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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Rad and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, it is not Becca's voice again. We are

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Speaker 1: songs Becca. It is Tanya here, and we have called

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Speaker 1: in a very very special guest co host that goes

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Speaker 1: by the name of Brad Garski. I was just about

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Speaker 1: t L. B Rad. Yeah, I was gonna say b Rad.

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Speaker 1: But a lot of a lot of Scrubbers have said

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Speaker 1: that sometimes we don't do the best job of setting

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Speaker 1: setting up our guests because we'll just like bring people

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Speaker 1: in and might be like, oh my gosh, probably don't

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Speaker 1: really like say who they are. Hey, everyone, it's Bradeski.

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Speaker 1: So if I said be Rad, if somebody's listening there,

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Speaker 1: like what so now so Brad Garski a k A

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Speaker 1: b Rad a k A to my t Rad one

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Speaker 1: of my BFFs and other half, Um he is. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you're just like multifacet You can't even you know how

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Speaker 1: like people try and um read your bio before you

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Speaker 1: know what I mean, like to describe who you are.

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Speaker 1: Who you are I use that with finger quotes. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and your accomplishments correct, But you do so many things

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Speaker 1: like where do you like, what's your what's your favorite accomplishment?

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, well I recently had my star chart read

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Speaker 1: like like by an astrologer. So the reason why I'm

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Speaker 1: saying this is because, um, my business sense is in

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Speaker 1: my Gemini is in like the one of like the

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Speaker 1: house of career. Basically I can't remember what number it is,

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Speaker 1: but I am a person who likes to be doing

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Speaker 1: multiple things at once, and you are that. Yeah, she

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Speaker 1: got it right, because what she said was that I

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Speaker 1: I thrive when I'm doing two tasks at the same time,

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Speaker 1: which is true, Like I can be on the phone,

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Speaker 1: but I can also be baking at the same time.

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Speaker 1: But if I'm just sitting on the phone again, Nancy. Interesting.

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Speaker 1: But I guess my biggest I don't know, I think

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Speaker 1: right now, I think my biggest accomplishment is having celebrated

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Speaker 1: twenty years with my husband, Like that's probably that's probably

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Speaker 1: like my biggest accomplishment. We were talking about it the

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Speaker 1: other a few nights ago and just you know, longevity

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Speaker 1: and relationships just in the modern world now and you know,

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Speaker 1: making it through uh you know, lockdown and all of

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Speaker 1: those things together. And at twenty years we're still we

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Speaker 1: still look forward to being with each other the most,

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Speaker 1: which is a really nice thing. Honestly. Okay, you can.

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Speaker 1: Let's dive into that first, because well, no, I feel

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Speaker 1: like you, Like, if I were to describe you, it's

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Speaker 1: like you you're so many things. You are a TV

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Speaker 1: TV on our personality. You are a stylist, you are

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Speaker 1: a fashionista, you are a yogi, you are a um,

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Speaker 1: yogi in there, as I was thinking, well, I was,

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Speaker 1: I don't think i've updated you that peloton has taken

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Speaker 1: I was all yoga, yoga, yoga. But now group classes

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Speaker 1: to me are like a hard no, like not happening,

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Speaker 1: not happening for Brad, whatever floats your bou but for Brad,

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Speaker 1: a group class is not happening. So I got a

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Speaker 1: Peloton um in February and I'm like, I'm literally I'm

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Speaker 1: obsessed with it. Okay, so cyclist, cyclist, cyclist. You also

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Speaker 1: now are a um how do you say it? Animated character?

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Speaker 1: Voice over actor? M I'm a voice over actor. Ward. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So we're going to get into all those things. We're

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Speaker 1: going to start with your relationship with Gary, because I

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Speaker 1: am I mean, I feel like I tell you this

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Speaker 1: I think that you are very very strong individually, uh,

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Speaker 1: what makes you both thrive in your relationship because you're

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Speaker 1: independently so strong and good on your own and so

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Speaker 1: together you're like even better. Yeah, well everything is meant

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Speaker 1: to Um, you know, we we have independent careers and

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Speaker 1: we have independent lives, but everything that we do serve

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Speaker 1: the greater good as for us as a couple, you know.

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Speaker 1: So in terms of like I was talking to a

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Speaker 1: important for us to do individually, to fulfill ourselves creatively,

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Speaker 1: but the mission behind it is to serve the greater

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Speaker 1: good of us in our lives together. Do you know

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Speaker 1: what I mean? Does that make sense? It totally makes sense.

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Speaker 1: And you know, what's something that's really interesting. And I

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Speaker 1: So I have no idea when you told me this,

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Speaker 1: like right when Red Star and I got back together

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Speaker 1: it was so true. It's like I have always wanted

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Speaker 1: to do life with somebody and like wanted this partner,

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Speaker 1: Brad's so right. I just have to just make it

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Speaker 1: a part. It's like a beautiful part of my life.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why, it like really really hit me

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Speaker 1: you remember you ever? Do you remember what you said

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Speaker 1: Mind you. When we first met, that was exactly my mindset,

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Speaker 1: you know. I was twenty three years old, and I

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Speaker 1: like all those where everything is supposed to be forever

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Speaker 1: so whatever that moment is, as long as your present

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Speaker 1: being together with twenty years of like a an amazing accomplishment,

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Speaker 1: finish it. But um, you know, I love the show.

428
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,240
Speaker 1: We've we've put one episode together. We went to Rio

429
00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:07,600
Speaker 1: and Buena Saris, and I think people will love the

430
00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 1: show when it comes out. It's so so funny. Of course,

431
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:13,240
Speaker 1: people are gonna love it because we loved what Like

432
00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:16,200
Speaker 1: I would watch your Instagram stories and I would literally

433
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:18,440
Speaker 1: be by myself and I would literally laugh out loud,

434
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:20,639
Speaker 1: and I would send them to like all my friends,

435
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:22,560
Speaker 1: and it's like kind about you know what I mean,

436
00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:23,880
Speaker 1: It's one of the things for you what you watch

437
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:25,520
Speaker 1: it and you like forward it to all your friends

438
00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:27,360
Speaker 1: because you're laughing so hard you want them to laugh

439
00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 1: so hard. Yeah, it's a lit I mean, it's it's

440
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:34,439
Speaker 1: one like what's happening and one pcent like who we

441
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 1: are as people? Um, you know I'm not. I mean

442
00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:41,920
Speaker 1: I have certain things that I'm just not as fussy. Um,

443
00:23:41,960 --> 00:23:44,919
Speaker 1: you know, I'm just not as I never ever thought

444
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:47,680
Speaker 1: of changing my table until I met Gary, Like when

445
00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,560
Speaker 1: I go to a restaurant, never even crossed my mind.

