1 00:00:01,120 --> 00:00:04,280 Speaker 1: It's been too long that we've been quiet, so we're back. 2 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:07,920 Speaker 1: We're never quiet, reader, it's been too long since we're 3 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:11,399 Speaker 1: not recording, but we're never quiet, Okay, And this should 4 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:14,600 Speaker 1: be a very exciting opening, and it's going to be 5 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:17,280 Speaker 1: a great season flour Us. It was an exciting season 6 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:20,239 Speaker 1: last season and the fact that we were nominated for 7 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:23,640 Speaker 1: an Ambi Award was really something very special. And when 8 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: they heard this season, it's going to be even better 9 00:00:26,079 --> 00:00:31,040 Speaker 1: than last Ellen. Who's going to be our guest today? Well, today, 10 00:00:31,080 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 1: Adrian R. Peal and her Land daughter Ashley are going 11 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:38,040 Speaker 1: to be the guests. Oh. She's been in cosmetics from 12 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 1: the time I was a young person. She's actually the 13 00:00:41,159 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 1: first woman that started a true cosmetic company, the longest 14 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:49,960 Speaker 1: running beauty line here at HS and best selling author Adrian. 15 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 1: We're here to party, happy anniversary. I am so proud 16 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 1: to be at HS and for all those years I 17 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:00,160 Speaker 1: remember my auntsiwers to use Adrian a pal and I 18 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:03,480 Speaker 1: used to borrow it. I'm really excited to see this side, 19 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 1: her family side. I'm sure it wasn't that easy going 20 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:08,840 Speaker 1: starting as a woman, and I'd like to hear how 21 00:01:08,920 --> 00:01:12,560 Speaker 1: she did it. She really was an innovator in women executive. 22 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:15,800 Speaker 1: I'd love to see how her grandchild is following. Enough, 23 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 1: what steps? Okay, let's hear it. I'm anxious. Let's go, Ashley. 24 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:23,640 Speaker 1: Why is your lighting so good? And no, kidd you 25 00:01:23,720 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: look beautiful. I don't have my ring light on? Are 26 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 1: you crazy? Wait? Look at this? Where'd you go? I'm 27 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:33,840 Speaker 1: coming back. You don't need the damn ring light. I 28 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:36,880 Speaker 1: do much better now, right with the light look the 29 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: same to me. Gorgeous. Well, it's because I'm wearing you 30 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 1: right now. Yeah, that's what's doing. And maybe four grandma's 31 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 1: ago had good skin and poland all right, well thanks, 32 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:56,440 Speaker 1: great great great great grandmother, Grandma? Are you nervous? Am 33 00:01:56,440 --> 00:02:05,600 Speaker 1: I nervous? Yeah? Are you kidding? Okay? Ready ready. Adriana 34 00:02:05,640 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 1: Pella is my grandma. She's one of my best friends, 35 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: my idol. Who is she? She taught me how to 36 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:15,600 Speaker 1: put on makeup when I was really young, and she's 37 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:18,440 Speaker 1: been teaching everyone else since way before me how to 38 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:21,840 Speaker 1: put makeup on. So funny enough, I actually, Grandma, I 39 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:25,400 Speaker 1: googled you yesterday. Lots of stuff to google. Right, it 40 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,079 Speaker 1: was good because I've been around four thousand years a 41 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:31,200 Speaker 1: lot of stuff to google. I loved it, even with 42 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 1: your older videos. I'm still learning how to do makeup 43 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 1: with that too. She's my favorite person in the entire 44 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 1: world and two other planets, and that includes her mother, 45 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 1: who's my second favorite, and rulling it take second place there. 46 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 1: She she got it since the day as she was born. 47 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 1: That was it. My grandson, he's third favorite because he's 48 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:58,240 Speaker 1: a boy and doesn't call me on the dime. If 49 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 1: he did, he could move up. He also does not 50 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 1: know how to clean a room. He is. Are we 51 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:07,320 Speaker 1: going to say that on radio? I mean, I never 52 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:13,360 Speaker 1: get a wife he is. He's slobed, but we love him. 53 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:18,800 Speaker 1: We keep him. This young woman popped out similar to me. 54 00:03:19,120 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 1: She said to me immediately after being born, Grandma, I'm 55 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: gonna be like you and we're going to have the 56 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:29,480 Speaker 1: greatest relationship in the world. She was maybe five minutes 57 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 1: old when she said that, And it's true. It has 58 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: been forever. We're just simpatica. Do you remember freezing bananas 59 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 1: and dipping them in chocolate? Grandma? Do I remember we 60 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:44,480 Speaker 1: had to redo the kitchen there were chocolate everywhere. I'm 61 00:03:44,520 --> 00:03:47,680 Speaker 1: not too good at that kind of stuff. I tried hard. Wait, 62 00:03:47,680 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 1: what are you not good? I'm confused stuff in the kitchen. 63 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:54,279 Speaker 1: But I wanted to impress you, so I coated the bananas, 64 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 1: and I coated the stove and the refrigerator and the ceiling. 65 00:03:58,480 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 1: That was so fun. But yeah, going to your office, 66 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 1: I remember it was always like a devil Wares product thing, 67 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 1: and Grandma was Miranda Priestley, but with less stress. I 68 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 1: think no one was like passing out. A few of 69 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:21,159 Speaker 1: them did. When I started getting bullied in school. Grandma 70 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 1: was really great with that, do you remember. And you 71 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 1: were like, just be nice, and it was sort of 72 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 1: in essence, killed them with kindness, kind of be completely 73 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 1: overly sweet back to them, and you'll go through it. 74 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 1: You'll move on from them, but they'll be them forever. 75 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:41,600 Speaker 1: I remember I was like, yeah, they have to go 76 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: through life as themselves and that's got to be tough. Actually, 77 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:48,160 Speaker 1: as I said to you then, and I said, you know, 78 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:52,560 Speaker 1: you were far more beautiful than any of them. You 79 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 1: were false smarter, you had a far better understanding of 80 00:04:58,880 --> 00:05:03,719 Speaker 1: life at twelve years old, and they were going nowhere 81 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:07,920 Speaker 1: and you were going to run the world. I'm totally correct. 