Speaker 1: It's been too long that we've been quiet, so we're back.
Speaker 1: We're never quiet, reader, it's been too long since we're
Speaker 1: not recording, but we're never quiet, Okay, And this should
Speaker 1: be a very exciting opening, and it's going to be
Speaker 1: a great season flour Us. It was an exciting season
Speaker 1: last season and the fact that we were nominated for
Speaker 1: an Ambi Award was really something very special. And when
Speaker 1: they heard this season, it's going to be even better
Speaker 1: than last Ellen. Who's going to be our guest today? Well, today,
Speaker 1: Adrian R. Peal and her Land daughter Ashley are going
Speaker 1: to be the guests. Oh. She's been in cosmetics from
Speaker 1: the time I was a young person. She's actually the
Speaker 1: first woman that started a true cosmetic company, the longest
Speaker 1: running beauty line here at HS and best selling author Adrian.
Speaker 1: We're here to party, happy anniversary. I am so proud
Speaker 1: to be at HS and for all those years I
Speaker 1: remember my auntsiwers to use Adrian a pal and I
Speaker 1: used to borrow it. I'm really excited to see this side,
Speaker 1: her family side. I'm sure it wasn't that easy going
Speaker 1: starting as a woman, and I'd like to hear how
Speaker 1: she did it. She really was an innovator in women executive.
Speaker 1: I'd love to see how her grandchild is following. Enough,
Speaker 1: what steps? Okay, let's hear it. I'm anxious. Let's go, Ashley.
Speaker 1: Why is your lighting so good? And no, kidd you
Speaker 1: look beautiful. I don't have my ring light on? Are
Speaker 1: you crazy? Wait? Look at this? Where'd you go? I'm
Speaker 1: coming back. You don't need the damn ring light. I
Speaker 1: do much better now, right with the light look the
Speaker 1: same to me. Gorgeous. Well, it's because I'm wearing you
Speaker 1: right now. Yeah, that's what's doing. And maybe four grandma's
Speaker 1: ago had good skin and poland all right, well thanks,
Speaker 1: great great great great grandmother, Grandma? Are you nervous? Am
Speaker 1: I nervous? Yeah? Are you kidding? Okay? Ready ready. Adriana
Speaker 1: Pella is my grandma. She's one of my best friends,
Speaker 1: my idol. Who is she? She taught me how to
Speaker 1: put on makeup when I was really young, and she's
Speaker 1: been teaching everyone else since way before me how to
Speaker 1: put makeup on. So funny enough, I actually, Grandma, I
Speaker 1: googled you yesterday. Lots of stuff to google. Right, it
Speaker 1: was good because I've been around four thousand years a
Speaker 1: lot of stuff to google. I loved it, even with
Speaker 1: your older videos. I'm still learning how to do makeup
Speaker 1: with that too. She's my favorite person in the entire
Speaker 1: world and two other planets, and that includes her mother,
Speaker 1: who's my second favorite, and rulling it take second place there.
Speaker 1: She she got it since the day as she was born.
Speaker 1: That was it. My grandson, he's third favorite because he's
Speaker 1: a boy and doesn't call me on the dime. If
Speaker 1: he did, he could move up. He also does not
Speaker 1: know how to clean a room. He is. Are we
Speaker 1: going to say that on radio? I mean, I never
Speaker 1: get a wife he is. He's slobed, but we love him.
Speaker 1: We keep him. This young woman popped out similar to me.
Speaker 1: She said to me immediately after being born, Grandma, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be like you and we're going to have the
Speaker 1: greatest relationship in the world. She was maybe five minutes
Speaker 1: old when she said that, And it's true. It has
Speaker 1: been forever. We're just simpatica. Do you remember freezing bananas
Speaker 1: and dipping them in chocolate? Grandma? Do I remember we
Speaker 1: had to redo the kitchen there were chocolate everywhere. I'm
Speaker 1: not too good at that kind of stuff. I tried hard. Wait,
Speaker 1: what are you not good? I'm confused stuff in the kitchen.
Speaker 1: But I wanted to impress you, so I coated the bananas,
Speaker 1: and I coated the stove and the refrigerator and the ceiling.
Speaker 1: That was so fun. But yeah, going to your office,
Speaker 1: I remember it was always like a devil Wares product thing,
Speaker 1: and Grandma was Miranda Priestley, but with less stress. I
Speaker 1: think no one was like passing out. A few of
Speaker 1: them did. When I started getting bullied in school. Grandma
Speaker 1: was really great with that, do you remember. And you
Speaker 1: were like, just be nice, and it was sort of
Speaker 1: in essence, killed them with kindness, kind of be completely
Speaker 1: overly sweet back to them, and you'll go through it.
Speaker 1: You'll move on from them, but they'll be them forever.
