WEBVTT - Adrien + Ashley 0:00:01.120 --> 0:00:04.280 It's been too long that we've been quiet, so we're back. 0:00:04.400 --> 0:00:07.920 We're never quiet, reader, it's been too long since we're 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:11.399 not recording, but we're never quiet, Okay, And this should 0:00:11.400 --> 0:00:14.600 be a very exciting opening, and it's going to be 0:00:14.640 --> 0:00:17.280 a great season flour Us. It was an exciting season 0:00:17.360 --> 0:00:20.239 last season and the fact that we were nominated for 0:00:20.280 --> 0:00:23.640 an Ambi Award was really something very special. And when 0:00:23.800 --> 0:00:26.040 they heard this season, it's going to be even better 0:00:26.079 --> 0:00:31.040 than last Ellen. Who's going to be our guest today? Well, today, 0:00:31.080 --> 0:00:34.360 Adrian R. Peal and her Land daughter Ashley are going 0:00:34.400 --> 0:00:38.040 to be the guests. Oh. She's been in cosmetics from 0:00:38.200 --> 0:00:41.120 the time I was a young person. She's actually the 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:45.280 first woman that started a true cosmetic company, the longest 0:00:45.360 --> 0:00:49.960 running beauty line here at HS and best selling author Adrian. 0:00:50.080 --> 0:00:53.640 We're here to party, happy anniversary. I am so proud 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:57.400 to be at HS and for all those years I 0:00:57.440 --> 0:01:00.160 remember my auntsiwers to use Adrian a pal and I 0:01:00.240 --> 0:01:03.480 used to borrow it. I'm really excited to see this side, 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:06.600 her family side. I'm sure it wasn't that easy going 0:01:06.680 --> 0:01:08.840 starting as a woman, and I'd like to hear how 0:01:08.920 --> 0:01:12.560 she did it. She really was an innovator in women executive. 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:15.800 I'd love to see how her grandchild is following. Enough, 0:01:15.840 --> 0:01:21.160 what steps? Okay, let's hear it. I'm anxious. Let's go, Ashley. 0:01:21.280 --> 0:01:23.640 Why is your lighting so good? And no, kidd you 0:01:23.720 --> 0:01:26.360 look beautiful. I don't have my ring light on? Are 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:30.160 you crazy? Wait? Look at this? Where'd you go? I'm 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:33.840 coming back. You don't need the damn ring light. I 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:36.880 do much better now, right with the light look the 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:39.800 same to me. Gorgeous. Well, it's because I'm wearing you 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:46.600 right now. Yeah, that's what's doing. And maybe four grandma's 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:51.160 ago had good skin and poland all right, well thanks, 0:01:51.280 --> 0:01:56.440 great great great great grandmother, Grandma? Are you nervous? Am 0:01:56.440 --> 0:02:05.600 I nervous? Yeah? Are you kidding? Okay? Ready ready. Adriana 0:02:05.640 --> 0:02:08.440 Pella is my grandma. She's one of my best friends, 0:02:08.800 --> 0:02:11.840 my idol. Who is she? She taught me how to 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:15.600 put on makeup when I was really young, and she's 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:18.440 been teaching everyone else since way before me how to 0:02:18.480 --> 0:02:21.840 put makeup on. So funny enough, I actually, Grandma, I 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:25.400 googled you yesterday. Lots of stuff to google. Right, it 0:02:25.520 --> 0:02:28.079 was good because I've been around four thousand years a 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:31.200 lot of stuff to google. I loved it, even with 0:02:31.280 --> 0:02:33.720 your older videos. I'm still learning how to do makeup 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:39.000 with that too. She's my favorite person in the entire 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:43.320 world and two other planets, and that includes her mother, 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:46.880 who's my second favorite, and rulling it take second place there. 