WEBVTT - High Stakes Q&A in Las Vegas

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<v Speaker 1>Wind Down with Janet Kramer, an iHeart Radio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, we are live in Las Vegas. We are in

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<v Speaker 2>the Bows studio. This is so fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I love this.

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<v Speaker 2>Cat just asked me. She's like, have you ever done

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<v Speaker 2>a podcast outside? I'm like, well, technically we're in like

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<v Speaker 2>a little booth.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but we're still outside.

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<v Speaker 2>We're looking, We're definitely still outside. But yeah, we were

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<v Speaker 2>in Las Vegas, Nevada, and we are here for the

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<v Speaker 2>iHeart Radio Music Festival. I'm so excited. This is powered

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<v Speaker 2>by Bows at the House of Music at the iHeart

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<v Speaker 2>Radio Music Festival. So I'm just very happy to be here.

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<v Speaker 1>Can we tell them what just happened?

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<v Speaker 2>What just happened that we.

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<v Speaker 1>Walked in and the best ever?

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like it really shows our age. But it's great.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, immediately you just started jamming.

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<v Speaker 2>We here, don't go and I'm like, we're walking in

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<v Speaker 2>through the metal like security. They're doing their their their

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<v Speaker 2>sound check or whatever. Start going. Then I'm like asking

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<v Speaker 2>a Rainbow yesterday and Noney.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, but like it's guys, because they're our age too

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<v Speaker 1>and they know so.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and earlier today we were we went to go

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<v Speaker 2>do the Cheryl Burke podcast. Yes, and we ran into

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<v Speaker 2>well Brian Austin Green was in there, who we just

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<v Speaker 2>had on the podcast, but also Lance Bass and I

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<v Speaker 2>told him, I said, it's just so cool that you

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<v Speaker 2>guys are back, and He's like, we didn't think people

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<v Speaker 2>would care. And I'm like, you don't understand our generation.

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<v Speaker 2>Everyone care, We all care, we will. We needed this.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody's comparing them, like to Taylor Swift, like the stuff

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<v Speaker 1>is everywhere, like forget Taylor Swift, Like let's go.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, come on, yeah, I mean I love Taylor Swift.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying, it's like it's our it's our age.

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<v Speaker 2>It's it's our age. Yeah, and I mean yeah, we're

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<v Speaker 2>trying to get Taylor Swift tickets right now, actually wearing insane.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't wait.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope they do a tour. I hope it's not

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<v Speaker 2>just for the movie because they have a song for her,

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<v Speaker 2>but they have to. They have to. It'd be absolutely epic.

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<v Speaker 2>So anyways, this episode, we're just gonna have some fun.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a little nervous though, because Catherine has a sheet,

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<v Speaker 2>a couple sheets.

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<v Speaker 1>I love the power of this.

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<v Speaker 2>This is great and she's gonna it's like a Q

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<v Speaker 2>and A episode, which again is scary, but it's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>be fun. Let's just have fun with it. We'll take

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<v Speaker 2>a quick break and meanwhile, can we just talk about

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<v Speaker 2>I need these headphones from both Amazing. I love them.

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<v Speaker 2>They're like a well little green. I feel like Alan

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<v Speaker 2>would like these. It's very Scottish color, Scottish Scottish color.

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<v Speaker 2>But no, they sound great. We'll be back in one minute.

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<v Speaker 2>Orry cat.

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<v Speaker 1>Where to begin?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you have the sheet? She's like, do you want

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<v Speaker 2>to know? And I was like, no, I don't because

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<v Speaker 2>then I'll be like no, I don't want to say

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<v Speaker 2>that or I don't want to answer that. But again

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<v Speaker 2>we're in Vegas.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, you don't get any like a safe Wait.

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<v Speaker 2>Do I get what's the thing that what's his face

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<v Speaker 2>does for? On Bravo? Do you get to like take

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<v Speaker 2>a pass or a shot?

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<v Speaker 1>I can't taking a shot. I don't think you can

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<v Speaker 1>do that. You get no pass?