Speaker 1: I remember I was like, yeah, they have to go
Speaker 1: through life as themselves and that's got to be tough. Actually,
Speaker 1: as I said to you then, and I said, you know,
Speaker 1: you were far more beautiful than any of them. You
Speaker 1: were false smarter, you had a far better understanding of
Speaker 1: life at twelve years old, and they were going nowhere
Speaker 1: and you were going to run the world. I'm totally correct.
Speaker 1: I'm almost their grandma. You know, she's not what I
Speaker 1: expected to hear. Somebody in cosmetics, you think is going
Speaker 1: to be very feminine and very soft. And but she's
Speaker 1: a strong, determined woman. She's a strong woman because she's
Speaker 1: got a big business to run. No, that's true. You
Speaker 1: don't get they have being a Namby Pamby. I just
Speaker 1: love the love. You can hear the love in every
Speaker 1: word they say to each other. You know it's not
Speaker 1: only love, Ellen, it's something a little more deeper, like
Speaker 1: admiration and respect. Yes, it's wonderful. It made me feel
Speaker 1: very good to listen to them. Okay, partline, here we go.
Speaker 1: You can look up when you're older. I wonder what
Speaker 1: that means. We're identical. I'm very happy compared to Grandma
Speaker 1: because we are identical. I see so much of myself
Speaker 1: and you, And I mean in what way? I am
Speaker 1: a very hard worker. I get up at dawn and
Speaker 1: I work all day, and I don't look at a
Speaker 1: clock when I'm finished. I'm finished. For me, it came
Speaker 1: from being poor as a kid. I grew up in
Speaker 1: New Jersey, where just about everybody had two or three
Speaker 1: jobs and kids worked. From thirteen fourteen fifteen Ashley was
Speaker 1: never poor as a kid, but she absolutely has the
Speaker 1: same ethic. I was eighteen when I went into business.
Speaker 1: I looked up when I was fifty five and had
Speaker 1: enough money to quit, but I haven't looked up in between.
Speaker 1: She's just like me. She's success oriented and will accept
Speaker 1: nothing else, so she works real hard. Yeah. I mean,
Speaker 1: I've heard it my entire life. You can look up
Speaker 1: and you're older. I say that to myself all of
Speaker 1: the time. I say that when I wake up at
Speaker 1: five am. I say that to Scott, my fiance. It
Speaker 1: rubbed off on Ashley very early. Remember when you worked
Speaker 1: in the chocolate shop and the pizza polopy. I did
Speaker 1: that after school at fifteen, and no one told her
Speaker 1: she had to work at that age. I had to
Speaker 1: do it and did it. I get less credit, and Ashley,
Speaker 1: who didn't have to do it and did it. You
Speaker 1: deserve all the credit, Grandma. Well, except I don't have
Speaker 1: one stretch mark from you, not one, so I can't
Speaker 1: get all the credit. I mean all the credit for
Speaker 1: your success. That's what I mean. I'm a food and
Speaker 1: product photographer and videographer, so I work with a lot
Speaker 1: of chocolate shops or restaurants or food bloggers, and I
Speaker 1: run their social media as well. And you played the
Speaker 1: princess on a children's television show you paid a pirate.
Speaker 1: Do you remember my very first l a audition? I
Speaker 1: think it was for Tattoo Nightmares, of course I remember,
Speaker 1: and I got the part and I had to like
Speaker 1: vomit on camera. I remember calling GRAHDM and I was like,
Speaker 1: how can I be glamorous while I'm vomiting on camera,
Speaker 1: of which my answer was smile, honey. They'll never get it,
Speaker 1: They'll never know. Wait. Did you always know that you
Speaker 1: wanted to start your own business without your dream as
Speaker 1: a kid. I didn't know enough to know. But when
Speaker 1: I got out of high school, there was a six
Speaker 1: month period of time before I was going to go
Speaker 1: to school, and I was going to get a job
Speaker 1: as a receptionist. Why a reception This is the only
Speaker 1: thing I could do? I was, what else was I
Speaker 1: capable of doing? Well? I started going to department stoics,
Speaker 1: Macy's Lord and Taylor Sex Bloomings. I'd walk in. I
Speaker 1: didn't we very much makeup, and I said, how do
Speaker 1: I do my makeup? What should I do with my eyes?
Speaker 1: It's this eye shadow good. I don't know how to
Speaker 1: do my lips, and no one ever really the answer
Speaker 1: me and I felt if there were professional estheticians that
Speaker 1: really went to school for skin can they could tell
Speaker 1: me what to do, I'd have something special. As you know,
Speaker 1: I went into business. By my twenty one birthday. I
Speaker 1: was in all those stores with a small skin salon,
Speaker 1: and you and I discussed this a great less. I
Speaker 1: am the original influencer. I started makeovers and department stores.
Speaker 1: I was the first person to do makeovers on television.
