Speaker 1: Hey, y'all, you're here and now listening to provide him
Speaker 1: Inde Podcast. As always, I'm your host, Dawn Day, and
Speaker 1: I'm here to help you become your best self because
Speaker 1: i want you to live your best life. So today,
Speaker 1: as I'm looking at the world in the US, I
Speaker 1: can't helpless see all the pain and suffer and people
Speaker 1: are going through from loss and it's just coming in
Speaker 1: so many different ways and so many directions. From loss
Speaker 1: of freedom, you can't do what you want, loss of opportunities,
Speaker 1: there's so many people without jobs right now. And then
Speaker 1: the one that hits the top tier for me, and
Speaker 1: that's dealing with the loss of loved ones. And that
Speaker 1: made me think, are we having the conversations about death
Speaker 1: as far as how to prepare? What is it that
Speaker 1: we want? And that leads me with my guest today.
Speaker 1: Now you've heard of a doola, right, A doula is
Speaker 1: traditionally known to bring life into the world. Well, my guest,
Speaker 1: Ashley Johnson, is a death doola and she's also the
Speaker 1: founder of Loyal Hands. It's an organization offering end of
Speaker 1: life transition services to help people have a healthy relationship
Speaker 1: when it comes to the ends. Of their lives. It's
Speaker 1: definitely a sectical to see when people actually embrace the
Speaker 1: fact that they are transitioning and take power into that
Speaker 1: whole aspect of mystery, but incorporating happiness with it. And
Speaker 1: it takes me back even dealing with my mother and
Speaker 1: when she had her transition, I didn't know what she wanted.
Speaker 1: We never talked about it because for some reason we
Speaker 1: have this thought process that this day will never come.
Speaker 1: But guess what, It's inevitable. And rather than putting the
Speaker 1: pressure on your loved ones to make decisions, or even
Speaker 1: the pressure of yourself of trying to have to figure
Speaker 1: it out, maybe you need to hire an organization like
Speaker 1: Loyal Hands, find yourself a death doula. So you're probably
Speaker 1: curious at this point what exactly is a death doula
Speaker 1: and what do they do? Well, no need to wonder
Speaker 1: any longer. It's time for your dose Survitamin D. Right
Speaker 1: with me and get excited about your lives. Ladies and gentlemen,
Speaker 1: Welcome to the Vitamin D Podcast. I have an interesting
Speaker 1: conversation in store for you today. Um I have a
Speaker 1: special guest. Her name is Ashley Johnson. She is the
Speaker 1: founder of Loyal Hands, an organization offering end of life
Speaker 1: transition services. Yes, just like a doula brings life into
Speaker 1: the world, were Ashley's business is all about transitioning life
Speaker 1: out of this realm. So without further ado, please help me.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the Vitamin D Podcast, Miss Ashley Johnson. Ashley,
Speaker 1: how are you? I am amazing, Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1: That was an amazing introduction. Um. Yes, I am Ashley.
Speaker 1: I am the founder of Loyal Hands into Life DULAS.
Speaker 1: I am a certified end of life doula Q the
Speaker 1: organ done UM. A lot of people are familiar with
Speaker 1: the word doula. It's like so not a misus with
Speaker 1: you know, being the birth do la um. Until recently,
Speaker 1: there's been a lot of advocacy for people that are
Speaker 1: transitioning out and if you think about it, a lot
Speaker 1: of us birth dolers and death dolers we pretty much
Speaker 1: do the same thing. And we require ourselves to be fearless,
Speaker 1: patient and calm first and foremost because we have to
Speaker 1: be there and be present for our families, for the
Speaker 1: families and for the people that are transitioning. How did
Speaker 1: you get into this line of work? Okay, I would
Speaker 1: love to tell you like a fairy fairytale story. But
Speaker 1: I honestly I got into this line of work. It's
Speaker 1: been since I was young. I gravitated towards people that
Speaker 1: were elderly and transitioning. Even I would look at the uh,
Speaker 1: you know, the Sunday paper they come out with the comics.
Speaker 1: I would look at the obituaries and it would find
Speaker 1: such amazement with the stories that they would tell, um,
Speaker 1: the history and things there, you know, their legacy. And
Speaker 1: then from there I went to school, you know, duated
Speaker 1: from the University of Florida, soillulgators. But and after that
Speaker 1: I became into deathcare like for the over a decade. Wow. Yeah, honestly,
Speaker 1: it's crazy. It's not something that you hear all the time.
Speaker 1: A death dula, end of life doulah um. A lot
Speaker 1: of people are foreign to it. A lot of people
Speaker 1: don't even like to talk about death, so that in
Speaker 1: itself is foreign. So literally, um, I'm here, a lot
Speaker 1: of end of life dulas are coming to the forefront
Speaker 1: to actually speak about death, to actually to talk about
Speaker 1: it because, as you know, like a lot of cultures
Speaker 1: that was hush hush, especially in Western society, we don't
Speaker 1: talk about it, and we act like if we don't
Speaker 1: talk about it, it doesn't exist, it won't happen, right,
Speaker 1: and it happens. And right now with COVID nineteen happening,
Speaker 1: it's something we have to think about. Correct. Crazy crazy, crazy,
Speaker 1: And that's the thing right now with COVID nineteen, it's
Speaker 1: brought death to the forefront. A lot of people are
Speaker 1: we're talking about it to people are afraid of it.
Speaker 1: Um I will say that we have increased our calls
Speaker 1: on people having anxiety and stress about talking about death
Speaker 1: and things like that, and it's all really due to
Speaker 1: COVID because people are we're not ready, we haven't had
Speaker 1: those conversations. A lot of people when there's when they
Speaker 1: get when their family member get gets COVID nineteen, they
Speaker 1: don't have their rights in order, so they don't know
Speaker 1: if their loved one wants a d n R or
Speaker 1: have all the like, have all the medical work to
Speaker 1: help them or anything like that. So that's definitely cranked
Speaker 1: up a lot because people are not we're talking about it.
Speaker 1: So why do you think we're afraid of talking about death? Like,
Speaker 1: what's the perception? Is it scary? Should it be scary?
Speaker 1: It's a taboo. That's the thing. It is a taboo
Speaker 1: of you know, people think if we talk about it
Speaker 1: is happening, death is gonna come to our door. I'm one,
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about it. I'm not. I do talk
Speaker 1: about it. I take that back, I'm not manifesting on it.
