1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,520 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for telling my brother's girlfriend 2 00:00:02,759 --> 00:00:09,240 Speaker 1: that I'm his type stepsister or real sister. So my 3 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:12,000 Speaker 1: little brother brought his college girlfriend home to our lake 4 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: house over Memorial Day weekend. By the time the fireworks 5 00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 1: were starting, only my brother, his girlfriend, myself, and a 6 00:00:17,800 --> 00:00:20,000 Speaker 1: cousin were feeling up to going out. My brother drove 7 00:00:20,079 --> 00:00:22,079 Speaker 1: the boat and his tipsy little girlfriend was in his 8 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:25,119 Speaker 1: lap most of the time, which was already. 9 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:26,759 Speaker 2: Irking to watch. Why is it irkin? 10 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: When the fireworks started, he asked me to take a 11 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: picture of them with the fireworks in the background. 12 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 2: That's cute, So I did it. 13 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:34,279 Speaker 1: After I took the photo, I told him he might 14 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:36,520 Speaker 1: as well get some with the family, me and our cousin. 15 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:37,879 Speaker 2: Wait, wait, get some. 16 00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:40,479 Speaker 1: And I said this because he'll want happy memories that 17 00:00:40,520 --> 00:00:42,559 Speaker 1: he can look back on with the whole family one day. 18 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, not this fluthy. 19 00:00:43,960 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 1: Admittedly, I went on to make the drunken joke that 20 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:50,240 Speaker 1: his love life was a revolving door nowadays anyways. 21 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:51,199 Speaker 2: Oh, he's jealous of Heck. 22 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:53,400 Speaker 1: I didn't think he would get mad over a little, 23 00:00:53,479 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: tiny joke like this because he's never really cared much 24 00:00:56,600 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 1: about his past girlfriends. 25 00:00:57,920 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 3: Which I don't know if you get to be. 26 00:00:59,800 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 2: The you're not this star of is his love life now? 27 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 1: He snapped at me and told me to shut up, 28 00:01:05,959 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 1: especially in front of his girl. So the girlfriend responds 29 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:11,760 Speaker 1: and asked him what I meant, and I interjected as 30 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:13,920 Speaker 1: my brother's previous response annoyed me. 31 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:16,640 Speaker 4: Props to the girl. Becau like, Yo, that was out 32 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:18,960 Speaker 4: of podcast. What are you doing, which. 33 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:21,520 Speaker 1: Is hard to do when you're first meeting your partner's family. 34 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 4: Exactly, Yeah, that's a keeper. I didn't want to sugarcoat 35 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 4: things for her. 36 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 1: I told her he has gone out with numerous girls 37 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:32,399 Speaker 1: before her, and I honestly was surprised he brought her 38 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 1: home because she wasn't his type. 39 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 2: What this girl thinks, She's like, gonna have a nice 40 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 2: lake house ride with this new boy that's dated for 41 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 2: a little bit and then gets like the familiar will 42 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 2: shut down? 43 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:45,760 Speaker 3: Bad? This is very bad. 44 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 1: I explained it in the kindest way I could that 45 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 1: shortly after our parents were married, so they are step siblings. 46 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 2: Okay, all right, well that makes me feel better about it. 47 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 3: The air has been cleared. 48 00:01:57,440 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 1: So I explained that when our parents were married, when 49 00:01:59,880 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 1: he was thirteen, he started dating his first girlfriend, who 50 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 1: was a short brunette, and most of his long lasting 51 00:02:05,440 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 1: girlfriends since then have also been short brunettes. 52 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 2: What does hope he look like? 53 00:02:09,440 --> 00:02:13,079 Speaker 1: I explained to her that his ideal image was rooted 54 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:16,240 Speaker 1: in his childhood crush on me. She came out and 55 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 1: said it. She wants him so bad, and he based 56 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: the types of girls he goes after on that. Ever, 57 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:26,200 Speaker 1: since his girlfriend is at least five A and has 58 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 1: bleached her hair, this is so painful to read. Maybe 59 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:32,639 Speaker 1: if she left her natural hair color take over, she'd 60 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:36,040 Speaker 1: have half of a chance. But he's never really gone 61 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: after taller girls like that. 62 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 4: Obviously, the tides are changing. Maybe he's not into you anymore, 63 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:43,399 Speaker 4: op maybe his taste. 