Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer, an iHeart Radio podcast.
Speaker 2: Okay, we are live in Las Vegas. We are in
Speaker 2: the Bows studio. This is so fun.
Speaker 1: I love this.
Speaker 2: Cat just asked me. She's like, have you ever done
Speaker 2: a podcast outside? I'm like, well, technically we're in like
Speaker 2: a little booth.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but we're still outside.
Speaker 2: We're looking, We're definitely still outside. But yeah, we were
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Speaker 1: Can we tell them what just happened?
Speaker 2: What just happened that we.
Speaker 1: Walked in and the best ever?
Speaker 2: I feel like it really shows our age. But it's great.
Speaker 1: I mean, immediately you just started jamming.
Speaker 2: We here, don't go and I'm like, we're walking in
Speaker 2: through the metal like security. They're doing their their their
Speaker 2: sound check or whatever. Start going. Then I'm like asking
Speaker 2: a Rainbow yesterday and Noney.
Speaker 1: Like, but like it's guys, because they're our age too
Speaker 1: and they know so.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and earlier today we were we went to go
Speaker 2: do the Cheryl Burke podcast. Yes, and we ran into
Speaker 2: well Brian Austin Green was in there, who we just
Speaker 2: had on the podcast, but also Lance Bass and I
Speaker 2: told him, I said, it's just so cool that you
Speaker 2: guys are back, and He's like, we didn't think people
Speaker 2: would care. And I'm like, you don't understand our generation.
Speaker 2: Everyone care, We all care, we will. We needed this.
Speaker 1: Everybody's comparing them, like to Taylor Swift, like the stuff
Speaker 1: is everywhere, like forget Taylor Swift, Like let's go.
Speaker 2: I mean, come on, yeah, I mean I love Taylor Swift.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, it's like it's our it's our age.
Speaker 2: It's it's our age. Yeah, and I mean yeah, we're
Speaker 2: trying to get Taylor Swift tickets right now, actually wearing insane.
Speaker 1: I can't wait.
Speaker 2: I hope they do a tour. I hope it's not
Speaker 2: just for the movie because they have a song for her,
Speaker 2: but they have to. They have to. It'd be absolutely epic.
Speaker 2: So anyways, this episode, we're just gonna have some fun.
Speaker 2: I'm a little nervous though, because Catherine has a sheet,
Speaker 2: a couple sheets.
Speaker 1: I love the power of this.
Speaker 2: This is great and she's gonna it's like a Q
Speaker 2: and A episode, which again is scary, but it's gonna
Speaker 2: be fun. Let's just have fun with it. We'll take
Speaker 2: a quick break and meanwhile, can we just talk about
Speaker 2: I need these headphones from both Amazing. I love them.
Speaker 2: They're like a well little green. I feel like Alan
Speaker 2: would like these. It's very Scottish color, Scottish Scottish color.
Speaker 2: But no, they sound great. We'll be back in one minute.
Speaker 2: Orry cat.
Speaker 1: Where to begin?
Speaker 2: Well, you have the sheet? She's like, do you want
Speaker 2: to know? And I was like, no, I don't because
Speaker 2: then I'll be like no, I don't want to say
Speaker 2: that or I don't want to answer that. But again
Speaker 2: we're in Vegas.
Speaker 1: Oh, you don't get any like a safe Wait.
Speaker 2: Do I get what's the thing that what's his face
Speaker 2: does for? On Bravo? Do you get to like take
Speaker 2: a pass or a shot?
Speaker 1: I can't taking a shot. I don't think you can
Speaker 1: do that. You get no pass?
Speaker 2: I get one. I get one, Alex dupre fake shot.
Speaker 1: Okay, fair, I get a real shot in that case.
Speaker 2: Catherine is I'm.
Speaker 1: Too because we never podcast at night. It is great. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to just like jump into like the
Speaker 1: deep end.
Speaker 2: But okay, I might, by the way, be careful what
Speaker 2: you ask, honey, because I might have a picture.
Speaker 1: Okay, so go for it. We're just gonna jump in,
Speaker 1: okayn't kill me, don't shoot the messenger. Kristen would like
Speaker 1: to know who rust or I have wondered the same
Speaker 1: thing myself. Who was the best sex you've ever had? Oh?