Speaker 1: I like to address that, Leph another room. Just how
Speaker 1: we're born, we will transition um, but we and the
Speaker 1: thing is, we're only born once and we will transition
Speaker 1: only once. So we want to make sure it's a
Speaker 1: good transition. We want to make sure like we have
Speaker 1: our our our rights and our advanced directives and things
Speaker 1: like that in order so when things happen and they
Speaker 1: go away, that everything that we wanted is followed through.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I you know, so I know from being
Speaker 1: a death like, I think that you should talk about it.
Speaker 1: It's just as much as we talk about death with
Speaker 1: our sex, with um, with adolescents. You know, we have
Speaker 1: to talk about it. We have to address it because
Speaker 1: it's not like it's not going to happen. It's nothing
Speaker 1: that you can avoid. And it reminds me of even
Speaker 1: losing my mother and even the various loved ones. There
Speaker 1: is a weight that you carry to make sure what
Speaker 1: should I do if anything were to happen, Then you
Speaker 1: don't want to live with the idea of did I
Speaker 1: make the right decision? So that's amazing to hear as
Speaker 1: a child you're up here reading obituaries instead of comic books.
Speaker 1: I really think my mom should have probably been paying attention,
Speaker 1: like what is wrong with this kid? Are you walking
Speaker 1: into a gift? Because I'm sure not. We're going to
Speaker 1: talk about this, how your your passion, your your line
Speaker 1: of work probably saves lives in a business that's catered
Speaker 1: to lives transitioning out of this world, right, right, right,
Speaker 1: and right. So yeah, definitely being it's being a millennial
Speaker 1: like that that right there in itself, it's like a
Speaker 1: go getter type of I won't say all millennials, I
Speaker 1: should preferce that, but let's just were got off from
Speaker 1: an optimistic point of view. But literally, I say with
Speaker 1: the end of like Dolus, we millennials are taking charge
Speaker 1: and like we want to talk about it. We listen,
Speaker 1: get a lot of millennials that are coming to the
Speaker 1: forefront and they're like kind of curious because it was
Speaker 1: it's such a taboo thing. So We're like they're asking
Speaker 1: questions because they're like this is kind of forbidden, so
Speaker 1: we're kind of interested in intrigued, which is good. Cool,
Speaker 1: let's talk about it. Like I give a lot of
Speaker 1: kudos to baby boomers. Baby boomers, Um, if you look
Speaker 1: back at it, they were the trend setters. They were
Speaker 1: the ones that started like the get fit and healthy. Um.
Speaker 1: They and now that they're aging at astronomical rate, it's
Speaker 1: they waited later to have children and things like that.
Speaker 1: So now that they're they've lived a holistic and healthy life,
Speaker 1: now they want to transition as well in in a
Speaker 1: in a not so normal lifestyle. So yeah, so have
Speaker 1: you seen that's more positive or negative? It's positive. Um.
Speaker 1: Working with baby boomers, it's like they aren't afraid to
Speaker 1: talk about it. They know the inevitable is coming. Um,
Speaker 1: it makes it. They honestly, they drop off so many jewels. Um.
Speaker 1: They definitely tell you about the keys of life, what
Speaker 1: they learned throughout the way, What was the most important,
Speaker 1: what wasn't what? Why are you wasting your time with X,
Speaker 1: Y and Z when you should just go live your
Speaker 1: life and be happy with blah blah blah. Like I
Speaker 1: one quote like I can say that I have a
Speaker 1: client that is transitioning, um and he is a millionaire,
Speaker 1: and he he will tell me, like, you know, he
Speaker 1: has a fleet of cars, fleets of cars outside his
Speaker 1: house and he'll say, Ashley, I can't even drive these cars.
Speaker 1: I scoured the world to get these cars. He would
Speaker 1: he would find exotic cars, foreign cars and travel to
Speaker 1: them and that was his thing. And now that he's
Speaker 1: transitioning that he's like, I can't take these with me.
Speaker 1: And he's like, I worked day and night so I
Speaker 1: can afford that luxury to do what I wanted to do.
Speaker 1: I took away time from my family, know, working hard,
Speaker 1: and now I can't even take that with me. So
Speaker 1: he has regrets of this, and it's like heavy things.
Speaker 1: And he's like, you know, spend time with your loved ones,
Speaker 1: like and you're like, yeah, I do that regularly. But
Speaker 1: then you're like, no, just because you're spending you're spending
Speaker 1: a lot of time doesn't mean you're spending quality time.
Speaker 1: So you want to Then you're like, I want to
Speaker 1: spend quality time. When people asked ask those provoking questions
Speaker 1: like hey, grandma, how how was it when you grew up,
Speaker 1: like you know things like that, like tell me about
Speaker 1: your childhood and random stories. So and I love that's
Speaker 1: what you said, because that's something that I talked about
Speaker 1: your life bank account, Because your life bank accounts, you
Speaker 1: have to discern what kind of deposits versus liabilities are
Speaker 1: you making there and what makes it worthwhile? Like how
Speaker 1: are you spending your time? Because yes, we want the
Speaker 1: American dream, Yes we want to travel, Yes we want
Speaker 1: these cars, Yes we want this lifestyle. But then you
Speaker 1: think about it the quality of your life while you're
Speaker 1: making deposits, what are the liabilities and does it balance out?
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean you can't have it. So thank you
Speaker 1: for sharing that. And as I see, like you are
Speaker 1: very wise and beyond your years. So I'm just wondering
Speaker 1: what was life growing up for you and how did
Speaker 1: that affect your ability or how did that and enhance
Speaker 1: your decision to form loyal hands um. Honestly, life for
Speaker 1: me growing up as a as a child, I grew
Speaker 1: up in a single parent household and uh a low
Speaker 1: income neighborhood. And pretty much how that transitioned to me
Speaker 1: into getting into this life, this line of work is
Speaker 1: because I grew up in the neighborhood. I group that
Speaker 1: the neighborhood that I grew up in and locked the
Speaker 1: advocacy UM how to deal with end of life process.
Speaker 1: So death happened as it happens every day, but families
Speaker 1: weren't emotionally or mentally financially prepared. So families weren't healing
Speaker 1: from these traumas their loved ones would either not healing
Speaker 1: from them. And so therefore we create a general you start.
Speaker 1: I look back now, a lot of generational traumas were
Speaker 1: recreated because they were we weren't healing, we weren't talking
Speaker 1: about it, the mental aspect of it. UM. So that
Speaker 1: was like the framework I saw that I you know,
Speaker 1: I saw that we were repeating the same cycle. So
Speaker 1: literally it came to be when a good friend of
Speaker 1: mine got colon cancer UM at the age of twenty seven.
