Speaker 1: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening.
Speaker 2: You are tuned in to the Vitamin D with Dawn
Speaker 2: Day Podcast and I am your host, Dawn Day, here
Speaker 2: to get you excited about your life so that you
Speaker 2: can live life on purpose and for a purpose. If
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Speaker 2: it's a point of my name. My name is Dawn,
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Speaker 2: like you and me, Because if you want to be
Speaker 2: better and you want to do better, then you're going
Speaker 2: to have to be able.
Speaker 1: To see better.
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Speaker 2: Well, hello there, I said, hello there. It's been way
Speaker 2: too long, way too long. Indeed, m how you doing.
Speaker 1: I'm great. You know.
Speaker 2: I recently had somebody I was streaming on live and
Speaker 2: they were like, how are you doing doing? I said,
Speaker 2: I'm good, I'm grateful, I'm good and they said, well,
Speaker 2: how are you doing so good with all of the
Speaker 2: disasters and things that are happening.
Speaker 1: And I sat there because.
Speaker 2: I don't want to seem like I'm numb and I'm
Speaker 2: forgetting about how so many people have in their lives
Speaker 2: have been affected.
Speaker 1: But what I said to them, I said, well, I know.
Speaker 2: There was a lot of stuff that I had been
Speaker 2: through and experienced, down to you know, going after a dream,
Speaker 2: having a dream deferred, because I once day it is
Speaker 2: denied of delay. Sometimes we have a vision of how
Speaker 2: we want things to happen, and then whether you believe
Speaker 2: in God, the universe or would have you have it
Speaker 2: up and just switch some.
Speaker 1: Plans and understand the acceptance.
Speaker 2: But I know there was a time that I was
Speaker 2: going to have to take a bus to the schooter
Speaker 2: and walk to get to my destination.
Speaker 1: And that's not it right now.
Speaker 2: And yes, I will say that a lot of things
Speaker 2: have been strusted now Mama, husband eating, But you know, like.
Speaker 1: I say, when it's a new dawn and it's a
Speaker 1: new day, I had the drawer open.
Speaker 2: But with that being said, I am so excited about
Speaker 2: this conversation and wanted to be checking in, checking in,
Speaker 2: not rushing doing the next thing, but checking in because
Speaker 2: I'm so present right now and ready and willing to
Speaker 2: give up updates. But I got a guess coming on.
Speaker 2: Her name is Keana Monroe. Now she's no stranger to
Speaker 2: Vitamin D. I had her on a couple of years ago,
Speaker 2: had to run again, even had to run when I
Speaker 2: was on the FM dial. And she specializes in talking
Speaker 2: about relationships and communication, not only with other people but
Speaker 2: also with yourselves. And because Valentine's Day is right around
Speaker 2: the corner, she will be joining in on the show
Speaker 2: to discuss her crayon theory mixer she has coming up.
Speaker 2: So I had her on a previous so talking about
Speaker 2: the crown theory and how we basically identify ourselves. We
Speaker 2: can identify ourselves with the color of a crime, and
Speaker 2: if you think about it, we all learn our burst
Speaker 2: of color right coming together to put these beautiful images.
Speaker 2: But when we talk about relationships, you know how you
Speaker 2: can be attracted to somebody but not necessarily be compatible
Speaker 2: with them. So she's gonna join me and we're gonna
Speaker 2: dive in and have some things. And let me give
Speaker 2: a shout out to some people I see Joni on TikTok.
Speaker 2: I see Frankie g on Ig. Who was this on?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: I can't see who was on Facebook? Behave we everywhere?
Speaker 1: I got a nick of time. I got l.
Speaker 2: Holding it down, LEXI holding it down. So we're gonna
Speaker 2: have a conversation, and I want to welcome you guys.
Speaker 2: I will open it up for you guys to call
Speaker 2: in studio to talk to me. Yes, you will be
Speaker 2: able to call in live to talk and we can
Speaker 2: have this conversation. But until she comes in, because I
Speaker 2: know she just came in for a few jobs and
Speaker 2: she texts me. She texts me to say that she's
Speaker 2: getting everything situated. I just want to just remind you
Speaker 2: to be in a moment of gratitude, because the more
Speaker 2: grateful you are, the more things you have to be
Speaker 2: grateful for. And I know everything is not perfect, but
Speaker 2: what it is, I mean, anything that's real and good
Speaker 2: for you, what is actually perfect. It's like that thing
Speaker 2: where you got your things that's again in the gang,
Speaker 2: and you have to decide within yourself what you're gonna
Speaker 2: do with that thing. You can stop growing and die
Speaker 2: or you can keep growing and live. And I don't
Speaker 2: know about you. I'm gonna live and I was talking
Speaker 2: to an executive over here, a mentor of mine. His
Speaker 2: name is Bill May, and he was taught. I was
Speaker 2: telling him and I was like, you know, I was
Speaker 2: sharing how I was live streaming, and somebody was like, Dawn,
Speaker 2: how are you in an optimistic mood? I was like,
Speaker 2: because everything had been deferred, It's like, yo, it made
Speaker 2: me better, it made me learn more. So I'm hoping
Speaker 2: that we can learn some things, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Learn some things not only from other people, but most importantly,
Speaker 2: learn some things with yourself. Because if you want to
Speaker 2: be better and you want to do better, that's what
Speaker 2: we're gonna have to be able to see better. You
Speaker 2: feel me, when was the last time you opened your
Speaker 2: eyes to see yourself?
Speaker 1: And I mean truly.
Speaker 2: Realizing that the playing field ain't always perfect, but knowing
Speaker 2: that sometimes it's imperfectly perfect, you know. I think about
Speaker 2: when I was in school and we had an arts program,
Speaker 2: and so we use ceramic tile and it was all
Speaker 2: broken in pieces with all different colors, and so we
Speaker 2: were charged with the task to put together a picture.
Speaker 2: So all these pieces that didn't look like they were
Speaker 2: supposed to go together we fit them together and we
Speaker 2: created something beautiful. And I feel like that's the same
Speaker 2: thing that you have to do with your life. You
Speaker 2: gotta turn a negative into a positive picture. You have
Speaker 2: to be able to take different pieces and put them
Speaker 2: together to create the life that you want. Because if
Speaker 2: you're not doing it, who will. Don't play with me,
Speaker 2: play with yourself. We here for a good time, not
Speaker 2: a long time. Shout out to Miss Marion. She's tuning
Speaker 2: in on Facebook. She said, Amen, my name say. There's
Speaker 2: no such thing as perfect, but we always can be better.
Speaker 1: That's right.
Speaker 2: Because your location is not your destination. You fall down
Speaker 2: seven times, you get up a peck. If you can
Speaker 2: look up, you can get up. So don't play with me,
Speaker 2: play with yourself. But you won't have to take time
Speaker 2: to get to know with yourself. You have to get
Speaker 2: time to know what environments you can operate in, what
Speaker 2: things are gonna hold you back, but most importantly, what
Speaker 2: type of situation is gonna prepare you forward. Perhaps the
Speaker 2: things that didn't go your way did not go your
Speaker 2: way because you would be complacent, you would be content,
Speaker 2: you wouldn't be able to do the service that you
Speaker 2: were supposed to do. For others, but most importantly do
Speaker 2: for yourself.
