1 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 1: Welcome back to I Do Part two. 2 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:18,560 Speaker 2: It's one of your celebrity mentors here on the pod, 3 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:22,560 Speaker 2: Cheryl Burke, and today my producer, Heather wanted me to 4 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:24,640 Speaker 2: pop on the mic because she said she had some 5 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:25,720 Speaker 2: fun news to tell me. 6 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 1: Oh, I hate surprises, Heather. I'm literally look all yours God. 7 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: Hi's Cheryl. How's it going good. It's been a while, 8 00:00:35,080 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 1: I know, I know, since we had our really really 9 00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:40,800 Speaker 1: sad Valentine's Day episode. 10 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:43,400 Speaker 2: Was that the last time that we did this together. 11 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 2: I mean I talked to you after that, not. 12 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:47,839 Speaker 1: Me croock since then, but that's the last time the 13 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 1: audience heard from as we were doing a really sad episode. 14 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 1: I think that a lot of people ended up listening 15 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 1: to a lot of single people. Yeah, I know that 16 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 1: we weren't alone. We weren't alone, and we're not alone. 17 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:04,040 Speaker 1: But I wanted to kind of catch up with you 18 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:06,960 Speaker 1: a little bit before we kind of dive into that 19 00:01:07,040 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 1: you know, little fun surprise that I said I wanted 20 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: to talk to you about, but I wanted to kind 21 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 1: of hear from you, and I know our listeners do too, 22 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 1: about like what you've been up to lately. How have 23 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 1: you been feeling Obviously, you've been getting a lot of 24 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 1: press and like you know, been talking to the press 25 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 1: a lot about what's been going on in terms of 26 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: online stuff that you've been receiving. But I kind of 27 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:35,639 Speaker 1: wanted to know overall, like how is Cheryl doing? 28 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 2: Did you also hear in the press that they asked 29 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:41,080 Speaker 2: me the big d question about dating? And I was like, no, 30 00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 2: we're not there yet. 31 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:46,040 Speaker 1: Well we're going to dive into all of that, of course, 32 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:49,640 Speaker 1: but tell me that right now, on this day, how 33 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: is Cheryl doing? 34 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:53,680 Speaker 2: Cheryl is a little like I'm just like, I feel 35 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 2: like I'm being pulled a million different directions. I'm also 36 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:59,080 Speaker 2: working on another which we haven't announced yet, but I'm 37 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 2: working on another show and we're busy pitching that. But 38 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 2: it's a whole di re vibe. Like I told you before, 39 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:08,640 Speaker 2: we press record here. So but it what I've noticed, 40 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 2: the pattern has been me having to grieve whatever or 41 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:16,640 Speaker 2: however that may be my past. It is shoved in 42 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 2: my face and I have to deal with it because 43 00:02:21,720 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 2: I have no choice, right like, in order for me 44 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:25,960 Speaker 2: to move on. And a lot of what I just 45 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 2: mentioned that I was doing has a lot to do 46 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 2: with that, and I think will help me when it 47 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:31,679 Speaker 2: comes to my personal life as well. 48 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, I kind of just wanted to talk to you 49 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:39,520 Speaker 1: about that because obviously it's the summer, right, summertime is 50 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 1: a lock Girls summer, how Girl summer, but also wedding season, right. 51 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:48,399 Speaker 1: I know that you were just a part of your 52 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:51,400 Speaker 1: sister's wedding, and so I kind of wanted to know 53 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:54,519 Speaker 1: what that was like for you, as somebody you've talked 54 00:02:54,560 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 1: about on this podcast that you've went through and you 55 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: had the big wedding yourself, and the big wedding became 56 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: an event for you and all of that. Now being 57 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:05,920 Speaker 1: on the other side of things and being a guest 58 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:08,799 Speaker 1: at a wedding and it's your sibling, what was that 59 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 1: experience like for you? Did you have a date or 60 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:13,120 Speaker 1: were you solo? Kind of tell me a little bit 61 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: about that. Yeah, I had a few dates. 62 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:18,920 Speaker 2: I'm kidding, that doesn't even sound right couping out of 63 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:21,839 Speaker 2: my mouth, but okay, so a lot of things happened. One, 64 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:24,040 Speaker 2: I was a makeup artist, so I didn't have time 65 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:27,240 Speaker 2: to even do my own makeup, let alone. You know, 66 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 2: I had focus on my sister, like I was her 67 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 2: makeup artist for that weekend, I would say, because it 68 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 2: was rehearsal, dinner and wedding I didn't have I was 69 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 2: so I brought all of Sephora with me, and I 70 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:41,840 Speaker 2: filled my car up to the roof. Literally was like 71 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:47,160 Speaker 2: a mobile beauty department store. That was my actual car 72 00:03:47,280 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 2: right driving from wherever I lived to the Bay Area 73 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 2: checked in. Took me two days to unpack, literally, just 74 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:56,720 Speaker 2: my OCD was in full effect. 75 00:03:56,800 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 1: So other than that and me thinking. 76 00:03:58,720 --> 00:04:02,000 Speaker 2: I had appendicitis the morning of her wedding, thinking I 77 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 2: had to go straight to the er, it was all smooth. 78 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 1: It great. Be real with me for a second, though, 79 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 1: because I went through both of my sisters getting married. 80 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:13,680 Speaker 1: We've already talked about this that I've never been married 81 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:17,600 Speaker 1: or engaged, and uh, you know one of those was 82 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 1: a little tougher for me than the other. Really. Yeah, 83 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:24,679 Speaker 1: seeing my younger sister get married and ourt a family, 84 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:28,640 Speaker 1: and you know, my other sister been married, and you know, 85 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 1: the kind of comments that I got at that wedding, 86 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 1: Oh interesting, when is it going to be your turn? 87 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:37,720 Speaker 1: Always a bridesmaid, never a bride, Like these kinds of 88 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 1: comments were to you, And so I kind of just 89 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:44,040 Speaker 1: want to know like even though you were totally in 90 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:47,599 Speaker 1: it and being an active supportive member of your sister's 91 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:50,680 Speaker 1: you know, thing like being there for the makeup. Was 92 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:54,400 Speaker 1: there ever any moments, either the drive up or sitting 93 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:57,919 Speaker 1: there were you where it was emotional for you in 94 00:04:57,960 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 1: a different way? 95 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:01,360 Speaker 2: I think it was it's you are a personal thing 96 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 2: with my sister and I and our We've gone through 97 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 2: a lot with each other, and what was interesting. 98 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:09,560 Speaker 1: So so to answer. 