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Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make a horrible decisions.

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Speaker 1: Welcome horrors. We got one in the building today, not Mandy,

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Speaker 1: not me. It's easy. Welcome to horrible decisions and most

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Speaker 1: disgusting show you've ever heard in the podcast world. What's up, y'all?

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Speaker 1: Motherfucker's it's your girl, Mandy b A k A tri

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Speaker 1: pop mommy. I mean the building you already know. Have

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Speaker 1: Dante with us, a requested guest, over and over. But

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie a few years, actually seriously, and

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Speaker 1: you're not gonna lie a few years. Maybe you want

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Speaker 1: to reply to us back then you're not. I don't

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Speaker 1: ever not do that. I see it. I need. But

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Speaker 1: people were like, you gotta have Dante on, and I'm like, why,

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Speaker 1: but why Dan? Why we gotta have you on? Why

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Speaker 1: do you think people all do? I try to stay righteous.

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Speaker 1: That's it. That's man, and that's on the on the

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Speaker 1: on the strength. So my my podcast, I've been doing

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Speaker 1: my podcast for eight years. Who's the name of this Man? School?

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Speaker 1: Two oh to initially was the Beige Philip Show before

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Speaker 1: Baige Philip. It was a Black Philip show that I

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Speaker 1: did with Patrice o'neio back in two thousand six. We

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Speaker 1: did it as a radio shown. You bitch was in

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Speaker 1: high school, you know if I don't know if stuff

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Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, so you got a podcast. But what

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Speaker 1: are you known for? Because to me, when people are

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Speaker 1: like you need Dante on, what's why, how do people

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Speaker 1: know you? What do they know you for? Being? Well?

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Speaker 1: So just as a relationship gurule I guess that would

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Speaker 1: be married I am now recently, but you was given

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Speaker 1: though relationship advice before you was married? Yeah, but made

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Speaker 1: because I know everything about this. So let me let

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Speaker 1: me give you the background. So, uh, I was a

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Speaker 1: male strip of for ten years. Well now we talk

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Speaker 1: about we're talking about like years ago. Okay, So so

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Speaker 1: I was a male stripper. You know, I will bring

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Speaker 1: up the Instagram and so I was a male strippid

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Speaker 1: for ten years and then I got into I was

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Speaker 1: like managing other male strippers, and then I started managing

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Speaker 1: Personal personal management also starts when p I am. I

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Speaker 1: did that for for for a few years. And so

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Speaker 1: the perspective of being a male strippers, you have to

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Speaker 1: you have to understand, you have to understand attraction from

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Speaker 1: a woman's perspective. If you can't if you don't understand that,

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Speaker 1: then you don't make no money. So and the way

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Speaker 1: men's see attraction is different than the way women see attraction.

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Speaker 1: I am interested to and we're going to get into

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Speaker 1: it later. But a lot about you know, pimping is

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Speaker 1: perceived in a way that's so misogynistic. But but I mean,

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Speaker 1: I'm assuming that you did protect women. So I want

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Speaker 1: when we've discussed it with escorts, a lot of women

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Speaker 1: we meet are independent and it seems like a good

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Speaker 1: referencing clients and stuff like that. I mean, even when

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Speaker 1: who's who rids them and knows that they you know,

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Speaker 1: somebody that got their back, somebody that can, you know,

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Speaker 1: if that needs be so, I mean, that's the point

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Speaker 1: there's when I say, uh righteous, there's a business principles

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Speaker 1: I didn't like, I don't. I don't think nobody decides

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Speaker 1: Here's what happens is you you would never think that

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Speaker 1: has to say to you, yo, you know I did

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Speaker 1: start out thinking that's like nobody who goes I want

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Speaker 1: perspective I'm saying. The perspective of it is the same.

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Speaker 1: It's the same. So I have a I have a

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Speaker 1: thing that I always say, um that true wisdom is

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Speaker 1: the understanding of underlying concepts how they relate to situations

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Speaker 1: that seem irrelevant. But really I'm not meaning if you

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Speaker 1: learn something and you boil it down to the route

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Speaker 1: to the to the cosmic and universal truth. That truth

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Speaker 1: can be reapplied over and over and over and over

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Speaker 1: again in situations that seem like they wouldn't like, like

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Speaker 1: But if you can't funk one woman properly? How you

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Speaker 1: But you're not every day if you're with them and

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Speaker 1: about what I know what people think of pimping, whether

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Speaker 1: all live together? Yeah, one time I lived with all

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Speaker 1: and then the colt takes care of you. So do

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Speaker 1: they get money separately? Well, you you take care of

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Speaker 1: talking about the pimping, but it's just it's relationships. You'll

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Speaker 1: video with this dude me. I'm like, not this saying

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Speaker 1: it's worked, because it wasn't just up down down was

427
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Speaker 1: like a little. It was like different. Okay, okay, okay,

428
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Speaker 1: it's like because that sound schools around and all the

429
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 1: back the board text is in from the left side

430
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:12,720
Speaker 1: out from the other, the little of his dick in

431
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Speaker 1: the vagina, the board text, the cord text, and ice

432
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Speaker 1: creams the fun give me. I just want to get fucked,

433
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:24,639
Speaker 1: like yeah, but I'm not out. But you just we

434
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:28,120
Speaker 1: normally associate just the position. But I guess I've never

435
00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:33,680
Speaker 1: thought that he was I was good what I call

436
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Speaker 1: a utility. I feel like it was seven and a

437
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Speaker 1: half around. It's like I'm around around eight the corn

438
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:46,359
Speaker 1: him the half. But it's like I said, it's not

439
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 1: a point o dick, but it's a it's a utility.

440
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:51,680
Speaker 1: Like it's like a pickup truck, like because he just

441
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:53,879
Speaker 1: puick a couch up. I got you, but like I

442
00:24:53,920 --> 00:25:01,639
Speaker 1: can't move the whole apartment all right with this fridge.

443
00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, okay, now you already kind of just

444
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 1: gave it to us. But our Horror Derve segment is

445
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:12,439
Speaker 1: the sex tips, and we love to leave it to

446
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Speaker 1: the guests. Do you have any one blanket tip that

447
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:17,160
Speaker 1: maybe works for everybody that men for women, women for men.

448
00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 1: I think, um, so one of the things that I said,

449
00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:24,920
Speaker 1: you can't whenever relationship doesn't work, it's and I get

450
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 1: in trouble for this a lot of times because it's

451
00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:31,639
Speaker 1: always the man's fault. And I'll tell you why, because it's, Um,

452
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,399
Speaker 1: if you have a woman that's too strong, you can't

453
00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:37,200
Speaker 1: tell a woman you know, I mean, and all of

454
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:40,160
Speaker 1: y'all have done this. Oh girl, he's nice, give him

455
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:44,359
Speaker 1: a chance. What you're really saying is he's not strong

456
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:49,119
Speaker 1: enough to handle you, so be weaker so that you

457
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 1: can give him an opportunity. And you can't do that.

458
00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 1: That that alleviates the the attraction. The attraction is the

459
00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 1: fact that he is stronger, like a woman only finds

460
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:02,920
Speaker 1: him and attractive who she thinks is better than her,

461
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:07,359
Speaker 1: and better is a is a relative term. I agree

462
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:09,560
Speaker 1: that it's a relative term because if you got to

463
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:13,800
Speaker 1: do who you feel is better. I've always said that,

464
00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:16,120
Speaker 1: like when it comes out of my mouth, I've said,

465
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:18,879
Speaker 1: I like men I can learn from not necessarily in

466
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:23,280
Speaker 1: my him I thinking better, but I see to what

467
00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:26,360
Speaker 1: you think is better. Yeah, I wonder if that's why.

468
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 1: Sometimes the age is what attracts me, Like I feel

469
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:31,640
Speaker 1: like younger men aren't getting it, or maybe like I've

470
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:39,440
Speaker 1: experienced too much. Tell me something. I've already had ice cream.

471
00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 1: But that's interesting because I want to know how you

472
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 1: feel about that, because like when he said it, I

473
00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:49,320
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, he's too nice, or give him a chance.

