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Speaker 1: Hi, this is Joelan's Victoria. Thanks so much for listening

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Speaker 1: to the podcast and thanks for.

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Speaker 2: Supporting the ministry. We believe you're going to have.

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Speaker 1: An awesome twenty twenty four, healthy, productive, and favor filled.

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Speaker 1: God bless you today and enjoy the message. Well, God

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Speaker 1: bless you. It's always a joy to come into your homes.

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Speaker 1: And if you're ever in our area, please stop by

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Speaker 1: and see us. These are the finest people in all

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Speaker 1: of Houston, Texas, right here at Lakewood Chirk. I promise

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Speaker 1: you we will make you feel right at home.

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Speaker 2: But thanks for tuning in. Thank you again for coming out.

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Speaker 1: I'd like to start with something funny and I heard

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Speaker 1: about this Southern Baptist man named Bill. He loved to

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Speaker 1: sneak off to the horse races and bet. One day,

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Speaker 1: after losing almost all of his money, he noticed a

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Speaker 1: priest stepped down on the tracks and bless a horse.

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Speaker 1: Sure enough, the horse won first place. The next race,

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Speaker 1: the priest blessed another horse. Once again, that horse won,

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Speaker 1: so Bill went to the ATM machine took out all

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Speaker 1: of his money. This time, the priest not only touched

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Speaker 1: the horse's forehead, but his eyes, his ears, and all

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Speaker 1: of his hoofs. Feeling confident, Bill bet all of his money,

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Speaker 1: but right in the middle of the race, the horse

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Speaker 1: fell over and died.

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Speaker 2: Bill couldn't believe it.

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Speaker 1: Went to the priest and said, what in the world happened.

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Speaker 1: The priest said, that's the.

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Speaker 2: Problem with you Protestants.

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Speaker 1: You don't know the difference between a blessing and the

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Speaker 1: last rites.

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Speaker 2: Hold up your Bible, say it like you mean it.

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Speaker 1: This is my Bible. I am what it says I am.

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Speaker 1: I have what it says I have. I can do

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Speaker 1: what it says I can do. Today I will be

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Speaker 1: taught the word of God. I boldly confess. My mind

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Speaker 1: is alert, my heart is receptive. I will never be

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Speaker 1: the same. In Jesus' name, God bless you. I want

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Speaker 1: to talk to you today about taking control of your happiness.

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Speaker 1: Some people are sacrificing their own happiness to try to

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Speaker 1: keep everyone around them happy. They've got a buy a

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Speaker 1: friend's house to say hello. If not, they may get upset.

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Speaker 1: They've got to work late every night. If not, the

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Speaker 1: boss may be unhappy. They've got to loan this friend money.

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Speaker 1: They're in trouble again. If they don't meet all these demands.

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Speaker 1: Rescue this person, keep this person fixed, solve this person's problem.

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Speaker 1: Then they'll fall out of somebody's good grace. Somebody won't understand.

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Speaker 1: But God did not call you to keep everyone happy.

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Speaker 1: It's good to be loving, kind, generous, but you are

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Speaker 1: not responsible for other people's happiness. You are responsible to

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Speaker 1: keep yourself happy.

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Speaker 2: Well, Joel.

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Speaker 1: If I don't loan them the money, if I don't

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Speaker 1: bail them out again for the twelfth.

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Speaker 2: Time, they may get upset with me.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's time for them to be unhappy instead of

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Speaker 1: you to be unhappy. If they get upset, they're not friends,

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Speaker 1: they're manipulators. Your time is too valuable to go through life.

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Speaker 1: Letting people control you make you feel guilty if you

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Speaker 2: The easy thing is to just give in and bail

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Speaker 2: them out. Don't make any waves.

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Speaker 1: But as long as you rescue them, you're there to

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Speaker 1: keep them fixed and to keep them cheered up. You're

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Speaker 1: not really helping them, You're becoming a crutch. You're enabling

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Speaker 1: their dysfunction. The only way they're really going to get

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Speaker 1: free is for you to not meet all their needs

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Speaker 1: and not come running every time they have a quote emergency.

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Speaker 2: You've got to put your.

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Speaker 1: Foot down and say, I love you, but I'm not

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Speaker 1: going to let you control me. I love you, but

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to jump every time you call. I

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Speaker 1: if I don't meet all of your demands. If somebody

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Speaker 1: You have to set some boundaries quite allowing them to

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Speaker 2: That's why we have voicemail.

