WEBVTT - Ep192: Jack of All Heauxs (Ft. Dante Nero) 0:00:02.520 --> 0:00:06.120 Guess what decision we're about to make a horrible decisions. 0:00:08.600 --> 0:00:13.200 Welcome horrors. We got one in the building today, not Mandy, 0:00:13.440 --> 0:00:17.160 not me. It's easy. Welcome to horrible decisions and most 0:00:17.160 --> 0:00:20.360 disgusting show you've ever heard in the podcast world. What's up, y'all? 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:22.920 Motherfucker's it's your girl, Mandy b A k A tri 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:26.880 pop mommy. I mean the building you already know. Have 0:00:27.120 --> 0:00:30.720 Dante with us, a requested guest, over and over. But 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:33.920 I'm not gonna lie a few years, actually seriously, and 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:36.559 you're not gonna lie a few years. Maybe you want 0:00:36.560 --> 0:00:39.200 to reply to us back then you're not. I don't 0:00:39.280 --> 0:00:47.479 ever not do that. I see it. I need. But 0:00:47.680 --> 0:00:51.280 people were like, you gotta have Dante on, and I'm like, why, 0:00:51.479 --> 0:00:53.279 but why Dan? Why we gotta have you on? Why 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:57.520 do you think people all do? I try to stay righteous. 0:00:57.600 --> 0:01:01.960 That's it. That's man, and that's on the on the 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:05.000 on the strength. So my my podcast, I've been doing 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:07.800 my podcast for eight years. Who's the name of this Man? School? 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:11.119 Two oh to initially was the Beige Philip Show before 0:01:11.160 --> 0:01:12.920 Baige Philip. It was a Black Philip show that I 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:16.319 did with Patrice o'neio back in two thousand six. We 0:01:16.400 --> 0:01:19.240 did it as a radio shown. You bitch was in 0:01:19.360 --> 0:01:24.040 high school, you know if I don't know if stuff 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:27.160 like that. Yeah, so you got a podcast. But what 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:29.240 are you known for? Because to me, when people are 0:01:29.280 --> 0:01:32.240 like you need Dante on, what's why, how do people 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:34.720 know you? What do they know you for? Being? Well? 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:38.840 So just as a relationship gurule I guess that would 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:42.720 be married I am now recently, but you was given 0:01:42.720 --> 0:01:46.440 though relationship advice before you was married? Yeah, but made 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:53.400 because I know everything about this. So let me let 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:56.960 me give you the background. So, uh, I was a 0:01:56.960 --> 0:02:02.600 male strip of for ten years. Well now we talk 0:02:02.640 --> 0:02:06.640 about we're talking about like years ago. Okay, So so 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:09.000 I was a male stripper. You know, I will bring 0:02:09.080 --> 0:02:13.160 up the Instagram and so I was a male strippid 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:16.000 for ten years and then I got into I was 0:02:16.040 --> 0:02:19.160 like managing other male strippers, and then I started managing 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:22.440 the club and then I did a little personal management. 0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:27.480 Personal personal management also starts when p I am. I 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:31.040 did that for for for a few years. And so 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:34.160 the perspective of being a male strippers, you have to 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:38.079 you have to understand, you have to understand attraction from 0:02:38.040 --> 0:02:40.560 a woman's perspective. If you can't if you don't understand that, 0:02:40.600 --> 0:02:43.079 then you don't make no money. So and the way 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:46.280 men's see attraction is different than the way women see attraction. 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:48.280 I am interested to and we're going to get into 0:02:48.320 --> 0:02:52.280 it later. But a lot about you know, pimping is 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:57.760 perceived in a way that's so misogynistic. But but I mean, 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:00.320 I'm assuming that you did protect women. So I want 0:03:00.320 --> 0:03:02.800 to talk about those things later because I feel like 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:05.400 when we've discussed it with escorts, a lot of women 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:07.720 we meet are independent and it seems like a good 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:10.360 way to go. But then there's also these moments where 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:13.440 safety comes into play. A lot of these laws that 0:03:13.480 --> 0:03:16.480 are sucked over