WEBVTT - What a Bad Weekend Taught Me About Resilience | MINISODE

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<v Speaker 3>Welcome to Cultivating her Space. I'm doctor dom, a college

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>before we jump into today's episode, we want to share

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<v Speaker 1>us over the years. Now let's get into the mini

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<v Speaker 1>episode Okay, So lady, I already told don this story,

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<v Speaker 1>but I want to get you caught up on the

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<v Speaker 1>group chat, okay, because this experience almost took me out.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, So lady, if you don't know, I have

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<v Speaker 1>a five year old babys she's pretty much grew up

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<v Speaker 1>with the podcast, and she recently became obsessed with camping.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know where she heard this idea. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know where she saw it, but she wanted to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was not raised that way. Okay, we glamped.

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<v Speaker 1>I was in Girl Scouts. We did a different type

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<v Speaker 1>of camping experience, right, We had cabins, we didn't do

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<v Speaker 1>the whole surviving in the wilderness type of vibe. But

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<v Speaker 1>Babyzy's told me that she wanted to go camping and

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<v Speaker 1>pitch a tent and sleep outside and lord, kids, they

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<v Speaker 1>will really make you grow. So me, being the mom

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<v Speaker 1>that I am, I'm like, all right, girl, we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do this camping. So I did some research and I

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<v Speaker 1>found this family campground and they have a camp night,

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<v Speaker 1>which is so funny because I saw it around the

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<v Speaker 1>same time that she had. So I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's great. So I literally just went through the house

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<v Speaker 1>and I saw that we had a beach tint that

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<v Speaker 1>we used before, and we had some other supplies. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, all right, cool. I packed up a suitcase

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<v Speaker 1>and thought we were ready to go.

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<v Speaker 2>Suitcase girl, girl.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, I'm just down.

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<v Speaker 1>Let you tell you no, you are so right, because girl,

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<v Speaker 1>why I didn't Here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I did not know what I didn't know. So here

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<v Speaker 2>we go.

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<v Speaker 1>We get there, I'm lugging a suitcase through the mud,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm looking around at everybody else. I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>they don't have suitcases. Okay, something's not adding up. I

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<v Speaker 1>noticed people have all these I just hear a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of noise. I hear someone they're in a tent, and

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<v Speaker 1>I hear like a modem, and I'm like, what could

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<v Speaker 1>they possibly have there? I don't know what's going on.

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<v Speaker 1>All I know is I'm out there trying to pitch

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<v Speaker 1>this tent.

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<v Speaker 2>Babies. He's not help, but she's doing her own thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because she's five.

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<v Speaker 2>Why she's five, right?

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<v Speaker 1>You got to execute exactly, That's exactly how it goes.

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<v Speaker 1>So we get there and I'm pitching the tent. It

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<v Speaker 1>took forever. It was so difficult, but we got it,

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<v Speaker 1>so we get inside. We got mud all over the place,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's fine. I put the blankets down down. We're

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<v Speaker 1>in there, chilling, and then of course torrential downpour begins,

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<v Speaker 1>and not only does it begin to rain. We're sitting

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<v Speaker 1>there and babies wants to play a game, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>why am I getting wet? I feel water, So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>looking up. Girl, there's water that is dripping through the

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<v Speaker 1>ceiling ceiling of the top of the tent, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>feeling I'm looking for something on the bottom of the tent.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think we were trying to get something. And

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<v Speaker 1>I reached down and the bottom of the blankets are

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<v Speaker 1>getting soaked. I have like a couple of blankets and

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<v Speaker 1>I have sleeping bags, and I'm just like, what is happening.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm literally in the tent and then my daughter

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<v Speaker 1>starts crying about something, her ear hurts or something. I'm like, baby,

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<v Speaker 1>this is not this is not the time. Like we

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<v Speaker 1>got to figure something out. So I explained to her

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on, and then I'm sorry. I start calling

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<v Speaker 1>hotels and the erics. I'm like, we can't stay here

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<v Speaker 1>because if it's over, we're already getting wet. Now if

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<v Speaker 1>we sleep here, we will be soaked and sick in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning. So I explained to her, like, okay, baby,

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<v Speaker 1>we have to find a plan B And I just

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<v Speaker 1>felt so defeated, and I remember looking around Tom and

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<v Speaker 1>I was just like, I wish there was a different

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<v Speaker 1>adult here to handle this.

