WEBVTT - Finding the Plot with Cheri Oteri

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, guys, here are my dates for the High and

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<v Speaker 1>Mighty Tour. In June, I will be in Portland, Oregon, Seattle,

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<v Speaker 1>and then Hyannas, Massachusetts, and then two shows in Nantucket.

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<v Speaker 1>In August you can find me in Red Bank, New Jersey, Montclair,

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<v Speaker 1>New Jersey, and Calgary that's Canada. And September I will

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<v Speaker 1>be in Santa Barbara, San Diego, New York City, Philly,

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<v Speaker 1>and New Haven, Connecticut. October is Atlanta, Baltimore, Saginaw, Michigan, Pittsburgh, Toronto, Boise, Idaho,

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<v Speaker 1>and Spokane. And then in November I'll be in San Francisco.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm coming to Salt Lake City, Austin, Houston, Dallas Babies,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be there. And then in December I am closing

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<v Speaker 1>out my tour in Denver and Vancouver. So get your

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<v Speaker 1>tickets at Chelseahandler dot com for the High and Mighty Tour.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea. Hello. I excuse my stuffiness. I

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<v Speaker 1>sound like I have post nasal drip, which is what

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<v Speaker 1>I have.

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<v Speaker 2>Damn I have happens? Yes, are you getting us our

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<v Speaker 2>throat from it? That always does that time?

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<v Speaker 1>No covering from something else I've had ongoing issues all year.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what my problem is, but I uh

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<v Speaker 1>now it's post nasal drip. So I sat last night,

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<v Speaker 1>I got my eyebrows tattooed on.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh oh so that was like a.

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<v Speaker 1>Three hour excursion, and thank you. I yeah, I hopefully

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<v Speaker 1>this will save me lots of time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And I feel like the best thing you can say

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<v Speaker 3>is like, I didn't notice that.

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<v Speaker 2>You got your eyebrows tattooed on. Yes, Like that's kind

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<v Speaker 2>of where you want them to land.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they just filled in the hot spots, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>or the not so hot spots right right. So it

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<v Speaker 1>was a lot arduous process. I'm glad it's over. While

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<v Speaker 1>I was no, I mean, I guess it's slightly uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't say I wouldn't categorize it as hurting. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not like pleasant, sure, but it's not unbarrelable or something. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Sure.

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<v Speaker 1>But as I was lying there, she identified my post

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<v Speaker 1>nasal drip because I kept when you're lying down, you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>she is my constant thing. And she was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you have post nasal drip. And I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you're right, I do have post nasal drip. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>I have.

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<v Speaker 2>So a tattoo and a diagnosis.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah exactly, she said, it's you're my first tattoo. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't realize that your eyebrows are tattoos, Like can you

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<v Speaker 1>get But that's exactly what it is.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, the micro needling or micro no micro blading. My

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<v Speaker 3>micro needling is a different.

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<v Speaker 1>Thing, but micro blading is tattooing.

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<v Speaker 3>I think so because I always see all these girls

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<v Speaker 3>on TikTok being like, oh my micro blading that they

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<v Speaker 3>said would disappear in a year, and it's five years

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<v Speaker 3>later and it's still here sort of thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I want it to last for five years. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to have to rejuge this. I agreed anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>So that was that was exciting. I had a fun

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<v Speaker 1>weekend of shows. We have Portland and Seattle this weekend,

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<v Speaker 1>which is so easy breezy because I stay on the

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<v Speaker 1>same coast. I love that. And then I'm heading to

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the East Coast summertime jams, Hiatus Poort, Cape

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<v Speaker 1>Cod Melody, tent Nantucket. I'm going to bring Yaminika to Nantucket.

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<v Speaker 1>So they introduced to a black woman there because the

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<v Speaker 1>last time I was there, there were no black people

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<v Speaker 1>will be their first one. So yeah, we need to

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<v Speaker 1>bring some more black people to Nantucket.

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<v Speaker 2>Perfect. I have a crazy story for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it about the mayoral race in LA Thank god,

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<v Speaker 1>thank god Spencer Pretz out of that.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank God. I'm very glad about that. I will.

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<v Speaker 3>I kind of like had forgotten that it was a

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<v Speaker 3>primary and it was not going to be all of them.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm like, if I vote for Nitia, is that

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<v Speaker 3>going to mean Spencer, It's going to be Spencer whatever,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I didn't want to anyway, we knew we're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>have Karen basson there.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm starting to understand that LA is just completely

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<v Speaker 1>mismanaged from within. Like I think that anyone in a

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<v Speaker 1>mayoral position in this city has a whole council board

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<v Speaker 1>that they have to deal with, and it's not easy

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<v Speaker 1>to get anything done in this city. So we need

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<v Speaker 1>to change things from the inside out, Like something different

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<v Speaker 1>has to happen in the way things are. There's too

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<v Speaker 1>much bureaucracy. So it's it's it's really hard to be

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<v Speaker 1>a successful mayor in this city.

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<v Speaker 3>Right because you can't win right, Like you can't side

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<v Speaker 3>with the people in power or like the police or

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<v Speaker 3>anything like that. But you also need, like you need

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<v Speaker 3>to make systemic change if you're going to make any

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<v Speaker 3>change at all in the city.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, yeah, it's well, I'm going to support I've been

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<v Speaker 1>supporting her, and at least I don't know, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I just have to like have hope in the city

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<v Speaker 1>that we could turn things around. I'm so grateful that

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<v Speaker 1>Spencer Pratt is just no longer in involved in this.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to hear that for another five months.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Nitya, like she's been in it, like since the beginning.

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<v Speaker 3>She's from the ground up. She I forget what exactly happened,

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<v Speaker 3>but when she was first running for like city council member,

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<v Speaker 3>something happened where she was planning to campaign for like

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<v Speaker 3>six months, and then it wound up like the vote

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<v Speaker 3>got delayed or whatever, so she had to campaign for

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<v Speaker 3>like two years or something, and then she finally got it.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, you know, everybody has their flaws.

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<v Speaker 3>But I think she's like actually somebody who's in it

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<v Speaker 3>to make positive change wherever she can.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, well they're not all I mean, yeah, they're

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<v Speaker 1>all Like I had so many people saying, what about

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<v Speaker 1>the dogs on skid Row what about the dogs on

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<v Speaker 1>skid Row. I'm like, I'm sorry, are we voting for like,

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<v Speaker 1>are we not voting for human beings here?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>Like that can't be the biggest problem in this city.

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<v Speaker 1>The dogs on skid row. Yes, that's terrible. We all

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<v Speaker 1>know that I love to rescue dogs, but that's not

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<v Speaker 1>the number one issue here. There's people before the dogs

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<v Speaker 1>that we have to be worried about. There's almost fifty.

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<v Speaker 3>Square blocks of people on skid row, Like, it's enormous.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a lot of there's a lot of systemic changes,

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<v Speaker 3>and she's very like pro figuring out what shoes and

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<v Speaker 3>like providing services and.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, well okay, Yeah, that's what I liked about her,

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<v Speaker 1>that it's we're down fifty four percent in her district.

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<v Speaker 1>And I had people that live in her district that

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<v Speaker 1>loved her also people that didn't love her, but whatever.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah we did. We were in our district when she

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<v Speaker 5>first came around.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she was in our district. We voted her from

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<v Speaker 2>from the way beginning.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, look, politicians are problematic, but she's got degrees

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<v Speaker 5>in political theory and urban planning from both Harvard and MIT.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, she's way more qualified than any of these

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<v Speaker 5>other fucks that are around. And she's a woman and

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<v Speaker 5>we love that.

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<v Speaker 1>And we have a very exciting guest today. You know

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<v Speaker 1>her from SNL and just like that and the Scary

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<v Speaker 1>Movie franchise, which I'm seeing everywhere. You can also catch

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<v Speaker 1>her in Celebrity Autobiography in New York City from June

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<v Speaker 1>twenty ninth through July sixth. Please welcome Cherio Terry. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>this is great. We have Cherio Terry is in the

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<v Speaker 1>house and she's sitting in very close proximity to me

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<v Speaker 1>because we're on a podcast, and that's what you do.

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<v Speaker 1>Not like when we were at the Netflix brunch where

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<v Speaker 1>I sat down very close to you to introduce myself

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't think that we had ever met over

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<v Speaker 1>the years, right, And I sat down and I said, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I know you're coming on my podcast. And she said,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like doing interviews, and I wanted to know

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<v Speaker 1>why you don't like doing interviews. It's not uncommon a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people feel this way.

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<v Speaker 6>Listen, your podcast is popular, and it's kind of like

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<v Speaker 6>you don't want to say anything that's going to.

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<v Speaker 1>To get blown up and used as a headline. That's

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<v Speaker 1>my specialty everything. That's when you're with me, you're safe

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm the only one that gets in trouble constantly

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<v Speaker 1>and creates headlines constantly. So you're just just look at

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<v Speaker 1>this as like, at least the people are going to

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<v Speaker 1>take my words and use them to make headlines. I

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<v Speaker 1>admire your bulls, thank you so much, like my laby Is,

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<v Speaker 1>Menora and Majora. Please include all of them. Okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't discriminate. Well, I appreciate you saying that, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a huge admirer of yours. I think you are one

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<v Speaker 1>of the funniest people on the planet, and I love

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<v Speaker 1>getting to see you in movies because once you left SNL,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, how are we supposed to get our cherry oh,

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<v Speaker 1>Terry fixed? I mean, you on that show is just

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<v Speaker 1>first let's talk. First of all, let's talk about pickleball,

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<v Speaker 1>because you're an avid pickleball I'm not avid. Well yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it seems like.

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<v Speaker 6>You are, no, but I do like it a lot.

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<v Speaker 6>It's something everybody can do.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the problem that I have with it is that

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<v Speaker 1>everybody can do it, and so I don't think it's

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<v Speaker 1>such a How do I want to say this. People

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<v Speaker 1>think that when they're good at pick a ball, that

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<v Speaker 1>means that they're athletic and not at all. Right, well

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<v Speaker 1>that thank you, thank you for clarifying that.

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<v Speaker 6>It's about looking athletic, not being athletic.

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<v Speaker 1>Who introduced you to pick a ball? Oh?

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<v Speaker 6>My cousin in New Jersey they have a pick a

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<v Speaker 6>ball court and that's how I started playing.

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<v Speaker 1>But didn't you find the rules absolutely so confusing, the

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<v Speaker 1>kitchen and the system.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I'm just playing to hit the ball and to

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<v Speaker 6>get it in where I'm supposed to get it in.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, I'm not lazy, but yeah, I mean anybody

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<v Speaker 6>can do it. And I'm thinking, what a healthy way

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<v Speaker 6>to meet people, because I'd like to meet people.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you trying to meet people? Sure? What kind of

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<v Speaker 1>people would you like to meet? Friends? Lovers? What are

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<v Speaker 1>you in the mood for? Is that a loaded question?

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<v Speaker 7>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, this is where the interview park gets. Yes, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so good at this is But we're just talking

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<v Speaker 1>about pickleball though, just because pickleball is a good place

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<v Speaker 1>to meet people.

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<v Speaker 7>Football with a penis.

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<v Speaker 1>When when people talk about pickleball, one of the first

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<v Speaker 1>things that they typically say is that it's a great

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<v Speaker 1>place to meet people, or it's a great way to

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<v Speaker 1>meet people, and it's a great way to not over

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<v Speaker 1>exert yourself while meeting people.

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<v Speaker 6>Because I went to this court my friend invited me,

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<v Speaker 6>and there were these guys were playing. My god, they

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<v Speaker 6>were playing like bow, I mean so hard, and it's

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<v Speaker 6>fun to watch. But it's not necessarily a spectator sport.

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<v Speaker 6>But I'm playing, you know, with with other women and everything,

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<v Speaker 6>and I'm just thinking, God, I'd love to just sit

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<v Speaker 6>there and watch them play.

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<v Speaker 1>They're it's so they're hitting the ball so hard. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you like to watch tennis?

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<v Speaker 6>I'll watch tennis. I'm not an avid tennis watcher. Oh

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<v Speaker 6>I like watching basket ball. Well, if you like to

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<v Speaker 6>see balls being hit hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Tennis is a good curently, I do. Tennis is a

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<v Speaker 1>good sport to watch. I love watching tennis.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I went to the Desert Smash Indi in Indian wells.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah yeah yeah, Palm Desert and played pick a ball,

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<v Speaker 1>had a pickball clinic. Well hello, love dog and it

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<v Speaker 1>was fun.