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:49.320 She she got it since the day as she was born. 0:02:49.760 --> 0:02:54.760 That was it. My grandson, he's third favorite because he's 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:58.240 a boy and doesn't call me on the dime. If 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:01.000 he did, he could move up. He also does not 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:04.160 know how to clean a room. He is. Are we 0:03:04.200 --> 0:03:07.320 going to say that on radio? I mean, I never 0:03:07.400 --> 0:03:13.360 get a wife he is. He's slobed, but we love him. 0:03:13.480 --> 0:03:18.800 We keep him. This young woman popped out similar to me. 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:23.320 She said to me immediately after being born, Grandma, I'm 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:25.280 gonna be like you and we're going to have the 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:29.480 greatest relationship in the world. She was maybe five minutes 0:03:29.520 --> 0:03:32.280 old when she said that, And it's true. It has 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:37.520 been forever. We're just simpatica. Do you remember freezing bananas 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:40.400 and dipping them in chocolate? Grandma? Do I remember we 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:44.480 had to redo the kitchen there were chocolate everywhere. I'm 0:03:44.520 --> 0:03:47.680 not too good at that kind of stuff. I tried hard. Wait, 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:50.680 what are you not good? I'm confused stuff in the kitchen. 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:54.279 But I wanted to impress you, so I coated the bananas, 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:58.120 and I coated the stove and the refrigerator and the ceiling. 0:03:58.480 --> 0:04:00.600 That was so fun. But yeah, going to your office, 0:04:00.600 --> 0:04:02.800 I remember it was always like a devil Wares product thing, 0:04:02.840 --> 0:04:06.320 and Grandma was Miranda Priestley, but with less stress. I 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:09.560 think no one was like passing out. A few of 0:04:09.640 --> 0:04:21.159 them did. When I started getting bullied in school. Grandma 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:23.440 was really great with that, do you remember. And you 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:26.640 were like, just be nice, and it was sort of 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:31.080 in essence, killed them with kindness, kind of be completely 0:04:31.960 --> 0:04:35.760 overly sweet back to them, and you'll go through it. 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:39.200 You'll move on from them, but they'll be them forever. 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:41.600 I remember I was like, yeah, they have to go 0:04:41.680 --> 0:04:45.960 through life as themselves and that's got to be tough. Actually, 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:48.160 as I said to you then, and I said, you know, 0:04:48.440 --> 0:04:52.560 you were far more beautiful than any of them. You 0:04:52.640 --> 0:04:58.800 were false smarter, you had a far better understanding of 0:04:58.880 --> 0:05:03.719 life at twelve years old, and they were going nowhere 0:05:03.920 --> 0:05:07.920 and you were going to run the world. I'm totally correct. 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:18.279 I'm almost their grandma. You know, she's not what I 0:05:18.360 --> 0:05:21.560 expected to hear. Somebody in cosmetics, you think is going 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:25.559 to be very feminine and very soft. And but she's 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:29.360 a strong, determined woman. She's a strong woman because she's 0:05:29.400 --> 0:05:31.720 got a big business to run. No, that's true. You 0:05:31.760 --> 0:05:34.400 don't get they have being a Namby Pamby. I just 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:37.279 love the love. You can hear the love in every 0:05:37.320 --> 0:05:39.600 word they say to each other. You know it's not 0:05:39.680 --> 0:05:42.720 only love, Ellen, it's something a little more deeper, like 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:47.200 admiration and respect. Yes, it's wonderful. It made me feel 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:53.080 very good to listen to them. Okay, partline, here we go. 