1 00:00:01,880 --> 00:00:05,480 Speaker 1: Here's a question for you, guys. Is your partner your 2 00:00:05,519 --> 00:00:10,160 Speaker 1: best friend? Were you friends before you became romantic? 3 00:00:10,960 --> 00:00:12,040 Speaker 2: Oh? 4 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know. It seems despite the popularity of dating apps, 5 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:18,799 Speaker 1: most relationships start the old fashioned way. That's right. Most 6 00:00:18,840 --> 00:00:22,240 Speaker 1: of them do with people who are friends first. In fact, 7 00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:26,639 Speaker 1: researchers have found that sixty six sixty six percent of 8 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:31,120 Speaker 1: people were platonic friends with their partner before starting a 9 00:00:31,320 --> 00:00:36,280 Speaker 1: romantic relationship. So, Steve, I gotta go to you. Do 10 00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:39,680 Speaker 1: you believe there are benefits to being friends with someone 11 00:00:39,880 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 1: before you date them? 12 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:47,839 Speaker 3: I mean, it is, It's not necessary, but it is. 13 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:51,360 Speaker 3: But it's not necessary. And a lot of relationships start 14 00:00:51,520 --> 00:00:57,480 Speaker 3: all the way first they get physical before they good friend. Yeah, 15 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:04,319 Speaker 3: ed up, I'm right right now I'm married to my 16 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:06,840 Speaker 3: best friend because I ain't gotten nothing. 17 00:01:08,400 --> 00:01:09,720 Speaker 4: You. 18 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:13,520 Speaker 3: I ain't got no real friend though you know I ain't. 19 00:01:13,640 --> 00:01:16,280 Speaker 3: I don't really have no dudes I share everything with. 20 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:21,040 Speaker 3: I just don't. I've grown out of that space. 21 00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 1: I want to ask you this because it's always puzzled me. 22 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:28,319 Speaker 1: What about people who are friends? They're really really good friends. 23 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:30,640 Speaker 1: We have a lot of strawberry letters about this. They're 24 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 1: really good friends and then they try to be romantic 25 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:36,920 Speaker 1: and it doesn't work out and the friendship gets all 26 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 1: weird after that. 27 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:40,920 Speaker 4: Well, you know, look, look, look, look, I said a 28 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 4: hundred times. 29 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:44,760 Speaker 3: I'm not gonna stop saying, if a man is attracted 30 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 3: to you, it's hard for him to stay your friends. Right. 31 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 4: I don't know how, and I don't know why we 32 00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:56,280 Speaker 4: keep debating this thing. 33 00:01:56,840 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 3: If a man is attracted to you, it's gonna be 34 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:00,880 Speaker 3: really hard for him to. 35 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:06,639 Speaker 4: Stay your friend. It's really hard. And so let's just notice. 36 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:10,960 Speaker 3: If you know that you're attractive to this guy, and 37 00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:11,639 Speaker 3: y'all just. 38 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 4: Friend, it's just until you see a crack in the door. 39 00:02:15,360 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, a physical friend and physical what a physical friend 40 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 1: like a friend with benefits. 41 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:27,360 Speaker 2: About We're gonna be physical, but we're gonna be friends. 42 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:27,560 Speaker 4: You know what. 43 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 5: That's not a physical friend. 44 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:31,200 Speaker 4: That's a kind of. 45 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:33,639 Speaker 1: Relations that's a friends with benefit. 46 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:37,640 Speaker 3: That's a sexual relationship. Call it what you want to 47 00:02:37,680 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 3: call it. It's a sexual relationship. And eventually feelings on 48 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 3: one one of the parts is gonna get in. 49 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:45,640 Speaker 1: There, usually the woman, usually the woman. 50 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:54,400 Speaker 4: Yeah you love that man, ain't nobody sign up for love. 51 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:57,400 Speaker 4: This will be just a nice physical friend. Says the 52 00:02:57,440 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 4: host are ready to love. 53 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 1: Radio Tommy and TV Tommy, I got you, I got you. 54 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:16,679 Speaker 1: You ain't all the way crazy to me. 55 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 4: Far from it, Steve. 56 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:23,520 Speaker 1: It is still your contention that men and women it's 57 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 1: hard for them to be friends without being physical. That 58 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:27,400 Speaker 1: is that what you're saying. 