446
00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:53,280
Speaker 1: I was always maybe it was my also I can

447
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:56,119
Speaker 1: hop onto your imposter syndrome, Tania that I was just like,

448
00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 1: I'm just happy to be here. Wherever you want to

449
00:23:57,800 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 1: put me, and Gary's like, Gary, it's like we're right

450
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:05,520
Speaker 1: near the you know, the wind tunnel. Can we be

451
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 1: where the wind tunnel? Anything? We're always moving. Um so yeah,

452
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:12,919
Speaker 1: So hopefully that picks up again and we can you know,

453
00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:15,680
Speaker 1: finish that off and people can see it because it's

454
00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:18,560
Speaker 1: it's um, I don't think it's I don't think it's

455
00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:21,640
Speaker 1: like anything that's out there right now. It's definitely not.

456
00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 1: And the content we can get give it to me. Hi, Yes,

457
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:30,080
Speaker 1: but you you would talk about how you and Gary are,

458
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,199
Speaker 1: you know, Yin and Yang, you're like very similar, You're

459
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:34,880
Speaker 1: very compatible, but you're also really different. When you guys

460
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:39,240
Speaker 1: are different in things? Are you have like I don't

461
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:40,760
Speaker 1: want to use that as an example that he likes

462
00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:43,920
Speaker 1: like move tables a lot, but for bigger issues, how

463
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:46,560
Speaker 1: do you kind of come to a like compromise or

464
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 1: how do you see eye to eye on things? Because

465
00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:51,399
Speaker 1: you guys don't like to fight, well I don't really,

466
00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 1: I don't know, like I have to really care a lot,

467
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:58,359
Speaker 1: you know, Like I know that sounds weird, but I

468
00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:00,879
Speaker 1: just do, Like I just no, I'm just I have

469
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:04,480
Speaker 1: I know him so well and vice versa, and so

470
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 1: I just I don't know, I really have to be um,

471
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:12,320
Speaker 1: I just really have to care. I don't know how

472
00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:14,760
Speaker 1: else to put it. Put yourself back in the beginning

473
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:17,200
Speaker 1: when you were like, Okay, we're gonna you know, get married,

474
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 1: this is going to be forever, and he was like, no,

475
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:24,959
Speaker 1: we're just gonna do this until it's good. How did

476
00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:27,800
Speaker 1: you take that real? Like? Well, usually, I mean I

477
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:31,080
Speaker 1: take a beat. So I just use like my kind

478
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 1: of like sober training, which is you know, pause, um,

479
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 1: you know, pause when agitated, pause when agitated. As when agitated,

480
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 1: it's like instead of reacting right away, just like taking

481
00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:48,240
Speaker 1: like a mental beat. And sometimes that it's almost like

482
00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:50,879
Speaker 1: a kid's time out for me. But it's just like

483
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:54,520
Speaker 1: taking a pause before like saying the thing. And then

484
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,880
Speaker 1: sometimes the pause is like taking a pause and leaving

485
00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:02,000
Speaker 1: the room and then going to do something and come

486
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 1: back and see if it's if it's actually worth addressing

487
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:08,520
Speaker 1: or you know, it gives you time to kind of

488
00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:13,040
Speaker 1: formulate something that's at least um rational, because I just

489
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 1: I just don't want to react right away. So I

490
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:19,800
Speaker 1: think in that instance, I believe I remember just kind

491
00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 1: of going quiet, um that's what I do. Yeah, I

492
00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 1: just I'm not like an instant. I don't go to

493
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:31,320
Speaker 1: rage or like fighting right away. I usually go to

494
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:36,760
Speaker 1: like dead inside first and then like I swear to God,

495
00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:43,879
Speaker 1: like it's all systems shut down, Like all systems shut down.

496
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:47,080
Speaker 1: You like, it doesn't the keyboard doesn't go to sleep,

497
00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:49,679
Speaker 1: like nothing goes to sleep. It's like a full shutdown

498
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:53,160
Speaker 1: and then like a full reboot. But but I say

499
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 1: why so like my yeah, I'm very much engaged and

500
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 1: I'm still present, but I just go totally just like dark. Yes, yes,

501
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:09,600
Speaker 1: all systems down. That's exactly how I am too. And

502
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:13,679
Speaker 1: then I try to, you know, formulate something. But like

503
00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 1: in terms of working together, I don't know. I like

504
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:20,679
Speaker 1: to collaborate. I also like the stuff that we're working

505
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 1: on is stuff that we're working on together. Like me

506
00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:26,520
Speaker 1: being on his show is like I'm a guest on

507
00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:30,320
Speaker 1: his show Takes Charge. Yeah, I'm a I'm like his husband,

508
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:33,360
Speaker 1: but it's still his show and he still knows like

509
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:36,640
Speaker 1: how things are supposed to sound or how he wants

510
00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:38,920
Speaker 1: them to sound because he wrote them and created them.

511
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:41,880
Speaker 1: So I'm just like, you know, it's like you've got

512
00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:45,320
Speaker 1: to be an actor taking notes from a director. It's

513
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 1: all that is. And then in terms of our show together,

514
00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:53,159
Speaker 1: we you know, if I don't want to do something,

515
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:55,720
Speaker 1: or he doesn't want to do something or doesn't feel comfortable,

516
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 1: then we just move on to the next thing unless

517
00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, it'll be a super funny

518
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 1: scene or whatever. But I think we're both game until

519
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:08,960
Speaker 1: we're like not and then when you know, we're very

520
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 1: open to to doing stuff. And so when one person

521
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:16,480
Speaker 1: feels strongly about you know, not, you know, he doesn't

522
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 1: like like heights and stuff like that, so it's like

523
00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 1: we're not going to do anything him. Yeah, it's like

524
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 1: we don't. There's other things. It's it's just about pivoting.