474
00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:52,359
Speaker 1: But what if it's because someone is being good to

475
00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:55,640
Speaker 1: us and we're not used to that. It's still his

476
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:59,639
Speaker 1: inability to recognize that he's being too nice is is

477
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:05,360
Speaker 1: his deficiency. So even the fact that he's he's deficient

478
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:08,959
Speaker 1: in his ability to perceive what's going on. And so you,

479
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,160
Speaker 1: like I say, if you want to be a man,

480
00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 1: there's no vacation days and manhood you got to show

481
00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:19,120
Speaker 1: up every day. This is a toxic. This is interesting

482
00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:21,399
Speaker 1: because I agree and don't agree, so I but I

483
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:26,200
Speaker 1: also just kind of had this conversation last night as well,

484
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:29,840
Speaker 1: like to the fact that when you date someone, um,

485
00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:31,960
Speaker 1: you need to allow them to show you who they are.

486
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:36,439
Speaker 1: And I was having this conversation because my my nigga

487
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,640
Speaker 1: hates how much I passenger seat drive, and he's like,

488
00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:41,399
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is with you and driving,

489
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,119
Speaker 1: but you just you know, I'm gonna get you to

490
00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:46,720
Speaker 1: where you need to go. Oh, you're such a control

491
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:54,560
Speaker 1: for anything. So so even I was like, he was like,

492
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 1: you have to like allow me to show you that

493
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:01,240
Speaker 1: I can get you by point into being a control

494
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:05,360
Speaker 1: fee fee control freak is a product of your own

495
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:08,720
Speaker 1: personal insecurity. I can get that, and so if you're

496
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 1: not insecure about yourself, then you you don't need to

497
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 1: control everything around. But I mean, I guess it's also

498
00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:16,479
Speaker 1: more so just other things that I've been in, I mean,

499
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 1: should I've been in two car accidents and with all

500
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:23,919
Speaker 1: of my friends have have have totaled their vehicles and

501
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 1: now I'm in it. It's not total right now, but

502
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 1: which is your insecurity about being in a car? I

503
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:35,320
Speaker 1: had a huge trust issue. So for sure we're we're

504
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 1: pulling out my insecurities. I have a huge insecurity and

505
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:41,200
Speaker 1: allowing the trust for someone. And it is crazy because

506
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:44,200
Speaker 1: even my other podcast, My My my producer, she posted

507
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 1: my episode last night. I was like this, this one

508
00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 1: supposed to God some Monday, and she was like, oh

509
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:49,160
Speaker 1: my god, the first time you trust someone and look,

510
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 1: I sucked up. And so she even knows how how

511
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 1: hard it is for me to give up any sort

512
00:28:54,720 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 1: of power to anyone else. But so as in order

513
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 1: to gain that trust, I have to recognize immediately that you.

514
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 1: I have to be president enough to recognize that you're insecure,

515
00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:12,880
Speaker 1: and then I gotta as you start to I should

516
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 1: be able to see you rev up, and I should

517
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 1: be able to go, look, listen, that's what he did.

518
00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 1: That's what he did, and that's what you do. Even

519
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 1: when his gaslight is on, I'll be like, Nigga, I

520
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 1: ain't gonna push this truck. And he's like, you don't

521
00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 1: think I know how long I can drive in my

522
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 1: own car, even that it's not even that's too much. Yea,

523
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 1: that's what the explanation of it is. Too much. You

524
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 1: have he has to go listened, not even until not

525
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:46,080
Speaker 1: even going through the mind. I know that even that

526
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 1: it's too much because any discussion gives you room and

527
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 1: I got you gotta, you gotta. So so when you

528
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 1: ask about a sex tip, it's it's being present. You

529
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 1: have to be present. So being president being in the moment.

530
00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:04,920
Speaker 1: And in order to be president, you have to be

531
00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:08,840
Speaker 1: the best version of yourself so that when you when

532
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:12,280
Speaker 1: you're making moves, you're ready, like you've trained. It's a

533
00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 1: boxing match. You have to have been trained and did

534
00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:16,959
Speaker 1: your road work and did your pad work and eight right,

535
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:19,640
Speaker 1: so you're ready. So when you step into this situation,

536
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:24,360
Speaker 1: you're not insecure. Also normalize the word insecure for a

537
00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:27,840
Speaker 1: moment because to be able to have an adult conversation

538
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: to acknowledge like, yes, I know, like we've we've attacked

539
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 1: me and they're using that word before um. But that's

540
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 1: why I really do also appreciate like, and I can

541
00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 1: take that and what you're saying and not use insecures.

542
00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're brolling me. But take it after

543
00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:46,120
Speaker 1: but take it as I understand that I do have

544
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 1: a huge trust trust issue with people. But that has

545
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 1: that has to become that has to come from his

546
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 1: his authenticity. But When you know securities, you can help

547
00:30:56,920 --> 00:31:00,200
Speaker 1: people that you're dating your partner guide you through them.

548
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 1: You know, one of my biggest insecurities is consistently across

549
00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:07,760
Speaker 1: the board, not providing enough. Like this week, I'm very

550
00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:10,280
Speaker 1: busy with work and I haven't been able to, you know,

551
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:12,400
Speaker 1: make dinner or do certain things, and it's always on

552
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:15,120
Speaker 1: my mind, like it's an irrational fear, but like, oh,

553
00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 1: I nett to somebody because I can't make dinner, like

554
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 1: really strange. I don't know where it comes from, me

555
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:22,120
Speaker 1: feeling like I have to do it all, But it's

556
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 1: a I feel like from and just from even me

557
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 1: being around you growing up your mom. I think it

558
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 1: comes from that your mom is so catering. I know

559
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 1: that even when we would come home late from the club,

560
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 1: she would be like, do you ladies need any water?

561
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 1: Y'all want me to make you cheese? And my mom

562
00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 1: does not sit. Your mom does not stop. So I

563
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 1: feel like you may have just innately took those things.

564
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 1: And I don't see it as a bad thing at all,

565
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 1: But if you're saying like, fuck, it's some relationships crazy

566
00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:51,320
Speaker 1: to look at. So when you're a child and your

567
00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 1: mom is around that is the true depiction of what

568
00:31:54,680 --> 00:32:02,480
Speaker 1: you see womanhood as problem. To see, my mom didn't work,

569
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 1: not sincessarily. My mom was a housewife. So now I'm

570
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:11,440
Speaker 1: trying to be that woman and very much a lot

571
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 1: of the times don't feel like I can fulfill both.

572
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 1: But what you're saying is what what's crazy, And I

573
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 1: think that it's what makes women so great right now too,

574
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:21,680
Speaker 1: is the fact that you do still have we still

575
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 1: have this social construct of gender roles in our mind.

576
00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:26,800
Speaker 1: So when we do get into these relationships, we do

577
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 1: still want to come off as wifey or girlfriend material,

578
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 1: and so we do know that we have to clean

579
00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 1: and do all of these things clean than me just

580
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 1: tidies up. Oh my god, my nigga be doing to say,

581
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 1: I'd be like literally feelings. I was like, babe, I've

582
00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:45,040
Speaker 1: been out, so don't judge me. It'll be clean. I

583
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:47,959
Speaker 1: can't like buzz him up without the conversation of like,

584
00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 1: it's gonna be really bad. Well, you gotta also be

585
00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:56,720
Speaker 1: able to you. You gotta be able to forgive yourself

586
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 1: for your own flaws. So I think what happens more

587
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:02,640
Speaker 1: over than not, we have this this ideal self and

588
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:06,160
Speaker 1: if we're we're genuinely working to be the best version

589
00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 1: of ourselves, then that that should be enough. The problem

590
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 1: comes in when you when you set these goals that

591
00:33:11,960 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 1: you that are unrealistic, and then you don't forgive yourself.