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<v Speaker 2>This is overwhelming.

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<v Speaker 1>So long story short, I packed up everything because all

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<v Speaker 1>the hotels were booked. It was around prom season, so

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<v Speaker 1>everyone was booked, and we drove home with wet shit

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<v Speaker 1>in the trunk.

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<v Speaker 2>I was exhausted.

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<v Speaker 1>So we literally drove down that day a couple hours,

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<v Speaker 1>pitched the tent, put everything in the trunk, drove back home,

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<v Speaker 1>and again it's downpouring, And so my thought was not camping.

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<v Speaker 2>Is not for us.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll tell you what the thought was, but I want

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<v Speaker 1>to know first, have you ever experienced or had an

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<v Speaker 1>experience where the one thing, the one time you did it,

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<v Speaker 1>it went wrong and so you wanted to swear off

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<v Speaker 1>the whole experience.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like, f this, I ain't doing this no more.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a great question, and of course nothing is coming

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<v Speaker 3>to me right now, and I'm sure after we're done

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<v Speaker 3>recording this episode, five different incidents are going to pop

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<v Speaker 3>up in my mind and I'm gonna be like, oh shit,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I knew I should have had a I knew

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<v Speaker 3>I should have talked about that. Right now, nothing, nothing,

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<v Speaker 3>nothing is coming to me. But I mean, I think

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<v Speaker 3>as you're sharing your story, I think the thing that

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<v Speaker 3>that the couple of things that immediately come up for

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<v Speaker 3>me are like one, I think it's so cool that

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<v Speaker 3>you haven't done this type of camping before and you

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<v Speaker 3>were willing to try it for.

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<v Speaker 2>Your baby, right, thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>Like the openness and the willingness to try new things.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's so it's so important and it's it's

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<v Speaker 3>a good it's a good life lesson for baby Z. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and that's that's just just hearing the first part of

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<v Speaker 3>the story.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh thank you for sharing that, girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah that felt that feels good as a mom because

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<v Speaker 1>I had a couple of people say that as well,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, oh, thank you for me. It

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<v Speaker 1>was just like my baby says she wants is we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna try to make it happen. But I appreciate that.

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<v Speaker 1>And when I thought about this, right, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>this is way bigger than camping, and I think It's

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<v Speaker 1>about what we do after disappointment, right, because how many

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<v Speaker 1>times have we had a dream and idea and it

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<v Speaker 1>dies because of one bad experience?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>We might fail once and then suddenly, oh I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>a camping person. Oh I'm not athletic. Oh I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>good with money, or you know, I'm not meant to

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<v Speaker 1>have my own business.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, we say no after a hard day, and so I.

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<v Speaker 1>Think it it presents us with an opportunity to ask ourselves.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, why do why do we quit so quickly? Right?

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<v Speaker 1>Why do we let one experience define us in our

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<v Speaker 1>experience our future experiences.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's a good point. I think. I wonder if

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<v Speaker 3>part of it for me, why I'm having a hard

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<v Speaker 3>time coming up with the story is because I don't

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<v Speaker 3>like failure, and so I tend to be that person

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<v Speaker 3>that like might be I might be saying all kinds

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<v Speaker 3>and nasty words. Yeah, if I started it, I gotta

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<v Speaker 3>keep at it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So, like I think about I think about going hiking,

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<v Speaker 3>and I have a fear of heights, well, not necessarily heights.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't mind being high up. Necessarily, I have a

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<v Speaker 3>fear of falling. And that's what keeps me from going

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<v Speaker 3>into like heights. And so I remember it was a

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<v Speaker 3>few months ago for a friend's birthday and we were

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<v Speaker 3>all hiking. There was a group of us hiking, and

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<v Speaker 3>that trail started to get a little steep. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't have any hiking gear with me, like it's

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<v Speaker 3>just us, right, And I remember having some moments where

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, I'm about to turn around and go

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<v Speaker 3>back down, go back the way I came, because this

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<v Speaker 3>is looking like a bit too much for me, out

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<v Speaker 3>of my element. Like I like, I had that conversation

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<v Speaker 3>a couple of.

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<v Speaker 1>Times with yourself, not with anyone.

