WEBVTT - GECKMAIL: “SHOULD I SHIT ON THEIR FLOOR?” 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:04.600 Hello, what's up? Welcome back to gek Mail. Gek Mail 0:00:04.800 --> 0:00:08.160 is what I am calling the version of this podcast 0:00:08.200 --> 0:00:11.360 where I don't take any phone calls and I just 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:17.079 rant alone for an hour or so and read emails. 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:21.040 It's been a new development in my podcasting journey. I 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:23.079 felt like I should switch it up a little bit again. 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:24.760 I don't know, I'm probably not gonna do this every 0:00:24.800 --> 0:00:28.360 single week, but I'm having fun with it, and so 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:33.960 I'm going to keep going. I guess before before we start, 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:39.400 I'm just gonna say I, if you live in Minneapolis, Minnesota, 0:00:39.960 --> 0:00:43.159 I am coming to your city to do my final 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:49.120 Therapy Gecko show of the year on November twenty fourth, 0:00:49.440 --> 0:00:53.800 and before that I will be going to Europe and 0:00:54.040 --> 0:00:59.240 the United Kingdom to do Therapy Gecko shows in Amsterdam, Berlin, 0:00:59.560 --> 0:01:04.920 manch Esther, London, Cologne, Dublin, and Glasgow. And if you 0:01:04.959 --> 0:01:07.320 want to get tickets for any of those, you can 0:01:07.360 --> 0:01:12.240 do it at Therapy Gecko tour dot com. That's my 0:01:12.280 --> 0:01:17.360 only little plug. So we let's let's start talking about stuff. 0:01:17.600 --> 0:01:22.000 I'm trying to start these episodes by just talking about 0:01:22.200 --> 0:01:28.080 like things from my life for my week, and I 0:01:28.080 --> 0:01:31.640 only only have two of them. So the first one 0:01:31.680 --> 0:01:37.480 is I was so I was watching porn last night. 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:42.640 I was watching porn last night and a little I 0:01:42.760 --> 0:01:46.400 was on Pornhub and a little ad came up. And 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:51.760 the ad it said, like, watch fat, ugly guys fuck 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:55.600 hot girls. And it showed a picture of a guy 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:59.440 naked next to a hot girl. And I swear to God, 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:03.400 the guy, I swear on my life. The guy in 0:02:03.480 --> 0:02:09.760 the picture had the exact same body as me, exactly 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:13.320 the same. His hair was placed the exact same way, 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:18.360 his belly looked the exact same And it was a 0:02:18.400 --> 0:02:20.720 bit of a wake up call for me if I 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:23.880 literally I took a screenshot of it so I couldn't 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:28.760 refer back to it. So you know, listen, I don't 0:02:28.760 --> 0:02:30.560 want to be on the record saying that my weight 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:34.920 loss journey is starting soon, because then people will shove 0:02:34.960 --> 0:02:36.959 it in my face a year later if I get fatter. 0:02:37.080 --> 0:02:39.480 But it just that did that shocked and appalled me. 0:02:39.520 --> 0:02:43.400 I will say, but it's good, it's a good Actually 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:45.880 it didn't. It more, it more so motivated me. It 0:02:45.960 --> 0:02:50.560 confirmed There's something kind of nice about like an objective 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:57.880 confirmation that, like you know, you got you do something, 0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:01.000 you gotta do something anyway. Uh that's one thing. The 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:06.760 other thing is this was today. You know, I try 0:03:07.639 --> 0:03:12.800 pretty hard to not be judgmental on this show and 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:16.600 in my I try in my real life to not 0:03:16.720 --> 0:03:18.600 be judgmental. And this is a recent thing. This is 0:03:18.600 --> 0:03:20.600 like since I've started. I mean, I think throughout my 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:24.720 