99 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:11,720 Speaker 2: Your question if you're trying to ask about like did 100 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 2: it bring up my ex husband or like that time together, No, 101 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:21,040 Speaker 2: actually not at all. I was really choosing to be present. 102 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:24,880 Speaker 2: I put my phone away. It was so emotional for 103 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:26,440 Speaker 2: the both of us because yes, we do have an 104 00:05:26,440 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 2: age gap. I didn't get any you know, crazy Filipinos 105 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 2: for my family come up to me and be like, 106 00:05:32,400 --> 00:05:32,680 Speaker 2: you know. 107 00:05:33,080 --> 00:05:34,920 Speaker 1: How are you feeling? Like none of that happened? 108 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:41,880 Speaker 2: What was I think the emotional side was just my sister, 109 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 2: Like I think of my little sister as my daughter, 110 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:48,760 Speaker 2: you know, And I don't want to talk more about 111 00:05:48,760 --> 00:05:50,640 Speaker 2: it than what I am talking about, but like you know, 112 00:05:50,680 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 2: there's just been very emotional between us. It's been a 113 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 2: rollercoaster and you know, like anybody's relationship. We evolve and 114 00:05:57,520 --> 00:06:00,120 Speaker 2: some people do it together and some people don't like 115 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:01,760 Speaker 2: when I tell you we were so close, like we 116 00:06:01,800 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 2: would go on like extravagant, luxurious vacations when we were 117 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 2: both single in the past, and and then you know, 118 00:06:08,720 --> 00:06:13,679 Speaker 2: we all meet our other halves and stuff happened, and 119 00:06:13,760 --> 00:06:15,800 Speaker 2: so like, it was just beautiful to be able to 120 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:18,039 Speaker 2: be present. And my sister has said something when I 121 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:20,280 Speaker 2: was doing her and my sister was so emotional, like 122 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 2: literally it was just like and as she should be, right, 123 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:25,360 Speaker 2: it was her day, but it was a different type 124 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:29,159 Speaker 2: of emotion that I never actually felt. And since we 125 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 2: were both single in France together popping around, you know, 126 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:35,760 Speaker 2: so it's like more of a family internal thing than 127 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:40,440 Speaker 2: it was, you know, so sad that I'm not married 128 00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 2: still type thing. 129 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 1: I mean, was there any anxiety? I mean, I know 130 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:47,560 Speaker 1: I felt this before, having to go to a wedding alone, 131 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 1: you know, having just been a table with people alone, 132 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 1: having to hit the dance floor with people that you 133 00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:57,599 Speaker 1: maybe don't know that wasn't the experience. You didn't have, 134 00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 1: no anxiety about being by yourself. No, actually love it. 135 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 2: Now for my cousin's wedding, the first wedding I went 136 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:08,479 Speaker 2: to after like it was my first wedding that I 137 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:13,120 Speaker 2: attended since my wedding. Yes, definitely my sister. No, I 138 00:07:13,200 --> 00:07:14,840 Speaker 2: knew everybody, you know, it was all of our friends 139 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:17,200 Speaker 2: and family, but I there were a couple of cute 140 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:20,240 Speaker 2: guys and there was this one single dude. Okay, there 141 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 2: was this one single guy. When did you get there? 142 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:25,480 Speaker 1: Excuse what happened? Taking me through the timeline. 143 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 2: So once I was done with my makeup artist duties, 144 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 2: I was able to actually look up for my makeup 145 00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 2: brushes and I see other humans and so funny because strategically, 146 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:38,840 Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure my sister and her husband put me 147 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 2: next to this one dude who's single, best friends with 148 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 2: the groom and on paper, like I actually did ask 149 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:49,720 Speaker 2: about this guy soon after I got divorced, and I 150 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 2: was like, oh, what's his deal? Because I always like 151 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:54,560 Speaker 2: saw him whenever, like he's gathering, like he's always bringing 152 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:56,600 Speaker 2: a new chick. And I was like, this guy, what's 153 00:07:56,680 --> 00:07:59,360 Speaker 2: you know? He's a year older than me or something 154 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 2: like that, and I was like, what's his deal? You know, 155 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:03,400 Speaker 2: like did you have a commitment issues? Like what's happening. 156 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 2: First when I mentioned him, the response from my sister's 157 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:11,360 Speaker 2: husband wasn't like very responsive. So I was like, oh, 158 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 2: maybe it's not Maybe either they think I'm not good 159 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 2: for him or whatever. And now they kept like kind 160 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:19,520 Speaker 2: of saying. So like my sister goes, you know, I 161 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 2: met my husband on Riyah, like, do you think you should? 162 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:24,920 Speaker 2: And I was like, no, I don't think I should, 163 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:27,960 Speaker 2: but you might convince me maybe later down the road, 164 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 2: who knows, never say never. But she's like, and I said, 165 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:34,839 Speaker 2: but how about your the you know, your husband's friend 166 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:37,120 Speaker 2: And she goes, yeah, yeah, I'm single. 167 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:37,840 Speaker 1: Do you think you're ready? 168 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 2: And I was like, if I meet somebody authentically like that, 169 00:08:40,440 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 2: it's different, right, Like it's different. 170 00:08:42,080 --> 00:08:44,720 Speaker 1: Than having to go on a dating app. I'm sorry, 171 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 1: but would that not be the cutest story ever? Like 172 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:51,600 Speaker 1: it would until until we met at my sister. 173 00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:55,040 Speaker 2: Until something happened and it was such a turn up 174 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:55,959 Speaker 2: and I don't want to say. 175 00:08:55,760 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 1: It, Cheryl, you have to tell me. I can't. I can't, 176 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:03,839 Speaker 1: you can't. Err oh my god, Okay, you have to 177 00:09:03,880 --> 00:09:06,160 Speaker 1: tell me later then, but I will. But it was 178 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:06,920 Speaker 1: nothing to do with me. 179 00:09:07,200 --> 00:09:10,199 Speaker 2: It had everything to do with his actions. And all 180 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:12,200 Speaker 2: I'm gonna say is that I'm sober. 181 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 1: Well, I can deduce right what happens at a wedding, 182 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:18,400 Speaker 1: you know, is people tend to I don't know. I 183 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:19,880 Speaker 1: don't know if this time is at a wedding. I 184 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:23,080 Speaker 1: hope it doesn't, got it. Okay, something happened not at 185 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 1: the wedding that turns you off. 186 00:09:24,520 --> 00:09:27,560 Speaker 2: No, it happened at the wedding, at the dinner, at 187 00:09:27,600 --> 00:09:31,080 Speaker 2: the speaking dinner reception. Okay, we'll talk about it later. 188 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:33,760 Speaker 2: It's not my business to put it out there for sure. 189 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:38,439 Speaker 1: But it wasn't There wasn't a connection. No, there was 190 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:41,959 Speaker 1: there was a connection until that happened. Okay, Well, let 191 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 1: me ask you this, Cheryl. First of all, I i've 192 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:48,480 Speaker 1: already I just gave you a hint. I'm sober, I know, 193 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:51,240 Speaker 1: And I was about to say, Cheryl, I commend you 194 00:09:51,280 --> 00:09:53,480 Speaker 1: on your sobriety. You know that, Thank you. And I 195 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 1: think that that is also for anybody that I know 196 00:09:57,240 --> 00:10:00,720 Speaker 1: in life that is sober and in a partnership. It 197 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:04,000 Speaker 1: is something that I've had conversations about with people where 198 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:07,840 Speaker 1: I say, even if you don't have a problem, or 199 00:10:07,920 --> 00:10:12,400 Speaker 1: your partner doesn't have a problem, but has chosen that style. 