WEBVTT - "MY BOYFRIEND SLEPT WITH MY MOM" 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:04.519 Hello. Hello, is this Sarah? 0:00:03.160 --> 0:00:03.400 It is? 0:00:04.640 --> 0:00:07.240 How are you doing, Sarah? 0:00:07.760 --> 0:00:09.880 I'm doing okay. How are you? 0:00:12.640 --> 0:00:17.000 I'm feeling okay as well? Well, Sarah? How can I 0:00:17.000 --> 0:00:19.279 get you this evening? Is? What's going on with you? 0:00:22.200 --> 0:00:26.160 Well, it's a bit of a bit of a story. 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:34.159 But to summarize, about two years into my relationship with 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:39.879 my boyfriend, he suck with my mother and then I 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:48.800 proceeded to continue the relationship for another five years. So 0:00:49.000 --> 0:00:51.360 and now we're still living together even though we broke 0:00:51.440 --> 0:00:52.520 up about ten months ago. 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:58.200 Really, so you guys have been together for seven years total? 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:01.080 Seven years totally? 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:08.679 Yes, okay? And what did you do after you first 0:01:08.760 --> 0:01:12.160 found out that he had slept with your mom two 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:12.600 years in? 0:01:15.520 --> 0:01:20.279 So immediately I left the house because at the time 0:01:21.240 --> 0:01:25.959 he was living with me and my parents at my parents' house. 0:01:27.520 --> 0:01:33.040 So I immediately left and I went and stayed with 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:37.800 another family member for about a week. But he ended 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:43.440 up coming there and like profusely apologizing, and we basically 0:01:43.480 --> 0:01:45.240 got back together almost immediately. 0:01:47.840 --> 0:01:52.480 And what was it that led you to be able 0:01:52.520 --> 0:01:53.680 to forgive him so fast? 0:01:57.320 --> 0:02:00.600 So I wouldn't say that I forgave him. It was 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:05.640 more so that he made me believe that it didn't happen, 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:09.079 and my mom made me believe that it didn't happen, 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:14.640 and so I thought that, Okay, maybe it didn't happen, 0:02:15.240 --> 0:02:18.600 even though I knew that it happened. But I thought, 0:02:18.960 --> 0:02:22.239 you know what, we can do this. We can pretend 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:24.720 that it didn't happen and then everything can be fine. 0:02:26.120 --> 0:02:31.760 And I thought that that was a good idea. So also, 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:37.360 I kind of want to say that I feel that 0:02:37.720 --> 0:02:43.640 because he was he was nineteen at the time, I 0:02:43.639 --> 0:02:46.280 feel like it was more so reflecting now, it was 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:50.320 more so the blame goes to my mom, right because. 0:02:51.680 --> 0:03:00.320 Right, let's before we get into you know, blame and whatnot. 0:03:00.880 --> 0:03:05.560 Why uh so you you were believed you were you? 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:12.520 Your plan was to just pretend like it didn't happen, Yes, and. 0:03:12.440 --> 0:03:14.000 I feel like I successfully did that. 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:18.000 What was what did they say to you? What did 0:03:18.000 --> 0:03:21.079 they say to you to convince you that it didn't happen. 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:24.320 Were they just profusely lying to you that it didn't happen, 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:27.680 but you had a suspicion that it did. 0:03:28.960 --> 0:03:33.399 Yes, Well, I didn't just have suspicion, like it happened, 0:03:33.639 --> 0:03:40.640 and I saw it happen, and so, but they were 0:03:40.640 --> 0:03:42.400 trying to convince me that it didn't. So, yes, they 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:45.120 were basically just lying and say saying, no, you didn't 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:48.760 see anything, you didn't hear anything, nothing happened. 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:55.640 And how successful were you in pretending like it didn't happen? 0:03:58.320 --> 0:04:01.560 I feel like I was pretty successful successful, and less 0:04:02.440 --> 0:04:05.840 him and I had any sort of disagreements or arguments, 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:09.040 or sometimes I would just sit and think on it 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:10.640 and then I would have to bring it up and 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:13.120 be like, come on, do you want to stop lying 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:15.000 and say they didn't sleep with my mom even though 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:15.320 I know that. 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:15.760 You did. 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:22.200 And you stayed with him for five years after that? 0:04:24.640 --> 0:04:24.880 Yes? 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:31.200 Yeah, And during those five years, how prevalent was this 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:34.440 issue in your mind and in your relationship? 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:43.640 I feel that it was pretty prevalent, especially anytime my 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:48.080 mom and him were together. I couldn't help but think 0:04:48.120 --> 0:04:51.880 about it. Whenever they were in the same room, where 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:55.240 if we were on vacation and you know, they were together, 0:04:57.520 --> 0:04:59.320 I kind of couldn't help but think about it then, 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:01.479 But it was pretty easy to not think about it 0:05:01.560 --> 0:05:03.080 whenever they weren't together. 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:07.599 And why did you guys break up? You said this 0:05:07.680 --> 0:05:09.720 was two weeks ago, you guys broke up? Or did 0:05:09.720 --> 0:05:10.719 I pull that out of nowhere? 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:12.600 Like two months ago? 0:05:12.880 --> 0:05:14.320 Two months ago? Why did you guys break up? Two 0:05:14.320 --> 0:05:14.760 months ago? 0:05:16.440 --> 0:05:18.719 We broke up just because I didn't want to be 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:21.080 with him anymore, not for any specific reason. I just 0:05:21.080 --> 0:05:22.799 felt like the relationships run its course. 0:05:26.080 --> 0:05:30.880 Do you regret at all not breaking up with him 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:33.320 five years ago when you found out that he slept 0:05:33.320 --> 0:05:35.680 with your mom? Or do you stand by that decision? 0:05:38.960 --> 0:05:41.080 Yeah, that's a part that I'm having an issue with 0:05:41.160 --> 0:05:45.440 now is I don't know how I should feel about 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:49.000 it at this point. It happened so long ago. I 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:51.000 don't know if I should be regretting it or not. 0:05:51.120 --> 0:05:54.200 I kind of do, but I also kind of don't 0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:56.320 at the same time. 0:05:57.960 --> 0:06:00.040 Yeah, I mean that's an interesting you know, regrets you 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:02.640 great in general is an interesting thing. I mean, this 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:05.960 is a, you know, a crazy situation that he's left 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:08.760 with your mom. But I think in the general realm 0:06:09.000 --> 0:06:13.239 of people breaking up with their spouses or significant others 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:16.479 or whatever and then going, oh, do I regret that time, 0:06:17.080 --> 0:06:20.680 it's like the debate of whether or not you regret it, 0:06:20.680 --> 0:06:23.440 it's almost irrelevant, right, because that's that time has passed 0:06:24.279 --> 0:06:26.240 and now you only have the time in front of 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:29.080 you to do whatever it is you're going to do. 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:34.039 Right, And that's kind of how I'm trying to look 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:37.960 at it. But it's difficult at times whenever I think about, 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:40.040 oh my god, that was like seven years you know, 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:43.240 I could have done so many other things at that 0:06:43.279 --> 0:06:46.159 point in time, So it's hard to not look at 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:46.760 that way too. 0:06:48.279 --> 0:06:51.640 Do you ever have a confrontation with your mom about this? 