1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:04,240 Speaker 1: This message that I'm going to give right now. An 2 00:00:04,280 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 1: answer to your question is for your dad. It's for 3 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:10,680 Speaker 1: all dads listening to this podcast right now. Are you 4 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:17,240 Speaker 1: hearing this email? She's fourteen. She's fourteen years old, and 5 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:21,120 Speaker 1: she's dating a guy that's cheating with more than eleven girls. 6 00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 1: And this girl, Erica dad's is okay with dating this 7 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:31,160 Speaker 1: guy and she loves him. Why. I'll tell you why 8 00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 1: because she says it right in the middle of her email. 9 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:48,960 Speaker 1: He's giving me attention. Hey, everybody, welcome to the Grangersmith Podcast, 10 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:52,559 Speaker 1: Episode one and fifty seven. Thank you for joining me 11 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: this beautiful Monday morning, wherever you are, Thanks for watching, 12 00:00:56,840 --> 00:01:00,640 Speaker 1: thanks for listening, whatever platform you're coming from. I just 13 00:01:00,680 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 1: appreciate you. I love doing this. I answer your questions. 14 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:09,120 Speaker 1: You email me Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com and 15 00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:12,199 Speaker 1: we will talk through it. The question could be really 16 00:01:12,240 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 1: about anything, and we'll see today as I go through 17 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 1: these that they're about all subjects. At least I like 18 00:01:18,520 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 1: for them to be. My only ask from you is 19 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:24,119 Speaker 1: just don't make it longer than about the phone length 20 00:01:24,160 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: of your email. That makes it easier for me to read. 21 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:29,039 Speaker 1: I'm going to jump right into it today, and the 22 00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: first question I'm gonna read comes from Laurie. And Laurie 23 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:36,760 Speaker 1: sent in the question last week that I answered about 24 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:41,840 Speaker 1: the afterlife and about spirits and ghosts and seeing ghost 25 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 1: of people that have died and now their spirits are 26 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 1: not at rest and they're haunting the earth. And Laurie 27 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:52,040 Speaker 1: says that she feels like she has a sixth sense 28 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: in feeling and seeing these kind of signs. Now, my 29 00:01:56,120 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 1: answer to her was straightforward, very biblical, and it just said, 30 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:05,080 Speaker 1: you're not seeing people. People have no business after they died, 31 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 1: no business on this earth. That's what the Bible says. 32 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: There are no ghosts of people that are haunting us, 33 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 1: No lost souls that are still walking around this earth 34 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 1: and trying to fix something or reconcile something that they 35 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 1: didn't have, or even someone that has a message to 36 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:30,120 Speaker 1: bring of good tithing or happiness or I'm okay, I'm 37 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: doing just fine. That stuff doesn't exist. And according to 38 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 1: the Bible, those we would see spirits, but they are 39 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:44,200 Speaker 1: not of humans. They are something much more sinister. There 40 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: are two thirds of angels and one third of demons 41 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 1: that are here on earth right now with us. So 42 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:55,400 Speaker 1: if you are seeing those things. You're seeing something much 43 00:02:55,440 --> 00:03:00,120 Speaker 1: more sinister. Now, that answer to that question got a 44 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 1: lot of attention. I got a lot of emails that 45 00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 1: came in after that, messages on social media, and even 46 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:10,519 Speaker 1: text from close friends about my answer to that question. 47 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: It is biblically sound. I'm not gonna recant any of that. 48 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: What I said is biblically sound. So Laurie comes back 49 00:03:20,200 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 1: and has more to say from her question and from 50 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: my answer, and full disclosure. Laurie is a good fan 51 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 1: of mine. I've known her for many years and I 52 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 1: love her, and she has been to countless concerts, and 53 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:40,520 Speaker 1: she's also been to sermons that I've preached in churches. 54 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 1: So I want to get that out of the way first. 55 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:45,640 Speaker 1: This is not a stranger to me. I love Laurie. 56 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 1: And she writes back in and first she lays out 57 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 1: first by saying, Gee, I'm shaking. I will admit I 58 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 1: had to listen several times over and over to your answer. 59 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:59,880 Speaker 1: I believe my Catholic faith failed me on the thought 60 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 1: that I've had since I was little. I've always had 61 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 1: these kind of questions in priests at my church never 62 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 1: explain things well. When I asked the questions, maybe because 63 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:09,520 Speaker 1: they thought I was too young to be asking such 64 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 1: questions as this. So I stopped asking those questions and 65 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:16,159 Speaker 1: believed what I thought the Bible said, although I've never 66 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:19,560 Speaker 1: fully read it because I do understand how I do 67 00:04:19,680 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 1: not understand how it was written. I feel illiterate when 68 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:26,720 Speaker 1: trying to read the Bible. So here's a question. Do 69 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:29,400 Speaker 1: I need the Bible for dummies or is there a 70 00:04:29,440 --> 00:04:32,359 Speaker 1: way to read a verse and have this spoken to 71 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 1: me in layman's terms like you do on the verses 72 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: on your social media. I understand how you put the 73 00:04:38,200 --> 00:04:41,600 Speaker 1: verses into words. Is there an app or another person 74 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: on YouTube, etc. That can put the Bible into words 75 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 1: like you do so I can comprehend it. I am embarrassed, 76 00:04:47,880 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: and I'll do my best to keep my thoughts towards 77 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:51,840 Speaker 1: God and his words so that I don't veer away 78 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:54,520 Speaker 1: from him. Thanks for you advice, Lori, Laurie, thanks for 79 00:04:54,600 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 1: the recap, and thank you for taking anybody that emails. 80 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:03,240 Speaker 1: I thank you guys. I hope you know that I 81 00:05:03,839 --> 00:05:07,440 Speaker 1: only do this podcast in love, and so sometimes when 82 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:12,160 Speaker 1: I give hard love or difficult advice, it doesn't come 83 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 1: from a judgmental place. It doesn't come from a I'm 84 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:17,200 Speaker 1: better than you place or I know more than you place. 