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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya ret An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, We are scrubbing in scrub.

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Speaker 2: A dub dub on a Monday with a lot to discuss.

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Speaker 1: Well, first things first, I'm sitting next to a number

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Speaker 1: one bestseller in Christian devotionals on Amazon probably all the

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Speaker 1: other ones too, Tanya run published author.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, how does it feel to tell the world It

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Speaker 3: was such a weird feeling like I was feeling because

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Speaker 3: it's been such a long time coming and I've been

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Speaker 3: working on it for so long that it felt very

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Speaker 3: like like butterflies.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, like nervous, but like excited, like.

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Speaker 1: All the things when you release something on social media

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Speaker 1: these days, like you don't know what the response is

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Speaker 1: going to be or if you're if people are even

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Speaker 1: going to see it.

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Speaker 3: Because of like the hour, like I was supposted photos,

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Speaker 3: so who knows if people are going to see.

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Speaker 1: But it looked I mean, I felt like you got

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Speaker 1: an overwhelming response to you and raquel Esa.

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Speaker 3: It was so and the messages are like. The thing

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Speaker 3: is the amazing story behind this book is that it

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Speaker 3: all stemmed from the our Highs and Lows episode we

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Speaker 3: did I think our twenty it was like the ending

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Speaker 3: of twenty twenty.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, And.

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Speaker 3: We were talking about our highs and lows of the year,

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Speaker 3: and I was saying how my low was that I

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Speaker 3: spent all this energy and money and effort and time

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Speaker 3: into this book proposal that didn't go anywhere. And this

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Speaker 3: amazing scrub sister reached out and was just like, I

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Speaker 3: believe in you so much.

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Speaker 2: I want to connect you.

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Speaker 3: My aunt works for Christian Publishing, you know I want

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Speaker 3: you to I told her about you, I want to

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Speaker 3: connect you, and it all it was like such a

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Speaker 3: god thing because it was like the ghostwriter who was

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Speaker 3: helping me on my first proposal came back to me

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Speaker 3: and said, I believe in you so much. I want

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Speaker 3: to do another proposal with you, pro boto. I really

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Speaker 3: believe in you so like I was just I was

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Speaker 3: constantly crying because, like everything when it was happening just

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Speaker 3: felt very meant to be. And then the partnering where

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Speaker 3: Kyle had been talking to me about wanting to do

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Speaker 3: something with like more purpose and encouraging people and something

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Speaker 3: that people can actually hold on to, and so it

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Speaker 3: all kind of serendipitously happened at the same time, and

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Speaker 3: it's been a long time coming. We've been working on

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Speaker 3: it for a long time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, almost two years, almost two years.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So it feels really really good to be able

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Speaker 3: to talk about it and share it and get excited

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Speaker 3: about it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like it's actually happening.

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Speaker 3: It's actually happening, and it's something that I'm so proud

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Speaker 3: of because it's like it's so representative of who I

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Speaker 3: am and what I stand for, and it just feels

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Speaker 3: really good.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think I speak for all of us when

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Speaker 1: we say we're very proud of you and adding that

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Speaker 1: title to your name, amongst so many other things. And

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Speaker 1: I know, like the whole scrubbing In community is just

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Speaker 1: like so excited and read to read the words from

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Speaker 1: both of you and be encouraged. So I'm really you.

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Speaker 4: And the fact that it's number one Christian devotional on Amazon,

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Speaker 4: I got to believe the Scrubbers are a big portion

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Speaker 4: of that for sure.

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Speaker 2: For sure. And like the messages I was gett yesterday

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Speaker 2: from the Scrubbers was.

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Speaker 3: That of just like you know, we saw you fail,

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Speaker 3: we saw you fail, but you didn't give up.

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Speaker 2: This was something that you really wanted and you kept

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Speaker 2: going and like it.

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Speaker 3: I literally was like on and off crying pretty much

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Speaker 3: all day yesterday. And like Robbie was saying the same thing,

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Speaker 3: because he was there when I got, you know, the

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Speaker 3: call like nobody wanted my book, and I was just

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Speaker 3: like a mess. You know, it's like this this rejection

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Speaker 3: in such a deep way. And he was like you

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Speaker 3: didn't let that, you know, you didn't give up. You

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Speaker 3: kept going, and like you did it again, and like

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Speaker 3: a lot of people don't do that, and like he

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Speaker 3: was like saying all these words, and I was just like,

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Speaker 3: I mean, I was just constantly crying yesterday.

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Speaker 1: Well. And I also feel like if correct me, if

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Speaker 1: I'm wrong, when you were getting the calls that were

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Speaker 1: saying like no, it was because like they wanted it

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Speaker 1: to compromise like your truth and who you are for

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Speaker 1: the guest, you know, which I think is like a

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Speaker 1: really important lesson for people to remember, like you don't

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Speaker 1: have to like adjust yourself for anybody to get the guests,

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Speaker 1: Like it just might be a different time plan.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And that's the thing to him, Like, look now

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Speaker 2: that I'm an author, wor not.

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Speaker 3: Oh god, now that she's an author, I could eventually

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Speaker 3: at some point do the dating book that I never

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Speaker 3: got to do, do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Like that could come down the line.

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Speaker 3: But this definitely feels like meant to be what it

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Speaker 3: was supposed to be, and it's gonna be fun. The

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Speaker 3: rollout is going to be fun because there's like some

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Speaker 3: fun surprises and things. So it's just it's going to

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Speaker 3: be a fun end of the year.

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Speaker 1: Oh we're going on a Taylor Swift to Easter Egg journey.

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Speaker 2: No, not quite. I'm tired, I know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, it was.

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Speaker 3: Like such a whirlwind of emotions this weekend. Yeah, there

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Speaker 3: was a lot happen, like we should. So anyways, I

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Speaker 3: want to uh, I'm going to be obviously sharing more

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Speaker 3: about the book as it like gets closer, But thank

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Speaker 3: you guys for all just like the support and love

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Speaker 3: and words and pre orders and it's like crazy, we

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Speaker 3: were number two hundred and fifty or something out of

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Speaker 3: all the books on Amazon this morning.

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Speaker 1: That is insane. Yeah, and it's not even out.

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Speaker 3: It's not even out, so it was really crazy, and

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Speaker 3: so I just want to say thank you guys.

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Speaker 1: That's really cool. We're all so proud of you. Thank

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Speaker 1: you can't wait. Thank to have it in my hands.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, sign copy obviously. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So, amongst Tanya officially being an author, we were blessed.

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Speaker 1: We were absolutely blessed by the one and only.

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Speaker 3: And don't think it took me like less than twenty

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Speaker 3: four hours to figure out the the Hi, it's me,

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Speaker 1: It's oh I did I saw your scrubbing in boss.

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Speaker 1: It's funny. Yeah yeah, I mean where do we begin?

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Speaker 2: Where do we begin?

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Speaker 1: I wrote, like my top five, and then like why

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Speaker 4: I wrote in my notes, Well, I had the same

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Speaker 4: favorite song, which I was surprised at because typically I

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Speaker 4: listened for hooks and she listens for lyrics. And this time,

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Speaker 4: for the first time, we sink.

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Speaker 2: Yeap dude, those two collided.

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Speaker 1: That's very interesting. Congrats you guys.

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Speaker 3: It's very guess Becca knows doos Oh wow, Becca has

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Speaker 3: like a essay on why the songs are her favorite?

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Speaker 5: Wow?

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Speaker 4: Okay, great, Yes, Bejeweled was our favorite.

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Speaker 1: I too love Bejeweled. It's not my top five.

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Speaker 3: I mean wanting the penthouse of somebody's heart when you're

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Speaker 3: in the basement in his life is like the most

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Speaker 3: relatable lyric I have ever felt to my core, but.

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Speaker 1: Like in such a poetic way. No I would ever

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Speaker 3: But she's a poet, I know, And it's just like,

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm gonna start with Labyrinth, which okay, some people

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Speaker 2: I'm Robbie Becky. Yeah, Robbie does not get Labyrinth.

