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Speaker 1: It's like the Strava books of Camel's back kind of right. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm really glad she thinks it's funny. I think

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Speaker 2: Delicate political dance, keeping everything peaceful in the family in law.

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Speaker 2: I don't want that little kid going. You got games

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Speaker 1: and if possible, foster in law read the don't rock

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Speaker 1: So he did tell them before, like, hey, I like,

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Speaker 2: So it's like in a way, like, yes, I understand,

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Speaker 2: to be like, all right, it's a it's you're playing politics, yes,

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Speaker 2: So it's like it's a tactical decision to continue to

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Speaker 1: It's gonna take the.

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Speaker 2: Heat off of your wife, off of op.

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Speaker 2: And then also it gives you the avenue to like

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Speaker 1: And also I think that you're saying, like you're suggesting, hey,

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Speaker 2: It'll it'll help take the heat I think off OP

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Speaker 2: just avoiding us all.

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Speaker 3: She hates us all.

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Speaker 2: And it's like, you know, he can have some words.

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Speaker 2: And then also my idea is OP should write a

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Speaker 3: Husband to those I like that idea the pertinent parties.

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Speaker 1: I like that idea. I think it's a it's just

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Speaker 2: I think it's No, I'm not saying OP goes. Oh,

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Speaker 2: I'm totally on bord with that. I'm totally more with that.

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Speaker 1: We're going to dive right in. So. I had a

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Speaker 1: I want to risk getting my babysick. Basically, at Christmas,

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Speaker 1: So I haven't heard from her since. Usually my husband's

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Speaker 1: We used to all go, but then cut it down

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Speaker 1: me and said, no, I didn't do anything wrong. Correct? Correct?

435
00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:32,720
Speaker 1: What correct? Yesterday, it was my daughter's first b day

436
00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:34,800
Speaker 1: and my in law showed up with my sister in

437
00:19:34,880 --> 00:19:40,720
Speaker 1: law and her husband and kids. Surprisingly, honestly, I said hello,

438
00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:43,119
Speaker 1: thank you, and goodbye to her. I didn't want to

439
00:19:43,119 --> 00:19:46,439
Speaker 1: talk to her, and she was super fake towards me,

440
00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:49,720
Speaker 1: acting like a good person in front of everyone. But

441
00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:50,760
Speaker 1: I know the truth.

442
00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:52,800
Speaker 3: I hate the switch up, dude, I know the truth.

443
00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:54,560
Speaker 3: Those kind of people are the worst little what was

444
00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:55,320
Speaker 3: it the Grimlins?

445
00:19:55,400 --> 00:19:58,160
Speaker 1: Right, they're cute and furry is.

446
00:19:58,119 --> 00:20:00,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, we meet him after midnight, Yeah yeah, and then

447
00:20:00,520 --> 00:20:03,680
Speaker 2: they go crazy with that's.

448
00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:05,640
Speaker 1: One of the movies where they goes niche reference. Let's

449
00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:09,960
Speaker 1: niche movie reference. It's sickening how she makes me out

450
00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:12,760
Speaker 1: to be the bad guy when it is the opposite.

451
00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:15,040
Speaker 1: My mother in law and father in law are visibly

452
00:20:15,080 --> 00:20:17,480
Speaker 1: annoyed with me because yesterday they didn't even have two

453
00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:19,520
Speaker 1: words to say with me. I was in the middle

454
00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:21,320
Speaker 1: of a convent with my friends and I was holding

455
00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:23,720
Speaker 1: my daughter, who is chill, and my mother in law

456
00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:27,359
Speaker 1: came over and snatched my daughter aggressively out of my arms,

457
00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:31,480
Speaker 1: without saying anything, and walked away with her. My daughter

458
00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:35,560
Speaker 1: obviously started crying, Hey, are we about to enter the ring?

459
00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:36,800
Speaker 2: Like?

460
00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:38,360
Speaker 1: Are we about to throw down?

461
00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:42,399
Speaker 2: Because you just snatched my child away from me?

462
00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:46,280
Speaker 1: Last time that baby came out of my cooter. Last

463
00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:48,880
Speaker 1: time I checked. The child is faultless.

464
00:20:49,040 --> 00:20:52,920
Speaker 2: Don't involve the child with your negative energy.

465
00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:54,040
Speaker 1: Who's wrong with you?

466
00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:54,919
Speaker 2: So? Like?

467
00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:57,800
Speaker 1: That is honestly atrocious.

468
00:20:57,240 --> 00:20:58,520
Speaker 2: Husband, Where are you at?

469
00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:02,000
Speaker 1: Where are you at? That's hey, we gotta find them.

470
00:21:02,040 --> 00:21:04,159
Speaker 1: They didn't even want to take picks with us, just

471
00:21:04,280 --> 00:21:07,360
Speaker 1: my daughter. And again grabbed her from me to take

472
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:09,600
Speaker 1: a pic with her. Today, I made a post on

473
00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:12,000
Speaker 1: Facebook about the party and added the picks, and I

474
00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:14,520
Speaker 1: didn't add the pick my husband sent me of them

475
00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:16,960
Speaker 1: with my daughter because last time I put up a

476
00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:19,480
Speaker 1: pick of them on my Facebook, my mother in law

477
00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:22,280
Speaker 1: told me she doesn't like putting up picks of herself

478
00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:24,560
Speaker 1: because she doesn't want people to know what she's doing

479
00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:29,320
Speaker 1: or where she's at dot dot dot, So I didn't

480
00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:34,000
Speaker 1: put the pickup. Oh my, I want a monsoon of

481
00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:40,160
Speaker 1: ICUs in the comments, an absolute hurricane flurrying with ICUs,

482
00:21:40,280 --> 00:21:43,959
Speaker 1: just like going everywhere. We have to see this.

483
00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:48,920
Speaker 2: I know exactly what's about to happen here. Someone's gonna

484
00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:50,679
Speaker 2: be mad they were excluded.

485
00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:53,640
Speaker 1: Well, my husband got a nasty text today about how

486
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:55,840
Speaker 1: I am so rude because I didn't put their picture

487
00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:58,200
Speaker 1: on Facebook, how I ignored them completely yesterday, and I'm

488
00:21:58,200 --> 00:21:59,080
Speaker 1: a horrible person.

489
00:21:59,760 --> 00:22:01,600
Speaker 3: So oh, I've never been more mad.

490
00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:04,800
Speaker 1: These people have managed to ruin every single special moment

491
00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:07,760
Speaker 1: in my life. My engagement was ruined because as soon

492
00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:10,080
Speaker 1: as my husband popped the question, my sister in law

493
00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:12,879
Speaker 1: grabbed me by the arm to go to the bathroom

494
00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:17,159
Speaker 1: to change into a ugly butt potato sack white dress

495
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:21,000
Speaker 1: that she bought me even though I looked so good

496
00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:24,000
Speaker 1: with what I had on what she's wait wait wait,

497
00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:26,760
Speaker 1: so if I'm understanding this right, she stopped you in

498
00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 1: the middle of his proposal, dragged you to the bathroom,

499
00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:33,800
Speaker 1: had you change into this dress that she thought was better,

500
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:36,560
Speaker 1: and then put you back to continue the proposal. That

501
00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:40,800
Speaker 1: right there is that is grounds fur. That's like, why

502
00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:42,080
Speaker 1: what do you we.

503
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:45,600
Speaker 2: Need a story about that? Stop that's crazy? Stop it,

504
00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:46,399
Speaker 2: get some help.

505
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:47,080
Speaker 1: Wow.

506
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:49,280
Speaker 3: Pooh, I don't even know what was happening.

507
00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:51,200
Speaker 1: She literally took me away from one of the most

508
00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:54,440
Speaker 1: important moments of my life. Then my baby shower was

509
00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 1: a big mess because my in laws were arguing with

510
00:22:56,960 --> 00:23:00,200
Speaker 1: me over where I should have it, because how to

511
00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:03,359
Speaker 1: be where, they say, even though they weren't paying for it.

512
00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:06,280
Speaker 1: Then my bridal shower was ruined because my sister in

513
00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:09,199
Speaker 1: law decided to buy extra things even though none of

514
00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:12,040
Speaker 1: my bridesmaids told her to, and she decided to throw

515
00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:14,000
Speaker 1: it in my face that she paid them out and

516
00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:18,399
Speaker 1: deserves the most recognition. Wow, this is That's not how

517
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:22,280
Speaker 1: that works, dude. I know we said we from the

518
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:24,359
Speaker 1: very first part we were like, Okay, let's not go

519
00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:28,320
Speaker 1: no contact over that, just like maybe like low medium contact.

520
00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:31,800
Speaker 1: We are in no contact territory. Yeah, I mean like

521
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:34,600
Speaker 1: you were in my baby shower and my proposal.

522
00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:36,639
Speaker 2: No contact from your side, like I wouldn't go like

523
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:40,240
Speaker 2: you know, full on blocking and stuff like that'll create

524
00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:42,680
Speaker 2: probably more problems.

525
00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:43,679
Speaker 1: And stuff and more negativity.

526
00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 2: So you just don't let them reach out, don't go

527
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 2: out of your way to talk to them or.

528
00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:52,680
Speaker 1: Tell them about anything. Yeah, it's a delicate dance at least. Yeah,

529
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:54,159
Speaker 1: it is a delicate dance. That is true. When my

530
00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:56,800
Speaker 1: daughter was born, my in laws argued with the nurse

531
00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:59,080
Speaker 1: staff to let them in when I was in labor,

532
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:04,680
Speaker 1: even though I specific said no, dude. H Then when

533
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:07,040
Speaker 1: she was finally born and I was trying to sleep,

534
00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 1: they were in my hospital room talking and laughing while

535
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 1: I felt like crap, and my mother in law didn't

536
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 1: want to leave and had to be involved in everything. Jude, dad,

537
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:18,000
Speaker 1: where are you at? I mean, husband at?

538
00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 3: Like what are yeah?

539
00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:22,840
Speaker 1: Hello? Husband should have already been like y'all are like

540
00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:28,440
Speaker 1: Josephina says, the audacity, the audacity. Then there's more. They

541
00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 1: made My husband and I argue the day we took

542
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 1: my daughter home because they said that my sister in

543
00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 1: law's kids absolutely needed to meet my two day old daughter,

544
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:41,720
Speaker 1: even though it was RSV and cold season. The kids

545
00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 1: were three and four and in school. I said no.

546
00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 1: Then my mother in law sat on my couch watching

547
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:51,919
Speaker 1: me breastfeed and made me cry because she said I

548
00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:54,920
Speaker 1: had anxiety issues and needed a lot of help because

549
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 1: I was afraid of my newborn getting RSV.

550
00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, no, because you're afraid of your newborn getting

551
00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:02,520
Speaker 2: one of the worst illnesses that newborn can get.

552
00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:05,880
Speaker 1: That's cool. Yeah, you're overreacting. I'm sorry, but I am

553
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:11,639
Speaker 1: just like approaching. Like no, husband says, we are not

554
00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:14,760
Speaker 1: talking with you guys until you freaking clean up your

555
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:19,080
Speaker 1: act cutting off granddaughter access, at least cutting off granddaughter.

556
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:20,119
Speaker 1: I don't know something like that.

