1 00:00:02,200 --> 00:00:09,400 Speaker 1: All right, take us to the Strawberry letter. The Strawberry 2 00:00:09,520 --> 00:00:16,320 Speaker 1: letter subject was I right or wrong? He Stephen the family. 3 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:18,680 Speaker 1: I am twenty four year old female that is well 4 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:21,960 Speaker 1: established for my age. I have my own house, car, 5 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:25,759 Speaker 1: and I am a registered nurse. Anyway, I met this 6 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: guy a couple of months ago, and I was interested 7 00:00:27,840 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 1: in him. We would hang out from time to time, 8 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 1: and I really enjoyed his company, but it seemed like 9 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 1: the only thing that will become of this is friends 10 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:38,680 Speaker 1: would benefit benefits. One day, out of the blue, he 11 00:00:38,720 --> 00:00:40,559 Speaker 1: said his birthday is coming up, and what am I 12 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:43,159 Speaker 1: going to get him. I quickly mentioned the friends with 13 00:00:43,320 --> 00:00:46,960 Speaker 1: benefits and he said, no, it's not like that. I 14 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:49,279 Speaker 1: want more. I want to get to know you as 15 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:52,280 Speaker 1: a person. In the whole time, I'm thinking he's just 16 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:54,880 Speaker 1: saying this to continue to get the goods. So the 17 00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:57,560 Speaker 1: next time he came over, he ended up trying and 18 00:00:57,600 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: getting the goods. And after it was over, I got upset, 19 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:03,160 Speaker 1: left the room and came back and told him it 20 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:05,280 Speaker 1: was time for him to go. He had gotten what 21 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:07,480 Speaker 1: he wanted and there was no reason for him to 22 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:11,240 Speaker 1: still be there. Uh to be here? He looked confused 23 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: and didn't know where the attitude came from. But he 24 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:17,039 Speaker 1: got up and I got his stuff and before he left, 25 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:19,600 Speaker 1: he said, I'll talk to you later, and I said, 26 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:23,360 Speaker 1: I don't think I'll be communicating with you anymore. I 27 00:01:23,400 --> 00:01:28,119 Speaker 1: feel bad now, was I wrong? I mean, I don't 28 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:31,680 Speaker 1: know where you where you're wrong? I mean, what do 29 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 1: you want out of this? You know? Do you want 30 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 1: a relationship where someone cares about you and loves you, 31 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: or do you just want to be some man's boo, 32 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:43,400 Speaker 1: you know, with benefits, his friend with benefits. So maybe 33 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:46,319 Speaker 1: you know, since you feel bad now now that he's gone, 34 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 1: maybe you'll take the time to consider him. Um, you know, 35 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 1: he said he wanted to get to know you better, 36 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: and uh, you know, sounds like he wants something with 37 00:01:56,200 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 1: you to me. Maybe you'll realize now that it is 38 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:02,560 Speaker 1: you and you're attitude and your fears and your insecurities 39 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:05,120 Speaker 1: that are holding you back from possibly having a good 40 00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:10,640 Speaker 1: relationship with the man. Stop tripping, you know, Steve Well, 41 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, Shirley. I think this is 42 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:16,880 Speaker 1: a classic case of not getting the clear understanding of 43 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:21,520 Speaker 1: what everybody's in it for. See, you can't create new 44 00:02:21,720 --> 00:02:25,920 Speaker 1: terms and then become unhappy with the terms. Are you 45 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: twenty for your female that's well established for your age, 46 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:31,560 Speaker 1: and I'll admit you really are. You got your own house, 47 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 1: a car, and you're a nurse. Okay, sister, you're doing really, 48 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:39,920 Speaker 1: really well, extremely well. You met a guy a couple 49 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:42,120 Speaker 1: of months ago. You're interested in it. We would hang 50 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:45,120 Speaker 1: out from time to time, and I really enjoyed his company. 51 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:48,240 Speaker 1: But it seemed like the only thing that will become 52 00:02:48,280 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 1: of this is friends with benefits. Okay, see, hold on, 53 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 1: see you hung out from time to time. You really 54 00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 1: enjoy this company, but it seemed like the only thing 55 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 1: that would come out of this would be friends with benefits. 