200 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:16,200 Speaker 1: You need to choose that lifestyle as well as being 201 00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:17,720 Speaker 1: in a partnership with somebody. 202 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:20,080 Speaker 2: I'm not saying that he should have been so like, 203 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:22,839 Speaker 2: I'm not saying that, but there's levels. 204 00:10:22,760 --> 00:10:27,160 Speaker 1: I was going to say, was this a moment of 205 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 1: indiscretion that we were at something or were you like, no, 206 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:36,199 Speaker 1: this is probably a lifestyle difference. It's a lifestyle I asked, Yeah, 207 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 1: it's a lifestyle difference. 208 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:40,400 Speaker 2: And if there were me ten years ago, it would 209 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:42,120 Speaker 2: be a match one hundred percent. 210 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:47,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, and listen, kudos to you for recognizing that right 211 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:52,480 Speaker 1: up front, and who knows. It's a shame. But also 212 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:54,839 Speaker 1: maybe things change later on, you know what I mean. 213 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 2: And then there's there's another dude. I'm not just it's 214 00:10:59,040 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 2: not just one. 215 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:03,560 Speaker 1: Okay, So talk about that. What happened? So all? Okay? 216 00:11:03,600 --> 00:11:07,080 Speaker 2: So on the during the rehearsal, like the actual rehearsal 217 00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 2: at my parents' best friend's home where the wedding took place, 218 00:11:10,640 --> 00:11:14,040 Speaker 2: we were practicing these walkdowns and I was originally paired 219 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:16,679 Speaker 2: with somebody and then I got switched and I was like, 220 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:18,959 Speaker 2: oh rude, anyway. 221 00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:27,280 Speaker 1: So cute, quiet, he was cute and quiet and yeah. 222 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:28,760 Speaker 1: So I asked my sister. 223 00:11:28,559 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 2: Like, not obviously on her wedding day, but like, oh no. 224 00:11:32,600 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 2: She brought it up when I did her makeup on 225 00:11:34,720 --> 00:11:36,319 Speaker 2: her wedding day that morning, and she's like, what do 226 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:39,600 Speaker 2: you think of so and so? And I was like, yeah, like, 227 00:11:39,800 --> 00:11:41,960 Speaker 2: I don't know. He seems really sweet. I don't freaking know. 228 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:45,520 Speaker 2: We literally were just walking elbow to elbow two seconds. 229 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:47,520 Speaker 2: I thought I was going a face plant. He saved 230 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:50,440 Speaker 2: my life and that was it. And she and I said, 231 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:51,840 Speaker 2: but doesn't he have a girl? I thought I saw 232 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 2: him with a girl. She goes, yeah, but they've been 233 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 2: fighting supposedly, you know, like Nicole. 234 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:00,320 Speaker 1: Just because they're fighting on that day, I'm not going 235 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:01,480 Speaker 1: to be the first of all. 236 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:06,640 Speaker 2: I'm no, I am not somebody's rebound, okay. 237 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:09,480 Speaker 1: But that's so funny. That's bringing up a memory of 238 00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:12,440 Speaker 1: a wedding I went to as well, where somebody was 239 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:14,959 Speaker 1: like they're on the outs, blah blah blah, like somebody's 240 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:17,560 Speaker 1: still having one argument. And it was no, it was 241 00:12:17,600 --> 00:12:20,320 Speaker 1: like people went like in on an argument at the 242 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:22,080 Speaker 1: wedding and they were like, yeah, they're on the outs, 243 00:12:22,120 --> 00:12:26,080 Speaker 1: and so Anyways, what I'm hearing and what I'm liking 244 00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:31,080 Speaker 1: about this catchup Cheryl, is that I'm open. There's a 245 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 1: traction sparking for you too. Yeah I'm not blind, yeah, 246 00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 1: but like literally, Cheryl, I think six months ago when 247 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:41,679 Speaker 1: we were talking, you would be like hard pass like, 248 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:44,079 Speaker 1: no way, my eyes are down. 249 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 2: I am not yet when you're talking dating apps or 250 00:12:47,679 --> 00:12:48,840 Speaker 2: anybody in this business. 251 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:52,880 Speaker 1: Yes, sure, but I don't think i've heard you express 252 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:54,960 Speaker 1: like even when I was like, what about a guy 253 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:57,360 Speaker 1: at the grocery store, You're like, I get my groceries delivered. 254 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:00,440 Speaker 1: It's true. I would say the same damn thing today 255 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:03,560 Speaker 1: is very true. But look, you went to a wedding. 256 00:13:04,559 --> 00:13:06,400 Speaker 1: I had to go to a wedding, but there were 257 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:10,760 Speaker 1: two attractive men your orbit. So I think that this 258 00:13:10,880 --> 00:13:13,200 Speaker 1: is a good sign. I think it's a good sign. 259 00:13:13,679 --> 00:13:15,400 Speaker 2: But that's what I mean, just so you know, just 260 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 2: so we are clear, this is what I mean by 261 00:13:17,679 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 2: meeting somebody naturally like that, right, Like, I don't go 262 00:13:21,040 --> 00:13:21,520 Speaker 2: to weddings. 263 00:13:21,520 --> 00:13:21,760 Speaker 1: I don't. 264 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 2: I'm not a makeup artist, nor do I ever. That 265 00:13:23,600 --> 00:13:25,920 Speaker 2: was so traumatizing. I will never do it again. But 266 00:13:26,240 --> 00:13:27,720 Speaker 2: I that's how you meet people. 267 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:41,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, no, no, I agree, I agree. I want 268 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:43,720 Speaker 1: to know. Like I said, we're halfway through the year 269 00:13:43,960 --> 00:13:47,200 Speaker 1: at this moment, I want to know what kind of 270 00:13:47,360 --> 00:13:52,040 Speaker 1: guy you are open to attracting into your life. I'm 271 00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:55,480 Speaker 1: not gonna say the term looking for because we're not 272 00:13:55,640 --> 00:13:59,160 Speaker 1: looking for anybody, but no, kind of man are you 273 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:04,199 Speaker 1: interested in attracting to you at this time? What kind 274 00:14:04,200 --> 00:14:09,000 Speaker 1: of talk you about? Like material, no qualities, physical and 275 00:14:09,480 --> 00:14:12,559 Speaker 1: personality wise? What are you looking for? What is what's 276 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:14,079 Speaker 1: getting your head to turn? 277 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:16,800 Speaker 2: You know how they say that you're attracted to your 278 00:14:16,840 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 2: father or your dad. 279 00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:19,720 Speaker 1: No, I don't believe in that sentiment. 280 00:14:19,800 --> 00:14:22,760 Speaker 2: No, I definitely, especially if you've been abandoned by your father. 281 00:14:22,840 --> 00:14:26,840 Speaker 2: And yeah, no, I believe in it. Like I tell you, 282 00:14:26,880 --> 00:14:30,520 Speaker 2: every man I've dated seriously has been has especially my 283 00:14:30,560 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 2: ex husband. 284 00:14:31,520 --> 00:14:32,800 Speaker 1: Identified my father. 285 00:14:33,120 --> 00:14:37,200 Speaker 2: Okay, But like I was saying my therapist, she's like, 286 00:14:37,680 --> 00:14:40,200 Speaker 2: can we start attracting taller men? 287 00:14:40,440 --> 00:14:44,120 Speaker 1: But it's so funny because the guy that. 288 00:14:44,120 --> 00:14:47,080 Speaker 2: I actually liked to had the girlfriend was also a 289 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:49,760 Speaker 2: surety shalloy listen? 290 00:14:50,320 --> 00:14:51,880 Speaker 1: Short kings need the love to. 291 00:14:52,400 --> 00:14:55,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, just put a couple platform heels in there and 292 00:14:55,120 --> 00:14:55,560 Speaker 2: look good. 293 00:14:56,280 --> 00:15:00,320 Speaker 1: I like that you're do you, but also listen attract. 