Speaker 1: See. I'm a believer that.
Speaker 2: When it's time to go after your dreams, you're feeding yourself.
Speaker 2: And once you start feeding yourself, you realize that things
Speaker 2: becoming an overflow.
Speaker 5: See.
Speaker 2: You don't want to give from a cup that's half empty.
Speaker 2: You want to be so filled up that I won't
Speaker 2: even realize that I'm lacking, or that I'm missing or
Speaker 2: something is leaving. Because remember we're talking about surplus. I
Speaker 2: got this in the studio. It's probably backwards because of
Speaker 2: the view, but it says abundance. I'm calling for abundance
Speaker 2: exceedingly beyond in every aspect.
Speaker 1: Of my life. And I charge you to do the
Speaker 1: same thing too.
Speaker 2: Don't say a little, don't say a whole lot, just
Speaker 2: say an overflow.
Speaker 1: We overflowing in this season, and I know that this
Speaker 1: time can I can? I be real with you.
Speaker 2: I always forget what this season or this month really
Speaker 2: means for me, and a lot can be said my
Speaker 2: mother she transitioned, was I guess like twelve years ago? Now,
Speaker 2: hold on, that's twenty twelve years ago in the month
Speaker 2: of February, and I was streaming on Live and do
Speaker 2: you know, somebody told me that they saw a spirit
Speaker 2: in my house who immediately I jumped up, didn't even
Speaker 2: get a chance to really rest it, and I grabbed
Speaker 2: the sage, I grabbed a white candle. Everything was lit
Speaker 2: up in here, and I forget how she had exited.
Speaker 2: You know, I had somebody else come in. They were like, yeah, Dawn,
Speaker 2: I can see it.
Speaker 1: I was like, what.
Speaker 2: This is a very good friend of mine, one of
Speaker 2: my best friends, ell and she was like, oh, I
Speaker 2: have an idea.
Speaker 1: I said, you do.
Speaker 2: I said, well, are they good or best? She was like, well,
Speaker 2: you know, this is a big month for you guys.
Speaker 2: And my sister was on the live as well. And
Speaker 2: not that I forgot, but you necessarily don't keep in
Speaker 2: front of mind. But I was like, oh, this is
Speaker 2: the same month my mom transitions. So I mean, I
Speaker 2: am a firm believer that I think that people that
Speaker 2: have crossed over, people who have transitioned, whether you say
Speaker 2: they went to different dimensions, that oftentimes.
Speaker 1: They appear they come in to check in, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So I am thinking to myself that perhaps that was
Speaker 2: a moment that my mom was here checking in, And
Speaker 2: I think for a minute. I got emotional because I
Speaker 2: just have to slow down sometimes to realize, Okay, well
Speaker 2: what this season is about. But one thing that we
Speaker 2: can say where we are, just on the calendar month
Speaker 2: that we follow, is that we're in the winter about
Speaker 2: to step to spring. So there are a lot of
Speaker 2: things that are starting to reburn. And I want you
Speaker 2: to realize that change is inevitable. Yeah, you're gonna have
Speaker 2: to go through the darkest moment before you get to
Speaker 2: the light.
Speaker 1: Right, So maybe that's what it is.
Speaker 2: It's this transformation, this spring cleaning. So while a lot
Speaker 2: of things have changed, I'm excited to the fact that
Speaker 2: things aren't the same. And I think when you get
Speaker 2: so used to being in control of things, you want
Speaker 2: things to be.
Speaker 1: Follow in order.
Speaker 2: We can get so caught up in blindfolders on that
Speaker 2: you can't even see over and beyond. Somebody can look
Speaker 2: at you and deliver a message straight to your face
Speaker 2: because you so caught up and what you think you
Speaker 2: can't even hear what they're saying. Hey, miss Mayan, how
Speaker 2: you doing? So let it be a moment of thinking.
Speaker 2: Now I'm trying to figure out, Keanu, what is taking
Speaker 2: so long? Oh look, I'm talking smack and she just
Speaker 2: poffed in.
Speaker 1: All right, so.
Speaker 2: Listen, y'all can't here, y'all can't he here, Keana, I
Speaker 2: need for you. Are you going on to you gotta
Speaker 2: go live on ig as well. I need you to
Speaker 2: pull out your phone. You got your phone set up, baby, Okay,
Speaker 2: You're gonna go to Vitamin D with Dawn Day and
Speaker 2: I want you to have your phone set up because
Speaker 2: you're gonna join me over there and then people let's
Speaker 2: on TikTok. They're gonna be able to hear you too,
Speaker 2: because I checked your following it. I don't think it
Speaker 2: was enough for us to, you know, to come on video,
Speaker 2: but they're gonna hear and then we're gonna have a
Speaker 2: way if you want to have to call us some questions,
Speaker 2: all right, She looked like she moving.
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna do what I do.
Speaker 2: And fill up some space because we just need a
Speaker 2: little grace. Put a thumbs up, Keanu. When you've ready, baby,
Speaker 2: she said, one minute. But like I said before, if
Speaker 2: you was your first time tuning in, I want to
Speaker 2: just remind you to be sure to search Vitamin D
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Speaker 2: right now you are getting the unedited live version. Now
Speaker 2: every person that's listening is gonna wish they can be here. Now,
Speaker 2: I guess it's time for me to introduce my special
Speaker 2: guest and she can join in when she can, as
Speaker 2: long as the phone is ready. Well, this is the
Speaker 2: most important part, the phone. That's that's not it. So
Speaker 2: I want to welcome to somebody special. Her name is
Speaker 2: Keanu Monroe. She is a coach, I would say, a
Speaker 2: relationship coach like relationship with others, but also having the
Speaker 2: relationship with yourself. Now, when I said about beginning of
Speaker 2: the podcast, I said that Valentine's Day is right around
Speaker 2: the corner, and she specializes in something she calls the
Speaker 2: crayon theory. She has an upcoming crayon Theory mixer happening,
Speaker 2: and she talks about how we all play a role
Speaker 2: as to what colored crayon we are. And there's a
Speaker 2: difference from being attracted to somebody and knowing whether or
Speaker 2: not you are compatible.
Speaker 1: Do you know where you fit in the mix?
Speaker 2: All right, family, I guess it's time to bring your
Speaker 2: own stage without further ado put some hands collapsed in
Speaker 2: the social media's I'm talking about on TikTok. I'm talking
Speaker 2: to my own Facebook, and of course if you are
Speaker 2: tuned in on I.
Speaker 1: G for the one and only one role. Hello, how
Speaker 1: are you my darling here?
Speaker 4: I'm here. Okay, So I see the social media. I
Speaker 4: have it on my I have it on my right side.
Speaker 2: I might have to accept you, but that's that's We're
Speaker 2: more focused on having you right here.
Speaker 1: I have except did you join my live?
Speaker 2: I'm on live? You have to go live on your phone. See,
Speaker 2: that's not important. We got to get to our conversation
Speaker 2: to see you. But we're supposed to see you too.
Speaker 2: But let's jump in here. Baby, let's let's not before
Speaker 2: we with that. You there we go, okay, okay, perfect, Okay,
Speaker 2: so we'll stay here. So Keanna family, can y'all hear
Speaker 2: me on TikTok? Throw on hands up? Say how to Keana?