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<v Speaker 6>You know who was one of my instructors?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you remember?

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<v Speaker 6>I remember from being a kid, remember Vince Van Patton.

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<v Speaker 1>Vince Van Patten. I know that name.

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<v Speaker 6>Is that a remember Dick Van Yes, yes, and he

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<v Speaker 6>had handsome sons.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh it's his son.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, and he's married to Eileen Davidson, who was on

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<v Speaker 6>Young and Restless?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, hands were you a soap opera

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<v Speaker 1>person Young and Restless? Okay, well, the first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>you should know it's The Young and the Restless. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't even believe you're.

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<v Speaker 7>Some of us abbreviated because we've been.

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<v Speaker 1>I was into General Hospital in Santa Barbara. Those were

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<v Speaker 1>my two and that was a conflict because they were

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<v Speaker 1>both on at the same time.

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<v Speaker 6>I would watch Santa Barbara sometimes because it was just

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<v Speaker 6>left over from it was right after Young and Wrestlers.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because Young and the Restless went from one thirty

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<v Speaker 1>to two thirty. It was a half hour break. Like sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>it went from like a half hour to a half hour,

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<v Speaker 1>whereas Santa Barbara was I think three to four or

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<v Speaker 1>two to three. So you had to pick and choose

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<v Speaker 1>which Soaparbara.

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<v Speaker 7>Is Robin right pen, Yeah, it was on was on there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Robin Wright was. I was obsessed with Robin Wright

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<v Speaker 1>because this was before the Princess bri Remember when she

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<v Speaker 1>was so young and beautiful. She's still beautiful. She actually

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<v Speaker 1>just stayed at my house in Majorca. She went there

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<v Speaker 1>for her sixtieth bird.

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<v Speaker 7>Last name pants, first name, fancy. We just bring up

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<v Speaker 7>this birthday. Oh, she just stayed in my place in

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<v Speaker 7>Boma Gol.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course she did. Yeah, she did. She call me

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<v Speaker 1>out of nowhere. I hadn't heard from her in about

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<v Speaker 1>two years, me either, and I was like, oh, why

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<v Speaker 1>is Robin facetiming me? This is very strange. And she

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<v Speaker 1>was with her new lover and they're madly in love

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<v Speaker 1>and she's like, Chelsea, we want to spend my I

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<v Speaker 1>want to spend my birthday with you. There's nobody I'd

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<v Speaker 1>rather spend my birthday with. And I'm like, I when

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<v Speaker 1>is your birthday? And she's like, oh, it's this And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm on tour and she's like, is your

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<v Speaker 1>house in my Orca free? And I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to spend your birthday with my house? I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, no energy problem, that requires a lot less

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<v Speaker 1>effort for me and an easy guy, like a very easy.

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<v Speaker 7>Now did she meet him playing pickuball? I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 1>She does play pickleball. I think I think Robin does

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<v Speaker 1>play pickleball, but I don't know that they met playing pickleball.

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<v Speaker 7>I love to know how people meet.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, are you looking to meet someone? Are you looking

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<v Speaker 1>to pick up a lover? Is that? Are you in

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<v Speaker 1>the market?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>You know what, Yes, But I'll tell you something.

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<v Speaker 7>I I do alone so well.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I think most women thrive like we're.

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<v Speaker 6>Some women have to be in a relationship. I never

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<v Speaker 6>felt that way. Never, And so I think for because

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<v Speaker 6>I do alone so well, to be with somebody, they've

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<v Speaker 6>got to be, you know, somebody that's like there's chemistry.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't need a companion.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well no, of course not. And when we can't,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to do you feel comfortable talking about your

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<v Speaker 1>lat like have you had a long relationship? Did you

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<v Speaker 1>like being in a long relationship or did you like,

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<v Speaker 1>have you ever lived with someone? And did you like that?

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<v Speaker 7>It was easy?

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<v Speaker 6>I will say it was easy, and you know, and

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<v Speaker 6>during the pandemic, and we breathed through it because we

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<v Speaker 6>both were into cooking and we ate, like I think

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<v Speaker 6>we ordered out once or twice and so we cooked

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<v Speaker 6>it and then we had our pot of people and

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<v Speaker 6>we just cooked and it was it was it was great.

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<v Speaker 6>And then I just realized that I had been single

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<v Speaker 6>for so long that I thought I was being too judgmental,

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<v Speaker 6>and I thought, not judgmental.

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<v Speaker 7>They have to be this.

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<v Speaker 6>This is it's really just chemistry.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I can I relate to what you're saying.

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<v Speaker 8>Though.

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<v Speaker 7>You want to be attracted.

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<v Speaker 6>You want to love their personality and they, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>to have a great sense of humor. That's not easy

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<v Speaker 6>to find, especially when you're not looking, and I don't

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<v Speaker 6>want to look.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's get back to the cooking. What kinds of things

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<v Speaker 1>can you cook? What's your signature dish?

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<v Speaker 7>Cedar plank salmon?

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<v Speaker 2>That's up?

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<v Speaker 7>Back up?

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<v Speaker 1>What kind of cedar plank are you working with?

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<v Speaker 6>You just buy cedar planks and you soak them for

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<v Speaker 6>like I'll soak them for overnight.

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<v Speaker 1>On the cedar plank. You soak it on the plank.

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<v Speaker 7>O you just soak the planks.

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<v Speaker 1>What is a plank.

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<v Speaker 7>It's a cedar plank.

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<v Speaker 6>It is all I know is the position you can

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<v Speaker 6>you can order them on. What it does is it

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<v Speaker 6>steams once it's completely soaked all the way through. You

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<v Speaker 6>it on the hottest barbecue and it it cooks the

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<v Speaker 6>fish through the cedar plank steak, and it just gives

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<v Speaker 6>it a flavor. It's like the steak of seafood.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh, because I.

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<v Speaker 6>Chop up fresh garlic and parsley from my garden and

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<v Speaker 6>olive oil, you know, salt and pepper. It's it's really

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<v Speaker 6>kind of easy. And then perfect timing of twenty minutes

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<v Speaker 6>on the grill.

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<v Speaker 1>And you flip the salmon or you keep it on

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<v Speaker 1>one side. You don't flip salmon. No, no, no, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a big salmon eater. So this is actually appealing to me,

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<v Speaker 1>not that I have a cedar plank or that I

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<v Speaker 1>will ever learn how to use it. Someone else will

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<v Speaker 1>do that for me, because, let me.

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<v Speaker 7>Tell you, so, I have to be you do learn how.

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<v Speaker 1>To do it. You need a barbecue, right, you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have barb I'm saving up for one. I think I

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<v Speaker 1>do have a barbecue outside. There's always another sale coming

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<v Speaker 1>around the corner. I'll wait until Labor Days, sister. That's

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<v Speaker 1>how I came barbecue. No, I think I do have

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<v Speaker 1>a barbecue outside. But I'm listen. I'm a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>like I think I have one.

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<v Speaker 7>In my York.

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<v Speaker 6>I know you.

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<v Speaker 7>The new dog was standing on top of it the

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<v Speaker 7>other day.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I got this new rescue who you just met,

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<v Speaker 1>and he was standing on top of things. He doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think he can judge height. So he was

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<v Speaker 1>standing on top of the barbecue and it's like six

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<v Speaker 1>feet off the ground. I'm like, do not jump because

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<v Speaker 1>he is not spry like dog. He's got a little

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<v Speaker 1>it looks like he's been in a couple of.

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<v Speaker 7>Bars nowhere with his background.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, they said if they found him in a field,

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<v Speaker 1>and my sister goes, what can they be more specific?

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<v Speaker 1>Baker's field like a field of what the field of dreams?

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, what field did they find him in? I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a good question.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me follow up.

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<v Speaker 7>I love that you rescued though, Oh, of course.

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<v Speaker 1>You have animals. Are you a cat? Are you a

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<v Speaker 1>cat person? Though I thought you said that.

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<v Speaker 7>No.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh, I mean I've had a cat before. When I

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<v Speaker 6>was on SNL, I had a cat. But and I

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<v Speaker 6>love all animals, but I love dogs.

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<v Speaker 8>It's I've got I've had Ricky and then Sweet Mama

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<v Speaker 8>and I had them together, and when they passed, I

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<v Speaker 8>got adel Castro.

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<v Speaker 6>And midel Castro or de Castro and dom Desmond and cute,

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<v Speaker 6>but like I can't wait to get home to my daughter.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, it's there's nothing better. Last night I came

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<v Speaker 1>home and I was like, I just couldn't wait to

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<v Speaker 1>just be with them and hang out, like late nights

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<v Speaker 1>is fun, you know, and they're getting to know each other,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's pretty cute. Do you like to talk about SNL?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 7>What am I talking about? SNL?

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<v Speaker 1>Was it hard to How many years were you on SNL? Five? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Was it hard to? It felt like longer than that.

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<v Speaker 1>You were such a staple of that show and you

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<v Speaker 1>and Will together, I mean so fine. Was it a

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<v Speaker 1>hard adjustment to leave that show? No? No, were you?

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<v Speaker 1>Were you ready to leave?

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<v Speaker 6>I had a five year contract and I felt so

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<v Speaker 6>good about the five years that I had done. And

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<v Speaker 6>it is emotionally it's rough.

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<v Speaker 1>I've heard.

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<v Speaker 6>I heard yes, And if you don't have tools in

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<v Speaker 6>your toolbox, which I didn't even know I had to

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<v Speaker 6>have a toolbox back then, you know, it's really hard.

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<v Speaker 6>And so I kind of left just to take care

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<v Speaker 6>of myself.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I've heard that from so many people that have

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<v Speaker 1>worked on that show, that it is a grind and

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<v Speaker 1>that it is relentless.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, it's like you're auditioning every week to get a

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<v Speaker 6>show you already got, you know, truly, Yeah, and you're

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<v Speaker 6>competing with writers who are supposed to be writing for you,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, and you can't if they don't. Nobody has

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<v Speaker 6>to write for you. So it's you writing for yourself.

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<v Speaker 6>And luckily I had that background with the Groundlings. So

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<v Speaker 6>it's you writing for yourself and hoping you have somebody

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<v Speaker 6>to write with, and luckily I had, you know, Will

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<v Speaker 6>and I wrote a lot together. Matt Petemont I wrote with.

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<v Speaker 6>And it sucks when you feel like you're competing with

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<v Speaker 6>the writers. I never felt like I was competing with

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<v Speaker 6>my fellow actors.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not fun to be in a work environment. And

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<v Speaker 1>I've heard that a lot about us and l And obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, this is a very revered show. People love it,

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<v Speaker 1>and but like, it is a very hard environment when

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<v Speaker 1>you're constantly in competition with the people you're at work with, like,

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<v Speaker 1>and I know you could probably say that about a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of jobs, but that's not a fun way for

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<v Speaker 1>your psyche to exist. It's kind of like your in survival.

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<v Speaker 6>Right always always, And it's so funny because the first

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<v Speaker 6>time I ever did a sitcom, I was like, what

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<v Speaker 6>is this kind of utopia?

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<v Speaker 7>Missu? Terry?

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<v Speaker 6>What would you like in your eggs? I'm like, what's

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<v Speaker 6>your angle? What's your angle? What do you mean?

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<v Speaker 7>You're in a ten out of three? You're you know

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<v Speaker 7>you're going to be written for. I was just like,

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<v Speaker 7>this is amazing.

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<v Speaker 6>So anything after that is pretty yeah, you know, is

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<v Speaker 6>pretty easy, like doing even a film and they say,

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<v Speaker 6>all right, Cherry, you want to go again, and like

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<v Speaker 6>it's like I could never go again.

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<v Speaker 1>I was.

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<v Speaker 6>There was always you had to get it on one take. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, and it's a great way to train yourself.

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<v Speaker 6>It's real discipline. But as hard as it was, I

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<v Speaker 6>have to say, like I it was so amazing to

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<v Speaker 6>be able to write whatever I imagined, anything I imagined,

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<v Speaker 6>And you know, I almost feel like I did that

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<v Speaker 6>all growing up. I was always watching and imitating people.

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<v Speaker 6>I didn't do impressions, but I would glean from I would.

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<v Speaker 6>I always felt like I was born without an identity,

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<v Speaker 6>so I would observe other people so much. And yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>I just grew up observing people.

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<v Speaker 1>What number how many siblings do you have?

