1 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached 2 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheekys podcast. I'm here 3 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: to give you advice on anything and everything you need 4 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,480 Speaker 1: help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or having 5 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: issues with your family, or maybe you have a question 6 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want 7 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in 8 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue 9 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 1: or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional. 10 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 1: All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at 11 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:49,560 Speaker 1: the sound of the beab. 12 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:55,800 Speaker 2: Hi Cheekings. I hope you're doing well, including Emilio. I 13 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:58,279 Speaker 2: always feel like everyone forgets about it media, like, can 14 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 2: we start to like him? 15 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:01,400 Speaker 1: Deal? 16 00:01:02,760 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 2: I just wanted to basically ask you. Obviously, I want 17 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:11,400 Speaker 2: advice from you. I just finished watching your video and 18 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 2: how you became a better way, and you mentioned how 19 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:18,040 Speaker 2: you had to learned to accept that your husband is different, 20 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:22,759 Speaker 2: he has different points of views and whatnot, and I'd 21 00:01:22,880 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 2: like advice, but I don't want to get too much 22 00:01:25,920 --> 00:01:32,000 Speaker 2: into the topic because so basically, my boyfriend and I 23 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 2: have been arguing so much because how the whole immigration stuff. 24 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:40,680 Speaker 2: And I hate to bring this up because it's so controversial, 25 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 2: but it's true. I'm struggling. He agrees that immigrants should 26 00:01:45,200 --> 00:01:48,320 Speaker 2: be taken back and whatnot. I'm just gonna say that. 27 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 2: I don't want to say anything more about it, but 28 00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 2: you can already towards this going. And I disagree with that. 29 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:55,920 Speaker 2: He comes from immigrant families except they were able to 30 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 2: be fixed. Good for them, but he still has family 31 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 2: members that are immigrants. My parents aren't immigrants. It just 32 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 2: hurts and we argue so much about it. So how 33 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 2: do I how do I deal with that bullshit? To 34 00:02:09,600 --> 00:02:11,080 Speaker 2: say the least? Thank you? 35 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 1: Oh Hi, I'm mama see thousand So I don't know 36 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:18,560 Speaker 1: your name, but I get it. I understand why, and 37 00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 1: I love that. Thank you for mal spos So. He 38 00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 1: will definitely appreciate that. But oh my goodness, girl, that 39 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:33,839 Speaker 1: that one's tough because I'm struggling with people that don't 40 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:37,679 Speaker 1: even live in my home, that I'm not sexually intimate with. 41 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:43,720 Speaker 1: You know that I love, and our friends that also 42 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 1: agree with what's going on, and that's been very tough 43 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 1: for me. I think, yes, we all have different opinions. 44 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 1: We all have different beliefs and we should all respect that. 45 00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:59,080 Speaker 1: But in my personal opinion, I feel like when it's 46 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 1: your partner, that's a tough one. I do feel like 47 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 1: on certain things and having certain morals is very important 48 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: for you both to be on the same page. And 49 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:14,600 Speaker 1: it is, like you said, it's some bullshit, you know, 50 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:19,640 Speaker 1: because I believe that this is everyone's land. I do 51 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 1: understand there are borders, and I do understand that there 52 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:25,760 Speaker 1: are a legal way of doing things. A lot of 53 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:28,519 Speaker 1: people don't have the same opportunities. People don't understand that 54 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:34,040 Speaker 1: it's expensive, that it takes a long time, and there 55 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 1: are a lot of very mean attorneys out there and 56 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 1: lawyers that just take people's money, and people are afraid. 