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Speaker 1: Hello, what's up? Welcome back to gek Mail. Gek Mail

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Speaker 1: is what I am calling the version of this podcast

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Speaker 1: where I don't take any phone calls and I just

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Speaker 1: rant alone for an hour or so and read emails.

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Speaker 1: It's been a new development in my podcasting journey. I

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Speaker 1: felt like I should switch it up a little bit again.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm probably not gonna do this every

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Speaker 1: single week, but I'm having fun with it, and so

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Speaker 1: I'm going to keep going. I guess before before we start,

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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say I, if you live in Minneapolis, Minnesota,

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Speaker 1: I am coming to your city to do my final

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Speaker 1: Therapy Gecko show of the year on November twenty fourth,

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Speaker 1: and before that I will be going to Europe and

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Speaker 1: the United Kingdom to do Therapy Gecko shows in Amsterdam, Berlin,

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Speaker 1: manch Esther, London, Cologne, Dublin, and Glasgow. And if you

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Speaker 1: do it at Therapy Gecko tour dot com. That's my

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Speaker 1: only little plug. So we let's let's start talking about stuff.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to start these episodes by just talking about

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Speaker 1: like things from my life for my week, and I

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Speaker 1: is I was so I was watching porn last night.

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Speaker 1: I was watching porn last night and a little I

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Speaker 1: was on Pornhub and a little ad came up. And

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Speaker 1: the ad it said, like, watch fat, ugly guys fuck

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Speaker 1: bit of a wake up call for me if I

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Speaker 1: literally I took a screenshot of it so I couldn't

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Speaker 1: want to be on the record saying that my weight

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Speaker 1: loss journey is starting soon, because then people will shove

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Speaker 1: it in my face a year later if I get fatter.

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Speaker 1: But it just that did that shocked and appalled me.

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Speaker 1: confirmed There's something kind of nice about like an objective

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Speaker 1: you gotta do something anyway. Uh that's one thing. The

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Speaker 1: other thing is this was today. You know, I try

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Speaker 1: pretty hard to not be judgmental on this show and

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Speaker 1: be like, you suck. That's why I do it. I guess,

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Speaker 1: all right, should we take some emails? Should we look

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Speaker 1: at some stuff? Let's do that. Let's do let's do

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Speaker 1: some Let's do some emails. All right. This is from

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Speaker 1: Steph subject line advice slash opinion. Okay, I can do

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Speaker 1: an opinion. Steph says love your show been subscribed on

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Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts since twenty twenty one. You have the ability

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Speaker 1: to squeeze honesty out of people with your excellently timed responses.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Steph. And by providing comfort through your own honesty,

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Speaker 1: you're able to unlock more interesting conversations. Thank you, Steph. Okay,

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Speaker 1: quick question, how should I tell my five year old

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Speaker 1: waiting cause something emotionally irreversible. Thanks. I'm trying to debate

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Speaker 1: And so maybe if you tell your kid now, like

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Speaker 1: see an episode of Sesame Street where like Elmo's father

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Speaker 1: what someone said, well, she also said, will waiting cause

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Speaker 1: the trap. Why is that a trap? You don't sound

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Speaker 1: part of me thinks they're not. I mean that's cool.

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Speaker 1: I mean try to why is this surprise? Wouldn't it

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Speaker 1: wouldn't it be worse for you if like you were,

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Speaker 1: I mean that's cool this this guy's got a good life. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: this story because I have questions for you. I want

426
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Speaker 1: to know how you responded to this, because like we

427
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:16,320
Speaker 1: can here's here's my here's my here's my thing with Like,

428
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 1: there's a lot of Reddit posts out there about like

429
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 1: am I overreacting? Or are my feelings valid? And they're

430
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:33,400
Speaker 1: the question of whether or not one's feelings are valid

431
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:38,000
Speaker 1: is like, it's an interesting question because I look, if

432
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: you're asking me my perspective are your feelings about fucking?

433
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 1: Of course? Yeah, of course there are These people were

434
00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:47,040
Speaker 1: fucking with you, right, But the question of whether or

435
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:50,840
Speaker 1: not your feelings are valid, I guess only matters if

436
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:56,560
Speaker 1: it leads to an action of some kind, right, like

437
00:30:56,560 --> 00:30:58,360
Speaker 1: like did you what did you say to these people

438
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 1: the way you tell your boss? Are you in a

439
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:06,320
Speaker 1: position where you can where you really feel like you've

440
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 1: been disrespected enough that you can go look for a

441
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:11,400
Speaker 1: job somewhere else? Are you in that financial position to

442
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:15,560
Speaker 1: be able to do that? So that's the question of like,

443
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 1: are your feelings valid? Of course they are, but that's

444
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 1: not the question. The question is what should you do now?

445
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:23,200
Speaker 1: And those are all the questions I have for you.

446
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:25,719
Speaker 1: Is are you in a position where if you really

447
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 1: feel like you're in a place where everywhere, your family

448
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:33,080
Speaker 1: and your coworkers and your boss are all just like

449
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 1: out for you, Like at a certain point, when do

450
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:40,800
Speaker 1: you kind of stand up for yourself and go either, well,

451
00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:42,680
Speaker 1: you stand up to yourself for them, and you go, hey,

452
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 1: I can't be treated this way. And then if they

453
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck, when are you like, Okay, I

454
00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 1: need to leverage myself somewhere else And are you in

455
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 1: a position to do that? Can you save until you're

456
00:31:57,280 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 1: in a position to do that? Yeah? Call in, man,

457
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 1: these are questions I want to I want to ask

458
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 1: you about the situation. But uh but no, you're not

459
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:09,600
Speaker 1: You're not crazy for uh not for having somebody else's

460
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 1: mess blamed on you. Oh wait, is he in the chat? Oh?

461
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 1: He's in the chat? Oh? Okay, hold on, Well, I

462
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 1: don't know how this is gonna work. They're all friends,

463
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 1: he said. The funniest thing is the manager hates them.

464
00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:31,880
Speaker 1: But nothing was really done. Okay, call, he said, I'll call,

465
00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 1: he said, I'll call in when I can. But management

466
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 1: fucking sucks here. All right, Well, now he's in the

467
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 1: he's in the chat. Okay, let's keep going. This is

468
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 1: from McKenzie. This is from McKenzie. Subject line should I

469
00:32:56,400 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 1: transfer schools? Mackenzie says, Hi, I get. I transferred to

470
00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 1: university this semester. I have been taking classes in person

471
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 1: and I absolutely love the program I am in. With

472
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 1: that being said, I have been considering transferring to a

473
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:16,640
Speaker 1: different schools online program for a couple of reasons. One

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00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 1: is that it's a two hour commute to my school

475
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:24,000
Speaker 1: one way. Oh, Jesus Man. That's four hours. This program

476
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:27,080
Speaker 1: is only in person and only offered on specific days

477
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 1: at only one time. Next semester. They wanted me on

478
00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 1: campus four days a week, which I can't do because

479
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 1: I have a job that is directly related to my degree.