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Speaker 3: Becca's more of like the whimsical tailor, Like Becca really

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Speaker 1: This was what I wrote about Labyrinth, What's not to Love?

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Speaker 1: In all caps. It feels like you're ascending into another dimension.

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Speaker 1: The feelings of heartbreak, wondering if you'll ever get over

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Speaker 1: that person, that crush that the lyric I'll be getting

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Speaker 1: break a smile. It gives me feelings of nineteen eighty

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Speaker 2: Yeah, which is an one of my favorites.

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Speaker 1: Interesting. I know, it's so romantic.

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Speaker 3: I like the words, but again that's a little whimsical

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Speaker 1: Okay, Okay. Whimsicle, Yeah, I like a boppy Okay. So

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Speaker 1: you like be Jeweled because it's saying.

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Speaker 2: Like hear me roar I of sparkle no matter what.

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Speaker 3: Interesting, But my favorites in those. My favorites in those

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Speaker 3: are the more boppier ones like Willow and Invisible String.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I feel like Labyrinth is on that same level.

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Speaker 1: thank you so much. Midnight Rain, Yeah, you guys, So,

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Speaker 1: just looking at the list of the titles, I chose

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Speaker 1: And the bop of it, and then I like the

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Speaker 1: relatability to having someone who is perfect, like has everything

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Speaker 1: that you want and treat you like perfection, but you're

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Speaker 1: wanting the pain. You're wanting someone that sparks the challenge

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Speaker 3: I can't relate to that, okay, but I respect it.

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Speaker 3: I respect it. I like I like the love, you know,

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Speaker 3: like I like the steady eddies. I don't need the

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Speaker 1: But she's like she's like you were wanting a bride

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Speaker 1: and I was chasing the fame like I was. I

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Speaker 1: was doing what I needed to do for myself, which

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be a settle down.

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Speaker 3: But you know what, I figured out that this song

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Speaker 3: was about Taylor Lautner very quickly because I was listening

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Speaker 3: to the lyrics and I was like, who is she

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Speaker 3: dating when she was like ascending and like going after

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Speaker 3: her fame and he was like this really sweet guy

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Speaker 3: and nothing was wrong with him, like great family, And

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh, Taylor Lawner.

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Speaker 1: This is not confirmed.

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Speaker 3: This is agedly, but I felt pretty strong about that theory.

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Speaker 2: The internet agrees with me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, people were trying to say yeah, but I feel

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Speaker 1: like she was already quite famous. She was no longer

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Speaker 2: The fame was chasing her.

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Speaker 1: We were all chasing her exactly, the fame and us correct.

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Speaker 1: And the sexy baby lyric Like I it's so random,

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Speaker 3: Just that's how I feel about the cat purring in

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Speaker 3: I've just never experienced it, so I feel like it's

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Speaker 2: Twenty three.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like we have none of the same favorites.

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Speaker 1: Okay. Maroon is just so romantic. I feel like it's

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Speaker 2: And then Karma. I just love Karma. It's just everything

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Speaker 3: And then I will tell you what I Shouldakuda is

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so that song, like, ooh, that one really gets me. Okay,

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Speaker 3: I switched that out with Lavender Hayes because that was

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Speaker 1: But interesting, number one, number one.

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Speaker 2: Track, number one track, and number four in my heart.

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Speaker 1: Okay, what are your what are your runner ups? Or

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Speaker 3: My honorable mentions were, I guess go Lavender Hayes. I

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Speaker 3: do like Vigilant, No, I do like Labyrinth, Labyrinth. And

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Speaker 3: there's one other one that I'm forgetting stand by Snow.

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Speaker 1: On the Beach.

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 1: I really like that one too. Actually Midnight Rain, Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean Midnight Rain is an.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely an anti heroo.

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Speaker 1: Okay. The thing is that nothing the album is in Paris.

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Speaker 2: That's it right thereon.

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Speaker 1: Have you written notes? You know?

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Speaker 6: I have. I jotted down some stuff. I love Lavender Hayes, Okay,

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Speaker 6: it's the song that connected the most of me. I

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Speaker 6: love Snow on the Beach. I know, Uh, we're really

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Speaker 6: looking forward to some Lana. We love Lana in this house.

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Speaker 6: I hope to hear more of her, but it never happened.

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Speaker 6: But those are the two songs that that I connected

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Speaker 1: That's fair.

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Speaker 3: It is funny because I realized normally, when I like

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Speaker 1: Maybe?

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Speaker 2: So I had to.

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Speaker 3: I didn't give it as deep of a dive as

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Speaker 6: What's the song you had to like control yourself the

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Speaker 1: Mine's Midnight Rain but jeweled.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, like with no rules. You have just listened that

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Speaker 2: Fours, just like it's playing in my head right now

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Speaker 1: It just it it puts me in a headspace that

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Speaker 3: It's so funny too, because I feel like everybody, Like

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Speaker 3: I was having a conversation with a friend of mine

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Speaker 3: Like stop singing about these relationships she had ten years ago.

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Speaker 3: And I got so angry because I'm like, these are

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Speaker 2: Moments and memories and like inspiration.

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Speaker 1: I don't think that person gets songwriting because people will

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Speaker 1: literally like songwriters will be like, okay, like did you

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Speaker 1: oh yeah, like a long time ago, and then they

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Speaker 1: It's not that like, yeah, she's probably not thinking about

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Speaker 2: Well, I got on my Yeah, I Taylor.

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Speaker 1: I get it. I get defensive.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, but it is crazy because I feel like I

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Speaker 7: was just watching all the things, like all the theories

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Speaker 7: able to achieve and the like mystery and the mystique

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Speaker 2: I think is just like so cool.

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Speaker 1: She's a mastermind. He's like, she is the mastermind. I

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Speaker 1: I'm like, maybe I want to have kids so I

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Speaker 1: can show them, Taylor.

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Speaker 2: Swift, that's your thought.

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Speaker 1: And then I'm like around a kid and like a restaurant,

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Speaker 2: No, you don't want to have kids to show them,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think I don't need to show them

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Speaker 1: to show niece's nephews, et cetera. Yeah, anyways, she's a genius.

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Speaker 1: I feel honored to live in the lifetime. Oh you

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Speaker 1: got a PR box or the box?

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Speaker 2: I got the box?

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Speaker 1: Did you get the sweatsuit? Did you open it?

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Speaker 2: I got the sweatsuit?

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Speaker 1: Is it not cozy? I haven't I didn't get one.

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Speaker 1: Haley got it.

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Speaker 2: I haven't put it on yet. It's in my car.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Hailey got it. And it is one of the

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Speaker 1: softest merch pieces I've ever felt. Of course, she.

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Speaker 2: Felt very meant for me because I've been like, really.

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Speaker 1: Just I just wear you love a sweat I love a.

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Speaker 3: Sweat set, like I live in a sweat set. It's

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Speaker 3: I just felt very much like seen and heard yeah

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: I love it. There's something printed on the top of

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Speaker 6: the hood because as someone that looks down at a

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: So like if you have the hood up very tall

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I can't wait.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to wash it up. I'm going to wash

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Speaker 3: it and put that bad boy right on. You'll be

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Speaker 3: seeing me in that tomorrow, Well.

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Speaker 1: I see you tomorrow or just the Instagram story.

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Speaker 3: Just like in general, popping around town in that sweatsuit

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Speaker 1: Okay, So we love the album. It's truly close to perfection.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if there's any anything I'd change. And

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Speaker 1: then you go to Harry Styles last night for Oh

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Speaker 1: my God Opening Night. How did Robbie handle you being

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Speaker 2: I know, I know, I made my cat brot.

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Speaker 3: I did a reel about the Harry Show, and I

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Speaker 3: can't tell if like, I can't tell if you was

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Speaker 1: I would definitely be annoyed by that. If Haley said

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Speaker 3: He plays into the joke, and I think he thinks

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Speaker 1: He admitted that that's the only time he's ever felt

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Speaker 1: interview see he has no jealousy except for Harry Styles. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well it was time.