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<v Speaker 7>Too? I was the middle.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, oh yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>That's very interesting. I've never heard anyone describe being the

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<v Speaker 1>middle of two children before. Wow. Oh oh, I thought

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<v Speaker 1>you said too. I was the middle. There were two children.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm looking at her like what I was like waiting

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<v Speaker 1>for the ball to drop or the punchline. Okay, copy that.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's three total.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh god, oh hey, have you been thinking about writing

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<v Speaker 3>into Dear Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, now is the moment.

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<v Speaker 3>We're taking advice questions on anything that pops up. It's

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<v Speaker 3>wedding season. Are you having wedding drama? Write in about

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<v Speaker 3>that thing that you can't seem to agree with your

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<v Speaker 3>spouse about but you absolutely know you're right. Chelsea can

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<v Speaker 3>tell you who's right and who's wrong. You can write

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<v Speaker 3>in about a big life decision or just something small

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<v Speaker 3>dating drama.

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<v Speaker 2>Write into Dear.

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<v Speaker 3>Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you a middle child? Do you fall into that? Like?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Really in what ways?

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<v Speaker 6>You know, it's kind of like, uh, we could have

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<v Speaker 6>done without you. Ye had the first and you know

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<v Speaker 6>my sister and then the boy, you know, my brother,

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<v Speaker 6>and you know my sister was like this golden haired blonde, adorable,

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<v Speaker 6>and you know, I came out with a mustache, and

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<v Speaker 6>so it's like you better develop a sense of humor.

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<v Speaker 7>Real quick, real quick.

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<v Speaker 6>But when I was a kid, I would watch Young

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<v Speaker 6>and Restless because I grew up around so much chaos,

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<v Speaker 6>and I just was always amazed at how civilized people

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<v Speaker 6>were on you know, so I would always imitate, and

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<v Speaker 6>no one knew I was doing what I was doing.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, I was doing my own kind of show,

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<v Speaker 6>but no one. I just used anybody that was around

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<v Speaker 6>as Like my mother would come home and I would

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<v Speaker 6>have like clip on earrings and a scarf, and as

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<v Speaker 6>she would walk in, and you know how in soap

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<v Speaker 6>operas that it's here's the person, this person.

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<v Speaker 7>They're both facing forward to the camera.

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<v Speaker 6>And so I be in front of my mother and

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<v Speaker 6>I was like, oh, mother, you startled me.

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<v Speaker 7>I didn't hear you come in, And she go, who

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<v Speaker 7>the fuck are you're talking to? I'm like cut.

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<v Speaker 6>Reset and like she was gorgeous but had like the

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<v Speaker 6>worst mouth, and she was rough.

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<v Speaker 7>All the women were rough.

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<v Speaker 1>In your family, Oh yeah, really like in an Italian way, in.

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<v Speaker 7>What kind of way?

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<v Speaker 6>And half Irish just rough, like no charm. It was doggy,

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<v Speaker 6>dog really competitive, no not competitive, just survival.

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<v Speaker 1>Survival, okay, you know.

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<v Speaker 6>And I was so sensitive and you know, you grew

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<v Speaker 6>up thinking there's something wrong with you, like why am I.

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<v Speaker 7>Not tough like that? Uh huh, and hence not wanting

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<v Speaker 7>to do interviews.

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<v Speaker 1>To talk about these very subjects. Yeah, did I read

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<v Speaker 1>that you're a life coach?

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<v Speaker 7>No, gosh no.

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<v Speaker 6>I played a life coach for AMC. It was like

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<v Speaker 6>a digital thing that I did years ago, and I thought,

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<v Speaker 6>you know what, while I'm waiting, I'll I'll do a

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<v Speaker 6>online course. I thought, you know, maybe it'll help me

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<v Speaker 6>in the you know, back end of it, help myself,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, people become therapists to maybe help themselves, and said,

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<v Speaker 6>so I.

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<v Speaker 7>Did, and it didn't help. I wanted to get the

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<v Speaker 7>verbbage down.

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<v Speaker 6>In all of the you know what, the nomenclature of

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<v Speaker 6>the life coach.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think about life coaches in general? Like

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<v Speaker 1>people who are.

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<v Speaker 7>Personal cheerleaders to me?

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<v Speaker 6>You know, And it's like I said, this as a

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<v Speaker 6>why pay so much money and deal with the past

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<v Speaker 6>when it's a lot cheaper and it's about today and

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<v Speaker 6>moving forward, right, which that sounds good, you know, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>I really I think they organize your brain. I thought

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<v Speaker 6>there was some legitimacy to it after I, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>took the classes. Okay, I can see where this is helpful.

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<v Speaker 1>Well for a certain personality. I would imagine that a

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<v Speaker 1>life coach is really helpful because it's like I remember

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<v Speaker 1>going into therapy and I was like, I don't really

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<v Speaker 1>want to deal with the past. I'm like, I just

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<v Speaker 1>would like to move forward with some better habits. And

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<v Speaker 1>he almost laughed at me. He's like, well, in order

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<v Speaker 1>to do that, we actually have to deal with the past.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, but why, Like that's done? Like I

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<v Speaker 1>just would like to focus on forward movement. And what

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<v Speaker 1>he should have said is like, well, what you're looking

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<v Speaker 1>for as a life coach, not a therapist, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>or a psychiatrist.

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<v Speaker 6>But they're not going to pass you off to a

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<v Speaker 6>life coach. But I do see how it can help.

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<v Speaker 7>Some people just need that personal cheerleader, you know. But

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<v Speaker 7>I love doing it.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't think anybody saw it, but I thought it

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<v Speaker 6>was so funny, fun I loved doing it.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, it was as a life coach.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm li, I's a life coach and were you doing

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<v Speaker 1>a character? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, just very close to myself close to yourself. I

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<v Speaker 6>did it, shot it in New York and it was

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<v Speaker 6>so much fun. But yeah, no one saw it.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're an LA girl, not a New York girl.

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<v Speaker 6>No, I'm from just outside of Philly mm hmm. And

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<v Speaker 6>when I moved here, I moved here to get in

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<v Speaker 6>the music business. I worked at A and M Records.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh yeah, I wasn't trying to be an.

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<v Speaker 1>Actress really, So then what happened.

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<v Speaker 6>I was like, Wow, if I'm ever going to make

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<v Speaker 6>a fool of myself, this would be the time. I

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<v Speaker 6>don't know anybody here, and because people alrey said, oh,

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<v Speaker 6>you should do stand up, you should do stand up.

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<v Speaker 6>But I couldn't imagine being myself.

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<v Speaker 7>And on stage.

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<v Speaker 1>So then a.

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<v Speaker 6>Woman said to me, oh, you should do the groundlings

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<v Speaker 6>And I said, what's that. She said, it's an improv troop.

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<v Speaker 6>I said it's improv and I had no idea. And

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<v Speaker 6>I went down the groundings and I saw and like

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<v Speaker 6>the clouds parted. I couldn't believe this place existed. I

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<v Speaker 6>I was like, this is like Saturday Night live on stage.

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<v Speaker 6>And so I started taking classes and I had a

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<v Speaker 6>great job at A and M. I loved I worked

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<v Speaker 6>in promotion, I worked in publishing.

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<v Speaker 1>And then and so you did that and then you

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<v Speaker 1>did groundlinks on the side.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, And I got into the main company after years,

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<v Speaker 6>and I had an agent, a manager, a commercial agents

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<v Speaker 6>said this isn't a fluke.

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<v Speaker 7>You need to quit your job. And I was so scared.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, it's like changing completely changing careers. How old

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<v Speaker 6>were you at this time, maybe thirty, okay like that,

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<v Speaker 6>And so I did and I started just temping at

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<v Speaker 6>Disney Legal and it wasn't fun I was just you know,

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<v Speaker 6>temping and temping.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to say, not to interrupt you, but

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to interpose that temping is one of

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<v Speaker 1>the sole most soulless, it is jobs you could do.

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<v Speaker 1>I did that.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh, I'm going to meet people, And what it is

0:28:01.680 --> 0:28:03.439
<v Speaker 6>is nobody wants to get close to you because they

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<v Speaker 6>feel like they're cheating on the person that you're temping for.

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<v Speaker 7>Right, you're gonna be gone.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not investig in yes, exactly.

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<v Speaker 7>And it was so lonely.

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<v Speaker 6>What was funny was a year and a half later

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<v Speaker 6>after I got SNL, I had a meeting with one

0:28:18.480 --> 0:28:22.000
<v Speaker 6>of the lawyers there, and it was so funny because

0:28:22.040 --> 0:28:24.760
<v Speaker 6>the lawyer that I met said to my manager, why

0:28:24.840 --> 0:28:27.840
<v Speaker 6>is she talking to all the assistants out there? And

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<v Speaker 6>it's because she was working with them a year and

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<v Speaker 6>a half ago. Oh yeah, And you know it was

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<v Speaker 6>it was really nice because so many people are doing

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<v Speaker 6>something to do something else, you know, and I think inspired,

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<v Speaker 6>I guess. But it was so nice to go back

0:28:45.640 --> 0:28:48.320
<v Speaker 6>there and see all those people that I was, you

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<v Speaker 6>know that where I was.

0:28:49.880 --> 0:28:53.440
<v Speaker 7>Who didn't talk to me. I guess, now I'm safe

0:28:53.480 --> 0:28:55.720
<v Speaker 7>to talk to. And then I got.

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<v Speaker 6>SNL and S ANDL is like my first job.

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<v Speaker 1>And what was that audition process like for SNL?

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<v Speaker 6>Oh you do four or five characters in seven minutes

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<v Speaker 6>something like that.

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<v Speaker 1>And were any of the characters the characters you ended

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<v Speaker 1>up doing on the show?

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<v Speaker 6>The Lady on the Porch, the Italian Lady on the porch.

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<v Speaker 7>I keep it now. But the groundings was everything.

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<v Speaker 6>It taught me everything, and it was the perfect you know,

0:29:21.520 --> 0:29:24.600
<v Speaker 6>training ground for SNL. And I had to write because

0:29:24.600 --> 0:29:26.920
<v Speaker 6>I was working at A and M, so I couldn't

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<v Speaker 6>meet other people to write as much as you know

0:29:29.560 --> 0:29:32.920
<v Speaker 6>the others that were acting. So I wrote by myself

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<v Speaker 6>a lot, and it was little did I know? You know,

0:29:37.760 --> 0:29:40.200
<v Speaker 6>it was something because you think that you're going to

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<v Speaker 6>be written for on SNL and it's like, oh no,

0:29:43.040 --> 0:29:46.400
<v Speaker 6>that's a nice, big surprise. But Lauren Michael said, we

0:29:46.440 --> 0:29:49.160
<v Speaker 6>want you to continue writing. I was so flattered and

0:29:49.280 --> 0:29:51.320
<v Speaker 6>it was like, oho, and you don't get.

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<v Speaker 1>Paid, didn't I read sometime that he never actually officially

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<v Speaker 1>hired you. Is that a true story?

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<v Speaker 8>No?

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<v Speaker 1>He did, he did?

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<v Speaker 7>You know?

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<v Speaker 2>They were realize you had gotten the job and that

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<v Speaker 2>oh yeah, he.

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<v Speaker 6>Said, we want you to come to New York. And

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<v Speaker 6>I'm like to shop for the day, like finish the sentence,

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<v Speaker 6>you know. But I feel divinely I was guided there

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<v Speaker 6>because I would have never dreamt that big.

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<v Speaker 1>Mmmm that's nice, you know.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, And it's like, how do we get her out here?

0:30:22.520 --> 0:30:26.440
<v Speaker 6>How do we let's see, let's have John break up

0:30:26.440 --> 0:30:31.400
<v Speaker 6>with her, break her heart. I feel like there's nothing

0:30:31.520 --> 0:30:35.120
<v Speaker 6>left for me there. Oh wow. And I always wanted

0:30:35.120 --> 0:30:39.040
<v Speaker 6>to live in California always, And it was truly I

0:30:39.080 --> 0:30:42.120
<v Speaker 6>felt like divinely, like how do we get her out here?

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<v Speaker 4>You know?

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<v Speaker 1>And to get out here after SNL, you mean.

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<v Speaker 6>No, no, to get me to la to get into

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<v Speaker 6>the groundlinks.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Okay, So, but then you moved to New York

0:30:53.200 --> 0:30:55.760
<v Speaker 1>when I got SNL you yeah, yeah, it would have

0:30:55.760 --> 0:30:57.880
<v Speaker 1>been amazing if you had filmed SNL from LA and

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<v Speaker 1>just never went to New York.

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<v Speaker 6>I used to come back every time I had a

0:31:01.520 --> 0:31:03.480
<v Speaker 6>two week hiatus because you love it here.