Speaker 1: Is going to show us a few little Oprah shows
Speaker 1: on Regis, on every major show you could think of
Speaker 1: those years when nobody did makeups on television. Did I
Speaker 1: always want to go into business? No? I think in
Speaker 1: that way, I'm the accidental success. There was a need.
Speaker 1: I saw it as a kid because I had that
Speaker 1: need too, and I fulfilled it and that was the
Speaker 1: beginning of my success. I love the way you worded
Speaker 1: that accidental success. I didn't know how to do anything.
Speaker 1: An accidental success is probably they have something. I say,
Speaker 1: is what makes a person successful? That inner drive, and
Speaker 1: these two women have it and they share it. Read it.
Speaker 1: Don't you see things? With your granddaughter that you see
Speaker 1: in yourself. Yes, and no, Rachel is much more laid
Speaker 1: back than I am. I mean she's not. It's aggressive.
Speaker 1: You know I'm very short, really, yeah, you didn't know that.
Speaker 1: Four for ten it's not to notice. And now I
Speaker 1: must be less because my slacks that I put on
Speaker 1: every day, I'm tripping over. So I must have drunk
Speaker 1: along the way. But what I'm saying is a short
Speaker 1: person has to be aggressive and nobody notices you basically,
Speaker 1: and that's the drive you have. Nobody gave it to me.
Speaker 1: I had to have it. And I see these two women,
Speaker 1: that's what they have. And I admire ad and she
Speaker 1: doesn't hide that she grew up poor and how to work.
Speaker 1: You know, today it's like people look down on poor people. Man,
Speaker 1: In those years, everybody worked. Nobody was born in success
Speaker 1: to become a success, and that's what they have between them.
Speaker 1: You could look up when you're older. That's a philosophy.
Speaker 1: Work when you can, and when you reach your goal,
Speaker 1: then you could look up. You know, my grandchildren they're
Speaker 1: doing traveling. Now, I said, why are you doing so
Speaker 1: much traveling? Put your energy in becoming what you want
Speaker 1: to be. In life, and I said, when you get
Speaker 1: older in your fifties, you'll have time to travel. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she gives the advice I do. But the young people
Speaker 1: don't think like that today. I think they live more
Speaker 1: for the moment because nobody knows what the future is. Well,
Speaker 1: that's it. I was just gonna say that nobody knows
Speaker 1: what the future is. Gonna hold, Okay, Rida, it's time
Speaker 1: for a break. You know, two old ladies have to
Speaker 1: use the bathroom much more freequently when you young folks.
Speaker 1: So it all depends. That's what we're doing. We didn't
Speaker 1: depends and we'll be back. Okay, guys, we're back. We're
Speaker 1: ready to go for another couple of hours. Two skin
Speaker 1: tight clothes, Oh my goodness, not only skin tight, bare breasted.
Speaker 1: Did you see the oscars? If the women had their
Speaker 1: boobs hagging out, that's a new thing. Not only skin tight,
Speaker 1: pressed exposial clothes. If you got him flunt, I'm right
Speaker 1: now that I feel like it's probably close to what
Speaker 1: I wear now. But what did you wear when you
Speaker 1: were a teenager? You know my style. I like to
Speaker 1: dress retro, very very retro. I didn't have much clothes.
Speaker 1: We'll start there. But my favorite article of clothing was
Speaker 1: a little skirt. It was a gray felt skirt with
Speaker 1: a poodle on the pocket with a bell on its tail.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Now you know how long that was.
Speaker 1: And I'm still talking about the bell on the tail
Speaker 1: of the poodle skirt. I love that outfit. All the
Speaker 1: retro stuff you weigh now is very familiar to me.
Speaker 1: I have a poodle skirt. I'm bringing it next week.
Speaker 1: Mine doesn't have a bell or anything like that, but
Speaker 1: it's pink with white hearts on it. Oh god, I'll
Speaker 1: change my entire wardrobe for your poodle skirt. I could
Speaker 1: probably get it on one though. You're so funny. Grandma,
Speaker 1: I will say, is the best to shop with, because
Speaker 1: I'm very particular when it comes to what I wear,
Speaker 1: and Grandma gets me to try. How would you say,
Speaker 1: your grandma? She's trying to say it in a far
Speaker 1: more elegant and refined way. She was maybe eighteen, with
Speaker 1: this gorgeous body and stand up boobs, which, as we
Speaker 1: will know, last fifteen minutes. We'd go shopping and she'd
Speaker 1: buy size twenty T shirts and I'd say, so, you
Speaker 1: can't wear those big old t shirts and jeans. Now,
Speaker 1: if you're going to go shopping with me, you're a
Speaker 1: size too, you're gonna get a size one shirt, so
Speaker 1: with skin tight and you're gonna wear those lea talks
Speaker 1: on that stand up rear end and you're going to
Speaker 1: get your fifteen minutes out of it, because I promise you,
Speaker 1: as your grandmother, at the end of the fifteen minutes,
Speaker 1: you're gonna be saggy like the rest of the world.