557
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't even know if they're ever going to

558
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 2: change without some sort of like mediated conversation, like like

559
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 2: a counselor or like some Yeah, a professional is gonna

560
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 2: have to step in and tell these people they actually

561
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 2: are way out of line. Yeah, for them to see it,

562
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 2: and even then they probably won't like I.

563
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 1: Think it's like holding we won't be in contact until

564
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:40,760
Speaker 1: you change, and then they probably won't.

565
00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:42,880
Speaker 2: Mother in law needs the sun real bad. I want

566
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 2: the seventeen that. I just want the I just want

567
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:48,399
Speaker 2: to it's gone. It's giving, it's giving, evaporate into the

568
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:51,800
Speaker 2: that's what it's giving. My mother in law also also

569
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:54,840
Speaker 2: told me my milk wasn't good and they needed to

570
00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:55,920
Speaker 2: stop breastfeeding.

571
00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 3: Totally false.

572
00:25:57,720 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 1: What does what does that mean?

573
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:05,200
Speaker 3: She taste testing? Did she sample? Who is this woman?

574
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 3: Mother in law sampling the chest milk is crazy?

575
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:12,640
Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, no, the pa tastes a little off.

576
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 2: I think, uh, I think maybe you're not up the

577
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 2: snuff with the breast milk.

578
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 3: Like, what are we talking about, Granny?

579
00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:21,880
Speaker 2: I could tell then the neutrient profiles all off.

580
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:24,080
Speaker 4: A cup of breast milk only has two point five

581
00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 4: grams of protein and a cup of cow's milk is

582
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:27,040
Speaker 4: eight grams of protein.

583
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 1: So I'm just saying, mother in law Granny is freaking

584
00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:32,760
Speaker 1: mad because her milk factory is shut down. Opie's ramping

585
00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:35,200
Speaker 1: up production. That's all I'm saying. Could be Actually, that's

586
00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:36,440
Speaker 1: all the factories are shut down.

587
00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 3: Her milkshakes are bringing any boys to the yard.

588
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:43,399
Speaker 1: Weird are making the boys run for the hills, Run

589
00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 1: for the hills.

590
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 3: She doesn't have milkshakes.

591
00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:51,320
Speaker 2: She just has like two cans of evaporated milk, Like

592
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:53,959
Speaker 2: like if you took two tin cans and filled them

593
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:55,160
Speaker 2: with nickels and shook them around.

594
00:26:56,880 --> 00:27:00,680
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, my wedding was another night mare for them.

595
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,439
Speaker 1: I chose to get married in their small town so

596
00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 1: that way my husband's grandma could be there on a

597
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 1: date that my father in law didn't have work. My dad,

598
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 1: op's dad paid for the whole wedding, and my mother

599
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:16,240
Speaker 1: in law decided to stand next to my husband during

600
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 1: our cake cutting and kiss my husband for the cake pictures.

601
00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 2: Stop, this isn't about you.

602
00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:28,160
Speaker 1: This is not about you.

603
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:31,120
Speaker 2: It's about your son and his wife, not his son

604
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:34,399
Speaker 2: as mom, you and your dry milk factories.

605
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 1: What do you want to marry your son with this?

606
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:39,720
Speaker 1: What are we talking about? It is?

607
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 2: There's so many like it's just so weird Colley.

608
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 1: Then my sister in law was late getting to me

609
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:49,199
Speaker 1: for my bridesmaid's picks and was pissed at me for

610
00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 1: not waiting for her on my own wedding day to

611
00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:54,639
Speaker 1: take the pictures, so she decided to not smile in

612
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 1: any of the bridesmaid's pictures for my wedding.

613
00:27:57,119 --> 00:27:58,919
Speaker 3: Yep, just making yourself look bad.

614
00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 2: Photo shot that, photoshop, get it he right, get her right,

615
00:28:02,320 --> 00:28:04,920
Speaker 2: photoshop to get her out, Yeah, it'd be funny.

616
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:07,160
Speaker 1: Or photoshop her face to just.

617
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:09,720
Speaker 3: Like yeah, make her like yeah, let's do that.

618
00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 1: And now for my daughter's first birthday, they have again

619
00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:14,439
Speaker 1: managed to make it all about them. I told my

620
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 1: husband today that I don't ever want to see any

621
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:17,919
Speaker 1: of them again.

622
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 3: Thank goodness.

623
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:20,960
Speaker 1: There we go. There it is, and that my wits

624
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 1: end and I don't even know what to do anymore.

625
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 1: But I've never been so angry or upset. What do

626
00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:28,440
Speaker 1: I even do? And we have some comments. Commentar number

627
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:31,200
Speaker 1: one says, so sorry this is happening to you. Nothing

628
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 1: you can do will be acceptable to them. What does

629
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:36,199
Speaker 1: your husband have to say about the latest issue. This

630
00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:39,840
Speaker 1: is important because we've learned about the mountain of stuff

631
00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 1: we didn't know in the first story.

632
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 3: Where is husband?

633
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 1: Where Opie replies, At first, he took his dad's side today,

634
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:49,719
Speaker 1: but after we spoke, he now seems extremely annoyed by

635
00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:53,600
Speaker 1: them and even admitted they might be jealous. So we

636
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:56,000
Speaker 1: have an update number three, but really quick before we

637
00:28:56,040 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 1: get into that. Dakota first, your your your four no contact? Yes,

638
00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 1: yeah yeah.

639
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:05,960
Speaker 2: At this point it's like, dude, for all intents and purposes, yeah,

640
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 2: I to say no contact, just don't do. In my head,

641
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 2: it's just like, don't do the blocking outright, because then

642
00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 2: it creates I mean, you know, but honestly, I guess

643
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 2: it doesn't matter if you're just like, I don't ever

644
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 2: want to see these people ever again.

645
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 1: I think we got to do it at this point

646
00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:24,400
Speaker 1: because for OP, like, because we've reached the point we're

647
00:29:24,400 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 1: ready to go full send. I think it's like, hey,

648
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 1: you go tell them that I don't want to see

649
00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 1: them again. Here's the tricky part. Husband, I think, is

650
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:36,960
Speaker 1: more entitled to pick because he chooses would would you say?

651
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 2: Well, I mean yeah, I guess it's his parents.

652
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:42,720
Speaker 1: And parents, sister, the baby. This is a joint decision.

653
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:45,800
Speaker 1: Does OPI go to husband and say, I also want

654
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 1: baby to go no contact with them? What are your

655
00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 1: thoughts to go to It's probably fair.

656
00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:54,560
Speaker 2: I can't get over in my head that I imagined

657
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:58,560
Speaker 2: you being like, let's ask the baby what what it thinks?

658
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 1: Baby? Baby?

659
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 3: What say you?

660
00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 1: Baby?

661
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 3: We need your advice.

662
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:04,760
Speaker 1: What do we do about the in laws? I want

663
00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 1: milk fact the week that's not shut down. I don't

664
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 1: want the nickel kank. I want the big milk fact

665
00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:12,920
Speaker 1: the week.

666
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:16,720
Speaker 2: His first words h or I can't remember.

667
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 1: We don't know.

668
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:20,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's fair to be like, I don't

669
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 2: want these people around our kid, because, yeah, they don't

670
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:28,320
Speaker 2: seem like the best role models, you know, it doesn't

671
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 2: seem like.

672
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 3: A good familial profile.

673
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 1: Maybe, but maybe we do this. Maybe it's like, hey, husband,

674
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:39,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go no contact and you can let them know,

675
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 1: what do you think we should do about baby and yourself?

676
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:48,440
Speaker 1: What are your thoughts and just pose it to the

677
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:50,680
Speaker 1: husband and see what he thinks.

678
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's I mean, that's good. That's definitely

679
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 2: like sort of covering all the angles.

680
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.

681
00:30:56,720 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 2: You know, it's like the more I really, like critically

682
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:02,120
Speaker 2: think about these kind of stories, the more it's like

683
00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 2: I get be coming from a place of like I

684
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:08,160
Speaker 2: don't ever want to see these people again. And then

685
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 2: even the husband is like, yeah, they're like out of line.

686
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:13,680
Speaker 2: But it's like, are you go, Like forever is a

687
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 2: long time, right, So like what is the path that provides.

688
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:21,200
Speaker 3: You the most peace.

689
00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 2: Is it actually completely cutting these people off or is

690
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 2: it learning to just let it sort of slide off

691
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 2: your back like a duck, like water off a duck's back,

692
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like, don't let any of

693
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 2: it get past the surface, and just know where your

694
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:41,479
Speaker 2: boundaries are and be prepared to like enforce them when needed.

695
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:45,480
Speaker 1: But I don't know, it's probably situational. Yeah, I but

696
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:47,720
Speaker 1: I think I think Opie's reached her limit.

697
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 3: And I don't blame her.

698
00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think given everything, it's like it makes but say,

699
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 2: but see now, then once you like start taking like

700
00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:57,479
Speaker 2: the grandchild out of the picture for the in laws,

701
00:31:57,800 --> 00:31:59,080
Speaker 2: now you're starting like war.

702
00:31:59,360 --> 00:31:59,840
Speaker 1: Yeah you know.

703
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 2: So now it goes from like, oh, we kind of

704
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 2: don't like each other to like, oh, we are like

705
00:32:04,280 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 2: spitefully going to hate each other for the rest of

706
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 2: our lives.

707
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 1: Now it is true. Why That's why I was like,

708
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 1: because it's it seems like it's a very that's a

709
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 1: big one. That's a big one.

710
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:17,920
Speaker 2: They're literally the parents of your husband, and it's like

711
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 2: you're probably still even if you want no contact, you're

712
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:24,120
Speaker 2: still probably going to have to deal with them in

713
00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 2: some way, shape or form.

714
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:29,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, is it realistic like no so, or like

715
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:29,880
Speaker 1: it could be.

716
00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:32,440
Speaker 3: And we'll see, we'll see what hope he does.

717
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 2: But I'm just thinking, I'm thinking deep today. Those gears

718
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:38,720
Speaker 2: are grind coming back the layers of the onion.

719
00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:41,760
Speaker 1: Update number three. So my mother in law and sistern

720
00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 1: in law and sister in law's husband did not wish

721
00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 1: me a happy birthday yesterday. Today my mother in law

722
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:48,960
Speaker 1: shows up on my door unannounced and expects to be

723
00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 1: let in, even though I specifically stated I did not

724
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:53,280
Speaker 1: want to talk to them this week. I opened the

725
00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:55,600
Speaker 1: door and told her I was busy working. She said

726
00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 1: she would wait outside. I said, no, you can't wait,

727
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 1: you need to leave. I shut the door, close the blinds,

728
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 1: and haven't heard from anyone anyways. My father in law

729
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:07,760
Speaker 1: ended up texting me the other day telling me that

730
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 1: the door that their door is always open. I responded

731
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 1: by telling him, thank you. It's just that at this

732
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 1: time I am consumed with advancing my career, taking care

733
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,320
Speaker 1: of my daughter, and going to the gym for my health. Therefore,

734
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 1: during this week, it is nearly impossible to make plans.

735
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:24,360
Speaker 1: He responded by saying, so there's a set amount of

736
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 1: time that we can't see each other for.