like sester like you know, they cross 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:19.080 referencing clients and stuff like that. I mean, even when 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:21.359 you see somebody who's independent, they still got a guy 0:03:21.400 --> 0:03:24.240 who's who rids them and knows that they you know, 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:26.640 somebody that got their back, somebody that can, you know, 0:03:26.720 --> 0:03:29.160 crack jewels and knockheads if they have to, you know, 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:31.600 if that needs be so, I mean, that's the point 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:33.600 of it. But I think what happens is there's a 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:39.720 there's when I say, uh righteous, there's a business principles 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:44.559 to everything that you do and you gotta follow those principles. So, um, 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:47.960 I didn't like, I don't. I don't think nobody decides 0:03:48.080 --> 0:03:52.120 to be a pimp. Uh. Women actually turned the guy 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:54.920 into a pimp. See this is like when Nigga tell 0:03:55.000 --> 0:04:00.120 you you made me cheat. Really it's not really because us. 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:03.320 Here's what happens is you you would never think that 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:06.520 you could put somebody in that in that position. Somebody 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:08.720 has to say to you, yo, you know I did 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:11.240 you I would? You know I would rock like that 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:14.080 for you. You know I would. I would make some 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:16.400 money for you, and you like you would. You don't 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:19.400 start out thinking that's like nobody who goes I want 0:04:19.400 --> 0:04:22.120 to be a pimp does that. You don't wake up 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:24.080 and go I want to be it don't even work 0:04:24.120 --> 0:04:26.160 like that. You have there's a thing that you have 0:04:26.320 --> 0:04:28.440 to have that maybe you mean a good one or not. 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:29.880 But I think a lot of thing don't want to 0:04:29.880 --> 0:04:32.760 do ship like yeah, but they because it's glorified culture. Right. 0:04:32.800 --> 0:04:34.880 You got people that want to be drug dealers. That's 0:04:34.920 --> 0:04:37.000 just the truth. And I think people that want to 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:39.200 get into that type of life dudes who want to 0:04:39.200 --> 0:04:41.480 be drug deal is usually not good drug. You know 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:45.960 understand that get caught. It's got It's gotta be somebody 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:49.880 that goes yo, I really did you? You know, Like 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:52.800 I tell you this thing. I was dating this girl 0:04:52.839 --> 0:04:54.880 that was like about twenty years old, and I had, 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:57.680 you know, those little standing lamps that you you know, 0:04:57.720 --> 0:05:03.440 you couldn't so I the novel, so every time I 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:04.680 had to turn it on, I had to leave it 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:06.760 on and plug it in. Or I had this when 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:09.320 I was broke, and she was like, let me tell 0:05:09.960 --> 0:05:13.400 you what happened when she went to the store foundine 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:21.599 lamp and she stole the thing off. That's pimper. That's 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:27.760 what I'm saying. Is that the fact that she didn't 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:31.320 want me to even hurt my fingers too. She was like, 0:05:31.440 --> 0:05:36.960 I'm trying to gift for a man. But it's the 0:05:37.680 --> 0:05:40.360 perspective I'm saying. The perspective of it is the same. 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:42.160 It's the same. So I have a I have a 0:05:42.240 --> 0:05:45.320 thing that I always say, um that true wisdom is 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:49.720 the understanding of underlying concepts how they relate to situations 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:53.359 that seem irrelevant. But really I'm not meaning if you 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:56.320 learn something and you boil it down to the route 0:05:56.400 --> 0:06:01.159 to the to the cosmic and universal truth. That truth 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:04.640 can be reapplied over and over and over and over 0:06:04.680 --> 0:06:08.680 again in situations that seem like they wouldn't like, like 0:06:08.720 --> 0:06:11.000 it's not even relevant. I wonder if there's something to 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:13.919 