WEBVTT - Cheryl Burke’s Pickleball Date with a “Bachelor”

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to I Do Part two.

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<v Speaker 2>It's one of your celebrity mentors here on the pod,

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<v Speaker 2>Cheryl Burke, and today my producer, Heather wanted me to

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<v Speaker 2>pop on the mic because she said she had some

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<v Speaker 2>fun news to tell me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I hate surprises, Heather. I'm literally look all yours God.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi's Cheryl. How's it going good. It's been a while,

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I know, since we had our really really

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<v Speaker 1>sad Valentine's Day episode.

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<v Speaker 2>Was that the last time that we did this together.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I talked to you after that, not.

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<v Speaker 1>Me croock since then, but that's the last time the

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<v Speaker 1>audience heard from as we were doing a really sad episode.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that a lot of people ended up listening

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<v Speaker 1>to a lot of single people. Yeah, I know that

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<v Speaker 1>we weren't alone. We weren't alone, and we're not alone.

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<v Speaker 1>But I wanted to kind of catch up with you

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit before we kind of dive into that

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<v Speaker 1>you know, little fun surprise that I said I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to talk to you about, but I wanted to kind

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<v Speaker 1>of hear from you, and I know our listeners do too,

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<v Speaker 1>about like what you've been up to lately. How have

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<v Speaker 1>you been feeling Obviously, you've been getting a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>press and like you know, been talking to the press

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<v Speaker 1>a lot about what's been going on in terms of

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<v Speaker 1>online stuff that you've been receiving. But I kind of

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to know overall, like how is Cheryl doing?

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<v Speaker 2>Did you also hear in the press that they asked

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<v Speaker 2>me the big d question about dating? And I was like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>we're not there yet.

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<v Speaker 1>Well we're going to dive into all of that, of course,

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<v Speaker 1>but tell me that right now, on this day, how

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<v Speaker 1>is Cheryl doing?

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<v Speaker 2>Cheryl is a little like I'm just like, I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm being pulled a million different directions. I'm also

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<v Speaker 2>working on another which we haven't announced yet, but I'm

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<v Speaker 2>working on another show and we're busy pitching that. But

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<v Speaker 2>it's a whole di re vibe. Like I told you before,

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<v Speaker 2>we press record here. So but it what I've noticed,

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<v Speaker 2>the pattern has been me having to grieve whatever or

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<v Speaker 2>however that may be my past. It is shoved in

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<v Speaker 2>my face and I have to deal with it because

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<v Speaker 2>I have no choice, right like, in order for me

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<v Speaker 2>to move on. And a lot of what I just

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<v Speaker 2>mentioned that I was doing has a lot to do

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<v Speaker 2>with that, and I think will help me when it

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<v Speaker 2>comes to my personal life as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I kind of just wanted to talk to you

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<v Speaker 1>about that because obviously it's the summer, right, summertime is

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<v Speaker 1>a lock Girls summer, how Girl summer, but also wedding season, right.

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<v Speaker 1>I know that you were just a part of your

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<v Speaker 1>sister's wedding, and so I kind of wanted to know

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<v Speaker 1>what that was like for you, as somebody you've talked

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<v Speaker 1>about on this podcast that you've went through and you

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<v Speaker 1>had the big wedding yourself, and the big wedding became

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<v Speaker 1>an event for you and all of that. Now being

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<v Speaker 1>on the other side of things and being a guest

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<v Speaker 1>at a wedding and it's your sibling, what was that

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<v Speaker 1>experience like for you? Did you have a date or

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<v Speaker 1>were you solo? Kind of tell me a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>about that. Yeah, I had a few dates.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm kidding, that doesn't even sound right couping out of

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<v Speaker 2>my mouth, but okay, so a lot of things happened. One,

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<v Speaker 2>I was a makeup artist, so I didn't have time

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<v Speaker 2>to even do my own makeup, let alone. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I had focus on my sister, like I was her

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<v Speaker 2>makeup artist for that weekend, I would say, because it

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<v Speaker 2>was rehearsal, dinner and wedding I didn't have I was

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<v Speaker 2>so I brought all of Sephora with me, and I

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<v Speaker 2>filled my car up to the roof. Literally was like

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<v Speaker 2>a mobile beauty department store. That was my actual car

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<v Speaker 2>right driving from wherever I lived to the Bay Area

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<v Speaker 2>checked in. Took me two days to unpack, literally, just

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<v Speaker 2>my OCD was in full effect.

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<v Speaker 1>So other than that and me thinking.

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<v Speaker 2>I had appendicitis the morning of her wedding, thinking I

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<v Speaker 2>had to go straight to the er, it was all smooth.

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<v Speaker 1>It great. Be real with me for a second, though,

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<v Speaker 1>because I went through both of my sisters getting married.

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<v Speaker 1>We've already talked about this that I've never been married

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<v Speaker 1>or engaged, and uh, you know one of those was

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<v Speaker 1>a little tougher for me than the other. Really. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>seeing my younger sister get married and ourt a family,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, my other sister been married, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the kind of comments that I got at that wedding,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh interesting, when is it going to be your turn?

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<v Speaker 1>Always a bridesmaid, never a bride, Like these kinds of

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<v Speaker 1>comments were to you, And so I kind of just

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<v Speaker 1>want to know like even though you were totally in

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<v Speaker 1>it and being an active supportive member of your sister's

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<v Speaker 1>you know, thing like being there for the makeup. Was

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<v Speaker 1>there ever any moments, either the drive up or sitting

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<v Speaker 1>there were you where it was emotional for you in

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<v Speaker 1>a different way?

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<v Speaker 2>I think it was it's you are a personal thing

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<v Speaker 2>with my sister and I and our We've gone through

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<v Speaker 2>a lot with each other, and what was interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>So so to answer.

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<v Speaker 2>Your question if you're trying to ask about like did

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<v Speaker 2>it bring up my ex husband or like that time together, No,

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<v Speaker 2>actually not at all. I was really choosing to be present.

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<v Speaker 2>I put my phone away. It was so emotional for

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<v Speaker 2>the both of us because yes, we do have an

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<v Speaker 2>age gap. I didn't get any you know, crazy Filipinos

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<v Speaker 2>for my family come up to me and be like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 1>How are you feeling? Like none of that happened?