525
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,600
Speaker 1: You know. We both just want the end product to

526
00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:31,239
Speaker 1: be good. So it's just we're collaborating. So I think

527
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:35,399
Speaker 1: we are both very you know, open minded to making

528
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 1: sure that the other person is is comfortable. I know

529
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:42,040
Speaker 1: that you said this. You already you show this on

530
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:45,120
Speaker 1: the my when I did my Live my Modern Woman's

531
00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 1: Guide show. But I want you to share your um

532
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 1: and you might have already said it in this episode,

533
00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:54,880
Speaker 1: but your biggest tip for people that are married, you said,

534
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:56,880
Speaker 1: never go to bit angry. Oh yeah, I was just

535
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:59,720
Speaker 1: gonna say that again. But how do you do that

536
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 1: if you get into a fight, like right before bed,

537
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 1: Well you shouldn't be fighting before you go to bed,

538
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:06,040
Speaker 1: Like what are you doing just like watch TV and

539
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 1: like take your vitamins and go to sleep. Where are

540
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 1: you having deep conversations before you go to bed? It's

541
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:16,719
Speaker 1: like the wrong time, like timing, unless it's something like

542
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 1: you get a phone call from a family member that's like,

543
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: oh my god, X, Y and Z just happened, then

544
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:22,720
Speaker 1: then you can figure that out. But if you're just

545
00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:26,400
Speaker 1: bringing stuff up right before bed is the wrong time.

546
00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 1: So um, I you know. I also just like my sleep.

547
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:35,440
Speaker 1: So it's also like a selfish thing, like I don't

548
00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 1: want to be awake all night worrying about like some

549
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:39,959
Speaker 1: dumb thing that we can wrap up in you know,

550
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:44,239
Speaker 1: two minutes. So I just I don't know. I just

551
00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 1: feel like like keep it light near the end of

552
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:50,400
Speaker 1: the day, like anything past dinner time, like chill out,

553
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 1: take an edible, drink a glass of wine, like do

554
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:56,920
Speaker 1: whatever your thing is, but like don't start it's just

555
00:29:57,000 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 1: not worth it. Like if you wake up in the

556
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 1: morning and it still a thing, then maybe like do that.

557
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 1: But if you're But however, if you have if you

558
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 1: have fought during the day, or you have fought before

559
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:11,840
Speaker 1: you go to bed, you have to find a way

560
00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:15,600
Speaker 1: to resolve it. Yeah, And if that's just as simple

561
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 1: as like a lot of the time, it's not expecting

562
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 1: something from the other person, So it's not trying to

563
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 1: get some sort of apology or reaction of the other person.

564
00:30:25,080 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 1: I think a lot of the times, if you say

565
00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 1: I'm really sorry that I did X, that I reacted

566
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 1: that way, you know, I apologize. I think usually if

567
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 1: you're in a good relationship, the other person will say like,

568
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:42,520
Speaker 1: and I'm really sorry that I did blankly blank um.

569
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:46,200
Speaker 1: So yeah, just like it's just like a bad Also,

570
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:50,800
Speaker 1: like things happen so quickly, Like things change so quickly,

571
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 1: Like this is going to sound like so like airy ferry.

572
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 1: But we're not promised tomorrow, right, It's like we're we're

573
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:02,280
Speaker 1: promised today. It's like you why go to bed with

574
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:05,080
Speaker 1: the X, Like we don't know what can happen moment

575
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:10,280
Speaker 1: to moments, So like you know, why have unresolved issues

576
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 1: when you can just clear up really easily, just own

577
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 1: like Lisa Renis says, like just like own your just

578
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 1: own it. Just like just like Lisa Renis says, Okay, so,

579
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 1: like have we ever had a fight? You and I? Yeah, no,

580
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 1: but we're not. We're lovers, I know, but like we've

581
00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 1: been friends for a really long time. We've traveled, we

582
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:38,239
Speaker 1: like we like go to what we used to go to,

583
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:42,400
Speaker 1: tons of events together, like we don't but like we don't,

584
00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,720
Speaker 1: like we're just I don't know like it. I don't.

585
00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 1: I don't have people in my life that I fight with.

586
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:51,320
Speaker 1: It's so true, you know, I think also because we

587
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:54,760
Speaker 1: have and I mean I can only say this because

588
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 1: I feel like you do. But like I feel like

589
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 1: we have a respect for each other. We love each

590
00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 1: other there and it's everything we always say to each

591
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:06,040
Speaker 1: other's coming from a place of like love. It's never

592
00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 1: from any other place. So that's very true. What would

593
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:15,160
Speaker 1: we find about I feel about like it would be

594
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:18,240
Speaker 1: something so dumb though, so it would be so dumb,

595
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 1: but I you know, it's funny is when we were

596
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:24,240
Speaker 1: talking about the surprise party, Um, I can't remember who

597
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 1: it was, somebody was like, I love you, No, I

598
00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:30,120
Speaker 1: I said to you because he said that you were

599
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 1: starting to get annoyed. Yeah, I was starting. I was

600
00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:35,840
Speaker 1: starting to get annoyed at him, but no, I was

601
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:38,400
Speaker 1: laughing at I guess he told everybody the theme was

602
00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:41,160
Speaker 1: Summer Chice or something like that, and I was dying

603
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 1: because like Brad's and like leather pants, and like I

604
00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:48,880
Speaker 1: miss that the easiest person. He's like Brad was your

605
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:52,640
Speaker 1: easiest friend, but he shows up in like the complete opposite.

606
00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 1: Um war Drobe is like Sophie and Poli and are

607
00:32:56,520 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 1: like floral dresses. Hold on a sack. I will just

608
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:02,560
Speaker 1: say in my defense, first of all, I was wearing

609
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 1: a T shirt on the top, I was wearing leather pants,

610
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 1: and I was wearing basically like a birken stock with

611
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 1: floral appliquees on them, so it was my version. And

612
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:17,560
Speaker 1: a real diamond necklace. Yeah, the necklace was epic. Those

613
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 1: weren't c zs as security out front. Basically you were

614
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 1: like the view were the biggest hit I do. And

615
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:27,560
Speaker 1: I have to say that there's something like very beautiful

616
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 1: about all the people that you love the most in

617
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:31,640
Speaker 1: your life coming together, You know what I mean. It's

618
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 1: like you all my friends know each other, but they're

619
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:37,000
Speaker 1: not necessarily like hanging out all the time. So there's

620
00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 1: like something like I just literally kept looking around at

621
00:33:39,320 --> 00:33:42,440
Speaker 1: everybody all the time being like oh my god, I

622
00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 1: couldn't even take it. It was so fun. Wait where

623
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:49,440
Speaker 1: you on a plane yesterday? Where were you? Oh? I

624
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 1: went to Napa. Ok at you. We were supposed to

625
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 1: have like a big podcast retreat over the weekend, and um,

626
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:01,960
Speaker 1: something's happened and they're that no longer happened, but a

627
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:03,640
Speaker 1: couple of us still went out And actually want to

628
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 1: give a shout out to the Meritage Resort and Spa

629
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 1: in Napa because it was such a cute, cute space.