592
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 1: I mean, we're all human beings. These two things that

593
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 1: you will always have to do for the rest of

594
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:22,240
Speaker 1: your life is give forgiveness and ask for forgiveness. So

595
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:25,880
Speaker 1: as long as you start at that base that mistakes

596
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 1: are okay, as long as we are working to to

597
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 1: fix those things. And so getting back to the so

598
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 1: that same principle is present in in sexs and so

599
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:39,880
Speaker 1: paying attention being present in that situation. So for instance,

600
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 1: like I'll tell dudes who I So I do a

601
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:45,560
Speaker 1: consultation business as well, like Bill, you can go on

602
00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 1: my website downton or dot com and you can click

603
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 1: on consulting and you could you could, you could hit

604
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:53,680
Speaker 1: me up and book time with me. But so if

605
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:56,640
Speaker 1: you got say, for instance, if a guy's missionary style

606
00:33:56,880 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 1: right and he's present, if you have a woman is

607
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 1: pushing her hamstrings against your your quad, your thighs, you're

608
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 1: too deep, you're too deep, you're too hard. But but

609
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:13,320
Speaker 1: if you're if it's deep. Your your hips will relax

610
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 1: and your legs will fall, so you're you're you have

611
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 1: to pay attention to to what those those those physical cues.

612
00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:24,279
Speaker 1: So if if she's pushing against you, you you can't

613
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 1: go Yeah, I gotta know and and and you have

614
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 1: to you gotta meet, right. That's the interesting thing about

615
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:32,919
Speaker 1: men and as I when I was younger, I feel

616
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 1: like dudes would always want that compliment from making girls

617
00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 1: scream and things like that. It's like, my most enjoyable

618
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 1: sex wasn't me fucking screaming, but it might have been

619
00:34:41,880 --> 00:34:44,239
Speaker 1: if that's where you're at. But the point is point

620
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 1: of like trying so hard to get this reaction when

621
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:48,960
Speaker 1: you're really not putting thoughts. But then when then the

622
00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:51,560
Speaker 1: reaction is what you want, it's not what she wants,

623
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 1: so you gotta pay it. Like even if you you

624
00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:55,960
Speaker 1: know gods to be like, what's what's the best way

625
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,440
Speaker 1: to go down on a girl? And I go, you can't,

626
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:02,720
Speaker 1: it's not it's not the same. You know your partner

627
00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 1: is what you really need to do? The next thing out,

628
00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 1: how do you go down? I would say, you know

629
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:12,120
Speaker 1: there's women that wants direct content, there's contact women that

630
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:15,439
Speaker 1: can't take direct come because small circles on the hood

631
00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:24,640
Speaker 1: underneathing's not the hoodics. This is the podcast. So what

632
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,600
Speaker 1: I'm saying is is so what I would tell a

633
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:32,480
Speaker 1: dude is is if you watch a woman's diaphragm, you

634
00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 1: watch her diaphragm drop and increases she's breathing. The deeper

635
00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:41,560
Speaker 1: the breathing is, the more you're you want point because

636
00:35:41,560 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: that's as her as her breathing deepens just because she's

637
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:48,000
Speaker 1: she's going, she's more relaxed and she's falling into it

638
00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 1: deeper and he and it becomes more sensual. So if

639
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:56,000
Speaker 1: you're watching her stomach, her abdomen rise and fall, and

640
00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:58,520
Speaker 1: if you've done that, the hey things you want to

641
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:02,040
Speaker 1: the last you don't want hus right and you think,

642
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 1: oh I got because it's ego. But you in order

643
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:09,839
Speaker 1: to remove the ego, you gotta first be dope. So

644
00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:14,919
Speaker 1: if you're not dope, then you're trying to you. You said,

645
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 1: if that's man's insecurity. So if I'm present and this

646
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:21,360
Speaker 1: is about this comes from an authentic place of me

647
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:24,759
Speaker 1: trying to please you, then I'm paying attention. I think

648
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 1: we could do. That's a tip of both to be

649
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:30,279
Speaker 1: honest with you, Absolutely, the diaphragm should like I've learned that,

650
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:32,040
Speaker 1: like I said, from women, because it was a little

651
00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 1: bit easier to notice. But like after that, I've not

652
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:37,880
Speaker 1: consciously all the time, but I listened to breath like

653
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:40,360
Speaker 1: a lot, and when I'm pleasing somebody or like the

654
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 1: sounds and like yeah, I don't even like music because

655
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 1: I need to I need this, I need to zone

656
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 1: in anyway real quick. I want to do this whole

657
00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:53,120
Speaker 1: fact because I found this ship to be super interesting. Um,

658
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 1: you know there's only all of them shows John Kate

659
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:57,799
Speaker 1: plus A and all these bitches popping out babies. This

660
00:36:57,880 --> 00:37:02,279
Speaker 1: whole fact most a thick mom ginness world Bricker records

661
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:08,399
Speaker 1: and this was from book a world record. What said,

662
00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:10,439
Speaker 1: you messed it up? But it's glad. Just wanted to

663
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:16,799
Speaker 1: go ahead, go ahead, and there's a plethora. I think

664
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:20,480
Speaker 1: you can't say it either way though, thank you. You

665
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:23,799
Speaker 1: can say anyway. This bit of plathora of children, UM

666
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 1: nasty enough, biggest hole I know because the number is

667
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:31,920
Speaker 1: sixty nine kids. Fucking insane. The woman was from Shuya, Russia,

668
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:34,839
Speaker 1: identified as the only wife and this man. But by

669
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:36,239
Speaker 1: the way, it was on record for having the most

670
00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:40,320
Speaker 1: children too of fedor vasiliv and she had twenty seven pregnancies,

671
00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 1: sixteen pairs of twins, seven sets of triplets, four sets

672
00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:55,400
Speaker 1: of quadruplets according to the world record, six twenty seven pregnancies.

673
00:37:56,239 --> 00:38:00,400
Speaker 1: I think he had for pregnancy. It's also grows sleep

674
00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:03,920
Speaker 1: selfish on her part. There's no way that she can

675
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:07,319
Speaker 1: that she can provide and give those children the emotional

676
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:10,399
Speaker 1: support for them to be productive human beings. I think

677
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 1: Max maybe too wow for me. My Max would be body,

678
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:22,400
Speaker 1: that's my cat. I think the Max probably could be

679
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:26,440
Speaker 1: for one one for me. Care for maybe if you do,

680
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:29,759
Speaker 1: you're not working you independently riching you. I mean, if

681
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:31,919
Speaker 1: you think about how many people you know that it's

682
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:36,719
Speaker 1: just garbage, their garbage because people you know you have

683
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:40,319
Speaker 1: children and you you you're not raising them how you

684
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 1: want them to be as adults. You're raising them just

685
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 1: as it happens. My mom tells me all the time

686
00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:48,319
Speaker 1: that she's like, I couldn't have had another one. She's like,

687
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:49,920
Speaker 1: I felt like there was a lot of energy and

688
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:51,799
Speaker 1: a lot of things I wanted to teach you, And

689
00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:54,440
Speaker 1: she was like, and I couldn't balance myself like I

690
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 1: think one was it, Like she always says that she's

691
00:38:56,520 --> 00:38:58,080
Speaker 1: I don't think another one could have came out, And

692
00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 1: I think also it's a situation when you you know,

693
00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:02,920
Speaker 1: it's it's sort of like behind a new laptop and

694
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:07,360
Speaker 1: then you back up the laptop from your old, your old,

695
00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 1: get your old backup. You know what I mean, Like

696
00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 1: you you forgot you know what I'm saying, Like you

697
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:16,920
Speaker 1: have viruses and malware and then you you just download

698
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:19,399
Speaker 1: all your ship into this brand new laptop and then

699
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:27,440
Speaker 1: you want to love analogy If you take a laptop,

700
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:30,160
Speaker 1: you know what I would go crazy with. And tell

701
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,279
Speaker 1: me if your wife does I feel like if I

702
00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 1: got in an argument and you brought up some analogy

703
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:38,480
Speaker 1: analogy and compared me to so I'd be like, shut

704
00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 1: your my My wife was listening to my party. She's

705
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:47,840
Speaker 1: from England and she was listening to my podcast for

706
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:50,760
Speaker 1: four years. She was dating this dude. She kept telling her, dude,

707
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:54,520
Speaker 1: listen to this podcast. Listen and then she came from

708
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 1: England to get me, like her with the intention to

709
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:03,319
Speaker 1: get me, and and that she got you. It's a

710
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:07,560
Speaker 1: it's a it's a it's a situation where you, and

711
00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 1: I always say I would never or be with a fan,

712
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:12,279
Speaker 1: so you would you consider her a fan? Though? No?