Speaker 2: Throw a thumbs up if you can hear Keana. Two, Keana,
Speaker 2: you gotta talk.
Speaker 4: I'm here. I am so happy to be here. I
Speaker 4: don't know if everybody can see me, but but to
Speaker 4: wherever you are, happy New Year.
Speaker 5: I'll be twenty twenty five coming in it.
Speaker 4: And you're still alive and hopefully with everything going on,
Speaker 4: we could still thrive.
Speaker 1: Come on, you gotta talk that talk to me. You
Speaker 1: know I love when we get talked that talk. Listen, listen,
Speaker 1: So Keana, you have something special. We're gonna do it.
Speaker 5: We're gonna we're gonna get it done. We're gonna we're
Speaker 5: gonna make it through the month.
Speaker 4: Walk welcome February, right, and we're gonna do it as
Speaker 4: a community.
Speaker 5: Better together.
Speaker 4: Everything is better together.
Speaker 1: Isn't it. It's always better together?
Speaker 2: You know when we do stuff alone, think about like
Speaker 2: a bundle of sticks. You can take one stick and
Speaker 2: be like pop. But if I put a whole much together,
Speaker 2: what we gonna do? You can't do nothing with this.
Speaker 1: Don't play when we.
Speaker 5: Play with your story, it's unbreakable.
Speaker 1: So let's talk, Henna.
Speaker 2: Let's talk really quick, because we only have about thirty
Speaker 2: We have good forty minutes. Tell us who you are
Speaker 2: and give us an idea of what exactly the Creon
Speaker 2: theory is.
Speaker 4: Okay to all those who didn't see me last time
Speaker 4: and didn't catch me last time. For all those who
Speaker 4: only remember when I was a darker hair and I've
Speaker 4: gone a little bit blonde per Dawn's request.
Speaker 5: My name is Ki. My name is Kiana Monroe.
Speaker 4: I am a neural linguistics programming practitioner and an emotional intelligence,
Speaker 4: codes and behavioral analyst. I specialize in working with individuals
Speaker 4: and couples, and especially young people, and helping them unlearn psychological, environmental, systemic,
Speaker 4: and societal conditioning that program stand into limited belief systems,
Speaker 4: negative belief systems, and behavioral habits that are rooted in unworthiness.
Speaker 4: And we don't want to do that. So a lot
Speaker 4: of a lot of things that I talk about when
Speaker 4: it comes to people is healing from the inside out.
Speaker 4: We all know that I discussed life matters loving yourself first,
Speaker 4: because it does matter, and a really big part of
Speaker 4: understanding and learning to love yourself is to know yourself
Speaker 4: and to know who you are, not who you were
Speaker 4: conditioned to be, not who you were programmed to be,
Speaker 4: not who you were molded and shaped into being based
Speaker 4: off of society, based off of the environment you grew
Speaker 4: up in, and based off of your family's.
Speaker 5: Desires for you, but you who you are.
Speaker 4: And it's really interesting because not really taking that time
Speaker 4: to know who we are also interferes with how we
Speaker 4: date and how we choose relationships and what type of
Speaker 4: relationship we want.
Speaker 5: And a lot of it.
Speaker 4: Is rooted into the fact that we don't necessarily know
Speaker 4: what we want from others because we haven't really learned
Speaker 4: how to know what we want within ourselves.
Speaker 1: Right about it, Right about it? Girls, say run it that,
Speaker 1: Say it again, Say it again? What did you say?
Speaker 1: You gotta know what don't play when we play with yourself.
Speaker 4: You have to know what you want within yourself first.
Speaker 5: You have to know.
Speaker 4: I said this last time. I can give clear directions
Speaker 4: and navigate people to the center of my heart because
Speaker 4: I live there, because.
Speaker 5: I know me.
Speaker 4: I know me, the version of me that I accept,
Speaker 4: the version of me that I like, Not the version
Speaker 4: of me that society tells me I have to be right.
Speaker 4: Not the version of me that's popular to others for handclap,
Speaker 4: Not the version of me that makes my parents look good,
Speaker 4: that makes you know, society looks good. That mix you know,
Speaker 4: outside that mix, outside viewers champion me. The version of
Speaker 4: me that champions for myself and roots for myself. I
Speaker 4: am looking to be with somebody who wants to be
Speaker 4: with that version of me right, and that allows me
Speaker 4: to be very intentional when it comes to dating, and
Speaker 4: that is what I encourage other people to do. So
Speaker 4: the Crayon theory is rooted in a lot of inner work.
Speaker 5: It's a speed thinking mixer. It's a pre Valentine's Day mixer.
Speaker 4: And the interesting thing is people are like, oh, it's
Speaker 4: a mixer. It's a pre Valentine's saying mixer.
Speaker 5: It's gonna be it's gonna be good, it's gonna be fun.
Speaker 4: Yeah it is, but you are going to learn a
Speaker 4: whole lot about yourself.
Speaker 1: Okay. So I put the flyer up.
Speaker 2: It says, join us are a fun, sophisticated evening to
Speaker 2: discover your true colors and love.
Speaker 1: The Crayon Theory.
Speaker 2: A transformative speed dating experience where authentic connection are cultivated
Speaker 2: through understanding oneself, not algorithms. Unlike traditional surface level dating approaches,
Speaker 2: the innovation primary color based value system helps identify your
Speaker 2: authentically aligned relationship values. Intimate gathering limit is of twenty
Speaker 2: four participants. We're talking twelve men, twelve women. Professional facilitation
Speaker 2: by NLP and EQ certified Crayon Theory Coach kenum one wrong,
Speaker 2: that's what it is. So learning these colors. Okay, so
Speaker 2: we understand that so annoying oneself, you're saying, that is
Speaker 2: how we get to know what our crayon color is.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because I understand that dating is exhausting for a
Speaker 4: lot of people. But a lot of times dating exhausting,
Speaker 4: and it's not necessarily because you're doing it wrong.
Speaker 5: It's because you're performing it right. And we spent. We
Speaker 5: spend so much too.
Speaker 4: Can you hear me?
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I'm laughing. Go ahead.
Speaker 4: I was looking onto the other and let me not look,
Speaker 4: let me not look at the right.
Speaker 5: To the to the to the phone. But it's it's
Speaker 5: because we tend to perform when we date. We give
Speaker 5: our representative right.
Speaker 4: We have that long list, basically a resume of what
Speaker 4: society says we should want. The type of value man,
Speaker 4: the type of value woman. Everyone that checks the box.
Speaker 4: We craft all the perfect text messages when texting. You know,
Speaker 4: we are we conform, we shrink, we shift to fit
Speaker 4: into the mold of the person that we want.
Speaker 5: To be liked.
Speaker 2: We'll be projecting to be So I had someone on TikTok.
Speaker 2: They asked, they said, well, they're a Caucasian. I think
Speaker 2: part of me. Nick, he's Nick, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: He said, I'm white, so hey, and he know he
Speaker 2: said no, not literally the white crown because he didn't know.
Speaker 2: He's like, I know, I'm beige, But how do I
Speaker 2: tell the color crayon I am? I didn't want to
Speaker 2: say white because I'm like, you know, somebody el say
Speaker 2: African American, but do you say white American? Do you
Speaker 2: just say white or just say European? Nick is laughing, Okay,
Speaker 2: go ahead, So how can we identify what color we
Speaker 2: are when we're talking about the crayon theory?
