1 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:05,399 Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer, an iHeart Radio podcast. 2 00:00:06,080 --> 00:00:12,119 Speaker 2: Okay, we are live in Las Vegas. We are in 3 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:15,120 Speaker 2: the Bows studio. This is so fun. 4 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 1: I love this. 5 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:18,600 Speaker 2: Cat just asked me. She's like, have you ever done 6 00:00:18,600 --> 00:00:21,279 Speaker 2: a podcast outside? I'm like, well, technically we're in like 7 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:22,239 Speaker 2: a little booth. 8 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, but we're still outside. 9 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:28,520 Speaker 2: We're looking, We're definitely still outside. But yeah, we were 10 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:31,280 Speaker 2: in Las Vegas, Nevada, and we are here for the 11 00:00:31,320 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 2: iHeart Radio Music Festival. I'm so excited. This is powered 12 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 2: by Bows at the House of Music at the iHeart 13 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:43,240 Speaker 2: Radio Music Festival. So I'm just very happy to be here. 14 00:00:43,320 --> 00:00:44,559 Speaker 1: Can we tell them what just happened? 15 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 2: What just happened that we. 16 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:49,239 Speaker 1: Walked in and the best ever? 17 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:51,760 Speaker 2: I feel like it really shows our age. But it's great. 18 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 1: I mean, immediately you just started jamming. 19 00:00:57,040 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 2: We here, don't go and I'm like, we're walking in 20 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:02,440 Speaker 2: through the metal like security. They're doing their their their 21 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 2: sound check or whatever. Start going. Then I'm like asking 22 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:08,160 Speaker 2: a Rainbow yesterday and Noney. 23 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 1: Like, but like it's guys, because they're our age too 24 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 1: and they know so. 25 00:01:16,319 --> 00:01:20,039 Speaker 2: Yeah, and earlier today we were we went to go 26 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 2: do the Cheryl Burke podcast. Yes, and we ran into 27 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:26,679 Speaker 2: well Brian Austin Green was in there, who we just 28 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 2: had on the podcast, but also Lance Bass and I 29 00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:32,000 Speaker 2: told him, I said, it's just so cool that you 30 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 2: guys are back, and He's like, we didn't think people 31 00:01:33,600 --> 00:01:36,400 Speaker 2: would care. And I'm like, you don't understand our generation. 32 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 2: Everyone care, We all care, we will. We needed this. 33 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 1: Everybody's comparing them, like to Taylor Swift, like the stuff 34 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 1: is everywhere, like forget Taylor Swift, Like let's go. 35 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:49,560 Speaker 2: I mean, come on, yeah, I mean I love Taylor Swift. 36 00:01:49,640 --> 00:01:52,560 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, it's like it's our it's our age. 37 00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:54,720 Speaker 2: It's it's our age. Yeah, and I mean yeah, we're 38 00:01:54,720 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 2: trying to get Taylor Swift tickets right now, actually wearing insane. 39 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 1: I can't wait. 40 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 2: I hope they do a tour. I hope it's not 41 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 2: just for the movie because they have a song for her, 42 00:02:06,600 --> 00:02:10,560 Speaker 2: but they have to. They have to. It'd be absolutely epic. 43 00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:14,640 Speaker 2: So anyways, this episode, we're just gonna have some fun. 44 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:18,799 Speaker 2: I'm a little nervous though, because Catherine has a sheet, 45 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 2: a couple sheets. 46 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 1: I love the power of this. 47 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 2: This is great and she's gonna it's like a Q 48 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 2: and A episode, which again is scary, but it's gonna 49 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 2: be fun. Let's just have fun with it. We'll take 50 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:35,040 Speaker 2: a quick break and meanwhile, can we just talk about 51 00:02:35,639 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 2: I need these headphones from both Amazing. I love them. 52 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:40,560 Speaker 2: They're like a well little green. I feel like Alan 53 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 2: would like these. It's very Scottish color, Scottish Scottish color. 54 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:49,919 Speaker 2: But no, they sound great. We'll be back in one minute. 55 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:01,760 Speaker 2: Orry cat. 56 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: Where to begin? 57 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 2: Well, you have the sheet? She's like, do you want 58 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 2: to know? And I was like, no, I don't because 59 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:10,120 Speaker 2: then I'll be like no, I don't want to say 60 00:03:10,120 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 2: that or I don't want to answer that. But again 61 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:12,920 Speaker 2: we're in Vegas. 62 00:03:13,040 --> 00:03:16,720 Speaker 1: Oh, you don't get any like a safe Wait. 63 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:19,560 Speaker 2: Do I get what's the thing that what's his face 64 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:23,079 Speaker 2: does for? On Bravo? Do you get to like take 65 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:24,919 Speaker 2: a pass or a shot? 66 00:03:25,639 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 1: I can't taking a shot. I don't think you can 67 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 1: do that. You get no pass? 68 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 2: I get one. I get one, Alex dupre fake shot. 69 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 1: Okay, fair, I get a real shot in that case. 70 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 2: Catherine is I'm. 71 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 1: Too because we never podcast at night. It is great. Yeah, okay, 72 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:45,120 Speaker 1: I'm not going to just like jump into like the 73 00:03:45,160 --> 00:03:45,640 Speaker 1: deep end. 74 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 2: But okay, I might, by the way, be careful what 75 00:03:49,480 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 2: you ask, honey, because I might have a picture. 