Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make a horrible decisions.
Speaker 1: Welcome horrors. We got one in the building today, not Mandy,
Speaker 1: not me. It's easy. Welcome to horrible decisions and most
Speaker 1: disgusting show you've ever heard in the podcast world. What's up, y'all?
Speaker 1: Motherfucker's it's your girl, Mandy b A k A tri
Speaker 1: pop mommy. I mean the building you already know. Have
Speaker 1: Dante with us, a requested guest, over and over. But
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie a few years, actually seriously, and
Speaker 1: you're not gonna lie a few years. Maybe you want
Speaker 1: to reply to us back then you're not. I don't
Speaker 1: ever not do that. I see it. I need. But
Speaker 1: people were like, you gotta have Dante on, and I'm like, why,
Speaker 1: but why Dan? Why we gotta have you on? Why
Speaker 1: do you think people all do? I try to stay righteous.
Speaker 1: That's it. That's man, and that's on the on the
Speaker 1: on the strength. So my my podcast, I've been doing
Speaker 1: my podcast for eight years. Who's the name of this Man? School?
Speaker 1: Two oh to initially was the Beige Philip Show before
Speaker 1: Baige Philip. It was a Black Philip show that I
Speaker 1: did with Patrice o'neio back in two thousand six. We
Speaker 1: did it as a radio shown. You bitch was in
Speaker 1: high school, you know if I don't know if stuff
Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, so you got a podcast. But what
Speaker 1: are you known for? Because to me, when people are
Speaker 1: like you need Dante on, what's why, how do people
Speaker 1: know you? What do they know you for? Being? Well?
Speaker 1: So just as a relationship gurule I guess that would
Speaker 1: be married I am now recently, but you was given
Speaker 1: though relationship advice before you was married? Yeah, but made
Speaker 1: because I know everything about this. So let me let
Speaker 1: me give you the background. So, uh, I was a
Speaker 1: male strip of for ten years. Well now we talk
Speaker 1: about we're talking about like years ago. Okay, So so
Speaker 1: I was a male stripper. You know, I will bring
Speaker 1: up the Instagram and so I was a male strippid
Speaker 1: for ten years and then I got into I was
Speaker 1: like managing other male strippers, and then I started managing
Speaker 1: the club and then I did a little personal management.
Speaker 1: Personal personal management also starts when p I am. I
Speaker 1: did that for for for a few years. And so
Speaker 1: the perspective of being a male strippers, you have to
Speaker 1: you have to understand, you have to understand attraction from
Speaker 1: a woman's perspective. If you can't if you don't understand that,
Speaker 1: then you don't make no money. So and the way
Speaker 1: men's see attraction is different than the way women see attraction.
Speaker 1: I am interested to and we're going to get into
Speaker 1: it later. But a lot about you know, pimping is
Speaker 1: perceived in a way that's so misogynistic. But but I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm assuming that you did protect women. So I want
Speaker 1: to talk about those things later because I feel like
Speaker 1: when we've discussed it with escorts, a lot of women
Speaker 1: we meet are independent and it seems like a good
Speaker 1: way to go. But then there's also these moments where
Speaker 1: safety comes into play. A lot of these laws that
Speaker 1: are sucked over like sester like you know, they cross
Speaker 1: referencing clients and stuff like that. I mean, even when
Speaker 1: you see somebody who's independent, they still got a guy
Speaker 1: who's who rids them and knows that they you know,
Speaker 1: somebody that got their back, somebody that can, you know,
Speaker 1: crack jewels and knockheads if they have to, you know,
Speaker 1: if that needs be so, I mean, that's the point
Speaker 1: of it. But I think what happens is there's a
Speaker 1: there's when I say, uh righteous, there's a business principles
Speaker 1: to everything that you do and you gotta follow those principles. So, um,
Speaker 1: I didn't like, I don't. I don't think nobody decides
Speaker 1: to be a pimp. Uh. Women actually turned the guy
Speaker 1: into a pimp. See this is like when Nigga tell
Speaker 1: you you made me cheat. Really it's not really because us.
Speaker 1: Here's what happens is you you would never think that
Speaker 1: you could put somebody in that in that position. Somebody
Speaker 1: has to say to you, yo, you know I did
Speaker 1: you I would? You know I would rock like that
Speaker 1: for you. You know I would. I would make some
Speaker 1: money for you, and you like you would. You don't
Speaker 1: start out thinking that's like nobody who goes I want
Speaker 1: to be a pimp does that. You don't wake up
Speaker 1: and go I want to be it don't even work
Speaker 1: like that. You have there's a thing that you have
Speaker 1: to have that maybe you mean a good one or not.
Speaker 1: But I think a lot of thing don't want to
Speaker 1: do ship like yeah, but they because it's glorified culture. Right.
Speaker 1: You got people that want to be drug dealers. That's
Speaker 1: just the truth. And I think people that want to
Speaker 1: get into that type of life dudes who want to
Speaker 1: be drug deal is usually not good drug. You know
Speaker 1: understand that get caught. It's got It's gotta be somebody
Speaker 1: that goes yo, I really did you? You know, Like
Speaker 1: I tell you this thing. I was dating this girl
Speaker 1: that was like about twenty years old, and I had,
Speaker 1: you know, those little standing lamps that you you know,
Speaker 1: you couldn't so I the novel, so every time I
Speaker 1: had to turn it on, I had to leave it
Speaker 1: on and plug it in. Or I had this when
Speaker 1: I was broke, and she was like, let me tell
Speaker 1: you what happened when she went to the store foundine
Speaker 1: lamp and she stole the thing off. That's pimper. That's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Is that the fact that she didn't
Speaker 1: want me to even hurt my fingers too. She was like,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to gift for a man. But it's the
Speaker 1: perspective I'm saying. The perspective of it is the same.
Speaker 1: It's the same. So I have a I have a
Speaker 1: thing that I always say, um that true wisdom is
Speaker 1: the understanding of underlying concepts how they relate to situations
Speaker 1: that seem irrelevant. But really I'm not meaning if you
Speaker 1: learn something and you boil it down to the route
Speaker 1: to the to the cosmic and universal truth. That truth
Speaker 1: can be reapplied over and over and over and over
Speaker 1: again in situations that seem like they wouldn't like, like
Speaker 1: it's not even relevant. I wonder if there's something to
Speaker 1: be said with Like I was listening to this interview
Speaker 1: um with a porn star that was talking about how
Speaker 1: she went to jail for due before, and I wonder
Speaker 1: if there's something like the pimp and thing. It's like
Speaker 1: when women will do anything right when it's not necessarily
Speaker 1: but I mean, and that's the thing, right, And I
Speaker 1: think that's where it comes from, is when there's independence
Speaker 1: and you aligned and joined forces with somebody. That doesn't
Speaker 1: really happen with Madam's noticed that that's only the dynamic
Speaker 1: with men. I've never heard a woman difference. So I
Speaker 1: dipped and dabbled in and being a madam for a
Speaker 1: lot of years early on, because I just knew a
Speaker 1: plethora of women that we're willing to do whatever for
Speaker 1: some change. You know, I'll be working my words, uh.
Speaker 1: But also I knew a lot of men that were
Speaker 1: willing to spet and so I was the middle woman.
Speaker 1: But I think the difference is to um and tell
Speaker 1: me if I'm wrong or if you experienced this, but
Speaker 1: to me, because I wasn't necessarily having relations with those women,
Speaker 1: I was able to just have kind of that business.
Speaker 1: I was able to have that business relationship with the
Speaker 1: women that here you go, here you go, and let
Speaker 1: me do it. As far as with a pimp. Uh,
Speaker 1: the women that are engaged in that type of lifestyle
Speaker 1: normally do have an emotional attachment and a relationship with
Speaker 1: the male that as a woman we I didn't have
Speaker 1: with those girls. Well, it's a it's a you know,
Speaker 1: it is a give and take. Now, I'm gonna say
Speaker 1: that one of the reasons why I stopped was because
Speaker 1: it's it's in a moral profession, and I just I
Speaker 1: got to the point where, yes, ethically, I just I
Speaker 1: couldn't do how many women what do you call it
Speaker 1: a rotation? Hair? Uh? Well, I mean, at at the
Speaker 1: best I had twelve are all of them? Yeah damn yeah.
Speaker 1: And that's but it is exhausting. And that's that's kind
Speaker 1: of the thing with relationships. Just all dudes who want
Speaker 1: to so they want three sims and this and that.