630
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:14,440
Speaker 1: So basically that there's this giant courtyard. They have all

631
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:16,520
Speaker 1: these tasting rooms on the site, so like you can

632
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:18,560
Speaker 1: go from like tasting you don't have you don't have

633
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:20,520
Speaker 1: to drive anywhere. It's so nice because you can have

634
00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:23,319
Speaker 1: different tasting rooms that you just walked to. And they

635
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:25,840
Speaker 1: had like a live band, um robbing, and I like

636
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:29,319
Speaker 1: danced in the courtyard. There was a corn hole and

637
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 1: like Connect four and all these Yeah, you know the

638
00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:34,279
Speaker 1: game where you toss the sandbag and it goes in

639
00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 1: the hole. It's an American game. It's an American pastime,

640
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:46,800
Speaker 1: which which you are now I am. I'm a US citizen,

641
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:51,839
Speaker 1: full on US citizen. I am. Yeah. Weirdly, it took

642
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 1: me twenty years to do it, but then it happened

643
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:56,360
Speaker 1: within like a month once I applied. It was so,

644
00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:59,640
Speaker 1: why did you decide to do it now? Um? Because

645
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:03,319
Speaker 1: I want to vote. I haven't been able to vote.

646
00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 1: I've lived here for twenty years, and I want to

647
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:09,839
Speaker 1: participate in democracy and I want to be able to

648
00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 1: have a voice, and I think it's really important to

649
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:16,320
Speaker 1: exercise that right. And so I now have it, and

650
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,320
Speaker 1: I'm really excited to use it. I'm forty going to

651
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 1: be forty four years old, and I've never voted for anything,

652
00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:27,440
Speaker 1: and then that's about to change. Yeah, so I'm going

653
00:35:27,520 --> 00:35:31,240
Speaker 1: to be at everything. They're red, white and blue flowers

654
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 1: at Gary sent you were so cute, so cute, right, yeah,

655
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:41,520
Speaker 1: really thoughtful. It was a very um uh, it had

656
00:35:41,560 --> 00:35:44,799
Speaker 1: just happened so quickly, like you know, this is all

657
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 1: like boring logistics stuff, but because of um of COVID,

658
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 1: everything's like backed up, I guess, but things just happened

659
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 1: so fast. Like I applied, I got the interview. The

660
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 1: interview was like three weeks after I got my notice

661
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 1: and then after I got to prove my case got

662
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:05,480
Speaker 1: approved by the officer, he was like, you're swearing in

663
00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 1: as as Wednesday, and my interview was on the Friday.

664
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:10,320
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I thought it was going to

665
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 1: be like months away, and he's like, oh no, no, no,

666
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 1: you'll be all like done by next Wednesday at nine am. Yeah. Um, yeah,

667
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 1: I definitely got very teary. Yeah. Yeah, Gary cried. I cried.

668
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:26,840
Speaker 1: I mean, it's a big When I first came here,

669
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:29,680
Speaker 1: when I met Gary and Greece, and then I came here,

670
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 1: I was so I had no idea how I was

671
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 1: going to stay here, Like I just couldn't figure it out.

672
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:40,240
Speaker 1: And I think, you know, when you're immigrating to another country,

673
00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:44,719
Speaker 1: it's very daunting, and uh it's you know, it's just

674
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 1: very Uh. It feels really nice this year of twenties,

675
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 1: of like twenty years of sobriety, twenty years with Gary

676
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 1: getting my American, my us is and ship, all of

677
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 1: these like big things happening. It just feels very And

678
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:02,040
Speaker 1: I'm turning forty four, which is double numbers. You know,

679
00:37:02,080 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 1: I'm meant all that. So it's just like it just

680
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:10,840
Speaker 1: feels like a very like big energetically, I just feel like,

681
00:37:10,880 --> 00:37:13,000
Speaker 1: I don't know, I just feel like some sort of

682
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:16,399
Speaker 1: a good energy push. Wait, that's so because you are

683
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:18,600
Speaker 1: going to be forty four soon, is there something that

684
00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:22,719
Speaker 1: you want to leave in your forty three year or

685
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 1: something that you're like really looking forward to. Yeah, there's

686
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:32,720
Speaker 1: a big thing personal to you. And all I really

687
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:35,040
Speaker 1: want is to be able to go back on a

688
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:40,799
Speaker 1: dance floor again and not be freaked out. So um no,

689
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:43,320
Speaker 1: that's not the only thing. Yeah, there's you know, they're

690
00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:48,880
Speaker 1: definitely some I don't know. I'm a person that I

691
00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 1: like getting older. I just feel like every year that

692
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:55,840
Speaker 1: I get older, I just I feel like a little

693
00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 1: bit more. I guess. They also becoming a US citizen

694
00:37:59,760 --> 00:38:02,480
Speaker 1: also it makes me feel It makes me it's like

695
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 1: when I got married, Like it makes me feel the beginning. Yeah,

696
00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 1: and like more like rooted, you know, like just a

697
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:13,880
Speaker 1: little bit. You know, when the borders started closing and stuff.

698
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 1: At the beginning of the pandemic, I was like, oh,

699
00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 1: this could turn like weird for me, Like I don't

700
00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 1: I was on a green car, but it was like

701
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 1: I was trying to figure out like going home and

702
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:27,040
Speaker 1: if I could get back and like all this other

703
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 1: stuff and so um yeah, now I should be Okay.

704
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:34,440
Speaker 1: Do you want to do for your birthday something that

705
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 1: I like to do on mine, which is write down

706
00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:38,800
Speaker 1: my intentions for the new year of life and burn

707
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 1: the things that do not serve me? Yeah? Am I

708
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:44,600
Speaker 1: doing that now? No? No? No, we like physically do it.

709
00:38:44,640 --> 00:38:48,040
Speaker 1: We like burn them on fire. I have a tin camp. Yeah.

710
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:50,600
Speaker 1: I definitely one thousand percent want to do that. Do

711
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:53,800
Speaker 1: you really do feel like? Yeah, are you crazy? Of course,

712
00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:58,399
Speaker 1: it's like sod red. Yeah. It's also it's like it's

713
00:38:58,440 --> 00:39:01,239
Speaker 1: always so weird, Like I don't know. I feel like

714
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,440
Speaker 1: I'm the type of person who is born to make

715
00:39:03,520 --> 00:39:08,399
Speaker 1: vision boards and I never do. I'm like, so vision boarding. Yeah,

716
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:10,400
Speaker 1: the fact that you don't make a vision board is

717
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 1: the weirdest thing. Like a vision board is basically your

718
00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:17,680
Speaker 1: middle name. It's the most bred thing ever, I know.