713
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:15,880
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, everybody's a fan until you know somebody,

714
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:17,560
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I'm quite sure you know

715
00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:23,919
Speaker 1: famish people, you know famous people in the fan. I don't.

716
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:27,480
Speaker 1: I don't know body's fan, do you know what I mean?

717
00:40:27,760 --> 00:40:29,719
Speaker 1: We just got on Charlottegne's network. I think we could

718
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 1: both agree we're a fan of that legacy, a fan

719
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:34,279
Speaker 1: of his work, fan of I don't. I don't look

720
00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:37,319
Speaker 1: at it as a fan. I look as inspired. I'm

721
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:41,240
Speaker 1: inspired by great people. Now because you're attracted to I'm sorry,

722
00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 1: I think this is and I'm gonna say that because

723
00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:49,440
Speaker 1: I feel like when when you dig you're digesting digesting

724
00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:52,239
Speaker 1: it differently because you're into her, right, you find her attractive.

725
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,399
Speaker 1: There's something different about her to where she don't look

726
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 1: like a crazy fan to you. But let her have

727
00:40:56,120 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 1: been ugly and she didn't came here to get your absolutely,

728
00:40:58,560 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 1: And I mean I would never say that that. I

729
00:41:01,280 --> 00:41:03,800
Speaker 1: don't want somebody who I don't find it in the line.

730
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,319
Speaker 1: The fandom is just dissolving because I think it changed

731
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:08,960
Speaker 1: for you. But it's still fans don't always changed for me.

732
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:13,399
Speaker 1: The point is, you know, I've had fans who see

733
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 1: me as fans, and I go and I don't want.

734
00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 1: I don't really want see. Fandom is an interesting thing,

735
00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:22,040
Speaker 1: I think because you you, if you, if you idolize people,

736
00:41:22,200 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 1: what you're what you're ultimately saying is wow, you do

737
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:27,680
Speaker 1: something that I can't do. And I don't never think

738
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 1: somebody does something that I can't accomplish. I could never

739
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:34,399
Speaker 1: be in the NBA, and and and so I could

740
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:39,240
Speaker 1: never how hard I could never What you're talking about

741
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 1: the physicality of it. What I'm saying is somebody who's

742
00:41:42,160 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 1: accomplishing things. I don't never look at somebody and go, oh,

743
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:49,520
Speaker 1: that dude's better than me. Makes you I really just

744
00:41:49,560 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 1: felt like you were a little better than me, because

745
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:55,800
Speaker 1: ain't nobody come from England to come get us? Not

746
00:41:57,200 --> 00:42:01,880
Speaker 1: eight years we only three and a half were coming up,

747
00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 1: and he said she came four years ago. No, two

748
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 1: years ago, Okay, we got we got this. So in

749
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 1: our horrible decision, I have the jack of all hose

750
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:13,280
Speaker 1: because you seem to have done it all this tripping,

751
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:18,680
Speaker 1: the pimping, the relationship, stand up comedy. I was in

752
00:42:19,560 --> 00:42:22,360
Speaker 1: second season of Power. I did a movie with Janet Tatum.

753
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:25,719
Speaker 1: I did Black to eight episodes of Blacklist. You know.

754
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 1: I did acting for a while, and stand up comedy

755
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:32,120
Speaker 1: I've been doing for twenty years a lot. What are

756
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:40,080
Speaker 1: you the worst at? Uh? Yeah, best and worst? I

757
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 1: don't don't you know? You got to self deprecating is fun.

758
00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of I'm just dope. Look me

759
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:55,839
Speaker 1: nothing that I'm not that I want to be good

760
00:42:55,880 --> 00:43:00,239
Speaker 1: at that. I don't that. I don't think that. Like

761
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:03,800
Speaker 1: I suck at tennis, but I don't even care about tennis.

762
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 1: I know that's right, Okay, same, but I suck at chess,

763
00:43:09,680 --> 00:43:12,400
Speaker 1: but I don't care about chess. Um. I don't like

764
00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:16,640
Speaker 1: to gamble. I stuck at cards. I don't like one

765
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 1: of the ever pople say you want to be good

766
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 1: to take the heat to you with his like relationship

767
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,719
Speaker 1: group stuff. And I have a few questions I want

768
00:43:22,719 --> 00:43:25,680
Speaker 1: to get into before we get out. Um. One of

769
00:43:25,760 --> 00:43:29,440
Speaker 1: the ones that comes to my mind that so I

770
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 1: used Reddit a lot for this is so fucking I

771
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 1: sound really crazy, but cooking and like making stuff with

772
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:37,680
Speaker 1: weed because I feel like anything I'll find on Google

773
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:39,880
Speaker 1: is not it? And in this reddit threat there's like

774
00:43:39,880 --> 00:43:42,719
Speaker 1: a woman's only empowerment thread and there's no men in there,

775
00:43:42,719 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 1: and basically they try to talk amongst each other with

776
00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 1: things that they want to know, and a lot of

777
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:49,479
Speaker 1: the younger girls in these threads asked some basic ask

778
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:51,799
Speaker 1: questions that sometimes I think I don't know the answer to.

779
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:56,560
Speaker 1: And one of them is do sleepovers mean anything? I mean,

780
00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:59,080
Speaker 1: if you have a guy, of course it means something.

781
00:43:59,239 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 1: I mean, but a guy is the problem is that

782
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:07,680
Speaker 1: you're being disingenuous. The woman is being disingenuous. If you

783
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:09,759
Speaker 1: know when a guy likes you, you know if he

784
00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:11,960
Speaker 1: wants to fuck. I don't think women know when a

785
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:14,520
Speaker 1: guy likes I don't think I don't know were we

786
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:16,480
Speaker 1: as women are telling you, we don't know when a

787
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:20,800
Speaker 1: guy really we don't like. We don't really like you.

788
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 1: So if we're hanging out with you, we like you.

789
00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:26,400
Speaker 1: I'm not hanging out with somebody I don't like. But

790
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 1: if I don't like you, I want to fuck. So

791
00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 1: you know that. Okay, But I think that's the issue.

792
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:35,400
Speaker 1: I can't figure And when I say I in this moment,

793
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 1: I have someone that loves me back and we're together

794
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:39,920
Speaker 1: and it's cool. I get it. But even with that

795
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:43,799
Speaker 1: nigga in the beginning, Dante, no, I did not know

796
00:44:43,880 --> 00:44:46,319
Speaker 1: if he was passing the time or wanted to suck

797
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:49,960
Speaker 1: me or actually saw something in how long? We mean?

798
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 1: Did he want to We? We want to fuck you.

799
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:56,200
Speaker 1: We we always want to suck you. The point is

800
00:44:56,400 --> 00:45:00,440
Speaker 1: once we we once we fuck you, then we go, okay,

801
00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:02,719
Speaker 1: what else? What else you got? Like? What else is

802
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:05,240
Speaker 1: in the fridge? That's an interesting point. So you're telling

803
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:07,480
Speaker 1: me that the sex happens, and then they're kind of

804
00:45:07,520 --> 00:45:09,080
Speaker 1: just waiting to see where it goes, because that's what

805
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:11,879
Speaker 1: this basically the thing is what happens. You know, you'll

806
00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:14,640
Speaker 1: find a situation where you you you know, a woman

807
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:17,240
Speaker 1: is holding the sex because she thinks so whatever whatever,

808
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:22,520
Speaker 1: I agree with that sex not, but I want what

809
00:45:22,600 --> 00:45:25,319
Speaker 1: you got to give? Now? What do you have to

810
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 1: give now? What you have to give may not be

811
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:31,879
Speaker 1: worth ship. You may be garbage and the pussy might

812
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 1: be bananas, and you might be garbage order order, or

813
00:45:35,160 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 1: you might be guard the pussy might be garbage and you,

814
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:41,240
Speaker 1: you know whatever. The point is that there are human beings,

815
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:47,200
Speaker 1: a physical intellectual and emotional intimacy. So we all have