85 00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:20,480 Speaker 1: It's not that. It comes from a place of love. 86 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:24,840 Speaker 1: I genuinely want you to hear what the Bible says. Now, 87 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you some more tough love, Lorie, Okay, 88 00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 1: I love your girl. I'm going to give you more 89 00:05:31,839 --> 00:05:35,120 Speaker 1: tough love. Okay. So please take this from a place 90 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 1: of me not being judgmental, rather me just desperately wanting 91 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:44,279 Speaker 1: you to know this and know the truth. I want 92 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: you to see this the way it is, okay, So 93 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:50,919 Speaker 1: let me start with this. Twenty twenty two is the 94 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:55,120 Speaker 1: best time ever in history since Jesus walked the earth 95 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:59,359 Speaker 1: to read his word and to understand it. The dark ages, 96 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 1: and there was many times in our history when the 97 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:06,160 Speaker 1: Bible was literally chained to the pulpit and it was 98 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:09,480 Speaker 1: reserved only for the priest and the people high in 99 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:12,760 Speaker 1: the church, never for the congregation, never for the normal 100 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:15,600 Speaker 1: person like me and you. And that those days are gone. 101 00:06:16,520 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 1: The Bible is now unlocked from the pulpit, and it's 102 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:21,840 Speaker 1: available for all of us in a way that it's 103 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:26,600 Speaker 1: never been available in any time in history. It's widely available. 104 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:31,200 Speaker 1: Anyone could get it anyone in the well except for 105 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:35,240 Speaker 1: the highly persecuted countries. You can't get it there. Okay, 106 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:39,920 Speaker 1: So the in the non persecuted countries, you can get 107 00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: the Bible as long as you have a phone. Now 108 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 1: you're thinking, but I don't understand it. I don't understand 109 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:50,919 Speaker 1: how it was written. Well, I could spend time. I 110 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:54,080 Speaker 1: could spend ten minutes telling you why and how we 111 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:56,960 Speaker 1: could trust the words of the Bible and how it 112 00:06:57,000 --> 00:06:59,560 Speaker 1: was written, and how it's not a game of telephone. 113 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 1: It's not like one person translated it from the Greek 114 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:06,560 Speaker 1: and then another person translated from that person's translation, and 115 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: it just became this game of telephone, and things got 116 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 1: changed along the way, and then somehow it got to us, 117 00:07:11,280 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 1: and it's just so different than in what it originally was. 118 00:07:14,320 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 1: That's just it's not the case. And like I said, 119 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 1: I don't want to spend too much time going over 120 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:24,240 Speaker 1: the apologetics of defending the Bible and its integrity today. 121 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 1: But I could tell you that we do have over 122 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: fifty eight hundred fragments of the Bible in its original 123 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 1: form in Greek and Hebrew, and we could look at 124 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:40,000 Speaker 1: those today, and we continue to find these fragments all 125 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:45,120 Speaker 1: the time, through over twenty five thousand digs in Asia 126 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 1: and the Middle East and Europe. We find these fragments 127 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:52,080 Speaker 1: in Africa and we could see them now through a 128 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:54,560 Speaker 1: modern technology, we could find these, and we could we 129 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:57,840 Speaker 1: could then look and put them side by side with 130 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 1: what we read today, and it has ninety nine percent accuracy. 131 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 1: The only one percent that's not accurate is spelling sometimes, 132 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:12,040 Speaker 1: grammar sometimes, punctuation sometimes, But never is there a main 133 00:08:12,480 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 1: truth lost, a major doctrine, a major idea, never is 134 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: lost from what the apostles and the prophets originally told us. 135 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:26,640 Speaker 1: There's that's like my sixty second synopsis of why and 136 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 1: how it was written and why we could trust it today. 137 00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 1: The other thing I'll say is, Okay, I don't want 138 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 1: to offend anybody, but you're most likely what I'm hearing 139 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 1: you saying is you're most likely reading the King James version, 140 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:44,520 Speaker 1: and I would discourage that for you. I'm not going 141 00:08:44,559 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 1: to discourage it. For other people. You could love the 142 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:50,120 Speaker 1: King James, and more power to you. That's great, Laurie. 143 00:08:50,200 --> 00:08:54,600 Speaker 1: Don't read the King James. Okay, there are other modern 144 00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 1: translations that speak more like you, I would recommend me. 145 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:02,160 Speaker 1: For instance, me, I read the ees V, and the 146 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:06,840 Speaker 1: es V is very similar to the King James, except 147 00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:10,400 Speaker 1: for it doesn't have the dolls and thus and these 148 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:14,520 Speaker 1: and lows and the words that we just don't use today. 149 00:09:15,559 --> 00:09:19,079 Speaker 1: So it's going to have a modern English translation of 150 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:24,559 Speaker 1: those words, but the sentence structures are virtually the same. Now, 151 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:27,200 Speaker 1: this is what I do. I read when I study. 152 00:09:27,679 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 1: When I study, I read out of an app called Logos. 153 00:09:31,120 --> 00:09:36,160 Speaker 1: It's called Logos l Ogos and it's available on any 154 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:40,720 Speaker 1: phone or iPad or computer. Logos allows me to skip 155 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:45,880 Speaker 1: around within different modern translations. So if I'm studying, so 156 00:09:46,240 --> 00:09:49,319 Speaker 1: you're referencing what I put on my social media every 157 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:53,559 Speaker 1: day from my daily reading every morning when I read, 158 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:58,000 Speaker 1: I will this year. This year, I'm reading out of 159 00:09:58,000 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 1: the e SV. I also like the n IVY. There's 160 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:07,120 Speaker 1: several translations I really like. But when I'm using Logos, 161 00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: it's digital and I could I could go quickly to 162 00:10:10,440 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 1: a text comparison, and I could bring up all the 163 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 1: modern translations instantly with one click, and I could see 164 00:10:17,160 --> 00:10:20,319 Speaker 1: a verse, and I could see all the other translations. 