59 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 4: If the man is attracted. 60 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 3: To you, I've never seen what? 61 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:37,840 Speaker 4: How? What's that? 62 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 5: So then the question is what we just brought up, 63 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 5: Shirley with the with the second to be friends? Can 64 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 5: you first and then date? And you're saying that if 65 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:50,760 Speaker 5: you are friends and that. 66 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 4: Man is. 67 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 5: You say what we're trying to say, If you're gonna 68 00:03:57,480 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 5: be friends first and then you're gonna date, how does 69 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:02,440 Speaker 5: that work? If you say men and women can't be friends. 70 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:06,800 Speaker 3: If a man is attracted to you, eventually when there's 71 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:08,920 Speaker 3: a crack in the door, he's going to a norf 72 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 3: he can put his foot. 73 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:10,520 Speaker 4: In the door. 74 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, and be more than friends. 75 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:18,279 Speaker 3: Right, Yes, More these relationships that turn start out that way, 76 00:04:18,880 --> 00:04:23,159 Speaker 3: you can turn out and blossom into wonderful and beautiful relationship. 77 00:04:23,839 --> 00:04:25,200 Speaker 4: It can happen. 78 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 3: Then sometimes, and that's a great way for it to start, 79 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:29,600 Speaker 3: because you started as friends. 80 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:31,360 Speaker 4: It's a great thing to happen. 81 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:36,560 Speaker 3: Now here's a sad part is attracted to you. 82 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:36,800 Speaker 4: Ya. 83 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 1: We gotta go, Steve, hold on, we gotta go. All right, 84 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:41,960 Speaker 1: we'll be back with more of the Steve Harvey Morning 85 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:44,839 Speaker 1: Show twenty minutes after. Right after this, you're listening to 86 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:51,599 Speaker 1: the Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, we're back, Steve. 87 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:54,560 Speaker 1: Let's try to clear this up once and for all 88 00:04:54,600 --> 00:04:57,040 Speaker 1: if we can, because there's so much debate about this. 89 00:04:57,120 --> 00:05:00,360 Speaker 1: Can men and women be friends? And once they across 90 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 1: that physical line, can they still be friends? Because sometimes 91 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:07,039 Speaker 1: that gets weird. So let's let's try to clear this 92 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: up because it is a debate, ongoing debate between men 93 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 1: and women. All the time. 94 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:22,360 Speaker 2: You say what, man, These people argue with me, and 95 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:25,200 Speaker 2: every time this way I'll be telling them. 96 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 4: You say it. 97 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 3: Men and women can be friends only if the man 98 00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 3: does not find the woman attractive or is not attracted 99 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:41,040 Speaker 3: to her for whatever the reason. If a man finds 100 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 3: you attractive and is attracted to you and is your friend, 101 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:48,000 Speaker 3: I want you to understand that the moment there is 102 00:05:48,040 --> 00:05:50,799 Speaker 3: a crack in the door, a chink in the armor, 103 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 3: and he see a way he can fit in and 104 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:56,400 Speaker 3: be more than your friend. More will do that, Absolutely, 105 00:05:56,480 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 3: he will unequivocally. Now, can you start a friendship that 106 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:05,039 Speaker 3: way and it blossomed into a relationship? Yes, And you 107 00:06:05,080 --> 00:06:07,600 Speaker 3: know why the blossom into a relationship because he's been 108 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:09,120 Speaker 3: attracted to you the whole time. 109 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:11,440 Speaker 4: Period. 110 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:15,880 Speaker 3: Now here's the sad part that you don't want to hear. 111 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:19,320 Speaker 3: If the man is not attracted to you or find 112 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 3: you unattracted, you can be his for you. 113 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, we'll be debating this for centuries to come. 114 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:29,960 Speaker 1: All Right, more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show coming 115 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:32,839 Speaker 1: up at thirty three minutes after. Right after this, you're 116 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:35,159 Speaker 1: listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.