816
00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:50,279
Speaker 1: a kind of a standard that we want those things

817
00:45:50,280 --> 00:45:53,759
Speaker 1: that maybe you want an eight in in intimacy and

818
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,040
Speaker 1: you want to you know your mind and you're not

819
00:45:56,080 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 1: being that dumb or maybe you're not that smart or whatever,

820
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:02,840
Speaker 1: but you you need those things to meet we Which

821
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 1: is more important? None is more important? Because I know

822
00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:10,279
Speaker 1: I've had I've done consultations with women where it had

823
00:46:10,280 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 1: a gorgeous dude with the sea at the six packet

824
00:46:12,640 --> 00:46:17,560
Speaker 1: had to come gutters, you know, and I call him,

825
00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 1: I'm um, but this dude was like, I didn't know

826
00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 1: pickles was cucumbers. And you're like, so what I'm saying,

827
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:38,520
Speaker 1: even if you even if the sexiest bananas, if he's dumb,

828
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:43,880
Speaker 1: that's gonna wear out. If he's got nothing else but

829
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:47,360
Speaker 1: but dang in sex and there after while I mean

830
00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:50,839
Speaker 1: whatever wherever you're at sexually, that may last. Times it's

831
00:46:50,880 --> 00:46:52,919
Speaker 1: so good. It's like when I talk about the broke,

832
00:46:54,560 --> 00:47:00,520
Speaker 1: like I'd be like, yo, started amazon story, dude, right,

833
00:47:00,600 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 1: but let's take it back to sleepovers, right, so you're

834
00:47:03,560 --> 00:47:06,480
Speaker 1: staying of course it means something. Sure, I'm hanging with

835
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:09,200
Speaker 1: you to be homeless. No, no, no no, I'm talking about

836
00:47:09,360 --> 00:47:14,840
Speaker 1: let's say sleepovers. Okay, what if he got allergies and

837
00:47:14,880 --> 00:47:20,680
Speaker 1: his mattresses? What You're at a house, he invites you over,

838
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:22,799
Speaker 1: tells you to come through its eleven pm. Let's do

839
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:25,200
Speaker 1: that time frame. Eleven pm you come over to fuck?

840
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 1: What happens one now it's too and he doesn't ask

841
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 1: you to go home? Is that an intentional sleepover? Does

842
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:36,319
Speaker 1: that mean something? This is so And this is what

843
00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:39,760
Speaker 1: I tell dudes who listen to my podcast, just ask

844
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:44,759
Speaker 1: like what you like if you you staying? You know,

845
00:47:45,080 --> 00:47:47,040
Speaker 1: like even when you said you're doing about my women,

846
00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:49,400
Speaker 1: you're telling them they should be like, hey, like is

847
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:53,239
Speaker 1: this something? Because I'm having you want to we do well?

848
00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:54,960
Speaker 1: First of all, if you want to sleep over and

849
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:58,440
Speaker 1: you're gonna fu, all you gotta do is it's real easy.

850
00:47:58,840 --> 00:48:01,600
Speaker 1: You don't have to do to stay. Need that. But

851
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:04,560
Speaker 1: I'm saying if there's a if I'm not gonna I

852
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:08,120
Speaker 1: will like, I don't do awkward. So if I'm hanging

853
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 1: with you and I'm like yo, you're not like even

854
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:13,000
Speaker 1: if even when I was dating, if I'm with somebody

855
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 1: and it's like I'm like yo, and I'm not. I'm like, yo,

856
00:48:17,719 --> 00:48:19,680
Speaker 1: you don't if you don't like me, it's cool. I

857
00:48:19,719 --> 00:48:22,360
Speaker 1: could be out well, you know, I to see you

858
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 1: as a friend, like, yeah, I don't. I don't. I

859
00:48:24,120 --> 00:48:26,440
Speaker 1: don't want to be your friend, not into your friends.

860
00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:32,320
Speaker 1: I want, I want whatever. I think that's a great

861
00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:34,239
Speaker 1: thing for women to start doing. When they're saying like

862
00:48:34,239 --> 00:48:35,680
Speaker 1: we're cool, we're kicking in like, I don't want to

863
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 1: just be cool. So I got well, and that's that's

864
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:42,360
Speaker 1: been where I've been when I was in my manifestation

865
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:45,440
Speaker 1: of wanting a partner, That's where I had to be

866
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:47,360
Speaker 1: if a guy was coming to me, well, what do

867
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:48,719
Speaker 1: you want, Well, this is what I want if you

868
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:51,520
Speaker 1: can't give it to me. As women, you need to

869
00:48:51,560 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 1: be okay with walking away with a man who's not

870
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 1: wanting to give you what you want, sure, because you're

871
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 1: not gonna be happy with it anyway. Yeah, you're only

872
00:48:57,719 --> 00:49:01,000
Speaker 1: only gonna be it's only gonna and then eventually it's

873
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,279
Speaker 1: gonna full of pieces and and so guys a lot

874
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 1: of times will be disingenuous so that they get the

875
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 1: pussy and then and then they'll be like just like Barbeach,

876
00:49:11,680 --> 00:49:14,360
Speaker 1: So now it's it's it don't work out for them either.

877
00:49:14,680 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 1: But also men have to realize that there are women.

878
00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:20,120
Speaker 1: We've had this podcast where we've had it, there a

879
00:49:20,120 --> 00:49:22,080
Speaker 1: lot of women should I just want to be so

880
00:49:22,120 --> 00:49:24,520
Speaker 1: I think that men should be upfront more with if

881
00:49:24,560 --> 00:49:26,720
Speaker 1: that's just what you want. There are so many women.

882
00:49:27,520 --> 00:49:30,120
Speaker 1: The question is why are they're not upfront. They're not

883
00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:35,040
Speaker 1: upfront because they're insecure about what they're offering and what

884
00:49:35,120 --> 00:49:37,600
Speaker 1: they have to offer. So if I'm if I go

885
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 1: ask some money and I'm like, I know, look, if

886
00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 1: you whatever you need, I got it. Like I got it.

887
00:49:44,080 --> 00:49:46,400
Speaker 1: Whatever you need, I got it. If I if I

888
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 1: don't got it, I can get it. That means if

889
00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:52,040
Speaker 1: you're you, you're false. It is leaky. I got a plumber.

890
00:49:52,080 --> 00:49:54,239
Speaker 1: If I can't fix it, I know a plumber. If

891
00:49:54,320 --> 00:50:00,640
Speaker 1: you transmission is done, I gotta do he. I I've

892
00:50:00,680 --> 00:50:04,040
Speaker 1: worked at a restaurants. I can cook. I've worked as

893
00:50:04,040 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 1: a head chef restaurants. I've um. I've every girl that

894
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:11,600
Speaker 1: I've dated of any nationality, I've adopted their cuisine. So

895
00:50:11,719 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 1: I do Mexicans now that right? So, But but if

896
00:50:15,600 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 1: you're working to be the best version of yourself. I go,

897
00:50:20,960 --> 00:50:25,720
Speaker 1: I go, hit, this is what I got. I will say,

898
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:30,000
Speaker 1: what you're saying is kind of where I'm I feel

899
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:33,239
Speaker 1: like I do have. I've I've noticed myself and my

900
00:50:33,280 --> 00:50:35,279
Speaker 1: worth and my value and what I do have to offer,

901
00:50:35,960 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 1: which I feel like is why I have one, which

902
00:50:37,640 --> 00:50:40,920
Speaker 1: is because I will say, back then, maybe I didn't

903
00:50:40,920 --> 00:50:42,640
Speaker 1: have all the money, so I knew I wasn't really

904
00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:45,760
Speaker 1: going to be able to value you for you without

905
00:50:45,800 --> 00:50:48,960
Speaker 1: wanting to know what finances you had. Or I didn't

906
00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:51,040
Speaker 1: really cook or know how to cook for niggas, so

907
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:54,080
Speaker 1: I didn't do it. So I definitely see exactly where

908
00:50:54,080 --> 00:50:59,719
Speaker 1: you're coming from. There's a context of the So there's

909
00:50:59,760 --> 00:51:02,279
Speaker 1: a always used this as an analogy because you know,

910
00:51:02,360 --> 00:51:05,600
Speaker 1: that's what I do. Uh. There's a commercial called That's

911
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:09,239
Speaker 1: an our Kia commercial. It chicks the older. She comes

912
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:10,719
Speaker 1: out of the our ke and she looks at the

913
00:51:10,760 --> 00:51:14,520
Speaker 1: bill right, and she goes, hey, me start the car

914
00:51:15,040 --> 00:51:20,440
Speaker 1: right because the bill is so cheap. She's stealing and

915
00:51:20,520 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 1: so she wants to start the car to get out

916
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:25,000
Speaker 1: before she gets caught. So this is what people do

917
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:29,680
Speaker 1: in relationships. You shop lifting the pussy. You you know

918
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 1: your garbage, right, you shot lifting the stop lifting the pussy.