life I've tried to be judgmental, but I think now 0:03:24.840 --> 0:03:31.160 that it's become like, uh, you know, literally not like 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:35.240 what this podcast is about, but like, you know, I 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:36.920 just try. I try not to be judgmental, but it's 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:39.440 but it's it's a if you don't if you're not 0:03:39.480 --> 0:03:42.360 always actively it's a thing you have to actively do 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:46.000 because as a human being, I think your default is 0:03:46.040 --> 0:03:48.520 to be judgmental and be like, you know, fuck that guy, 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:53.440 And so I judge people all the time because it's 0:03:53.440 --> 0:03:56.720 the human default. I'm I can be as judgmental as 0:03:56.760 --> 0:04:02.320 any other person. And I was in an elevator to 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:04.960 get to my apartment. But I was in my apartments 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:10.320 elevator and I got on and this girl pressed too, 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:15.080 and I was looking at her with a lot of judgment. 0:04:15.760 --> 0:04:17.440 I was like, what are you, What the fuck are 0:04:17.480 --> 0:04:20.080 you doing? Taking the elevator to the second floor. There's 0:04:20.120 --> 0:04:25.080 just literally one set of stairs. It's not like the 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:26.680 whole thing we have to go up multiple sets of 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:28.560 stairs to get to the second floor. Just one set 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:31.120 of stairs. And I was really judging this lady for 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:33.600 taking the elevator to the second floor, and then I 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:39.640 realized I live on the third floor. That's all it 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:41.720 took for me to feel like I was better than 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:45.880 this person. It's just one floor. It's like, well, no, 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:48.240 I'm not, you know, being lazy. I live on the 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:52.719 third floor. You live on the second floor. There's a difference. 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:57.560 That's all it took was one floor to get to 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:01.960 step to make me a true, much better person than 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:08.160 this lady taking the elevator to the second floor. Okay, 0:05:08.160 --> 0:05:10.720 I'm gonna get better at doing this. I'm gonna get 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:17.839 better at externalizing like this. But uh, we're gonna We're 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:20.560 gonna keep let's keep trying. Someone in the chat said, 0:05:20.560 --> 0:05:23.680 I'm not sure I agree with humanity's default setting being judgmental. 0:05:24.160 --> 0:05:29.440 I kind of think that it is, though, I kind 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:32.960 of think that it is, like it's definitely well because 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:34.560 there's a lot of reasons why I think it is 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:38.160 I think, well, one, it's fun, It's really fun. It 0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:42.000 feels good. It feels good. Like it's in the same 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:45.159 way that like eating candy feels good and smoking weed 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:48.320 feels good and all these other like you know, fucking 0:05:48.480 --> 0:05:51.520 hating someone and and thinking that they suck and you're 0:05:51.560 --> 0:05:53.680 so much better than them. There's like it. I think 0:05:53.680 --> 0:05:58.720 it like sainifically, probably releases a lot of dopamine in 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:02.919 your brain. And also you just you need something to 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:06.560 grab onto, like you need to. Kind of life is 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:14.120 a weird, abstract thing. It's