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<v Speaker 2>I get one. I get one, Alex dupre fake shot.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, fair, I get a real shot in that case.

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<v Speaker 2>Catherine is I'm.

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<v Speaker 1>Too because we never podcast at night. It is great. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to just like jump into like the

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<v Speaker 1>deep end.

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<v Speaker 2>But okay, I might, by the way, be careful what

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<v Speaker 2>you ask, honey, because I might have a picture.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so go for it. We're just gonna jump in,

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<v Speaker 1>okayn't kill me, don't shoot the messenger. Kristen would like

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<v Speaker 1>to know who rust or I have wondered the same

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<v Speaker 1>thing myself. Who was the best sex you've ever had? Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>My god, are you kidding me?

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<v Speaker 1>That was the really bad giggle earlier, and I felt

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<v Speaker 1>like we should just start there. There's a god that's

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<v Speaker 1>the worst.

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<v Speaker 2>Part the best sex I've ever had? I mean, obviously

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<v Speaker 2>my fiance obviously obvious. No, but I do. I will

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<v Speaker 2>say though, how at like an.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry I didn't even give you any buffer.

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<v Speaker 2>You didn't know, Like we're so sexually compatible. It's like

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<v Speaker 2>I feel sexy because he makes me feel sexy, and

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I make him feel sexy, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>just it's probably the sexiest sex I've ever had.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, so that answers the second part. Then what

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<v Speaker 1>made it the best? You just explained it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he just like he makes me feel sexy and

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<v Speaker 2>like powerful and the same with him, Like I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like and I'm so attracted to him, like we just

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<v Speaker 2>like we mesh so well together and it's just the best.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, well, we're gonna have you.

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<v Speaker 2>Ever had that kind of amazing sex?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes? Is my husband obviously? Okay, so on that trained

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<v Speaker 1>because we're just gonna we're just gonna jump into those

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<v Speaker 1>and then we're gonna move on because we can't talk

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<v Speaker 1>about sex the whole podcast. However, Stephanie would like to

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<v Speaker 1>know how often do you when you're FI have sex?

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<v Speaker 2>Well over there like a school teacher crossing these off

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<v Speaker 2>the lists. By the way, So I the Avid wind

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<v Speaker 2>Down listeners know, I like sex. I like to have sex.

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<v Speaker 2>I struggled with what I wanted more sex in my

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<v Speaker 2>past relationship obviously, and so with Alan and I like

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<v Speaker 2>we are very in sync and it's like in sync,

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<v Speaker 2>it's gonna be yes and it's uh we I would

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<v Speaker 2>say a couple times a week, Yeah, yeah, I liked

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<v Speaker 2>about every couple of days.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, and you're good with that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm great with that. Okay, great, it's getting a little

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<v Speaker 2>harder though. I'm not gonna lie because I'm like it's

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<v Speaker 2>like the other day, Oh no, you know, He's like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know this. It's like, I'm just gonna turn

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<v Speaker 2>over because this is nothing, like there's nothing I can

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<v Speaker 2>really do.

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<v Speaker 1>Now that's all you can do?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because it like hurts, like when he like lands

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<v Speaker 2>on top of me, you know what I mean. So anyways, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think we'll we'll get off that subject.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, thanks, you're welcome.

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<v Speaker 1>I just thought that was a good start. Okay. I

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<v Speaker 1>love this one. And we've been talking a lot about

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<v Speaker 1>this actually lately. Do Mike and Alan get along?

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<v Speaker 2>They do get along. Yeah, they do. H Mike came

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<v Speaker 2>over like a couple of weeks ago, and yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>mean it's what I love about Alan is he's so

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<v Speaker 2>respectful and he knows that that is the father of

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<v Speaker 2>my children, and he is he's just incredibly respectful. And

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<v Speaker 2>Mike is great with him as well. Like they they

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<v Speaker 2>have conversations at the soccer games or baseball games and

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<v Speaker 2>they have you know, some laughs, and it's just really

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<v Speaker 2>nice to kind of witness.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you all sit together at sports.