Speaker 2: My god, are you kidding me?
Speaker 1: That was the really bad giggle earlier, and I felt
Speaker 1: like we should just start there. There's a god that's
Speaker 1: the worst.
Speaker 2: Part the best sex I've ever had? I mean, obviously
Speaker 2: my fiance obviously obvious. No, but I do. I will
Speaker 2: say though, how at like an.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry I didn't even give you any buffer.
Speaker 2: You didn't know, Like we're so sexually compatible. It's like
Speaker 2: I feel sexy because he makes me feel sexy, and
Speaker 2: I feel like I make him feel sexy, and it's
Speaker 2: just it's probably the sexiest sex I've ever had.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, so that answers the second part. Then what
Speaker 1: made it the best? You just explained it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he just like he makes me feel sexy and
Speaker 2: like powerful and the same with him, Like I feel
Speaker 2: like and I'm so attracted to him, like we just
Speaker 2: like we mesh so well together and it's just the best.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, we're gonna have you.
Speaker 2: Ever had that kind of amazing sex?
Speaker 1: Yes? Is my husband obviously? Okay, so on that trained
Speaker 1: because we're just gonna we're just gonna jump into those
Speaker 1: and then we're gonna move on because we can't talk
Speaker 1: about sex the whole podcast. However, Stephanie would like to
Speaker 1: know how often do you when you're FI have sex?
Speaker 2: Well over there like a school teacher crossing these off
Speaker 2: the lists. By the way, So I the Avid wind
Speaker 2: Down listeners know, I like sex. I like to have sex.
Speaker 2: I struggled with what I wanted more sex in my
Speaker 2: past relationship obviously, and so with Alan and I like
Speaker 2: we are very in sync and it's like in sync,
Speaker 2: it's gonna be yes and it's uh we I would
Speaker 2: say a couple times a week, Yeah, yeah, I liked
Speaker 2: about every couple of days.
Speaker 1: Okay, and you're good with that.
Speaker 2: I'm great with that. Okay, great, it's getting a little
Speaker 2: harder though. I'm not gonna lie because I'm like it's
Speaker 2: like the other day, Oh no, you know, He's like,
Speaker 2: I don't know this. It's like, I'm just gonna turn
Speaker 2: over because this is nothing, like there's nothing I can
Speaker 2: really do.
Speaker 1: Now that's all you can do?
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it like hurts, like when he like lands
Speaker 2: on top of me, you know what I mean. So anyways, Okay.
Speaker 1: So I think we'll we'll get off that subject.
Speaker 2: Okay, thanks, you're welcome.
Speaker 1: I just thought that was a good start. Okay. I
Speaker 1: love this one. And we've been talking a lot about
Speaker 1: this actually lately. Do Mike and Alan get along?
Speaker 2: They do get along. Yeah, they do. H Mike came
Speaker 2: over like a couple of weeks ago, and yeah, I
Speaker 2: mean it's what I love about Alan is he's so
Speaker 2: respectful and he knows that that is the father of
Speaker 2: my children, and he is he's just incredibly respectful. And
Speaker 2: Mike is great with him as well. Like they they
Speaker 2: have conversations at the soccer games or baseball games and
Speaker 2: they have you know, some laughs, and it's just really
Speaker 2: nice to kind of witness.
Speaker 1: Do you all sit together at sports.
Speaker 2: Most of the time? Yeah, yeah, most of the time.
Speaker 1: I like that. What did you think of it?
Speaker 2: Well, No, there was a time when I have a
Speaker 2: really hard time putting those soccer chairs back in the
Speaker 2: plastic or whatever the bags. So Alan was out of time,
Speaker 2: out of town getting his visa or whatever, and I
Speaker 2: I was having hard time. We're actually no, I didn't
Speaker 2: even start putting it in. I go like old times,
Speaker 2: and I gave I gave Mike the uh the bag
Speaker 2: to put the chair in, and he laughed and put
Speaker 2: it in there.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean that's just like a man thing to do.
Speaker 1: I feel like, yeah, you know that's yeah.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I know he's offered because those bleachers are
Speaker 2: kind of tough for the pregnancy bone.