Speaker 1: But if you can't funk one woman properly? How you
Speaker 1: how you do all the time? You feel me? So,
Speaker 1: I mean, there's you gotta be that's the thing. It's
Speaker 1: a no, it's even if it's sister wise, there's a
Speaker 1: jealousy and that you have to create the parameters that
Speaker 1: that doesn't happen. Was he like, did stop being? So
Speaker 1: it's it's a real interesting thing. Is the print of
Speaker 1: the reason why I got into the whole relationship thing,
Speaker 1: because even that is a relationship, or at least it's
Speaker 1: in a good situation. It's a relationship that you have
Speaker 1: to that you have to read her needs, all of
Speaker 1: their needs simultaneously and fulfill those. Did you forget names?
Speaker 1: I'm trying named well friends right now? Like you know
Speaker 1: how hard my names? Well, yeah, but it's gonna take
Speaker 1: me a second to just like get my names together.
Speaker 1: But you're not every day if you're with them and
Speaker 1: we date, and it's it's a different it's but what
Speaker 1: you said, we actually um during quarantine, we interviewed a
Speaker 1: Polly couple um down in Memphis, and he actually said
Speaker 1: that same exact thing. He was like a lot of
Speaker 1: men want to have multiple girlfriends and all these different women.
Speaker 1: But it does take time and energy and energy and
Speaker 1: emotionally learn women and how we talk about love languages
Speaker 1: a lot as well, but to learn how everyone receives
Speaker 1: the things you do, how you give it back, and
Speaker 1: for them to also learn it is I can only
Speaker 1: imagine I'm listening. It's exhausting. And and that means you
Speaker 1: you also, if they want sex with you, you gotta
Speaker 1: show up. You gotta show up when you don't want
Speaker 1: to show up. Like so, you know, it's great when
Speaker 1: you you know, everybody's like, oh, I want I've done
Speaker 1: do I've had dudes who have council dudes doing my
Speaker 1: podcast and then yeah, I want this and I want that,
Speaker 1: and then they you know, I would get them to
Speaker 1: the point where they might have five on the roster
Speaker 1: and then we're like, yo, I'm tired. I gotta I
Speaker 1: gotta go to you know what I'm saying. And I'm
Speaker 1: like you you broke it, you bought it, like this
Speaker 1: is what you wanted. Now you got to make the trip.
Speaker 1: You gotta go make the trip because if you and
Speaker 1: if you're not gonna make the trip and you can't
Speaker 1: give her what she needs, then you need to you
Speaker 1: need to slide back and jumped into it. And because
Speaker 1: now my head is really moving around. Like, let's talk
Speaker 1: about what I know what people think of pimping, whether
Speaker 1: it be from movies or music or whatever. Do you
Speaker 1: take care of all of them as far as they
Speaker 1: all live together? Yeah, one time I lived with all
Speaker 1: of them. Yes, And so how does it work for
Speaker 1: is it like? Okay, it's like what a colt you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. You make money for the coal
Speaker 1: and then the colt takes care of you. So do
Speaker 1: they get money separately? Well, you you take care of
Speaker 1: them the money. You get the money and you take
Speaker 1: care of them. But I mean the point is, but
Speaker 1: why don't they do it alone? Because they're missing something.
Speaker 1: I mean, people are broken. People are broken, and they
Speaker 1: want they want people to fulfill whatever that that that
Speaker 1: motive is. So, for instance, you have somebody who comes
Speaker 1: from a very toxic childhood. A lot of times and
Speaker 1: this is not just I mean, I mean, we we're
Speaker 1: talking about the pimping, but it's just it's relationships. You'll
Speaker 1: find a woman who's toxic, she will find another toxic
Speaker 1: dude and she repeat that toxicity in everything that she does,
Speaker 1: and then she'd like, man, ain't this a minute? And
Speaker 1: then you'll find that she'll break up with that dude,
Speaker 1: She'll get another toxic dude. So so I have this
Speaker 1: this uh philosophy. I talked about it. I don't know
Speaker 1: if you're you know what brackish fish are. So there's
Speaker 1: a fish called African sicklids. They they come from a
Speaker 1: lake in Tanzania and in they come from this lake
Speaker 1: and they're uh, you know, there's there's tribes around it.
Speaker 1: So they're shipping it, they're pissing it, they washing it,
Speaker 1: they cook out of it. It's and so there's a
Speaker 1: bacteria in the water and so the fish become adapted
Speaker 1: to that. Now, if you set up a fish tank
Speaker 1: and you have for conciculance, you have to set that
Speaker 1: water up first. You have to put a bacteria culture
Speaker 1: in the water. You have to balance the pH because
Speaker 1: if you put those fish in clean water, they will die.
Speaker 1: So what's the normalization of of bacteria or toxicity is
Speaker 1: what feels home? Like home, it feels comfortable. So if
Speaker 1: you have somebody who comes from an abusive situation, it's
Speaker 1: almost it's almost more painful for them for you to
Speaker 1: treat them, whether you would assume people want and this
Speaker 1: is like when we talk about it does, but it's
Speaker 1: like when we meet people to get out of jail
Speaker 1: and they like doing certain things because it makes them
Speaker 1: feel like they're still there or even you know. I
Speaker 1: had a conversation with this chicken went to jail and
Speaker 1: she was talking about how it was more stable for
Speaker 1: her than her household, and she was like the regiment.
Speaker 1: She's like, don't get me wrong, I didn't like being there.
Speaker 1: She was like, but the regiment was like something was necessary.
Speaker 1: It's more comfortable there for five years. People going on
Speaker 1: services a lot of times because they don't like they
Speaker 1: don't want their choices. And so what I think what
Speaker 1: happens is we we have this kind of norm of
Speaker 1: what we perceive things should be, and that norm has
Speaker 1: may not have anything to do with what you particularly want,
Speaker 1: but it's also the idea that I think a lot
Speaker 1: of times, I mean, we we do it almost daily
Speaker 1: by looking at the blogs, looking into our friends, our parents,
Speaker 1: all of their relationships and judging them. And I think
Speaker 1: that that's what you're saying exactly ties into that, like
Speaker 1: this idea of normal does not exist. There is not
Speaker 1: a normal relationship because what you know, Weezy may like
Speaker 1: in her relationship may not be at all what I
Speaker 1: would want in my relationship, and vice versa. So I
Speaker 1: like the idea that that's what you're saying, Like, you
Speaker 1: know me as a man, if I'm dating you, I'm
Speaker 1: dating you, what I want from you is totally different
Speaker 1: than what you want from me. So it's it's it's
Speaker 1: specific even in the context of that. And so the
Speaker 1: agency what I say, the agency, I mean that that
Speaker 1: what people perceive is this is the normal, is that
Speaker 1: has nothing to do with what the real feeling is.
Speaker 1: And so one of the things that I feel like
Speaker 1: when you're talking, we got to go like this. You know,
Speaker 1: this is well throwed out. So you're gonna be You're
Speaker 1: gonna be snapping a lot. So this is well thought out.
Speaker 1: One of the things is you know, uh so when
Speaker 1: I say, when I said righteousness about it, there has
Speaker 1: you have this is so I have an acronym that
Speaker 1: I use whenever I talk to do something on my
Speaker 1: man school tool to let me plug that again is ACE.
Speaker 1: The acronym is acist, authenticity, credibility, and empathy. Right, So
Speaker 1: authenticity is the truth, honest, and don't have credibility is
Speaker 1: uh is I say what I mean, I mean what
Speaker 1: I say, and I do what I say really don't
Speaker 1: do okay? And empathy is for me to perceive the
Speaker 1: the the tribulations that you have to go through one
Speaker 1: the day to day. When I'm asking for things, I
Speaker 1: love that we a man, schoolmate, I would you because well,
Speaker 1: those three things I think. And it's it's crazy because
Speaker 1: men think that we are these complicated creatures and it's
Speaker 1: literally those three things that really women want to be
Speaker 1: the simplest fundamental aspects of YouTube literally be just a
Speaker 1: good human and all of those are blanket under honesty.
Speaker 1: We don't love that all depends unless she's a toxic
Speaker 1: individual than what she wants from you. Is that toxicity
Speaker 1: so real quick? Because you keep saying as well that
Speaker 1: both parties can be toxic. And I think that this
Speaker 1: leads into as well, just the conversation. I don't think
Speaker 1: a lot of women own up to their toxic behavior.