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<v Speaker 2>Most of the time? Yeah, yeah, most of the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that. What did you think of it?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, No, there was a time when I have a

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<v Speaker 2>really hard time putting those soccer chairs back in the

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<v Speaker 2>plastic or whatever the bags. So Alan was out of time,

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<v Speaker 2>out of town getting his visa or whatever, and I

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<v Speaker 2>I was having hard time. We're actually no, I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>even start putting it in. I go like old times,

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<v Speaker 2>and I gave I gave Mike the uh the bag

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<v Speaker 2>to put the chair in, and he laughed and put

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<v Speaker 2>it in there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I mean that's just like a man thing to do.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like, yeah, you know that's yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I know he's offered because those bleachers are

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<v Speaker 2>kind of tough for the pregnancy bone.

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<v Speaker 1>But speaking of you been complaining of that tailbone's killing me.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, he offered me like his chair one time too. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, they get along. I mean, I don't They're

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<v Speaker 2>not going to be like I don't think I ever

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<v Speaker 2>seen him like besties or whatever. But I think they

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<v Speaker 2>they're very respectful and I think we're doing a great

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<v Speaker 2>job with that and respecting the boundaries of all of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Good.

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<v Speaker 2>But we might talk about that more if and when

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<v Speaker 2>he ever comes on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Hmmm, that was going to be one of my next questions.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess we'll just go into that. Have we decided

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<v Speaker 1>that that we're doing that.

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<v Speaker 2>We Yeah, he's gonna come on. We Yeah, yeah, he's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna come on.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Jana has decided. I'm kidding.

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<v Speaker 2>We talked about it now.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just good. Yes, you asked her.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's gonna be. And there's a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>people that were like, no, because it's not good for

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<v Speaker 2>your healing. And it's like, I don't carry the weight

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<v Speaker 2>of that, Like, yeah, it's not like we're gonna go

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<v Speaker 2>way back. I mean we'll touch on some things obviously,

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<v Speaker 2>but I think there's a there's a balance, and I

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<v Speaker 2>think there's a lot of growth and healing that can

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<v Speaker 2>be done in that kind of conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. And I also think these people listening, we're all

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<v Speaker 1>a part of it with you felt like they were

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<v Speaker 1>a part of it. And I think there's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>I got a lot of messages just myself about how

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<v Speaker 1>important it is also for them to kind of hear

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<v Speaker 1>from him.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And a lot of them are like, well, I

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't believe him anyways, And at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, you don't really have to. Sure, It's like

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<v Speaker 2>you can make up your mind whatever, Like you don't

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<v Speaker 2>have to believe him or not. But I think people

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<v Speaker 2>still get it chance to voice their story or their

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<v Speaker 2>thoughts and because he hasn't really had that opportunity.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, no, i'd agree with that. I think that that's

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<v Speaker 1>a fair decision.

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<v Speaker 2>It's getting hot taking this jacket out. It's kind of hot.

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<v Speaker 1>Who this was just kind of I don't know why.

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<v Speaker 1>This one's kind of funny to me from Jess. Will

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<v Speaker 1>you allow Mike to hold or care for your new

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<v Speaker 1>baby if you were in a pinch? No, Yeah, that

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<v Speaker 1>seems a little.

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<v Speaker 2>That seems a little. Now. I will say this, there

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<v Speaker 2>was something that someone told me one time where when

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<v Speaker 2>the baby gets old enough to let's say the baby

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<v Speaker 2>is or like the little boy, I keep wanting to

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<v Speaker 2>say his name. I'm saying his name so much now.

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<v Speaker 2>If he is seven, I don't know, and he really

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<v Speaker 2>wants to go with Jase because they're super tight or something,

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<v Speaker 2>then I could see maybe being like can he go

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<v Speaker 2>over and play with jas on your night or whatever?