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<v Speaker 2>What was I think the emotional side was just my sister,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I think of my little sister as my daughter,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, And I don't want to talk more about

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<v Speaker 2>it than what I am talking about, but like you know,

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<v Speaker 2>there's just been very emotional between us. It's been a

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<v Speaker 2>rollercoaster and you know, like anybody's relationship. We evolve and

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<v Speaker 2>some people do it together and some people don't like

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<v Speaker 2>when I tell you we were so close, like we

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<v Speaker 2>would go on like extravagant, luxurious vacations when we were

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<v Speaker 2>both single in the past, and and then you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we all meet our other halves and stuff happened, and

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<v Speaker 2>so like, it was just beautiful to be able to

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<v Speaker 2>be present. And my sister has said something when I

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<v Speaker 2>was doing her and my sister was so emotional, like

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<v Speaker 2>literally it was just like and as she should be, right,

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<v Speaker 2>it was her day, but it was a different type

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<v Speaker 2>of emotion that I never actually felt. And since we

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<v Speaker 2>were both single in France together popping around, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>so it's like more of a family internal thing than

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<v Speaker 2>it was, you know, so sad that I'm not married

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<v Speaker 2>still type thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, was there any anxiety? I mean, I know

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<v Speaker 1>I felt this before, having to go to a wedding alone,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, having just been a table with people alone,

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<v Speaker 1>having to hit the dance floor with people that you

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<v Speaker 1>maybe don't know that wasn't the experience. You didn't have,

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<v Speaker 1>no anxiety about being by yourself. No, actually love it.

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<v Speaker 2>Now for my cousin's wedding, the first wedding I went

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<v Speaker 2>to after like it was my first wedding that I

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<v Speaker 2>attended since my wedding. Yes, definitely my sister. No, I

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<v Speaker 2>knew everybody, you know, it was all of our friends

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<v Speaker 2>and family, but I there were a couple of cute

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<v Speaker 2>guys and there was this one single dude. Okay, there

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<v Speaker 2>was this one single guy. When did you get there?

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<v Speaker 1>Excuse what happened? Taking me through the timeline.

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<v Speaker 2>So once I was done with my makeup artist duties,

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<v Speaker 2>I was able to actually look up for my makeup

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<v Speaker 2>brushes and I see other humans and so funny because strategically,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty sure my sister and her husband put me

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<v Speaker 2>next to this one dude who's single, best friends with

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<v Speaker 2>the groom and on paper, like I actually did ask

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<v Speaker 2>about this guy soon after I got divorced, and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, oh, what's his deal? Because I always like

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<v Speaker 2>saw him whenever, like he's gathering, like he's always bringing

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<v Speaker 2>a new chick. And I was like, this guy, what's

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<v Speaker 2>you know? He's a year older than me or something

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<v Speaker 2>like that, and I was like, what's his deal? You know,

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<v Speaker 2>like did you have a commitment issues? Like what's happening.

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<v Speaker 2>First when I mentioned him, the response from my sister's

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<v Speaker 2>husband wasn't like very responsive. So I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe it's not Maybe either they think I'm not good

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<v Speaker 2>for him or whatever. And now they kept like kind

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<v Speaker 2>of saying. So like my sister goes, you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>met my husband on Riyah, like, do you think you should?

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, no, I don't think I should,

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<v Speaker 2>but you might convince me maybe later down the road,

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<v Speaker 2>who knows, never say never. But she's like, and I said,

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<v Speaker 2>but how about your the you know, your husband's friend

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<v Speaker 2>And she goes, yeah, yeah, I'm single.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think you're ready?

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, if I meet somebody authentically like that,

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<v Speaker 2>it's different, right, Like it's different.

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<v Speaker 1>Than having to go on a dating app. I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>but would that not be the cutest story ever? Like

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<v Speaker 1>it would until until we met at my sister.

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<v Speaker 2>Until something happened and it was such a turn up

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't want to say.

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<v Speaker 1>It, Cheryl, you have to tell me. I can't. I can't,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't. Err oh my god, Okay, you have to

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<v Speaker 1>tell me later then, but I will. But it was

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<v Speaker 1>nothing to do with me.

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<v Speaker 2>It had everything to do with his actions. And all

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna say is that I'm sober.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I can deduce right what happens at a wedding,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, is people tend to I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if this time is at a wedding. I

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<v Speaker 1>hope it doesn't, got it. Okay, something happened not at

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<v Speaker 1>the wedding that turns you off.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it happened at the wedding, at the dinner, at

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<v Speaker 2>the speaking dinner reception. Okay, we'll talk about it later.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not my business to put it out there for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>But it wasn't There wasn't a connection. No, there was

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<v Speaker 1>there was a connection until that happened. Okay, Well, let

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<v Speaker 1>me ask you this, Cheryl. First of all, I i've

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<v Speaker 1>already I just gave you a hint. I'm sober, I know,

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<v Speaker 1>And I was about to say, Cheryl, I commend you

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<v Speaker 1>on your sobriety. You know that, Thank you. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think that that is also for anybody that I know

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<v Speaker 1>in life that is sober and in a partnership. It

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<v Speaker 1>is something that I've had conversations about with people where

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<v Speaker 1>I say, even if you don't have a problem, or

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<v Speaker 1>your partner doesn't have a problem, but has chosen that style.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to choose that lifestyle as well as being

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<v Speaker 1>in a partnership with somebody.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not saying that he should have been so like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not saying that, but there's levels.

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<v Speaker 1>I was going to say, was this a moment of

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<v Speaker 1>indiscretion that we were at something or were you like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>this is probably a lifestyle difference. It's a lifestyle I asked, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a lifestyle difference.

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<v Speaker 2>And if there were me ten years ago, it would

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<v Speaker 2>be a match one hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and listen, kudos to you for recognizing that right

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<v Speaker 1>up front, and who knows. It's a shame. But also

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<v Speaker 1>maybe things change later on, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>And then there's there's another dude. I'm not just it's

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<v Speaker 2>not just one.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So talk about that. What happened? So all? Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>So on the during the rehearsal, like the actual rehearsal

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<v Speaker 2>at my parents' best friend's home where the wedding took place,

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<v Speaker 2>we were practicing these walkdowns and I was originally paired

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<v Speaker 2>with somebody and then I got switched and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh rude, anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>So cute, quiet, he was cute and quiet and yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So I asked my sister.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, not obviously on her wedding day, but like, oh no.

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<v Speaker 2>She brought it up when I did her makeup on

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<v Speaker 2>her wedding day that morning, and she's like, what do

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<v Speaker 2>you think of so and so? And I was like, yeah, like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. He seems really sweet. I don't freaking know.

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<v Speaker 2>We literally were just walking elbow to elbow two seconds.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought I was going a face plant. He saved

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<v Speaker 2>my life and that was it. And she and I said,

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<v Speaker 2>but doesn't he have a girl? I thought I saw

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<v Speaker 2>him with a girl. She goes, yeah, but they've been

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<v Speaker 2>fighting supposedly, you know, like Nicole.

