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Speaker 4: Second date update. Is it ever a good idea to
Speaker 4: talk about your other dates while you're on a date? No?
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1: If you like commiserating and sharing ten stories back and forth.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would say the short answer is no. The
Speaker 4: longer answer absolutely not. You plan to be on with
Speaker 4: us because we love to hear the dirt And I'm
Speaker 4: just thankful that Jennifer, our listener is on the phone
Speaker 4: with us today because apparently she talked about her other
Speaker 4: dates on her date. Jennifer, I disagree. I admire your class,
Speaker 4: welcome to the show.
Speaker 5: Thank you.
Speaker 1: But it's not like she's talking about like her ex
Speaker 1: boyfriend that she's still in love with, right Jennifer.
Speaker 4: We don't know.
Speaker 2: That's why I'm asking, right, Jennifer.
Speaker 5: Right, we were just sharing like funny stories, right.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's okay, Okay, Well who are you sharing these
Speaker 4: stories with? What's this guy's name?
Speaker 5: His name was Joshua?
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 5: I met him on the coffee and bagel app.
Speaker 2: Oh is that still around a while? A while?
Speaker 4: I know about the Bengal and the candle app but
Speaker 4: the coffee Bengal? Yeah, I like that one. Okay.
Speaker 5: He just looked cute. He had like a dog with
Speaker 5: him in his photo.
Speaker 4: And okay, you know, actually I've heard that guys who
Speaker 4: have dogs in their photos get ninety percent more matches.
Speaker 2: Way, that makes sense.
Speaker 4: Borrow your dog, bro.
Speaker 1: The whole point is that you can actually keep something
Speaker 1: alive and care for something outside of yourself.
Speaker 2: The attractive point of it.
Speaker 4: Men, women are not gonna be able to tell if
Speaker 4: it's your dog and how well it's taken care of
Speaker 4: as long as it's in the photo. Just photoshop one in.
Speaker 2: You're gonna know after date one.
Speaker 4: Or put a little neck brace on it. Like it
Speaker 4: is we're trying to do, is accomplish sick dog?
Speaker 2: Dog sick?
Speaker 4: Could you determine his dog's health from the.
Speaker 5: Photo Jennifer, it definitely looks like a healthy cute.
Speaker 4: This is what you're talking about right here. I see
Speaker 4: what you're saying. Okay, take us to the date with Joshua.
Speaker 5: So I wanted to make the reservation. I said I
Speaker 5: would make it.
Speaker 2: Is there a reason for that?
Speaker 5: I just in particular, like I love food. I love.
Speaker 4: That, and you're like, I have my favorites.
Speaker 2: Let me pick the like certain tables, you like all
Speaker 2: the things.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so I called and made a reservation. But when
Speaker 5: we got there, they had lost our reservation.
Speaker 2: Oh no, yeah.
Speaker 5: So I guess I should have made it online.
Speaker 2: Did that like throw the night off? Did it make
Speaker 2: you upset?
Speaker 5: I wasn't upset. Like they apologized, but they were just
Speaker 5: like over books.
Speaker 2: Oh no, that it sounds.
Speaker 4: Like it's a popular restaurant.
Speaker 2: I know there's only two of you.
Speaker 1: It's like, can you squeeze us in somewhere? We'll sit
Speaker 1: at the end of somebody else's table.
Speaker 2: They'll big deal, literally make a table.
Speaker 4: Yes, we eat in the alley back behind the restaurant.
Speaker 2: If I get the good food. Jeff, absolutely, totally.
Speaker 5: It totally turned out to be a good thing because
Speaker 5: we ended up just wandering around the city, and like
Speaker 5: we ended up getting burgers at a takeout place and
Speaker 5: just talking about our bad date experiences.
Speaker 4: Wait, you lumped this experience as to one of the
Speaker 4: many bad date experiences that you've gone on.
Speaker 5: No, this was just like a little bump in the
Speaker 5: road compared to like one time this guy venmoed me
Speaker 5: like two dollars and forty seven cents for half of
Speaker 5: his appetizer.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Venmo requested you. Wow, Yeah, I was.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, So you shared stories like that with him?
Speaker 2: Did he share stories back with you? Joshua did so.
Speaker 5: He said he had like a date who brought her
Speaker 5: mom and the mom was like critiquing his posture on the.
Speaker 2: Straight.
Speaker 4: Honey, I actually think that's some nice feedback. On the
Speaker 4: date told me you're slouching a little, so okay, Now
Speaker 4: this is a way to be like, you're actually way
Speaker 4: better than a lot of the dates that I go on.
