WEBVTT - Vitamin D Live - 2.4.25 (w/ Keyonna Monroe)

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning, good afternoon, good evening.

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<v Speaker 2>You are tuned in to the Vitamin D with Dawn

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<v Speaker 2>Day Podcast and I am your host, Dawn Day, here

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<v Speaker 2>to get you excited about your life so that you

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<v Speaker 2>can live life on purpose and for a purpose. If

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<v Speaker 2>this is your first time tuning in and welcome Vitamin D,

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<v Speaker 2>it's a point of my name. My name is Dawn,

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<v Speaker 2>and you get Vitamin D from the sun. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>here shed light into your life. And I do this

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<v Speaker 2>with inspirational insights and conversations with celebrities and everyday people

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<v Speaker 2>like you and me, Because if you want to be

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<v Speaker 2>better and you want to do better, then you're going

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<v Speaker 2>to have to be able.

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<v Speaker 1>To see better.

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<v Speaker 2>So join me on this journey of living our best

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<v Speaker 2>lives and understanding and realizing how you are your greatest

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<v Speaker 2>ass at get your vit in.

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<v Speaker 3>Indy right here with me, and get excited about your life.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, hello there, I said, hello there. It's been way

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<v Speaker 2>too long, way too long. Indeed, m how you doing.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm great. You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I recently had somebody I was streaming on live and

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<v Speaker 2>they were like, how are you doing doing? I said,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm good, I'm grateful, I'm good and they said, well,

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<v Speaker 2>how are you doing so good with all of the

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<v Speaker 2>disasters and things that are happening.

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<v Speaker 1>And I sat there because.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to seem like I'm numb and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>forgetting about how so many people have in their lives

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<v Speaker 2>have been affected.

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<v Speaker 1>But what I said to them, I said, well, I know.

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<v Speaker 2>There was a lot of stuff that I had been

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<v Speaker 2>through and experienced, down to you know, going after a dream,

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<v Speaker 2>having a dream deferred, because I once day it is

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<v Speaker 2>denied of delay. Sometimes we have a vision of how

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<v Speaker 2>we want things to happen, and then whether you believe

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<v Speaker 2>in God, the universe or would have you have it

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<v Speaker 2>up and just switch some.

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<v Speaker 1>Plans and understand the acceptance.

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<v Speaker 2>But I know there was a time that I was

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<v Speaker 2>going to have to take a bus to the schooter

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<v Speaker 2>and walk to get to my destination.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's not it right now.

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<v Speaker 2>And yes, I will say that a lot of things

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<v Speaker 2>have been strusted now Mama, husband eating, But you know, like.

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<v Speaker 1>I say, when it's a new dawn and it's a

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<v Speaker 1>new day, I had the drawer open.

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<v Speaker 2>But with that being said, I am so excited about

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<v Speaker 2>this conversation and wanted to be checking in, checking in,

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<v Speaker 2>not rushing doing the next thing, but checking in because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so present right now and ready and willing to

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<v Speaker 2>give up updates. But I got a guess coming on.

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<v Speaker 2>Her name is Keana Monroe. Now she's no stranger to

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<v Speaker 2>Vitamin D. I had her on a couple of years ago,

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<v Speaker 2>had to run again, even had to run when I

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<v Speaker 2>was on the FM dial. And she specializes in talking

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<v Speaker 2>about relationships and communication, not only with other people but

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<v Speaker 2>also with yourselves. And because Valentine's Day is right around

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<v Speaker 2>the corner, she will be joining in on the show

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<v Speaker 2>to discuss her crayon theory mixer she has coming up.

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<v Speaker 2>So I had her on a previous so talking about

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<v Speaker 2>the crown theory and how we basically identify ourselves. We

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<v Speaker 2>can identify ourselves with the color of a crime, and

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<v Speaker 2>if you think about it, we all learn our burst

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<v Speaker 2>of color right coming together to put these beautiful images.

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<v Speaker 2>But when we talk about relationships, you know how you

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<v Speaker 2>can be attracted to somebody but not necessarily be compatible

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<v Speaker 2>with them. So she's gonna join me and we're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>dive in and have some things. And let me give

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<v Speaker 2>a shout out to some people I see Joni on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 2>I see Frankie g on Ig. Who was this on?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>I can't see who was on Facebook? Behave we everywhere?

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<v Speaker 1>I got a nick of time. I got l.

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<v Speaker 2>Holding it down, LEXI holding it down. So we're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>have a conversation, and I want to welcome you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>I will open it up for you guys to call

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<v Speaker 2>in studio to talk to me. Yes, you will be

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<v Speaker 2>able to call in live to talk and we can

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<v Speaker 2>have this conversation. But until she comes in, because I

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<v Speaker 2>know she just came in for a few jobs and

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<v Speaker 2>she texts me. She texts me to say that she's

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<v Speaker 2>getting everything situated. I just want to just remind you

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<v Speaker 2>to be in a moment of gratitude, because the more

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<v Speaker 2>grateful you are, the more things you have to be

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<v Speaker 2>grateful for. And I know everything is not perfect, but

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<v Speaker 2>what it is, I mean, anything that's real and good

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<v Speaker 2>for you, what is actually perfect. It's like that thing

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<v Speaker 2>where you got your things that's again in the gang,

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<v Speaker 2>and you have to decide within yourself what you're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>do with that thing. You can stop growing and die

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<v Speaker 2>or you can keep growing and live. And I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know about you. I'm gonna live and I was talking

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<v Speaker 2>to an executive over here, a mentor of mine. His

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<v Speaker 2>name is Bill May, and he was taught. I was

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<v Speaker 2>telling him and I was like, you know, I was

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<v Speaker 2>sharing how I was live streaming, and somebody was like, Dawn,

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<v Speaker 2>how are you in an optimistic mood? I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>because everything had been deferred, It's like, yo, it made

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<v Speaker 2>me better, it made me learn more. So I'm hoping

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<v Speaker 2>that we can learn some things, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>Learn some things not only from other people, but most importantly,

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<v Speaker 2>learn some things with yourself. Because if you want to

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<v Speaker 2>be better and you want to do better, that's what

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<v Speaker 2>we're gonna have to be able to see better. You

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<v Speaker 2>feel me, when was the last time you opened your

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<v Speaker 2>eyes to see yourself?

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<v Speaker 1>And I mean truly.

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<v Speaker 2>Realizing that the playing field ain't always perfect, but knowing

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<v Speaker 2>that sometimes it's imperfectly perfect, you know. I think about

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<v Speaker 2>when I was in school and we had an arts program,

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<v Speaker 2>and so we use ceramic tile and it was all

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<v Speaker 2>broken in pieces with all different colors, and so we

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<v Speaker 2>were charged with the task to put together a picture.

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<v Speaker 2>So all these pieces that didn't look like they were

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to go together we fit them together and we

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<v Speaker 2>created something beautiful. And I feel like that's the same

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<v Speaker 2>thing that you have to do with your life. You

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<v Speaker 2>gotta turn a negative into a positive picture. You have

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<v Speaker 2>to be able to take different pieces and put them

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<v Speaker 2>together to create the life that you want. Because if

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<v Speaker 2>you're not doing it, who will. Don't play with me,

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<v Speaker 2>play with yourself. We here for a good time, not

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<v Speaker 2>a long time. Shout out to Miss Marion. She's tuning

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<v Speaker 2>in on Facebook. She said, Amen, my name say. There's

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<v Speaker 2>no such thing as perfect, but we always can be better.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right.

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<v Speaker 2>Because your location is not your destination. You fall down

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<v Speaker 2>seven times, you get up a peck. If you can

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<v Speaker 2>look up, you can get up. So don't play with me,

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<v Speaker 2>play with yourself. But you won't have to take time

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<v Speaker 2>to get to know with yourself. You have to get

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<v Speaker 2>time to know what environments you can operate in, what

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<v Speaker 2>things are gonna hold you back, but most importantly, what

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<v Speaker 2>type of situation is gonna prepare you forward. Perhaps the

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<v Speaker 2>things that didn't go your way did not go your

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<v Speaker 2>way because you would be complacent, you would be content,

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<v Speaker 2>you wouldn't be able to do the service that you

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<v Speaker 2>were supposed to do. For others, but most importantly do

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<v Speaker 2>for yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>See. I'm a believer that.

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<v Speaker 2>When it's time to go after your dreams, you're feeding yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>And once you start feeding yourself, you realize that things

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<v Speaker 2>becoming an overflow.

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<v Speaker 5>See.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't want to give from a cup that's half empty.

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<v Speaker 2>You want to be so filled up that I won't

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<v Speaker 2>even realize that I'm lacking, or that I'm missing or

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<v Speaker 2>something is leaving. Because remember we're talking about surplus. I

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<v Speaker 2>got this in the studio. It's probably backwards because of

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<v Speaker 2>the view, but it says abundance. I'm calling for abundance

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<v Speaker 2>exceedingly beyond in every aspect.

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<v Speaker 1>Of my life. And I charge you to do the

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<v Speaker 1>same thing too.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't say a little, don't say a whole lot, just

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<v Speaker 2>say an overflow.

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<v Speaker 1>We overflowing in this season, and I know that this

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<v Speaker 1>time can I can? I be real with you.

