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Speaker 1: The Nicky Glazer Podcast, Niklaser, here's Nicky. Hello here I am.

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Speaker 1: It's Nicki Glazer. It's Nicki Laser podcast from St. Louis.

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Speaker 1: Andrew Cullen is going to join us shortly. He is

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Speaker 1: waiting to have a window repaired out of um Brenna's car.

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Speaker 1: It got knocked out apparently a bunch of apparently, um

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Speaker 1: they were at a bar somewhere or something and someone

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Speaker 1: like just knocked out a bunch of windows in like

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Speaker 1: four minutes, knocked out, like yeah, for no reason other

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Speaker 1: than just you know, just to make late for the podcast. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: just this is it was me. I wanted buy a

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Speaker 1: little alone time back again. I gave it up about

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Speaker 1: a year ago. Um No, that's just so it just

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Speaker 1: sucks that people. Sometimes you see something and you go,

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Speaker 1: that's because someone was molested once, you know, Like I

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Speaker 1: look at like property damage and I go, that's someone

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Speaker 1: who either like someone beat them as a child, someone

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Speaker 1: neglected them. That's a school system failing someone. I just like,

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Speaker 1: look at there's a sign outside of a shop nearby

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Speaker 1: when I walk the dog, it's Insomnia Cookies. And it's

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Speaker 1: like this cute sign that's always like out front, you

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Speaker 1: know on the street. I don't even know what those

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Speaker 1: are called, like on they have to put it out

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Speaker 1: in the morning, and there's just a big fucking hole

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Speaker 1: in it now because one night some one just kicked

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Speaker 1: it and it's just like I know it was someone

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Speaker 1: who was drunk, but like, you don't do that when

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Speaker 1: you're drunk unless you have so much fucking rage inside

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Speaker 1: you from some childhood trauma. And that is why Better

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Speaker 1: Help is a great resource to talk to with therapists tonight.

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Speaker 1: It's just I I look at things like that and

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Speaker 1: I just go it's because of unresolved anger issues. It

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Speaker 1: makes me so sad. And then it's just such an inconvenience.

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Speaker 1: And then now and I and Today Andrews like, hey,

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Speaker 1: can we start the podcasts late and wait to tape

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Speaker 1: to today? So it was like not, I was like, well,

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Speaker 1: we'll just start on time, but just join us late.

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Speaker 1: It's not a big deal. And I wanted to assuage

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Speaker 1: his fears because I could just see him like getting

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Speaker 1: like probably bubbling up because he's like the window guy

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Speaker 1: is late, and then he's gonna be like I saw

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Speaker 1: him like gnawing on his fingers and Nikki's gonna be

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Speaker 1: mad at me, and then he's gonna take that rage

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Speaker 1: out somewhere like it's all just like it trickles down.

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Speaker 1: He's like he's coming up right now, by the way,

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Speaker 1: so he's not even great. She's not worried about what

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Speaker 1: are you going on today? Because you said that you

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Speaker 1: were super busy. Yeah, I'm well, I have to pack

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Speaker 1: for a pretty long trip. I'm gonna be gone until

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Speaker 1: I shouldn't say, because my mom will be like Nick,

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Speaker 1: people know when you're gone, they'll rob you dry. Well,

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Speaker 1: I'm having someone stay here anyway, so don't even try

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Speaker 1: to come by. Um, but I'm gonna be gone for

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Speaker 1: a while. Um. I'm going to do Jimmy Kimmel Alive.

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Speaker 1: That is Thursday. The one thing about Jimmy Him Alive

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Speaker 1: is I don't I'm taping something tomorrow for like a

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Speaker 1: pre to that I'm going to throw too during the monologue.

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Speaker 1: But other than that, no idea what I'm doing on

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Speaker 1: the show. I know who I'm interviewing. It's Danny de

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Speaker 1: Vito and um, Jamila Jamale. Fuck it is it's Jamie

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Speaker 1: Lajamale right, yeah, wait, what's her lab? Jamial I always

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Speaker 1: funk up her name. It's so yeah Jamie jamale Um.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I go there, it can't be jamal twice and

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Speaker 1: which one is? Do you throw in the law? The

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Speaker 1: last one of the first one, and it's embarrassing, but

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Speaker 1: it reminds me of Julil White. I'm named lexis named

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Speaker 1: lexic Um. Yeah, it does remind Did I do that?

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Speaker 1: Did I screw up her name? Someone that I've you know,

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Speaker 1: done on podcast with for hours? But you know what,

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Speaker 1: I don't know how people remember everything. And I realized

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Speaker 1: that podcasts are the true indicator of how much you

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Speaker 1: remember because there's no editing. I mean, there is slight

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Speaker 1: editing and podcasting, but like oftentimes, if I don't remember

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Speaker 1: they're just gonna know. And it's not She's a famous person.

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Speaker 1: Of course I know she and she's my guest on Thursday,

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Speaker 1: so look forward to that. And um, Danny DeVito is

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Speaker 1: gonna be fun. I've been listening to podcasts of his

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Speaker 1: a late night talk show, I know that late night

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Speaker 1: shows do not start preparing two days before. Like, yes,

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Speaker 1: itself lives day by day and then you do it.

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Speaker 1: You show up, you get the monologue jokes, you go

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Speaker 1: to me to be like, what are you thinking for

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Speaker 1: billion and one dollars. Um. Luigi's grunting, so Andrews who

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Speaker 1: here um. But its people are gonna forget about that too,

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Speaker 1: and it's the biggest thing ever. Like I was reading

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Speaker 1: DeVito was talking about like how big Taxi the show

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Speaker 1: And it's honestly like the shelf life of things that matter.

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Speaker 1: idea what I'm doing on Thursday's Thursday, Today's Tuesday. Have

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00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:19,520
Speaker 1: his head and he sits up and it's just Dr

425
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:22,240
Speaker 1: Phil and you go, why is Dr Fell on this thing?

426
00:22:22,280 --> 00:22:28,400
Speaker 1: It's just it was so hard. Uh, it's a one

427
00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:31,359
Speaker 1: in them. We've had voice detectives one in them. She

428
00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:35,960
Speaker 1: goes in the other room, she's like, hey, you like

429
00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:39,400
Speaker 1: and yeah, but you take that back a million. They

430
00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:43,199
Speaker 1: said it was a one in a million chance that

431
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:45,560
Speaker 1: you could be this voice. And she's like, hey, baby,

432
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:49,480
Speaker 1: I just like miss you. And he's like that was

433
00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 1: such a weird scene. Um, so I watched that. I've

434
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:58,320
Speaker 1: been have you seen the Car Michael movie? No? No,

435
00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:00,480
Speaker 1: I don't like scripted. It's what's going to be a

436
00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:03,480
Speaker 1: hard time for me. To take that in. Can I

437
00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:05,200
Speaker 1: try to give you a little bit of a I

438
00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:09,160
Speaker 1: don't want to give me a Let's tell us what pitch? Yeah,

439
00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:11,960
Speaker 1: elevator pitch. I guess I'm sorry. I'm getting off on

440
00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:20,600
Speaker 1: the spoor. Dan. That was the forward of the movie.

441
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:25,520
Speaker 1: It did not work. Two best friends, I want to

442
00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:30,640
Speaker 1: kill themselves. Um. The whole movie is about what they're

443
00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 1: going to do in the day before they double suicide

444
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:37,199
Speaker 1: through the South of Columbine. Kind of yeah, that's what

445
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 1: I mean, if you want to get into Columbine. It

446
00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:41,920
Speaker 1: was all it was two people who really wanted I mean,

447
00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:46,880
Speaker 1: these guys went to college. I think, Okay, well Eric

448
00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:48,919
Speaker 1: was going Eric was going to go to the Marines,

449
00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:52,720
Speaker 1: and Dylan did get into Arizona, so they had planned Arizona.

450
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:55,640
Speaker 1: I don't know they went towards the camp. I should

451
00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 1: know that my mom I got into Columbine. My mom.

452
00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:00,359
Speaker 1: I got my mom's Sue Clebold's book. She buzzed through it.

453
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:03,199
Speaker 1: Then I got her the other Columbine book. She's loving that.

454
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 1: She's texting me going like I can't believe this, this

455
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 1: is crazy, And we're going to Denver to go to

456
00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 1: Red Rocks to see Wilco coming up, and she goes,

457
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:16,399
Speaker 1: I want to go to this campus and I go, yes,

458
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:21,679
Speaker 1: I got a columbiney, I got a Columbine head on

459
00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:23,360
Speaker 1: my So we're gonna go to the campus again. I'm

460
00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 1: going to go to Columbine for those mother daughters time

461
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:30,200
Speaker 1: of a year. She's got to see it. It's wild

462
00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:32,639
Speaker 1: out there, the church and Notre Dame. What are you

463
00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:36,399
Speaker 1: doing as a mother? And we're gonna go see where

464
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 1: are what's next? Are you going to go? We're gonna

465
00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:42,560
Speaker 1: go see that ravine that that girl old hook arms

466
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 1: fell that I'm gonna get her into that when I

467
00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:47,760
Speaker 1: send her that meme. Um, I think people do. I mean,

468
00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 1: this is morbid tourism, of course, but but you know

469
00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:53,120
Speaker 1: what I was thinking about that. You know, but that's

470
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:55,119
Speaker 1: where what Battle of Gettysburg? What do you want to

471
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:57,720
Speaker 1: go there to say? I went to uh William and Mary.