76 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 1: Okay, so go for it. We're just gonna jump in, 77 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:02,120 Speaker 1: okayn't kill me, don't shoot the messenger. Kristen would like 78 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 1: to know who rust or I have wondered the same 79 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 1: thing myself. Who was the best sex you've ever had? Oh? 80 00:04:10,760 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 2: My god, are you kidding me? 81 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:16,800 Speaker 1: That was the really bad giggle earlier, and I felt 82 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:23,400 Speaker 1: like we should just start there. There's a god that's 83 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 1: the worst. 84 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:27,800 Speaker 2: Part the best sex I've ever had? I mean, obviously 85 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 2: my fiance obviously obvious. No, but I do. I will 86 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 2: say though, how at like an. 87 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:39,720 Speaker 1: I'm sorry I didn't even give you any buffer. 88 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 2: You didn't know, Like we're so sexually compatible. It's like 89 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 2: I feel sexy because he makes me feel sexy, and 90 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 2: I feel like I make him feel sexy, and it's 91 00:04:51,240 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 2: just it's probably the sexiest sex I've ever had. 92 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: Oh okay, so that answers the second part. Then what 93 00:04:56,720 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 1: made it the best? You just explained it. 94 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:01,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, he just like he makes me feel sexy and 95 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:05,159 Speaker 2: like powerful and the same with him, Like I feel 96 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:07,920 Speaker 2: like and I'm so attracted to him, like we just 97 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 2: like we mesh so well together and it's just the best. 98 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:13,560 Speaker 1: Okay, well, we're gonna have you. 99 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:15,280 Speaker 2: Ever had that kind of amazing sex? 100 00:05:16,520 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 1: Yes? Is my husband obviously? Okay, so on that trained 101 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:29,800 Speaker 1: because we're just gonna we're just gonna jump into those 102 00:05:29,839 --> 00:05:31,480 Speaker 1: and then we're gonna move on because we can't talk 103 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: about sex the whole podcast. However, Stephanie would like to 104 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: know how often do you when you're FI have sex? 105 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 2: Well over there like a school teacher crossing these off 106 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 2: the lists. By the way, So I the Avid wind 107 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 2: Down listeners know, I like sex. I like to have sex. 108 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 2: I struggled with what I wanted more sex in my 109 00:05:57,160 --> 00:06:03,359 Speaker 2: past relationship obviously, and so with Alan and I like 110 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:06,640 Speaker 2: we are very in sync and it's like in sync, 111 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:13,599 Speaker 2: it's gonna be yes and it's uh we I would 112 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:18,040 Speaker 2: say a couple times a week, Yeah, yeah, I liked 113 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 2: about every couple of days. 114 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 1: Okay, and you're good with that. 115 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 2: I'm great with that. Okay, great, it's getting a little 116 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:27,360 Speaker 2: harder though. I'm not gonna lie because I'm like it's 117 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 2: like the other day, Oh no, you know, He's like, 118 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 2: I don't know this. It's like, I'm just gonna turn 119 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:37,839 Speaker 2: over because this is nothing, like there's nothing I can 120 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:38,360 Speaker 2: really do. 121 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:39,800 Speaker 1: Now that's all you can do? 122 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, because it like hurts, like when he like lands 123 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 2: on top of me, you know what I mean. So anyways, Okay. 124 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:48,039 Speaker 1: So I think we'll we'll get off that subject. 125 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:49,440 Speaker 2: Okay, thanks, you're welcome. 126 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 1: I just thought that was a good start. Okay. I 127 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 1: love this one. And we've been talking a lot about 128 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:56,679 Speaker 1: this actually lately. Do Mike and Alan get along? 129 00:06:57,480 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 2: They do get along. Yeah, they do. H Mike came 130 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:07,479 Speaker 2: over like a couple of weeks ago, and yeah, I 131 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 2: mean it's what I love about Alan is he's so 132 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 2: respectful and he knows that that is the father of 133 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 2: my children, and he is he's just incredibly respectful. And 134 00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 2: Mike is great with him as well. Like they they 135 00:07:25,280 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 2: have conversations at the soccer games or baseball games and 136 00:07:29,280 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 2: they have you know, some laughs, and it's just really 137 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 2: nice to kind of witness. 138 00:07:33,720 --> 00:07:35,800 Speaker 1: Do you all sit together at sports. 