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Speaker 3: He was like, it's we need to celebrate, so we

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Speaker 2: Harry at the Forum.

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Speaker 3: It was a star sighting there was I saw Hillary

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Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah, but you know that's a very random group

444
00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:15,440
Speaker 1: of sightings.

445
00:20:15,440 --> 00:20:20,280
Speaker 3: But yes, very random, but equally like shocking. Yeah yeah, yeah,

446
00:20:20,280 --> 00:20:22,800
Speaker 3: you know, like my star eyes were like, whoa.

447
00:20:22,520 --> 00:20:24,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that you still get star eyes because

448
00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:26,000
Speaker 1: a lot of people in your position would be very

449
00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:28,120
Speaker 1: jaded by what you do. You and Easton both it's

450
00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:31,280
Speaker 1: very like, I love it. It's one of my favorite things

451
00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:32,360
Speaker 1: that y'all get so well.

452
00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:34,800
Speaker 3: The cool thing is about the Harry Show is he's

453
00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:37,680
Speaker 3: like in the center and he really does go around

454
00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:44,480
Speaker 3: the stage so like and pretty uhu frequently. Yeah, Like

455
00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:46,480
Speaker 3: he's not like he hasn't just played at the front.

456
00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:47,879
Speaker 3: He plays at the front, he plays the back, he

457
00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:52,160
Speaker 3: was side. He moves so much and so you don't

458
00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:54,160
Speaker 3: have there's not a bad seat in the house, and

459
00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:57,320
Speaker 3: so I just really loved that he helped a girl come

460
00:20:57,400 --> 00:21:00,160
Speaker 3: out during the show. I believe her name was Serena,

461
00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:03,280
Speaker 3: but it was really cool. He like took somebody's boa

462
00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:05,120
Speaker 3: and he was like, when I put this boa over

463
00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:07,520
Speaker 3: my head, like you're gonna be out, and so he

464
00:21:07,600 --> 00:21:09,240
Speaker 3: was like playing with the boa and like running around

465
00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:10,680
Speaker 3: with it, and then he just like lifted up over

466
00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:12,080
Speaker 3: his head and everybody started.

467
00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:13,760
Speaker 2: Screaming, Oh, that's cool.

468
00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:14,480
Speaker 1: Yeah.

469
00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:16,480
Speaker 3: And then there was another person that I had a

470
00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:20,760
Speaker 3: sign that said I'm living my twenties in my sixties,

471
00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:25,000
Speaker 3: and I was like, that's so cool. Yeah, and he

472
00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:27,840
Speaker 3: was just like, you know, you can live your live

473
00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:30,200
Speaker 3: your twenties whenever, you know, just about living your best

474
00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:32,880
Speaker 3: life whenever you know, sees the moment and just felt

475
00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:36,399
Speaker 3: very like, yeah, I'm an author.

476
00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:38,080
Speaker 1: What was your favorite song? Life?

477
00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:39,639
Speaker 8: Uh.

478
00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:43,280
Speaker 3: I enjoyed Satellite Live because he was really like flying

479
00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:45,440
Speaker 3: around the stage.

480
00:21:45,600 --> 00:21:48,520
Speaker 1: That's this, that's like that song. Hearing that live is

481
00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:51,439
Speaker 1: only like that's the main reason I'm like dying to

482
00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:51,960
Speaker 1: go see it.

483
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:53,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, show, yeah, wow.

484
00:21:53,480 --> 00:21:57,119
Speaker 3: And then Cinema was really fun. Robbie's like that's his

485
00:21:57,160 --> 00:21:59,919
Speaker 3: new favorite song. He's obsessed with it. So we enjoyed that.

486
00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:04,160
Speaker 3: And then I also love to adore you. Yeah, classic, classic,

487
00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:05,800
Speaker 3: just like a vibe.

488
00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:07,879
Speaker 1: You did a lot. There was a lot happening for

489
00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:12,240
Speaker 1: you this week. Let's to a lot of emotions, a

490
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:13,520
Speaker 1: lot of emotions.

491
00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:17,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, enjoy, thank you so much, You're so welcome. Yeah,

492
00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:19,000
Speaker 3: it was a lot of emotions. And then there was

493
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:20,320
Speaker 3: like rain this weekend in La.

494
00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:23,400
Speaker 1: So nothing makes me happier than rain.

495
00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:23,920
Speaker 2: Yeah.

496
00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:27,320
Speaker 3: So between the Taylor album and the Harry Show and

497
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:32,199
Speaker 3: the book announcement, I'm on like adrenaline high as you

498
00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:34,400
Speaker 3: should be. I'm probably gonna take a nap later because

499
00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:36,399
Speaker 3: i was out late for the Harry Show. But it

500
00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:38,520
Speaker 3: was worth it because you know whose house it.

501
00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:39,200
Speaker 1: Is, Harry's.

502
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,480
Speaker 2: It's Harry's house. Yeah, fifteen nights.

503
00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:43,640
Speaker 1: It's insane. I don't know how he does it.

504
00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:45,520
Speaker 2: Fifteen nights at the Forum.

505
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:46,360
Speaker 5: Crazy.

506
00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:47,880
Speaker 2: They have a huge.

507
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:50,359
Speaker 3: Sign like they do like the lights that say you

508
00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:51,840
Speaker 3: know like and they did the lights for other artists,

509
00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:54,160
Speaker 3: but they have these huge letters that are on top

510
00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:56,080
Speaker 3: of the Forum that say Harry's house.

511
00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:57,719
Speaker 2: And I've never seen that before.

512
00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:01,800
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think because we went just last year

513
00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:04,560
Speaker 1: he was on his other tour. Yeah it was, It's

514
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:06,720
Speaker 1: only been a year. The man does not rest.

515
00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:08,880
Speaker 2: No, he doesn't need Are you kidding? He doesn't need rest.

516
00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:10,159
Speaker 2: That man, I don't know.

517
00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:13,680
Speaker 1: He might eventually need some rest, but he is good.

518
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:18,120
Speaker 1: He is he the TikTok videos, Like my algorithm has

519
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 1: let me know that I enjoy watching Harry style videos

520
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:22,560
Speaker 1: because I get a lot of them on my for

521
00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:26,200
Speaker 1: you page and I stay, I sit and watch and

522
00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:26,800
Speaker 1: watch them all.

523
00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:28,399
Speaker 2: Yeah it was great.

524
00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was great. I haven't been, but it sounds great.

525
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:32,879
Speaker 3: I can't wait to almost like, I'm like, I need

526
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:36,560
Speaker 3: to go back again. I'm known, Yeah, let's go. Because

527
00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:38,440
Speaker 3: we didn't stay for the encore because I was trying

528
00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 3: to be responsible at all for work.

529
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:42,680
Speaker 1: Oh I know, Okay, we should go and stay for

530
00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:46,439
Speaker 1: the encore. Yeah, Haley and I went back to the

531
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:48,159
Speaker 1: place that we met this weekend for the first time

532
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 1: since we met four years ago. I saw you post that,

533
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,159
Speaker 1: but I think we should get to that after a break.

534
00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:55,119
Speaker 1: Why after we take a break?

535
00:23:55,200 --> 00:23:56,640
Speaker 2: Why?

536
00:23:56,800 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 8: Okay, fine, okay, we are back after a very a

537
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:19,800
Speaker 8: very long break felt long.

538
00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 1: So Hailey's friend slash old publicist got married and they

539
00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:29,440
Speaker 1: rented out No Vacancy, which is like a to get

540
00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:32,280
Speaker 1: married no for like an after party. Like they had

541
00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:34,520
Speaker 1: the wedding, then they had the reception, and then they

542
00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:36,280
Speaker 1: had like an after party where they invited a lot

543
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:39,240
Speaker 1: more people. Got it so smart, so thoughtful.

544
00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:41,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never heard of that.