919
00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:39,719
Speaker 1: You know your garbage. And so you've represented yourself and

920
00:51:39,719 --> 00:51:41,640
Speaker 1: now you want to start the call get you want

921
00:51:41,640 --> 00:51:44,759
Speaker 1: to shot lift, you get out before you've found out

922
00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:47,359
Speaker 1: that you didn't pay the proper. Now, if I if

923
00:51:47,400 --> 00:51:48,880
Speaker 1: I come to you, if I come to you and

924
00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:51,320
Speaker 1: I I say I got a g wagon, and I

925
00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:55,480
Speaker 1: show I got this g wagon, listen, bit give me

926
00:51:55,600 --> 00:51:57,520
Speaker 1: a hundred dollars you have this g wagon. You're not

927
00:51:57,560 --> 00:51:59,160
Speaker 1: even gonna go Yo, don't be calling me a bit.

928
00:51:59,239 --> 00:52:01,040
Speaker 1: You're gonna be like, this is giving me a g wag.

929
00:52:02,040 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna I'm not because you know it's

930
00:52:04,680 --> 00:52:08,000
Speaker 1: what your paying is not worth it. So the point

931
00:52:08,120 --> 00:52:11,040
Speaker 1: is if my value, if I'm working on me being

932
00:52:11,040 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 1: the best version of myself, and my value is what

933
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:17,040
Speaker 1: it is, then I don't have If there's no negotiation,

934
00:52:17,480 --> 00:52:21,799
Speaker 1: nobody is at the Bentley shop. I love. This is

935
00:52:21,800 --> 00:52:25,440
Speaker 1: what the prices, this is what I'm thinking. This is

936
00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:29,319
Speaker 1: a great escort conversation. Let me just say She's like,

937
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:33,239
Speaker 1: first of all, these are brands and maybe it was this,

938
00:52:33,360 --> 00:52:36,560
Speaker 1: but now it's f our figures Corinthian level. You know,

939
00:52:36,640 --> 00:52:39,919
Speaker 1: it's but so so. But that's the problem is people

940
00:52:39,920 --> 00:52:42,479
Speaker 1: are lazy and they don't want to be the best

941
00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:44,960
Speaker 1: version of their self and and so, and then they're

942
00:52:45,000 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 1: putting themselves in a situation and negotiating with something. So

943
00:52:48,200 --> 00:52:50,680
Speaker 1: you are used car sales with dog there's no engine

944
00:52:50,680 --> 00:52:57,880
Speaker 1: and that stop. You know, the transmission is Google's not

945
00:52:58,080 --> 00:53:05,040
Speaker 1: for that best analogy. Now, all right, before we get

946
00:53:05,040 --> 00:53:08,040
Speaker 1: out of here, we're gonna do a whole confession from someone.

947
00:53:08,040 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 1: Did you see who was from? No? Uh, he doesn't

948
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:12,319
Speaker 1: want his name said, but he's someone that's been to

949
00:53:12,520 --> 00:53:16,239
Speaker 1: all of our shows and he really sports us. But

950
00:53:16,719 --> 00:53:20,160
Speaker 1: the title is period sex because I need some backup apparently,

951
00:53:20,560 --> 00:53:22,480
Speaker 1: so don't use my name. I'm not embarrassed, but I

952
00:53:22,520 --> 00:53:25,200
Speaker 1: just didn't ask her permission to share the story, respecting

953
00:53:25,239 --> 00:53:27,319
Speaker 1: her privacy. I bet you learned that from us. I

954
00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:29,520
Speaker 1: was dating this fine Latina shape. Why you had to

955
00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:32,040
Speaker 1: tell us that? Right? We don't, we don't, We don't

956
00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 1: got a lot of goddamn wholemals letting us. And we

957
00:53:37,080 --> 00:53:39,279
Speaker 1: had some great chemistry. We sucked outdoors in the car

958
00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:41,120
Speaker 1: in the restaurant, you name it. She came over and

959
00:53:41,160 --> 00:53:43,239
Speaker 1: was giving me head the most amazing head. I wanted

960
00:53:43,239 --> 00:53:45,480
Speaker 1: to suck her so bad. I went for her panties

961
00:53:45,520 --> 00:53:47,440
Speaker 1: and she was like, wait, I'm on my period, to

962
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:51,719
Speaker 1: which I responded, shut up, Mandy, heavy or light day?

963
00:53:51,920 --> 00:53:53,960
Speaker 1: And she said light day and that was a green

964
00:53:54,040 --> 00:53:57,720
Speaker 1: light for me. I proceeded to finger her simultaneously, fish

965
00:53:57,840 --> 00:54:01,200
Speaker 1: out the tampon strength and yank it out. Once that

966
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:03,360
Speaker 1: was out, it was on. We fuck like bunny rapids

967
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:06,200
Speaker 1: and doggy style. When our sexual excursion was over, she

968
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:07,920
Speaker 1: was amazed that I fucked her while on her period,

969
00:54:07,920 --> 00:54:09,879
Speaker 1: to which I responded, I don't give a funk about

970
00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:11,759
Speaker 1: a little blood. And after we lay in the bed,

971
00:54:11,800 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 1: she looked at my white curtains and noticed blood splatter.

972
00:54:15,080 --> 00:54:17,080
Speaker 1: She was horrified. I didn't give a fund because my

973
00:54:17,120 --> 00:54:20,200
Speaker 1: housekeeper was coming to clean. She don't clean out of

974
00:54:20,239 --> 00:54:25,360
Speaker 1: that ship. She was embarrassed that the housekeeper would have

975
00:54:25,400 --> 00:54:29,200
Speaker 1: to clean the blood off the curl dried and iron

976
00:54:29,239 --> 00:54:31,680
Speaker 1: the curtains, so the housekeeper wouldn't know. Until this day,

977
00:54:31,719 --> 00:54:33,800
Speaker 1: we referred to it as the c s I murdersing.

978
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:35,960
Speaker 1: I just wanted easy to not feel alone, and Mandy

979
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:38,040
Speaker 1: did not be so just mental, what's a little blood?

980
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:41,040
Speaker 1: Between partners. It's just the booty hole peg stallion. I

981
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:43,759
Speaker 1: love you both, but don't hack it till you try it, Mandy,

982
00:54:43,880 --> 00:54:46,400
Speaker 1: period sex is great. Love seeing y'all on tour a

983
00:54:46,520 --> 00:54:49,840
Speaker 1: mad love to my face. Let me say something to you. Sorry,

984
00:54:50,040 --> 00:54:52,160
Speaker 1: you acted like this was part of what I do.

985
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:54,680
Speaker 1: First of all, anybody do what you do. I have

986
00:54:55,000 --> 00:54:59,840
Speaker 1: never ever blood curtain, but you'd be fucking with blood

987
00:55:00,320 --> 00:55:02,600
Speaker 1: and they ain't pulling it out. They're pulling on out

988
00:55:03,120 --> 00:55:05,960
Speaker 1: my tampon for me. Oh you pull it out yourself.

989
00:55:06,000 --> 00:55:08,839
Speaker 1: Oh that's the only difference. First of all, I do

990
00:55:08,880 --> 00:55:10,839
Speaker 1: it very good, like, oh my god, don't look down there.

991
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:12,560
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I turn it lights up.