294 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:02,760 Speaker 2: That is just I'm not talking deep clearly right now. 295 00:15:02,840 --> 00:15:05,840 Speaker 1: That is just straight up the distractions attraction, you know 296 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:10,720 Speaker 1: what I mean? For me, I might like make some 297 00:15:10,760 --> 00:15:14,680 Speaker 1: people upset hearing this. In the ide part two world, 298 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:20,320 Speaker 1: I'm not really attracted to bold men. That's my thing, okay, 299 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:26,320 Speaker 1: And I don't think that that is I don't just 300 00:15:26,480 --> 00:15:29,520 Speaker 1: I don't want to say discriminate against bald men, but 301 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:32,520 Speaker 1: I don't. It's not what turns my head. 302 00:15:32,920 --> 00:15:35,600 Speaker 2: Sorry, But what if you're stuck in a line during 303 00:15:35,600 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 2: a wedding and you're doing you know, I have to 304 00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:41,040 Speaker 2: tell you like I did lately, and I'm very proud 305 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:43,320 Speaker 2: of myself for this. It's not about oh, what do 306 00:15:43,360 --> 00:15:45,200 Speaker 2: you look like? Then I'll talk to you. It's more like, 307 00:15:45,360 --> 00:15:47,800 Speaker 2: let me like we're just naturally talking as to people 308 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:50,800 Speaker 2: who are being sat next to each other, do right then, 309 00:15:51,040 --> 00:15:54,320 Speaker 2: and then like, oh, this is what you physically look like, 310 00:15:54,520 --> 00:15:57,000 Speaker 2: you know, because it's like that's when I'm then if 311 00:15:57,040 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 2: the conversation is interesting enough, then that's when I'll take 312 00:15:59,720 --> 00:15:59,960 Speaker 2: it up. 313 00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:03,080 Speaker 1: Look right, yeah, I mean listen, yeah, you can be 314 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:03,880 Speaker 1: as a track. 315 00:16:04,160 --> 00:16:06,160 Speaker 2: What I'm just saying, what if a baldy and you 316 00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:09,560 Speaker 2: had such a deep conversation. I mean. 317 00:16:11,200 --> 00:16:15,000 Speaker 1: Sure, I mean, I look, there's always a Jason stathum right. 318 00:16:15,160 --> 00:16:20,000 Speaker 2: Joy Lawrence doesn't your pickle, not not personally, but I 319 00:16:20,200 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 2: just today, but in the nineties maybe yeah, but he 320 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:27,000 Speaker 2: wasn't bald then, correct, I know now he's bald, said, 321 00:16:27,040 --> 00:16:28,520 Speaker 2: but maybe he would have taken off your pickle. 322 00:16:28,680 --> 00:16:32,440 Speaker 1: There's always a Jason Statham who like, is really rocking 323 00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:34,760 Speaker 1: the bald look right, and like that's a thing and 324 00:16:34,800 --> 00:16:39,120 Speaker 1: that's hot that. Of course, there's exceptions to rules. It's 325 00:16:39,160 --> 00:16:40,680 Speaker 1: always about kindness first. 326 00:16:40,880 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 2: So you don't like you don't like the bald that 327 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:43,920 Speaker 2: is being forced to be bald. 328 00:16:44,240 --> 00:16:48,600 Speaker 1: I don't like receding hairline. I don't like you're real picky. 329 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:51,800 Speaker 2: Listen, so am I I love a girl that knows 330 00:16:51,840 --> 00:16:52,960 Speaker 2: what you want personally. 331 00:16:53,080 --> 00:16:55,400 Speaker 1: I don't think that's picky. I think that you know, 332 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:58,800 Speaker 1: I think I think you talk to a man any 333 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:00,560 Speaker 1: day of the week and he's going to give you 334 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:03,680 Speaker 1: a laundry list of what turns his net for a woman. 335 00:17:04,119 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 1: So me being able to name one thing that I'm 336 00:17:07,280 --> 00:17:11,520 Speaker 1: not interested in, I really don't ari I do part two. People, 337 00:17:11,560 --> 00:17:15,600 Speaker 1: if that like is offensive, I'm sure anybody that is 338 00:17:15,680 --> 00:17:18,680 Speaker 1: dating somebody that is bald, it's like, that's great for you. 339 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:20,960 Speaker 1: It's just personally not what. 340 00:17:21,240 --> 00:17:25,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, totally now never say never again. If your conversation 341 00:17:25,720 --> 00:17:28,080 Speaker 2: is so sexy that all of a sudden you look 342 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:30,000 Speaker 2: up and or you did love is blind and he 343 00:17:30,119 --> 00:17:30,560 Speaker 2: was bald? 344 00:17:30,680 --> 00:17:33,760 Speaker 1: Who knows? Or I'm fifty five and I'm still single 345 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:35,679 Speaker 1: and they're all bald. You know what I mean? Like, 346 00:17:35,720 --> 00:17:40,240 Speaker 1: who's wrong with fifty five and single? I'm just adding years. 347 00:17:43,200 --> 00:17:45,040 Speaker 1: I want to know what your. 348 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:48,720 Speaker 2: This is a dual conversation. Okay, yeah, because one hundred 349 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:50,679 Speaker 2: percent you're not interviewing me. This is not what we 350 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:52,920 Speaker 2: agree with. I am, we're catching up. 351 00:17:53,200 --> 00:17:58,359 Speaker 1: I'm not in the market. What why are you taken? No, 352 00:17:58,960 --> 00:18:02,560 Speaker 1: your girl is way too damaged right now to be 353 00:18:02,600 --> 00:18:07,159 Speaker 1: getting in. That doesn't mean we can't have the conversation. Sure, 354 00:18:07,320 --> 00:18:11,320 Speaker 1: I mean, listen for me. In my local area, I've 355 00:18:11,320 --> 00:18:14,200 Speaker 1: said this so many times. I lived by a Whole 356 00:18:14,240 --> 00:18:17,719 Speaker 1: Foods that gets a lot of traction. You don't instacart. 357 00:18:18,359 --> 00:18:23,399 Speaker 1: I do my instacart and it's by the beach. And 358 00:18:23,680 --> 00:18:27,760 Speaker 1: the first time I went in there. I was shocked 359 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:31,439 Speaker 1: at how many men I saw at the grocery store. 360 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:34,479 Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever seen that many men before 361 00:18:34,600 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 1: at one grocery store. Single young men, I don't know 362 00:18:37,720 --> 00:18:41,480 Speaker 1: it's single, but that amount of men at the grocery store, Oh, 363 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:43,600 Speaker 1: I've never seen it before. And it's every time I 364 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:47,000 Speaker 1: go there, every time. Who I should go to your 365 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:51,000 Speaker 1: grocery store if I ever go. But I'm just saying, like, 366 00:18:51,600 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 1: I know that there's guys out there. It's right now, 367 00:18:55,119 --> 00:18:58,720 Speaker 1: like I'm coming across so many right when I'm out 368 00:18:58,720 --> 00:19:03,760 Speaker 1: in the world. Nothing is resonating with me right now. 369 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:06,520 Speaker 1: Are they flirting with you? No? No, No, I'm not 370 00:19:06,560 --> 00:19:12,160 Speaker 1: talking to anybody, are they? No? No, Literally, the light 371 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:14,560 Speaker 1: bulb is off, like my tax serial. 372 00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:17,040 Speaker 2: Light is off, and it is like, do not come 373 00:19:17,119 --> 00:19:17,919 Speaker 2: near me? 374 00:19:18,440 --> 00:19:21,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, I listen, do I I don't think I'm giving 375 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:26,560 Speaker 1: like RBF like everywhere I'm walking. But it's just I 376 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:30,160 Speaker 1: know that I'm not putting out the signal that I'm interested. 377 00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:31,639 Speaker 1: But you that is true. 378 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:33,680 Speaker 2: No, No, that is very but that is very true. 379 00:19:33,920 --> 00:19:36,080 Speaker 2: By the way, we're all energy. So yeah, I was 380 00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:37,400 Speaker 2: on that trains. 381 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:40,560 Speaker 1: I can tell right now in our conversation that you're 382 00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:43,720 Speaker 1: putting out the signal, you're putting out the energy right now. 383 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:47,040 Speaker 2: Yep, yeah, I mean if it happens, it happens. Now, 384 00:19:47,119 --> 00:19:49,760 Speaker 2: this is what I don't want. Are we ready tell. 385 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:51,600 Speaker 1: Me what you do want? I want to be positive? 386 00:19:51,720 --> 00:19:54,639 Speaker 2: No yeah, no, no, no, because I don't know necessarily I 387 00:19:54,920 --> 00:19:56,480 Speaker 2: can tell you what I don't want. I don't think 388 00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:57,879 Speaker 2: I can tell you what I want to. 389 00:19:58,880 --> 00:20:00,800 Speaker 1: Okay, get it sure like. 390 00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:02,840 Speaker 2: I think it's a mix. Now, this is what I 391 00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:06,400 Speaker 2: don't want because I I am. I don't want anybody 392 00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:07,760 Speaker 2: with the track record of cheating. 393 00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:09,000 Speaker 1: I think that's fair. 394 00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:12,600 Speaker 2: I don't know if I want somebody in the entertainment industry. 395 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:13,640 Speaker 2: I'm leaning towards now. 396 00:20:14,000 --> 00:20:20,760 Speaker 1: Okay, I'm gonna say no one's asking im. Okay, I'm 397 00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:23,800 Speaker 1: gonna say, as somebody that knows you that I think 398 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:29,440 Speaker 1: that you don't need another entertainer. Yeah, I think you 399 00:20:29,480 --> 00:20:33,160 Speaker 1: still need somebody star. I don't need that that's still entertainment. 