165 00:10:20,360 --> 00:10:23,720 Speaker 1: And how that verse reads. Now, they're ninety nine percent 166 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 1: the same. They're very, very similar. Sometimes the structure of 167 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:29,319 Speaker 1: the sentence is a little bit different. One word is 168 00:10:30,280 --> 00:10:32,240 Speaker 1: at the beginning of the sentence instead of the end. 169 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:37,199 Speaker 1: Maybe most commonly, one or two words are a different 170 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:40,760 Speaker 1: choice of the same word. So if you're pulled out 171 00:10:40,920 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 1: a thesaurus, you would see a list of the same 172 00:10:44,840 --> 00:10:47,960 Speaker 1: kind of words, and they don't change the meaning at all. 173 00:10:48,320 --> 00:10:51,160 Speaker 1: It's just a different translation of the same word. And 174 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 1: I could see that with my own eyes on logos. Okay, 175 00:10:54,880 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 1: it's a great thing to do if you want. You 176 00:10:57,400 --> 00:10:59,080 Speaker 1: could have paper Bibles and you can have them all 177 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:01,079 Speaker 1: laid out on your table. You could flip to the 178 00:11:01,240 --> 00:11:04,520 Speaker 1: verse that you're that you're looking at. But I say 179 00:11:04,559 --> 00:11:07,679 Speaker 1: that to give you, to give you more trust in 180 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:10,600 Speaker 1: what you're reading. And if you if you're like a 181 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:14,040 Speaker 1: King James only type person, you could look and read 182 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 1: the ESV and then go, what does the King James say? 183 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 1: Because I only trust that. Okay, well look at it. 184 00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:21,840 Speaker 1: It's right there, there's the verse. It's the same exact thing, 185 00:11:22,240 --> 00:11:26,319 Speaker 1: except for it doesn't say thou or doesn't say lo. Okay. 186 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:30,320 Speaker 1: N IV is a little bit a little bit different 187 00:11:30,360 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 1: from that. Anyway, it doesn't change any of the major ideas. 188 00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:36,200 Speaker 1: I'm starting to ramble here because I just, I really, 189 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:39,520 Speaker 1: I want you to understand that in this day, twenty 190 00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:44,440 Speaker 1: twenty two, Laurie, you are a very smart person, then 191 00:11:44,480 --> 00:11:48,560 Speaker 1: you should not be asking me questions like I feel 192 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:52,520 Speaker 1: illiterate reading the Bible. I don't understand how it's written. 193 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 1: I need a Bible for dummies. I need it spoken 194 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:59,160 Speaker 1: to me in layman terms. These are all your words. Look, look, 195 00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:04,280 Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not a smart guy. I'm not a 196 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:08,839 Speaker 1: genius in any way, shape or form. I'm not that smart. 197 00:12:08,880 --> 00:12:12,520 Speaker 1: You should see my grades from college. They're bad. I'm 198 00:12:12,559 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 1: not that good of a student. But if you're interested, 199 00:12:16,800 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 1: truly interested in any subject, let's say cooking, cooking spaghetti, 200 00:12:21,040 --> 00:12:23,760 Speaker 1: you could probably cook a much better spaghetti. You're from 201 00:12:23,800 --> 00:12:26,440 Speaker 1: the East Coast, you're from Jersey. You could probably cook 202 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:30,839 Speaker 1: a much better spaghetti sauce than me. Why because you 203 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:33,120 Speaker 1: take time, and it's twenty twenty two, and you can 204 00:12:33,160 --> 00:12:35,400 Speaker 1: go to YouTube or at Google and you could find 205 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:38,200 Speaker 1: a really good recipe or look at evidence from what 206 00:12:38,240 --> 00:12:40,679 Speaker 1: your grandmother cooked, and you could go back to that 207 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:43,120 Speaker 1: and you could trace it back and you can go 208 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:46,280 Speaker 1: and hunt down the right ingredients and all the variety 209 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:47,920 Speaker 1: of grocery stores that we have, and you can get 210 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:51,600 Speaker 1: the good tomatoes and the good spices. Okay, so it's 211 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:56,080 Speaker 1: twenty twenty two. Were left with no excuse to really understand. 212 00:12:56,120 --> 00:13:00,600 Speaker 1: You don't need a Bible for dummies. Okay, you don't 213 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:03,160 Speaker 1: need someone else to tell you what it's saying. They 214 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:05,959 Speaker 1: did back in the dark ages when the Bible was 215 00:13:06,080 --> 00:13:08,440 Speaker 1: chained to the pulpit, they needed someone else to help 216 00:13:08,480 --> 00:13:11,280 Speaker 1: them interpret it because they barely could read. Like most 217 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:17,439 Speaker 1: people were literally illiterate. You're not. You're very smart, So 218 00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:21,360 Speaker 1: don't rely on me or a pastor or a preacher 219 00:13:21,640 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 1: or YouTube video to show you what it means. Do 220 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:29,240 Speaker 1: some research, dive in, pick a translation you could understand, 221 00:13:29,480 --> 00:13:33,400 Speaker 1: go slowly read it in context. Don't search for just 222 00:13:33,520 --> 00:13:36,160 Speaker 1: one verse. You're never going to understand who wrote it 223 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:38,640 Speaker 1: and why they wrote it, Which brings up a good 224 00:13:38,640 --> 00:13:41,760 Speaker 1: point to get a study Bible. There's plenty of really 225 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:43,800 Speaker 1: good study Bibles, so if you get the NIV or 226 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:47,320 Speaker 1: the ESV, you can get a study Bible up from that. 227 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:49,600 Speaker 1: And on the same page when you're reading it. At 228 00:13:49,640 --> 00:13:53,960 Speaker 1: the bottom, it'll have a footnote of more explanation on 229 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:59,480 Speaker 1: that subject. Okay, go slow, take your time, divide it 230 00:13:59,559 --> 00:14:02,000 Speaker 1: up over the course of a year, and spend every 231 00:14:02,120 --> 00:14:05,559 Speaker 1: day soaking it in. If you still don't understand, if 232 00:14:05,559 --> 00:14:08,280 Speaker 1: you don't have the desire to do that, that becomes 233 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:10,920 Speaker 1: your new prayer. God, help me understand this word. Help 234 00:14:10,960 --> 00:14:14,679 Speaker 1: me see your glory on every page and this word. 235 00:14:15,080 --> 00:14:20,640 Speaker 1: That's my answer to you. Next question, I think, I 236 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 1: think as I Yeah, I'm judging by the subject this 237 00:14:24,880 --> 00:14:27,240 Speaker 1: is going to be similar a similar question. The subject 238 00:14:27,240 --> 00:14:30,880 Speaker 1: line says, four hundred years of Silence. Hey Grandeur, my 239 00:14:30,960 --> 00:14:33,840 Speaker 1: name is Ryan. I'm twenty six years old from Ontario, Canada. 240 00:14:33,880 --> 00:14:35,760 Speaker 1: I've been a huge fan of your music and thankful 241 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:38,960 Speaker 1: for your podcast. I've been a Christian for a long time. 242 00:14:39,280 --> 00:14:41,640 Speaker 1: I read my Bible when I can, and I pray 243 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 1: every chance I get. I haven't heard from God in 244 00:14:44,400 --> 00:14:46,720 Speaker 1: a long time. I feel like I'm going through the 245 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:50,040 Speaker 1: four hundred years of silence? What is your advice on 246 00:14:50,080 --> 00:14:53,280 Speaker 1: how to hear the voice of God more? Thanks for 247 00:14:53,320 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 1: everything you do. Can't wait to come see you in Ontario, 248 00:14:56,120 --> 00:15:00,120 Speaker 1: Canada so I can meet you, ye yee, Ryan, and 249 00:15:00,160 --> 00:15:03,000 Speaker 1: thanks for the email, buddy. So I'm gonna I'm gonna 250 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:05,000 Speaker 1: dig in. I'm gonna dig at you a little bit here. 251 00:15:06,120 --> 00:15:09,000 Speaker 1: So the so what he's referring to with the four 252 00:15:09,080 --> 00:15:12,200 Speaker 1: hundred years is at the end of the Old Testament, 253 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:17,440 Speaker 1: there was four hundred years after the last prophet to 254 00:15:17,920 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 1: the birth of Jesus. So for four hundred years the 255 00:15:21,240 --> 00:15:25,320 Speaker 1: nation of Israel was left in silence from God speaking. 256 00:15:26,080 --> 00:15:30,080 Speaker 1: Now here's the thing that four hundred years doesn't exist anymore. 257 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:36,360 Speaker 1: It doesn't happen anymore. That doesn't occur anymore. Jesus says. 258 00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:41,640 Speaker 1: In the old days, God spoke to you through the prophets. 259 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:47,720 Speaker 1: Now he speaks through the sun, the Sun Jesus. So 260 00:15:47,760 --> 00:15:50,400 Speaker 1: we get our word now from Jesus, and it's continual. 261 00:15:50,640 --> 00:15:53,400 Speaker 1: There is no break in that. There is no long 262 00:15:53,520 --> 00:15:57,160 Speaker 1: period of silence when he's not speaking. Those days are gone, 263 00:15:57,200 --> 00:16:01,800 Speaker 1: the days of the prophets are gone. They're over, thank God. Okay. 264 00:16:02,280 --> 00:16:07,200 Speaker 1: So here's the thing. When we pray, our prayer is 265 00:16:08,040 --> 00:16:12,720 Speaker 1: our voice going up to God. The innercessor between us 266 00:16:12,800 --> 00:16:16,640 Speaker 1: and the Father is Jesus, the Son. That is an 267 00:16:16,680 --> 00:16:21,360 Speaker 1: incredible thought. If you just try to unpack that for 268 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:24,720 Speaker 1: one second and think that God, in all his glory, 269 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:31,600 Speaker 1: the creator of the universe, is available in his omnipresence. 