545
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:44,960
Speaker 1: Actually I know me neither. So they rented out No Vacancy,

546
00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:48,240
Speaker 1: which is where Haley had her Expectations album release party,

547
00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:51,400
Speaker 1: which is where we met and we've never been back

548
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:54,239
Speaker 1: since then, and that's where the after party was. So

549
00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:57,000
Speaker 1: she was like, you have to, like, let's have a moment.

550
00:24:57,119 --> 00:25:00,719
Speaker 1: So let's have a moment. We went and we there

551
00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:02,880
Speaker 1: was like these stairs where the DJ booth is. That's

552
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:04,800
Speaker 1: exactly where we met, like where she came up and

553
00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:06,880
Speaker 1: introduced herself, and then there was like a little room

554
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 1: with this fireplace and that's where we were talking and

555
00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:10,399
Speaker 1: I was trying to set up with my sister, and

556
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:12,960
Speaker 1: we took our first photo together that already looked like

557
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:16,600
Speaker 1: we were a couple. Yeah, it did, and it was

558
00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:19,480
Speaker 1: so cool. It also like blew my mind that we

559
00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:22,480
Speaker 1: had never gone back until this point. But it was

560
00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:25,840
Speaker 1: really it just was like fun to give it feels. Yeah,

561
00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 1: I always have the feels like anything better. Yeah, I

562
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,360
Speaker 1: always have the feels when I like think about our

563
00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 1: relationship and BacT. Last night, so April will be five years.

564
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:38,280
Speaker 1: M hm that is it's been like four and a

565
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 1: half years. So last night I had this thought and

566
00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 1: I was we were about to go to sleep, and

567
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:45,159
Speaker 1: I was taking Phoebe out and I had this like weird,

568
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:48,720
Speaker 1: like not anxious feeling, but there was like this feeling

569
00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 1: that I felt like sad or something. And I realized

570
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:54,960
Speaker 1: it was because we had had like a fun day

571
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 1: like just we were and like ran errands, and I

572
00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:58,960
Speaker 1: was like sad to go to bed, Like I was

573
00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:02,920
Speaker 1: like sad that like our time was like ending hanging out.

574
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:06,919
Speaker 3: I get that feeling sometimes on Monday mornings. Yeah, I

575
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:07,879
Speaker 3: get like are you crying?

576
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:08,120
Speaker 8: No?

577
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 2: Oh, I was like, wow, I'm really emotional about it.

578
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:14,119
Speaker 3: I get that feeling on Monday mornings because sometimes like

579
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:17,159
Speaker 3: I feel like we have such a good weekend and

580
00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:19,119
Speaker 3: I get and I love waking up to him, do

581
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:20,359
Speaker 3: you know what I mean? Like I love waking up

582
00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:22,520
Speaker 3: to him and having those mornings and then Monday when

583
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:25,399
Speaker 3: I I leave before he even opens his eyes, and

584
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:28,080
Speaker 3: I get like that emotion too, where I get really sad.

585
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, I'm not going to wake up to

586
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 3: him this morning. I get really it's weird, Like what

587
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 3: is this feeling? It needs to exit my body right now.

588
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:38,439
Speaker 1: I realize that I feel it often, like especially on

589
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 1: the weekends too, but like last night, was actually able

590
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:44,399
Speaker 1: to put like the reason to the feeling, Like I

591
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 1: was able to like place it, and I was like,

592
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:49,960
Speaker 1: it's such a cute thought like that. It like kind

593
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 1: of shocked me that I felt.

594
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:55,200
Speaker 3: I just had this revelation now right here, right now,

595
00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 3: because I thought, he let me tell you, Beca is

596
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:00,479
Speaker 3: turning into Tanya.

597
00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:05,239
Speaker 1: See, I think I'm more I'm way more like in

598
00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 1: touch with my emotions, and like I don't think it's

599
00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 1: that I've never felt them, It's that I'm learning to

600
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:14,879
Speaker 1: express them more. So, like last night, I had that

601
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:18,040
Speaker 1: thought and instead of just like keeping it and being like,

602
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:20,199
Speaker 1: oh that's nice, I like shared it with Haley and

603
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:24,479
Speaker 1: she was like that is so sweet. She was just

604
00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:32,439
Speaker 1: like also shocked to her back. But yeah, so.

605
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 2: That's why I do.

606
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:36,360
Speaker 3: That's why I leave Robbie little notes when I leave

607
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 3: before he wakes up. I leave like a note so

608
00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 3: that since he's not waking up with me, he can

609
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:41,399
Speaker 3: like kind of wake up with me.

610
00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:45,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, like he he wakes up with your words.

611
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:46,359
Speaker 2: Of my wordst. Cetera, et c.

612
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:51,959
Speaker 3: Published as a published author, he gets the words. But

613
00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 3: sometimes I do, like I'll write like a funny poem.

614
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 3: Sometimes it's naughty.

615
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:56,399
Speaker 1: Oh yeah.

616
00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:58,720
Speaker 2: Most of the times they're pretty basic.

617
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 1: Like what did today say? Today's was so.

618
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:03,680
Speaker 3: He's been working, like really hard, he worked throughout the

619
00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:05,920
Speaker 3: whole weekend. So today's was a little just more. I

620
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:06,640
Speaker 3: can't wait for this.

621
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:07,480
Speaker 2: Deal to be done.

622
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 3: You've been putting so much work into it. There's anything

623
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 3: I can do to help you can't wait to kiss

624
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:12,920
Speaker 3: you at the end of the day.

625
00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:14,479
Speaker 2: It's pretty much it.

626
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 1: That's really sweet.

627
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,840
Speaker 3: Today's is basic. But when there is a naughty little limerick,

628
00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:20,439
Speaker 3: I do and I do enjoy those.

629
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:22,199
Speaker 5: Well, we'd like to hear those, those would be nice

630
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:22,480
Speaker 5: to him.

631
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:24,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, well I don't have them there. I leave

632
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 3: them and then I don't know what he does with them.

633
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:26,720
Speaker 2: He probably throws them away.

634
00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, let's hear a naughty limerick, an original one, but like, yeah, yeah,

635
00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:35,080
Speaker 4: so it would be something like, oh no, why do

636
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 4: I feel stressed?

637
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:37,679
Speaker 6: I regret asking for this.

638
00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 3: I'm all like it would be something like, you know,

639
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 3: being away from you for this many hours feels so wrong.

640
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:50,480
Speaker 2: I'll be daydreaming about your dong or something.

641
00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 1: I literally was like, yeah, you did not be in

642
00:28:57,520 --> 00:29:02,479
Speaker 1: the first seven. I was like, oh, it's pretty.

643
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 4: You know.

644
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 2: They're not like dirty, they're just like naughty.

645
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 1: You never know. With you, that's the one thing you

646
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:10,479
Speaker 1: always keep us.

647
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 2: Sometimes I'll draw a sketch of sorts.

648
00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, well we don't need to see that.

649
00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:23,960
Speaker 2: We'll leave that before work and s f W.

650
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think that Robbie might be someone

651
00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 1: who keeps them, so, you know, it's so funny.

652
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 3: He keeps a lot of stuff, Like I saw in

653
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 3: the closet the other day, Like I saw it's a

654
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 3: giant pile of just like.

655
00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:41,719
Speaker 2: Every card, every letter, every like there's he keeps a

656
00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 2: lot of stuff.

657
00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 3: But I think the daily notes I don't think he

658
00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 3: keeps because most of them are just kind of like

659
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 3: ripped out of a notebook paper. But he keeps pretty

660
00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 3: much everything that I've written.

661
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 1: You should get like a little box that he can

662
00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 1: just like.

663
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,320
Speaker 3: Put I should get him a box. Yeah, that's a

664
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 3: good idea. Tonya box, Tanya box. Yeah, yeah, that's cute. Yeah,

665
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 3: I actually will because they're just kind of thrown in

666
00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 3: there and I'm.

667
00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:06,320
Speaker 1: Like, oh, you know what I was thinking about today?