400 00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:37,879 Speaker 1: I think that you need someone entertainment adjacent. I could 401 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:42,320 Speaker 1: see you being with a talent agent or a talent. 402 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:45,840 Speaker 2: Maybe yes, yes, yes, or an an entertainment attorney. Yes, 403 00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:49,479 Speaker 2: even better that was my first and last date. 404 00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:54,239 Speaker 1: Remember oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm just saying like 405 00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:58,880 Speaker 1: that to me. Is it creates commonality in a yes, 406 00:20:59,040 --> 00:21:02,440 Speaker 1: I agree, But all so, I do believe the sentiment 407 00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:05,560 Speaker 1: a lot of times when you hear people say there 408 00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:08,600 Speaker 1: can only be like one star in the relationship, and 409 00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:10,879 Speaker 1: I really do think that. I do believe that you 410 00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:13,760 Speaker 1: are the star when you're in a relationship with somebody. 411 00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:16,200 Speaker 1: That's that is so true. Well, actually I wouldn't. I 412 00:21:16,200 --> 00:21:22,080 Speaker 1: wouldn't help. Stars can change and have different times. But you, 413 00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:25,480 Speaker 1: right now in this chapter of your life, you are 414 00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:28,720 Speaker 1: the star. And you if you were to get into 415 00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:31,879 Speaker 1: a partnership with somebody tomorrow, they would need to be 416 00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:34,919 Speaker 1: supportive of that star right now in this chapter. 417 00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:39,560 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, because like it's exhausting, if it's competitive. 418 00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:42,160 Speaker 1: You can't be in competition with your partner for the spotlight. 419 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:45,800 Speaker 1: That will never work. That's why they say opposites attract 420 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:48,120 Speaker 1: in that sense. And this is why I gravitated towards 421 00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:51,159 Speaker 1: the quiet guy at the wedding. I fully get that, 422 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 1: CHERYLD And I will tell you why I have never 423 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:57,720 Speaker 1: been attracted to the alpha male. I have. It's so weird, 424 00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:02,440 Speaker 1: but never dated one always told people I am attracted 425 00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:09,080 Speaker 1: to quiet confidence, and I tend to like a more 426 00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:16,000 Speaker 1: subdued energy because I've dated the shot shots guy and 427 00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:18,879 Speaker 1: the everybody party guy, and it's like, I don't like 428 00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:20,320 Speaker 1: that guy. I don't like it. 429 00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:23,760 Speaker 2: So funny that you say that, because I actually, initially 430 00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:26,320 Speaker 2: I think I'm attracted to them. I never end up 431 00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:30,160 Speaker 2: with them. One but two, I have only started recently 432 00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:33,520 Speaker 2: appreciating the quiet The only confidence. By the way, there's 433 00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:36,359 Speaker 2: only one way, and it's the quiet one. There really is, 434 00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 2: because the loud confidence is not so I could fight 435 00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:40,840 Speaker 2: anybody about it. 436 00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:45,240 Speaker 1: That's not confidence to me. I hear that. I agree 437 00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:50,840 Speaker 1: with that. For me, I'm I'm really mellow in real life, 438 00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:56,040 Speaker 1: you know, outside of work, I do not like to 439 00:22:56,119 --> 00:23:01,320 Speaker 1: be in the mix, and so like a quiet energy 440 00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:03,960 Speaker 1: is more what I tend to gravit towards too. Now, 441 00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:07,359 Speaker 1: the problem with a quiet energy is they don't always 442 00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:11,000 Speaker 1: make those first moves right, especially in the dating scene. 443 00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:13,840 Speaker 1: It can be really hard sometimes for them to make 444 00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:19,080 Speaker 1: the move. And personally, I've had to in anything that 445 00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:23,560 Speaker 1: I've been in that's been substantial, I've made those first moves. 446 00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:27,960 Speaker 1: And what's wrong with that? Well, now, in my reflective 447 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:31,919 Speaker 1: chapter that I'm in at this time, I'm wondering if 448 00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:35,880 Speaker 1: I've ever been hoarded, and I don't think I have. Interesting. 449 00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:37,920 Speaker 1: It's really difficult because so. 450 00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:40,080 Speaker 2: It's not you mean on a deeper level like then 451 00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:44,919 Speaker 2: not necessarily a physical like I guess reported meaning like 452 00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:48,760 Speaker 2: making plans going out, like to dinner, him paying for it, 453 00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:50,040 Speaker 2: him opening your door. 454 00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:54,400 Speaker 1: No, that's happened. I'm talking about initial first moves. I'm 455 00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:57,000 Speaker 1: now in the play Cheryl in my head where I'm 456 00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:01,080 Speaker 1: looking back at everything in the rear view, and I'm thinking, 457 00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:04,199 Speaker 1: did that person actually ever want to be with me? 458 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:10,320 Speaker 1: They never initiated the early stages of the relationship I did. 459 00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:16,840 Speaker 1: Did I interesting? Somebody that was like open to it 460 00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:21,080 Speaker 1: but like not really in it? It changes for you, Cheryl. 461 00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:25,080 Speaker 1: Every day for me is a new trauma. But I 462 00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:29,320 Speaker 1: are you in therapy? Yes, yes, Cheryl, yes, yes, yes, 463 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:32,360 Speaker 1: But I want to know. Okay, so we know that 464 00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:35,159 Speaker 1: you don't want an entertainer. We know that you No, 465 00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:37,440 Speaker 1: I never said that. I didn't say I don't want. 466 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:39,960 Speaker 2: I said I don't think I want, meaning like I 467 00:24:40,040 --> 00:24:41,119 Speaker 2: keep going back and forth. 468 00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:43,840 Speaker 1: Now again, if he is in. 469 00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:48,600 Speaker 2: My zeitgeist, and we do have great communication and we 470 00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:51,199 Speaker 2: have great conversations and there's an attraction. I'm not going 471 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:53,960 Speaker 2: to be like, oh sorry, yeah, I can't do it, 472 00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:56,840 Speaker 2: you know, Like I'm just saying from what I did 473 00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:59,199 Speaker 2: it again, this is all on the surface stuff like 474 00:24:59,440 --> 00:25:02,560 Speaker 2: look at the end end of the day, I mean, 475 00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:05,080 Speaker 2: this is why for me to is like be like 476 00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:10,280 Speaker 2: a tall dark browd hair like it's just so miniscule 477 00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:12,520 Speaker 2: as to what I really I really want to partner. 478 00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:16,800 Speaker 2: I want somebody who balances We can balance each other out, 479 00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:19,360 Speaker 2: but we still say as two individuals that is so 480 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:22,439 Speaker 2: important to me and that someone I need somebody that 481 00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:24,200 Speaker 2: can also put me in my place sometimes because I 482 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:28,399 Speaker 2: can get you know, a little like whoa over bearing 483 00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,000 Speaker 2: sometimes but not in a rude way, in a way 484 00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:34,159 Speaker 2: where it's quiet, it's it's secure. It doesn't make me 485 00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:37,440 Speaker 2: feel abandoned. It makes me feel like, first of all, 486 00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:39,200 Speaker 2: nobody can make me feel anything, right. 487 00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 1: So I'm going to. 488 00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:43,000 Speaker 2: Continue doing the work. But like he needs to be 489 00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:47,359 Speaker 2: so like stable and confident that in a way where 490 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:49,560 Speaker 2: it complements the work that I'm going to continue to 491 00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:51,240 Speaker 2: do for the rest of my life. And that's all 492 00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:54,280 Speaker 2: I can say because it's so deep, it goes deeper, 493 00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:55,800 Speaker 2: what about. 