Speaker 1: So that was my brilliant advice to my grandchild, and
Speaker 1: she wears tight clothes. Now it did work and got
Speaker 1: a fabulous guy, which I credit totally to my advice.
Speaker 1: Do you remember my friend and I we were going
Speaker 1: to a Halloween party, as I remember, it was going
Speaker 1: to a chocolate eminem and she was gonna be a
Speaker 1: peanut eminem. And you sent me a tight black and
Speaker 1: red sweater and leather skirt and said, put this on,
Speaker 1: put your hair in pigtails, and go as a slutty
Speaker 1: school girl because no one's going to talk to you
Speaker 1: as an eminem. You know what, you need this type
Speaker 1: of information from grandma. Maybe I couldn't say something like
Speaker 1: that if you weren't such a smart capable. Get it, girl.
Speaker 1: I didn't even do the slutty school ground. I want
Speaker 1: to snow white and called it a day. And you
Speaker 1: remember snow White, it's my favorite character. Oh boy, a
Speaker 1: poodle skirt? Did you have a poodle skirt? Reader? Everybody
Speaker 1: had a poodle skirt and a mooth toon coat. That
Speaker 1: was the fur of the day. I remember a moot called,
Speaker 1: oh my god, you thought you were wearing a chinchilla.
Speaker 1: It was like fake beaver, fake beaver. It had the
Speaker 1: you know, like the striped beaver has shading. But when
Speaker 1: you felt it, it's like, what did it feel like, Ellen,
Speaker 1: I don't even know. It felt like sake be my fava.
Speaker 1: My aunt had a Matara coat and it was so
Speaker 1: expensive and so gorgeous, and I wore my fake mouton coat,
Speaker 1: and I remember I went out on a day and
Speaker 1: my aunt said, you cannot wear that disgusting coat. It
Speaker 1: was nice, don't say it was disgusting. That was my
Speaker 1: favorite coat. And she gave me the Matara coat to wear.
Speaker 1: And her name was Lucille Nyemark and her initials were
Speaker 1: l N. And this guy went to put it on.
Speaker 1: He says, oh, this is not your coat. These initials
Speaker 1: are l N. I said, that's my name l N. Oh,
Speaker 1: that's funny. That's a cute story. But I loved my
Speaker 1: mouton coat with my four inch platform heeled shoes, and
Speaker 1: I thought I was living in and I met my
Speaker 1: husband and one thing he said to me, he says,
Speaker 1: please don't ever wear those platform shoes anymore, because I
Speaker 1: was very short, and if I want to go out
Speaker 1: with a tall guy with a platform shoes, But it
Speaker 1: didn't matter to him, he said, don't wear loathing. But
Speaker 1: that's mutanko Ellen. It was warm though it was. It
Speaker 1: was warm that I will give you. It was warm.
Speaker 1: It was warm. But the grandmother, I have to say,
Speaker 1: has a lot of influence on him. And she listens.
Speaker 1: You know, I can see Adrian sort of living her
Speaker 1: life a little bit through this great don't you get
Speaker 1: that little feeling everything. Yes, she's throwing it all into
Speaker 1: this granddaughter and she's accepting it nicely. Our next one
Speaker 1: is part three, Ms Murphy. That's an enticing title. Who
Speaker 1: do you think miss Murphy is? I don't know, probably
Speaker 1: a teacher. Oh that's a good storm. Come plays more
Speaker 1: importance in your life than a good teacher or a
Speaker 1: bad teacher or a bad teacher. That's true. We had
Speaker 1: a Miss Fitzgerald in our school. I still have nightmares
Speaker 1: about her. Okay, let's see who Ms Murphy is. Did
Speaker 1: your parents encourage you to start your own business. No,
Speaker 1: they encouraged me to be a good person, to do right,
Speaker 1: to be moral, to be educated. But those years, you'd
Speaker 1: go to college and become a school teacher, and you
Speaker 1: get married and have two point three kids, and no
Speaker 1: one ever looked past that. But as you know, there's
Speaker 1: a great, big life pass that, and it's a shame
Speaker 1: that those years women were just not groomed for anything
Speaker 1: much more than that just being mothers today. Obviously it's
Speaker 1: a very different world and they were good parents, wonderful parents,
Speaker 1: but the times dictated everything. We had such a different
Speaker 1: kind of life as a teenager. We used to go
Speaker 1: to the y on Tuesday night and we all meet
Speaker 1: outside and have a soda. It was truly. You know,
Speaker 1: people say simpler times, but they really are a simpler times.
Speaker 1: And we were basically happy because we've known a better.