Speaker 4: So what's really interesting is I give an assessment. You
Speaker 4: know what, you've been there and you've experienced it for your.
Speaker 1: Yes child had me into yours.
Speaker 2: Anyway, go ahead, But really what it is is, well,
Speaker 2: what are the fun colors?
Speaker 4: So the main.
Speaker 5: Colors are red, yellow, and blue.
Speaker 1: Because those are the primary that make every color.
Speaker 4: Okay, right, your primary colors make all the colors in
Speaker 4: the coloring box.
Speaker 5: Right. And here's the interesting thing.
Speaker 4: When you think about emotions, A lot of times we
Speaker 4: don't we don't know how to communicate our emotions. The
Speaker 4: best way because we don't understand what the primary emotions are, right,
Speaker 4: we can we can tell somebody, Oh, I'm really angry,
Speaker 4: I'm really upset, I'm pissed at this person, and when
Speaker 4: I ask, what are you upset about? And it has
Speaker 4: to be it has to be something.
Speaker 5: That's unfair and unjust. When you're angry, it.
Speaker 4: Means something has happened that is unfair and unjust. And
Speaker 4: a lot of times when people explain things to me,
Speaker 4: it's like, Okay, I understand that there are hues, right,
Speaker 4: there are there hues of anger there, but deep down
Speaker 4: you're hurt, you're sad.
Speaker 1: Right, And that's usually the premise of that is even
Speaker 1: fear right.
Speaker 4: A lot of times, but even that sometimes can be
Speaker 4: on the continuum of like the deeper rooted issue, which
Speaker 4: is I am really hurt and I am sad because
Speaker 4: what you did make me feel fill in the blank, right,
Speaker 4: But being able to put feelings, putting words to feelings
Speaker 4: helps you communicate it better. And when you can communicate
Speaker 4: that better, you can have the outcome.
Speaker 5: That you really want.
Speaker 1: What is the outcome that we reach and.
Speaker 4: That's really healthy And I think that that is the
Speaker 4: same thing that goes with core values. Right, you can
Speaker 4: have hues of of things, meaning surface level dating. You
Speaker 4: go and you ask questions about you know, so what
Speaker 4: do you do for a living? You know, so what
Speaker 4: do you how many.
Speaker 5: Do you do you?
Speaker 4: You know, did you go to school at such and
Speaker 4: such or whatever? Those like little surface level questions are
Speaker 4: those don't really matter?
Speaker 5: Right.
Speaker 4: I have spent a lot of time, years and years
Speaker 4: of working with singles, of working with cups, of working
Speaker 4: with group and group settings, and doing a lot of
Speaker 4: setting and observation, and what I have come to find
Speaker 4: out is that people people don't date asking intentional questions
Speaker 4: that are rooted in alignment of who they are, right,
Speaker 4: and the assessment that I have people take once they
Speaker 4: register right, it's it's really deeper than they think it is.
Speaker 4: That will help me figure out what your color is.
Speaker 5: So that way, when.
Speaker 4: You find out the core value structures, because at the end.
Speaker 2: Of the day, can you list a couple for somebody
Speaker 2: that may not know about primary colors or what the
Speaker 2: core value structures are, just to give an idea.
Speaker 5: So so, so here's here's an example.
Speaker 4: Right, One of the one of the questions that I
Speaker 4: ask is what do you value, right, And when I say.
Speaker 5: What do you what do you value? It's what do
Speaker 5: you value in life?
Speaker 4: What what is the scope and structure of what it
Speaker 4: is that you value? Why do you value that thing? Right?
Speaker 4: And then give me a character breakdown of that And
Speaker 4: there's no right or wrong answer.
Speaker 5: It just has to be yours right. And if this is.
Speaker 4: The character breakdown of what it is that you value,
Speaker 4: and we embody what it is that we value, right,
Speaker 4: then as you navigate in life, then this is who
Speaker 4: you are. These are your morals, your principles, this is
Speaker 4: the foundation that you stand on.
Speaker 5: It was like, this is who I am, This is
Speaker 5: who I am.
Speaker 4: And once you know that, then you can start dating
Speaker 4: out of alignment of who you are, not what's in
Speaker 4: your bank account, not your title, not what your family thinks,
Speaker 4: not what society thinks. Like people have to have a
Speaker 4: radical level of acceptance and knowledge of who they are
Speaker 4: and how all they want to experience life, Understand what
Speaker 4: their non negotiables are that are that's rooted in their value.
Speaker 5: And most of the.
Speaker 4: Time people are out here operating as if this is
Speaker 4: who I am, this is who I am, But actually
Speaker 4: you don't know who you are, So you are navigating
Speaker 4: and operating throughout the world as a fake version of yourself,
Speaker 4: looking for somebody to fill voids and looking for somebody
Speaker 4: to add things to your to your life that you're
Speaker 4: not adding to yourself. And you probably don't even like that.
Speaker 4: That's why it don't.
Speaker 1: Last right here, because I was Wow.
Speaker 2: And when you talk about radically radical acceptance, what does
Speaker 2: that mean and what does that look like?
Speaker 4: Radical acceptance is saying I, this is this is who
Speaker 4: I am, this is this is this is what I love.
Speaker 4: This is how I want to experience the world. I
Speaker 4: don't want to be a mother. I know it's I
Speaker 4: know it's popular in the world.
Speaker 5: I know that. That's what you know, society says that.
Speaker 4: You know, I should have you know this many kids
Speaker 4: and by this age, I should be doing this with
Speaker 4: my life that my parents raised me to be this
Speaker 4: type of girl or or you know, woman in.
Speaker 5: Life or so on and so forth.
Speaker 4: You know, this is this is what society says a
Speaker 4: good life looks like. This is what society says, you know, uh,
Speaker 4: success looks like.
Speaker 2: So basically is understanding what look what success, what what
Speaker 2: your life looks like to you versus the perception or
Speaker 2: the lens of someone else. So who is the type
Speaker 2: of person that should be involved or who would be
Speaker 2: who would be the ideal person to attend the Crayon
Speaker 2: Theory mixer?
Speaker 1: And again tell us when it is taking place.
Speaker 4: On Friday at the Crosby and As a Hollywood Park
Speaker 4: in Inglewood, and it is doors open at six. We
Speaker 4: start at six thirty and we go until about ten thirty.
Speaker 4: Now it's a speed dating mixer, and you'll also have
Speaker 4: a one hour lecture with me. I will help you
Speaker 4: understand your color. I will help you understand your non
Speaker 4: negotiables and your why you're that color.
Speaker 5: And then I will help you learn how to communicate.
Speaker 4: I will help you learn how to ask the questions.
Speaker 4: Right when it comes to the speed dating, I will
Speaker 4: almost coach you. I will kind of coach you along
Speaker 4: the way to help you have a better dating experience.
Speaker 4: And then once I'm done, I set you free, and
Speaker 4: then you can go date and mingle and see, you know,
Speaker 4: see if you find your see if you find your
Speaker 4: your colormat.
Speaker 2: But again, is this only like this Creyon theory and
Speaker 2: what you're speaking of, is this only ideal for someone
Speaker 2: that's in a relationship or not in a relationship, singles
Speaker 2: or people in a relationship, is this a process they should.