494 00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:58,879 Speaker 1: Like financial stability at this stame, But that's all again 495 00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:02,399 Speaker 1: that is just seeing on yes, yes, yes, all of it. 496 00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:06,120 Speaker 1: I think that to me, Cheryl as somebody who you've done. 497 00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:08,400 Speaker 2: So, but that's not what's gonna be like my very 498 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:12,520 Speaker 2: first conversation with the person, right like, either we're gonna talk, 499 00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:15,640 Speaker 2: We're either gonna connect or we're not like whoever it is. 500 00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:18,639 Speaker 2: And this is what I've also realized, no setting updates 501 00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:21,920 Speaker 2: like I can't. This is what makes me not act 502 00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:25,080 Speaker 2: authentic and what I know for sure makes the other 503 00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:28,359 Speaker 2: person sing weird like for sure. And it's like if 504 00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:30,760 Speaker 2: we meet in a group setting, like and this is 505 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:33,280 Speaker 2: why this wedding thing happened so great, like it was 506 00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,639 Speaker 2: I mean in my head, but it was just like 507 00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,720 Speaker 2: no pressure, there's no freaking pressure. We were there doing 508 00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:42,480 Speaker 2: the same activities, but we were just there supporting the 509 00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:45,439 Speaker 2: people we love, right like, and yeah, there wasn't the 510 00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:48,520 Speaker 2: weird Let's go to pot Jay and I'm gonna end 511 00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:50,680 Speaker 2: up not knowing what to order and then I'm gonna 512 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:52,640 Speaker 2: order what you have, Like there's none of that. 513 00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:56,080 Speaker 1: It's just being weird. That's weird. Yeah, no, no, no, 514 00:26:56,160 --> 00:26:59,080 Speaker 1: you kind of got my wheels turning though. Now, Cheryl, 515 00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:02,280 Speaker 1: I want to know, out of curiosity, do you ever, 516 00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:08,280 Speaker 1: like played pickleball or my mom does? Your mom does? Okay, 517 00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:11,919 Speaker 1: she's not single. Have you ever outside of dance? Have 518 00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:15,760 Speaker 1: you ever done like anything kind of athletic or sports 519 00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:17,399 Speaker 1: like outside of dance? 520 00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:20,480 Speaker 2: You realize that I was like the MVP of my 521 00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:22,040 Speaker 2: basketball team? Right? 522 00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,600 Speaker 1: Oh wait what No? I did not know this, but 523 00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:26,240 Speaker 1: I'm just very act. 524 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:29,679 Speaker 2: My mom put me everything girl, like I went to 525 00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:33,119 Speaker 2: tennis Stanford Tennis camp every freaking summer, like it was 526 00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:35,080 Speaker 2: I was going to be a professional tennis player. 527 00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:37,919 Speaker 1: Cheryl, So you can play tennis, which means I know 528 00:27:37,960 --> 00:27:41,640 Speaker 1: what pickleball is. I know. I want to know, though. 529 00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,800 Speaker 1: What I think is kind of cute about pickleball is 530 00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:48,200 Speaker 1: it falls you know, say, I got competitive, We're trying 531 00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:51,480 Speaker 1: to win. Okay, I love that. But what I think, 532 00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:55,240 Speaker 1: as a non athlete, which is kind of cute about 533 00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:58,760 Speaker 1: pickleball is it falls into that tennis category of like 534 00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:03,720 Speaker 1: the theme outfit attire, like that whole part of it. 535 00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:07,080 Speaker 1: You don't care and somebody who likes to make up 536 00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:10,080 Speaker 1: and wears cute outfits and does cute videos. That is 537 00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:13,200 Speaker 1: not something you like, I will I do I do now? 538 00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:15,840 Speaker 1: But back then I was like, I'm gonna be Serena Williams. No, 539 00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:19,000 Speaker 1: we're talking now. We're talking about the present day if 540 00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:21,480 Speaker 1: you were to come. Okay, So here, I'm gonna just 541 00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:22,800 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna rip the back. 542 00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:26,359 Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, this is is this the big reveal, This 543 00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:27,720 Speaker 2: is the big reut to commercial. 544 00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:41,959 Speaker 1: We're cutting to commercial first. So we're doing a really 545 00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:49,480 Speaker 1: fun Pickaball event in Tahoe next month, and honest, I 546 00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:54,200 Speaker 1: Do Part two is gonna be there. So we thought, Okay, 547 00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:57,800 Speaker 1: Cheryl's gonna be there. Who else from some of the 548 00:28:57,960 --> 00:29:00,440 Speaker 1: you know, other fun kind of podcast that we do 549 00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:03,640 Speaker 1: are going to be there? And then I had this 550 00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:08,520 Speaker 1: really great idea because we had this really amazing guy 551 00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:11,560 Speaker 1: on I Do Part two a couple of weeks ago, 552 00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:15,080 Speaker 1: and I'm I'm going to just say there are some 553 00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:19,240 Speaker 1: like cute, like little similarities that I'm noticing. First of all, 554 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:24,479 Speaker 1: first and foremost, how solicy I actually don't know that 555 00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,600 Speaker 1: over my head, but I will tell you this, if 556 00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:30,600 Speaker 1: you're where to goes what I really like about him 557 00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:33,680 Speaker 1: and the possibility of you two getting. 558 00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:35,440 Speaker 2: Along, like becoming friends. 559 00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,040 Speaker 1: I said getting along. I didn't say anything else, like, 560 00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:44,760 Speaker 1: well friends. First, he talked about doing the work, and 561 00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:48,080 Speaker 1: I know that that's important to you and has been. 562 00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:52,200 Speaker 1: Your journey is about being open talking about doing the work. 563 00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:56,920 Speaker 1: So that to me. So he is divorced, and it's 564 00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:01,680 Speaker 1: he does have two kids. Hold on, I'm gonna text 565 00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:03,280 Speaker 1: you his Instagram. 566 00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:06,880 Speaker 2: Don't worry, I already did it. You're following, by the way, ps, 567 00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:07,920 Speaker 2: we're following each other. 568 00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:13,120 Speaker 1: I love it. You're stupid, surprised you and your surprise. 569 00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:15,200 Speaker 2: Maybe I should have gone with it because I couldn't 570 00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:17,240 Speaker 2: anymore because I was like, this is the wait, don't 571 00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:18,560 Speaker 2: we're following each other already? 