480
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:39,719
Speaker 1: It's the same degree, same cost covered by FASTPA. The

481
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:44,640
Speaker 1: only difference is it's online versus in person, and I

482
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:49,959
Speaker 1: have fomo. What do you think I should do? Well?

483
00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 1: The court? Well, you say you have fomo, Well, I'm

484
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 1: curious about it. If you, what do you what do

485
00:33:55,080 --> 00:34:00,160
Speaker 1: you have fomo about? I've been taking class, this is

486
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:05,880
Speaker 1: in person, and I absolutely love the program I'm in. Well,

487
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:08,400
Speaker 1: I here's the thing I can't really like. I'm not

488
00:34:08,440 --> 00:34:10,239
Speaker 1: going to answer what I think you should do, But

489
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:14,720
Speaker 1: the questions I would have are what do you love

490
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:18,040
Speaker 1: about the program? And what are you afraid of missing

491
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:22,840
Speaker 1: out on? And are the things you love about the

492
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:29,719
Speaker 1: program things that specifically are about being in person? And

493
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:31,840
Speaker 1: are and is that? And are the things you have

494
00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 1: fomo about specifically related to being in person? Here? Because

495
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:42,280
Speaker 1: if you have fomo about, just like you just naturally

496
00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 1: want to be around other people. If you have fomo

497
00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:57,080
Speaker 1: that you just naturally want to be around other people

498
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:06,640
Speaker 1: who are in your field and connect with them. If

499
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:09,279
Speaker 1: you choose to do the online route, I feel like

500
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:14,760
Speaker 1: there's creative solutions to do that, like a fucking discord

501
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:21,239
Speaker 1: with the other classmates, or like weekly in person meetups

502
00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:23,759
Speaker 1: or something like that. There's there's I think you can

503
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 1: kind of have your cake and eat it too, if

504
00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 1: that's what you want to do. So I guess I

505
00:35:32,040 --> 00:35:33,719
Speaker 1: would say that. That's what I would say if I

506
00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:35,759
Speaker 1: had to kind of think critically about this, is that

507
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 1: I would look at what is if you decide if

508
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:42,919
Speaker 1: you go through all the logistics and you're like, I really,

509
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 1: if you go through all the logistics and your really

510
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:50,200
Speaker 1: you are trying to make in person work, but you've

511
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 1: you've landed on like I fucking just can't make it work.

512
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:58,359
Speaker 1: I have to do the online thing. I wouldn't And again,

513
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:01,719
Speaker 1: you have to do your exhaustive pros and cons list

514
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:05,759
Speaker 1: before you make that decision. But if you go down

515
00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 1: the path of like, you know, I just have to

516
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 1: do this shit online, I wouldn't completely give up the

517
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:15,880
Speaker 1: things that you love about it. I would be like,

518
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:19,400
Speaker 1: how can I hybrid this? How can I take the

519
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:22,440
Speaker 1: things I love about being in this in person program

520
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:29,400
Speaker 1: and find a way to sort of fulfill those vessels,

521
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:35,040
Speaker 1: sort of fulfill those desires while also doing this online

522
00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:37,319
Speaker 1: program and kind of, I guess, get creative with how

523
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:42,359
Speaker 1: you can do that. Yeah, call in about this too,

524
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:45,480
Speaker 1: call it about everyone, call in. You know, when I

525
00:36:45,480 --> 00:36:48,400
Speaker 1: first started doing these emails, these email things, I was

526
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:52,240
Speaker 1: really just like, I want to Well, it's fun to rant,

527
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 1: it's fun to talk on the podcast. But now I'm

528
00:36:57,440 --> 00:37:00,800
Speaker 1: now I'm like, oh man, I feel like I'm sometimes

529
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:02,879
Speaker 1: I'm doing the phone call podcast and I'm like, I'm

530
00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:05,359
Speaker 1: letting the callers talk too much. I'm not getting I'm

531
00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 1: not able to talk. And then I do this one

532
00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 1: and I'm like, this is a lot of me. This

533
00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: is a lot of me talking. But it's fun. They're both,

534
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 1: they're both interesting, they're both I'm having a good time.

535
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 1: This is from Ethan subject line I was on stage

536
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:24,839
Speaker 1: with you. Oh shit, I know exactly who this guy is.

537
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 1: After yeah, I know exactly who this guy is. Hello, Lyle,

538
00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 1: hope you're doing well. I went to your Philly show

539
00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:33,600
Speaker 1: in September of twenty twenty three, and we talked about

540
00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:37,320
Speaker 1: how I am the main interpreter for my deaf brother.

541
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:39,359
Speaker 1: I do remember you. I wanted to let you know

542
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:42,200
Speaker 1: that was a big weight off my shoulders, just getting

543
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 1: it out there that I'm stressed about it. That's awesome.

544
00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:47,040
Speaker 1: Now my family has been making more of an effort

545
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:50,879
Speaker 1: to communicate with my brother and making it less my job. Yeah.

546
00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 1: So I remember this guy Ethan came on stage in

547
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:55,960
Speaker 1: my Philly show a year ago and he talked about

548
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:58,279
Speaker 1: how he's the main interpreter for his deaf brother and

549
00:37:58,320 --> 00:38:00,960
Speaker 1: that he was stressed out about having all of this

550
00:38:01,200 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 1: uh responsibility and kind of like what he should what

551
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:09,160
Speaker 1: he should do about it. Yeah, I remember that conversation.

552
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:13,360
Speaker 1: I'm also in the process of getting certified to be

553
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 1: an interpreter, so I can possibly be able to relieve

554
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:20,440
Speaker 1: some other family members of the stress of constantly being

555
00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:23,279
Speaker 1: the closest interpreter. See. We talked about that because I

556
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:26,879
Speaker 1: was like, because he was the main interpreter for his brother,

557
00:38:26,880 --> 00:38:29,760
Speaker 1: and I was like, well, can you can your brother

558
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:33,279
Speaker 1: or I don't know what government shit you can get,

559
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 1: or like, is there a way to have like some

560
00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:40,520
Speaker 1: other like someone who's whose job is deaf interpreting to

561
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:43,359
Speaker 1: you know, be with your brother so that you can

562
00:38:43,400 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 1: go and live your own life. Yeah, we talked about that. Uh,

563
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 1: that's cool that you're like, Oh, I'm gonna go be

564
00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:53,400
Speaker 1: that guy for someone else. I like that. All of

565
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:55,400
Speaker 1: this is to say thank you for providing the platform

566
00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:57,319
Speaker 1: where anyone can say anything free of judgment and at

567
00:38:57,360 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 1: the very least be heard. Thanks man, Love you. Lyle

568
00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:06,960
Speaker 1: from aka couch dot pdf on Instagram. If you want

569
00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:11,879
Speaker 1: to send this guy something on Instagram, PS, I hope

570
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:16,920
Speaker 1: you eat food and drink some water. No, like really,

571
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:18,960
Speaker 1: I hope you actually do that, because you tend to

572
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:22,480
Speaker 1: joke about it. I do also eat a Reese's mini

573
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 1: cup for me. What the fuck is it? You want

574
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:25,799
Speaker 1: me to eat real food and drink water? You want

575
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 1: me to eat candy? Because you can't say those two

576
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:36,040
Speaker 1: things in the same email, all right? And then he

577
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:40,480
Speaker 1: sent a picture of himself. That's cool, Ethan, Uh, that's cool.