737
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 2: What they're just so pushy, like there, it's like so

738
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:34,640
Speaker 2: not like are they mad that she has a career?

739
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 3: Is that part of it too?

740
00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:39,640
Speaker 2: That it's like just the fact that she's career oriented

741
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:41,960
Speaker 2: is like gross.

742
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 3: I think there's like a fault.

743
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 1: I think it's like, hey, why are you not spending

744
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:50,360
Speaker 1: every single millisecond and every molecule of your body devoted

745
00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 1: to your children and not you know, taking care of yourself,

746
00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:56,200
Speaker 1: to take care of better them, take better care of

747
00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 1: the kids.

748
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:59,120
Speaker 3: No, no, no, that's like no, you know what, screw it.

749
00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 2: No contact, get away, it's from second. Don't let them

750
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:03,719
Speaker 2: know where you live, don't let them know your number,

751
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:04,800
Speaker 2: get rid.

752
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 1: Of them, just be gone. That's what I'm saying.

753
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 2: I was trying to find the peaceful path. Yeah, I

754
00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:15,960
Speaker 2: choose no peace, No peace. I want problems always mean

755
00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:18,240
Speaker 2: but I don't. But these people will cause problems always,

756
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:19,040
Speaker 2: so get away from that.

757
00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:21,960
Speaker 1: Let it burn. Honestly, this just annoyed me. Instead of

758
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:24,239
Speaker 1: saying something like no worries, I understand you're busy, and

759
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:25,680
Speaker 1: I'm happy you're taking care of your health.

760
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 3: Let's get together soon.

761
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:30,280
Speaker 1: Nope, So I decided to give it to him straight.

762
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 1: I told him my daughter's bedtime at seven pm, and

763
00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:35,399
Speaker 1: I don't want to mess with her schedule because if

764
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:37,800
Speaker 1: we do, she gets really unsettled and won't fall asleep.

765
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:38,880
Speaker 3: And I have worked during.

766
00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 1: The week, my in laws don't work from Sunday to Wednesday,

767
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:43,399
Speaker 1: and my sister in law doesn't work at all.

768
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 3: Lazy, just kidding. Shout out to you stay at home

769
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 3: moms out there.

770
00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:49,880
Speaker 1: We love you. That's like basically ninety percent of our audience.

771
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:53,279
Speaker 2: No, it's not easy, not easy, not easy at all.

772
00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:55,479
Speaker 1: So please flame me in the comments because I deserve

773
00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:57,800
Speaker 1: it anyways. So then I told him to be honest.

774
00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:00,360
Speaker 1: I didn't feel like being all together and protect to

775
00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:03,240
Speaker 1: be happy because my sister in law treats me like crap.

776
00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:05,239
Speaker 1: And I explained that she got mad at me at

777
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 1: Christmas for asking her next time to tell me if

778
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 1: her kids are sick, and she exploded at me and

779
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:13,320
Speaker 1: told me to stay isolated for the rest of my life,

780
00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:16,239
Speaker 1: et cetera, et cetera, and I haven't heard from her

781
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,280
Speaker 1: since then. I told him that I just didn't feel

782
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 1: appreciated and everything I do is always wrong. Father in

783
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 1: law responded, he told me him and his wife aka

784
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:27,520
Speaker 1: my mother in law were coming to my house this

785
00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 1: week to speak with me. I said, this week isn't good.

786
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:34,319
Speaker 1: It's my birthday, my daughter's first birthday, and Valentine's Day,

787
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 1: and I prefer to have peace and not get worked up.

788
00:35:37,239 --> 00:35:40,239
Speaker 1: We can talk about it in the week after. He

789
00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 1: didn't reply, well, today is my birthday. Happy birthday doesn't

790
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:47,799
Speaker 1: sound good, but sorry about I hope it can be

791
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 1: a happy, unhappy birthday maybe, and my father in law

792
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 1: sent me happy birthday text. Mother in law, sister in law,

793
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:55,279
Speaker 1: and sister in law's husband did not text her call,

794
00:35:55,520 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 1: So I am done. They are officially out of my life.

795
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 1: I don't even want to talk to them next week. Loll.

796
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 1: What did I even do to not even deserve a

797
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 1: simple happy birthday?

798
00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 2: Like?

799
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,360
Speaker 3: Am I really that bad of a person? What would

800
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 3: you do? You married their son? You demon?

801
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 1: You demon?

802
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:15,720
Speaker 3: How dare you pro create with their pro creation?

803
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:16,439
Speaker 2: Yeah?

804
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:19,560
Speaker 1: Exactly. We got some relevant comments. Comment number one says

805
00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 1: you owe them nothing, not even an evening where they

806
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:26,240
Speaker 1: yell at you, because that's what it will be. Bottom line,

807
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 1: you cannot give them what they want. They want access

808
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 1: any time they wish, without accepting your parameters or respecting you.

809
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 1: They want to call the shots. They want you to

810
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:40,319
Speaker 1: stop being stubborn. They want to take zero responsibility. They

811
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,360
Speaker 1: love being petty and want you to roll over, play

812
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:48,120
Speaker 1: on alive while they run rough.

813
00:36:47,920 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 3: Shot, rough shot over your life. I don't even I

814
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:52,200
Speaker 3: don't have never run a rough shot?

815
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:53,560
Speaker 1: Baby? Is that a word?

816
00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 3: Yeah? Oh?

817
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:56,799
Speaker 1: What does that mean? Just like going running a miss,

818
00:36:57,040 --> 00:37:00,800
Speaker 1: like going crazy, just like stepping all over you? Wow? Yep.

819
00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 4: Having shoes with nail heads projecting to prevent slipping. Wow,

820
00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 4: that's that's what that is. That's a definition. What is

821
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 4: it again of a horse having shoes with nail heads

822
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 4: projecting to prevent slipping rough shod. So it's like to

823
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:19,040
Speaker 4: run rough shot. Textured horseshoe keeps you, It keeps you stable.

824
00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 4: Oh but idiom is to completely ignore the opinions, rights,

825
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:24,759
Speaker 4: or feelings of others.

826
00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:27,960
Speaker 2: Interesting kind of like how rough shod horseshoes ignore the

827
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 2: conditions of the ground beneath them and create traction.

828
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:33,439
Speaker 1: You just made the connection for me, Thank you, because

829
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:34,520
Speaker 1: I was confused.

830
00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:36,320
Speaker 3: How did we get there?

831
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:39,040
Speaker 1: How did we get here, no, thank you. Meeting now

832
00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:45,320
Speaker 1: does not work for me. No further explanations. Do not jade, justify, argue, defend,

833
00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:50,400
Speaker 1: or explain. It's hard to not offer Jade, but learn

834
00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:53,440
Speaker 1: to just let your no be enough. This is common

835
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:56,920
Speaker 1: to number one is really yeah, this is super tight.

836
00:37:57,120 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 1: We got we got, we got jade, and what was

837
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:04,720
Speaker 1: the the uh? There was something of something else earlier

838
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:05,879
Speaker 1: that was super far. Yeah.

839
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:08,400
Speaker 2: As someone who used to feel the need to always

840
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 2: explain why I didn't want to do something or if

841
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:13,960
Speaker 2: I said no, like I needed to write three paragraphs like,

842
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 2: it's so refreshing to just be like, nah, don't want

843
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:17,920
Speaker 2: to do that next time.

844
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 3: Our and be at peace. I think it's a bad

845
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 3: thing about our culture.

846
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:25,520
Speaker 1: It's like it's constantly like, oh no, sorry that Its

847
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 1: like why apologize, Like.

848
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:29,280
Speaker 2: We don't we don't need to do this anyways. Sidebar,

849
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:31,440
Speaker 2: that's a whole different Yeah. We could talk about that

850
00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 2: for an hour.

851
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:35,440
Speaker 1: Whole rabbit hole, but yeah, Jade, we love it. It's

852
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:38,640
Speaker 1: hard not to offer jade, but learn to just let

853
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:41,760
Speaker 1: your no be enough. I cannot imagine meeting them only

854
00:38:41,840 --> 00:38:43,880
Speaker 1: to have them yell at you for being an adult

855
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:47,279
Speaker 1: making decisions you think is best for your child. It's

856
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:51,279
Speaker 1: going to be the most unproductive meeting on earth. Yeah, probably, Yeah,

857
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 1: I'd agree. When they show up unannounced, No, you cannot

858
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 1: come in. I am preparing for tomorrow. Surprise visits irritate

859
00:38:57,719 --> 00:39:00,440
Speaker 1: me and I wouldn't be good company. Husband and your

860
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:02,440
Speaker 1: parents are here. Do you want to go outside? Just

861
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:05,360
Speaker 1: talk to them? I like that. That's yeah, just be

862
00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 1: like husband, take care of it. Take them.

863
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 3: Where is your husband and all this?

864
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:13,880
Speaker 1: Why are you bearing the full brunch of of his parents'

865
00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:16,560
Speaker 1: wrath alone? The good news is that spring is around

866
00:39:16,560 --> 00:39:19,440
Speaker 1: the corner, and you might consider inviting them to meet

867
00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:23,400
Speaker 1: gust the park one weekend morning for an hour, not

868
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 1: allowing them home afterwards. We will be at the park

869
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:29,320
Speaker 1: from ten until eleven, at which time we go home

870
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 1: for morning nap. Dude comments or number one just absolutely

871
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:36,880
Speaker 1: just spitting freaking super hot fire all over the place.

872
00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 1: Hot Tua of great advice and information, just spitting it out.

873
00:39:42,120 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 2: Who we can let that fly for now? I don't

874
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:47,320
Speaker 2: know Hoktua's stock has gone down recently.

875
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:50,360
Speaker 1: It has, and it makes the meme funnier. No, but

876
00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 1: this person that was poignant that was bars. That was

877
00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:54,759
Speaker 1: straight bars.

878
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was like the video of the guy like

879
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 2: writing just with flame everywhere because he's just cooking on fire.

880
00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:07,560
Speaker 1: Yes, absolute, absolute cooking in the kitchen. Update number four.

881
00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:10,640
Speaker 1: I am just feeling proud of myself. My mother in law,

882
00:40:10,680 --> 00:40:13,279
Speaker 1: sister in law, nor my sister in law's husband's wish

883
00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:15,359
Speaker 1: me a happy birthday on Sunday. My mother in law

884
00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 1: showed up knocking on my door unannounced on Monday morning,

885
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:20,240
Speaker 1: the day after the birthday, and looking through the window

886
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:23,399
Speaker 1: like a crazy person. I had told my in laws

887
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:24,880
Speaker 1: I didn't want to see him this week because I

888
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:26,480
Speaker 1: was busy and I didn't want to talk to them

889
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 1: about the situation because I didn't want to be stressed

890
00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:31,480
Speaker 1: out during my birthday week, my daughter's first birthday in

891
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day. But my mother in law doesn't care about

892
00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:36,600
Speaker 1: my feelings or what I say, so I answered the door.

893
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:38,359
Speaker 1: I told her I was busy on a work hall,

894
00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:39,200
Speaker 1: and she said that.

895
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:39,839
Speaker 3: She would wait.