472
00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:00,880
Speaker 1: We played football on the grounds where thousands of people

473
00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 1: were murdered, you know, and we're like, yeah, we're on

474
00:25:03,800 --> 00:25:08,879
Speaker 1: the side of But again, five years, fifty years, five years,

475
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:11,640
Speaker 1: would you ever live in a place like an apartment

476
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 1: where someone had died recently, like say someone killed the

477
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 1: I mean last tenant. I don't know, it'd be tough

478
00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:20,919
Speaker 1: for me. I'd be a little scared of ghosts. Is

479
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:24,160
Speaker 1: that what you would be scared of? Just just a feeling? Really,

480
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:26,440
Speaker 1: I would like that feeling if there was no there's

481
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:29,639
Speaker 1: a guarantee of no ghosts kind of death suicide like

482
00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 1: a hanging. Let's say in the bedroom class Well, let's

483
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:35,760
Speaker 1: say the gas room closet, So you're not only the

484
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:41,040
Speaker 1: guest room isn't so, but he planned it and you're

485
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 1: the leasting agent. You're like, okay, so someone hung themselves

486
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:46,360
Speaker 1: before you get up, before you get upset. He jumped

487
00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 1: from the balcony, So he did die on the sidewalk.

488
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:55,720
Speaker 1: It might ruin your view, but there's another view, Yeah

489
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 1: there's Yeah, there's a whole other He didn't jump on

490
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:03,280
Speaker 1: the ocean view. He jumped on the street side. Um, yeah,

491
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:06,760
Speaker 1: would you? I would literally be scared of ghosts, even

492
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:08,639
Speaker 1: though I don't believe. I mean I believe in them

493
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 1: a little bit because of Tyler Henry. But I would

494
00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:12,960
Speaker 1: just on a day where I get a little maybe

495
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 1: I do like micro doo is a little too hard.

496
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 1: I would start thinking I was seeing ghosts or something

497
00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 1: microst I would fear. I would fear that one would

498
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:30,399
Speaker 1: show up, you know that fear you have. I'm not.

499
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:32,160
Speaker 1: I had to convince myself as a child that didn't

500
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:34,320
Speaker 1: exist so I could like go to fucking sleep. I

501
00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:36,160
Speaker 1: had to be like, they just don't exist, like Nikki,

502
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:38,480
Speaker 1: just don't believe it, because if you don't believe it,

503
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:41,640
Speaker 1: then there's nothing to fear. Yeah. I think if there's

504
00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 1: one story of a ghost other than the movies, but

505
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: like Caught, where they really do funk up someone, Yeah,

506
00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:52,120
Speaker 1: you know you're getting punched and ship. Yeah. Yeah, it's

507
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 1: always throwing a plate at the most. I know, they're

508
00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:59,119
Speaker 1: like it's almost like a drunk dad. They're always like

509
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 1: slamming a cabinet. Yeah, you know hot water. Actually they're

510
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 1: doing dance, don't like. Yeah, they eat burritos off they Yeah,

511
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 1: I've never I know that someone's besties are gonna be

512
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 1: like ghost do do violent things. But I don't know. Well, also,

513
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:31,880
Speaker 1: Rent would be probably which that as a that would

514
00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 1: entertain me, I would just I would like it for

515
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 1: the story. I just think I kind of like I

516
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 1: like that morbid stuff. But I do think if I

517
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:41,760
Speaker 1: lived alone and would regularly have to stay alone. I

518
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:44,680
Speaker 1: would be too creeped out to deal with it. Didn't

519
00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:46,679
Speaker 1: we think the guy that lived here died for some

520
00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 1: reason because we found his pills or something. No, I

521
00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:51,679
Speaker 1: mean he was a doctor. I found his pills in

522
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:53,720
Speaker 1: our thing, and then I googled him and he was

523
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 1: a doctor. And I was like, we won't sleeping in

524
00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 1: a doctor. That he was a doctor? Why is it

525
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:04,919
Speaker 1: a doctor? Yeah? I mean, and so many doctors live

526
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:08,920
Speaker 1: in this building. I mean, it's insane amount of doctors.

527
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:12,399
Speaker 1: Every single person you meet is a doctor or a nurse.

528
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:16,480
Speaker 1: And um, they're all very nice because they see the

529
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 1: most fucked up ship and so they have to like

530
00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:21,159
Speaker 1: deal with that somehow. I feel like a lot of

531
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:23,840
Speaker 1: doctors I know, well a lot of them also have

532
00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 1: an insane ego, and well they don't. They a lot

533
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:29,120
Speaker 1: of them don't have like a whole lot of empathy

534
00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:32,000
Speaker 1: because they can't otherwise they would feel sad all the time.

535
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,400
Speaker 1: Where a lot of humor lies in having no empathy.

536
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 1: To me, like the darkest to me is like, oh, yeah,

537
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 1: I saw a lady die yesterday. I mean she we

538
00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:43,760
Speaker 1: couldn't even get her on the bed and he was

539
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 1: so big it's like, wait, we like But I think

540
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 1: actually a lot of humor comes from actually having a

541
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 1: lot of empathy because the only way to deal with

542
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:52,040
Speaker 1: the pain is to make fun of it. But if

543
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:53,719
Speaker 1: you not, if you don't have pain to begin with,

544
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 1: there's no reason to be funny. Do you know what

545
00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 1: I mean? It's funny. It's funny when people have no

546
00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 1: empathy to laugh at, like how hold and callous they

547
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 1: can be. But I think to be funny you have

548
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:07,959
Speaker 1: to actually have a deep sense of like sensitivity, because

549
00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 1: you're dealing with such crazy feelings you have to figure

550
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:14,640
Speaker 1: out what to do with them. Yeah, And there's there's

551
00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 1: a difference between someone just being like a blatant asshole

552
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:20,920
Speaker 1: because you know, you know, as any you know, someone

553
00:29:20,960 --> 00:29:22,719
Speaker 1: will tell a story and you're like, oh, you were

554
00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 1: just a real piece of ship, and that's there's no

555
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:28,720
Speaker 1: like they was a piece of ship. This is why

556
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 1: this story is funny. But also I did wrong as

557
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:34,920
Speaker 1: opposed to and I'll do it again. Are you are

558
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 1: you talking to people an elevator a lot here? How

559
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:41,239
Speaker 1: are you talking? Do let me like ask you do

560
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 1: you actually talk to people an elevator here? Like what

561
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:47,240
Speaker 1: are the conversations like I've met people in the gym. Okay,

562
00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:49,600
Speaker 1: elevator is hard to me. Yesterday I had a funny

563
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 1: interaction where someone was moving their cat and I was like, yeah,

564
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 1: I think they were moving. What do you mean there?

565
00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 1: I don't know. They had a bunch of cats stuff

566
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 1: in their hands and they're like, we're moving our cat

567
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 1: and I was like, I was with Brenna getting rid

568
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:05,440
Speaker 1: of your I don't know, maybe on to the afterlife.

569
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,200
Speaker 1: I think the cat jumped off the balcony, so I

570
00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I have a cat, and then that

571
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 1: was the Door's like elevators, it's tough to have a

572
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 1: real because and then like why would you give a cat?

573
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:22,080
Speaker 1: And then it's done. That is done, and I was like, well,

574
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,800
Speaker 1: I wasn't gonna hold the door to tell them more

575
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:27,720
Speaker 1: about our tabby. See. I am in Brenna's side of

576
00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:30,240
Speaker 1: like I'd rather not engage because what are we going

577
00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 1: to accomplish with this? It's the same way I feel

578
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 1: about sometimes I will text people when I when something

579
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:38,200
Speaker 1: needs to get done, when there's like a question I

580
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 1: have for Noah or you, and I won't say hi first,

581
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:42,280
Speaker 1: and maybe it's been a couple of days since I've

582
00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 1: talked to you, maybe it's been weeks or months. If

583
00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:46,560
Speaker 1: your friend I'm doing a show, I'm like, hey, can

584
00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:49,680
Speaker 1: I switch spots with you? Like I won't say good morning, Hi?

585
00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:53,120
Speaker 1: How are you? Like I just get to the chase

586
00:30:53,160 --> 00:30:56,479
Speaker 1: and I and some people sometimes correct me and go,

587
00:30:56,680 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 1: hold good morning to you too, nicky. I guess I'm

588
00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: doing fun how are you? Yeah? Well, hello there, And

589
00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 1: I'm just like, why do we need to do high

590
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 1: I'm sending a text message? This is already so impersonal?

591
00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:11,400
Speaker 1: Why even try to be And honestly, I don't care

592
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:13,320
Speaker 1: how you are because you know why, Because I know,

593
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:16,000
Speaker 1: no matter how you are, you're going to say okay,

594
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 1: So what is the point of asking? You know, Like

595
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 1: if we were actually good friends and I knew something

596
00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:21,360
Speaker 1: was going on in your life, I would ask you

597
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:25,200
Speaker 1: how are you? But these like it's again this autistic

598
00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 1: thing of like this neuro divergence of I just don't

599
00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 1: see the point of these pointless things that just take

600
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 1: up my life, take up my voice. That I find

601
00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:38,960
Speaker 1: that when I went on vocal rest and was like

602
00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 1: really having to look at what's important to communicate and

603
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 1: what isn't it made me so much more aware of

604
00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 1: all these things where there's so many pointless things you

605
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 1: use your energy to. The argument would be saying how

606
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,200
Speaker 1: are you? Even if it's just an open is so

607
00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 1: quick and easy that why not do it? That's I

608
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 1: think that's the argue because the person is to go,

609
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 1: I'm good, how are you? And then you have to

610
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 1: write like I'm good and it's like, that's why because

611
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:08,320
Speaker 1: it takes extra time to type with your fingers. It's

612
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:12,239
Speaker 1: just it's not efficient, And I think efficiency is an

613
00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:14,239
Speaker 1: important thing to have so that you can free up

614
00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 1: your space for actually asking people that matter to you,

615
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:19,920
Speaker 1: who actually care about you as well, how are you?