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<v Speaker 1>Just because they're fighting on that day, I'm not going

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<v Speaker 1>to be the first of all.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm no, I am not somebody's rebound, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's so funny. That's bringing up a memory of

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<v Speaker 1>a wedding I went to as well, where somebody was

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<v Speaker 1>like they're on the outs, blah blah blah, like somebody's

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<v Speaker 1>still having one argument. And it was no, it was

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<v Speaker 1>like people went like in on an argument at the

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<v Speaker 1>wedding and they were like, yeah, they're on the outs,

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<v Speaker 1>and so Anyways, what I'm hearing and what I'm liking

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<v Speaker 1>about this catchup Cheryl, is that I'm open. There's a

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<v Speaker 1>traction sparking for you too. Yeah I'm not blind, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but like literally, Cheryl, I think six months ago when

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<v Speaker 1>we were talking, you would be like hard pass like,

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<v Speaker 1>no way, my eyes are down.

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<v Speaker 2>I am not yet when you're talking dating apps or

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<v Speaker 2>anybody in this business.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, sure, but I don't think i've heard you express

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<v Speaker 1>like even when I was like, what about a guy

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<v Speaker 1>at the grocery store, You're like, I get my groceries delivered.

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<v Speaker 1>It's true. I would say the same damn thing today

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<v Speaker 1>is very true. But look, you went to a wedding.

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<v Speaker 1>I had to go to a wedding, but there were

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<v Speaker 1>two attractive men your orbit. So I think that this

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<v Speaker 1>is a good sign. I think it's a good sign.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's what I mean, just so you know, just

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<v Speaker 2>so we are clear, this is what I mean by

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<v Speaker 2>meeting somebody naturally like that, right, Like, I don't go

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<v Speaker 2>to weddings.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not a makeup artist, nor do I ever. That

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<v Speaker 2>was so traumatizing. I will never do it again. But

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<v Speaker 2>I that's how you meet people.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, no, no, no, I agree, I agree. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to know. Like I said, we're halfway through the year

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<v Speaker 1>at this moment, I want to know what kind of

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<v Speaker 1>guy you are open to attracting into your life. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna say the term looking for because we're not

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<v Speaker 1>looking for anybody, but no, kind of man are you

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<v Speaker 1>interested in attracting to you at this time? What kind

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<v Speaker 1>of talk you about? Like material, no qualities, physical and

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<v Speaker 1>personality wise? What are you looking for? What is what's

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<v Speaker 1>getting your head to turn?

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<v Speaker 2>You know how they say that you're attracted to your

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<v Speaker 2>father or your dad.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I don't believe in that sentiment.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I definitely, especially if you've been abandoned by your father.

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, no, I believe in it. Like I tell you,

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<v Speaker 2>every man I've dated seriously has been has especially my

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<v Speaker 2>ex husband.

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<v Speaker 1>Identified my father.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, But like I was saying my therapist, she's like,

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<v Speaker 2>can we start attracting taller men?

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<v Speaker 1>But it's so funny because the guy that.

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<v Speaker 2>I actually liked to had the girlfriend was also a

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<v Speaker 2>surety shalloy listen?

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<v Speaker 1>Short kings need the love to.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, just put a couple platform heels in there and

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<v Speaker 2>look good.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that you're do you, but also listen attract.

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<v Speaker 2>That is just I'm not talking deep clearly right now.

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<v Speaker 1>That is just straight up the distractions attraction, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean? For me, I might like make some

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<v Speaker 1>people upset hearing this. In the ide part two world,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not really attracted to bold men. That's my thing, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't think that that is I don't just

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to say discriminate against bald men, but

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. It's not what turns my head.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry, But what if you're stuck in a line during

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<v Speaker 2>a wedding and you're doing you know, I have to

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<v Speaker 2>tell you like I did lately, and I'm very proud

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<v Speaker 2>of myself for this. It's not about oh, what do

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<v Speaker 2>you look like? Then I'll talk to you. It's more like,

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<v Speaker 2>let me like we're just naturally talking as to people

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<v Speaker 2>who are being sat next to each other, do right then,

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<v Speaker 2>and then like, oh, this is what you physically look like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, because it's like that's when I'm then if

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<v Speaker 2>the conversation is interesting enough, then that's when I'll take

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<v Speaker 2>it up.

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<v Speaker 1>Look right, yeah, I mean listen, yeah, you can be

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<v Speaker 1>as a track.

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<v Speaker 2>What I'm just saying, what if a baldy and you

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<v Speaker 2>had such a deep conversation. I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, I mean, I look, there's always a Jason stathum right.

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<v Speaker 2>Joy Lawrence doesn't your pickle, not not personally, but I

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<v Speaker 2>just today, but in the nineties maybe yeah, but he

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't bald then, correct, I know now he's bald, said,

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<v Speaker 2>but maybe he would have taken off your pickle.

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<v Speaker 1>There's always a Jason Statham who like, is really rocking

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<v Speaker 1>the bald look right, and like that's a thing and

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<v Speaker 1>that's hot that. Of course, there's exceptions to rules. It's

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<v Speaker 1>always about kindness first.

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<v Speaker 2>So you don't like you don't like the bald that

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<v Speaker 2>is being forced to be bald.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like receding hairline. I don't like you're real picky.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, so am I I love a girl that knows

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<v Speaker 2>what you want personally.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's picky. I think that you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I think I think you talk to a man any

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<v Speaker 1>day of the week and he's going to give you

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<v Speaker 1>a laundry list of what turns his net for a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>So me being able to name one thing that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not interested in, I really don't ari I do part two. People,

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<v Speaker 1>if that like is offensive, I'm sure anybody that is

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<v Speaker 1>dating somebody that is bald, it's like, that's great for you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just personally not what.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, totally now never say never again. If your conversation

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<v Speaker 2>is so sexy that all of a sudden you look

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<v Speaker 2>up and or you did love is blind and he

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<v Speaker 2>was bald?

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<v Speaker 1>Who knows? Or I'm fifty five and I'm still single

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<v Speaker 1>and they're all bald. You know what I mean? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>who's wrong with fifty five and single? I'm just adding years.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to know what your.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a dual conversation. Okay, yeah, because one hundred

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<v Speaker 2>percent you're not interviewing me. This is not what we

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<v Speaker 2>agree with. I am, we're catching up.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not in the market. What why are you taken? No,

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<v Speaker 1>your girl is way too damaged right now to be

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<v Speaker 1>getting in. That doesn't mean we can't have the conversation. Sure,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, listen for me. In my local area, I've

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<v Speaker 1>said this so many times. I lived by a Whole

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<v Speaker 1>Foods that gets a lot of traction. You don't instacart.

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<v Speaker 1>I do my instacart and it's by the beach. And

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<v Speaker 1>the first time I went in there. I was shocked

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<v Speaker 1>at how many men I saw at the grocery store.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I've ever seen that many men before

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<v Speaker 1>at one grocery store. Single young men, I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>it's single, but that amount of men at the grocery store, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I've never seen it before. And it's every time I

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<v Speaker 1>go there, every time. Who I should go to your

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<v Speaker 1>grocery store if I ever go. But I'm just saying, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I know that there's guys out there. It's right now,

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm coming across so many right when I'm out

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<v Speaker 1>in the world. Nothing is resonating with me right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Are they flirting with you? No? No, No, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>talking to anybody, are they? No? No, Literally, the light

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<v Speaker 1>bulb is off, like my tax serial.