896
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:43,720
Speaker 1: Honestly, would have been great to just be like, okay,

897
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:48,400
Speaker 1: cool goes back in for seven more hours. Yeah, yeah, sorry,

898
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:50,319
Speaker 1: long call my mom in.

899
00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 2: Law this yep, I was indisposed and disposed good, make

900
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:57,399
Speaker 2: it sorry, and I closed the door and closed all

901
00:40:57,400 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 2: the blinds in her face so she couldn't look in

902
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 2: at my dog anymore.

903
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:03,480
Speaker 1: Today was my daughter's first birthday and my mother in

904
00:41:03,560 --> 00:41:06,760
Speaker 1: law decided to spam my Facebook post I made, acting

905
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:09,719
Speaker 1: like Grandma of the year, blocked her on Facebook, same

906
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:11,719
Speaker 1: with my sister in law. My mother in law and

907
00:41:11,800 --> 00:41:14,440
Speaker 1: sister in law also sent happy birthday in sweet messages

908
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:17,759
Speaker 1: in this big family group chat like fifteen people cousins,

909
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:19,920
Speaker 1: sisters of the mother in law and acted like they

910
00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 1: were so sweet. And remember they didn't tell Opie Happy

911
00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 1: birthday to her directly.

912
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 3: On her actual birthday. Yeah, yep, quite literally.

913
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:31,760
Speaker 1: I almost replied with, oh, you can say happy birthday

914
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:32,880
Speaker 1: to my daughter, but not to me.

915
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:33,959
Speaker 3: Oh it was to the daughter.

916
00:41:34,040 --> 00:41:37,560
Speaker 1: I didn't. Instead, I left the WhatsApp group. I blocked

917
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 1: their phone numbers so they have no way of contacting

918
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:42,279
Speaker 1: me at all. Totally blocked, and I felt like a

919
00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:45,239
Speaker 1: weight has been lifted. My husband stands by my side

920
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:47,600
Speaker 1: and all of this, although he is really heartbroken at

921
00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:50,480
Speaker 1: how immature his mom and sister are. They have to

922
00:41:50,560 --> 00:41:54,720
Speaker 1: learn that their disrespectful actions can cause consequence.

923
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:59,840
Speaker 2: When will you learn that your actions have consequences.

924
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:02,399
Speaker 1: When will you learn that's the code of pain? Ladies,

925
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:05,960
Speaker 1: That's right, my brain's full of internet memes. Dude, dude,

926
00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:09,800
Speaker 1: your your your brain is wrinkled to the maximum today.

927
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:13,120
Speaker 1: Do you have your surface area is just at a

928
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 1: I'm upset that I wasted so much time trying to

929
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 1: like delegate, like find a peaceful resolution with these in

930
00:42:20,760 --> 00:42:21,880
Speaker 1: laws though they don't deserve it.

931
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:22,360
Speaker 3: They suck.

932
00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: You know you were trying. You're trying, like, hey, how

933
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:28,319
Speaker 1: can we There's husband is involved, like you wanna it's

934
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:31,200
Speaker 1: I think it's always good to be like, okay, how

935
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:32,719
Speaker 1: can I give it the good old college try?

936
00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:34,600
Speaker 3: How can I put my best foot forward?

937
00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 2: But then it reaches that point and to be clear,

938
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 2: I wasn't trying to defend the in laws. I'm trying

939
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:43,239
Speaker 2: to say, which road here is the actual road that

940
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 2: leads to the most piece?

941
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 3: Yes for op right, for op y for inner piece.

942
00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:49,040
Speaker 1: Yes.

943
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 2: And now I think it's clear, like you're not gonna

944
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:53,720
Speaker 2: get any peace with these people talking to you ever.

945
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:56,239
Speaker 1: Cause sometimes if it's like a way lighter case than this,

946
00:42:56,360 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 1: a kind of hybrid approach of like okay, we won't

947
00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:01,600
Speaker 1: actively initiate thing, but you know we'll go to the

948
00:43:01,640 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 1: parties and then that won't make them go. Why aren't

949
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:06,319
Speaker 1: you doing this? Why did you do this? That can

950
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:08,360
Speaker 1: work in these lighter case scenarios, but we got a

951
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:08,839
Speaker 1: heavy duty.

952
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is way too exhausting to try to keep

953
00:43:10,840 --> 00:43:14,520
Speaker 2: any semblance of like peace or tranquility on the surface.

954
00:43:14,560 --> 00:43:17,239
Speaker 1: It's like that's, oh yeah, too much dud. But we

955
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 1: got some relevant comments. Commented Number one says, applaud to

956
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:23,239
Speaker 1: you on telling mother in law she will not wait

957
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 1: but leave and plugging up the loopholes via blocking her

958
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 1: and sister in law everywhere. May you enjoy the bliss

959
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:33,040
Speaker 1: and silence? Ah? Yes, and then we have updates Number five.

960
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 1: My mother in law and sister in law have been

961
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:37,080
Speaker 1: blocked for a little over a month, and it's been

962
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:39,520
Speaker 1: so nice to not have to worry about them messaging

963
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:41,960
Speaker 1: me or me seeing any of their posts or anything

964
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:44,319
Speaker 1: like that. My husband and I went on vacation for

965
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:47,120
Speaker 1: a week and our daughter stayed with my parents. We

966
00:43:47,160 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 1: had a great time, then came back to reality. The

967
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:53,920
Speaker 1: day after we got back, my father in law called

968
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:56,680
Speaker 1: husband and told him that mother in law cries all

969
00:43:56,760 --> 00:44:00,680
Speaker 1: the time. Because she hasn't seen her granddaughter, my daughter.

970
00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 1: They asked if we could go to their house today

971
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:07,680
Speaker 1: since it's Italian a pha this day, Italian Father's day,

972
00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:12,600
Speaker 1: this day, what Italianatalio and me are the father Riano?

973
00:44:12,880 --> 00:44:13,160
Speaker 1: Is that?

974
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:15,720
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm just gonna let that one. Maybe it's Father's

975
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:19,439
Speaker 2: Day in Italy, I guess. I guess one would think that.

976
00:44:19,360 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 1: One could be global, but he who knows, man, the

977
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 1: Italians do like their things in a very specific way,

978
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:27,640
Speaker 1: so you gotta give it to him. I said, absolutely not,

979
00:44:27,800 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 1: But I told my husband he can go. Why would

980
00:44:30,719 --> 00:44:32,960
Speaker 1: I want to go there after nothing has been resolved

981
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 1: and mother in law and sister law completely ignored my birthday.

982
00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:37,200
Speaker 2: M hmm.

983
00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:40,239
Speaker 1: My husband is mad because, oh, my husband is mad

984
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:43,280
Speaker 1: because I told him he can't bring our daughter over

985
00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:46,239
Speaker 1: to their house with him. He thinks they should see

986
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:51,080
Speaker 1: their granddaughter, but I disagree. His mother and sister highly

987
00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:53,720
Speaker 1: disrespected me, and I don't believe they should have access

988
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:56,720
Speaker 1: to my most precious treasure in this world, big facts,

989
00:44:56,960 --> 00:45:00,800
Speaker 1: not until they learned to apologize and act actually understand

990
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:03,040
Speaker 1: what they did. Yeah, do you all agree? Or am

991
00:45:03,040 --> 00:45:05,879
Speaker 1: I being too harsh for a reference for those who

992
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:08,799
Speaker 1: don't want to read through my old posts. Basically, I've

993
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 1: always made my in laws happy and everything, even if

994
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 1: they went against what I wanted. They chose my engagement party,

995
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:17,520
Speaker 1: what I had to wear, they chose the date of

996
00:45:17,520 --> 00:45:19,719
Speaker 1: my wedding, by the way, none of which was paid

997
00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:20,279
Speaker 1: for by them.

998
00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:22,440
Speaker 3: Just to get little astrass on there, right.

999
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:25,680
Speaker 1: They're just demanding other people spend money to do their whims.

1000
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:28,920
Speaker 1: They just know best. Apparently, apparently I even made them

1001
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:32,440
Speaker 1: happy by getting married in their country, in their hometown

1002
00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:35,600
Speaker 1: so that their family could attend, even if it meant

1003
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 1: my family could not attend the wedding. That is big.

1004
00:45:39,360 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 1: That was a huge sacrifice. My sister in law ruined

1005
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 1: my wedding pictures because she was a bridesmaid and was

1006
00:45:44,280 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 1: very late getting to me on my wedding day, so

1007
00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 1: she was so pissed I didn't wait for her and

1008
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 1: so she was miserable on all my photos. Basically she

1009
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:54,760
Speaker 1: was looking like this and after.

1010
00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:58,080
Speaker 2: All the sacrifices, Oh he's made, dude, did you just

1011
00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:01,520
Speaker 2: set the principle that like you can be walked over?

1012
00:46:01,640 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 2: So they just will continue to do that forever. I

1013
00:46:04,760 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 2: came to your hometown. My family couldn't make it to this.

1014
00:46:08,760 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 1: I did this so that way you and your family,

1015
00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:13,160
Speaker 1: sister in law could come down, your whole.

1016
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:16,240
Speaker 2: Family that hates me apparently as well.

1017
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:20,319
Speaker 1: So yeah, I don't so many eleven out of ten

1018
00:46:20,560 --> 00:46:25,360
Speaker 1: not mistakes. But what's like like breaking the law, Like, yeah, felonies.

1019
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 1: I'm gonna call felonies. So many felonies you've committed against

1020
00:46:28,719 --> 00:46:30,760
Speaker 1: Op here, it's just crazy. My mother in law printed

1021
00:46:30,760 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 1: a huge picture from my wedding day with everyone except

1022
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 1: me in it and put it in her living room.

1023
00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:40,960
Speaker 1: It was her wedding. She printed a picture of Op's

1024
00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 1: wedding without Ope in it.

1025
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:48,720
Speaker 2: The grandchild should not be there because they need consequences.

1026
00:46:49,440 --> 00:46:53,799
Speaker 2: And also the grandchild shouldn't be around these people because

1027
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:58,680
Speaker 2: they're probably going to whisper, you know, little poissuns into

1028
00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:01,920
Speaker 2: the ear of the child and probably try to turn

1029
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 2: her own daughter against her.

1030
00:47:04,239 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 3: So it's like, husband, where are you at?

1031
00:47:06,239 --> 00:47:06,799
Speaker 1: Dude? Bro?

1032
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 3: You gotta pull up, my dude, what's happening?

1033
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:11,440
Speaker 1: Pull up on mother in law, sister in law and

1034
00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:16,200
Speaker 1: be like grainy, get your get your wrinkled tin cane

1035
00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:20,520
Speaker 1: coins out of here. Yeah, for real knows My mother

1036
00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:23,279
Speaker 1: in law made me cry two days postpartum, saying I

1037
00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 1: had anxiety issues, tolding me I shouldn't chest feed because

1038
00:47:27,239 --> 00:47:29,800
Speaker 1: my milk is bad for my baby, told me after

1039
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:31,880
Speaker 1: my wedding that I was jealous of her when I

1040
00:47:31,920 --> 00:47:34,160
Speaker 1: told her it upset me. That she came up and

1041
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:36,879
Speaker 1: kissed my husband while we were cutting our wedding cake.