Speaker 1: But speaking of you been complaining of that tailbone's killing me.
Speaker 2: But yeah, he offered me like his chair one time too. Yeah,
Speaker 2: So yeah, they get along. I mean, I don't They're
Speaker 2: not going to be like I don't think I ever
Speaker 2: seen him like besties or whatever. But I think they
Speaker 2: they're very respectful and I think we're doing a great
Speaker 2: job with that and respecting the boundaries of all of it.
Speaker 1: Good.
Speaker 2: But we might talk about that more if and when
Speaker 2: he ever comes on the podcast.
Speaker 1: Hmmm, that was going to be one of my next questions.
Speaker 1: I guess we'll just go into that. Have we decided
Speaker 1: that that we're doing that.
Speaker 2: We Yeah, he's gonna come on. We Yeah, yeah, he's
Speaker 2: gonna come on.
Speaker 1: Okay, Jana has decided. I'm kidding.
Speaker 2: We talked about it now.
Speaker 1: I'm just good. Yes, you asked her.
Speaker 2: I think it's gonna be. And there's a lot of
Speaker 2: people that were like, no, because it's not good for
Speaker 2: your healing. And it's like, I don't carry the weight
Speaker 2: of that, Like, yeah, it's not like we're gonna go
Speaker 2: way back. I mean we'll touch on some things obviously,
Speaker 2: but I think there's a there's a balance, and I
Speaker 2: think there's a lot of growth and healing that can
Speaker 2: be done in that kind of conversation.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And I also think these people listening, we're all
Speaker 1: a part of it with you felt like they were
Speaker 1: a part of it. And I think there's a lot
Speaker 1: I got a lot of messages just myself about how
Speaker 1: important it is also for them to kind of hear
Speaker 1: from him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And a lot of them are like, well, I
Speaker 2: wouldn't believe him anyways, And at the end of the day,
Speaker 2: I'm like, you don't really have to. Sure, It's like
Speaker 2: you can make up your mind whatever, Like you don't
Speaker 2: have to believe him or not. But I think people
Speaker 2: still get it chance to voice their story or their
Speaker 2: thoughts and because he hasn't really had that opportunity.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, i'd agree with that. I think that that's
Speaker 1: a fair decision.
Speaker 2: It's getting hot taking this jacket out. It's kind of hot.
Speaker 1: Who this was just kind of I don't know why.
Speaker 1: This one's kind of funny to me from Jess. Will
Speaker 1: you allow Mike to hold or care for your new
Speaker 1: baby if you were in a pinch? No, Yeah, that
Speaker 1: seems a little.
Speaker 2: That seems a little. Now. I will say this, there
Speaker 2: was something that someone told me one time where when
Speaker 2: the baby gets old enough to let's say the baby
Speaker 2: is or like the little boy, I keep wanting to
Speaker 2: say his name. I'm saying his name so much now.
Speaker 2: If he is seven, I don't know, and he really
Speaker 2: wants to go with Jase because they're super tight or something,
Speaker 2: then I could see maybe being like can he go
Speaker 2: over and play with jas on your night or whatever?
Speaker 2: Like I could almost see. And people have said that
Speaker 2: that's happened in their co parenting situations when they've had
Speaker 2: other kids.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that makes sense. I don't really thought about that.
Speaker 2: But because it's like he'll be sad to see his
Speaker 2: right if he still wants to hang out with them,
Speaker 2: or he wants to go to a game, like, hey,
Speaker 2: he really wants to go see his whatever. So I
Speaker 2: could see that happening, and I hope that we could
Speaker 2: get to that place. That would be really great for them.
Speaker 2: I would if he ever had kids, I would take on.
Speaker 2: But I would never give like that would be I
Speaker 2: think that'd be Alan wouldn't like that. I want. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's just you know what I mean, It's just it's
Speaker 2: not his like there has to be certain boundaries or
Speaker 2: on that.
Speaker 1: Yeah too, I'd agree with that, yeah.
Speaker 2: Because that's just I don't know. I mean, if not
Speaker 2: his kid.
Speaker 1: At a game and like your hands are full and
Speaker 1: you're like, hey, hold the.
Speaker 2: Baby real fast, I still wouldn't do that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the only way I could see it, being
Speaker 1: kind of.