Speaker 1: Would you say that your parents influenced you the most
Speaker 1: in your life. They influenced me a lot. On one
Speaker 1: side that you do good in the world. I guess
Speaker 1: one of the biggest influences beside them would be my
Speaker 1: fifth grade teacher, Ms Murphy. I desperately wanted to be
Speaker 1: the smartest kid in the class, which I wasn't. I
Speaker 1: wanted to be the kid that got a hundred on
Speaker 1: every example, which I didn't. And Miss Murphy saw in
Speaker 1: me someone that was going to try desperately hard to
Speaker 1: be successful. And she moved me to the first seat
Speaker 1: in the classroom, which is the seat she saved for
Speaker 1: the smartest kid in the class. And she moved out
Speaker 1: some little roly poly, fat, very smart little boy. Really
Speaker 1: was all budget water. That made some little boy, Sydney.
Speaker 1: Imagine all these years later, I remember Sydney was the
Speaker 1: smartest kid in the class. But the truth it made
Speaker 1: me feel great self and self is everything, and then
Speaker 1: I felt I could accomplish everything. And I stayed in
Speaker 1: Miss Murphy's number one seat for the whole semester I
Speaker 1: was in her class. Ms Murphy definitely started me on
Speaker 1: my career. It got me through to where I am today.
Speaker 1: It's a long time, that's incredible, and here I am,
Speaker 1: Miss Murphy. Wherever you are I love you, ellenor hit
Speaker 1: it on the head Miss Murphy. I knew it. I
Speaker 1: knew it well. First of all, there was always a
Speaker 1: Miss Murphy in every school, so I figured. But obviously
Speaker 1: this was a very positive reinforcement of what she was
Speaker 1: and who she was. And this teacher saw it well,
Speaker 1: I have to tell you in my year, it's growing up.
Speaker 1: Whatever the teacher said that was, Laura. Do you remember
Speaker 1: when you were in school and the principle came into
Speaker 1: your classroom. The entire class had to stand up exactly
Speaker 1: and stay hello to the principal and you know, good
Speaker 1: morning Mr Weinberger, and he would go, good morning boys
Speaker 1: and girls. Teachers today, unfortunately, I feel don't have the
Speaker 1: respect for what they do. I agree completely. But do
Speaker 1: you see when you listen to something like Adrian talking
Speaker 1: about this teacher all these years later, This was the
Speaker 1: big influence. This pushed her in the right direction. This
Speaker 1: woman said to her, you can do it, you can
Speaker 1: sit in the front row. Ellen, did you have a
Speaker 1: favorite teacher when you were growing up? Oh? I definitely did.
Speaker 1: Miss Voids my kindergarten teacher, and I remember that she
Speaker 1: came to our house and had lunch with my mother.
Speaker 1: It was like a visit from the Queen. I had
Speaker 1: one to Miss Lundon I left. When I think about it,
Speaker 1: she was a short, chubby teacher and that was me.
Speaker 1: So I related to Miss Lundin. She was a good
Speaker 1: teacher it, but there was something that pulled me to
Speaker 1: you know. I taught for many years in Bedford Stuyvesant
Speaker 1: in a school where the children were so so poor,
Speaker 1: and I used to bring a big thing of orange
Speaker 1: juice and little breakfast cakes and there was the first
Speaker 1: and probably the only meal that those kids would get
Speaker 1: other than the school lunch, and I didn't want them
Speaker 1: to start their day with nothing. Years and years later
Speaker 1: I heard from a young man who became an artist
Speaker 1: and he said to me, I never forgot that. You
Speaker 1: never let us start the day on an empty stomach.
Speaker 1: That was nice sailing. And to this day I always
Speaker 1: have breakfast and I think of you, and that was
Speaker 1: a very very special thing. The teacher can be a
Speaker 1: big influence, absolutely Part four the Right Reasons. For me,
Speaker 1: it was really fun growing up. People knew who my
Speaker 1: grandma was, so it was cool because if she was
Speaker 1: on TV, that's my grandma. At some point, as you
Speaker 1: get older. When people realize who someone in your family is,
Speaker 1: they tend to treat you differently or they want to
Speaker 1: be in your life for the wrong reasons. And I
Speaker 1: had been through that with friendships, with relationships and it
Speaker 1: wasn't real. But when I met Scott, I just made
Speaker 1: the conscious decision that I wanted to know that this
Speaker 1: person was coming into my life for the right reasons.
Speaker 1: So Scott literally met grandma. When he met Grandma, and
Speaker 1: he stayed with you, and you know what he loves
Speaker 1: tight clothes to your Grandma. Were you surprised when I
Speaker 1: decided to start my business, Not one, I owed. I
Speaker 1: was so nervous to see what your reaction would be
Speaker 1: because of your success. So I remember being very very
Speaker 1: nervous to tell you. You know, Ashley, you moved at
Speaker 1: a very young age to California to be an actress.