82 00:05:09,520 --> 00:05:18,279 Speaker 1: I'm almost their grandma. You know, she's not what I 83 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 1: expected to hear. Somebody in cosmetics, you think is going 84 00:05:21,600 --> 00:05:25,559 Speaker 1: to be very feminine and very soft. And but she's 85 00:05:25,560 --> 00:05:29,360 Speaker 1: a strong, determined woman. She's a strong woman because she's 86 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:31,720 Speaker 1: got a big business to run. No, that's true. You 87 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 1: don't get they have being a Namby Pamby. I just 88 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:37,279 Speaker 1: love the love. You can hear the love in every 89 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 1: word they say to each other. You know it's not 90 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:42,720 Speaker 1: only love, Ellen, it's something a little more deeper, like 91 00:05:42,839 --> 00:05:47,200 Speaker 1: admiration and respect. Yes, it's wonderful. It made me feel 92 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 1: very good to listen to them. Okay, partline, here we go. 93 00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 1: You can look up when you're older. I wonder what 94 00:05:56,920 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 1: that means. We're identical. I'm very happy compared to Grandma 95 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 1: because we are identical. I see so much of myself 96 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:12,080 Speaker 1: and you, And I mean in what way? I am 97 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:15,960 Speaker 1: a very hard worker. I get up at dawn and 98 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:18,719 Speaker 1: I work all day, and I don't look at a 99 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 1: clock when I'm finished. I'm finished. For me, it came 100 00:06:21,839 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: from being poor as a kid. I grew up in 101 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 1: New Jersey, where just about everybody had two or three 102 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:33,640 Speaker 1: jobs and kids worked. From thirteen fourteen fifteen Ashley was 103 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:37,839 Speaker 1: never poor as a kid, but she absolutely has the 104 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:42,040 Speaker 1: same ethic. I was eighteen when I went into business. 105 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:45,160 Speaker 1: I looked up when I was fifty five and had 106 00:06:45,279 --> 00:06:48,240 Speaker 1: enough money to quit, but I haven't looked up in between. 107 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 1: She's just like me. She's success oriented and will accept 108 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:57,080 Speaker 1: nothing else, so she works real hard. Yeah. I mean, 109 00:06:57,320 --> 00:06:59,680 Speaker 1: I've heard it my entire life. You can look up 110 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 1: and you're older. I say that to myself all of 111 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:04,800 Speaker 1: the time. I say that when I wake up at 112 00:07:04,839 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 1: five am. I say that to Scott, my fiance. It 113 00:07:07,920 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 1: rubbed off on Ashley very early. Remember when you worked 114 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:14,760 Speaker 1: in the chocolate shop and the pizza polopy. I did 115 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 1: that after school at fifteen, and no one told her 116 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: she had to work at that age. I had to 117 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 1: do it and did it. I get less credit, and Ashley, 118 00:07:24,880 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 1: who didn't have to do it and did it. You 119 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 1: deserve all the credit, Grandma. Well, except I don't have 120 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:34,240 Speaker 1: one stretch mark from you, not one, so I can't 121 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:36,680 Speaker 1: get all the credit. I mean all the credit for 122 00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:41,240 Speaker 1: your success. That's what I mean. I'm a food and 123 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:45,240 Speaker 1: product photographer and videographer, so I work with a lot 124 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:49,560 Speaker 1: of chocolate shops or restaurants or food bloggers, and I 125 00:07:49,680 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: run their social media as well. And you played the 126 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:57,200 Speaker 1: princess on a children's television show you paid a pirate. 127 00:07:57,480 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 1: Do you remember my very first l a audition? I 128 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:04,800 Speaker 1: think it was for Tattoo Nightmares, of course I remember, 129 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 1: and I got the part and I had to like 130 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 1: vomit on camera. I remember calling GRAHDM and I was like, 131 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:14,040 Speaker 1: how can I be glamorous while I'm vomiting on camera, 132 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:20,080 Speaker 1: of which my answer was smile, honey. They'll never get it, 133 00:08:20,200 --> 00:08:25,240 Speaker 1: They'll never know. Wait. Did you always know that you 134 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:28,200 Speaker 1: wanted to start your own business without your dream as 135 00:08:28,200 --> 00:08:32,560 Speaker 1: a kid. I didn't know enough to know. But when 136 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:34,839 Speaker 1: I got out of high school, there was a six 137 00:08:34,960 --> 00:08:37,200 Speaker 1: month period of time before I was going to go 138 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:39,120 Speaker 1: to school, and I was going to get a job 139 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 1: as a receptionist. Why a reception This is the only 140 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 1: thing I could do? I was, what else was I 141 00:08:44,280 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 1: capable of doing? Well? I started going to department stoics, 142 00:08:48,360 --> 00:08:51,760 Speaker 1: Macy's Lord and Taylor Sex Bloomings. I'd walk in. I 143 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: didn't we very much makeup, and I said, how do 144 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:56,160 Speaker 1: I do my makeup? What should I do with my eyes? 145 00:08:56,200 --> 00:08:58,120 Speaker 1: It's this eye shadow good. I don't know how to 146 00:08:58,160 --> 00:09:00,520 Speaker 1: do my lips, and no one ever really the answer 147 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:04,520 Speaker 1: me and I felt if there were professional estheticians that 148 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:07,560 Speaker 1: really went to school for skin can they could tell 149 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:10,719 Speaker 1: me what to do, I'd have something special. As you know, 150 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:14,240 Speaker 1: I went into business. By my twenty one birthday. I 151 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:17,280 Speaker 1: was in all those stores with a small skin salon, 152 00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:20,680 Speaker 1: and you and I discussed this a great less. I 153 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:26,319 Speaker 1: am the original influencer. I started makeovers and department stores. 154 00:09:27,000 --> 00:09:31,239 Speaker 1: I was the first person to do makeovers on television. 155 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:35,520 Speaker 1: Is going to show us a few little Oprah shows 156 00:09:35,800 --> 00:09:40,840 Speaker 1: on Regis, on every major show you could think of 157 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 1: those years when nobody did makeups on television. Did I 158 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:49,800 Speaker 1: always want to go into business? No? I think in 159 00:09:49,960 --> 00:09:53,839 Speaker 1: that way, I'm the accidental success. There was a need. 160 00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 1: I saw it as a kid because I had that 161 00:09:57,720 --> 00:10:00,600 Speaker 1: need too, and I fulfilled it and that was the 162 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:04,640 Speaker 1: beginning of my success. I love the way you worded 163 00:10:04,679 --> 00:10:07,880 Speaker 1: that accidental success. I didn't know how to do anything. 