578
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 1: This is a roundabout thing for you because you're you're

579
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:53,479
Speaker 1: using your freedom that your family is giving. You're using

580
00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:56,719
Speaker 1: your newfound freedom from being your brother's main interpreter to

581
00:39:56,840 --> 00:40:02,360
Speaker 1: give other people the freedom of from being their family's

582
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 1: man interpreter. That's cool. That's noble. I fuck with that. Okay,

583
00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:20,959
Speaker 1: let's see we have more things, we have more Okay.

584
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:26,960
Speaker 1: This is from Megan, subject line street change. Hi, Gek,

585
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 1: I know you have been to many cities all over

586
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:32,480
Speaker 1: the world, and I wonder how you negotiate the sometimes

587
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:36,600
Speaker 1: awkward interaction of a random person asking you for money.

588
00:40:37,120 --> 00:40:39,880
Speaker 1: This is interesting. I know there are a lot of

589
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 1: different reasons why someone might ask for some spare change,

590
00:40:43,040 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 1: and it's probably even harder now since people simply just

591
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:51,080
Speaker 1: don't carry cash as much. If you walk or take

592
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 1: public transportation in a city, you will inevitably encounter it more.

593
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:57,160
Speaker 1: But now that I drive, it doesn't happen as much.

594
00:40:57,160 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 1: But I'm still approached by people every now and then.

595
00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:02,760
Speaker 1: In most cases, if I had some dollars or change,

596
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,360
Speaker 1: I would pass it on. I'm not rich by any means,

597
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:07,280
Speaker 1: but at least I can pay my bills and sleep

598
00:41:07,560 --> 00:41:10,920
Speaker 1: in a warm bed at night more often than not. However,

599
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 1: I declined the request simply because I didn't have any

600
00:41:14,200 --> 00:41:15,960
Speaker 1: money on me, but because I felt like I was

601
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:19,440
Speaker 1: also broke and struggling myself, even though, like I said,

602
00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:21,640
Speaker 1: I can pay my bills and have a warm bed

603
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:23,759
Speaker 1: to sleep in at the very least. I'm sure there

604
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:25,359
Speaker 1: are many people who don't think about this at all

605
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:28,040
Speaker 1: because it really happens to them. But when you're a

606
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:31,480
Speaker 1: white girl walking home with a bag of groceries, you

607
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:34,759
Speaker 1: feel like you can barely afford yourself, and then someone

608
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:36,879
Speaker 1: asks for money and you don't have it because you've

609
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:38,919
Speaker 1: been using your card to buy groceries. But the person

610
00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:42,600
Speaker 1: asking you for money probably can't even get a credit card.

611
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:45,239
Speaker 1: It can send you into a mind spiral. Love you

612
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 1: get stay green, look listen. I don't know, I'll say this.

613
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:59,799
Speaker 1: I don't think you have to I don't think you

614
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:02,880
Speaker 1: have to feel bad. I don't think you have to

615
00:42:03,000 --> 00:42:11,719
Speaker 1: take personal self uh. I don't think you have to

616
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 1: be mad at yourself and take responsibility for the existence

617
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 1: of all the poverty that exists in the world. You

618
00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:24,759
Speaker 1: sound like you help out when you can, which is like,

619
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 1: I mean, that's that's that's I mean most I don't

620
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 1: you know, most most people will just walk right the

621
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 1: fuck on bay and not even think about this kind

622
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:39,440
Speaker 1: of stuff. So again, it's the noble to me that

623
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:45,319
Speaker 1: you even care a little bit. You sound like you can.

624
00:42:45,600 --> 00:42:51,239
Speaker 1: Here's the thing, Megan is you care way more than

625
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:56,360
Speaker 1: like the baseline amount that you need to care to

626
00:42:56,960 --> 00:43:02,040
Speaker 1: like not be a sed stick piece of shit, you

627
00:43:02,040 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like, like the the baseline is

628
00:43:06,120 --> 00:43:08,839
Speaker 1: that you there's people out there who like people ask

629
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:11,240
Speaker 1: them for money and then they punch them in the face.

630
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:13,880
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, Like the baseline is so

631
00:43:14,560 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 1: low and your skyrocketing past it by giving even a

632
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 1: little bit of a fuck about these these people. Uh

633
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 1: So I don't. I don't think you need to take

634
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:32,920
Speaker 1: full I don't think you need to mentally be taking

635
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 1: full responsibility for the existence of of of of poverty

636
00:43:40,080 --> 00:43:42,439
Speaker 1: because it's hard. It's hard enough to like make sure

637
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:45,239
Speaker 1: because in life it's it's hard enough. I think it's

638
00:43:45,280 --> 00:43:47,680
Speaker 1: for most people to make sure that like you have,

639
00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:55,880
Speaker 1: you got your own ship. You know, if if you

640
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:58,320
Speaker 1: ask here's how I know. Here's how I do it

641
00:43:58,360 --> 00:44:01,400
Speaker 1: is if people ask me for money, I punched them

642
00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:03,920
Speaker 1: in the face. No, that's not what I do. I

643
00:44:03,920 --> 00:44:06,479
Speaker 1: I don't I feel kind of weird giving people. Here's

644
00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:09,600
Speaker 1: what I Here's what I'll do if I'm like at uh.

645
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:12,400
Speaker 1: I mean, in New York City, you get asked for

646
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 1: you know, every time you walk out the street. You

647
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:16,719
Speaker 1: get asked for money in New York City, if I'm outside,

648
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:20,000
Speaker 1: if somebody's I don't like to give people like money,

649
00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 1: but like if I'm standing outside, if I'm about to

650
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:28,319
Speaker 1: go into seven eleven, or like a food place, or

651
00:44:28,360 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 1: like a McDonald's or a boat the place. This is

652
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 1: the places that I eat. If someone asks me for money,

653
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 1: I'll be like, I don't have any cash, but I'll

654
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:41,919
Speaker 1: buy you some food if you want. If you want food,

655
00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:43,759
Speaker 1: I'll buy your food. And sometimes they say no, and

656
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:46,839
Speaker 1: sometimes they say yes, but I'll that's I'll do that.

657
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:52,400
Speaker 1: Not everyone can do that. I get it. I'm that

658
00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:55,759
Speaker 1: doesn't make me. I honestly feel kind of lame that

659
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:58,839
Speaker 1: I even said that I do that. Sometimes that makes

660
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 1: me feel lame that I said that. I feel like

661
00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:06,520
Speaker 1: I'm There's nothing about me doing that or anyone who

662
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:09,720
Speaker 1: doesn't do that that makes them a better or worse person.