270 00:16:31,600 --> 00:16:39,480 Speaker 1: He's available to hear from you, you little earthling, right me, 271 00:16:39,560 --> 00:16:42,880 Speaker 1: And I'm talking about me too, Ryan, God, the creator 272 00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:47,520 Speaker 1: of the universe, is available to hear us. He desires 273 00:16:47,640 --> 00:16:51,440 Speaker 1: to hear us. He desires for all of everything that's 274 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:53,480 Speaker 1: going on, the good and the bad to be laid 275 00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:58,160 Speaker 1: at his feet. That is incredible. Jesus is the innercessor 276 00:16:58,200 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 1: of that. There is no more high priest, there is 277 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:04,200 Speaker 1: no more prophet that only speaks the word of God 278 00:17:04,240 --> 00:17:07,440 Speaker 1: to the people through his mouth those days, those four 279 00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:12,280 Speaker 1: hundred years. The silence is over. So we speak through 280 00:17:12,280 --> 00:17:15,719 Speaker 1: our prayers, but He speaks back to us through his 281 00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:20,360 Speaker 1: word through the Bible. So when you say I read 282 00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:23,680 Speaker 1: my Bible when I can, I'm gonna stop right there. 283 00:17:23,960 --> 00:17:26,280 Speaker 1: Look at that sentence. I've been a Christian for a 284 00:17:26,359 --> 00:17:30,520 Speaker 1: long time. I read my Bible when I can. So 285 00:17:31,880 --> 00:17:36,080 Speaker 1: if this was, if this was FaceTime and your FaceTime 286 00:17:36,119 --> 00:17:39,480 Speaker 1: in God, what you're saying is I only open my 287 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:43,000 Speaker 1: computer to FaceTime God and hear him when I can. 288 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:46,680 Speaker 1: And then you go on a few sentences later and say, 289 00:17:46,880 --> 00:17:49,560 Speaker 1: why don't I hear from him? Because you're not opening 290 00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:54,280 Speaker 1: up your computer, you're not answering the FaceTime call. Because 291 00:17:54,280 --> 00:17:56,399 Speaker 1: that's how he speaks to us now, through his word, 292 00:17:56,880 --> 00:18:04,120 Speaker 1: it's alive, it's living, He is the same God. That's incredible, 293 00:18:05,160 --> 00:18:07,240 Speaker 1: And yet we question that all the time, like I 294 00:18:07,240 --> 00:18:10,080 Speaker 1: don't hear anything. How much are you reading your Bible? 295 00:18:10,520 --> 00:18:13,240 Speaker 1: When I just when I can, when I have a 296 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:16,159 Speaker 1: little time. I'm really busy, Like i got work, and 297 00:18:16,200 --> 00:18:18,440 Speaker 1: I've got hobbies, and I've got a girlfriend, I've got 298 00:18:18,840 --> 00:18:21,040 Speaker 1: kids or wife or whatever. I've got a lot of 299 00:18:21,040 --> 00:18:24,040 Speaker 1: stuff going on. And every once in a while, when 300 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:28,080 Speaker 1: I have a couple minutes, I open my Bible. And 301 00:18:28,119 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 1: that's buddy, that's your silence, that's your four hundred years. 302 00:18:31,880 --> 00:18:33,960 Speaker 1: Because I promise you, if you're in your word every day, 303 00:18:34,320 --> 00:18:38,680 Speaker 1: you prioritize time. Every day He speaks to you through 304 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:43,240 Speaker 1: that ever living word. It's amazing when you open up 305 00:18:43,240 --> 00:18:46,000 Speaker 1: your Bible. Sometimes, like every other book, we open up 306 00:18:46,040 --> 00:18:49,119 Speaker 1: the Bible and we try to understand what the words 307 00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:50,720 Speaker 1: say to us. That's what we do when we read. 308 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:53,760 Speaker 1: But when we read the Bible, we find out something 309 00:18:54,119 --> 00:18:59,000 Speaker 1: way different. We find out the Bible already understands us, 310 00:18:59,640 --> 00:19:02,600 Speaker 1: and that is a crazy thought. Instead of you trying 311 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:05,000 Speaker 1: to understand what the words are saying, we find out 312 00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:09,359 Speaker 1: the words already understand us, and it's wild. Pick a 313 00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:11,960 Speaker 1: reading plan, read every day, and go all the way 314 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 1: through the Bible. Don't skip a thing. Jesus says, if 315 00:19:15,240 --> 00:19:17,800 Speaker 1: anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my 316 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:20,520 Speaker 1: father will love him, and we will come to him 317 00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:22,360 Speaker 1: and we will make our home with him. That's John 318 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:28,240 Speaker 1: fourteen twenty three. If anyone loves me, he will keep 319 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:32,560 Speaker 1: my word, and my father will love him in a 320 00:19:32,640 --> 00:19:38,720 Speaker 1: way that he doesn't love the whole world. Let that 321 00:19:38,840 --> 00:19:43,840 Speaker 1: sink in. That's a very clear cause and effect. If 322 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:46,680 Speaker 1: anyone loves me, he will keep my word. You should 323 00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:51,120 Speaker 1: ask Ryan, what's your word? Because I'm sitting here thinking 324 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:53,240 Speaker 1: it was four hundred years of silence. 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All right, Next question, subject line 355 00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:46,119 Speaker 1: says struggling. Hey Granger, my name is Ethan. How do 356 00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:49,720 Speaker 1: you keep so positive? I'm going to be having twins 357 00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:52,879 Speaker 1: coming next year. I already have a son. I'm super excited, 358 00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:55,760 Speaker 1: but right now I'm struggling financially while going to school 359 00:21:55,840 --> 00:21:59,159 Speaker 1: full time and working, while trying to spend time with 360 00:21:59,240 --> 00:22:02,879 Speaker 1: friends and my wife and son. I just mentally get 361 00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:05,520 Speaker 1: exhausted with all the people counting on me to finish 362 00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:08,919 Speaker 1: school and get my certificate. It weighs pretty heavy on me, 363 00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:12,199 Speaker 1: and I get down on myself all the time. I'm struggling, 364 00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:16,760 Speaker 1: and I just need some advice. Thanks God, Bless God, 365 00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:23,000 Speaker 1: bless lowercase gee. Thanks Ethan, thanks for the email. Brother. 366 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:27,040 Speaker 1: And besides, besides everything that I said in the in 367 00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:33,560 Speaker 1: the first portion of this podcast, reading your Bible, I 368 00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:36,680 Speaker 1: feel like I've really I've beat that horse pretty good. 369 00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:40,600 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna go with this with you, Ethan. If 370 00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:44,480 Speaker 1: you're if you're struggling, and it sounds like the root 371 00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:50,560 Speaker 1: problem here of your struggle is time management. And you're 372 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:53,280 Speaker 1: going to school, which is great, you're full time, you're 373 00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:55,960 Speaker 1: also working, and then you're trying to spend time with 374 00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:58,280 Speaker 1: friends and your wife, and you're trying to please everybody, 375 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:02,080 Speaker 1: and you're you're ruggling with time management in an effort 376 00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:04,680 Speaker 1: to please everybody and make everybody happy. Well, first of all, 377 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,680 Speaker 1: you're not gonna make everybody happy. You're just not gonna 378 00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:11,159 Speaker 1: please everyone. You only have one version of yourself and 379 00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:12,960 Speaker 1: you can't be at all places at once, and so 380 00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:15,440 Speaker 1: you're not gonna be able to make all the Friday 381 00:23:15,520 --> 00:23:20,720 Speaker 1: night invites and birthday parties and cousins weddings. I'm sorry 382 00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:22,399 Speaker 1: you just you're not gonna be able to do it 383 00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:24,800 Speaker 1: all because this is a season of your life right 384 00:23:24,840 --> 00:23:28,840 Speaker 1: now where you're building. You're just in this building phase. 