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<v Speaker 2>I always forget what this season or this month really

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<v Speaker 2>means for me, and a lot can be said my

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<v Speaker 2>mother she transitioned, was I guess like twelve years ago? Now,

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<v Speaker 2>hold on, that's twenty twelve years ago in the month

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<v Speaker 2>of February, and I was streaming on Live and do

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<v Speaker 2>you know, somebody told me that they saw a spirit

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<v Speaker 2>in my house who immediately I jumped up, didn't even

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<v Speaker 2>get a chance to really rest it, and I grabbed

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<v Speaker 2>the sage, I grabbed a white candle. Everything was lit

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<v Speaker 2>up in here, and I forget how she had exited.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I had somebody else come in. They were like, yeah, Dawn,

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<v Speaker 2>I can see it.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a very good friend of mine, one of

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<v Speaker 2>my best friends, ell and she was like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 2>have an idea.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, you do.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, well, are they good or best? She was like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, this is a big month for you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>And my sister was on the live as well. And

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<v Speaker 2>not that I forgot, but you necessarily don't keep in

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<v Speaker 2>front of mind. But I was like, oh, this is

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<v Speaker 2>the same month my mom transitions. So I mean, I

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<v Speaker 2>am a firm believer that I think that people that

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<v Speaker 2>have crossed over, people who have transitioned, whether you say

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<v Speaker 2>they went to different dimensions, that oftentimes.

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<v Speaker 1>They appear they come in to check in, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>So I am thinking to myself that perhaps that was

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<v Speaker 2>a moment that my mom was here checking in, And

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<v Speaker 2>I think for a minute. I got emotional because I

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<v Speaker 2>just have to slow down sometimes to realize, Okay, well

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<v Speaker 2>what this season is about. But one thing that we

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<v Speaker 2>can say where we are, just on the calendar month

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<v Speaker 2>that we follow, is that we're in the winter about

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<v Speaker 2>to step to spring. So there are a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>things that are starting to reburn. And I want you

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<v Speaker 2>to realize that change is inevitable. Yeah, you're gonna have

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<v Speaker 2>to go through the darkest moment before you get to

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<v Speaker 2>the light.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, So maybe that's what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>It's this transformation, this spring cleaning. So while a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of things have changed, I'm excited to the fact that

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<v Speaker 2>things aren't the same. And I think when you get

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<v Speaker 2>so used to being in control of things, you want

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<v Speaker 2>things to be.

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<v Speaker 1>Follow in order.

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<v Speaker 2>We can get so caught up in blindfolders on that

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<v Speaker 2>you can't even see over and beyond. Somebody can look

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<v Speaker 2>at you and deliver a message straight to your face

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<v Speaker 2>because you so caught up and what you think you

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<v Speaker 2>can't even hear what they're saying. Hey, miss Mayan, how

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<v Speaker 2>you doing? So let it be a moment of thinking.

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<v Speaker 2>Now I'm trying to figure out, Keanu, what is taking

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<v Speaker 2>so long? Oh look, I'm talking smack and she just

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<v Speaker 2>poffed in.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, so.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, y'all can't here, y'all can't he here, Keana, I

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<v Speaker 2>need for you. Are you going on to you gotta

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<v Speaker 2>go live on ig as well. I need you to

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<v Speaker 2>pull out your phone. You got your phone set up, baby, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>You're gonna go to Vitamin D with Dawn Day and

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<v Speaker 2>I want you to have your phone set up because

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<v Speaker 2>you're gonna join me over there and then people let's

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<v Speaker 2>on TikTok. They're gonna be able to hear you too,

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<v Speaker 2>because I checked your following it. I don't think it

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<v Speaker 2>was enough for us to, you know, to come on video,

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<v Speaker 2>but they're gonna hear and then we're gonna have a

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<v Speaker 2>way if you want to have to call us some questions,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, She looked like she moving.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm gonna do what I do.

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<v Speaker 2>And fill up some space because we just need a

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<v Speaker 2>little grace. Put a thumbs up, Keanu. When you've ready, baby,

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<v Speaker 2>she said, one minute. But like I said before, if

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<v Speaker 2>you was your first time tuning in, I want to

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<v Speaker 2>just remind you to be sure to search Vitamin D

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<v Speaker 2>with Dawn d A. I on all platforms. Okay, follow

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<v Speaker 2>me and make sure that you subscribe to my podcast. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>right now you are getting the unedited live version. Now

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<v Speaker 2>every person that's listening is gonna wish they can be here. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess it's time for me to introduce my special

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<v Speaker 2>guest and she can join in when she can, as

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<v Speaker 2>long as the phone is ready. Well, this is the

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<v Speaker 2>most important part, the phone. That's that's not it. So

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<v Speaker 2>I want to welcome to somebody special. Her name is

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<v Speaker 2>Keanu Monroe. She is a coach, I would say, a

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<v Speaker 2>relationship coach like relationship with others, but also having the

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<v Speaker 2>relationship with yourself. Now, when I said about beginning of

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<v Speaker 2>the podcast, I said that Valentine's Day is right around

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<v Speaker 2>the corner, and she specializes in something she calls the

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<v Speaker 2>crayon theory. She has an upcoming crayon Theory mixer happening,

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<v Speaker 2>and she talks about how we all play a role

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<v Speaker 2>as to what colored crayon we are. And there's a

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<v Speaker 2>difference from being attracted to somebody and knowing whether or

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<v Speaker 2>not you are compatible.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know where you fit in the mix?

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<v Speaker 2>All right, family, I guess it's time to bring your

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<v Speaker 2>own stage without further ado put some hands collapsed in

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<v Speaker 2>the social media's I'm talking about on TikTok. I'm talking

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<v Speaker 2>to my own Facebook, and of course if you are

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<v Speaker 2>tuned in on I.

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<v Speaker 1>G for the one and only one role. Hello, how

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<v Speaker 1>are you my darling here?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm here. Okay, So I see the social media. I

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<v Speaker 4>have it on my I have it on my right side.

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<v Speaker 2>I might have to accept you, but that's that's We're

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<v Speaker 2>more focused on having you right here.

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<v Speaker 1>I have except did you join my live?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm on live? You have to go live on your phone. See,

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<v Speaker 2>that's not important. We got to get to our conversation

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<v Speaker 2>to see you. But we're supposed to see you too.

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<v Speaker 2>But let's jump in here. Baby, let's let's not before

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<v Speaker 2>we with that. You there we go, okay, okay, perfect, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so we'll stay here. So Keanna family, can y'all hear

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<v Speaker 2>me on TikTok? Throw on hands up? Say how to Keana?

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<v Speaker 2>Throw a thumbs up if you can hear Keana. Two, Keana,

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<v Speaker 2>you gotta talk.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm here. I am so happy to be here. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't know if everybody can see me, but but to

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<v Speaker 4>wherever you are, happy New Year.

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<v Speaker 5>I'll be twenty twenty five coming in it.

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<v Speaker 4>And you're still alive and hopefully with everything going on,

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<v Speaker 4>we could still thrive.

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<v Speaker 1>Come on, you gotta talk that talk to me. You

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<v Speaker 1>know I love when we get talked that talk. Listen, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>So Keana, you have something special. We're gonna do it.

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<v Speaker 5>We're gonna we're gonna get it done. We're gonna we're

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<v Speaker 5>gonna make it through the month.

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<v Speaker 4>Walk welcome February, right, and we're gonna do it as

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<v Speaker 4>a community.

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<v Speaker 5>Better together.

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<v Speaker 4>Everything is better together.

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't it. It's always better together?

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<v Speaker 2>You know when we do stuff alone, think about like

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<v Speaker 2>a bundle of sticks. You can take one stick and

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<v Speaker 2>be like pop. But if I put a whole much together,

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<v Speaker 2>what we gonna do? You can't do nothing with this.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't play when we.

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<v Speaker 5>Play with your story, it's unbreakable.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's talk, Henna.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's talk really quick, because we only have about thirty

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<v Speaker 2>We have good forty minutes. Tell us who you are

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<v Speaker 2>and give us an idea of what exactly the Creon

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<v Speaker 2>theory is.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay to all those who didn't see me last time

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<v Speaker 4>and didn't catch me last time. For all those who

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<v Speaker 4>only remember when I was a darker hair and I've

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<v Speaker 4>gone a little bit blonde per Dawn's request.

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<v Speaker 5>My name is Ki. My name is Kiana Monroe.

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<v Speaker 4>I am a neural linguistics programming practitioner and an emotional intelligence,

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<v Speaker 4>codes and behavioral analyst. I specialize in working with individuals

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<v Speaker 4>and couples, and especially young people, and helping them unlearn psychological, environmental, systemic,

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<v Speaker 4>and societal conditioning that program stand into limited belief systems,

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<v Speaker 4>negative belief systems, and behavioral habits that are rooted in unworthiness.

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<v Speaker 4>And we don't want to do that. So a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of a lot of things that I talk about when

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<v Speaker 4>it comes to people is healing from the inside out.

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<v Speaker 4>We all know that I discussed life matters loving yourself first,

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<v Speaker 4>because it does matter, and a really big part of

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<v Speaker 4>understanding and learning to love yourself is to know yourself

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<v Speaker 4>and to know who you are, not who you were

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<v Speaker 4>conditioned to be, not who you were programmed to be,

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<v Speaker 4>not who you were molded and shaped into being based

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<v Speaker 4>off of society, based off of the environment you grew

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<v Speaker 4>up in, and based off of your family's.

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<v Speaker 5>Desires for you, but you who you are.

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<v Speaker 4>And it's really interesting because not really taking that time

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<v Speaker 4>to know who we are also interferes with how we

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<v Speaker 4>date and how we choose relationships and what type of

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<v Speaker 4>relationship we want.

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<v Speaker 5>And a lot of it.

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<v Speaker 4>Is rooted into the fact that we don't necessarily know

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<v Speaker 4>what we want from others because we haven't really learned

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<v Speaker 4>how to know what we want within ourselves.

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<v Speaker 1>Right about it, Right about it? Girls, say run it that,

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<v Speaker 1>Say it again, Say it again? What did you say?

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta know what don't play when we play with yourself.

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<v Speaker 4>You have to know what you want within yourself first.

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<v Speaker 5>You have to know.

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<v Speaker 4>I said this last time. I can give clear directions

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<v Speaker 4>and navigate people to the center of my heart because

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<v Speaker 4>I live there, because.