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<v Speaker 2>Like I could almost see. And people have said that

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<v Speaker 2>that's happened in their co parenting situations when they've had

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<v Speaker 2>other kids.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that makes sense. I don't really thought about that.

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<v Speaker 2>But because it's like he'll be sad to see his

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<v Speaker 2>right if he still wants to hang out with them,

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<v Speaker 2>or he wants to go to a game, like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>he really wants to go see his whatever. So I

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<v Speaker 2>could see that happening, and I hope that we could

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<v Speaker 2>get to that place. That would be really great for them.

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<v Speaker 2>I would if he ever had kids, I would take on.

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<v Speaker 2>But I would never give like that would be I

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<v Speaker 2>think that'd be Alan wouldn't like that. I want. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just you know what I mean, It's just it's

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<v Speaker 2>not his like there has to be certain boundaries or

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<v Speaker 2>on that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah too, I'd agree with that, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Because that's just I don't know. I mean, if not

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<v Speaker 2>his kid.

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<v Speaker 1>At a game and like your hands are full and

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<v Speaker 1>you're like, hey, hold the.

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<v Speaker 2>Baby real fast, I still wouldn't do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's the only way I could see it, being

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<v Speaker 1>kind of.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, obviously he's going to meet the baby.

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<v Speaker 1>I bet he asked to hold the baby. I'm taking

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<v Speaker 1>that bet he's gonna I.

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<v Speaker 2>Wouldn't say no, But it's not like i'd be like, here,

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<v Speaker 2>take my baby.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, and that feels a little like, hey, guess what,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm remarried, happy in having a baby. Would you like

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<v Speaker 1>to hold him.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. No, I mean if he asked, and I'd be like, yeah, sure, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I think he would to hold is if he had one.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, oh my good because you know, because I'd

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<v Speaker 2>be so happy. Yeah, like him and his I.

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<v Speaker 1>Mean he has already been like, hell's our baby. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>but I mean that's a that's a good question.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, okay, interesting that you wouldn't either though.

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<v Speaker 1>It's yeah, yeah, no, I mean it just again, well

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 2>I would give the baby to outan the dad.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, I guess yeah. I mean unless Alan wasn't there

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<v Speaker 1>he needed help or something. No, I just yeah, it

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<v Speaker 1>does feel little, but I hadn't thought about when he's older.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think only just older, Like they maybe want

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<v Speaker 2>to sleep over, and he probably wants to, like and

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<v Speaker 2>it's his weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's going to be so far removed at that point.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>What is your daughter's relationship with Alan?

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<v Speaker 2>Like, their relationship is so sweet. You know, he taught

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<v Speaker 2>her how to ride a bike and he was so

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<v Speaker 2>patient with her. It was so beautiful, and you know

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<v Speaker 2>he's always wanting to help her with soccer. That relationship

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<v Speaker 2>has been been really really cool to see. And then

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<v Speaker 2>also with Jace too, because Jace when the he'll come

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<v Speaker 2>in and like lean on him now and like cuddle

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<v Speaker 2>with them, and it's just it's beautiful to watch him

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<v Speaker 2>be this bonus dad for the kiddos and because they really,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, they're spending seventy percent of the time with him,

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<v Speaker 2>and like they're they they they love them and it's

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<v Speaker 2>cute and they're part of you know, when we say

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<v Speaker 2>prayers at night, Jaces like, I love daddy, Allen know,

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<v Speaker 2>and so it's it's just really cute.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think that's hard on Mike.

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<v Speaker 2>I think at first it was, but I know that

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<v Speaker 2>he knows that Alan's a good addition to the right

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<v Speaker 2>the family and that. But he also know And I

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<v Speaker 2>had to have a conversation with Mike too because I

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<v Speaker 2>think Jace had called might not think Jace called Alan dad,

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<v Speaker 2>And so it was one of those conversations where every

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<v Speaker 2>therapist and everything says, you let the kids call the

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<v Speaker 2>person whatever they want to call them, And so, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>it'd be hard for me to hear my kids call,

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<v Speaker 2>but I also know that like I'm mom and they

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<v Speaker 2>have one like I'm their mom, they might have an

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<v Speaker 2>awesome bonus stepmom. One day, but like, I know, I

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<v Speaker 2>know that I'm mom whether they want to call them

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<v Speaker 2>whatever they want to call them, and I'm always like,

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<v Speaker 2>call him whatever you want. So Jace calls him Alan

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<v Speaker 2>Todallen like he's just like Alan Badallen. He's like Alan Badallen,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I don't know why, but that's like his little

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<v Speaker 2>nickname for him.