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<v Speaker 2>Light is off, and it is like, do not come

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<v Speaker 2>near me?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I listen, do I I don't think I'm giving

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<v Speaker 1>like RBF like everywhere I'm walking. But it's just I

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<v Speaker 1>know that I'm not putting out the signal that I'm interested.

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<v Speaker 1>But you that is true.

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<v Speaker 2>No, No, that is very but that is very true.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, we're all energy. So yeah, I was

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<v Speaker 2>on that trains.

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<v Speaker 1>I can tell right now in our conversation that you're

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<v Speaker 1>putting out the signal, you're putting out the energy right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Yep, yeah, I mean if it happens, it happens. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>this is what I don't want. Are we ready tell.

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<v Speaker 1>Me what you do want? I want to be positive?

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<v Speaker 2>No yeah, no, no, no, because I don't know necessarily I

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<v Speaker 2>can tell you what I don't want. I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>I can tell you what I want to.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, get it sure like.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's a mix. Now, this is what I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want because I I am. I don't want anybody

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<v Speaker 2>with the track record of cheating.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's fair.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I want somebody in the entertainment industry.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm leaning towards now.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'm gonna say no one's asking im. Okay, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna say, as somebody that knows you that I think

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<v Speaker 1>that you don't need another entertainer. Yeah, I think you

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<v Speaker 1>still need somebody star. I don't need that that's still entertainment.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that you need someone entertainment adjacent. I could

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<v Speaker 1>see you being with a talent agent or a talent.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe yes, yes, yes, or an an entertainment attorney. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>even better that was my first and last date.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm just saying like

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<v Speaker 1>that to me. Is it creates commonality in a yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I agree, But all so, I do believe the sentiment

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of times when you hear people say there

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<v Speaker 1>can only be like one star in the relationship, and

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<v Speaker 1>I really do think that. I do believe that you

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<v Speaker 1>are the star when you're in a relationship with somebody.

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<v Speaker 1>That's that is so true. Well, actually I wouldn't. I

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't help. Stars can change and have different times. But you,

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<v Speaker 1>right now in this chapter of your life, you are

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<v Speaker 1>the star. And you if you were to get into

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<v Speaker 1>a partnership with somebody tomorrow, they would need to be

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<v Speaker 1>supportive of that star right now in this chapter.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, because like it's exhausting, if it's competitive.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't be in competition with your partner for the spotlight.

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<v Speaker 1>That will never work. That's why they say opposites attract

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<v Speaker 1>in that sense. And this is why I gravitated towards

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<v Speaker 1>the quiet guy at the wedding. I fully get that,

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<v Speaker 1>CHERYLD And I will tell you why I have never

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<v Speaker 1>been attracted to the alpha male. I have. It's so weird,

0:21:57.720 --> 0:22:02.440
<v Speaker 1>but never dated one always told people I am attracted

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<v Speaker 1>to quiet confidence, and I tend to like a more

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<v Speaker 1>subdued energy because I've dated the shot shots guy and

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<v Speaker 1>the everybody party guy, and it's like, I don't like

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<v Speaker 1>that guy. I don't like it.

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<v Speaker 2>So funny that you say that, because I actually, initially

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'm attracted to them. I never end up

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<v Speaker 2>with them. One but two, I have only started recently

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<v Speaker 2>appreciating the quiet The only confidence. By the way, there's

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<v Speaker 2>only one way, and it's the quiet one. There really is,

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<v Speaker 2>because the loud confidence is not so I could fight

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<v Speaker 2>anybody about it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's not confidence to me. I hear that. I agree

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<v Speaker 1>with that. For me, I'm I'm really mellow in real life,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, outside of work, I do not like to

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<v Speaker 1>be in the mix, and so like a quiet energy

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<v Speaker 1>is more what I tend to gravit towards too. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>the problem with a quiet energy is they don't always

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<v Speaker 1>make those first moves right, especially in the dating scene.

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<v Speaker 1>It can be really hard sometimes for them to make

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<v Speaker 1>the move. And personally, I've had to in anything that

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<v Speaker 1>I've been in that's been substantial, I've made those first moves.

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<v Speaker 1>And what's wrong with that? Well, now, in my reflective

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<v Speaker 1>chapter that I'm in at this time, I'm wondering if

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<v Speaker 1>I've ever been hoarded, and I don't think I have. Interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really difficult because so.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not you mean on a deeper level like then

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<v Speaker 2>not necessarily a physical like I guess reported meaning like

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<v Speaker 2>making plans going out, like to dinner, him paying for it,

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<v Speaker 2>him opening your door.

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<v Speaker 1>No, that's happened. I'm talking about initial first moves. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>now in the play Cheryl in my head where I'm

0:23:57.040 --> 0:24:01.080
<v Speaker 1>looking back at everything in the rear view, and I'm thinking,

0:24:01.800 --> 0:24:04.199
<v Speaker 1>did that person actually ever want to be with me?

0:24:04.720 --> 0:24:10.320
<v Speaker 1>They never initiated the early stages of the relationship I did.

0:24:10.920 --> 0:24:16.840
<v Speaker 1>Did I interesting? Somebody that was like open to it

0:24:16.960 --> 0:24:21.080
<v Speaker 1>but like not really in it? It changes for you, Cheryl.

0:24:21.160 --> 0:24:25.080
<v Speaker 1>Every day for me is a new trauma. But I

0:24:25.160 --> 0:24:29.320
<v Speaker 1>are you in therapy? Yes, yes, Cheryl, yes, yes, yes,

0:24:29.600 --> 0:24:32.360
<v Speaker 1>But I want to know. Okay, so we know that

0:24:32.400 --> 0:24:35.159
<v Speaker 1>you don't want an entertainer. We know that you No,

0:24:35.320 --> 0:24:37.440
<v Speaker 1>I never said that. I didn't say I don't want.

0:24:37.600 --> 0:24:39.960
<v Speaker 2>I said I don't think I want, meaning like I

0:24:40.040 --> 0:24:41.119
<v Speaker 2>keep going back and forth.

0:24:41.200 --> 0:24:43.840
<v Speaker 1>Now again, if he is in.