663
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 1: I might even cut this from the podcast because I

664
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 1: feel it always makes me feel like someone I don't know.

665
00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 1: People saying that I'm a good person makes me feel weird.

666
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 1: This is a weird. I don't I'm not gonna cut

667
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:25,960
Speaker 1: it from the podcast. We're gonna keep this in. But

668
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:33,400
Speaker 1: you're fine, dude, you're fine. Don't kill anyone, don't embezzle

669
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:37,560
Speaker 1: money from the government. Uh, don't. You don't have to

670
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:44,520
Speaker 1: hate yourself because of this. Let's keep going. What does

671
00:45:44,520 --> 00:45:58,799
Speaker 1: the chat say? Uh, let's see here. Someone says, I

672
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:01,319
Speaker 1: will give a homeless person some food or drinks, but

673
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:02,880
Speaker 1: not money because I don't know if they're going to

674
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:04,960
Speaker 1: use it to buy drugs. I thought that for a

675
00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 1: long time myself, but then I heard someone be like, well, shit,

676
00:46:09,200 --> 00:46:11,239
Speaker 1: that's just what I'm going to spend it on. And

677
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:26,840
Speaker 1: that's true, that's true. What else is in the chat

678
00:46:26,920 --> 00:46:30,200
Speaker 1: right now? I almost never have cash. I'm honest and

679
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 1: say sorry, I wish them a nice day. Cheat people

680
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:40,919
Speaker 1: like people goes a long way. It's not lame, gak,

681
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:43,000
Speaker 1: you're helping people. Yeah, it feels lame to talk about.

682
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:49,200
Speaker 1: Someone said, I hate to ask for money, and it

683
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:52,200
Speaker 1: feels weird to give money, though I do it, especially

684
00:46:52,680 --> 00:47:04,840
Speaker 1: when I'm kind of broke. Someone says, what else to

685
00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:09,320
Speaker 1: What are other people saying? I donate regularly to a charity,

686
00:47:09,360 --> 00:47:11,160
Speaker 1: so I feel that means I don't have to donate

687
00:47:11,360 --> 00:47:25,440
Speaker 1: to any others. All right, Uh, let's keep going. Someone said, okay,

688
00:47:25,520 --> 00:47:31,120
Speaker 1: this is from King Fro subject line longing and despair.

689
00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 1: Hi Gecko, I recently had a month long tolerance break

690
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:38,080
Speaker 1: from weed because I traveled to Japan and did not

691
00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 1: have access to weed. I've been a smoker for three

692
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:44,440
Speaker 1: years and taking tolerance breaks before, but this time I

693
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 1: came back. I thought it'd be the same as before,

694
00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:50,440
Speaker 1: smoked a fat bowl and then had the most intense

695
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:54,319
Speaker 1: three hours of anxiety and deep thinking into everything. I

696
00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:56,879
Speaker 1: get thoughts about how everything is meaningless and yet there

697
00:47:56,920 --> 00:48:00,560
Speaker 1: is meaning in the meaninglessness of my life. I talked

698
00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:02,840
Speaker 1: to my therapist about this, and he was lost for

699
00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:05,440
Speaker 1: words because I made him think the same way. And

700
00:48:05,480 --> 00:48:08,759
Speaker 1: then he told me I stumped him. Maybe asking a

701
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:18,760
Speaker 1: gecko will turn out differently. Uh, you stump? Well, what's

702
00:48:19,040 --> 00:48:22,080
Speaker 1: you stumped him on? What what's the Here's what? I

703
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:24,920
Speaker 1: what's the question in this? Hi Geko, I recently had

704
00:48:24,920 --> 00:48:26,839
Speaker 1: a month long tolerance bak from weed because of travel

705
00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:30,759
Speaker 1: with Japan didn't have weed. I got anxiety about how

706
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:34,640
Speaker 1: everything is meaningless. Oh, okay, here it is. Everything is meaningless,

707
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:39,359
Speaker 1: and yet there is meaning in the meaninglessness of my life.

708
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:43,160
Speaker 1: You stumped him? This isn't it's you're You're You're not.

709
00:48:43,400 --> 00:48:46,040
Speaker 1: He's not like a troll under a bridge. You're This

710
00:48:46,080 --> 00:48:49,960
Speaker 1: is just a thought that you're having. Yeah, everything is

711
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 1: meaningless and you kind of get to decide your own meaning.

712
00:48:54,200 --> 00:49:01,359
Speaker 1: And I fuck you stumped me? Ain't that's but this

713
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:04,360
Speaker 1: isn't a stump. This isn't a stump. This is like

714
00:49:04,440 --> 00:49:10,280
Speaker 1: a a stub. Like it's you. It's just you've completed.

715
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:18,680
Speaker 1: This is a complete thought. Weed is so funny because

716
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 1: you'll like smoke to get rid of anxiety, but then

717
00:49:21,680 --> 00:49:30,280
Speaker 1: smoking will just give you much more anxiety. Uh, someone says, okay.

718
00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 1: This is from Jillian. Subject line, I popped the wrong ZiT.

719
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 1: There was a ZiT on my inner thigh. It was huge.

720
00:49:38,239 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 1: I thought maybe popping it would bring that instant satisfaction,

721
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:44,399
Speaker 1: so I queezed. So I squeezed the body of the

722
00:49:44,840 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 1: pustel and pressed in with pretty smooth force. To my surprise,

723
00:49:49,040 --> 00:49:51,200
Speaker 1: the white head was just a small pimple next to

724
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 1: a surface level cyst. The cyst emptied under my skin,

725
00:49:55,520 --> 00:49:59,800
Speaker 1: and the texture between the squeeze was crazy. Have fun, untour.

726
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:04,480
Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing, Chilian. All right, this is from

727
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:10,640
Speaker 1: Jordan subject line my roommates won't let my homeless girlfriend

728
00:50:10,800 --> 00:50:14,799
Speaker 1: come over. Hello, Lyle, I've been dating my girlfriend for

729
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:18,680
Speaker 1: about three months now. One month into the relationship, my

730
00:50:18,800 --> 00:50:21,839
Speaker 1: roommate and his girlfriend, who recently moved in with us,

731
00:50:22,120 --> 00:50:24,719
Speaker 1: sat me down and expressed that they are not comfortable

732
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:32,160
Speaker 1: with having a stranger being at our house. Does she

733
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 1: live with? Does your girlfriend live? Is the They also

734
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:40,400
Speaker 1: accused her of stealing tampons from the bathroom and claimed

735
00:50:40,440 --> 00:50:44,440
Speaker 1: that her taking showers at our house using the bathroom, etc.

736
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 1: Would be an issue as she does not pay utilities.

737
00:50:47,800 --> 00:50:50,520
Speaker 1: I pointed out the hypocrisy in the fact that my

738
00:50:50,600 --> 00:50:53,439
Speaker 1: roommate's girlfriend would come over quite often when they first

739
00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:56,919
Speaker 1: started hanging out and eventually moved in with us, which

740
00:50:56,960 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 1: I was hesitant about but ultimately cool with. The kicker

741
00:51:00,560 --> 00:51:04,279
Speaker 1: is that my girlfriend is literally homeless or unhoused. She

742
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 1: lost her job, her roommate went to jail, and she's

743
00:51:07,680 --> 00:51:10,680
Speaker 1: temporarily staying with her mom, but her mom is kicking

744
00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:13,840
Speaker 1: her out. I'm going to get my own place now.