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:54.200 Oh? 0:06:54.279 --> 0:06:56.440 Yeah, how did that come down? 0:06:56.920 --> 0:07:01.960 Yeah? So it's basically I've had this converntation with her 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:04.159 several times, and it's always the same thing where she 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:07.719 tells me I'm crazy and that it's a disgusting idea 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:11.400 that she would ever sleep with someone much younger than her, 0:07:12.000 --> 0:07:16.160 and that I'm crazy. That's basically how it goes. 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:21.080 And to this day, five years later, has she still 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:21.600 denied it? 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:24.720 She still denies it. 0:07:24.800 --> 0:07:28.400 Yes, you said you saw them, did you? I mean, 0:07:28.480 --> 0:07:30.120 can you tell me about that? Did you like see 0:07:30.160 --> 0:07:32.720 them in bed with each other? What exactly happened? 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:36.560 Yeah, So it wasn't in bed, It was in the kitchen. 0:07:37.080 --> 0:07:42.040 It was very early in the morning, probably like six 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:50.200 thirty seven am. And I had my suspicions, and so 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:52.840 what I did was he and I were living upstairs 0:07:52.880 --> 0:07:56.040 in my parents' house, so I sat up at the 0:07:56.120 --> 0:07:59.280 very top of the steps to listen for anything because 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:03.120 they were both in the kitchen together, and about five 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:07.400 minutes into dumping in the kitchen together, I started hearing moaning, 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:13.280 lots of moaning, and it continued. So I kind of 0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:15.600 just sat there and all for a second like holy shit, 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:19.040 and I thought to walk in my mom fucking my boyfriend, 0:08:20.440 --> 0:08:22.240 and so that's what I did. I basically like ran 0:08:22.280 --> 0:08:24.520 down the stairs. They heard me running down the stairs, 0:08:24.520 --> 0:08:27.280 so I walked into the kitchen and they're pulling away 0:08:27.280 --> 0:08:27.880 from each other. 0:08:29.640 --> 0:08:32.880 Jesus, I can't believe they did that while you were 0:08:33.000 --> 0:08:35.280 home in the kitchen in the morning. 0:08:38.360 --> 0:08:42.120 Yeah, well, I normally I would sleep late at that 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:45.720 point in time. So I don't think that they thought 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:48.240 that I was awake, And I wouldn't have been awake 0:08:48.320 --> 0:08:52.000 if I weren't suspicious of this happening in the first place. 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:55.800 And so that's the only reason I think that I 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:57.400 called them in the first place. I don't think that 0:08:57.440 --> 0:08:59.040 they would have done it if I was awake, or 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:01.839 if they thought that they would have gotten cult or 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:03.960 maybe they would have. I don't know, but I would 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:04.240 think not. 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:07.840 What is your relationship like with your mom in general? 0:09:12.440 --> 0:09:16.000 Pretty distant? I would say we're not particularly close. 0:09:18.640 --> 0:09:24.440 Has it always been like that, like throughout your your life? 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:25.240 Yeah? 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:28.120 Yeah, I'm much closer with my dad. My dad and 0:09:28.200 --> 0:09:29.960 I are very close. My mom and I am. 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:30.360 Not so much. 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:34.319 Forgot about the dad angle to this. What the fuck 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:34.679 is his? 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:35.240 Yeah? 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:39.640 His deal with all these what's he think? What tell 0:09:39.679 --> 0:09:40.160 me about that? 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:42.480 Mm? 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:49.520 So my parents are married, they're not divorced. They have 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:56.840 a very strange relationship though where he's it's kind of complicated. 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:59.760 They're still married, but they don't really act like they're married, 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:02.200 if that makes sense, Like they kind of just seem 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:06.079 like they're together because they happened for so long. As 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:09.040 far as what he thinks about this, I don't really 0:10:09.040 --> 0:10:13.920 know all that much because I don't know. I kind 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:15.160 of haven't asked him what he. 0:10:15.160 --> 0:10:17.400 Thinks, right, That's what I was going to say. Have 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:20.120 you had a conversation with him directly about this? 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:27.360 I did one time, right after it happened. I told 0:10:27.440 --> 0:10:31.439 him what happened, and he didn't say much of anything 0:10:31.480 --> 0:10:36.040 other than okay. He didn't tell me that I was crazy, though, 0:10:36.120 --> 0:10:40.920 which made me feel better. I guess so. 0:10:41.160 --> 0:10:43.560 Much to say, it sounds like his relationship with your 0:10:43.600 --> 0:10:51.000 mom is kind of distant too. Yes, yeah, so you're 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:54.160 cool with him, you're distant to the mom. Do you 0:10:54.240 --> 0:10:55.000 have any siblings? 0:10:57.480 --> 0:10:59.040 I do, Yes, I have one brother. 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:01.200 What's your what's your brother's take? 0:11:08.360 --> 0:11:11.160 So my brother, I don't think he knows about it, 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:14.000 but he does not like the ex boyfriend at all. 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:18.280 Mm hmm, so he doesn't know though. 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:19.840 HM. 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:22.920 Were you happy during those five years that you stayed 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:26.280 with him? 0:11:26.320 --> 0:11:28.360 Sometimes other times not so much? 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:35.040 What do you think and forgive me if I asked 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:38.640 you this already, h but what do you think kept 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:41.720 you going through those Through those five years of wanting 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:48.079 to keep being with him? 0:11:48.120 --> 0:11:51.640 It was my first serious relationship, and I really wanted 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:55.000 it to work, and I really wanted it to be 0:11:56.840 --> 0:11:59.360 something that it wasn't. I really wanted it to be 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:04.800 like the very loving and serious relationship, and so I 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:07.720 thought that if I put enough effort into it, and 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:10.720 if I lasted long enough in the relationships, that eventually 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:14.160 it would become that. But it never did. 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:23.200 So well, speaking to your thing of whether or not 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:26.120 you want to regret it, whether or not you regret 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:31.800 this time. This is kind of a classic thing with 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:36.360 regret is you know, you had this experience with this 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:39.440 guy over the past five years that turned out to 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:43.000 not go exactly how you wanted it to. But did 0:12:43.000 --> 0:12:46.720 you learn anything that you can use to help you 0:12:46.800 --> 0:12:53.120 navigate your relationships with other people in the future. Yes, 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:55.000 what did you learn? 0:12:57.640 --> 0:13:02.199 I learned to not continue relationship if the partner sleeps 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:04.040 with a parental figure. 0:13:05.360 --> 0:13:07.600 I think that's a good takeaway from this. 0:13:09.600 --> 0:13:14.920 Yeah, take away number one for sure. Take Away number few, 0:13:14.960 --> 0:13:16.040 I think is to have a bit. 0:13:15.920 --> 0:13:17.480 More selffect. 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:19.640 In relationships. 0:13:20.080 --> 0:13:23.920 Mm hmm yeah, m I hope you're not being hard. 0:13:25.800 --> 0:13:29.800 That again, which may ta and nicely to point one. 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:32.880 Yeah, well, I hope you're not being too hard on yourself. 