intangible, and when you can 0:06:14.560 --> 0:06:17.360 feel like you're better than someone else, you feel like 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:21.640 you exist more. And that's I think we all want 0:06:21.640 --> 0:06:24.120 to kind of feel like we exist. And so it 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:26.520 helps to make someone to look at someone else and 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:31.719 be like, you suck. That's why I do it. I guess, 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:34.360 all right, should we take some emails? Should we look 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:38.120 at some stuff? Let's do that. Let's do let's do 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:45.800 some Let's do some emails. All right. This is from 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:52.400 Steph subject line advice slash opinion. Okay, I can do 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:56.240 an opinion. Steph says love your show been subscribed on 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:59.880 Apple Podcasts since twenty twenty one. You have the ability 0:06:59.880 --> 0:07:04.560 to squeeze honesty out of people with your excellently timed responses. 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:07.560 Thank you, Steph. And by providing comfort through your own honesty, 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:12.080 you're able to unlock more interesting conversations. Thank you, Steph. Okay, 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:14.760 quick question, how should I tell my five year old 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:18.080 his dad is in prison? Or should I tell him 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:21.320 at all? Oh? God, oh man, I'm not the right 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:26.240 uh hm, I'll let me think about this. Should I 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:29.000 wait until he understands more when he is older, or 0:07:29.160 --> 0:07:36.440 waiting cause something emotionally irreversible. Thanks. I'm trying to debate 0:07:36.480 --> 0:07:41.760 if I have an opinion on this, because I don't have. Okay, 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:43.680 I'm trying to remember what life was like when you 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:49.120 were five, Like when I was let's see, I think 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:54.000 let's see, my parents got divorced in like two thousand 0:07:55.920 --> 0:08:01.560 three or one, and I was like five or seven, 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:09.480 and it kind of I think, because I understood it 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:14.480 so young, it was just like a part I like, 0:08:15.280 --> 0:08:20.000 like it was something I I can't remember life before that. 0:08:21.320 --> 0:08:25.520 And so maybe if you tell your kid now, like 0:08:25.800 --> 0:08:28.280 your kid will always like that's the reality that they'll 0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:29.400 grow up in. And I mean, it's the I guess 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:32.160 it's the reality that they'll grow up in whether or 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:37.000 not you tell them. God, I have to admit I 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:40.319 don't have I don't have advice for this person at all. 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:47.439 I'm sorry. Well, he's gonna find out eventually, do I 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:48.920 I get this is one of the ones where I'd 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:50.640 want to talk to them because I'm curious if the 0:08:50.760 --> 0:08:54.480 if your son, I mean your son probably asks about 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:57.880 his dad, right, what are five year olds like? Do 0:08:57.960 --> 0:09:03.320 they talk? Do they have thoughts and opinions about, do 0:09:03.320 --> 0:09:09.600 they observe stuff? Are they real people? Kind of? I 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:14.560 guess there's probably a way to explain it. I could 0:09:14.640 --> 0:09:18.760 see an episode of Sesame Street where like Elmo's father 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:25.480 is in jail for embezzlement and uh and and like 