745
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:16,759
Speaker 1: I guess my question is should I shit on the

746
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:28,320
Speaker 1: floor before I leave? No? Short, Uh, you know, I

747
00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:30,560
Speaker 1: have a few I have a few thoughts about this, Well,

748
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:32,360
Speaker 1: what I was I mean, here's the thing, this is

749
00:51:32,400 --> 00:51:36,000
Speaker 1: all moot. Here's here's here's the main thought about this

750
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 1: is it's all moot because you're gonna get your own place.

751
00:51:41,640 --> 00:51:44,120
Speaker 1: So who gives a fuck about the situation at all

752
00:51:44,760 --> 00:51:47,680
Speaker 1: because you've you've already made the decision about what you're

753
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:54,640
Speaker 1: gonna do. So yeah, whatever do I guess if this

754
00:51:54,760 --> 00:51:58,239
Speaker 1: is the situation? Like you sound like you're pissed off

755
00:51:58,320 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 1: still of these people by saying, should I shit on

756
00:52:01,680 --> 00:52:04,040
Speaker 1: the floor before I leave? So why don't you just

757
00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:07,480
Speaker 1: get your own place, live with your girlfriend, shit on

758
00:52:07,480 --> 00:52:09,920
Speaker 1: your own floor that you if you really need to

759
00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 1: shit on a floor, and just let the emotions of

760
00:52:14,440 --> 00:52:18,560
Speaker 1: it be in the past, and just fucking be with

761
00:52:18,600 --> 00:52:23,279
Speaker 1: your girlfriend and hang out. That's what I was gonna say,

762
00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:26,400
Speaker 1: get your own place. I mean, honestly, by the way,

763
00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:28,880
Speaker 1: I kind of see what you're I mean, your your

764
00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:32,239
Speaker 1: roommate and his girlfriend did have a point, and I

765
00:52:32,239 --> 00:52:34,440
Speaker 1: get that there's a hypocrisy that you're saying of like

766
00:52:34,440 --> 00:52:36,640
Speaker 1: your roommate's girlfriend would come over, but but it's the

767
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:41,200
Speaker 1: room the roommate's girlfriend now lives in. I mean, none

768
00:52:41,239 --> 00:52:43,800
Speaker 1: of this matters that you're moving out, But the roommate's

769
00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:49,319
Speaker 1: girlfriend now lives in the house with you guys, and

770
00:52:49,480 --> 00:52:56,439
Speaker 1: I assume pays for the rent and utilities. So yeah,

771
00:52:56,480 --> 00:53:01,800
Speaker 1: they sounded like they had a point of some kind,

772
00:53:03,480 --> 00:53:06,120
Speaker 1: and that's a bummer. It's a bummer that your girlfriend

773
00:53:06,239 --> 00:53:10,120
Speaker 1: was dealing with a lot of problems. I feel for that,

774
00:53:10,600 --> 00:53:14,919
Speaker 1: but it's totally not your roommate or your roommate's girlfriends

775
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:22,680
Speaker 1: responsibility to like I get to deal with that. I guess,

776
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:26,279
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, it doesn't matter. You're getting

777
00:53:26,280 --> 00:53:30,839
Speaker 1: your own place, shot on your own floor. To pick

778
00:53:30,880 --> 00:53:33,839
Speaker 1: the ship up from the floor and grab it and

779
00:53:34,000 --> 00:53:38,759
Speaker 1: smell it and rub it all over yourself and eat

780
00:53:38,800 --> 00:53:43,520
Speaker 1: it and put it back into your asshole, just for fun,

781
00:53:43,600 --> 00:53:45,000
Speaker 1: just to see what it's not. That has nothing to

782
00:53:45,080 --> 00:53:47,080
Speaker 1: do with anything that you've said in this email, But

783
00:53:47,160 --> 00:53:48,960
Speaker 1: just do it for fun, just to see what it's like,

784
00:53:50,520 --> 00:53:58,279
Speaker 1: you know, just to see just to see what what

785
00:53:58,320 --> 00:54:16,880
Speaker 1: would happen? All right? Ummm let's keep going. Hello, mister Gecko,

786
00:54:17,040 --> 00:54:21,000
Speaker 1: this is from Nathan. I just learned that fighter jets

787
00:54:21,000 --> 00:54:24,760
Speaker 1: can hover in place. Crazy. Have you considered doing gaming

788
00:54:24,800 --> 00:54:27,880
Speaker 1: streams or videos? Or with that dilute the persona. I

789
00:54:27,920 --> 00:54:33,799
Speaker 1: don't really think I have a persona, honestly, Like, let me,

790
00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:38,560
Speaker 1: can I just rant for a second? Kay, just ran

791
00:54:38,600 --> 00:54:43,000
Speaker 1: for a second. I really think like expressing opinions on

792
00:54:43,080 --> 00:54:48,400
Speaker 1: the internet makes me feel so uncomfortable, like just now,

793
00:54:48,719 --> 00:54:51,080
Speaker 1: like like this is one of the this is one

794
00:54:51,080 --> 00:54:54,120
Speaker 1: of the reasons. Every time every single one of these

795
00:54:54,120 --> 00:54:59,520
Speaker 1: email podcasts, after I record them and I send them

796
00:54:59,520 --> 00:55:03,880
Speaker 1: over to Brandon who edits the podcast, uh, and like

797
00:55:03,960 --> 00:55:06,680
Speaker 1: we schedule them to post them, I really get nervous

798
00:55:06,680 --> 00:55:09,239
Speaker 1: and anxious, and I'm like, what did I say on

799
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:15,799
Speaker 1: that podcast? Because like I like, I don't because I

800
00:55:15,800 --> 00:55:19,880
Speaker 1: don't want to give takes. I kind of don't, but

801
00:55:19,880 --> 00:55:21,880
Speaker 1: I know I do naturally. That's if you have a

802
00:55:21,920 --> 00:55:24,480
Speaker 1: podcast and you're talking and people are asking you things

803
00:55:24,520 --> 00:55:27,480
Speaker 1: and they're telling you about their lives, It's it's impossible

804
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:31,240
Speaker 1: to not give a take. I and I don't mind

805
00:55:31,320 --> 00:55:33,879
Speaker 1: having takes and thoughts and opinions, it's just when you

806
00:55:33,920 --> 00:55:37,000
Speaker 1: when you write them an ink on the internet, it's

807
00:55:37,040 --> 00:55:40,279
Speaker 1: like they're there forever and you you know, ninety nine

808
00:55:40,280 --> 00:55:42,239
Speaker 1: percent of the time when I think something, someone will

809
00:55:42,280 --> 00:55:43,879
Speaker 1: tell me something and I'll be like, oh, all right,