Speaker 1: UM I was doing a lot of the end of
Speaker 1: life doula work without a title. It was just something
Speaker 1: natural um innate I was definitely at the hospitals by
Speaker 1: her bedside, helping her make really in depth like decisions
Speaker 1: on how she wanted to carry out the rest of
Speaker 1: her life, how does she want to leave her legacy?
Speaker 1: She didn't have any children, so how does she want
Speaker 1: to have her legacy? So once she transitioned, I saw
Speaker 1: fit to provide others in need of end of life
Speaker 1: education like or holistic services and companionship because like I
Speaker 1: said before, like everybody deserves a good death and families
Speaker 1: need proper closure. So would you say that your services
Speaker 1: is more for the person that is transitioning or for
Speaker 1: the loved ones that are dealing with the other love
Speaker 1: one that is transitioning both. I deal with both, um,
Speaker 1: because a lot of loved ones they don't understand the
Speaker 1: process of tim They think it's a final goodbye. They
Speaker 1: take it as a final goodbye and things like that. Um,
Speaker 1: I I my whole. When I am hired to be
Speaker 1: like the end of life do la I I come
Speaker 1: in there as an advocate for the person that is transitioning.
Speaker 1: I want to make sure that what they want to
Speaker 1: be done by the time they transition is actually properly
Speaker 1: executed UM. And also taking care of the family because
Speaker 1: I know the family can't pour from an empty cup.
Speaker 1: So there's times where I will you do I will
Speaker 1: bring like, um, what is it called I have a footsak?
Speaker 1: So the do you know, the loved ones, I just
Speaker 1: a little pamper metime because as they are taking care
Speaker 1: of their loved ones and and how they remorse and
Speaker 1: grieving while that loved one is still a life, I
Speaker 1: like to bring them into an element of focus then
Speaker 1: on themselves. I am here here like relax because you
Speaker 1: can't pour from the empty cup, So so you're offering
Speaker 1: a foot so for the loved ones. Yeah, well, I
Speaker 1: definitely cater because I I'm not there twenty four hours
Speaker 1: a day, So I educate the loved ones and what's
Speaker 1: the steps that are happening, and so many questions. I'm
Speaker 1: just trying to think of how to gather them ask away.
Speaker 1: So let's let's even thinking about your good girlfriend that
Speaker 1: you lost, and you're saying how you were doing all
Speaker 1: these practices and not realizing that this was helping to
Speaker 1: form you're soon to be business. Now I'm wondering, how
Speaker 1: did you get the strength? Doesn't did you? Was it
Speaker 1: for certain that she was transitioning out of here? I'm
Speaker 1: just thinking, if I have a loved one, how I
Speaker 1: don't even know how? I need you right right? And
Speaker 1: it literally it was when you have for her in
Speaker 1: her situation. When that happened, it was her on colleges
Speaker 1: came in and told her her options, and at that
Speaker 1: time he told her, hey, we're gonna start chemo. We're
Speaker 1: gonna start chemo. Um, this means that you most likely
Speaker 1: won't be able to have children. You know, that's that's heavy.
Speaker 1: You know, as a woman, you're like, wait, I need
Speaker 1: to decide right now my life or the ability if
Speaker 1: I need to have children, even though I wasn't thinking
Speaker 1: of having children right now, but now we have this,
Speaker 1: and so it was like, okay, this is a this
Speaker 1: is a heavy decision. What do you want to do.
Speaker 1: And it's like, okay, you're you want to want it,
Speaker 1: like prolong her life. And I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: that's great. That is your decision on what you want
Speaker 1: to do. There's plenty of other options. We you could
Speaker 1: you can have your eggs harvested, you could have you
Speaker 1: can adopt children, you can foster children, you can be
Speaker 1: a big brother Big Sister program. There's many options. So
Speaker 1: you think we're thinking outside the box. And then from
Speaker 1: there it just escalated from other other decisions. I became
Speaker 1: her point person like I don't know how to tell
Speaker 1: my mom this because now you're you're coming into a
Speaker 1: situation where the doctors are telling you things and you
Speaker 1: have to tell your mom. You know, you know my
Speaker 1: last my last process, you know, my last therapy did
Speaker 1: not go so good? So how do I tell my
Speaker 1: mom that it's not going good? And it's just like that,
Speaker 1: it is very hard to tell your mom that she's
Speaker 1: going to that she could possibly be losing a child,
Speaker 1: and how to break that news. It's it's hard. So
Speaker 1: and I at that time, I promise you I didn't
Speaker 1: have any formal training. So this is literally coming from
Speaker 1: as my sister, my my sister friend you know, uh,
Speaker 1: just being what would I do how you know, being
Speaker 1: an active listener and what what I do put in
Speaker 1: myself in her situation. And that's how literally it developed.
Speaker 1: Wow it was it wasn't heavy, it was definitely heavy. Um.
Speaker 1: I carry her essence with me daily. UM, I can't front.
Speaker 1: Like the reason that I that I'm really doing this
Speaker 1: is because when she transitioned, it was in peace. It
Speaker 1: wasn't it wasn't something traumatic. It was in peace and
Speaker 1: who she wanted to be around her, what she wanted. Um.
Speaker 1: And so that's like literally a driving force. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: you see so many people, especially how I was growing up,
Speaker 1: that wasn't their situation, and so their loved ones that
Speaker 1: are still living didn't have that trauma, like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: they were they were in a hospital bed, the doctors
Speaker 1: weren't attentive, the family affairs were in order, and it's
Speaker 1: so much stress. It wasn't she didn't have stress. She
Speaker 1: was she literally was like went to sleep. It was
Speaker 1: very peaceful. So that's what that element I would like
Speaker 1: to extend to everybody to have something peaceful. Everything else
Speaker 1: is secured, right because in your peaceful mind, you can think.
Speaker 1: And more importantly what you said and I think we
Speaker 1: may mention, is about how important it is to be present, yeah,
Speaker 1: in the moment and not having to worry. So now
Speaker 1: that you move forward and let's just talk about this,
Speaker 1: tell us how you implemented your educational experience, because did
Speaker 1: you know about this career path or did you kind
Speaker 1: of cultivated I did not know about the whole career
Speaker 1: path of being the end of life do la um
Speaker 1: as I said. I graduated from a University of Florida
Speaker 1: with a degree in anthropology and a background in chemistry. UM.