164 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:14,880 Speaker 1: An accidental success is probably they have something. I say, 165 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: is what makes a person successful? That inner drive, and 166 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 1: these two women have it and they share it. Read it. 167 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:27,760 Speaker 1: Don't you see things? With your granddaughter that you see 168 00:10:27,800 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 1: in yourself. Yes, and no, Rachel is much more laid 169 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:34,160 Speaker 1: back than I am. I mean she's not. It's aggressive. 170 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:37,720 Speaker 1: You know I'm very short, really, yeah, you didn't know that. 171 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:41,480 Speaker 1: Four for ten it's not to notice. And now I 172 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 1: must be less because my slacks that I put on 173 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:47,000 Speaker 1: every day, I'm tripping over. So I must have drunk 174 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:50,520 Speaker 1: along the way. But what I'm saying is a short 175 00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:54,080 Speaker 1: person has to be aggressive and nobody notices you basically, 176 00:10:54,480 --> 00:10:57,480 Speaker 1: and that's the drive you have. Nobody gave it to me. 177 00:10:57,520 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 1: I had to have it. And I see these two women, 178 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:03,520 Speaker 1: that's what they have. And I admire ad and she 179 00:11:03,640 --> 00:11:06,120 Speaker 1: doesn't hide that she grew up poor and how to work. 180 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:09,440 Speaker 1: You know, today it's like people look down on poor people. Man, 181 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:13,200 Speaker 1: In those years, everybody worked. Nobody was born in success 182 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 1: to become a success, and that's what they have between them. 183 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:20,040 Speaker 1: You could look up when you're older. That's a philosophy. 184 00:11:20,240 --> 00:11:22,760 Speaker 1: Work when you can, and when you reach your goal, 185 00:11:23,040 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 1: then you could look up. You know, my grandchildren they're 186 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:30,520 Speaker 1: doing traveling. Now, I said, why are you doing so 187 00:11:30,600 --> 00:11:34,320 Speaker 1: much traveling? Put your energy in becoming what you want 188 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 1: to be. In life, and I said, when you get 189 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:39,920 Speaker 1: older in your fifties, you'll have time to travel. Yeah, 190 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:42,559 Speaker 1: she gives the advice I do. But the young people 191 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:45,600 Speaker 1: don't think like that today. I think they live more 192 00:11:45,720 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 1: for the moment because nobody knows what the future is. Well, 193 00:11:49,160 --> 00:11:51,640 Speaker 1: that's it. I was just gonna say that nobody knows 194 00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:55,400 Speaker 1: what the future is. Gonna hold, Okay, Rida, it's time 195 00:11:55,480 --> 00:11:58,360 Speaker 1: for a break. You know, two old ladies have to 196 00:11:58,440 --> 00:12:01,520 Speaker 1: use the bathroom much more freequently when you young folks. 197 00:12:01,559 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 1: So it all depends. That's what we're doing. We didn't 198 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 1: depends and we'll be back. Okay, guys, we're back. We're 199 00:12:19,760 --> 00:12:24,520 Speaker 1: ready to go for another couple of hours. Two skin 200 00:12:24,840 --> 00:12:30,160 Speaker 1: tight clothes, Oh my goodness, not only skin tight, bare breasted. 201 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:32,839 Speaker 1: Did you see the oscars? If the women had their 202 00:12:32,880 --> 00:12:37,400 Speaker 1: boobs hagging out, that's a new thing. Not only skin tight, 203 00:12:37,600 --> 00:12:41,240 Speaker 1: pressed exposial clothes. If you got him flunt, I'm right 204 00:12:41,280 --> 00:12:46,960 Speaker 1: now that I feel like it's probably close to what 205 00:12:47,040 --> 00:12:49,160 Speaker 1: I wear now. But what did you wear when you 206 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:51,240 Speaker 1: were a teenager? You know my style. I like to 207 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:55,560 Speaker 1: dress retro, very very retro. I didn't have much clothes. 208 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:59,560 Speaker 1: We'll start there. But my favorite article of clothing was 209 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 1: a little skirt. It was a gray felt skirt with 210 00:13:04,160 --> 00:13:07,640 Speaker 1: a poodle on the pocket with a bell on its tail. 211 00:13:07,880 --> 00:13:10,560 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Now you know how long that was. 212 00:13:10,720 --> 00:13:13,480 Speaker 1: And I'm still talking about the bell on the tail 213 00:13:13,520 --> 00:13:16,800 Speaker 1: of the poodle skirt. I love that outfit. All the 214 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:20,640 Speaker 1: retro stuff you weigh now is very familiar to me. 215 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:23,120 Speaker 1: I have a poodle skirt. I'm bringing it next week. 216 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:25,600 Speaker 1: Mine doesn't have a bell or anything like that, but 217 00:13:25,679 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 1: it's pink with white hearts on it. Oh god, I'll 218 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 1: change my entire wardrobe for your poodle skirt. I could 219 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:40,280 Speaker 1: probably get it on one though. You're so funny. Grandma, 220 00:13:40,360 --> 00:13:44,960 Speaker 1: I will say, is the best to shop with, because 221 00:13:45,200 --> 00:13:47,920 Speaker 1: I'm very particular when it comes to what I wear, 222 00:13:48,679 --> 00:13:53,280 Speaker 1: and Grandma gets me to try. How would you say, 223 00:13:53,280 --> 00:13:56,240 Speaker 1: your grandma? She's trying to say it in a far 224 00:13:56,360 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 1: more elegant and refined way. She was maybe eighteen, with 225 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:07,880 Speaker 1: this gorgeous body and stand up boobs, which, as we 226 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:11,240 Speaker 1: will know, last fifteen minutes. We'd go shopping and she'd 227 00:14:11,280 --> 00:14:15,640 Speaker 1: buy size twenty T shirts and I'd say, so, you 228 00:14:15,679 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 1: can't wear those big old t shirts and jeans. Now, 229 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:22,000 Speaker 1: if you're going to go shopping with me, you're a 230 00:14:22,080 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 1: size too, you're gonna get a size one shirt, so 231 00:14:26,280 --> 00:14:29,440 Speaker 1: with skin tight and you're gonna wear those lea talks 232 00:14:29,520 --> 00:14:32,040 Speaker 1: on that stand up rear end and you're going to 233 00:14:32,160 --> 00:14:35,440 Speaker 1: get your fifteen minutes out of it, because I promise you, 234 00:14:35,520 --> 00:14:38,440 Speaker 1: as your grandmother, at the end of the fifteen minutes, 235 00:14:38,480 --> 00:14:40,600 Speaker 1: you're gonna be saggy like the rest of the world. 236 00:14:41,200 --> 00:14:45,400 Speaker 1: So that was my brilliant advice to my grandchild, and 237 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:48,960 Speaker 1: she wears tight clothes. Now it did work and got 238 00:14:48,960 --> 00:14:53,560 Speaker 1: a fabulous guy, which I credit totally to my advice. 