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:56.800 You can look up when you're older. I wonder what 0:05:56.920 --> 0:06:03.120 that means. We're identical. I'm very happy compared to Grandma 0:06:03.160 --> 0:06:07.960 because we are identical. I see so much of myself 0:06:08.000 --> 0:06:12.080 and you, And I mean in what way? I am 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:15.960 a very hard worker. I get up at dawn and 0:06:16.000 --> 0:06:18.719 I work all day, and I don't look at a 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:21.800 clock when I'm finished. I'm finished. For me, it came 0:06:21.839 --> 0:06:24.760 from being poor as a kid. I grew up in 0:06:24.839 --> 0:06:29.120 New Jersey, where just about everybody had two or three 0:06:29.240 --> 0:06:33.640 jobs and kids worked. From thirteen fourteen fifteen Ashley was 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:37.839 never poor as a kid, but she absolutely has the 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:42.040 same ethic. I was eighteen when I went into business. 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:45.160 I looked up when I was fifty five and had 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:48.240 enough money to quit, but I haven't looked up in between. 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:53.640 She's just like me. She's success oriented and will accept 0:06:53.720 --> 0:06:57.080 nothing else, so she works real hard. Yeah. I mean, 0:06:57.320 --> 0:06:59.680 I've heard it my entire life. You can look up 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:03.080 and you're older. I say that to myself all of 0:07:03.080 --> 0:07:04.800 the time. I say that when I wake up at 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:07.760 five am. I say that to Scott, my fiance. It 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:11.840 rubbed off on Ashley very early. Remember when you worked 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:14.760 in the chocolate shop and the pizza polopy. I did 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:18.160 that after school at fifteen, and no one told her 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:20.880 she had to work at that age. I had to 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:24.680 do it and did it. I get less credit, and Ashley, 0:07:24.880 --> 0:07:27.760 who didn't have to do it and did it. You 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:30.960 deserve all the credit, Grandma. Well, except I don't have 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:34.240 one stretch mark from you, not one, so I can't 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:36.680 get all the credit. I mean all the credit for 0:07:36.720 --> 0:07:41.240 your success. That's what I mean. I'm a food and 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:45.240 product photographer and videographer, so I work with a lot 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:49.560 of chocolate shops or restaurants or food bloggers, and I 0:07:49.680 --> 0:07:52.760 run their social media as well. And you played the 0:07:52.800 --> 0:07:57.200 princess on a children's television show you paid a pirate. 0:07:57.480 --> 0:08:01.720 Do you remember my very first l a audition? I 0:08:01.720 --> 0:08:04.800 think it was for Tattoo Nightmares, of course I remember, 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:06.440 and I got the part and I had to like 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:09.760 vomit on camera. I remember calling GRAHDM and I was like, 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:14.040 how can I be glamorous while I'm vomiting on camera, 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:20.080 of which my answer was smile, honey. They'll never get it, 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:25.240 They'll never know. Wait. Did you always know that you 0:08:25.280 --> 0:08:28.200 wanted to start your own business without your dream as 0:08:28.200 --> 0:08:32.560 a kid. I didn't know enough to know. But when 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:34.839 I got out of high school, there was a six 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:37.200 month period of time before I was going to go 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:39.120 to school, and I was going to get a job 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:41.880 as a receptionist. Why a reception This is the only 0:08:41.920 --> 0:08:44.240 thing I could do? I was, what else was I 0:08:44.280 --> 0:08:48.280 capable of doing? Well? I started going to department stoics, 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:51.760 Macy's Lord and Taylor Sex Bloomings. I'd walk in. I 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:53.920 didn't we very much makeup, and I said, how do 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:56.160 I do my makeup? What should I do with my eyes? 