Speaker 1: I went on to work in a background and like
Speaker 1: death services. So from working in a more um working
Speaker 1: in a lab, it's been so I was able to
Speaker 1: see all different types of scenarios with death and dying
Speaker 1: from like with hospice and things like that. So with that,
Speaker 1: it just literally when she transitioned, I was like, I
Speaker 1: want to help people, but how can I help people? How?
Speaker 1: Like you start? I started reaching out to like organizations
Speaker 1: and seeing you know, this is this is the idea
Speaker 1: that I have. Is there something that I can that
Speaker 1: I can do? Um? Literally I found like there's there
Speaker 1: was a whole curriculum and backgrounds in schools that educate
Speaker 1: people on how to help people with being an end
Speaker 1: of life doulah. I definitely will say like, um, it helps,
Speaker 1: it definitely it helps right now for me, I will
Speaker 1: say it helps for me. I take, I've taken the programs,
Speaker 1: became need A proficient. It's a it's ah, how can
Speaker 1: I describe that? Oh my gosh, it's like core curriculums
Speaker 1: for how to be an end of life dula. So
Speaker 1: I became a certified end of life doula. I became
Speaker 1: a need a proficient end of life doula, I will
Speaker 1: tell you I'm always a student. I'm always learning. Everybody
Speaker 1: is diverse, There's so many different aspects of people. That's
Speaker 1: where like my anthropology comes in. I love that. I
Speaker 1: love to study in and immerse myself in cultures and practices.
Speaker 1: So that literally spearheaded me to be where I am
Speaker 1: right now. That is amazing and I love that. So
Speaker 1: with loyal hands, what kind of UH experience? What type
Speaker 1: of training do you go through with your your dulas?
Speaker 1: So with our dulas, they come from various walks of life. UM,
Speaker 1: their skills, their interests and everything, but the bare basics
Speaker 1: that are loyal hands dulas they must have. They have
Speaker 1: to graduate from a training program. UM, they must be
Speaker 1: needed proficient. Like I said it me that means meeting
Speaker 1: core proficiencies to be an end of life doula UM
Speaker 1: and also volunteer. How do you know if this is
Speaker 1: something you want? Because it is very different if you
Speaker 1: don't immerse yourself and be like you know, be around
Speaker 1: people that are transitioning in all aspects. What do you
Speaker 1: mean by in all aspects? Because as end of life doula,
Speaker 1: we definitely we deal with the elderly we deal with
Speaker 1: the dying, but there's a lot that we deal with
Speaker 1: and aspects of people that are just normally healthy. They
Speaker 1: just want to make sure that their affairs in order
Speaker 1: because they know death can happen at any minute, like
Speaker 1: right now, COVID nineteen is happening, and a lot of
Speaker 1: people are coming to just to have their advanced directives
Speaker 1: and their advanced care planning in order so if something
Speaker 1: happens that if they have to go into the hospital,
Speaker 1: their family knows what they want um the life saving
Speaker 1: procedures that they want, and if something turned fatal, they
Speaker 1: would know how to properly execute their last will and testament.
Speaker 1: And you're saying that would be basically if so, But
Speaker 1: I'm thinking from my stuff, if I'm interested, I would
Speaker 1: already have to be around people like that and and
Speaker 1: have exercise that, because how would I know? Right? Education
Speaker 1: is key because a lot of people, you know, they
Speaker 1: don't know about end of life duelists and and people
Speaker 1: that when they do hear about end of life doul
Speaker 1: iss they think it's like a hoshposh, like very fancy,
Speaker 1: like only celebrities can have end of life doulas, And
Speaker 1: it's the furthest thing from the truth. It's end of
Speaker 1: life doers is you're, like I said, your advocate, and
Speaker 1: it's something as simple as if you wanted to get
Speaker 1: like a Google search. We're like, it's a you can
Speaker 1: Google search with a lot of dulas are end of
Speaker 1: life practices will pop up. So it's it's definitely something
Speaker 1: new a lot of things. It is something that's foreign
Speaker 1: as a taboo, especially like I said, Western night culture,
Speaker 1: we tend to avoid talking about death and dying. So
Speaker 1: you know, now for so just going on a Google
Speaker 1: search and just simply finding someone to say, you know,
Speaker 1: death doula, that's how it would find a death doula.
Speaker 1: You definitely could you That's definitely like there's websites that
Speaker 1: cater to a whole variety of um spectrums of death
Speaker 1: duel as you can. And then you can call and see, hey,
Speaker 1: just how you interview your like for me personally, you
Speaker 1: interview your doctors or just to see if your chemistry
Speaker 1: is good because a lot of people they call us um,
Speaker 1: but we need to make sure our chemistry is good.
Speaker 1: You just just because you call, you know, we do
Speaker 1: a standardized initial interview and see what your services that
Speaker 1: you do need and that you are requesting because sometimes
Speaker 1: it's like a legacy you want to create a legacy project,
Speaker 1: and we have a we have a duela that's great
Speaker 1: with building a whole legacy project, and we do an
Speaker 1: interview like that because we want your end of life
Speaker 1: to be great. We want to energy, we want your
Speaker 1: vibes to be high. So we want to make sure
Speaker 1: that we connect you with somebody that's going to compliment
Speaker 1: you and not just make you feel like they're just
Speaker 1: here for a job. Now, you just mentioned something, you
Speaker 1: said a legacy project, which made me think, what are
Speaker 1: the available resources that you offer? Oh variety? So end
Speaker 1: of life do list were? We pretty much collaborate with
Speaker 1: hospices and powertive care. We are a team, okay, And
Speaker 1: I was wondering what that difference was. Yeah, so we
Speaker 1: pretty much we compliment them. We pretty much fill in
Speaker 1: the gap that they have in the whole dying process.
Speaker 1: So that means we were helping them with non medical
Speaker 1: care like advanced care planning, um, creating a support team
Speaker 1: for the family. But you know, you have family members
Speaker 1: that they don't know how to care for their family
Speaker 1: member at the end. So it's just like one destined
Speaker 1: family member that's taking care of everything. So you have
Speaker 1: moments like that, so you're like, hey, let me pull,
Speaker 1: let's pull all together and let's delegate tasks. Um. Obviously
Speaker 1: we helped with with household errands. We household errands, we
Speaker 1: hold a visual visual um. We create these legacy projects.
Speaker 1: We provide were companions with our dying in their families.
Speaker 1: We literally immerse ourselves within the family to become family
Speaker 1: um with that whole process. So we we can get
Speaker 1: in there and the very beginning phases when they get
Speaker 1: their diagnosis of you know, a terminal illness, to where
Speaker 1: at the very end where the family is like just
Speaker 1: coping with the whole transition process, and they just they
Speaker 1: can't be in the room while their loved one passes away.