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:29.720 some celebrity has to come in and gently explain to 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:32.960 him that. So I bet I five A five year 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:38.000 could probably handle it. I don't know, let's get but 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:41.559 what someone said, well, she also said, will waiting cause 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:48.319 something emotionally irreversible? I don't think so. I don't think 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:51.079 that will cause something emotionally irver irreversible. I think if 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:55.400 you hit him or deprived him of food, that would 0:09:55.400 --> 0:10:01.880 be emotionally irreversible. But just telling him that reality of 0:10:03.080 --> 0:10:06.800 his dad being in prison. I mean, it's not your 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:14.160 fault that his dad is in prison. Do the I don't. 0:10:14.240 --> 0:10:17.400 I want to let I I guess my opinion. If 0:10:17.440 --> 0:10:24.400 I had to give an opinion on this, I would say, 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:28.080 you're clearly you're a person who is acting with your 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:33.240 child's best interest, and so I think as long as 0:10:33.280 --> 0:10:37.800 you as long as that's your priority, you're not going 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:43.760 to cause emotional, emotionally irreversible damage to your kid. I 0:10:43.760 --> 0:10:49.480 think as long as you do that and give them food. Okay, 0:10:49.480 --> 0:10:53.840 this is from Sean subject line. I know it's the check. 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:56.199 Hold on, let me see what the chat thinks. Someone 0:10:56.240 --> 0:11:02.880 says there's five year olds that shoot guns. That's true. 0:11:03.440 --> 0:11:07.079 Someone said children themselves are known for telling the truth 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:13.080 without sugarcoating it. So there it's a possibility that so 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:15.280 you're really if you just say, hey, your dad's in prison, 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:23.520 maybe that maybe that's well, we'll give him the uh uh. 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:27.560 Maybe you're speaking his language there. Okay. This is from 0:11:27.600 --> 0:11:32.320 Sean subject line the BBW issue. Sean says, hey, there, 0:11:32.360 --> 0:11:36.440 my g straight to the point. I couldn't tell I'm handsome, 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:41.800 but like I'm really all right, I do sports. I'm 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:46.840 six foot one tall. Thing is I'm really into bbw's 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:51.800 for the layman that stands for big beautiful women, And like, 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:55.560 I broke up with my recent girlfriend because she wasn't 0:11:55.720 --> 0:12:01.960 fat and ugly enough and all so shorts. I forgot 0:12:02.000 --> 0:12:06.040 to mention the ugly factor. Now, when I date fat 0:12:06.160 --> 0:12:10.120 chicks that most guys will rate as a three, they 0:12:10.280 --> 0:12:14.520 like ask, they ask, why would a guy like you 0:12:15.960 --> 0:12:21.680 even call me on a date? And that's always the trap? Okay, 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:28.000 And then he writes, Then he writes, I am very 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:36.079 very very very very sorry if someone finds this offensive. Well, 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:40.280 here's what I don't understand about. Here's the I guess 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:42.000 the main thing that I understand about this email is 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:47.920 what do you What is your issue here? I guess 0:12:48.040 --> 0:12:54.840 in your own brain what there? You could observe other issues, 0:12:54.920 --> 0:12:58.080 but that's for I don't know what is the issue 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:01.800 in this email. I'm really into bvdwas I broke up 0:13:01.800 --> 0:13:04.520 with my recent girlfriend because she wasn't fat and ugly enough, 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:08.720 And now