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:58.120 It's this eye shadow good. I don't know how to 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:00.520 do my lips, and no one ever really the answer 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:04.520 me and I felt if there were professional estheticians that 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:07.560 really went to school for skin can they could tell 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:10.719 me what to do, I'd have something special. As you know, 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:14.240 I went into business. By my twenty one birthday. I 0:09:14.280 --> 0:09:17.280 was in all those stores with a small skin salon, 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:20.680 and you and I discussed this a great less. I 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:26.319 am the original influencer. I started makeovers and department stores. 0:09:27.000 --> 0:09:31.239 I was the first person to do makeovers on television. 0:09:31.880 --> 0:09:35.520 Is going to show us a few little Oprah shows 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:40.840 on Regis, on every major show you could think of 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:46.600 those years when nobody did makeups on television. Did I 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:49.800 always want to go into business? No? I think in 0:09:49.960 --> 0:09:53.839 that way, I'm the accidental success. There was a need. 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:57.640 I saw it as a kid because I had that 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:00.600 need too, and I fulfilled it and that was the 0:10:00.640 --> 0:10:04.640 beginning of my success. I love the way you worded 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:07.880 that accidental success. I didn't know how to do anything. 0:10:08.400 --> 0:10:14.880 An accidental success is probably they have something. I say, 0:10:15.200 --> 0:10:20.000 is what makes a person successful? That inner drive, and 0:10:20.080 --> 0:10:23.800 these two women have it and they share it. Read it. 0:10:23.960 --> 0:10:27.760 Don't you see things? With your granddaughter that you see 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:31.240 in yourself. Yes, and no, Rachel is much more laid 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:34.160 back than I am. I mean she's not. It's aggressive. 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:37.720 You know I'm very short, really, yeah, you didn't know that. 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:41.480 Four for ten it's not to notice. And now I 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:44.360 must be less because my slacks that I put on 0:10:44.400 --> 0:10:47.000 every day, I'm tripping over. So I must have drunk 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:50.520 along the way. But what I'm saying is a short 0:10:50.600 --> 0:10:54.080 person has to be aggressive and nobody notices you basically, 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:57.480 and that's the drive you have. Nobody gave it to me. 0:10:57.520 --> 0:10:59.640 I had to have it. And I see these two women, 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:03.520 that's what they have. And I admire ad and she 0:11:03.640 --> 0:11:06.120 doesn't hide that she grew up poor and how to work. 0:11:06.320 --> 0:11:09.440 You know, today it's like people look down on poor people. Man, 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:13.200 In those years, everybody worked. Nobody was born in success 0:11:13.320 --> 0:11:17.000 to become a success, and that's what they have between them. 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:20.040 You could look up when you're older. That's a philosophy. 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:22.760 Work when you can, and when you reach your goal, 0:11:23.040 --> 0:11:26.920 then you could look up. You know, my grandchildren they're 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:30.520 doing traveling. Now, I said, why are you doing so 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:34.320 much traveling? Put your energy in becoming what you want 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:36.400 to be. In life, and I said, when you get 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:39.920 older in your fifties, you'll have time to travel. Yeah, 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:42.559 she gives the advice I do. But the young people 0:11:42.640 --> 0:11:45.600 don't think like that today. I think they live more 0:11:45.720 --> 0:11:49.040 for the moment because nobody knows what the future is. Well, 0:11:49.160 --> 0:11:51.640 that's it. I was just gonna say that nobody knows 0:11:51.679 --> 0:11:55.400 what the future is. Gonna hold, Okay, Rida, it's time 0:11:55.480 --> 0:11:58.360 for a break. You know, two old ladies have to 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:01.520 use the bathroom much more freequently when you young folks. 