Speaker 1: So we're in there so their love one doesn't pass
Speaker 1: away by themselves. I guess I gotta flashes. I just
Speaker 1: thought immediately, I'm thinking to myself, how do you handle
Speaker 1: all of this, Ashley, and and I guess because a
Speaker 1: lot of people think of death and the sadness, I
Speaker 1: can only wonder, because you are in this line of work,
Speaker 1: what do you think is the valuable way to actually
Speaker 1: look at the end of life as well as and dive.
Speaker 1: You know, is a great question because I am able
Speaker 1: to learn something from every person that hires myself, um
Speaker 1: and the value of life and how precious that it is.
Speaker 1: So I gained a lot of respect for the whole
Speaker 1: transitioning process because I know that everything with life is
Speaker 1: all of it's all a transition, it's all a cycle.
Speaker 1: As if we see the seasons, it's that's exactly mimics
Speaker 1: our life, and so we need to enjoy every moment
Speaker 1: of it, even the good, the bad, especially the ugly,
Speaker 1: because there's a learning phase in it and you want
Speaker 1: to learn from it so you don't keep repeating it.
Speaker 1: But it's everything, you see the silver lining. So that's
Speaker 1: what I take joy in being an end of life
Speaker 1: do because it's always something I'm learning. I'm always gaining
Speaker 1: some some some type of philosophical knowledge that makes me say, huh, well,
Speaker 1: you're right, that's very true. Like I actually really don't
Speaker 1: need to have, you know, a closet full of shoes,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Actually I don't like a
Speaker 1: lot of superficial things or you know what. Every time
Speaker 1: I'm around that person I get anxiety and but but
Speaker 1: I I still put myself around that person. No, actually
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't need to be that way. Wow.
Speaker 1: I mean I feel like because that was an on
Speaker 1: time word, because both of those things like genuinely spoke
Speaker 1: to me. Because it's like time is so precious. They say,
Speaker 1: it's some valuable of going. Once it's spent, it's gone forever.
Speaker 1: There's no rewind, there's no like bring it back, there's
Speaker 1: no no way. I mean, nature is saying yes, right,
Speaker 1: don't yes, that's it. Yeah, I guess it just shook
Speaker 1: me right now because you know, we think about going
Speaker 1: after dreams and going so hard. If your gift isn't
Speaker 1: point out like how you said you're pointing back into
Speaker 1: your the loved ones and your business. If it's not
Speaker 1: point out, what do you have to give? Yeah? What
Speaker 1: is it all for? Right? Like that's a that's really something.
Speaker 1: A lot of people that are transitioning, that's what they
Speaker 1: put um they right, they right notes to their family
Speaker 1: like what are you doing this for? There's times that
Speaker 1: you have to ask yourself those questions, what are you
Speaker 1: doing this for? You? Your CEO um of a company?
Speaker 1: What are you doing this for then you sit there like,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm doing this because I want this life
Speaker 1: of luxury, but what for what? Because I can be happy?
Speaker 1: Will that make you happy? And it's you're these are
Speaker 1: questions and you're like, wow, you're right, it's the simple
Speaker 1: thing because I'm like your son or your daughter would
Speaker 1: just like just rather just you play catch catch baseball
Speaker 1: in the front yard and that makes them happy. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm descinating in it because it sits so deep. I
Speaker 1: was just talking with another episode um with Carla Ferren.
Speaker 1: We're talking about loss and she had to do a
Speaker 1: wake up call. She said, don just make sure you
Speaker 1: just wake up and smell the roses a bit, because
Speaker 1: sometimes the chase, chase, chase, gotta get it, gotta go,
Speaker 1: gotta go, get get get What about just being right
Speaker 1: being in the moment, And that's definitely one of the
Speaker 1: things that we are advocates on, just to be present
Speaker 1: in the moment and me like being in an end
Speaker 1: of like doulah, that's what we're able to do for
Speaker 1: families so they can be in the moment for their
Speaker 1: loved ones and so they don't have to feel the
Speaker 1: stress and anxiety of what is happening, what's going on? No,
Speaker 1: just just be present, rest, just soaking the error and
Speaker 1: just be present and just breathe and just be positive
Speaker 1: for this whole transition, because yeah, the topic smell the flowers? Once?
Speaker 1: Should we on having these conversations with our loved ones? Now?
Speaker 1: It is now? And it's awkward because I know it's
Speaker 1: a taboo. It's so taboo to say on your first date.
Speaker 1: So what do you think about death? You know, what
Speaker 1: do you think about that? It's so taboo, But it's
Speaker 1: really a real deal thing. Um, we have a client
Speaker 1: right now that is expecting and she's twenty four and
Speaker 1: she's literally coming. She's perfectly healthy, normal like healthy pregnancy
Speaker 1: and so forth. But the thing is she wants to
Speaker 1: get her affairs in order for the what if and
Speaker 1: so her child. She's literally making up a booklet for
Speaker 1: her child if something was to happen. She from from
Speaker 1: birth until the child gets married. She's making a whole,
Speaker 1: a whole legacy plan of what she would like for
Speaker 1: her child and the accomplishments and things like that. So
Speaker 1: at the time is now, we never know what's gonna
Speaker 1: happen to us. So just to be prepared and have
Speaker 1: peace of mind. So you may mention a couple of
Speaker 1: times about um services that you offer. And you talked
Speaker 1: about before about having a client you were working with
Speaker 1: was working on a legacy project. And here you're just
Speaker 1: talking about a mother who's laying out everything for her
Speaker 1: legacy project. And I understand what just in life in general,
Speaker 1: how important it is to leave a legacy because your
Speaker 1: legacy lets you know where you've been and also gives
Speaker 1: you be hindsight of where you're going, right that is
Speaker 1: you you put the nail in the coffin fun sorry,
Speaker 1: but literally that's that's really what it is. And that's
Speaker 1: very for myself, that's very big. I like to you know,
Speaker 1: I'm very fortunate I have my great great grandmother is
Speaker 1: still alive, um right, it's such a blessing. And for
Speaker 1: her to tell me stories and I write them down.