239 00:14:54,240 --> 00:14:56,760 Speaker 1: Do you remember my friend and I we were going 240 00:14:56,760 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 1: to a Halloween party, as I remember, it was going 241 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:01,440 Speaker 1: to a chocolate eminem and she was gonna be a 242 00:15:01,480 --> 00:15:06,360 Speaker 1: peanut eminem. And you sent me a tight black and 243 00:15:06,440 --> 00:15:11,240 Speaker 1: red sweater and leather skirt and said, put this on, 244 00:15:11,640 --> 00:15:13,840 Speaker 1: put your hair in pigtails, and go as a slutty 245 00:15:13,920 --> 00:15:16,360 Speaker 1: school girl because no one's going to talk to you 246 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:20,280 Speaker 1: as an eminem. You know what, you need this type 247 00:15:20,280 --> 00:15:24,680 Speaker 1: of information from grandma. Maybe I couldn't say something like 248 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:29,080 Speaker 1: that if you weren't such a smart capable. Get it, girl. 249 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:32,320 Speaker 1: I didn't even do the slutty school ground. I want 250 00:15:32,320 --> 00:15:34,000 Speaker 1: to snow white and called it a day. And you 251 00:15:34,080 --> 00:15:41,520 Speaker 1: remember snow White, it's my favorite character. Oh boy, a 252 00:15:41,560 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 1: poodle skirt? Did you have a poodle skirt? Reader? Everybody 253 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:47,880 Speaker 1: had a poodle skirt and a mooth toon coat. That 254 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:51,120 Speaker 1: was the fur of the day. I remember a moot called, 255 00:15:51,160 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 1: oh my god, you thought you were wearing a chinchilla. 256 00:15:53,800 --> 00:15:57,360 Speaker 1: It was like fake beaver, fake beaver. It had the 257 00:15:57,520 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 1: you know, like the striped beaver has shading. But when 258 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:03,520 Speaker 1: you felt it, it's like, what did it feel like, Ellen, 259 00:16:03,600 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 1: I don't even know. It felt like sake be my fava. 260 00:16:08,360 --> 00:16:11,360 Speaker 1: My aunt had a Matara coat and it was so 261 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:14,760 Speaker 1: expensive and so gorgeous, and I wore my fake mouton coat, 262 00:16:14,800 --> 00:16:16,480 Speaker 1: and I remember I went out on a day and 263 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:19,360 Speaker 1: my aunt said, you cannot wear that disgusting coat. It 264 00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:21,840 Speaker 1: was nice, don't say it was disgusting. That was my 265 00:16:21,960 --> 00:16:25,320 Speaker 1: favorite coat. And she gave me the Matara coat to wear. 266 00:16:25,560 --> 00:16:29,240 Speaker 1: And her name was Lucille Nyemark and her initials were 267 00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:31,560 Speaker 1: l N. And this guy went to put it on. 268 00:16:31,640 --> 00:16:34,240 Speaker 1: He says, oh, this is not your coat. These initials 269 00:16:34,240 --> 00:16:38,040 Speaker 1: are l N. I said, that's my name l N. Oh, 270 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:42,120 Speaker 1: that's funny. That's a cute story. But I loved my 271 00:16:42,200 --> 00:16:47,040 Speaker 1: mouton coat with my four inch platform heeled shoes, and 272 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 1: I thought I was living in and I met my 273 00:16:50,560 --> 00:16:53,400 Speaker 1: husband and one thing he said to me, he says, 274 00:16:53,440 --> 00:16:57,960 Speaker 1: please don't ever wear those platform shoes anymore, because I 275 00:16:58,040 --> 00:17:00,160 Speaker 1: was very short, and if I want to go out 276 00:17:00,160 --> 00:17:03,000 Speaker 1: with a tall guy with a platform shoes, But it 277 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:05,760 Speaker 1: didn't matter to him, he said, don't wear loathing. But 278 00:17:05,920 --> 00:17:09,639 Speaker 1: that's mutanko Ellen. It was warm though it was. It 279 00:17:09,800 --> 00:17:12,080 Speaker 1: was warm that I will give you. It was warm. 280 00:17:12,160 --> 00:17:14,920 Speaker 1: It was warm. But the grandmother, I have to say, 281 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:17,440 Speaker 1: has a lot of influence on him. And she listens. 282 00:17:17,880 --> 00:17:21,480 Speaker 1: You know, I can see Adrian sort of living her 283 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:23,800 Speaker 1: life a little bit through this great don't you get 284 00:17:23,800 --> 00:17:27,200 Speaker 1: that little feeling everything. Yes, she's throwing it all into 285 00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:31,720 Speaker 1: this granddaughter and she's accepting it nicely. Our next one 286 00:17:31,960 --> 00:17:36,360 Speaker 1: is part three, Ms Murphy. That's an enticing title. Who 287 00:17:36,359 --> 00:17:38,680 Speaker 1: do you think miss Murphy is? I don't know, probably 288 00:17:38,720 --> 00:17:41,800 Speaker 1: a teacher. Oh that's a good storm. Come plays more 289 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:44,560 Speaker 1: importance in your life than a good teacher or a 290 00:17:44,640 --> 00:17:48,120 Speaker 1: bad teacher or a bad teacher. That's true. We had 291 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:51,280 Speaker 1: a Miss Fitzgerald in our school. I still have nightmares 292 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:57,760 Speaker 1: about her. Okay, let's see who Ms Murphy is. Did 293 00:17:57,760 --> 00:18:01,399 Speaker 1: your parents encourage you to start your own business. No, 294 00:18:02,040 --> 00:18:05,760 Speaker 1: they encouraged me to be a good person, to do right, 295 00:18:05,880 --> 00:18:10,480 Speaker 1: to be moral, to be educated. But those years, you'd 296 00:18:10,560 --> 00:18:13,560 Speaker 1: go to college and become a school teacher, and you 297 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:17,959 Speaker 1: get married and have two point three kids, and no 298 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:22,040 Speaker 1: one ever looked past that. But as you know, there's 299 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:25,359 Speaker 1: a great, big life pass that, and it's a shame 300 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:30,840 Speaker 1: that those years women were just not groomed for anything 301 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 1: much more than that just being mothers today. Obviously it's 302 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:40,080 Speaker 1: a very different world and they were good parents, wonderful parents, 303 00:18:40,280 --> 00:18:45,200 Speaker 1: but the times dictated everything. We had such a different 304 00:18:45,359 --> 00:18:48,520 Speaker 1: kind of life as a teenager. We used to go 305 00:18:48,800 --> 00:18:52,200 Speaker 1: to the y on Tuesday night and we all meet 306 00:18:52,240 --> 00:18:56,040 Speaker 1: outside and have a soda. It was truly. You know, 307 00:18:56,119 --> 00:19:01,240 Speaker 1: people say simpler times, but they really are a simpler times. 308 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:04,879 Speaker 1: And we were basically happy because we've known a better. 309 00:19:05,160 --> 00:19:07,960 Speaker 1: Would you say that your parents influenced you the most 310 00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:11,440 Speaker 1: in your life. They influenced me a lot. On one 311 00:19:11,640 --> 00:19:15,440 Speaker 1: side that you do good in the world. I guess 312 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:20,440 Speaker 1: one of the biggest influences beside them would be my 313 00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:25,600 Speaker 1: fifth grade teacher, Ms Murphy. I desperately wanted to be 314 00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:28,360 Speaker 1: the smartest kid in the class, which I wasn't. I 315 00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:30,879 Speaker 1: wanted to be the kid that got a hundred on 316 00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:34,560 Speaker 1: every example, which I didn't. And Miss Murphy saw in 317 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:38,720 Speaker 1: me someone that was going to try desperately hard to 318 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:42,879 Speaker 1: be successful. And she moved me to the first seat 319 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:46,040 Speaker 1: in the classroom, which is the seat she saved for 320 00:19:46,080 --> 00:19:49,400 Speaker 1: the smartest kid in the class. And she moved out 321 00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:53,679 Speaker 1: some little roly poly, fat, very smart little boy. Really 322 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:57,440 Speaker 1: was all budget water. That made some little boy, Sydney. 323 00:19:57,880 --> 00:20:01,240 Speaker 1: Imagine all these years later, I remember Sydney was the 324 00:20:01,320 --> 00:20:05,200 Speaker 1: smartest kid in the class. But the truth it made 325 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:09,640 Speaker 1: me feel great self and self is everything, and then 326 00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:12,639 Speaker 1: I felt I could accomplish everything. And I stayed in 327 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:17,119 Speaker 1: Miss Murphy's number one seat for the whole semester I 328 00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:21,960 Speaker 1: was in her class. Ms Murphy definitely started me on 329 00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:25,640 Speaker 1: my career. It got me through to where I am today. 