992
00:55:12,560 --> 00:55:14,560
Speaker 1: I ain't have no daytime sex on my period and

993
00:55:16,200 --> 00:55:18,600
Speaker 1: is y. I've pulled it out with my teeth, shook

994
00:55:18,600 --> 00:55:22,320
Speaker 1: it and it against the wall. So it's whatever you

995
00:55:25,080 --> 00:55:32,399
Speaker 1: pulled it out with your come on your type of ship.

996
00:55:32,920 --> 00:55:34,600
Speaker 1: You probably go ahead and nike a fish out of

997
00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:37,360
Speaker 1: tampon off your next time. You're probably gonna get the

998
00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:39,040
Speaker 1: Diva cup just so he could get up in there

999
00:55:39,040 --> 00:55:41,879
Speaker 1: and pull it out your stup. No, you don't wanted

1000
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:43,799
Speaker 1: to pull out your cup why don'd you pull it

1001
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:49,200
Speaker 1: out with your zev sexy That's what it is. It's like,

1002
00:55:50,160 --> 00:55:53,680
Speaker 1: of course, but it was also like, God, my only girl.

1003
00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:55,719
Speaker 1: That happened to her, and she has been in love

1004
00:55:55,760 --> 00:55:59,160
Speaker 1: ever since he did it. On the first time they

1005
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:02,680
Speaker 1: had sex, wan't a going on? I want to leave,

1006
00:56:02,760 --> 00:56:05,520
Speaker 1: and now they're in love. Thank you so much for coming. Everybody,

1007
00:56:05,600 --> 00:56:10,120
Speaker 1: let's go. I've done that, and then on the period,

1008
00:56:10,160 --> 00:56:12,680
Speaker 1: and then she went to get up and I will

1009
00:56:12,760 --> 00:56:16,800
Speaker 1: stay there, and I've went. I've gotten a basin with warm,

1010
00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:20,759
Speaker 1: soapy water and wipe the down basin a little, you

1011
00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 1: know a little, and wipe the down, cleaned up, and

1012
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:33,759
Speaker 1: link covered up his body, worshiping in. So she goes

1013
00:56:33,880 --> 00:56:35,960
Speaker 1: in her head with jack Ball, trade you a nurse to.

1014
00:56:37,120 --> 00:56:38,719
Speaker 1: I mean, I've been around the block. I ain't on

1015
00:56:38,760 --> 00:56:41,160
Speaker 1: the spring chicken. This isn't you know what I'm saying.

1016
00:56:41,160 --> 00:56:44,840
Speaker 1: We do, But it's you got to understand that those

1017
00:56:44,960 --> 00:56:49,919
Speaker 1: those subtle things communicate other things. If I can do that,

1018
00:56:50,239 --> 00:56:54,000
Speaker 1: I love you, It's right, I got you like you.

1019
00:56:55,200 --> 00:56:56,839
Speaker 1: I mean, did you love the woman that you did

1020
00:56:56,840 --> 00:57:00,000
Speaker 1: that too? And it's that's kind of no, but that's

1021
00:57:00,080 --> 00:57:02,680
Speaker 1: but I would say this. It's but I would say

1022
00:57:02,800 --> 00:57:05,200
Speaker 1: I would say this my only ship, ladies, but my

1023
00:57:05,640 --> 00:57:08,759
Speaker 1: but my nature is what I'm not saying that I

1024
00:57:08,800 --> 00:57:11,080
Speaker 1: loved her, but when I'm saying you know, but I'm

1025
00:57:11,080 --> 00:57:16,240
Speaker 1: saying mine. Yeah, but my nature is to be to

1026
00:57:16,400 --> 00:57:19,440
Speaker 1: take care of you. So I'm commute. You know, it's

1027
00:57:19,480 --> 00:57:21,840
Speaker 1: like what you love you or not, I'm gonna take

1028
00:57:21,880 --> 00:57:25,200
Speaker 1: care of you. Got you all right? So ladies, we'll

1029
00:57:25,240 --> 00:57:28,959
Speaker 1: we'll never know actions do not tell us from the UK.

1030
00:57:29,640 --> 00:57:33,480
Speaker 1: I mean I see why, alright And alright, So Dante,

1031
00:57:33,480 --> 00:57:35,880
Speaker 1: where can our followers find you? I know you plugged

1032
00:57:35,880 --> 00:57:37,640
Speaker 1: a couple of times. We also are gonna put it

1033
00:57:37,640 --> 00:57:41,680
Speaker 1: in the description of this episode. UM my podcast is

1034
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:45,640
Speaker 1: man School two oh to dock com. Um, It's on

1035
00:57:45,680 --> 00:57:52,680
Speaker 1: my Instagram, Dante Nero, Um, the the d'antea or dot com.

1036
00:57:52,720 --> 00:57:55,000
Speaker 1: If you want to book time with me, consult with

1037
00:57:55,040 --> 00:57:57,720
Speaker 1: me whatever it's uh, you go d'antaa or dot com.

1038
00:57:57,760 --> 00:57:59,680
Speaker 1: You click on consult and you can just book the

1039
00:57:59,680 --> 00:58:02,320
Speaker 1: time with the one under there that says fish out

1040
00:58:02,360 --> 00:58:08,160
Speaker 1: tamponti and you can check my my my YouTube pages

1041
00:58:08,200 --> 00:58:11,680
Speaker 1: Man School Tool to downtine. Everything's under d'antagnu and man

1042
00:58:11,720 --> 00:58:14,280
Speaker 1: school tool to pretty much you can find everything from that.

1043
00:58:14,640 --> 00:58:17,640
Speaker 1: Thank you so very much. I love a little analogies

1044
00:58:17,680 --> 00:58:19,280
Speaker 1: and all a little. I think you really did school

1045
00:58:19,320 --> 00:58:21,479
Speaker 1: quite a few people, and I think we can still

1046
00:58:21,520 --> 00:58:26,440
Speaker 1: come out here knowing that men are not ace. This

1047
00:58:26,640 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 1: really fun to see the comments because I normally, from

1048
00:58:29,640 --> 00:58:31,400
Speaker 1: the most part, whenever we do an episode, I know

1049
00:58:31,440 --> 00:58:33,600
Speaker 1: when people will like someone, and I know people will

1050
00:58:33,640 --> 00:58:35,320
Speaker 1: like you, especially the man. But I don't want to

1051
00:58:35,360 --> 00:58:37,800
Speaker 1: know what women are gonna think. Are they gonna be angry,

1052
00:58:37,800 --> 00:58:40,000
Speaker 1: are they gonna be happy? Are they gonna feel neutral

1053
00:58:40,840 --> 00:58:48,960
Speaker 1: that their frauds? What do you think if you're not? Really? No,

1054
00:58:49,240 --> 00:58:50,800
Speaker 1: So I don't read the comments anymore, but to me

1055
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Speaker 1: on our Instagram, we asked for people's opinions on Instagram. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not gonna lie. I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: compare you to anyone else. I think that people are

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Speaker 1: just gonna enjoy this whole conversation. Uh, not only with

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Speaker 1: what you had to say, but I think it's really

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Speaker 1: going to have our people thinking, like, damn, let me

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Speaker 1: rethink how what I'm doing, what I'm putting out there,

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Speaker 1: how I view myself, how I value myself, what I

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Speaker 1: want out of my partners. I think everything you said

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Speaker 1: everyone can relate to want I want to One thing

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Speaker 1: I think is really important. Relationships are very easy. People

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Speaker 1: a compliment. All you need to do is understand what

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Speaker 1: your non negotiables are and then never negotiate them. M

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Speaker 1: so so. But but you have to be honest, which

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Speaker 1: is about what you're negotiating and non negotiabents. So if

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Speaker 1: you got a guy and you're saying that fidelity is

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Speaker 1: non negotiable, that means if he steps out, you gotta

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Speaker 1: go now. My therapist has told me that I have

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Speaker 1: five and three of them have to be there. I

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Speaker 1: feel like some are kind of wavering for me, Like

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Speaker 1: one of them was making more money than me, um,

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Speaker 1: and I was in there. No, no non negotiable. But

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Speaker 1: like the more that I grew and the more I

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Speaker 1: got older, I was like, I might not have that.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, I don't even think about that.