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<v Speaker 5>I know me.

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<v Speaker 4>I know me, the version of me that I accept,

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<v Speaker 4>the version of me that I like, Not the version

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<v Speaker 4>of me that society tells me I have to be right.

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<v Speaker 4>Not the version of me that's popular to others for handclap,

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<v Speaker 4>Not the version of me that makes my parents look good,

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<v Speaker 4>that makes you know, society looks good. That mix you know,

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<v Speaker 4>outside that mix, outside viewers champion me. The version of

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<v Speaker 4>me that champions for myself and roots for myself. I

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<v Speaker 4>am looking to be with somebody who wants to be

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<v Speaker 4>with that version of me right, and that allows me

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<v Speaker 4>to be very intentional when it comes to dating, and

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<v Speaker 4>that is what I encourage other people to do. So

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<v Speaker 4>the Crayon theory is rooted in a lot of inner work.

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<v Speaker 5>It's a speed thinking mixer. It's a pre Valentine's Day mixer.

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<v Speaker 4>And the interesting thing is people are like, oh, it's

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<v Speaker 4>a mixer. It's a pre Valentine's saying mixer.

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<v Speaker 5>It's gonna be it's gonna be good, it's gonna be fun.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah it is, but you are going to learn a

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<v Speaker 4>whole lot about yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. So I put the flyer up.

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<v Speaker 2>It says, join us are a fun, sophisticated evening to

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<v Speaker 2>discover your true colors and love.

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<v Speaker 1>The Crayon Theory.

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<v Speaker 2>A transformative speed dating experience where authentic connection are cultivated

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<v Speaker 2>through understanding oneself, not algorithms. Unlike traditional surface level dating approaches,

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<v Speaker 2>the innovation primary color based value system helps identify your

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<v Speaker 2>authentically aligned relationship values. Intimate gathering limit is of twenty

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<v Speaker 2>four participants. We're talking twelve men, twelve women. Professional facilitation

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<v Speaker 2>by NLP and EQ certified Crayon Theory Coach kenum one wrong,

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<v Speaker 2>that's what it is. So learning these colors. Okay, so

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<v Speaker 2>we understand that so annoying oneself, you're saying, that is

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<v Speaker 2>how we get to know what our crayon color is.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, because I understand that dating is exhausting for a

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<v Speaker 4>lot of people. But a lot of times dating exhausting,

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<v Speaker 4>and it's not necessarily because you're doing it wrong.

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<v Speaker 5>It's because you're performing it right. And we spent. We

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<v Speaker 5>spend so much too.

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<v Speaker 4>Can you hear me?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, no, I'm laughing. Go ahead.

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<v Speaker 4>I was looking onto the other and let me not look,

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<v Speaker 4>let me not look at the right.

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<v Speaker 5>To the to the to the phone. But it's it's

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<v Speaker 5>because we tend to perform when we date. We give

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<v Speaker 5>our representative right.

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<v Speaker 4>We have that long list, basically a resume of what

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<v Speaker 4>society says we should want. The type of value man,

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<v Speaker 4>the type of value woman. Everyone that checks the box.

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<v Speaker 4>We craft all the perfect text messages when texting. You know,

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<v Speaker 4>we are we conform, we shrink, we shift to fit

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<v Speaker 4>into the mold of the person that we want.

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<v Speaker 5>To be liked.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll be projecting to be So I had someone on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 2>They asked, they said, well, they're a Caucasian. I think

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<v Speaker 2>part of me. Nick, he's Nick, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>He said, I'm white, so hey, and he know he

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<v Speaker 2>said no, not literally the white crown because he didn't know.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, I know, I'm beige, But how do I

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<v Speaker 2>tell the color crayon I am? I didn't want to

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<v Speaker 2>say white because I'm like, you know, somebody el say

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<v Speaker 2>African American, but do you say white American? Do you

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<v Speaker 2>just say white or just say European? Nick is laughing, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>go ahead, So how can we identify what color we

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<v Speaker 2>are when we're talking about the crayon theory?

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<v Speaker 4>So what's really interesting is I give an assessment. You

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<v Speaker 4>know what, you've been there and you've experienced it for your.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes child had me into yours.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, go ahead, But really what it is is, well,

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<v Speaker 2>what are the fun colors?

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<v Speaker 4>So the main.

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<v Speaker 5>Colors are red, yellow, and blue.

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<v Speaker 1>Because those are the primary that make every color.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, right, your primary colors make all the colors in

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<v Speaker 4>the coloring box.

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<v Speaker 5>Right. And here's the interesting thing.

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<v Speaker 4>When you think about emotions, A lot of times we

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<v Speaker 4>don't we don't know how to communicate our emotions. The

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<v Speaker 4>best way because we don't understand what the primary emotions are, right,

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<v Speaker 4>we can we can tell somebody, Oh, I'm really angry,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm really upset, I'm pissed at this person, and when

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<v Speaker 4>I ask, what are you upset about? And it has

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<v Speaker 4>to be it has to be something.

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<v Speaker 5>That's unfair and unjust. When you're angry, it.

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<v Speaker 4>Means something has happened that is unfair and unjust. And

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of times when people explain things to me,

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<v Speaker 4>it's like, Okay, I understand that there are hues, right,

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<v Speaker 4>there are there hues of anger there, but deep down

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<v Speaker 4>you're hurt, you're sad.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, And that's usually the premise of that is even

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<v Speaker 1>fear right.

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<v Speaker 4>A lot of times, but even that sometimes can be

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<v Speaker 4>on the continuum of like the deeper rooted issue, which

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<v Speaker 4>is I am really hurt and I am sad because

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<v Speaker 4>what you did make me feel fill in the blank, right,

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<v Speaker 4>But being able to put feelings, putting words to feelings

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<v Speaker 4>helps you communicate it better. And when you can communicate

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<v Speaker 4>that better, you can have the outcome.

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<v Speaker 5>That you really want.

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<v Speaker 1>What is the outcome that we reach and.

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<v Speaker 4>That's really healthy And I think that that is the

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<v Speaker 4>same thing that goes with core values. Right, you can

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<v Speaker 4>have hues of of things, meaning surface level dating. You

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<v Speaker 4>go and you ask questions about you know, so what

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<v Speaker 4>do you do for a living? You know, so what

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<v Speaker 4>do you how many.

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<v Speaker 5>Do you do you?

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<v Speaker 4>You know, did you go to school at such and

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<v Speaker 4>such or whatever? Those like little surface level questions are

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<v Speaker 4>those don't really matter?

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<v Speaker 5>Right.

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<v Speaker 4>I have spent a lot of time, years and years

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<v Speaker 4>of working with singles, of working with cups, of working

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<v Speaker 4>with group and group settings, and doing a lot of

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<v Speaker 4>setting and observation, and what I have come to find

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<v Speaker 4>out is that people people don't date asking intentional questions

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<v Speaker 4>that are rooted in alignment of who they are, right,

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<v Speaker 4>and the assessment that I have people take once they

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<v Speaker 4>register right, it's it's really deeper than they think it is.

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<v Speaker 4>That will help me figure out what your color is.

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<v Speaker 5>So that way, when.

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<v Speaker 4>You find out the core value structures, because at the end.

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<v Speaker 2>Of the day, can you list a couple for somebody

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<v Speaker 2>that may not know about primary colors or what the

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<v Speaker 2>core value structures are, just to give an idea.

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<v Speaker 5>So so, so here's here's an example.

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<v Speaker 4>Right, One of the one of the questions that I

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<v Speaker 4>ask is what do you value, right, And when I say.

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<v Speaker 5>What do you what do you value? It's what do

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<v Speaker 5>you value in life?

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<v Speaker 4>What what is the scope and structure of what it

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<v Speaker 4>is that you value? Why do you value that thing? Right?

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<v Speaker 4>And then give me a character breakdown of that And

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<v Speaker 4>there's no right or wrong answer.

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<v Speaker 5>It just has to be yours right. And if this is.

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<v Speaker 4>The character breakdown of what it is that you value,

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<v Speaker 4>and we embody what it is that we value, right,

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<v Speaker 4>then as you navigate in life, then this is who

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<v Speaker 4>you are. These are your morals, your principles, this is

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<v Speaker 4>the foundation that you stand on.

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<v Speaker 5>It was like, this is who I am, This is

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<v Speaker 5>who I am.

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<v Speaker 4>And once you know that, then you can start dating

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<v Speaker 4>out of alignment of who you are, not what's in

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<v Speaker 4>your bank account, not your title, not what your family thinks,

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<v Speaker 4>not what society thinks. Like people have to have a

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<v Speaker 4>radical level of acceptance and knowledge of who they are

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<v Speaker 4>and how all they want to experience life, Understand what

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<v Speaker 4>their non negotiables are that are that's rooted in their value.

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<v Speaker 5>And most of the.

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<v Speaker 4>Time people are out here operating as if this is

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<v Speaker 4>who I am, this is who I am, But actually

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<v Speaker 4>you don't know who you are, So you are navigating

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<v Speaker 4>and operating throughout the world as a fake version of yourself,

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<v Speaker 4>looking for somebody to fill voids and looking for somebody

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<v Speaker 4>to add things to your to your life that you're

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<v Speaker 4>not adding to yourself. And you probably don't even like that.

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<v Speaker 4>That's why it don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Last right here, because I was Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>And when you talk about radically radical acceptance, what does

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<v Speaker 2>that mean and what does that look like?

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<v Speaker 4>Radical acceptance is saying I, this is this is who

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<v Speaker 4>I am, this is this is this is what I love.

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<v Speaker 4>This is how I want to experience the world. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't want to be a mother. I know it's I

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<v Speaker 4>know it's popular in the world.

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<v Speaker 5>I know that. That's what you know, society says that.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, I should have you know this many kids

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<v Speaker 4>and by this age, I should be doing this with

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<v Speaker 4>my life that my parents raised me to be this

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<v Speaker 4>type of girl or or you know, woman in.