330 00:20:25,720 --> 00:20:30,240 Speaker 1: It's a long time, that's incredible, and here I am, 331 00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:36,959 Speaker 1: Miss Murphy. Wherever you are I love you, ellenor hit 332 00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:39,600 Speaker 1: it on the head Miss Murphy. I knew it. I 333 00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:42,040 Speaker 1: knew it well. First of all, there was always a 334 00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:45,560 Speaker 1: Miss Murphy in every school, so I figured. But obviously 335 00:20:45,640 --> 00:20:49,159 Speaker 1: this was a very positive reinforcement of what she was 336 00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:51,880 Speaker 1: and who she was. And this teacher saw it well, 337 00:20:51,960 --> 00:20:54,640 Speaker 1: I have to tell you in my year, it's growing up. 338 00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:58,440 Speaker 1: Whatever the teacher said that was, Laura. Do you remember 339 00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:00,880 Speaker 1: when you were in school and the principle came into 340 00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:04,440 Speaker 1: your classroom. The entire class had to stand up exactly 341 00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:07,960 Speaker 1: and stay hello to the principal and you know, good 342 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:11,199 Speaker 1: morning Mr Weinberger, and he would go, good morning boys 343 00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 1: and girls. Teachers today, unfortunately, I feel don't have the 344 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:18,879 Speaker 1: respect for what they do. I agree completely. But do 345 00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:22,080 Speaker 1: you see when you listen to something like Adrian talking 346 00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:26,199 Speaker 1: about this teacher all these years later, This was the 347 00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:31,200 Speaker 1: big influence. This pushed her in the right direction. This 348 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:34,080 Speaker 1: woman said to her, you can do it, you can 349 00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:36,840 Speaker 1: sit in the front row. Ellen, did you have a 350 00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:40,120 Speaker 1: favorite teacher when you were growing up? Oh? I definitely did. 351 00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:43,399 Speaker 1: Miss Voids my kindergarten teacher, and I remember that she 352 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:45,760 Speaker 1: came to our house and had lunch with my mother. 353 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:48,520 Speaker 1: It was like a visit from the Queen. I had 354 00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 1: one to Miss Lundon I left. When I think about it, 355 00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:55,600 Speaker 1: she was a short, chubby teacher and that was me. 356 00:21:56,119 --> 00:21:59,640 Speaker 1: So I related to Miss Lundin. She was a good 357 00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:01,800 Speaker 1: teacher it, but there was something that pulled me to 358 00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:05,520 Speaker 1: you know. I taught for many years in Bedford Stuyvesant 359 00:22:05,520 --> 00:22:08,200 Speaker 1: in a school where the children were so so poor, 360 00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:10,840 Speaker 1: and I used to bring a big thing of orange 361 00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:15,120 Speaker 1: juice and little breakfast cakes and there was the first 362 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:17,800 Speaker 1: and probably the only meal that those kids would get 363 00:22:17,920 --> 00:22:20,800 Speaker 1: other than the school lunch, and I didn't want them 364 00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:25,160 Speaker 1: to start their day with nothing. Years and years later 365 00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 1: I heard from a young man who became an artist 366 00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:30,840 Speaker 1: and he said to me, I never forgot that. You 367 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:33,600 Speaker 1: never let us start the day on an empty stomach. 368 00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:36,920 Speaker 1: That was nice sailing. And to this day I always 369 00:22:36,960 --> 00:22:40,320 Speaker 1: have breakfast and I think of you, and that was 370 00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:43,359 Speaker 1: a very very special thing. The teacher can be a 371 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:50,399 Speaker 1: big influence, absolutely Part four the Right Reasons. For me, 372 00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:53,800 Speaker 1: it was really fun growing up. People knew who my 373 00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:57,280 Speaker 1: grandma was, so it was cool because if she was 374 00:22:57,320 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 1: on TV, that's my grandma. At some point, as you 375 00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:05,000 Speaker 1: get older. When people realize who someone in your family is, 376 00:23:05,119 --> 00:23:07,879 Speaker 1: they tend to treat you differently or they want to 377 00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:12,480 Speaker 1: be in your life for the wrong reasons. And I 378 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:17,400 Speaker 1: had been through that with friendships, with relationships and it 379 00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:20,680 Speaker 1: wasn't real. But when I met Scott, I just made 380 00:23:20,840 --> 00:23:24,800 Speaker 1: the conscious decision that I wanted to know that this 381 00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:28,440 Speaker 1: person was coming into my life for the right reasons. 382 00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:34,239 Speaker 1: So Scott literally met grandma. When he met Grandma, and 383 00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:37,840 Speaker 1: he stayed with you, and you know what he loves 384 00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:42,679 Speaker 1: tight clothes to your Grandma. Were you surprised when I 385 00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:48,280 Speaker 1: decided to start my business, Not one, I owed. I 386 00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:52,560 Speaker 1: was so nervous to see what your reaction would be 387 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:56,600 Speaker 1: because of your success. So I remember being very very 388 00:23:56,640 --> 00:24:00,960 Speaker 1: nervous to tell you. You know, Ashley, you moved at 389 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:04,360 Speaker 1: a very young age to California to be an actress. 390 00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:09,560 Speaker 1: Then she stayed out there and on her own started 391 00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:13,679 Speaker 1: this business. For anyone listening that might want why you 392 00:24:13,720 --> 00:24:17,800 Speaker 1: didn't go into my business as it is, she wanted 393 00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:22,080 Speaker 1: to do it her way, and that's what I respect 394 00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:25,840 Speaker 1: most about Ashley. I was in a different place in 395 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:28,720 Speaker 1: my life, I think, and I had to figure out 396 00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:31,399 Speaker 1: who I was. I wasn't ready then, you know, And 397 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:33,560 Speaker 1: now we're going to do a bunch of new things together. 398 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:35,760 Speaker 1: We're so great together, so I feel like it's going 399 00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:37,960 Speaker 1: to be a lot of fun. You know what, Ashley. 400 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:42,840 Speaker 1: I think it's an amazing thing when a grandmother and 401 00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:48,679 Speaker 1: granddaughter should have such respect. It's a good word respect. 