupt. Boys. 0:10:12.440 --> 0:10:13.440 Well, thank god we have girls. 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:14.400 Yeah. 0:10:14.440 --> 0:10:17.840 I don't even know if I don't know. The jury's out, Yeah, 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:20.000 the sury's out. The attitudes are high. 0:10:20.320 --> 0:10:23.640 Oh yeah, yesterday I cuddled with our friend's new new 0:10:23.679 --> 0:10:25.880 new babies, like one month old at the beach. 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:29.720 Did you stuff and smell the baby dud in a moment. 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:31.160 It was at a party, and I was still just like, 0:10:31.280 --> 0:10:32.960 don't someone trying to take the baby from. 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:34.520 No, no, no, don't take the baby. 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:37.240 Hold on, step away from the baby a minute. Yeah, 0:10:37.280 --> 0:10:37.880 what the fuck? 0:10:38.040 --> 0:10:38.440 Uh huh? 0:10:38.440 --> 0:10:42.040 I've only had seventy minutes, yeah, but going on the 0:10:42.040 --> 0:10:44.080 twentieth minute and like take it, I'm getting baby fever. 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:47.000 And when the cheek is again, yeah, you put your face. 0:10:47.160 --> 0:10:50.600 You can't, and it's like you hope they'll just stick there. 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:52.599 You know, and then they don't. They keep growing and 0:10:52.760 --> 0:10:53.400 talking back. 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:56.080 I don't want to talk about them. Okay again, I 0:10:56.120 --> 0:10:59.040 literally cried, it's ridiculous. My daughter the other side, I 0:10:59.280 --> 0:11:01.800 I didn't cause tra She's like, I always look at 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:08.760 little cry my mom. Okay, mentally unstable. Definitely thinks I'm unstable. 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:10.840 She's like, why are you crying. I'm like, I'm just 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:13.079 sad but happy. But you're beautiful. 0:11:14.520 --> 0:11:16.680 You have grandchildren, so you're able to kind of like relive. 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:18.680 Yeah, and they're both boys. 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:20.760 Both her son and daughter both have kids. 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:21.760 No, just the daughter. 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:22.520 Are they smelling yet? 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:26.720 No? Not yet? No, okay, they're eight and three, but 0:11:26.760 --> 0:11:29.520 they don't know they well, I mean the three year 0:11:29.559 --> 0:11:32.400 old smells because he hasn't pooped in the potty yet, 0:11:32.440 --> 0:11:36.439 so he smells for other reasons, but just he's sweet, 0:11:37.240 --> 0:11:42.520 sticky sweet. But yeah, it's a smell. We don't want 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:44.319 to talk about necessarily. 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:48.360 And the outside doors. Yeah, so I have a question. 0:11:48.640 --> 0:11:53.160 Everybody knows your epic amazing book, but like has stopping 0:11:53.200 --> 0:11:56.160 and smelling the babies of like pregnancy and motherhood has 0:11:56.200 --> 0:11:57.640 always been your jam? 0:11:57.960 --> 0:12:04.199 So true? Sorry, No, I was barely an adult. Got married, 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:10.240 like just really. We met in September, got married in Ale. 0:12:11.040 --> 0:12:14.320 This young man, this young man right here. We met 0:12:14.320 --> 0:12:18.480 in a bar in New York. And so I was like, 0:12:18.920 --> 0:12:21.440 I don't even know what guy. We just like decided, okay, 0:12:21.640 --> 0:12:25.240 let's get married. Got married, and three months later, Oops, 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:29.439 it's pregnant. Now I didn't for some reason, I didn't 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:33.960 see that coming. So we were completely unprepared. And I 0:12:34.080 --> 0:12:36.680 went out to the books. Remember when there were bookstores 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:40.080 that sold books very very long time ago. So anyway, 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:46.200 iget no not target, okay, and it was. I bought 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:48.440 all three books that were available, and none of them 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:51.840 answered my question. So two hours before I went into 0:12:51.920 --> 0:12:55.720 labor with Emma, I delivered a proposal for a book 0:12:55.760 --> 0:12:58.720 that all I wanted was for a couple of parents 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:00.720 to sleep better at night than we just you know, 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:02.719 hold their hand, give them a hug. And I had 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:04.880 no idea what was about to happen? 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:07.440 How did you know though, like being your first child, 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:10.160 like during your pregnancy, were you doing a lot of 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:11.440 research or how did you come to. 