385 00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:31,320 Speaker 1: I think it's great that you're going to school, you're 386 00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:34,200 Speaker 1: gonna get that certificate, whatever that might be, and you're 387 00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:37,320 Speaker 1: looking to provide a better life for your twins coming, 388 00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:41,760 Speaker 1: and your son and your wife, and you're probably pretty young, 389 00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:45,080 Speaker 1: and you're in a building phase. This is a season 390 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:49,120 Speaker 1: of building right now, and so recognize that it's okay. 391 00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:52,840 Speaker 1: You're gonna have to learn the power of no. Hey, man, 392 00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:55,080 Speaker 1: can you come over Friday night? Me and a bunch 393 00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:56,520 Speaker 1: of the guys are getting over. We're gonna get in 394 00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:58,320 Speaker 1: the garage, we're gonna have a few beers, we're gonna 395 00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:03,760 Speaker 1: hang out. It's like, Man, I can't I can't this Friday. Why? Bro? Why? 396 00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:09,879 Speaker 1: Because I've been really strained. I've been going to school 397 00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:12,160 Speaker 1: all week. I've been going to school, I've been going 398 00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:14,040 Speaker 1: to work, and I need to spend a little time 399 00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:17,719 Speaker 1: with my wife and my son. And it's okay to 400 00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:20,800 Speaker 1: say no. So learn the power of no. And then 401 00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:23,920 Speaker 1: in your time management, let's start, uh, let's start making 402 00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:27,240 Speaker 1: a list every morning. I'm talking about getting up before 403 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:29,280 Speaker 1: the sun comes up. You got your cup of coffee, 404 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:32,600 Speaker 1: you just read your Bible hopefully, and you're you're gonna 405 00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:35,320 Speaker 1: make a power list of things I need to get 406 00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:39,600 Speaker 1: done today. And don't make a long list. I'm talking three, four, 407 00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:42,720 Speaker 1: five items, Max, that's your power list. It's like I 408 00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:47,359 Speaker 1: need to do these things today. Everything else has to 409 00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:52,200 Speaker 1: wait in this season of building. Everything comes after these 410 00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:54,440 Speaker 1: four or five things on my list. I'm gonna knock 411 00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:57,920 Speaker 1: them out. I'm gonna focus, I'm gonna be wary of 412 00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:01,760 Speaker 1: being unconscious on social media. I'm gonna have to lay 413 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:04,600 Speaker 1: off the Grangersmith podcast episode this week, just saying I 414 00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:06,800 Speaker 1: don't think you should. I think you should put that 415 00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:09,160 Speaker 1: on your power list. But but if it comes down 416 00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:12,120 Speaker 1: to something that you got to turn in for your school, 417 00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:15,920 Speaker 1: or a project you're working on at work, or busyness 418 00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:18,359 Speaker 1: you're going through at work, you're gonna have to put 419 00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:21,359 Speaker 1: sideline a little bit of the social media time because 420 00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:25,080 Speaker 1: that can make us go unconscious our TV time. And 421 00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:27,679 Speaker 1: then you're thinking, man, now you're taking out all the 422 00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:29,879 Speaker 1: fun stuff, like my life is not gonna be fun. 423 00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:33,680 Speaker 1: You're taking out all my relaxation time. Bro, You'll be 424 00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:37,520 Speaker 1: surprised at how little rest you're actually getting In the 425 00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:39,760 Speaker 1: times that you think you're resting and you're watching TV 426 00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:43,800 Speaker 1: or you're watching social media, you're actually not resting at all. 427 00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:47,240 Speaker 1: You're just feeding junk. It's like it's like you're hungry 428 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:49,560 Speaker 1: and you're going to McDonald's and you're getting a big 429 00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:52,080 Speaker 1: mac every day, and you're like, why do I not 430 00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:56,480 Speaker 1: feel fulfilled? Why am I not getting nutrients that my 431 00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 1: body needs I'm eating. It's like, dude, that's because you're 432 00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:03,040 Speaker 1: not eating good food. So you're filling your mind, you're 433 00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:06,760 Speaker 1: filling your brain. I'm just guessing, Okay, I'm guessing ethan 434 00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:09,399 Speaker 1: that you're filling your brain with a lot of hours 435 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:12,000 Speaker 1: of stuff that you don't need to be doing. The 436 00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 1: way to figure that out really is spend seven days 437 00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:21,120 Speaker 1: seven days of writing exactly what you do every day. 438 00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:25,560 Speaker 1: So it's like I woke up at this time, from 439 00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:30,040 Speaker 1: this time to this time, I made breakfast. From this 440 00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:33,280 Speaker 1: time to this time, I drove to work and that 441 00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:36,840 Speaker 1: takes twenty minutes. And then from this time to this time, 442 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:39,360 Speaker 1: I was at work until lunch, and at lunch. From 443 00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:42,119 Speaker 1: this time to this time, I did this write it 444 00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:44,560 Speaker 1: out for seven days, and then on the eighth day, 445 00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:47,760 Speaker 1: look back at your list and be honest with yourself. 446 00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:49,520 Speaker 1: It only works if you're honest with yourself and you 447 00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:52,560 Speaker 1: look back and you go, dude, I can't believe last 448 00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:55,360 Speaker 1: week I spent eight and a half hours on TikTok. 449 00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:01,960 Speaker 1: We would be shocked we actually do with our lives. 450 00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:06,439 Speaker 1: I think, I mean, we would be shocked that that 451 00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,119 Speaker 1: twenty minutes it took you to drive to work. You 452 00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:11,359 Speaker 1: could have listened to an audio book. You could have 453 00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:14,000 Speaker 1: knocked out something that you needed to hear, or you 454 00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:17,520 Speaker 1: needed to fill your brain with something. Hey, it could 455 00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:19,960 Speaker 1: be silence. Maybe you need that twenty minutes to drive 456 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:22,240 Speaker 1: to work in silence. Maybe you got too many voices 457 00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,639 Speaker 1: in your ear and you just need quiet. Turn off 458 00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:29,439 Speaker 1: the radio, don't even listen to music. We would be 459 00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:33,600 Speaker 1: surprised at what we're filling our brain with and what 460 00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:38,199 Speaker 1: we're not giving nutrients to our brain with. Okay, so 461 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:44,160 Speaker 1: powerless seven day list on what you're doing or everything, 462 00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 1: and then the power of no. Learn the power of no. 463 00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,680 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, guys, I can't come to the baseball game 464 00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:58,040 Speaker 1: on Sunday. I can't come. No resist it, email me back, 465 00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:00,200 Speaker 1: and if you do this, email me back ethan, let's 466 00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:08,760 Speaker 1: see what's going on. Next question the subject line with exclamations, 467 00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:12,680 Speaker 1: four exclamations. It says in all caps attention and then 468 00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:15,040 Speaker 1: four exclamations, and then it says I have a question. 