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<v Speaker 1>So did he only call him dad once? Like was

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<v Speaker 1>he talking to Mike or did he?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? He said like because he had called me and

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<v Speaker 2>was just like, hey, so like Jace just called him dad,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, listen, you know, I thought we

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<v Speaker 2>weren't doing that. And I'm like I can't tell him, like,

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<v Speaker 2>don't call him that because you know, he's also confused

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<v Speaker 2>because he was asking about the baby and about what

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<v Speaker 2>the baby was gonna call Alan. I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>he's gonna call him daddy. He's like, but he's Allan.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, right, but this is his daddy. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>just like when we get married, he'll be your stepdad.

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<v Speaker 2>And he's just like, well, what do I call him?

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, you can call him whatever you want, baby,

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<v Speaker 2>you can call him dad, you can call him Alan,

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<v Speaker 2>you can call him literally whatever you want, dinosaur, whatever

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<v Speaker 2>you want. Yeah, and so and they both just stuck

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<v Speaker 2>with Alan now. But sometimes like he'll he'll say like dad,

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<v Speaker 2>but then he changes it right back to Alan. So

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<v Speaker 2>and I just we don't make any any window like

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<v Speaker 2>we don't we don't say anything really around it. We're

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<v Speaker 2>just kind of let him do it.

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<v Speaker 1>And you wouldn't want him to feel any guilt or

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<v Speaker 1>shame around it. And he did.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and that's what I and you know, Mike and

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<v Speaker 2>I had a great conversation. It's like, end of the day,

0:16:19.920 --> 0:16:23.280
<v Speaker 2>they know your dad, they know. But and Alan's just

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<v Speaker 2>an amazing addition to love our kids, just like the

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<v Speaker 2>next person that you were with that you marry will

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<v Speaker 2>be a great addition to love the kids. Like people

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<v Speaker 2>loving your kids is great. And you always told me that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah in the beginning, absolutely, but I was like, no,

0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:39.080
<v Speaker 2>no one will ever like I'm the only but she

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<v Speaker 2>was so young. Sure, I mean, it's hard, but now

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, they know I'm mom.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean, and I don't think that it's not

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<v Speaker 1>going to somewhat still be hard for you personally. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's very different and it's not all I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think it's different because I have them seventy percent of time,

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<v Speaker 2>so they're not going to have the time. I think

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<v Speaker 2>that's where and that's something that you know, you can

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<v Speaker 2>even talk to Mike when he's on the podcast, like

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<v Speaker 2>because he's technically Alan spends more time with the kids

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<v Speaker 2>than Mike. So for me, that's where it's like that

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<v Speaker 2>would be hard on me, But that's I don't they're

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<v Speaker 2>just going to have this time with this whoever you

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<v Speaker 2>know what I mean, really not going.

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<v Speaker 1>To be It would just be kind of like a

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<v Speaker 1>that first initial like hearing it, like I can ever

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<v Speaker 1>I could understand that. I mean, I think you'll be fine.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying yeah, you won't, but I still feel

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<v Speaker 1>like that would be like a weird.