Speaker 1: Go through as well? Like who is the Crayon theory for?
Speaker 4: So for this for this weekend, right for the pre
Speaker 4: Valentine's Day mixer, it's for singles.
Speaker 5: It is for singles who you.
Speaker 4: Know, understand how society has shaped their love story and
Speaker 4: they want to change the narrative and write it for themselves.
Speaker 4: And they want to take the time to be able
Speaker 4: to learn that. And they want, you know, they want somebody.
Speaker 4: They might want somebody for Valentine's they want a little boo,
Speaker 4: but they want to be intentional and they want support.
Speaker 5: With that intention.
Speaker 1: So why do you feel like maple?
Speaker 4: And that's it's a short version, right, This is almost
Speaker 4: like a sampler version of what the Crown theory is
Speaker 4: because you've been to the workshop, right, you know that
Speaker 4: that is that that workshop is informative, and it is
Speaker 4: and it can't be a bit intense because.
Speaker 5: Of all of the information that you learn and all
Speaker 5: of the unlearning.
Speaker 2: Right Okay, and then also what I'm saying too, like
Speaker 2: we've been with our workshop, it was very intensive as
Speaker 2: not taking so I'm saying the type of person that
Speaker 2: wants to get into this, who is serious about knowing
Speaker 2: themselves and how they stand in a relationship. Are there
Speaker 2: any tips if someone is not able to attend that
Speaker 2: can start to look into ways of figuring out what
Speaker 2: their color is, to understand what it means to give
Speaker 2: someone grace, or just like we were talking earlier, is
Speaker 2: to understand why somebody is the way they are versus
Speaker 2: just writing them off from what you see at surface value.
Speaker 5: Book a session with me.
Speaker 4: But again, this is this is a this is a
Speaker 4: mini version.
Speaker 5: You know, I do longer workshops after this.
Speaker 4: I'm actually going to open it up to do workshops
Speaker 4: with me, whether it's group session or you can do
Speaker 4: one on ones right where you.
Speaker 5: We go into it on a on a deeper level.
Speaker 4: But this is actually a it's actually fun because it's
Speaker 4: a pilot episode. I am shooting this as a pilot
Speaker 4: episode for an actual sual.
Speaker 5: Show where people do the work per.
Speaker 4: Episode, instead of doing it as a workshop where it's
Speaker 4: super intense, right, I am putting it together as an
Speaker 4: actual television series that I am shooting the pilot for,
Speaker 4: so people on Saturday get to participate in the pilot
Speaker 4: episode of the show of the series, one of the
Speaker 4: interesting is what I did is and you've been to
Speaker 4: both of them, right. You've been to the Strategy to
Speaker 4: Intimacy and you've also been to the Creon theory workshop.
Speaker 5: You've been to both the intimacy structure.
Speaker 2: That into me is in the number two me, not intimacy,
Speaker 2: into me.
Speaker 5: Into me right.
Speaker 4: That workshop is focused on communication, communication style, effective communication,
Speaker 4: emotional filters, emotional intel leigence, and intimacy and your intimacy
Speaker 4: levels right, because most people don't understand their intimacy level.
Speaker 4: So understanding what emotional intelligence is, understanding how it impacts
Speaker 4: the relationship right, and why it's important to be emotionally
Speaker 4: intelligent and emotionally available in a relationship right, and then
Speaker 4: understanding what your intimacy levels are, how to communicate those
Speaker 4: and then again communication, how to do it, how to
Speaker 4: do it properly?
Speaker 5: What is your conflict style? How to like DS?
Speaker 2: Is there some things that you can give us? I
Speaker 2: know you mentioned the different intimacy levels. I know you
Speaker 2: don't want to give everything because that's why somebody needs
Speaker 2: to pay for coulching. But for somebody that may be
Speaker 2: interested just to get an idea because we have Marian
Speaker 2: Jones on Facebook states I've been married for over thirty
Speaker 2: four years and happy, but I do think I need
Speaker 2: to pass your info along.
Speaker 1: It's important what you are doing.
Speaker 5: Thank you very much. Mary.
Speaker 4: And here's something really really interesting. I have a couple
Speaker 4: of friends who are married.
Speaker 5: My friend Belinda.
Speaker 4: Shout out to Belinda, she's been married now for about
Speaker 4: for about sixteen seventeen years, and she actually came to
Speaker 4: the workshops and she said, you know, I think I
Speaker 4: might take acous some of these tips, especially the intimacy
Speaker 4: level tips. She learned some things about herself that she
Speaker 4: was able to take into back into her marriage and
Speaker 4: she was able to sell my gonna tell her husband them,
Speaker 4: but she took it back.
Speaker 1: To her man.
Speaker 4: It was just like, you know, Keanna taught me about this, this, this,
Speaker 4: this and that, and I never knew that do I
Speaker 4: do them? And does that actually bother you?
Speaker 5: And he's like, hell, yeah it does. So it's not Technically.
Speaker 4: If you did come in and participate in a workshop,
Speaker 4: I think that there's a lot that you could learn.
Speaker 5: I think that understanding.
Speaker 4: The core values right is really really important, and then
Speaker 4: understand and we.
Speaker 5: Tend to evolve.
Speaker 4: One of the things that's really important that I teach
Speaker 4: is how to evolve together.
Speaker 5: And because I've worked with couples before.
Speaker 4: And when I work with couples, I talk to them
Speaker 4: about the importance of evolving together so that they.
Speaker 5: Don't grow apart.
Speaker 4: Right. And sometimes when we're in relationships, we get complacent
Speaker 4: and we get a little lazy, and we get comfortable
Speaker 4: with what's familiar, and we don't realize that our partner
Speaker 4: is evolving and growing and that we have to grow
Speaker 4: and evolve with them.
Speaker 5: Right.
Speaker 4: So, going back to the going back to the first
Speaker 4: question of what can some people learn about the intimacy levels? Right,
Speaker 4: one is understanding what they are. So you have emotional intimacy,
Speaker 4: which is understanding your emotions, Understanding how to communicate your emotions,
Speaker 4: Understanding that when these emotions come up, how do.
Speaker 5: They impact your body?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 5: What what is the trigger in your.
Speaker 4: Body when you're when you're angry? Right, So here's an example.
Speaker 4: When you're angry, do you lash out right?
Speaker 5: Do you shut down? Right? Do you go to the
Speaker 5: gym and blow off steam? Right?
Speaker 4: Do you jump on Amazon and go shopping? Do you
Speaker 4: do retail therapy when you're sad? Do you shop when
Speaker 4: you're depressed? Is that what you do when you're sad?
Speaker 4: Do you shut the world out and deal with there
Speaker 4: are things on your own? Or do you allow your
Speaker 4: helpers to help you in life and.
Speaker 5: You share what's going on with you?
Speaker 4: Right? When you make mistakes and you're you're you're dealing
Speaker 4: with with with fear and you're dealing with a mistake,
Speaker 4: do you shame yourself? Right? Understanding your emotions and how
Speaker 4: they impact you in your in your body? Do you
Speaker 4: get anxiety and PA think attacks when when stressed? And
Speaker 4: if so, do you shut everybody out? And I can
Speaker 4: do it myself? Right? These are like different things that
Speaker 4: you should know and learn and understand when it comes
Speaker 4: to your when it comes to yourself, and how do
Speaker 4: you manage your emotions when they come up? You know
Speaker 4: what I'm saying? Those are those are important. And then
Speaker 4: the the other one is intellectual intimacy. And I like
Speaker 4: that because I'm a I'm a.