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:35.480 It sounds like you were pretty young and sort of 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:40.440 inexperienced with your relationships when this happened, and it sounds 0:13:40.440 --> 0:13:44.720 like you've you've learned a great deal since then. So 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:50.760 if anything, if you're like in your your retrospective thinking 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:55.640 of of this situation, I would hope you're not being 0:13:56.280 --> 0:14:00.000 hard on the past version of yourself or or regrets 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:04.040 full in a negative way and really just trying to 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:08.160 use it to navigate better in the future. 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:12.640 Yeah, yeah, definitely. 0:14:13.080 --> 0:14:16.000 What's next for you, Sarah? In life? 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:25.520 So I'm going to get my master's degree and so 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:28.960 I'm excited for that. I'm going to stop working in 0:14:29.000 --> 0:14:32.400 my field and go and get my master's degree, and 0:14:32.480 --> 0:14:38.800 so I'm excited for that. As far as relationships goes, 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:42.760 I think I'm gonna not be a relationship for a 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:45.600 while here and just enjoy being single. 0:14:46.760 --> 0:14:49.840 Yeah, I mean, you know, being in a I mean 0:14:49.880 --> 0:14:51.760 this sounds like, Okay, so you're twenty six, so this 0:14:51.840 --> 0:14:56.560 was from nineteen to twenty six, these seven years. I 0:14:56.640 --> 0:14:59.280 really look at those, you know, that feels like that 0:14:59.360 --> 0:15:03.680 time period there's a lot of self discovery going on 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:07.680 there that feels like it's hard to really dig your 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:12.640 teeth into if you're dating somebody, and now that you're single, 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:15.960 you you can sink your teeth into a lot of 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:20.520 that self discovery that you you might have skipped over. 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:26.520 Yeah, I definitely agree, Sarah. 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:27.720 Is there anything you want to say to the people 0:15:27.720 --> 0:15:28.840 of the computer before we go? 0:15:31.760 --> 0:15:33.760 I don't get thank you so much. 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:36.760 I appreciate it, of course, have a good night, sir, 0:15:38.640 --> 0:15:45.320 you too. Hello is this Tyler? This is what's going 0:15:45.400 --> 0:15:46.120 on with you? Tyler? 0:15:48.520 --> 0:15:50.480 Uh? You know, just chilling? 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:56.000 What's what's chilling? Talking to you? What do you do 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:56.600 when you're chilling? 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:01.560 Lank down, relaxed? 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:10.160 Tyler from North Carolina. It says here that you have 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:17.359 epilepsy and that when you were younger, used to intentionally 0:16:17.520 --> 0:16:21.800 give yourself seizures to get out of school. 0:16:24.480 --> 0:16:31.080 Yeah. Yeah, that started in like sixth grade. 0:16:32.960 --> 0:16:37.400 Okay, how does one intentionally give themselves a seizure? 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:37.800 Do you? Like? 0:16:38.160 --> 0:16:42.560 Do you go on YouTube and search for like flashing 0:16:42.640 --> 0:16:43.720 light videos and shit? 0:16:46.360 --> 0:16:48.480 So I'm actually kind of glad that you brought that up, 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:51.480 because there's a lot of different types of ways you 0:16:51.480 --> 0:16:58.200 can get seizures through epilepsy. A common way is through 0:16:58.280 --> 0:17:01.600 flashing lights. But for me, it was a sleep and 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:06.360 along with not taking my medicine. So what I would 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:07.960 do is I would like kind of pick out a 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:09.679 day that I didn't want to go to school. So 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:12.159 like there's a test on Friday, I don't want to 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:13.800 go to school on Friday. I would just not take 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:17.680 my medicine on Wednesday and Thursday and then on Friday, 0:17:17.720 --> 0:17:19.840 I would have it easier and I'd get out of 0:17:19.840 --> 0:17:23.000 the test and I'd be like, all right, that's cool. 0:17:23.400 --> 0:17:24.560 Just don't have to do it today. I can just 0:17:24.600 --> 0:17:26.480 do it Monday in study on Saturday and Sunday. 0:17:28.280 --> 0:17:38.520 That's pretty Uh, it's pretty five head moves. Yeah, yeah, 0:17:38.640 --> 0:17:41.840 So was this a sustainable practice for you? Did this ever? 0:17:43.080 --> 0:17:45.240 Like fire back at you? Anyhow? 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:53.639 It ticks me and the H gives me in the 0:17:53.680 --> 0:17:58.000 butt coming up in high school because I have to 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:03.119 go live with six months without having a seizure in 0:18:03.280 --> 0:18:06.560 order to get cleared primary doctor for Hriver's license. So 0:18:06.680 --> 0:18:11.720 I didn't get my learners from it until I was seventeen, 0:18:13.320 --> 0:18:17.159 and then did to get my driver's license until I 0:18:17.200 --> 0:18:23.359 think it's like six or eight months after turning eighteen. Mmmm. 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:27.760 So you couldn't use the yeah, the old seizure trick 0:18:28.960 --> 0:18:34.480 to uh have a Tyler Buehler's day off for six months. 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:40.960 No, No, however, I would just I would just say 0:18:41.040 --> 0:18:44.040 that I had I was having a reaction to my medicine. 0:18:45.880 --> 0:18:47.560 And then and then they kind of say that I, 0:18:48.880 --> 0:18:52.680 uh was lying because they didn't know if I was 0:18:52.720 --> 0:18:55.280 lying or not, and then they couldn't like say that 0:18:55.320 --> 0:18:57.200 I had to wait another six months because I wasn't 0:18:57.240 --> 0:18:59.959 like actually having fear. It was just a reaction to medicine. 0:19:00.240 --> 0:19:04.600 Let me ask you this. Can I ask you this, Tyler? Why, yeah, 0:19:04.640 --> 0:19:09.040 did you intentionally give yourself a seizure to get out 0:19:09.040 --> 0:19:12.639 of class? Could you not have just I mean, I 0:19:12.680 --> 0:19:15.760 assume like, Okay, you didn't take your medicine and you 0:19:15.840 --> 0:19:18.359 stayed away because you like timed a seizure so that 0:19:18.760 --> 0:19:21.800 your mom would see you having a seizure and go, oh, Tyler, 0:19:21.840 --> 0:19:23.880 you can't go to school today because you're seasoned up. 0:19:24.560 --> 0:19:26.640 Why did did if you were gonna do all that, 0:19:27.359 --> 0:19:30.040 why wouldn't you have just faked having a seizure? Why 0:19:30.080 --> 0:19:32.440 did you give yourself a real one? 0:19:35.040 --> 0:19:38.760 Well, it turned out as being real seizures. And then 0:19:38.800 --> 0:19:42.840 I figured out that I could just say that I 0:19:42.880 --> 0:19:45.120 had a seizure, you know, up in my room, right. 0:19:45.760 --> 0:19:47.880 I feel like, if you're going to use the epilepsy 0:19:47.920 --> 0:19:50.800 thing to get out of going to school, it, yeah, 0:19:50.880 --> 0:19:53.320 you could just say you could just fake it instead 0:19:53.320 --> 0:19:55.320 of actually trying to give yourself. 0:19:57.359 --> 0:19:59.320 Yeah, I could just I coul sake it. And I 0:19:59.320 --> 0:20:02.160 think I fake for like three years, and that really 0:20:02.160 --> 0:20:02.840 backfrighte on me. 0:20:03.840 --> 0:20:05.720 Tell me more about how you I think that it. 0:20:05.720 --> 0:20:09.400 Was still acknowledged. Yeah, it was still acknowledges like being 0:20:09.480 --> 0:20:13.159 a real seizure. So medicine was adjusted and increased, and 0:20:13.359 --> 0:20:16.639 I started taking into my high doses doses of like 0:20:16.800 --> 0:20:20.960 medicine and I would actually have bad reactions to it, 0:20:21.440 --> 0:20:24.840 so then they had to lower it. And then yeah, 0:20:25.359 --> 0:20:28.080 so now I'm taking like this insane like cocktail medicine. 0:20:31.080 --> 0:20:34.800 It's not the best and I probably don't have to 0:20:34.880 --> 0:20:38.760 take that much. But because of what I did, that's 0:20:38.960 --> 0:20:42.280 now what I it's what assumed is what I have 0:20:42.400 --> 0:20:42.680 to take. 0:20:45.800 --> 0:20:49.439 That's wild man. So you were lying about having seizures, 0:20:50.000 --> 0:20:54.800 and so your doctors upped your medicine dosage, and so 0:20:55.840 --> 0:20:59.840 instead of coming clean about lying, you just straight took 0:21:00.640 --> 0:21:01.640 the higher dosage. 0:21:04.080 --> 0:21:04.280 Yeah. 0:21:04.400 --> 0:21:07.040 So it's it's like, it's not even joking. I think 0:21:07.080 --> 0:21:14.600 it's over your two thousand miligrams in the evening and 0:21:15.200 --> 0:21:17.760 someone seen one hundred and fifty miligrams in the morning. 