139 00:07:36,760 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 2: Most of the time? Yeah, yeah, most of the time. 140 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 1: I like that. What did you think of it? 141 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 2: Well, No, there was a time when I have a 142 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 2: really hard time putting those soccer chairs back in the 143 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 2: plastic or whatever the bags. So Alan was out of time, 144 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 2: out of town getting his visa or whatever, and I 145 00:07:58,320 --> 00:08:00,880 Speaker 2: I was having hard time. We're actually no, I didn't 146 00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 2: even start putting it in. I go like old times, 147 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 2: and I gave I gave Mike the uh the bag 148 00:08:05,960 --> 00:08:07,840 Speaker 2: to put the chair in, and he laughed and put 149 00:08:07,880 --> 00:08:08,280 Speaker 2: it in there. 150 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:11,680 Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean that's just like a man thing to do. 151 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:13,720 Speaker 1: I feel like, yeah, you know that's yeah. 152 00:08:14,040 --> 00:08:16,040 Speaker 2: But yeah, I know he's offered because those bleachers are 153 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:19,120 Speaker 2: kind of tough for the pregnancy bone. 154 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:23,600 Speaker 1: But speaking of you been complaining of that tailbone's killing me. 155 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:27,080 Speaker 2: But yeah, he offered me like his chair one time too. Yeah, 156 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:28,880 Speaker 2: So yeah, they get along. I mean, I don't They're 157 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:31,600 Speaker 2: not going to be like I don't think I ever 158 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:34,320 Speaker 2: seen him like besties or whatever. But I think they 159 00:08:34,480 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 2: they're very respectful and I think we're doing a great 160 00:08:36,920 --> 00:08:41,080 Speaker 2: job with that and respecting the boundaries of all of it. 161 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 1: Good. 162 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:47,440 Speaker 2: But we might talk about that more if and when 163 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 2: he ever comes on the podcast. 164 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:52,280 Speaker 1: Hmmm, that was going to be one of my next questions. 165 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 1: I guess we'll just go into that. Have we decided 166 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:56,679 Speaker 1: that that we're doing that. 167 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 2: We Yeah, he's gonna come on. We Yeah, yeah, he's 168 00:09:05,160 --> 00:09:05,520 Speaker 2: gonna come on. 169 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,720 Speaker 1: Okay, Jana has decided. I'm kidding. 170 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 2: We talked about it now. 171 00:09:10,240 --> 00:09:11,680 Speaker 1: I'm just good. Yes, you asked her. 172 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:13,080 Speaker 2: I think it's gonna be. And there's a lot of 173 00:09:13,080 --> 00:09:15,680 Speaker 2: people that were like, no, because it's not good for 174 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 2: your healing. And it's like, I don't carry the weight 175 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:21,720 Speaker 2: of that, Like, yeah, it's not like we're gonna go 176 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 2: way back. I mean we'll touch on some things obviously, 177 00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:28,000 Speaker 2: but I think there's a there's a balance, and I 178 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 2: think there's a lot of growth and healing that can 179 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:31,800 Speaker 2: be done in that kind of conversation. 180 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:37,079 Speaker 1: Yeah. And I also think these people listening, we're all 181 00:09:37,120 --> 00:09:39,440 Speaker 1: a part of it with you felt like they were 182 00:09:39,480 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 1: a part of it. And I think there's a lot 183 00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:44,440 Speaker 1: I got a lot of messages just myself about how 184 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 1: important it is also for them to kind of hear 185 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:48,080 Speaker 1: from him. 186 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:49,679 Speaker 2: Yeah, And a lot of them are like, well, I 187 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 2: wouldn't believe him anyways, And at the end of the day, 188 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 2: I'm like, you don't really have to. Sure, It's like 189 00:09:54,760 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 2: you can make up your mind whatever, Like you don't 190 00:09:56,960 --> 00:09:59,480 Speaker 2: have to believe him or not. But I think people 191 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:05,200 Speaker 2: still get it chance to voice their story or their 192 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:08,359 Speaker 2: thoughts and because he hasn't really had that opportunity. 193 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, i'd agree with that. I think that that's 194 00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:12,360 Speaker 1: a fair decision. 195 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 2: It's getting hot taking this jacket out. It's kind of hot. 196 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 1: Who this was just kind of I don't know why. 197 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:21,720 Speaker 1: This one's kind of funny to me from Jess. Will 198 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: you allow Mike to hold or care for your new 199 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:29,120 Speaker 1: baby if you were in a pinch? No, Yeah, that 200 00:10:29,120 --> 00:10:29,760 Speaker 1: seems a little. 201 00:10:29,880 --> 00:10:33,200 Speaker 2: That seems a little. Now. I will say this, there 202 00:10:33,240 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 2: was something that someone told me one time where when 203 00:10:39,280 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 2: the baby gets old enough to let's say the baby 204 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:47,079 Speaker 2: is or like the little boy, I keep wanting to 205 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:49,959 Speaker 2: say his name. I'm saying his name so much now. 206 00:10:50,960 --> 00:10:56,240 Speaker 2: If he is seven, I don't know, and he really 207 00:10:56,280 --> 00:11:00,560 Speaker 2: wants to go with Jase because they're super tight or something, 208 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:04,040 Speaker 2: then I could see maybe being like can he go 209 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:07,800 Speaker 2: over and play with jas on your night or whatever? 