0:24:43.720 --> 0:24:48.600
<v Speaker 2>My zeitgeist, and we do have great communication and we

0:24:48.640 --> 0:24:51.199
<v Speaker 2>have great conversations and there's an attraction. I'm not going

0:24:51.280 --> 0:24:53.960
<v Speaker 2>to be like, oh sorry, yeah, I can't do it,

0:24:54.560 --> 0:24:56.840
<v Speaker 2>you know, Like I'm just saying from what I did

0:24:56.840 --> 0:24:59.199
<v Speaker 2>it again, this is all on the surface stuff like

0:24:59.440 --> 0:25:02.560
<v Speaker 2>look at the end end of the day, I mean,

0:25:02.600 --> 0:25:05.080
<v Speaker 2>this is why for me to is like be like

0:25:05.119 --> 0:25:10.280
<v Speaker 2>a tall dark browd hair like it's just so miniscule

0:25:10.359 --> 0:25:12.520
<v Speaker 2>as to what I really I really want to partner.

0:25:12.600 --> 0:25:16.800
<v Speaker 2>I want somebody who balances We can balance each other out,

0:25:16.840 --> 0:25:19.360
<v Speaker 2>but we still say as two individuals that is so

0:25:19.400 --> 0:25:22.439
<v Speaker 2>important to me and that someone I need somebody that

0:25:22.480 --> 0:25:24.200
<v Speaker 2>can also put me in my place sometimes because I

0:25:24.200 --> 0:25:28.399
<v Speaker 2>can get you know, a little like whoa over bearing

0:25:28.840 --> 0:25:31.000
<v Speaker 2>sometimes but not in a rude way, in a way

0:25:31.040 --> 0:25:34.159
<v Speaker 2>where it's quiet, it's it's secure. It doesn't make me

0:25:34.200 --> 0:25:37.440
<v Speaker 2>feel abandoned. It makes me feel like, first of all,

0:25:37.680 --> 0:25:39.200
<v Speaker 2>nobody can make me feel anything, right.

0:25:39.240 --> 0:25:39.840
<v Speaker 1>So I'm going to.

0:25:39.840 --> 0:25:43.000
<v Speaker 2>Continue doing the work. But like he needs to be

0:25:43.080 --> 0:25:47.359
<v Speaker 2>so like stable and confident that in a way where

0:25:47.400 --> 0:25:49.560
<v Speaker 2>it complements the work that I'm going to continue to

0:25:49.640 --> 0:25:51.240
<v Speaker 2>do for the rest of my life. And that's all

0:25:51.320 --> 0:25:54.280
<v Speaker 2>I can say because it's so deep, it goes deeper,

0:25:55.080 --> 0:25:55.800
<v Speaker 2>what about.

0:25:55.520 --> 0:25:58.879
<v Speaker 1>Like financial stability at this stame, But that's all again

0:25:58.920 --> 0:26:02.399
<v Speaker 1>that is just seeing on yes, yes, yes, all of it.

0:26:02.600 --> 0:26:06.120
<v Speaker 1>I think that to me, Cheryl as somebody who you've done.

0:26:05.920 --> 0:26:08.400
<v Speaker 2>So, but that's not what's gonna be like my very

0:26:08.720 --> 0:26:12.520
<v Speaker 2>first conversation with the person, right like, either we're gonna talk,

0:26:12.680 --> 0:26:15.640
<v Speaker 2>We're either gonna connect or we're not like whoever it is.

0:26:15.720 --> 0:26:18.639
<v Speaker 2>And this is what I've also realized, no setting updates

0:26:18.680 --> 0:26:21.920
<v Speaker 2>like I can't. This is what makes me not act

0:26:22.040 --> 0:26:25.080
<v Speaker 2>authentic and what I know for sure makes the other

0:26:25.080 --> 0:26:28.359
<v Speaker 2>person sing weird like for sure. And it's like if

0:26:28.400 --> 0:26:30.760
<v Speaker 2>we meet in a group setting, like and this is

0:26:30.760 --> 0:26:33.280
<v Speaker 2>why this wedding thing happened so great, like it was

0:26:33.359 --> 0:26:35.639
<v Speaker 2>I mean in my head, but it was just like

0:26:35.800 --> 0:26:38.720
<v Speaker 2>no pressure, there's no freaking pressure. We were there doing

0:26:38.720 --> 0:26:42.480
<v Speaker 2>the same activities, but we were just there supporting the

0:26:42.480 --> 0:26:45.439
<v Speaker 2>people we love, right like, and yeah, there wasn't the

0:26:45.480 --> 0:26:48.520
<v Speaker 2>weird Let's go to pot Jay and I'm gonna end

0:26:48.600 --> 0:26:50.680
<v Speaker 2>up not knowing what to order and then I'm gonna

0:26:50.760 --> 0:26:52.640
<v Speaker 2>order what you have, Like there's none of that.

0:26:52.680 --> 0:26:56.080
<v Speaker 1>It's just being weird. That's weird. Yeah, no, no, no,

0:26:56.160 --> 0:26:59.080
<v Speaker 1>you kind of got my wheels turning though. Now, Cheryl,

0:26:59.160 --> 0:27:02.280
<v Speaker 1>I want to know, out of curiosity, do you ever,

0:27:02.359 --> 0:27:08.280
<v Speaker 1>like played pickleball or my mom does? Your mom does? Okay,

0:27:08.720 --> 0:27:11.919
<v Speaker 1>she's not single. Have you ever outside of dance? Have

0:27:12.040 --> 0:27:15.760
<v Speaker 1>you ever done like anything kind of athletic or sports

0:27:16.240 --> 0:27:17.399
<v Speaker 1>like outside of dance?

0:27:17.960 --> 0:27:20.480
<v Speaker 2>You realize that I was like the MVP of my

0:27:20.680 --> 0:27:22.040
<v Speaker 2>basketball team? Right?

0:27:22.280 --> 0:27:24.600
<v Speaker 1>Oh wait what No? I did not know this, but

0:27:25.160 --> 0:27:26.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm just very act.

0:27:26.400 --> 0:27:29.679
<v Speaker 2>My mom put me everything girl, like I went to

0:27:29.720 --> 0:27:33.119
<v Speaker 2>tennis Stanford Tennis camp every freaking summer, like it was

0:27:33.280 --> 0:27:35.080
<v Speaker 2>I was going to be a professional tennis player.

0:27:35.600 --> 0:27:37.919
<v Speaker 1>Cheryl, So you can play tennis, which means I know

0:27:37.960 --> 0:27:41.640
<v Speaker 1>what pickleball is. I know. I want to know, though.

0:27:42.000 --> 0:27:44.800
<v Speaker 1>What I think is kind of cute about pickleball is

0:27:45.119 --> 0:27:48.200
<v Speaker 1>it falls you know, say, I got competitive, We're trying

0:27:48.200 --> 0:27:51.480
<v Speaker 1>to win. Okay, I love that. But what I think,

0:27:51.520 --> 0:27:55.240
<v Speaker 1>as a non athlete, which is kind of cute about

0:27:55.359 --> 0:27:58.760
<v Speaker 1>pickleball is it falls into that tennis category of like

0:27:59.240 --> 0:28:03.720
<v Speaker 1>the theme outfit attire, like that whole part of it.