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<v Speaker 7>I do, yeah, I really do.

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<v Speaker 1>What are your favorite things about Los Angeles?

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<v Speaker 6>Just the skyline, It's just I mean the landscape.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

0:31:13.160 --> 0:31:14.840
<v Speaker 6>I was always amazed when I moved here, and I

0:31:14.880 --> 0:31:19.560
<v Speaker 6>couldn't believe driving home from waitressing from Carlos and Charlie's.

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<v Speaker 6>Do you remember Carlos and Charlie's on Sunset?

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<v Speaker 1>No, it was a club.

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<v Speaker 6>It was like a nightclub, huh. And I was waitressing

0:31:27.200 --> 0:31:31.200
<v Speaker 6>there while I was looking for a job. And I

0:31:31.240 --> 0:31:34.400
<v Speaker 6>remember coming home from there into the valley. I could

0:31:34.440 --> 0:31:38.560
<v Speaker 6>not believe how beautiful the lights were coming into the valley.

0:31:38.760 --> 0:31:41.720
<v Speaker 6>Like it's still so beautiful to me.

0:31:42.080 --> 0:31:45.080
<v Speaker 1>Driving on Maulholland, like at dusk or at night is

0:31:45.120 --> 0:31:48.400
<v Speaker 1>always really always reminds me. Like, you know, I used

0:31:48.440 --> 0:31:51.080
<v Speaker 1>to have a studio universal and I would live in

0:31:51.400 --> 0:31:54.040
<v Speaker 1>like bel Air, and I would just take Maholland every day,

0:31:54.040 --> 0:31:55.840
<v Speaker 1>even though it took like, you know, an extra twenty

0:31:55.840 --> 0:31:59.800
<v Speaker 1>five minutes because that drive. I always would just cement

0:31:59.840 --> 0:32:02.360
<v Speaker 1>it how much I love the beauty of this place

0:32:02.520 --> 0:32:05.680
<v Speaker 1>because I think LA like LA. I go through phases

0:32:05.720 --> 0:32:08.520
<v Speaker 1>where I really appreciate LA, and then there are times

0:32:08.520 --> 0:32:11.320
<v Speaker 1>where I'm like, oh, this place is just lame. There's

0:32:11.360 --> 0:32:12.240
<v Speaker 1>no vibe here.

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<v Speaker 6>You know. The only thing that bugs me is it's

0:32:14.280 --> 0:32:19.960
<v Speaker 6>it's it is this business. It's everywhere. You know, that's

0:32:20.000 --> 0:32:22.960
<v Speaker 6>when I just meet an accountant, but often when you

0:32:23.000 --> 0:32:23.240
<v Speaker 6>get to.

0:32:23.240 --> 0:32:24.800
<v Speaker 1>Meet it are you meeting.

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<v Speaker 7>A lot of accountants? Just my own?

0:32:28.680 --> 0:32:33.640
<v Speaker 6>But you know, it's I missed the diversity of occupation.

0:32:33.920 --> 0:32:36.800
<v Speaker 6>I mean there are you know it is, but it's

0:32:36.880 --> 0:32:42.600
<v Speaker 6>so central to this business, so centralized, and it's and

0:32:43.280 --> 0:32:45.080
<v Speaker 6>you can't kind of get away from it unless you

0:32:45.120 --> 0:32:45.880
<v Speaker 6>get away from it.

0:32:46.040 --> 0:32:51.320
<v Speaker 1>That's right. Yeah, what is your relationship with like your celebrity? Like,

0:32:51.400 --> 0:32:53.640
<v Speaker 1>how do you look at that? Because it's weird.

0:32:54.160 --> 0:32:59.040
<v Speaker 6>I never ever really felt like a celebrity and I

0:32:59.080 --> 0:33:03.840
<v Speaker 6>didn't ever into it, and I'm never bothered by people.

0:33:03.920 --> 0:33:06.360
<v Speaker 6>And I don't you know, get asked for my autograph

0:33:06.520 --> 0:33:07.720
<v Speaker 6>much or you know.

0:33:07.760 --> 0:33:12.600
<v Speaker 7>I live really like you know, I'm at home depot.

0:33:13.000 --> 0:33:18.600
<v Speaker 6>I'm at Loew's walking the dogs, and I don't live

0:33:18.640 --> 0:33:19.840
<v Speaker 6>a life like a celebrity.

0:33:20.000 --> 0:33:23.960
<v Speaker 1>Okay, you know, what are your female relationships like at

0:33:23.960 --> 0:33:24.800
<v Speaker 1>this stage in your life?

0:33:25.000 --> 0:33:27.600
<v Speaker 7>Great? I have really good friends.

0:33:27.760 --> 0:33:28.960
<v Speaker 1>And how long have you had them?

0:33:29.960 --> 0:33:32.680
<v Speaker 6>Oh my gosh, Well my best friend was the publicist

0:33:32.720 --> 0:33:33.680
<v Speaker 6>at NBC.

0:33:34.000 --> 0:33:36.680
<v Speaker 7>Oh okay, but I was there. She loves you. She's like,

0:33:36.880 --> 0:33:37.960
<v Speaker 7>are you excited about Chelsea?

0:33:38.560 --> 0:33:40.400
<v Speaker 1>And You're like, no, I hate being interviewed.

0:33:42.240 --> 0:33:42.440
<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

0:33:42.520 --> 0:33:44.640
<v Speaker 6>If Wemer tells me to Wimer person tells me to

0:33:44.640 --> 0:33:49.560
<v Speaker 6>be myself and have fun, I can be myself and

0:33:49.600 --> 0:33:57.480
<v Speaker 6>have fun. And oh my gosh, my buddy Cameron and Nadine.

0:33:58.160 --> 0:34:00.040
<v Speaker 1>And do you hang out with your girlfriends as a

0:34:00.080 --> 0:34:01.360
<v Speaker 1>big group? Do you hang out with.

0:34:03.880 --> 0:34:04.480
<v Speaker 7>Play cards?

0:34:04.840 --> 0:34:05.640
<v Speaker 1>What kind of cards?

0:34:05.720 --> 0:34:10.400
<v Speaker 7>Rummy Cube or I buy and let me see.

0:34:10.600 --> 0:34:12.640
<v Speaker 1>I thought Robny Cube was the with the piece.

0:34:12.800 --> 0:34:13.440
<v Speaker 7>There are the tiles?

0:34:13.520 --> 0:34:18.359
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, that's that. Now I got my neighbors. I have

0:34:18.920 --> 0:34:22.520
<v Speaker 6>great neighbors, great women. We'll come over each other's house

0:34:22.560 --> 0:34:25.320
<v Speaker 6>and I'll do a charcouterie board happy hour or they'll

0:34:25.320 --> 0:34:27.239
<v Speaker 6>do it not as good as me, but it's not

0:34:27.280 --> 0:34:27.880
<v Speaker 6>a competition.

0:34:31.640 --> 0:34:32.840
<v Speaker 1>Do you make a mean sharkter.

0:34:33.280 --> 0:34:35.480
<v Speaker 7>I do, yes, I do.

0:34:35.640 --> 0:34:38.040
<v Speaker 1>What do you put on your sharcotery bar? Do you

0:34:38.160 --> 0:34:41.200
<v Speaker 1>use your salmon plank for your charcuterie board to smoke

0:34:41.280 --> 0:34:44.880
<v Speaker 1>your meat dinner? Okay?

0:34:44.960 --> 0:34:45.239
<v Speaker 8>You know?

0:34:45.400 --> 0:34:50.399
<v Speaker 6>But yeah, boy, I'll tell you the women friends. I'll

0:34:50.400 --> 0:34:54.680
<v Speaker 6>tell you something that recently happened. My friend had invited

0:34:54.719 --> 0:34:59.720
<v Speaker 6>me to this dinner he was hosting for the Milken

0:35:00.000 --> 0:35:03.560
<v Speaker 6>Milkin Institute. What is the Milken Institute to again, women's

0:35:03.600 --> 0:35:04.280
<v Speaker 6>health issues?

0:35:04.360 --> 0:35:08.640
<v Speaker 7>Right? So I said yeah, and Jill Biden was a chair.

0:35:09.520 --> 0:35:12.439
<v Speaker 6>And first I'm driving down the street and there's all

0:35:12.480 --> 0:35:14.480
<v Speaker 6>these cops that are stopping everybody.

0:35:14.920 --> 0:35:17.240
<v Speaker 7>And I was like, oh my gosh.

0:35:17.640 --> 0:35:19.799
<v Speaker 6>And I said to the cops, you know where can

0:35:19.840 --> 0:35:22.560
<v Speaker 6>I park? And he said anywhere you want? So this

0:35:22.600 --> 0:35:24.120
<v Speaker 6>is where I parked it, Chelsea.

0:35:27.560 --> 0:35:29.520
<v Speaker 2>Let's just sorry with a bunch of Beeby dudes.

0:35:30.239 --> 0:35:31.240
<v Speaker 1>I said, hey, fellas.

0:35:35.920 --> 0:35:37.520
<v Speaker 7>The guy asked me, he goes, can I take a

0:35:37.560 --> 0:35:38.120
<v Speaker 7>picture with you?

0:35:38.160 --> 0:35:39.719
<v Speaker 6>And I said, oh, sure, if I could take a

0:35:39.760 --> 0:35:41.560
<v Speaker 6>picture with you guys. And he's like, you want to

0:35:41.560 --> 0:35:44.040
<v Speaker 6>get on the bike and I go, yeah, I want

0:35:44.040 --> 0:35:44.719
<v Speaker 6>to play with the lights.

0:35:44.760 --> 0:35:45.520
<v Speaker 7>I'm like yeah.

0:35:47.320 --> 0:35:50.760
<v Speaker 6>I did, But anyway, I go in there and chilled.

0:35:50.760 --> 0:35:53.359
<v Speaker 6>Biden immediately came up and she goes, now, Sherry, are

0:35:53.400 --> 0:35:56.560
<v Speaker 6>you from Philly or Jersey? And I said, I'm from

0:35:56.600 --> 0:35:59.160
<v Speaker 6>outside of Philly, but I'm in Jersey a lot. And

0:35:59.200 --> 0:36:01.279
<v Speaker 6>She's like, I'm from Jersey. I said, I know you're

0:36:01.280 --> 0:36:04.120
<v Speaker 6>from Hamilton, the blueberry capital of the world.

0:36:04.360 --> 0:36:06.399
<v Speaker 7>And yeah, and she said yeah.

0:36:06.440 --> 0:36:08.719
<v Speaker 6>And I said, Jill, when I found out that you

0:36:08.719 --> 0:36:10.640
<v Speaker 6>were from Jersey was everything for me not to call

0:36:10.680 --> 0:36:11.960
<v Speaker 6>you and ask you to pick up a bag of

0:36:12.000 --> 0:36:13.200
<v Speaker 6>ice on the way.

0:36:15.800 --> 0:36:18.080
<v Speaker 7>And she started.

0:36:17.760 --> 0:36:21.520
<v Speaker 6>Laughing and we just started talking. And then I'm sitting

0:36:21.560 --> 0:36:25.360
<v Speaker 6>with all of these women, all of these accomplished, powerful women,

0:36:25.680 --> 0:36:29.640
<v Speaker 6>and they were talking about in all these different occupations

0:36:29.640 --> 0:36:32.720
<v Speaker 6>and Biden women and healthcare, and there were investors there,

0:36:33.000 --> 0:36:36.600
<v Speaker 6>and I'm just listening and listening to everybody speak. And

0:36:36.640 --> 0:36:40.600
<v Speaker 6>it was the weirdest thing because I would just diagnosed

0:36:41.160 --> 0:36:47.520
<v Speaker 6>with dcis with breast cancer. I'm staying there quiet, and

0:36:47.520 --> 0:36:50.560
<v Speaker 6>I'm like, this is so serendipitous, you know that He's like,

0:36:50.600 --> 0:36:54.160
<v Speaker 6>I want should come and just and be my guest.

0:36:55.120 --> 0:36:58.440
<v Speaker 6>And I'm listening to all these women and then at

0:36:58.440 --> 0:37:02.560
<v Speaker 6>the end, Jill came up to me and we were

0:37:02.560 --> 0:37:05.279
<v Speaker 6>saying goodbye, and I told her that I was just

0:37:05.360 --> 0:37:08.680
<v Speaker 6>diagnosed and she said when is your surgery and I

0:37:08.680 --> 0:37:13.600
<v Speaker 6>said the twenty six and she said, all right, you're

0:37:13.600 --> 0:37:16.200
<v Speaker 6>gonna get tired of me. And she says, I'm going

0:37:16.239 --> 0:37:22.720
<v Speaker 6>through this with you. This woman like before my surgery,

0:37:22.840 --> 0:37:25.920
<v Speaker 6>after my surgery, she just she goes, I am with

0:37:26.040 --> 0:37:30.120
<v Speaker 6>you on this. I was blown away. And then she

0:37:30.280 --> 0:37:33.239
<v Speaker 6>was coming out to La and she's like, let's have coffee.