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<v Speaker 5>Life or so on and so forth.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, this is this is what society says a

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<v Speaker 4>good life looks like. This is what society says, you know, uh,

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<v Speaker 4>success looks like.

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<v Speaker 2>So basically is understanding what look what success, what what

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<v Speaker 2>your life looks like to you versus the perception or

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<v Speaker 2>the lens of someone else. So who is the type

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<v Speaker 2>of person that should be involved or who would be

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<v Speaker 2>who would be the ideal person to attend the Crayon

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<v Speaker 2>Theory mixer?

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<v Speaker 1>And again tell us when it is taking place.

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<v Speaker 4>On Friday at the Crosby and As a Hollywood Park

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<v Speaker 4>in Inglewood, and it is doors open at six. We

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<v Speaker 4>start at six thirty and we go until about ten thirty.

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<v Speaker 4>Now it's a speed dating mixer, and you'll also have

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<v Speaker 4>a one hour lecture with me. I will help you

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<v Speaker 4>understand your color. I will help you understand your non

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<v Speaker 4>negotiables and your why you're that color.

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<v Speaker 5>And then I will help you learn how to communicate.

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<v Speaker 4>I will help you learn how to ask the questions.

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<v Speaker 4>Right when it comes to the speed dating, I will

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<v Speaker 4>almost coach you. I will kind of coach you along

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<v Speaker 4>the way to help you have a better dating experience.

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<v Speaker 4>And then once I'm done, I set you free, and

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<v Speaker 4>then you can go date and mingle and see, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>see if you find your see if you find your

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<v Speaker 4>your colormat.

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<v Speaker 2>But again, is this only like this Creyon theory and

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<v Speaker 2>what you're speaking of, is this only ideal for someone

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<v Speaker 2>that's in a relationship or not in a relationship, singles

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<v Speaker 2>or people in a relationship, is this a process they should.

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<v Speaker 1>Go through as well? Like who is the Crayon theory for?

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<v Speaker 4>So for this for this weekend, right for the pre

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<v Speaker 4>Valentine's Day mixer, it's for singles.

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<v Speaker 5>It is for singles who you.

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<v Speaker 4>Know, understand how society has shaped their love story and

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<v Speaker 4>they want to change the narrative and write it for themselves.

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<v Speaker 4>And they want to take the time to be able

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<v Speaker 4>to learn that. And they want, you know, they want somebody.

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<v Speaker 4>They might want somebody for Valentine's they want a little boo,

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<v Speaker 4>but they want to be intentional and they want support.

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<v Speaker 5>With that intention.

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<v Speaker 1>So why do you feel like maple?

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<v Speaker 4>And that's it's a short version, right, This is almost

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<v Speaker 4>like a sampler version of what the Crown theory is

0:28:41.960 --> 0:28:44.880
<v Speaker 4>because you've been to the workshop, right, you know that

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<v Speaker 4>that is that that workshop is informative, and it is

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<v Speaker 4>and it can't be a bit intense because.

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<v Speaker 5>Of all of the information that you learn and all

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<v Speaker 5>of the unlearning.

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<v Speaker 2>Right Okay, and then also what I'm saying too, like

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<v Speaker 2>we've been with our workshop, it was very intensive as

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<v Speaker 2>not taking so I'm saying the type of person that

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<v Speaker 2>wants to get into this, who is serious about knowing

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<v Speaker 2>themselves and how they stand in a relationship. Are there

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<v Speaker 2>any tips if someone is not able to attend that

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<v Speaker 2>can start to look into ways of figuring out what

0:29:12.720 --> 0:29:15.280
<v Speaker 2>their color is, to understand what it means to give

0:29:15.320 --> 0:29:17.920
<v Speaker 2>someone grace, or just like we were talking earlier, is

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<v Speaker 2>to understand why somebody is the way they are versus

0:29:21.440 --> 0:29:24.000
<v Speaker 2>just writing them off from what you see at surface value.

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<v Speaker 5>Book a session with me.

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<v Speaker 4>But again, this is this is a this is a

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<v Speaker 4>mini version.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, I do longer workshops after this.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm actually going to open it up to do workshops

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<v Speaker 4>with me, whether it's group session or you can do

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<v Speaker 4>one on ones right where you.

0:29:45.960 --> 0:29:48.200
<v Speaker 5>We go into it on a on a deeper level.

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<v Speaker 4>But this is actually a it's actually fun because it's

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<v Speaker 4>a pilot episode. I am shooting this as a pilot

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<v Speaker 4>episode for an actual sual.

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<v Speaker 5>Show where people do the work per.

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<v Speaker 4>Episode, instead of doing it as a workshop where it's

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<v Speaker 4>super intense, right, I am putting it together as an

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<v Speaker 4>actual television series that I am shooting the pilot for,

0:30:19.000 --> 0:30:22.640
<v Speaker 4>so people on Saturday get to participate in the pilot

0:30:22.800 --> 0:30:27.560
<v Speaker 4>episode of the show of the series, one of the

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<v Speaker 4>interesting is what I did is and you've been to

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<v Speaker 4>both of them, right. You've been to the Strategy to

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<v Speaker 4>Intimacy and you've also been to the Creon theory workshop.

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<v Speaker 5>You've been to both the intimacy structure.

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<v Speaker 2>That into me is in the number two me, not intimacy,

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<v Speaker 2>into me.

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<v Speaker 5>Into me right.

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<v Speaker 4>That workshop is focused on communication, communication style, effective communication,

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<v Speaker 4>emotional filters, emotional intel leigence, and intimacy and your intimacy

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<v Speaker 4>levels right, because most people don't understand their intimacy level.

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<v Speaker 4>So understanding what emotional intelligence is, understanding how it impacts

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<v Speaker 4>the relationship right, and why it's important to be emotionally

0:31:18.080 --> 0:31:23.160
<v Speaker 4>intelligent and emotionally available in a relationship right, and then

0:31:23.280 --> 0:31:26.840
<v Speaker 4>understanding what your intimacy levels are, how to communicate those

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<v Speaker 4>and then again communication, how to do it, how to

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<v Speaker 4>do it properly?

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<v Speaker 5>What is your conflict style? How to like DS?

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<v Speaker 2>Is there some things that you can give us? I

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<v Speaker 2>know you mentioned the different intimacy levels. I know you

0:31:40.080 --> 0:31:42.080
<v Speaker 2>don't want to give everything because that's why somebody needs

0:31:42.120 --> 0:31:44.800
<v Speaker 2>to pay for coulching. But for somebody that may be

0:31:44.920 --> 0:31:47.440
<v Speaker 2>interested just to get an idea because we have Marian

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<v Speaker 2>Jones on Facebook states I've been married for over thirty

0:31:50.280 --> 0:31:53.280
<v Speaker 2>four years and happy, but I do think I need

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<v Speaker 2>to pass your info along.

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<v Speaker 1>It's important what you are doing.

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<v Speaker 5>Thank you very much. Mary.

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<v Speaker 4>And here's something really really interesting. I have a couple

0:32:03.880 --> 0:32:05.640
<v Speaker 4>of friends who are married.

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<v Speaker 5>My friend Belinda.

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<v Speaker 4>Shout out to Belinda, she's been married now for about

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<v Speaker 4>for about sixteen seventeen years, and she actually came to

0:32:17.760 --> 0:32:20.840
<v Speaker 4>the workshops and she said, you know, I think I

0:32:20.920 --> 0:32:24.920
<v Speaker 4>might take acous some of these tips, especially the intimacy

0:32:25.000 --> 0:32:28.400
<v Speaker 4>level tips. She learned some things about herself that she

0:32:28.520 --> 0:32:32.040
<v Speaker 4>was able to take into back into her marriage and

0:32:32.120 --> 0:32:33.960
<v Speaker 4>she was able to sell my gonna tell her husband them,

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<v Speaker 4>but she took it back.

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<v Speaker 1>To her man.

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<v Speaker 4>It was just like, you know, Keanna taught me about this, this, this,

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<v Speaker 4>this and that, and I never knew that do I

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<v Speaker 4>do them? And does that actually bother you?

0:32:43.640 --> 0:32:47.719
<v Speaker 5>And he's like, hell, yeah it does. So it's not Technically.

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<v Speaker 4>If you did come in and participate in a workshop,

0:32:52.080 --> 0:32:54.320
<v Speaker 4>I think that there's a lot that you could learn.

0:32:54.400 --> 0:32:57.000
<v Speaker 5>I think that understanding.

0:32:57.480 --> 0:33:01.880
<v Speaker 4>The core values right is really really important, and then

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<v Speaker 4>understand and we.

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<v Speaker 5>Tend to evolve.

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<v Speaker 4>One of the things that's really important that I teach

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<v Speaker 4>is how to evolve together.

0:33:11.120 --> 0:33:13.840
<v Speaker 5>And because I've worked with couples before.

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<v Speaker 4>And when I work with couples, I talk to them

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<v Speaker 4>about the importance of evolving together so that they.

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<v Speaker 5>Don't grow apart.

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<v Speaker 4>Right. And sometimes when we're in relationships, we get complacent

0:33:27.040 --> 0:33:29.840
<v Speaker 4>and we get a little lazy, and we get comfortable

0:33:29.880 --> 0:33:33.560
<v Speaker 4>with what's familiar, and we don't realize that our partner

0:33:33.680 --> 0:33:36.280
<v Speaker 4>is evolving and growing and that we have to grow

0:33:36.320 --> 0:33:37.640
<v Speaker 4>and evolve with them.

0:33:38.040 --> 0:33:38.280
<v Speaker 5>Right.