Speaker 1: Then she stayed out there and on her own started
Speaker 1: this business. For anyone listening that might want why you
Speaker 1: didn't go into my business as it is, she wanted
Speaker 1: to do it her way, and that's what I respect
Speaker 1: most about Ashley. I was in a different place in
Speaker 1: my life, I think, and I had to figure out
Speaker 1: who I was. I wasn't ready then, you know, And
Speaker 1: now we're going to do a bunch of new things together.
Speaker 1: We're so great together, so I feel like it's going
Speaker 1: to be a lot of fun. You know what, Ashley.
Speaker 1: I think it's an amazing thing when a grandmother and
Speaker 1: granddaughter should have such respect. It's a good word respect.
Speaker 1: I think it's from the godfathers, such respect for one
Speaker 1: another that I'd be delighted to do anything in the
Speaker 1: world with you. Of course, my first preference would be
Speaker 1: going back to all the grandma's and all this conversation
Speaker 1: about success in life and self. I'd love you to
Speaker 1: have a baby. Oh gosh, not yet, isn't that back
Speaker 1: to the days of the caves. Well, I'm very happy
Speaker 1: to hear Adan say I would have loved her to
Speaker 1: come into my business, but she's so proud that she
Speaker 1: did something on her own, and for that I really
Speaker 1: admire Adan. And she already started with having a baby,
Speaker 1: because when push comes to Shavrina, you can have a
Speaker 1: big business, you can have whatever, but you want your
Speaker 1: children to have children. You want those babies. It's just
Speaker 1: human nature. Now, that's the universal thing between grandmothers. But
Speaker 1: they seem to be very similar. They both have this
Speaker 1: inner drive and they know what they want to do
Speaker 1: and they respect each other for it. Every time you
Speaker 1: say that, I want to sing it. What's the song?
Speaker 1: R S b C. This is song we spect It's
Speaker 1: Aretha Franklin. Oh my god? Right, okay, esp ec ta
Speaker 1: right right, that's it. Respect. With respect comes love and admiration.
Speaker 1: That's right. Really, you could take the dog out for
Speaker 1: a quick walk now, and I'll feed my husband. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's it's important. That's me walking the door. Ellen, So
Speaker 1: feed Peter. Six of one half. It doesn't have another reader.
Speaker 1: We're back. We're back, The dog is sleeping, Peter is sleeping,
Speaker 1: and we're awake. Ready to go on Part five. The
Speaker 1: most beautiful man across the restaurant. This has to be
Speaker 1: either Adrian's husband or the granddaughter's future, what do you think,
Speaker 1: or some guy that's wearing makeup that that she gets
Speaker 1: inspired from that. Maybe listen, she could make a men's
Speaker 1: line of cosmetics. I don't know, maybe she does. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's hear it. What was dating like for you before
Speaker 1: you met Poppy Dreadful? I hated everybody. You hated everybody everybody.
Speaker 1: I had a boyfriend who I didn't like that I
Speaker 1: had for a year, And if he asked me why,
Speaker 1: I'd say he was there. He was there when I
Speaker 1: met your grandfather. Now, where did I meet him? In?
Speaker 1: How it's you were on a date with another Were
Speaker 1: you on a date with his boyfriend? Now? I was
Speaker 1: on a date with a guy I met that was like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, ten fifteen years older than me, ridiculous.
Speaker 1: We were having dinner and he was too old for
Speaker 1: me to start with, and everything he was talking about
Speaker 1: I wasn't interested in including him. And I didn't drink anything,
Speaker 1: and he ordered me, he said, tasted a black Russian.
Speaker 1: It's Jevin, it's vodka. I think it's if I haven't
Speaker 1: had it since, And it was delicious, but a black
Speaker 1: Russian for a little girl who didn't drink. And I
Speaker 1: looked at the bar directly across, and there was the
Speaker 1: most beautiful, handsome, magnificent man I ever saw him my
Speaker 1: whole life. And since I had this pretty big drink,
Speaker 1: I looked over and very loudly said, that's the handsomest
Speaker 1: man I ever saw in my life. And he was
Speaker 1: standing at the bar with his father, your great grandfather,
Speaker 1: who was a Scotch distributor in New York. That's why
Speaker 1: they were standing at the bar. And I said it
Speaker 1: so loud. He turned around and laughed and said thank you.
Speaker 1: And that was the end of that. My date was
Speaker 1: sitting there. He went to the men's room ten minutes later,
Speaker 1: and this magnificent man came over and asked me for
Speaker 1: my phone number, and I give him my phone number.
Speaker 1: I'm in ecstasy and I go home and I tell
Speaker 1: my mother I met the man of my dreams. Ah,
Speaker 1: And you know, your grandfather was the handsomest guy that
Speaker 1: That wasn't me. He was movie star handsome. He was
Speaker 1: a very good looking man. He was six ft two,
Speaker 1: beautiful man. Anyway, my mother said, you were out with
Speaker 1: one gentleman and you gave your phone number to another gentleman.