Speaker 1: Safe What does that mean? What is intellectual in intimacy?
Speaker 4: So the best way I describe intellectual intimacy is being
Speaker 4: able to know what you like to learn about, know
Speaker 4: what stimulates the intellect. Know what stimulates the mind, No,
Speaker 4: it stimulates the brain. For example, I love to read.
Speaker 4: I love to be around somebody that can that can
Speaker 4: teach me about things that I've always wanted to know
Speaker 4: and I don't and I don't know how to do
Speaker 4: them right because I'm always researching, I'm always learning something new.
Speaker 4: I'm always kind of perfecting my craft and studying and researching.
Speaker 4: That is just something that I do. I love to
Speaker 4: read about history, I love to read about culture.
Speaker 5: I love to learn and go and travel.
Speaker 4: That's intimate to me, right, So for a partner, I
Speaker 4: think it would be very sexy to be able to
Speaker 4: not only communicate to them what I like intellectually, right,
Speaker 4: what kind of what, what kind of things I want
Speaker 4: to learn about, but to be able to share those
Speaker 4: things with me, to learn something new with me. Have
Speaker 4: you ever learned something with your partner that you never
Speaker 4: knew about and they never know about and now it's
Speaker 4: something that you guys have experienced together.
Speaker 5: And it mays you, it makes you closer.
Speaker 4: Have you ever done that and a part of that
Speaker 4: is experienced that it brings me into experiential intimacy, and that.
Speaker 5: Can be a lot of things. You can a lot
Speaker 5: of times.
Speaker 4: An experience can be a death, when you experience death
Speaker 4: with somebody and you and they're there for you while
Speaker 4: you grieve. Right when you experience hardship, when you experience
Speaker 4: a storm, when you experience a promotion, when you like,
Speaker 4: when you experience something that is like whatever that might be,
Speaker 4: that makes you closer. That's a level of intimacy that
Speaker 4: you have with your other person. And the spiritual intimacy
Speaker 4: that could be anything, whatever your spiritual belief is.
Speaker 5: It could be.
Speaker 4: Grounding, it could be going to church, it could be meditating,
Speaker 4: whatever that is for you, that intimate time that you
Speaker 4: do for you, that time with God, right, that time
Speaker 4: with your creator, that that that that times just sit
Speaker 4: and meditate, that time to go to the beach and
Speaker 4: just be one with your spreend, whatever spiritual practice you have.
Speaker 4: That's that's an intimate thing that you do with yourself.
Speaker 2: And to me norm what's inside of things? I mean
Speaker 2: you to think about yourself as like a gift or present.
Speaker 2: The one thing you want to do is you want
Speaker 2: to unwrap it and see what's inside. But I feel
Speaker 2: like oftentimes when we're dealing with relationships or even dealing
Speaker 2: with ourselves. We are afraid to see what's inside. And
Speaker 2: the very thing that's inside is what makes you you.
Speaker 2: The very thing that's in, what's inside is going to
Speaker 2: what's going to help you connect with someone else, And wouldn't.
Speaker 1: You want to know what that connection is made of.
Speaker 4: For yourself?
Speaker 1: Hello? You know it's you know, it's scary.
Speaker 4: You can't you can't find your perfect color out there,
Speaker 4: your perfect color match out there if you're out there
Speaker 4: painting in somebody else's shades.
Speaker 1: Oh, don't play when me play with yourself?
Speaker 4: Well yeah, you know, like like like wanting somebody else's relationship,
Speaker 4: like saying all their relationship goes that no one is,
Speaker 4: so should be your relationship because no one is you,
Speaker 4: no one experienced like you.
Speaker 5: Ten people can experience.
Speaker 4: The same thing ten different ways. Don't you want what
Speaker 4: you want in? You? Like your way? I don't want
Speaker 4: to experience life everybody else's way. I want to experience
Speaker 4: love and a relationship my way. Now, how I was
Speaker 4: told to, Now, how I was conditioned to?
Speaker 1: Wow?
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we're talking with Keanu Monroe. Everybody, Yes, she
Speaker 2: is an NLP and EQ coach. Here transforming lives and
Speaker 2: she has an upcoming mixer entitled the Crayon Theory Mixer.
Speaker 2: Will you identify yourself by your primary colors which also
Speaker 2: impacts of your relationship with yourself and then also with others.
Speaker 2: We know that Valentine's stays around the corner. What shade
Speaker 2: are you coming to the table with. I'm just saying
Speaker 2: so with this, Max said, there are going to be
Speaker 2: twelve women, twelve men who are going to go through
Speaker 2: I guess a dating ground or speed dating with the
Speaker 2: tools that you are going to quit with them within
Speaker 2: a one hour session. Now the question is I know
Speaker 2: that you are doing this for a very special project.
Speaker 1: This will be a pilot.
Speaker 2: Is there any way for anyone that is not in
Speaker 2: the state of California, anyone that is not in Englewood?
Speaker 2: Will they be able to stream it? Are you offering
Speaker 2: a possibility of that?
Speaker 5: Yes, yes I am.
Speaker 4: I will put it up on my YouTube. Details coming.
Speaker 4: You know, we got to edit it and all the
Speaker 4: other jazzs. But I actually I am considering doing the
Speaker 4: Life Matters Podcast special edition Crayon Theory Theory special Edition
Speaker 4: style where I will do versions of it online and
Speaker 4: in person. So the interesting thing about this one.
Speaker 5: Is people will people will mix.
Speaker 4: Again, it's snapshot of what an entire season would would be,
Speaker 4: and people will mix, people will mingle.
Speaker 5: And the whole point and.
Speaker 4: Purpose of it is this is before people know what
Speaker 4: their color is.
Speaker 5: So most of the right, So most of the.
Speaker 4: Time people have the tendency to flirt and lightly ask
Speaker 4: questions and get their little representative without having any understanding
Speaker 4: of who this person is or why they ask their
Speaker 4: typical questions, right, all all of that jazz, and then
Speaker 4: they will do the work with.
Speaker 1: Me then and then.
Speaker 4: They will find out what their color is. And here's
Speaker 4: the thing. When you do your speed dating, you'll have
Speaker 4: a special little pin that will go on or like
Speaker 4: a little like a little like a little sticker. I
Speaker 4: have stickers, and I have pins just in case people
Speaker 4: don't want to puncture their clothes. And you will know
Speaker 4: when you do the speed dating ground is this my color?
Speaker 4: Is this? Right?
Speaker 5: For the I'm not going you will know.
Speaker 4: You will know, and the other person will know. And
Speaker 4: it's like do you date the person anyway?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 4: Auntie Maya Angelou said, when people show you who.
Speaker 1: They are, believe you to believe them.
Speaker 4: And a lot of times what we see and the
Speaker 4: interesting thing is for the show I actually wanted to
Speaker 4: play out for the world to see right, for the
Speaker 4: audience to see themselves through the participants of knowing that
Speaker 4: you have chemistry with somebody, but your values are not
Speaker 4: in alignments. But because they look good and because they
Speaker 4: you know, they fit some some of the you know, the.