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:16.319 Like, No, I knew nothing. I literally if you if 0:13:16.320 --> 0:13:18.960 you had googled clueless, but of course there was no Google. 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:23.079 So that was a little Yeah, that was me. We 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:26.680 knew absolutely nothing and there was nobody to turn to 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:29.560 for advice, and so that I had to start from 0:13:29.600 --> 0:13:33.040 scratch with the research and learn it all. 0:13:33.679 --> 0:13:35.880 Is there anything now looking back on that book because 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:38.240 you did write it before you actually had a child? 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:42.640 Well, no, I for the proposal, yeah, propose. I just 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.520 knew that I wanted to do this. I didn't know 0:13:45.600 --> 0:13:47.480 how to do it. I didn't know what would be 0:13:47.520 --> 0:13:51.000 in it, Bunny, I knew it was necessary. Right, that 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:51.480 makes sense? 0:13:51.600 --> 0:13:55.320 No, for sure, I'm just curious of like now as well. 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:58.880 It's it's because things have changed so much, so dramatically 0:13:58.920 --> 0:13:59.920 since the first edition. 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:03.160 It's changed, right, Oh my god. Yeah, it's like double 0:14:03.160 --> 0:14:03.960 the about of pages. 0:14:04.040 --> 0:14:07.439 Right, I updated like a couple times a year. Wow, 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:12.280 because it's that important to say current. But I mean 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:14.480 the other thing is if you just look at well 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:16.920 don't look at the cover, the original cover, but it 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:23.080 was this woman in rocking chair with like the basket 0:14:23.120 --> 0:14:27.440 of flowers and popery, and she looked miserable and anyway. 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:30.720 So but the point is that it has changed so much, 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:33.600 because pregnancy has changed so much, and how we are pregnant, 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:39.440 how we are empowered in a way that we weren't 0:14:39.880 --> 0:14:42.760 in my pregnant days. And by the way, I didn't 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:46.600 get to show off my bump, which was spectacular, but 0:14:46.640 --> 0:14:49.400 nobody ever got to see it because she had to 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:53.120 hide it under a polyester pop tent. Yeah, you could 0:14:53.120 --> 0:14:56.680 sleep a family of four under there with your Yeah, 0:14:56.720 --> 0:14:57.680 it was really. 0:14:57.560 --> 0:14:59.680 That was the norm, like everyone but know you're pregnant, 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:00.080 but don't. 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:04.720 Pregnant exactly, huh exactly. Remember back in the day they 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:07.120 called not my day, but before my day, they called 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:11.160 it the period of confinement. I did not know that 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:16.160 women had to be confined because they were pregnant, Like 0:15:16.240 --> 0:15:18.280 you weren't supposed to be out doing anything or on 0:15:18.320 --> 0:15:20.400 your feet or living. 0:15:20.880 --> 0:15:22.560 You know, just like that's a showcase. 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:26.480 Yeah no, no, no, no, no no no. So it was 0:15:27.400 --> 0:15:30.760 maybe the most fun time to be pregnant. But I've 0:15:30.840 --> 0:15:33.600 gotten you know, I've had the opportunity now to experience 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:37.640 it through my daughter's eyes too, and through her beautiful 0:15:37.680 --> 0:15:39.240 pumping close. 0:15:39.360 --> 0:15:41.600 Only got the close and not the clothes of coming 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:43.360 a long way. I mean, even since I was pregnant, 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:44.680 the clothes and come a long way. I mean, the 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:47.760 only option really when I was shopping was the pea 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:51.520 in the pod and that was it, the p in 0:15:51.520 --> 0:15:54.960 the pod. Now there's so many cute pregnancy brands. I'm like, 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:57.320 do I want to have a baby again? Just so 0:15:57.360 --> 0:15:57.640 I can't? 0:15:57.680 --> 0:15:59.200 I do? I do? I do? 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:00.800 Yeah, right, I do? 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:05.720 I do? I do. I loved being pregnant. I did. 0:16:06.400 --> 0:16:09.200 I mean it would be hard giving up the red wine, 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:11.920 but just the whole idea of. 