be said with Like I was listening to this interview 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:17.279 um with a porn star that was talking about how 0:06:17.800 --> 0:06:20.640 she went to jail for due before, and I wonder 0:06:20.680 --> 0:06:22.800 if there's something like the pimp and thing. It's like 0:06:23.400 --> 0:06:27.120 when women will do anything right when it's not necessarily 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:29.080 but I mean, and that's the thing, right, And I 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:32.480 think that's where it comes from, is when there's independence 0:06:32.520 --> 0:06:35.520 and you aligned and joined forces with somebody. That doesn't 0:06:35.560 --> 0:06:38.400 really happen with Madam's noticed that that's only the dynamic 0:06:38.440 --> 0:06:42.600 with men. I've never heard a woman difference. So I 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:46.240 dipped and dabbled in and being a madam for a 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:49.080 lot of years early on, because I just knew a 0:06:49.160 --> 0:06:52.080 plethora of women that we're willing to do whatever for 0:06:52.320 --> 0:07:00.880 some change. You know, I'll be working my words, uh. 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:02.480 But also I knew a lot of men that were 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:05.120 willing to spet and so I was the middle woman. 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:07.760 But I think the difference is to um and tell 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:09.920 me if I'm wrong or if you experienced this, but 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:14.040 to me, because I wasn't necessarily having relations with those women, 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:17.040 I was able to just have kind of that business. 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:19.080 I was able to have that business relationship with the 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:21.280 women that here you go, here you go, and let 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:23.920 me do it. As far as with a pimp. Uh, 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:27.360 the women that are engaged in that type of lifestyle 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:31.320 normally do have an emotional attachment and a relationship with 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:33.960 the male that as a woman we I didn't have 0:07:34.000 --> 0:07:36.000 with those girls. Well, it's a it's a you know, 0:07:36.040 --> 0:07:38.120 it is a give and take. Now, I'm gonna say 0:07:38.160 --> 0:07:40.640 that one of the reasons why I stopped was because 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:44.040 it's it's in a moral profession, and I just I 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:47.480 got to the point where, yes, ethically, I just I 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:49.960 couldn't do how many women what do you call it 0:07:49.920 --> 0:07:54.280 a rotation? Hair? Uh? Well, I mean, at at the 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:59.880 best I had twelve are all of them? Yeah damn yeah. 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:03.680 And that's but it is exhausting. And that's that's kind 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:06.200 of the thing with relationships. Just all dudes who want 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:08.320 to so they want three sims and this and that. 0:08:08.760 --> 0:08:11.600 But if you can't funk one woman properly? How you 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:14.400 how you do all the time? You feel me? So, 0:08:16.320 --> 0:08:18.880 I mean, there's you gotta be that's the thing. It's 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:22.440 a no, it's even if it's sister wise, there's a 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:26.520 jealousy and that you have to create the parameters that 0:08:26.520 --> 0:08:30.760 that doesn't happen. Was he like, did stop being? So 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.800 it's it's a real interesting thing. Is the print of 0:08:33.920 --> 0:08:36.160 the reason why I got into the whole relationship thing, 0:08:36.200 --> 0:08:40.200 because even that is a relationship, or at least it's 0:08:41.000 --> 0:08:43.240 in a good situation. It's a relationship that you have 0:08:43.360 --> 0:08:46.960 to that you have to read her needs, all of 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:51.079 their needs simultaneously and fulfill those. Did you forget names? 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:53.360 I'm trying named well friends right now? Like you know 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:55.600 how hard my names? Well, yeah, but it's gonna take 0:08:55.600 --> 0:08:57.600 me a second to just like get my names together. 0:08:57.679 --> 0:08:59.880 But you're not every day if you're with them and 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:02.400 we date, and it's it's a different it's but what 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:06.880 you said, we actually um during quarantine, we interviewed a 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:11.000 Polly couple um down in Memphis, and he actually said 0:09:11.040 --> 0:09:12.720 that same exact thing. He was like a lot of 0:09:12.760 --> 0:09:15.760 men want to have multiple girlfriends and all these different women. 