1042
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:39,759
Speaker 1: Just everything so insane. Over Christmas, my sister in law's

1043
00:47:39,840 --> 00:47:41,879
Speaker 1: kids were sick and ended up getting my daughter very sick,

1044
00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:43,879
Speaker 1: so I asked her to please tell us next time

1045
00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:45,799
Speaker 1: her kids were sick, even if it's a holiday. And

1046
00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:47,640
Speaker 1: she got pissed to me and told me to stay

1047
00:47:47,640 --> 00:47:50,760
Speaker 1: isolated forever and hasn't talked to me since. She told

1048
00:47:50,800 --> 00:47:53,799
Speaker 1: my husband that we should live separate lives and she

1049
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:58,200
Speaker 1: wants nothing to do with us. WHOA, wow, great, excellent,

1050
00:47:58,320 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 1: perfect cool. But the husband say about that, I mean,

1051
00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 1: this is his mom telling him, Hey, your wife doesn't

1052
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:08,440
Speaker 1: want to talk to us. Cool you my son and her,

1053
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:10,560
Speaker 1: you know, go go ahead and live your life, be

1054
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 1: happily about after be away? Is he going to be like, No,

1055
00:48:14,680 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 1: I still want a relationship with you or my mom?

1056
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:18,160
Speaker 2: That would give me all the green light I need

1057
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:20,400
Speaker 2: where it's like, oh, so you you told me that.

1058
00:48:20,520 --> 00:48:23,000
Speaker 2: I okay, So that's where it's at all, Right, then

1059
00:48:23,040 --> 00:48:27,719
Speaker 2: I guess our relationship is so shallow that it could

1060
00:48:27,719 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 2: be undone by the most important person in the world

1061
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:32,839
Speaker 2: to me, my wife.

1062
00:48:33,040 --> 00:48:37,120
Speaker 1: If he does that, it's on site like insert sponsor here, cool,

1063
00:48:37,160 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 1: it's like we're separating.

1064
00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:41,920
Speaker 2: Then that's nice, that's right. See you never, I guess,

1065
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 2: but that's what you're okay with. I didn't put that

1066
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 2: out there, you did.

1067
00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 1: See later, my mother in law is mad that I

1068
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:50,360
Speaker 1: haven't spoken to her daughter, who in reality is the

1069
00:48:50,400 --> 00:48:53,600
Speaker 1: one who hasn't spoken to me. So she didn't wish

1070
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:55,600
Speaker 1: me a happy birthday, but a couple of days later,

1071
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 1: for my daughter's birthday, spammed my entire Facebook and WhatsApp

1072
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:02,920
Speaker 1: family groups with birthday wishes for my daughter. Anyways, those

1073
00:49:02,960 --> 00:49:05,120
Speaker 1: are just some of the things they've done God and

1074
00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:08,200
Speaker 1: have consistently made me cry or have caused arguments with

1075
00:49:08,280 --> 00:49:11,239
Speaker 1: my husband. But yet, now that my mother in law

1076
00:49:11,280 --> 00:49:13,840
Speaker 1: says she is sad, we have to go over to

1077
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:17,719
Speaker 1: make her feel better. I can't deal with this anymore.

1078
00:49:18,000 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 1: And I'm so tired of arguing with my husband over it. Yeah,

1079
00:49:21,760 --> 00:49:22,840
Speaker 1: she's just guilt tripping.

1080
00:49:23,360 --> 00:49:26,680
Speaker 2: She's just like, oh no, the consequences of my actions. No, no, no,

1081
00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:29,839
Speaker 2: I can't deal with that when now I'm gonna cry

1082
00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 2: and make you feel bad about yourself, so.

1083
00:49:31,640 --> 00:49:35,920
Speaker 1: Real quick to Koda. We talked about it, but kind

1084
00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:38,759
Speaker 1: of as the story was going on. But do we

1085
00:49:38,800 --> 00:49:42,960
Speaker 1: sit husband down now and be like, listen, your mother

1086
00:49:42,960 --> 00:49:46,680
Speaker 1: in law is going to keep torturing me. Do we

1087
00:49:46,760 --> 00:49:49,239
Speaker 1: ask him to go no contact? Like, what do we do?

1088
00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:52,880
Speaker 2: I think you should frame everything in the context of

1089
00:49:52,920 --> 00:49:55,800
Speaker 2: your kid. You know, it's like I don't want my kid,

1090
00:49:55,920 --> 00:50:02,440
Speaker 2: you know, around these people who so blatatantly disrespect me

1091
00:50:02,520 --> 00:50:06,680
Speaker 2: and hold me in no regard because I'm afraid what

1092
00:50:06,719 --> 00:50:12,399
Speaker 2: they're how they're going to influence my child, our child. Yes,

1093
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:14,239
Speaker 2: I don't know, it'd be like the same, like or

1094
00:50:14,520 --> 00:50:17,080
Speaker 2: just take the context of family out of it, right,

1095
00:50:17,560 --> 00:50:21,279
Speaker 2: say these are just like a group of friends co workers, Right,

1096
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:26,880
Speaker 2: and you've found out that your husband's coworkers all hate you,

1097
00:50:27,760 --> 00:50:29,440
Speaker 2: but your husband wants to go hang.

1098
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:31,400
Speaker 3: Out with them four times a week, and you'd be like.

1099
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 2: Husband, I don't like that you hang out with these

1100
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:39,879
Speaker 2: people who outwardly just blatantly hate me. Yes, and you go, oh,

1101
00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 2: what do It's not that big a deal. I'm gonna

1102
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:45,200
Speaker 2: take the I'm gonna take our kide over there too. No,

1103
00:50:45,600 --> 00:50:48,239
Speaker 2: they hate me? Why are you hanging out with people

1104
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:48,719
Speaker 2: who hate me?

1105
00:50:49,120 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 1: That we need to use that analogy more often. It's like, hey,

1106
00:50:51,520 --> 00:50:52,920
Speaker 1: if this was a group of friends, if this is

1107
00:50:52,960 --> 00:50:56,120
Speaker 1: a group of co workers, we absolutely would not be

1108
00:50:56,160 --> 00:50:59,520
Speaker 1: spending time with them, no questions asked. So why because

1109
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:03,320
Speaker 1: because as we happen to share this same DNA, because

1110
00:51:03,360 --> 00:51:04,200
Speaker 1: you're my birther.

1111
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:07,360
Speaker 2: It's a context that people will use to like abuse

1112
00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:10,279
Speaker 2: their power because it's like, oh, well, we're family that

1113
00:51:10,400 --> 00:51:11,600
Speaker 2: you can't do anything about it.

1114
00:51:11,680 --> 00:51:12,400
Speaker 3: We're family.

1115
00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 2: It's like, well, that doesn't give you the green light

1116
00:51:15,640 --> 00:51:21,719
Speaker 2: to just like be a toxic manipulator. And if I'm

1117
00:51:21,719 --> 00:51:23,680
Speaker 2: the husband, I'm like it don't give you a right

1118
00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 2: to hate my wife and expect me to just lay

1119
00:51:26,080 --> 00:51:28,120
Speaker 2: out like roll over and be cool with it. Yes,

1120
00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:32,319
Speaker 2: Dakota like yes, so I don't know. Yes, that's what

1121
00:51:32,360 --> 00:51:32,600
Speaker 2: it is.

1122
00:51:32,640 --> 00:51:36,919
Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, take mother freaking notes, and keep taking

1123
00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:40,480
Speaker 1: notes because we're getting into these relevant comments. Commentar number one, Well,

1124
00:51:40,480 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 1: the birthday thing is really a little petty of you

1125
00:51:43,800 --> 00:51:47,040
Speaker 1: to be mad about. Adults don't care about other adults' birthdays.

1126
00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:50,879
Speaker 1: Does your husband celebrate Father's Day? If so, it's his day.

1127
00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:52,920
Speaker 1: You get to do what you like on Mother's Day.

1128
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:55,359
Speaker 1: He should be able to celebrate his day how he likes.

1129
00:51:55,600 --> 00:51:57,560
Speaker 1: Your other points are issues worth addressing.

1130
00:51:57,640 --> 00:52:00,120
Speaker 2: Okay, so really quick, I think the point of just

1131
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:04,800
Speaker 2: going out of your way to like not celebrate your

1132
00:52:05,960 --> 00:52:07,760
Speaker 2: daughter in law's.

1133
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:10,760
Speaker 1: Birthday when you know it, it's.

1134
00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 2: Not like a thing where it's like they didn't throw

1135
00:52:12,080 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 2: me a party and I didn't get any gifts and

1136
00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:15,600
Speaker 2: blah blah blah. It's more just like the this is

1137
00:52:15,640 --> 00:52:18,319
Speaker 2: just another example of like blatantly going out of their

1138
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:22,279
Speaker 2: way to just sort of disrespect it or disregard me.

1139
00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:25,040
Speaker 2: I might as well be invisible. Worst thing, they don't care.

1140
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:27,240
Speaker 2: They're almost using it as a tool to her.

1141
00:52:27,360 --> 00:52:28,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. Crazy.

1142
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:30,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, where it's just like just to let you know,

1143
00:52:30,719 --> 00:52:32,759
Speaker 2: just a reminder we don't care about you.

1144
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:36,960
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. You not like us, crazy, You're not a

1145
00:52:37,200 --> 00:52:42,799
Speaker 1: nice person to us us, So Obie replies, My in

1146
00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:45,319
Speaker 1: laws celebrate every single birthday in their family with a

1147
00:52:45,320 --> 00:52:48,480
Speaker 1: lot of passion, so that's why I was upset about it.

1148
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:51,080
Speaker 1: They completely ignored me on my birthday because they're mad

1149
00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:53,040
Speaker 1: that I am not talking to my sister in law.

1150
00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:55,200
Speaker 3: Comment number two says you are not wrong.

1151
00:52:55,520 --> 00:52:57,640
Speaker 1: You do not have your husband's support, so you will

1152
00:52:57,680 --> 00:53:00,719
Speaker 1: never gain any ground. It might be to give him

1153
00:53:00,719 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 1: the choice of standing up for you, or you will

1154
00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:05,600
Speaker 1: have to live separately until he comes to his senses.

1155
00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:08,600
Speaker 1: He married you, and his loyalty should always lie with

1156
00:53:08,680 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 1: you and your child first. If he takes your child

1157
00:53:10,920 --> 00:53:13,960
Speaker 1: to see her, then she has gotten exactly what she

1158
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:17,719
Speaker 1: wants him and her grandchild minus a You. You are

1159
00:53:17,760 --> 00:53:20,160
Speaker 1: in a tough spot, dear, and this and this won't

1160
00:53:20,200 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 1: be easy. Just keep in mind that you only have

1161
00:53:22,680 --> 00:53:25,160
Speaker 1: one life. Is this what you want and is it

1162
00:53:25,280 --> 00:53:27,080
Speaker 1: what you want for your child to grow up? And

1163
00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:30,239
Speaker 1: you get no rewind, no do over. Once time is

1164
00:53:30,280 --> 00:53:33,120
Speaker 1: passed is gone forever. You see that in the growth

1165
00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:35,839
Speaker 1: of your child and can see just how fast time

1166
00:53:35,880 --> 00:53:39,160
Speaker 1: passes watching your child grow. Next thing, you know, years

1167
00:53:39,160 --> 00:53:42,480
Speaker 1: twelve gone by, and you've been miserable, not worth it

1168
00:53:42,520 --> 00:53:43,160
Speaker 1: in the long run.