210 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 2: Like I could almost see. And people have said that 211 00:11:10,040 --> 00:11:12,800 Speaker 2: that's happened in their co parenting situations when they've had 212 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 2: other kids. 213 00:11:13,960 --> 00:11:15,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, that makes sense. I don't really thought about that. 214 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:19,560 Speaker 2: But because it's like he'll be sad to see his 215 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:21,960 Speaker 2: right if he still wants to hang out with them, 216 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:23,840 Speaker 2: or he wants to go to a game, like, hey, 217 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:26,480 Speaker 2: he really wants to go see his whatever. So I 218 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:29,360 Speaker 2: could see that happening, and I hope that we could 219 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:31,200 Speaker 2: get to that place. That would be really great for them. 220 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:36,679 Speaker 2: I would if he ever had kids, I would take on. 221 00:11:36,760 --> 00:11:39,439 Speaker 2: But I would never give like that would be I 222 00:11:39,480 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 2: think that'd be Alan wouldn't like that. I want. Yeah, 223 00:11:42,360 --> 00:11:43,760 Speaker 2: it's just you know what I mean, It's just it's 224 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:46,000 Speaker 2: not his like there has to be certain boundaries or 225 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:46,240 Speaker 2: on that. 226 00:11:46,360 --> 00:11:49,520 Speaker 1: Yeah too, I'd agree with that, yeah. 227 00:11:49,320 --> 00:11:52,720 Speaker 2: Because that's just I don't know. I mean, if not 228 00:11:52,800 --> 00:11:53,559 Speaker 2: his kid. 229 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:58,000 Speaker 1: At a game and like your hands are full and 230 00:11:58,040 --> 00:11:58,839 Speaker 1: you're like, hey, hold the. 231 00:11:58,760 --> 00:12:01,280 Speaker 2: Baby real fast, I still wouldn't do that. 232 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:04,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the only way I could see it, being 233 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 1: kind of. 234 00:12:04,920 --> 00:12:06,559 Speaker 2: Like, obviously he's going to meet the baby. 235 00:12:07,240 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 1: I bet he asked to hold the baby. I'm taking 236 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:12,760 Speaker 1: that bet he's gonna I. 237 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:15,040 Speaker 2: Wouldn't say no, But it's not like i'd be like, here, 238 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:15,840 Speaker 2: take my baby. 239 00:12:15,960 --> 00:12:17,720 Speaker 1: Well, and that feels a little like, hey, guess what, 240 00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:20,400 Speaker 1: I'm remarried, happy in having a baby. Would you like 241 00:12:20,440 --> 00:12:20,920 Speaker 1: to hold him. 242 00:12:21,040 --> 00:12:24,080 Speaker 2: Yeah. No, I mean if he asked, and I'd be like, yeah, sure, yeah, 243 00:12:24,880 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 2: I think he would to hold is if he had one. 244 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:29,520 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my good because you know, because I'd 245 00:12:29,520 --> 00:12:31,440 Speaker 2: be so happy. Yeah, like him and his I. 246 00:12:31,400 --> 00:12:35,960 Speaker 1: Mean he has already been like, hell's our baby. Oh 247 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:38,839 Speaker 1: but I mean that's a that's a good question. 248 00:12:39,280 --> 00:12:42,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, interesting that you wouldn't either though. 249 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 1: It's yeah, yeah, no, I mean it just again, well 250 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:47,000 Speaker 1: I wouldn't. 251 00:12:47,040 --> 00:12:50,640 Speaker 2: I would give the baby to outan the dad. 252 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 1: Right, I guess yeah. I mean unless Alan wasn't there 253 00:12:55,120 --> 00:12:58,480 Speaker 1: he needed help or something. No, I just yeah, it 254 00:12:58,520 --> 00:13:01,959 Speaker 1: does feel little, but I hadn't thought about when he's older. 255 00:13:02,520 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think only just older, Like they maybe want 256 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:07,680 Speaker 2: to sleep over, and he probably wants to, like and 257 00:13:07,679 --> 00:13:08,760 Speaker 2: it's his weekend. 258 00:13:08,480 --> 00:13:10,319 Speaker 1: And it's going to be so far removed at that point. 259 00:13:10,440 --> 00:13:12,240 Speaker 2: Yeah. 260 00:13:12,280 --> 00:13:14,440 Speaker 1: What is your daughter's relationship with Alan? 261 00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:19,560 Speaker 2: Like, their relationship is so sweet. You know, he taught 262 00:13:19,559 --> 00:13:22,600 Speaker 2: her how to ride a bike and he was so 263 00:13:23,080 --> 00:13:28,160 Speaker 2: patient with her. It was so beautiful, and you know 264 00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:32,400 Speaker 2: he's always wanting to help her with soccer. That relationship 265 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:35,959 Speaker 2: has been been really really cool to see. And then 266 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:38,679 Speaker 2: also with Jace too, because Jace when the he'll come 267 00:13:38,679 --> 00:13:40,360 Speaker 2: in and like lean on him now and like cuddle 268 00:13:40,400 --> 00:13:43,960 Speaker 2: with them, and it's just it's beautiful to watch him 269 00:13:45,120 --> 00:13:48,600 Speaker 2: be this bonus dad for the kiddos and because they really, 270 00:13:48,640 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 2: I mean, they're spending seventy percent of the time with him, 271 00:13:51,320 --> 00:13:54,839 Speaker 2: and like they're they they they love them and it's 272 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:56,600 Speaker 2: cute and they're part of you know, when we say 273 00:13:56,640 --> 00:14:00,200 Speaker 2: prayers at night, Jaces like, I love daddy, Allen know, 274 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:01,800 Speaker 2: and so it's it's just really cute. 275 00:14:02,280 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 1: Do you think that's hard on Mike. 276 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:07,160 Speaker 2: I think at first it was, but I know that 277 00:14:07,280 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 2: he knows that Alan's a good addition to the right 278 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:15,000 Speaker 2: the family and that. But he also know And I 279 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:20,280 Speaker 2: had to have a conversation with Mike too