56 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: So what that means is that hanging out was more 57 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:13,640 Speaker 1: than really hanging out. Y'all were sleeping together. Okay, now 58 00:03:13,919 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 1: you've discovered that it looks like all this is gonna 59 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 1: be is some friends with benefits. Well, you're using the 60 00:03:20,639 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 1: term benefits because you're obviously taking the term out of 61 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: the book. And I explain to women the reason you 62 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 1: hang on to your cookie because it's a great benefit. 63 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:31,120 Speaker 1: Now you got a friend of yours you called a friend, 64 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: which everybody's definition of friendship is different, and now you're 65 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 1: saying that they have benefits with it. And then one 66 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 1: after day, one day after blue, he said his birthday 67 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 1: was coming up and what am I gonna get him? Uh? 68 00:03:44,520 --> 00:03:47,240 Speaker 1: And then I quickly mentioned the friends with benefits and 69 00:03:47,280 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 1: he said, no, it's not like that. I want more. 70 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 1: I want to get to know you as a person. 71 00:03:52,480 --> 00:03:55,840 Speaker 1: The whole time I'm thinking this, he's just saying it, 72 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 1: continue to continue to get the goods. So, in essence, lady, 73 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 1: let's just tell true. You were passing out the goods 74 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: to a person who didn't know you, and you didn't 75 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: know him. That's really what this is about. Man. I 76 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:13,000 Speaker 1: hate to keep doing this and hammering this message home, 77 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:17,479 Speaker 1: but my goodness, I want more. I want to get 78 00:04:17,520 --> 00:04:20,680 Speaker 1: to know you as a person. You're sleeping with a 79 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:25,040 Speaker 1: dude you don't know because you passed out the benefits 80 00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 1: before he proved himself worthy of the benefit package. I 81 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:32,360 Speaker 1: have no other way to explain this to you except 82 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 1: you have done this to yourself without having any standards 83 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 1: as to what a friend is to you on him 84 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:43,400 Speaker 1: and any standards for when you pass out your cookie. Everybody, 85 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:45,880 Speaker 1: come in here and get a handful to him. Steve's 86 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 1: response at twenty three after the hour you're listening to 87 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 1: Steve Hardy. Come on, Steve, finish with your your responsive 88 00:04:55,600 --> 00:05:00,720 Speaker 1: part two of this crazy letter, ain't it? Yeah? He 89 00:05:01,040 --> 00:05:05,720 Speaker 1: ain't y'all This this letter right here, Hey, Steven F 90 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:08,200 Speaker 1: twenty for your female is established from my age got 91 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:10,400 Speaker 1: her own house called resident. Anyway, I met this guy 92 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 1: a couple of months ago. I was interested, and we 93 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:14,279 Speaker 1: were hanging out from time to time. I really enjoyed 94 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 1: the company, but it seemed like the only thing that 95 00:05:16,279 --> 00:05:18,720 Speaker 1: would become of this his friends with benefits. One day, 96 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:20,839 Speaker 1: out of the blue, he said his birthday is coming up, 97 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:22,559 Speaker 1: and what am I gonna get him. I quickly mentioned 98 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:24,600 Speaker 1: the friend with benefits and he said, no, it's not 99 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 1: like that. I want more. I want to get to 100 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 1: know you as a person. The whole time, I'm thinking 101 00:05:28,120 --> 00:05:30,160 Speaker 1: he's just saying it's continue to get the goods. So 102 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:32,320 Speaker 1: the next time he came over, he ended up trying 103 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 1: to get the goods. After it was over, I got 104 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 1: upset and left the room, came back and told him 105 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 1: it was time for him to go, and he had 106 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 1: had gotten what he wanted. There was no reason for 107 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 1: him to still be here. He looked confused and didn't 108 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:44,720 Speaker 1: know what attitude came from, but he got him got 109 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:46,320 Speaker 1: of stuffing before he left. He said, I talked to 110 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:48,160 Speaker 1: you later. I said, I don't think I'd be communicating 111 00:05:48,160 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: with you anymore. I feel bad now? Was I wrong? 