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Speaker 1: Quit catering to them every time they throw a fit,

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Speaker 1: make poor choices. Don't take on that false sense of responsibility.

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Speaker 1: You are not the savior of the world. We already

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Speaker 1: have a savior. You're not supposed to keep everyone happy

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Speaker 1: everyone fixed. If you take on that job, the one

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Speaker 1: person who will not be happy is you. I know

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Speaker 1: this man, and for years he had a problem paying

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Speaker 1: him the money should show up any time a relative

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Speaker 2: On and on.

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Speaker 1: After this long, sad story, he looked at me and said, now, Joel,

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Speaker 1: what are we going to do? I didn't say it,

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Speaker 1: but I thought to myself, we're not going to do

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Speaker 2: This is your problem.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not going to feel guilty because you keep

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Speaker 1: making poor choices. I believe I would still be helping

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Speaker 1: him today, five years later, if I had not put

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Speaker 2: A lot of times we do things out of guilt.

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Speaker 1: Well, I should help him, I feel like, and if

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Speaker 1: I don't, I'm gonna feel bad about it. But if

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Speaker 1: that person is not taking responsibility, you're not really helping them.

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Speaker 1: They're always in need, and it's good to help them

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Speaker 1: once twice a dozen times, certainly be kind, show mercy,

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Speaker 1: But five years later, they're still having those regular emergencies,

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Speaker 1: counting on you to come running. If you keep giving in,

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Speaker 1: it's just like they have you as a puppet. They

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Speaker 1: know if they pull this string, you'll feel guilty. Pull

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Speaker 1: this string, you'll come bail them out. Pull this string,

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Speaker 1: then you'll stay late and do the project for them.

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Speaker 2: My message today is cut the strings.

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Speaker 1: No more puppets, no more letting them make you feel guilty,

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Speaker 1: no more come running, Well, Joel, If I do that,

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Speaker 2: Not be my friend anymore. There's your answer.

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Speaker 1: God may have just closed that door for you. The

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Speaker 1: truth is, if they get upset because you don't meet

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Speaker 1: don't call on queue. They're not really a friend, they're

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Speaker 1: a controller. The sooner you break free, the better off

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Speaker 1: If every time they throw a fit, you come running,

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Speaker 1: you give them what they want, they'll continue to do that.

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Speaker 1: They know what they have to do to get their way.

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Speaker 1: But if you let them throw that fit a dozen times,

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Speaker 1: even though they're hollering and screaming, you ignore it, go

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Speaker 1: about your day, enjoy your life. Before long, they'll realize

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Speaker 1: throwing a fit doesn't do any good, and they'll.

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Speaker 2: Have to change. It's the same principle in adults.

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Speaker 1: As long as somebody can pressure you into doing what

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Speaker 2: But when you don't respond.

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Speaker 2: I have some friends this couple.

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Speaker 1: The first several years of their marriage was very miserable.

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Speaker 1: The young lady went through some unfair situations as a child,

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Speaker 1: and she was extremely unhappy, extremely negative.

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Speaker 2: If she didn't get her.

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Speaker 1: having a pity party, pouting. Her husband is as good

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Speaker 1: be okay. For three years, he catered to her night

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Speaker 1: He told her, I love you, but I cannot make

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Speaker 1: best thing that ever happened to her, that forced her

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Speaker 1: to look inside and deal with those issues. You may

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Speaker 1: And yes, there may be seasons where we make sacrifices

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Speaker 1: one overcome. But you cannot let a season turn into

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Speaker 1: Somebody has a problem. They won't make good choices, and

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Speaker 2: Become your problem.

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Speaker 1: If you're putting off your happiness until they change, you

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Speaker 1: may be unhappy for a long time. Why don't you

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Speaker 1: let that person off of your potter's will.

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Speaker 2: You are not the potter. God is the potter.

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Speaker 1: God knows how to get people to change. Your job

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Speaker 2: And of course we all love our children, we do

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Speaker 2: anything in the world.

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Speaker 1: For them, but sometimes the best thing is to not

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Speaker 1: rescue them, don't keep enabling that dysfunction. In the story

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Speaker 1: of the Prodigal Son, the young man took his inheritance,

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Speaker 1: What's interesting is the father didn't go rescue him. Father

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Speaker 2: Well, Joel, what.