1169
00:53:43,160 --> 00:53:44,600
Speaker 3: And just to be we just want to make sure

1170
00:53:44,600 --> 00:53:45,720
Speaker 3: I'm understanding this comment.

1171
00:53:45,880 --> 00:53:48,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, this comment is basically agreeing with op like, listen,

1172
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:51,920
Speaker 1: cut ties with them, go live your life without having

1173
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:57,640
Speaker 1: them constantly just sucking. Yeah, and we have update number six,

1174
00:53:58,160 --> 00:54:01,680
Speaker 1: no contact mother in law and sister in law's birthday party.

1175
00:54:01,760 --> 00:54:03,719
Speaker 1: So now they're having their birthdays right and we know

1176
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:06,279
Speaker 1: how they love their py Please ruin it. I've got

1177
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:08,239
Speaker 1: no contact with my mother in law and sister in law.

1178
00:54:08,280 --> 00:54:10,120
Speaker 1: There are many reasons why, and many things.

1179
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:11,840
Speaker 3: That led to this point. I have previous posts.

1180
00:54:11,960 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 1: My issue now is that tomorrow is my sister in

1181
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:18,359
Speaker 1: law son's fourth birthday party, and my husband wants us

1182
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:21,600
Speaker 1: to go, me, him, and our one year old daughter.

1183
00:54:22,280 --> 00:54:24,600
Speaker 1: I do not want to go, and just super quick

1184
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:27,880
Speaker 1: on the husband like husband will like defend her and

1185
00:54:27,920 --> 00:54:30,400
Speaker 1: then do this and then be like, hey, come on,

1186
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:34,320
Speaker 1: He's like, don't you get it? Like, I don't want

1187
00:54:34,360 --> 00:54:37,600
Speaker 1: to go around them. They're just gonna keep finding ways

1188
00:54:37,600 --> 00:54:38,400
Speaker 1: to torture me.

1189
00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:42,600
Speaker 2: Come on, has the conversation been fully had? Like I

1190
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:45,120
Speaker 2: feel like at this point it has to have been right,

1191
00:54:45,280 --> 00:54:45,480
Speaker 2: like what.

1192
00:54:45,640 --> 00:54:48,319
Speaker 1: One would think. But maybe you're right, Maybe they have

1193
00:54:48,440 --> 00:54:51,160
Speaker 1: the micro conversation. He might defend her here and there.

1194
00:54:51,360 --> 00:54:54,800
Speaker 1: But his defaults is siding with his parents maybe unless

1195
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 1: he's convinced issue by issue.

1196
00:54:56,640 --> 00:54:58,920
Speaker 2: You know, and family is I don't know if I'm

1197
00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:03,280
Speaker 2: like oversday here, but it's like a like traditional Italian family.

1198
00:55:03,960 --> 00:55:10,480
Speaker 2: Family is a huge deal. So and if these are

1199
00:55:10,680 --> 00:55:14,960
Speaker 2: you know, from the old country, from the old country,

1200
00:55:15,040 --> 00:55:18,839
Speaker 2: it's gonna make sense that he's probably gonna be very

1201
00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:21,920
Speaker 2: hesitant to try to cut them off or like outright.

1202
00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:26,680
Speaker 2: You know, it's like a it's like a core thing

1203
00:55:26,920 --> 00:55:29,360
Speaker 2: possibly for him, but I think it really needs to

1204
00:55:29,360 --> 00:55:33,600
Speaker 2: be made clear, like this is a hard line for me,

1205
00:55:33,800 --> 00:55:36,800
Speaker 2: Like I at this point, it's it's built up now

1206
00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:40,440
Speaker 2: to where this is not something I want to until

1207
00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:46,919
Speaker 2: like reconciliation, right and until some sort of ownership over

1208
00:55:47,040 --> 00:55:52,000
Speaker 2: their behavior is made. I don't want them around me

1209
00:55:52,239 --> 00:55:53,080
Speaker 2: or our daughter.

1210
00:55:53,200 --> 00:55:54,680
Speaker 1: I'm your wife. What's you going to do about it?

1211
00:55:55,280 --> 00:55:56,560
Speaker 1: What you're going to do about it? I'm your wife,

1212
00:55:56,560 --> 00:55:58,360
Speaker 1: What's you going to do about it? Yeah, Bo, you

1213
00:55:58,440 --> 00:56:01,279
Speaker 1: need to see that. You need to say. By the way, uh,

1214
00:56:01,520 --> 00:56:06,120
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1215
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1216
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1217
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Speaker 1: favorite podcast app search Okay, storytime and literally just click play.

1218
00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:21,200
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1219
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Speaker 1: We have a lot of content there, so go check

1220
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:26,040
Speaker 1: it out. We are quickly approaching the end of the story.

1221
00:56:27,160 --> 00:56:30,400
Speaker 1: Basically everything you just said. I agree. It's like, yo, husband,

1222
00:56:30,440 --> 00:56:32,200
Speaker 1: you need to get with the program because they are

1223
00:56:32,200 --> 00:56:34,120
Speaker 1: doing all that stuff. They're torturing my life. If you

1224
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:36,759
Speaker 1: don't want to do that, there is a misalignment in

1225
00:56:36,840 --> 00:56:40,239
Speaker 1: this marriage and partnership. And that's when OBI really I think,

1226
00:56:40,360 --> 00:56:44,200
Speaker 1: can you know, get her life back? Because it's like, okay, yes,

1227
00:56:44,520 --> 00:56:48,280
Speaker 1: obviously divorce the divorce is always a process and figuring

1228
00:56:48,280 --> 00:56:49,240
Speaker 1: out cussy and everything.

1229
00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:51,719
Speaker 3: But I think that is at least like a light

1230
00:56:51,760 --> 00:56:52,600
Speaker 3: at the end of the tunnel.

1231
00:56:52,640 --> 00:56:53,640
Speaker 1: Well, I think maybe try.

1232
00:56:53,520 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 2: Some counseling first before to force because clearly if you

1233
00:56:57,640 --> 00:57:00,560
Speaker 2: can't see that, like my gut feeling is to family thing.

1234
00:57:00,760 --> 00:57:03,360
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, he cannot put.

1235
00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:06,479
Speaker 1: That level of what's it called.

1236
00:57:08,239 --> 00:57:11,080
Speaker 2: I don't sure he can't remove himself because the family's

1237
00:57:11,120 --> 00:57:15,799
Speaker 2: so crucial, yes, to the fundamental life experience where it's

1238
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:20,080
Speaker 2: like he can't exclude them but it's like you need, yeah,

1239
00:57:20,120 --> 00:57:22,560
Speaker 2: something has to get yeah.

1240
00:57:22,600 --> 00:57:26,080
Speaker 1: I And to be clear, I didn't say this, but

1241
00:57:26,120 --> 00:57:28,320
Speaker 1: I was kind of thinking in my head like, if

1242
00:57:28,360 --> 00:57:33,240
Speaker 1: you've really really explained it over time, multiple times, multiple counseling,

1243
00:57:33,320 --> 00:57:35,720
Speaker 1: like all of that stuff, if it really reaches that

1244
00:57:35,800 --> 00:57:38,000
Speaker 1: point where he just doesn't get it, and you're like

1245
00:57:38,240 --> 00:57:40,160
Speaker 1: kind of like the same way that OPI tried and

1246
00:57:40,200 --> 00:57:42,000
Speaker 1: tried and tried and tried with the family and then

1247
00:57:42,040 --> 00:57:44,240
Speaker 1: it just hit that point. If it hits that point

1248
00:57:44,240 --> 00:57:47,800
Speaker 1: where it's like, oh, husband is just gonna like basically

1249
00:57:47,840 --> 00:57:48,760
Speaker 1: side with them forever.

1250
00:57:49,640 --> 00:57:53,400
Speaker 2: And it'd be different if they didn't literally blatantly hate

1251
00:57:53,440 --> 00:57:56,400
Speaker 2: her that we're seemingly just being like, you got our

1252
00:57:56,520 --> 00:57:57,080
Speaker 2: daughter sick.

1253
00:57:57,160 --> 00:57:59,760
Speaker 1: Yes, they just hate started though, right, So what started

1254
00:57:59,760 --> 00:58:02,919
Speaker 1: at the sister in law? Well, so see they get

1255
00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:05,479
Speaker 1: all started with the sister in law. Sister in law's

1256
00:58:05,520 --> 00:58:07,760
Speaker 1: kid got op and Ope's kid sick.

1257
00:58:08,000 --> 00:58:10,680
Speaker 3: That's what started all. They're the ones that did the offense,

1258
00:58:11,080 --> 00:58:11,280
Speaker 3: you know.

1259
00:58:11,440 --> 00:58:14,280
Speaker 2: So it's like, no, I'm saying it's because Ope said

1260
00:58:14,440 --> 00:58:16,880
Speaker 2: you got my daughter sick? Oh yes, yeah yeah, and

1261
00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:19,440
Speaker 2: then they're just like nah, and now it is.

1262
00:58:22,040 --> 00:58:23,800
Speaker 1: Like ridiculous come on, come on, come on.

1263
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:24,120
Speaker 3: Now.

1264
00:58:24,200 --> 00:58:26,040
Speaker 1: I know the kid has nothing to do with this,

1265
00:58:26,600 --> 00:58:28,160
Speaker 1: but it's the fact that I have to go and

1266
00:58:28,200 --> 00:58:30,280
Speaker 1: be around his entire family for a couple of hours

1267
00:58:30,280 --> 00:58:32,560
Speaker 1: while they ignore me and acts like I don't even exist,

1268
00:58:32,600 --> 00:58:35,040
Speaker 1: while I'm holding my daughter and they are talking to

1269
00:58:35,080 --> 00:58:37,040
Speaker 1: her like I'm not even there. They did this a

1270
00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:39,080
Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago. It was the first time I'd

1271
00:58:39,080 --> 00:58:41,520
Speaker 1: seen them since February. We were at a mutual friend's

1272
00:58:41,520 --> 00:58:45,840
Speaker 1: birthday party. I was completely ignored, but they spoke to

1273
00:58:45,920 --> 00:58:48,600
Speaker 1: my daughter, who by the way, is one years old,

1274
00:58:49,200 --> 00:58:53,000
Speaker 1: reminder the whole time, acting like I was invisible in

1275
00:58:53,080 --> 00:58:54,200
Speaker 1: front of the guests.

1276
00:58:54,280 --> 00:58:55,480
Speaker 3: It was so aggravating.