112 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:53,360 Speaker 1: Sureley's absolutely correct and saying, well, you're wrong. I don't 113 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:56,239 Speaker 1: know what do you want? Okay, Let's say you ain't ready. 114 00:05:56,760 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 1: Let's say the friends with benefits is a common term 115 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:01,440 Speaker 1: I must have, and I've heard that many times before 116 00:06:01,600 --> 00:06:03,920 Speaker 1: friends would benefit. But you didn't discuss any of that. 117 00:06:05,080 --> 00:06:07,720 Speaker 1: You know now you know? Then at the end of 118 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:10,279 Speaker 1: the letter, you wrote, I feel bad now? Was I wrong? 119 00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:12,919 Speaker 1: You feel bad now? No? No, Lenny, no no no 120 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: cee cee send me back up a little bit little, 121 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 1: a little twenty for you. Let me help you understand something. 122 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:22,599 Speaker 1: You felt bad when you was writing this letter. You 123 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 1: felt bad for what caused you to wrote to write 124 00:06:25,120 --> 00:06:29,520 Speaker 1: the letter. You felt you felt bad after he asked 125 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:33,360 Speaker 1: you what he was getting for his birthday. Uh. Then 126 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:35,839 Speaker 1: you got mad because you had to remind him, hey, 127 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:39,239 Speaker 1: we're just friends with benefits. Then you got mad because 128 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:41,159 Speaker 1: he said, no, I want more than that. You got 129 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:43,960 Speaker 1: mad because you're thinking the whole time he's talking that 130 00:06:44,040 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 1: he's saying all of this just to continue to get 131 00:06:47,080 --> 00:06:50,000 Speaker 1: the goods. Then you got mad because the next time 132 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 1: he came over he was trying to get the goods. 133 00:06:54,320 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: Then you really got mad because after it was over, 134 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:02,000 Speaker 1: which means he got the goods. Now, who are you 135 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 1: mad at? You mad at him because because you gave 136 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:10,520 Speaker 1: it to him. It's all y'all do. See, that's all 137 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 1: y'all do. Y'all ain't been talking, getting to know each other, 138 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: learning each other, y'all been getting together, passing out benefits. 139 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:23,440 Speaker 1: Now you're mad. Now you don't came back in the 140 00:07:23,520 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 1: room with you're crazy it self because this crazy you 141 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 1: sleep with the man you give in. You got upset 142 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:32,120 Speaker 1: and left the room, came back, told him it's time 143 00:07:32,160 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 1: for him to go, that he had gotten what he 144 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 1: wanted and that was no reason for him to still 145 00:07:35,840 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 1: be there. Did you not give what you want? See? 146 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:41,400 Speaker 1: Women amazed me with that statement. You got what you wanted? 147 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:44,640 Speaker 1: But WoT did you not get what you want? So 148 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:48,400 Speaker 1: you keep dumping this on the dude? It takes two 149 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:52,559 Speaker 1: to do that thing. So now you got what you wanted? 150 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 1: You could leave now, did not you get what you want? 151 00:07:56,080 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 1: Take it? Get out? Now, you get out? He looked confused. 152 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:03,800 Speaker 1: You're damn right, he confused. Every man on earth would 153 00:08:03,840 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: be confused. Well, you mean get out. We were just 154 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:07,800 Speaker 1: doing what we always do when I come over here, 155 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 1: I'll talk to you later. Now I don't think I'll 156 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:13,559 Speaker 1: be communicating with you anymore. Yeah, he's confused. But guess 157 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 1: what you confused? You confused, ma'am. You have to get 158 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:24,120 Speaker 1: yourself some standards, so you have none. Now you want 159 00:08:24,120 --> 00:08:28,960 Speaker 1: a guy to respect what you have no standards, but 160 00:08:29,080 --> 00:08:32,840 Speaker 1: you want the respect of a woman with standards. A 161 00:08:32,960 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 1: man will only give you the respect that you command. 162 00:08:37,559 --> 00:08:39,600 Speaker 1: All right, we gotta get out of here, Steve, let's go. 163 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:45,240 Speaker 1: Uh email us or Instagram. That's your thoughts at my girl, Shirley. 164 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 1: That's for today's Strawberry Letters. You're listening to the Steve 165 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:49,800 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show.