0:33:40.200 --> 0:33:44.320
<v Speaker 4>So, going back to the going back to the first

0:33:44.440 --> 0:33:49.880
<v Speaker 4>question of what can some people learn about the intimacy levels? Right,

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<v Speaker 4>one is understanding what they are. So you have emotional intimacy,

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<v Speaker 4>which is understanding your emotions, Understanding how to communicate your emotions,

0:34:01.200 --> 0:34:04.800
<v Speaker 4>Understanding that when these emotions come up, how do.

0:34:04.720 --> 0:34:05.920
<v Speaker 5>They impact your body?

0:34:06.200 --> 0:34:06.360
<v Speaker 4>Right?

0:34:06.600 --> 0:34:08.400
<v Speaker 5>What what is the trigger in your.

0:34:08.239 --> 0:34:11.200
<v Speaker 4>Body when you're when you're angry? Right, So here's an example.

0:34:11.880 --> 0:34:15.640
<v Speaker 4>When you're angry, do you lash out right?

0:34:16.320 --> 0:34:20.040
<v Speaker 5>Do you shut down? Right? Do you go to the

0:34:20.080 --> 0:34:22.399
<v Speaker 5>gym and blow off steam? Right?

0:34:22.719 --> 0:34:26.239
<v Speaker 4>Do you jump on Amazon and go shopping? Do you

0:34:26.280 --> 0:34:29.640
<v Speaker 4>do retail therapy when you're sad? Do you shop when

0:34:29.640 --> 0:34:32.280
<v Speaker 4>you're depressed? Is that what you do when you're sad?

0:34:32.800 --> 0:34:35.560
<v Speaker 4>Do you shut the world out and deal with there

0:34:35.560 --> 0:34:38.560
<v Speaker 4>are things on your own? Or do you allow your

0:34:38.560 --> 0:34:40.839
<v Speaker 4>helpers to help you in life and.

0:34:40.800 --> 0:34:42.200
<v Speaker 5>You share what's going on with you?

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<v Speaker 4>Right? When you make mistakes and you're you're you're dealing

0:34:46.640 --> 0:34:49.080
<v Speaker 4>with with with fear and you're dealing with a mistake,

0:34:49.360 --> 0:34:55.480
<v Speaker 4>do you shame yourself? Right? Understanding your emotions and how

0:34:55.560 --> 0:34:58.360
<v Speaker 4>they impact you in your in your body? Do you

0:34:58.400 --> 0:35:02.640
<v Speaker 4>get anxiety and PA think attacks when when stressed? And

0:35:02.640 --> 0:35:04.560
<v Speaker 4>if so, do you shut everybody out? And I can

0:35:04.600 --> 0:35:07.920
<v Speaker 4>do it myself? Right? These are like different things that

0:35:07.960 --> 0:35:10.560
<v Speaker 4>you should know and learn and understand when it comes

0:35:10.560 --> 0:35:12.319
<v Speaker 4>to your when it comes to yourself, and how do

0:35:12.360 --> 0:35:16.440
<v Speaker 4>you manage your emotions when they come up? You know

0:35:16.440 --> 0:35:22.239
<v Speaker 4>what I'm saying? Those are those are important. And then

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<v Speaker 4>the the other one is intellectual intimacy. And I like

0:35:27.520 --> 0:35:28.759
<v Speaker 4>that because I'm a I'm a.

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<v Speaker 1>Safe What does that mean? What is intellectual in intimacy?

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<v Speaker 4>So the best way I describe intellectual intimacy is being

0:35:39.239 --> 0:35:44.880
<v Speaker 4>able to know what you like to learn about, know

0:35:45.040 --> 0:35:48.880
<v Speaker 4>what stimulates the intellect. Know what stimulates the mind, No,

0:35:49.080 --> 0:35:53.720
<v Speaker 4>it stimulates the brain. For example, I love to read.

0:35:54.520 --> 0:35:57.480
<v Speaker 4>I love to be around somebody that can that can

0:35:57.600 --> 0:36:01.319
<v Speaker 4>teach me about things that I've always wanted to know

0:36:01.800 --> 0:36:03.960
<v Speaker 4>and I don't and I don't know how to do

0:36:04.080 --> 0:36:09.719
<v Speaker 4>them right because I'm always researching, I'm always learning something new.

0:36:10.200 --> 0:36:14.719
<v Speaker 4>I'm always kind of perfecting my craft and studying and researching.

0:36:15.280 --> 0:36:17.759
<v Speaker 4>That is just something that I do. I love to

0:36:17.800 --> 0:36:20.640
<v Speaker 4>read about history, I love to read about culture.

0:36:21.680 --> 0:36:23.840
<v Speaker 5>I love to learn and go and travel.

0:36:24.200 --> 0:36:32.480
<v Speaker 4>That's intimate to me, right, So for a partner, I

0:36:32.520 --> 0:36:34.440
<v Speaker 4>think it would be very sexy to be able to

0:36:34.520 --> 0:36:39.120
<v Speaker 4>not only communicate to them what I like intellectually, right,

0:36:39.160 --> 0:36:41.279
<v Speaker 4>what kind of what, what kind of things I want

0:36:41.280 --> 0:36:44.040
<v Speaker 4>to learn about, but to be able to share those

0:36:44.080 --> 0:36:47.400
<v Speaker 4>things with me, to learn something new with me. Have

0:36:47.520 --> 0:36:51.600
<v Speaker 4>you ever learned something with your partner that you never

0:36:51.680 --> 0:36:54.600
<v Speaker 4>knew about and they never know about and now it's

0:36:54.640 --> 0:36:57.400
<v Speaker 4>something that you guys have experienced together.

0:36:59.560 --> 0:37:01.480
<v Speaker 5>And it mays you, it makes you closer.

0:37:04.120 --> 0:37:05.480
<v Speaker 4>Have you ever done that and a part of that

0:37:05.640 --> 0:37:10.800
<v Speaker 4>is experienced that it brings me into experiential intimacy, and that.

0:37:10.719 --> 0:37:14.560
<v Speaker 5>Can be a lot of things. You can a lot

0:37:14.560 --> 0:37:15.000
<v Speaker 5>of times.

0:37:15.000 --> 0:37:18.800
<v Speaker 4>An experience can be a death, when you experience death

0:37:18.880 --> 0:37:21.279
<v Speaker 4>with somebody and you and they're there for you while

0:37:21.320 --> 0:37:26.120
<v Speaker 4>you grieve. Right when you experience hardship, when you experience

0:37:26.160 --> 0:37:31.120
<v Speaker 4>a storm, when you experience a promotion, when you like,

0:37:31.160 --> 0:37:35.320
<v Speaker 4>when you experience something that is like whatever that might be,

0:37:36.200 --> 0:37:40.040
<v Speaker 4>that makes you closer. That's a level of intimacy that

0:37:40.080 --> 0:37:42.920
<v Speaker 4>you have with your other person. And the spiritual intimacy

0:37:43.400 --> 0:37:46.279
<v Speaker 4>that could be anything, whatever your spiritual belief is.

0:37:47.000 --> 0:37:47.480
<v Speaker 5>It could be.

0:37:47.480 --> 0:37:51.040
<v Speaker 4>Grounding, it could be going to church, it could be meditating,

0:37:51.360 --> 0:37:54.920
<v Speaker 4>whatever that is for you, that intimate time that you

0:37:55.040 --> 0:37:58.000
<v Speaker 4>do for you, that time with God, right, that time

0:37:58.040 --> 0:38:01.719
<v Speaker 4>with your creator, that that that that times just sit

0:38:01.800 --> 0:38:04.480
<v Speaker 4>and meditate, that time to go to the beach and

0:38:04.640 --> 0:38:07.640
<v Speaker 4>just be one with your spreend, whatever spiritual practice you have.

0:38:08.200 --> 0:38:11.280
<v Speaker 4>That's that's an intimate thing that you do with yourself.

0:38:11.760 --> 0:38:15.880
<v Speaker 2>And to me norm what's inside of things? I mean

0:38:15.880 --> 0:38:18.840
<v Speaker 2>you to think about yourself as like a gift or present.

0:38:19.520 --> 0:38:21.399
<v Speaker 2>The one thing you want to do is you want

0:38:21.400 --> 0:38:24.600
<v Speaker 2>to unwrap it and see what's inside. But I feel

0:38:24.640 --> 0:38:27.600
<v Speaker 2>like oftentimes when we're dealing with relationships or even dealing

0:38:27.680 --> 0:38:33.719
<v Speaker 2>with ourselves. We are afraid to see what's inside. And

0:38:33.719 --> 0:38:35.960
<v Speaker 2>the very thing that's inside is what makes you you.

0:38:36.120 --> 0:38:38.440
<v Speaker 2>The very thing that's in, what's inside is going to

0:38:38.560 --> 0:38:42.080
<v Speaker 2>what's going to help you connect with someone else, And wouldn't.

0:38:41.760 --> 0:38:43.360
<v Speaker 1>You want to know what that connection is made of.

0:38:45.040 --> 0:38:45.760
<v Speaker 4>For yourself?

0:38:46.280 --> 0:38:49.040
<v Speaker 1>Hello? You know it's you know, it's scary.

0:38:49.440 --> 0:38:51.879
<v Speaker 4>You can't you can't find your perfect color out there,

0:38:52.000 --> 0:38:54.239
<v Speaker 4>your perfect color match out there if you're out there

0:38:54.239 --> 0:38:56.040
<v Speaker 4>painting in somebody else's shades.

0:38:56.560 --> 0:39:01.719
<v Speaker 1>Oh, don't play when me play with yourself?

0:39:02.840 --> 0:39:07.080
<v Speaker 4>Well yeah, you know, like like like wanting somebody else's relationship,

0:39:07.560 --> 0:39:10.040
<v Speaker 4>like saying all their relationship goes that no one is,

0:39:10.040 --> 0:39:12.640
<v Speaker 4>so should be your relationship because no one is you,

0:39:13.560 --> 0:39:14.799
<v Speaker 4>no one experienced like you.