women will ask, why would a guy like 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:10.360 you even call me on a date? And that's always 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:16.600 the trap. Why is that a trap? You don't sound 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:25.320 I mean everything else aside I was I was just 0:13:25.600 --> 0:13:28.120 I don't really, I don't, I only really, I only 0:13:28.200 --> 0:13:30.560 within the last two seconds did it come to me 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:36.720 that this person might be fucking with me. But I 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:42.280 part of me thinks they're not. I mean that's cool. 0:13:43.400 --> 0:13:49.080 I mean try to why is this surprise? Wouldn't it 0:13:49.080 --> 0:13:52.440 be like this is like kind of a good because 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:56.920 wouldn't it be worse for you if like you were, 0:13:57.000 --> 0:14:01.800 like I really can only be attracted to like really 0:14:01.840 --> 0:14:06.319 really really attractive people. Wouldn't that make your life more difficult? 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:14.840 This is like a good thing. I guess yeah, because 0:14:14.880 --> 0:14:17.480 when you say that's a trap, I don't understand how 0:14:17.520 --> 0:14:26.040 what why you're referring to this as a trap anyway, Okay, 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:34.720 I mean that's cool this this guy's got a good life. Okay, yeah, 0:14:34.720 --> 0:14:44.600 what does the chat think? Just tell the woman that 0:14:44.640 --> 0:14:47.000 she's your type. I'm sure a lot of women would 0:14:47.000 --> 0:14:54.040 appreciate that. What I guess so well, I don't is 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:57.240 that like when someone when you when if someone says 0:14:57.280 --> 0:14:59.800 to you this is a this is a question for 0:14:59.840 --> 0:15:01.920 the people, for the people listening, if you're dating someone 0:15:01.960 --> 0:15:05.400 then they say that you're like physically you are their type. 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:09.360 How does that make you feel? Do you feel good? 0:15:09.400 --> 0:15:11.320 Do you feel good about that? Or are you like 0:15:11.960 --> 0:15:16.920 me personally? Me personally? I have had experiences before where 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:21.360 someone has told me they're like, I am into hairy 0:15:21.440 --> 0:15:25.800 Jewish guys and maybe this is like a guy thing. 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:27.240 I don't know. But when someone says that to me, 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:32.520 I'm like that cool, sick. I'm honored to be the 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:35.720 hairy Jewish guy in your life at this moment. I 0:15:35.880 --> 0:15:40.280 take no issue with that. But that maybe that's not 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:51.840 a universal Maybe that's not universal. All right? What else 0:15:51.880 --> 0:15:55.760 does the chat say? He sounds like he doesn't think 0:15:55.840 --> 0:16:01.760 he deserves someone attractive. I didn't get that feeling from 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:09.720 them at all. Someone in the chat says, I am 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:15.200 an ugly guy and beautiful women like me. Lol. That's 0:16:15.200 --> 0:16:26.920 really nice, all right? This is from spin Top, subject 0:16:26.920 --> 0:16:31.680 line boyfriend wants to move out. I don't. I'm unsure 0:16:31.760 --> 0:16:35.840 if you're still reading emails, but here's mine. You didn't 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:39.080 really need to include that. My name is Daniel and 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:42.360 I'm currently in a relationship with another man. We both 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:47.080 live in South Florida, and after dealing with Hurricane Milton, 0:16:47.480 --> 0:16:50.440 which fortunately did not hit us, Both my partner and 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:53.200 I have learned and come to the conclusion that due 0:16:53.200 --> 0:16:56.160 to climate change growing worse over the years, things will 0:16:56.200 --> 0:16:58.680 get worse in the state of Florida and we will 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:02.280 soon be living underwater. So my partner wants to move out. 