Speaker 1: Checkbox, the different parts of your body getting excited.
Speaker 4: That don't mean yeah, they look good, then you know
Speaker 4: you date them anyway. You date them any and a
Speaker 4: lot of times you find this in dating somebody who
Speaker 4: says I don't want kids, and you date them anyway, thinking.
Speaker 1: That you can change and they said I don't want them.
Speaker 5: That you can change their mind, or thinking that you
Speaker 5: can tolerate.
Speaker 4: You know, they tell you what their lifestyle is. They
Speaker 4: don't ever want to be married, and you're like.
Speaker 5: That's because they have been that need.
Speaker 4: No, they're morals and values based off their value structure.
Speaker 5: They don't want it. It's that they don't want it.
Speaker 4: And a part of the acceptance of self is saying
Speaker 4: I love me so much that I'm going to release
Speaker 4: you with love. I hope you go and find whatever
Speaker 4: you're looking for you. Fine, But however, comma, if I
Speaker 4: played this game with you, if I'm looking for something serious,
Speaker 4: like if I really want something serious, not right away,
Speaker 4: but I'm definitely going down that road, right is I'm gonna.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna let you go be with somebody that wants
Speaker 5: what you want.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I just came with something.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna. I'm gonna.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna give you back to the streets and not
Speaker 4: invite you into my I just.
Speaker 1: Came up with something.
Speaker 2: If you keep playing with somebody's but, you're sure going
Speaker 2: to make an ass of yourself.
Speaker 1: But catch it.
Speaker 2: I said, you better catch it because it's coming in hot.
Speaker 2: You keep playing with somebody's but and you're gonna find
Speaker 2: yourself in somebody's ass. Yeah, don't play with me, play
Speaker 2: with yourself. Okay, Yeah, Yeah, that was good, KNDA, That's
Speaker 2: really good. Now I want to open up. I know
Speaker 2: based on restrain me. But if you would like to
Speaker 2: call in the studio right now eight one eight four
Speaker 2: six one fifty four thirty two, you can join this
Speaker 2: live of conversation. I've also included the link if you
Speaker 2: like to join us on video or call link Wise,
Speaker 2: those who aren't TikTok. You gotta show up on the
Speaker 2: FB uh because Kenna you didn't. She's not on her
Speaker 2: TikTok right now for us to join that way. So nevertheless,
Speaker 2: we appreciate too. Now one more time, what is the website?
Speaker 2: How does someone register? Is this open for anyone to attend?
Speaker 2: How can somebody keep up to date us to this
Speaker 2: event and then those in the future.
Speaker 1: Thirty enough, I would say we're dealing with growing fo.
Speaker 4: I'm going to open it up very soon. I'm going
Speaker 4: to do the next season of Life Matters podcast. I
Speaker 4: will do it the Crayon Theory Special Editions, and then
Speaker 4: it'll be on I'll allow it to be on on
Speaker 4: on YouTube. I'm actually starting a Patreon with it, so
Speaker 4: I'll be doing Patreon very soon and that will be
Speaker 4: starting the second season and strictly focusing on the crayon Theory.
Speaker 4: You can also go to my website www. Dot keanumonroel
Speaker 4: dot com and book a session with me or hang
Speaker 4: tight because after the eighth I am going to do
Speaker 4: a special announcement of when and I will be opening
Speaker 4: up for the Crayon Theory Workshop. And as you know,
Speaker 4: don like you've done the workshop virtually online, which I've
Speaker 4: done with a group of people, and everybody kind of
Speaker 4: goes through the motions and find out what their color
Speaker 4: match is, or I do it in person.
Speaker 5: The interesting thing about doing it in person is that
Speaker 5: people come in.
Speaker 4: They mingle a little bit. I've actually had.
Speaker 5: Some people meet their person, like meet their color match.
Speaker 4: In my workshop, I had two couples and I have
Speaker 4: a wedding. I didn't go to the wedding because they
Speaker 4: did it, you know, they did destination wedding of C's.
Speaker 5: But it does, it does work. I've had people.
Speaker 4: In the workshop saying, you know what, I thought I
Speaker 4: was ready to date, but I'm not ready. I think
Speaker 4: a lot of the things that I remember her saying,
Speaker 4: I think all of the things that I desire in
Speaker 4: a person is rooted in like my trauma, and I
Speaker 4: am looking I feel like all of the things that
Speaker 4: I've been looking for. Because again, it's a lot of
Speaker 4: work I give I give you a lot of work,
Speaker 4: and I ask you a lot of questions.
Speaker 5: Right, and it's interactive. It's not just to me talking
Speaker 5: as to you. It's it's it's interactive.
Speaker 4: And after peeling back a lot of those layers, and
Speaker 4: and and asking you what your non negotiables are, asking
Speaker 4: you why if these are your values, how do you
Speaker 4: operate in that? Can people around you confirm? Does your
Speaker 4: circle of friends represent what it.
Speaker 5: Is that you say you you you value?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 4: One of the things I've asked people is what's your
Speaker 4: what's your love language?
Speaker 5: And how do you experience it for yourself?
Speaker 4: Because if words of affirmation is your love language and
Speaker 4: you are serious about it, but you talk to yourself
Speaker 4: like trash, that's a problem.
Speaker 5: Is it really your love language?
Speaker 4: Do you want to talk to Do you want someone
Speaker 4: you require and demand somebody to talk to you in
Speaker 4: ways you don't talk to yourself, right, Because if you
Speaker 4: don't talk to yourself that way, but you want them
Speaker 4: to talk to you that way, Eventually, with time, when
Speaker 4: the representative has made it exit, you are going to
Speaker 4: talk to that person that way.
Speaker 1: You know when you said you people that are like narcissists.
Speaker 5: All that innership onto the other person.
Speaker 4: Right. If gifts is your love language, how do you
Speaker 4: show that to yourself? That's really important. It's it's and
Speaker 4: the interesting thing, it's not necessarily about finding a partner.
Speaker 5: I want people to be very.
Speaker 4: Clear that finding somebody is fantastic.
Speaker 5: I want somebody to find.
Speaker 4: A love in this right, But the love that I
Speaker 4: want people to discover is the love that they have
Speaker 4: for themselves.
Speaker 1: Okay, I got a quick question. I got a question
Speaker 1: that came through. I got a question.
Speaker 2: It's not necessary, jan I got a question that came
Speaker 2: through on tak time.
Speaker 1: Help me tell me. They said, that's so interesting. This
Speaker 1: is from Nick of Time.
Speaker 2: Tell us more about the representative quote unquote, when dating,
Speaker 2: say that one more time, tell us more about the representative.
Speaker 1: When dating, everybody.
Speaker 4: Some a lot of times brings their representative when when
Speaker 4: when you date, it's trying to ask the right questions, right.
Speaker 5: It is making sure you don't say the wrong saying.
Speaker 4: It's making sure that you know, you don't say too much,
Speaker 4: you don't do too much. You don't this you you
Speaker 4: you don't want to come off as this way, and
Speaker 4: you don't want to come off too sensitive. I'm a
Speaker 4: sensitive person, but I don't don't want to show.
Speaker 5: That right away.