Speaker 2: Like, obviously he's going to meet the baby.
Speaker 1: I bet he asked to hold the baby. I'm taking
Speaker 1: that bet he's gonna I.
Speaker 2: Wouldn't say no, But it's not like i'd be like, here,
Speaker 2: take my baby.
Speaker 1: Well, and that feels a little like, hey, guess what,
Speaker 1: I'm remarried, happy in having a baby. Would you like
Speaker 1: to hold him.
Speaker 2: Yeah. No, I mean if he asked, and I'd be like, yeah, sure, yeah,
Speaker 2: I think he would to hold is if he had one.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my good because you know, because I'd
Speaker 2: be so happy. Yeah, like him and his I.
Speaker 1: Mean he has already been like, hell's our baby. Oh
Speaker 1: but I mean that's a that's a good question.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, interesting that you wouldn't either though.
Speaker 1: It's yeah, yeah, no, I mean it just again, well
Speaker 1: I wouldn't.
Speaker 2: I would give the baby to outan the dad.
Speaker 1: Right, I guess yeah. I mean unless Alan wasn't there
Speaker 1: he needed help or something. No, I just yeah, it
Speaker 1: does feel little, but I hadn't thought about when he's older.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think only just older, Like they maybe want
Speaker 2: to sleep over, and he probably wants to, like and
Speaker 2: it's his weekend.
Speaker 1: And it's going to be so far removed at that point.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: What is your daughter's relationship with Alan?
Speaker 2: Like, their relationship is so sweet. You know, he taught
Speaker 2: her how to ride a bike and he was so
Speaker 2: patient with her. It was so beautiful, and you know
Speaker 2: he's always wanting to help her with soccer. That relationship
Speaker 2: has been been really really cool to see. And then
Speaker 2: also with Jace too, because Jace when the he'll come
Speaker 2: in and like lean on him now and like cuddle
Speaker 2: with them, and it's just it's beautiful to watch him
Speaker 2: be this bonus dad for the kiddos and because they really,
Speaker 2: I mean, they're spending seventy percent of the time with him,
Speaker 2: and like they're they they they love them and it's
Speaker 2: cute and they're part of you know, when we say
Speaker 2: prayers at night, Jaces like, I love daddy, Allen know,
Speaker 2: and so it's it's just really cute.
Speaker 1: Do you think that's hard on Mike.
Speaker 2: I think at first it was, but I know that
Speaker 2: he knows that Alan's a good addition to the right
Speaker 2: the family and that. But he also know And I
Speaker 2: had to have a conversation with Mike too because I
Speaker 2: think Jace had called might not think Jace called Alan dad,
Speaker 2: And so it was one of those conversations where every
Speaker 2: therapist and everything says, you let the kids call the
Speaker 2: person whatever they want to call them, And so, yes,
Speaker 2: it'd be hard for me to hear my kids call,
Speaker 2: but I also know that like I'm mom and they
Speaker 2: have one like I'm their mom, they might have an
Speaker 2: awesome bonus stepmom. One day, but like, I know, I
Speaker 2: know that I'm mom whether they want to call them
Speaker 2: whatever they want to call them, and I'm always like,
Speaker 2: call him whatever you want. So Jace calls him Alan
Speaker 2: Todallen like he's just like Alan Badallen. He's like Alan Badallen,
Speaker 2: Like I don't know why, but that's like his little
Speaker 2: nickname for him.
Speaker 1: So did he only call him dad once? Like was
Speaker 1: he talking to Mike or did he?
Speaker 2: Yeah? He said like because he had called me and
Speaker 2: was just like, hey, so like Jace just called him dad,
Speaker 2: and I was like, listen, you know, I thought we
Speaker 2: weren't doing that. And I'm like I can't tell him, like,
Speaker 2: don't call him that because you know, he's also confused
Speaker 2: because he was asking about the baby and about what
Speaker 2: the baby was gonna call Alan. I was like, well,
Speaker 2: he's gonna call him daddy. He's like, but he's Allan.
Speaker 2: I'm like, right, but this is his daddy. I was like,
Speaker 2: just like when we get married, he'll be your stepdad.
Speaker 2: And he's just like, well, what do I call him?