0:09:16.040 --> 0:09:19.880 But it does take time and energy and energy and 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:24.240 emotionally learn women and how we talk about love languages 0:09:24.280 --> 0:09:26.840 a lot as well, but to learn how everyone receives 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:29.160 the things you do, how you give it back, and 0:09:29.200 --> 0:09:31.680 for them to also learn it is I can only 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:35.520 imagine I'm listening. It's exhausting. And and that means you 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:40.000 you also, if they want sex with you, you gotta 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:42.280 show up. You gotta show up when you don't want 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:45.079 to show up. Like so, you know, it's great when 0:09:45.120 --> 0:09:47.400 you you know, everybody's like, oh, I want I've done 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:50.559 do I've had dudes who have council dudes doing my 0:09:50.679 --> 0:09:53.480 podcast and then yeah, I want this and I want that, 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:55.320 and then they you know, I would get them to 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:58.600 the point where they might have five on the roster 0:09:59.080 --> 0:10:01.520 and then we're like, yo, I'm tired. I gotta I 0:10:01.559 --> 0:10:03.240 gotta go to you know what I'm saying. And I'm 0:10:03.280 --> 0:10:06.440 like you you broke it, you bought it, like this 0:10:06.480 --> 0:10:11.480 is what you wanted. Now you got to make the trip. 0:10:11.600 --> 0:10:13.760 You gotta go make the trip because if you and 0:10:13.800 --> 0:10:15.520 if you're not gonna make the trip and you can't 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:19.160 give her what she needs, then you need to you 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:22.640 need to slide back and jumped into it. And because 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:25.680 now my head is really moving around. Like, let's talk 0:10:25.720 --> 0:10:28.960 about what I know what people think of pimping, whether 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:31.480 it be from movies or music or whatever. Do you 0:10:31.559 --> 0:10:34.960 take care of all of them as far as they 0:10:35.000 --> 0:10:37.720 all live together? Yeah, one time I lived with all 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:40.640 of them. Yes, And so how does it work for 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:42.559 is it like? Okay, it's like what a colt you 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:43.800 know what I'm saying. You make money for the coal 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:45.760 and then the colt takes care of you. So do 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:48.760 they get money separately? Well, you you take care of 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:50.480 them the money. You get the money and you take 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:52.840 care of them. But I mean the point is, but 0:10:52.880 --> 0:10:56.640 why don't they do it alone? Because they're missing something. 0:10:56.760 --> 0:10:59.280 I mean, people are broken. People are broken, and they 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:03.439 want they want people to fulfill whatever that that that 0:11:03.520 --> 0:11:06.800 motive is. So, for instance, you have somebody who comes 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:11.000 from a very toxic childhood. A lot of times and 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:13.000 this is not just I mean, I mean, we we're 0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:16.280 talking about the pimping, but it's just it's relationships. You'll 0:11:16.320 --> 0:11:19.840 find a woman who's toxic, she will find another toxic 0:11:19.960 --> 0:11:24.839 dude and she repeat that toxicity in everything that she does, 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:26.880 and then she'd like, man, ain't this a minute? And 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:28.960 then you'll find that she'll break up with that dude, 0:11:29.000 --> 0:11:33.000 She'll get another toxic dude. So so I have this 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:35.520 this uh philosophy. I talked about it. I don't know 0:11:35.520 --> 0:11:38.760 if you're you know what brackish fish are. So there's 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:43.840 a fish called African sicklids. They they come from a 0:11:44.000 --> 0:11:46.880 lake in Tanzania and in they come from this lake 0:11:47.080 --> 0:11:49.440 and they're uh, you know, there's there's tribes around it. 0:11:49.480 --> 0:11:51.520 So they're shipping it, they're pissing it, they washing it, 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:53.280 they cook out of it. It's and so there's a 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:57.239 bacteria in