719
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:20,440
Speaker 1: It's so do you want to hear the thing? I

720
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:22,880
Speaker 1: think the reason why I don't want to do it

721
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:25,239
Speaker 1: is because I'm afraid of not doing it perfectly. Isn't

722
00:39:25,239 --> 00:39:28,280
Speaker 1: that strange? Like I'm afraid of putting like I stressed

723
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:31,120
Speaker 1: out about not putting the right things up. Yeah, that's

724
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:34,000
Speaker 1: some deep rooted stuff. I feel like, I don't know

725
00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 1: if it's that deep rooted. I think it's just be

726
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:39,239
Speaker 1: wanting things to be like do things perfectly, which like

727
00:39:39,719 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 1: then makes me like puts a stop in front of

728
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:46,719
Speaker 1: actually starting the task right. It's like fear of doing

729
00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:49,919
Speaker 1: it not well. If you want to make one, nothing

730
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 1: would make me happier for your birthday than to bring

731
00:39:52,400 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 1: over a poster and some magazines and some alphabet letters

732
00:39:57,320 --> 00:40:00,400
Speaker 1: and like vision board with you and like aream and

733
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:04,400
Speaker 1: burn things that have some flying wish paper. Yes you

734
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:06,960
Speaker 1: like it all of that? Yeah, I love that. That

735
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:10,000
Speaker 1: would be like the best gift ever. Are you even

736
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:14,040
Speaker 1: here on the fifties? Yeah, I'm here. I'm here now

737
00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:16,960
Speaker 1: that you're like, I'm in Hawaii. I'm like, I don't

738
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 1: know where I'm gonna be. Star is going to take me.

739
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 1: Red Star rented a private plane that's taking me to

740
00:40:22,239 --> 00:40:28,480
Speaker 1: the Bahamas, Like, oh damn, could you imagine actually rented?

741
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:30,879
Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, the fact that the surprise party they

742
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 1: pulled off was a pretty epic, Like, I'm like not

743
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:35,680
Speaker 1: holding anything past him anymore. I think we're gonna do dinner,

744
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:37,920
Speaker 1: like I'm going to do a small dinner in Malibu

745
00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:44,799
Speaker 1: on my birthday. We can go before and we could

746
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:47,399
Speaker 1: like do the burning in Malibu because it's like nice

747
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:51,720
Speaker 1: by the beach. That's so cute. Yeah, it's really cute. Okay,

748
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:54,560
Speaker 1: I'm very into that. Have all the supplies. Okay, so

749
00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:56,840
Speaker 1: we're gonna wrap up, but I want to if we

750
00:40:56,840 --> 00:40:58,800
Speaker 1: could get because you have really good advice, could we

751
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:02,839
Speaker 1: get your advice on some eils before you go? Yes? Please? Okay, great,

752
00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:20,360
Speaker 1: we'll do that one when you come back we are back,

753
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:24,680
Speaker 1: would be rad Brad Garsky for everybody listening, Thank you

754
00:41:24,719 --> 00:41:28,280
Speaker 1: again for taking the time. I appreciate you. I called

755
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:31,480
Speaker 1: you last minute and got the guest, so I appreciate

756
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:34,320
Speaker 1: you and I love you. I was literally doing bicep

757
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:39,040
Speaker 1: girls when you texted me. I would expect nothing, nothing less.

758
00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 1: I was like, what's going on? I know because I

759
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 1: was like, are you round? Are you? Literally? I was

760
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:49,920
Speaker 1: literally just like before even seeing what your text was,

761
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:52,040
Speaker 1: I was gonna, right, are you okay? I know no

762
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:55,799
Speaker 1: one likes to get the marks doing bicep girls. Right there?

763
00:41:55,800 --> 00:42:03,200
Speaker 1: We go, come on, Mark, we gotta get at least

764
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:06,359
Speaker 1: thirties thirty fives going. Did you realize you guys would

765
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:07,759
Speaker 1: come to me so quickly? Sorry, I was trying to

766
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:09,880
Speaker 1: squeeze that in. Yeah. No. I texted Brad and I

767
00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:12,239
Speaker 1: said are you are you? I can't remember exactly what

768
00:42:12,280 --> 00:42:13,160
Speaker 1: it was, but it was one of those texts that

769
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:15,280
Speaker 1: you don't want to get. It was like, are you

770
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:19,000
Speaker 1: available later? What are you doing this afternoon? Yeah? And

771
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:20,440
Speaker 1: so I was like, let me tell him what. I

772
00:42:20,520 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 1: was like, uh, that is going to be out. I

773
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 1: need a co host today. And he was like, I

774
00:42:24,120 --> 00:42:27,919
Speaker 1: got you. That's great. And I can't believe that there's

775
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:32,839
Speaker 1: no muntion of cornhole in the US citizenship test. It's

776
00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 1: really disappointing. I know, maybe we should try to petition

777
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:39,040
Speaker 1: to get that added to the one hundred questions you

778
00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:41,120
Speaker 1: have to start. Think, I've played it within the last

779
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:45,359
Speaker 1: couple of days, I've played court, yeah, and it's just so,

780
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 1: have you played ball? Yeah? But that's Italian? Oh okay,

781
00:42:51,840 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 1: what have you played? Have you played prosecco pong? Well?

782
00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: I can't well, right, but you can fill it with

783
00:42:56,719 --> 00:42:59,480
Speaker 1: like water. That would be like relapsed pong for me.

784
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:04,040
Speaker 1: Um No, But wait, they were playing that last night

785
00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:06,600
Speaker 1: on the Housewives of Potomac. I think, oh, it's so

786
00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 1: cute because it's like beer po but like chicer. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah.

787
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:13,719
Speaker 1: You were playing that at your birthday. Yeah. I've been

788
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:15,799
Speaker 1: wanting to play all summer, and so Red Stars set

789
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 1: it up in the corner of his backyard and I

790
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:20,400
Speaker 1: was like, that warmed my heart because I've been wanting

791
00:43:20,400 --> 00:43:22,759
Speaker 1: to play it literally all summer. I had nobody to

792
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 1: play with. That steak was so delicious at your birthday.