616
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 1: Like when I don't ask someone how are you? That

617
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:24,600
Speaker 1: where I'm like I'm gonna be late to the show,

618
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm going to be able to ask

619
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 1: someone else if it's a favorite I'm asking, or I'm

620
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 1: asking you'd be on my show or something like yeah,

621
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:36,240
Speaker 1: I pepper in things if I need someone from people

622
00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 1: and I and that you know I understand, like yeah,

623
00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 1: if if it's going to be like a letter I'm

624
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 1: writing where yeah you read the riper, Yeah, if it's

625
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,880
Speaker 1: a good friend you don't need the pepper exactly. That's

626
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like I don't, but why not a

627
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 1: good It's funny that you don't have the pepper. Well,

628
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:56,120
Speaker 1: not a good friend, but someone that I'm casual enough

629
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 1: with that I go, we're not going to be friends.

630
00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:00,960
Speaker 1: We both know. You give me spots on the show.

631
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 1: I do spots on your show. We bo a sympatical relationship.

632
00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 1: I don't need to like. But and even even buttering

633
00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 1: people up and writing like how are you? And like

634
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 1: it feels itchy to me and I wish I could

635
00:33:13,000 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 1: eliminate it. But I know that that is important to

636
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:18,240
Speaker 1: have in business. Yeah, it's like a computer learning now

637
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 1: to speak. Yeah, and what someone I did the same

638
00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:24,560
Speaker 1: thing with, Like I'll write someone that I haven't talked

639
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 1: to in fifteen years, like we're still talking yesterday, and

640
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 1: usually you get a response like uh yeah, cool, Oh

641
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 1: you're gonna be in this town, Okay, maybe we'll be

642
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:38,680
Speaker 1: like I treat I forget time. A lot of I

643
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 1: feel like we're like similar to people get offended by

644
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,520
Speaker 1: that of like oh well, good to hear from you.

645
00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:49,680
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, well I don't have a life and

646
00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:55,480
Speaker 1: that like Okay, you're seeing me now, I can't. We

647
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:58,160
Speaker 1: said it on the podcast before, but if you want

648
00:33:58,200 --> 00:33:59,640
Speaker 1: your friends who you haven't talked to in a while

649
00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 1: to read tchot to you and hang out with you,

650
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 1: if you give them shit about not hearing from them,

651
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:08,160
Speaker 1: you will never hear from them. Because the reason people

652
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:09,960
Speaker 1: like me do not reach out to people that we

653
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 1: haven't talked doing a while is because we don't want

654
00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:19,480
Speaker 1: to hear. Well, you don't call that often, You're exactly, well,

655
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:22,440
Speaker 1: then I hate that excuse to of like because sometimes,

656
00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:24,839
Speaker 1: like in my own relationship, I'll be like, but I

657
00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:29,640
Speaker 1: want this thing and they're like, but then like, well

658
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:32,040
Speaker 1: just tell if you want it, then you do the thing.

659
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 1: And even I'll say that, Chris will be like, hey,

660
00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 1: I would like to go on a vacation with you,

661
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:38,320
Speaker 1: and I'm like, planet, I literally go on any vacation

662
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:41,359
Speaker 1: you want, Like, I'll go. I'll if you will say

663
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 1: where to go and what when you want to go,

664
00:34:44,120 --> 00:34:46,360
Speaker 1: I'll do it. And he's like, but you plan girls

665
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:49,360
Speaker 1: trips and I'm like, because I'm the man in those relationships,

666
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:53,600
Speaker 1: i am I'm the man of our girls groups and

667
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: he was like, I didn't even think of it as

668
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,319
Speaker 1: like a masculine thing to plan a trip, and I'm like,

669
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:02,040
Speaker 1: I can't describe. I don't why what I know? What

670
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:04,880
Speaker 1: can you be part that for me? Like why I

671
00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:06,960
Speaker 1: want Chris to plan trips and not that I want

672
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 1: him to. It's just like I I'm the ringleader for

673
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:13,840
Speaker 1: the girls group, but not for us. I think what

674
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:17,799
Speaker 1: we start doing masculine feminine, people kind of assign it

675
00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:20,680
Speaker 1: as like gender roles. So maybe like when I start,

676
00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:23,280
Speaker 1: when I describe these things, I've started to like stop

677
00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 1: using masculine feminine, just do like leader and receiver, and

678
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,359
Speaker 1: you just want Chris to lead. You want to show

679
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 1: him that like, hey, I trust you with the plan

680
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:35,960
Speaker 1: and I respect you as my leader, but I'm the

681
00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:39,400
Speaker 1: one who's going to be the nurturer and I'll and

682
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:43,400
Speaker 1: i'll nurture you and I need my feelings to be cherished,

683
00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:46,839
Speaker 1: honored and stuff. Yeah, maybe I think once he understands

684
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:50,400
Speaker 1: that you're open to going on a trip, like then

685
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 1: I think what's tough is when you try to I

686
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:56,200
Speaker 1: gets lead and then you get responded with, well, I'm

687
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:58,719
Speaker 1: not free that weekend or I don't want to go there,

688
00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:00,839
Speaker 1: like you know the reject and it's kind of like

689
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 1: but if you're opening the door and you're like he's

690
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 1: here's the weekend I'm open, then then I'm sure he'll

691
00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:10,200
Speaker 1: lead after that. I guess it's just confusing because there

692
00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:12,919
Speaker 1: are a lot of times I will lead things, and

693
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:15,719
Speaker 1: so I'm sending mixed signals. But he is good at

694
00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 1: um when I'm asking for something like following it. Like

695
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:23,360
Speaker 1: yesterday we were organizing my apartment and one of my

696
00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 1: things has been like I need more touch, Like it's

697
00:36:25,680 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 1: just not it's like my love language. I need it more.

698
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 1: And man, he was like it was so fun, like

699
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 1: just getting your ass slapped while you're like bed over

700
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:37,520
Speaker 1: organizing a thing, or like getting just like grabbed that

701
00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 1: Like I love getting sexually harassed by my boyfriend when

702
00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:45,279
Speaker 1: I'm doing when we're doing a thing that's very like

703
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:47,960
Speaker 1: we're not in that romantic state, like we're working on

704
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:50,160
Speaker 1: something and we're just not in that headspace. To have

705
00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:53,239
Speaker 1: a little reminder that like it is thinking about my

706
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:55,799
Speaker 1: tips is like very It was very nice. Even though

707
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:57,480
Speaker 1: I jumped every single time. He was like, I should

708
00:36:57,480 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 1: start filming when I do this, because every time you like,

709
00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 1: screw do you think it's a ghost. I think it's

710
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:11,880
Speaker 1: a doctor. Doctor goes, um, yeah, I I tried it.

711
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:15,120
Speaker 1: It's funny. It's like when you don't slap and like

712
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:17,319
Speaker 1: her ask while we're in the kitchen and you know,

713
00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:20,239
Speaker 1: she's just grabbing something out of fridge and it's like,

714
00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 1: oh no, no, you're not slapping my ass today? Is

715
00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:25,320
Speaker 1: are you mad? It's like, no, I just I'm treating

716
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,759
Speaker 1: you like a human being now, dare you Yes? It's

717
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 1: it's really, I mean, relationships are so tricky because you

718
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 1: I love that one tweet the other day that I posted,

719
00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:38,880
Speaker 1: which was like, I'm I'm so annoyed with my boyfriend

720
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:40,600
Speaker 1: now because he does this thing where he doesn't read

721
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 1: my mind. And it's like it is that. It's always

722
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:47,120
Speaker 1: like but I and so as long as I just communicate,

723
00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 1: things seem to happen. And I'm not someone who um.

724
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 1: A lot of people are like, no, I want you

725
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:53,480
Speaker 1: to want to touch me. I don't want you to

726
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:55,520
Speaker 1: touch me just because I asked you to. I don't

727
00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:57,880
Speaker 1: mind if someone just does something when I asked them

728
00:37:57,920 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 1: to do it. That actually is loving to me. If

729
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,440
Speaker 1: they are doing something just because it makes me happy

730
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:06,440
Speaker 1: and they don't actually want to do it because guess what,

731
00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:10,880
Speaker 1: the intention to make me happy is there. And he

732
00:38:10,960 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 1: doesn't not like to touch me like my body. I

733
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:16,880
Speaker 1: know that he does. He's like god, I mean, he

734
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 1: won't rub my feet. And that is a thing that

735
00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:23,319
Speaker 1: we haven't gotten past because he doesn't really want to

736
00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 1: do like he doesn't want to cut off like that

737
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:30,359
Speaker 1: guy cut that girl. He will if I beg him,

738
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 1: but it's not, um, it's not his first What about

739
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:38,280
Speaker 1: if you throw a couple of socks on? What about

740
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 1: socks and rubbing them together is disgusting? The now we

741
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:47,719
Speaker 1: we we have the theragod And sometimes he'll just hold

742
00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:51,240
Speaker 1: up like he's like shooting my feet off twain blank

743
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:56,560
Speaker 1: and I just pushed my foot into it, and I'm like, yeah,

744
00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 1: it is. It is interesting when you ask for something

745
00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 1: and then I have trouble with that sometimes of being like, well,

746
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 1: now if I give it to you, and then you go, well,

747
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:05,759
Speaker 1: now you're just giving it to me because I asked

748
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 1: for it. Yeah, that's like, well that's that's the deal. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

749
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:13,200
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying, is like I don't get sometimes

750
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:15,480
Speaker 1: I think that people do feel that way, like oh,

751
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:16,960
Speaker 1: I don't want to do it now because she's gonna

752
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:19,240
Speaker 1: think I'm just doing it because she asked for it.