Speaker 2: I was like, you can call him whatever you want, baby,
Speaker 2: you can call him dad, you can call him Alan,
Speaker 2: you can call him literally whatever you want, dinosaur, whatever
Speaker 2: you want. Yeah, and so and they both just stuck
Speaker 2: with Alan now. But sometimes like he'll he'll say like dad,
Speaker 2: but then he changes it right back to Alan. So
Speaker 2: and I just we don't make any any window like
Speaker 2: we don't we don't say anything really around it. We're
Speaker 2: just kind of let him do it.
Speaker 1: And you wouldn't want him to feel any guilt or
Speaker 1: shame around it. And he did.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's what I and you know, Mike and
Speaker 2: I had a great conversation. It's like, end of the day,
Speaker 2: they know your dad, they know. But and Alan's just
Speaker 2: an amazing addition to love our kids, just like the
Speaker 2: next person that you were with that you marry will
Speaker 2: be a great addition to love the kids. Like people
Speaker 2: loving your kids is great. And you always told me that.
Speaker 2: Yeah in the beginning, absolutely, but I was like, no,
Speaker 2: no one will ever like I'm the only but she
Speaker 2: was so young. Sure, I mean, it's hard, but now
Speaker 2: I'm like, they know I'm mom.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, and I don't think that it's not
Speaker 1: going to somewhat still be hard for you personally. I
Speaker 1: think it's very different and it's not all I.
Speaker 2: Think it's different because I have them seventy percent of time,
Speaker 2: so they're not going to have the time. I think
Speaker 2: that's where and that's something that you know, you can
Speaker 2: even talk to Mike when he's on the podcast, like
Speaker 2: because he's technically Alan spends more time with the kids
Speaker 2: than Mike. So for me, that's where it's like that
Speaker 2: would be hard on me, But that's I don't they're
Speaker 2: just going to have this time with this whoever you
Speaker 2: know what I mean, really not going.
Speaker 1: To be It would just be kind of like a
Speaker 1: that first initial like hearing it, like I can ever
Speaker 1: I could understand that. I mean, I think you'll be fine.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying yeah, you won't, but I still feel
Speaker 1: like that would be like a weird.
Speaker 2: It rolls reversed. That's what he kept saying, and I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 2: but again, I'm with them so much that I just
Speaker 2: don't think, yeah, that time would even quit.
Speaker 1: Well, And I think again, my my opinion on it
Speaker 1: is you can have a feeling around it. That doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that you need to correct the child. That doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that that's how it needs to yeah, because that
Speaker 1: would be awful for him to see.
Speaker 2: Well, and I had to tell like I had to
Speaker 2: remind Mike. I was like, I'm not saying like, you
Speaker 2: have to call him, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Like I would never do that, Like I'm always like Dad, like,
Speaker 2: let's call daddy, you know what I mean. Like then
Speaker 2: then this is also what he says, normal dad or
Speaker 2: real daddy. So I'm just like Dad and Alan, you know,
Speaker 2: so it's just and then you know, I'm like, and
Speaker 2: then I might figure it out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then once you've got the other little babes
Speaker 1: running around saying daddy, it's gonna get a little trick. Yeah.
Speaker 2: But again, like I think it was good for him,
Speaker 2: like for my ex to hear like I'm not like
Speaker 2: telling him I have to call him and you are
Speaker 2: dad like, because I want him to feel because that
Speaker 2: has to be hard. I can empathize that would be
Speaker 2: really hard to be in a situation where my kids
Speaker 2: are with someone else more than which is why I'm
Speaker 2: always very mindful, like I'm like, hey, you know you're
Speaker 2: gonna be away from the kids more than a week.
Speaker 2: We want to do want to switch days, so it's
Speaker 2: it's it's, uh, you know, you can see them, and
Speaker 2: so I'm I'm very mindful of that for that reason.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, okay, switching gears a little bit. How much Okay,
Speaker 1: so from Becca, how much pressure do you put on
Speaker 1: yourself to bounce back after baby and continue to look
Speaker 1: as good as you enter your forties.