469 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:17,840 Speaker 1: And need advice and grandeur. I love your podcast, lover 470 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:21,280 Speaker 1: your music. My name is Marcus. I'm from Germantown, Illinois. 471 00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:22,679 Speaker 1: Not sure where to start, but I'm going to give 472 00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:24,960 Speaker 1: it my best shot. I've liked this girl for a 473 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,320 Speaker 1: long time. When I first met her, she had a boyfriend, 474 00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:31,320 Speaker 1: which was one of my friends. While they were dating, 475 00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:34,320 Speaker 1: I bit my tongue, didn't say anything and didn't hint 476 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:37,720 Speaker 1: that I liked her. They recently broke up. I told 477 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:42,160 Speaker 1: her I was there for her. I showed up and cared. 478 00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:46,040 Speaker 1: Fast forward three weeks, we started hanging out. Those nights 479 00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:48,560 Speaker 1: when we were together, I felt the best that i'd 480 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:50,880 Speaker 1: felt in a while. She told me she liked me 481 00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:53,479 Speaker 1: and that she wanted to start hanging out more, so 482 00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:56,080 Speaker 1: we did. About a week later, she told me that 483 00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:59,880 Speaker 1: she'd already. She told me that she wasn't ready in 484 00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:03,720 Speaker 1: needed time. I told her I understood, I'd still be there. 485 00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:05,640 Speaker 1: The very next day, she told me she wanted to 486 00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:08,440 Speaker 1: hang out, so I said yes. She acted like nothing happened. 487 00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:11,480 Speaker 1: We cuddled and watched movies for a couple hours. After 488 00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:13,240 Speaker 1: she left, we talked on the phone for a while 489 00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,120 Speaker 1: and she said she had a good time and needed 490 00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:17,400 Speaker 1: to do it again. I thought it was great, so 491 00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:21,120 Speaker 1: I thought after that point she wasn't right. She started 492 00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:23,640 Speaker 1: ghosting me and ignoring me when I tried to talk. 493 00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:26,480 Speaker 1: I have legitimate feelings for her, and I don't know 494 00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:28,640 Speaker 1: what to do. Every time I ask her any question, 495 00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:32,680 Speaker 1: she responds with, I need time. Like I said, I 496 00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:35,600 Speaker 1: don't know what to do. I want to further our relationship, 497 00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,880 Speaker 1: but I don't know how. She's growing more distant and 498 00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:40,320 Speaker 1: I really don't want to lose her. What do you 499 00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:44,320 Speaker 1: think should I keep trying or give up? All right, Marcus, 500 00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:50,640 Speaker 1: thanks for the question. Brother Marcus, you are extremely desperate, 501 00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:54,920 Speaker 1: and you were finding your worth and your identity through 502 00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:58,800 Speaker 1: this girl. And it's I got a feeling it's not her. 503 00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,000 Speaker 1: In general, it is a girl, and it could be 504 00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:03,520 Speaker 1: the next one after this one. It could be the 505 00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:06,120 Speaker 1: next one after that one. But you are finding your 506 00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:10,960 Speaker 1: worth in your identity in a relationship. You have no 507 00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:15,560 Speaker 1: contentment in your singleness. You're not satisfied with being alone. 508 00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:18,160 Speaker 1: And you're like, dude, that's not at all what I said. 509 00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:22,040 Speaker 1: That's not what Granger. You're reading this wrong, man, That's 510 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:25,040 Speaker 1: not who I am. I'm very confident. Maybe you're saying that, 511 00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:28,880 Speaker 1: but I just want to show you that you asked 512 00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:33,680 Speaker 1: me this question. These are your words. Every time I 513 00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:38,239 Speaker 1: ask any question, she responds with I need time, and 514 00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:42,280 Speaker 1: then you say, I don't know what to do. I 515 00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,920 Speaker 1: want to further the relationship. I don't want to lose her. 516 00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:49,280 Speaker 1: So there's a lot of eyes in there. She's saying 517 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:51,440 Speaker 1: I need more time, and you say I don't know 518 00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:55,320 Speaker 1: what to do. She's giving you a very clear task. 519 00:30:55,880 --> 00:31:00,880 Speaker 1: It's very clear what she wants time, and you say, 520 00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:04,800 Speaker 1: I don't know what that means. I'm I'm pretty sure 521 00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:11,640 Speaker 1: she's speaking English and being very clear. Marcus. I love you, brother, 522 00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:15,840 Speaker 1: and I I appreciate the email, and I appreciate you 523 00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:19,640 Speaker 1: confiding in me and being vulnerable to me. But you're 524 00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:23,720 Speaker 1: not hearing her. She needs time. You got to give 525 00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:27,440 Speaker 1: her time. You have to give her what she's asking for. 526 00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:31,240 Speaker 1: There's no there's no way to force this, there's no way. 527 00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:33,760 Speaker 1: There's this idea that I don't I don't want to 528 00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:36,800 Speaker 1: lose her. I don't want to I want to further's relationship. 529 00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:40,720 Speaker 1: I love her. She means a lot to me. I 530 00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:45,080 Speaker 1: gotta do I want, I want, I me, I need it, 531 00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,920 Speaker 1: and you're not hearing her. She says, I need time, 532 00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,800 Speaker 1: and you're pouring into her. You're you're, You're like, I 533 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:54,360 Speaker 1: don't want to lose this, and so I'm gonna do 534 00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:57,600 Speaker 1: everything I can because she's wrong and I'm right. She 535 00:31:57,640 --> 00:32:00,400 Speaker 1: doesn't know what's best for her. I want. I was 536 00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:02,920 Speaker 1: there for her in this bad relationship with this other guy, 537 00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:05,040 Speaker 1: and I watched her and it was there, and then 538 00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:06,600 Speaker 1: she broke up with them, and then I told her 539 00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,760 Speaker 1: I'm here for you, and then we hung out and 540 00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:12,280 Speaker 1: I gave her my awe. And she doesn't know. She's 541 00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:15,720 Speaker 1: wrong about this. She thinks that I'm not good enough, 542 00:32:15,720 --> 00:32:18,000 Speaker 1: and she's wrong. I am, and I'm gonna prove it 543 00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:21,520 Speaker 1: to her, and I'm desperate. I'm just grasping at her. 544 00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:26,640 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna hold on to her. Marcus. It's borderline psycho, 545 00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:30,640 Speaker 1: it's borderline stalking. And if you were my best friend 546 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:32,960 Speaker 1: in the world, and maybe you would be, I would 547 00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:35,160 Speaker 1: tell you the same thing. And I would hope you 548 00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:37,360 Speaker 1: would tell me this because it's a lot easier for 549 00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:40,440 Speaker 1: me to say from the outside looking in, because when 550 00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:42,880 Speaker 1: we're in it, when we're surrounding where we're just overcome 551 00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:46,160 Speaker 1: with our emotions and our feelings and our love and 552 00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:50,680 Speaker 1: our admiration and our once and our desires, and we 553 00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:53,920 Speaker 1: get just clouded and we can't see what's clearly right 554 00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:55,440 Speaker 1: in front of our face. And so that's why it's 555 00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:58,680 Speaker 1: easy for me from the outside to go. Dude, she said, 556 00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:02,640 Speaker 1: I need time. Do you not know what that means? 