Speaker 1: So well. You've never heard determinology, a woman of her word,
Speaker 1: a man of man of his word. You've heard man
Speaker 1: of his word, but you never hear because you're not
Speaker 1: held to those standards. You're you're ok Now, let me
Speaker 1: say this, are the expectation for you to be to
Speaker 1: have a level of emotionality about what your your reality
Speaker 1: is perspectively is shaped by how you feel in that moment,
Speaker 1: and and and your feelings move their their their their,
Speaker 1: you know they're there, they move and it's flow. It's
Speaker 1: a flow because it's it's just not like that. And
Speaker 1: then you find this and you make your faces. But
Speaker 1: here's here's what I'll prove it to you. Because what
Speaker 1: happens is women have different friends. You've got friends you
Speaker 1: shop which than you party with friends, you creep with friends,
Speaker 1: you and and so women tend to be very malleable
Speaker 1: and they have different feel like this dude that I
Speaker 1: used to must listen to Danton because he said this
Speaker 1: is one thing to me that I always remember and seriously,
Speaker 1: because out of anyone I've ever dated, he was the
Speaker 1: most like, he'll always tell me, I'll never lie to you,
Speaker 1: never want me, and the like will be this honest
Speaker 1: and transparent, and he really was. And one of the
Speaker 1: things he said to me when we were breaking up,
Speaker 1: it was so difficult for me because, like I just
Speaker 1: couldn't understand how it was happening. And he said, you
Speaker 1: have so many friends you do things with, and I'm
Speaker 1: just like a toy that, like the second someone's going
Speaker 1: to throw it out, you just can't stop playing with it.
Speaker 1: You have to know what's there. And he's like, you
Speaker 1: just want me there. And I know that because of
Speaker 1: the different friends you have. And it's true. I talked
Speaker 1: about it on the show all the time. I have
Speaker 1: friends that if I want to get super high and
Speaker 1: get lit and go raving or do my Black Lives
Speaker 1: Matter protests or whatever, I have friends that I can
Speaker 1: do all of those things. But part yeah, even my
Speaker 1: shady dudes, I know he's We all know he's shady.
Speaker 1: We just don't really we don't let him know money.
Speaker 1: But you know what y'all do like that, y'all have
Speaker 1: a bunch of different bitches that do different ship. You
Speaker 1: got one that's the one who's like the homeboy that
Speaker 1: you can do this, but y'all one that sucks you nasty.
Speaker 1: You got the wife the type. I don't believe that,
Speaker 1: but that becomes that's because of the fact that guys
Speaker 1: don't feel as though they're dope enough to say, you
Speaker 1: may not be the one, you may not be the
Speaker 1: thing that you think you are. So if I, if I,
Speaker 1: and I don't have a problem. So so it's like
Speaker 1: when you talk about authenticity, that authenticity could be hurtful
Speaker 1: if it's something that you don't want to hear. Do
Speaker 1: you know you feel what I'm saying. So you may
Speaker 1: have this perception of who you are and what you
Speaker 1: want and I may not think so, But a guy
Speaker 1: guy knows that we probably would not be having to
Speaker 1: handle your perception of us exactly. So you see, I snapped,
Speaker 1: I don't like what you saying, hands on the table,
Speaker 1: and we are going. And the next second is Vanilla ship.
Speaker 1: So Dante, this is our segment where we pick sex
Speaker 1: in the news, just an article of the news that
Speaker 1: we found had sex in it. This one, I like,
Speaker 1: how long does sex last for most people? This is
Speaker 1: gonna be average time? Um, what's ideal? And factors that
Speaker 1: affect the duration? I want you all to take again?
Speaker 1: Seven minutes? I would I'd go with five five point
Speaker 1: four mates? Too much credit? See what happened? What happens
Speaker 1: when I give them too much? Creddy vaginal intercourse last
Speaker 1: a medium of five point four minutes before the man ejaculates.
Speaker 1: Anywhere from three to thirteen minutes is normal, but the
Speaker 1: average is five minutes, uh five point per from minute. Now,
Speaker 1: I want you all to take a guess on how
Speaker 1: many minutes it takes the average woman to orgasm. But
Speaker 1: a lot of bitches ain't orgasm. So the lifetime this
Speaker 1: is survey. There's a few thousand people in here. This
Speaker 1: is women having sex with men study just penis and vagina.
Speaker 1: How long does it take? I was trying to say
Speaker 1: the fact that a lot of women come from for
Speaker 1: players included the entire sex duration minutes. I was gonna
Speaker 1: say from start to finish, seventeen Benson, here we guess. Oh,
Speaker 1: it was thirteen minutes. All right, this is like, you know,
Speaker 1: thirteen point four? I think, So how long is your
Speaker 1: four play ship? You'll be edging? So I literally like
Speaker 1: last night, Uh, he came over because he's going out
Speaker 1: of town, and I was exhausted. I didn't even want
Speaker 1: to ask, how long have you go go out of
Speaker 1: town till Sunday? When you say out of town, I
Speaker 1: thought he got your exhaust. No, he's going out of town,
Speaker 1: And I was really just like, but I'm so tired.
Speaker 1: We had been out all day. He picked me up
Speaker 1: from the studio. We just we're going it's I was like, baby,
Speaker 1: I'm tired. So I gave him a sage. He ended
Speaker 1: up still sucking me, and he was like, he was
Speaker 1: really gonna let me go out of town. I'll give
Speaker 1: you no pussy. I was like, okay, I'm sorry again.
Speaker 1: But that's the thing. I'm scared because he doesn't know
Speaker 1: how to have a quickie. The fact that you just
Speaker 1: said you're quickies are forty five minutes. That's him And
Speaker 1: I'm like, babe, this isn't like no quick thing. It's
Speaker 1: a hard fucking production. I've dated girls where they were
Speaker 1: like I would just always want to make me come
Speaker 1: and and then they'd be like, you know, they talking
Speaker 1: and I'm be like, well, you know I'm not going
Speaker 1: out that out and they'd be like, um, you know,
Speaker 1: careful what you wish for. But yeah, what do you
Speaker 1: guys think that women consider too long? Next minutes a
Speaker 1: real minutes? Uh? Let me see, I guess it's a minute.
Speaker 1: No the entire no sex sex, but not really. I
Speaker 1: thought you meant the entire vaginal sex. The entire too long.
Speaker 1: When my pussy started drying, I will say it's it's arranged.
Speaker 1: I will say between eleven Okay, I was gonna say three. Wow,
Speaker 1: he was right after ten, ten to twenty minutes. People
Speaker 1: think it's too long, Oh ship, I'm gonna be real
Speaker 1: with you. I agree. Really, I had a sex tape
Speaker 1: that I watched the entire way through. It's four a
Speaker 1: team and is long, and at the nine minute mark
Speaker 1: you were like, this could have God, damn, what is it?
Speaker 1: I don't know, So it's crazy because I don't know.
Speaker 1: I guess I do enjoy it. So we take breaks,
Speaker 1: I guess, which is maybe why it does last to
Speaker 1: me so long, like Dick's second breaks. No, like to me,
Speaker 1: it'll turn into whole almost body worshiping breaks or oral breaks,
Speaker 1: And so I don't feel like I'm being pounded the
Speaker 1: whole way. So when maybe he would probably when I
Speaker 1: get to the point where like comfortable, you probably shouldn't
Speaker 1: be pounded the whole way. No, not, of course, he's
Speaker 1: the boys school, the ice cream scoop the cork screw.
Speaker 1: Let's go back, and I like food. What is the
Speaker 1: ice cream school? On the around? What are you doing that.
Speaker 1: Your di is in in on the bottom screw turns
Speaker 1: and around the rim, Like, now, what kind of hell
Speaker 1: are you? You move your hips? Oh so yeah, there
Speaker 1: you go. Oh so that like you never heard before?
Speaker 1: And then I don't put on the strap of phones.
Speaker 1: I did, motherfuck ice cream scoop. I did watch this
Speaker 1: video with this dude me. I'm like, not this saying
Speaker 1: it's worked, because it wasn't just up down down was
Speaker 1: like a little. It was like different. Okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: it's like because that sound schools around and all the
Speaker 1: back the board text is in from the left side
Speaker 1: out from the other, the little of his dick in
Speaker 1: the vagina, the board text, the cord text, and ice
Speaker 1: creams the fun give me. I just want to get fucked,
Speaker 1: like yeah, but I'm not out. But you just we
Speaker 1: normally associate just the position. But I guess I've never
Speaker 1: thought that he was I was good what I call
Speaker 1: a utility. I feel like it was seven and a
Speaker 1: half around. It's like I'm around around eight the corn
Speaker 1: him the half. But it's like I said, it's not
Speaker 1: a point o dick, but it's a it's a utility.
Speaker 1: Like it's like a pickup truck, like because he just
Speaker 1: puick a couch up. I got you, but like I
Speaker 1: can't move the whole apartment all right with this fridge.
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, okay, now you already kind of just
Speaker 1: gave it to us. But our Horror Derve segment is
Speaker 1: the sex tips, and we love to leave it to
Speaker 1: the guests. Do you have any one blanket tip that
Speaker 1: maybe works for everybody that men for women, women for men.