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:06.360 So it all depends. That's what we're doing. We didn't 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:19.760 depends and we'll be back. Okay, guys, we're back. We're 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:24.520 ready to go for another couple of hours. Two skin 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:30.160 tight clothes, Oh my goodness, not only skin tight, bare breasted. 0:12:30.240 --> 0:12:32.839 Did you see the oscars? If the women had their 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:37.400 boobs hagging out, that's a new thing. Not only skin tight, 0:12:37.600 --> 0:12:41.240 pressed exposial clothes. If you got him flunt, I'm right 0:12:41.280 --> 0:12:46.960 now that I feel like it's probably close to what 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:49.160 I wear now. But what did you wear when you 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:51.240 were a teenager? You know my style. I like to 0:12:51.360 --> 0:12:55.560 dress retro, very very retro. I didn't have much clothes. 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:59.560 We'll start there. But my favorite article of clothing was 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:03.800 a little skirt. It was a gray felt skirt with 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:07.640 a poodle on the pocket with a bell on its tail. 0:13:07.880 --> 0:13:10.560 Oh my gosh, Now you know how long that was. 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:13.480 And I'm still talking about the bell on the tail 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:16.800 of the poodle skirt. I love that outfit. All the 0:13:16.840 --> 0:13:20.640 retro stuff you weigh now is very familiar to me. 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:23.120 I have a poodle skirt. I'm bringing it next week. 0:13:23.200 --> 0:13:25.600 Mine doesn't have a bell or anything like that, but 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:29.640 it's pink with white hearts on it. Oh god, I'll 0:13:29.720 --> 0:13:33.120 change my entire wardrobe for your poodle skirt. I could 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:40.280 probably get it on one though. You're so funny. Grandma, 0:13:40.360 --> 0:13:44.960 I will say, is the best to shop with, because 0:13:45.200 --> 0:13:47.920 I'm very particular when it comes to what I wear, 0:13:48.679 --> 0:13:53.280 and Grandma gets me to try. How would you say, 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:56.240 your grandma? She's trying to say it in a far 0:13:56.360 --> 0:14:01.920 more elegant and refined way. She was maybe eighteen, with 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:07.880 this gorgeous body and stand up boobs, which, as we 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:11.240 will know, last fifteen minutes. We'd go shopping and she'd 0:14:11.280 --> 0:14:15.640 buy size twenty T shirts and I'd say, so, you 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:19.560 can't wear those big old t shirts and jeans. Now, 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:22.000 if you're going to go shopping with me, you're a 0:14:22.080 --> 0:14:26.160 size too, you're gonna get a size one shirt, so 0:14:26.280 --> 0:14:29.440 with skin tight and you're gonna wear those lea talks 0:14:29.520 --> 0:14:32.040 on that stand up rear end and you're going to 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:35.440 get your fifteen minutes out of it, because I promise you, 0:14:35.520 --> 0:14:38.440 as your grandmother, at the end of the fifteen minutes, 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:40.600 you're gonna be saggy like the rest of the world. 0:14:41.200 --> 0:14:45.400 So that was my brilliant advice to my grandchild, and 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:48.960 she wears tight clothes. Now it did work and got 0:14:48.960 --> 0:14:53.560 a fabulous guy, which I credit totally to my advice. 