0:21:19.280 --> 0:21:21.040 And do you still take that high of a dosage 0:21:21.119 --> 0:21:26.080 to this day, Yes, yes, still to this day has 0:21:26.160 --> 0:21:29.359 something as it has Okay, because it sounds like you 0:21:29.440 --> 0:21:32.360 were you were faking these seizures like a while ago. 0:21:32.400 --> 0:21:34.040 It says you're twenty now, when you were doing this 0:21:34.160 --> 0:21:38.200 in sixth grade, did your body just like adjust to 0:21:38.359 --> 0:21:41.800 the higher dosage and now you genuinely do need a 0:21:41.880 --> 0:21:42.560 higher dosage? 0:21:44.680 --> 0:21:50.199 Probably, I mean likely that's what happened. 0:21:50.680 --> 0:21:52.840 Did you ever tell your doctor like, hey, I was 0:21:52.920 --> 0:21:56.560 just kidding about those seizures? You know, what, what do 0:21:56.640 --> 0:21:57.800 we do here with the medicine? 0:21:59.600 --> 0:22:02.960 I mean, my parents were in the room during the 0:22:03.080 --> 0:22:07.000 exam orything, so I've been too afraid to say anything 0:22:07.040 --> 0:22:08.600 about it because they don't know about this. 0:22:09.240 --> 0:22:11.359 But Tyler, you're Tyler, You're twenty years old right now. 0:22:11.359 --> 0:22:14.240 Why don't you go to the doctor and sid, Hey, listen, 0:22:14.359 --> 0:22:17.000 this is a little fucked up, But I well faked 0:22:17.000 --> 0:22:19.240 a whole bunch of seizures when I was younger, and 0:22:19.320 --> 0:22:22.119 so my doctor put me on this medicine and I 0:22:22.280 --> 0:22:25.159 need you to help me correct all of this stuff 0:22:25.200 --> 0:22:26.359 I've gotten myself into. 0:22:28.400 --> 0:22:31.000 Yeah, so due to due to COVID, I haven't seen 0:22:31.040 --> 0:22:34.160 him since two years ago. 0:22:37.040 --> 0:22:39.520 So you've just been taking this higher dosage two years 0:22:40.160 --> 0:22:44.200 that has decided upon you based on you faking seizures 0:22:44.240 --> 0:22:45.520 to get out of a test while you were in 0:22:45.560 --> 0:22:51.680 middle school. Yes, Tyler, you should go to the door. 0:22:52.280 --> 0:22:53.399 Tyler should go to the doctor. 0:22:53.760 --> 0:23:01.560 I know, I know, doctor. If it's already been addressed 0:23:01.600 --> 0:23:05.240 that if, if if the medicine were to be decreased 0:23:05.320 --> 0:23:09.040 to a much lower amount, or to be taken off 0:23:09.080 --> 0:23:12.240 at all, then I'd have to be hospitalized and monitored 0:23:12.320 --> 0:23:14.760 for two weeks to see the effects of how that 0:23:14.800 --> 0:23:19.800 would affect me and majorly affect my job. 0:23:21.800 --> 0:23:26.200 Okay, So so you could go to take a lower dose, 0:23:26.320 --> 0:23:28.720 but you would have to be in the hospital monitored 0:23:28.840 --> 0:23:31.000 to see how it would go. And you don't want 0:23:31.000 --> 0:23:31.320 to deal. 0:23:31.200 --> 0:23:37.320 With that, yes, And and that would affect my job 0:23:37.600 --> 0:23:40.960 majorly because if I do have a seizure in that time, 0:23:41.040 --> 0:23:42.560 then I cannot drive for six months. 0:23:46.600 --> 0:23:47.480 What was this test? 0:23:51.200 --> 0:23:53.280 It dud? It was It was a history test. 0:23:53.400 --> 0:23:53.560 Man. 0:23:53.680 --> 0:23:57.280 I don't know why I didn't just take the test. 0:23:58.280 --> 0:24:01.040 It's not worth it. 0:24:07.760 --> 0:24:10.119 What do you what do you Is your job involved driving? 0:24:12.480 --> 0:24:16.560 Uh? Yeah, I'm a technician. I work on cars every day. 0:24:17.200 --> 0:24:22.159 Okay, yeah, well do you know the what are the 0:24:22.640 --> 0:24:26.080 like like this higher dosage? Is it negatively affecting you 0:24:26.200 --> 0:24:28.840 in any way. Has your doctor told you that's bad 0:24:28.960 --> 0:24:29.159 for you? 0:24:29.320 --> 0:24:34.840 Have you not negatively affecting me? It's not negatively affecting 0:24:34.880 --> 0:24:38.159 me at all. It's just brought up that it's a 0:24:38.240 --> 0:24:41.320 little higher than normal. But if it don't affect me, 0:24:41.400 --> 0:24:42.320 then it's not a concern. 0:24:44.160 --> 0:24:47.240 Dude, before okay, but before you commit to okay, but 0:24:47.359 --> 0:24:51.119 even without even committing to, we're gonna do the lower 0:24:51.200 --> 0:24:56.399 dosage and we're gonna put you in the hospital and 0:24:56.520 --> 0:24:59.639 monitor without even committing to all that, can you go 0:24:59.760 --> 0:25:04.440 to a doctor and be like, hey, here's this whole situation. 0:25:05.160 --> 0:25:05.960 What do you think? 0:25:08.720 --> 0:25:08.840 Oh? 0:25:08.920 --> 0:25:14.359 Easily? Absolutely, then do that at least, Yeah, yeah, I 0:25:14.400 --> 0:25:14.840 can do that. 0:25:17.640 --> 0:25:19.119 When's the last time you had a seizure? 0:25:25.119 --> 0:25:29.439 Can that's a good question, like actually had a seizure? 0:25:30.560 --> 0:25:30.720 Yeah? 0:25:30.960 --> 0:25:34.200 Not just like bullshit at the seizure. Okay, probably like 0:25:34.760 --> 0:25:36.480 twenty eighteen, twenty nineteen. 0:25:37.160 --> 0:25:38.840 When's the last time you bullshitted a seizure? 0:25:41.040 --> 0:25:43.560 Oh yeah, twenty twenty twenty. 0:25:44.600 --> 0:25:46.359 Tell her how often are you faking seizure? 0:25:53.440 --> 0:25:56.680 Too often? Definitely too often? 0:25:57.560 --> 0:25:57.760 What what? 0:25:57.960 --> 0:25:59.919 What did you fake the seizure? Four and twenty two? 0:26:03.200 --> 0:26:06.920 I'm pretty sure I faked it to get out of 0:26:07.280 --> 0:26:09.960 a final exam. Mhmm. 0:26:11.960 --> 0:26:13.440 If you have you ever been pulled over by a 0:26:13.520 --> 0:26:15.480 cop and you've faked a seizure to get out of 0:26:15.480 --> 0:26:19.600 a parking ticket or or traffic violation, over is no 0:26:19.720 --> 0:26:19.920 no no. 0:26:20.440 --> 0:26:23.600 However, however, I was pulled over for going over one 0:26:23.640 --> 0:26:25.720 hundred miles an hour and that got reduced down to 0:26:25.920 --> 0:26:27.720 sixteen over. I'm sorry, fourteen over. 0:26:28.400 --> 0:26:30.480 Listen, Tyler, Here's here's what I say. First of all, 0:26:30.480 --> 0:26:31.399 you need to go to the doctor. 0:26:31.480 --> 0:26:32.359 Tell a fun story. 0:26:33.119 --> 0:26:35.479 To go to the doctor and tell him, tell him 0:26:35.480 --> 0:26:38.920 all this ship. You don't have to commit to being 0:26:38.960 --> 0:26:41.160 hospitalized and doing all this stuff that's gonna in fear 0:26:41.200 --> 0:26:42.720 with your life. But at least go to the doctor 0:26:42.800 --> 0:26:47.959 and tell him what's going on. Unto listen. Yeah, if 0:26:48.000 --> 0:26:50.680 you're gonna fake seizures to get out of doing things 0:26:50.720 --> 0:26:55.399 so you don't want to do, be selective about it. 0:26:56.960 --> 0:27:00.720 You know, pick really like, you know, a a draft 0:27:01.359 --> 0:27:10.720 for the war, ah, a blind date, ah, you know, 0:27:11.040 --> 0:27:14.240 just pick pick wisely what you're gonna fake your seat 0:27:14.280 --> 0:27:16.959 because you can't. You can't be the boy that cried seizure. 0:27:17.000 --> 0:27:20.320 You could only do this a couple times a year. 0:27:21.000 --> 0:27:25.040 Oh yeah, you shouldn't do it at all. But if 0:27:25.040 --> 0:27:29.120 you're going to do it, then you know, pick pick 0:27:29.280 --> 0:27:29.919 pick wisely. 0:27:32.280 --> 0:27:37.160 What would you like to hear a funny real feizure story. 0:27:39.040 --> 0:27:40.560 I kind of would like to hear a funny real 0:27:40.600 --> 0:27:41.240 seizure story. 0:27:43.359 --> 0:27:48.120 All right. So this happened in a walmart, because that's 0:27:48.160 --> 0:27:52.600 where all good things happen. Mm hmm. I was just, 0:27:52.760 --> 0:27:57.600 you know, browsing the game selection, as any teenager would 0:27:57.640 --> 0:28:08.480 do that is, has no money, and I am looking 0:28:08.760 --> 0:28:12.000 at all the Xbox games and PlayStation games, and then 0:28:12.200 --> 0:28:15.679 I go into it, you know, fall on the ground. 0:28:17.000 --> 0:28:21.159 Muscles are quenched, and I'm seizing, and my eyes are 0:28:21.280 --> 0:28:23.920 into the back of my head, and I'm quenching my 0:28:24.040 --> 0:28:25.359 jaw hard enough that I. 0:28:27.520 --> 0:28:29.679 Like break the my uh the. 0:28:30.359 --> 0:28:33.640 Skin on my cheeks, and I start to bleed from 0:28:33.680 --> 0:28:40.440 my mouth. My sister comes around and sees me, and 0:28:40.560 --> 0:28:43.560 as she comes around, a lady comes around too, because 0:28:43.640 --> 0:28:47.360 she hears me trying to swallow my tongue, and so 0:28:47.520 --> 0:28:50.720 my sister's trying to deal with me, and the lady 0:28:50.840 --> 0:28:55.920 sees me on the ground, muscles quenched, eyes, back of 0:28:56.000 --> 0:28:59.880 my head pale as a ghost, blood coming from my mouth, 0:29:01.720 --> 0:29:06.440 just pulls out a bible and starts praying, trying to 0:29:06.800 --> 0:29:09.800 get this demon out of me. And I know that's 0:29:09.840 --> 0:29:12.000 what she was doing, because when I came out of 0:29:12.080 --> 0:29:16.160 that seizure, I just heard her screaming, just oh Lord, 0:29:16.360 --> 0:29:19.000 just get this demon out of this child. And and 0:29:19.160 --> 0:29:21.840 I'm just like, I don't know what's going on. When 0:29:21.880 --> 0:29:26.080 I want to go home, and I get home, I 0:29:26.280 --> 0:29:28.960 take a nap, and when I wake up, I immediately 0:29:29.080 --> 0:29:34.200 realized this lady was praying for me to be resurrected 0:29:34.680 --> 0:29:37.840 or have some demon come out of me, because she 0:29:38.040 --> 0:29:40.800 saw blood coming out of my mouth and my eyes 0:29:40.920 --> 0:29:44.440 rolled back into my head, and I probably scarred this 0:29:44.640 --> 0:29:47.479 old lady. I felt so bad for her. 0:29:48.360 --> 0:29:53.400 She felt boy, you felt you felt this lady lady 0:29:53.520 --> 0:29:53.960 saw you. 0:29:56.440 --> 0:30:00.680 A bible, she saw me, she pulled out a bible. 