0:39:15.480 --> 0:39:17.520
<v Speaker 5>Ten people can experience.

0:39:17.000 --> 0:39:20.520
<v Speaker 4>The same thing ten different ways. Don't you want what

0:39:20.560 --> 0:39:24.040
<v Speaker 4>you want in? You? Like your way? I don't want

0:39:24.080 --> 0:39:27.120
<v Speaker 4>to experience life everybody else's way. I want to experience

0:39:27.239 --> 0:39:29.920
<v Speaker 4>love and a relationship my way. Now, how I was

0:39:30.000 --> 0:39:31.680
<v Speaker 4>told to, Now, how I was conditioned to?

0:39:33.160 --> 0:39:33.560
<v Speaker 1>Wow?

0:39:34.040 --> 0:39:37.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so we're talking with Keanu Monroe. Everybody, Yes, she

0:39:38.120 --> 0:39:43.799
<v Speaker 2>is an NLP and EQ coach. Here transforming lives and

0:39:44.080 --> 0:39:47.560
<v Speaker 2>she has an upcoming mixer entitled the Crayon Theory Mixer.

0:39:47.840 --> 0:39:50.680
<v Speaker 2>Will you identify yourself by your primary colors which also

0:39:50.719 --> 0:39:53.520
<v Speaker 2>impacts of your relationship with yourself and then also with others.

0:39:53.680 --> 0:39:57.080
<v Speaker 2>We know that Valentine's stays around the corner. What shade

0:39:57.080 --> 0:39:59.360
<v Speaker 2>are you coming to the table with. I'm just saying

0:40:00.080 --> 0:40:01.400
<v Speaker 2>so with this, Max said, there are going to be

0:40:01.400 --> 0:40:04.480
<v Speaker 2>twelve women, twelve men who are going to go through

0:40:04.480 --> 0:40:07.799
<v Speaker 2>I guess a dating ground or speed dating with the

0:40:07.800 --> 0:40:09.520
<v Speaker 2>tools that you are going to quit with them within

0:40:09.520 --> 0:40:13.080
<v Speaker 2>a one hour session. Now the question is I know

0:40:13.160 --> 0:40:15.640
<v Speaker 2>that you are doing this for a very special project.

0:40:15.960 --> 0:40:17.080
<v Speaker 1>This will be a pilot.

0:40:17.640 --> 0:40:19.719
<v Speaker 2>Is there any way for anyone that is not in

0:40:19.760 --> 0:40:22.400
<v Speaker 2>the state of California, anyone that is not in Englewood?

0:40:22.680 --> 0:40:24.840
<v Speaker 2>Will they be able to stream it? Are you offering

0:40:24.920 --> 0:40:26.000
<v Speaker 2>a possibility of that?

0:40:26.920 --> 0:40:28.040
<v Speaker 5>Yes, yes I am.

0:40:28.320 --> 0:40:31.160
<v Speaker 4>I will put it up on my YouTube. Details coming.

0:40:31.280 --> 0:40:32.520
<v Speaker 4>You know, we got to edit it and all the

0:40:32.560 --> 0:40:40.080
<v Speaker 4>other jazzs. But I actually I am considering doing the

0:40:40.160 --> 0:40:45.120
<v Speaker 4>Life Matters Podcast special edition Crayon Theory Theory special Edition

0:40:45.200 --> 0:40:52.200
<v Speaker 4>style where I will do versions of it online and

0:40:52.360 --> 0:40:56.720
<v Speaker 4>in person. So the interesting thing about this one.

0:40:56.640 --> 0:40:59.280
<v Speaker 5>Is people will people will mix.

0:40:59.520 --> 0:41:03.279
<v Speaker 4>Again, it's snapshot of what an entire season would would be,

0:41:04.120 --> 0:41:06.680
<v Speaker 4>and people will mix, people will mingle.

0:41:06.800 --> 0:41:07.640
<v Speaker 5>And the whole point and.

0:41:07.640 --> 0:41:11.960
<v Speaker 4>Purpose of it is this is before people know what

0:41:12.040 --> 0:41:12.719
<v Speaker 4>their color is.

0:41:13.640 --> 0:41:15.719
<v Speaker 5>So most of the right, So most of the.

0:41:15.719 --> 0:41:20.960
<v Speaker 4>Time people have the tendency to flirt and lightly ask

0:41:21.080 --> 0:41:26.440
<v Speaker 4>questions and get their little representative without having any understanding

0:41:26.480 --> 0:41:28.759
<v Speaker 4>of who this person is or why they ask their

0:41:28.800 --> 0:41:35.399
<v Speaker 4>typical questions, right, all all of that jazz, and then

0:41:35.480 --> 0:41:36.719
<v Speaker 4>they will do the work with.

0:41:36.680 --> 0:41:40.320
<v Speaker 1>Me then and then.

0:41:40.200 --> 0:41:42.719
<v Speaker 4>They will find out what their color is. And here's

0:41:42.719 --> 0:41:45.680
<v Speaker 4>the thing. When you do your speed dating, you'll have

0:41:45.719 --> 0:41:49.160
<v Speaker 4>a special little pin that will go on or like

0:41:49.200 --> 0:41:51.200
<v Speaker 4>a little like a little like a little sticker. I

0:41:51.200 --> 0:41:52.919
<v Speaker 4>have stickers, and I have pins just in case people

0:41:52.920 --> 0:41:56.480
<v Speaker 4>don't want to puncture their clothes. And you will know

0:41:56.680 --> 0:41:59.880
<v Speaker 4>when you do the speed dating ground is this my color?

0:42:01.719 --> 0:42:03.160
<v Speaker 4>Is this? Right?

0:42:03.239 --> 0:42:06.200
<v Speaker 5>For the I'm not going you will know.

0:42:07.239 --> 0:42:10.000
<v Speaker 4>You will know, and the other person will know. And

0:42:10.040 --> 0:42:12.280
<v Speaker 4>it's like do you date the person anyway?

0:42:13.040 --> 0:42:13.239
<v Speaker 1>You know?

0:42:13.360 --> 0:42:17.200
<v Speaker 4>Auntie Maya Angelou said, when people show you who.

0:42:17.080 --> 0:42:19.800
<v Speaker 1>They are, believe you to believe them.

0:42:20.560 --> 0:42:23.560
<v Speaker 4>And a lot of times what we see and the

0:42:23.640 --> 0:42:26.360
<v Speaker 4>interesting thing is for the show I actually wanted to

0:42:26.480 --> 0:42:29.360
<v Speaker 4>play out for the world to see right, for the

0:42:29.440 --> 0:42:34.600
<v Speaker 4>audience to see themselves through the participants of knowing that

0:42:35.960 --> 0:42:39.799
<v Speaker 4>you have chemistry with somebody, but your values are not

0:42:40.080 --> 0:42:45.160
<v Speaker 4>in alignments. But because they look good and because they

0:42:45.239 --> 0:42:48.160
<v Speaker 4>you know, they fit some some of the you know, the.

0:42:48.239 --> 0:42:50.960
<v Speaker 1>Checkbox, the different parts of your body getting excited.

0:42:51.040 --> 0:42:55.960
<v Speaker 4>That don't mean yeah, they look good, then you know

0:42:57.000 --> 0:43:01.520
<v Speaker 4>you date them anyway. You date them any and a

0:43:01.520 --> 0:43:04.839
<v Speaker 4>lot of times you find this in dating somebody who

0:43:04.920 --> 0:43:08.800
<v Speaker 4>says I don't want kids, and you date them anyway, thinking.

0:43:08.600 --> 0:43:13.360
<v Speaker 1>That you can change and they said I don't want them.

0:43:12.680 --> 0:43:16.080
<v Speaker 5>That you can change their mind, or thinking that you

0:43:16.120 --> 0:43:17.000
<v Speaker 5>can tolerate.

0:43:17.280 --> 0:43:19.239
<v Speaker 4>You know, they tell you what their lifestyle is. They

0:43:19.239 --> 0:43:21.439
<v Speaker 4>don't ever want to be married, and you're like.

0:43:21.520 --> 0:43:22.919
<v Speaker 5>That's because they have been that need.

0:43:23.120 --> 0:43:28.239
<v Speaker 4>No, they're morals and values based off their value structure.

0:43:29.000 --> 0:43:32.279
<v Speaker 5>They don't want it. It's that they don't want it.

0:43:33.360 --> 0:43:37.280
<v Speaker 4>And a part of the acceptance of self is saying

0:43:37.880 --> 0:43:40.880
<v Speaker 4>I love me so much that I'm going to release

0:43:40.920 --> 0:43:42.399
<v Speaker 4>you with love. I hope you go and find whatever

0:43:42.400 --> 0:43:48.160
<v Speaker 4>you're looking for you. Fine, But however, comma, if I

0:43:48.239 --> 0:43:51.880
<v Speaker 4>played this game with you, if I'm looking for something serious,

0:43:51.920 --> 0:43:56.080
<v Speaker 4>like if I really want something serious, not right away,

0:43:56.800 --> 0:44:02.000
<v Speaker 4>but I'm definitely going down that road, right is I'm gonna.

0:44:02.200 --> 0:44:04.160
<v Speaker 5>I'm gonna let you go be with somebody that wants

0:44:04.239 --> 0:44:04.799
<v Speaker 5>what you want.

0:44:04.880 --> 0:44:06.279
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, I just came with something.

0:44:07.160 --> 0:44:08.879
<v Speaker 5>I'm gonna. I'm gonna.

0:44:09.000 --> 0:44:11.239
<v Speaker 4>I'm gonna give you back to the streets and not

0:44:11.320 --> 0:44:12.839
<v Speaker 4>invite you into my I just.

0:44:12.760 --> 0:44:13.760
<v Speaker 1>Came up with something.