because I 280 00:14:20,320 --> 00:14:25,880 Speaker 2: think Jace had called might not think Jace called Alan dad, 281 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:31,120 Speaker 2: And so it was one of those conversations where every 282 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,800 Speaker 2: therapist and everything says, you let the kids call the 283 00:14:34,840 --> 00:14:38,680 Speaker 2: person whatever they want to call them, And so, yes, 284 00:14:38,760 --> 00:14:41,480 Speaker 2: it'd be hard for me to hear my kids call, 285 00:14:41,600 --> 00:14:46,400 Speaker 2: but I also know that like I'm mom and they 286 00:14:46,440 --> 00:14:51,400 Speaker 2: have one like I'm their mom, they might have an 287 00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:55,800 Speaker 2: awesome bonus stepmom. One day, but like, I know, I 288 00:14:55,880 --> 00:14:57,480 Speaker 2: know that I'm mom whether they want to call them 289 00:14:57,480 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 2: whatever they want to call them, and I'm always like, 290 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:02,280 Speaker 2: call him whatever you want. So Jace calls him Alan 291 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:06,640 Speaker 2: Todallen like he's just like Alan Badallen. He's like Alan Badallen, 292 00:15:07,160 --> 00:15:08,960 Speaker 2: Like I don't know why, but that's like his little 293 00:15:09,040 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 2: nickname for him. 294 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:11,560 Speaker 1: So did he only call him dad once? Like was 295 00:15:11,560 --> 00:15:12,920 Speaker 1: he talking to Mike or did he? 296 00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:16,880 Speaker 2: Yeah? He said like because he had called me and 297 00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 2: was just like, hey, so like Jace just called him dad, 298 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:22,640 Speaker 2: and I was like, listen, you know, I thought we 299 00:15:22,640 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 2: weren't doing that. And I'm like I can't tell him, like, 300 00:15:25,720 --> 00:15:29,240 Speaker 2: don't call him that because you know, he's also confused 301 00:15:29,240 --> 00:15:31,320 Speaker 2: because he was asking about the baby and about what 302 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:33,080 Speaker 2: the baby was gonna call Alan. I was like, well, 303 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 2: he's gonna call him daddy. He's like, but he's Allan. 304 00:15:36,280 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 2: I'm like, right, but this is his daddy. I was like, 305 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:41,720 Speaker 2: just like when we get married, he'll be your stepdad. 306 00:15:41,800 --> 00:15:43,280 Speaker 2: And he's just like, well, what do I call him? 307 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 2: I was like, you can call him whatever you want, baby, 308 00:15:45,040 --> 00:15:48,040 Speaker 2: you can call him dad, you can call him Alan, 309 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:52,640 Speaker 2: you can call him literally whatever you want, dinosaur, whatever 310 00:15:52,720 --> 00:15:55,640 Speaker 2: you want. Yeah, and so and they both just stuck 311 00:15:55,680 --> 00:16:00,960 Speaker 2: with Alan now. But sometimes like he'll he'll say like dad, 312 00:16:01,440 --> 00:16:04,400 Speaker 2: but then he changes it right back to Alan. So 313 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 2: and I just we don't make any any window like 314 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:09,720 Speaker 2: we don't we don't say anything really around it. We're 315 00:16:09,760 --> 00:16:10,960 Speaker 2: just kind of let him do it. 316 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:13,760 Speaker 1: And you wouldn't want him to feel any guilt or 317 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:15,080 Speaker 1: shame around it. And he did. 318 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:17,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's what I and you know, Mike and 319 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 2: I had a great conversation. It's like, end of the day, 320 00:16:19,920 --> 00:16:23,280 Speaker 2: they know your dad, they know. But and Alan's just 321 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:25,840 Speaker 2: an amazing addition to love our kids, just like the 322 00:16:25,880 --> 00:16:29,080 Speaker 2: next person that you were with that you marry will 323 00:16:29,080 --> 00:16:31,040 Speaker 2: be a great addition to love the kids. Like people 324 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:33,880 Speaker 2: loving your kids is great. And you always told me that. 325 00:16:34,120 --> 00:16:36,760 Speaker 2: Yeah in the beginning, absolutely, but I was like, no, 326 00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:39,080 Speaker 2: no one will ever like I'm the only but she 327 00:16:39,240 --> 00:16:42,560 Speaker 2: was so young. Sure, I mean, it's hard, but now 328 00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:43,800 Speaker 2: I'm like, they know I'm mom. 329 00:16:44,000 --> 00:16:47,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, and I don't think that it's not 330 00:16:47,320 --> 00:16:51,480 Speaker 1: going to somewhat still be hard for you personally. I 331 00:16:51,520 --> 00:16:54,120 Speaker 1: think it's very different and it's not all I. 332 00:16:54,080 --> 00:16:56,400 Speaker 2: Think it's different because I have them seventy percent of time, 333 00:16:56,520 --> 00:16:58,560 Speaker 2: so they're not going to have the time. I think 334 00:16:58,600 --> 00:17:00,720 Speaker 2: that's where and that's something that you know, you can 335 00:17:00,760 --> 00:17:03,480 Speaker 2: even talk to Mike when he's on the podcast, like 336 00:17:04,080 --> 00:17:07,920 Speaker 2: because he's technically Alan spends more time with the kids 337 00:17:07,920 --> 00:17:11,040 Speaker 2: than Mike. So for me, that's where it's like that 338 00:17:11,080 --> 00:17:13,360 Speaker 2: would be hard on me, But that's I don't they're 339 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:17,600 Speaker 2: just going to have this time with this whoever you 340 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:19,880 Speaker 2: know what I mean, really not going. 341 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:21,600 Speaker 1: To be It would just be kind of like a 342 00:17:21,680 --> 00:17:24,200 Speaker 1: that first initial like hearing it, like I can ever 343 00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:26,800 Speaker 1: I could understand that. I mean, I think you'll be fine. 344 00:17:26,800 --> 00:17:28,639 Speaker 1: I'm not saying yeah, you won't, but I still feel 345 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:30,160 Speaker 1: like that would be like a weird. 