Speaker 1: He thinks you're a trap. You cannot meet someone like that,
Speaker 1: and you had a drink on top of it. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: those were the times. And the next day he called
Speaker 1: and my mother answers the phone and says she's eating
Speaker 1: her chicken, because Mom, you told him I'm meeting my chicken.
Speaker 1: And says call back and hangs up. She says, you
Speaker 1: cannot go out with him, You cannot go out with him. Well,
Speaker 1: he called back, and I sat by that phone until
Speaker 1: I answered the phone, and he said, would you like
Speaker 1: to go to the museum tomorrow and see the oh
Speaker 1: Dan exhibit. So when we got married six months later,
Speaker 1: I don't know if my mother was grateful and happy
Speaker 1: or not. I'm not so sure. But my whole next
Speaker 1: fifty years with that man, he was always the most
Speaker 1: beautiful man. From of course the room of the restaurant,
Speaker 1: I hope you would life goes as well. They're gonna
Speaker 1: make me cry. Before I met Scott, do you remember
Speaker 1: helping me text guys? Absolutely? Do you remember like writing
Speaker 1: them out with me? Like literally a guy would write
Speaker 1: hey with two wise and we would try to decipher
Speaker 1: what that meant and how to respond or could he
Speaker 1: just not spell right. We didn't know whether it was
Speaker 1: like ignorance, or if they were trying to be cool,
Speaker 1: or if there was like a broken keyboard or something.
Speaker 1: We did analyze a lot of those guys until Scott
Speaker 1: came along. Right, There was no analyzing with Scott. We
Speaker 1: just had grabbed him. Well, I met Scott and I
Speaker 1: called mom, I called dad, I called you on the
Speaker 1: way to San Diego with my friend in the car,
Speaker 1: saying I met the man I'm gonna marry. I met
Speaker 1: him in a coffee shop two blocks away from my house,
Speaker 1: and ten days later we went on our first date.
Speaker 1: And let me tell you, there are very few Scots around.
Speaker 1: And you know it, I'm not telling you something you
Speaker 1: don't know. Well, remember the Laska I dated before. We
Speaker 1: liked him so much, the lawyer. But your mother loves Scott,
Speaker 1: your father loves Scott. I love Scott, and we're happy
Speaker 1: you love Scott too. Yeah, you know what, he reminds
Speaker 1: me of Poppy in a lot of ways, which ways.
Speaker 1: Maybe just because he's so handsome. I'm so damn superficial.
Speaker 1: It's sad. Well they're both six too. Yeah, he's calm,
Speaker 1: he's smart, and since you're so much like me, he
Speaker 1: can take you like your grandfather could take me. How
Speaker 1: many extra points does he get for that? I know
Speaker 1: that's like a million, because we're both such a pain
Speaker 1: in the ass. Yeah, where Scott, he's not coming, He's coming, Scott, seriously,
Speaker 1: come down, Grandma said, But you know it's grandma now.
Speaker 1: He's like, oh, I'm coming now, it's just Grandma Oh,
Speaker 1: what two beautiful love stories. I love that they call
Speaker 1: him Poppy. That's what my kids call Peter. Yeah, mine
Speaker 1: called him Papa, But okay, Poppy is a cuter. But
Speaker 1: you know she really she has everything with this grandmother
Speaker 1: to the notes that she gets from boyfriends. What girls
Speaker 1: did they do that? Oh, they must have been two
Speaker 1: beautiful men, which she said is a little superficial. But look,
Speaker 1: they saw other things, that's for sure. Cause beautiful men
Speaker 1: are not easy to marry because most men love themselves
Speaker 1: when they're not beautiful. So can you imagine when they
Speaker 1: are beautiful? So you see how lucky our husband's were
Speaker 1: that they got the beautiful one. That's right. Somebody said
Speaker 1: to me, I never don't want to marry a man
Speaker 1: who's more beautiful than I am. The relationship is really
Speaker 1: a very interesting it's like a holemock movie. Yeah, like
Speaker 1: a home that's true. But poor girl becomes a pig,
Speaker 1: that's true. I mean, you know, really when you think
Speaker 1: about it. Here she's out on a date with a
Speaker 1: guy and she sees another guy standing at the bar,
Speaker 1: and she goes over and she talks to him. It's
Speaker 1: a hormark man. Did you just see the Jewish mother
Speaker 1: saying she's eating her chicken. She didn't talk to you.
Speaker 1: I was hysterical that you wouldn't see on a Hallmark movie.
Speaker 1: I guarantee it. But that was so funny. She's eating
Speaker 1: her chicken. The guns hung up with that kind of mother.