1277
00:58:55,920 --> 00:58:58,480
Speaker 1: Not to mention, the last straw of everything that led

1278
00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:00,520
Speaker 1: to me going no contact with my mother in law

1279
00:59:00,840 --> 00:59:02,960
Speaker 1: was that she didn't wish me a happy birthday. No call,

1280
00:59:03,160 --> 00:59:05,280
Speaker 1: no text, no nothing, and neither did my session in

1281
00:59:05,360 --> 00:59:07,800
Speaker 1: law or her husband. Birthdays are a huge thing in

1282
00:59:07,840 --> 00:59:11,960
Speaker 1: their family, so this means something majorly disrespectful. So my

1283
00:59:12,080 --> 00:59:15,120
Speaker 1: question is what do I do. Do I go to

1284
00:59:15,120 --> 00:59:17,480
Speaker 1: this kid's birthday party and just ignore them, or do

1285
00:59:17,560 --> 00:59:20,040
Speaker 1: I send my husband alone, or do I send my

1286
00:59:20,160 --> 00:59:23,040
Speaker 1: husband with my daughter, and I am free to go

1287
00:59:23,080 --> 00:59:23,600
Speaker 1: to the gym.

1288
00:59:24,040 --> 00:59:26,520
Speaker 2: Okay, this is what I would say to that. I say,

1289
00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:29,400
Speaker 2: you should go go with your husband and go with

1290
00:59:29,400 --> 00:59:33,320
Speaker 2: your daughter. And before you go, be like husband, I

1291
00:59:33,360 --> 00:59:36,880
Speaker 2: want you to pay laser focus attention to how I.

1292
00:59:36,840 --> 00:59:37,480
Speaker 1: Am treated here.

1293
00:59:37,640 --> 00:59:39,360
Speaker 2: Use it as an example, because I would I would

1294
00:59:39,360 --> 00:59:41,240
Speaker 2: guess that the only thing he's saying is be like, oh,

1295
00:59:41,280 --> 00:59:43,600
Speaker 2: they're not that bad. They don't really not like you land,

1296
00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:48,720
Speaker 2: it can't be that bad, and I just be like husband, watch, watch.

1297
00:59:48,920 --> 00:59:52,320
Speaker 1: And know this. Everything you see here is what happens

1298
00:59:52,360 --> 00:59:57,280
Speaker 1: with every every single interaction with them, or like it.

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Speaker 1: It is consistent and it never it never. Yeah, then

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Speaker 1: that's the leaf. But honestly, at this point, he doesn't

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Speaker 1: they have enough evidence, I mean to me, taking her

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Speaker 1: away from her proposal when he was in the middle

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Speaker 1: of it, like he was there, like even that that alone,

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Speaker 1: that alone could be and they did a thousand more

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Speaker 1: like anyways, so many things here. Let's get into these

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Speaker 1: last relevant comments. So commentre number one says, send your

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Speaker 1: husband alone, tell him you wouldn't want him to be

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Speaker 1: around people who abuse and bully him. So why doesn't

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Speaker 1: he love you enough to do the same for you

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Speaker 1: who bore commentar number two. No contact means no contact.

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Speaker 1: Why is your significant other wanting to go to a

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Speaker 1: party that he knows you'll be treated terribly at Opie replies,

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Speaker 1: my husband is literally arguing with me right now, saying

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Speaker 1: that we all have to go because we are a

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Speaker 1: family and I am with him and with him, no

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Speaker 1: one will disrespect me.

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Speaker 3: He was literally at the party the other week with.

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Speaker 1: Me and they did nothing but disrespect me. If I

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Speaker 1: don't go to the party, he says, he's taking our

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Speaker 1: daughter with him. At least that really irritates me. He

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Speaker 1: says they understand their mistakes and they've been wanting to

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Speaker 1: talk to you, which proves false as he said that

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Speaker 1: before the other party, and they continue to treat me

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Speaker 1: like crap. He says that he can't take the situation

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Speaker 1: and that he needs there to be peace. It makes

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Speaker 1: me so angry that he thinks I can just forgive

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Speaker 1: and forget after being treated so or there is.

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Speaker 2: No peace if there's only a piece for him. He's saying,

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Speaker 2: I need my peace. They won't stop telling me, so

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Speaker 2: I need you to be there so they can shut

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Speaker 2: up to me and start ruining your time, like it's

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Speaker 2: that selfish and again disregarding Op's experience.

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Speaker 1: So I.

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Speaker 2: Don't know. I think it needs to be like a

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Speaker 2: go to this party and then have like a moment

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Speaker 2: by moment breakdown where it's like you experience the disrespect

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Speaker 2: husband is there. You go having a side with husband

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Speaker 2: and you say, Okay, what did you see there?

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Speaker 3: Did you see respect?

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Speaker 2: Did you did you see respect? When they ignored my

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Speaker 2: existence and like talk to our daughter like like you know,

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Speaker 2: like when someone's like out, like a stranger's walking a

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Speaker 2: dog and it's really cute and you go, oh, hi,

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Speaker 2: little doggie, and then you completely ignore the existence of

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Speaker 2: the person walking the dog. Right, we've all done this,

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Speaker 2: We've all done this, but this is not a stranger

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Speaker 2: with a cute dog. This is your daughter in law

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Speaker 2: with your grandchild.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm gonna say this might be crazy, but just

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Speaker 1: to just just throw a freaking' a frickin hail Mary

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Speaker 1: at the end end of an episode, I think we

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Speaker 1: have enough here for a divorce. I do not. I

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Speaker 1: think we should absolutely go to counseling and like go

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Speaker 1: through that, but mostly as a preper you know, as

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Speaker 1: a Okay, maybe we can resolve this, but kind of

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Speaker 1: going in being like I don't know if he's going

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Speaker 1: to change, and just prepping for co parenting. I think

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Speaker 1: this man has shown that, hey, you love your mom

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Speaker 1: so much, go marry her.

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Speaker 3: Much freaking Mary.

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Speaker 2: But see, I think that's the pay fact context for

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Speaker 2: the counseling. This guy's clearly so chained to his family

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Speaker 2: that like he can't see reality. And it's like, if

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Speaker 2: you if you know, if outside of this this is

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Speaker 2: like a healthy marriage and a healthy relationship and like

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Speaker 2: a man that you love, like, go try to figure out,

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Speaker 2: you know, how to move past it. And I think

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Speaker 2: it lies with the husband being able to be like,

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Speaker 2: oh yeah, my family's toxic.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and right now he can't do that. The rose

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Speaker 1: tinted glasses, they got it.

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Speaker 2: They got to fly, you know, and whether it's a

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Speaker 2: cultural thing or what, whatever it is, get to the

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01:03:27,160 --> 01:03:28,080
Speaker 2: root of it, that's right.

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Speaker 3: And then if that and if.

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Speaker 2: That doesn't work, yeah, I don't I don't know, man.

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Speaker 2: I can't see myself being in a relationship where I'm

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Speaker 2: made to be constantly disrespected by people I can never.

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Speaker 1: Get rid of. You know, this doesn't make any sense, Ladies,

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Speaker 1: and gentlemen, please comment below. Would you divorce or na

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01:03:47,200 --> 01:03:50,760
Speaker 1: say your reasons why? I want to see freakin' I

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01:03:50,840 --> 01:03:52,720
Speaker 1: want to see paragraphs. I want to see I want

1383
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Speaker 1: to see essays novella's novels. In the comments let us know,

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Speaker 1: but if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 3: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives. Time

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Speaker 3: for okop relash.

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Speaker 5: Am I the a hole for shouting about hose at

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01:04:09,840 --> 01:04:12,560
Speaker 5: my own wedding depends does these hose be trifling? And

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01:04:12,680 --> 01:04:13,520
Speaker 5: do they have boats?

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Speaker 1: Oh? My?

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Speaker 5: Are they boats and hose? Boats and hose? Gotta have

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01:04:17,320 --> 01:04:20,640
Speaker 5: some boats and hose. And this has actually submitted on

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Speaker 5: our subreddit. Are in a slash okop show by Impossible

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Speaker 5: Dig five through two seven, So impossible Dig. We're about

1395
01:04:26,280 --> 01:04:28,720
Speaker 5: to dig into this story. Yeah we are so. I

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Speaker 5: thirty male, just got married last Friday night to my wife,

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Speaker 5: twenty nine female.

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Speaker 1: Hell.

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Speaker 5: The wedding was going so well. We set our vows,

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Speaker 5: We've all said I do and so on. Our whole

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Speaker 5: family came along with many of our friends. It was

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Speaker 5: a beautiful ceremony, marked by an incredible intensity of love

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01:04:44,640 --> 01:04:47,919
Speaker 5: in the air. I saw tears in people's eyes after

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Speaker 5: the wedding, and the wedding was quite emotional, not only

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01:04:50,800 --> 01:04:52,960
Speaker 5: on my wife but my family as well. So now

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01:04:53,080 --> 01:04:55,480
Speaker 5: comes a reception. We're having a great time. My wife

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Speaker 5: is expressing her feelings of gratitude towards everyone who attended

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Speaker 5: and reiterating her love for I reciprocated, of course, and

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Speaker 5: at the end of my monologue, I closed by saying, Honey,

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Speaker 5: I'm a pussy pirate and my name is Jack Sparrow.

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Speaker 5: I'm about to turn you into a fine pirate hooker

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Speaker 5: of a wife. Then we'll have some beautiful pirate children,

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01:05:15,720 --> 01:05:19,160
Speaker 5: just like you always dreamed of, you, little pirate slut.

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Speaker 5: Why the fuck would you say that? She looked mortified.

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01:05:22,920 --> 01:05:26,080
Speaker 5: There was a gasp and extremely awkward silence in the crowd.

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01:05:26,200 --> 01:05:29,560
Speaker 5: She just walks away and starts crying. Everyone looks at

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Speaker 5: me as if I ruined the wedding. Now comes the

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Speaker 5: dancing music. I asked the DJ to play boats and

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Speaker 5: posts at day, to play boats and Hose. That's a

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01:05:39,520 --> 01:05:42,000
Speaker 5: hilarious song that was played in Step Brothers. I was

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Speaker 5: the only one on the dance floor when it was playing.

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Speaker 5: No one joined me, just glaring at me. My wife

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01:05:46,640 --> 01:05:48,440
Speaker 5: is now upset, with me and telling me I'm a

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01:05:48,480 --> 01:05:50,840
Speaker 5: stupid fuck monkey. My mother in law has been blowing

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01:05:50,880 --> 01:05:52,640
Speaker 5: up my phone since this happened. She told me, I

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01:05:52,680 --> 01:05:55,200
Speaker 5: am a slutty man whore. I for one think it's

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01:05:55,200 --> 01:05:56,920
Speaker 5: time for them to put their big girl pants on.

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Speaker 5: Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 1: Bron?

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Speaker 3: Why would you say that? Yes? You're the a hole bro?

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01:06:02,840 --> 01:06:03,880
Speaker 3: Oh my god?

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01:06:04,200 --> 01:06:05,800
Speaker 1: What was it? Slutty hooker?

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Speaker 5: Is it a thing from unless you're from Stepbrothers or something?

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01:06:09,920 --> 01:06:13,080
Speaker 5: Maybe like but still like, come on, read the room, bro,

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01:06:13,280 --> 01:06:16,840
Speaker 5: like for real Jesus, but you know what room?

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01:06:16,920 --> 01:06:19,320
Speaker 3: You should always let us read? Oh my god, what

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Speaker 3: one the.

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Speaker 5: Contents of your brain by spelling it our slash okop show.

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Speaker 3: Oh yes, send it into our slash okop show. We're

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Speaker 3: gonna read your stories. Yes, just like this okop. This

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Speaker 3: is Okyop.