402 00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:53,760 Speaker 1: I think it's from the godfathers, such respect for one 403 00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:58,000 Speaker 1: another that I'd be delighted to do anything in the 404 00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:02,040 Speaker 1: world with you. Of course, my first preference would be 405 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,800 Speaker 1: going back to all the grandma's and all this conversation 406 00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:10,000 Speaker 1: about success in life and self. I'd love you to 407 00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:14,240 Speaker 1: have a baby. Oh gosh, not yet, isn't that back 408 00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:19,840 Speaker 1: to the days of the caves. Well, I'm very happy 409 00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:22,600 Speaker 1: to hear Adan say I would have loved her to 410 00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:25,480 Speaker 1: come into my business, but she's so proud that she 411 00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:28,760 Speaker 1: did something on her own, and for that I really 412 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:32,240 Speaker 1: admire Adan. And she already started with having a baby, 413 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:35,800 Speaker 1: because when push comes to Shavrina, you can have a 414 00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:39,520 Speaker 1: big business, you can have whatever, but you want your 415 00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:42,800 Speaker 1: children to have children. You want those babies. It's just 416 00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:46,800 Speaker 1: human nature. Now, that's the universal thing between grandmothers. But 417 00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:49,040 Speaker 1: they seem to be very similar. They both have this 418 00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:51,480 Speaker 1: inner drive and they know what they want to do 419 00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:54,040 Speaker 1: and they respect each other for it. Every time you 420 00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:56,400 Speaker 1: say that, I want to sing it. What's the song? 421 00:25:57,200 --> 00:26:00,920 Speaker 1: R S b C. This is song we spect It's 422 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:06,840 Speaker 1: Aretha Franklin. Oh my god? Right, okay, esp ec ta 423 00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:12,120 Speaker 1: right right, that's it. Respect. With respect comes love and admiration. 424 00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:16,040 Speaker 1: That's right. Really, you could take the dog out for 425 00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:19,960 Speaker 1: a quick walk now, and I'll feed my husband. Yeah, 426 00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,960 Speaker 1: that's it's important. That's me walking the door. Ellen, So 427 00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:26,320 Speaker 1: feed Peter. Six of one half. It doesn't have another reader. 428 00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:37,920 Speaker 1: We're back. We're back, The dog is sleeping, Peter is sleeping, 429 00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:42,840 Speaker 1: and we're awake. Ready to go on Part five. The 430 00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:47,080 Speaker 1: most beautiful man across the restaurant. This has to be 431 00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:51,880 Speaker 1: either Adrian's husband or the granddaughter's future, what do you think, 432 00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:57,000 Speaker 1: or some guy that's wearing makeup that that she gets 433 00:26:57,000 --> 00:27:00,920 Speaker 1: inspired from that. Maybe listen, she could make a men's 434 00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:03,720 Speaker 1: line of cosmetics. I don't know, maybe she does. Okay, 435 00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:10,199 Speaker 1: let's hear it. What was dating like for you before 436 00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:15,480 Speaker 1: you met Poppy Dreadful? I hated everybody. You hated everybody everybody. 437 00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:18,119 Speaker 1: I had a boyfriend who I didn't like that I 438 00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:20,760 Speaker 1: had for a year, And if he asked me why, 439 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:25,400 Speaker 1: I'd say he was there. He was there when I 440 00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:28,399 Speaker 1: met your grandfather. Now, where did I meet him? In? 441 00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:31,800 Speaker 1: How it's you were on a date with another Were 442 00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:33,600 Speaker 1: you on a date with his boyfriend? Now? I was 443 00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:37,280 Speaker 1: on a date with a guy I met that was like, 444 00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:40,320 Speaker 1: I don't know, ten fifteen years older than me, ridiculous. 445 00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 1: We were having dinner and he was too old for 446 00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:44,960 Speaker 1: me to start with, and everything he was talking about 447 00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:50,400 Speaker 1: I wasn't interested in including him. And I didn't drink anything, 448 00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,760 Speaker 1: and he ordered me, he said, tasted a black Russian. 449 00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:56,560 Speaker 1: It's Jevin, it's vodka. I think it's if I haven't 450 00:27:56,560 --> 00:28:02,200 Speaker 1: had it since, And it was delicious, but a black 451 00:28:02,320 --> 00:28:04,879 Speaker 1: Russian for a little girl who didn't drink. And I 452 00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:08,639 Speaker 1: looked at the bar directly across, and there was the 453 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:13,199 Speaker 1: most beautiful, handsome, magnificent man I ever saw him my 454 00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:16,439 Speaker 1: whole life. And since I had this pretty big drink, 455 00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:21,520 Speaker 1: I looked over and very loudly said, that's the handsomest 456 00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:24,280 Speaker 1: man I ever saw in my life. And he was 457 00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:28,639 Speaker 1: standing at the bar with his father, your great grandfather, 458 00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:33,600 Speaker 1: who was a Scotch distributor in New York. That's why 459 00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:37,280 Speaker 1: they were standing at the bar. And I said it 460 00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:40,479 Speaker 1: so loud. He turned around and laughed and said thank you. 461 00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:43,680 Speaker 1: And that was the end of that. My date was 462 00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 1: sitting there. He went to the men's room ten minutes later, 463 00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:50,880 Speaker 1: and this magnificent man came over and asked me for 464 00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:54,000 Speaker 1: my phone number, and I give him my phone number. 465 00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:56,880 Speaker 1: I'm in ecstasy and I go home and I tell 466 00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:01,240 Speaker 1: my mother I met the man of my dreams. Ah, 467 00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:04,800 Speaker 1: And you know, your grandfather was the handsomest guy that 468 00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:08,400 Speaker 1: That wasn't me. He was movie star handsome. He was 469 00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:10,840 Speaker 1: a very good looking man. He was six ft two, 470 00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:15,320 Speaker 1: beautiful man. Anyway, my mother said, you were out with 471 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:20,480 Speaker 1: one gentleman and you gave your phone number to another gentleman. 472 00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:24,720 Speaker 1: He thinks you're a trap. You cannot meet someone like that, 473 00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:29,080 Speaker 1: and you had a drink on top of it. Absolutely, 474 00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:32,600 Speaker 1: those were the times. And the next day he called 475 00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:37,240 Speaker 1: and my mother answers the phone and says she's eating 476 00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:41,640 Speaker 1: her chicken, because Mom, you told him I'm meeting my chicken. 