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:05.320 I've lived in Florida my entire life. I'm twenty two 0:17:05.400 --> 0:17:08.439 years old, so moving out to a new tour moving 0:17:08.480 --> 0:17:13.080 out is new territory for me. And secondly, I'm currently 0:17:13.200 --> 0:17:17.359 in two growing punk bands. That's pretty cool. I'm really 0:17:17.359 --> 0:17:19.439 into the punk scene, and I know people who know 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:23.680 larger artists me. Moving out would mean me leaving behind 0:17:23.760 --> 0:17:28.280 everything I've built and having to start all over. Music 0:17:28.400 --> 0:17:32.760 is my passion. I want to be like the theoc's 0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:36.280 and perform in front of large audiences and make music 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:40.560 for a living. Okay, I'm gonna finish reading this before 0:17:40.560 --> 0:17:42.440 I get my thoughts. I've told him that if I 0:17:42.480 --> 0:17:46.280 were to move, I'd be interested in checking out Philly, Chicago, Jersey, 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:50.600 or Seattle, all great cities. He's okay with Seattle, mainly 0:17:50.600 --> 0:17:52.480 because all the other cities I've mentioned to him are 0:17:54.040 --> 0:17:57.280 He's okay with Seattle and all the other cities I've 0:17:57.280 --> 0:18:01.200 mentioned to him are quote unquote get it to him 0:18:01.400 --> 0:18:05.879 except his home state of New Jersey. I am really 0:18:05.960 --> 0:18:09.119 unsure how the music scene is like and how the 0:18:09.160 --> 0:18:13.280 city looks over in Seattle. I'm just overall scared that 0:18:13.320 --> 0:18:16.200 I'll be leaving behind everything and end up in another 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:19.560 city with nothing for me. I'll be losing all my 0:18:19.640 --> 0:18:22.240 friends that I have here, and I'm scared I'll end 0:18:22.359 --> 0:18:25.000 up having to give up on my dream. One Currently 0:18:25.160 --> 0:18:29.000 I'm building up closer to achieving my dream. Please Green Gecko, 0:18:29.160 --> 0:18:33.560 give me your wisdom. Sincerely, Daniel Oh, I actually I 0:18:33.560 --> 0:18:36.240 really like this email. There's a lot to think about here, 0:18:37.080 --> 0:18:41.880 and I feel like I have some experience, first of all, 0:18:41.920 --> 0:18:45.800 as your fucking boyfriend been to these cities, because if 0:18:45.800 --> 0:18:48.040 he's it would kind of piss me off if he's 0:18:48.080 --> 0:18:53.600 just saying that they're ghettos without being there. Chicago and 0:18:53.600 --> 0:18:58.199 Philly are awesome cities. There are the two cities. I 0:18:58.240 --> 0:19:01.000 live in New York, but I'm I'm constantly thinking about 0:19:01.280 --> 0:19:05.880 leaving one day, and Chicago and Philly are like next 0:19:05.960 --> 0:19:10.439 up on my list. Both like great walkable cities with 0:19:10.520 --> 0:19:13.920 a lot of you know, public transport and culture. And 0:19:14.640 --> 0:19:18.800 I'm sure Philly and Chicago have Here's the thing, dude, 0:19:18.960 --> 0:19:21.680 you live in South abround Broward County. Where the fuck 0:19:21.720 --> 0:19:28.560 is Broward County? I guarantee Chicago Philly both have much 0:19:28.720 --> 0:19:32.960 better scenes for for what you want to do than 0:19:33.119 --> 0:19:36.360 Broward County, Florida. Okay, you're like, yeah, you're in You're 0:19:36.359 --> 0:19:39.200 like near Miami. I don't know what to Miami. When 0:19:39.200 --> 0:19:41.280 I think Miami, this is completely I mean, I've been 0:19:41.320 --> 0:19:43.439 to Miami a bunch of times. But when I think Miami, 0:19:43.520 --> 0:19:47.639 I don't think grungey punk. I think like pristine like 0:19:47.840 --> 0:19:51.760 DJ club people. If you want to get into some 0:19:51.800 --> 0:19:56.919 grungey like punk shit, then I mean, yeah, Philly Jersey 0:19:57.680 --> 0:20:00.919 are are the way to go. But here's what this 0:20:01.000 --> 0:20:11.119 really comes down to is I suppose a you're currently 0:20:11.160 --> 0:20:14.280 into growing punk bands like you Okay, So basically, you 0:20:14.359 --> 0:20:19.600 have a community already where you live, and you really 0:20:19.880 --> 0:20:27.119 like your community where you live, and you're afraid of 0:20:27.359 --> 0:20:30.120 having to leave it behind and start and new. There's 0:20:30.160 --> 0:20:34.000 a lot of ways to think about this. Wanting to 0:20:34.119 --> 0:20:38.199 leave Florida because it's going