668
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:09,680
Speaker 1: I was, I walked here today. It's every like once

669
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:11,479
Speaker 1: a month I'll do like a walk to Tanya's when

670
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:12,920
Speaker 1: I'm trying to like get fit.

671
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 2: And Becca's like early, which is never I'm always.

672
00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 1: I'm typically early when I walk. I think because I think.

673
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 2: You a lot for more time.

674
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:25,120
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, Oh so I was listening to Taylor Swift

675
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 1: and I can't remember which song it was that provoked

676
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 1: this thought, but let me know if y'all resonate with

677
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 1: this at all. I was thinking about how sometimes like

678
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 1: I feel like there's been certain people in my life

679
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:41,960
Speaker 1: where like every if there was like an article about

680
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:43,640
Speaker 1: me or anything, like, they'd send it and be like,

681
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, like I saw you, Like I just

682
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 1: saw this article pop up. That's so cool. And then

683
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 1: if it's anything about like my relationship with Haley, there's

684
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 1: like they don't send anything about it because like they

685
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:59,920
Speaker 1: don't agree or whatever, Okay, okay. So I was thinking

686
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 1: about this, how this isn't specific to like coming out

687
00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:07,960
Speaker 1: or anything, but in general, we have people who have

688
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 1: these like expectations for our lives, right, and they celebrate

689
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:14,840
Speaker 1: it as long as it's going in a direction that

690
00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 1: they approve of, and then when they don't approve of it,

691
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 1: they stop celebrating you. Right. So the truth is they're

692
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:27,320
Speaker 1: not rooting for you. They're rooting for themselves, right, and

693
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 1: they're expectations of what they see for you. M that's

694
00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:34,080
Speaker 1: like crazy, Like that's crazy. I think that's deep.

695
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 2: Hunh beactcause I'm proud of myself.

696
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 1: No Taylor slips, let me there. But I was just

697
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:44,200
Speaker 1: thinking about how like sometimes we work so hard to

698
00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:46,880
Speaker 1: please other people that we forget ourselves and we're like, well,

699
00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 1: they were rooting for us, But if they were only

700
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 1: rooting for you.

701
00:31:50,040 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 2: To take the path that they want you to.

702
00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 1: Take, the path that they wanted, or what they expected

703
00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 1: your life to look like, or the choices you made,

704
00:31:56,920 --> 00:32:00,760
Speaker 1: whether it's relationships, work anything, they weren't rooting for you.

705
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 1: They were rooting for themselves.

706
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's a very I hate that.

707
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:07,920
Speaker 4: I hate what you're saying, though, I hate that there

708
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:09,880
Speaker 4: are people out there that are like, good for her,

709
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:10,280
Speaker 4: good for.

710
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:12,680
Speaker 5: Her, Oh she's in love. Yeah, I don't agree with that.

711
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 1: I know I hate hate it too.

712
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:18,280
Speaker 4: And you know that fifty years from now, one hundred

713
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 4: years from now, nobody's gonna care about any of that stuff.

714
00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:21,600
Speaker 5: So just be on the right side of history and

715
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:22,400
Speaker 5: stop caring about that.

716
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 3: Correct, But you know, not even that. It's like even like,

717
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:27,680
Speaker 3: let's say you're you're Let's say somebody really wanted you

718
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 3: to become a dentist, and you were like, they had

719
00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:32,440
Speaker 3: their they had a long line of dentists in the family.

720
00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 3: And then you were like, you know what, I really

721
00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:39,760
Speaker 3: want to be a veterinarian. And you don't become the

722
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 3: veterinarian because that your heart desires, because you want to

723
00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:47,400
Speaker 3: just make people happy, that you become the dentist. And

724
00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 3: then you're working every day in a job that your

725
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 3: heart does not belong in.

726
00:32:52,920 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 1: For someone else, for who. And then you get to

727
00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:59,120
Speaker 1: sixty an older age, and you look back and you go,

728
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:02,280
Speaker 1: I had one I had one life to do this,

729
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: and I did. I did what someone else wanted.

730
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 2: Becca. I can't even tell you.

731
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 3: I can't even tell you how much I unders like

732
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 3: I don't personally. It's interesting because I've always kind of

733
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:20,360
Speaker 3: gone against the path in terms of like my parents

734
00:33:20,360 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 3: were never really I mean, it was you know, they're serbian.

735
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 3: It's like, you know, doctor lawyer, that's like the path.

736
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:29,000
Speaker 3: I was never going down that path, and I don't

737
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:33,040
Speaker 3: think they ever expected me to. But there was never

738
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:34,720
Speaker 3: that that when I told them what I wanted to do.

739
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:36,760
Speaker 3: There was never that disappointment in their voices, do you

740
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:38,720
Speaker 3: know what I mean? It was always just like okay,

741
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 3: maybe they didn't understand it at the time. There was

742
00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:43,040
Speaker 3: never like disappointment, you know what I mean. It was

743
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:45,719
Speaker 3: always just like okay, like that's great, Like how can

744
00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 3: I learn more?

745
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 2: You know what I mean?

746
00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 3: Like I never had that in certain ways. But I

747
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 3: see so many people that have done certain things in

748
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:57,080
Speaker 3: their life, like married a specific person that was like

749
00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:59,280
Speaker 3: a family friend that that was just like the safe

750
00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:02,480
Speaker 3: choice and ended up you know, getting divorced later on,

751
00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:05,760
Speaker 3: or you know, just like things that they knew in

752
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 3: their heart wasn't for them, but they were just doing

753
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 3: what their family had told.

754
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:10,239
Speaker 2: Them to do.

755
00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:14,400
Speaker 3: And it really leads to this life of just I

756
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:17,040
Speaker 3: don't want to say, feeling unfulfilled.

757
00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:19,520
Speaker 2: But there is that sense of just like what am

758
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:20,719
Speaker 2: I doing this for? Mm hm?

759
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:24,280
Speaker 3: And like if you compound that into decades and decades

760
00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:26,160
Speaker 3: and decades, you wake up one day and you're just like,

761
00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:27,360
Speaker 3: what am I doing?

762
00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 1: And I also think that when you're doing things for

763
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:33,480
Speaker 1: other people your whole life, like when that's just like

764
00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:36,360
Speaker 1: the structure that you live in, you don't even you

765
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:38,600
Speaker 1: might not even realize that you've just done it for

766
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:41,720
Speaker 1: everybody else until you do something that they're not proud

767
00:34:41,760 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 1: of or that they're not like, that they don't agree with. Yeah,

768
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 1: and that's when you really you have to make that

769
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:50,399
Speaker 1: decision like am I doing this for them? Or am

770
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:54,720
Speaker 1: I living life for them or for me? And yeah,

771
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 1: it's pretty I mean, I think we see it all

772
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 1: the time with people, whether it's personal or not.

773
00:34:59,160 --> 00:34:59,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know.

774
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:03,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, So anyways, I had an epiphany.

775
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 3: That epiphany is a strong one that I think I

776
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:08,320
Speaker 3: think a lot of people can relate to.

777
00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 1: We'll leave you with that for our next break and

778
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 1: we'll come back with emails. All right, I hope you

779
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:32,880
Speaker 1: had a nice long break pondering. Our last was some good.

780
00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 2: Stuff, Becca, That was some good stuff right there.

781
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 1: Thank you so much.

782
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 2: You can lave your twenties in your sixties.

783
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:39,919
Speaker 1: I love that.

784
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 3: If Harry Styles Concert taught me anything, it's that. I

785
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:45,400
Speaker 3: love that live in my twenties and my sixties.

786
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:48,239
Speaker 2: You go, girl. I can't remember if it was a

787
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:48,799
Speaker 2: guy or girl.