0:30:02.080 --> 0:30:04.640 I felt bad for because I'm pretty sure I scarter. 0:30:05.000 --> 0:30:11.120 But you, Tyler, what do you mean you felt bad for? You? 0:30:11.280 --> 0:30:14.880 Having a seizure was not an act of aggression against 0:30:15.000 --> 0:30:15.560 this lady. 0:30:18.360 --> 0:30:23.560 I mean, I it's it's a poor lady. You know 0:30:23.840 --> 0:30:28.200 you're experiencing like watching someone have a seizure, Like I 0:30:28.280 --> 0:30:30.400 haven't even seen someone have a seizure, and I have 0:30:30.560 --> 0:30:32.440 them all the time, you know, And. 0:30:34.120 --> 0:30:35.440 That is a pretty wild way to think. 0:30:35.880 --> 0:30:36.560 It's crazy. 0:30:38.200 --> 0:30:40.960 You're writhing on the ground having a seizure and you 0:30:41.160 --> 0:30:43.680 feel that's a that's a dangerous amount of empathy to 0:30:43.760 --> 0:30:45.719 have that you're writhing on the ground having a seizure, 0:30:46.160 --> 0:30:50.200 and you feel bad that you put other people through 0:30:50.320 --> 0:30:53.760 the experience of having to watch you have a seizure. 0:30:56.200 --> 0:30:58.360 You know, maybe uh, you know, by the way, by 0:30:58.400 --> 0:31:02.600 the way, before we go, I do want you actually 0:31:02.640 --> 0:31:04.719 did a good thing for that lady. I think because 0:31:05.960 --> 0:31:09.000 the fact that she was carrying around a Bible at 0:31:09.040 --> 0:31:13.960 a Walmart she was dying, she was, and the fact 0:31:13.960 --> 0:31:18.200 that she didn't even like wade a beat. She just 0:31:18.280 --> 0:31:20.479 immediately pulled it out and started praying. She had been 0:31:20.560 --> 0:31:24.880 waiting for that moment her entire life to exercise a 0:31:24.960 --> 0:31:27.840 demon out of a person, and you gave that to her. 0:31:27.920 --> 0:31:30.880 So I would reframe it like that. If you're, you know, 0:31:31.440 --> 0:31:33.440 feeling as though you wronged this lady, you gave her 0:31:33.480 --> 0:31:37.240 an opportunity to live out her her wild fantasies of 0:31:37.880 --> 0:31:41.160 exercising a person by the Xbox games at a Walmart. 0:31:42.040 --> 0:31:48.040 So good on you, Tyler. Stop faking seizures. Go to 0:31:48.120 --> 0:31:51.080 a doctor, and thank you very much for calling and sharing. 0:31:51.520 --> 0:31:57.880 Yep, absolutely take care of him. You do. 0:32:00.520 --> 0:32:04.520 Hello, Hello, how are you good? 0:32:04.560 --> 0:32:04.880 How are you? 0:32:06.120 --> 0:32:10.320 I'm a get go on the computer. How are you doing? John? 0:32:10.360 --> 0:32:11.560 Tell me everything? Tell me nothing? 0:32:14.240 --> 0:32:18.360 All right? Yeah? You know, in high school, I went 0:32:18.400 --> 0:32:20.360 to a high school and it was a big high school, 0:32:20.640 --> 0:32:24.320 thousands of kids. I didn't know anybody. Eventually, I don't know, 0:32:24.480 --> 0:32:27.000 the self help stuff actually works for me at that time, 0:32:27.480 --> 0:32:28.000 and I had. 0:32:27.880 --> 0:32:28.400 A good game. 0:32:30.280 --> 0:32:34.560 But then I see I went to move to Vegas, 0:32:34.840 --> 0:32:39.240 Okay for work. I've been working music festivals, traveling music festivals, 0:32:39.680 --> 0:32:41.400 and that's why I started making good money at the 0:32:41.440 --> 0:32:46.760 same time. But in Vegas, all the women, let's just say, 0:32:46.800 --> 0:32:48.920 have a higher level of standard than what you could 0:32:49.440 --> 0:32:55.000 do very successfully in high school. And yeah, so I 0:32:55.040 --> 0:32:59.440 haven't had luck in a couple of years and that 0:32:59.600 --> 0:33:03.160 kind of has led me to bling lots of money 0:33:04.280 --> 0:33:08.120 with woods surpers and it's not that bad, but yeah, 0:33:08.160 --> 0:33:09.680 I mean the worst part is like I'm just bitter 0:33:09.760 --> 0:33:12.480 with lots of women that I've tried all kinds of things, 0:33:12.520 --> 0:33:15.240 and yeah, I thought maybe talking to a gecko could 0:33:15.240 --> 0:33:16.000 help me figure it out. 0:33:17.840 --> 0:33:23.240 Okay, let's get into this. So you said that you 0:33:23.400 --> 0:33:28.240 were in Los Angeles and you you are, you're a 0:33:28.440 --> 0:33:35.240 self proclaimed ladies man of of that area, and then 0:33:35.280 --> 0:33:40.920 you moved to Vegas and then you you started having 0:33:41.120 --> 0:33:45.880 trouble with your your romantic life. 0:33:49.440 --> 0:33:52.160 Yeah, I mean I wasn't like part I wasn't like 0:33:52.320 --> 0:33:54.719 chiller ladies man, but it was it was a lot 0:33:54.800 --> 0:33:59.520 of success, but like, yeah, it was the world's greatest Yeah. 0:33:59.520 --> 0:34:03.440 Okay, Well let me ask you this, what do you 0:34:05.000 --> 0:34:08.880 what's your thing? Are you trying to get into a 0:34:08.960 --> 0:34:12.880 relationship with someone? Are you just trying to have as 0:34:13.000 --> 0:34:15.920 much sex with as much people that you're attracted to 0:34:16.080 --> 0:34:21.520 as possible? What's what's the deal here? What's what's your objective. 0:34:23.600 --> 0:34:27.120 Currently? Relationship with the really? 0:34:27.800 --> 0:34:30.680 Really? Okay, so you're not just trying to have as 0:34:30.760 --> 0:34:33.000 much sex as you can, you're looking for a relationship. 0:34:35.239 --> 0:34:37.120 Yeah, I mean two years ago, that's how it was. 0:34:37.280 --> 0:34:41.279 But after not having any sex, it's like, you know what, 0:34:41.440 --> 0:34:42.799 maybe we should change the goal. 0:34:43.480 --> 0:34:50.440 Sure, okay, why do you feel like, uh you already? 0:34:50.520 --> 0:34:51.960 Where are you now. Are you in La? Are you 0:34:52.080 --> 0:34:52.640 in Vegas? 0:34:54.680 --> 0:34:55.760 I'm in La now again. 0:34:56.560 --> 0:35:00.800 Okay, So if your main th thing is that you 0:35:00.880 --> 0:35:04.640 want a relationship, what do you think is compelling you 0:35:05.520 --> 0:35:07.800 to spend all this money on strippers? 0:35:11.760 --> 0:35:16.400 Uh, it's not like it's a majority likes of my money. 0:35:16.560 --> 0:35:20.399 Like I make a decent amount that there's enough left 0:35:20.440 --> 0:35:24.160 over to still have fun. But it's like the reason 0:35:24.239 --> 0:35:29.600 I'm doing it is I don't know, even the fake interest, 0:35:32.680 --> 0:35:37.160 it's it's nice, I guess just having somebody you know, 0:35:37.880 --> 0:35:40.040 even pretend to be interested in you. They're pretty damn 0:35:40.080 --> 0:35:46.719 convincing at it. So yeah, mm hmm. 0:35:47.200 --> 0:35:50.680 So you you like the uh the I guess they 0:35:50.760 --> 0:35:54.560 call it the girlfriend experience right where they pretend to 0:35:54.640 --> 0:35:56.440 be genuinely interested in you. 0:35:58.880 --> 0:36:01.960 It's like a fifty fifty percent of the time it's 0:36:02.200 --> 0:36:04.560 the golf and experience and you have to tix percent 0:36:04.600 --> 0:36:06.600 of the time. I really like to smack that cheeks. 0:36:08.600 --> 0:36:14.719 Okay, cool, Well what do you do to make efforts 0:36:15.480 --> 0:36:18.440 to meet people? 0:36:23.120 --> 0:36:26.360 I'm in the munic festival in events industry, so I 0:36:26.480 --> 0:36:31.479 mean I I invite people out, so when I yeah, 0:36:32.360 --> 0:36:35.520 if I always take care of my friends, any acquaintances, 0:36:35.640 --> 0:36:39.000 you know, by dinner, buy drinks, just try to chat 0:36:39.080 --> 0:36:41.680 people up, just nice, normal conversations. 0:36:42.120 --> 0:36:45.240 Try to listen more than I talk. All this stuff, 0:36:46.840 --> 0:36:49.280 but it's you know, we get a lot of friendly attention, 0:36:49.480 --> 0:36:53.799 but that's kind of all it is. There's a bunch 0:36:53.800 --> 0:36:54.560 of acquaintances. 0:36:54.600 --> 0:37:01.360 And yeah, have you ever been in a committed relationship before? 0:37:04.239 --> 0:37:08.640 I've had two good committed relationships that last about two 0:37:08.760 --> 0:37:09.600 two and a half years. 0:37:10.280 --> 0:37:11.840 Okay, how did you meet those people. 0:37:15.719 --> 0:37:18.080 Through school at that time, like from high school and 0:37:18.120 --> 0:37:19.560 people who recently graduated. 0:37:23.480 --> 0:37:27.000 You know, man, I'll tell you this much at least, 0:37:27.840 --> 0:37:31.040 is that I feel like, and this is a conventional 0:37:31.120 --> 0:37:34.400 thing I've heard a lot of people say, especially in 0:37:34.600 --> 0:37:41.879 the dating realm. The more you chase after this thing 0:37:42.040 --> 0:37:45.040 of like I really want a girlfriend and you you know, 0:37:45.120 --> 0:37:47.520 every time you go out on the town or or 0:37:48.000 --> 0:37:50.520 you're in a group of people or whatever you're you're 0:37:50.640 --> 0:37:54.000 fixated on it, the more it tends to just like 0:37:54.760 --> 0:37:58.879 run your fucking life, you know, in like a bad way. 0:37:59.719 --> 0:38:01.319 Do you do you empathize with that at all? 0:38:01.480 --> 0:38:01.600 Is that? 0:38:01.840 --> 0:38:02.360 Do you feel that? 0:38:04.760 --> 0:38:08.200 Honestly? I feel like that's how I was maybe like 0:38:08.560 --> 0:38:11.520 two years ago, but then it kind of flipped to 0:38:11.600 --> 0:38:14.600 the total other side, where like I feel like even 0:38:15.160 --> 0:38:18.320 the regular friendly level of confidence and just chatting stuff 0:38:18.400 --> 0:38:21.040 up is like gone. And that's when like eventually that 0:38:21.160 --> 0:38:25.319 also became I don't know, like bitterness. That's so it's 0:38:25.400 --> 0:38:27.719 like now I don't even want to talk to women 0:38:27.880 --> 0:38:29.560 like just I don't like, I don't even want to 0:38:29.600 --> 0:38:29.960 look at them. 0:38:31.000 --> 0:38:32.760 Well, tell me about this bitterness. 