0:37:33.600 --> 0:37:35.400
<v Speaker 6>And I said, all right, I'll come to your hotel.

0:37:35.520 --> 0:37:37.040
<v Speaker 6>She goes, I don't want to. I don't want you

0:37:37.040 --> 0:37:39.120
<v Speaker 6>to come here. There's so much security. And I go, yeah,

0:37:39.160 --> 0:37:41.960
<v Speaker 6>for you.

0:37:40.640 --> 0:37:43.080
<v Speaker 7>You know, like she was bothered by the security there.

0:37:43.560 --> 0:37:47.640
<v Speaker 6>And so we met at this coffee shop and we

0:37:47.719 --> 0:37:53.799
<v Speaker 6>just talked for two hours, and she was just that

0:37:54.040 --> 0:37:57.280
<v Speaker 6>is a woman with a huge heart, and through everything,

0:37:57.400 --> 0:38:03.319
<v Speaker 6>she's like checking on me and just a beautiful human being.

0:38:03.400 --> 0:38:05.719
<v Speaker 7>So I never felt so supported.

0:38:06.040 --> 0:38:09.319
<v Speaker 6>That's really nice, you know, by my friends, my girlfriends,

0:38:10.120 --> 0:38:15.000
<v Speaker 6>and and so you know, she goes, you're gonna get

0:38:15.000 --> 0:38:18.920
<v Speaker 6>sick of me texting you, and I'm like, seriously, Jill,

0:38:19.280 --> 0:38:19.879
<v Speaker 6>knock it off.

0:38:20.160 --> 0:38:22.879
<v Speaker 7>I'm okay, no, But what was.

0:38:22.800 --> 0:38:25.239
<v Speaker 6>Funny was we were sitting there and we're talking about

0:38:25.280 --> 0:38:28.840
<v Speaker 6>everything with coffee, and she goes, cher, are you really

0:38:28.960 --> 0:38:29.680
<v Speaker 6>You're really brave?

0:38:29.719 --> 0:38:32.840
<v Speaker 7>And I go, I'm Jill. I caught it early.

0:38:33.440 --> 0:38:37.719
<v Speaker 6>So that's my message to everybody too, is you know,

0:38:37.960 --> 0:38:39.680
<v Speaker 6>get your mammogram.

0:38:39.920 --> 0:38:41.200
<v Speaker 7>I caught it really early.

0:38:41.360 --> 0:38:42.200
<v Speaker 1>Oh thank goodness.

0:38:42.480 --> 0:38:45.319
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, and I just had such with two days ago.

0:38:46.719 --> 0:38:48.520
<v Speaker 2>What from from this?

0:38:49.520 --> 0:38:53.200
<v Speaker 1>And this has been your experience with Jill? Just now? Oh,

0:38:53.320 --> 0:38:54.080
<v Speaker 1>this is my present.

0:38:54.440 --> 0:38:56.600
<v Speaker 7>I was thinking this was like a year ago or no,

0:38:56.719 --> 0:38:58.839
<v Speaker 7>this is like couple days ago.

0:38:59.000 --> 0:39:02.919
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, Oh my god. How are you feeling great?

0:39:03.480 --> 0:39:07.520
<v Speaker 1>Oh look at you? What a blessing. Yeah, you're sitting

0:39:07.560 --> 0:39:11.160
<v Speaker 1>here healthy and happy. Oh wow.

0:39:11.440 --> 0:39:15.720
<v Speaker 7>Yeah. The next day I was like, wow, I'm okay.

0:39:16.760 --> 0:39:19.800
<v Speaker 6>I just had a lump ectomy. And the other advice

0:39:19.880 --> 0:39:22.960
<v Speaker 6>I want to give is get a second opinion. The

0:39:23.000 --> 0:39:27.680
<v Speaker 6>first doctor I went to suggested something way more aggressive,

0:39:28.000 --> 0:39:32.120
<v Speaker 6>and I'm like, what wait, I caught it early, and

0:39:32.800 --> 0:39:35.560
<v Speaker 6>that is what you're proposing.

0:39:35.320 --> 0:39:36.600
<v Speaker 7>You know, to do.

0:39:36.719 --> 0:39:39.040
<v Speaker 6>I was like, that doesn't make sense. And I called

0:39:39.080 --> 0:39:41.600
<v Speaker 6>a friend of mine who's gone to college as Sherry Ross,

0:39:41.640 --> 0:39:44.680
<v Speaker 6>and she said, don't do anything until you talk to

0:39:44.719 --> 0:39:49.600
<v Speaker 6>my friends. So I went to another hospital and had

0:39:49.600 --> 0:39:53.000
<v Speaker 6>all my records transferred and she said to me, this

0:39:53.080 --> 0:39:53.720
<v Speaker 6>doctor Grumley.

0:39:53.800 --> 0:39:57.000
<v Speaker 7>She said, Cherry, that's way too aggressive.

0:39:57.640 --> 0:40:02.359
<v Speaker 6>And if I didn't get a second opinion, you know,

0:40:02.520 --> 0:40:06.600
<v Speaker 6>if you need to, you need to write. But she

0:40:06.719 --> 0:40:11.279
<v Speaker 6>said that, you know you don't need to. And so

0:40:11.400 --> 0:40:17.440
<v Speaker 6>I just had a lumpectomy and everything looks normals.

0:40:17.440 --> 0:40:17.600
<v Speaker 4>Good.

0:40:17.760 --> 0:40:20.239
<v Speaker 7>Fine for sharing that.

0:40:20.560 --> 0:40:23.160
<v Speaker 1>I mean, this is helpful to so many women listening.

0:40:23.960 --> 0:40:26.680
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I mean, truly get your mammogram off, of course,

0:40:27.000 --> 0:40:29.640
<v Speaker 6>but also get a second opinion, you.

0:40:29.600 --> 0:40:30.080
<v Speaker 2>Know what I mean.

0:40:30.120 --> 0:40:33.520
<v Speaker 6>Like everything I wouldn't have, I really wouldn't have unless

0:40:34.160 --> 0:40:39.439
<v Speaker 6>Cherry suggested that I do that. And yeah, I mean

0:40:39.760 --> 0:40:44.719
<v Speaker 6>I'm fine. And you know, like who would have thought,

0:40:44.800 --> 0:40:48.040
<v Speaker 6>like i'd have Jill Biden constantly calling me and texting me,

0:40:48.480 --> 0:40:49.120
<v Speaker 6>are you okay?

0:40:49.440 --> 0:40:50.040
<v Speaker 1>What they say?

0:40:51.000 --> 0:40:53.080
<v Speaker 7>You know, It's what was funny.

0:40:53.120 --> 0:40:55.919
<v Speaker 6>When we were having coffee, she goes to me, Cherry,

0:40:56.120 --> 0:41:00.640
<v Speaker 6>you know you can be vulnerable and it's okay to break.

0:41:00.719 --> 0:41:04.080
<v Speaker 6>And I go, Jill, I'm fine, Really, I'm good, and

0:41:04.120 --> 0:41:06.719
<v Speaker 6>she's like, you know, you don't have to be so

0:41:06.760 --> 0:41:11.200
<v Speaker 6>brave all the time. And I go, Jill Seriously, I

0:41:11.280 --> 0:41:15.400
<v Speaker 6>feel like I'm not scared. I'm really okay, I'm not

0:41:15.440 --> 0:41:18.280
<v Speaker 6>in any pain because Joe wasn't in any pain either, Shary,

0:41:18.800 --> 0:41:19.960
<v Speaker 6>all right, I'm scared.

0:41:19.719 --> 0:41:25.640
<v Speaker 1>Now, yeah okay, yeah, yeah? Are you happy?

0:41:25.680 --> 0:41:30.600
<v Speaker 6>But she was just hands on and that's beautiful.

0:41:30.840 --> 0:41:34.000
<v Speaker 1>Yes, it's really beautiful when women who you don't know well,

0:41:34.280 --> 0:41:35.960
<v Speaker 1>I mean, obviously the women in your life want to

0:41:35.960 --> 0:41:37.640
<v Speaker 1>show up and protect you and be there for you

0:41:37.760 --> 0:41:41.279
<v Speaker 1>during especially during times like the one you're describing, But

0:41:41.560 --> 0:41:44.239
<v Speaker 1>when a stranger shows up in your life and is

0:41:44.280 --> 0:41:47.920
<v Speaker 1>also that support ballast for you, it is really profound.

0:41:48.920 --> 0:41:52.000
<v Speaker 6>It is so profound because here it's all about women's

0:41:52.000 --> 0:41:55.040
<v Speaker 6>health issues and what we need to do, what's not

0:41:55.120 --> 0:41:58.279
<v Speaker 6>being done, and sitting around and listening to all these

0:41:58.280 --> 0:42:02.279
<v Speaker 6>accomplished women talking about this and me just kind of,

0:42:02.719 --> 0:42:06.480
<v Speaker 6>you know, taking it all in, but sitting there just

0:42:06.520 --> 0:42:10.759
<v Speaker 6>being diagnosed and thinking, okay, there's a reason for this.

0:42:12.000 --> 0:42:16.880
<v Speaker 6>And but luckily I got through it like a champ.

0:42:17.560 --> 0:42:20.080
<v Speaker 6>And I did have to have a second surgery because

0:42:20.080 --> 0:42:20.919
<v Speaker 6>I didn't get it all.

0:42:21.480 --> 0:42:23.880
<v Speaker 1>But so it was yesterday or two days ago, your

0:42:23.880 --> 0:42:26.720
<v Speaker 1>second surgery, Okay, and when was the first surgery?

0:42:27.560 --> 0:42:28.680
<v Speaker 7>Maybe a month ago.

0:42:28.960 --> 0:42:36.319
<v Speaker 6>Okay, yeah, and no no pain. No, I don't even

0:42:36.360 --> 0:42:37.560
<v Speaker 6>took anything for pain.

0:42:38.800 --> 0:42:42.480
<v Speaker 1>Well, you can give that stuff to me, that's the

0:42:42.480 --> 0:42:44.359
<v Speaker 1>word on the street. Yeah, do you have that?

0:42:44.560 --> 0:42:44.719
<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

0:42:44.760 --> 0:42:47.960
<v Speaker 1>I would actually appreciate if you had brought that over today.

0:42:48.320 --> 0:42:51.279
<v Speaker 1>And that goes for all of our callers and all

0:42:51.320 --> 0:42:52.279
<v Speaker 1>of our listeners.

0:42:52.480 --> 0:42:53.640
<v Speaker 2>I'll give you the po box.

0:42:57.880 --> 0:43:00.560
<v Speaker 1>Well, are you ready to take a couple of questions?

0:43:00.560 --> 0:43:04.600
<v Speaker 1>We have live callers calling it. Yes, were a very

0:43:04.640 --> 0:43:06.799
<v Speaker 1>special guest. I'm so glad that you shared that, and

0:43:06.800 --> 0:43:09.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm so glad that you're healthy, and I'm so glad

0:43:09.160 --> 0:43:12.040
<v Speaker 1>to hear this Joe Biden's story. It's all just beautiful.

0:43:12.480 --> 0:43:13.560
<v Speaker 1>It's beautiful woman.

0:43:13.640 --> 0:43:16.560
<v Speaker 7>Shit, I know, I gotta tell you, I've never felt

0:43:16.600 --> 0:43:17.800
<v Speaker 7>so grateful.

0:43:17.440 --> 0:43:19.480
<v Speaker 1>Unless you're just making it all up because you were

0:43:19.480 --> 0:43:22.000
<v Speaker 1>nervous to do an interview. You know, that's that could

0:43:22.040 --> 0:43:23.160
<v Speaker 1>be a too cancel.

0:43:23.600 --> 0:43:25.239
<v Speaker 7>I mean, you tell me.

0:43:25.320 --> 0:43:28.560
<v Speaker 1>Look, even Doug is interested. Now. Look you've got his attention.

0:43:29.600 --> 0:43:32.120
<v Speaker 1>Love Dad. That's empathy and compassion.