810
00:55:43,920 --> 00:55:48,239
Speaker 1: whatever you know. So I don't like I'm putting like

811
00:55:48,440 --> 00:55:53,359
Speaker 1: a lot of words out there on the internet, which

812
00:55:53,440 --> 00:55:58,840
Speaker 1: makes me, it deeply makes me feel uncomfortable. But the

813
00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:02,279
Speaker 1: only other option would be to never say anything ever,

814
00:56:03,200 --> 00:56:08,600
Speaker 1: which was kind of boring to me. And you know,

815
00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:14,759
Speaker 1: I'm I professionally create this podcast that I've been and

816
00:56:14,800 --> 00:56:18,520
Speaker 1: I've been doing this for four, four or five years,

817
00:56:19,920 --> 00:56:22,719
Speaker 1: so it's too late number one. But then number two,

818
00:56:22,760 --> 00:56:24,319
Speaker 1: it's like, how do I how do I have a

819
00:56:24,360 --> 00:56:27,840
Speaker 1: podcast but not say anything? That's my dream? Can I

820
00:56:27,840 --> 00:56:31,120
Speaker 1: figure that out? How do I have a podcast where

821
00:56:32,080 --> 00:56:34,400
Speaker 1: I talk to people about their lives but just not

822
00:56:35,840 --> 00:56:38,320
Speaker 1: say anything? And I do have a lot of podcasts

823
00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 1: where I just don't say anything. And then I was like,

824
00:56:40,640 --> 00:56:42,560
Speaker 1: let's let me just start doing one where I say

825
00:56:42,600 --> 00:56:46,839
Speaker 1: all everything, all the things, and I don't know if

826
00:56:46,840 --> 00:56:49,440
Speaker 1: I'll regret it, but like, also, what's the worst is

827
00:56:49,480 --> 00:56:51,920
Speaker 1: gonna happen is someone is like I didn't like what

828
00:56:51,960 --> 00:56:56,000
Speaker 1: you said about that guy's life, and then I just

829
00:56:57,120 --> 00:56:58,799
Speaker 1: you know what I'll do, I'll just go outside. Dude,

830
00:56:59,520 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 1: isn't that anytime you want? Anytime you want? Anytime really,

831
00:57:05,360 --> 00:57:09,959
Speaker 1: anytime you want, you can just go outside and it's

832
00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:14,640
Speaker 1: all there. You do you ever? Is it crazy that,

833
00:57:14,760 --> 00:57:19,560
Speaker 1: like you forget that sometimes anytime you want you can

834
00:57:19,640 --> 00:57:24,840
Speaker 1: just you can just turn off your computer and go outside,

835
00:57:25,280 --> 00:57:28,920
Speaker 1: and it's like nothing on your computer was ever ever existed.

836
00:57:30,680 --> 00:57:33,200
Speaker 1: It's really crazy. It's a crazy thing. I'm not even

837
00:57:33,200 --> 00:57:36,800
Speaker 1: saying this facetiously. I'm saying this. I want with utmost

838
00:57:37,480 --> 00:57:43,720
Speaker 1: utter sincerity. Whoever wrote me that, whoever, if anyone, by

839
00:57:43,720 --> 00:57:47,160
Speaker 1: the way, just if, just so I'm clear, If anyone

840
00:57:48,400 --> 00:57:50,560
Speaker 1: is listening to this podcast and I responded to your

841
00:57:50,560 --> 00:57:52,720
Speaker 1: email and you didn't like what I said, I'm side

842
00:57:52,720 --> 00:58:00,320
Speaker 1: probably didn't mean it. I don't know. I'm crazy. Keep going,

843
00:58:00,400 --> 00:58:04,480
Speaker 1: let's keep talking to people. Uh oh yeah, oh yeah.

844
00:58:04,480 --> 00:58:06,240
Speaker 1: Why do I go on that rant? Would that dilute

845
00:58:06,240 --> 00:58:08,080
Speaker 1: your persona? I don't really have a persona. I'm just

846
00:58:08,360 --> 00:58:10,680
Speaker 1: a I don't have a persona. I have a costume.

847
00:58:12,200 --> 00:58:14,320
Speaker 1: And I guess I do have a persona. I guess

848
00:58:14,320 --> 00:58:18,160
Speaker 1: if you speak publicly on a podcast or a video

849
00:58:18,280 --> 00:58:21,840
Speaker 1: or something, you are doing like a heightened version of

850
00:58:21,840 --> 00:58:25,200
Speaker 1: of how you would normally speak. But I don't think

851
00:58:25,240 --> 00:58:30,080
Speaker 1: it's different. I just think it's like amplified. I would

852
00:58:30,080 --> 00:58:31,880
Speaker 1: do a gaming stream. I think that could be fun.

853
00:58:32,080 --> 00:58:35,080
Speaker 1: Play some melee. Okay, let's let the whole email. I

854
00:58:35,120 --> 00:58:37,360
Speaker 1: think it would also for these ret I think it

855
00:58:37,400 --> 00:58:40,240
Speaker 1: would also for these rant episodes. You could make a

856
00:58:40,280 --> 00:58:44,200
Speaker 1: po box to get real mail from people. That would

857
00:58:44,200 --> 00:58:48,000
Speaker 1: be kind of cool. I just don't. I'm just too

858
00:58:48,120 --> 00:58:50,880
Speaker 1: lazy to do that. They make crazy stuff from the

859
00:58:50,960 --> 00:58:53,480
Speaker 1: videos I've seen. But then you also have to say

860
00:58:53,560 --> 00:58:57,840
Speaker 1: everything is really good, and some of it might be

861
00:58:58,000 --> 00:59:02,120
Speaker 1: like not or something. Do I have to say everything

862
00:59:02,160 --> 00:59:07,760
Speaker 1: is really good? I don't have to. I'd probably be

863
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:12,960
Speaker 1: inclined to. I'd probably be feel guilty if I didn't,

864
00:59:13,200 --> 00:59:15,800
Speaker 1: But I don't have to. Do you have any game

865
00:59:15,880 --> 00:59:19,680
Speaker 1: recommendations for me or anyone? Uh? What have I been

866
00:59:19,680 --> 00:59:25,040
Speaker 1: playing lately? Well? I just finished Links Awakening on the Switch.

867
00:59:25,480 --> 00:59:28,760
Speaker 1: I played a little bit of the Last of Us,

868
00:59:28,760 --> 00:59:33,720
Speaker 1: and then I got stuck and didn't care about it anymore. Uh.

869
00:59:34,160 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 1: I'm probably gonna download Echoes of Wisdom and then I'm

870
00:59:37,320 --> 00:59:40,160
Speaker 1: gonna get Mario and Luigi Brothership. Those are the next

871
00:59:40,160 --> 00:59:43,080
Speaker 1: two on my list. I kind of want to get

872
00:59:43,080 --> 00:59:45,680
Speaker 1: the new Mario Party. There is no way this is

873
00:59:45,720 --> 00:59:48,800
Speaker 1: making this to the pod is there? Well, buddy, guess what, Nathan.