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:56.760 Do you remember my friend and I we were going 0:14:56.760 --> 0:14:59.760 to a Halloween party, as I remember, it was going 0:14:59.800 --> 0:15:01.440 to a chocolate eminem and she was gonna be a 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:06.360 peanut eminem. And you sent me a tight black and 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:11.240 red sweater and leather skirt and said, put this on, 0:15:11.640 --> 0:15:13.840 put your hair in pigtails, and go as a slutty 0:15:13.920 --> 0:15:16.360 school girl because no one's going to talk to you 0:15:16.480 --> 0:15:20.280 as an eminem. You know what, you need this type 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:24.680 of information from grandma. Maybe I couldn't say something like 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:29.080 that if you weren't such a smart capable. Get it, girl. 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:32.320 I didn't even do the slutty school ground. I want 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:34.000 to snow white and called it a day. And you 0:15:34.080 --> 0:15:41.520 remember snow White, it's my favorite character. Oh boy, a 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:45.400 poodle skirt? Did you have a poodle skirt? Reader? Everybody 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:47.880 had a poodle skirt and a mooth toon coat. That 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:51.120 was the fur of the day. I remember a moot called, 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:53.640 oh my god, you thought you were wearing a chinchilla. 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:57.360 It was like fake beaver, fake beaver. It had the 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:00.920 you know, like the striped beaver has shading. But when 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:03.520 you felt it, it's like, what did it feel like, Ellen, 0:16:03.600 --> 0:16:07.520 I don't even know. It felt like sake be my fava. 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:11.360 My aunt had a Matara coat and it was so 0:16:11.400 --> 0:16:14.760 expensive and so gorgeous, and I wore my fake mouton coat, 0:16:14.800 --> 0:16:16.480 and I remember I went out on a day and 0:16:16.560 --> 0:16:19.360 my aunt said, you cannot wear that disgusting coat. It 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:21.840 was nice, don't say it was disgusting. That was my 0:16:21.960 --> 0:16:25.320 favorite coat. And she gave me the Matara coat to wear. 0:16:25.560 --> 0:16:29.240 And her name was Lucille Nyemark and her initials were 0:16:29.400 --> 0:16:31.560 l N. And this guy went to put it on. 0:16:31.640 --> 0:16:34.240 He says, oh, this is not your coat. These initials 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:38.040 are l N. I said, that's my name l N. Oh, 0:16:38.280 --> 0:16:42.120 that's funny. That's a cute story. But I loved my 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:47.040 mouton coat with my four inch platform heeled shoes, and 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:50.440 I thought I was living in and I met my 0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:53.400 husband and one thing he said to me, he says, 0:16:53.440 --> 0:16:57.960 please don't ever wear those platform shoes anymore, because I 0:16:58.040 --> 0:17:00.160 was very short, and if I want to go out 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:03.000 with a tall guy with a platform shoes, But it 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:05.760 didn't matter to him, he said, don't wear loathing. But 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:09.639 that's mutanko Ellen. It was warm though it was. It 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:12.080 was warm that I will give you. It was warm. 0:17:12.160 --> 0:17:14.920 It was warm. But the grandmother, I have to say, 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.440 has a lot of influence on him. And she listens. 