0:43:34.040 --> 0:43:37.400
<v Speaker 3>So our first question is just a really quick question.

0:43:38.040 --> 0:43:41.320
<v Speaker 3>Rit says, you're Chelsea. My best friend lives in another

0:43:41.400 --> 0:43:44.040
<v Speaker 3>state and we each have one kid. I'm due with

0:43:44.040 --> 0:43:46.480
<v Speaker 3>my second in about a month. When I excitedly told

0:43:46.560 --> 0:43:48.480
<v Speaker 3>her what I want to name the baby, she got

0:43:48.520 --> 0:43:51.080
<v Speaker 3>all quiet. When I prodded, she told me that was

0:43:51.160 --> 0:43:53.600
<v Speaker 3>her favorite baby boy name that she told me about

0:43:53.760 --> 0:43:57.200
<v Speaker 3>years ago. Honestly, I'd completely forgotten that she had quote

0:43:57.239 --> 0:43:59.840
<v Speaker 3>picked that name. I feel bad, but my husband and

0:43:59.880 --> 0:44:01.919
<v Speaker 3>I both love it. Should I use the name?

0:44:04.480 --> 0:44:07.239
<v Speaker 1>Mean? Come on, the friend doesn't have the baby yet.

0:44:07.360 --> 0:44:09.239
<v Speaker 2>No, no, well, they're both pregnant right now.

0:44:09.360 --> 0:44:11.200
<v Speaker 1>Oh I don't know.

0:44:12.960 --> 0:44:16.400
<v Speaker 3>I mean no, she says, I'm due with my second. Sorry,

0:44:16.400 --> 0:44:18.239
<v Speaker 3>I don't think they're both pregnant. I think she's doing it.

0:44:18.400 --> 0:44:21.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, if her friend isn't pregnant, I would say. If

0:44:21.400 --> 0:44:23.520
<v Speaker 1>the friend had been pregnant, then that is kind of like,

0:44:23.800 --> 0:44:25.759
<v Speaker 1>but why not they just name them both the same

0:44:25.800 --> 0:44:26.279
<v Speaker 1>fucking name?

0:44:26.320 --> 0:44:26.800
<v Speaker 7>Who cares?

0:44:27.560 --> 0:44:29.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she lives in another state.

0:44:29.640 --> 0:44:30.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah it's not like that.

0:44:30.600 --> 0:44:31.480
<v Speaker 7>That's ridiculous.

0:44:31.600 --> 0:44:34.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I go. Yeah, you can't. You don't own names.

0:44:34.840 --> 0:44:36.680
<v Speaker 1>That's not right, right, right?

0:44:36.800 --> 0:44:39.440
<v Speaker 2>Her friend needs to have like James Junior. No, just kidding,

0:44:39.480 --> 0:44:41.400
<v Speaker 2>but okay, James.

0:44:42.200 --> 0:44:45.839
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh my god, James, do you see how

0:44:45.840 --> 0:44:50.480
<v Speaker 1>he's coming closer to you he senses. Yes, he senses.

0:44:50.520 --> 0:44:53.520
<v Speaker 1>He's sensitive like that. It's very interesting. Anytime I'm upset.

0:44:54.080 --> 0:44:55.719
<v Speaker 1>All my other dogs would leave the room when I

0:44:55.760 --> 0:44:58.680
<v Speaker 1>would cry. This dog, Whenever I'm upset, he comes right

0:44:58.719 --> 0:44:59.960
<v Speaker 1>into the room and comes right up to me.

0:45:00.160 --> 0:45:01.800
<v Speaker 7>I have my Daisi.

0:45:02.640 --> 0:45:06.839
<v Speaker 6>Whenever I'm mad, which I'm hardly ever, he like if

0:45:06.840 --> 0:45:10.840
<v Speaker 6>I'm angry at him, he doesn't really pay attention. But

0:45:10.880 --> 0:45:12.880
<v Speaker 6>if I'm angry.

0:45:12.520 --> 0:45:14.600
<v Speaker 7>If what do you mean? What happened?

0:45:15.280 --> 0:45:17.600
<v Speaker 6>And he'll look at me and go right outside and

0:45:17.600 --> 0:45:20.640
<v Speaker 6>then stare at me from the outside window like wait

0:45:20.719 --> 0:45:22.439
<v Speaker 6>until and then I just look down.

0:45:22.400 --> 0:45:24.879
<v Speaker 7>And go, I'm okay, honey, I'm all right.

0:45:25.480 --> 0:45:26.320
<v Speaker 1>Like it's so weird.

0:45:26.360 --> 0:45:28.840
<v Speaker 7>How you know. I can tell him, no, don't do that,

0:45:28.880 --> 0:45:29.920
<v Speaker 7>and he's like that, fuck you.

0:45:30.160 --> 0:45:30.719
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know.

0:45:30.840 --> 0:45:33.879
<v Speaker 6>But if he if he senses that I'm angry, he

0:45:33.920 --> 0:45:35.920
<v Speaker 6>knows when it's real and he goes outside and just

0:45:35.960 --> 0:45:36.520
<v Speaker 6>stares at me.

0:45:37.200 --> 0:45:40.480
<v Speaker 1>Oh, they're on a different than the frequent see they're on.

0:45:40.920 --> 0:45:43.360
<v Speaker 1>I would love to be able to visually see where

0:45:43.880 --> 0:45:46.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, where they land and where how they relate

0:45:46.520 --> 0:45:49.080
<v Speaker 1>to us. It's kind of like I stoke in my

0:45:49.160 --> 0:45:51.120
<v Speaker 1>stand up people who are always like, don't you wish

0:45:51.200 --> 0:45:52.880
<v Speaker 1>you knew what your dogs were thinking? I'm like, no,

0:45:53.080 --> 0:45:54.719
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to fucking find out what my dog

0:45:54.800 --> 0:45:57.479
<v Speaker 1>is thinking. That's why I have a dog, not a kid.

0:45:57.560 --> 0:45:59.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm not looking for a feedback loop.

0:46:00.320 --> 0:46:01.960
<v Speaker 7>I don't want to think, and I don't want you

0:46:02.000 --> 0:46:02.319
<v Speaker 7>to think.

0:46:02.360 --> 0:46:04.560
<v Speaker 1>But I am interested to see what they know and

0:46:04.600 --> 0:46:05.319
<v Speaker 1>what they don't know.

0:46:05.800 --> 0:46:08.759
<v Speaker 6>My when my dad passed away, I went and got

0:46:08.800 --> 0:46:12.240
<v Speaker 6>his dog, and uh, whenever I would talk really sweet

0:46:12.280 --> 0:46:14.120
<v Speaker 6>to her, she would get on her back and just

0:46:14.360 --> 0:46:17.120
<v Speaker 6>you know, open her legs and arms. And so when

0:46:17.120 --> 0:46:19.040
<v Speaker 6>I would take her to the park and people are

0:46:19.080 --> 0:46:22.280
<v Speaker 6>their dogs are doing tricks, I would go, sweet, mama,

0:46:22.360 --> 0:46:24.760
<v Speaker 6>where's your coinpers?

0:46:25.120 --> 0:46:28.240
<v Speaker 7>Where's coinpers? She get on her back and open her legs.

0:46:30.280 --> 0:46:31.600
<v Speaker 1>I love when they get in that position.

0:46:31.719 --> 0:46:34.640
<v Speaker 7>You know, they look like those old fashioned copers, right,

0:46:35.800 --> 0:46:38.120
<v Speaker 7>And people were like, how did you train her.

0:46:38.040 --> 0:46:38.480
<v Speaker 8>To do that?

0:46:39.600 --> 0:46:40.040
<v Speaker 2>Command?

0:46:41.800 --> 0:46:44.319
<v Speaker 3>Well, our first caller today is Julie Brad.

0:46:44.400 --> 0:46:45.440
<v Speaker 2>We have Julie on theline.

0:46:45.880 --> 0:46:49.600
<v Speaker 3>Okay, So Julie says, dear Chelsea, how does one choose

0:46:49.640 --> 0:46:52.919
<v Speaker 3>a burial plot. I'm in my thirties and certainly hope

0:46:52.920 --> 0:46:55.000
<v Speaker 3>I won't need one for many years. But I also

0:46:55.160 --> 0:46:57.479
<v Speaker 3>realize everyone has to do this at some point before

0:46:57.520 --> 0:46:59.800
<v Speaker 3>they die, and I thought you might have some advice.

0:47:00.280 --> 0:47:02.600
<v Speaker 3>Are burial plots like condos? Do you get one that

0:47:02.680 --> 0:47:04.480
<v Speaker 3>works for now and just buy and sell them as

0:47:04.520 --> 0:47:07.840
<v Speaker 3>you move cities or your circumstances change. I've moved several

0:47:07.840 --> 0:47:09.960
<v Speaker 3>times as an adult and will likely move again, so

0:47:10.000 --> 0:47:12.799
<v Speaker 3>I don't feel particularly strongly about being buried in my

0:47:12.840 --> 0:47:16.200
<v Speaker 3>current city, my hometown, or anywhere else. I'm single, though

0:47:16.239 --> 0:47:18.600
<v Speaker 3>certainly open to a long term partner in this lifetime,

0:47:18.600 --> 0:47:20.920
<v Speaker 3>but don't plan to have kids. Should single people get

0:47:20.920 --> 0:47:23.160
<v Speaker 3>a plot for one or a two bedroom just in case?

0:47:23.680 --> 0:47:26.239
<v Speaker 3>Cremation seems simpler for a girl on the go, but

0:47:26.440 --> 0:47:29.040
<v Speaker 3>is not for me. My parents are divorced, and my

0:47:29.120 --> 0:47:31.840
<v Speaker 3>mom got their two plots in the settlement. She frequently

0:47:31.880 --> 0:47:34.120
<v Speaker 3>reminds me that she willed the extra plot to me.

0:47:34.560 --> 0:47:36.400
<v Speaker 3>If I don't get my own plot, I'll be stuck

0:47:36.480 --> 0:47:38.880
<v Speaker 3>arguing with this woman until the end of time, so

0:47:38.960 --> 0:47:40.640
<v Speaker 3>there's a little pressure to figure this out.

0:47:40.719 --> 0:47:41.800
<v Speaker 2>On the earlier side.

0:47:41.920 --> 0:47:44.160
<v Speaker 3>I hope you'll live forever and do this podcast another

0:47:44.160 --> 0:47:46.520
<v Speaker 3>one hundred years, but if you're comfortable sharing I'd love

0:47:46.560 --> 0:47:48.520
<v Speaker 3>to hear if you've made this decision for yourself and

0:47:48.560 --> 0:47:50.399
<v Speaker 3>how you did it. I don't have a death wish,

0:47:50.440 --> 0:47:51.680
<v Speaker 3>I swear, thanks, Julie.

0:47:51.719 --> 0:47:53.920
<v Speaker 1>Okay, you got to put your headphones on for this, Sherry,

0:47:54.040 --> 0:47:55.439
<v Speaker 1>because that's Julie right there.

0:47:55.680 --> 0:47:56.239
<v Speaker 7>Julie.

0:47:56.320 --> 0:47:57.120
<v Speaker 1>Hi, Julie.

0:47:57.400 --> 0:47:59.440
<v Speaker 7>I love how you're like on the gallo, on the go.

0:47:59.560 --> 0:48:00.960
<v Speaker 7>I don't have time for a funeral.

0:48:01.680 --> 0:48:04.520
<v Speaker 1>You're so funny, Julie. I can't believe you're worried about

0:48:04.520 --> 0:48:06.560
<v Speaker 1>this is the first time anyone has called in about

0:48:06.560 --> 0:48:09.920
<v Speaker 1>buying their own burial plot, and I honestly, first of all,

0:48:09.920 --> 0:48:12.080
<v Speaker 1>you already have one next to your mother. I really

0:48:12.080 --> 0:48:15.719
<v Speaker 1>don't believe you guys will be fighting in the afterlife.

0:48:15.440 --> 0:48:19.439
<v Speaker 1>I I love that you are consumed with this. I've

0:48:19.480 --> 0:48:23.880
<v Speaker 1>never heard anyone talk about this ever at your age.

0:48:24.120 --> 0:48:26.279
<v Speaker 1>What do you think? Why do you think you are

0:48:26.320 --> 0:48:27.160
<v Speaker 1>so consumed with this?

0:48:27.160 --> 0:48:27.600
<v Speaker 2>Planner?