0:38:32.800 --> 0:38:33.360 What does that? 0:38:34.600 --> 0:38:36.600 Well tell me what does this bitterness look like? What 0:38:36.680 --> 0:38:37.560 does it feel like? 0:38:37.760 --> 0:38:37.800 What? 0:38:38.400 --> 0:38:39.320 How do you mean bitter? 0:38:41.600 --> 0:38:46.839 Okay, that's a good question. Okay, So recently I've been 0:38:46.920 --> 0:38:50.240 really blaming my my luck or lack of game however 0:38:50.239 --> 0:38:54.399 you want to say it to like hype, and I'm 0:38:54.480 --> 0:38:58.239 only five seven, and you know, I've tried all kinds 0:38:58.239 --> 0:39:01.280 of things and it worked before. But it just feels 0:39:01.360 --> 0:39:04.840 like my friends that are taller literally have women chasing 0:39:04.960 --> 0:39:07.840 after them. Sure, I have a friend who's women like 0:39:08.280 --> 0:39:10.440 they will try to shove themselves into his uber as 0:39:10.480 --> 0:39:12.239 he's leaving the boar and they have to like push 0:39:12.320 --> 0:39:15.520 him away. I'm not thinking it's only height, but everybody 0:39:15.560 --> 0:39:18.480 at you know that's taller, it always has more success. 0:39:18.560 --> 0:39:21.600 But that's also that's a major point of why like bitter. 0:39:22.600 --> 0:39:26.200 Okay, I have I have thoughts on that, but is 0:39:26.239 --> 0:39:27.160 there is there anything else? 0:39:30.280 --> 0:39:30.600 Mmm? 0:39:33.080 --> 0:39:34.480 I guess that's the biggest point. 0:39:36.920 --> 0:39:39.680 Okay, so you're feeling bitter and upset about your heights. 0:39:44.080 --> 0:39:45.400 That's one way to summarize it. 0:39:45.960 --> 0:39:48.640 Okay, No, I and I and let me tell you something. 0:39:48.719 --> 0:39:51.480 I am five six, I am an inch shorter than 0:39:51.560 --> 0:39:54.960 you and I dude, when I was in college, man, 0:39:55.040 --> 0:39:59.239 I had I was definitely had. Uh some time where 0:39:59.239 --> 0:40:01.000 I was I was fixed on my height as well. 0:40:01.360 --> 0:40:03.719 And now I don't give a shit. And the way 0:40:03.840 --> 0:40:09.480 I feel like I really got there was this realization 0:40:09.760 --> 0:40:12.400 that like, dude, you know and I can. I can 0:40:12.480 --> 0:40:14.160 hear it from you that like, you're comparing yourself to 0:40:14.239 --> 0:40:16.600 your friends, You're comparing yourself to people who are taller 0:40:16.680 --> 0:40:19.440 than you. You're seeing guys who are taller, you know, 0:40:20.239 --> 0:40:23.759 have you know more women interested in them? And uh, 0:40:25.200 --> 0:40:27.520 like you can do that. You know, you can compare 0:40:27.560 --> 0:40:29.640 yourself to people who are taller than you or better 0:40:29.680 --> 0:40:32.680 look at you or any of that stuff, or you 0:40:32.800 --> 0:40:38.320 can just really look at the cards that you have 0:40:38.440 --> 0:40:43.520 been dealt in your life and go, what can I 0:40:43.680 --> 0:40:48.560 make of these? That's what I'm always thinking about because 0:40:48.600 --> 0:40:50.400 some people because sure, yeah, you have friends who are 0:40:50.400 --> 0:40:52.600 taller than you, but there's people out there, you know, 0:40:52.640 --> 0:40:54.719 there's guys out there who are five to two. There's 0:40:54.760 --> 0:40:59.400 guys out there who have, you know, no natural social 0:40:59.520 --> 0:41:03.120 skill or they have, you know, whatever mental blocks that 0:41:03.200 --> 0:41:05.600 are going on that you know, stop them from even 0:41:05.680 --> 0:41:09.480 leaving their house or from talking to people. You know, 0:41:09.760 --> 0:41:12.760 there's always going to be people who were dealt cards 0:41:13.200 --> 0:41:14.840 that were a little bit better than yours. There's all 0:41:14.880 --> 0:41:18.279 these gonna be people who dealt cards that are way 0:41:18.360 --> 0:41:21.239 worse than you that you're better off than. And that's 0:41:21.400 --> 0:41:26.279 just a fucking inevitability, and you you go, you got 0:41:26.400 --> 0:41:29.600 to learn to accept that because it'll make you feel 0:41:29.960 --> 0:41:35.560 a lot better about where you are. You gain absolutely 0:41:35.680 --> 0:41:38.520 nothing from thinking about, oh, how great would it be 0:41:39.000 --> 0:41:41.799 if I were taller, if I were you know, more 0:41:41.960 --> 0:41:45.399 like this or whatever. You just you gain nothing from 0:41:46.160 --> 0:41:51.400 fixating on that. Instead, think about all the things that 0:41:51.480 --> 0:41:56.080 you do have and really lean into being grateful for those. 0:41:56.320 --> 0:41:59.080 And if they're not directly into your face, you have 0:41:59.160 --> 0:42:02.520 to take a second to look at yourself and find 0:42:02.640 --> 0:42:06.560 them you know you were talking about earlier. You're good at, 0:42:07.560 --> 0:42:10.360 you know, taking care of your friends. You're good at conversation. 0:42:10.480 --> 0:42:13.239 You're good at these things that I'm sure other guys 0:42:13.320 --> 0:42:16.440 struggle with. I'm sure you have a lot of things 0:42:16.960 --> 0:42:19.920 to yourself that maybe some people have better. Maybe some 0:42:19.920 --> 0:42:21.880 people are better at talking to other people than you are, 0:42:21.960 --> 0:42:23.480 but some people are worse. And so you got to 0:42:23.560 --> 0:42:27.080 really take your inventory and be grateful for whatever your 0:42:27.120 --> 0:42:31.439 strengths are and lean into those strengths and not beat 0:42:31.520 --> 0:42:38.600 the shit out of yourself for your perceived weaknesses. It's 0:42:38.640 --> 0:42:41.160 a really important thing to do in this in this 0:42:42.480 --> 0:42:46.640 arena of life. Tell me what you think about that first. 0:42:50.160 --> 0:42:52.520 I mean, yeah, it really, I mean it makes sense, 0:42:53.040 --> 0:42:56.160 and it's just like, you know, I feel like I 0:42:56.280 --> 0:42:59.480 made that realization and did work on my strengths a 0:42:59.480 --> 0:43:02.120 couple of years to go. And it's like a sad 0:43:02.200 --> 0:43:05.280 thing to just you know, feel like that and that left. 0:43:05.480 --> 0:43:08.200 But I have to realize, you know, that didn't leave, 0:43:08.280 --> 0:43:12.040 and start running with the strengths again and ignoring the 0:43:12.160 --> 0:43:14.279 things and not I don't know, putting excuses to what. 0:43:14.360 --> 0:43:17.880 I guess. It's yeah, it's harder to take in than 0:43:17.960 --> 0:43:20.200 it bounced. But I mean it makes sense. 0:43:20.960 --> 0:43:24.480 You go, you really got to deprogram yourself from the 0:43:24.680 --> 0:43:29.959 gut instinct to compare yourself to other people. It's really 0:43:30.080 --> 0:43:33.919 important because if you don't do that, you just you'll 0:43:34.000 --> 0:43:38.319 just never be comfortable. And if you're not comfortable, then 0:43:38.480 --> 0:43:41.480 when you're in these social situations, you just you just 0:43:41.520 --> 0:43:44.360 gotta feel all this pain because you're not comfortable with yourself. 0:43:44.600 --> 0:43:46.759 And you know what another thing is is this is 0:43:46.800 --> 0:43:49.000 a net because even dude, even if you do go 0:43:49.160 --> 0:43:53.040 out on one night and you meet a girl who 0:43:53.239 --> 0:43:57.560 likes you and you know, whatever things work out, well, 0:43:58.280 --> 0:44:01.279 it's you're it's still and if that happens, it's you 0:44:01.520 --> 0:44:06.440 still are not have you still don't have a sustainable 0:44:07.320 --> 0:44:09.960 solution to your problem, you know what I mean? Because now, 0:44:10.480 --> 0:44:13.360 if a girl does like you and that gives you 0:44:13.440 --> 0:44:16.880 a lot of confidence, the confidence that you have is 0:44:17.239 --> 0:44:21.839 linked then to an external thing. And so if that girl, 0:44:22.200 --> 0:44:24.160 you know, for whatever reason, decides when that she doesn't 0:44:24.239 --> 0:44:27.480 like you, then then then you're fucked because you had 0:44:27.560 --> 0:44:32.040 your confidence not from this internal place that you really 0:44:33.320 --> 0:44:38.960 brought out, but in you know, someone else's external validation. 0:44:39.719 --> 0:44:41.480 So you have to do this work no matter what. 0:44:42.520 --> 0:44:43.920 If you want to get to a good place. 0:44:44.360 --> 0:44:48.359 Yeah, you got to build that solid foundation otherwise, if 0:44:48.360 --> 0:44:49.839 it doesn't break now, break later. 0:44:50.160 --> 0:44:53.840 Yeah of course you'll just just you'll just be happier. 0:44:58.400 --> 0:45:08.520 Yeah yeah, yeah, LA just feel that's such a vain place. 0:45:08.640 --> 0:45:10.800 But I guess there's always other excuses to make. But 0:45:10.800 --> 0:45:12.320 the end of the day, just got to stop with 0:45:12.400 --> 0:45:15.960 the comparisons, bring the validation inside, and just move on. 0:45:16.960 --> 0:45:20.800 Tell me anything else about this this bitterness? Does it 0:45:20.920 --> 0:45:24.719 come from anything besides just height? 