0:17:17.880 --> 0:17:21.480 You know, I can see Adrian sort of living her 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:23.800 life a little bit through this great don't you get 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:27.200 that little feeling everything. Yes, she's throwing it all into 0:17:27.200 --> 0:17:31.720 this granddaughter and she's accepting it nicely. Our next one 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:36.360 is part three, Ms Murphy. That's an enticing title. Who 0:17:36.359 --> 0:17:38.680 do you think miss Murphy is? I don't know, probably 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:41.800 a teacher. Oh that's a good storm. Come plays more 0:17:41.840 --> 0:17:44.560 importance in your life than a good teacher or a 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:48.120 bad teacher or a bad teacher. That's true. We had 0:17:48.119 --> 0:17:51.280 a Miss Fitzgerald in our school. I still have nightmares 0:17:51.320 --> 0:17:57.760 about her. Okay, let's see who Ms Murphy is. Did 0:17:57.760 --> 0:18:01.399 your parents encourage you to start your own business. No, 0:18:02.040 --> 0:18:05.760 they encouraged me to be a good person, to do right, 0:18:05.880 --> 0:18:10.480 to be moral, to be educated. But those years, you'd 0:18:10.560 --> 0:18:13.560 go to college and become a school teacher, and you 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:17.959 get married and have two point three kids, and no 0:18:17.960 --> 0:18:22.040 one ever looked past that. But as you know, there's 0:18:22.080 --> 0:18:25.359 a great, big life pass that, and it's a shame 0:18:26.000 --> 0:18:30.840 that those years women were just not groomed for anything 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:36.520 much more than that just being mothers today. Obviously it's 0:18:36.560 --> 0:18:40.080 a very different world and they were good parents, wonderful parents, 0:18:40.280 --> 0:18:45.200 but the times dictated everything. We had such a different 0:18:45.359 --> 0:18:48.520 kind of life as a teenager. We used to go 0:18:48.800 --> 0:18:52.200 to the y on Tuesday night and we all meet 0:18:52.240 --> 0:18:56.040 outside and have a soda. It was truly. You know, 0:18:56.119 --> 0:19:01.240 people say simpler times, but they really are a simpler times. 0:19:01.440 --> 0:19:04.879 And we were basically happy because we've known a better. 0:19:05.160 --> 0:19:07.960 Would you say that your parents influenced you the most 0:19:08.000 --> 0:19:11.440 in your life. They influenced me a lot. On one 0:19:11.640 --> 0:19:15.440 side that you do good in the world. I guess 0:19:15.840 --> 0:19:20.440 one of the biggest influences beside them would be my 0:19:20.640 --> 0:19:25.600 fifth grade teacher, Ms Murphy. I desperately wanted to be 0:19:25.640 --> 0:19:28.360 the smartest kid in the class, which I wasn't. I 0:19:28.440 --> 0:19:30.879 wanted to be the kid that got a hundred on 0:19:31.000 --> 0:19:34.560 every example, which I didn't. And Miss Murphy saw in 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:38.720 me someone that was going to try desperately hard to 0:19:38.800 --> 0:19:42.879 be successful. And she moved me to the first seat 0:19:43.000 --> 0:19:46.040 in the classroom, which is the seat she saved for 0:19:46.080 --> 0:19:49.400 the smartest kid in the class. And she moved out 0:19:49.480 --> 0:19:53.679 some little roly poly, fat, very smart little boy. Really 0:19:53.880 --> 0:19:57.440 was all budget water. That made some little boy, Sydney. 0:19:57.880 --> 0:20:01.240 Imagine all these years later, I remember Sydney was the 0:20:01.320 --> 0:20:05.200 smartest kid in the class. But the truth it made 0:20:05.200 --> 0:20:09.640 me feel great self and self is everything, and then 0:20:09.640 --> 0:20:12.639 I felt I could accomplish everything. And I stayed in 0:20:12.720 --> 0:20:17.119 Miss Murphy's number one seat for the whole semester I 0:20:17.200 --> 0:20:21.960 was in her class. Ms Murphy definitely started me on 0:20:22.080 --> 0:20:25.640 my career. It got me through to where I am today. 0:20:25.720 --> 0:20:30.240 It's a long time, that's incredible, and here I am, 0:20:30.400 --> 0:20:36.959 Miss Murphy. Wherever you are I love you, ellenor hit 0:20:37.040 --> 0:20:39.600 it on the head Miss Murphy. I knew it. I 0:20:39.680 --> 0:20:42.040 knew it well. First of all, there was always a 0:20:42.080 --> 0:20:45.560 Miss Murphy in every school, so I figured. But obviously 0:20:45.640 --> 0:20:49.159 this was a very positive reinforcement of what she was 0:20:49.240 --> 0:20:51.880 and who she was. And this teacher saw it well, 0:20:51.960 --> 0:20:54.640 I have to tell you in my year, it's growing up. 0:20:54.800 --> 0:20:58.440 Whatever the teacher said that was, Laura. Do you remember 0:20:58.480 --> 0:21:00.880 when you were in school and the principle came into 0:21:00.920 --> 0:21:04.440 your classroom. The entire class had to stand up exactly 0:21:04.600 --> 0:21:07.960 and stay hello to the principal and you know, good 0:21:07.960 --> 0:21:11.199 