0:48:28.520 --> 0:48:30.680
<v Speaker 4>I am a planner, I mean part of it. I

0:48:30.760 --> 0:48:34.160
<v Speaker 4>certainly put off making, like you know, real decisions in

0:48:34.239 --> 0:48:39.719
<v Speaker 4>my life by focusing on these not immediate decisions. I

0:48:39.760 --> 0:48:43.080
<v Speaker 4>definitely think about it when I do talk to my

0:48:43.120 --> 0:48:46.320
<v Speaker 4>mom and she reminds me that I've got this plot

0:48:46.320 --> 0:48:49.759
<v Speaker 4>waiting for me in Cleveland. I've been thinking about it.

0:48:49.880 --> 0:48:53.400
<v Speaker 4>Where I went to go visit my dad, the total

0:48:53.440 --> 0:48:56.560
<v Speaker 4>solar eclipse was over my dad's place and I went

0:48:56.600 --> 0:48:58.320
<v Speaker 4>to visit and I was like, where are we watching

0:48:58.360 --> 0:49:01.400
<v Speaker 4>this eclipse? And he was like, oh, my cemetery plot.

0:49:01.520 --> 0:49:03.279
<v Speaker 4>I own it. No one else is going to be

0:49:03.280 --> 0:49:06.880
<v Speaker 4>disturbed by a seeing there. It's like, oh, people can hate.

0:49:06.760 --> 0:49:08.880
<v Speaker 7>It that you use your plot before you die.

0:49:09.040 --> 0:49:11.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, there's a lot of them, a lot talking in

0:49:11.320 --> 0:49:15.320
<v Speaker 1>your family, so I feel like it's hereditary. I honestly

0:49:15.400 --> 0:49:18.480
<v Speaker 1>don't have that. I haven't planned for my I I

0:49:18.560 --> 0:49:21.600
<v Speaker 1>want to be cremated, so I know you said you don't,

0:49:22.120 --> 0:49:24.200
<v Speaker 1>But if this is really way, I just don't know

0:49:24.239 --> 0:49:27.160
<v Speaker 1>how you can discern at this stage in your life.

0:49:27.200 --> 0:49:29.120
<v Speaker 1>What if you meet someone, what if you end up

0:49:29.360 --> 0:49:32.080
<v Speaker 1>having a big family, whether you have what if you

0:49:32.160 --> 0:49:34.279
<v Speaker 1>marry somebody who as children and you want to be

0:49:34.320 --> 0:49:37.279
<v Speaker 1>buried with their family, I mean, being buried next to

0:49:37.320 --> 0:49:41.680
<v Speaker 1>your mom. To me, sounds like a fine idea. Yeah, well,

0:49:41.719 --> 0:49:44.279
<v Speaker 1>but also it's already a built in plot, and you're

0:49:44.320 --> 0:49:47.960
<v Speaker 1>obsessed with plots, and you already have a plot in Cleveland,

0:49:48.800 --> 0:49:49.440
<v Speaker 1>I would.

0:49:49.200 --> 0:49:52.200
<v Speaker 4>Not say this is a consuming problem for me. I

0:49:52.400 --> 0:49:58.360
<v Speaker 4>just I honestly never knew any like nobody my age

0:49:58.400 --> 0:50:01.200
<v Speaker 4>is by the cemetery plot. I don't know if this

0:50:01.280 --> 0:50:02.439
<v Speaker 4>is a thing people have.

0:50:02.640 --> 0:50:04.600
<v Speaker 7>You're a gal on the go. You need ashes that

0:50:04.680 --> 0:50:05.200
<v Speaker 7>are on the go.

0:50:05.800 --> 0:50:08.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know. I think you should reconsider cremation. I

0:50:08.960 --> 0:50:12.520
<v Speaker 1>do too. It's better for the environment, and also then

0:50:12.560 --> 0:50:14.719
<v Speaker 1>you don't have to this is way. Why are you

0:50:14.760 --> 0:50:15.560
<v Speaker 1>against cremation.

0:50:16.400 --> 0:50:22.200
<v Speaker 4>I'm not against cremation generally. It's not traditionally Jewish to

0:50:22.760 --> 0:50:23.760
<v Speaker 4>do cremation.

0:50:23.560 --> 0:50:27.160
<v Speaker 7>Right right, Yeah, you can pick out your urn now.

0:50:27.400 --> 0:50:29.440
<v Speaker 4>Even if you cremate, you have to decide where your

0:50:29.520 --> 0:50:31.640
<v Speaker 4>remains go, So that's true.

0:50:31.880 --> 0:50:33.399
<v Speaker 1>You can't think you just go on the plot next

0:50:33.400 --> 0:50:33.879
<v Speaker 1>to your mother.

0:50:35.440 --> 0:50:36.960
<v Speaker 3>She's really trying to get you next to mom.

0:50:37.160 --> 0:50:39.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm Jewish too, but I don't really hold any regard

0:50:39.640 --> 0:50:41.800
<v Speaker 1>for like, you know what we're supposed to do based

0:50:41.840 --> 0:50:45.359
<v Speaker 1>on our religion. I honestly don't know what to tell you,

0:50:45.600 --> 0:50:47.680
<v Speaker 1>except for the fact that I don't think you should

0:50:47.719 --> 0:50:49.799
<v Speaker 1>be thinking about this at this stage. You're not. You

0:50:49.840 --> 0:50:52.279
<v Speaker 1>don't know where life's gonna take you. You said you're

0:50:52.280 --> 0:50:53.840
<v Speaker 1>only in your thirties, right.

0:50:54.400 --> 0:50:56.920
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's why I was just wondering if people just

0:50:57.280 --> 0:50:58.000
<v Speaker 4>pulled off on them.

0:50:58.040 --> 0:51:00.400
<v Speaker 1>Do people do this? Have you thought about your Is

0:51:00.440 --> 0:51:02.080
<v Speaker 1>this a thing I'm gonna know?

0:51:02.520 --> 0:51:04.000
<v Speaker 7>But I do love Forest Lawn?

0:51:04.400 --> 0:51:04.640
<v Speaker 4>I do.

0:51:05.360 --> 0:51:07.200
<v Speaker 6>I take my drive past here. I'm like, if I

0:51:07.360 --> 0:51:09.359
<v Speaker 6>don't cremate, this is where I.

0:51:09.320 --> 0:51:12.720
<v Speaker 1>Want to be. Forest Lawn is a really in the valley.

0:51:12.840 --> 0:51:15.720
<v Speaker 1>And I was gonna say, in America, in the valley

0:51:15.760 --> 0:51:18.000
<v Speaker 1>in Los Angeles. So if you are looking for a

0:51:18.080 --> 0:51:21.160
<v Speaker 1>nice cemetery, you should check that one out. Law, But

0:51:21.280 --> 0:51:23.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't have a lot of cemetery referrals.

0:51:25.000 --> 0:51:28.160
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you should google, like America's most Beautiful Cemetery.

0:51:28.280 --> 0:51:29.680
<v Speaker 1>Yes, that's a great idea.

0:51:29.760 --> 0:51:32.840
<v Speaker 4>Yeah yeah, I mean I could spend I could be

0:51:32.840 --> 0:51:34.919
<v Speaker 4>consumed with, you know, becoming more famous, so I could

0:51:34.920 --> 0:51:37.520
<v Speaker 4>get into one of the nicer cemeteries. No, it's really not.

0:51:37.800 --> 0:51:39.560
<v Speaker 4>It's not something that I think you imagine.

0:51:39.560 --> 0:51:42.279
<v Speaker 6>I can't get into that cemetery. Everybody wants to get in.

0:51:42.360 --> 0:51:43.000
<v Speaker 2>It's too hot.

0:51:43.400 --> 0:51:44.960
<v Speaker 7>Who do you know? You got to know somebody.

0:51:45.480 --> 0:51:47.520
<v Speaker 1>It starts in preschool and ends in death.

0:51:47.680 --> 0:51:51.120
<v Speaker 6>Oh my god, just got into wagon Wheel Cemetery.

0:51:53.040 --> 0:51:56.239
<v Speaker 1>I do really appreciate the question because you're really live

0:51:56.280 --> 0:51:58.400
<v Speaker 1>and things up and freshen things up in terms of.

0:51:58.920 --> 0:51:59.879
<v Speaker 7>Things up about death.

0:52:00.080 --> 0:52:02.239
<v Speaker 1>Uh huh, that's right. Not a lot of people could

0:52:02.239 --> 0:52:04.600
<v Speaker 1>do that. But it's also a great conversation starter for

0:52:04.640 --> 0:52:06.560
<v Speaker 1>when you're out and about and see what other people

0:52:06.560 --> 0:52:07.040
<v Speaker 1>are saying.

0:52:07.480 --> 0:52:11.480
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, maybe I'll just start asking people bringing it up idea. Yeah,

0:52:11.480 --> 0:52:13.279
<v Speaker 4>I don't know if people just kind of have this.

0:52:13.400 --> 0:52:16.560
<v Speaker 4>The people that I know that have plots are have

0:52:16.680 --> 0:52:20.239
<v Speaker 4>some sort of like family plot that they're very tied to, which.

0:52:20.360 --> 0:52:22.319
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we didn't get a plot in our family. I

0:52:22.320 --> 0:52:25.160
<v Speaker 1>remember my brother died, so then they my parents had

0:52:25.160 --> 0:52:28.600
<v Speaker 1>to get him obviously unexpectedly, like a plot, and then

0:52:28.640 --> 0:52:30.960
<v Speaker 1>they bought their two plots so that they would be

0:52:31.000 --> 0:52:34.560
<v Speaker 1>buried next to him. And then the rest of us

0:52:34.600 --> 0:52:36.359
<v Speaker 1>were like, I guess we'll just do our own thing.

0:52:39.239 --> 0:52:42.280
<v Speaker 1>I have no fucking idea what to tell you. I don't,

0:52:42.400 --> 0:52:43.720
<v Speaker 1>but I really liked the question.

0:52:43.840 --> 0:52:48.919
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, your own The one thing I will say, as

0:52:49.000 --> 0:52:51.440
<v Speaker 3>like the daughter of an elder law attorney, because I

0:52:51.480 --> 0:52:54.680
<v Speaker 3>have this sort of useless information right aling around. Later

0:52:54.760 --> 0:52:56.960
<v Speaker 3>in life, you can pre buy a plot and it

0:52:57.000 --> 0:52:59.280
<v Speaker 3>doesn't necessarily have to be attached to a certain location,

0:52:59.680 --> 0:53:01.880
<v Speaker 3>but you can like spend the money on a plot

0:53:02.000 --> 0:53:04.120
<v Speaker 3>to like guard some of your assets. It's like one

0:53:04.200 --> 0:53:06.720
<v Speaker 3>of the things that elder attorneys do to help safeguard

0:53:06.719 --> 0:53:07.240
<v Speaker 3>your estates.

0:53:07.280 --> 0:53:09.480
<v Speaker 2>So, but that's down the road very far.

0:53:09.719 --> 0:53:12.799
<v Speaker 1>But that seems like it's perfectly dovetails with what she's

0:53:12.840 --> 0:53:13.719
<v Speaker 1>trying to accomplish.

0:53:13.960 --> 0:53:15.280
<v Speaker 2>Maybe an elder attorney.

0:53:15.440 --> 0:53:18.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I can start talking an elder law attorney.

0:53:18.440 --> 0:53:21.279
<v Speaker 4>Oh my god, they're gonna I don't know what that

0:53:21.440 --> 0:53:25.359
<v Speaker 4>person would say to this question. I know, I don't know.

0:53:25.560 --> 0:53:28.000
<v Speaker 4>I just you know, things come up in life and

0:53:29.440 --> 0:53:32.520
<v Speaker 4>it turns out people have been thinking about them for years.

0:53:33.560 --> 0:53:36.160
<v Speaker 3>Yes, I do want more questions like this, So if

0:53:36.160 --> 0:53:38.360
<v Speaker 3>you have questions like this, please write into.

0:53:38.560 --> 0:53:41.040
<v Speaker 1>Please write answer. We could give you non answers. I'm

0:53:41.120 --> 0:53:42.200
<v Speaker 1>very excited about that.