0:45:34.560 --> 0:45:36.920 Like I don't know how to pinpoint it, but you know, 0:45:37.360 --> 0:45:40.520 like like seeing the comparisons with the friends that or 0:45:40.600 --> 0:45:45.560 even my brother, Like I have had women offer to 0:45:45.719 --> 0:45:51.759 paint my brother to have sex with him. Okay, yeah, 0:45:52.719 --> 0:45:55.120 and like he's he's you know, he's my own brothers, 0:45:55.200 --> 0:45:58.279 so we can't be that different. But he's like six 0:45:58.520 --> 0:46:01.200 three or whatever. It looks a little bit like more 0:46:01.239 --> 0:46:03.239 blondie and blue eyes and shit like that. So I 0:46:03.280 --> 0:46:06.640 don't feel better against him. But it's like, damn, dude, 0:46:06.680 --> 0:46:08.719 I know how to talk. He was very shy. He'll 0:46:08.800 --> 0:46:11.520 just like fuck up the conversation, won't even be able 0:46:11.560 --> 0:46:15.920 to start it. And so I don't know, It's just 0:46:16.480 --> 0:46:18.440 I guess just feels like I'm just keep fishing for 0:46:18.600 --> 0:46:22.040 reasons to be bitter and be like, you know, why 0:46:22.120 --> 0:46:24.719 don't we have a small percentage of dudes get all 0:46:24.800 --> 0:46:27.719 this and then everybody else, you know, feels like shorter 0:46:27.840 --> 0:46:31.520 in the stick. And then I've been trying to avoid Reddit. 0:46:31.840 --> 0:46:34.040 But at the same time, you also hear like so 0:46:34.160 --> 0:46:38.080 many stories about cheating, cheating or like bad divorces, and 0:46:38.200 --> 0:46:40.320 that's like, Okay, do I even want to try to 0:46:40.400 --> 0:46:42.600 work on my strong points and get back into this 0:46:42.680 --> 0:46:45.719 relationship game? Because let's say, even if I do, is 0:46:45.719 --> 0:46:48.120 it gonna burnt his ship? Like you know, the negative 0:46:48.160 --> 0:46:48.959 stories that you can see. 0:46:49.640 --> 0:46:55.080 Sure, do I teally understand all that. I totally understand, 0:46:55.280 --> 0:47:02.120 you know, being jealous of other peace people, feeling pessimistic 0:47:02.360 --> 0:47:09.760 about whatever, you know, your your perceived state of of whatever, 0:47:09.840 --> 0:47:16.200 whatever your perceptions of other people are. But try if 0:47:16.239 --> 0:47:19.480 you can and really understand that this is the only 0:47:19.560 --> 0:47:22.000 way to do it. And dear God, take this from me. 0:47:22.120 --> 0:47:25.040 I'm five six and I'm fat, and I feel pretty 0:47:25.600 --> 0:47:28.560 decently about myself in this whole thing. 0:47:30.160 --> 0:47:30.759 You got it? 0:47:30.880 --> 0:47:33.960 The really the only work is to just look at 0:47:34.000 --> 0:47:37.440 yourself and try to find things to be grateful for 0:47:38.360 --> 0:47:42.520 in your life and what strengths you do have, and 0:47:43.000 --> 0:47:49.960 just stop deprogram yourself from comparing yourself to other people 0:47:50.680 --> 0:47:55.640 and just find the innate things to like about yourself 0:47:56.160 --> 0:48:01.960 on your own and life will get much better from there. 0:48:03.239 --> 0:48:05.160 And it's a way, and like I've said this, sorry, 0:48:05.239 --> 0:48:06.799 but I'm going to say it again because it's an 0:48:06.800 --> 0:48:10.920 important thing. With all this, that's the only way to 0:48:11.080 --> 0:48:13.360 really do it because any other thing, like if you, 0:48:14.080 --> 0:48:15.520 like I said, if you go out and you meet 0:48:15.600 --> 0:48:18.000 someone and you're like, oh, you know that you get 0:48:18.040 --> 0:48:21.080 this validation from another person, that's not sustainable. You have 0:48:21.200 --> 0:48:23.560 to do this work no matter what. If you want 0:48:23.600 --> 0:48:25.960 to just feel better and not be so better. 0:48:34.680 --> 0:48:41.000 Like trying to. I don't know. It's like telling yourself 0:48:41.200 --> 0:48:45.279 that you should be valued and being grateful. You do 0:48:45.480 --> 0:48:51.400 that just because like or how do you? I don't know. 0:48:51.640 --> 0:48:54.400 It's like a weird thing, like why should I value 0:48:54.520 --> 0:48:58.480 myself or the skills that I have? You know, the 0:48:58.760 --> 0:49:03.680 pessimistic part there, So I don't know. It's definitely overthinking. 0:49:03.320 --> 0:49:07.720 Why should you because you're because you're committed to doing 0:49:07.880 --> 0:49:12.000 what you can with what you have, you know, and 0:49:12.160 --> 0:49:15.040 and I know, like this pessimism optimism thing, it's ultimately 0:49:15.080 --> 0:49:20.000 a choice and if you want to, you know you 0:49:20.080 --> 0:49:22.000 can if you listen, man, if you want to, you 0:49:22.080 --> 0:49:24.960 can steal in the bitterness, and you can steal in pessimism, 0:49:25.520 --> 0:49:30.520 and you can marinate in the feelings of jealousy towards 0:49:30.560 --> 0:49:34.000 your brother and towards other people. But you don't have to. 0:49:34.880 --> 0:49:38.759 There's a much better solution. And I am extending my 0:49:39.000 --> 0:49:43.800 hand out to you right now to choose to be 0:49:43.920 --> 0:49:47.120 optimistic if you desire. 0:49:50.360 --> 0:49:53.360 You know, honestly, that kind of makes sense, like not 0:49:53.440 --> 0:49:55.399 thinking about it too much, just taking it as a choice, 0:49:55.440 --> 0:49:58.839 and you can just be optimistic pessimistic and why run 0:49:58.920 --> 0:49:59.640 with the bad one? 0:50:01.160 --> 0:50:01.359 Yeah? 0:50:04.560 --> 0:50:07.560 How do you How do you feel about what we 0:50:07.760 --> 0:50:09.920 have discussed ultimately before we go? 0:50:13.200 --> 0:50:16.680 Honestly, it really helps good. Yeah, I mean, I think 0:50:16.719 --> 0:50:18.640 there are a lot of good lessons in there. And 0:50:18.760 --> 0:50:20.920 then at the end, like not overthinking it and just 0:50:21.600 --> 0:50:23.680 some of the important mental health decisions are just like 0:50:23.719 --> 0:50:28.200 an arbitrary choice and you could just take the good one. Mm. 0:50:29.440 --> 0:50:33.279 Just please just recognize when you're comparing yourself to other 0:50:33.360 --> 0:50:35.520 people and I do that too. You. I think I 0:50:35.560 --> 0:50:37.360 think everybody does. I think everybody compares to those of 0:50:37.360 --> 0:50:39.680 other people. And you just need to train yourself to 0:50:39.920 --> 0:50:44.960 really take in that it's not productive to do and 0:50:45.120 --> 0:50:52.760 that it's it's uh, it's it's like almost almost blasphemous 0:50:53.400 --> 0:50:57.440 toward the toward whatever gifts you have been given in 0:50:57.560 --> 0:51:00.560 this world, whatever you do have. You know these things 0:51:00.600 --> 0:51:02.319 you were telling me about about how you are good 0:51:02.360 --> 0:51:04.600 at going on, you're good at talking to people, you know, 0:51:05.320 --> 0:51:08.920 whatever it is you do have, it's neglectful of that, 0:51:10.000 --> 0:51:12.440 and and that's that's not good. You should be embracing 0:51:12.520 --> 0:51:15.000 the things that you do have instead of going out 0:51:15.040 --> 0:51:16.880 and comparing yourself to other people and looking at the 0:51:16.960 --> 0:51:20.799 things that you don't. I used to be fixed, dude. 0:51:20.840 --> 0:51:22.520 I used to be fixated on my height and my 0:51:22.560 --> 0:51:25.000 weight way more than I am now. And all the 0:51:25.160 --> 0:51:27.759 shit that I'm telling you is how I got over that. 0:51:32.520 --> 0:51:35.520 Yeah, I mean, it makes sense and it genuinely helps. 0:51:35.520 --> 0:51:38.839 And I'm just gonna gotta remember this and I don't 0:51:39.040 --> 0:51:43.080 change and just be better because you can't, like, yeah, 0:51:43.200 --> 0:51:43.920 accept what it is. 0:51:44.360 --> 0:51:46.360 Go with the strength, beautiful. 0:51:47.680 --> 0:51:49.160 Thank you, John. 0:51:49.200 --> 0:51:50.239 Is there anything you want to say to the people 0:51:50.239 --> 0:51:50.960 the computer before we go. 0:51:55.440 --> 0:51:57.319 I hope if you guys are going through similar things, 0:51:57.400 --> 0:52:00.759 you can also take this advice and you know, run 0:52:00.840 --> 0:52:03.080 with the better parts of yourself, because why not. 0:52:03.760 --> 0:52:04.040 That's it. 0:52:04.680 --> 0:52:08.120 Thank you, Yeah, bye again John Forever, See you later. 0:52:09.880 --> 0:52:11.040 Hello, Hello. 0:52:12.680 --> 0:52:14.720 Brandon twenty six from Texas. 0:52:18.160 --> 0:52:18.800 What's going on? 0:52:19.120 --> 0:52:24.320 GEK not a whole lot. I need new answers to 0:52:24.400 --> 0:52:29.640 that question because I get asked it a lot, and 0:52:29.760 --> 0:52:32.080 I understand why. It's a pretty common thing to ask 0:52:32.120 --> 0:52:34.600 a person. Somebody says, hey, how are you? You say 0:52:34.640 --> 0:52:37.879 I'm good, how are you? And then I say I'm good? 0:52:38.120 --> 0:52:40.120 But I need different responses. I feel like I always 0:52:40.120 --> 0:52:42.160 say the same thing. I say, I'm a guy, go 0:52:42.280 --> 0:52:45.480 on the computer, I'm doing good. And even this, what 0:52:45.560 --> 0:52:48.759 I'm saying right now that I need new responses is 0:52:49.320 --> 0:52:52.080 one of my old responses. This, as I'm talking about 0:52:52.120 --> 0:52:59.360 it is an old response that I've used many times. 0:52:59.640 --> 0:53:02.200 And then next time I'm talking about this, it's gonna 0:53:02.200 --> 0:53:04.440 get you. It's gonna get meta. So I'm gonna be 0:53:04.480 --> 0:53:06.960 talking about how every time someone asks me how I am, 0:53:07.000 --> 0:53:09.360 I say I need new responses, and then me saying 0:53:09.400 --> 0:53:11.839 I need new responses and then me saying that I'm 0:53:11.920 --> 0:53:17.040 saying that I need new responses. It has become old anyway. 0:53:17.080 --> 0:53:19.320 I don't know if that gave you an indicator of 0:53:19.360 --> 0:53:21.600 how I'm doing. But enough about me. How are you, Brandon? 0:53:21.800 --> 0:53:23.120 Tell me everything? Tell me nothing. 0:53:25.800 --> 0:53:29.600 Well, I'm going pretty great now that I got on 0:53:29.800 --> 0:53:31.600 the lines. I was kind of on the hold for 0:53:31.680 --> 0:53:35.480 a little bit, making me nervous. But now that you answered, 0:53:35.560 --> 0:53:39.239 I'm like a little bit nervous, but pretty. 