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Speaker 1: And it wasn't easy because never liked to hurt somebody's feelings,

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Speaker 1: And where you do business and where you work out,

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Speaker 2: Here's the key.

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Speaker 1: Before you go to work, before you go to school,

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Speaker 2: Prayed up, praised up, encouraged.

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Speaker 1: You got to set your mind that it's going to

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Speaker 1: be a great day. You cannot go into that negative

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Speaker 2: You got to.

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Speaker 1: Get already filled up, already encouraged. Don't let your guard down,

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Speaker 2: Listen to the news now.

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Speaker 1: If you're not on the offensive, the weights and drags

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Speaker 1: will pull you down.

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Speaker 2: On the way to work. Maybe it's a twenty minute drive.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you put on some good praise music, get

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Speaker 1: your spirit person built up, have a grateful attitude, start

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Speaker 1: thanking God for what he's done, or put on a

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Speaker 1: good teaching CD. Something that inspires you, motivates you. Then

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Speaker 1: start talking to yourself the right way. This is going

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Speaker 1: to be a great day. I have the favor of God.

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Speaker 1: I am strong in the Lord. I can do all

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Speaker 1: things through Christ.

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Speaker 2: Something good is going to happen to me today.

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Speaker 1: That's how you stay strong and not let the weights

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Speaker 1: and drags pull you down.

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Speaker 2: You've got to build up that resistance.

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Speaker 1: Well, what happens if you live with a wait, perhaps

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Speaker 1: you're even married to a way married to a drag.

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Speaker 2: Don't look at your spouse now, that wouldn't be good.

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Speaker 2: You gotta do the same thing.

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Speaker 1: Take extradoses of praise, encouragement, inspiration, stay filled up, and

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Speaker 1: while God is in the process of changing that person,

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Speaker 1: don't let them steal your joy. Some people don't want

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Speaker 1: to be happy. They like living in the pits. You

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Speaker 1: got to have the attitude. If you don't want to

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Speaker 1: be happy, that's fine, but you're not gonna keep me

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Speaker 1: from being happy.

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Speaker 2: If you want to live in.

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Speaker 1: The pits, that's your choice, but I'm not getting in

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Speaker 1: the pits with you. Take responsibility for your own happiness.

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Speaker 1: Don't let those issues sour your own life.

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Speaker 2: Pray for them, be respectful.

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Speaker 1: But don't become codependent where you let their problem become

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Speaker 1: your problem.

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Speaker 2: And you miss your destiny. Friends, it's time to break free.

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Speaker 1: Is there something keeping you from being happy? Are you

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Speaker 1: allowing somebody to control you make you feel guilty because

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Speaker 1: you don't meet all their demands? Why don't you cut

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Speaker 1: the puppet strings, set some boundaries. Don't miss your destiny

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Speaker 1: trying to keep everyone happy.

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Speaker 2: Everybody fixed.

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Speaker 1: God did not call you to be unhappy to keep

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Speaker 1: somebody else happy. Make sure you have plenty of thrusters

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Speaker 1: and lifters in your life. If you'll learn this principle

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Speaker 1: of taking control of your own happiness.

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Speaker 2: I believe and declare this is going to be a

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Speaker 2: new day. Bondages that have held you back for years

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Speaker 2: are being broken. Right now.

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Speaker 1: You're going to step into a new sense of freedom,

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Speaker 1: a new sense of joy, a greater happiness. You will

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Speaker 1: overcome every obstacle, defeat every enemy, and become everything God's

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Speaker 1: created you to be.

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Speaker 2: Jesus name. If you receive it, can you say amen?

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Speaker 1: We never like to close our broadcast without giving you

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Speaker 1: an opportunity to.

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Speaker 2: Make Jesus the lord of your life. Would you pray

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Speaker 2: with me?

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Speaker 1: Just say, Lord, Jesus, I'll repent of my sins, Come

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Speaker 1: if you prayed that simple prayer, we believe you got

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Speaker 2: He's going to take your places that you've never dreamed of.

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Speaker 2: It's January. Time to renew my faith. It's January. It's

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Speaker 2: time to start a new season. It's January.

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Speaker 3: There is no better time than now to set the

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Speaker 1: The beginning of the year is a great time to

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Speaker 1: of the past and to get ready for the new things.

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Speaker 1: over your future, You're setting the tone for a blessed

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Speaker 1: day and a victorious year. This devotional will help you

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Speaker 1: is in control that His plans for you are for good.

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