346 00:17:30,280 --> 00:17:33,080 Speaker 2: It rolls reversed. That's what he kept saying, and I'm like, yeah, 347 00:17:33,080 --> 00:17:35,159 Speaker 2: but again, I'm with them so much that I just 348 00:17:35,200 --> 00:17:37,960 Speaker 2: don't think, yeah, that time would even quit. 349 00:17:38,200 --> 00:17:41,760 Speaker 1: Well, And I think again, my my opinion on it 350 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:45,439 Speaker 1: is you can have a feeling around it. That doesn't 351 00:17:45,440 --> 00:17:47,760 Speaker 1: mean that you need to correct the child. That doesn't 352 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:50,960 Speaker 1: mean that that's how it needs to yeah, because that 353 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:52,520 Speaker 1: would be awful for him to see. 354 00:17:52,520 --> 00:17:54,719 Speaker 2: Well, and I had to tell like I had to 355 00:17:54,720 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 2: remind Mike. I was like, I'm not saying like, you 356 00:17:56,359 --> 00:17:57,840 Speaker 2: have to call him, do you know what I mean? 357 00:17:57,840 --> 00:18:00,639 Speaker 2: Like I would never do that, Like I'm always like Dad, like, 358 00:18:00,680 --> 00:18:03,040 Speaker 2: let's call daddy, you know what I mean. Like then 359 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:06,000 Speaker 2: then this is also what he says, normal dad or 360 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:10,119 Speaker 2: real daddy. So I'm just like Dad and Alan, you know, 361 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:12,480 Speaker 2: so it's just and then you know, I'm like, and 362 00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:13,520 Speaker 2: then I might figure it out. 363 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:16,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, and then once you've got the other little babes 364 00:18:16,320 --> 00:18:19,280 Speaker 1: running around saying daddy, it's gonna get a little trick. Yeah. 365 00:18:19,359 --> 00:18:21,240 Speaker 2: But again, like I think it was good for him, 366 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:23,359 Speaker 2: like for my ex to hear like I'm not like 367 00:18:23,920 --> 00:18:27,000 Speaker 2: telling him I have to call him and you are 368 00:18:27,119 --> 00:18:29,240 Speaker 2: dad like, because I want him to feel because that 369 00:18:29,359 --> 00:18:32,320 Speaker 2: has to be hard. I can empathize that would be 370 00:18:32,359 --> 00:18:35,040 Speaker 2: really hard to be in a situation where my kids 371 00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:37,840 Speaker 2: are with someone else more than which is why I'm 372 00:18:37,840 --> 00:18:40,400 Speaker 2: always very mindful, like I'm like, hey, you know you're 373 00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:41,960 Speaker 2: gonna be away from the kids more than a week. 374 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:43,879 Speaker 2: We want to do want to switch days, so it's 375 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 2: it's it's, uh, you know, you can see them, and 376 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:49,800 Speaker 2: so I'm I'm very mindful of that for that reason. 377 00:18:50,160 --> 00:19:07,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, okay, switching gears a little bit. How much Okay, 378 00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:09,520 Speaker 1: so from Becca, how much pressure do you put on 379 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:12,680 Speaker 1: yourself to bounce back after baby and continue to look 380 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:14,879 Speaker 1: as good as you enter your forties. 381 00:19:16,640 --> 00:19:20,639 Speaker 2: So I got into this a little bit with Alan 382 00:19:20,720 --> 00:19:24,920 Speaker 2: because he was like, I saw a photo on Instagram 383 00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:28,000 Speaker 2: of when you know, I used to take those pictures 384 00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:31,960 Speaker 2: of myself in the gym mirror, and I was just like, 385 00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 2: oh man, I was like I had a you know, 386 00:19:36,280 --> 00:19:38,919 Speaker 2: a pretty good stomach going on there, Like it was 387 00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:42,240 Speaker 2: I felt really good. It took me a couple of 388 00:19:42,320 --> 00:19:44,680 Speaker 2: years from Jason. Then after my divorce, I lost a 389 00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:48,360 Speaker 2: little bit of weight, so I felt really good and strong, 390 00:19:48,560 --> 00:19:50,480 Speaker 2: like I was running and working out and so I 391 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:55,280 Speaker 2: felt muscular, and I just I felt good. And I 392 00:19:55,320 --> 00:19:57,560 Speaker 2: got a little like, oh, it's gonna be so hard 393 00:19:57,600 --> 00:19:59,720 Speaker 2: because that took me two years to get to that 394 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:02,120 Speaker 2: point like after JS. He's like, You're going to bounce 395 00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:04,680 Speaker 2: right back, And I'm like, Babe, you don't understand being 396 00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:08,959 Speaker 2: a female's hard. Our metabolism, my age, like, it's not 397 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:11,080 Speaker 2: going to be that easy, because I think for guys 398 00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:13,560 Speaker 2: it's so easy to like bounce right back and eat 399 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:15,199 Speaker 2: good and work out and you're just going to be 400 00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:16,840 Speaker 2: like shredded again, and like it's not that easy for 401 00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:22,199 Speaker 2: women in our age three kids. Yeah, and so I 402 00:20:22,280 --> 00:20:25,760 Speaker 2: started to get a little defeated. Having said that. In 403 00:20:25,800 --> 00:20:30,679 Speaker 2: my mind, I'm like, I want to not put the 404 00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 2: pressure of being the same size that I was pre JS. Yes, 405 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:37,479 Speaker 2: I have to somehow evolve to what is it going 406 00:20:37,560 --> 00:20:41,119 Speaker 2: to look like? Because I just want to be like healthy. 407 00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:42,720 Speaker 2: But it's I think it's gonna mess with me a 408 00:20:42,760 --> 00:20:44,760 Speaker 2: little bit if I'm being completely honest. 409 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:48,080 Speaker 1: Well, it might look different on the scale, it might 410 00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:51,000 Speaker 1: look different in clothes, and might that's the thing, it's 411 00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:51,840 Speaker 1: so different. 412 00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:53,399 Speaker 2: Yeah, after you. 413 00:20:53,440 --> 00:20:55,159 Speaker 1: Might be in the same size, you might be in 414 00:20:55,280 --> 00:20:56,920 Speaker 1: the same on the scale, but you still like you 415 00:20:56,960 --> 00:21:00,199 Speaker 1: have a belly or you know or whatever. Well that's 416 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:03,520 Speaker 1: also other people were asking about that. So from Jenna, 417 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:06,240 Speaker 1: as women, why do we pick apart our parents our appearance? 