753
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 1: You know, I want that. I realized it does not

754
00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 1: bother me when Chris makes do does things that I

755
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 1: know are against what he really wants to do, because

756
00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 1: it makes me feel great, but it's not aware like yeah,

757
00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 1: and yeah, you want to try for your partner, like

758
00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 1: I don't want to fold close. I don't want to

759
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:40,319
Speaker 1: do like these are a lot of things, but I

760
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 1: know make her happy, like it's not from my happiness,

761
00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 1: like I could live and you know, fucking hell, yeah,

762
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:51,760
Speaker 1: I do you think I don't there's something really nice

763
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 1: about Like I do feel bad though, if someone's doing

764
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:59,160
Speaker 1: something they like genuinely don't want to do for me,

765
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 1: just to me happy. Like sometimes you know, I feel

766
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 1: guilty because I'm like, oh wait, that's not who they

767
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:10,280
Speaker 1: are really, that's my That's why I don't like birthday

768
00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 1: parties because I'm like, people have to go to this

769
00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 1: thing and they don't want to. They just want to

770
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:15,719
Speaker 1: stay home and watch Manteto Dox. And here's the thing

771
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:17,840
Speaker 1: is not about you, it's about they just want to

772
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:20,360
Speaker 1: get a night out. And I know, but some I

773
00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:22,279
Speaker 1: know so many people that are like, we've got to

774
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:25,279
Speaker 1: go to this party, like and so sometimes they are

775
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 1: doing it just for you, and you know what, you

776
00:40:27,760 --> 00:40:29,440
Speaker 1: just got to accept it and be like, well that

777
00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:31,960
Speaker 1: is there. I don't know why I can accept my

778
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 1: boyfriend doing things he doesn't want to do because I

779
00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 1: want them, But I can't accept like my friends are

780
00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:38,760
Speaker 1: like other people. It's kind of you gotta just trust

781
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:40,879
Speaker 1: people to like that they're going to do what they

782
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:44,319
Speaker 1: want are doing and stop trying to control, like, because

783
00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 1: I know my mom feels obligated sometimes to do things,

784
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:48,680
Speaker 1: and I just sometimes I try to control to like,

785
00:40:48,680 --> 00:40:50,719
Speaker 1: you don't have to do that because I know she

786
00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 1: doesn't want to, and it's like, it's not my issue.

787
00:40:54,280 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 1: She needs to figure her sh out and have boundaries,

788
00:40:56,520 --> 00:40:58,359
Speaker 1: better boundaries of like I don't want to do this,

789
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:00,399
Speaker 1: it's not my problem. If she can't do that, I've

790
00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:02,320
Speaker 1: let her off the hook. She knows she doesn't have to,

791
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:06,040
Speaker 1: she's still doing it. Yeah, there's something about allowing the

792
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:08,920
Speaker 1: person like they'll take accountability of their own, let them

793
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:11,719
Speaker 1: figure it out on their own. It's so interesting when

794
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 1: you kind of let um. There's so many times I

795
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:21,960
Speaker 1: want to confront something in my relationships, friendships, romantic, real parent, parents, stuff,

796
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:25,879
Speaker 1: and like you prepare to like say something and get

797
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:29,600
Speaker 1: it all out, and you're like, what if I just wait?

798
00:41:30,360 --> 00:41:34,760
Speaker 1: You don't like just to wait and like also maybe

799
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,800
Speaker 1: try to like love them more and see what happens.

800
00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 1: Like maybe something I'm doing is making them act this way.

801
00:41:41,760 --> 00:41:44,480
Speaker 1: So like what if I if I notice I'm noticing

802
00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:47,600
Speaker 1: an issue here. Instead of being like you need to change,

803
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:50,520
Speaker 1: maybe let me first try to like tweak what I'm

804
00:41:50,560 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: doing and break the cycle. Because it's usually this parabola

805
00:41:53,760 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 1: of like, you're acting this way, then they respond this way.

806
00:41:56,560 --> 00:41:58,600
Speaker 1: Well you don't like how that response, so you start

807
00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:00,839
Speaker 1: acting this way, which then triggers them to respond this way,

808
00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:03,359
Speaker 1: and it just is this loop. And my therapist said,

809
00:42:03,719 --> 00:42:06,520
Speaker 1: it takes one person to break the loop, like it's

810
00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:09,240
Speaker 1: the loop will not the cycle will not stop unless

811
00:42:09,280 --> 00:42:11,359
Speaker 1: one person goes I'm gonna go against everything I want

812
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:13,719
Speaker 1: to do right now. Every every part of me wants

813
00:42:13,719 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 1: to fucking ignore this person or like or like be

814
00:42:16,760 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 1: mad at this person. And I'm going to actually just

815
00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 1: break it by loving them despite all the things, because

816
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 1: that might break it because otherwise it's going to be

817
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:27,240
Speaker 1: this thing over and over and over. And it doesn't

818
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:29,840
Speaker 1: take two. It takes one person to break it. But

819
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:32,360
Speaker 1: you've gotta be strong and you gotta go against everything

820
00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:38,800
Speaker 1: you want to but you want but yeah, gets broken.

821
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:41,839
Speaker 1: They stopped doing that thing because the reason they were

822
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:44,000
Speaker 1: doing it was because you were being unloving in the

823
00:42:44,040 --> 00:42:46,080
Speaker 1: way that you've got to stop it. But you were

824
00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 1: being unloving because you felt in love from them. But

825
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:49,759
Speaker 1: they were doing that because they held the love from you.

826
00:42:50,080 --> 00:42:52,839
Speaker 1: So the way to break that is to just fake it. Like,

827
00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 1: let me just fake like I love this person and

828
00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:56,880
Speaker 1: don't resent them, and see what I get. I mean,

829
00:42:56,920 --> 00:42:59,319
Speaker 1: I find that a lot with my own relationship, where

830
00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:02,360
Speaker 1: I like, we were doing a thing where I feel

831
00:43:02,360 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 1: like I respond negatively to a certain way of how

832
00:43:06,520 --> 00:43:11,359
Speaker 1: I'm spoken to. So it's like, so I could control that,

833
00:43:11,680 --> 00:43:13,399
Speaker 1: but it's like, but then I don't want to give

834
00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:17,680
Speaker 1: in to the initial I always feel like I'm responding

835
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:22,640
Speaker 1: negatively to negative, a negative they started as they started it,

836
00:43:22,719 --> 00:43:25,719
Speaker 1: and then I'm reacting in my mind. I'm always like, well,

837
00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 1: I'm right to react this way because I'm not starting it.

838
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 1: It's like, why do they have, But then why are

839
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:31,760
Speaker 1: they talking to you like that in the first place.

840
00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:34,359
Speaker 1: Clearly there's something that you did that made them talk

841
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 1: about and potentially yeah, well always, so then tell me

842
00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:42,880
Speaker 1: that in a different way where they can't. You're the

843
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:45,360
Speaker 1: one that notices what's going on. It's up to you

844
00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 1: to break the cycle. Yeah, I guess so, yeah, I

845
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:51,520
Speaker 1: think yeah, yeah, yeah, or communicate you know, it's hard.

846
00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:55,040
Speaker 1: It's hard because it's like, yes, the person doesn't think

847
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 1: they're wrong if they're responding. No, one things they're wrong

848
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:00,239
Speaker 1: in the heat of the moment, ever, and that's why

849
00:44:00,320 --> 00:44:04,799
Speaker 1: things should not be brought things should not What did

850
00:44:04,840 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 1: you say. It's that five rule that you were talking

851
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:11,400
Speaker 1: about it, Yes, the first segment. You should never approach

852
00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:13,759
Speaker 1: something I don't. My friend the other day was like,

853
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 1: wait until it bugs you so much that you have

854
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 1: to explode, and I was like, or that's the worst

855
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:22,479
Speaker 1: advice I have ever heard in my life, because it's

856
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:25,440
Speaker 1: never a good time to approach something and like blow

857
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:27,640
Speaker 1: something up when it's like I just can't take it anymore.

858
00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:29,839
Speaker 1: Someone Annie was saying that she read a book about

859
00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:31,719
Speaker 1: a band leader that was like, I know, I need

860
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:32,840
Speaker 1: to get out of this band. I want to go

861
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:34,800
Speaker 1: off on my own. I can't do this anymore. And

862
00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:37,880
Speaker 1: the band leader was just like waited until the band

863
00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:40,439
Speaker 1: was so bad that they had to like like they

864
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:42,000
Speaker 1: were just like I just had enough, and I'm like,

865
00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:44,720
Speaker 1: I would never want to do it that way because

866
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 1: that is any time I've reacted in my life to

867
00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:49,760
Speaker 1: something in the heat of the moment, it has always

868
00:44:49,840 --> 00:44:51,799
Speaker 1: led me to go kN I not I need to

869
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 1: take that back. That was a regret. Yeah, I don't

870
00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 1: want to ever like leave something with the bridge burning,

871
00:44:58,040 --> 00:45:00,759
Speaker 1: like in a like a movie where everything blowing up

872
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:03,239
Speaker 1: behind me and I'm just like a cigarette and I'm

873
00:45:03,280 --> 00:45:07,000
Speaker 1: just like on the next thing. I've done that in

874
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:11,440
Speaker 1: my life and it's just based off of insecurity and

875
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:14,160
Speaker 1: just not being happy with what I'm doing. And if

876
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:17,319
Speaker 1: you burn a bridge, you don't have to like ever

877
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:19,839
Speaker 1: like deal the bridge will never be able to tell

878
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:21,719
Speaker 1: you what you did wrong. You'll never have to deal

879
00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:23,880
Speaker 1: with anything that you may have played a part, and

880
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:26,040
Speaker 1: you're just like, funk it all, I'm burning this and

881
00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:29,719
Speaker 1: like it's gone, I'm blocking the bridge, I'm muting the bridge. Yeah,

882
00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:33,880
Speaker 1: pretty much what fire, There's no reason to leave someone completely.