to be underwater is a 0:20:38.200 --> 0:20:42.840 good idea. I think, I don't know. Wanting to leave 0:20:42.880 --> 0:20:45.520 Florida because it's going to be underwater soon. Is is 0:20:46.280 --> 0:20:49.280 is not a bad idea. I mean, I'm sure that 0:20:49.320 --> 0:20:51.880 the other people, there's a bunch of people who live 0:20:51.920 --> 0:20:54.200 down there, they're probably going to figure it out. 0:20:54.280 --> 0:21:03.240 But I think if you really want to like, listen 0:21:03.240 --> 0:21:05.240 to what you want to do, right, listen to what 0:21:05.280 --> 0:21:06.359 you want to do, If you. 0:21:06.320 --> 0:21:09.879 Really want to leave Florida, and you really believe that 0:21:10.960 --> 0:21:18.440 the future of your life is outside of Florida, then 0:21:19.920 --> 0:21:23.480 we can go further into reasons why you should feel 0:21:23.480 --> 0:21:29.200 confident in your decision. But if the only thing that's 0:21:29.359 --> 0:21:34.280 driving you out of Florida is your boyfriend and you're 0:21:34.320 --> 0:21:36.560 twenty two, it's not like you said, fucking married and 0:21:36.600 --> 0:21:40.400 you have kids and a whole thing, then I wouldn't 0:21:40.400 --> 0:21:50.200 do this just because your boyfriend wants you to. I'm one. 0:21:50.600 --> 0:21:52.520 I remember I grew up. I would grow up. I 0:21:52.520 --> 0:21:54.480 didn't grow up in Philly. I went to college in Philly, 0:21:54.560 --> 0:21:59.880 and I had a little comedy club in my base 0:22:00.119 --> 0:22:02.719 mint in Philadelphia. It was called Cave I ran it. 0:22:03.080 --> 0:22:04.679 I ran like a little comedy club out of my 0:22:04.680 --> 0:22:10.240 basement for three years in Philadelphia. And I remember when 0:22:10.240 --> 0:22:16.120 I left Philadelphia to go to Atlanta. I was feeling 0:22:16.119 --> 0:22:18.440 of and I was twenty two. I was feeling very 0:22:18.600 --> 0:22:22.879 very similar way as you feel that I had a 0:22:22.920 --> 0:22:25.359 community and I had built so much up already, and 0:22:25.359 --> 0:22:28.639 I was like, should I should I leave and pursue 0:22:28.680 --> 0:22:31.199 further objectives or should I foster the growing community that 0:22:31.200 --> 0:22:36.800 I already have, and blah blah blah. And here here's 0:22:37.000 --> 0:22:43.560 what I ultimately think is that you got to operate 0:22:45.200 --> 0:22:51.320 from an abundance mindset, especially when you're fucking young. You 0:22:51.320 --> 0:22:53.520 don't want to just be like, all right, we settled, 0:22:53.560 --> 0:22:57.360 we did it. When you're twenty two, yeah, operate from 0:22:57.359 --> 0:23:04.120 that abundance mindset and like, oh the Philly punks. I'm 0:23:04.160 --> 0:23:07.359 gonna take over the Philly punk scene. I'm gonna go 0:23:07.480 --> 0:23:11.520 out to shows seven nights a week. I'm gonna talk 0:23:11.600 --> 0:23:16.040 to strangers. I'm gonna start putting on my own shows. 0:23:16.520 --> 0:23:19.800 I'm gonna form a new band, I'm gonna get involved. 0:23:19.800 --> 0:23:21.600 Because any using you can go to any of these 0:23:21.600 --> 0:23:26.440 fucking cities, and if you just keep showing up and 0:23:27.880 --> 0:23:31.040 putting on your own things that other people go to, 0:23:31.280 --> 0:23:40.080 you'll be fine. Right, You'll be fine because you're operating 0:23:40.359 --> 0:23:45.920 from a mindset that there's always gonna be more opportunities 0:23:46.720 --> 0:23:52.480 for you. But if you're just doing this because your boyfriends, 0:23:52.680 --> 0:23:56.440 who kind of sounds I was about to say he 0:23:56.480 --> 0:23:59.359 sounds like an asshole, but you all you've said is 0:23:59.400 --> 0:24:06.639 that he said that these places are ghettos. I'm not 0:24:06.680 --> 0:24:08.560 gonna say he's an asshole because I don't know him, 0:24:08.680 --> 0:24:12.000 but he doesn't sound it from everything I know about him, 0:24:12.600 --> 0:24:19.240 which is limited. It sounds like, you know, I don't 0:24:19.280 --> 0:24:21.840 know if you need to make major, major life decisions 0:24:21.880 --> 0:24:31.560 based on what he wants to do. But that's my 0:24:31.640 --> 0:24:37.280 ultimate feeling about this is that whatever wherever you do, 0:24:37.720 --> 0:24:40.280 wherever you go, just take have an abind have an 0:24:40.280 --> 0:24:44.520 abundance mindset that there's actually a lot more things to 0:24:44.600 --> 0:24:48.920 do and people to meet, and bands to play in 0:24:49.080 --> 0:24:53.920 and music to create, and you'll be fine no matter 0:24:53.960 --> 0:24:59.720 what you do. What's the chat say? The chat just says, 0:24:59.720 --> 0:25:02.120 why are you so Harry? Are you Italian? All right? 