Speaker 1: I think, um, so one of the things that I said,
Speaker 1: you can't whenever relationship doesn't work, it's and I get
Speaker 1: in trouble for this a lot of times because it's
Speaker 1: always the man's fault. And I'll tell you why, because it's, Um,
Speaker 1: if you have a woman that's too strong, you can't
Speaker 1: tell a woman you know, I mean, and all of
Speaker 1: y'all have done this. Oh girl, he's nice, give him
Speaker 1: a chance. What you're really saying is he's not strong
Speaker 1: enough to handle you, so be weaker so that you
Speaker 1: can give him an opportunity. And you can't do that.
Speaker 1: That that alleviates the the attraction. The attraction is the
Speaker 1: fact that he is stronger, like a woman only finds
Speaker 1: him and attractive who she thinks is better than her,
Speaker 1: and better is a is a relative term. I agree
Speaker 1: that it's a relative term because if you got to
Speaker 1: do who you feel is better. I've always said that,
Speaker 1: like when it comes out of my mouth, I've said,
Speaker 1: I like men I can learn from not necessarily in
Speaker 1: my him I thinking better, but I see to what
Speaker 1: you think is better. Yeah, I wonder if that's why.
Speaker 1: Sometimes the age is what attracts me, Like I feel
Speaker 1: like younger men aren't getting it, or maybe like I've
Speaker 1: experienced too much. Tell me something. I've already had ice cream.
Speaker 1: But that's interesting because I want to know how you
Speaker 1: feel about that, because like when he said it, I
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, he's too nice, or give him a chance.
Speaker 1: But what if it's because someone is being good to
Speaker 1: us and we're not used to that. It's still his
Speaker 1: inability to recognize that he's being too nice is is
Speaker 1: his deficiency. So even the fact that he's he's deficient
Speaker 1: in his ability to perceive what's going on. And so you,
Speaker 1: like I say, if you want to be a man,
Speaker 1: there's no vacation days and manhood you got to show
Speaker 1: up every day. This is a toxic. This is interesting
Speaker 1: because I agree and don't agree, so I but I
Speaker 1: also just kind of had this conversation last night as well,
Speaker 1: like to the fact that when you date someone, um,
Speaker 1: you need to allow them to show you who they are.
Speaker 1: And I was having this conversation because my my nigga
Speaker 1: hates how much I passenger seat drive, and he's like,
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is with you and driving,
Speaker 1: but you just you know, I'm gonna get you to
Speaker 1: where you need to go. Oh, you're such a control
Speaker 1: for anything. So so even I was like, he was like,
Speaker 1: you have to like allow me to show you that
Speaker 1: I can get you by point into being a control
Speaker 1: fee fee control freak is a product of your own
Speaker 1: personal insecurity. I can get that, and so if you're
Speaker 1: not insecure about yourself, then you you don't need to
Speaker 1: control everything around. But I mean, I guess it's also
Speaker 1: more so just other things that I've been in, I mean,
Speaker 1: should I've been in two car accidents and with all
Speaker 1: of my friends have have have totaled their vehicles and
Speaker 1: now I'm in it. It's not total right now, but
Speaker 1: which is your insecurity about being in a car? I
Speaker 1: had a huge trust issue. So for sure we're we're
Speaker 1: pulling out my insecurities. I have a huge insecurity and
Speaker 1: allowing the trust for someone. And it is crazy because
Speaker 1: even my other podcast, My My my producer, she posted
Speaker 1: my episode last night. I was like this, this one
Speaker 1: supposed to God some Monday, and she was like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, the first time you trust someone and look,
Speaker 1: I sucked up. And so she even knows how how
Speaker 1: hard it is for me to give up any sort
Speaker 1: of power to anyone else. But so as in order
Speaker 1: to gain that trust, I have to recognize immediately that you.
Speaker 1: I have to be president enough to recognize that you're insecure,
Speaker 1: and then I gotta as you start to I should
Speaker 1: be able to see you rev up, and I should
Speaker 1: be able to go, look, listen, that's what he did.
Speaker 1: That's what he did, and that's what you do. Even
Speaker 1: when his gaslight is on, I'll be like, Nigga, I
Speaker 1: ain't gonna push this truck. And he's like, you don't
Speaker 1: think I know how long I can drive in my
Speaker 1: own car, even that it's not even that's too much. Yea,
Speaker 1: that's what the explanation of it is. Too much. You
Speaker 1: have he has to go listened, not even until not
Speaker 1: even going through the mind. I know that even that
Speaker 1: it's too much because any discussion gives you room and
Speaker 1: I got you gotta, you gotta. So so when you
Speaker 1: ask about a sex tip, it's it's being present. You
Speaker 1: have to be present. So being president being in the moment.
Speaker 1: And in order to be president, you have to be
Speaker 1: the best version of yourself so that when you when
Speaker 1: you're making moves, you're ready, like you've trained. It's a
Speaker 1: boxing match. You have to have been trained and did
Speaker 1: your road work and did your pad work and eight right,
Speaker 1: so you're ready. So when you step into this situation,
Speaker 1: you're not insecure. Also normalize the word insecure for a
Speaker 1: moment because to be able to have an adult conversation
Speaker 1: to acknowledge like, yes, I know, like we've we've attacked
Speaker 1: me and they're using that word before um. But that's
Speaker 1: why I really do also appreciate like, and I can
Speaker 1: take that and what you're saying and not use insecures.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're brolling me. But take it after
Speaker 1: but take it as I understand that I do have
Speaker 1: a huge trust trust issue with people. But that has
Speaker 1: that has to become that has to come from his
Speaker 1: his authenticity. But When you know securities, you can help
Speaker 1: people that you're dating your partner guide you through them.
Speaker 1: You know, one of my biggest insecurities is consistently across
Speaker 1: the board, not providing enough. Like this week, I'm very
Speaker 1: busy with work and I haven't been able to, you know,
Speaker 1: make dinner or do certain things, and it's always on
Speaker 1: my mind, like it's an irrational fear, but like, oh,
Speaker 1: I nett to somebody because I can't make dinner, like
Speaker 1: really strange. I don't know where it comes from, me
Speaker 1: feeling like I have to do it all, But it's
Speaker 1: a I feel like from and just from even me
Speaker 1: being around you growing up your mom. I think it
Speaker 1: comes from that your mom is so catering. I know
Speaker 1: that even when we would come home late from the club,
Speaker 1: she would be like, do you ladies need any water?
Speaker 1: Y'all want me to make you cheese? And my mom
Speaker 1: does not sit. Your mom does not stop. So I
Speaker 1: feel like you may have just innately took those things.
Speaker 1: And I don't see it as a bad thing at all,
Speaker 1: But if you're saying like, fuck, it's some relationships crazy
Speaker 1: to look at. So when you're a child and your
Speaker 1: mom is around that is the true depiction of what
Speaker 1: you see womanhood as problem. To see, my mom didn't work,
Speaker 1: not sincessarily. My mom was a housewife. So now I'm
Speaker 1: trying to be that woman and very much a lot
Speaker 1: of the times don't feel like I can fulfill both.
Speaker 1: But what you're saying is what what's crazy, And I
Speaker 1: think that it's what makes women so great right now too,
Speaker 1: is the fact that you do still have we still
Speaker 1: have this social construct of gender roles in our mind.
Speaker 1: So when we do get into these relationships, we do
Speaker 1: still want to come off as wifey or girlfriend material,
Speaker 1: and so we do know that we have to clean
Speaker 1: and do all of these things clean than me just
Speaker 1: tidies up. Oh my god, my nigga be doing to say,
Speaker 1: I'd be like literally feelings. I was like, babe, I've
Speaker 1: been out, so don't judge me. It'll be clean. I
Speaker 1: can't like buzz him up without the conversation of like,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be really bad. Well, you gotta also be
Speaker 1: able to you. You gotta be able to forgive yourself
Speaker 1: for your own flaws. So I think what happens more
Speaker 1: over than not, we have this this ideal self and
Speaker 1: if we're we're genuinely working to be the best version
Speaker 1: of ourselves, then that that should be enough. The problem
Speaker 1: comes in when you when you set these goals that
Speaker 1: you that are unrealistic, and then you don't forgive yourself.
Speaker 1: I mean, we're all human beings. These two things that
Speaker 1: you will always have to do for the rest of
Speaker 1: your life is give forgiveness and ask for forgiveness. So
Speaker 1: as long as you start at that base that mistakes
Speaker 1: are okay, as long as we are working to to
Speaker 1: fix those things. And so getting back to the so
Speaker 1: that same principle is present in in sexs and so
Speaker 1: paying attention being present in that situation. So for instance,
Speaker 1: like I'll tell dudes who I So I do a
Speaker 1: consultation business as well, like Bill, you can go on
Speaker 1: my website downton or dot com and you can click
Speaker 1: on consulting and you could you could, you could hit
Speaker 1: me up and book time with me. But so if
Speaker 1: you got say, for instance, if a guy's missionary style
Speaker 1: right and he's present, if you have a woman is
Speaker 1: pushing her hamstrings against your your quad, your thighs, you're
Speaker 1: too deep, you're too deep, you're too hard. But but
Speaker 1: if you're if it's deep. Your your hips will relax
Speaker 1: and your legs will fall, so you're you're you have
Speaker 1: to pay attention to to what those those those physical cues.