793
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:32,920
Speaker 1: He like, honestly, food was so Listen, anybody who throws

794
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:36,479
Speaker 1: a party that gets the food that right, is like

795
00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:41,239
Speaker 1: that food was delicious and everybody like he really like

796
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:43,399
Speaker 1: he really looked at all my friends that were coming

797
00:43:43,440 --> 00:43:45,759
Speaker 1: and we're like, Okay, she doesn't eat cheese, so we'll

798
00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:47,680
Speaker 1: do this without she Like he was like really thoughtful

799
00:43:47,680 --> 00:43:50,320
Speaker 1: about every little thing. He even got like we drinks

800
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:52,799
Speaker 1: for my friends that don't drink alcohol but like to

801
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:55,840
Speaker 1: take edibles and stuff like he like literally was so

802
00:43:56,680 --> 00:44:01,960
Speaker 1: thoughtful for everybody. Every dietary restriction. I think I just

803
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:03,759
Speaker 1: said I didn't have any I just didn't want to

804
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:07,839
Speaker 1: borrow anybody with my like high protein, low carbro like,

805
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:14,560
Speaker 1: have a big steak and some air fried broccoli and uh,

806
00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:19,200
Speaker 1: I'll suss out the dessert. I think I have asked

807
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 1: you if you had dietary restrictions. Yeah, I'm sure. I

808
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:28,200
Speaker 1: love it. Yeah. But also the big the star of

809
00:44:28,320 --> 00:44:33,720
Speaker 1: that evening, aside from you and the steak, was in watermelon. Yeah.

810
00:44:34,960 --> 00:44:37,480
Speaker 1: As you know, it's a gamble when you get a watermelon,

811
00:44:37,600 --> 00:44:40,840
Speaker 1: it is a gamble. It's I watched I watched the

812
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 1: cheft open it up, and I was like, oh damn,

813
00:44:43,120 --> 00:44:46,319
Speaker 1: I never get a water cut like that midlife. It

814
00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:50,279
Speaker 1: was like ruby red and juicy, and just like, oh,

815
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:52,000
Speaker 1: if I could turn back time, I would just have

816
00:44:52,080 --> 00:45:00,880
Speaker 1: a plate of steak and watermelon. You're your listeners are

817
00:45:01,080 --> 00:45:10,720
Speaker 1: are quickly scrubbing forward. They're scrubbing in and forward right now. Yeah, okay,

818
00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 1: so we'll get into the emails now, because Brad gives

819
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 1: really great advice and um so let's just get straight

820
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:19,920
Speaker 1: to it. This is from anonymous. My boyfriend thirty five

821
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:22,279
Speaker 1: and I thirty have been dating for a year and

822
00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:24,600
Speaker 1: a half and live in different cities about an hour

823
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:26,840
Speaker 1: and a half apart. We both work a lot of

824
00:45:26,880 --> 00:45:29,120
Speaker 1: hours during the week, and he owns his own business.

825
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: Throughout a relationship, We've had a few periods where he

826
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:34,480
Speaker 1: says he gets extremely overwhelmed with work and all communication

827
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:37,359
Speaker 1: between will stop for four to five days. I've told

828
00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:40,160
Speaker 1: him this bothers me. Since then, he communicates to me

829
00:45:40,200 --> 00:45:42,719
Speaker 1: that he needs some time and he's feeling overwhelmed. I

830
00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 1: consider myself very independent don't reach out when he asks

831
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:47,960
Speaker 1: for space, although I still feel very bothered that it

832
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:51,120
Speaker 1: doesn't lean on me to comfort him and instead pushes

833
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 1: me out. Am I overthinking this? Am I asking too

834
00:45:54,280 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 1: much for wanting a daily quick check in text? Is

835
00:45:57,160 --> 00:46:00,160
Speaker 1: there a better way that I can support him? I

836
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 1: mean that sounds like red flag city to me. I don't.

837
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:07,840
Speaker 1: I don't know. Like when I'm I understand being addicted

838
00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:10,720
Speaker 1: to being overwhelmed, it's like the same as being addicted

839
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 1: to being busy, Like being addicted to being busy, It's

840
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:20,399
Speaker 1: like it's it's yes, you should. I feel like when

841
00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:23,200
Speaker 1: I'm stressed out at work, the only person I want

842
00:46:23,239 --> 00:46:26,840
Speaker 1: to talk to is my husband, you know? Like that

843
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:29,160
Speaker 1: is that should be the person in your life or

844
00:46:29,239 --> 00:46:34,200
Speaker 1: your your boyfriend or your partner who is uh? I

845
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 1: would want to be. I do want to be the

846
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 1: person that is feels I want to be the person

847
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:43,360
Speaker 1: that my husband comes to when he's you know, stressed

848
00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:46,279
Speaker 1: out at work or any of those things. So I

849
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:49,919
Speaker 1: think all of the things that she is feeling are

850
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:54,080
Speaker 1: valid and there needs to be a bigger discussion about

851
00:46:54,280 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 1: why why the first uh instinct um is to shut

852
00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:04,239
Speaker 1: down when busy. You know, it's interesting because I'm the

853
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:07,800
Speaker 1: same way. I would not like that. I would especially

854
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:10,000
Speaker 1: four to five days. Not talking for four to five

855
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 1: days feels weird to me. Becca is one of those

856
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:16,520
Speaker 1: people or when she gets in a fight, like she

857
00:47:16,600 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 1: needs space, so she needs time to like cool down

858
00:47:20,080 --> 00:47:24,640
Speaker 1: and then reassess. But four or five days is not it.

859
00:47:24,640 --> 00:47:27,719
Speaker 1: It's like a couple of hours. I think. Yeah, four

860
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:30,800
Speaker 1: or five days is a long time. It's like almost

861
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:34,759
Speaker 1: a week. Also, aren't people working like two hours a

862
00:47:34,840 --> 00:47:38,360
Speaker 1: day right now? Like what's happening? Do you know what

863
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:40,719
Speaker 1: I mean? Like when we're when we were in the pandemic,

864
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 1: like the pandemic, Like I don't know what's happening state

865
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:45,760
Speaker 1: to stay with people being back at work and stuff,

866
00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 1: And I understand, like it just seems that seems like

867
00:47:48,040 --> 00:47:53,480
Speaker 1: a very extreme reaction, like maybe we can suggest like

868
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:57,560
Speaker 1: a meditation act or like we are we trusting that

869
00:47:57,640 --> 00:48:00,160
Speaker 1: it's stress? Are we taking this at face value? Or

870
00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:02,160
Speaker 1: is it could this be an excuse for something else?

871
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying it's anything sinister. And I think

872
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:07,279
Speaker 1: maybe he just he needs a break, Maybe he wants

873
00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:09,919
Speaker 1: to go out with his guys. I don't know, Maybe

874
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 1: there's something else going on here that he just needs

875
00:48:12,120 --> 00:48:14,160
Speaker 1: to be alone. Maybe he just needs space every once

876
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:16,080
Speaker 1: in a while. Maybe that's just kind of how he is.