0:44:14.560 --> 0:44:18.560
<v Speaker 2>If you keep playing with somebody's but, you're sure going

0:44:18.640 --> 0:44:20.239
<v Speaker 2>to make an ass of yourself.

0:44:21.800 --> 0:44:22.440
<v Speaker 1>But catch it.

0:44:22.920 --> 0:44:26.200
<v Speaker 2>I said, you better catch it because it's coming in hot.

0:44:26.400 --> 0:44:30.080
<v Speaker 2>You keep playing with somebody's but and you're gonna find

0:44:30.120 --> 0:44:33.520
<v Speaker 2>yourself in somebody's ass. Yeah, don't play with me, play

0:44:33.560 --> 0:44:37.319
<v Speaker 2>with yourself. Okay, Yeah, Yeah, that was good, KNDA, That's

0:44:37.400 --> 0:44:39.520
<v Speaker 2>really good. Now I want to open up. I know

0:44:40.120 --> 0:44:41.920
<v Speaker 2>based on restrain me. But if you would like to

0:44:41.960 --> 0:44:44.239
<v Speaker 2>call in the studio right now eight one eight four

0:44:44.280 --> 0:44:47.080
<v Speaker 2>six one fifty four thirty two, you can join this

0:44:47.200 --> 0:44:50.680
<v Speaker 2>live of conversation. I've also included the link if you

0:44:50.760 --> 0:44:52.799
<v Speaker 2>like to join us on video or call link Wise,

0:44:52.840 --> 0:44:54.960
<v Speaker 2>those who aren't TikTok. You gotta show up on the

0:44:55.040 --> 0:44:57.920
<v Speaker 2>FB uh because Kenna you didn't. She's not on her

0:44:57.920 --> 0:45:03.760
<v Speaker 2>TikTok right now for us to join that way. So nevertheless,

0:45:05.680 --> 0:45:09.040
<v Speaker 2>we appreciate too. Now one more time, what is the website?

0:45:09.080 --> 0:45:11.680
<v Speaker 2>How does someone register? Is this open for anyone to attend?

0:45:12.040 --> 0:45:13.960
<v Speaker 2>How can somebody keep up to date us to this

0:45:14.040 --> 0:45:15.560
<v Speaker 2>event and then those in the future.

0:45:16.440 --> 0:45:19.279
<v Speaker 1>Thirty enough, I would say we're dealing with growing fo.

0:45:20.120 --> 0:45:22.960
<v Speaker 4>I'm going to open it up very soon. I'm going

0:45:22.960 --> 0:45:25.120
<v Speaker 4>to do the next season of Life Matters podcast. I

0:45:25.160 --> 0:45:28.759
<v Speaker 4>will do it the Crayon Theory Special Editions, and then

0:45:28.800 --> 0:45:30.920
<v Speaker 4>it'll be on I'll allow it to be on on

0:45:30.920 --> 0:45:35.160
<v Speaker 4>on YouTube. I'm actually starting a Patreon with it, so

0:45:35.239 --> 0:45:38.080
<v Speaker 4>I'll be doing Patreon very soon and that will be

0:45:38.280 --> 0:45:44.600
<v Speaker 4>starting the second season and strictly focusing on the crayon Theory.

0:45:45.160 --> 0:45:48.760
<v Speaker 4>You can also go to my website www. Dot keanumonroel

0:45:48.880 --> 0:45:52.879
<v Speaker 4>dot com and book a session with me or hang

0:45:53.000 --> 0:45:57.440
<v Speaker 4>tight because after the eighth I am going to do

0:45:57.719 --> 0:46:01.400
<v Speaker 4>a special announcement of when and I will be opening

0:46:01.520 --> 0:46:05.160
<v Speaker 4>up for the Crayon Theory Workshop. And as you know,

0:46:05.280 --> 0:46:08.359
<v Speaker 4>don like you've done the workshop virtually online, which I've

0:46:08.400 --> 0:46:11.560
<v Speaker 4>done with a group of people, and everybody kind of

0:46:11.600 --> 0:46:13.359
<v Speaker 4>goes through the motions and find out what their color

0:46:13.400 --> 0:46:16.120
<v Speaker 4>match is, or I do it in person.

0:46:16.280 --> 0:46:18.960
<v Speaker 5>The interesting thing about doing it in person is that

0:46:19.040 --> 0:46:19.680
<v Speaker 5>people come in.

0:46:19.680 --> 0:46:23.080
<v Speaker 4>They mingle a little bit. I've actually had.

0:46:22.880 --> 0:46:26.360
<v Speaker 5>Some people meet their person, like meet their color match.

0:46:26.840 --> 0:46:30.680
<v Speaker 4>In my workshop, I had two couples and I have

0:46:31.760 --> 0:46:33.839
<v Speaker 4>a wedding. I didn't go to the wedding because they

0:46:33.840 --> 0:46:36.880
<v Speaker 4>did it, you know, they did destination wedding of C's.

0:46:38.960 --> 0:46:41.919
<v Speaker 5>But it does, it does work. I've had people.

0:46:43.480 --> 0:46:45.719
<v Speaker 4>In the workshop saying, you know what, I thought I

0:46:45.760 --> 0:46:49.719
<v Speaker 4>was ready to date, but I'm not ready. I think

0:46:49.760 --> 0:46:52.160
<v Speaker 4>a lot of the things that I remember her saying,

0:46:52.520 --> 0:46:55.040
<v Speaker 4>I think all of the things that I desire in

0:46:55.120 --> 0:47:00.920
<v Speaker 4>a person is rooted in like my trauma, and I

0:47:00.960 --> 0:47:03.960
<v Speaker 4>am looking I feel like all of the things that

0:47:04.080 --> 0:47:07.040
<v Speaker 4>I've been looking for. Because again, it's a lot of

0:47:07.080 --> 0:47:09.719
<v Speaker 4>work I give I give you a lot of work,

0:47:09.719 --> 0:47:12.040
<v Speaker 4>and I ask you a lot of questions.

0:47:12.000 --> 0:47:14.480
<v Speaker 5>Right, and it's interactive. It's not just to me talking

0:47:14.520 --> 0:47:16.200
<v Speaker 5>as to you. It's it's it's interactive.

0:47:16.960 --> 0:47:21.160
<v Speaker 4>And after peeling back a lot of those layers, and

0:47:21.160 --> 0:47:24.640
<v Speaker 4>and and asking you what your non negotiables are, asking

0:47:24.680 --> 0:47:27.239
<v Speaker 4>you why if these are your values, how do you

0:47:27.320 --> 0:47:30.480
<v Speaker 4>operate in that? Can people around you confirm? Does your

0:47:30.520 --> 0:47:33.120
<v Speaker 4>circle of friends represent what it.

0:47:33.040 --> 0:47:35.400
<v Speaker 5>Is that you say you you you value?

0:47:35.840 --> 0:47:36.000
<v Speaker 1>Right?

0:47:37.000 --> 0:47:40.160
<v Speaker 4>One of the things I've asked people is what's your

0:47:40.200 --> 0:47:41.200
<v Speaker 4>what's your love language?

0:47:41.239 --> 0:47:43.520
<v Speaker 5>And how do you experience it for yourself?

0:47:44.280 --> 0:47:48.520
<v Speaker 4>Because if words of affirmation is your love language and

0:47:48.560 --> 0:47:52.719
<v Speaker 4>you are serious about it, but you talk to yourself

0:47:52.840 --> 0:47:55.240
<v Speaker 4>like trash, that's a problem.

0:47:55.400 --> 0:47:57.160
<v Speaker 5>Is it really your love language?

0:47:57.320 --> 0:47:59.880
<v Speaker 4>Do you want to talk to Do you want someone

0:48:00.200 --> 0:48:02.520
<v Speaker 4>you require and demand somebody to talk to you in

0:48:02.600 --> 0:48:05.200
<v Speaker 4>ways you don't talk to yourself, right, Because if you

0:48:05.239 --> 0:48:07.960
<v Speaker 4>don't talk to yourself that way, but you want them

0:48:08.040 --> 0:48:11.440
<v Speaker 4>to talk to you that way, Eventually, with time, when

0:48:11.440 --> 0:48:15.640
<v Speaker 4>the representative has made it exit, you are going to

0:48:15.760 --> 0:48:17.280
<v Speaker 4>talk to that person that way.

0:48:17.840 --> 0:48:21.840
<v Speaker 1>You know when you said you people that are like narcissists.

0:48:21.239 --> 0:48:23.680
<v Speaker 5>All that innership onto the other person.

0:48:24.760 --> 0:48:29.120
<v Speaker 4>Right. If gifts is your love language, how do you

0:48:29.160 --> 0:48:35.480
<v Speaker 4>show that to yourself? That's really important. It's it's and

0:48:35.680 --> 0:48:39.320
<v Speaker 4>the interesting thing, it's not necessarily about finding a partner.

0:48:40.280 --> 0:48:41.640
<v Speaker 5>I want people to be very.

0:48:41.480 --> 0:48:45.800
<v Speaker 4>Clear that finding somebody is fantastic.

0:48:45.920 --> 0:48:47.799
<v Speaker 5>I want somebody to find.

0:48:49.760 --> 0:48:52.560
<v Speaker 4>A love in this right, But the love that I

0:48:52.640 --> 0:48:54.799
<v Speaker 4>want people to discover is the love that they have

0:48:54.920 --> 0:48:55.680
<v Speaker 4>for themselves.

0:48:55.800 --> 0:48:57.640
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I got a quick question. I got a question

0:48:57.680 --> 0:48:58.960
<v Speaker 1>that came through. I got a question.

0:48:59.160 --> 0:49:01.600
<v Speaker 2>It's not necessary, jan I got a question that came

0:49:01.640 --> 0:49:02.560
<v Speaker 2>through on tak time.