572 00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,920 Speaker 1: Wait? I love this so obviously, Listeners, we are talking 573 00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:25,920 Speaker 1: about JP Rosenbaum, who was recently on the podcast. If 574 00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:28,200 Speaker 1: you didn't listen to that episode, definitely go back and 575 00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:32,800 Speaker 1: get a therapy session about him. Okay, but what I 576 00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:37,280 Speaker 1: like about him, Cheryl and the possibility of there being 577 00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:42,600 Speaker 1: a nice, you know, commonality between you two is one 578 00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:45,800 Speaker 1: about how much growth he talked about on the pod 579 00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:49,320 Speaker 1: about after his divorce and what that's been like for 580 00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:54,040 Speaker 1: him personally but also in his co parenting relationship. I 581 00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:57,160 Speaker 1: thought was really really cool. And then second of all, 582 00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:59,280 Speaker 1: I don't know you. I don't know if you saw 583 00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:03,200 Speaker 1: he's making headlines in this last week with his ex 584 00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:07,600 Speaker 1: wife Ashley, because they just went on a really amazing 585 00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:11,520 Speaker 1: family vacation with my kids and it was just the 586 00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:14,080 Speaker 1: two of them, it looked like with their kids, and 587 00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:16,880 Speaker 1: they were like posting and sharing about it, and it 588 00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:21,560 Speaker 1: was just like really cool to see two parents that. 589 00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:25,000 Speaker 1: I mean, you and I are both products of like 590 00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:27,200 Speaker 1: you know, divorce and stuff like, and we know what 591 00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:30,240 Speaker 1: that can be like growing up as kids. But we 592 00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:33,440 Speaker 1: went on family vacations, though you did. I did not know. 593 00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:35,880 Speaker 2: Well, we went to go visit my father at a 594 00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:38,400 Speaker 2: strip clubs vacation, So I don't know how much that 595 00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:40,680 Speaker 2: would be considered as a vacation. 596 00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:44,640 Speaker 1: Family friendly or like a vacation does not Disneyland. I 597 00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:47,680 Speaker 1: don't have those kinds of memories with my parents, and 598 00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:52,440 Speaker 1: I think that that's something that's really respectable. Yes, And 599 00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:55,720 Speaker 1: I think it's also a really good testament of being 600 00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:59,760 Speaker 1: able to check the ego right, because that's a huge 601 00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:02,600 Speaker 1: part is like he talked about how his ex wife 602 00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:05,360 Speaker 1: is already in a relationship, and at first that shit, 603 00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,120 Speaker 1: oh she's been yeah, because they've been divorced for like 604 00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:11,320 Speaker 1: over four years now. Oh wow, yeah, so it's been 605 00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:14,440 Speaker 1: a minute. He also said some really nice and respectable 606 00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:19,160 Speaker 1: things about his wife, you know, new partner, and because 607 00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,680 Speaker 1: that person is around his kids and stuff like that, 608 00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:25,840 Speaker 1: you know, he's really really even keeled. So I really 609 00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:28,840 Speaker 1: like that first and foremost even keed. How do you know, 610 00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:32,400 Speaker 1: just because I think a man that is able to 611 00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:36,440 Speaker 1: openly talk about that experience and have humility and grace 612 00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:40,280 Speaker 1: when talking about their ex I think speaks volumes. That's 613 00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:43,280 Speaker 1: what I mean. It didn't sound contentious, it didn't sound angry, 614 00:32:43,280 --> 00:32:47,760 Speaker 1: it didn't sound dismissive. It sounded really nice, mature and yes, 615 00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:51,640 Speaker 1: and like somebody like he said that don't work, you know, 616 00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:52,800 Speaker 1: so yes, great. 617 00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:56,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, and the fact that he has kids obviously is 618 00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:59,040 Speaker 2: very it's good that that happens. You don't want people, 619 00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:02,920 Speaker 2: you know, I've been witness to people catching each other 620 00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:06,160 Speaker 2: when kids are around, and it's not necessarily the best environment. 621 00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:07,920 Speaker 1: So you guys are following each other. 622 00:33:08,360 --> 00:33:13,320 Speaker 2: Well, yeah, because we've had this discussion. Hey, hey, I 623 00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:17,680 Speaker 2: do Part two. Folks, this is no surprise. I can't 624 00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:19,920 Speaker 2: be surprised, as you know that. But anyway, since you 625 00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:24,000 Speaker 2: mentioned his name, and since I got that lovely group text, 626 00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:27,320 Speaker 2: of course, don't you know who you're talking to? I 627 00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:29,160 Speaker 2: might as well be a private investigator. 628 00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:31,600 Speaker 1: I mean, I love that. But like when we look 629 00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:34,400 Speaker 1: at his Instagram, like, what do we haven't looked at 630 00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:36,120 Speaker 1: it yet. I just started. 631 00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:38,560 Speaker 2: I just pressed the follow button. Okay, it doesn't mean 632 00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:39,240 Speaker 2: I'm scrolling. 633 00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:42,280 Speaker 1: Can you look at it right now while you're on 634 00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:45,040 Speaker 1: here with me. I can't really focus. I'm so bad 635 00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:47,120 Speaker 1: at this. Okay, fine, as long as I can. I 636 00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:50,000 Speaker 1: just want to know what your overall gland. What do 637 00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:52,520 Speaker 1: you want me to look at? Specifically? Just look at 638 00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:54,720 Speaker 1: his page and like what do you oh, you mean 639 00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:58,520 Speaker 1: the aesthetic I can't do it aesthetic because his aesthetic is. 640 00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,640 Speaker 1: I love that he's Jewish. I'm Jewish, you know that, right? 641 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:05,080 Speaker 2: I don't know I'm fifty four percent or no, sorry, 642 00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:08,000 Speaker 2: fifty three percent Osazi. Didn't know that My father lied 643 00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:11,759 Speaker 2: to me this whole time. Okay, rest in peace, my 644 00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:12,760 Speaker 2: Jewish father. 645 00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:17,680 Speaker 1: Do you love the fact that he's like, look, he's 646 00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:19,480 Speaker 1: on a boat like he lives in Miami. 647 00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:22,600 Speaker 2: Okay, so well, no, if there's a connection in the woman, 648 00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:25,120 Speaker 2: I shake this mean's hand. Okay, this is just all here, 649 00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:27,480 Speaker 2: This is all great, book great. You know, I don't 650 00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:30,120 Speaker 2: want someone to judge me off my happy Instagram either, 651 00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:32,759 Speaker 2: Like this is not the real me what you see 652 00:34:32,760 --> 00:34:33,640 Speaker 2: on my Instagram. 653 00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:35,879 Speaker 1: Okay, my god, he looks like my dad. 654 00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:37,520 Speaker 2: He looks like my dad. He just looks like my 655 00:34:37,600 --> 00:34:39,239 Speaker 2: father a little bit. He looks a little bit like 656 00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:41,000 Speaker 2: my dad. I don't know what to say other than 657 00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:46,759 Speaker 2: I clearly still have daddy issues. Jesus, Jesus, Yeah, he 658 00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:49,000 Speaker 2: looks like my father. He really does look like my dad. Here, 659 00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:51,399 Speaker 2: I'm not joking, not even a little bit. 660 00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:54,960 Speaker 1: Sure, I'm not kidding. I'm not kidding. 661 00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:59,040 Speaker 2: Okay, that doesn't mean I mean that means if anything, Oh, 662 00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:02,520 Speaker 2: I got a chance. I can't do that whole Instagram thing. 663 00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:07,600 Speaker 2: It really is just so it's like small talk. It's nasty. 664 00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:11,279 Speaker 1: Let me say this clearly, by looking at the instagram. 665 00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:14,160 Speaker 1: Right with the instagram, we know that he's a dad. 666 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:16,799 Speaker 1: We know that he's a dad Jewish and looks like 667 00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:20,640 Speaker 1: my daddy. And so right off, right off the rit 668 00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:24,719 Speaker 1: from that, have you ever dated a single dad? Is 669 00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:28,759 Speaker 1: that something that you know? Have you ever dreamed of 670 00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:31,480 Speaker 1: or thought of yourself being a stepmom? 