Speaker 1: I write them down, I record them because that those
Speaker 1: are the things that get in translation. You know how
Speaker 1: in the acres of land and X, Y and c,
Speaker 1: that that whole picture it gets lost in translation. So
Speaker 1: when it gets for me, I you know, I value
Speaker 1: that importance is so therefore I wanted to extend that
Speaker 1: service for other people because it goes beyond me. It'll
Speaker 1: go beyond her. She transitions, and that story can get
Speaker 1: lost and so the and to know who you are
Speaker 1: and to know where you came from, it makes you
Speaker 1: feel so empowered. Let me tell you why that means
Speaker 1: so much to me because I'm thinking back on my
Speaker 1: mother's transition and I was just talking on the last episode.
Speaker 1: So if you haven't checked it out, be sure to
Speaker 1: check out the episode with Carla Farrell and talking about loss.
Speaker 1: But one thing that I made mention of and Carla
Speaker 1: said the same thing I recorded my mother asking when
Speaker 1: she met my dad, what are some of the things
Speaker 1: that you would do? But that was me in a
Speaker 1: younger mind, trying to prepare myself because my mother died
Speaker 1: a stage for breast cancer. So it was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: do I have to know what she smells like? Um?
Speaker 1: You I have to know what what she's she's doing.
Speaker 1: So in this situation and we're talking about creating that legacy,
Speaker 1: oftentimes I think we forget to ask those questions. And
Speaker 1: I'm so glad with your services. Is that that puts
Speaker 1: it on the forefront, right right, correct? We put it
Speaker 1: on the forefront. We start with you know, we start
Speaker 1: with basic questions or basic templates of how do you
Speaker 1: want to leave it? Do you want it to be
Speaker 1: an audio recording, do you want to a manuscript? Do
Speaker 1: you want to write it? Do you want it to
Speaker 1: be a visual um? How do you think it will
Speaker 1: be best translated? We go, we start from there and
Speaker 1: it becomes its own individual beauty. Every legacy project that
Speaker 1: I've seen has been super unique and supertailored towards the
Speaker 1: family that it was going to be delivered to, and
Speaker 1: you know it's and it's looted for me. I look
Speaker 1: back and I'm like, wow, that's a good gift. To
Speaker 1: have a good gift, because there's gonna be great, great
Speaker 1: grants that have never met there aren't. But know that
Speaker 1: she was like a rock star in her prime. And
Speaker 1: sometimes I think we're rushing. You're young. You're not thinking
Speaker 1: about what your mother used to do with your dad,
Speaker 1: or that quirky story, or maybe why you walk like that,
Speaker 1: or perhaps how your family got you know, to wherever
Speaker 1: part of the world. Um, different traditions that you may
Speaker 1: want to know. And I just appreciate your line of
Speaker 1: work so much because if you've ever lost someone, these
Speaker 1: are things that are important but you don't think about,
Speaker 1: nor do you have the capacity to wrap your brain
Speaker 1: about what's happening, but to know that there's someone there
Speaker 1: to say, Hey, I know this process, and I want
Speaker 1: to make sure, as you stated that you're at peace
Speaker 1: with your decisions, you're at peace spending time with your
Speaker 1: loved ones. You're at peace knowing who you are and
Speaker 1: where you're going. So while I can pinpoint and I
Speaker 1: can say those things outright looking at you, Ashley, I'm
Speaker 1: curious to know what makes your line of work so
Speaker 1: rewarding for yourself. Um, I am actually rewarded through the
Speaker 1: people in the families that Mother nature once again saying
Speaker 1: how much appreciate you. You know, here's a side of
Speaker 1: our quote. As we hear this thundering ramping in the background,
Speaker 1: and I'm so sorry, No, you're fine. Here's the thing too,
Speaker 1: I think this conversation is going to help. And there's
Speaker 1: a quote that I stumbled across a couple of weeks ago,
Speaker 1: and it says that you know, you ask gods to
Speaker 1: grow and then it starts raining. Man, So somebody has
Speaker 1: grown with this conversation today. I resonate with that. Yes,
Speaker 1: but yeah. Wow. So what makes it rewarding for you?
Speaker 1: It's the families. It's the families and the people that
Speaker 1: are transitioning because it makes you know that life is
Speaker 1: here today and gone tomorrow. So what what are you
Speaker 1: going to leave? What is your legacy? What? Like? What?
Speaker 1: What is actually going to leave? What? What is what
Speaker 1: are the duelas of loyal hands and life duels? What?
Speaker 1: What are they going to leave? Um r I'm appreciative
Speaker 1: of that. Um it makes me appreciate the small things.
Speaker 1: Um Like this thunderstorm. It's loud, but you appreciate the
Speaker 1: small like you can feel the rain. You can you
Speaker 1: know how people you can smell rain. It's the small
Speaker 1: intricacies of that. It's like, I take joy in because
Speaker 1: I often I am human. I get into my rigam
Speaker 1: and row of life and I'm go go, go mode,
Speaker 1: and to slow down and say, hey, what is my purpose?
Speaker 1: Am I serving my purpose? Am I? Am I executing
Speaker 1: my purpose? And and you know, am I fulfilling? These
Speaker 1: are questions you start to ask yourself and and for me,
Speaker 1: creating loyal hands the end of life Duela's it helps
Speaker 1: to help me in the journey to fulfilling a purpose, absolutely,
Speaker 1: and I'm just thinking, I'm like, wow, just as you
Speaker 1: talked about how in time it is when you're talking
Speaker 1: about the baby boomers and why they can see this
Speaker 1: as a reality. But I'm just curious to myself, you
Speaker 1: being a millennial, have you made your plans? Are your
Speaker 1: are your affairs in order? I have you? You can't?
Speaker 1: You know, right? And I had to have this conversation
Speaker 1: with my family so that that itself was like, wait
Speaker 1: a minute, are you trying to tell us something? But no,
Speaker 1: this is a real dealt thing because I never know.
Speaker 1: I don't know what's gonna happen tomorrow, later on less
Speaker 1: than today. So I can't ask other people to get
Speaker 1: there the affairs in order if mine aren't. So I
Speaker 1: had to bring that conversation to the forefront for my family.
Speaker 1: We have the conversation, and it sparked other things, um
Speaker 1: from other family members to now join in and say, hey,
Speaker 1: I kind of want to get mone together too. So
Speaker 1: I'm like, you never know what's gonna happen. Like so
Speaker 1: to speak, we have uh they're called awakes. Um. It's
Speaker 1: for when the person is they're still cognizant, and we
Speaker 1: have a party. So to speak, it's like a party,
Speaker 1: so to speak. So they are it's they're awake. So
Speaker 1: you have everybody come and it's like you give your
Speaker 1: you give them their flowers. Why they can still smell them?