883
00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 1: I mean listen, like you know, in a relationship, unless

884
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 1: you're kind of in like block them, unless you're kind

885
00:45:39,560 --> 00:45:41,080
Speaker 1: of scared what they're going to say to you. Yeah,

886
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 1: of course, you know, unless you're like being abused in

887
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 1: a relationship, then yeah, there's ways to get and you

888
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:49,439
Speaker 1: get back together and you figure it out. You just

889
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 1: figure it out. There's not many fish in the sea

890
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:55,719
Speaker 1: and if one punches you just you know, realize that

891
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 1: it's over fished right now and there's not a lot

892
00:45:58,239 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 1: out there. No please to help. There's always people out

893
00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:03,279
Speaker 1: there that will help you. There's helplines all the time

894
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 1: to call for that kind of thing. We gotta go

895
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:06,839
Speaker 1: to break. We'll come back with more things that will

896
00:46:06,840 --> 00:46:12,560
Speaker 1: get us canceled right after that. Alright, we're back, Um

897
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:18,040
Speaker 1: Wednesday Wild Card segment. Um, it's time for Andrew Collins

898
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:20,439
Speaker 1: a Sink Short Story Circle? Is that what it's called?

899
00:46:23,480 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 1: Andrews a Sink Short Story Circle? Segment segment? Oh yeah,

900
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:33,600
Speaker 1: that kid, It does sound like a kid version. But

901
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 1: speaking a little fiddle at the top, Well, I was

902
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 1: thinking about football lately because of the and I've told

903
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:43,279
Speaker 1: you this story before, but I've never told it on here.

904
00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:47,320
Speaker 1: I don't think when I was a senior in high school,

905
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:49,440
Speaker 1: it was funny because I was talking about yesterday, how

906
00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 1: like everyone's like if you had the heart of Andrew.

907
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:54,160
Speaker 1: But I think that was like when I was a

908
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:56,600
Speaker 1: freshman or sophomore, when I was really small, and for

909
00:46:56,680 --> 00:47:00,040
Speaker 1: some reason around junior senior year, I stopped have in

910
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:02,799
Speaker 1: a lot of heart and I became kind of lazy

911
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:07,360
Speaker 1: in a way, and and it was so apparent parents divorce.

912
00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:11,399
Speaker 1: It was actually after which I don't know. I don't

913
00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:13,759
Speaker 1: know what it was. I think maybe I was did

914
00:47:13,760 --> 00:47:20,320
Speaker 1: you stop you sold it all? Just wondering what women?

915
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 1: Did you go lazy? Because you never look back when

916
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:26,719
Speaker 1: you burn you burned down? I think what happened, you

917
00:47:26,760 --> 00:47:31,000
Speaker 1: know what is in football specifically? I think I started

918
00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:33,359
Speaker 1: to get afraid a little like I used to have

919
00:47:33,480 --> 00:47:36,440
Speaker 1: when you're younger, you just I would tackle. I wouldn't

920
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:38,680
Speaker 1: even think about breaking my neck or I wouldn't think

921
00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:41,400
Speaker 1: about getting hit hard. But then you get hits art

922
00:47:41,560 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 1: so many times you could get back up. But it

923
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:46,920
Speaker 1: also you've been hit enough where you're like, it's actually

924
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:49,719
Speaker 1: really fun. Your football is very interesting. I asked Chris

925
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:51,879
Speaker 1: last night, like because I got into it a little

926
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:54,400
Speaker 1: bit of like who won the Heisman that year? Johnny

927
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:57,960
Speaker 1: Manziel or whatever. Johnny Manziel, Well you know his story now.

928
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:01,359
Speaker 1: And then he goes, you know, I was like, did

929
00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:02,719
Speaker 1: you go to the NFL? And he's I think he

930
00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 1: was like yes, but it didn't last long at all.

931
00:48:05,520 --> 00:48:07,840
Speaker 1: And I'm like why not? Like why why don't the

932
00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:10,400
Speaker 1: best college athletes do? Most of Heisman Trophy winners go

933
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:13,400
Speaker 1: to onto play pro. And he's like not really, and

934
00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:15,240
Speaker 1: I'm like why and he's like, well, college is different.

935
00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:17,760
Speaker 1: You're just like a good athlete. To be a pro athlete,

936
00:48:17,800 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 1: you have to be obsessed. It has to be like

937
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 1: a new level of obsession that college athletes don't necessarily have.

938
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:27,360
Speaker 1: They're just like best athletically well and a lot of

939
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:30,360
Speaker 1: these guys in college they get they get treated like gods,

940
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:33,840
Speaker 1: and so you stop your work. Ethic dies because you

941
00:48:34,640 --> 00:48:38,279
Speaker 1: though he was like football, like he was obsessed and

942
00:48:38,320 --> 00:48:41,120
Speaker 1: his dad just you know, really ingrained that in him.

943
00:48:41,120 --> 00:48:44,680
Speaker 1: Where is your dad was? He was at work, you know,

944
00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:49,480
Speaker 1: saving lives like an asshole. So I um so, anyways,

945
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 1: senior year, I was I started a wide receiver and

946
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:56,520
Speaker 1: which is the guy that catches the ball. And my

947
00:48:56,640 --> 00:48:59,320
Speaker 1: coach sat me down in the film room and I

948
00:48:59,360 --> 00:49:01,560
Speaker 1: thought I was in rubble and he plays this play

949
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:03,520
Speaker 1: and he goes, look, you see how you're quitting here

950
00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 1: and being so lazy. The guy that's guarding you is

951
00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:10,080
Speaker 1: seeing how you're being so lazy that he's going to

952
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:13,640
Speaker 1: guard someone else, leaving you wide. Why why were you lazy?

953
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 1: What were you supposed to do that? There was a play? Okay,

954
00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:19,560
Speaker 1: So if a quarterback does a bootleg, he rolls out

955
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:21,680
Speaker 1: the other way. So I'm on the opposite side of

956
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:24,720
Speaker 1: the field and my play is to run a post pattern,

957
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 1: which is about sixty yards. I'm running to never get

958
00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:32,600
Speaker 1: the ball because he always threw it to this this

959
00:49:32,640 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 1: guy coming out of the backfield because it was an

960
00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:38,839
Speaker 1: easy twenty yard pass. You know, the percentage was like

961
00:49:39,840 --> 00:49:43,000
Speaker 1: that this would happen. Him throwing to me was maybe

962
00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:48,799
Speaker 1: like because it was just not his go to read.

963
00:49:48,880 --> 00:49:50,120
Speaker 1: But I thought you were the guy that they throw

964
00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:52,960
Speaker 1: the ball to. Well, that I'll get there, So so

965
00:49:53,160 --> 00:49:56,440
Speaker 1: I stopped running the post because I'm never getting the ball.

966
00:49:56,760 --> 00:49:59,480
Speaker 1: Realize the percentage of this yet there's no point what

967
00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:07,200
Speaker 1: in my yeah, yeah, your efficiency. Yeah, I'm like the

968
00:50:07,280 --> 00:50:12,239
Speaker 1: next play, so I keep quitting and he realizes like,

969
00:50:12,280 --> 00:50:14,160
Speaker 1: oh so if you're not running all the way, the

970
00:50:14,200 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: guy's going to guard someone else. But then I'm wide

971
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:20,480
Speaker 1: open because of my laziness. Like people are starting to

972
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:23,640
Speaker 1: realize you're lazy. My coach is seeing this. I guess

973
00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:26,200
Speaker 1: I'm doing it enough where you wouldn't think it'd be

974
00:50:26,280 --> 00:50:29,120
Speaker 1: so noticeable. But will other teams like know that about

975
00:50:29,120 --> 00:50:31,879
Speaker 1: you guys? No, No, I don't. That would be very

976
00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 1: hard to pick up if you were just watching like

977
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:36,719
Speaker 1: one game film and we run that play maybe once

978
00:50:36,800 --> 00:50:39,920
Speaker 1: or twice, but if we ran it twenty times in practice,

979
00:50:39,960 --> 00:50:42,640
Speaker 1: you start to see a pattern of people on your team.

980
00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:48,759
Speaker 1: My coach, coach Rock No, related to Chris, and he, uh,

981
00:50:48,880 --> 00:50:51,920
Speaker 1: he saw that I was so lazy that that He's like,

982
00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:58,799
Speaker 1: I could build something around you. Bet And so he's like,

983
00:50:59,239 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 1: can you be this lazy? Oh my god, it's I

984
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 1: call on you. And I was like, I've been not

985
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:11,600
Speaker 1: working for this my whole you know. Like he's like,

986
00:51:11,640 --> 00:51:14,040
Speaker 1: all right, I'm putting in a play. He called it

987
00:51:14,080 --> 00:51:17,960
Speaker 1: the Lazy Colin, which is the laziest name for a

988
00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:23,319
Speaker 1: football god. So we go back to practice like two

989
00:51:23,360 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 1: days later whatever, and he's like, all right, putting in

990
00:51:25,800 --> 00:51:27,840
Speaker 1: lazy and everyone's like, we have a lot of plays,

991
00:51:27,880 --> 00:51:32,000
Speaker 1: like you know, Z seventy four or X ninety whatever

992
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:35,279
Speaker 1: like the's like and then lazy Colin. It's just such

993
00:51:35,320 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 1: an absurd name, and everyone's like, what is it? And

994
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 1: do you like teach plays? Isn't that what they have

995
00:51:41,160 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 1: like the X and the board for so like you know,

996
00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:47,480
Speaker 1: so did the everyone learn this or were they just

997
00:51:47,480 --> 00:51:49,520
Speaker 1: calling it out? And they're like, so we're doing the bootleg,

998
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:54,640
Speaker 1: but instead Andrew's gonna run. He's gonna fake like he's quitting,

999
00:51:56,280 --> 00:51:58,960
Speaker 1: not fake two. I'm a method actor at this point.