418 00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:08,879 Speaker 1: And wait, why do we do that? And how do 419 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:09,679 Speaker 1: we change that? 420 00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:14,680 Speaker 2: Well, I will say, someone from my work setting said, 421 00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:16,480 Speaker 2: how soon do you think you get back in shape? 422 00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:17,919 Speaker 1: Oh? Not me? 423 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:22,240 Speaker 2: So I'm clear, no, not you, But wow, that is 424 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:26,080 Speaker 2: the pressure of the industry to go when when can 425 00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:30,040 Speaker 2: you get back too in shape? And I was just like, 426 00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:34,119 Speaker 2: I don't know, give me like two months maybe, or 427 00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:36,280 Speaker 2: like in my mind, I'm like, it's it's going to 428 00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:39,320 Speaker 2: take way longer than that. But I think it's the 429 00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:44,000 Speaker 2: society saying this is what we have to We have 430 00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:47,919 Speaker 2: to bounce back, and we have to h and it 431 00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:49,639 Speaker 2: needs to be fast. But I'm like, it's not fast. 432 00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:52,240 Speaker 2: That's not reality. And so I'm just going to go 433 00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:55,560 Speaker 2: at my own pace and eat healthy and work out 434 00:21:55,640 --> 00:22:00,240 Speaker 2: the best that I can and find my new body 435 00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:02,880 Speaker 2: because it's gonna look different. And I think that's what 436 00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:07,000 Speaker 2: I have to remember is in every phase in my life, 437 00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:08,720 Speaker 2: my body has changed, and now this is going to 438 00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:10,159 Speaker 2: be my new body. So I'm going to try to 439 00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:11,399 Speaker 2: embrace the new body. 440 00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:15,560 Speaker 1: Do you think not to negate every woman feeling that 441 00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:18,239 Speaker 1: way in the least, but do you think that there 442 00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:22,800 Speaker 1: is an extra pressure being in the limelight, being in 443 00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:26,000 Speaker 1: front of people to get back to a certain weight, 444 00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:29,560 Speaker 1: to be a certain weight, and to bounce back quicker. 445 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:31,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, but I remember I also got ridiculed for it 446 00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:32,439 Speaker 2: for Jason. 447 00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:34,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, you sure did. 448 00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:37,080 Speaker 2: I posted, Yes, I posted a photo and I was like, 449 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:42,120 Speaker 2: a couple of weeks postpartum, yeah, and I got yeah, 450 00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:46,720 Speaker 2: I got a crap for a having a flatish stomach? 451 00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:51,719 Speaker 2: Can I forgot about what what like this is? 452 00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:53,280 Speaker 1: It's one of those standards. 453 00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:56,560 Speaker 2: So I think I'm just gonna I don't know how 454 00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:59,679 Speaker 2: I'm going to go about it, but I I'm gonna 455 00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:03,120 Speaker 2: just again, I have to just know that I cannot 456 00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:07,800 Speaker 2: compare photos of back then, right of even a year ago. 457 00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:11,440 Speaker 1: Well, and I think just go yeah, But I also 458 00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:13,560 Speaker 1: think to answer kind of that question, well, also for 459 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:15,840 Speaker 1: like women in general, like you're going to bounce back 460 00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:18,119 Speaker 1: differently than I'm going to bounce back, right, you know, 461 00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 1: like our all of our bodies are so different. I 462 00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:22,360 Speaker 1: start a different size than you start, you know. So 463 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:24,639 Speaker 1: it's like it's just so different for everyone. And to 464 00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:28,840 Speaker 1: put that pressure on ourselves to compare ourselves. We've talked 465 00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:31,399 Speaker 1: about this a lot, but comparing ourselves to other people 466 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:34,560 Speaker 1: is not fair to us. I could never if I 467 00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:36,439 Speaker 1: was having a baby when we were having babies at 468 00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:38,560 Speaker 1: the same time, I couldn't have compared your progress to 469 00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:41,080 Speaker 1: my progress. That just would not We're just two completely 470 00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:41,800 Speaker 1: different people. 471 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:46,160 Speaker 2: But also you compare yourself to your old yeah body too. Yeah, 472 00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:49,119 Speaker 2: so we do it to ourselves. Yeah, oh absolutely. Yeah, 473 00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:52,200 Speaker 2: And that's the thing that it's not only just. 474 00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:55,199 Speaker 1: You think you compare yourself more to yourself or to 475 00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:55,720 Speaker 1: other people. 476 00:23:58,200 --> 00:24:00,840 Speaker 2: I will probably compare myself to my last because that's 477 00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:06,080 Speaker 2: that's when I felt the best. Yeah, but not so 478 00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:06,879 Speaker 2: much other people. 479 00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:10,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just a it's a fascinating it is. 480 00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:10,680 Speaker 2: What about you? 481 00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:16,119 Speaker 1: Uh, probably other people? 