0:28:03.960 --> 0:28:07.080
<v Speaker 1>You don't care and somebody who likes to make up

0:28:07.119 --> 0:28:10.080
<v Speaker 1>and wears cute outfits and does cute videos. That is

0:28:10.119 --> 0:28:13.200
<v Speaker 1>not something you like, I will I do I do now?

0:28:13.280 --> 0:28:15.840
<v Speaker 1>But back then I was like, I'm gonna be Serena Williams. No,

0:28:16.480 --> 0:28:19.000
<v Speaker 1>we're talking now. We're talking about the present day if

0:28:19.040 --> 0:28:21.480
<v Speaker 1>you were to come. Okay, So here, I'm gonna just

0:28:21.520 --> 0:28:22.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna rip the back.

0:28:23.080 --> 0:28:26.359
<v Speaker 2>Okay, Okay, this is is this the big reveal, This

0:28:26.440 --> 0:28:27.720
<v Speaker 2>is the big reut to commercial.

0:28:27.720 --> 0:28:41.959
<v Speaker 1>We're cutting to commercial first. So we're doing a really

0:28:42.320 --> 0:28:49.480
<v Speaker 1>fun Pickaball event in Tahoe next month, and honest, I

0:28:49.600 --> 0:28:54.200
<v Speaker 1>Do Part two is gonna be there. So we thought, Okay,

0:28:54.640 --> 0:28:57.800
<v Speaker 1>Cheryl's gonna be there. Who else from some of the

0:28:57.960 --> 0:29:00.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, other fun kind of podcast that we do

0:29:00.560 --> 0:29:03.640
<v Speaker 1>are going to be there? And then I had this

0:29:03.800 --> 0:29:08.520
<v Speaker 1>really great idea because we had this really amazing guy

0:29:09.080 --> 0:29:11.560
<v Speaker 1>on I Do Part two a couple of weeks ago,

0:29:12.080 --> 0:29:15.080
<v Speaker 1>and I'm I'm going to just say there are some

0:29:15.200 --> 0:29:19.240
<v Speaker 1>like cute, like little similarities that I'm noticing. First of all,

0:29:19.400 --> 0:29:24.479
<v Speaker 1>first and foremost, how solicy I actually don't know that

0:29:25.120 --> 0:29:27.600
<v Speaker 1>over my head, but I will tell you this, if

0:29:27.800 --> 0:29:30.600
<v Speaker 1>you're where to goes what I really like about him

0:29:30.920 --> 0:29:33.680
<v Speaker 1>and the possibility of you two getting.

0:29:33.440 --> 0:29:35.440
<v Speaker 2>Along, like becoming friends.

0:29:35.920 --> 0:29:38.040
<v Speaker 1>I said getting along. I didn't say anything else, like,

0:29:38.280 --> 0:29:44.760
<v Speaker 1>well friends. First, he talked about doing the work, and

0:29:44.840 --> 0:29:48.080
<v Speaker 1>I know that that's important to you and has been.

0:29:48.440 --> 0:29:52.200
<v Speaker 1>Your journey is about being open talking about doing the work.

0:29:52.480 --> 0:29:56.920
<v Speaker 1>So that to me. So he is divorced, and it's

0:29:58.040 --> 0:30:01.680
<v Speaker 1>he does have two kids. Hold on, I'm gonna text

0:30:01.720 --> 0:30:03.280
<v Speaker 1>you his Instagram.

0:30:03.560 --> 0:30:06.880
<v Speaker 2>Don't worry, I already did it. You're following, by the way, ps,

0:30:06.920 --> 0:30:07.920
<v Speaker 2>we're following each other.

0:30:10.200 --> 0:30:13.120
<v Speaker 1>I love it. You're stupid, surprised you and your surprise.

0:30:13.240 --> 0:30:15.200
<v Speaker 2>Maybe I should have gone with it because I couldn't

0:30:15.200 --> 0:30:17.240
<v Speaker 2>anymore because I was like, this is the wait, don't

0:30:17.320 --> 0:30:18.560
<v Speaker 2>we're following each other already?

0:30:18.800 --> 0:30:21.920
<v Speaker 1>Wait? I love this so obviously, Listeners, we are talking

0:30:21.960 --> 0:30:25.920
<v Speaker 1>about JP Rosenbaum, who was recently on the podcast. If

0:30:25.920 --> 0:30:28.200
<v Speaker 1>you didn't listen to that episode, definitely go back and

0:30:28.360 --> 0:30:32.800
<v Speaker 1>get a therapy session about him. Okay, but what I

0:30:32.960 --> 0:30:37.280
<v Speaker 1>like about him, Cheryl and the possibility of there being

0:30:37.320 --> 0:30:42.600
<v Speaker 1>a nice, you know, commonality between you two is one

0:30:43.000 --> 0:30:45.800
<v Speaker 1>about how much growth he talked about on the pod

0:30:45.960 --> 0:30:49.320
<v Speaker 1>about after his divorce and what that's been like for

0:30:49.400 --> 0:30:54.040
<v Speaker 1>him personally but also in his co parenting relationship. I

0:30:54.040 --> 0:30:57.160
<v Speaker 1>thought was really really cool. And then second of all,

0:30:57.280 --> 0:30:59.280
<v Speaker 1>I don't know you. I don't know if you saw

0:30:59.720 --> 0:31:03.200
<v Speaker 1>he's making headlines in this last week with his ex

0:31:03.280 --> 0:31:07.600
<v Speaker 1>wife Ashley, because they just went on a really amazing

0:31:07.720 --> 0:31:11.520
<v Speaker 1>family vacation with my kids and it was just the

0:31:11.520 --> 0:31:14.080
<v Speaker 1>two of them, it looked like with their kids, and

0:31:14.160 --> 0:31:16.880
<v Speaker 1>they were like posting and sharing about it, and it

0:31:16.960 --> 0:31:21.560
<v Speaker 1>was just like really cool to see two parents that.

0:31:22.480 --> 0:31:25.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean, you and I are both products of like

0:31:25.120 --> 0:31:27.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, divorce and stuff like, and we know what

0:31:27.240 --> 0:31:30.240
<v Speaker 1>that can be like growing up as kids. But we

0:31:30.320 --> 0:31:33.440
<v Speaker 1>went on family vacations, though you did. I did not know.

0:31:33.840 --> 0:31:35.880
<v Speaker 2>Well, we went to go visit my father at a

0:31:35.880 --> 0:31:38.400
<v Speaker 2>strip clubs vacation, So I don't know how much that

0:31:38.440 --> 0:31:40.680
<v Speaker 2>would be considered as a vacation.