morning Mr Weinberger, and he would go, good morning boys 0:21:11.200 --> 0:21:15.560 and girls. Teachers today, unfortunately, I feel don't have the 0:21:15.640 --> 0:21:18.879 respect for what they do. I agree completely. But do 0:21:18.960 --> 0:21:22.080 you see when you listen to something like Adrian talking 0:21:22.119 --> 0:21:26.199 about this teacher all these years later, This was the 0:21:26.359 --> 0:21:31.200 big influence. This pushed her in the right direction. This 0:21:31.240 --> 0:21:34.080 woman said to her, you can do it, you can 0:21:34.119 --> 0:21:36.840 sit in the front row. Ellen, did you have a 0:21:36.920 --> 0:21:40.120 favorite teacher when you were growing up? Oh? I definitely did. 0:21:40.359 --> 0:21:43.399 Miss Voids my kindergarten teacher, and I remember that she 0:21:43.480 --> 0:21:45.760 came to our house and had lunch with my mother. 0:21:46.040 --> 0:21:48.520 It was like a visit from the Queen. I had 0:21:48.560 --> 0:21:51.600 one to Miss Lundon I left. When I think about it, 0:21:51.840 --> 0:21:55.600 she was a short, chubby teacher and that was me. 0:21:56.119 --> 0:21:59.640 So I related to Miss Lundin. She was a good 0:21:59.680 --> 0:22:01.800 teacher it, but there was something that pulled me to 0:22:02.560 --> 0:22:05.520 you know. I taught for many years in Bedford Stuyvesant 0:22:05.520 --> 0:22:08.200 in a school where the children were so so poor, 0:22:08.760 --> 0:22:10.840 and I used to bring a big thing of orange 0:22:10.880 --> 0:22:15.120 juice and little breakfast cakes and there was the first 0:22:15.240 --> 0:22:17.800 and probably the only meal that those kids would get 0:22:17.920 --> 0:22:20.800 other than the school lunch, and I didn't want them 0:22:20.840 --> 0:22:25.160 to start their day with nothing. Years and years later 0:22:25.320 --> 0:22:28.280 I heard from a young man who became an artist 0:22:28.520 --> 0:22:30.840 and he said to me, I never forgot that. You 0:22:31.000 --> 0:22:33.600 never let us start the day on an empty stomach. 0:22:33.800 --> 0:22:36.920 That was nice sailing. And to this day I always 0:22:36.960 --> 0:22:40.320 have breakfast and I think of you, and that was 0:22:40.359 --> 0:22:43.359 a very very special thing. The teacher can be a 0:22:43.400 --> 0:22:50.399 big influence, absolutely Part four the Right Reasons. For me, 0:22:50.440 --> 0:22:53.800 it was really fun growing up. People knew who my 0:22:53.840 --> 0:22:57.280 grandma was, so it was cool because if she was 0:22:57.320 --> 0:23:00.520 on TV, that's my grandma. At some point, as you 0:23:00.560 --> 0:23:05.000 get older. When people realize who someone in your family is, 0:23:05.119 --> 0:23:07.879 they tend to treat you differently or they want to 0:23:07.920 --> 0:23:12.480 be in your life for the wrong reasons. And I 0:23:12.480 --> 0:23:17.400 had been through that with friendships, with relationships and it 0:23:17.480 --> 0:23:20.680 wasn't real. But when I met Scott, I just made 0:23:20.840 --> 0:23:24.800 the conscious decision that I wanted to know that this 0:23:24.880 --> 0:23:28.440 person was coming into my life for the right reasons. 0:23:28.920 --> 0:23:34.239 So Scott literally met grandma. When he met Grandma, and 0:23:34.280 --> 0:23:37.840 he stayed with you, and you know what he loves 0:23:37.880 --> 0:23:42.679 tight clothes to your Grandma. Were you surprised when I 0:23:42.720 --> 0:23:48.280 decided to start my business, Not one, I owed. I 0:23:48.400 --> 0:23:52.560 was so nervous to see what your reaction would be 0:23:52.560 --> 0:23:56.600 because of your success. So I remember being very very 0:23:56.640 --> 0:24:00.960 nervous to tell you. You know, Ashley, you moved at 0:24:00.960 --> 0:24:04.360 a very young age to California to be an actress. 0:24:05.280 --> 0:24:09.560 Then she stayed out there and on her own started 0:24:09.600 --> 0:24:13.679 this business. For anyone listening that might want why you 0:24:13.720 --> 0:24:17.800 didn't go into my business as it is, she wanted 0:24:17.880 --> 0:24:22.080 to do it her way, and that's what I respect 0:24:22.200 --> 0:24:25.840 most about Ashley. I was in a different place in 0:24:25.960 --> 0:24:28.720 my life, I think, and I had to figure out 0:24:28.800 --> 0:24:31.399 who I was. I wasn't ready then, you know, And 0:24:31.440 --> 0:24:33.560 now we're going to do a bunch of new things together. 0:24:33.720 --> 0:24:35.760 We're so great together, so I feel like it's going 0:24:35.800 --> 0:24:37.960 to be a lot of fun. You know what, Ashley. 0:24:38.200 --> 0:24:42.840 I think it's an amazing thing when a grandmother and 0:24:43.200 --> 0:24:48.679