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:13.560 This, I mean, even that though, I mean there's so 0:16:13.640 --> 0:16:17.760 many I mean for us, I mean we are cannabis users, 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:21.680 and I think even still back there's so many things 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:23.800 that have changed as far as like what you can 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:25.960 do when you're pregnant, probably a glass of red wine 0:16:26.120 --> 0:16:29.000 and every now and then is you know, not a big. 0:16:28.840 --> 0:16:32.000 Deal as it was like you know, well actually you ask. 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:34.320 I feel like then they were like drink a martini. 0:16:34.360 --> 0:16:34.960 It's fine. 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:39.120 Oh, when Eric's parents, my mother in law, was pregnant, 0:16:39.320 --> 0:16:42.200 you know, the only reason she didn't drink and smoke 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:44.440 the whole time was because she was thrown up for 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:46.920 nine months because she didn't know she was having twins. 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:51.080 But had she been feeling fine, she would have been 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:52.720 having the martinis everybody did. 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:54.480 Yeah that's really normal. 0:16:54.680 --> 0:16:56.640 Yeah, babies, we're smaller. 0:16:56.880 --> 0:16:58.680 But yeah, but they made it. 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:01.800 They made it. No, that's true. I mean it really 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:04.200 it depends who you ask when it comes to things 0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:07.720 like wine, even you know, sushi, all those things are 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:10.840 you know, there's so many opinions on caffeine. 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:14.000 I definitely drank the coffee every single day. 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:14.840 Yeah, yeah, that's cool. 0:17:15.080 --> 0:17:16.200 Yeah, I had sushi. 0:17:16.320 --> 0:17:18.600 My doctor said it was fine. I was, like, I 0:17:18.680 --> 0:17:22.160 really did, like besides the coffee, like I was super strict. 0:17:22.200 --> 0:17:25.360 I was fucking terrified like everything that my doctor told 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:27.560 me to stay away from. I listened to a tea, 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:32.400 the coffee. Yeah, but you're you're coffee was fine. 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:32.480 Yeah. 0:17:32.520 --> 0:17:33.880 Yeah, your doctor. 0:17:33.720 --> 0:17:35.840 Did't say there's coffee was fine, and maybe not the 0:17:35.880 --> 0:17:36.800 five shot. 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:39.400 I'm a latte drinker or regular, but. 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:40.760 Then you're getting calcium bonus. 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:41.320 It's all good. 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:42.720 Yeah. 0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:49.760 I don't know, No wonder sunk, but I was so 0:17:49.920 --> 0:17:53.280 terrified in pregnancy, and I think a lot of people 0:17:53.920 --> 0:17:57.480 think that once you get pregnant, it's like, really, isn't 0:17:57.480 --> 0:18:00.240 about the mother at all. It's really about protecting the baby. 0:18:00.359 --> 0:18:01.200 Must protect the wall. 0:18:01.440 --> 0:18:04.760 Yeah, I mean it should be about the mother a 0:18:04.800 --> 0:18:07.520 lot more than it is. And that's a whole other story. 0:18:07.560 --> 0:18:11.359 I'm sure we'll get into that, but yeah, it is 0:18:11.480 --> 0:18:13.040 very much about protecting the baby. 0:18:13.440 --> 0:18:15.320 I mean, I didn't eat any cheeses. 0:18:15.600 --> 0:18:17.960 I well, first of all, okay, ps who could have 0:18:17.960 --> 0:18:21.440 eaten all cheeses unless they weren't past pastorized? 0:18:21.480 --> 0:18:22.320 I mean that's what I meant. 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:25.840 I mean, but well, there's pasteurized breed. 0:18:25.920 --> 0:18:29.240 What are people in France doing eating photoperiod? 0:18:29.400 --> 0:18:33.200 Can I explain something? But can I explain? The ish 0:18:33.600 --> 0:18:38.359 there is that you don't buy drugs like drug store 0:18:38.560 --> 0:18:42.439 or gas station sushi in Japan like your sushi is fresh. 0:18:43.240 --> 0:18:45.520 The only reason they tell you to avoid it is 0:18:45.520 --> 0:18:48.000 because you don't want to get sick like bacteria. Now, 0:18:48.040 --> 0:18:53.440 the serious a different story. That's in the cheeseese super rare. 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:56.600 But I mean as far as like cold cuts in Germany, 0:18:56.800 --> 0:18:59.919 whole different story than cold cuts here. They're more like 0:19:00.240 --> 0:19:04.280 to be contaminated so same thing with sushi. So it's 0:19:04.320 --> 0:19:09.880 like an abundance of caution. But in terms of like sushi, 0:19:10.119 --> 0:19:12.840 the only downside would be if you got food poisoning, 0:19:12.960 --> 0:19:16.120 and it sucks to have food posing when you're pregnant, yeah, 0:19:16.119 --> 0:19:18.680