Speaker 1: So if if she's pushing against you, you you can't
Speaker 1: go Yeah, I gotta know and and and you have
Speaker 1: to you gotta meet, right. That's the interesting thing about
Speaker 1: men and as I when I was younger, I feel
Speaker 1: like dudes would always want that compliment from making girls
Speaker 1: scream and things like that. It's like, my most enjoyable
Speaker 1: sex wasn't me fucking screaming, but it might have been
Speaker 1: if that's where you're at. But the point is point
Speaker 1: of like trying so hard to get this reaction when
Speaker 1: you're really not putting thoughts. But then when then the
Speaker 1: reaction is what you want, it's not what she wants,
Speaker 1: so you gotta pay it. Like even if you you
Speaker 1: know gods to be like, what's what's the best way
Speaker 1: to go down on a girl? And I go, you can't,
Speaker 1: it's not it's not the same. You know your partner
Speaker 1: is what you really need to do? The next thing out,
Speaker 1: how do you go down? I would say, you know
Speaker 1: there's women that wants direct content, there's contact women that
Speaker 1: can't take direct come because small circles on the hood
Speaker 1: underneathing's not the hoodics. This is the podcast. So what
Speaker 1: I'm saying is is so what I would tell a
Speaker 1: dude is is if you watch a woman's diaphragm, you
Speaker 1: watch her diaphragm drop and increases she's breathing. The deeper
Speaker 1: the breathing is, the more you're you want point because
Speaker 1: that's as her as her breathing deepens just because she's
Speaker 1: she's going, she's more relaxed and she's falling into it
Speaker 1: deeper and he and it becomes more sensual. So if
Speaker 1: you're watching her stomach, her abdomen rise and fall, and
Speaker 1: if you've done that, the hey things you want to
Speaker 1: the last you don't want hus right and you think,
Speaker 1: oh I got because it's ego. But you in order
Speaker 1: to remove the ego, you gotta first be dope. So
Speaker 1: if you're not dope, then you're trying to you. You said,
Speaker 1: if that's man's insecurity. So if I'm present and this
Speaker 1: is about this comes from an authentic place of me
Speaker 1: trying to please you, then I'm paying attention. I think
Speaker 1: we could do. That's a tip of both to be
Speaker 1: honest with you, Absolutely, the diaphragm should like I've learned that,
Speaker 1: like I said, from women, because it was a little
Speaker 1: bit easier to notice. But like after that, I've not
Speaker 1: consciously all the time, but I listened to breath like
Speaker 1: a lot, and when I'm pleasing somebody or like the
Speaker 1: sounds and like yeah, I don't even like music because
Speaker 1: I need to I need this, I need to zone
Speaker 1: in anyway real quick. I want to do this whole
Speaker 1: fact because I found this ship to be super interesting. Um,
Speaker 1: you know there's only all of them shows John Kate
Speaker 1: plus A and all these bitches popping out babies. This
Speaker 1: whole fact most a thick mom ginness world Bricker records
Speaker 1: and this was from book a world record. What said,
Speaker 1: you messed it up? But it's glad. Just wanted to
Speaker 1: go ahead, go ahead, and there's a plethora. I think
Speaker 1: you can't say it either way though, thank you. You
Speaker 1: can say anyway. This bit of plathora of children, UM
Speaker 1: nasty enough, biggest hole I know because the number is
Speaker 1: sixty nine kids. Fucking insane. The woman was from Shuya, Russia,
Speaker 1: identified as the only wife and this man. But by
Speaker 1: the way, it was on record for having the most
Speaker 1: children too of fedor vasiliv and she had twenty seven pregnancies,
Speaker 1: sixteen pairs of twins, seven sets of triplets, four sets
Speaker 1: of quadruplets according to the world record, six twenty seven pregnancies.
Speaker 1: I think he had for pregnancy. It's also grows sleep
Speaker 1: selfish on her part. There's no way that she can
Speaker 1: that she can provide and give those children the emotional
Speaker 1: support for them to be productive human beings. I think
Speaker 1: Max maybe too wow for me. My Max would be body,
Speaker 1: that's my cat. I think the Max probably could be
Speaker 1: for one one for me. Care for maybe if you do,
Speaker 1: you're not working you independently riching you. I mean, if
Speaker 1: you think about how many people you know that it's
Speaker 1: just garbage, their garbage because people you know you have
Speaker 1: children and you you you're not raising them how you
Speaker 1: want them to be as adults. You're raising them just
Speaker 1: as it happens. My mom tells me all the time
Speaker 1: that she's like, I couldn't have had another one. She's like,
Speaker 1: I felt like there was a lot of energy and
Speaker 1: a lot of things I wanted to teach you, And
Speaker 1: she was like, and I couldn't balance myself like I
Speaker 1: think one was it, Like she always says that she's
Speaker 1: I don't think another one could have came out, And
Speaker 1: I think also it's a situation when you you know,
Speaker 1: it's it's sort of like behind a new laptop and
Speaker 1: then you back up the laptop from your old, your old,
Speaker 1: get your old backup. You know what I mean, Like
Speaker 1: you you forgot you know what I'm saying, Like you
Speaker 1: have viruses and malware and then you you just download
Speaker 1: all your ship into this brand new laptop and then
Speaker 1: you want to love analogy If you take a laptop,
Speaker 1: you know what I would go crazy with. And tell
Speaker 1: me if your wife does I feel like if I
Speaker 1: got in an argument and you brought up some analogy
Speaker 1: analogy and compared me to so I'd be like, shut
Speaker 1: your my My wife was listening to my party. She's
Speaker 1: from England and she was listening to my podcast for
Speaker 1: four years. She was dating this dude. She kept telling her, dude,
Speaker 1: listen to this podcast. Listen and then she came from
Speaker 1: England to get me, like her with the intention to
Speaker 1: get me, and and that she got you. It's a
Speaker 1: it's a it's a it's a situation where you, and
Speaker 1: I always say I would never or be with a fan,
Speaker 1: so you would you consider her a fan? Though? No?
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, everybody's a fan until you know somebody,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I'm quite sure you know
Speaker 1: famish people, you know famous people in the fan. I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't know body's fan, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: We just got on Charlottegne's network. I think we could
Speaker 1: both agree we're a fan of that legacy, a fan
Speaker 1: of his work, fan of I don't. I don't look
Speaker 1: at it as a fan. I look as inspired. I'm
Speaker 1: inspired by great people. Now because you're attracted to I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: I think this is and I'm gonna say that because
Speaker 1: I feel like when when you dig you're digesting digesting
Speaker 1: it differently because you're into her, right, you find her attractive.
Speaker 1: There's something different about her to where she don't look
Speaker 1: like a crazy fan to you. But let her have
Speaker 1: been ugly and she didn't came here to get your absolutely,
Speaker 1: And I mean I would never say that that. I
Speaker 1: don't want somebody who I don't find it in the line.
Speaker 1: The fandom is just dissolving because I think it changed
Speaker 1: for you. But it's still fans don't always changed for me.
Speaker 1: The point is, you know, I've had fans who see
Speaker 1: me as fans, and I go and I don't want.
Speaker 1: I don't really want see. Fandom is an interesting thing,
Speaker 1: I think because you you, if you, if you idolize people,
Speaker 1: what you're what you're ultimately saying is wow, you do
Speaker 1: something that I can't do. And I don't never think
Speaker 1: somebody does something that I can't accomplish. I could never
Speaker 1: be in the NBA, and and and so I could
Speaker 1: never how hard I could never What you're talking about
Speaker 1: the physicality of it. What I'm saying is somebody who's
Speaker 1: accomplishing things. I don't never look at somebody and go, oh,
Speaker 1: that dude's better than me. Makes you I really just
Speaker 1: felt like you were a little better than me, because
Speaker 1: ain't nobody come from England to come get us? Not
Speaker 1: eight years we only three and a half were coming up,
Speaker 1: and he said she came four years ago. No, two
Speaker 1: years ago, Okay, we got we got this. So in
Speaker 1: our horrible decision, I have the jack of all hose
Speaker 1: because you seem to have done it all this tripping,
Speaker 1: the pimping, the relationship, stand up comedy. I was in
Speaker 1: second season of Power. I did a movie with Janet Tatum.
Speaker 1: I did Black to eight episodes of Blacklist. You know.