788
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:52,280
Speaker 1: It is funny though, because I think as we continue

789
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:55,400
Speaker 1: to get older, there's that thought like I used to

790
00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 1: see like older people who were like having fun and

791
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:03,200
Speaker 1: being like what, like you're still lowed to like have

792
00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 1: fun when you're that age, like you know, and and

793
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:07,279
Speaker 1: when you grow up in a certain culture, it's like

794
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:09,919
Speaker 1: they need to act their age, you know, like they're

795
00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 1: too old for that. You're not. You're really not like we,

796
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:18,280
Speaker 1: I think as a society put limitations on things because

797
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 1: of age, and we got to stop doing that.

798
00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 2: I'm not here for it.

799
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 1: Live your twenties and your sixties if you want.

800
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:26,560
Speaker 2: There's actually chapter of my book about that.

801
00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:28,560
Speaker 1: I can't wait to read it.

802
00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 2: About like the people who.

803
00:36:32,560 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 3: I don't want to say like they're claim to fame,

804
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:37,120
Speaker 3: but like they got well known and later on in life,

805
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:38,440
Speaker 3: you know, it's like you don't have to do everything

806
00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 3: by twenty Yeah.

807
00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:44,040
Speaker 4: I love Tom Bergeron's the guy I think of Tom

808
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:46,279
Speaker 4: Bergeron finally made it big on like Dancing with the Stars.

809
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 5: I think he was in his fifties.

810
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, like Bara Wang, and there's like all these different

811
00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:53,200
Speaker 3: people in their forties fifties.

812
00:36:53,360 --> 00:36:55,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, you know what, it's okay if you

813
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 2: don't do it by twenty five. Yeah, just to say

814
00:36:58,160 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 2: you need to do by thirty.

815
00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:05,600
Speaker 1: Yeah. This is gonna be a short conversation because I

816
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 1: didn't finish the episode. But Gray's anatomy this week? Do

817
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:12,880
Speaker 1: we have thought? Oh? Yes, oh you see Tanya. Well,

818
00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:15,120
Speaker 1: I got through, like almost to the end, and I

819
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:15,919
Speaker 1: was just kind of like.

820
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:20,200
Speaker 3: It wasn't as strong as the first two for sure, Yeah,

821
00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 3: but it is still better than what we've been getting.

822
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 1: Yeah.

823
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:24,839
Speaker 5: I was very happy with it.

824
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:28,200
Speaker 1: My sister texts me and goes, why does why do

825
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:31,360
Speaker 1: we continue to have to watch Owen have sex scenes?

826
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:33,280
Speaker 5: Yeah?

827
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 1: Although I will say I thought he looked good this episode.

828
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 1: He got a fresh haircut, He looked like more put

829
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:41,359
Speaker 1: together than he's looked recently, which I appreciated.

830
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 2: I need the interns having more sex.

831
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:48,320
Speaker 1: Okay, So the what's his name? I know him as Harry.

832
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 3: Show I know, I say Harry Seman and easy girl,

833
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:51,640
Speaker 3: I say eazy girl.

834
00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:56,400
Speaker 1: We're still learning names, but I literally there was a

835
00:37:56,480 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 1: moment before they had sex where I was like, they're

836
00:37:58,560 --> 00:37:59,879
Speaker 1: gonna hook up. It's gonna be like Alex.

837
00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 2: And then Harry Shum has this aura. He has this

838
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:11,359
Speaker 2: aura about him that's just like.

839
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 1: Sexual, a sexual aura. Yeah, so we have him on

840
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:20,399
Speaker 1: the show. We should try and get him on the show.

841
00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:20,880
Speaker 3: We should.

842
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:23,359
Speaker 2: Okay, it's like you can cut the tension when he's

843
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:24,600
Speaker 2: around with like a knife.

844
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:27,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right.

845
00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 2: I think they're making him out to be the new Korev.

846
00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 1: Yes, doctor Kwan, doctor Daniel Kwan.

847
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes.

848
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 1: And then we and I did enjoy the conversation between

849
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 1: Meredith and Griffith, whose grandma has Alzheimer's, because I obviously

850
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:48,560
Speaker 1: those parallel lines. And first of all, I will have

851
00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:50,799
Speaker 1: to acknowledge that Meredith Gray has had the best hair

852
00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 1: since season one and it just continues to look fantastic.

853
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:55,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's looking good this season.

854
00:38:55,719 --> 00:38:59,560
Speaker 1: She's looking great. Not that that's what it's about, but

855
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 1: she looks great.

856
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 2: Yeah.

857
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 1: And then we did get insight into what's the other

858
00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 1: interns name that we missed lost?

859
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:10,600
Speaker 4: Right, oh oh oh oh, Yesuda ya Suda.

860
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 1: She said that she doesn't sleep with men. She's like,

861
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:15,880
Speaker 1: I only sleep with women. So that was some personal

862
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:17,400
Speaker 1: information that we hadn't heard before.

863
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:19,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, and.

864
00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 1: Anything else.

865
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:24,319
Speaker 3: Wait, I literally can I just tell you that I

866
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:26,799
Speaker 3: actually wanted to watch Gray's Anatomy on Thursday night when

867
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,279
Speaker 3: it was live on television, which I have wanted to

868
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:32,400
Speaker 3: do in a very long time. Unfortunately, I did not

869
00:39:32,560 --> 00:39:33,720
Speaker 3: watch it because of Taylor.

870
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 4: Here's what I know. I'm always surprised when it's already over.

871
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 4: I'm like, well, that was it that flew by.

872
00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:41,359
Speaker 1: That's saying a lot, because.

873
00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 4: I think that says a lot because in the past

874
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:44,400
Speaker 4: it's been a bit of a sloge with it.

875
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:45,960
Speaker 5: Now I'm like, oh my gosh, it's over already. Can

876
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:46,440
Speaker 5: you believe it?

877
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:49,240
Speaker 1: And then the Zola being a genius of it all.

878
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:53,000
Speaker 4: That's interesting and that's going to be an interesting plotline

879
00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 4: to follow.

880
00:39:53,640 --> 00:39:56,000
Speaker 1: Well, at first I was just like rolling my eyes

881
00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:59,640
Speaker 1: because I'm like, of course, like her parents are geniuses.

882
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:03,240
Speaker 1: But now I forgot about the panic attack and how

883
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:07,440
Speaker 1: the two could like coincide, and it's something deeper than that,

884
00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 1: and like, actually very interesting to learn about. So I'm

885
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 1: enjoying that.

886
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:16,359
Speaker 5: Doctor Marsha's all those interactions. I like it.

887
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:20,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, great, we're still in the up and

888
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:24,800
Speaker 1: up on. Shall we get into emails?

889
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:27,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, your front doorbell and.

890
00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:29,879
Speaker 1: That's probably a delivery kind of thank you.

891
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:33,240
Speaker 5: I just started listening. Well, welcome. That is great.

892
00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 4: You know, we've so many scrubbers have been here for years,

893
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:38,760
Speaker 4: and we're always happy to add to the to the group.

894
00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:41,600
Speaker 4: I'd love some advice from the cast. When I first

895
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:44,360
Speaker 4: started dating my fiance, I told them I'd been in

896
00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 4: multiple relationships. I told them this because they told me

897
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:50,359
Speaker 4: they had been in numerous relationships as well. We were

898
00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:53,200
Speaker 4: long distance, and they're meeting my family for the first time.

899
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:56,760
Speaker 4: I'm nervous that my family members will say something like, ah,

900
00:40:56,800 --> 00:41:00,160
Speaker 4: it's sure great to meet her first boyfriend, for example,

901
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 4: I haven't told him that I really haven't been with

902
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 4: a lot in a lot of relationships. I asked my

903
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 4: therapist for advice. She told me not to tell them

904
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:09,799
Speaker 4: and smile if anyone says anything, what do you think?

905
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:14,720
Speaker 1: Can we get a summary? So she told her current

906
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:17,279
Speaker 1: partner that she's been with a lot of people, had

907
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:20,320
Speaker 1: a lot of relationships, A lot of relationships.