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<v Speaker 1>Help me tell me. They said, that's so interesting. This

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<v Speaker 1>is from Nick of Time.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell us more about the representative quote unquote, when dating,

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<v Speaker 2>say that one more time, tell us more about the representative.

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<v Speaker 1>When dating, everybody.

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<v Speaker 4>Some a lot of times brings their representative when when

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<v Speaker 4>when you date, it's trying to ask the right questions, right.

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<v Speaker 5>It is making sure you don't say the wrong saying.

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<v Speaker 4>It's making sure that you know, you don't say too much,

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<v Speaker 4>you don't do too much. You don't this you you

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<v Speaker 4>you don't want to come off as this way, and

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<v Speaker 4>you don't want to come off too sensitive. I'm a

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<v Speaker 4>sensitive person, but I don't don't want to show.

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<v Speaker 5>That right away.

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<v Speaker 4>Or you know, I I have ADHD or I have

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<v Speaker 4>like because I know I do M I don't mind

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<v Speaker 4>sharing that in certain life. But it's it's going on

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<v Speaker 4>a date and just asking surface level questions. Also, because

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<v Speaker 4>not only are you afraid to ask the wrong question,

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<v Speaker 4>you're afraid to let them see a version of you.

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<v Speaker 5>That they might not like. Hmmm, so right, so you you.

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<v Speaker 4>You show up as a version that's approved right now

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<v Speaker 4>and over time, I'll let them. I'll let them see

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<v Speaker 4>you know the ugliness, So I'll let them see that

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<v Speaker 4>you know, and not necessarily ugliness, that's that's not the

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<v Speaker 4>that's actually not the right word. But your quirks, your

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<v Speaker 4>unique things about you that make you you. Right. That's

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<v Speaker 4>why I said radical acceptance of oneself is.

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<v Speaker 5>Key, and it's knowing that.

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<v Speaker 4>And my thing is, I'm not going to show up

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<v Speaker 4>on a date so that I can and make sure

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<v Speaker 4>that this person that checks off all the boxes likes me,

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<v Speaker 4>because this is the type of person my mother will like.

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<v Speaker 5>This is the type of person my parents will like.

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<v Speaker 5>This is the type of person that if I get

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<v Speaker 5>with right, I will be relationship goals, This.

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<v Speaker 4>Will look good on social media, right, I will have

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<v Speaker 4>made it right.

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<v Speaker 5>Whatever the fill in the blank.

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<v Speaker 4>So I am going to make sure that I show

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<v Speaker 4>up the way I'm supposed to show up. It's almost

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<v Speaker 4>like sometimes people treat dating like a job interview.

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<v Speaker 5>It's not a job interview. This, this is some this

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<v Speaker 5>is something you're.

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<v Speaker 4>You are out spending your time and money and energy

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<v Speaker 4>right to have a conversation to see if somebody is

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<v Speaker 4>your purpose partner and if they are in line, if

0:51:52.640 --> 0:51:55.399
<v Speaker 4>they are you know, do they know themselves? How they

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<v Speaker 4>met themselves? Because like I told you the last time,

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<v Speaker 4>I was so, people can only meet you and connect

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<v Speaker 4>to you at the level of which they've connected and

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<v Speaker 4>met themselves, right exactly, Like, like how can I how

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<v Speaker 4>can I How can I have compassion for you? And

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<v Speaker 4>I don't have compassion for myself? How can I learn

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<v Speaker 4>how to have patience with you and deep understanding?

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<v Speaker 2>I usually say this in the time when compassion for

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<v Speaker 2>somebody else, I'll be like, don't cheat yourself. You better

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<v Speaker 2>treat yourself and what that means, don't cheat yourself in

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<v Speaker 2>these types of predicaments and these situations. Understand that I

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<v Speaker 2>think what you said, there's a fine line between showing

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<v Speaker 2>up as your best self and then showing up as

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<v Speaker 2>the representative.

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<v Speaker 4>You can show. Yes, here's the thing. You can show

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<v Speaker 4>up as your your your your best self.

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<v Speaker 5>But if you know you want some fried chicken. Don't

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<v Speaker 5>don't order a.

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<v Speaker 1>Salad you can. You know you've hold I'm not really hungry.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes you are that you are, you only have a

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<v Speaker 4>creen juice that dang you hungry?

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<v Speaker 2>You know. I guess that kind of resonated with me

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<v Speaker 2>because it's like you want to show up as your

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<v Speaker 2>best self.

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<v Speaker 1>But then also I want to be myself.

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<v Speaker 2>But that doesn't mean you being yourself is not showing

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<v Speaker 2>you know, your nails, messed up, your hair, your clothes.

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<v Speaker 1>Superficial things.

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<v Speaker 2>But like you said when you talk about getting into me,

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<v Speaker 2>how you treat yourself is going to determine how you

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<v Speaker 2>treat me, because if you ain't treating yourself good, why

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<v Speaker 2>would you treat me any better?

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<v Speaker 5>Don you answered your own questions?

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<v Speaker 1>I know that that's what you're doing with people, Like.

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<v Speaker 4>When you said not going with your nails undone, with

0:53:38.920 --> 0:53:41.719
<v Speaker 4>your hair a mess? When when I when I love me,

0:53:42.000 --> 0:53:44.279
<v Speaker 4>I care about my gonna do that anyway? I care

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<v Speaker 4>about how I look, no matter what it like. You

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<v Speaker 4>just so happened to get to go out with me.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you understand what I'm saying?

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<v Speaker 5>Don't you get to have breakfast with me?

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<v Speaker 4>But whenever when a breakfast, lunch, cocktails happy. You are

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<v Speaker 4>going to get me the way I get myself and

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not gonna I'm not gonna look raggedy because I

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<v Speaker 4>love me. I will always bring it back to life matters,

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<v Speaker 4>loving yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, just on the other side too. And

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<v Speaker 2>I know we got to wrap this up. We're hereting

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<v Speaker 2>our our point.

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<v Speaker 4>Also, I think.

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<v Speaker 1>Another thing is to get keep me.

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<v Speaker 2>Dang, I forgot it. It just left my brain.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh oh oh oh.

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<v Speaker 2>Also making room for the other person to show up

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<v Speaker 2>as who they are and not trying to change them,

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<v Speaker 2>like even dating somebody like you said, if they're not

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<v Speaker 2>the type of person that you know, say this may

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<v Speaker 2>sound so trivial, okay, but maybe they aren't the individual

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<v Speaker 2>that brushes their teeth in the morning and at night.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so surface level.

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<v Speaker 2>But don't come in trying to change that person about

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<v Speaker 2>whatever their habit is. I think you can probably inspire them,

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<v Speaker 2>but don't come in expecting something different because that's not

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<v Speaker 2>the part of their routine. And best belief, if they're

0:54:57.080 --> 0:54:59.680
<v Speaker 2>in a performative moment, that's only gonna last for some

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<v Speaker 2>of the mone of time.

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<v Speaker 5>Right, here's the thing too.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, let me wrap this up. We got a minute.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay.

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<v Speaker 4>I always say chemistry is my compatibility, right, and what

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<v Speaker 4>here's the thing about. What I'm going to teach other

0:55:11.719 --> 0:55:13.799
<v Speaker 4>people how to do when they when they go on this,

0:55:13.920 --> 0:55:17.560
<v Speaker 4>when they go to this mixer is how to express

0:55:17.800 --> 0:55:20.719
<v Speaker 4>primary love to themselves and to others. And it is

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<v Speaker 4>creating a safe space, right and an emotional safe space

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<v Speaker 4>for people to be authentically themselves in your presence, to

0:55:31.320 --> 0:55:36.360
<v Speaker 4>be vulnerable, to be transparent without fear of condemnation and judgment.

0:55:37.239 --> 0:55:39.480
<v Speaker 5>Here's the space. This is who I am. Show me

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<v Speaker 5>who you are, and let's see if we're aligned.

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<v Speaker 4>And if not, it's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>You look good, You look good.

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<v Speaker 5>Good.

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<v Speaker 4>What I want you to be with who you deserve

0:55:49.719 --> 0:55:52.919
<v Speaker 4>and I want you to not trap me and let

0:55:52.960 --> 0:55:55.759
<v Speaker 4>me go be with who I deserve out of respect

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<v Speaker 4>and love for yourself and out of respect and love

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<v Speaker 4>for me.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Well, then there you have it. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So, in case you did not know, I'm talking with

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<v Speaker 2>Keana Monroe, who happens to be a NLP and EQ

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<v Speaker 2>coach who's hosting the Crayon Theory mixer happening this Friday.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that character. Saturday Saturday.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Saturday from six thirty Women's we need some guys

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<v Speaker 2>Saturday from six point thirty to ten thirty. Make sure

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<v Speaker 2>you follow Keana on all social media. Keana loves Me.

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<v Speaker 2>Sign up, get to know yourself and perhaps you can

0:56:34.360 --> 0:56:38.480
<v Speaker 2>get to know somebody else. Anything else Keana that you

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<v Speaker 2>would like to share with the people today.

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<v Speaker 5>Love yourself, Love yourself.

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<v Speaker 4>Sorry, sometimes the best way to love yourself is to

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<v Speaker 4>be honest.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, keep in the real so you know, Nanda, Thank

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<v Speaker 1>you so much, Kenna.

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<v Speaker 2>I appreciate you, lolcome always. Well there you have it,

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<v Speaker 2>beautiful people. That was keanum and make sure you follow

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<v Speaker 1>That be me, baby.

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<v Speaker 2>A I speaks all right. You know I'm in the

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<v Speaker 2>business of making dreams come true and I damn shell

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<v Speaker 2>ma't gon forget about mind. So until next time, family,

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<v Speaker 2>I always remember you are your greatest ass.

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<v Speaker 1>Set get your

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<v Speaker 3>VIT you right with me, I get excited about your life.