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<v Speaker 3>Else, myself, not with anyone else, with myself. In my mind,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like contemplating life, like, girl, what were we about

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<v Speaker 3>to do?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay?

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<v Speaker 3>And then I'm looking around at everybody else, and everybody's

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<v Speaker 3>doing it, Like now, I don't know what's going on

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<v Speaker 3>in other people say its because some people look like

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<v Speaker 3>they are just like there are a couple of folks

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<v Speaker 3>that are way ahead and they look like this is

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<v Speaker 3>their thing. They do this all the time. And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't have no idea what's going through anybody else's mind.

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<v Speaker 3>But everybody is still going. So you know what, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>not gonna be the one that does it. And I said,

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<v Speaker 3>and I did say out loud at one point, like

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<v Speaker 3>I listen, y'all, this is a struggle for me. But uh,

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<v Speaker 3>but but I'm hearing I'm gonna keep doing this, yeah

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<v Speaker 3>and so and so I think for me, that's part

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<v Speaker 3>of why I like what's coming up is that, like

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<v Speaker 3>I keep, I keep going, I don't like to fail.

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<v Speaker 3>And so even if it's gonna take me a little

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<v Speaker 3>bit longer or i'm gonna have, like I said, use

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<v Speaker 3>some nasty words to get me through it, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna find a way to make it happen. As

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<v Speaker 3>we're having this conversation, something that kept coming up for

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<v Speaker 3>me was how deeply our health is connected to everything else,

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<v Speaker 1>I love that you share that, and I think that

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<v Speaker 1>makes perfect sense because I feel like we're both competitive

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<v Speaker 1>with ourselves where it's like, oh no, this ain't gonna

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<v Speaker 1>own me, because that's what I said. Oh, after that girl,

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<v Speaker 1>I started looking at it. I started researching. Okay, and

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<v Speaker 1>so we we we went home, but I said, this

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<v Speaker 1>trip ain't gonna kick my ass like this is this

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<v Speaker 1>will not be the memory that we have of camping.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna figure this out.

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<v Speaker 1>So I literally instead of you know, saying camping isn't

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<v Speaker 1>for me and black people don't camp because that was

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<v Speaker 1>another thing my friends was like.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl, we all be camping, we do glimping. We won't

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<v Speaker 2>be out there. I said, listen, my baby said she

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to do. We want to.

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<v Speaker 3>I had another friend to you because that girl going so.

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<v Speaker 1>Look, I literally open chatchpt because you know, me and

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<v Speaker 1>chat go together real bad. And I was like, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>this is I sent a picture, this is my tent

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<v Speaker 1>set up? What am I missing? And the first I

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<v Speaker 1>learned that a wagon would be very helpful as opposed

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<v Speaker 1>to a suitcase.

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<v Speaker 4>Y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't. I didn't, not motherfucker know. I just it

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<v Speaker 2>was the biggest thing I could use. At the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, all right, I can stuff all this

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<v Speaker 1>stuff in there. So no, we're not doing suitcases. We

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<v Speaker 1>gotta we have an official collapsible wagon. Now. Also, what

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<v Speaker 1>I learned was the beach tint that I used in

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<v Speaker 1>the sand is not the tint that you want to

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<v Speaker 1>use when you go out to the campground, especially when

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<v Speaker 1>it's raining.

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<v Speaker 4>Duh.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't know though, I had no idea. I just

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<v Speaker 2>said as a tent because I.

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<v Speaker 3>Was like, wait, I just learned something here.

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<v Speaker 2>I know a difference I didn't know. I got some tarp.

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<v Speaker 1>I was googling. I got some tarp. I got us

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<v Speaker 1>a blow up bed. I got us a portable so

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<v Speaker 1>that the modem I heard another person's tent it was.

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<v Speaker 1>It was there called I forgot what it's called, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's like a portable elect electrical box type of

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<v Speaker 1>thing where you can plug in your blow up bed

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<v Speaker 1>and blow it up a generator, like a portable generator.

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<v Speaker 1>So girl, we had that. So the next camping trip,

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<v Speaker 1>okay that we did it was fire. I'm ready to

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<v Speaker 1>go again, And I told I sent down pictures. So

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<v Speaker 1>we had our blow up bed. We had so much space.