the water and so the fish become adapted 0:11:57.280 --> 0:11:59.400 to that. Now, if you set up a fish tank 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:02.040 and you have for conciculance, you have to set that 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:05.480 water up first. You have to put a bacteria culture 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:08.080 in the water. You have to balance the pH because 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:11.440 if you put those fish in clean water, they will die. 0:12:12.679 --> 0:12:20.160 So what's the normalization of of bacteria or toxicity is 0:12:20.320 --> 0:12:23.920 what feels home? Like home, it feels comfortable. So if 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:27.400 you have somebody who comes from an abusive situation, it's 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:30.520 almost it's almost more painful for them for you to 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:36.920 treat them, whether you would assume people want and this 0:12:37.040 --> 0:12:38.800 is like when we talk about it does, but it's 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:40.800 like when we meet people to get out of jail 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:43.719 and they like doing certain things because it makes them 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:46.959 feel like they're still there or even you know. I 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:49.200 had a conversation with this chicken went to jail and 0:12:49.280 --> 0:12:53.000 she was talking about how it was more stable for 0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:55.880 her than her household, and she was like the regiment. 0:12:55.960 --> 0:12:57.840 She's like, don't get me wrong, I didn't like being there. 0:12:57.840 --> 0:13:00.920 She was like, but the regiment was like something was necessary. 0:13:00.960 --> 0:13:04.120 It's more comfortable there for five years. People going on 0:13:04.280 --> 0:13:06.160 services a lot of times because they don't like they 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:08.320 don't want their choices. And so what I think what 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:10.640 happens is we we have this kind of norm of 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:14.199 what we perceive things should be, and that norm has 0:13:14.320 --> 0:13:17.480 may not have anything to do with what you particularly want, 0:13:17.559 --> 0:13:20.480 but it's also the idea that I think a lot 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:23.440 of times, I mean, we we do it almost daily 0:13:23.480 --> 0:13:27.319 by looking at the blogs, looking into our friends, our parents, 0:13:27.559 --> 0:13:30.240 all of their relationships and judging them. And I think 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:33.120 that that's what you're saying exactly ties into that, like 0:13:33.160 --> 0:13:35.840 this idea of normal does not exist. There is not 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:39.400 a normal relationship because what you know, Weezy may like 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:41.800 in her relationship may not be at all what I 0:13:41.800 --> 0:13:44.640 would want in my relationship, and vice versa. So I 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:48.400 like the idea that that's what you're saying, Like, you 0:13:48.440 --> 0:13:51.040 know me as a man, if I'm dating you, I'm 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:54.360 dating you, what I want from you is totally different 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:56.760 than what you want from me. So it's it's it's 0:13:56.800 --> 0:14:00.120 specific even in the context of that. And so the 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:02.319 agency what I say, the agency, I mean that that 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:06.439 what people perceive is this is the normal, is that 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:08.719 has nothing to do with what the real feeling is. 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:11.600 And so one of the things that I feel like 0:14:11.800 --> 0:14:18.960 when you're talking, we got to go like this. You know, 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:21.000 this is well throwed out. So you're gonna be You're 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:24.680 gonna be snapping a lot. So this is well thought out. 0:14:25.880 --> 0:14:29.680 One of the things is you know, uh so when 0:14:29.720 --> 0:14:33.520 I say, when I said righteousness about it, there has 0:14:33.680 --> 0:14:36.800 you have this is so I have an acronym that 0:14:36.880 --> 0:14:39.120 I use whenever I talk to do something on my 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:42.880 man school tool to let me plug that again is ACE. 