477 00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:44,880 Speaker 1: And says call back and hangs up. She says, you 478 00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:48,800 Speaker 1: cannot go out with him, You cannot go out with him. Well, 479 00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:51,920 Speaker 1: he called back, and I sat by that phone until 480 00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:55,280 Speaker 1: I answered the phone, and he said, would you like 481 00:29:55,520 --> 00:30:00,120 Speaker 1: to go to the museum tomorrow and see the oh 482 00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:04,480 Speaker 1: Dan exhibit. So when we got married six months later, 483 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:07,920 Speaker 1: I don't know if my mother was grateful and happy 484 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:12,000 Speaker 1: or not. I'm not so sure. But my whole next 485 00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:15,720 Speaker 1: fifty years with that man, he was always the most 486 00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:19,040 Speaker 1: beautiful man. From of course the room of the restaurant, 487 00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:23,160 Speaker 1: I hope you would life goes as well. They're gonna 488 00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:27,280 Speaker 1: make me cry. Before I met Scott, do you remember 489 00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:30,800 Speaker 1: helping me text guys? Absolutely? Do you remember like writing 490 00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:33,760 Speaker 1: them out with me? Like literally a guy would write 491 00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:36,600 Speaker 1: hey with two wise and we would try to decipher 492 00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:40,080 Speaker 1: what that meant and how to respond or could he 493 00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:43,040 Speaker 1: just not spell right. We didn't know whether it was 494 00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:45,760 Speaker 1: like ignorance, or if they were trying to be cool, 495 00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:49,080 Speaker 1: or if there was like a broken keyboard or something. 496 00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:52,160 Speaker 1: We did analyze a lot of those guys until Scott 497 00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:54,920 Speaker 1: came along. Right, There was no analyzing with Scott. We 498 00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:58,040 Speaker 1: just had grabbed him. Well, I met Scott and I 499 00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:01,280 Speaker 1: called mom, I called dad, I called you on the 500 00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:03,880 Speaker 1: way to San Diego with my friend in the car, 501 00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:06,280 Speaker 1: saying I met the man I'm gonna marry. I met 502 00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:08,720 Speaker 1: him in a coffee shop two blocks away from my house, 503 00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:13,440 Speaker 1: and ten days later we went on our first date. 504 00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:18,400 Speaker 1: And let me tell you, there are very few Scots around. 505 00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:22,200 Speaker 1: And you know it, I'm not telling you something you 506 00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:25,760 Speaker 1: don't know. Well, remember the Laska I dated before. We 507 00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:31,320 Speaker 1: liked him so much, the lawyer. But your mother loves Scott, 508 00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:35,760 Speaker 1: your father loves Scott. I love Scott, and we're happy 509 00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:39,000 Speaker 1: you love Scott too. Yeah, you know what, he reminds 510 00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:42,719 Speaker 1: me of Poppy in a lot of ways, which ways. 511 00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:46,800 Speaker 1: Maybe just because he's so handsome. I'm so damn superficial. 512 00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:51,440 Speaker 1: It's sad. Well they're both six too. Yeah, he's calm, 513 00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:55,360 Speaker 1: he's smart, and since you're so much like me, he 514 00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:59,640 Speaker 1: can take you like your grandfather could take me. How 515 00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:02,200 Speaker 1: many extra points does he get for that? I know 516 00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:05,160 Speaker 1: that's like a million, because we're both such a pain 517 00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:11,200 Speaker 1: in the ass. Yeah, where Scott, he's not coming, He's coming, Scott, seriously, 518 00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:17,840 Speaker 1: come down, Grandma said, But you know it's grandma now. 519 00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:21,920 Speaker 1: He's like, oh, I'm coming now, it's just Grandma Oh, 520 00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:25,280 Speaker 1: what two beautiful love stories. I love that they call 521 00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:28,040 Speaker 1: him Poppy. That's what my kids call Peter. Yeah, mine 522 00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:31,080 Speaker 1: called him Papa, But okay, Poppy is a cuter. But 523 00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:34,760 Speaker 1: you know she really she has everything with this grandmother 524 00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:38,000 Speaker 1: to the notes that she gets from boyfriends. What girls 525 00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:40,480 Speaker 1: did they do that? Oh, they must have been two 526 00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:44,120 Speaker 1: beautiful men, which she said is a little superficial. But look, 527 00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:47,360 Speaker 1: they saw other things, that's for sure. Cause beautiful men 528 00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:50,240 Speaker 1: are not easy to marry because most men love themselves 529 00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:53,040 Speaker 1: when they're not beautiful. So can you imagine when they 530 00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,959 Speaker 1: are beautiful? So you see how lucky our husband's were 531 00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:59,520 Speaker 1: that they got the beautiful one. That's right. Somebody said 532 00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:01,040 Speaker 1: to me, I never don't want to marry a man 533 00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:04,840 Speaker 1: who's more beautiful than I am. The relationship is really 534 00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:08,600 Speaker 1: a very interesting it's like a holemock movie. Yeah, like 535 00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:12,320 Speaker 1: a home that's true. But poor girl becomes a pig, 536 00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:14,880 Speaker 1: that's true. I mean, you know, really when you think 537 00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:16,920 Speaker 1: about it. Here she's out on a date with a 538 00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:19,400 Speaker 1: guy and she sees another guy standing at the bar, 539 00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:23,480 Speaker 1: and she goes over and she talks to him. It's 540 00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:26,440 Speaker 1: a hormark man. Did you just see the Jewish mother 541 00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:29,200 Speaker 1: saying she's eating her chicken. She didn't talk to you. 542 00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:33,840 Speaker 1: I was hysterical that you wouldn't see on a Hallmark movie. 543 00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:38,000 Speaker 1: I guarantee it. But that was so funny. She's eating 544 00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:41,440 Speaker 1: her chicken. The guns hung up with that kind of mother. 545 00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:45,400 Speaker 1: Who needs this girl? But he was he was consistent, 546 00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:48,200 Speaker 1: and she was smart. She stayed by the world. Now 547 00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:50,760 Speaker 1: you have me very wondering why we never see a 548 00:33:50,840 --> 00:34:01,880 Speaker 1: Jewish mother at a home. That's right, they don't need chicken, alright, jee, Okay, 549 00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:06,280 Speaker 1: this is our last part, part six. Your own worth, then, 550 00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:09,480 Speaker 1: I think is going to kind of capsualize her whole life. 551 00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:13,000 Speaker 1: That's how she imprisses me, Adrian, don't you think so? 552 00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:16,520 Speaker 1: Knowing your own word, knowing right, and you can hear 553 00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:19,799 Speaker 1: it all through this whole thing. Okay, let's see if 554 00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:26,319 Speaker 1: we're right. Did anyone in your life ever tell you 555 00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:30,360 Speaker 1: you couldn't or you shouldn't do something you really wanted 556 00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:38,359 Speaker 1: to do? Not only anyone, everyone there were, particularly those years, 557 00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:42,160 Speaker 1: everything you couldn't do as a woman and little you 558 00:34:42,239 --> 00:34:46,160 Speaker 1: could do as a woman. So not for me. Was 559 00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:48,120 Speaker 1: I was going to do it? If I was going 560 00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:49,800 Speaker 1: to be in the Girl Scouts. I was going to 561 00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:53,360 Speaker 1: be the leader of the pack. I graduated high school, work, 562 00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:56,760 Speaker 1: went to college, went to school at night for five years. 