Speaker 1: Oh wow. So you can have you have people speak
Speaker 1: on you know, and that you can hear them speak
Speaker 1: on how they, you know, felt about your eulogy, so,
Speaker 1: so to speak, you can. You'll have that while you're
Speaker 1: still alive, and people can enjoy your presence and things
Speaker 1: like that. And it's taking away the stigma of death.
Speaker 1: It's taking away that that power that death has over people,
Speaker 1: and it's making it very trivial because it's like I
Speaker 1: have control. I'm having a party right now. I know
Speaker 1: that I'm gonna be transitioning, but I'm going to enjoy
Speaker 1: it all. I still have my power. That was so
Speaker 1: beautiful it is, and you and everybody they come together,
Speaker 1: you can and that the funny part is you can
Speaker 1: hear the people they say, you know, they say they're speeches,
Speaker 1: and then you can also evaluate. You're like, hey, you
Speaker 1: know what Mike speak wasn't as good as I thought
Speaker 1: it was. I'm gonna actually mark him off my list.
Speaker 1: So the look like she's here for my money. So
Speaker 1: I'm right home. I'm again redrafted my will right quick,
Speaker 1: some amendments really quick. Get Oh, it takes away that
Speaker 1: fear because because I was as you said that, I
Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh, that's so uncomfortable. So it's like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I'm looking at you knowing that you're
Speaker 1: gonna die. But again, we're not here forever. And that's
Speaker 1: why you gotta charge at the moment, right And it's
Speaker 1: a It's a celebration, right, and that's what the whole
Speaker 1: thing we try to make that mindset. It's a celebration.
Speaker 1: We are celebrating life. Um, because right now, I said,
Speaker 1: what's their society's we don't talk about death. It's taboo,
Speaker 1: we don't talk about it. It's it's a known fact.
Speaker 1: But traditionally an indigenous tribe like death is a celebration.
Speaker 1: We immortalize in in dying because we take it and
Speaker 1: we make it a whole week celebration of the life
Speaker 1: of the person. So yeah, it's definitely a spectacle to
Speaker 1: see when people actually embrace the fact that they are
Speaker 1: transitioning and take power into that whole aspect of mystery.
Speaker 1: But incorporating happiness with it right, almost as if you're
Speaker 1: you're you're transcending onto your ancestors, those who have came before.
Speaker 1: It's like a graduation. It's your graduation party. Like when
Speaker 1: you put in this aspect of when you're going leaving
Speaker 1: high school and you're going to college and you don't
Speaker 1: know what's gonna happen next, it's foreign. Something came over
Speaker 1: my spirit. You said it's a graduation. And when we think, uh,
Speaker 1: come on, you said, it's a situation. What we have
Speaker 1: to think about, what is the degree that you're receiving.
Speaker 1: Did you complete it right? Did you live it out right?
Speaker 1: What were you going after? Ashley? Oh my gosh, I
Speaker 1: appreciate you. Thank you. So what's nuts for loyal hands?
Speaker 1: What do you hope for this to grow into? Um, honestly,
Speaker 1: I'm My hope is to really just to bring death
Speaker 1: into the mainstream topic because a lot of people were
Speaker 1: not talking about it and it gets brushed by the wayside.
Speaker 1: A lot of things happen. Your funeral gets planned after
Speaker 1: you die, and some things you're not really you didn't
Speaker 1: really want, you know, Sometimes people they plan a really
Speaker 1: gaudy funeral for you. But you're actually a minimalist. So
Speaker 1: for to really continue the death positive movement, and that's
Speaker 1: like to aim to bring awareness to to rethinking your
Speaker 1: whole death experience. I have the whole aspect of you
Speaker 1: want to live well and you want to die well.
Speaker 1: From me, there's a disparity on living well. So therefore
Speaker 1: I try to break the disparity to make sure everybody,
Speaker 1: all inclusive, can die well and everything is respected. Down
Speaker 1: from confidentiality, down from you know, handling different affairs to
Speaker 1: dealing with family members, wow, from planning organizing your funeral
Speaker 1: and you know, the whole legacy project, and you're from
Speaker 1: helping your errands around the house. A lot of people
Speaker 1: when they're transitioning, they feel like they're burdening their family.
Speaker 1: They're like, oh, my family has to sit here with
Speaker 1: me all day all. My family has to clean up
Speaker 1: behind me. And it's like no, no, no, no, you'd
Speaker 1: be I want. I'm here for you to be present.
Speaker 1: You're taking the little things with your family, to drop
Speaker 1: little jewels or what have you been taking the moment
Speaker 1: look at you know shows or what have you. So yeah, no, no,
Speaker 1: you're definitely fine. I appreciate everything you're saying, because that's
Speaker 1: real and it's time, especially what's happening right now. You
Speaker 1: know a lot of adjustments are being made because of
Speaker 1: COVID nineteen. This whole prodemic has people thinking. But it's
Speaker 1: having you face reality that you got to spend time
Speaker 1: with stuff. What do you want because you can walk
Speaker 1: outside and something that you cannot seek and totally defect
Speaker 1: the whole transition or trajectory of your life. Right And
Speaker 1: so while you know this conversation has definitely been about
Speaker 1: the transition and the end of life, there is something
Speaker 1: that I'd like to say, kind of like a phoenix,
Speaker 1: you know, a phoenix goes down only to come back up.
Speaker 1: And as you transition out of this life, or as
Speaker 1: as we all will one day, we're gonna be rising
Speaker 1: into something else. And as we prepare this this bridge,
Speaker 1: I'm curious and I would love to hear from you Ashley.
Speaker 1: As you know, this podcast is called Vitamin Day. You know,
Speaker 1: it's all about shutting light into people's lives, and I
Speaker 1: think you've done that. We're talking about how this whole
Speaker 1: transition of life is and a different perspective and why
Speaker 1: it's important for the person that's experiencing or about to
Speaker 1: go through the duration of the transition, but those who
Speaker 1: are the loved ones who are witnessing it. So as
Speaker 1: we are talking about vitamin D, as I talked to
Speaker 1: you about the life bank account, what dose of inspiration,
Speaker 1: what deposit can you make in someone's life bank account
Speaker 1: right now? About how to look at life, about what
Speaker 1: your business can do, about who you are as a person.
Speaker 1: When the when people say that life is really precious,
Speaker 1: it really is, and it's years today and gone tomorrow.