Speaker 2: So I got into this a little bit with Alan
Speaker 2: because he was like, I saw a photo on Instagram
Speaker 2: of when you know, I used to take those pictures
Speaker 2: of myself in the gym mirror, and I was just like,
Speaker 2: oh man, I was like I had a you know,
Speaker 2: a pretty good stomach going on there, Like it was
Speaker 2: I felt really good. It took me a couple of
Speaker 2: years from Jason. Then after my divorce, I lost a
Speaker 2: little bit of weight, so I felt really good and strong,
Speaker 2: like I was running and working out and so I
Speaker 2: felt muscular, and I just I felt good. And I
Speaker 2: got a little like, oh, it's gonna be so hard
Speaker 2: because that took me two years to get to that
Speaker 2: point like after JS. He's like, You're going to bounce
Speaker 2: right back, And I'm like, Babe, you don't understand being
Speaker 2: a female's hard. Our metabolism, my age, like, it's not
Speaker 2: going to be that easy, because I think for guys
Speaker 2: it's so easy to like bounce right back and eat
Speaker 2: good and work out and you're just going to be
Speaker 2: like shredded again, and like it's not that easy for
Speaker 2: women in our age three kids. Yeah, and so I
Speaker 2: started to get a little defeated. Having said that. In
Speaker 2: my mind, I'm like, I want to not put the
Speaker 2: pressure of being the same size that I was pre JS. Yes,
Speaker 2: I have to somehow evolve to what is it going
Speaker 2: to look like? Because I just want to be like healthy.
Speaker 2: But it's I think it's gonna mess with me a
Speaker 2: little bit if I'm being completely honest.
Speaker 1: Well, it might look different on the scale, it might
Speaker 1: look different in clothes, and might that's the thing, it's
Speaker 1: so different.
Speaker 2: Yeah, after you.
Speaker 1: Might be in the same size, you might be in
Speaker 1: the same on the scale, but you still like you
Speaker 1: have a belly or you know or whatever. Well that's
Speaker 1: also other people were asking about that. So from Jenna,
Speaker 1: as women, why do we pick apart our parents our appearance?
Speaker 1: And wait, why do we do that? And how do
Speaker 1: we change that?
Speaker 2: Well, I will say, someone from my work setting said,
Speaker 2: how soon do you think you get back in shape?
Speaker 1: Oh? Not me?
Speaker 2: So I'm clear, no, not you, But wow, that is
Speaker 2: the pressure of the industry to go when when can
Speaker 2: you get back too in shape? And I was just like,
Speaker 2: I don't know, give me like two months maybe, or
Speaker 2: like in my mind, I'm like, it's it's going to
Speaker 2: take way longer than that. But I think it's the
Speaker 2: society saying this is what we have to We have
Speaker 2: to bounce back, and we have to h and it
Speaker 2: needs to be fast. But I'm like, it's not fast.
Speaker 2: That's not reality. And so I'm just going to go
Speaker 2: at my own pace and eat healthy and work out
Speaker 2: the best that I can and find my new body
Speaker 2: because it's gonna look different. And I think that's what
Speaker 2: I have to remember is in every phase in my life,
Speaker 2: my body has changed, and now this is going to
Speaker 2: be my new body. So I'm going to try to
Speaker 2: embrace the new body.
Speaker 1: Do you think not to negate every woman feeling that
Speaker 1: way in the least, but do you think that there
Speaker 1: is an extra pressure being in the limelight, being in
Speaker 1: front of people to get back to a certain weight,
Speaker 1: to be a certain weight, and to bounce back quicker.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I remember I also got ridiculed for it
Speaker 2: for Jason.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you sure did.
Speaker 2: I posted, Yes, I posted a photo and I was like,
Speaker 2: a couple of weeks postpartum, yeah, and I got yeah,
Speaker 2: I got a crap for a having a flatish stomach?
Speaker 2: Can I forgot about what what like this is?
Speaker 1: It's one of those standards.
Speaker 2: So I think I'm just gonna I don't know how
Speaker 2: I'm going to go about it, but I I'm gonna
Speaker 2: just again, I have to just know that I cannot
Speaker 2: compare photos of back then, right of even a year ago.