908
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:23,239
Speaker 4: Yes she has, which is not true. Oh and now

909
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 4: this partner, who I believe she were first, who has

910
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:27,680
Speaker 4: her boyfriend? Yeah, I was meeting the family for the

911
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 4: first time, and she's worried some of the family's going

912
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 4: to mention him being the first boyfriend and that's going

913
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 4: to be a problem. So how does she handle this?

914
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:36,879
Speaker 4: Does she warn her family not to say anything? Does

915
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:38,440
Speaker 4: she tell the boyfriend? Okay, look, I haven't been in

916
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:39,399
Speaker 4: a lot of relationships?

917
00:41:39,480 --> 00:41:40,040
Speaker 5: What does she do?

918
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:44,439
Speaker 1: See I read this. This is so fascinating. I read

919
00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:50,000
Speaker 1: this differently, as in, she only told her boyfriend that

920
00:41:50,120 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 1: this is her first, that this isn't her first relationship,

921
00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 1: but her family doesn't know she's been in multiple relationships.

922
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:59,960
Speaker 2: No, I think Mark has it right, because that's how

923
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 2: I read it.

924
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:02,480
Speaker 1: Do you get what I'm saying, Mark?

925
00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 5: Yeah?

926
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:07,279
Speaker 4: I think, Yes, I see what you're saying, and so

927
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 4: I'm reading it over again. No, I think she I

928
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:16,120
Speaker 4: think she lied to her partner fiance. I think she

929
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:18,799
Speaker 4: lied to her fiance and said I've been in many

930
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:21,480
Speaker 4: relationships just like you, and that isn't true, and now

931
00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:23,560
Speaker 4: she feels guilty about it and isn't sure what to do.

932
00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 2: I'm going to give some advice that you might not

933
00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:26,680
Speaker 2: want to hear.

934
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:31,760
Speaker 3: Uh Oh, the truth will set thy free.

935
00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 2: I agree, it's not a big deal.

936
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 3: I mean, the fact that he's your fiance and you've

937
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:40,200
Speaker 3: kept the shared up for this long is a little

938
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:42,200
Speaker 3: bit sketch.

939
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 2: But I just think it's it's not that big of.

940
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 3: A deal that you haven't had a lot of serious relationships.

941
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:52,160
Speaker 3: Like it's to me, that's not a big deal at all.

942
00:42:52,360 --> 00:42:54,359
Speaker 3: So I feel like you should just come clean and

943
00:42:54,440 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 3: just say I was feeling insecure at the beginning of

944
00:42:56,440 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 3: our relationship, and that's why I said it. I'm really sorry.

945
00:43:02,600 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 3: Lying's not great, But I just think, don't put your family,

946
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:07,040
Speaker 3: don't make your family lie, like, don't just like, don't

947
00:43:07,080 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 3: add to it, you know what I mean, Because eventually

948
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 3: it is going to come out and he's just gonna

949
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 3: be like, why have you been lying this whole time?

950
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:17,360
Speaker 2: When my start compounding it's not great.

951
00:43:17,880 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 1: I just like, part of me is like, y'all are fiance,

952
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 1: So this feels very This to me feels very insignificant

953
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:28,799
Speaker 1: because it's like, hey, when we first started dating, I

954
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:32,000
Speaker 1: got so nervous because you had been in multi relationships

955
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 1: and I said the same. But that's not true. Like

956
00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:38,360
Speaker 1: I'm really excited for my family to meet you and

957
00:43:38,360 --> 00:43:40,839
Speaker 1: and just keep it casual. I mean, I don't think

958
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:42,640
Speaker 1: it's up, but he loves you like he.

959
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:46,239
Speaker 4: Although I don't know why the therapist is telling you

960
00:43:46,239 --> 00:43:49,759
Speaker 4: not to tell questionable question. I wonder, I wonder if

961
00:43:49,760 --> 00:43:52,759
Speaker 4: we have if she the therapist is information we don't have.

962
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:58,319
Speaker 1: Maybe very possible since we have one paragraph to base all.

963
00:43:58,239 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 8: This off of.

964
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:02,879
Speaker 4: Right, All right, well, this one's anonymous, she says, I'll

965
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 4: try to keep this short. How would you both feel

966
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:06,640
Speaker 4: if one of you were invited to the other surprise

967
00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:09,960
Speaker 4: engagement and you found out later they didn't show up

968
00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:12,440
Speaker 4: because they went to a casual dinner instead.

969
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 1: He pissed.

970
00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:16,759
Speaker 4: My childhood best friend got engaged the day before me.

971
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:17,400
Speaker 5: Crazy.

972
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:19,960
Speaker 4: I know both her and her new fiance were invited

973
00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 4: to my engagement by my fiance a couple of weeks prior. Surprise,

974
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 4: everyone's here. Well, my friend told my fiance she would

975
00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:29,479
Speaker 4: try to make it, but ultimately didn't show up because

976
00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:33,160
Speaker 4: of a casual dinner. She texted me, asking you about the

977
00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 4: details of my engagement but I didn't even get a

978
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:37,600
Speaker 4: phone call. I know it sounds silly, but I was

979
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:40,200
Speaker 4: thrilled when she got engaged, even though her now fiance

980
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:42,080
Speaker 4: put her through hell at one point. I needed every

981
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 4: detail because I knew she was happy. I feel like

982
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:47,480
Speaker 4: that is how any best friend would feel and act. Also,

983
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 4: I found out she got engaged hours after it happened

984
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 4: on Instagram. It was just one of those moments of

985
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:56,400
Speaker 4: me feeling that I may consider her my best friend,

986
00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 4: but does she not consider me?

987
00:44:58,200 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 5: Hers?

988
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:00,960
Speaker 4: Am I crazy for having the feelings and being hurt

989
00:45:00,960 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 4: by this? I let it go, but I do think

990
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:05,839
Speaker 4: about it still, and I'm just more careful now about

991
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:07,839
Speaker 4: who I choose to spend my time with and who

992
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:10,440
Speaker 4: I consider a best friend.

993
00:45:11,600 --> 00:45:15,239
Speaker 1: Listen, I don't I identify as a BECA. I mean

994
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 1: I identify as a BECA and I would be devastated

995
00:45:21,080 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 1: by this because finding out something this significant on Instagram

996
00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: is like, I feel like those are the last people

997
00:45:30,520 --> 00:45:34,200
Speaker 1: to know, right, Yeah, Like if Tanya didn't at least

998
00:45:34,239 --> 00:45:36,400
Speaker 1: have me in her like top five people that she

999
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 1: facetimed with the Ring like in like this, right, I really.

1000
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:43,680
Speaker 5: Lyric Taylor Lyric Top five Taylor Lyric Top five.

1001
00:45:44,800 --> 00:45:49,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be like I would be thinking about not

1002
00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:51,920
Speaker 1: like oh, where does our relationship stand? But just like, huh,

1003
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 1: I I totally have that wrong the whole time, whole friendship.

1004
00:45:55,200 --> 00:45:57,719
Speaker 3: I get engaged, I post pictures and I don't tell

1005
00:45:57,760 --> 00:45:59,799
Speaker 3: you like that just is not even a thing.

1006
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:02,400
Speaker 1: The way I would have to just grip my teeth

1007
00:46:02,440 --> 00:46:06,319
Speaker 1: and be like, M so happy for you. She must

1008
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 1: have been so overwhelmed that she forgot.

1009
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:12,920
Speaker 2: I'd be so pissed.

1010
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 1: Yes, And I think that obviously there's some things that

1011
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 1: like we prioritize, like some things that might mean more

1012
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 1: to one person than the other person. But I think

1013
00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:30,960
Speaker 1: an engagement is like pretty equal, like people realize the

1014
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 1: significance of it. So like even when I first kissed Hailey,

1015
00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:38,239
Speaker 1: like I think Tanya was like definitely one of the

1016
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:41,520
Speaker 1: first two people I called, yeah, if not the first

1017
00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:45,600
Speaker 1: and told her So I think it's just like I

1018
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:48,920
Speaker 1: think your feelings being hurt is so valid. And I

1019
00:46:48,960 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 1: don't know if you have a conversation or just kind

1020
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:53,960
Speaker 1: of maybe accept like yeah, maybe you put more value

1021
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 1: and effort into the friendship.