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<v Speaker 2>It rolls reversed. That's what he kept saying, and I'm like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but again, I'm with them so much that I just

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<v Speaker 2>don't think, yeah, that time would even quit.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, And I think again, my my opinion on it

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<v Speaker 1>is you can have a feeling around it. That doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>mean that you need to correct the child. That doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>mean that that's how it needs to yeah, because that

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<v Speaker 1>would be awful for him to see.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, and I had to tell like I had to

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<v Speaker 2>remind Mike. I was like, I'm not saying like, you

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<v Speaker 2>have to call him, do you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>Like I would never do that, Like I'm always like Dad, like,

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<v Speaker 2>let's call daddy, you know what I mean. Like then

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<v Speaker 2>then this is also what he says, normal dad or

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<v Speaker 2>real daddy. So I'm just like Dad and Alan, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>so it's just and then you know, I'm like, and

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<v Speaker 2>then I might figure it out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and then once you've got the other little babes

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<v Speaker 1>running around saying daddy, it's gonna get a little trick. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>But again, like I think it was good for him,

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<v Speaker 2>like for my ex to hear like I'm not like

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<v Speaker 2>telling him I have to call him and you are

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<v Speaker 2>dad like, because I want him to feel because that

0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:32.320
<v Speaker 2>has to be hard. I can empathize that would be

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<v Speaker 2>really hard to be in a situation where my kids

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<v Speaker 2>are with someone else more than which is why I'm

0:18:37.840 --> 0:18:40.400
<v Speaker 2>always very mindful, like I'm like, hey, you know you're

0:18:40.440 --> 0:18:41.960
<v Speaker 2>gonna be away from the kids more than a week.

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<v Speaker 2>We want to do want to switch days, so it's

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<v Speaker 2>it's it's, uh, you know, you can see them, and

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm I'm very mindful of that for that reason.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, okay, switching gears a little bit. How much Okay,

0:19:07.240 --> 0:19:09.520
<v Speaker 1>so from Becca, how much pressure do you put on

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<v Speaker 1>yourself to bounce back after baby and continue to look

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<v Speaker 1>as good as you enter your forties.

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<v Speaker 2>So I got into this a little bit with Alan

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<v Speaker 2>because he was like, I saw a photo on Instagram

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<v Speaker 2>of when you know, I used to take those pictures

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<v Speaker 2>of myself in the gym mirror, and I was just like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh man, I was like I had a you know,

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<v Speaker 2>a pretty good stomach going on there, Like it was

0:19:39.160 --> 0:19:42.240
<v Speaker 2>I felt really good. It took me a couple of

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<v Speaker 2>years from Jason. Then after my divorce, I lost a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit of weight, so I felt really good and strong,

0:19:48.560 --> 0:19:50.480
<v Speaker 2>like I was running and working out and so I

0:19:50.480 --> 0:19:55.280
<v Speaker 2>felt muscular, and I just I felt good. And I

0:19:55.320 --> 0:19:57.560
<v Speaker 2>got a little like, oh, it's gonna be so hard

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<v Speaker 2>because that took me two years to get to that

0:19:59.720 --> 0:20:02.120
<v Speaker 2>point like after JS. He's like, You're going to bounce

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<v Speaker 2>right back, And I'm like, Babe, you don't understand being

0:20:04.680 --> 0:20:08.959
<v Speaker 2>a female's hard. Our metabolism, my age, like, it's not

0:20:09.000 --> 0:20:11.080
<v Speaker 2>going to be that easy, because I think for guys

0:20:11.119 --> 0:20:13.560
<v Speaker 2>it's so easy to like bounce right back and eat

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<v Speaker 2>good and work out and you're just going to be

0:20:15.200 --> 0:20:16.840
<v Speaker 2>like shredded again, and like it's not that easy for

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<v Speaker 2>women in our age three kids. Yeah, and so I

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<v Speaker 2>started to get a little defeated. Having said that. In

0:20:25.800 --> 0:20:30.679
<v Speaker 2>my mind, I'm like, I want to not put the

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<v Speaker 2>pressure of being the same size that I was pre JS. Yes,

0:20:34.400 --> 0:20:37.479
<v Speaker 2>I have to somehow evolve to what is it going

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<v Speaker 2>to look like? Because I just want to be like healthy.