563 00:34:56,800 --> 00:35:01,000 Speaker 1: I did what I had to do. So amazing women 564 00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:05,440 Speaker 1: those years you got married, had children, and your husband 565 00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:10,360 Speaker 1: was the boss show you say. I think the difference 566 00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:13,600 Speaker 1: today with the world and the relationship you when Scott 567 00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:17,319 Speaker 1: will have is you'll be partners now. As you know, 568 00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:21,359 Speaker 1: your grandfather and I were partners. But that was very 569 00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:25,840 Speaker 1: unusual because I was a success in business very young, 570 00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:31,120 Speaker 1: and you learned very early. You know your own worth today. 571 00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:35,879 Speaker 1: I think it's ingrained in young women. Yeah. I think 572 00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:39,399 Speaker 1: I always recognized that early on with you and Poppy, 573 00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:43,080 Speaker 1: that you guys were always partners. He was very proud 574 00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:46,440 Speaker 1: of me and very supportive of whatever I did, and 575 00:35:46,600 --> 00:35:50,920 Speaker 1: my career blossom because he helped it. You know, you 576 00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:55,200 Speaker 1: asked who influenced me most of my life. Ms. Murphy 577 00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:59,279 Speaker 1: in the fifth grade and my husband Ron. Your grandfather. 578 00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:03,600 Speaker 1: He was one fabulous guy, your grandpa, he really was. 579 00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:06,560 Speaker 1: You're going to be a real partner. I think you 580 00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:09,680 Speaker 1: keep your own money, you invest your own money, and 581 00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:12,880 Speaker 1: if you want to do something together, you pool your money. 582 00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:17,680 Speaker 1: But I think everything should be independent. Your decisions should 583 00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:21,240 Speaker 1: be what you want to do. Now, Scott may listen 584 00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:23,440 Speaker 1: to this and not be so happy with it, but 585 00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:27,920 Speaker 1: I do mean it in the nicest way. Yeah. I 586 00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:31,120 Speaker 1: think that's clear you're your own person. Yeah. I think 587 00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:33,840 Speaker 1: that that was one of the things that hopefully he 588 00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:38,759 Speaker 1: fell in love with first. I believe that what is 589 00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:41,680 Speaker 1: your best advice to someone who has big dreams but 590 00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:45,880 Speaker 1: doesn't know where to start? First, you have to find 591 00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:49,759 Speaker 1: your way. What is it you want to do and 592 00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:53,799 Speaker 1: what you believe you're capable of doing. You know you're 593 00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:57,000 Speaker 1: not going to be an astronaut, So you find your 594 00:36:57,000 --> 00:37:00,400 Speaker 1: way and then you get on that train and you 595 00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:04,440 Speaker 1: keep going till you get where you're going. But the 596 00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:09,160 Speaker 1: only way that works is back to head down. Don't 597 00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:12,120 Speaker 1: look up, take no curves, and you know what else, 598 00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:17,520 Speaker 1: If you look up after you've accomplished, when you're reasonably successful, 599 00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:21,160 Speaker 1: you'll be happy with yourself going forward. You'll have a 600 00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:24,719 Speaker 1: sense of self as you say, and keep on learning. 601 00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:29,680 Speaker 1: I love that. Thank you, Love you, baby girl. I'll 602 00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:36,760 Speaker 1: talk to you later. That's really nice, beautiful good advice. 603 00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:39,440 Speaker 1: What you make, it's your money. I agree with that 604 00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:43,720 Speaker 1: I always kept our account separate. Yeah, you don't count 605 00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:45,920 Speaker 1: I paid for this, you pay for that. That's not 606 00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:48,520 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But if you work, you're entitled to 607 00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:51,600 Speaker 1: have your own money what you want to do with it. Absolutely, 608 00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:54,800 Speaker 1: And I think that their relationship was a very very 609 00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:58,600 Speaker 1: strong one. He respected right. I don't think that it 610 00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:01,640 Speaker 1: hurt him. He respected her. She made a successful business. 611 00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:04,319 Speaker 1: She was not a stupid woman. She always heard her 612 00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:08,000 Speaker 1: own drama and marches right after it and doesn't look back. Yeah, 613 00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:11,400 Speaker 1: you know what else, I think grandmothers are younger today. 614 00:38:11,600 --> 00:38:14,759 Speaker 1: That's true. My grandmother was sixty eight years old when 615 00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:20,240 Speaker 1: she died. She was an old old lady right right today, 616 00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:23,759 Speaker 1: women in their seventies and eighties, a young women ready 617 00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:27,080 Speaker 1: to look at us. We do a podcast. That's true 618 00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:29,839 Speaker 1: that we would ever believe that. That's why there's such 619 00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:34,160 Speaker 1: a relationship between grandmothers and grandchildren today. My grandmother was 620 00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:36,520 Speaker 1: like this old lady, And if I wanted to know 621 00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:38,719 Speaker 1: how to make a chicken, I would ask my grandma. Now, 622 00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:41,439 Speaker 1: I loved my grandmother, but I knew when we went there, 623 00:38:41,560 --> 00:38:43,160 Speaker 1: the first thing to sit down, I got a good 624 00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:46,319 Speaker 1: dinner for you. You know that wasn't it right now? 625 00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:48,799 Speaker 1: But this is such a nice relationship and you could 626 00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:53,200 Speaker 1: see Adrian sees herself in this granddaughter and they're both successful, 627 00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:57,080 Speaker 1: but in their own way and their own individual way. 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