Speaker 1: Now when I to deposit something into um their account,
Speaker 1: is that to enjoy the simple things, And I get it,
Speaker 1: the perspective of what's simple to you? What's the perspective
Speaker 1: perspective berries, But to be true to self as well,
Speaker 1: because that's a lot lot of times I do hear that, um,
Speaker 1: And I'm learning to be true to self, unapologetically yourself
Speaker 1: and not what somebody wants or expects of you, because
Speaker 1: it's your life. And UM, wow, that is that is
Speaker 1: an awesome question, because it was Yeah, I'm like life
Speaker 1: is a pope process. It's life is a process, and
Speaker 1: so it's and death is an aspect of life. So
Speaker 1: to look at death is grin Like when people see
Speaker 1: me and any other end of life dou lah, you
Speaker 1: will notice that we have an abundance of energy as
Speaker 1: like super positive because you know, like we take an
Speaker 1: account that we deal with death and dying on a
Speaker 1: on a daily basis, so just too just to have
Speaker 1: that positive energy and positive spirit about oneself and that's
Speaker 1: what I to carry on with. Loyal hands are dualists
Speaker 1: to make sure that you have crappy days. But remember
Speaker 1: what we are doing this for. Like and even when
Speaker 1: our families and their their love was transition, we also mourn.
Speaker 1: We like you know this because we've become attached and
Speaker 1: we do have to take ourselves away and and meditate
Speaker 1: and things like that, like we are human as well. Uh.
Speaker 1: But to put into somebody's life deposit is that life
Speaker 1: is really precious and don't take do not take it
Speaker 1: for granted, even on your worst day, don't take it
Speaker 1: for granted, because somebody would love to be in your shoes,
Speaker 1: no matter how small and cramps you think your shoes are.
Speaker 1: Somebody wants to be there because they are less fortunate.
Speaker 1: It's in the worst worst position than you are. And
Speaker 1: that doesn't always mean a financial situation. Just that could
Speaker 1: be everything in the world and they don't have any
Speaker 1: more time they're sick. Is crazy in itself, but guess what,
Speaker 1: it's adjusting the vision. You're starting to see things a
Speaker 1: little bit more clearly. Right. Actually, if someone is interested
Speaker 1: in learning more about your your your organization, if they'd
Speaker 1: like to follow you, where can they reach you? They
Speaker 1: can reach me at loyal Hands as loyal dotch hands
Speaker 1: dot com on Instagram loyal dot hands love it, love it,
Speaker 1: love it. And is there anything that we can check
Speaker 1: out or anything else we should look out for from you? Um, definitely,
Speaker 1: I'm working with Loyal like Arduel is here at Loyal Hands,
Speaker 1: to really put a positive spin on the whole death
Speaker 1: the death movement to actually help people feel more in
Speaker 1: control of of the process of death and dying and
Speaker 1: take away that stigma of negativity with death and dying
Speaker 1: because it's heavy. It's a heavy thing to to take over. Um,
Speaker 1: But at this moment we're just literally plumming through to
Speaker 1: take up be death positive. Yes, death positive. You can't
Speaker 1: be death positive unless you're living life positive. Actually, I
Speaker 1: want to thank you so much for speaking with me today,
Speaker 1: educating on me shedding some light on me and so
Speaker 1: many of the Vitamin D listeners about the importance of
Speaker 1: living life which results in the transition and end of life.
Speaker 1: Thank you, no, thank you for having me uh on
Speaker 1: here like take that. Thank you seriously for having me
Speaker 1: on your podcast to talk about end of life, um,
Speaker 1: to bring light of the services of end of life
Speaker 1: and that this is something that people of all ranges
Speaker 1: can benefit from. And thank you, no, thank you so much.
Speaker 1: And you know, I hope that you got something out
Speaker 1: of this to understand how precious life is worth in
Speaker 1: the living now and how important it is to live
Speaker 1: while you're still alive. You got purpose. Every day. You
Speaker 1: have forty eight thousand six chances to live your best life.
Speaker 1: So live on purpose right now. And if you want
Speaker 1: to get more information about Ashley and what she does,
Speaker 1: make sure you visit the website loyal dash Hands dot com.
Speaker 1: Ashley continue to do the work. Thank you for being
Speaker 1: an instrument, but more importantly, thank you for your dose
Speaker 1: of depositing into the Vitamin D account today. Have a
Speaker 1: great one. Thank you. Wow, I would have never even
Speaker 1: thought of that, but I'm so grateful that I'm aware
Speaker 1: now and I look back when my mother died, that
Speaker 1: Ashley or organization companies such as Loyal Hands would have
Speaker 1: been so beneficial because there's so many questions that you
Speaker 1: have that you don't even know to ask. There are
Speaker 1: resources that you don't even know to access. There are
Speaker 1: uncomfortable conversations that are better had just being uncomfortable. So
Speaker 1: I hope that this conversation was as eye opening for
Speaker 1: you as it was for me when I was having it.
Speaker 1: And you know, when I was speaking to Astley, I
Speaker 1: really saw younger me, someone who knew from an early
Speaker 1: age that they had something different and then later turned
Speaker 1: that something into a vision that could help others. And
Speaker 1: I think that's what life is about. That's what this
Speaker 1: conversation was about. It's about walking in your truth, and
Speaker 1: it's about living your life because you don't know when
Speaker 1: it's over, and that whole different perspective of what it
Speaker 1: means to live your best life right now and treasuring
Speaker 1: that things are so important. You know, I just can't
Speaker 1: wait to have her back on the show. There was
Speaker 1: just so many great jams. As we move forward in
Speaker 1: these trying times, I think it's important that we remember
Speaker 1: that we continue to make deposits in our life bank
Speaker 1: account and if that means to go exercise and do
Speaker 1: that schedule out your life, make a plan, Call your parents,
Speaker 1: your family, your loved ones and just tell them that
Speaker 1: you love them. All of these small things add up
Speaker 1: to big achievements in your life, believe it or not.
Speaker 1: And if you want a million, you gotta start a team,
Speaker 1: So why not start within You like what I did there?
Speaker 1: But no really, if you did enjoy what Ashley had
Speaker 1: to say and you want to learn more about her organization,
Speaker 1: I want to encourage you to follow or check out
Speaker 1: loyal dash hands dot com as well as on Instagram
Speaker 1: at loyal dot hands and on Facebook at loyal Hands
Speaker 1: All on work as always, you can catch us where
Speaker 1: you get your favorite podcasts every Monday with more inspiring
Speaker 1: conversations and insights. And if you're looking for more Vitamin
Speaker 1: D in your life, you can also follow me at
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Speaker 1: d a I speaks on all social media. And until
Speaker 1: next time, always remember you are your greatest asset,