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Speaker 5: I'm Samuel Donnad and I'm John Fryt, and we tell

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Speaker 5: the funniest stories on the Internet. And John, I got

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Speaker 5: a question for you, hit. What is slowly dying off

1445
01:06:42,000 --> 01:06:44,320
Speaker 5: or disappearing attention spans.

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Speaker 1: TikTok prove us wrong? Watch the end of the video.

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Speaker 5: Some of the content on this uh on these platforms

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Speaker 5: rotten the brains of the youth. All right, I'm just

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Speaker 5: gonna read this quote, which is a someone commented below

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Speaker 5: that is a proponent of drinking beer. It says, well,

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Speaker 5: you see, it's like this. A herd of buffalo can

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01:07:03,880 --> 01:07:06,560
Speaker 5: only move as fast as the slowest buffalo, and when

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01:07:06,560 --> 01:07:09,280
Speaker 5: the herd is hunted, it is the slowest and weakest

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01:07:09,280 --> 01:07:12,480
Speaker 5: ones at the back that are killed first. This natural

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01:07:12,520 --> 01:07:15,120
Speaker 5: selection is good for the herd as a whole, because

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Speaker 5: the general speed and health of the whole group keeps

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Speaker 5: improving by the regular killing of the weakest members. In

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Speaker 5: much the same way, the human brain can only operate

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Speaker 5: as fast as the slowest brain cells. Excessive intake of alcohol,

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Speaker 5: as we know, kills brain cells, but naturally it attacks

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Speaker 5: the slowest and weakest brain cells first, And this way,

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Speaker 5: regular consumption of beer eliminates the weaker brain cells, making

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Speaker 5: the brain a faster and more efficient machine. And that's

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Speaker 5: why you always feel smarter after a few beers.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So number one, I'm just not buying this, Like,

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Speaker 1: I do not think this is accurate. Number two, we

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Speaker 1: talk about John.

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Speaker 5: This is this is why we require okop shows are

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Speaker 5: only facts.

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Speaker 1: Only facts, Our new our new subscription service. Yeah, where

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Speaker 1: you pay for facts Fact twenty five dollars a.

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Speaker 3: Month, and then we shake our bums every once.

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Speaker 1: In a week and we shake our bum with each

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Speaker 1: facts with fact. Oh look at that fact. And then also,

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Speaker 1: like when he was beginning this, I thought he was

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Speaker 1: going to say, like, so that's why we need to

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Speaker 1: like remove the dumbest people from society, like by eliminating

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01:08:21,960 --> 01:08:25,400
Speaker 1: them all, you're going going this dark a little bit

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Speaker 1: of s What do we got next?

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Speaker 3: Patience? Yeah, slowly dying off?

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01:08:30,120 --> 01:08:32,759
Speaker 1: I agree, you know what we need patients for Sam

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01:08:32,920 --> 01:08:35,240
Speaker 1: the end of the video, to the end of this video,

1483
01:08:35,400 --> 01:08:36,080
Speaker 1: keep on it.

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Speaker 5: God, koalas, a lot of them have the clap. They're

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01:08:39,760 --> 01:08:41,240
Speaker 5: a bunch of dirty salutes.

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Speaker 1: Many Why why are you hating on the sensual liberation

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01:08:46,040 --> 01:08:47,400
Speaker 1: of these of these koalas?

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Speaker 5: They call it down under for a reason. And then lastly,

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Speaker 5: what is slowly dying off?

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Speaker 3: Everyone? Enjoy your finite existence? Wow? That that hit deep.

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01:08:57,200 --> 01:09:00,639
Speaker 1: Honestly, Like this is ending on a very exist note

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Speaker 1: right here, Like this is.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, I don't know how to feel right

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01:09:03,640 --> 01:09:06,320
Speaker 5: now other than freaking follow us your little.

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Speaker 1: Turd, Yeah to it. Colas are we ready for our

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Speaker 1: next question. What does America get right?

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Speaker 3: You know, maybe a few things, and these are.

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Speaker 1: Not the answers I expected, honestly.

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Speaker 3: Really okay, yea, truly, I've then altering your restaurant order.

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Speaker 1: I visited Spain and I couldn't find a place that

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Speaker 1: would let me substitute or change things.

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Speaker 3: Man, Americans, we're just picky.

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Speaker 1: We're so and the.

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Speaker 3: Restaurant industry accommodates us, and it comminates.

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Speaker 1: You know, you think like, hey, like if it's not

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Speaker 1: something crazy, like I wouldn't ask for like could you

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Speaker 1: make this like chicken dish, but like make it with calamari,

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Speaker 1: Like that's.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's ridiculous. But I feel like I would like

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Speaker 5: my chicken done medium, Or let's replace these potatoes with

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Speaker 5: sweet potatoes.

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Speaker 1: Or like, hey, can I get some of your like

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Speaker 1: fried onion rings? Sam? Are you hungry?

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Speaker 3: twenty to come right now.

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Speaker 1: Well, Sam, I know you love gobbling down them cucumbers,

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Speaker 5: See, yeah, you know, just like simple stuff, I mean,

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Speaker 5: expect to pay more for it. And also like the

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Speaker 5: reason that I think Americans can ask is because we

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Speaker 5: have a tipping culture.

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Speaker 3: So you just for how terrible you're being.

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Speaker 1: That is true. You know what's funny? Like I went

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Speaker 1: to France and it's like people make fun of all

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Speaker 1: the American tourists that tip. If I was the French waiter,

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Speaker 1: I'd be like.

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Speaker 3: Bruh, brugg you forgive it? What are you talking about?

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Speaker 1: Double paid? Like, why would I ever like clown someone

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01:12:58,720 --> 01:13:00,280
Speaker 1: who is getting me paid double.

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01:13:00,160 --> 01:13:03,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's ridiculous, Well let them pay you get that check.

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Speaker 3: Fam.

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Speaker 1: It's actually, if anything, as soon as I hear like

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Speaker 1: English with the American accent, I'm like more than a

1587
01:13:12,640 --> 01:13:15,040
Speaker 1: extra extra crap for you, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: I didn't like eighties music until I heard American eighties music.

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Speaker 1: You guys did eighties best.

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Speaker 5: We got Michael Jackson, Come on, like, how are you

1591
01:13:22,600 --> 01:13:24,439
Speaker 5: going to compete with us? Literally literally he's the king

1592
01:13:24,520 --> 01:13:27,280
Speaker 5: and we got Michael Jackson and Rick Rollman.

1593
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Speaker 3: What's his name, Oh toulu.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Rick Atley, here's a question, A, I don't even

1595
01:13:34,560 --> 01:13:37,920
Speaker 1: know what eighties music outside of America sounds like. Do

1596
01:13:37,960 --> 01:13:40,800
Speaker 1: you have you ever head? I know I have heard though,

1597
01:13:40,880 --> 01:13:43,439
Speaker 1: so you know how like like K pop, they'll just

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01:13:43,479 --> 01:13:46,040
Speaker 1: take like what like big trending sounds and kind of

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01:13:46,080 --> 01:13:48,120
Speaker 1: just like redo it with Korean on top of it. Yeah,

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01:13:48,240 --> 01:13:51,320
Speaker 1: so they actually have done this with like eighties music. Also,

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01:13:51,360 --> 01:13:54,080
Speaker 1: it's not just like today's popular music, and it's actually

1602
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Speaker 1: pretty fire.

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01:13:54,800 --> 01:13:58,040
Speaker 3: Like they've done this with they've redone eighties music.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but today, like I I think I read

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Speaker 1: somewhere that like other country's equivalent to like trying K pop, right,

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Speaker 1: Lithuanian l pop?

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01:14:05,640 --> 01:14:10,520
Speaker 5: You know, is anyone from TikTok or YouTube on from Lithuania?

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01:14:10,600 --> 01:14:12,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, Basically they'll they'll take they're kind of like ten

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Speaker 1: years behind, so they'll just like you know, retake ten

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Speaker 1: or twenty year old music and just redo it. So beautiful,

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Speaker 1: it's pretty awesome for non American. The things that stood

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Speaker 1: out for me in the month I spent backpacking were

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Speaker 1: the people. Granted it might have been that I was

1614
01:14:25,120 --> 01:14:27,960
Speaker 1: in the holiday bubble, but geez, everyone I met over

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01:14:27,960 --> 01:14:30,479
Speaker 1: there was friendly and willing to help, however they could.

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Speaker 1: I do love that. I love it when there's like

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Speaker 1: cultures in a place where it's like you're at a bar,

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01:14:35,200 --> 01:14:37,439
Speaker 1: like or I like I haven't booked a hotel, or oh,

1619
01:14:37,479 --> 01:14:39,559
Speaker 1: come over for dinner, like we'll feed you, like stay

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Speaker 1: at our Yeah.

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Speaker 5: But I also think in terms of America, there's a

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Speaker 5: lot of different parts in America. I feel like la

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01:14:46,840 --> 01:14:49,479
Speaker 5: where we are, it's maybe a little less friendly than

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01:14:49,520 --> 01:14:52,360
Speaker 5: if you're going through certain parts of the South.

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Speaker 1: Totally probably too late, but to recall what I once

1626
01:14:55,120 --> 01:14:58,559
Speaker 1: read wandering hype people. You never know when it will happen.

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01:14:58,720 --> 01:15:02,439
Speaker 1: But at some unexpected moment in America, someone is hyping

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Speaker 1: someone up. Usually this is performed by complete and total strangers.

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01:15:06,280 --> 01:15:09,360
Speaker 3: I'm that guy. I love doing that. Yeah, Like, look at.

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Speaker 5: That guy, makeed up beast of salami. Come on, look

1631
01:15:12,920 --> 01:15:17,920
Speaker 5: at all our boxes with so many batsmen boxes.

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Speaker 1: And last but not least, on a very heartwarming note,

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01:15:21,000 --> 01:15:23,880
Speaker 1: the United States adopts more children than the rest of

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Speaker 1: the world combined. Wow, isn't that? Isn't that awesome?

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Speaker 3: I wonder from where?

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01:15:28,000 --> 01:15:28,639
Speaker 1: Yeah? True?

1637
01:15:28,680 --> 01:15:31,040
Speaker 3: Like what what states where we're stealing babies from.

1638
01:15:31,120 --> 01:15:33,120
Speaker 1: Is where we're stealing babies from.

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Speaker 5: I don't know when I think of adoption, I just

1640
01:15:35,160 --> 01:15:37,800
Speaker 5: think of all like the moms, like I just adopted

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01:15:37,800 --> 01:15:38,920
Speaker 5: a Chinese baby.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the same, same, same.

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01:15:41,640 --> 01:15:45,400
Speaker 5: But I guess there's kids who are probably kid. Yeah

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01:15:45,400 --> 01:15:48,400
Speaker 5: that's another episode of O Koe B. If you haven't already,

1645
01:15:48,479 --> 01:15:49,280
Speaker 5: make sure you.

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01:15:49,600 --> 01:15:54,840
Speaker 1: So scrab for for harmony. Do it for the sake

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01:15:54,880 --> 01:15:57,040
Speaker 1: of harmony or harmony. We'll see you next time.