Speaker 1: I did acting for a while, and stand up comedy
Speaker 1: I've been doing for twenty years a lot. What are
Speaker 1: you the worst at? Uh? Yeah, best and worst? I
Speaker 1: don't don't you know? You got to self deprecating is fun.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of I'm just dope. Look me
Speaker 1: nothing that I'm not that I want to be good
Speaker 1: at that. I don't that. I don't think that. Like
Speaker 1: I suck at tennis, but I don't even care about tennis.
Speaker 1: I know that's right, Okay, same, but I suck at chess,
Speaker 1: but I don't care about chess. Um. I don't like
Speaker 1: to gamble. I stuck at cards. I don't like one
Speaker 1: of the ever pople say you want to be good
Speaker 1: to take the heat to you with his like relationship
Speaker 1: group stuff. And I have a few questions I want
Speaker 1: to get into before we get out. Um. One of
Speaker 1: the ones that comes to my mind that so I
Speaker 1: used Reddit a lot for this is so fucking I
Speaker 1: sound really crazy, but cooking and like making stuff with
Speaker 1: weed because I feel like anything I'll find on Google
Speaker 1: is not it? And in this reddit threat there's like
Speaker 1: a woman's only empowerment thread and there's no men in there,
Speaker 1: and basically they try to talk amongst each other with
Speaker 1: things that they want to know, and a lot of
Speaker 1: the younger girls in these threads asked some basic ask
Speaker 1: questions that sometimes I think I don't know the answer to.
Speaker 1: And one of them is do sleepovers mean anything? I mean,
Speaker 1: if you have a guy, of course it means something.
Speaker 1: I mean, but a guy is the problem is that
Speaker 1: you're being disingenuous. The woman is being disingenuous. If you
Speaker 1: know when a guy likes you, you know if he
Speaker 1: wants to fuck. I don't think women know when a
Speaker 1: guy likes I don't think I don't know were we
Speaker 1: as women are telling you, we don't know when a
Speaker 1: guy really we don't like. We don't really like you.
Speaker 1: So if we're hanging out with you, we like you.
Speaker 1: I'm not hanging out with somebody I don't like. But
Speaker 1: if I don't like you, I want to fuck. So
Speaker 1: you know that. Okay, But I think that's the issue.
Speaker 1: I can't figure And when I say I in this moment,
Speaker 1: I have someone that loves me back and we're together
Speaker 1: and it's cool. I get it. But even with that
Speaker 1: nigga in the beginning, Dante, no, I did not know
Speaker 1: if he was passing the time or wanted to suck
Speaker 1: me or actually saw something in how long? We mean?
Speaker 1: Did he want to We? We want to fuck you.
Speaker 1: We we always want to suck you. The point is
Speaker 1: once we we once we fuck you, then we go, okay,
Speaker 1: what else? What else you got? Like? What else is
Speaker 1: in the fridge? That's an interesting point. So you're telling
Speaker 1: me that the sex happens, and then they're kind of
Speaker 1: just waiting to see where it goes, because that's what
Speaker 1: this basically the thing is what happens. You know, you'll
Speaker 1: find a situation where you you you know, a woman
Speaker 1: is holding the sex because she thinks so whatever whatever,
Speaker 1: I agree with that sex not, but I want what
Speaker 1: you got to give? Now? What do you have to
Speaker 1: give now? What you have to give may not be
Speaker 1: worth ship. You may be garbage and the pussy might
Speaker 1: be bananas, and you might be garbage order order, or
Speaker 1: you might be guard the pussy might be garbage and you,
Speaker 1: you know whatever. The point is that there are human beings,
Speaker 1: a physical intellectual and emotional intimacy. So we all have
Speaker 1: a kind of a standard that we want those things
Speaker 1: that maybe you want an eight in in intimacy and
Speaker 1: you want to you know your mind and you're not
Speaker 1: being that dumb or maybe you're not that smart or whatever,
Speaker 1: but you you need those things to meet we Which
Speaker 1: is more important? None is more important? Because I know
Speaker 1: I've had I've done consultations with women where it had
Speaker 1: a gorgeous dude with the sea at the six packet
Speaker 1: had to come gutters, you know, and I call him,
Speaker 1: I'm um, but this dude was like, I didn't know
Speaker 1: pickles was cucumbers. And you're like, so what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: even if you even if the sexiest bananas, if he's dumb,
Speaker 1: that's gonna wear out. If he's got nothing else but
Speaker 1: but dang in sex and there after while I mean
Speaker 1: whatever wherever you're at sexually, that may last. Times it's
Speaker 1: so good. It's like when I talk about the broke,
Speaker 1: like I'd be like, yo, started amazon story, dude, right,
Speaker 1: but let's take it back to sleepovers, right, so you're
Speaker 1: staying of course it means something. Sure, I'm hanging with
Speaker 1: you to be homeless. No, no, no no, I'm talking about
Speaker 1: let's say sleepovers. Okay, what if he got allergies and
Speaker 1: his mattresses? What You're at a house, he invites you over,
Speaker 1: tells you to come through its eleven pm. Let's do
Speaker 1: that time frame. Eleven pm you come over to fuck?
Speaker 1: What happens one now it's too and he doesn't ask
Speaker 1: you to go home? Is that an intentional sleepover? Does
Speaker 1: that mean something? This is so And this is what
Speaker 1: I tell dudes who listen to my podcast, just ask
Speaker 1: like what you like if you you staying? You know,
Speaker 1: like even when you said you're doing about my women,
Speaker 1: you're telling them they should be like, hey, like is
Speaker 1: this something? Because I'm having you want to we do well?
Speaker 1: First of all, if you want to sleep over and
Speaker 1: you're gonna fu, all you gotta do is it's real easy.
Speaker 1: You don't have to do to stay. Need that. But
Speaker 1: I'm saying if there's a if I'm not gonna I
Speaker 1: will like, I don't do awkward. So if I'm hanging
Speaker 1: with you and I'm like yo, you're not like even
Speaker 1: if even when I was dating, if I'm with somebody
Speaker 1: and it's like I'm like yo, and I'm not. I'm like, yo,
Speaker 1: you don't if you don't like me, it's cool. I
Speaker 1: could be out well, you know, I to see you
Speaker 1: as a friend, like, yeah, I don't. I don't. I
Speaker 1: don't want to be your friend, not into your friends.
Speaker 1: I want, I want whatever. I think that's a great
Speaker 1: thing for women to start doing. When they're saying like
Speaker 1: we're cool, we're kicking in like, I don't want to
Speaker 1: just be cool. So I got well, and that's that's
Speaker 1: been where I've been when I was in my manifestation
Speaker 1: of wanting a partner, That's where I had to be
Speaker 1: if a guy was coming to me, well, what do
Speaker 1: you want, Well, this is what I want if you
Speaker 1: can't give it to me. As women, you need to
Speaker 1: be okay with walking away with a man who's not
Speaker 1: wanting to give you what you want, sure, because you're
Speaker 1: not gonna be happy with it anyway. Yeah, you're only
Speaker 1: only gonna be it's only gonna and then eventually it's
Speaker 1: gonna full of pieces and and so guys a lot
Speaker 1: of times will be disingenuous so that they get the
Speaker 1: pussy and then and then they'll be like just like Barbeach,
Speaker 1: So now it's it's it don't work out for them either.
Speaker 1: But also men have to realize that there are women.
Speaker 1: We've had this podcast where we've had it, there a
Speaker 1: lot of women should I just want to be so
Speaker 1: I think that men should be upfront more with if
Speaker 1: that's just what you want. There are so many women.
Speaker 1: The question is why are they're not upfront. They're not
Speaker 1: upfront because they're insecure about what they're offering and what
Speaker 1: they have to offer. So if I'm if I go
Speaker 1: ask some money and I'm like, I know, look, if
Speaker 1: you whatever you need, I got it. Like I got it.
Speaker 1: Whatever you need, I got it. If I if I
Speaker 1: don't got it, I can get it. That means if
Speaker 1: you're you, you're false. It is leaky. I got a plumber.