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Speaker 1: No more, I don't make good. Isn't that crazy? How good?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. It's just now there's if they got

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Speaker 1: three out of five, I'm cool, fucking I could work

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Speaker 1: on the risk I really like that. I really like that. Well, guys,

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Speaker 1: we are going to leave you, guys with a five

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Speaker 1: Back y'all get in us and be like, y'all always

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Speaker 1: forget the clip. It's just that I think it's included

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Speaker 1: an audio. Is that true? It's always included, So why

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01:00:41,640 --> 01:00:43,920
Speaker 1: do we always forget it on YouTube? Is it your fault?

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Speaker 1: Blame Benson? Blame Benson because I mean, that's that's well,

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Speaker 1: that's a script. But but that's the edit that I

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Speaker 1: send you. But she needs the Patreon. But sometimes he

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Speaker 1: can't get the patreon yet. Be is we we pre

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Speaker 1: record and I insert he's doing the audio. Yeah, he

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Speaker 1: has to overlay the audio onto that it might be

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Speaker 1: a new website. Is blame Benton and Mandy sometimes dot com?

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Speaker 1: Y'all about to blame hard because I how you doing

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Speaker 1: that ship no more? But anyways, if y'all are also

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Speaker 1: all caught up with Horrible Decisions, y'all know. Every Monday,

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Speaker 1: after you guys listen to us, you can go on

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Speaker 1: over to Periods. That is my other podcast. And I

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Speaker 1: also want to thank everyone who has been supportive of

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Speaker 1: my official box owner subscription box. I'm super excited that

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Speaker 1: you guys are a part of that. And also on Tuesday,

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Speaker 1: if y'all want to holler at me see the thing is,

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Speaker 1: go ahead and HOLLI at me. And we these also

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Speaker 1: on Tuesday's, so if you all caught up with that

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Speaker 1: and sick of hearing my voice, you can go on

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Speaker 1: over to listen to Poor Facts sake, um and I

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Speaker 1: love it, and of hearing us, I think you might

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Speaker 1: need to listen to what days of your episodes you

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Speaker 1: look it up? Well, thank you guys. This has been

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Speaker 1: another episode of our Decisions, right. I know where I

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Speaker 1: don't want to start. No, I'm just kidding. UM, let's

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Speaker 1: start with let's start with Ashley and Michael, because that's

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Speaker 1: really where I don't want to go. You know what's crazy?

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Speaker 1: I actually I'm not sure if the rest of y'all agree,

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Speaker 1: let me know in the chat, but I actually am

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Speaker 1: liking Ashley more this season. Then I've liked her in

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Speaker 1: previous season. Um, I think that that baby has done

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Speaker 1: her motherfucking good. I think she grew up a little bit. Um,

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Speaker 1: but I do I think that that is why she

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Speaker 1: is still going through ship with Mr Michael Um. She

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Speaker 1: admitted this season that they have added people to the bedroom. UM.

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Speaker 1: And he came out recently and was like, I don't

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Speaker 1: feel like you're married to me anymore. You show all

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Speaker 1: of your um attention to the baby. And she also

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Speaker 1: opened up about how she doesn't want to swing anymore,

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Speaker 1: and he's like, well, ship, you ain't giving me a

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Speaker 1: tin and you don't want to do this anymore. I'm

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Speaker 1: not gonna lie to like what he said in the

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Speaker 1: in the therapy session, but he pretty much just feels

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Speaker 1: like he's not having the same sexual relationship with Ashley

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Speaker 1: as when they first started to cover their relationship. What

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Speaker 1: are your views on that? Assante and Tammy? I see

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Speaker 1: Tammy raise your hand. Raise your hand so that we

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Speaker 1: can talk about what y'all thoughts are on Ashley and

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Speaker 1: Michael Darby's relationship. But Assante will start with you, yeah,

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Speaker 1: why you tallly them up? Um? Let me just start

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Speaker 1: with I don't have any favorites. I hate them all equally.

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Speaker 1: I mean, they all really play in the mass, which

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Speaker 1: is why we're here, right. It's just I don't like

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Speaker 1: the playing the masks where we're gonna hide our hand

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Speaker 1: because of respectability politics thing that we're doing. I get

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Speaker 1: that that's where they think that there are they are,

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Speaker 1: but they're really not. So I just I just need

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Speaker 1: that veil dropped now to get back to Ashley and

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Speaker 1: why I hate her. Michael wanted to hold having a

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Speaker 1: baby over and you wanted to hold that over her

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Speaker 1: head because of the way that her mom was. That

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Speaker 1: should have been a huge red flag. Do you want

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Speaker 1: to go half with this white man who really wants

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Speaker 1: to say you know, who wants to emotionally abuse you?

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Speaker 1: And then we're gonna open up this conversation about you know,

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Speaker 1: letting people into the bedroom, right, Michael since season one

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Speaker 1: has grabbed as on camera. Now, unless we're gonna do

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Speaker 1: the red table talk with Will and Jada, if if

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Speaker 1: we'll need to come to and we need everybody to

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Speaker 1: be accountable, let's go on ahead and say not only

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Speaker 1: do we open our bedroom, but we open it up

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Speaker 1: to both sexes so everybody can stop motherfucking asking about

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Speaker 1: the Gate ship because Michael, you didn't even talk about

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Speaker 1: you didn't talk about like Mike, you didn't talk about

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Speaker 1: why you told this woman you had a wife and

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Speaker 1: a boyfriend. We didn't go back there? Are you waiting?

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Speaker 1: Are you waiting to go back there? Because is that

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Speaker 1: has not been brought up again? And I was wanting

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Speaker 1: more details on that. Just cleared up the fact that

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Speaker 1: you know the fact that there was a nigger in

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Speaker 1: the room, or you know that he did go up

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Speaker 1: with said woman, but didn't not clear up why he

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Speaker 1: told said woman he got a wife and a boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: So but you are you saying, like, okay, so who's

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Speaker 1: his boyfriend? You know, I don't care if you gotta ask,

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Speaker 1: like you know, have we have we slept with him

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Speaker 1: before or like you know, however, you need to feel

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Speaker 1: comfortable normalizing it. You need to do it because quit

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Speaker 1: pussy footing around and then arguing with black old ass

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Speaker 1: Bill Gates who don't love his damn wife no more

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Speaker 1: like on the reunions that should just be so sorry. No,

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Speaker 1: So I'm not gonna lie um and I'm about to

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Speaker 1: let me a talk on this um topic as well.

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Speaker 1: But I think that that's my problem. Um. And we've

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Speaker 1: talked about it. If you guys noticed, not only with

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Speaker 1: Red but Zach who was our guests this week, we've

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Speaker 1: had bisexual men on the show. And I think it

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Speaker 1: may come to where maybe Ashley doesn't want to admit

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Speaker 1: that she is okay with Michael being bisexual. UM. So

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Speaker 1: I think she used the swinging as a way to like,

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Speaker 1: let it just be known that, yeah, we allow other

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Speaker 1: people into the bedroom. But I think, for whatever reason,

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Speaker 1: they're still shame in women admitting that they're okay with

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Speaker 1: being with a man that may like to play with men. Um.

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Speaker 1: And that's just I think where she finds not being

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Speaker 1: okay with admitting she would rather just be like y'all

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Speaker 1: were swingers than we let other people in the room.

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Speaker 1: Uh miya um, if you can go ahead and unmute

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Speaker 1: what you got to say about the Darby's system, so

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Speaker 1: can you hear me? Just fine? Okay? So I it

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Speaker 1: definitely in the beginning, UH didn't like either one of them.

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Speaker 1: I did feel like Ashley was always doing the most

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Speaker 1: always and everybody's business all that. I do feel like

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Speaker 1: Asante said what I think about Michael, like he just

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Speaker 1: kept moving the gold post on Ashley like and now

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Speaker 1: she has gotten to the goal post finally, like he

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Speaker 1: held the damn baby and then it was you know.

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Speaker 1: Now it's you don't, You're not here for me, but

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Speaker 1: her baby is fresh out