877
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's somebody I would want to

878
00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:21,959
Speaker 1: be in a relationship point, I mean, like book a

879
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 1: book of boys weekend. Then if that's like you know,

880
00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:27,640
Speaker 1: like I book weekends away to go go away with

881
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:31,840
Speaker 1: my friends, or you know, there's always an opportunity to

882
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 1: say like, hey, I'm gonna hang out with I'm gonna

883
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:37,680
Speaker 1: go to Palm Springs with my guy friends this weekend

884
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 1: for two days and act like an idiot like that.

885
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:43,919
Speaker 1: I understand, but going totally rogue for four to five

886
00:48:44,000 --> 00:48:47,400
Speaker 1: days because you're overwhelmed with work feels a little sketch.

887
00:48:48,160 --> 00:48:52,080
Speaker 1: So what's the advice? Um have a conversation and if

888
00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:55,080
Speaker 1: things don't get better, this may not be the relationship

889
00:48:55,120 --> 00:48:58,279
Speaker 1: for you. Well, long distance is hard anyway, regardless of

890
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 1: if it's an hour and a half or you know,

891
00:49:00,840 --> 00:49:05,600
Speaker 1: across the country, So long distances is really tricky. And

892
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:09,319
Speaker 1: then cutting off communication for days, like I would, I

893
00:49:09,360 --> 00:49:14,799
Speaker 1: would be having a final conversation about, uh, you know,

894
00:49:15,239 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 1: being more communicative when work is stressful or he's feeling overwhelmed,

895
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:23,520
Speaker 1: and what the solution is to try to help him

896
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:28,359
Speaker 1: get over that. And then it's that behavior doesn't change,

897
00:49:28,400 --> 00:49:30,480
Speaker 1: and I would evaluate if this was something I wanted

898
00:49:30,520 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 1: to continue being in a relationship I want to be in. Yeah,

899
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 1: I agree. I couldn't do the four or five day

900
00:49:37,239 --> 00:49:41,120
Speaker 1: thing me neither. I get stressed when somebody doesn't text

901
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:45,440
Speaker 1: me back within like twenty Mac like like, what are

902
00:49:45,480 --> 00:49:49,560
Speaker 1: you doing? Try being friends with Becca? It is you

903
00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:53,279
Speaker 1: gotta eat. Sometimes sometimes I did. It could be a

904
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:56,800
Speaker 1: daze like ill I text her and then sometimes I

905
00:49:56,840 --> 00:49:59,799
Speaker 1: should him. Yeah, Like I'll see her on Instagram and

906
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:01,600
Speaker 1: I'll be like, hello, I see her Instagram. Can you

907
00:50:01,640 --> 00:50:03,600
Speaker 1: text me back? And then usually she'll text me back,

908
00:50:04,800 --> 00:50:08,759
Speaker 1: what's that about? It's not intentional, She's not doing it

909
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:10,879
Speaker 1: because she doesn't want to answer me. I think it's

910
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 1: just like she sees it. She forgets to respond and

911
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: then she just goes about her day twenty four hours,

912
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:19,239
Speaker 1: like if I I'm sometimes asleep and then I wake

913
00:50:19,320 --> 00:50:20,759
Speaker 1: up and I'm like, oh my god, I forgot to

914
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:25,800
Speaker 1: return sos text brudo. All right, this is from Catalin.

915
00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:28,600
Speaker 1: I was hoping first some advice after a tough conversation

916
00:50:28,640 --> 00:50:30,919
Speaker 1: I had with my broth today. Some background. I've worked

917
00:50:30,920 --> 00:50:33,640
Speaker 1: for the same company for five years now, and I

918
00:50:33,719 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 1: have been fighting for my first big promotion hard for

919
00:50:36,640 --> 00:50:39,400
Speaker 1: the past year. I've always done my best to advocate

920
00:50:39,440 --> 00:50:41,600
Speaker 1: for myself, but have had many doors slammed in my

921
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:43,919
Speaker 1: face with keep working hard kid on the way out.

922
00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 1: My boss just told me they've decided to hire externally

923
00:50:47,200 --> 00:50:50,280
Speaker 1: for the internal promotion I was fighting for. This promotion

924
00:50:50,360 --> 00:50:52,839
Speaker 1: was really my only chance of growth. And although I

925
00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:55,680
Speaker 1: love where I work, love just doesn't seem to be returned.

926
00:50:55,840 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 1: What am I do next? So I hear this so

927
00:51:00,600 --> 00:51:06,080
Speaker 1: much from like my friends, and uh, um, that's such

928
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:09,719
Speaker 1: a brutal place to be in to feel underappreciated, right, Yeah,

929
00:51:09,840 --> 00:51:13,200
Speaker 1: not only that, but also like if you know I think, um,

930
00:51:13,239 --> 00:51:15,840
Speaker 1: you can kind of look at your your workspace and

931
00:51:15,880 --> 00:51:17,680
Speaker 1: you can kind of say like, Okay, I can grow

932
00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:19,840
Speaker 1: to this position, and then I can go to this position,

933
00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:21,200
Speaker 1: or I can go to this person. I can do this.

934
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:23,640
Speaker 1: You know, you can kind of figure out different avenues

935
00:51:23,680 --> 00:51:26,719
Speaker 1: of how to grow in that company. If there's nowhere

936
00:51:26,920 --> 00:51:29,320
Speaker 1: for you to grow and they just hired somebody else

937
00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:32,120
Speaker 1: to come into the only spot that you can grow too,

938
00:51:32,719 --> 00:51:34,279
Speaker 1: I think you have no other choice but to like

939
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:40,239
Speaker 1: start looking elsewhere. Not yeah, yeah, keep going sorry, no,

940
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 1: but like look elsewhere. Don't say anything, don't quit your

941
00:51:42,760 --> 00:51:45,239
Speaker 1: job until you have another one lined up. But I

942
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:47,959
Speaker 1: think you kind of have to start looking outside, put

943
00:51:48,040 --> 00:51:52,359
Speaker 1: feelers out. Yeah, you have to have made connections with

944
00:51:52,400 --> 00:51:55,440
Speaker 1: other companies, other businesses, other people. I think it's time

945
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:57,200
Speaker 1: to start calling in some of those favors. When I

946
00:51:57,239 --> 00:51:58,919
Speaker 1: get to a new job, I'm always looking to find

947
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 1: that ladder or what's the next on is on it?

948
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:02,759
Speaker 1: And when that wrong is no longer available, Yeah, I

949
00:52:02,760 --> 00:52:04,600
Speaker 1: think you've got to start looking around. They don't have

950
00:52:04,640 --> 00:52:07,640
Speaker 1: to know that, but it's worth getting out there. Yeah.