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:47.400 The acronym is acist, authenticity, credibility, and empathy. Right, So 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:52.600 authenticity is the truth, honest, and don't have credibility is 0:14:53.920 --> 0:14:57.080 uh is I say what I mean, I mean what 0:14:57.120 --> 0:14:59.520 I say, and I do what I say really don't 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:02.600 do okay? And empathy is for me to perceive the 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:05.680 the the tribulations that you have to go through one 0:15:05.680 --> 0:15:08.720 the day to day. When I'm asking for things, I 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:26.320 love that we a man, schoolmate, I would you because well, 0:15:26.360 --> 0:15:29.680 those three things I think. And it's it's crazy because 0:15:30.040 --> 0:15:33.200 men think that we are these complicated creatures and it's 0:15:33.240 --> 0:15:36.520 literally those three things that really women want to be 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:41.280 the simplest fundamental aspects of YouTube literally be just a 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:44.200 good human and all of those are blanket under honesty. 0:15:44.640 --> 0:15:49.400 We don't love that all depends unless she's a toxic 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:54.000 individual than what she wants from you. Is that toxicity 0:15:54.080 --> 0:15:56.960 so real quick? Because you keep saying as well that 0:15:57.720 --> 0:16:00.800 both parties can be toxic. And I think that this 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:03.600 leads into as well, just the conversation. I don't think 0:16:03.920 --> 0:16:06.400 a lot of women own up to their toxic behavior. 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:10.640 So well. You've never heard determinology, a woman of her word, 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:14.080 a man of man of his word. You've heard man 0:16:14.120 --> 0:16:16.280 of his word, but you never hear because you're not 0:16:16.400 --> 0:16:20.440 held to those standards. You're you're ok Now, let me 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:24.160 say this, are the expectation for you to be to 0:16:24.240 --> 0:16:29.760 have a level of emotionality about what your your reality 0:16:30.440 --> 0:16:35.920 is perspectively is shaped by how you feel in that moment, 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:41.200 and and and your feelings move their their their their, 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:44.440 you know they're there, they move and it's flow. It's 0:16:44.440 --> 0:16:46.920 a flow because it's it's just not like that. And 0:16:46.960 --> 0:16:48.840 then you find this and you make your faces. But 0:16:48.880 --> 0:16:51.680 here's here's what I'll prove it to you. Because what 0:16:51.720 --> 0:16:56.520 happens is women have different friends. You've got friends you 0:16:56.560 --> 0:16:59.560 shop which than you party with friends, you creep with friends, 0:16:59.560 --> 0:17:02.160 you and and so women tend to be very malleable 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:03.960 and they have different feel like this dude that I 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:07.840 used to must listen to Danton because he said this 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:10.680 is one thing to me that I always remember and seriously, 0:17:11.000 --> 0:17:14.280 because out of anyone I've ever dated, he was the 0:17:14.320 --> 0:17:16.280 most like, he'll always tell me, I'll never lie to you, 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:18.800 never want me, and the like will be this honest 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:20.919 and transparent, and he really was. And one of the 0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:23.040 things he said to me when we were breaking up, 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:26.080 it was so difficult for me because, like I just 0:17:26.119 --> 0:17:29.640 couldn't understand how it was happening. And he said, you 0:17:29.680 --> 0:17:32.400 have so many friends you do things with, and I'm 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:34.760 just like a toy that, like the second someone's going 0:17:34.800 --> 0:17:36.800 to throw it out, you just can't stop playing with it. 0:17:36.840 --> 0:17:38.240 You have to know what's there. And he's like, you 0:17:38.320 --> 0:17:40.479 just want me there. And I know that because of 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:43.360 the different friends you have. And it's true. I talked 0:17:43.359 --> 0:17:44.560 about it on the show all the time. I have 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:46.240 friends that if I want to get super high and 0:17:46.240 --> 0:17:48.680 get lit and go raving or do my Black Lives 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:51.080 Matter protests or whatever, I have friends that I can 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:56.919 do all of those things. But part yeah, even my 0:17:57.080 --> 0:18:01.040 shady dudes, I know he's We all know he's shady. 0:18:01.320 --> 0:18:03.520 We just don't really we don't let him know money. 0:18:03.600 --> 0:18:06.920 But you know what y'all do like that, y'all have 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:09.080 a bunch of different bitches that do different ship. You 0:18:09.119 --> 0:18:11.119 got one that's the one who's like the homeboy that 0:18:11.119 --> 0:18:13.119 you can do this, but y'all one that sucks you nasty. 