0:53:38.920 --> 0:53:47.719 Good, Brandon. It says here that a velociraptor came out 0:53:47.800 --> 0:53:52.520 of a portal and into your room when you were 0:53:52.560 --> 0:53:53.080 a child. 0:53:56.960 --> 0:53:57.480 Yeah, so. 0:53:59.840 --> 0:54:00.560 I I kind of. 0:54:02.640 --> 0:54:06.000 Took my girlfriend's story on that this actually happened to 0:54:06.160 --> 0:54:09.160 my girlfriend, And when she told me, I was. 0:54:09.320 --> 0:54:13.200 Like, whoa what wait wait wait, okay, so that just 0:54:13.320 --> 0:54:15.320 didn't even happen to you. This happened to your girlfriend. 0:54:17.080 --> 0:54:18.600 Yeah, this happened to my girlfriend. 0:54:19.080 --> 0:54:20.759 Well, Brandon, she is she with you? 0:54:23.440 --> 0:54:25.600 No, she's not with me. She's at home right now 0:54:25.640 --> 0:54:26.000 watching this. 0:54:26.160 --> 0:54:26.440 Call her. 0:54:26.800 --> 0:54:28.360 Yeah, call her on the phone. I don't want to 0:54:28.360 --> 0:54:29.359 talk to you, I want to talk to her. 0:54:32.880 --> 0:54:37.040 Well, I have a pretty good idea of what happened 0:54:37.040 --> 0:54:38.719 to the story if you still want to talk to. 0:54:38.800 --> 0:54:44.320 Me, I I guess. But it's not the story itself. 0:54:44.440 --> 0:54:48.480 It's it's the the emotions behind it. It's it's I 0:54:48.800 --> 0:54:51.920 don't you know, really want to interview you about somebody 0:54:51.920 --> 0:54:59.440 else's story. H give her a call because call her now, 0:55:00.800 --> 0:55:03.839 eder in Coller right now, Yeah, call her right now, Edran, 0:55:04.520 --> 0:55:11.080 all right, we'll do all right. We are on hold 0:55:12.600 --> 0:55:20.719 while Brandon, who is a dirty, dirty liar, calls his 0:55:20.880 --> 0:55:27.719 girlfriend so that we can ask her why she continues 0:55:27.800 --> 0:55:32.600 to stay with a person who calls into online Gecko 0:55:32.719 --> 0:55:41.400 shows and lies about stories that are not his own. No, 0:55:41.520 --> 0:55:45.080 I'm giving Brandon too much shit because it's fun to 0:55:45.320 --> 0:55:47.960 be It's fun to be upset. Brandon, Are you there? 0:55:49.960 --> 0:55:50.200 Yes? 0:55:50.360 --> 0:55:51.760 And my girlfriend's on the line. 0:55:52.600 --> 0:55:58.879 Hello, Hillo, Hi there, what is your name? 0:56:00.800 --> 0:56:03.320 I'm Sarah, Sarah. 0:56:05.200 --> 0:56:10.080 I heard from your boyfriend that when you were younger, 0:56:10.200 --> 0:56:12.920 if alas a raptor came out of a portal and 0:56:13.040 --> 0:56:13.759 into your room. 0:56:15.920 --> 0:56:19.240 It did, and I remember it like it was yesterday. 0:56:19.680 --> 0:56:21.040 Okay, Well, I want to talk to you about it, 0:56:21.120 --> 0:56:22.960 but before we do, Before we do, I just want 0:56:23.000 --> 0:56:27.960 you to know that your boyfriend lied to me and 0:56:28.120 --> 0:56:31.000 told me that it was his story, and I want 0:56:31.000 --> 0:56:33.160 to know how you feel about that before we hear 0:56:33.239 --> 0:56:35.600 the story. I wonder how you feel about him lying. 0:56:37.680 --> 0:56:40.560 I'm not too mad about it, like he knew I 0:56:40.640 --> 0:56:45.400 don't really know streaming times, so these little sneaky snakes sometimes, 0:56:45.520 --> 0:56:47.080 but he had good intentions. 0:56:47.560 --> 0:56:49.200 Well that was the wrong answer. I want you to 0:56:49.280 --> 0:56:51.600 be very, very mad at him. I want you to 0:56:51.680 --> 0:56:54.360 be act. We had to act cordial towards him for 0:56:54.440 --> 0:56:56.680 the rest of this call, but when we're done with this, 0:56:56.760 --> 0:56:57.680 you need to yell at him. 0:57:00.239 --> 0:57:01.960 But I won't pack it much tomorrow. 0:57:01.760 --> 0:57:02.080 Just for you. 0:57:02.800 --> 0:57:06.240 Okay, how did this what happened with this philosopher Raptor? 0:57:08.880 --> 0:57:09.120 Yeah? 0:57:09.320 --> 0:57:13.800 So I was probably five and I was just sitting 0:57:13.840 --> 0:57:17.320 in bed. It was like midday. I was fully awake, 0:57:18.560 --> 0:57:23.080 and all of a sudden, this circle portal like opens 0:57:23.920 --> 0:57:24.520 right next to. 0:57:24.600 --> 0:57:25.160 My bed. 0:57:26.480 --> 0:57:29.760 And I see a dinosaur head avelotso wrapped your head 0:57:30.560 --> 0:57:34.360 look in my bedroom like it was surprised, like, oh, 0:57:34.440 --> 0:57:38.400 I'm not supposed to be here right now, and I 0:57:38.640 --> 0:57:39.520 just stare at it. 0:57:41.160 --> 0:57:45.000 Really scared because you know, you hear well, people might 0:57:45.040 --> 0:57:48.080 break into your house. That's scary. Nobody worries you about 0:57:48.120 --> 0:57:51.200 what happens when a dinosaur shows up in your house. Nope, 0:57:54.360 --> 0:57:57.360 And it just kind of looked at me and then 0:57:57.960 --> 0:58:01.960 went right back in and said, I kind of have 0:58:02.160 --> 0:58:04.720 like the screech that I can do that my mom 0:58:04.920 --> 0:58:07.760 is really scared of, and I haven't heard anybody else. 0:58:07.640 --> 0:58:08.200 Be able to do it. 0:58:09.360 --> 0:58:10.520 Wait, so this is. 0:58:12.080 --> 0:58:12.120 So. 0:58:12.280 --> 0:58:16.920 This velociraptor not only visited upon you, but it dropped 0:58:17.000 --> 0:58:21.760 a gift of its screech into your lungs it did. 0:58:21.840 --> 0:58:22.680 Would you like to hear it? 0:58:23.480 --> 0:58:23.680 Yeah? 0:58:23.720 --> 0:58:32.600 Of course, you know. I don't know what a velociraptor 0:58:32.680 --> 0:58:36.680 screech sounds like, but that sounds like sounds like it? 0:58:36.840 --> 0:58:37.040 Is that. 0:58:39.480 --> 0:58:39.640 Right? 0:58:40.560 --> 0:58:40.880 Brandon? 0:58:40.920 --> 0:58:42.680 You do what You're the only person I've ever told 0:58:42.720 --> 0:58:43.920 about this, So I'm happy. 0:58:44.600 --> 0:58:46.000 Oh my god, I need to do it. 0:58:47.760 --> 0:58:48.560 I like hers better. 0:58:50.760 --> 0:58:51.040 Thank you? 0:58:54.880 --> 0:58:57.240 Interesting you've only told Brandon about Why have you only 0:58:57.280 --> 0:59:00.880 told Brandon about this? Is this something that you're ashamed of? Capacity? 0:59:03.240 --> 0:59:05.680 Well, my sisters knows I can do the streets, but 0:59:05.800 --> 0:59:08.600 she doesn't really know where it came from. And of course, 0:59:08.680 --> 0:59:10.440 like I ran into my mom's room to tell her 0:59:10.480 --> 0:59:13.160 what happened, and she's just saying, oh, well, children have 0:59:13.360 --> 0:59:17.080 active vaccinations. You were just dreaming, But I was not. 0:59:17.360 --> 0:59:21.040 I was fully awake. But when I told her in 0:59:21.120 --> 0:59:24.600 in this he said, well, maybe it was an alien 0:59:25.120 --> 0:59:31.240 visiting you. And that had me thinking, because I'm very 0:59:31.320 --> 0:59:33.880 open minded as a person, like it very well could 0:59:33.960 --> 0:59:38.280 have been an extraterrestrial being just messing up where they 0:59:38.280 --> 0:59:42.160 were supposed to go and just being like okay, sorry 0:59:42.280 --> 0:59:42.720 and leaving. 0:59:44.480 --> 0:59:46.400 Do you believe that that's really what it could have 0:59:46.480 --> 0:59:48.080 been in it and it wasn't just some kind of 0:59:49.240 --> 0:59:50.160 nightmare that you had. 0:59:52.480 --> 0:59:56.040 Honestly, Yeah, Because I could barely even sleep most of 0:59:56.120 --> 0:59:59.800 my life, and when I do sleep at least laid 0:59:59.840 --> 1:00:04.640 out very deep sleeper, I would have remembered that. And 1:00:04.720 --> 1:00:06.400 it was the middle of the day. I was playing 1:00:06.440 --> 1:00:07.800 around and I say, could break to lay. 1:00:07.720 --> 1:00:12.680 Down, sir. This was in the middle of the day. Yes, Oh, 1:00:12.760 --> 1:00:15.720 that makes it like probably that weirdly makes it more 1:00:15.960 --> 1:00:18.560 scary to me than if it was in the middle. 1:00:18.560 --> 1:00:23.960 That's one of those rare things. Uh, To this day, 1:00:24.280 --> 1:00:29.320 have you have you had any experiences with dinosaurs coming 1:00:29.360 --> 1:00:30.440 into your house? Since? 1:00:32.560 --> 1:00:33.080 Not at all? 1:00:33.160 --> 1:00:35.440 And it kind of makes me fad. I kind of wish, 1:00:36.040 --> 1:00:38.560 and I'll see it as an adult, just to know 1:00:39.080 --> 1:00:42.480 for sure, and hopefully like Brandon or someone will be 1:00:42.560 --> 1:00:43.040 there with me. 1:00:43.360 --> 1:00:44.520 So I have proofs. 1:00:45.960 --> 1:00:48.760 You should do some d MT. I've never done it, 1:00:48.880 --> 1:00:51.440 nor do I know anything about it, not even enough 1:00:51.520 --> 1:00:53.360 to tell you that you should do it, but it 1:00:53.480 --> 1:00:57.320 sounds like you might see dinosaurs if you do, I. 1:00:57.320 --> 1:00:57.840 Would love that. 1:01:00.080 --> 1:01:06.160 Well, what is your name again, I'm Sarah. Sarah. So 1:01:06.200 --> 1:01:07.520 there's anything else you want to say to the people 1:01:07.520 --> 1:01:08.360 of the computer before you go. 1:01:11.160 --> 1:01:12.520 I hope you guys have a great night. 1:01:14.120 --> 1:01:17.200 Believe in dinosaurs, Brandon's anything you want to say, maybe 1:01:17.240 --> 1:01:18.800 in the form of an apology. 1:01:22.560 --> 1:01:26.280 People of the Computer, I am not sorry for lying. 1:01:26.600 --> 1:01:28.840 I got on the GET and that was the best 1:01:28.920 --> 1:01:31.560 experience in my life, so I am not ashamed of it. 1:01:34.240 --> 1:01:37.720 I'll talk to you guys soon. Rebecon goes on the 1:01:37.840 --> 1:01:41.760 line thinking your own calls every night, every beacon goes 1:01:41.800 --> 1:01:46.360 to I'm just teaching you aloud. Your lives not friendly.