671 00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:34,120 Speaker 2: By the way, kids, well, I love that he has kids. 672 00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:37,760 Speaker 2: Like that has nothing to do with anything. I mean, honestly, 673 00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:40,160 Speaker 2: it's yeah, no, I don't. I always said that it 674 00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:42,160 Speaker 2: would be great to have somebody who has already had 675 00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:44,120 Speaker 2: the kids, because then I won't have the pressure of 676 00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:47,200 Speaker 2: trying to have one or whatever it is. You know. 677 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, cool, So it's not a turn off. I 678 00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:54,400 Speaker 1: like that. Nothing has been a turnoff yet. Cool. I 679 00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:54,879 Speaker 1: like that. 680 00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:57,440 Speaker 2: That's like, how optimistic I am. 681 00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:00,120 Speaker 1: So what I'm what We're ski. 682 00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:02,400 Speaker 2: No, we're not doing anything. You're just don't live and 683 00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,759 Speaker 2: get back down to earth. Okay, this is just two 684 00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:08,000 Speaker 2: people that are single that you think would be a 685 00:36:08,000 --> 00:36:08,479 Speaker 2: good match. 686 00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:11,400 Speaker 1: That doesn't mean it is. We're having this fun pickleball 687 00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:16,160 Speaker 1: event in tom and there's going to be a lot 688 00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:17,680 Speaker 1: of other people there. 689 00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:20,120 Speaker 2: A lot of other people. Like was this guy at 690 00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:21,800 Speaker 2: the bat I don't watch The Bachelor? 691 00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:26,080 Speaker 1: Was he a bachelor? So he won the bachelorette so 692 00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:29,200 Speaker 1: he wasn't the Bachelor? No, so he went on it. 693 00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:30,520 Speaker 1: Ashley season. 694 00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:33,040 Speaker 2: He it he. 695 00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:36,720 Speaker 1: Married her, and the season was that, Oh my gosh, 696 00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:42,360 Speaker 1: like five or something wow, like years ago, like twenty eleven, 697 00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:45,680 Speaker 1: twenty twelve, oh or even before that. It's like, what 698 00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:48,799 Speaker 1: does he do now? So he's a real estate developer 699 00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:49,640 Speaker 1: in Miami. 700 00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:52,960 Speaker 2: Interesting stick in he lives in Miami. 701 00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:58,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, so he didn't. He didn't stick into the reality 702 00:36:58,120 --> 00:36:59,319 Speaker 1: TV world. I like that. 703 00:36:59,480 --> 00:36:59,960 Speaker 2: I like it. 704 00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,439 Speaker 1: I like it he was a one and done kind 705 00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:03,840 Speaker 1: of guy. I also love that he lives on the 706 00:37:03,840 --> 00:37:08,160 Speaker 1: opposite side of Also, I kind of like that he's 707 00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:13,560 Speaker 1: like in a beach and it's like, you know, I'm 708 00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:17,640 Speaker 1: not getting ahead of myself, but I'm just no, I'm 709 00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:21,920 Speaker 1: just saying that I think you should come to Tahoe. 710 00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:25,560 Speaker 1: You should come to this pickleball event. Yes, I will 711 00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:29,040 Speaker 1: if I'm available. Yes, And it's just a group thing. 712 00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:31,719 Speaker 1: And I also, now that you've told me you are 713 00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:34,920 Speaker 1: basically a tennis star, I feel like you need to. 714 00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:37,800 Speaker 2: We're not announcing this, We're not gonna do you understand. 715 00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,680 Speaker 2: I was in seventh grade, like, don't you dare. 716 00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:44,279 Speaker 1: No, I'm just saying I feel like it's time to 717 00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:47,879 Speaker 1: wear a cute outfit. It's summertime and you're gonna show 718 00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:50,640 Speaker 1: me what's up times. I don't play tennis, I don't 719 00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:53,640 Speaker 1: play pickleball. But anyways, it's got to shave it from Zara. 720 00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:56,359 Speaker 1: It's in, it's in, it arrived. We've got to open 721 00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:58,520 Speaker 1: the box. I'll leave you. I'll leave you with this. 722 00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:02,040 Speaker 1: If anything that I feel like you and I have 723 00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:05,480 Speaker 1: kind of learned in this last year is maybe to 724 00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:08,320 Speaker 1: be a little bit more like our friend Kelly ben Simone. 725 00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:12,200 Speaker 2: I love Kelly and just have fun, you know, hold on, 726 00:38:12,239 --> 00:38:14,440 Speaker 2: I just need to ask, well, I mean, i'll ask her, 727 00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:19,400 Speaker 2: but what what's the status of her and her dating life? 728 00:38:20,960 --> 00:38:24,080 Speaker 1: I think she's just you know, having fun. A lot 729 00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:26,920 Speaker 1: of these guys and she'll say this too, a lot 730 00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:31,320 Speaker 1: of these guys have either dated somebody that she knows 731 00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:34,640 Speaker 1: or you know, somebody that she was on TV with. 732 00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:37,720 Speaker 1: And it's like, I understand, the pool gets really small 733 00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:39,960 Speaker 1: when you get to be a certain age. That's another thing. 734 00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:45,840 Speaker 1: But you know, she's gorgeous and she doesn't need to 735 00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:48,120 Speaker 1: just be dating guys in New York. She could broaden 736 00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:50,600 Speaker 1: the scope and like not be dating people that dated 737 00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:53,200 Speaker 1: her co stars. And does she know that though maybe 738 00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:55,640 Speaker 1: it's all in her. You know. Maybe you can tell 739 00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:58,520 Speaker 1: her that when you guys talk, well I do, I 740 00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:01,440 Speaker 1: do tell her. Yeah, I just think I'll leave you 741 00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:03,600 Speaker 1: with that. Let's just maybe take a place, you know, 742 00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:06,520 Speaker 1: out of Kelly ben Simone's book and just yes fun 743 00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:10,000 Speaker 1: and go to this pickleball event. So I just love 744 00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:12,560 Speaker 1: catching up with you today, Cheryl. This was so fun. 745 00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:18,399 Speaker 1: I loved hearing just about that things are getting your 746 00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:21,479 Speaker 1: attention now because I just think, like six months ago, 747 00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:24,920 Speaker 1: you weren't talking like this. So I just like, I 748 00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:28,120 Speaker 1: like this conversation today. Well, thank you, and you know 749 00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:29,680 Speaker 1: what did. 750 00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:32,840 Speaker 2: Oh for sure going to take a play out of 751 00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,799 Speaker 2: fellow mentor Kelly ben Simon's playbook and just see what 752 00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:38,880 Speaker 2: happens because you never know. And of course we're going 753 00:39:38,920 --> 00:39:42,440 Speaker 2: to keep you guys posted on the pickleball events. My 754 00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:43,760 Speaker 2: mom is going to be so proud. 755 00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:45,320 Speaker 1: Okay. 756 00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:47,759 Speaker 2: So if you're ready to date again, maybe you are, 757 00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:51,080 Speaker 2: maybe you're not, and you're just not exactly sure where 758 00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:53,960 Speaker 2: to start, like myself, call us or email us. We're 759 00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:56,480 Speaker 2: here to guide you. All the info is in the 760 00:39:56,520 --> 00:39:59,279 Speaker 2: show notes. Follow us on socials. Make sure to rate 761 00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:03,760 Speaker 2: and review this podcast. I do Part two and iHeartRadio 762 00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:06,719 Speaker 2: podcast where falling in love is the main objective.