0:31:40.600 --> 0:31:44.640
<v Speaker 1>Family friendly or like a vacation does not Disneyland. I

0:31:44.680 --> 0:31:47.680
<v Speaker 1>don't have those kinds of memories with my parents, and

0:31:47.840 --> 0:31:52.440
<v Speaker 1>I think that that's something that's really respectable. Yes, And

0:31:52.720 --> 0:31:55.720
<v Speaker 1>I think it's also a really good testament of being

0:31:55.760 --> 0:31:59.760
<v Speaker 1>able to check the ego right, because that's a huge

0:31:59.800 --> 0:32:02.600
<v Speaker 1>part is like he talked about how his ex wife

0:32:02.680 --> 0:32:05.360
<v Speaker 1>is already in a relationship, and at first that shit,

0:32:06.080 --> 0:32:08.120
<v Speaker 1>oh she's been yeah, because they've been divorced for like

0:32:08.160 --> 0:32:11.320
<v Speaker 1>over four years now. Oh wow, yeah, so it's been

0:32:11.480 --> 0:32:14.440
<v Speaker 1>a minute. He also said some really nice and respectable

0:32:14.440 --> 0:32:19.160
<v Speaker 1>things about his wife, you know, new partner, and because

0:32:19.200 --> 0:32:21.680
<v Speaker 1>that person is around his kids and stuff like that,

0:32:22.480 --> 0:32:25.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, he's really really even keeled. So I really

0:32:25.920 --> 0:32:28.840
<v Speaker 1>like that first and foremost even keed. How do you know,

0:32:29.280 --> 0:32:32.400
<v Speaker 1>just because I think a man that is able to

0:32:32.720 --> 0:32:36.440
<v Speaker 1>openly talk about that experience and have humility and grace

0:32:36.520 --> 0:32:40.280
<v Speaker 1>when talking about their ex I think speaks volumes. That's

0:32:40.320 --> 0:32:43.280
<v Speaker 1>what I mean. It didn't sound contentious, it didn't sound angry,

0:32:43.280 --> 0:32:47.760
<v Speaker 1>it didn't sound dismissive. It sounded really nice, mature and yes,

0:32:48.360 --> 0:32:51.640
<v Speaker 1>and like somebody like he said that don't work, you know,

0:32:51.760 --> 0:32:52.800
<v Speaker 1>so yes, great.

0:32:53.080 --> 0:32:56.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and the fact that he has kids obviously is

0:32:56.240 --> 0:32:59.040
<v Speaker 2>very it's good that that happens. You don't want people,

0:32:59.120 --> 0:33:02.920
<v Speaker 2>you know, I've been witness to people catching each other

0:33:03.040 --> 0:33:06.160
<v Speaker 2>when kids are around, and it's not necessarily the best environment.

0:33:06.240 --> 0:33:07.920
<v Speaker 1>So you guys are following each other.

0:33:08.360 --> 0:33:13.320
<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, because we've had this discussion. Hey, hey, I

0:33:13.400 --> 0:33:17.680
<v Speaker 2>do Part two. Folks, this is no surprise. I can't

0:33:17.680 --> 0:33:19.920
<v Speaker 2>be surprised, as you know that. But anyway, since you

0:33:20.120 --> 0:33:24.000
<v Speaker 2>mentioned his name, and since I got that lovely group text,

0:33:24.600 --> 0:33:27.320
<v Speaker 2>of course, don't you know who you're talking to? I

0:33:27.400 --> 0:33:29.160
<v Speaker 2>might as well be a private investigator.

0:33:29.360 --> 0:33:31.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I love that. But like when we look

0:33:31.640 --> 0:33:34.400
<v Speaker 1>at his Instagram, like, what do we haven't looked at

0:33:34.400 --> 0:33:36.120
<v Speaker 1>it yet. I just started.

0:33:36.160 --> 0:33:38.560
<v Speaker 2>I just pressed the follow button. Okay, it doesn't mean

0:33:38.600 --> 0:33:39.240
<v Speaker 2>I'm scrolling.

0:33:40.320 --> 0:33:42.280
<v Speaker 1>Can you look at it right now while you're on

0:33:42.360 --> 0:33:45.040
<v Speaker 1>here with me. I can't really focus. I'm so bad

0:33:45.080 --> 0:33:47.120
<v Speaker 1>at this. Okay, fine, as long as I can. I

0:33:47.240 --> 0:33:50.000
<v Speaker 1>just want to know what your overall gland. What do

0:33:50.000 --> 0:33:52.520
<v Speaker 1>you want me to look at? Specifically? Just look at

0:33:52.520 --> 0:33:54.720
<v Speaker 1>his page and like what do you oh, you mean

0:33:54.800 --> 0:33:58.520
<v Speaker 1>the aesthetic I can't do it aesthetic because his aesthetic is.

0:33:58.680 --> 0:34:01.640
<v Speaker 1>I love that he's Jewish. I'm Jewish, you know that, right?

0:34:01.960 --> 0:34:05.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't know I'm fifty four percent or no, sorry,

0:34:05.160 --> 0:34:08.000
<v Speaker 2>fifty three percent Osazi. Didn't know that My father lied

0:34:08.040 --> 0:34:11.759
<v Speaker 2>to me this whole time. Okay, rest in peace, my

0:34:12.040 --> 0:34:12.760
<v Speaker 2>Jewish father.

0:34:13.440 --> 0:34:17.680
<v Speaker 1>Do you love the fact that he's like, look, he's

0:34:17.680 --> 0:34:19.480
<v Speaker 1>on a boat like he lives in Miami.

0:34:19.680 --> 0:34:22.600
<v Speaker 2>Okay, so well, no, if there's a connection in the woman,

0:34:22.640 --> 0:34:25.120
<v Speaker 2>I shake this mean's hand. Okay, this is just all here,

0:34:25.360 --> 0:34:27.480
<v Speaker 2>This is all great, book great. You know, I don't

0:34:27.520 --> 0:34:30.120
<v Speaker 2>want someone to judge me off my happy Instagram either,

0:34:30.280 --> 0:34:32.759
<v Speaker 2>Like this is not the real me what you see

0:34:32.760 --> 0:34:33.640
<v Speaker 2>on my Instagram.

0:34:34.160 --> 0:34:35.879
<v Speaker 1>Okay, my god, he looks like my dad.

0:34:35.920 --> 0:34:37.520
<v Speaker 2>He looks like my dad. He just looks like my

0:34:37.600 --> 0:34:39.239
<v Speaker 2>father a little bit. He looks a little bit like

0:34:39.239 --> 0:34:41.000
<v Speaker 2>my dad. I don't know what to say other than

0:34:41.040 --> 0:34:46.759
<v Speaker 2>I clearly still have daddy issues. Jesus, Jesus, Yeah, he

0:34:46.800 --> 0:34:49.000
<v Speaker 2>looks like my father. He really does look like my dad. Here,

0:34:49.040 --> 0:34:51.399
<v Speaker 2>I'm not joking, not even a little bit.

0:34:52.160 --> 0:34:54.960
<v Speaker 1>Sure, I'm not kidding. I'm not kidding.