557 00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:07,840 Speaker 1: That means stop. She's ghosting you for a reason. Don't 558 00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:12,120 Speaker 1: reach out, let it go, find contentment in who you 559 00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:18,360 Speaker 1: are without her single if it's right, and she realizes 560 00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:22,840 Speaker 1: that she'll come back, Like how many times have we 561 00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:26,200 Speaker 1: been deer hunting? And we see a big buck? And 562 00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:30,400 Speaker 1: then he walks away and it gets too dark and 563 00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:32,360 Speaker 1: we have nowhere to go. We can't hunt the deer anymore. 564 00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:34,640 Speaker 1: It's too dark. So what do we do The next day? 565 00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:39,320 Speaker 1: We go back to the same place we saw wherever 566 00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:42,360 Speaker 1: we saw that buck, and we sit and we wait, 567 00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:46,520 Speaker 1: and if we play our cards right, the buck will 568 00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:52,400 Speaker 1: come back to that spot. But that's it, Okay. Listen 569 00:33:52,440 --> 00:34:00,560 Speaker 1: to her lay off next question subject line and says, 570 00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:05,000 Speaker 1: my boyfriend cheated on me with more than eleven girls. 571 00:34:05,520 --> 00:34:07,840 Speaker 1: Her guy rumman name is Erica I'm fourteen years old. 572 00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:09,920 Speaker 1: I've been watching the podcast for a few months, and 573 00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:11,440 Speaker 1: I wanted to thank you for helping me through a 574 00:34:11,440 --> 00:34:13,879 Speaker 1: lot of tough times. Thank you for showing me I'm 575 00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:19,000 Speaker 1: not alone. I've always put aside emailing you because I 576 00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:21,160 Speaker 1: know you get a lot of emails and you'll probably 577 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,080 Speaker 1: never read mine. Here, I am but hoping you do. 578 00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,239 Speaker 1: I'm in a long distance relationship with the guy I've 579 00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:29,000 Speaker 1: been dating for nine months. He's given me much attention, 580 00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:31,640 Speaker 1: He's told me how much he cares for me. For 581 00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:35,480 Speaker 1: nine months. I met him at school in the eighth grade, 582 00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:38,160 Speaker 1: and this February I started dating him. Then he moved 583 00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:42,480 Speaker 1: to Louisiana, twelve hours away. I found out today he's 584 00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:45,200 Speaker 1: been cheating on me with more than eleven girls. All 585 00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:47,440 Speaker 1: of these girls seem to have been with him a 586 00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:50,120 Speaker 1: shorter amount of time than me. The only thing this 587 00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:54,439 Speaker 1: guy wants is nudes from every girl. I've always said 588 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:57,600 Speaker 1: no to them, and he respected that. I love this 589 00:34:57,640 --> 00:35:00,680 Speaker 1: guy so much and part of me he wants to 590 00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:03,960 Speaker 1: just be with him. Even though he cheated, I forgave 591 00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:06,040 Speaker 1: him and I don't know why, but I still want 592 00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:08,440 Speaker 1: to be with the guy that cheated on me. He 593 00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:12,719 Speaker 1: always says he's sorry and he'll change, and I don't. 594 00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:16,200 Speaker 1: I don't know if I've heard that before. Excuse me, 595 00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:19,319 Speaker 1: And I know because you put I k I know 596 00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:23,319 Speaker 1: I've heard that before, and they never change. But there's 597 00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:26,440 Speaker 1: something about this guy that I love that is keeping 598 00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:29,440 Speaker 1: me from caring that he even cheated at all. I 599 00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:32,120 Speaker 1: know what might sound crazy, but I'm just a kid, 600 00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:41,280 Speaker 1: but I can't throw away nine months. What do I do, Erica, 601 00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:44,479 Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not even gonna I'm not gonna start 602 00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:49,360 Speaker 1: with you, Erica. This is this message that I'm gonna 603 00:35:49,360 --> 00:35:52,880 Speaker 1: give right now. An answer to your question is for 604 00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:56,360 Speaker 1: your dad. It's for all dads listening to this podcast 605 00:35:56,440 --> 00:36:00,680 Speaker 1: right now. Dads, are you listening? Do you hear me? 606 00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:05,320 Speaker 1: Are you hearing Erica? Are you hearing this email? She's fourteen, 607 00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:10,960 Speaker 1: she's fourteen years old, and she's dating a guy that's 608 00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:14,720 Speaker 1: cheating with more than eleven girls and he wants nudes 609 00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:20,799 Speaker 1: from them. And this girl, Erica Dad's is okay with 610 00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:25,359 Speaker 1: dating this guy and she loves them. Why. I'll tell 611 00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:27,239 Speaker 1: you why, because she says it right in the middle 612 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:31,040 Speaker 1: of her email. He's giving me attention and he told 613 00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:37,080 Speaker 1: me how much he cares for me. Dad, Dad's you're 614 00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:42,120 Speaker 1: hearing this. Give your daughter's attention, pour into them their 615 00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:46,560 Speaker 1: worth and their identity. If you don't, this is what happens, 616 00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:49,239 Speaker 1: They're going to seek it from someone else, from some 617 00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:52,479 Speaker 1: Yahoo that's out there that has no clue. His head 618 00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:57,960 Speaker 1: is not screwed on his shoulders at all. And this 619 00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:01,680 Speaker 1: dude's out there getting nudes from fourteen year old girls. 620 00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:05,399 Speaker 1: I'm that's got to be illegal. Somebody check me on this. 621 00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:08,799 Speaker 1: That's got to be a crime that he could serve 622 00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:10,640 Speaker 1: time for. Am I right? I don't know. I'm not 623 00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:19,439 Speaker 1: a lawyer. Man. Dads, Pour into your daughters, listen to them, 624 00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:24,400 Speaker 1: get away from work, get away from hobbies, go in there, 625 00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:26,640 Speaker 1: tuck her in at night. Say what do you need? 626 00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:31,080 Speaker 1: Say I love you. Tell them they're beautiful, Tell them 627 00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:34,440 Speaker 1: their identity, tell them they're worth, tell them how much 628 00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:37,600 Speaker 1: they matter to you. Give them attention, take them on dates. 