Speaker 4: It's supposed to make him feel good.
Speaker 5: Yes, Like we were having a great time, just like
Speaker 5: laughing a lot, and it was just like fun.
Speaker 1: And anytime you have like a shared experience, whether it's
Speaker 1: like a bad date or anything, it can bring you
Speaker 1: closer to somebody, but this wasn't Yeah no, I know,
Speaker 1: but they're both commiserating over the same thing.
Speaker 4: Okay, gotcha? So how long did this go on?
Speaker 6: For?
Speaker 5: Like a couple hours and neither of us had like
Speaker 5: planned anything after, so he just like walked me back
Speaker 5: to my car. And I'm not used to like a
Speaker 5: short date like that.
Speaker 4: Or it was just like you expected the day to
Speaker 4: go on longer, like.
Speaker 1: Did you want him to invite you back to his place?
Speaker 1: Like what are your expectations there?
Speaker 5: I don't know about that. It's just like the vibe
Speaker 5: was so good he just didn't even attempt to do anything.
Speaker 3: Else, Okay, as a bar or something.
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe it's just plain it cool, you know, like
Speaker 1: sometimes if you go out on top, you end it on.
Speaker 2: A high note. Yeah, it obviously leaves you want anymore.
Speaker 2: So he did something right.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he's playing it so cool that he's not even
Speaker 4: calling her back anymore.
Speaker 2: So I guess that is planet cool is really we're crazy.
Speaker 4: We're beyond the cool apart. We just want to help
Speaker 4: you figure out what happened. Okay, Jennifer, maybe the burger
Speaker 4: was bad that he ate It wasn't all it was
Speaker 4: a street burger, so you listen to I know that. Yeah,
Speaker 4: but it is risky. So let's just call him and
Speaker 4: we'll get your second date update right after this second
Speaker 4: date update. Our listener, Jennifer is the perfect example of
Speaker 4: when life gives you lemons, turn them into lemon drops.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I don't think they. I mean or burgers.
Speaker 4: Well yeah, yeah, yeah, whatever it is. Because her dinner
Speaker 4: reservation fell through the restaurant over books, so she took
Speaker 4: that and turned it into a fun night of wandering
Speaker 4: the city, searching for street burgers and talking about previous
Speaker 4: bad dates that went even worse than this one did.
Speaker 4: And her date, Joshua, shared his worst dates too, so
Speaker 4: it really actually bonded them together. But Jennifer, how long
Speaker 4: has it been since that night?
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been like a week okay, and you haven't
Speaker 1: heard anything.
Speaker 5: No, And I've sent like some text messages and nothing
Speaker 5: radio silence.
Speaker 2: Okay, so you're definitely being ignored.
Speaker 4: Yeah, have you tried sending him a photo? Because if
Speaker 4: he doesn't respond to that, then you know you're in trouble.
Speaker 4: What jock of anything?
Speaker 2: You don't do that, don't know that, don't listen to
Speaker 2: their advice.
Speaker 4: You could send him a photo of me. No, if
Speaker 4: he's a fan of our show, he would definitely respond
Speaker 4: to that.
Speaker 2: I think he's mad that she.
Speaker 4: Was talking about other dates.
Speaker 2: Now you want her sending pictures of other guys to him, Jeff.
Speaker 4: I'm just saying, if she does and he doesn't respond,
Speaker 4: then you really know something, so that I.
Speaker 2: Think she knows before the picture Jeff. Okay, she's not an.
Speaker 4: Idiot, Brooks saying, we're not at rock bottom yet. Let's
Speaker 4: wait till this call happens and see where we end up.
Speaker 2: Today.
Speaker 4: Jennifer, any last words before I dial these numbers or.
Speaker 1: Any last pictures of Jeff that you want to send
Speaker 1: either way, I just can't believe I have to do this.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I have to do this. We call us the
Speaker 4: last resort for people. That being said, with Jeff being
Speaker 4: in a weird mood, you want to call back tomorrow.
Speaker 4: This may not be a good call.
Speaker 5: Well, we'll see, we'll find out.
Speaker 6: We're here.
Speaker 4: Let's just go through with it. How bad could it get?
Speaker 4: All right, let's do it. You tell us, I'll tell
Speaker 4: you about some of the worst second date updates we've
Speaker 4: ever done, and that'll make you feel better about it.
Speaker 4: Hold on, just okay, here we go.
Speaker 6: Hello.
Speaker 4: Hey, is this Joshua?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Hey man, this is a whole radio show is calling
Speaker 4: you right now. We're called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 2: Good morning, Hot there, josh how are you doing.