0:34:55.680 --> 0:34:59.040
<v Speaker 2>Okay, that doesn't mean I mean that means if anything, Oh,

0:34:59.040 --> 0:35:02.520
<v Speaker 2>I got a chance. I can't do that whole Instagram thing.

0:35:02.560 --> 0:35:07.600
<v Speaker 2>It really is just so it's like small talk. It's nasty.

0:35:08.000 --> 0:35:11.279
<v Speaker 1>Let me say this clearly, by looking at the instagram.

0:35:11.520 --> 0:35:14.160
<v Speaker 1>Right with the instagram, we know that he's a dad.

0:35:14.840 --> 0:35:16.799
<v Speaker 1>We know that he's a dad Jewish and looks like

0:35:16.840 --> 0:35:20.640
<v Speaker 1>my daddy. And so right off, right off the rit

0:35:20.680 --> 0:35:24.719
<v Speaker 1>from that, have you ever dated a single dad? Is

0:35:24.719 --> 0:35:28.759
<v Speaker 1>that something that you know? Have you ever dreamed of

0:35:28.880 --> 0:35:31.480
<v Speaker 1>or thought of yourself being a stepmom?

0:35:31.680 --> 0:35:34.120
<v Speaker 2>By the way, kids, well, I love that he has kids.

0:35:34.120 --> 0:35:37.760
<v Speaker 2>Like that has nothing to do with anything. I mean, honestly,

0:35:37.840 --> 0:35:40.160
<v Speaker 2>it's yeah, no, I don't. I always said that it

0:35:40.160 --> 0:35:42.160
<v Speaker 2>would be great to have somebody who has already had

0:35:42.200 --> 0:35:44.120
<v Speaker 2>the kids, because then I won't have the pressure of

0:35:44.600 --> 0:35:47.200
<v Speaker 2>trying to have one or whatever it is. You know.

0:35:47.960 --> 0:35:50.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Okay, cool, So it's not a turn off. I

0:35:50.560 --> 0:35:54.400
<v Speaker 1>like that. Nothing has been a turnoff yet. Cool. I

0:35:54.480 --> 0:35:54.879
<v Speaker 1>like that.

0:35:54.880 --> 0:35:57.440
<v Speaker 2>That's like, how optimistic I am.

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<v Speaker 1>So what I'm what We're ski.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we're not doing anything. You're just don't live and

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<v Speaker 2>get back down to earth. Okay, this is just two

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<v Speaker 2>people that are single that you think would be a

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<v Speaker 2>good match.

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<v Speaker 1>That doesn't mean it is. We're having this fun pickleball

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<v Speaker 1>event in tom and there's going to be a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of other people there.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of other people. Like was this guy at

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<v Speaker 2>the bat I don't watch The Bachelor?

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<v Speaker 1>Was he a bachelor? So he won the bachelorette so

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<v Speaker 1>he wasn't the Bachelor? No, so he went on it.

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<v Speaker 1>Ashley season.

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<v Speaker 2>He it he.

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<v Speaker 1>Married her, and the season was that, Oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>like five or something wow, like years ago, like twenty eleven,

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<v Speaker 1>twenty twelve, oh or even before that. It's like, what

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<v Speaker 1>does he do now? So he's a real estate developer

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<v Speaker 1>in Miami.

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<v Speaker 2>Interesting stick in he lives in Miami.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so he didn't. He didn't stick into the reality

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<v Speaker 1>TV world. I like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I like it.

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<v Speaker 1>I like it he was a one and done kind

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<v Speaker 1>of guy. I also love that he lives on the

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<v Speaker 1>opposite side of Also, I kind of like that he's

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<v Speaker 1>like in a beach and it's like, you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not getting ahead of myself, but I'm just no, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just saying that I think you should come to Tahoe.

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<v Speaker 1>You should come to this pickleball event. Yes, I will

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm available. Yes, And it's just a group thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And I also, now that you've told me you are

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<v Speaker 1>basically a tennis star, I feel like you need to.

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<v Speaker 2>We're not announcing this, We're not gonna do you understand.

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<v Speaker 2>I was in seventh grade, like, don't you dare.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm just saying I feel like it's time to

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<v Speaker 1>wear a cute outfit. It's summertime and you're gonna show

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<v Speaker 1>me what's up times. I don't play tennis, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>play pickleball. But anyways, it's got to shave it from Zara.

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<v Speaker 1>It's in, it's in, it arrived. We've got to open

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<v Speaker 1>the box. I'll leave you. I'll leave you with this.

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<v Speaker 1>If anything that I feel like you and I have

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<v Speaker 1>kind of learned in this last year is maybe to

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<v Speaker 1>be a little bit more like our friend Kelly ben Simone.

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<v Speaker 2>I love Kelly and just have fun, you know, hold on,

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<v Speaker 2>I just need to ask, well, I mean, i'll ask her,

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<v Speaker 2>but what what's the status of her and her dating life?

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<v Speaker 1>I think she's just you know, having fun. A lot

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<v Speaker 1>of these guys and she'll say this too, a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of these guys have either dated somebody that she knows

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, somebody that she was on TV with.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's like, I understand, the pool gets really small

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<v Speaker 1>when you get to be a certain age. That's another thing.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, she's gorgeous and she doesn't need to

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<v Speaker 1>just be dating guys in New York. She could broaden

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<v Speaker 1>the scope and like not be dating people that dated

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<v Speaker 1>her co stars. And does she know that though maybe

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<v Speaker 1>it's all in her. You know. Maybe you can tell

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<v Speaker 1>her that when you guys talk, well I do, I

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<v Speaker 1>do tell her. Yeah, I just think I'll leave you

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<v Speaker 1>with that. Let's just maybe take a place, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>out of Kelly ben Simone's book and just yes fun

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<v Speaker 1>and go to this pickleball event. So I just love

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<v Speaker 1>catching up with you today, Cheryl. This was so fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I loved hearing just about that things are getting your

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<v Speaker 1>attention now because I just think, like six months ago,

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<v Speaker 1>you weren't talking like this. So I just like, I

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<v Speaker 1>like this conversation today. Well, thank you, and you know

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<v Speaker 1>what did.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh for sure going to take a play out of

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<v Speaker 2>fellow mentor Kelly ben Simon's playbook and just see what

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<v Speaker 2>happens because you never know. And of course we're going

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<v Speaker 2>to keep you guys posted on the pickleball events. My

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<v Speaker 2>mom is going to be so proud.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you're ready to date again, maybe you are,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe you're not, and you're just not exactly sure where

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<v Speaker 2>to start, like myself, call us or email us. We're

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<v Speaker 2>here to guide you. All the info is in the

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<v Speaker 2>show notes. Follow us on socials. Make sure to rate

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<v Speaker 2>podcast where falling in love is the main objective.