Speaker 1: If I can't fix it, I know a plumber. If
Speaker 1: you transmission is done, I gotta do he. I I've
Speaker 1: worked at a restaurants. I can cook. I've worked as
Speaker 1: a head chef restaurants. I've um. I've every girl that
Speaker 1: I've dated of any nationality, I've adopted their cuisine. So
Speaker 1: I do Mexicans now that right? So, But but if
Speaker 1: you're working to be the best version of yourself. I go,
Speaker 1: I go, hit, this is what I got. I will say,
Speaker 1: what you're saying is kind of where I'm I feel
Speaker 1: like I do have. I've I've noticed myself and my
Speaker 1: worth and my value and what I do have to offer,
Speaker 1: which I feel like is why I have one, which
Speaker 1: is because I will say, back then, maybe I didn't
Speaker 1: have all the money, so I knew I wasn't really
Speaker 1: going to be able to value you for you without
Speaker 1: wanting to know what finances you had. Or I didn't
Speaker 1: really cook or know how to cook for niggas, so
Speaker 1: I didn't do it. So I definitely see exactly where
Speaker 1: you're coming from. There's a context of the So there's
Speaker 1: a always used this as an analogy because you know,
Speaker 1: that's what I do. Uh. There's a commercial called That's
Speaker 1: an our Kia commercial. It chicks the older. She comes
Speaker 1: out of the our ke and she looks at the
Speaker 1: bill right, and she goes, hey, me start the car
Speaker 1: right because the bill is so cheap. She's stealing and
Speaker 1: so she wants to start the car to get out
Speaker 1: before she gets caught. So this is what people do
Speaker 1: in relationships. You shop lifting the pussy. You you know
Speaker 1: your garbage, right, you shot lifting the stop lifting the pussy.
Speaker 1: You know your garbage. And so you've represented yourself and
Speaker 1: now you want to start the call get you want
Speaker 1: to shot lift, you get out before you've found out
Speaker 1: that you didn't pay the proper. Now, if I if
Speaker 1: I come to you, if I come to you and
Speaker 1: I I say I got a g wagon, and I
Speaker 1: show I got this g wagon, listen, bit give me
Speaker 1: a hundred dollars you have this g wagon. You're not
Speaker 1: even gonna go Yo, don't be calling me a bit.
Speaker 1: You're gonna be like, this is giving me a g wag.
Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna I'm not because you know it's
Speaker 1: what your paying is not worth it. So the point
Speaker 1: is if my value, if I'm working on me being
Speaker 1: the best version of myself, and my value is what
Speaker 1: it is, then I don't have If there's no negotiation,
Speaker 1: nobody is at the Bentley shop. I love. This is
Speaker 1: what the prices, this is what I'm thinking. This is
Speaker 1: a great escort conversation. Let me just say She's like,
Speaker 1: first of all, these are brands and maybe it was this,
Speaker 1: but now it's f our figures Corinthian level. You know,
Speaker 1: it's but so so. But that's the problem is people
Speaker 1: are lazy and they don't want to be the best
Speaker 1: version of their self and and so, and then they're
Speaker 1: putting themselves in a situation and negotiating with something. So
Speaker 1: you are used car sales with dog there's no engine
Speaker 1: and that stop. You know, the transmission is Google's not
Speaker 1: for that best analogy. Now, all right, before we get
Speaker 1: out of here, we're gonna do a whole confession from someone.
Speaker 1: Did you see who was from? No? Uh, he doesn't
Speaker 1: want his name said, but he's someone that's been to
Speaker 1: all of our shows and he really sports us. But
Speaker 1: the title is period sex because I need some backup apparently,
Speaker 1: so don't use my name. I'm not embarrassed, but I
Speaker 1: just didn't ask her permission to share the story, respecting
Speaker 1: her privacy. I bet you learned that from us. I
Speaker 1: was dating this fine Latina shape. Why you had to
Speaker 1: tell us that? Right? We don't, we don't, We don't
Speaker 1: got a lot of goddamn wholemals letting us. And we
Speaker 1: had some great chemistry. We sucked outdoors in the car
Speaker 1: in the restaurant, you name it. She came over and
Speaker 1: was giving me head the most amazing head. I wanted
Speaker 1: to suck her so bad. I went for her panties
Speaker 1: and she was like, wait, I'm on my period, to
Speaker 1: which I responded, shut up, Mandy, heavy or light day?
Speaker 1: And she said light day and that was a green
Speaker 1: light for me. I proceeded to finger her simultaneously, fish
Speaker 1: out the tampon strength and yank it out. Once that
Speaker 1: was out, it was on. We fuck like bunny rapids
Speaker 1: and doggy style. When our sexual excursion was over, she
Speaker 1: was amazed that I fucked her while on her period,
Speaker 1: to which I responded, I don't give a funk about
Speaker 1: a little blood. And after we lay in the bed,
Speaker 1: she looked at my white curtains and noticed blood splatter.
Speaker 1: She was horrified. I didn't give a fund because my
Speaker 1: housekeeper was coming to clean. She don't clean out of
Speaker 1: that ship. She was embarrassed that the housekeeper would have
Speaker 1: to clean the blood off the curl dried and iron
Speaker 1: the curtains, so the housekeeper wouldn't know. Until this day,
Speaker 1: we referred to it as the c s I murdersing.
Speaker 1: I just wanted easy to not feel alone, and Mandy
Speaker 1: did not be so just mental, what's a little blood?
Speaker 1: Between partners. It's just the booty hole peg stallion. I
Speaker 1: love you both, but don't hack it till you try it, Mandy,
Speaker 1: period sex is great. Love seeing y'all on tour a
Speaker 1: mad love to my face. Let me say something to you. Sorry,
Speaker 1: you acted like this was part of what I do.
Speaker 1: First of all, anybody do what you do. I have
Speaker 1: never ever blood curtain, but you'd be fucking with blood
Speaker 1: and they ain't pulling it out. They're pulling on out
Speaker 1: my tampon for me. Oh you pull it out yourself.
Speaker 1: Oh that's the only difference. First of all, I do
Speaker 1: it very good, like, oh my god, don't look down there.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I turn it lights up.
Speaker 1: I ain't have no daytime sex on my period and
Speaker 1: is y. I've pulled it out with my teeth, shook
Speaker 1: it and it against the wall. So it's whatever you
Speaker 1: pulled it out with your come on your type of ship.
Speaker 1: You probably go ahead and nike a fish out of
Speaker 1: tampon off your next time. You're probably gonna get the
Speaker 1: Diva cup just so he could get up in there
Speaker 1: and pull it out your stup. No, you don't wanted
Speaker 1: to pull out your cup why don'd you pull it
Speaker 1: out with your zev sexy That's what it is. It's like,
Speaker 1: of course, but it was also like, God, my only girl.
Speaker 1: That happened to her, and she has been in love
Speaker 1: ever since he did it. On the first time they
Speaker 1: had sex, wan't a going on? I want to leave,
Speaker 1: and now they're in love. Thank you so much for coming. Everybody,
Speaker 1: let's go. I've done that, and then on the period,
Speaker 1: and then she went to get up and I will
Speaker 1: stay there, and I've went. I've gotten a basin with warm,
Speaker 1: soapy water and wipe the down basin a little, you
Speaker 1: know a little, and wipe the down, cleaned up, and
Speaker 1: link covered up his body, worshiping in. So she goes
Speaker 1: in her head with jack Ball, trade you a nurse to.
Speaker 1: I mean, I've been around the block. I ain't on
Speaker 1: the spring chicken. This isn't you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: We do, But it's you got to understand that those
Speaker 1: those subtle things communicate other things. If I can do that,
Speaker 1: I love you, It's right, I got you like you.
Speaker 1: I mean, did you love the woman that you did
Speaker 1: that too? And it's that's kind of no, but that's
Speaker 1: but I would say this. It's but I would say
Speaker 1: I would say this my only ship, ladies, but my
Speaker 1: but my nature is what I'm not saying that I
Speaker 1: loved her, but when I'm saying you know, but I'm
Speaker 1: saying mine. Yeah, but my nature is to be to
Speaker 1: take care of you. So I'm commute. You know, it's
Speaker 1: like what you love you or not, I'm gonna take
Speaker 1: care of you. Got you all right? So ladies, we'll
Speaker 1: we'll never know actions do not tell us from the UK.
Speaker 1: I mean I see why, alright And alright, So Dante,
Speaker 1: where can our followers find you? I know you plugged
Speaker 1: a couple of times. We also are gonna put it
Speaker 1: in the description of this episode. UM my podcast is
Speaker 1: man School two oh to dock com. Um, It's on
Speaker 1: my Instagram, Dante Nero, Um, the the d'antea or dot com.
Speaker 1: If you want to book time with me, consult with
Speaker 1: me whatever it's uh, you go d'antaa or dot com.
Speaker 1: You click on consult and you can just book the
Speaker 1: time with the one under there that says fish out
Speaker 1: tamponti and you can check my my my YouTube pages
Speaker 1: Man School Tool to downtine. Everything's under d'antagnu and man
Speaker 1: school tool to pretty much you can find everything from that.