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<v Speaker 1>The other tent. We was touching each other anywhere we

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<v Speaker 1>sat in the tent. This tent we had space for

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<v Speaker 1>our bags, We had tarp underneath. Baby, I was ready

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<v Speaker 1>for the rain, because if it rained, I had a

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<v Speaker 1>thing for the top. I was ready. We had our

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<v Speaker 1>little lantern and it was amazing. And so the second

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<v Speaker 1>trip was completely different, right, And I think the biggest

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<v Speaker 1>lesson here was like I wasn't bad at camping. I

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<v Speaker 1>was just unprepared and uninformed and so or yeah, uninformed

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<v Speaker 1>and informed, uninformed, And so what I what I did

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<v Speaker 1>was I did my research, I changed changed it up,

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<v Speaker 1>and I had a better experience.

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<v Speaker 3>It sounds, yeah, that that better experience, that that second

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<v Speaker 3>experience sound definitely sounds like the better experience. And so

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<v Speaker 3>you think back, what is the thing that kept you

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<v Speaker 3>like that made you say, Okay, we're gonna try this

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<v Speaker 3>again instead of saying it didn't work. So we tried.

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<v Speaker 3>I tried it once that we can say I could

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<v Speaker 3>check that off the list. We tried camping and we're done.

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<v Speaker 3>What made you say like, let me do this again?

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<v Speaker 1>Definitely definitely baby Z. Like I didn't want her to see.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't want this to be a failure for her.

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<v Speaker 1>This is her first memory of camping. I didn't want

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<v Speaker 1>that to be the experience. So I would say definitely her.

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<v Speaker 1>And to be honest, even though I'm competitive with myself

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't want to fail, and I'm determined and

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<v Speaker 1>not persist.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I really don't know if I were doing.

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<v Speaker 1>It by myself, if I would have felt inclined to

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<v Speaker 1>do it again, because I don't care that much about camping,

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<v Speaker 1>but she cared about it. So that's what was like, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>we're going to Amazon, I'm gonna get all the supplies.

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<v Speaker 1>Like that is what really drove me. So I would

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<v Speaker 1>say that's really what it was. And I also like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not about to let this shit beat me. Like

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<v Speaker 1>that was another thing, like I'm not about to know

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna do this. And now girl, now I'm ready

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<v Speaker 1>to go fishing. And I told you too. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>now we should go on a camping trip.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl. I ain't never been fishing in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>And now I'm like, we're about to do a black

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<v Speaker 1>girl's fishing trip like out.

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<v Speaker 3>Door face on a video because I was over here

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<v Speaker 3>like fishing. I don't know about that.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl. I don't want to cut no fish. But I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm such a girly girl. I'm like, I'm with.

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<v Speaker 1>The ships now with survival of the Survival of the fittings.

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<v Speaker 3>Now I'll figure out how to cook the fish. You okay,

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<v Speaker 3>you got to catch it, Okay, we could, I'll figure

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<v Speaker 3>out how to cook it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's all right. This Remember you heard it here ladies

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<v Speaker 2>when I text Dom about fishing.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think some of the lessons we can take

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<v Speaker 1>away right from this experience one feel disappointed, filthy emotions.

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<v Speaker 1>I was so fucking fish driving home, like, feel it.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't skip it right. Bad weekends happen, bad experiences happened.

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<v Speaker 1>Cry if you need you. I definitely felt like crying. Laugh,

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<v Speaker 1>if you need to do who you gotta do right,

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<v Speaker 1>and then get curious like instead of I'm terrible at this,

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<v Speaker 1>or oh am I ready for this? Ask what don't

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<v Speaker 1>I know yet? That unlocks the possibilities? What don't I

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<v Speaker 1>know yet? Use your tools? I was on chat in

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<v Speaker 1>Google trying to figure it out. Yep.

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<v Speaker 3>And then once you figure that out, change the strategy

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<v Speaker 3>and try it again.

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<v Speaker 2>That's right, And lady, we just.

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<v Speaker 3>Want you to remember, like the moral of this story

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<v Speaker 3>is maybe you're not actually failing. Maybe this is your

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<v Speaker 3>opportunity to learn some other life lessons m h so

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<v Speaker 3>that you can then try it.

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<v Speaker 1>Again exactly because you just might be using a beach

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<v Speaker 1>tent for a camping trick.

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<v Speaker 2>Den do.

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