951
00:52:07,719 --> 00:52:10,520
Speaker 1: And it's also makes a world of difference when you're

952
00:52:11,200 --> 00:52:16,120
Speaker 1: working in a job where you're feeling appreciated totally, and

953
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:20,400
Speaker 1: that's I would definitely start and from now you be

954
00:52:20,560 --> 00:52:23,640
Speaker 1: very happy that you did not get this promotion. And

955
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:31,360
Speaker 1: God's rejection is God's protection. Did you think God's rejection

956
00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 1: is God's protection. Yeah, No, it's man's rejection is God's protection. Really,

957
00:52:42,080 --> 00:52:45,840
Speaker 1: God's rejection is God's protection. Doesn't make any sense. No,

958
00:52:46,040 --> 00:52:50,480
Speaker 1: it's saying we say that, you think about it. Wait,

959
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:54,359
Speaker 1: if you get rejected, if God like something that you

960
00:52:54,440 --> 00:52:59,799
Speaker 1: want you don't get, that's God's rejecting. That is God

961
00:52:59,840 --> 00:53:05,320
Speaker 1: for tecting you, right, because we live in God's world. No,

962
00:53:05,440 --> 00:53:09,800
Speaker 1: we live in man's world, because God's not man. Man's

963
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:14,160
Speaker 1: rejection is God's protection. Correct. I don't think I've ever

964
00:53:14,200 --> 00:53:21,480
Speaker 1: heard it like that before. God's rejection is God's protection.

965
00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:27,879
Speaker 1: Man's rejection is God's protection. Really? Yes? Also, how many

966
00:53:27,920 --> 00:53:33,160
Speaker 1: God people are you? Talking to? Everyone? In a duh?

967
00:53:33,200 --> 00:53:38,479
Speaker 1: It's a spiritual program. What's the matter with you? That's

968
00:53:38,480 --> 00:53:43,280
Speaker 1: all about God? I didn't power. I will say that

969
00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:46,520
Speaker 1: if you google that phrase, most of what comes up

970
00:53:46,640 --> 00:53:51,560
Speaker 1: is rejection is God's protection, or sometimes rejection is God's protection.

971
00:53:51,719 --> 00:53:55,480
Speaker 1: Sometimes rejection is God's protection. Thank you, Mark, we can

972
00:53:55,560 --> 00:54:00,719
Speaker 1: say sometimes, but maybe sometimes we'll leave you with this

973
00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:06,600
Speaker 1: thought scrubbers. God's rejection, it's God's protection. That might need

974
00:54:06,600 --> 00:54:10,600
Speaker 1: to be the title of the episode. Man's rejection is

975
00:54:10,680 --> 00:54:18,120
Speaker 1: God's protection. Or sometimes rejection is God's protection, or you

976
00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:24,640
Speaker 1: can do Sometimes rejection is God's redirection. Oh I love that,

977
00:54:24,880 --> 00:54:27,919
Speaker 1: Thank you that one. I really like. Where's that from from?

978
00:54:27,960 --> 00:54:33,120
Speaker 1: I don't know in the Bible. I'm kidding that. I

979
00:54:33,160 --> 00:54:35,239
Speaker 1: don't think that's in the Bible. It's not. I don't

980
00:54:35,239 --> 00:54:37,279
Speaker 1: know who said that. I don't know, but it's a

981
00:54:37,280 --> 00:54:42,400
Speaker 1: good one. Sometimes rejection is God's redirection. It sounds like

982
00:54:42,440 --> 00:54:44,680
Speaker 1: an Instagram quote. Yeah, maybe it's not on Instagram. I

983
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:47,640
Speaker 1: don't know, Um, but I do because you are just

984
00:54:47,680 --> 00:54:51,000
Speaker 1: like the bestest friend ever and you are a busy,

985
00:54:51,239 --> 00:54:56,440
Speaker 1: working modern woman. I want to honor your time and

986
00:54:56,600 --> 00:55:00,160
Speaker 1: um let you go, and you're always a punctual so

987
00:55:00,200 --> 00:55:03,799
Speaker 1: I just want to really respect you. What time was

988
00:55:03,840 --> 00:55:09,480
Speaker 1: I supposed to show up when you did one o'clock? Yeah? Good? Yeah?

989
00:55:09,600 --> 00:55:11,680
Speaker 1: But who shows? Like do people show up really late?

990
00:55:12,520 --> 00:55:15,279
Speaker 1: Beck Attilly is usually late to our own podcast that

991
00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 1: we do every single Monday at the exact same time

992
00:55:18,560 --> 00:55:21,040
Speaker 1: I got you. Now I understand. I was like, what

993
00:55:21,160 --> 00:55:24,680
Speaker 1: guest is showing up late? No, not guests, but yeah,

994
00:55:25,520 --> 00:55:28,239
Speaker 1: Becca is not the most punctual love or to death.

995
00:55:28,280 --> 00:55:31,040
Speaker 1: We all have strengths and weaknesses. You know, she's we

996
00:55:31,080 --> 00:55:36,879
Speaker 1: are yin and yang energy. Maybe it's sometimes punch lack

997
00:55:36,920 --> 00:55:41,920
Speaker 1: of punctuality is God's protection, or maybe it's like uh

998
00:55:42,800 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 1: late friends, uh teach patients like God. There we go.

999
00:55:51,960 --> 00:55:54,880
Speaker 1: I get that all right, And on that note, we

1000
00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:59,439
Speaker 1: are gonna UM wish you all a wonderful Monday. Brad,

1001
00:55:59,480 --> 00:56:01,960
Speaker 1: thank you so much. Everybody listening. You can check out

1002
00:56:02,000 --> 00:56:05,719
Speaker 1: the prints. It's streaming right now on HBO Max. Send Brad,

1003
00:56:05,800 --> 00:56:08,120
Speaker 1: send Gary your love. When you're watching it, post it,

1004
00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:11,319
Speaker 1: tag them. They have an Instagram handle, right yeah. The

1005
00:56:11,360 --> 00:56:14,680
Speaker 1: Prince on I think it's called the Prince on HBO

1006
00:56:14,760 --> 00:56:19,760
Speaker 1: Max is the official UM Instagram. So it's really funny.

1007
00:56:19,760 --> 00:56:22,480
Speaker 1: I think you guys will all enjoy it. And um, Brad,

1008
00:56:22,520 --> 00:56:24,040
Speaker 1: thank you so much for taking the time. I love you,

1009
00:56:24,320 --> 00:56:33,880
Speaker 1: I Love U. Tanya by Scrubbers. That's cute.