Speaker 1: Thank you so very much. I love a little analogies
Speaker 1: and all a little. I think you really did school
Speaker 1: quite a few people, and I think we can still
Speaker 1: come out here knowing that men are not ace. This
Speaker 1: really fun to see the comments because I normally, from
Speaker 1: the most part, whenever we do an episode, I know
Speaker 1: when people will like someone, and I know people will
Speaker 1: like you, especially the man. But I don't want to
Speaker 1: know what women are gonna think. Are they gonna be angry,
Speaker 1: are they gonna be happy? Are they gonna feel neutral
Speaker 1: that their frauds? What do you think if you're not? Really? No,
Speaker 1: So I don't read the comments anymore, but to me
Speaker 1: on our Instagram, we asked for people's opinions on Instagram. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not gonna lie. I'm not going to
Speaker 1: compare you to anyone else. I think that people are
Speaker 1: just gonna enjoy this whole conversation. Uh, not only with
Speaker 1: what you had to say, but I think it's really
Speaker 1: going to have our people thinking, like, damn, let me
Speaker 1: rethink how what I'm doing, what I'm putting out there,
Speaker 1: how I view myself, how I value myself, what I
Speaker 1: want out of my partners. I think everything you said
Speaker 1: everyone can relate to want I want to One thing
Speaker 1: I think is really important. Relationships are very easy. People
Speaker 1: a compliment. All you need to do is understand what
Speaker 1: your non negotiables are and then never negotiate them. M
Speaker 1: so so. But but you have to be honest, which
Speaker 1: is about what you're negotiating and non negotiabents. So if
Speaker 1: you got a guy and you're saying that fidelity is
Speaker 1: non negotiable, that means if he steps out, you gotta
Speaker 1: go now. My therapist has told me that I have
Speaker 1: five and three of them have to be there. I
Speaker 1: feel like some are kind of wavering for me, Like
Speaker 1: one of them was making more money than me, um,
Speaker 1: and I was in there. No, no non negotiable. But
Speaker 1: like the more that I grew and the more I
Speaker 1: got older, I was like, I might not have that.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, I don't even think about that.
Speaker 1: No more, I don't make good. Isn't that crazy? How good?
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's just now there's if they got
Speaker 1: three out of five, I'm cool, fucking I could work
Speaker 1: on the risk I really like that. I really like that. Well, guys,
Speaker 1: we are going to leave you, guys with a five
Speaker 1: minute bonus clip from our patreon if you want three
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Speaker 1: Back y'all get in us and be like, y'all always
Speaker 1: forget the clip. It's just that I think it's included
Speaker 1: an audio. Is that true? It's always included, So why
Speaker 1: do we always forget it on YouTube? Is it your fault?
Speaker 1: Blame Benson? Blame Benson because I mean, that's that's well,
Speaker 1: that's a script. But but that's the edit that I
Speaker 1: send you. But she needs the Patreon. But sometimes he
Speaker 1: can't get the patreon yet. Be is we we pre
Speaker 1: record and I insert he's doing the audio. Yeah, he
Speaker 1: has to overlay the audio onto that it might be
Speaker 1: a new website. Is blame Benton and Mandy sometimes dot com?
Speaker 1: Y'all about to blame hard because I how you doing
Speaker 1: that ship no more? But anyways, if y'all are also
Speaker 1: all caught up with Horrible Decisions, y'all know. Every Monday,
Speaker 1: after you guys listen to us, you can go on
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Speaker 1: love it, and of hearing us, I think you might
Speaker 1: need to listen to what days of your episodes you
Speaker 1: look it up? Well, thank you guys. This has been
Speaker 1: another episode of our Decisions, right. I know where I
Speaker 1: don't want to start. No, I'm just kidding. UM, let's
Speaker 1: start with let's start with Ashley and Michael, because that's
Speaker 1: really where I don't want to go. You know what's crazy?
Speaker 1: I actually I'm not sure if the rest of y'all agree,
Speaker 1: let me know in the chat, but I actually am
Speaker 1: liking Ashley more this season. Then I've liked her in
Speaker 1: previous season. Um, I think that that baby has done
Speaker 1: her motherfucking good. I think she grew up a little bit. Um,
Speaker 1: but I do I think that that is why she
Speaker 1: is still going through ship with Mr Michael Um. She
Speaker 1: admitted this season that they have added people to the bedroom. UM.
Speaker 1: And he came out recently and was like, I don't
Speaker 1: feel like you're married to me anymore. You show all
Speaker 1: of your um attention to the baby. And she also
Speaker 1: opened up about how she doesn't want to swing anymore,
Speaker 1: and he's like, well, ship, you ain't giving me a
Speaker 1: tin and you don't want to do this anymore. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie to like what he said in the
Speaker 1: in the therapy session, but he pretty much just feels
Speaker 1: like he's not having the same sexual relationship with Ashley
Speaker 1: as when they first started to cover their relationship. What
Speaker 1: are your views on that? Assante and Tammy? I see
Speaker 1: Tammy raise your hand. Raise your hand so that we
Speaker 1: can talk about what y'all thoughts are on Ashley and
Speaker 1: Michael Darby's relationship. But Assante will start with you, yeah,
Speaker 1: why you tallly them up? Um? Let me just start
Speaker 1: with I don't have any favorites. I hate them all equally.
Speaker 1: I mean, they all really play in the mass, which
Speaker 1: is why we're here, right. It's just I don't like
Speaker 1: the playing the masks where we're gonna hide our hand
Speaker 1: because of respectability politics thing that we're doing. I get
Speaker 1: that that's where they think that there are they are,
Speaker 1: but they're really not. So I just I just need
Speaker 1: that veil dropped now to get back to Ashley and
Speaker 1: why I hate her. Michael wanted to hold having a
Speaker 1: baby over and you wanted to hold that over her
Speaker 1: head because of the way that her mom was. That
Speaker 1: should have been a huge red flag. Do you want
Speaker 1: to go half with this white man who really wants
Speaker 1: to say you know, who wants to emotionally abuse you?
Speaker 1: And then we're gonna open up this conversation about you know,
Speaker 1: letting people into the bedroom, right, Michael since season one
Speaker 1: has grabbed as on camera. Now, unless we're gonna do
Speaker 1: the red table talk with Will and Jada, if if
Speaker 1: we'll need to come to and we need everybody to
Speaker 1: be accountable, let's go on ahead and say not only
Speaker 1: do we open our bedroom, but we open it up
Speaker 1: to both sexes so everybody can stop motherfucking asking about
Speaker 1: the Gate ship because Michael, you didn't even talk about
Speaker 1: you didn't talk about like Mike, you didn't talk about
Speaker 1: why you told this woman you had a wife and
Speaker 1: a boyfriend. We didn't go back there? Are you waiting?
Speaker 1: Are you waiting to go back there? Because is that
Speaker 1: has not been brought up again? And I was wanting
Speaker 1: more details on that. Just cleared up the fact that
Speaker 1: you know the fact that there was a nigger in
Speaker 1: the room, or you know that he did go up
Speaker 1: with said woman, but didn't not clear up why he
Speaker 1: told said woman he got a wife and a boyfriend.
Speaker 1: So but you are you saying, like, okay, so who's
Speaker 1: his boyfriend? You know, I don't care if you gotta ask,
Speaker 1: like you know, have we have we slept with him
Speaker 1: before or like you know, however, you need to feel
Speaker 1: comfortable normalizing it. You need to do it because quit
Speaker 1: pussy footing around and then arguing with black old ass
Speaker 1: Bill Gates who don't love his damn wife no more
Speaker 1: like on the reunions that should just be so sorry. No,
Speaker 1: So I'm not gonna lie um and I'm about to
Speaker 1: let me a talk on this um topic as well.
Speaker 1: But I think that that's my problem. Um. And we've
Speaker 1: talked about it. If you guys noticed, not only with
Speaker 1: Red but Zach who was our guests this week, we've
Speaker 1: had bisexual men on the show. And I think it
Speaker 1: may come to where maybe Ashley doesn't want to admit
Speaker 1: that she is okay with Michael being bisexual. UM. So
Speaker 1: I think she used the swinging as a way to like,
Speaker 1: let it just be known that, yeah, we allow other
Speaker 1: people into the bedroom. But I think, for whatever reason,
Speaker 1: they're still shame in women admitting that they're okay with
Speaker 1: being with a man that may like to play with men. Um.
Speaker 1: And that's just I think where she finds not being
Speaker 1: okay with admitting she would rather just be like y'all
Speaker 1: were swingers than we let other people in the room.
Speaker 1: Uh miya um, if you can go ahead and unmute
Speaker 1: what you got to say about the Darby's system, so
Speaker 1: can you hear me? Just fine? Okay? So I it
Speaker 1: definitely in the beginning, UH didn't like either one of them.
Speaker 1: I did feel like Ashley was always doing the most
Speaker 1: always and everybody's business all that. I do feel like
Speaker 1: Asante said what I think about Michael, like he just
Speaker 1: kept moving the gold post on Ashley like and now
Speaker 1: she has gotten to the goal post finally, like he
Speaker 1: held the damn baby and then it was you know.
Speaker 1: Now it's you don't, You're not here for me, but
Speaker 1: her baby is fresh out