1000
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:02,000
Speaker 1: And then he's gonna just stumble back and you're gonna

1001
00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:04,320
Speaker 1: throw it all the way across the field like forty

1002
00:52:04,400 --> 00:52:07,040
Speaker 1: yards and he's gonna be wide open. So people are

1003
00:52:07,040 --> 00:52:09,280
Speaker 1: going to notice, the other team's gonna notice he's lazy,

1004
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:12,239
Speaker 1: think that they don't need to guard him, and then

1005
00:52:12,239 --> 00:52:13,799
Speaker 1: he's going to be open. And so we run in

1006
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: practice and I catch it in practice and they're like, Okay,

1007
00:52:17,040 --> 00:52:19,040
Speaker 1: maybe how does it work in practice if the people

1008
00:52:19,080 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 1: know you're gonna be lazy, that are because the defense

1009
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:24,319
Speaker 1: doesn't know. Oh they don't know your other teammates that

1010
00:52:24,320 --> 00:52:28,719
Speaker 1: are your defense. They don't tell them to play. But

1011
00:52:28,800 --> 00:52:32,319
Speaker 1: you're a team that is true, but but doesn't even

1012
00:52:32,480 --> 00:52:35,839
Speaker 1: ever play for the offense do do whatever? People ever,

1013
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:37,880
Speaker 1: so don't they need to know the lazy Colin to

1014
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:40,520
Speaker 1: lazy Colin got around. Maybe we were able to run

1015
00:52:40,520 --> 00:52:45,920
Speaker 1: it once in practice? Logically, I don't understand football that

1016
00:52:45,960 --> 00:52:50,160
Speaker 1: makes sense, especially a play like that that so there's

1017
00:52:50,400 --> 00:52:55,799
Speaker 1: you know, so much rides on just one and deceiving people,

1018
00:52:55,920 --> 00:52:58,640
Speaker 1: like making people. That's all What plays are though, is

1019
00:52:58,680 --> 00:53:00,879
Speaker 1: like tricking the team in to thinking that you're going

1020
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:02,920
Speaker 1: to do something and then doing something else. Is that

1021
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:07,880
Speaker 1: what most plays are? Plays are about, like psychological warfare. Yeah, yeah,

1022
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:10,879
Speaker 1: just like we're gonna go this way and then we're

1023
00:53:10,880 --> 00:53:13,320
Speaker 1: gonna reverse. But then if you watch the guard pooling,

1024
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:15,239
Speaker 1: you're going to know that the play is actually going.

1025
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:17,200
Speaker 1: This is the best kind of football player, one that

1026
00:53:17,280 --> 00:53:20,600
Speaker 1: can bluff really well about what they would do and

1027
00:53:20,800 --> 00:53:22,279
Speaker 1: and switch it up so much that no one can

1028
00:53:22,320 --> 00:53:24,880
Speaker 1: really predict what's going to happen. The best route runners,

1029
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:28,240
Speaker 1: best wide receivers, if you watch them, it's it's trickery.

1030
00:53:28,280 --> 00:53:32,200
Speaker 1: Like there's this guy Hunter Renfro who by all like

1031
00:53:32,640 --> 00:53:35,880
Speaker 1: counts should not be he runs like a four seven

1032
00:53:36,040 --> 00:53:39,160
Speaker 1: four Like he's not that fast, he's he you would

1033
00:53:39,239 --> 00:53:42,319
Speaker 1: think he's like, uh like uh, like a caddy at

1034
00:53:42,320 --> 00:53:44,759
Speaker 1: a golf course, Like you would never think this guy

1035
00:53:45,080 --> 00:53:48,600
Speaker 1: was like and he's unbelievable. He just got like a

1036
00:53:48,760 --> 00:53:54,120
Speaker 1: forty million dollar signing bonus because something like something crazy,

1037
00:53:54,560 --> 00:53:58,839
Speaker 1: but because he can run patterns that trick people, he's

1038
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:03,760
Speaker 1: just he's a magician. Like essentially, so the whole season,

1039
00:54:03,840 --> 00:54:06,400
Speaker 1: the play is never called because it's pretty an absurd

1040
00:54:06,560 --> 00:54:09,040
Speaker 1: The lazy Colin is pretty So I run right and

1041
00:54:09,080 --> 00:54:11,239
Speaker 1: I I go like this, I run hard and now

1042
00:54:11,280 --> 00:54:15,360
Speaker 1: I just did you like tell your parents were so

1043
00:54:15,400 --> 00:54:17,080
Speaker 1: excited to have like a play named ever you? I mean,

1044
00:54:17,080 --> 00:54:21,160
Speaker 1: this is like huge. I'm thinking you back then, attention,

1045
00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:24,319
Speaker 1: weren't you so excited? No? Because it felt kind of

1046
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:27,399
Speaker 1: passive aggressive, It felt kind of like I don't want

1047
00:54:27,440 --> 00:54:29,720
Speaker 1: to be known for being lazy. But I'm also leaning

1048
00:54:29,719 --> 00:54:33,080
Speaker 1: into this, you know what. I'm also coaches are supposed

1049
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:35,600
Speaker 1: to inspire kids and motivate them, and I love that

1050
00:54:35,719 --> 00:54:38,040
Speaker 1: your coach is telling you to like just huff and

1051
00:54:38,080 --> 00:54:44,120
Speaker 1: puff on the field. Yeah. Yeah, it's so ridiculous, laning

1052
00:54:44,200 --> 00:54:47,160
Speaker 1: back at it. So we're playing this team Glades Day

1053
00:54:47,760 --> 00:54:50,360
Speaker 1: and it's like a big rival, like a huge rival,

1054
00:54:50,400 --> 00:54:54,520
Speaker 1: and we're down by like twenty points. We have like

1055
00:54:54,520 --> 00:54:59,120
Speaker 1: like nothing's worth nothing, and so you know you're desperate,

1056
00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:03,920
Speaker 1: and like a spiration calls for you know, a desperation play.

1057
00:55:03,920 --> 00:55:07,400
Speaker 1: And what's more desperate than the lazy column? And so

1058
00:55:07,560 --> 00:55:10,080
Speaker 1: they call it and I remember my buddy, my best friend,

1059
00:55:10,160 --> 00:55:12,359
Speaker 1: Danny Colin Charlie was the quarterback, and I remember him

1060
00:55:12,400 --> 00:55:14,399
Speaker 1: saying it and like he couldn't even get it out

1061
00:55:14,400 --> 00:55:18,759
Speaker 1: of his mouth without laughing. Isn't the word lazy? And

1062
00:55:18,800 --> 00:55:20,719
Speaker 1: then the other teams here it, like aren't they going

1063
00:55:20,760 --> 00:55:23,520
Speaker 1: to go the guy's last name is Colin. They don't

1064
00:55:23,560 --> 00:55:28,279
Speaker 1: hear these things. What do you think shouting like they're

1065
00:55:28,280 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 1: shouting things are not plays that they're shouting just hike

1066
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:33,920
Speaker 1: in it. They're just saying why are they shouting? Well,

1067
00:55:34,160 --> 00:55:37,799
Speaker 1: sometimes plays get when they do audibles. So you'll have

1068
00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:41,280
Speaker 1: a play set up. You know, let's read an audio book.

1069
00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:47,680
Speaker 1: You read an audio book. An audible is like calling

1070
00:55:47,680 --> 00:55:49,839
Speaker 1: an audible means like we're just doing something on the fly,

1071
00:55:50,600 --> 00:55:53,480
Speaker 1: something different, but the lazy colin everyone whispers it. I mean,

1072
00:55:53,520 --> 00:55:56,839
Speaker 1: how do plays get defenses like thirty yards away? They don't.

1073
00:55:56,880 --> 00:56:00,160
Speaker 1: They don't hear you, so they're in their huddle, were

1074
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:02,759
Speaker 1: happening football wherever, Like you didn't hear the play, and

1075
00:56:02,760 --> 00:56:07,160
Speaker 1: you're like, what are we doing? And then sometimes you're like,

1076
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:09,080
Speaker 1: I don't remember that one because I was not paying

1077
00:56:09,080 --> 00:56:11,640
Speaker 1: attention during the chalkboard times. And then you just kind

1078
00:56:11,640 --> 00:56:15,239
Speaker 1: of you've you kind of figured out. Yeah, I mean

1079
00:56:15,239 --> 00:56:17,600
Speaker 1: that happens all the time. So many especially in the NFL,

1080
00:56:17,640 --> 00:56:22,439
Speaker 1: their playbooks are like crazy because he can't plays okay,

1081
00:56:22,480 --> 00:56:25,799
Speaker 1: I'm learning. I honestly, I have never even thought about that.

1082
00:56:26,160 --> 00:56:28,760
Speaker 1: So we're down twenty and they called a lazy column.

1083
00:56:28,760 --> 00:56:30,839
Speaker 1: I'm like, funk, I gotta be late, you know, this

1084
00:56:30,880 --> 00:56:34,400
Speaker 1: is my moment, and I fucking run and I lazy

1085
00:56:34,440 --> 00:56:38,640
Speaker 1: it up, and just like he wrote, the cornerback that's

1086
00:56:38,640 --> 00:56:41,439
Speaker 1: supposed to guard me just starts flowing the other way

1087
00:56:41,480 --> 00:56:44,880
Speaker 1: and I just kind of just you know, like like

1088
00:56:44,960 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 1: kool aid man walking backwards, just like God a lazy

1089
00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:51,600
Speaker 1: and no no one sees me over you know, like

1090
00:56:51,640 --> 00:56:53,799
Speaker 1: I'm trying to be real quiet, you know, just be

1091
00:56:53,960 --> 00:56:58,120
Speaker 1: water and water. My buddy Danny throws it all and

1092
00:56:58,160 --> 00:57:01,680
Speaker 1: I remember it just like in the air. It felt like,

1093
00:57:02,320 --> 00:57:04,120
Speaker 1: you know, the ball was being lazy up there and

1094
00:57:04,200 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 1: took so yeah, it's so weird. Those moments just slow

1095
00:57:06,760 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 1: down so much. And I was just like, oh my god,

1096
00:57:09,080 --> 00:57:11,040
Speaker 1: this is like my moment, you know, because I only

1097
00:57:11,080 --> 00:57:13,840
Speaker 1: had like eleven catches the whole year. So I and

1098
00:57:13,880 --> 00:57:16,760
Speaker 1: I fucking I catch it and I'm like, holy shit.