0:20:41.160 --> 0:20:42.720
<v Speaker 2>But it's I think it's gonna mess with me a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit if I'm being completely honest.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it might look different on the scale, it might

0:20:48.119 --> 0:20:51.000
<v Speaker 1>look different in clothes, and might that's the thing, it's

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<v Speaker 1>so different.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, after you.

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<v Speaker 1>Might be in the same size, you might be in

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<v Speaker 1>the same on the scale, but you still like you

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<v Speaker 1>have a belly or you know or whatever. Well that's

0:21:00.240 --> 0:21:03.520
<v Speaker 1>also other people were asking about that. So from Jenna,

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<v Speaker 1>as women, why do we pick apart our parents our appearance?

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<v Speaker 1>And wait, why do we do that? And how do

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<v Speaker 1>we change that?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I will say, someone from my work setting said,

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<v Speaker 2>how soon do you think you get back in shape?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh? Not me?

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm clear, no, not you, But wow, that is

0:21:22.480 --> 0:21:26.080
<v Speaker 2>the pressure of the industry to go when when can

0:21:26.119 --> 0:21:30.040
<v Speaker 2>you get back too in shape? And I was just like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, give me like two months maybe, or

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<v Speaker 2>like in my mind, I'm like, it's it's going to

0:21:36.320 --> 0:21:39.320
<v Speaker 2>take way longer than that. But I think it's the

0:21:40.119 --> 0:21:44.000
<v Speaker 2>society saying this is what we have to We have

0:21:44.080 --> 0:21:47.919
<v Speaker 2>to bounce back, and we have to h and it

0:21:47.920 --> 0:21:49.639
<v Speaker 2>needs to be fast. But I'm like, it's not fast.

0:21:49.720 --> 0:21:52.240
<v Speaker 2>That's not reality. And so I'm just going to go

0:21:52.280 --> 0:21:55.560
<v Speaker 2>at my own pace and eat healthy and work out

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<v Speaker 2>the best that I can and find my new body

0:22:00.680 --> 0:22:02.880
<v Speaker 2>because it's gonna look different. And I think that's what

0:22:03.080 --> 0:22:07.000
<v Speaker 2>I have to remember is in every phase in my life,

0:22:07.040 --> 0:22:08.720
<v Speaker 2>my body has changed, and now this is going to

0:22:08.760 --> 0:22:10.159
<v Speaker 2>be my new body. So I'm going to try to

0:22:10.240 --> 0:22:11.399
<v Speaker 2>embrace the new body.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think not to negate every woman feeling that

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<v Speaker 1>way in the least, but do you think that there

0:22:18.320 --> 0:22:22.800
<v Speaker 1>is an extra pressure being in the limelight, being in

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<v Speaker 1>front of people to get back to a certain weight,

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<v Speaker 1>to be a certain weight, and to bounce back quicker.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I remember I also got ridiculed for it

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<v Speaker 2>for Jason.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you sure did.

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<v Speaker 2>I posted, Yes, I posted a photo and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>a couple of weeks postpartum, yeah, and I got yeah,

0:22:42.160 --> 0:22:46.720
<v Speaker 2>I got a crap for a having a flatish stomach?

0:22:47.520 --> 0:22:51.719
<v Speaker 2>Can I forgot about what what like this is?

0:22:51.800 --> 0:22:53.280
<v Speaker 1>It's one of those standards.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think I'm just gonna I don't know how

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to go about it, but I I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 2>just again, I have to just know that I cannot

0:23:03.240 --> 0:23:07.800
<v Speaker 2>compare photos of back then, right of even a year ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, and I think just go yeah, But I also

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<v Speaker 1>think to answer kind of that question, well, also for

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<v Speaker 1>like women in general, like you're going to bounce back

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<v Speaker 1>differently than I'm going to bounce back, right, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like our all of our bodies are so different. I

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<v Speaker 1>start a different size than you start, you know. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's like it's just so different for everyone. And to

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<v Speaker 1>put that pressure on ourselves to compare ourselves. We've talked

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<v Speaker 1>about this a lot, but comparing ourselves to other people

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<v Speaker 1>is not fair to us. I could never if I

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<v Speaker 1>was having a baby when we were having babies at

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<v Speaker 1>the same time, I couldn't have compared your progress to

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<v Speaker 1>my progress. That just would not We're just two completely

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<v Speaker 1>different people.