874
00:59:49,640 --> 00:59:52,400
Speaker 1: Guess what, Nathan. All you had to do to make

875
00:59:52,400 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 1: it to the podcast was to ask me questions about

876
00:59:57,120 --> 00:59:59,320
Speaker 1: myself and I would go, I'm much of BLI will

877
00:59:59,360 --> 01:00:06,160
Speaker 1: happily talk about myself forever as people as people love

878
01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:12,960
Speaker 1: to do. Well, thanks for emailing me, Nathan. Okay, high Lyle.

879
01:00:13,080 --> 01:00:16,040
Speaker 1: This is from Cooper high Lyle. I don't have much

880
01:00:16,080 --> 01:00:19,320
Speaker 1: to say except there are two crackheads living under the

881
01:00:19,360 --> 01:00:22,880
Speaker 1: breache like a minute away from my house. It started

882
01:00:22,880 --> 01:00:26,320
Speaker 1: as one like two months ago, but recently another has

883
01:00:26,400 --> 01:00:31,800
Speaker 1: moved in two. They aren't causing problems besides the occasional

884
01:00:32,080 --> 01:00:38,520
Speaker 1: schizophrenic episode where the original yells at himself Jesus Christ.

885
01:00:39,160 --> 01:00:42,320
Speaker 1: Not looking for advice, don't This is why this is weird, Cooper.

886
01:00:42,360 --> 01:00:46,680
Speaker 1: I don't like this the original. They're not fucking Pokemon,

887
01:00:46,720 --> 01:00:50,720
Speaker 1: They're human beings, not looking for advice, just giving support

888
01:00:50,880 --> 01:00:58,800
Speaker 1: from the shit filled holler of Kentucky. Well, I mean

889
01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:03,680
Speaker 1: that sucks. I don't know, I feel bad for they're

890
01:01:03,720 --> 01:01:13,120
Speaker 1: living under a bridge. Dude, like that sucks? You know,

891
01:01:15,000 --> 01:01:16,560
Speaker 1: once you go talk, why don't you go hang out

892
01:01:16,600 --> 01:01:19,200
Speaker 1: with them for a second. Why don't you go hang

893
01:01:19,200 --> 01:01:22,160
Speaker 1: out with these guys? You clear you you clearly don't

894
01:01:22,480 --> 01:01:26,960
Speaker 1: view these people as remotely human beings. So go you

895
01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:31,760
Speaker 1: should go under the bridge and just talk talk to

896
01:01:31,840 --> 01:01:36,520
Speaker 1: these people and just see just see if they'll speak it,

897
01:01:36,560 --> 01:01:38,800
Speaker 1: if they'll say anything to you. You could learn something,

898
01:01:38,880 --> 01:01:42,640
Speaker 1: who knows, I don't know, or you could maybe maybe

899
01:01:42,680 --> 01:01:45,600
Speaker 1: you'll start doing crack with them. You know what can happen?

900
01:01:45,800 --> 01:01:47,600
Speaker 1: You know what I really want to happen. I want

901
01:01:47,640 --> 01:01:49,640
Speaker 1: you to go to the bridge. You meet these two,

902
01:01:49,960 --> 01:01:55,360
Speaker 1: these two guys, and they offer you a little bit

903
01:01:55,400 --> 01:01:56,960
Speaker 1: of crack and you're like, you know what, sure, I'm

904
01:01:57,000 --> 01:01:59,520
Speaker 1: being open minded, I'm gonna take some crack. And you're like,

905
01:01:59,560 --> 01:02:01,919
Speaker 1: you know what, tracks actually pretty awesome. I get why

906
01:02:01,960 --> 01:02:04,560
Speaker 1: you guys are living under this bridge, and then you

907
01:02:04,680 --> 01:02:09,280
Speaker 1: become addicted to crack. And then now there's three of

908
01:02:09,280 --> 01:02:14,040
Speaker 1: you guys. Now there's now you there's three uh crackheads

909
01:02:14,040 --> 01:02:16,000
Speaker 1: living unto the bridge, and you guys have a good

910
01:02:16,040 --> 01:02:19,680
Speaker 1: you can you'll just just you know, maybe maybe it's

911
01:02:19,720 --> 01:02:21,680
Speaker 1: maybe it'll be good for you to do crack with

912
01:02:21,760 --> 01:02:25,160
Speaker 1: these guys and just learn a little bit about them.

913
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:26,720
Speaker 1: That's what I would do if I were you, I

914
01:02:26,720 --> 01:02:29,320
Speaker 1: would go talk to these guys and see what's going

915
01:02:29,360 --> 01:02:39,680
Speaker 1: on with them. All right, I'll do how long have

916
01:02:39,760 --> 01:02:42,040
Speaker 1: I been going for I'll do one more. I'll do

917
01:02:42,120 --> 01:02:44,560
Speaker 1: one more. What do you guys think of this party?

918
01:02:44,680 --> 01:02:46,680
Speaker 1: Let me know in the comments if Okay, I've done

919
01:02:46,760 --> 01:02:51,120
Speaker 1: three of these so far now, and like I said,

920
01:02:51,160 --> 01:02:54,440
Speaker 1: I get nervous every time I do these. I really do,

921
01:02:54,520 --> 01:02:57,040
Speaker 1: I really I feel like nervous. I'm nervous right now

922
01:02:58,160 --> 01:03:06,480
Speaker 1: about this, not even be like yeah. So let me

923
01:03:06,520 --> 01:03:10,040
Speaker 1: know in the comments if you enjoy listening to this,

924
01:03:10,720 --> 01:03:15,680
Speaker 1: if you have thoughts, all right, let me do one more.

925
01:03:15,760 --> 01:03:23,880
Speaker 1: Email okay, okay, this is from Duplex seeking advice on

926
01:03:24,080 --> 01:03:27,880
Speaker 1: job advancement. Okay, Hey, mister GHEK, I hope this message

927
01:03:27,960 --> 01:03:30,400
Speaker 1: finds you well. About a year ago, I applied for

928
01:03:30,440 --> 01:03:34,520
Speaker 1: a manager position on a whim. Honestly, I never expected

929
01:03:34,520 --> 01:03:37,080
Speaker 1: to get it, especially since I lacked the experience at

930
01:03:37,080 --> 01:03:40,600
Speaker 1: the time. I regretfully admit that I may have exaggerated

931
01:03:40,600 --> 01:03:45,880
Speaker 1: my qualifications on the application. Now, having spent a year

932
01:03:45,880 --> 01:03:50,360
Speaker 1: in this role, I have gained valuable knowledge and skills. However,

933
01:03:50,400 --> 01:03:52,800
Speaker 1: my boss has recently approached to me about moving up

934
01:03:52,840 --> 01:03:56,800
Speaker 1: to a general manager position, which comes with increased responsibilities.