Speaker 6: It's Joshua.
Speaker 2: Sorry. Sorry, I'm married to Michael who hates Mike.
Speaker 4: I get it.
Speaker 2: I apologize.
Speaker 4: I'm sorry that my host is trying to make this
Speaker 4: segment all about her in her marriage.
Speaker 2: But I understand.
Speaker 4: Okay, we get it. The real thing that we're interested in, though, Joshua,
Speaker 4: is you and the date that you went on the
Speaker 4: other night with one of our listeners named Jennifer. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 4: do you remember her? You know what I'm talking about?
Speaker 6: Yeah? I remember her. Yeah.
Speaker 2: It sounds like you guys had a really fun night together.
Speaker 6: Why do you know that?
Speaker 2: Great question?
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, because that's how this segment works. It's called
Speaker 4: second Date Update. And we spoke to her about your
Speaker 4: date and she's a little bit confused about why she's
Speaker 4: not getting a callback for a second meet up.
Speaker 6: Really, but yeah she said that, yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she said that she had a great time with you.
Speaker 1: It sounds like you guys laughed together a lot.
Speaker 2: Yeah, is that not accurate?
Speaker 6: No, it's accurate. She's like a really nice person, she's
Speaker 6: cute and everything, but you're Yeah.
Speaker 4: Your words are saying nice things, but your tone is
Speaker 4: saying something else. Yeah, it's like it wasn't very good.
Speaker 6: I don't I don't think I know how to say this,
Speaker 6: but I just don't think I'm the right person for her.
Speaker 1: You know, we don't know because she I mean, you
Speaker 1: don't get to decide that, right, That's what she gets
Speaker 1: to decide, gets to.
Speaker 4: Choose who You don't get a choice.
Speaker 1: That's her choice, right, And she obviously thinks that there's
Speaker 1: definitely something in between you two if she's calling.
Speaker 6: Us, Yeah, definitely her choice.
Speaker 4: Okay, song is going on, like, can we get your
Speaker 4: take on the date? Did you feel a connection with her?
Speaker 6: I don't know, man, Like we're we're wanting different things.
Speaker 6: I don't know if you know what she's she's like
Speaker 6: into what's called stacking.
Speaker 1: Stacking, like the cups thing where you do it in competition.
Speaker 4: Yeah, the Anna Kendrick song. Yeah, no, okay, so we
Speaker 4: don't know what that is. Yeah, what is stacking?
Speaker 6: She said she used to stack, which means like have
Speaker 6: three to four days tonight.
Speaker 2: That sounds exhaust yea.
Speaker 4: Is it back to back to back to back or
Speaker 4: all at the same time.
Speaker 6: I don't think it was like at the same We
Speaker 6: didn't really get into it, but like I don't know
Speaker 6: to me, and I just think it's kind of rude
Speaker 6: to say, like I'm miss stacking.
Speaker 4: Oh she says she misses it.
Speaker 6: Yeah, she literally said she misses it.
Speaker 1: So I mean I could see, like I would interpret
Speaker 1: that as, oh, you you wish that you.
Speaker 2: Were out with someone else right after me. That was
Speaker 2: good to hear. I could understand that, and that's.
Speaker 6: Why I took her to her car when we finished
Speaker 6: her burgers.
Speaker 2: Is there any way kind of like misunderstood her.
Speaker 6: No, I don't think I did. She was like looking
Speaker 6: back at it fondly, and it was very real to her,
Speaker 6: and she was she very you could tell.
Speaker 2: Okay, I can understand that she's doing anything wrong, but
Speaker 2: it doesn't seem like she likes you a lot.
Speaker 4: We kind of all see where you're coming from. I
Speaker 4: wonder if Jennifer sees it the same way, because she
Speaker 4: is on the other line listening to this right now.
Speaker 1: I'm to be mad, that's just right after us good
Speaker 1: at timing.
Speaker 5: Hey, Joshua, I don't think you would be so offended.
Speaker 6: By what I said. So you like you said this
Speaker 6: whole thing up, like you're on the phone here and
Speaker 6: you called him.
Speaker 5: Yeah, because I was so confused. I was like, I
Speaker 5: thought we had such a good time. But I guess
Speaker 5: it's because I said I missed stacking, which I was
Speaker 5: just I mean, that was just a fun time in
Speaker 5: my life. Like, it's not something I do anymore. I
Speaker 5: want the same thing you want, which is a relationship.
Speaker 5: It was fun, it was a fun time.