1099
00:57:17,320 --> 00:57:20,040
Speaker 1: And the joke when I would do it and then

1100
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:21,800
Speaker 1: I dropped the ball because I was too lazy because

1101
00:57:21,800 --> 00:57:25,880
Speaker 1: it was heavy. But I get tackled like right away,

1102
00:57:25,960 --> 00:57:28,440
Speaker 1: like slammed hard, and it actually hurt my shoulder. But

1103
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:30,440
Speaker 1: like I was like, this is my moment. I'm not

1104
00:57:30,440 --> 00:57:34,960
Speaker 1: going to show like pain and then we lose like

1105
00:57:35,760 --> 00:57:38,040
Speaker 1: like it didn't. It wasn't like, oh man, this isn't

1106
00:57:38,080 --> 00:57:40,040
Speaker 1: like a glory story. I thought I was gonna end.

1107
00:57:41,600 --> 00:57:46,520
Speaker 1: Fuck at the ends of you getting a chronic shoulder

1108
00:57:46,600 --> 00:57:49,760
Speaker 1: injury will haunt you the rest of your life like

1109
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:53,880
Speaker 1: a ghost doctor. Yeah, it doesn't end like that cool

1110
00:57:54,040 --> 00:57:56,160
Speaker 1: other than like I mean, I kind of love that

1111
00:57:56,240 --> 00:57:58,640
Speaker 1: kind of ending where it's like and then we won.

1112
00:57:58,960 --> 00:58:03,320
Speaker 1: My favorite ending. Final thought, I love a good bad

1113
00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:05,880
Speaker 1: and I love an ending that is practical, is like

1114
00:58:05,920 --> 00:58:07,800
Speaker 1: something that really happens in life. A lot of people,

1115
00:58:07,840 --> 00:58:10,439
Speaker 1: I guess people to send me movies where they don't

1116
00:58:10,560 --> 00:58:12,960
Speaker 1: end up together, and so many people send me so

1117
00:58:12,960 --> 00:58:16,240
Speaker 1: many movies. I realized they just spoiled the ending. Like

1118
00:58:16,520 --> 00:58:19,200
Speaker 1: I was just asking people to send me movies they

1119
00:58:19,280 --> 00:58:21,160
Speaker 1: already know what's gonna happen. I was kind of like,

1120
00:58:21,440 --> 00:58:24,120
Speaker 1: why did I do that? But um, they gave me

1121
00:58:24,200 --> 00:58:29,840
Speaker 1: good lists. Yea, you know that Jews ding it. No, yeah,

1122
00:58:29,920 --> 00:58:34,280
Speaker 1: it's uh. I didn't see the movie in the nineties.

1123
00:58:34,360 --> 00:58:36,720
Speaker 1: I would have caught that. I would have broke the tackle,

1124
00:58:37,440 --> 00:58:40,760
Speaker 1: we would have won. I would have realized, you know,

1125
00:58:40,840 --> 00:58:43,360
Speaker 1: not to ever be lazy again. I was asking so

1126
00:58:43,360 --> 00:58:47,040
Speaker 1: many questions about football last night. It's just that I

1127
00:58:47,200 --> 00:58:54,040
Speaker 1: love answering my my inability to understand why it matters

1128
00:58:54,040 --> 00:58:57,040
Speaker 1: so much and why it's so much different than every

1129
00:58:57,120 --> 00:59:00,880
Speaker 1: other sport in the sense of like how makes people feel.

1130
00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:03,200
Speaker 1: Just seeing these slow motion shots of people are going

1131
00:59:03,280 --> 00:59:12,240
Speaker 1: like the grid are or just like like like the

1132
00:59:12,520 --> 00:59:15,080
Speaker 1: sweat kind of slow motion falls off there? But how

1133
00:59:15,120 --> 00:59:18,320
Speaker 1: good did that feel? Just now, that's what it's about. Listen,

1134
00:59:18,360 --> 00:59:23,000
Speaker 1: like let's go. I get it, But why not why

1135
00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:24,640
Speaker 1: not feel that way about tennis? Why don't we feel

1136
00:59:24,640 --> 00:59:27,320
Speaker 1: that way about golf? But they're not allowed to be loud,

1137
00:59:27,480 --> 00:59:29,760
Speaker 1: Like that's the other thing. You're allowed to be ruthless.

1138
00:59:29,800 --> 00:59:32,320
Speaker 1: You go there, it's like the Colosseum, you're allowed to

1139
00:59:32,320 --> 00:59:36,160
Speaker 1: fucking you know. And I don't understand why, Like why

1140
00:59:36,280 --> 00:59:40,120
Speaker 1: even care about college football if there's pro football? Well,

1141
00:59:40,160 --> 00:59:43,080
Speaker 1: because it's more pure. These kids aren't playing for money

1142
00:59:43,320 --> 00:59:48,440
Speaker 1: A lot of them are, especially now you can now

1143
00:59:48,520 --> 00:59:51,240
Speaker 1: you can actually sign, you can actually get paid. And

1144
00:59:51,400 --> 00:59:53,840
Speaker 1: I l it's called does it make Does it make

1145
00:59:53,840 --> 00:59:55,600
Speaker 1: you happy to know that these guys are getting laid

1146
00:59:55,640 --> 00:59:58,640
Speaker 1: when they wouldn't be Just like that, that was a

1147
00:59:58,720 --> 01:00:00,280
Speaker 1: thing for me where I was like, man, he's going

1148
01:00:00,320 --> 01:00:02,959
Speaker 1: to get so much fucking pussy and not her name.

1149
01:00:03,640 --> 01:00:05,520
Speaker 1: And I was like, yes, don't stop talking to this bit.

1150
01:00:05,640 --> 01:00:09,080
Speaker 1: You're getting like actual, real life tangible puss. I think

1151
01:00:09,080 --> 01:00:12,080
Speaker 1: he was still getting tangible, like I think he was

1152
01:00:12,120 --> 01:00:14,080
Speaker 1: sucking a lot. And I think this was like a

1153
01:00:14,960 --> 01:00:17,040
Speaker 1: thing of one of many and it was an emotional

1154
01:00:17,080 --> 01:00:20,600
Speaker 1: connection which he probably wasn't having a person with girls. Yes, yeah,

1155
01:00:20,600 --> 01:00:22,280
Speaker 1: he was probably just sucking them, but this was all

1156
01:00:22,320 --> 01:00:25,760
Speaker 1: based on texting. It's weird that your side piece has

1157
01:00:25,840 --> 01:00:29,920
Speaker 1: the most heart, yes, like his, Like his chick on

1158
01:00:29,920 --> 01:00:32,440
Speaker 1: the side was dying of leukemia and he was giving

1159
01:00:32,560 --> 01:00:35,920
Speaker 1: not giving her dick, but all his heart. Well that's

1160
01:00:35,960 --> 01:00:38,800
Speaker 1: what happens when I have ever been in not ever,

1161
01:00:38,960 --> 01:00:42,360
Speaker 1: but there's been times where I've been in relationships with

1162
01:00:42,400 --> 01:00:44,920
Speaker 1: men who have girlfriends in my past and I was

1163
01:00:44,960 --> 01:00:50,320
Speaker 1: always this emotional tent pole and that they weren't getting

1164
01:00:50,320 --> 01:00:52,160
Speaker 1: because I would it would just be based on text

1165
01:00:52,600 --> 01:00:55,440
Speaker 1: like it was always, And I think that's when people cheat,

1166
01:00:55,640 --> 01:00:58,160
Speaker 1: is when they're not getting fulfilled in some way in

1167
01:00:58,160 --> 01:01:01,320
Speaker 1: their relationship or their just like sociopaths and they don't

1168
01:01:01,320 --> 01:01:03,600
Speaker 1: care and their sex addicts or whatever. But like generally,

1169
01:01:03,640 --> 01:01:05,760
Speaker 1: I think people step out when they're like I'm not

1170
01:01:05,800 --> 01:01:09,040
Speaker 1: being there's nothing, I'm not getting this thing, and then

1171
01:01:09,040 --> 01:01:12,160
Speaker 1: you get it from somewhere else. And then if you're

1172
01:01:12,200 --> 01:01:15,439
Speaker 1: that other woman, you gotta get to a point where

1173
01:01:15,440 --> 01:01:17,920
Speaker 1: you're like, I gotta pull this away because this this

1174
01:01:17,960 --> 01:01:20,760
Speaker 1: guy will you know or fake my own death and

1175
01:01:20,760 --> 01:01:23,440
Speaker 1: then come back and then come back. Oh my god,

1176
01:01:28,960 --> 01:01:33,280
Speaker 1: you guys got um. But I think that is there's

1177
01:01:33,320 --> 01:01:36,560
Speaker 1: something about if you've ever been the other person, the

1178
01:01:36,680 --> 01:01:39,040
Speaker 1: only way to actually get that person to leave the

1179
01:01:39,040 --> 01:01:40,880
Speaker 1: person they're with to be with you, which is always

1180
01:01:40,920 --> 01:01:43,400
Speaker 1: what you want secretly, even though you probably don't want

1181
01:01:43,400 --> 01:01:44,920
Speaker 1: it because the only reason you like them because you

1182
01:01:44,920 --> 01:01:46,640
Speaker 1: can't have them, and when they become available, you probably

1183
01:01:46,680 --> 01:01:51,440
Speaker 1: won't be interested. Speaking from my own truth, um, the

1184
01:01:51,480 --> 01:01:54,240
Speaker 1: only way for them to ever leave is to pull