Speaker 1: Well, and I think just go yeah, But I also
Speaker 1: think to answer kind of that question, well, also for
Speaker 1: like women in general, like you're going to bounce back
Speaker 1: differently than I'm going to bounce back, right, you know,
Speaker 1: like our all of our bodies are so different. I
Speaker 1: start a different size than you start, you know. So
Speaker 1: it's like it's just so different for everyone. And to
Speaker 1: put that pressure on ourselves to compare ourselves. We've talked
Speaker 1: about this a lot, but comparing ourselves to other people
Speaker 1: is not fair to us. I could never if I
Speaker 1: was having a baby when we were having babies at
Speaker 1: the same time, I couldn't have compared your progress to
Speaker 1: my progress. That just would not We're just two completely
Speaker 1: different people.
Speaker 2: But also you compare yourself to your old yeah body too. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so we do it to ourselves. Yeah, oh absolutely. Yeah,
Speaker 2: And that's the thing that it's not only just.
Speaker 1: You think you compare yourself more to yourself or to
Speaker 1: other people.
Speaker 2: I will probably compare myself to my last because that's
Speaker 2: that's when I felt the best. Yeah, but not so
Speaker 2: much other people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just a it's a fascinating it is.
Speaker 2: What about you?
Speaker 1: Uh, probably other people?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I get it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, probably other people. And I'm not like huge, I've
Speaker 1: definitely gotten better about it. But yeah, definitely. All my
Speaker 1: post pregnancies were about the same until after the like
Speaker 1: I gained the same amount pretty much, I lost the
Speaker 1: same amount. It wasn't until after the third in COVID
Speaker 1: really that I put on that extra twenty thirty pounds
Speaker 1: that you know. So it had nothing to do with
Speaker 1: babies either, So I never really felt that pressure to
Speaker 1: bounce back after baby necessarily. That didn't stress me out.
Speaker 1: I just kind of let that time go. But yeah,
Speaker 1: probably other people. Yeah, but how we stop that, I
Speaker 1: don't know. We do it to ourselves, so that's a
Speaker 1: hard question.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I was just talking to Jesse Decker
Speaker 2: about that, because you know she's she's also pregnant, and uh,
Speaker 2: you know it's just this third pregnancy hitting different, and
Speaker 2: you know she's at this star for fourth. But it's
Speaker 2: just we have to just give ourselves grace and know
Speaker 2: that our bodies are changing and we're a little older,
Speaker 2: and again not compare the past body to the new
Speaker 2: body and embrace the new body and how beautiful it
Speaker 2: is and what it just did. Yeah, so remind me
Speaker 2: of that.
Speaker 1: I will. And we've had two of those conversations in
Speaker 1: the last You're like, remind me of this.
Speaker 2: Please remind what was the other? Reminder?
Speaker 1: The dress tonight?
Speaker 2: Oh, the dress? It might not fit. It's fine, fine, Okay,
Speaker 2: Let's let's ask one more.
Speaker 1: Okay from Amy?
Speaker 2: What is me sugarman?
Speaker 1: Of course we have Kristen in here. We have Amy. Now,
Speaker 1: what is your dream for when you're seventy seventy?
Speaker 2: Oh? Man, I would love my family and my friends
Speaker 2: and my grandkids to all be up on our lake house,
Speaker 2: you know, like a couple hours maybe outside of Nashville,
Speaker 2: my dream lake house with all of us and just
Speaker 2: surrounded by family and grandkids and just happy and calm
Speaker 2: and just not just not stress, like I just would
Speaker 2: love everyone to be around and not and and I
Speaker 2: don't want to be I'd still like to be working.
Speaker 1: I was I was gonna say, are you still working?
Speaker 2: I'm still working. I'd still like to I'll probably be
Speaker 2: the grandma in the Lifetime films. Fine with that, love
Speaker 2: it the mom of the grandma of that's great. But
Speaker 2: I would like to be at a place where we
Speaker 2: can just relax and like just love on our family.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 2: It's a good way about you.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it'd be a lake house, but
Speaker 1: pretty much the same. Yeah, yeah, lakehouse sounds great on
Speaker 1: land literally, grandkids, traveling with family, taking care of grandkids,
Speaker 1: not working, you're working on your own. I'm kidding. I
Speaker 1: am going to be retired. I love you well, I
Speaker 1: don't know.
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