57 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 1: And now I guess more than ever. So it's hard 58 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:46,840 Speaker 1: for me to give you advice on this and tell 59 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 1: you what to do. I just think, maybe, Babe, don't 60 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 1: talk about the topic with him, and you should be 61 00:03:52,840 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 1: able to talk to your partner about everything. But if 62 00:03:57,040 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 1: this is something that causes issues and causes you to 63 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: get upset, I think it's just something that you should say, 64 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 1: you know what, for the sake of our relationship, this 65 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:08,040 Speaker 1: topic is off limits. I will talk with someone else 66 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 1: because it will cause you guys to drift apart, and 67 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 1: just ask him to please not say anything negative around you. 68 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:18,159 Speaker 1: And I think he should be able to respect that. 69 00:04:18,520 --> 00:04:20,280 Speaker 1: And that's the best advice I could give you. I 70 00:04:20,320 --> 00:04:22,040 Speaker 1: think that that's I'd try to put myself in your shoes. 71 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:23,919 Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, would I do? And I just 72 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:25,800 Speaker 1: told a friend that the other day about a subject 73 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: that we were talking about. Anyways, I'm not going to 74 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 1: say what subject, but I told her, I said, you 75 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:34,240 Speaker 1: know what, I love you, and let's just not talk 76 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:36,760 Speaker 1: about this because it's making me feel some type of 77 00:04:36,760 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 1: way and I'm really trying to get over everything that's 78 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,920 Speaker 1: happening in the world and we have different opinions, and 79 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:44,360 Speaker 1: let's just not talk about this. I don't want to 80 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:47,360 Speaker 1: talk about politics with you. I just I can't. And 81 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:50,280 Speaker 1: she respected it and she said okay, And hopefully she 82 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:52,200 Speaker 1: doesn't bring it up, because if she does, then that's 83 00:04:52,240 --> 00:04:54,240 Speaker 1: when I'd be like, ah, you're not respecting me, girl, 84 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:57,640 Speaker 1: you know. But anyway, that was a long response because honestly, 85 00:04:57,640 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 1: I had to think about that one. I hope it 86 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 1: gets better. I am praying that everything in the world 87 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: because it's so heavy, and it hurts my heart that 88 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:08,640 Speaker 1: people are living in fear and that this is happening 89 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 1: makes me emotional. And I'm sorry that you're dealing with 90 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:15,239 Speaker 1: it with your partner, and I do hope it gets better. 91 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 1: Give me updated hopefully he listens. Now we're moving on 92 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 1: to Eliva. Hi, Jigi's I just have a few questions 93 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:27,800 Speaker 1: for you. 94 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:32,360 Speaker 3: Number one, I was watching recently, you know, reruns, but 95 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:36,719 Speaker 3: I love Jenny And would you ever consider having Elena 96 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 3: and Julie on your podcast just to bring up memories, 97 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 3: share funny stories, you know, anything like that. Question two, 98 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:48,560 Speaker 3: as Jayla remember the booty song that your mom would 99 00:05:48,560 --> 00:05:52,479 Speaker 3: sing to her? And last question, where can I send 100 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 3: you a little gift that I think you would love. 101 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:58,360 Speaker 3: I love you and your mama, and I hope you 102 00:05:58,360 --> 00:05:59,000 Speaker 3: have a great day. 103 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:03,479 Speaker 1: Oh thank you, Elvia. I love that you guys still 104 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:08,120 Speaker 1: watch I love Jenny. That makes me happy. Jayla has 105 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:11,279 Speaker 1: a big old booty, big booty. I remember the song, 106 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 1: hopefully I'm singing it right. And now this little girl 107 00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:16,400 Speaker 1: is going on sixteen years old. You guys, this is insane. 