1022
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,120
Speaker 3: Or you can just yeah, like I would say say

1023
00:46:58,160 --> 00:47:00,399
Speaker 3: that you're you can express your feelings, my feelings or hurt.

1024
00:47:00,480 --> 00:47:02,680
Speaker 3: I thought we were better friends than that, and just

1025
00:47:02,719 --> 00:47:04,319
Speaker 3: like kind of leave it and just take that as

1026
00:47:05,160 --> 00:47:06,839
Speaker 3: take this as an example of kind of where your

1027
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:08,640
Speaker 3: friendship stands, you know what I mean, Maybe you don't

1028
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:09,600
Speaker 3: put that as much effort in.

1029
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think, like I also agree expressing your feelings

1030
00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:16,640
Speaker 1: not just like bearing them in and being like, Okay,

1031
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I'm not gonna like be a burden

1032
00:47:18,719 --> 00:47:21,160
Speaker 1: by expressing my feelings. It's her time. But I think

1033
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:23,719
Speaker 1: being able to say, like, hey, it really hurt my

1034
00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 1: feelings that you weren't a part of this day and

1035
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 1: and for like a casual dinner, you know, I think

1036
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 1: that's fair, and then she can however she reacts, is

1037
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:34,880
Speaker 1: we'll be telling.

1038
00:47:35,200 --> 00:47:37,960
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1039
00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:40,000
Speaker 4: I would just add that she answered her own question

1040
00:47:40,080 --> 00:47:41,920
Speaker 4: here in her last line when she said, I'm just

1041
00:47:42,000 --> 00:47:43,640
Speaker 4: being more careful too, I spend my time with and

1042
00:47:43,680 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 4: who I can hit her best friend. Yeah, that's our advice.

1043
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 4: Do that, be more careful. And you're not her best

1044
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:51,040
Speaker 4: friend and that sucks, but yeah, it's good that you know,

1045
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:52,720
Speaker 4: and you can move on and get a better one.

1046
00:47:53,120 --> 00:47:55,879
Speaker 1: I also think sometimes like the childhood best friend thing

1047
00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:59,400
Speaker 1: is hard because like from a child to adult, you

1048
00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:03,240
Speaker 1: change so much, who you are, your interests, what.

1049
00:48:03,120 --> 00:48:04,719
Speaker 2: You make, seasons of life too.

1050
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:07,200
Speaker 3: You know. It's interesting because like when I was in college,

1051
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 3: I had like my best group of girlfriends, and then

1052
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:13,160
Speaker 3: when after graduated, they all got married and had babies,

1053
00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 3: and I was just in such a different life stage

1054
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 3: and season and so it's like, excuse me, there is

1055
00:48:20,120 --> 00:48:26,400
Speaker 3: something to that where like life stages, yeah, making people

1056
00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:29,480
Speaker 3: further through further from other people, but like it can

1057
00:48:29,520 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 3: still all be good. It doesn't have to be bad,

1058
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 3: Like there's not to be bad blood or you know

1059
00:48:32,719 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 3: what I mean, any sort of negativity. It's just like,

1060
00:48:34,640 --> 00:48:35,200
Speaker 3: is what it is.

1061
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 1: And I think it's like where, okay, where am I

1062
00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 1: putting my effort into with this friendship still? So I'm

1063
00:48:43,040 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 1: sorry that sucks. My congratulations on your engagement.

1064
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:49,960
Speaker 2: Congratulations, We're very happy for so happy for you.

1065
00:48:51,520 --> 00:48:56,400
Speaker 1: All Right, that'll wrap her up with the bow tie.

1066
00:48:56,600 --> 00:49:00,960
Speaker 2: Wraps her up. She still gotta shine, Isn't it crazy?

1067
00:49:01,040 --> 00:49:02,880
Speaker 1: In a few months, I'm going to be holding a

1068
00:49:02,920 --> 00:49:06,359
Speaker 1: book that you wrote, like a hardcover book with your

1069
00:49:06,440 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 1: name on the front.

1070
00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:10,160
Speaker 2: Yes, it's so wild.

1071
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:13,160
Speaker 4: Oh, Tanya, I mentioned you mentioned what you learned writing

1072
00:49:13,200 --> 00:49:15,839
Speaker 4: this book and how much respect you have for actual novelists.

1073
00:49:15,880 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 5: Now I thought that was interesting.

1074
00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:20,400
Speaker 3: I have so much respect for people that write like

1075
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:22,760
Speaker 3: chapter books, you know what I mean, Like a chapter

1076
00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:25,640
Speaker 3: book that has a beginning, middle, end, and the chapters

1077
00:49:25,680 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 3: all come together to create some cohesive story. Because a

1078
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:33,680
Speaker 3: devotional is very bite sized, you know, it's one hundred days.

1079
00:49:33,719 --> 00:49:35,880
Speaker 3: Every day is a different scripture, a different interpretation, a

1080
00:49:35,880 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 3: different story. It's very bite sized, digestible. And also you know.

1081
00:49:43,400 --> 00:49:46,000
Speaker 2: It was it was just so interesting, Like I was like,

1082
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:49,200
Speaker 2: this is so wild. I have so much respect.

1083
00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:52,360
Speaker 3: If anybody that I ever admire or respect in this

1084
00:49:52,440 --> 00:49:55,560
Speaker 3: industry writes a book, I'm going to read it because

1085
00:49:56,520 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 3: I know how much effort it took, you know what

1086
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:01,239
Speaker 3: I mean, how much effort. And so now I'm going

1087
00:50:01,320 --> 00:50:02,759
Speaker 3: to be like that girl. I'm going to be like

1088
00:50:03,400 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 3: book girl. I've got a book, I kind of book.

1089
00:50:08,280 --> 00:50:09,160
Speaker 3: Send it to Tanya.

1090
00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:13,800
Speaker 1: But I do think there's like I know what you're saying,

1091
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:17,880
Speaker 1: but to give you credit like coming up like interpreting

1092
00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:21,239
Speaker 1: a small passage and making a whole book of those

1093
00:50:21,280 --> 00:50:24,120
Speaker 1: types of things is also a lot of like mental

1094
00:50:24,160 --> 00:50:25,000
Speaker 1: work and.

1095
00:50:25,160 --> 00:50:26,880
Speaker 2: Time because we didn't want everything. We didn't want to

1096
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 2: be super redundant.

1097
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:28,279
Speaker 1: You know.

1098
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:30,120
Speaker 2: We got to a point where we were like.

1099
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Speaker 3: We're kind of saying the same thing, and we didn't

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Speaker 3: want it to be that, so we really had to

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Speaker 3: kind of like, yeah.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying, and then like a novelist, so

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Speaker 1: you can kind of take the story wherever you want

1104
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Speaker 1: it to, Like, any idea is not too crazy because

1105
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Speaker 1: you're writing a book, you know, so everything. Everyone has

1106
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Speaker 1: their gifts and talents and their lanes, and right now

1107
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Speaker 1: yours is this one. Might be might be a fiction

1108
00:50:51,719 --> 00:50:53,560
Speaker 1: novelist one day too. We don't know.

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Speaker 2: Hey, hi, I'm the author.

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Speaker 1: It's me.

1111
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, me, Hi, I'm the author.

1112
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Speaker 1: You should do bye, because now we're saying for the all, yeah,

1113
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Speaker 1: we're ending the podcast. Bye.

1114
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Speaker 2: Wait, how's it go again?

1115
00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:14,239
Speaker 1: Bye? Bye? It's me.

1116
00:51:14,520 --> 00:51:16,600
Speaker 2: It's me. I'm the author.

1117
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:17,000
Speaker 1: It's me.

1118
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Speaker 2: Goodbye.

1119
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Speaker 1: We love you, I love you.

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Speaker 2: Bye.