Speaker 1: It just feels like maybe that's a conversation you have
Speaker 1: with your like best friends.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, that sounds like someone who's never stacked before.
Speaker 4: Thing, Because how.
Speaker 1: Could you ever like be invested enough to find out
Speaker 1: if you were interested in someone, if you were just
Speaker 1: constantly thinking of the next person you were gonna see.
Speaker 5: I hear you guys talk about this all the time
Speaker 5: and book you said it's okay to date multiple people
Speaker 5: to find out who you like.
Speaker 2: It that's true.
Speaker 4: That's contradictory to what your advice always is. You said,
Speaker 4: get it in as many times as possible before it's
Speaker 4: gone forever what I said.
Speaker 2: But I think dating lots of people is great.
Speaker 1: It's just like if you're gonna ask someone to give
Speaker 1: you their evening, you also have to invest not just
Speaker 1: being there, but like your presence, Like how can you
Speaker 1: be present?
Speaker 4: Well said, you should have brought her presence, Dude.
Speaker 5: I gave every guy I was with an hour and
Speaker 5: a half. I was fully present in the moment, and
Speaker 5: I was not thinking about the next guy. I gave
Speaker 5: him that time fully.
Speaker 2: I almost missed my next I mean it worked for her.
Speaker 2: She had a boyfriend after that for years.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, I mean that's how you see a Jennifer.
Speaker 4: But clearly Joshua sees it a different way, right, Joshua,
Speaker 4: I don't want to mess that up.
Speaker 6: I see it like that's your default setting. I think
Speaker 6: the anomaly is you having a long term relationship, and
Speaker 6: that's what I'm looking for.
Speaker 5: We're looking for the same things. That's what I want.
Speaker 5: That's just something that's in the past. And by no
Speaker 5: means did I stack that night when you took me
Speaker 5: to my car. I was not seeing another person after
Speaker 5: the book.
Speaker 2: God, because she did not makes me think she did.
Speaker 4: Yes, exactly, not that night, but the next five nights.
Speaker 2: That's different.
Speaker 5: You're supposed to be on my side.
Speaker 2: You said dumb things on the date. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I mean, the thing is.
Speaker 1: The thing is, Joshua, she's on the phone with us.
Speaker 1: She's put in a lot of effort.
Speaker 2: To see you again. So I mean, maybe that's proof
Speaker 2: enough that she's over her old ways.
Speaker 4: And that's why I would like to ask you, Joshua,
Speaker 4: if you'd be willing to meet up with Jen for
Speaker 4: one more time, and we would pay for it, and
Speaker 4: the next date, and the next date and all the
Speaker 4: stack dates after that we forgot just you though, No,
Speaker 4: I got the ick.
Speaker 6: I'm sorry, Ma sad?
Speaker 5: Oh no, okay, josh do you realize no one says
Speaker 5: no to.
Speaker 1: Me's Oh god, that's not true anymore.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's fine, it's his choice whatever. I'll just keep stacking.
Speaker 5: Wait back this weekend.
Speaker 4: He said you didn't want to do that anymore?
Speaker 5: All right, Well it makes me happy. It's fun. I'm
Speaker 5: feeling sad. Now he's gonna get me out of up funk.
Speaker 4: Back to back to back to feed.
Speaker 6: Ye.
Speaker 4: Yes, that's where true happiness comes from. Rook Jeffrey in
Speaker 4: the morning. All right, So no second date there. Jennifer
Speaker 4: has hung up. She's not on the line with us anymore.
Speaker 4: But Jennifer, if you're listening out there, I just want
Speaker 4: to say, I know you're probably disappointed with one person
Speaker 4: on this show who didn't support you, but the rest
Speaker 4: of us here have your back.
Speaker 2: You're looking at me, jeff.
Speaker 6: Fault.
Speaker 1: She's like, I just really miss dating lots of men
Speaker 1: at the same night.
Speaker 2: I mean, no one would feel special that to that.
Speaker 4: But you understand where she's coming from, right, Brooks.
Speaker 2: I have never had multiple dates in one night. Wow,
Speaker 2: I could not pull that off.
Speaker 4: Remember a liar, she was, brook Unstackable is the definition
Speaker 4: at a time fo goodness is We've got dozens of
Speaker 4: guys on the textboard who are DT yes and down
Speaker 4: to stack whenever. So Jennifer, you stay positive. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: we don't know. That means that's weird. It don't happen
Speaker 4: for you, Jen And if you're into stacking videos, you
Speaker 4: can always watch a bunch of ours on YouTube. Got
Speaker 4: all of our second date updates on there. You can like,
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