64 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:45,239 Speaker 3: Of change since he was thirteen years old. 65 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 1: I just felt obligated to say something before things went 66 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 1: too far. 67 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 4: Like what like they get like their in love, they're happy, 68 00:02:52,639 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 4: like no, no, no. 69 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:58,600 Speaker 1: Of course, they kept throwing the elword around, the hell word. 70 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 1: Opie says he doesn't love her. She's just not the 71 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:02,920 Speaker 1: image he's in love with. 72 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:03,840 Speaker 3: She's just not Sam. 73 00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:05,520 Speaker 4: I don't get it. I mean she wants him, that's 74 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 4: the only YE know. I do get it. But it's 75 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 4: ridiculously down bad and also like insufferable. I feel like 76 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 4: she is down bad but doesn't even realize how down 77 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:16,200 Speaker 4: she's bad. 78 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:19,519 Speaker 1: I don't even think she's admitted to herself. My brother 79 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 1: went ballistic on me, calling me delusional, along with other 80 00:03:23,840 --> 00:03:26,800 Speaker 1: unappealing names. I never thought that he'd utter towards me. 81 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:29,399 Speaker 1: He hasn't returned any of my calls since that night, 82 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:31,120 Speaker 1: and he went back to his college apartment so he 83 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 1: didn't have to see me. 84 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:33,920 Speaker 3: So he literally like left the lake house. 85 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 2: Early, nothing to do with you, drop it, baby. 86 00:03:36,560 --> 00:03:38,960 Speaker 1: So insane. He's usually not one to hold a grudge, 87 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:42,840 Speaker 1: so this has worried me for our relationship. I'm considering 88 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 1: surprising him at his place tomorrow so. 89 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:46,840 Speaker 3: He'll have to talk it out with me. 90 00:03:46,960 --> 00:03:49,040 Speaker 1: I know I only said those things in the moment 91 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:50,760 Speaker 1: because I was drunk and annoyed. 92 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 2: Why are you annoyed? 93 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: I know I could have handled the situation with more grace. 94 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:58,000 Speaker 1: That is the understatement of the century. But I'm not 95 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:01,360 Speaker 1: entirely sure. I'm an a hole for just simply speaking 96 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,600 Speaker 1: the truth, Sam, for shedding truth to light. 97 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 2: Yeah no, no, you're the ahole. 98 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 1: A hole my brother knows he can't be truly attracted 99 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 1: to her on the I love you level that he 100 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:14,080 Speaker 1: kept carelessly throwing around all weekend? 101 00:04:14,200 --> 00:04:16,719 Speaker 2: Where are you getting this information? 102 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:18,920 Speaker 3: Even if it wasn't handled. 103 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,800 Speaker 1: The best way possible, they both might have needed a 104 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:24,359 Speaker 1: little wake up call. I might have crossed a line 105 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:27,240 Speaker 1: being so vocal in the truth, but my hope is 106 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:30,599 Speaker 1: it moves both of them to find someone that they're 107 00:04:30,640 --> 00:04:31,840 Speaker 1: actually attracted to. 108 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:35,040 Speaker 2: In a partner me brother. 109 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:37,600 Speaker 1: I want to add that I'm not calling his girlfriend 110 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: ugly at all. She is a pretty girl. She's just 111 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:43,599 Speaker 1: not his physical type. Her personality might be appealing, but 112 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:46,720 Speaker 1: we've all heard those stories of what happens when couples 113 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:50,599 Speaker 1: can't get over attraction issues in relationships, and I think 114 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:52,480 Speaker 1: that they need to avoid that. 115 00:04:52,880 --> 00:04:56,840 Speaker 2: Oh, he needs to make sure that her parents get divorced. 116 00:04:57,120 --> 00:04:57,400 Speaker 3: Yep. 117 00:04:57,520 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 4: Wow, Then finally they could beat together ex brother new boyfriend. 118 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:03,920 Speaker 4: Big yikes, Big yikes.