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<v Speaker 2>But also you compare yourself to your old yeah body too. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so we do it to ourselves. Yeah, oh absolutely. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>And that's the thing that it's not only just.

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<v Speaker 1>You think you compare yourself more to yourself or to

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<v Speaker 1>other people.

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<v Speaker 2>I will probably compare myself to my last because that's

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<v Speaker 2>that's when I felt the best. Yeah, but not so

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<v Speaker 2>much other people.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's just a it's a fascinating it is.

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<v Speaker 2>What about you?

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<v Speaker 1>Uh, probably other people?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, probably other people. And I'm not like huge, I've

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<v Speaker 1>definitely gotten better about it. But yeah, definitely. All my

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<v Speaker 1>post pregnancies were about the same until after the like

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<v Speaker 1>I gained the same amount pretty much, I lost the

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<v Speaker 1>same amount. It wasn't until after the third in COVID

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<v Speaker 1>really that I put on that extra twenty thirty pounds

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<v Speaker 1>that you know. So it had nothing to do with

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<v Speaker 1>babies either, So I never really felt that pressure to

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<v Speaker 1>bounce back after baby necessarily. That didn't stress me out.

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<v Speaker 1>I just kind of let that time go. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>probably other people. Yeah, but how we stop that, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. We do it to ourselves, so that's a

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<v Speaker 1>hard question.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I was just talking to Jesse Decker

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<v Speaker 2>about that, because you know she's she's also pregnant, and uh,

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<v Speaker 2>you know it's just this third pregnancy hitting different, and

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<v Speaker 2>you know she's at this star for fourth. But it's

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<v Speaker 2>just we have to just give ourselves grace and know

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<v Speaker 2>that our bodies are changing and we're a little older,

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<v Speaker 2>and again not compare the past body to the new

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<v Speaker 2>body and embrace the new body and how beautiful it

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<v Speaker 2>is and what it just did. Yeah, so remind me

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<v Speaker 2>of that.

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<v Speaker 1>I will. And we've had two of those conversations in

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<v Speaker 1>the last You're like, remind me of this.

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<v Speaker 2>Please remind what was the other? Reminder?

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<v Speaker 1>The dress tonight?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, the dress? It might not fit. It's fine, fine, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>Let's let's ask one more.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay from Amy?

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<v Speaker 2>What is me sugarman?

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<v Speaker 1>Of course we have Kristen in here. We have Amy. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>what is your dream for when you're seventy seventy?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? Man, I would love my family and my friends

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<v Speaker 2>and my grandkids to all be up on our lake house,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like a couple hours maybe outside of Nashville,

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<v Speaker 2>my dream lake house with all of us and just

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<v Speaker 2>surrounded by family and grandkids and just happy and calm

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<v Speaker 2>and just not just not stress, like I just would

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<v Speaker 2>love everyone to be around and not and and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to be I'd still like to be working.

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<v Speaker 1>I was I was gonna say, are you still working?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm still working. I'd still like to I'll probably be

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<v Speaker 2>the grandma in the Lifetime films. Fine with that, love

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<v Speaker 2>it the mom of the grandma of that's great. But

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<v Speaker 2>I would like to be at a place where we

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<v Speaker 2>can just relax and like just love on our family.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a good way about you.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if it'd be a lake house, but

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<v Speaker 1>pretty much the same. Yeah, yeah, lakehouse sounds great on

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<v Speaker 1>land literally, grandkids, traveling with family, taking care of grandkids,

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<v Speaker 1>not working, you're working on your own. I'm kidding. I

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<v Speaker 1>am going to be retired. I love you well, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll say, okay, let me know when you're putting your

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