0:18:13.240 --> 0:18:15.080 You got the wife the type. I don't believe that, 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:19.040 but that becomes that's because of the fact that guys 0:18:19.160 --> 0:18:23.000 don't feel as though they're dope enough to say, you 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:25.679 may not be the one, you may not be the 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:29.240 thing that you think you are. So if I, if I, 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:31.720 and I don't have a problem. So so it's like 0:18:32.560 --> 0:18:35.800 when you talk about authenticity, that authenticity could be hurtful 0:18:36.600 --> 0:18:38.680 if it's something that you don't want to hear. Do 0:18:38.760 --> 0:18:41.159 you know you feel what I'm saying. So you may 0:18:41.200 --> 0:18:43.199 have this perception of who you are and what you 0:18:43.240 --> 0:18:46.119 want and I may not think so, But a guy 0:18:46.400 --> 0:18:48.639 guy knows that we probably would not be having to 0:18:48.760 --> 0:18:57.080 handle your perception of us exactly. So you see, I snapped, 0:18:59.240 --> 0:19:05.679 I don't like what you saying, hands on the table, 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:14.320 and we are going. And the next second is Vanilla ship. 0:19:14.400 --> 0:19:17.240 So Dante, this is our segment where we pick sex 0:19:17.320 --> 0:19:18.879 in the news, just an article of the news that 0:19:18.920 --> 0:19:20.760 we found had sex in it. This one, I like, 0:19:21.280 --> 0:19:24.520 how long does sex last for most people? This is 0:19:24.560 --> 0:19:28.720 gonna be average time? Um, what's ideal? And factors that 0:19:28.760 --> 0:19:30.440 affect the duration? I want you all to take again? 0:19:30.480 --> 0:19:35.680 Seven minutes? I would I'd go with five five point 0:19:35.720 --> 0:19:39.920 four mates? Too much credit? See what happened? What happens 0:19:39.960 --> 0:19:43.320 when I give them too much? Creddy vaginal intercourse last 0:19:43.400 --> 0:19:46.440 a medium of five point four minutes before the man ejaculates. 0:19:46.440 --> 0:19:49.520 Anywhere from three to thirteen minutes is normal, but the 0:19:49.640 --> 0:19:53.159 average is five minutes, uh five point per from minute. Now, 0:19:53.160 --> 0:19:54.680 I want you all to take a guess on how 0:19:54.720 --> 0:19:58.200 many minutes it takes the average woman to orgasm. But 0:19:58.320 --> 0:20:00.919 a lot of bitches ain't orgasm. So the lifetime this 0:20:00.960 --> 0:20:04.320 is survey. There's a few thousand people in here. This 0:20:04.359 --> 0:20:08.280 is women having sex with men study just penis and vagina. 0:20:08.560 --> 0:20:11.440 How long does it take? I was trying to say 0:20:11.480 --> 0:20:13.720 the fact that a lot of women come from for 0:20:14.400 --> 0:20:20.200 players included the entire sex duration minutes. I was gonna 0:20:20.240 --> 0:20:29.480 say from start to finish, seventeen Benson, here we guess. Oh, 0:20:31.280 --> 0:20:36.040 it was thirteen minutes. All right, this is like, you know, 0:20:36.640 --> 0:20:40.000 thirteen point four? I think, So how long is your 0:20:40.080 --> 0:20:50.320 four play ship? You'll be edging? So I literally like 0:20:50.800 --> 0:20:53.600 last night, Uh, he came over because he's going out 0:20:53.600 --> 0:20:57.160 of town, and I was exhausted. I didn't even want 0:20:57.160 --> 0:20:58.960 to ask, how long have you go go out of 0:20:59.000 --> 0:21:01.159 town till Sunday? When you say out of town, I 0:21:01.160 --> 0:21:05.080 thought he got your exhaust. No, he's going out of town, 0:21:03.920 --> 0:21:07.359 And I was really just like, but I'm so tired. 0:21:07.359 --> 0:21:08.679 We had been out all day. He picked me up 0:21:08.680 --> 0:21:11.120 from the studio. We just we're going it's I was like, baby, 0:21:11.119 --> 0:21:13.160 I'm tired. So I gave him a sage. He ended 0:21:13.240 --> 0:21:14.960 up still sucking me, and he was like, he was 0:21:15.000 --> 0:21:16.480 really gonna let me go out of town. I'll give 0:21:16.520 --> 0:21:19.359 you no pussy. I was like, okay, I'm sorry again. 0:21:19.760 --> 0:21:23.159 But that's the thing. I'm scared because he doesn't know 0:21:23.200 --> 0:21:24.680 how to have a quickie. The fact that you just 0:21:24.680 --> 0:21:27.480 said you're quickies are forty five minutes. That's him And 0:21:27.520 --> 0:21:29.600 I'm like, babe, this isn't like no quick thing. It's 0:21:29.600 --> 0:21:32.959 a hard fucking production. I've dated girls where they were 0:21:33.000 --> 0:21:35.120 like I would just always want to make me come 0:21:35.200 --> 0:21:41.720 and and then they'd be like, you know, they talking 0:21:42.000 --> 0:21:43.240 and I'm be like, well, you know I'm not going 0:21:43.400 --> 0:21:46.840 out that out and they'd be like, um, you know, 0:21:47.280 --> 0:21:50.680 careful what you wish for. But yeah, what do you 0:21:50.800 --> 0:21:56.560 guys think that women consider too long? Next minutes a 0:21:56.600 --> 0:22:00.440 real minutes? Uh? Let me see, I guess it's a minute. 0:22:00.440 --> 0:22:03.320 No the entire no sex sex, but not really. I 0:22:03.359 --> 0:22:06.680 thought you meant the entire vaginal sex. The entire too long. 0:22:06.800 --> 0:22:11.320 When my pussy started drying, I will say it's it's arranged. 0:22:11.440 --> 0:22:18.119 I will say between eleven Okay, I was gonna say three. Wow, 0:22:18.200 --> 0:22:20.840