108 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 1: I can't believe. And she's so freaking beautiful. All my 109 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 1: nieces and nephews are so beautiful. I look at them 110 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:22,159 Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my gosh, my mom would be 111 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:24,920 Speaker 1: so proud. I know her. She'd be like, those are 112 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:29,919 Speaker 1: my grandchildren. I have good blood. And about Julie and Elena, Okay, 113 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 1: so I haven't talked to Elena in a long time. 114 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:35,480 Speaker 1: We're cool, though, I would love to have her on. 115 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:37,760 Speaker 1: That's a good idea. Actually, there's a lot to talk 116 00:06:37,760 --> 00:06:41,440 Speaker 1: about because there's a huge misconception there that something happened 117 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: between her and I and just this craziness. So it's 118 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:48,039 Speaker 1: not a bad idea to bring her on. Julie I 119 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:52,000 Speaker 1: spoke to maybe like a year ago or more. Actually 120 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 1: we had a little bit of an issue back then, 121 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:58,360 Speaker 1: like we didn't really talk. Everything's kind of cool now. 122 00:06:58,440 --> 00:07:01,360 Speaker 1: I think everyone's cordial. I wonder if she'd be down, 123 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:03,479 Speaker 1: I mean I would, you know, I'm down for anything, 124 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 1: So I don't know. Maybe maybe one day. I do 125 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 1: have a project that I'm working on and I really 126 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:09,360 Speaker 1: want her to be a part of it, and it 127 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:12,200 Speaker 1: has to do with my mom. So maybe maybe that 128 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:15,120 Speaker 1: we can start the conversation there. So yeah, and your 129 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:22,040 Speaker 1: last question, that one's hard to answer because I can't 130 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 1: give you my house address obviously for obvious reasons. And 131 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:26,560 Speaker 1: then I don't have a peel box. I used to 132 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:29,120 Speaker 1: have a peel box, So you're giving me a lot 133 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:31,200 Speaker 1: of great ideas, Alvia. I think what I need to 134 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 1: do is open up a peel box so that you 135 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:36,040 Speaker 1: guys can send me things. I do have an office, 136 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:39,280 Speaker 1: but it's in private office as well, So I owe 137 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:41,040 Speaker 1: you that I need to get a peel box so 138 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:45,360 Speaker 1: you can send me some things. I love surprises. Thank you, Elvia. 139 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:47,000 Speaker 1: Thank you for the thought. It's a thought that counts 140 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:49,600 Speaker 1: and I appreciate it. So just be patient. Let me 141 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 1: try to find at peel box around my house. Now 142 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:01,080 Speaker 1: we have our last question from Isabelle. 143 00:08:01,680 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 4: How beautiful cheeky is? How are you? You're an amazing woman. 144 00:08:05,960 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 4: I hope that you're doing well. I also need some 145 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:11,120 Speaker 4: kind of advice from you. I don't know what you 146 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 4: would do in this situation. I have a friend. We've 147 00:08:14,400 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 4: been friends with tother for so long and it's just 148 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:21,480 Speaker 4: been on my mind, Lily, and we haven't spoken for 149 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 4: four weeks now. It's been going on for a very 150 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:27,880 Speaker 4: long time, and you know he has a girlfriend now, 151 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:30,560 Speaker 4: and I don't mind for that. I'm happy for him, 152 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 4: you know, I'm more happy that they're together. But we 153 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 4: did some things behind her back, and I still feel 154 00:08:36,840 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 4: guilty to this day. I wish I could go back 155 00:08:39,679 --> 00:08:42,800 Speaker 4: in and just change everything, but there's nothing I can do. 156 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:45,760 Speaker 4: You know. He told me to be quiet and not 157 00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:50,000 Speaker 4: see anything to her, and I just feel more guilty 158 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:52,679 Speaker 4: and guilty because I see her than I work every 159 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:56,760 Speaker 4: single day and he has never He hasn't even spoken 160 00:08:56,800 --> 00:09:00,320 Speaker 4: to me ever since that day that happened. He kept 161 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 4: anor me. He doesn't say hiding me no more. And 162 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:05,559 Speaker 4: I flos on type of way what would you do? 163 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 4: The tuition? Well? Should I say how I feel? Or 164 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:11,560 Speaker 4: should I block him? What would you do? 165 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 1: By jeekis Oho, my little Isabelle, thank