0:53:42.480 --> 0:53:45.000
<v Speaker 4>As I was, you know, leading up to this conversation,

0:53:45.120 --> 0:53:47.520
<v Speaker 4>it was like, I feel like people right into this

0:53:47.600 --> 0:53:51.120
<v Speaker 4>podcast and they're like, my husband isn't flossing. What do

0:53:51.200 --> 0:53:52.920
<v Speaker 4>I do? And then once they get on the phone

0:53:52.920 --> 0:53:54.919
<v Speaker 4>with you, they're like, I actually have an update since

0:53:54.920 --> 0:53:59.760
<v Speaker 4>I talked to Catherine. I've murdered my husband. How any advice,

0:54:00.200 --> 0:54:03.719
<v Speaker 4>like stay into comedy careers in prison. I'm like, what

0:54:03.800 --> 0:54:05.799
<v Speaker 4>updates do I have, Like that I've died since I

0:54:05.840 --> 0:54:06.759
<v Speaker 4>wrote in I don't know.

0:54:06.840 --> 0:54:11.560
<v Speaker 1>It's not going I think it, Yes, it is. You

0:54:11.640 --> 0:54:14.000
<v Speaker 1>need to keep a surprise of what you do find

0:54:14.040 --> 0:54:16.200
<v Speaker 1>out because I think you're going to start a whole

0:54:16.239 --> 0:54:17.640
<v Speaker 1>new trend for this podcast.

0:54:18.200 --> 0:54:22.000
<v Speaker 6>I find death very very interesting, do you, Yeah, because

0:54:22.560 --> 0:54:25.799
<v Speaker 6>I did this thing where I for like two years,

0:54:25.920 --> 0:54:28.200
<v Speaker 6>I just went to bed and I would always just

0:54:28.200 --> 0:54:29.960
<v Speaker 6>listen to near death experience stories.

0:54:30.480 --> 0:54:31.520
<v Speaker 7>They're so beautiful.

0:54:32.000 --> 0:54:34.839
<v Speaker 6>It's like being told a story and I would fall

0:54:34.880 --> 0:54:40.400
<v Speaker 6>asleep to the most beautiful story that everybody from every background,

0:54:41.040 --> 0:54:44.680
<v Speaker 6>you know, they experienced. Especially with medical advancements, so many

0:54:44.719 --> 0:54:49.200
<v Speaker 6>people are being revived and the stories are so beautiful.

0:54:49.440 --> 0:54:52.319
<v Speaker 1>Where do you find those on YouTube? Yeah?

0:54:52.320 --> 0:54:54.840
<v Speaker 3>And I just read a book of near death experiences.

0:54:54.840 --> 0:54:55.640
<v Speaker 3>I'll put the link in.

0:54:55.560 --> 0:54:59.680
<v Speaker 7>The Brian Weiss, Betty J Betty JA.

0:55:00.200 --> 0:55:03.560
<v Speaker 6>I've read so many books on near death experience stories

0:55:04.000 --> 0:55:07.000
<v Speaker 6>and they change the lives of the people that have

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<v Speaker 6>had the experience.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that many masters many lives Brian Wise, Okay, these

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of books. Yeah, so start reading books about death.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, a cemetery.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I think you need to start some sort

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<v Speaker 1>of online club or a Facebook group to find out

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<v Speaker 1>how many other people are like you thinking about this, like.

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<v Speaker 4>A chosen family cemetery.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, people with the same interests exactly.

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<v Speaker 7>You come from a dysfunctional family, you get to choose.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, well, thank you for calling.

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<v Speaker 4>In, Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Bye. Sorry for all the dog interruptions. Somehow ray J

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<v Speaker 1>got loose.

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<v Speaker 7>That to me is not an interruption.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I do have one more caller, and she's sort

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<v Speaker 3>of like on the brink of starting a new life.

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<v Speaker 2>Do we want to.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, let's do that, and then we'll wrap things up.

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<v Speaker 1>And we have to promote scary movie, which is where

0:56:08.320 --> 0:56:10.760
<v Speaker 1>you're here in the first place, because you're in scary

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<v Speaker 1>movie and it's coming out.

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<v Speaker 7>Actually, I'm here because of you.

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<v Speaker 1>You're you're here because you love to be interviewed.

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<v Speaker 6>No, I just love you. But yeah, scary movies. Is

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<v Speaker 6>it should be cool? It's so funny to cook twenty

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<v Speaker 6>five years later.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I know, isn't that crazy? It is so

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<v Speaker 1>crazy all of these things that are happening from twenty

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<v Speaker 1>like these remakes and continuations you're like when you were little,

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<v Speaker 1>you thought twenty five years was the end of the world. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>And the fact that we're all still kind of looking

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<v Speaker 1>remotely the same and at the same premises work and

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<v Speaker 1>the same plot it is pretty fascinating. Yeah, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>such a great franchise. People fucking love scary movies.

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<v Speaker 6>I can't believe it. I can't believe how much, how

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<v Speaker 6>excited so many people are for this. Yeah, they really are,

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<v Speaker 6>you know. Yeah it was fun.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well, Gretchen says dear Chelsea. I've been a fan

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<v Speaker 3>for a long time. I really appreciate how clearly you

0:57:03.280 --> 0:57:05.920
<v Speaker 3>live your life on your own terms. I'm forty one,

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<v Speaker 3>a therapist in the Midwest and a widow. My husband

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<v Speaker 3>died by suicide several years ago. Since then, I've done

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<v Speaker 3>everything I was supposed to do, grieved, rebuilt, stayed functional,

0:57:15.000 --> 0:57:20.240
<v Speaker 3>and kept my life together. On paper, it works. I'm stable, responsible, fine.

0:57:20.360 --> 0:57:23.360
<v Speaker 3>I just don't feel like I belong in it. Internally,

0:57:23.440 --> 0:57:25.560
<v Speaker 3>I feel more and more out of place, stir crazy

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<v Speaker 3>where I am craving a different environment, different work, and

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<v Speaker 3>a different kind of community. I'm planning to move to

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<v Speaker 3>New York City soon and build something more aligned. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>open to partnership even marriage again, but I'm not attached

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<v Speaker 3>to a timeline, and I don't have kids. I'm starting

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<v Speaker 3>to accept that my life doesn't look anything like I

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<v Speaker 3>once thought it would, or like the lives of most

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<v Speaker 3>people around me. From the outside, it looks like I'd

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<v Speaker 3>be walking away from a perfectly good life. I can't

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<v Speaker 3>always tell if what I'm feeling is real clarity or restlessness,

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<v Speaker 3>grief and burnout. So I guess what I'm asking is,

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<v Speaker 3>how do you trust yourself when your life looks fine

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<v Speaker 3>feels off? How do you know your fall your intuition

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<v Speaker 3>and not just blowing up something stable because it no

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<v Speaker 3>longer fits. And how do you fully step into a

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<v Speaker 3>life that's more honest for you when it doesn't look

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<v Speaker 3>like what you expected or what anyone around you is choosing.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm right at the edge of changing my life, and

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to ignore that or talk myself out

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<v Speaker 3>of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Warmly, Gretchen, Hi, Gretchen Grety, what a beautiful letter. This

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<v Speaker 1>is Sherry Terry, our special guest Day. Yeah. First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so sorry that you lost your husband. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>imagine what you must have gone through and your letter

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<v Speaker 1>almost has kind of the answers that you're looking for. Truly,

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<v Speaker 1>like you are stepping into the unknown, that is that

0:58:42.360 --> 0:58:46.080
<v Speaker 1>is not comfortable. There are moments of discomfort along the

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<v Speaker 1>way in all of our lives. And the only thing

0:58:50.200 --> 0:58:52.400
<v Speaker 1>that you can tell yourself all the time is that

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<v Speaker 1>none of these phases are permanent. All of your feelings

0:58:55.880 --> 0:58:59.600
<v Speaker 1>of discomfort are temporary. And moving into a new space,

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<v Speaker 1>start a new life, which is the exact advice I

0:59:02.080 --> 0:59:03.960
<v Speaker 1>would be giving you. I would say, get up and

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<v Speaker 1>move to a new city. And you're already doing that,

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<v Speaker 1>moving into this new version of you. And what you

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<v Speaker 1>said is you're about to live a life. This is

0:59:12.760 --> 0:59:15.480
<v Speaker 1>life is not how you expected it to be. Welcome

0:59:15.520 --> 0:59:19.840
<v Speaker 1>to the world, right, none of us have gotten exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what we wanted or when we wanted to get it,

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<v Speaker 1>or have held on to the people that we love

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<v Speaker 1>the most. It just doesn't work that way. But what

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<v Speaker 1>is beautiful is when you accept the situation that you're

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<v Speaker 1>in and you figure out how to make that beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>and how to build back again, because there is so

0:59:39.200 --> 0:59:44.080
<v Speaker 1>much beauty in that. And I have no qualms or

0:59:44.200 --> 0:59:49.400
<v Speaker 1>uneasiness about how bright your future is just your letter alone.

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<v Speaker 1>You already got it. You're there.

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<v Speaker 7>Your life, life breaks you down to open you up.

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<v Speaker 1>What do they do? Snap? This is it? This is

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<v Speaker 1>what the kids do. And actually, so I guess. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm telling you everything.

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<v Speaker 6>You have the answers, but you're judging yourself, and you

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<v Speaker 6>know it's a you adhere to these social norms that

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<v Speaker 6>just don't.

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<v Speaker 7>Fit you, you know.

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<v Speaker 6>So it's kind of like you already know what to do,

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<v Speaker 6>but you think you're supposed to be sure. Everything is

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<v Speaker 6>supposed to be. There's no guarantees, but you know the

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<v Speaker 6>old thing of follow your heart and where you think

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<v Speaker 6>you might want to go. I'm telling you, if bad

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<v Speaker 6>things didn't happen to me, I would have probably gone

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<v Speaker 6>in a direction that wouldn't have served me well for

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<v Speaker 6>the long run.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, talk about unexpected life. I mean, everything we've just

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<v Speaker 1>talked about you weren't expecting in your life. But also

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<v Speaker 1>the unknown is comfortable, and trust the unknown when things

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<v Speaker 1>are uneasy and you're not sure, trust it. Just trust

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<v Speaker 1>that you're where you're supposed to be. And I know

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<v Speaker 1>that doesn't feel sometimes that feels like something like trite

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<v Speaker 1>to say, but it is the biggest lesson that I

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<v Speaker 1>have learned is the moments of discomfort. There is always

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<v Speaker 1>a light at the end of your tunnel, always, and

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<v Speaker 1>there says there's going to be another tunnel too, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and then there's going to be a light at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of that. So just make sure when you're in

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<v Speaker 1>these moments, you're really in them. When you're in the grief,

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<v Speaker 1>be in it. When you're in the light, be in

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<v Speaker 1>the light and trust yourself because you're on the right track.

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<v Speaker 7>The universe is moving you.

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<v Speaker 1>You're emitting light. I can see it coming off of

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<v Speaker 1>your life, body, your soul.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm telling you, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Love it so so you're doing everything and we're cheering

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<v Speaker 1>you on, sir.

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<v Speaker 4>I love your mission.

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<v Speaker 1>You got it, you got it. Go live out loud.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you much.

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<v Speaker 4>I really appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>Sending you so much love.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you us posted. Send us a postcard when you

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<v Speaker 2>get to New York. Okay, absolutely, yes, I will do.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Bye bye, Gretchen. Awesome. I know what a wonderful

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<v Speaker 1>ending to today's episode. I love that.

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<v Speaker 3>And she's not like a timeline too, like she's like

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<v Speaker 3>on the move. It's probably happening in a few months.

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<v Speaker 2>She's doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a great letter for anyone who's sitting or listening

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<v Speaker 1>to this thinking like, how do I pick up the

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<v Speaker 1>pieces of an unexpected you know, something happening in your

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<v Speaker 1>life that's unexpected, which is what life is. Cherry, I

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<v Speaker 1>love you. You are just a bundle of joy. Scary Movie

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<v Speaker 1>six is in theaters now. You can go experience that

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<v Speaker 1>bundle of joy.

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<v Speaker 7>And uh, I'm doing celebrity autobiography.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh great, way. Oh I'm gonna come see you. Yeah

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<v Speaker 1>for sure. When is it? When does that start?

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, it's already started, but they're changing cast members and

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<v Speaker 6>I am doing it from I'll be there until the sixth,

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<v Speaker 6>so like I think the twenty ninth of Everybod, the

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<v Speaker 6>end of June, sasy Pants, the end of June.

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<v Speaker 7>Okay, I'm going to beat June twenty nine.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, the sixth of July. Yeah, I will come to

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<v Speaker 1>see you, all right. I have that window because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going on a trip and I'm going to come through

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<v Speaker 1>the East Coast. I'm coming to see you and.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm going to Mayorka.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Robin said, yeah, yeah you Robin. Y'all get out

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<v Speaker 1>of my house, Robin, Right, I love it. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for being here.

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<v Speaker 7>My pledge.

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