Speaker 4: Or you know, I I have ADHD or I have
Speaker 4: like because I know I do M I don't mind
Speaker 4: sharing that in certain life. But it's it's going on
Speaker 4: a date and just asking surface level questions. Also, because
Speaker 4: not only are you afraid to ask the wrong question,
Speaker 4: you're afraid to let them see a version of you.
Speaker 5: That they might not like. Hmmm, so right, so you you.
Speaker 4: You show up as a version that's approved right now
Speaker 4: and over time, I'll let them. I'll let them see
Speaker 4: you know the ugliness, So I'll let them see that
Speaker 4: you know, and not necessarily ugliness, that's that's not the
Speaker 4: that's actually not the right word. But your quirks, your
Speaker 4: unique things about you that make you you. Right. That's
Speaker 4: why I said radical acceptance of oneself is.
Speaker 5: Key, and it's knowing that.
Speaker 4: And my thing is, I'm not going to show up
Speaker 4: on a date so that I can and make sure
Speaker 4: that this person that checks off all the boxes likes me,
Speaker 4: because this is the type of person my mother will like.
Speaker 5: This is the type of person my parents will like.
Speaker 5: This is the type of person that if I get
Speaker 5: with right, I will be relationship goals, This.
Speaker 4: Will look good on social media, right, I will have
Speaker 4: made it right.
Speaker 5: Whatever the fill in the blank.
Speaker 4: So I am going to make sure that I show
Speaker 4: up the way I'm supposed to show up. It's almost
Speaker 4: like sometimes people treat dating like a job interview.
Speaker 5: It's not a job interview. This, this is some this
Speaker 5: is something you're.
Speaker 4: You are out spending your time and money and energy
Speaker 4: right to have a conversation to see if somebody is
Speaker 4: your purpose partner and if they are in line, if
Speaker 4: they are you know, do they know themselves? How they
Speaker 4: met themselves? Because like I told you the last time,
Speaker 4: I was so, people can only meet you and connect
Speaker 4: to you at the level of which they've connected and
Speaker 4: met themselves, right exactly, Like, like how can I how
Speaker 4: can I How can I have compassion for you? And
Speaker 4: I don't have compassion for myself? How can I learn
Speaker 4: how to have patience with you and deep understanding?
Speaker 2: I usually say this in the time when compassion for
Speaker 2: somebody else, I'll be like, don't cheat yourself. You better
Speaker 2: treat yourself and what that means, don't cheat yourself in
Speaker 2: these types of predicaments and these situations. Understand that I
Speaker 2: think what you said, there's a fine line between showing
Speaker 2: up as your best self and then showing up as
Speaker 2: the representative.
Speaker 4: You can show. Yes, here's the thing. You can show
Speaker 4: up as your your your your best self.
Speaker 5: But if you know you want some fried chicken. Don't
Speaker 5: don't order a.
Speaker 1: Salad you can. You know you've hold I'm not really hungry.
Speaker 4: Yes you are that you are, you only have a
Speaker 4: creen juice that dang you hungry?
Speaker 2: You know. I guess that kind of resonated with me
Speaker 2: because it's like you want to show up as your
Speaker 2: best self.
Speaker 1: But then also I want to be myself.
Speaker 2: But that doesn't mean you being yourself is not showing
Speaker 2: you know, your nails, messed up, your hair, your clothes.
Speaker 1: Superficial things.
Speaker 2: But like you said when you talk about getting into me,
Speaker 2: how you treat yourself is going to determine how you
Speaker 2: treat me, because if you ain't treating yourself good, why
Speaker 2: would you treat me any better?
Speaker 5: Don you answered your own questions?
Speaker 1: I know that that's what you're doing with people, Like.
Speaker 4: When you said not going with your nails undone, with
Speaker 4: your hair a mess? When when I when I love me,
Speaker 4: I care about my gonna do that anyway? I care
Speaker 4: about how I look, no matter what it like. You
Speaker 4: just so happened to get to go out with me.
Speaker 4: Do you understand what I'm saying?
Speaker 5: Don't you get to have breakfast with me?
Speaker 4: But whenever when a breakfast, lunch, cocktails happy. You are
Speaker 4: going to get me the way I get myself and
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna I'm not gonna look raggedy because I
Speaker 4: love me. I will always bring it back to life matters,
Speaker 4: loving yourself.
Speaker 2: And you know, just on the other side too. And
Speaker 2: I know we got to wrap this up. We're hereting
Speaker 2: our our point.
Speaker 4: Also, I think.
Speaker 1: Another thing is to get keep me.
Speaker 2: Dang, I forgot it. It just left my brain.
Speaker 1: Oh oh oh oh.
Speaker 2: Also making room for the other person to show up
Speaker 2: as who they are and not trying to change them,
Speaker 2: like even dating somebody like you said, if they're not
Speaker 2: the type of person that you know, say this may
Speaker 2: sound so trivial, okay, but maybe they aren't the individual
Speaker 2: that brushes their teeth in the morning and at night.
Speaker 1: That's so surface level.
Speaker 2: But don't come in trying to change that person about
Speaker 2: whatever their habit is. I think you can probably inspire them,
Speaker 2: but don't come in expecting something different because that's not
Speaker 2: the part of their routine. And best belief, if they're
Speaker 2: in a performative moment, that's only gonna last for some
Speaker 2: of the mone of time.
Speaker 5: Right, here's the thing too.
Speaker 1: Okay, let me wrap this up. We got a minute.
Speaker 5: Okay.
Speaker 4: I always say chemistry is my compatibility, right, and what
Speaker 4: here's the thing about. What I'm going to teach other
Speaker 4: people how to do when they when they go on this,
Speaker 4: when they go to this mixer is how to express
Speaker 4: primary love to themselves and to others. And it is
Speaker 4: creating a safe space, right and an emotional safe space
Speaker 4: for people to be authentically themselves in your presence, to
Speaker 4: be vulnerable, to be transparent without fear of condemnation and judgment.
Speaker 5: Here's the space. This is who I am. Show me
Speaker 5: who you are, and let's see if we're aligned.
Speaker 4: And if not, it's okay.
Speaker 1: You look good, You look good.
Speaker 5: Good.
Speaker 4: What I want you to be with who you deserve
Speaker 4: and I want you to not trap me and let
Speaker 4: me go be with who I deserve out of respect
Speaker 4: and love for yourself and out of respect and love
Speaker 4: for me.
Speaker 1: All right, Well, then there you have it. Okay.
Speaker 2: So, in case you did not know, I'm talking with
Speaker 2: Keana Monroe, who happens to be a NLP and EQ
Speaker 2: coach who's hosting the Crayon Theory mixer happening this Friday.
Speaker 1: Is that character. Saturday Saturday.
Speaker 2: Okay, Saturday from six thirty Women's we need some guys
Speaker 2: Saturday from six point thirty to ten thirty. Make sure
Speaker 2: you follow Keana on all social media. Keana loves Me.
Speaker 2: Sign up, get to know yourself and perhaps you can
Speaker 2: get to know somebody else. Anything else Keana that you
Speaker 2: would like to share with the people today.
Speaker 5: Love yourself, Love yourself.
Speaker 4: Sorry, sometimes the best way to love yourself is to
Speaker 4: be honest.
Speaker 1: Hey, keep in the real so you know, Nanda, Thank
Speaker 1: you so much, Kenna.
Speaker 2: I appreciate you, lolcome always. Well there you have it,
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