Speaker 1: Who needs this girl? But he was he was consistent,
Speaker 1: and she was smart. She stayed by the world. Now
Speaker 1: you have me very wondering why we never see a
Speaker 1: Jewish mother at a home. That's right, they don't need chicken, alright, jee, Okay,
Speaker 1: this is our last part, part six. Your own worth, then,
Speaker 1: I think is going to kind of capsualize her whole life.
Speaker 1: That's how she imprisses me, Adrian, don't you think so?
Speaker 1: Knowing your own word, knowing right, and you can hear
Speaker 1: it all through this whole thing. Okay, let's see if
Speaker 1: we're right. Did anyone in your life ever tell you
Speaker 1: you couldn't or you shouldn't do something you really wanted
Speaker 1: to do? Not only anyone, everyone there were, particularly those years,
Speaker 1: everything you couldn't do as a woman and little you
Speaker 1: could do as a woman. So not for me. Was
Speaker 1: I was going to do it? If I was going
Speaker 1: to be in the Girl Scouts. I was going to
Speaker 1: be the leader of the pack. I graduated high school, work,
Speaker 1: went to college, went to school at night for five years.
Speaker 1: I did what I had to do. So amazing women
Speaker 1: those years you got married, had children, and your husband
Speaker 1: was the boss show you say. I think the difference
Speaker 1: today with the world and the relationship you when Scott
Speaker 1: will have is you'll be partners now. As you know,
Speaker 1: your grandfather and I were partners. But that was very
Speaker 1: unusual because I was a success in business very young,
Speaker 1: and you learned very early. You know your own worth today.
Speaker 1: I think it's ingrained in young women. Yeah. I think
Speaker 1: I always recognized that early on with you and Poppy,
Speaker 1: that you guys were always partners. He was very proud
Speaker 1: of me and very supportive of whatever I did, and
Speaker 1: my career blossom because he helped it. You know, you
Speaker 1: asked who influenced me most of my life. Ms. Murphy
Speaker 1: in the fifth grade and my husband Ron. Your grandfather.
Speaker 1: He was one fabulous guy, your grandpa, he really was.
Speaker 1: You're going to be a real partner. I think you
Speaker 1: keep your own money, you invest your own money, and
Speaker 1: if you want to do something together, you pool your money.
Speaker 1: But I think everything should be independent. Your decisions should
Speaker 1: be what you want to do. Now, Scott may listen
Speaker 1: to this and not be so happy with it, but
Speaker 1: I do mean it in the nicest way. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: think that's clear you're your own person. Yeah. I think
Speaker 1: that that was one of the things that hopefully he
Speaker 1: fell in love with first. I believe that what is
Speaker 1: your best advice to someone who has big dreams but
Speaker 1: doesn't know where to start? First, you have to find
Speaker 1: your way. What is it you want to do and
Speaker 1: what you believe you're capable of doing. You know you're
Speaker 1: not going to be an astronaut, So you find your
Speaker 1: way and then you get on that train and you
Speaker 1: keep going till you get where you're going. But the
Speaker 1: only way that works is back to head down. Don't
Speaker 1: look up, take no curves, and you know what else,
Speaker 1: If you look up after you've accomplished, when you're reasonably successful,
Speaker 1: you'll be happy with yourself going forward. You'll have a
Speaker 1: sense of self as you say, and keep on learning.
Speaker 1: I love that. Thank you, Love you, baby girl. I'll
Speaker 1: talk to you later. That's really nice, beautiful good advice.
Speaker 1: What you make, it's your money. I agree with that
Speaker 1: I always kept our account separate. Yeah, you don't count
Speaker 1: I paid for this, you pay for that. That's not
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But if you work, you're entitled to
Speaker 1: have your own money what you want to do with it. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: And I think that their relationship was a very very
Speaker 1: strong one. He respected right. I don't think that it
Speaker 1: hurt him. He respected her. She made a successful business.
Speaker 1: She was not a stupid woman. She always heard her
Speaker 1: own drama and marches right after it and doesn't look back. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know what else, I think grandmothers are younger today.
Speaker 1: That's true. My grandmother was sixty eight years old when
Speaker 1: she died. She was an old old lady right right today,
Speaker 1: women in their seventies and eighties, a young women ready
Speaker 1: to look at us. We do a podcast. That's true
Speaker 1: that we would ever believe that. That's why there's such
Speaker 1: a relationship between grandmothers and grandchildren today. My grandmother was
Speaker 1: like this old lady, And if I wanted to know
Speaker 1: how to make a chicken, I would ask my grandma. Now,
Speaker 1: I loved my grandmother, but I knew when we went there,
Speaker 1: the first thing to sit down, I got a good
Speaker 1: dinner for you. You know that wasn't it right now?
Speaker 1: But this is such a nice relationship and you could
Speaker 1: see Adrian sees herself in this granddaughter and they're both successful,
Speaker 1: but in their own way and their own individual way. Absolutely,
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