0:25:08.359 --> 0:25:10.960 Someone said, if you've got money, just move already. The 0:25:11.000 --> 0:25:13.760 world is too nice to just stick to one location. 0:25:14.160 --> 0:25:16.080 I feel that way in a sense. I feel like 0:25:16.080 --> 0:25:17.960 if you just grow up. I feel like if I 0:25:18.000 --> 0:25:19.679 mean this person would they say, they say that they 0:25:19.720 --> 0:25:23.399 lived Did you grow up there? Oh yeah, I've lived 0:25:23.440 --> 0:25:25.400 in Florida my whole life. You've lived in Florida your 0:25:25.480 --> 0:25:30.040 whole life. If you've lived here your whole life. In 0:25:30.200 --> 0:25:33.920 twenty two I think I think it helps the soul 0:25:34.040 --> 0:25:36.080 to see what life is like in other parts of 0:25:36.080 --> 0:25:40.359 the country, in the world. Someone said, modern society tells 0:25:40.400 --> 0:25:42.879 you that you need to settle somewhere, build roots, establish 0:25:42.920 --> 0:25:46.680 a four oh one k. People all over have very fulfilling, 0:25:46.760 --> 0:25:59.120 non traditional lifestyles. I agree with that very much. Oh wait, 0:25:59.119 --> 0:26:02.239 what did someone say that I'm in I live in 0:26:02.280 --> 0:26:05.840 Tampa and the punk scene is way better here than 0:26:05.840 --> 0:26:08.840 in Broward, But it's even better in Seattle. Yeah. All 0:26:08.920 --> 0:26:11.840 those places that you mentioned, bro, Yeah yeah, dude, all 0:26:11.880 --> 0:26:14.320 those places that you mentioned are gonna be way cooler 0:26:14.359 --> 0:26:18.840 than Broward County, Florida. Go go, God, have an adventure, man, 0:26:19.480 --> 0:26:21.240 Go have an adventure. Maybe who knows, maybe you'll find 0:26:21.240 --> 0:26:25.000 a new boyfriend or you can or keep the one 0:26:25.040 --> 0:26:27.280 you have. I don't know. I don't know why I'm 0:26:27.800 --> 0:26:31.160 railing on your boyfriend. Maybe he's nice, I don't know him. Okay, 0:26:31.240 --> 0:26:38.560 let's move on. Okay. This is from Ebbie, subject line 0:26:38.960 --> 0:26:45.000 poolboy woes Hi GEK, love you, thanks dog. I work 0:26:45.040 --> 0:26:47.800 at a hotel with some friends. I'm the pool boy 0:26:47.920 --> 0:26:50.760 slash maintenance worker. It's a nice job when it's not 0:26:50.800 --> 0:26:54.159 insanely busy, but I'm the evening worker, so I'm in 0:26:54.280 --> 0:26:58.640 charge of closing the pool, cleaning and restocking. I got 0:26:58.680 --> 0:27:01.439 called in one morning after closing the previous night and 0:27:01.480 --> 0:27:05.240 the pool was a mess, dirty towels, water all over 0:27:05.280 --> 0:27:08.520 the floor, bathroom lights were on, and the pool room 0:27:08.600 --> 0:27:13.359 lights were on. Turns out the hotel front desk night 0:27:13.440 --> 0:27:15.919 shift let their buddies. Wait, okay, hello on these an 0:27:15.920 --> 0:27:18.639 evening work. I was too busy reading the actual like 0:27:18.640 --> 0:27:20.879 I was too busy saying the words to actually comprehend 0:27:20.880 --> 0:27:22.800 what I was reading. Okay, he's in charge of cleaning 0:27:22.840 --> 0:27:25.200 and restocking. He got called in in the morning after 0:27:25.240 --> 0:27:27.720 closing the previous night. Okay, all right, So he closes, 0:27:29.200 --> 0:27:32.080 comes in in the morning and everything's fucked up. Turns 0:27:32.080 --> 0:27:35.680 out the hotel front desk night shift let their buddies 0:27:35.760 --> 0:27:38.560 in after hours to the pool, and they didn't clean 0:27:38.640 --> 0:27:42.280 up after themselves. I had told my supervisor because if 0:27:42.320 --> 0:27:45.479 they saw that on camera, they'd think I forgot to 0:27:45.480 --> 0:27:48.879 lock the door. It's fucked up. About half the front 0:27:48.880 --> 0:27:51.919 desk workers talk down to me now and treat me 0:27:52.040 --> 0:27:56.360 like shit. My family tells me I'm a party pooper, 0:27:56.600 --> 0:27:58.880 but I was just doing my job. Your family told 0:27:58.920 --> 0:28:01.560 you you're a party pooper. To be fair, they could 0:28:01.560 --> 0:28:03.920 have cleaned up after themselves and I wouldn't have known 0:28:03.960 --> 0:28:07.480 they were there. Is this deserved? Bro would have gotten 0:28:07.560 --> 0:28:11.800 chemical burns if it was being super chlorinated for fecal contamination. 0:28:12.359 --> 0:28:14.639 The story is funny to me now, except it's not 0:28:14.680 --> 0:28:17.040 fun when I'm on shift with those front desk workers. 0:28:17.400 --> 0:28:20.639