935
01:03:57,040 --> 01:03:59,240
Speaker 1: I'm feeling quite overwhelmed, as I know I'm not fully

936
01:03:59,280 --> 01:04:02,320
Speaker 1: prepared for this role. While I recognize that this opportunity

937
01:04:02,360 --> 01:04:05,160
Speaker 1: offers better pay and growth potential, I'm apprehensive about taking on.

938
01:04:05,200 --> 01:04:07,800
Speaker 1: So it's a significant change. I'd greatly appreciate any ofvice

939
01:04:07,840 --> 01:04:10,080
Speaker 1: you have on how to best navigate the situation. Totally

940
01:04:10,160 --> 01:04:11,680
Speaker 1: take the job. I don't even have to think about this.

941
01:04:11,720 --> 01:04:14,800
Speaker 1: Take the job, and you'll grow into it. It's like scared.

942
01:04:15,000 --> 01:04:19,600
Speaker 1: This is a classic shit like. I mean, look, bro,

943
01:04:19,840 --> 01:04:27,360
Speaker 1: you went into the original job lacking experience, and you've

944
01:04:27,360 --> 01:04:29,760
Speaker 1: been there for a year and you're fine. You grew

945
01:04:29,840 --> 01:04:33,840
Speaker 1: into it. That's how like growth works, man, is you

946
01:04:33,960 --> 01:04:36,760
Speaker 1: got it. You go out and try to do something

947
01:04:37,440 --> 01:04:39,480
Speaker 1: that you didn't think you were prepared to do or

948
01:04:39,520 --> 01:04:42,120
Speaker 1: able to do, and you face yourself with it and

949
01:04:42,160 --> 01:04:44,560
Speaker 1: you you grow. Yeah, this is kind of a classic

950
01:04:46,600 --> 01:04:49,960
Speaker 1: classic thing. What'd you think I was? What's the alternative?

951
01:04:50,680 --> 01:04:54,480
Speaker 1: Never do anything? Actually, that sounds awesome. You could totally

952
01:04:54,520 --> 01:05:00,520
Speaker 1: do that too. That sounds great. Never doing anything? Yeah,

953
01:05:00,560 --> 01:05:02,080
Speaker 1: you know what? You know what I know I just

954
01:05:02,080 --> 01:05:03,880
Speaker 1: said a bunch of like motivational shit, but I take

955
01:05:03,880 --> 01:05:06,480
Speaker 1: it all back. You should not. You should just quit

956
01:05:06,520 --> 01:05:10,040
Speaker 1: your job and see if you can live with your

957
01:05:10,040 --> 01:05:13,840
Speaker 1: parents and see if they'll make you food and stay

958
01:05:13,920 --> 01:05:16,360
Speaker 1: just play video games all day and get high. That's fuck.

959
01:05:16,440 --> 01:05:19,360
Speaker 1: That sounds awesome. I'm not even being facetious. That really

960
01:05:19,400 --> 01:05:25,000
Speaker 1: sounds great. Okay, so I'll say this. I'll say this,

961
01:05:26,040 --> 01:05:31,200
Speaker 1: you could. You should go and take this job. I

962
01:05:31,240 --> 01:05:35,000
Speaker 1: think you'll grow into it. I think you'll get the

963
01:05:35,160 --> 01:05:43,720
Speaker 1: right I think you'll grow into it. But worst case scenario,

964
01:05:43,720 --> 01:05:45,760
Speaker 1: if you get fired, Like you know, living with your

965
01:05:45,800 --> 01:05:49,120
Speaker 1: mom and eating chicken nuggets and playing video games is

966
01:05:49,480 --> 01:05:52,120
Speaker 1: pretty awesome. So your life's gonna be great no matter what.

967
01:05:52,280 --> 01:05:56,880
Speaker 1: I hope you take solace in that. All right, Well

968
01:05:56,880 --> 01:06:00,640
Speaker 1: that was That was my third try at gek mail.

969
01:06:01,440 --> 01:06:03,480
Speaker 1: That was my third try gak mail. I don't know

970
01:06:03,480 --> 01:06:06,120
Speaker 1: how it went. I'm actually nervous about it. So let

971
01:06:06,120 --> 01:06:09,400
Speaker 1: me know if this was any enjoyable to you as

972
01:06:09,440 --> 01:06:13,640
Speaker 1: a listener of this podcast. Let me know if you

973
01:06:13,680 --> 01:06:19,000
Speaker 1: have thoughts, feelings, and sentiments about anything, And thank you

974
01:06:19,040 --> 01:06:22,280
Speaker 1: guys for listening. Once again, I'm about to go and

975
01:06:22,680 --> 01:06:25,480
Speaker 1: do a bunch of live shows. I'm in Minneapolis on

976
01:06:25,560 --> 01:06:31,760
Speaker 1: the twenty fourth. I am in Berlin, Manchester, London, Cologne, Dublin,

977
01:06:31,960 --> 01:06:36,320
Speaker 1: Glasgow also in November, and you can get tickets for

978
01:06:36,360 --> 01:06:40,600
Speaker 1: all those at therapy geckotour dot com. Thanks for listening,

979
01:06:41,760 --> 01:06:45,800
Speaker 1: Thanks for humoring me while I make attempts to do

980
01:06:45,880 --> 01:06:49,640
Speaker 1: a new thing. Thanks for bearing with me, Thanks for

981
01:06:49,680 --> 01:06:53,920
Speaker 1: having some faith in me. I'm going to try to

982
01:06:53,960 --> 01:07:01,640
Speaker 1: have faith in life as well. And you know, it's funny.

983
01:07:01,680 --> 01:07:04,920
Speaker 1: I was, uh, it's so funny. The first time I

984
01:07:04,960 --> 01:07:08,040
Speaker 1: did this, the get mail thing, I was like, I

985
01:07:08,120 --> 01:07:09,920
Speaker 1: might just never do calls again. I might just do this.

986
01:07:09,960 --> 01:07:13,680
Speaker 1: I'm having so much more fun doing this. And then

987
01:07:14,080 --> 01:07:17,240
Speaker 1: I think my like optimism faded a little bit, and

988
01:07:17,280 --> 01:07:19,160
Speaker 1: now I'm like, oh, you know, I kind of want

989
01:07:19,160 --> 01:07:22,400
Speaker 1: to go back to doing phone calls. But uh, I'm

990
01:07:22,400 --> 01:07:25,360
Speaker 1: glad I tried something and I will do more of this,

991
01:07:26,160 --> 01:07:29,919
Speaker 1: but uh yeah, anyway, all right, it's been an hour

992
01:07:29,960 --> 01:07:34,120
Speaker 1: and fifteen minutes. I'm sick of myself. Thanks for listening,

993
01:07:35,040 --> 01:07:38,760
Speaker 1: and I'll see you guys around the universe. Never again

994
01:07:38,880 --> 01:07:42,080
Speaker 1: goes on the line taking your phone calls. Every night

995
01:07:42,440 --> 01:07:45,120
Speaker 1: never be acon goes out, and I was teaching you

996
01:07:45,240 --> 01:07:55,120
Speaker 1: Cloud in the mean of your line. He's not an expert.