629 00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:43,280 Speaker 1: I've got a girl, her name is London. She's mine. 630 00:37:43,520 --> 00:37:46,719 Speaker 1: She's gonna turn eleven in two days. By the time 631 00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:49,759 Speaker 1: you guys hear this podcast, she'll be eleven. That's three 632 00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:56,279 Speaker 1: years younger than Erica and I guarantee you I'll go 633 00:37:56,360 --> 00:38:00,400 Speaker 1: in there every single night, and when I'm not, I'm her, 634 00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:04,520 Speaker 1: I'm facetiming her. I'm like, babe. I told her last night, 635 00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:07,200 Speaker 1: I said, you know how much I love you? And 636 00:38:07,320 --> 00:38:10,520 Speaker 1: she said, I think so. I said, let me remind 637 00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:13,960 Speaker 1: you again from what I told you last night. I said, 638 00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:15,560 Speaker 1: I said, you know they curved down at the end 639 00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:18,520 Speaker 1: of our county road. She said yeah. I said, imagine 640 00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:21,040 Speaker 1: how much I love you. Is like walking to the 641 00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:25,160 Speaker 1: curb down at the end of the road, and then 642 00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:27,879 Speaker 1: I turn around and I walked down to our next 643 00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:31,000 Speaker 1: door neighbors, and then from there I walk down to 644 00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:34,080 Speaker 1: your elementary school, and then from there I catch a 645 00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:37,040 Speaker 1: rocket ship and I go to the Sun, and then 646 00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:39,880 Speaker 1: I circled the Sun a thousand times, and then I 647 00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,920 Speaker 1: go from there, I go to the end of the galaxy, 648 00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:46,400 Speaker 1: and then I circled the whole galaxy a thousand times, 649 00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:48,319 Speaker 1: and then from there I go to the end of 650 00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:51,480 Speaker 1: the universe. And then from there, I fly all the 651 00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:53,879 Speaker 1: way back to your elementary school, and then from there, 652 00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:55,400 Speaker 1: I walk all the way to the curve at the 653 00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:57,759 Speaker 1: end of the road, and then I come back home. 654 00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:00,560 Speaker 1: And she said, that's how I much you love me? Said, yes, 655 00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:03,720 Speaker 1: that's lap number one, and then I do that lap 656 00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:06,080 Speaker 1: a million times a day for the rest of my life. 657 00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:10,440 Speaker 1: That's almost a good explanation of how much I love you. 658 00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:17,959 Speaker 1: And she just smiles. You want some creep, some eighth grade, 659 00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:21,239 Speaker 1: ninth grade creep that wants nudes from girls. You want 660 00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:23,240 Speaker 1: him to be the first one to tell your daughter 661 00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:27,000 Speaker 1: how much he loves her and how beautiful she is, 662 00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:30,080 Speaker 1: and gives her attention and buys her nice things and 663 00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:31,759 Speaker 1: takes her to dinner and gets her flowers. You want 664 00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:33,239 Speaker 1: him to be the first guy to do it, or 665 00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:36,640 Speaker 1: you Dad. This is a message to Dad's and Erica. 666 00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:40,799 Speaker 1: I'm sorry I've derailed your question, so I'll go to 667 00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:49,880 Speaker 1: you now, Erica. Dating is a precious thing. Falling in 668 00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:55,000 Speaker 1: love is a precious thing. And when you date, there's 669 00:39:55,160 --> 00:40:00,319 Speaker 1: one purpose for dating. That's to find the man that 670 00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:05,240 Speaker 1: you will marry. Erica, that's your purpose. That's the whole 671 00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:11,200 Speaker 1: reason for dating, to find your future husband. There is 672 00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:15,400 Speaker 1: no casual dating. There's no fun in dating, there's no 673 00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:20,720 Speaker 1: sport dating. The only thing you're looking for is a husband. 674 00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:23,400 Speaker 1: And if you're not ready to get married, at fourteen, 675 00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:27,000 Speaker 1: then it's not time, and you'll know when it's time 676 00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:29,560 Speaker 1: to get married. I don't care if it's eighteen or 677 00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:33,480 Speaker 1: forty eight, but you'll know when it's time, and I 678 00:40:33,520 --> 00:40:39,399 Speaker 1: promise you it's not fourteen. There's nothing. Nothing good can 679 00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:44,160 Speaker 1: come out from dating this creep. This guy's a creep, Erica. 680 00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:48,840 Speaker 1: Leave him, ghost him, delete his number, block him on Facebook, everything, 681 00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:53,680 Speaker 1: get away, don't respond, You're done. Your heart goes no, 682 00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:56,160 Speaker 1: I can't love him, and then your brain goes no. 683 00:40:56,640 --> 00:40:59,239 Speaker 1: The reason you email me, Erica, is because you kind 684 00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:00,840 Speaker 1: of wanted me to tell tell you this isn't it. 685 00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:03,560 Speaker 1: That's the reason you emailed me. Otherwise you wouldn't have 686 00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:06,279 Speaker 1: because you've heard this podcast before and you heard how 687 00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:11,160 Speaker 1: I am with these questions. That's the reason you email 688 00:41:11,239 --> 00:41:13,080 Speaker 1: me because you want to hear this, because your brain 689 00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:15,120 Speaker 1: wants to hear it. Your heart doesn't want to hear it, 690 00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:18,680 Speaker 1: so you lead with your brain. You go, let me 691 00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:22,399 Speaker 1: look at the facts. Oh yeah, this is bad. I'm 692 00:41:22,440 --> 00:41:25,880 Speaker 1: too young. This dude is doing illegal things, wanting nudes, 693 00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:29,320 Speaker 1: and do I think that that's a form of respect 694 00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:31,000 Speaker 1: that when I say no, I'm not going to send 695 00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:32,960 Speaker 1: him a nude picture of me? Do I think that's 696 00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:35,680 Speaker 1: respectful that he goes, that's cool, I'll get it from 697 00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:38,640 Speaker 1: other people. And do I think that's a good thing? Like? Yeah, 698 00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:42,040 Speaker 1: I respect him because you know he accepts the fact 699 00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:43,560 Speaker 1: that I don't send him nudes but he gets it 700 00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:47,959 Speaker 1: from other girls. No, your brain goes No, I don't 701 00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:50,479 Speaker 1: care what your heart says or your feelings. You don't 702 00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:53,680 Speaker 1: follow your feelings, don't follow your heart. Listen to your brain. 703 00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:57,160 Speaker 1: Erica ghost this guy, you're done and and you're done 704 00:41:57,160 --> 00:42:04,920 Speaker 1: with dating right now. Man, these questions get me a 705 00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:07,880 Speaker 1: get me going, get my heart, get my heart pumping 706 00:42:08,719 --> 00:42:13,359 Speaker 1: my evil heart. I love you, guys. I'll leave it there. 707 00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:15,960 Speaker 1: If you got a question for me, email Grangersmith Podcast 708 00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:20,400 Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. And I truly appreciate y'all listening 709 00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:24,959 Speaker 1: every Monday. And I just love that we're one hundred 710 00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:27,800 Speaker 1: and fifty seven episodes in and we're not even close 711 00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:30,960 Speaker 1: to getting started. So love you guys, See you next Monday. 712 00:42:31,600 --> 00:42:34,640 Speaker 1: Thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith Podcast. I appreciate 713 00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:36,839 Speaker 1: all of you guys. You could help me out by 714 00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:40,759 Speaker 1: rating this podcast on iTunes. 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