1185
01:01:54,280 --> 01:01:56,200
Speaker 1: out the tent poll that you're providing, and the tent

1186
01:01:56,280 --> 01:02:00,600
Speaker 1: will fall eventually, or they'll they'll have to figure out

1187
01:02:00,640 --> 01:02:03,320
Speaker 1: a way to get that part of their relationship fulfilled,

1188
01:02:04,080 --> 01:02:05,920
Speaker 1: which is also a thing that could happen, and it's

1189
01:02:05,960 --> 01:02:08,160
Speaker 1: happened to me every single time, so it's not the

1190
01:02:08,160 --> 01:02:10,200
Speaker 1: best of you. I've never had a guy leave his

1191
01:02:10,240 --> 01:02:13,960
Speaker 1: girlfriend from me. I'll just say that I don't if

1192
01:02:13,960 --> 01:02:16,360
Speaker 1: someone There are like times I listen to podcasts where

1193
01:02:16,400 --> 01:02:19,240
Speaker 1: like the person the other girl gets them to leave,

1194
01:02:20,160 --> 01:02:23,320
Speaker 1: and I'm just go, wow, good job at Like, I'm

1195
01:02:23,360 --> 01:02:25,840
Speaker 1: glad that none of the guys that I've entertained that

1196
01:02:25,880 --> 01:02:28,520
Speaker 1: with have ever given up on the relationship because I

1197
01:02:28,560 --> 01:02:30,760
Speaker 1: would have felt so guilty that they left that I

1198
01:02:30,800 --> 01:02:33,880
Speaker 1: would have stayed with them despite wanting to, although I

1199
01:02:33,920 --> 01:02:38,840
Speaker 1: do think in some circumstances, I remember thinking, am I

1200
01:02:38,880 --> 01:02:41,360
Speaker 1: really gonna like this guy if he leaves his girlfriend? Like?

1201
01:02:41,520 --> 01:02:42,920
Speaker 1: Am I really do I really want to be with

1202
01:02:42,920 --> 01:02:44,880
Speaker 1: this person? And I think I would have been so

1203
01:02:45,040 --> 01:02:48,800
Speaker 1: horned up for a guy taking such a risk not knowing,

1204
01:02:49,240 --> 01:02:51,920
Speaker 1: because I remember telling this person, I don't know if

1205
01:02:51,920 --> 01:02:53,800
Speaker 1: I'm gonna like you once you're single, but I just

1206
01:02:53,920 --> 01:02:56,000
Speaker 1: I think I would. I really want to be with you,

1207
01:02:56,200 --> 01:02:58,640
Speaker 1: but I don't really I can't predict that I'm gonna

1208
01:02:58,640 --> 01:02:59,800
Speaker 1: want to. I would like to date you if you

1209
01:03:00,160 --> 01:03:02,800
Speaker 1: up with her, And um, I think I would have

1210
01:03:02,840 --> 01:03:05,000
Speaker 1: been so horned up for someone taking that pig of

1211
01:03:05,000 --> 01:03:08,200
Speaker 1: a risk that it would have kept me around longer

1212
01:03:08,400 --> 01:03:10,720
Speaker 1: even if I didn't actually like them. Outside of that,

1213
01:03:11,080 --> 01:03:13,280
Speaker 1: I would have been like, but someone blew up their

1214
01:03:13,360 --> 01:03:16,760
Speaker 1: life for me because they love me so much that

1215
01:03:17,640 --> 01:03:23,280
Speaker 1: two kids there's never been kids in them figured as

1216
01:03:25,280 --> 01:03:29,000
Speaker 1: he left his like dying wife from like no one

1217
01:03:29,120 --> 01:03:34,640
Speaker 1: really so sweet, he loves you so much, No one's

1218
01:03:34,680 --> 01:03:38,600
Speaker 1: going to respect this guy ever again except me, except me,

1219
01:03:39,320 --> 01:03:41,600
Speaker 1: And that's why we have such a strong cop Like

1220
01:03:42,440 --> 01:03:44,240
Speaker 1: I love like that story of like how did you

1221
01:03:44,240 --> 01:03:48,480
Speaker 1: guys meet? Well, his wife was dying and um oh yeah,

1222
01:03:48,640 --> 01:03:52,880
Speaker 1: and he just couldn't resist. I wouldn't blame someone if like, well,

1223
01:03:52,880 --> 01:03:55,280
Speaker 1: maybe the wife is dying too much. Friend Halla has

1224
01:03:55,360 --> 01:03:58,240
Speaker 1: this fear if she's ever or it's like her husband's

1225
01:03:58,240 --> 01:04:00,640
Speaker 1: in a coma and she has to stay with Well,

1226
01:04:00,640 --> 01:04:05,200
Speaker 1: that happened to you, No one would ever Why would

1227
01:04:05,240 --> 01:04:08,600
Speaker 1: you ever expect your spouse to be faithful to you

1228
01:04:08,680 --> 01:04:10,800
Speaker 1: while you're in a coma? I think that is an

1229
01:04:10,840 --> 01:04:13,800
Speaker 1: insane thing. You're when they're not going to get out

1230
01:04:13,840 --> 01:04:18,280
Speaker 1: of you like that is so. I know people are like,

1231
01:04:18,360 --> 01:04:20,680
Speaker 1: what are you talking about, Nikki. I know that this

1232
01:04:20,760 --> 01:04:23,160
Speaker 1: is not the normal thing. But I if my if

1233
01:04:23,200 --> 01:04:24,640
Speaker 1: I got out of a comma and I realized my

1234
01:04:24,760 --> 01:04:27,680
Speaker 1: husband did not even get like a hand job from

1235
01:04:27,680 --> 01:04:30,480
Speaker 1: like a massage on the side during that time, I

1236
01:04:30,520 --> 01:04:35,240
Speaker 1: would say, you're a loser. You're not taking care of

1237
01:04:35,280 --> 01:04:39,120
Speaker 1: your own needs. You're like too obsessed with me. Did

1238
01:04:39,120 --> 01:04:41,920
Speaker 1: you at least try to fuck me comma I was

1239
01:04:41,960 --> 01:04:47,600
Speaker 1: out of it? Wouldn't That was another dance because to

1240
01:04:47,640 --> 01:04:50,400
Speaker 1: say something, He's like, no, no, no, no. I I

1241
01:04:50,600 --> 01:04:52,640
Speaker 1: think this is the funniest. I think it's just so

1242
01:04:52,680 --> 01:04:55,400
Speaker 1: funny for a guy to be never more attracted to

1243
01:04:55,440 --> 01:04:58,080
Speaker 1: his wife than when she's in a coma. Like He's like,

1244
01:04:58,360 --> 01:05:00,880
Speaker 1: I never He's like, when did he like really like

1245
01:05:01,480 --> 01:05:03,560
Speaker 1: start to work out for you guys again? When she

1246
01:05:03,800 --> 01:05:06,160
Speaker 1: was well, I'm a little bit scared about me being

1247
01:05:06,240 --> 01:05:12,200
Speaker 1: quiet for three weeks and having crisp no. I think,

1248
01:05:12,320 --> 01:05:14,360
Speaker 1: what if he asks you to marry you, like like

1249
01:05:14,360 --> 01:05:16,080
Speaker 1: two and a half weeks and he's like, this is

1250
01:05:16,120 --> 01:05:20,080
Speaker 1: the woman I've always dreamed. I mean, and I think

1251
01:05:20,080 --> 01:05:23,320
Speaker 1: that I might also have some realizations being quiet, of

1252
01:05:23,360 --> 01:05:26,920
Speaker 1: like observing more and being like, I'm such a little

1253
01:05:27,040 --> 01:05:30,280
Speaker 1: like it's gonna make me so feminine energy to be quiet.

1254
01:05:30,560 --> 01:05:32,040
Speaker 1: I mean, this is my joke and my special of

1255
01:05:32,120 --> 01:05:34,480
Speaker 1: like men want women who don't talk. It's very sexy

1256
01:05:34,760 --> 01:05:38,560
Speaker 1: to them to be like to just be like, I

1257
01:05:38,600 --> 01:05:44,040
Speaker 1: can't even I can't. Honestly, we were physically, um, we're

1258
01:05:44,080 --> 01:05:47,600
Speaker 1: physical the other night, and I said, I don't know

1259
01:05:48,920 --> 01:05:52,280
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna do. Can you imagine having sex with someone?

1260
01:05:53,520 --> 01:05:55,280
Speaker 1: I can't? You guys, I can't make a grunt. I

1261
01:05:55,320 --> 01:05:58,080
Speaker 1: can't do anything that will make my vocal chords vibrate.

1262
01:05:58,440 --> 01:06:00,720
Speaker 1: So I can't put the vibrator on my in my

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Speaker 1: throat anymore. I can't. I can't deep throat. Do you

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Speaker 1: want anymore? How am I gonna go? But I really

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Speaker 1: am like I don't. I was like, are you ready

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Speaker 1: to be with someone that it's going to be Charlie Chap?

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Speaker 1: You're going to be you, but you have like like

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Speaker 1: a robot that's going to speak for you, just put

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Speaker 1: oh yeah, bunch of EM's. Oh my god, oh my god. Quiet,

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Speaker 1: thank you daddy, Oh yeah, thank you daddy. Yeah. Stephanie

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Speaker 1: Hawking is what we're calling me already, because when I

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Speaker 1: was on vocal rest, I was using it a little

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Speaker 1: bit because you're brilliant. Yeah, yeah, Well I understand quantum

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Speaker 1: physics now because I read a third of a book. Um,

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Speaker 1: all right, Well, have a more show out of us tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: Be there for it. Chris Convey is going to be

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Speaker 1: back in studio with us. Thank you so much for

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Speaker 1: listening to the podcast. Don't be good and sure vocal

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Speaker 1: board stop. Okay, sure will take it