482 00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:17,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, I get it. 483 00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:19,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, probably other people. And I'm not like huge, I've 484 00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:22,439 Speaker 1: definitely gotten better about it. But yeah, definitely. All my 485 00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:25,879 Speaker 1: post pregnancies were about the same until after the like 486 00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:28,720 Speaker 1: I gained the same amount pretty much, I lost the 487 00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:31,600 Speaker 1: same amount. It wasn't until after the third in COVID 488 00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:34,479 Speaker 1: really that I put on that extra twenty thirty pounds 489 00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:36,399 Speaker 1: that you know. So it had nothing to do with 490 00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:38,680 Speaker 1: babies either, So I never really felt that pressure to 491 00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:42,240 Speaker 1: bounce back after baby necessarily. That didn't stress me out. 492 00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:44,600 Speaker 1: I just kind of let that time go. But yeah, 493 00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:47,760 Speaker 1: probably other people. Yeah, but how we stop that, I 494 00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:49,560 Speaker 1: don't know. We do it to ourselves, so that's a 495 00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:50,119 Speaker 1: hard question. 496 00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:53,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I was just talking to Jesse Decker 497 00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:57,640 Speaker 2: about that, because you know she's she's also pregnant, and uh, 498 00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:01,080 Speaker 2: you know it's just this third pregnancy hitting different, and 499 00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:03,720 Speaker 2: you know she's at this star for fourth. But it's 500 00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,840 Speaker 2: just we have to just give ourselves grace and know 501 00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:09,960 Speaker 2: that our bodies are changing and we're a little older, 502 00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:13,040 Speaker 2: and again not compare the past body to the new 503 00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:15,359 Speaker 2: body and embrace the new body and how beautiful it 504 00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:19,119 Speaker 2: is and what it just did. Yeah, so remind me 505 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:19,399 Speaker 2: of that. 506 00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:23,280 Speaker 1: I will. And we've had two of those conversations in 507 00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:24,919 Speaker 1: the last You're like, remind me of this. 508 00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:26,879 Speaker 2: Please remind what was the other? Reminder? 509 00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:28,720 Speaker 1: The dress tonight? 510 00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:33,800 Speaker 2: Oh, the dress? It might not fit. It's fine, fine, Okay, 511 00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:35,560 Speaker 2: Let's let's ask one more. 512 00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:38,000 Speaker 1: Okay from Amy? 513 00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:39,440 Speaker 2: What is me sugarman? 514 00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:43,600 Speaker 1: Of course we have Kristen in here. We have Amy. Now, 515 00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:48,240 Speaker 1: what is your dream for when you're seventy seventy? 516 00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:54,240 Speaker 2: Oh? Man, I would love my family and my friends 517 00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:57,639 Speaker 2: and my grandkids to all be up on our lake house, 518 00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:03,680 Speaker 2: you know, like a couple hours maybe outside of Nashville, 519 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,600 Speaker 2: my dream lake house with all of us and just 520 00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:18,920 Speaker 2: surrounded by family and grandkids and just happy and calm 521 00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:21,360 Speaker 2: and just not just not stress, like I just would 522 00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,800 Speaker 2: love everyone to be around and not and and I 523 00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:26,600 Speaker 2: don't want to be I'd still like to be working. 524 00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:29,959 Speaker 1: I was I was gonna say, are you still working? 525 00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:31,920 Speaker 2: I'm still working. I'd still like to I'll probably be 526 00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:34,879 Speaker 2: the grandma in the Lifetime films. Fine with that, love 527 00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:39,000 Speaker 2: it the mom of the grandma of that's great. But 528 00:26:39,520 --> 00:26:41,159 Speaker 2: I would like to be at a place where we 529 00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:45,760 Speaker 2: can just relax and like just love on our family. 530 00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:47,320 Speaker 1: I love that. 531 00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:48,239 Speaker 2: It's a good way about you. 532 00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:51,000 Speaker 1: I don't know if it'd be a lake house, but 533 00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:54,439 Speaker 1: pretty much the same. Yeah, yeah, lakehouse sounds great on 534 00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:58,879 Speaker 1: land literally, grandkids, traveling with family, taking care of grandkids, 535 00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:04,600 Speaker 1: not working, you're working on your own. I'm kidding. I 536 00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,399 Speaker 1: am going to be retired. I love you well, I 537 00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:07,639 Speaker 1: don't know. 538 00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:10,080 Speaker 2: We'll say, okay, let me know when you're putting your 539 00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:13,760 Speaker 2: notice in a sixty five or you're listening to wind 540 00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:17,119 Speaker 2: Down Podcast live at iHeart Podcast Studio powered by Bows 541 00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:19,920 Speaker 2: at the House of Music at iHeartRadio Music Festival. Thanks 542 00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:20,440 Speaker 2: for listening.