you for trusting 166 00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:23,679 Speaker 1: me with this information. Uh, he's not your friend because 167 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: if he was your friend, he wouldn't ignore you. And 168 00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:29,760 Speaker 1: it seems to me and I could be wrong, but 169 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:32,960 Speaker 1: I feel it in my spirit that he was just 170 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:34,800 Speaker 1: using you. I don't know what kind of things you 171 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:36,440 Speaker 1: guys did. I don't know if you did some SUCKI 172 00:09:36,480 --> 00:09:42,080 Speaker 1: sucky or what happened, but don't do it again, and 173 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 1: don't allow people to use you. Because if he did 174 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 1: that and you guys did that and then he ignores 175 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 1: you and it's just not cool, you were also wrong. 176 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:52,560 Speaker 1: But you were also wrong because you knew he had 177 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:55,000 Speaker 1: a girlfriend, and that is a man that is in 178 00:09:55,040 --> 00:09:58,199 Speaker 1: a relationship, and that is a man that's off limits. 179 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:02,360 Speaker 1: So please learn from that. That's not good. In my 180 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:07,240 Speaker 1: personal opinion, I don't recommend that because it will cause 181 00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 1: you a lot of problems. So now I say ignore him, 182 00:10:11,720 --> 00:10:15,040 Speaker 1: I say block him, I say forget about that. I 183 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:17,160 Speaker 1: think if you were to ask you, I don't know 184 00:10:17,160 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 1: if that were to ever happen, but if you were 185 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 1: to ask you, then you should be honest and say 186 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:26,320 Speaker 1: that yes. But then also you have to understand there's 187 00:10:26,360 --> 00:10:28,680 Speaker 1: going to be consequences because you knew that they were together. 188 00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:30,760 Speaker 1: You guys all work together, so you are also in 189 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:33,719 Speaker 1: the wrong. So if you feel it in your heart 190 00:10:33,720 --> 00:10:36,000 Speaker 1: that you want to be honest, just know that it's 191 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:39,200 Speaker 1: going to cause a lot of problems. And I think 192 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:42,120 Speaker 1: just forgive yourself and tell yourself that you're not going 193 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:45,840 Speaker 1: to do that again. But maybe bringing it up is 194 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:47,760 Speaker 1: just going to cause more problems than you need it's 195 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:50,920 Speaker 1: opening up a can of worms. But if you feel 196 00:10:50,960 --> 00:10:52,560 Speaker 1: you want to be honest, then do it. Just know 197 00:10:52,600 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: that there will be consequences. But if I were you, 198 00:10:56,240 --> 00:10:58,720 Speaker 1: I would just say, you know what, God, I'm sorry. 199 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:00,640 Speaker 1: I shouldn't have done that. He's not a good friend 200 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:03,680 Speaker 1: to me, obviously, and I don't want people like that 201 00:11:03,720 --> 00:11:05,120 Speaker 1: in my life. So I'm just gonna cut them out 202 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:07,000 Speaker 1: and I'm just gonna go about my life and learn 203 00:11:07,040 --> 00:11:09,360 Speaker 1: from this and move on. That's what I would do, 204 00:11:09,679 --> 00:11:12,200 Speaker 1: but it's up to you. I just want to be 205 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:16,600 Speaker 1: honest with you because I have to be, so Isabelle. 206 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:19,599 Speaker 1: I hope things get better, babe, And don't do that again, Mamaita. 207 00:11:19,720 --> 00:11:23,959 Speaker 1: That's not good. That's not good. And he sucks because 208 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 1: he cheated on his girlfriend and then he's not talking 209 00:11:25,559 --> 00:11:27,160 Speaker 1: to you now. He's just I'm sorry. He's just not 210 00:11:27,200 --> 00:11:29,560 Speaker 1: a good person in my book, but that is again 211 00:11:29,559 --> 00:11:34,040 Speaker 1: in my own opinion. Anyway, guys, this concludes our episode today. 212 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 1: Thank you to our three lovely callers. I appreciate you, guys, 213 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:41,160 Speaker 1: and I hope that my advice helps you, guys, And 214 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:43,480 Speaker 1: if you have a question, please leave it you nowhere 215 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:46,480 Speaker 1: at Speakpipe Dot com Slash Chickens and Chow podcast. I 216 00:11:46,480 --> 00:11:48,600 Speaker 1: would love to hear from you the Kiero mucho and 217 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:55,120 Speaker 1: I'll see you guys next time. This is a production 218 00:11:55,280 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 1: of iHeartRadio and the micro Buda podcast Network. Follow us 219 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:02,680 Speaker 1: on Instagram at Michael Doura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's 220 00:12:02,679 --> 00:12:05,439 Speaker 1: That's c h i q u i s. 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